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The triple threat. Hosted by Sexologist and Executive Director Emily Wolter + a range of experts. Find more on Instagram & TikTok at @smm.podcast. Formerly BS with Em.

Emily Wolter, Sexologist and Executive, Formerly called BS with Em


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    Latest episodes from SEX MONEY MENTALITY

    Your brand is more than your breakup

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2025 13:10


    Find us on Instagram @smm.podcast.

    Donating eggs: Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 11:58


    Do your own research, make your own decisions.

    Moving cities & rebuilding

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2025 17:09


    If you just made a move solo, sitting in the newness can be very uncomfortable. I've done it a couple times & am still no expert. I share my tips for reconnecting today, sending love

    Sexologist vs. sex therapist: What's the difference & what will we talk about?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2025 9:09


    Check out the Society of Australian Sexologist's Member Directory here: https://societyaustraliansexologists.org.au/directory References Hertlein, K.M., Gambescia, N., & Weeks, G.R. (Eds.). (2019). Systemic Sex Therapy (3rd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9780429297403

    Chasing Discomfort & Solitude

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2025 8:37


    How about an annual audit and a slow down?

    What do you think? Australia's Social Media Ban

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2024 14:18


    @smm.podcast & @emilywolter_ Articles and posts referenced in this episode: Orygen statement on social media, youth mental health and proposed age restrictions https://www.orygen.org.au/About/News-And-Events/2024/Orygen-statement-on-social-media,-youth-mental-hea Young Australians turning to social media for sexual and reproductive health support, report reveals https://www.swinburne.edu.au/news/2024/10/Young-Australians-turning-to-social-media-for-sexual-and-reproductive-health-support-report-reveals/  How might a social media ban benefit under-16s – and are there any drawbacks? https://pa.media/blogs/pa-editors-picks/how-might-a-social-media-ban-benefit-under-16s-and-are-there-any-drawbacks/ Lucy Thomas - Project ROCKIT https://www.linkedin.com/posts/lucylockit_why-wont-banning-social-media-make-life-ugcPost-7261899851041316864-5LyF/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop Dr. Zac Seidler - Movember https://www.linkedin.com/posts/activity-7260128545430003713-1Eiz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop

    US Stock Market: What to Watch

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2024 9:32


    The election is over. What to look out for now that Trump has once again been elected President. The platform I use to manage investments is IG Trading (ig.com.au).

    Attention vs. Intention in Dating

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2024 13:50


    It helps me when you rate the show. I appreciate it in advance!

    Donating my eggs: Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2024 15:13


    1/6 couples (3.5 mil people in Australia) struggle with infertility. I've decided to donate my eggs and am bringing you along for the ride! Check out Melbourne IVF here.

    30 years of lessons learned

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 4, 2024 17:38


    Cheers to a new decade of learning.

    Top performing stocks

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2024 6:14


    My portfolio is returning 29%. I share with you the best & worst performers. @smm.podcast on Tiktok.

    Build a smarter investment portfolio with James O-Reilly, Financial Advisor

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2024 23:10


    Stocks vs. shares, how ethical companies perform, and how to build a more diversified portfolio. Find the budgeting tool here. And James' podcast here.

    How we scientifically benefit from intentional breath work, with Clare Martin, Transformation and Breathwork Coach

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 38:39


    Clare is back for her second episode and we're talking all things human physiology and breath work. Book in a session with Clare by contacting her on Instagram @the.abundant.soul. See more of the podcast on TikTok @smm.podcast.

    A reminder for when things are feeling tough

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2024 10:00


    If you or someone you love needs support, here are some support services accessible in Australia: BeyondBlue Depression, anxiety and related disorders 1300 22 463624 hours/7 days Lifeline Crisis support, suicide prevention and mental health support services 13 11 1424 hours/7 days SANE People affected by complex mental health issues 1800 187 26310am – 10pm weekdays

    When and where to buy property, with James O'Reilly, Financial Advisor

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2024 17:26


    Property vs. stocks: Which one makes sense and when? Find more of James and his company on LinkedIn here.

    Successful but can't buy a 50sq. m apartment?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2024 11:59


    I got the dreaded "your rent is rising email," so I went looking for a home. Then I went to an auction. And let me tell you, the dogs and I may be living in less than 50sq. m for a while.

    How alcohol affects our dating & sex lives, with Rahim Thawer, Social Worker & Psychotherapist

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2024 21:59


    You can get more of Rahim at @ladyativan on IG and on LinkedIn ⁠here⁠. Find more of SMM Podcast on TikTok & IG @smm.podcast.

    From loss to transformation, with Clare Martin, Transformation & Breathwork Coach

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2024 48:07


    What happens when you lost it all? What do our shadow identities mean? And what does true transformation require? Find Clare at @the.abundant.soul on Instagram.

    The Other Woman

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2024 12:59


    Sending compassion to anyone who has been impacted by infidelity.

    Setting a budget & what the money we spend may say about our self-worth, with James O'Reilly, Financial Advisor

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2024 37:16


    - Setting a budget - Not judging out spending - The psychology of spending Access the budget planner here (note: save a copy to edit your own). Find out more about James' team and their services here.

    How trauma shows up in relationships, with Carly Dober, Psychologist

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2024 18:15


    Find more from Carly here. Please also rate the show!

    How to get the most out of online dating, with Rahim Thawer, Social Worker and Psychotherapist

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2024 27:35


    You can get more of Rahim at @ladyativan on IG and on LinkedIn here. Find more of SMM Podcast on TikTok & IG @smm.podcast.

    Owning a home at 24 & splitting investments after a breakup

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2024 17:44


    Catch more @smm.podcast on TikTok and Instagram.

    The tale of a modern day breakup

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2024 45:22


    With James the Sexpert. Attend the upcoming Unlocking Non-Monogamy workshop: https://linktr.ee/enmaustralia See more ENM content and message them with your questions at @enm.australia on Instagram

    My investment portfolio

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2024 10:53


    What companies do I invest in and what do they return? I keep saying “stocks” and meant “shares” but you get the point. Take it easy on me. Catch more at @smm.podcast on IG and TikTok.

    The most hated man by Australian child sex offenders, Andrew Carpenter

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2024 25:18


    Trigger warning: Child sex abuse Sign the petition for change here.

    BS with Em: the situationship breakup

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2024 14:36


    In today's no BS ep, we talk about breaking up - but before you were "officially 'together.'"Consider our breakup series a little bit of therapy, a little bit of encouragement, and a whole lot of realness. 

    Vulnerability is Strength, with Jason Banks, Co-CEO of TIACS

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2024 51:05


    Did you know it takes someone struggling with mental-ill health an average of 10 years to ask for help? Please share this episode with someone who may be quietly struggling. Find more of Jason by searching "Jason Banks" on LinkedIn & TIACS here: https://www.tiacs.org/

    3 top tips to be more employable & promotable

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2024 11:20


    How do I find a job that lights me up? How do I justify why I should be given a raise? I give you my 3 top tips that extend beyond having relevant qualifications and good experience. @smm.podcast on socials

    Welcome to the triple threat

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2024 1:20


    @smm.podcast on socials

    New year, new pod?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 4, 2024 7:36


    The books I mentioned: Conversations on Love, Natasha Lunn This is Going to Hurt, Adam Kay Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel

    Anxious & in love, with James the Sexpert

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2023 14:14


    Good things are worth waiting (and sorting through personal issues) for. A love life update from James. Catch him on IG at enm.australia, and more on TikTok at bswithem.

    What's your (fantasy) type? With James the Sexpert

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2023 18:36


    Today we're talking with James the Sexpert (enm.australia on IG) about the dimensions of sexual fantasy & how our past shapes them. Catch more at bswithem.com For more information on the dimensions of sexual fantasy: Three Dimensions of Depth of Involvement in Human Sexual Response Donald L. Mosher The Journal of Sex ResearchVol. 16, No. 1 (Feb., 1980), pp. 1-42 (42 pages)Published By: Taylor & Francis, Ltd.

    What "I need space" means & how to handle it

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2023 22:35


    Dreaded words, I know. How can you handle "space" and what can it do for your relationships? Find Raf at @bigbossmusicmastering on IG, me at @emilywolter_ on IG and bswithem on TikTok.

    Am I having enough sex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2023 5:48


    Catch more on Tiktok - bswithem & Instagram - @emilywolter_

    When medical treatments take a turn

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2023 24:02


    Can a medical or other professional flirt or ask you out on a date? Catch Raf at @bigbossmusicmastering on IG, and me at @bswithem on TikTok.

    What it's like dating as a bisexual & poly person who has autism & ADHD, with Ruby Susan Mountford, President of Melbourne Bisexual Network

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2023 53:43


    On today's episode we're covering: - Ruby's experience "fitting in" throughout their life - What their learning process has been like as someone with ADHD - How dating has been (and particularly, dating as a poly person) & much more. Find Ruby on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruby-mountford/ On Instagram: @keptonice On Twitter: @RubySusan29

    Vaginal tightness

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2023 5:07


    On today's episode we're covering: - How vaginal tightness is affected - How arousal levels, one's age, and pelvic floor muscle activation affect vaginal tightness Find Dr. Julie here: https://www.youtube.com/@DrJulie References: About menopause: The Royal Women's Hospital. Retrieved from: https://www.thewomens.org.au/health-information/menopause-information/menopause-an-overview#:~:text=Menopause%20after%20age%2045%20years,menopause%20by%20age%2055%20years..  Vaginal “tightness”: Myths, tips, and what you need to know about the pelvic floor. Retrieved from: https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/vaginal-tightness-tips-myths-what-you-need-to-know-about-pelvic-floor  What to know about a loose vagina. Retrieved from: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325890 

    How to peg someone & get better at dirty talk, with Dominatrix Mistress Phoenix

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2023 40:07


    On today's episode we're covering: - What a dominatrix does - What kinks Mistress Phoenix enjoys most - How to do butt stuff & dirty talk better - Who sees a dominatrix You can find more information on Mistress Phoenix at https://www.mistressphoenixsydney.com/

    How to tell a partner you want to open up

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2023 19:34


    He's 38, has kids, isn't getting his needs met, and is considering opening up the relationship. What now? James the Sexpert is here to help! Find James at @enm.australia on Instagram, and email him at james@somaticconnect.com.

    Can you healthily live with an ex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2023 40:07


    I am so excited we have Raf joining us on the podcast again for more candid chats. I'm not saying who, but someone slept with an ex, and someone even lives with one. Find Raf at @bigbossmusicmastering on IG, me at @emilywolter_ on IG, and Raf's last episode on the podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/30gZ2yxnVeWQQ2kHnMRkLy?si=3bea3751aa2041a3 (or search "BS with Em Raf").

    The struggle of NEW non-monogamous, long distance relationships is real

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2023 8:38


    A true BS bonus episode. New non-monogamous relationships can feel scary, insecure, and threatening. Sprinkle in some heavy bouts of jealousy and you're just about through the first few months. Find James the Sexpert at @enm.australia on IG, and me at bswithem on TikTok. Website: bswithem.com

    Situationship: Not committed and happy?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2023 9:39


    Today I talk you through my take on situationships, as written about in my latest piece on getfrenchie.com. Use code BSWITHEM for 10% off all your pleasure toys & hygiene products. Read the article here: https://getfrenchie.com/blogs/news/how-to-navigate-a-situationship

    Sexual non-concordance: When "wet" doesn't mean turned on

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2023 6:07


    On today's episode we're covering: The meaning of sexual non-concordance (and concordance) What this looks like physiologically The difference between penis & vulva owners in regards to concordance The research referenced in today's episode includes: Arousal Non-concordance and Involuntary Sexual Response. Retrieved from: https://psychpd.com.au/arousal-non-concordance-and-involuntary-sexual-response/#:~:text=The%20technical%20term%20for%20this,body%20is%20experiencing%20sexual%20arousal..  Blood supply to the penis during an erection. Retrieved from: https://myhealth.alberta.ca/Health/Pages/conditions.aspx?hwid=tp10878#:~:text=During%20an%20erection%2C%20the%20arteries,blood%20and%20maintains%20the%20erection..  Kelly D. Suschinsky; Martin L. Lalumière (2012). Is Sexual Concordance Related to Awareness of Physiological States?. , 41(1), 199–208. doi:10.1007/s10508-012-9931-9  Sexual Response Cycle. Retrieved from: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/9119-sexual-response-cycle. 

    Our favourite data scientist explains why intelligent, successful women are single (with John Ward)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 30, 2023 48:17


    We have John Ward back on the podcast to talk about a little something he calls hypergamy. On today's episode we're covering: - My experience dating - How intelligence affects attraction - Our inherent need to provide/be provided for You can catch more on Instagram at @emilywolter_ and on TikTok @bswithem

    Listener feedback on age gaps, plus how our personality traits develop over time

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2023 10:19


    On today's episode we're covering: Listener experience with age gaps in dating (@emilywolter_ on Instagram to get in on the convo) How "The Big Five" personality traits evolve from 16-19 and 26-29 Why the older population may have more success with larger age gaps The research referenced includes: Pusch, Sebastian; Mund, Marcus; Hagemeyer, Birk; Finn, Christine; Wrzus, Cornelia (2018). Personality Development in Emerging and Young Adulthood: A Study of Age Differences. European Journal of Personality, (), –. doi:10.1002/per.2181 

    Young men & sexual violence: An interview with Harrison James

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2023 46:47


    Trigger warning: today's episode contains information about sexual assault/violence. Please listen only if you are in the right space to do so. We're covering:  Harri's story (get your tissues) Why speaking up on social media was right for him From surviving to thriving: the journey What he's most excited for in the future You can catch more of Harri: On Instagram: @itsharrijames On his website: harrisonjames.org Find more resources and relevant links on his LinkTree here: https://linktr.ee/itsharrijames

    Her first time in a non-monogamous relationship: A love life update with James the Sexpert

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2023 31:42


    Spoiler alert: James is dropping L bombs. How is non-monogamy going for her? Find us on Instagram: @enm.australia & @emilywolter_

    Must be love on the brain (that's got me feelin' this way)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2023 10:11


    On today's episode I'm reading you an article I recently wrote, all about our psyche when we're in lust, in love, and if/when we are forced out of it.

    Are you a sex addict or just human? With James the Sexpert

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 19, 2023 31:15


    On today's episode we're covering: - What defines sex addiction - How porn affects our sexual experiences - Society's want to pathologise sexual tendencies, particularly for women You can now contact James at love@enmaustralia.com.au Find more on TikTok @bswithem

    Surrogate mothers? No, surrogate partners

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2023 9:26


    On today's episode we're covering: - What defines a surrogate partner - How surrogate partner therapy is used - Rules & laws around surrogate partner therapy The research referenced includes: Israel strikes down law banning gay couples from using surrogates to have children. Kelleher, P. 28 Feb 2020. Retrieved from: https://www.thepinknews.com/2020/02/28/israel-surrogacy-same-sex-couples-gay-lesbian-supreme-court-law-knesset/  Surrogate Partner Therapy: Ethical Considerations in Sexual Medicine 

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