The triple threat. Hosted by Sexologist and Executive Director Emily Wolter + a range of experts. Find more on Instagram & TikTok at @smm.podcast. Formerly BS with Em.
Emily Wolter, Sexologist and Executive, Formerly called BS with Em
If you just made a move solo, sitting in the newness can be very uncomfortable. I've done it a couple times & am still no expert. I share my tips for reconnecting today, sending love
Check out the Society of Australian Sexologist's Member Directory here: https://societyaustraliansexologists.org.au/directory References Hertlein, K.M., Gambescia, N., & Weeks, G.R. (Eds.). (2019). Systemic Sex Therapy (3rd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9780429297403
@smm.podcast & @emilywolter_ Articles and posts referenced in this episode: Orygen statement on social media, youth mental health and proposed age restrictions https://www.orygen.org.au/About/News-And-Events/2024/Orygen-statement-on-social-media,-youth-mental-hea Young Australians turning to social media for sexual and reproductive health support, report reveals https://www.swinburne.edu.au/news/2024/10/Young-Australians-turning-to-social-media-for-sexual-and-reproductive-health-support-report-reveals/ How might a social media ban benefit under-16s – and are there any drawbacks? https://pa.media/blogs/pa-editors-picks/how-might-a-social-media-ban-benefit-under-16s-and-are-there-any-drawbacks/ Lucy Thomas - Project ROCKIT https://www.linkedin.com/posts/lucylockit_why-wont-banning-social-media-make-life-ugcPost-7261899851041316864-5LyF/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop Dr. Zac Seidler - Movember https://www.linkedin.com/posts/activity-7260128545430003713-1Eiz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop
The election is over. What to look out for now that Trump has once again been elected President. The platform I use to manage investments is IG Trading (ig.com.au).
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1/6 couples (3.5 mil people in Australia) struggle with infertility. I've decided to donate my eggs and am bringing you along for the ride! Check out Melbourne IVF here.
My portfolio is returning 29%. I share with you the best & worst performers. @smm.podcast on Tiktok.
Stocks vs. shares, how ethical companies perform, and how to build a more diversified portfolio. Find the budgeting tool here. And James' podcast here.
Clare is back for her second episode and we're talking all things human physiology and breath work. Book in a session with Clare by contacting her on Instagram @the.abundant.soul. See more of the podcast on TikTok @smm.podcast.
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Property vs. stocks: Which one makes sense and when? Find more of James and his company on LinkedIn here.
I got the dreaded "your rent is rising email," so I went looking for a home. Then I went to an auction. And let me tell you, the dogs and I may be living in less than 50sq. m for a while.
You can get more of Rahim at @ladyativan on IG and on LinkedIn here. Find more of SMM Podcast on TikTok & IG @smm.podcast.
What happens when you lost it all? What do our shadow identities mean? And what does true transformation require? Find Clare at @the.abundant.soul on Instagram.
Sending compassion to anyone who has been impacted by infidelity.
- Setting a budget - Not judging out spending - The psychology of spending Access the budget planner here (note: save a copy to edit your own). Find out more about James' team and their services here.
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You can get more of Rahim at @ladyativan on IG and on LinkedIn here. Find more of SMM Podcast on TikTok & IG @smm.podcast.
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With James the Sexpert. Attend the upcoming Unlocking Non-Monogamy workshop: https://linktr.ee/enmaustralia See more ENM content and message them with your questions at @enm.australia on Instagram
What companies do I invest in and what do they return? I keep saying “stocks” and meant “shares” but you get the point. Take it easy on me. Catch more at @smm.podcast on IG and TikTok.
Trigger warning: Child sex abuse Sign the petition for change here.
In today's no BS ep, we talk about breaking up - but before you were "officially 'together.'"Consider our breakup series a little bit of therapy, a little bit of encouragement, and a whole lot of realness.
Did you know it takes someone struggling with mental-ill health an average of 10 years to ask for help? Please share this episode with someone who may be quietly struggling. Find more of Jason by searching "Jason Banks" on LinkedIn & TIACS here: https://www.tiacs.org/
How do I find a job that lights me up? How do I justify why I should be given a raise? I give you my 3 top tips that extend beyond having relevant qualifications and good experience. @smm.podcast on socials
The books I mentioned: Conversations on Love, Natasha Lunn This is Going to Hurt, Adam Kay Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel
Good things are worth waiting (and sorting through personal issues) for. A love life update from James. Catch him on IG at enm.australia, and more on TikTok at bswithem.
Today we're talking with James the Sexpert (enm.australia on IG) about the dimensions of sexual fantasy & how our past shapes them. Catch more at bswithem.com For more information on the dimensions of sexual fantasy: Three Dimensions of Depth of Involvement in Human Sexual Response Donald L. Mosher The Journal of Sex ResearchVol. 16, No. 1 (Feb., 1980), pp. 1-42 (42 pages)Published By: Taylor & Francis, Ltd.
Dreaded words, I know. How can you handle "space" and what can it do for your relationships? Find Raf at @bigbossmusicmastering on IG, me at @emilywolter_ on IG and bswithem on TikTok.
Catch more on Tiktok - bswithem & Instagram - @emilywolter_
Can a medical or other professional flirt or ask you out on a date? Catch Raf at @bigbossmusicmastering on IG, and me at @bswithem on TikTok.
On today's episode we're covering: - Ruby's experience "fitting in" throughout their life - What their learning process has been like as someone with ADHD - How dating has been (and particularly, dating as a poly person) & much more. Find Ruby on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruby-mountford/ On Instagram: @keptonice On Twitter: @RubySusan29
On today's episode we're covering: - How vaginal tightness is affected - How arousal levels, one's age, and pelvic floor muscle activation affect vaginal tightness Find Dr. Julie here: https://www.youtube.com/@DrJulie References: About menopause: The Royal Women's Hospital. Retrieved from: https://www.thewomens.org.au/health-information/menopause-information/menopause-an-overview#:~:text=Menopause%20after%20age%2045%20years,menopause%20by%20age%2055%20years.. Vaginal “tightness”: Myths, tips, and what you need to know about the pelvic floor. Retrieved from: https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/vaginal-tightness-tips-myths-what-you-need-to-know-about-pelvic-floor What to know about a loose vagina. Retrieved from: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325890
On today's episode we're covering: - What a dominatrix does - What kinks Mistress Phoenix enjoys most - How to do butt stuff & dirty talk better - Who sees a dominatrix You can find more information on Mistress Phoenix at https://www.mistressphoenixsydney.com/
He's 38, has kids, isn't getting his needs met, and is considering opening up the relationship. What now? James the Sexpert is here to help! Find James at @enm.australia on Instagram, and email him at james@somaticconnect.com.
I am so excited we have Raf joining us on the podcast again for more candid chats. I'm not saying who, but someone slept with an ex, and someone even lives with one. Find Raf at @bigbossmusicmastering on IG, me at @emilywolter_ on IG, and Raf's last episode on the podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/30gZ2yxnVeWQQ2kHnMRkLy?si=3bea3751aa2041a3 (or search "BS with Em Raf").
A true BS bonus episode. New non-monogamous relationships can feel scary, insecure, and threatening. Sprinkle in some heavy bouts of jealousy and you're just about through the first few months. Find James the Sexpert at @enm.australia on IG, and me at bswithem on TikTok. Website: bswithem.com
Today I talk you through my take on situationships, as written about in my latest piece on getfrenchie.com. Use code BSWITHEM for 10% off all your pleasure toys & hygiene products. Read the article here: https://getfrenchie.com/blogs/news/how-to-navigate-a-situationship
On today's episode we're covering: The meaning of sexual non-concordance (and concordance) What this looks like physiologically The difference between penis & vulva owners in regards to concordance The research referenced in today's episode includes: Arousal Non-concordance and Involuntary Sexual Response. Retrieved from: https://psychpd.com.au/arousal-non-concordance-and-involuntary-sexual-response/#:~:text=The%20technical%20term%20for%20this,body%20is%20experiencing%20sexual%20arousal.. Blood supply to the penis during an erection. Retrieved from: https://myhealth.alberta.ca/Health/Pages/conditions.aspx?hwid=tp10878#:~:text=During%20an%20erection%2C%20the%20arteries,blood%20and%20maintains%20the%20erection.. Kelly D. Suschinsky; Martin L. Lalumière (2012). Is Sexual Concordance Related to Awareness of Physiological States?. , 41(1), 199–208. doi:10.1007/s10508-012-9931-9 Sexual Response Cycle. Retrieved from: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/9119-sexual-response-cycle.
We have John Ward back on the podcast to talk about a little something he calls hypergamy. On today's episode we're covering: - My experience dating - How intelligence affects attraction - Our inherent need to provide/be provided for You can catch more on Instagram at @emilywolter_ and on TikTok @bswithem
On today's episode we're covering: Listener experience with age gaps in dating (@emilywolter_ on Instagram to get in on the convo) How "The Big Five" personality traits evolve from 16-19 and 26-29 Why the older population may have more success with larger age gaps The research referenced includes: Pusch, Sebastian; Mund, Marcus; Hagemeyer, Birk; Finn, Christine; Wrzus, Cornelia (2018). Personality Development in Emerging and Young Adulthood: A Study of Age Differences. European Journal of Personality, (), –. doi:10.1002/per.2181
Trigger warning: today's episode contains information about sexual assault/violence. Please listen only if you are in the right space to do so. We're covering: Harri's story (get your tissues) Why speaking up on social media was right for him From surviving to thriving: the journey What he's most excited for in the future You can catch more of Harri: On Instagram: @itsharrijames On his website: harrisonjames.org Find more resources and relevant links on his LinkTree here: https://linktr.ee/itsharrijames
Spoiler alert: James is dropping L bombs. How is non-monogamy going for her? Find us on Instagram: @enm.australia & @emilywolter_
On today's episode I'm reading you an article I recently wrote, all about our psyche when we're in lust, in love, and if/when we are forced out of it.
On today's episode we're covering: - What defines sex addiction - How porn affects our sexual experiences - Society's want to pathologise sexual tendencies, particularly for women You can now contact James at love@enmaustralia.com.au Find more on TikTok @bswithem
On today's episode we're covering: - What defines a surrogate partner - How surrogate partner therapy is used - Rules & laws around surrogate partner therapy The research referenced includes: Israel strikes down law banning gay couples from using surrogates to have children. Kelleher, P. 28 Feb 2020. Retrieved from: https://www.thepinknews.com/2020/02/28/israel-surrogacy-same-sex-couples-gay-lesbian-supreme-court-law-knesset/ Surrogate Partner Therapy: Ethical Considerations in Sexual Medicine
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