The Not ‘Aving It Podcast

Send us a text*This episode contains themes of violence that may be distressing to listeners*.We are pleased to be joined this week by Sema Gornall CEO of the survivor led organisation The Vavengers committed to ending FGM and other forms of gender-based violence. Secondly Warda Mohamed community ambassador and CEO of lasting support services, an organisation aimed at safeguarding young people. Warda is also heading up initiatives such as ‘Building Bridges' which provide a creative arts program for children who may have experienced domestic violence or harm in their homes. During this episode we discuss their first hand experiences with gender based violence and how this led them to be where they are today. If you, a friend or family member need support please see below the organisations we discussed within this episode. Please remember if you or someone you love is in immediate danger call 999 if it is safe to do so. The Vavengers Lasting Support ServicesBuilding Bridges — Lasting Support ServicesSupport the showDon't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a textI am pleased to welcome Dani and Hannah from the Domestic Abuse and Sexual Violence team within the Office of the Police and Crime Commissioner in Gloucestershire.  This week we are discussing the 16 days of action which aims to raise awareness of violence against women and girls. This campaign is running between the 25th of November and 10th December.  This episode does discuss domestic abuse that may be triggering for some.  If you, a friend, a family member or colleague need support please see below some organisations we discussed within the episode. Please also remember if you or someone you know is in immediate danger call 999. If you are local to Gloucestershire:Home - Gloucestershire Domestic Abuse Support Service (GDASS)Home | Gloucestershire Rape and Sexual Abuse CentreNational support:Refuge, the largest UK domestic abuse organisation for womenSARCs | Rape Crisis England & WalesStreet Support Network - Working together to tackle homelessnessProtection orders which are free to apply for:Apply for a non-molestation or occupation order: Form FL401 - GOV.UKSupport the showDon't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a textHey guys! We are so pleased to be back in your ears...  For our first episode back we are starting with some introductions, not just to myself but to our new co-host Hayley Walsh.   You may remember Hayley who was a guest on our last season, well we have joined forces to bring you some engaging episodes featuring amazing guests.   To kick start season two, we will be focusing on Domestic Violence and covering 16 days of action.   Within this episode we will be discussing some challenging themes around Domestic Abuse.   If you'd like us to focus on a particular topic, or you'd like to share your story please do reach out to us. You can do this via the social platforms below or via email:   jessica@notavingit.com hayley@notavingit.comSupport the showDon't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.Grandfather and now CEO, Bob McGurrell has kindly agreed to join me on the pod to tell me his families story, one I can't even imagine experiencing. This episode is truly inspiring and shows how you can take a really awful situation and turn it into something positive like helping other families cope with miscarriage, still birth and child loss. In memory of grandson Louis, the 4Louis charity now supplies memory boxes, cuddle cots, help create bereavement spaces and train NHS professionals all over the UK. *This episode contains themes of baby loss, which some listeners may find difficult to listen to*. Resources: 4Louis A UK Charity Supporting Families with Child LossMake a Donation | 4Louis4Louis FCThe Miscarriage Association:Pregnancy Loss Information & SupportBaby loss information and support | Tommy's (tommys.org)Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.Today I am joined by maternal therapist counsellor Becky Selbie. As a mum of two and someone who struggled with her identity postpartum she had a career shift to therapy where she now supports mothers struggling with different aspects of becoming a mum. Becky specialises in Matrescence and the phycology and societal changes women go through when they become a mother. Becky's contact details:  Indiviual Therapy (stopkeepingmum.co.uk)Becky Selbie - THERAPIST FOR MUMS & MOTHERHOOD (@stop_keeping_mum) • Instagram photos and videosEmail - co​ntact@rebeccaselbie.co.ukAdditional resources: Home – PnD – Postnatal Depression Support – PANDAS Foundation UKSupport the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.I am so pleased to welcome my next guest, Dr Jenny Bailey-Cooper who has come on today to talk all things business and being a mum. Jenny is an incredible entrepreneur and scientist from Bristol who has developed a revolutionary pharmaceutical start up aiming to make IBS a thing of the past.Like most of us, she has had to learn to juggle work with her personal life. So we will also be diving into how she juggles being a mum, going through divorce and the family court. I hope you enjoy, and take inspiration from this episode!Resources:Gut Health Supplements For A Calmer Digestive System | FerrocalmSupport Through CourtSupport the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.I think anyone trying to get pregnant will relate to this episode. It's a journey, especially if it doesn't happen immediately. Join Georgia in discussing turning 30, the expectations from others to get pregnant, and what we put ourselves through physically and mentally when trying. Georgia talks about the power of community and how talking about trying with others online has helped her. Please feel free to reach out to Georgia if you need support, her details are below.We are not medical professionals, please consult your GP if you are having issues trying to get pregnant or do your own research. Instagram - @missgcole Resources to help: Being proactive with your fertility when planning your future family (hertilityhealth.com)The Ultimate Guide When Trying to Conceive | Hertility (hertilityhealth.com)Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.This week I am joined by a friend, Hayley Walsh who back in 2017 found herself completely isolated, controlled and abused within her relationship. Hayley has joined me on the pod to share her story, and to raise awareness that Domestic Abuse can happen to anyone. This episode contains challenging themes.Resources:https://womanstrust.org.uk/https://refuge.org.uk/www.ncdv.org.uk Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.Welcome back!On this week's episode we are joined by The British Family Law's most highly recommended Divorce coach in 2024, Claire Macklin. Twice divorced, and a single parent, Claire specialises in coaching individuals through breakup's and divorce.  Resources:It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People eBook : Durvasula, Ramani: Amazon.co.uk: BooksDivorcing a Narcissist: The Lure, the Loss and the Law: Amazon.co.uk: Walker Dr, Mrs Karin: 9781916302365: BooksRecognition to Recovery: How to leave your abusive ex behind for good!: Amazon.co.uk: Kipping, Caron: 9781838155667: BooksTo get in touch with Claire: Claire Macklin (clairemacklincoaching.com)Email - claire@clairemacklincoaching.comSupport the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.Are you trying to work out if you are in a controlling relationship? Maybe you are trying to leave a controlling relationship. Or are you suffering from post-separation abuse - give this episode a listen.Caron Kipping's details:Front Page - Caron Kipping CoachingEmail - info@caronkippingcoaching.comResources: Domestic Violence & Abuse · Emergency Injunction Service (ncdv.org.uk)Other channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingitSupport the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.Roughly 1 in 6 worldwide – experience infertility, and it's still not spoken about enough. On this week's episode, I am joined by 34-year-old Sophia who is speaking out about her IVF journey and how multiple rounds have left her with two beautiful children.Resources:IVF - NHS (www.nhs.uk)Choose a fertility clinic | HFEATreatments | HFEAOther channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingitSupport the Show.Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.With 1.5 million women in the UK alone suffering from Endometriosis, and many still waiting for treatment or even formal diagnosis, this week we are joined by Jorja who after 10 years living in pain finally got her endo diagnosis at age 25.  Within this episode, Jorja is going to tell her story which will include the processes and treatment she received. We are not medically trained therefore if you experience any of the symptoms discussed within this episode please do seek help from a medical professional. Resources: Ending endometriosis starts by saying it | Endometriosis UK (endometriosis-uk.org)Endometriosis - NHS (www.nhs.uk)Other channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingitSupport the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.In this mini-episode, we are breaking down Clare's law or DVDS (domestic violence disclosure scheme). We will discuss how it was started, why, and how you go about requesting information under the 'Clare's Law' act.  Lastly, I have been permitted to share a real-life story from a listener who has reached out and shared their experience with requesting a DVDS on someone they were dating, and how getting this potentially saved them from being in a violent relationship.If you or anyone you know are in immediate danger or are suffering from domestic abuse please call 999. Resources to help:Domestic violence disclosure scheme 'Clare's Law' (publishing.service.gov.uk)Clare's Law (clares-law.com)Apply for a non-molestation or occupation order: Form FL401 - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)Domestic Violence & Abuse · Emergency Injunction Service (ncdv.org.uk)Refuge, the largest UK domestic abuse organisation for womenOther channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingitSupport the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.On this week's episode I welcome Robyn who is a qualified family lawyer from Kay and Pascoe family solicitors in East Sussex. She has kindly taken the time to talk through some of the most popular questions I believe are raised around Parental Responsibility, Step parents, changing your address and also if you were going on holiday with your children. We had so much to go through and only scratched the service with this episode but I hope it helps anyone out there who needed a little free advice. Please leave a review if you loved this episode and share with anyone you know who would find listening beneficial.Feel free to reach out to Robyn I have included her details below along with other useful resources.Robyn@kayandpascoe.co.uk www.kayandpascoe.co.ukResources:https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/form-c100-application-under-the-children-act-1989-for-a-child-arrangements-prohibited-steps-specific-issue-section-8-order-or-to-vary-or-dischargeSocials:TikTok: @not.aving.itInstagram: @notavingitpodcast Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.In this week's episode I am joined by Kate who unfortunately lost her coparent to their son a couple of years ago to a traffic car accident. We are going to go through how this had affected not only her but mainly her son, and helping him understand and manage grief. Some listeners may find this episode difficult to listen to. We hope you enjoy! Resources to help:https://www.youngminds.org.uk/parent/parents-a-z-mental-health-guide/counselling-and-therapy/https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/children-and-young-adults/advice-for-parents/children-and-bereavement/https://www.childbereavementuk.org/supporting-bereaved-children-and-young-peopleSocials: https://www.tiktok.com/@not.aving.it?_t=8lYX4isv7lB&_r=1https://www.instagram.com/notavingitthepodcast?igsh=ZWc1ZjhrcnhiY2kx&utm_source=qrSupport the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.For my seventh episode, this week I have invited Lacey onto the pod to discuss miscarriages. Both Lacey and I unfortunately at 11 weeks experienced a 'missed' miscarriage and we have come together today to talk about it and hopefully spread more awareness. We hope that by talking about our experiences, if you or someone you know has gone through this you won't feel so along. As usual if you've enjoyed this episode please share it with your friends, family and colleague's. Don't forget to check out our socials too to keep updated on up and coming episodes! Resources:https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/miscarriage/missed-miscarriage/https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/story/never-thought-happen/https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/miscarriage/Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/notavingitthepodcast?igsh=ZWc1ZjhrcnhiY2kx&utm_source=qrhttps://www.tiktok.com/@not.aving.it?_t=8lKWZHg7hA1&_r=1Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.Off the back of Episode 3 'How to keep yourself safe' and clarifying the different protection orders. I am so pleased this week to be joined by Sharon Bryan who is the Head of Partnerships and Development at The National Centre of Domestic Violence. Sharon herself a survivor of domestic abuse joins me on this episode and bravely details her story and experience and how this has led her to dedicate her career to supporting other survivors. Sharon is also going to go through her work at NCDV and how they help individuals who do not qualify for legal aid get protection orders like non-molestation and occupation orders in place. *Content warning within this episode we will discuss domestic violence that could be triggering to listen to. If you ever find yourself in a situation where your safety is compromised, call 999.Don't forget to share this episode with anyone who you think it would help. If you have enjoyed this episode don't forget to follow us to be notified of new episodes and give us a star rating. Thanks! Resources - Ways to refer: Text: text “NCDV” to 60777Download the free NCDV AppPhone: 0800 970 2070Email: office@ncdv.org.ukhttps://www.gov.uk/government/publications/apply-for-a-non-molestation-or-occupation-order-fl401https://www.ncdv.org.ukFor content on this subject, follow our TikTok and Instagram:https://www.tiktok.com/@not.aving.it?_t=8ky9bQ2Nedc&_r=1 https://www.instagram.com/notavingitthepodcast?igsh=ZWc1ZjhrcnhiY2kx&utm_source=qrSupport the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.If you are like me and find yourself in a position where you have to apply to the family court to sort out child arrangements, then this episode could be great for you. I have attended 20 hearings within family court most of which self-represented and am very familiar with the processes and steps you need to take to get there. This episode breaks down in nice simple steps what forms and steps you need to take to apply for a child arrangement order. I am not legally qualified, I am just sharing the knowledge I have gained along the way. I always recommend that if you can get legal advice please do. Please make sure you follow, like and share... Hope you enjoy! Follow:Not Aving' it - The Podcast (@notavingitthepodcast)www.tiktok.com/@not.aving.it?_t=8j8Zq747pZp&_r=1Helpful resources:Family court applications that involve children (CB1) - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)Apply for a court order to make arrangements for a child or resolve a dispute about their upbringing: Form C100 - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)Form C1A: Provide supplemental information when making or responding to allegations of harm and domestic violence - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)What is a MIAM? - Family Mediation CouncilLegal aid: Overview - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.Within this episode I am pleased to be joined by my Hypnotherapist Holly. I've invited Holly on to discuss what this form of therapy is and how it is amazing for those suffering from stress and anxiety. We will touch on the results I have had and how it's changed my mindset following challenging mental situations like trying to conceive and the stress of my separation. If you are suffering from stress or anxiety I would definitely recommend giving this one a listen! To reach out to Holly or visit her within her Bristol clinic -https://www.instagram.com/hypnotherapy_bristol_holly?igsh=aGxodDhkanl3eTduhttps://hollyosbornehypnotherapy.co.uk/Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.Within this week's episode I am going to talk through the measures you can put in place to keep yourself safe.I am not legally qualified, however through my own experiences and research I've created this episode. I hope that this episode isn't relevant for many, however, if you are in a position where you don't like the situation you are in and would like it to change, then some of this information could be invaluable. Il dive into restraining orders, non-molestation orders as well as things you can do at home to be safe. Remember your safety should never be compromised, and if you or an individual is at risk call 999.Resources to help: https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/apply-for-a-non-molestation-or-occupation-order-fl401https://www.ncdv.org.ukhttps://www.ncdv.org.uk/restraining-order-v-non-molestation-order/#:~:text=The%20main%20difference%20between%20a,do%20roughly%20the%20same%20thing.Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.On this week's episode I am pleased to be joined by a friend, Gemma. Who at age 34 has recently been diagnosed with ADHD. Within this episode we are going to dive into why and how she went about getting her diagnosis, and also how this affects her day-to-day life, her career and also her relationships. As usual, if you liked today's episode please give us a star rating and a follow!Resources: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/adhd-and-mental-health/https://adhduk.co.ukhttps://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit

Send us a Text Message.The not aving' it podcast - EP.1 My ex re-triggered my eating disorder ft special guestOn this week's episode I am so grateful to be joined with a special guest. We will spend the next 40 minutes discussing this individuals struggles with Bulimia, and how this consumed parts of her life. This amazing woman who has chosen to remain anonymous has had many successes to celebrate, including for some time overcoming the symptoms of Bulimia. However, it wasn't until she met her now ex, that her Bulimia was worse than ever, causing her weight to plummet.The individuals voice has been changed to hide their identity.This week's episode could be triggering to some, so please take a moment to pause if needed. As always if you liked this episode please leave us a review and give us a follow! Resources to help:www.beateatingdisorders.org.ukhttps://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/get-information-and-support/get-help-for-myself/i-need-support-now/helplines/https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/eating-problems/treatment-support/Support the Show.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe and follow along on my social channels to always be kept up-to-date with new episodes. Social channels -Instagram - @notavingitthepodcastTikTok - @not.aving.ithttps://linktr.ee/notavingit