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Bringing Hope and Healing to Targets of Abusive Leadership in Christian Organizations. Giving voice to our blogs! Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

Kelly Dehnert


    • Jul 25, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
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    • 139 EPISODES


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    Go On and Kiss the Girl: People-Pleaser-Ahab

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2025 6:23


    I think I have King Ahab figured out...he is a people-pleaser. This is how people-pleasing and leadership can make a mess.

    Ted's Story: A Band of Brothers

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2025 11:44


    Ted's story is hard to even start the telling. His story is a call to the church to be the church.

    Image Management: Lying to the World

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2025 8:43


    Image management can be a temptation for churches and Christian organizations. We all want others to see us personally in the best light and that gets transferred into how we market our church or organization.

    Mission Agency Leaders & Matthew 18

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 19, 2025 10:24


    Sandi has worked for mission agencies almost her entire adult career. And she has experienced multiple toxic leaders in nearly all those agencies.

    The 2nd Chair: Suffering a Toxic Leader When 2nd in Command

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 19, 2025 10:39


    Being an Assistant can be very difficult when serving under a toxic leader. Here is some help.

    Sin or Safety: Where is Our Focus?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2025 11:25


    When it comes to abuse, are we more focused on sin or safety?

    Shalom: Peace in the Serving

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 23, 2025 10:10


    Beat up relationships, financial struggle, and thankless service are commonplace in our service in God's kingdom. We find shalom (peace) knowing God is in our work. However, there is an added layer of trial when the employee serves under a toxic leader.

    The Golden Rule: How Can Leaders Interpret it Accurately?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 23, 2025 7:22


    No matter your background, you have likely heard this maxim used. It is simple, to the point, and can be helpful in determining a course of action that is selfless. But is there another interpretation of it that is biblical?

    How Toxic Leaders Respond to Strength: Toxic Leadership Goes from Bad to Worse

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2025 8:35


    The toxic leader will be threatened by the slightest show of strength from subordinates. This was the story of the new king of Egypt in the time following the death of Joseph. But it only gets worse for subordinates.

    Creating a Compliant Mega Church: Mark's Story of Abusive Pastoral Leadership

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 10:22


    Mark was a church planter, establishing an off-site satellite campus. He was hired by a large, multi-campus ministry to resurrect a church with less than twenty members. Mark said there were signs of toxicity he should have seen before he signed on.

    Sinking a Christian Organization: Normal Leadership Failures

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2025 10:58


    With multiple degrees and experience in psychology and business, Kets de Vries describes several toxic leadership styles in Leader on the Couch. Though he discusses at length narcissistic and anti-social leaders - unfortunately common toxins among leaders - he names several less psychotic leadership destroyers.

    Abuse Strips People of Their Hope

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2025 8:17


    The stories told by participants in my research of toxic leadership portray a range of damage wrought by abusive bosses. In my experience, there is emotional, physical, and spiritual damage done by toxic bosses to their subordinates. No one is unscathed by their abuse.

    John & Susan: The Power of Pastor

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2025 9:41


    John and Susan faced abuse from church leadership, leading to rejection and emotional harm. Despite this, they found healing in a new church community, highlighting the importance of addressing spiritual abuse.

    Sheol: For What is Imprecatory Praying Really Asking?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2025 6:07


    Praying for those, who are so destructive to other people, to be stopped completely—sent to the grave—is a prayer for the victim and predator. It is for the victim's freedom. And, it is to stop the destruction wrought by the oppressor.

    The Failure of Boards and Preempting Toxic Strikes

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2025 8:32


    The extent of board dysfunction and lack of accountability is shocking. Boards of organizations are normally given authority and responsibility for keeping their CEOs and chairmen accountable. Yet, among the Christian organization employees who were under abusive leadership with whom I have spoken, only one board did something about the toxic leader.

    Who is the Greatest: Turn and Become Like a Child

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2025 6:21


    There was a time—and culture—when children were considered more of a bother and thought much more lowly than now. Yet, Jesus used them as a good example. Leaders, learn from the child.

    Change Agents: Who Will Stand Up?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2025 5:38


    This is the story of so many who are intimidated by leaders. Followers who fear loss can be easily manipulated. It is how toxic leaders retain their authority over others.

    #MeToo and God's Anointed

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2025 6:26


    After the confrontation of the founder of the organization with two other high-profile Christian leaders, the founder went to his office, got on the phone, and began blackballing Graham to associates across America.

    Church Leadership: Freshly Brewed Coffee or...

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 4, 2025 12:12


    Reading the early part of Paul's letter to Titus is at once like sitting at a brightly lit sidewalk cafe with a freshly brewed coffee in hand and curled up in a corner in depression. We need these kinds of leaders.

    Leadership: Seeking the Glory of Another

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 4, 2025 11:10


    Leaders should emphasize the importance of humility and giving credit to others while encouraging leadership that fosters teamwork and values subordinates' contributions.

    Jeanie's Story: Shepherding Abuse Survivors Takes Wisdom

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2024 15:09


    It wasn't long after the honeymoon that Jeanie began suffering from her husband Richard's lack of care for his family and she suffered for nearly thirteen years from sexual abuse in their bedroom. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Neglect in Leadership: Who Will Listen?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2024 6:36


    After sharing her unbearable stress, Susan was nearly ignored by her church leadership. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Laying Down Your Life as a Leader: A Lesson from the Good Shepherd

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 22, 2024 6:08


    The words Jesus gives to the crowds are hard words, but particularly hard for leaders in their cultural context. What would Jesus do? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Amelia and Ethan: Reading the Signs

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2024 11:54


    Ethan said there were red flags he should have seen, and to this day, several years later, lives with a certain guilt that he failed in his calling. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Embracing Criticism: Are They Words from the LORD?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2024 5:56


    Criticism can be difficult to accept, but leaders should recognize it as potential guidance from God, fostering humility and growth. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    A Covenant of Peace: When the Lord Banishes Toxic Leadership

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2024 6:51


    Toxic leadership affects many, but a future promise exists when the Lord will eradicate such leadership and provide true care. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Advocating: Our Necessary Compassion

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2024 5:09


    Have you come to know of abuse? Has your friend told you a little of their boss or husband's abusive behavior? Scripture tells us we have a responsibility. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Toxic Personalities: Disorders and Other Such Rot

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2024 8:17


    Whether the toxic leader has a personality disorder, or is better diagnosed as an “abuser,” which is not the same thing according to some psychologists, they are exceptional manipulators and refuse to humbly admit their failures. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Submission and the Harsh Boss: 1 Peter 2:18

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2024 9:29


    In my own experience with toxic leaders, it was common to hear 1 Peter 2:18 quoted or paraphrased by those who wished to protect the authority of leaders. Does 1 Peter 2 mean that we blindly submit to church and parachurch leaders though they be described as liars, mean, narcissistic, and other nasty characteristics by their followers? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Toxic Waste Inside: Creating a Culture for Toxic Leadership

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2024 8:56


    How do the church and parachurch organizations create toxic work environments? If we know the answer to that question, maybe - just maybe - we can save our witness to a watching world from the pit! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Belly to Belly, Cheek for Cheek

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2024 5:21


    How should the target of a supervisor's abuse "love" him, "do good" to him, and "bless" him? I would suggest Jesus is giving examples of the principle Paul stated elsewhere that we are not to "repay...evil for evil." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Living in Liberty: Standing Firm

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2024 6:36


    John finds it inexplicable that “in America we are in the land of the free and home of the brave, but when [a worker's] liberty is at stake they fail to exercise their liberty.” --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    The Slide into Toxic Leadership 2: Amaziah, King of Judah

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2024 7:54


    Leaders may begin well. The LORD has given them vision for the organization they have been tasked with leading. But, in time they begin to drink the koolaid of power and self-sufficiency. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    The Slide Into Toxic Leadership: The Story of Jeroboam, King of Israel

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2024 10:13


    Toxic leadership almost always involves heightened anxiety caused by a fear of losing status or a position of leadership resulting in anger, defensiveness, and blame-shifting when confronted.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    When a Leader Turns Toxic: Asa King of Judah

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2024 9:02


    There are those leaders who are simply bad. They are toxic to their core and they reap destruction in the workplace. But, there are leaders who begin well and end badly. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    The Team: Sharing, Caring, and Respect

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2024 13:10


    What should be second nature to Christian organizations has, in some ways, been purloined by business leadership. Teamwork. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    GroupThink: What is the Root of Toxic Leadership

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2024 6:42


    Abuse often lives in a system. Christians are suspicious of systems theory because they think in a “western individualistic” way. However, sometimes, Groupthink is what enables and creates toxic organizations. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Imprecatory Praying: The Mercy of Destruction

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2024 10:56


    Christians read the Psalms and find statements that seem to conflict with the open-hearted, mercy-oriented, forgiveness-driven Gospel we preach from our pulpits. But the "imprecatory Psalms" are as valid now as they were when they were sung in Old Testament worship. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Self-Differentiation and the Use of Gifts

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2024 8:46


    Self-differentiation is rooted in biblical and psychological concepts. We need go no further than to focus on the examples of Jesus and King David to illustrate dependence and trust in God as necessary to use our gifting. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    The Responsibility of Leaders: Stopping Oppressive Workplaces

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 6, 2024 10:22


    King Solomon was maybe the wisest king of all time, How did it all end and what does it teach leaders today? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Saul's False Apology: Seeking Repentance from an Abuser

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 30, 2024 8:00


    What do you do with an apology from a abusive leader? Real apologies are rare due to inner evil. But we are not omniscient so give it time. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Too Close: Lessons from Jonathan on Blindness in Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 23, 2024 8:38


    Standing by abuse victims is vital for all. Jonathan's experience with his father, Saul demonstrates the difficulty of identifying toxic leadership in those with whom we are close. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Fret Not for Vindication: Be Still and Wait Patiently

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2024 5:41


    The struggle for validation and vindication in the face of abusive leadership is echoed in Psalms, encouraging patience and trust in God's righteous judgment. The remedy lies in turning to God's Word—Jesus—for healing and endurance. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    What if a Leader were to Boast in Weaknesses?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2024 5:44


    A leader boasting in weaknesses can demonstrate humility and reliance on Christ's strength, distinguishing good leadership from toxic leadership. Without humility there is just no way. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    The Narcissist Pastor: Jacob's True and Painful Tale

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2024 14:36


    Jacob served under a pastor he considered narcissistic, who prioritized money, fame, and favoring wealthy members. Despite being fired, Jacob found healing and continued his ministry journey. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Job's Counselors: The Misuse of Spiritual Influence

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2024 10:43


    The book of Job highlights misguided counseling of abuse victims rooted in black-and-white beliefs, instead of comprehensive biblical theology. Abuse victims are never at fault. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Zechariah and Toxic Christian Leadership

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2024 8:07


    Zechariah warns of punishment for wicked leaders, calling them to repentance. God ultimately brings judgment and restoration through Jesus. Toxic leaders need to be warned. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    The Sin of [Bystander] Complicity: Toxic Followership in the Workplace

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2024 7:16


    It is a sin to fail to act against abuse. Unfortunately, it is all too common for bystanders in the workplace to stand by the toxic boss. Rather, standing up for the victims is essential, despite fears and pressures. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    One Story: Drunk with an Image

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2024 7:07


    Over twenty years ago, my wife and I began considering how we could be used in the cross-cultural mission field. We made the move. It was our first experience with toxic leadership. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Real Change: Peter and Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 29, 2024 9:56


    Peter's words for those struggling with abusive or controlling tendencies emphasize the need for inner transformation and repentance. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

    Abuse in the Bible: But Does it Even Use That Word?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2024 6:55


    The Bible may not include the term "abuse" in some translations, but it uses various words that convey the concept, emphasizing the seriousness and destructive nature of abuse. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-dehnert/support

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