An A to Z of Sex with Men

Our final episode of season 2 is all about Zones (the erogenous kind). This week our format is a little different. Instead of our usual 'extensive research', we take you through nearly every erogenous zone we and the internet can think of and tell you our own personal feelings about them. We then discuss our zones-related film, which this time is 'The Piano!' It was intense we loved, but we loved it (and keep away from the darker aspects of it in our discussion). THANK YOU for coming on our journey with us this far, and stay tuned for future projects! TW: There are no specific trigger warnings for this episode. Contact: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #zones #zisforzones #thepiano #erogenous #erogenouszones #anatozofsexwithmen

In our penultimate episode we turn our minds back to our younger and less experienced days and discuss the tumultuous world of sex and relationships from the perspective of 'the youth'. It's not all anecdotal of course. We do our usual 'extensive research' and find out what the youth of today think about it all, as well delving a little into relationships with large age gaps. This week's youth-related film is 'Everybody's Talking About Jamie'. We probably won't be talking about it much in the future, but there were some things we liked about it! TW: There are no specific trigger warnings this week. Contact: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #youth #yisforyouth #everybodystalkingaboutjamie #anatozofsexwithmen

It is finally time to release our A to Z LIVE SHOW!! In this first ever collaboration with the absolutely incredible Glitter & Titter Cabaret, we welcome special guests April Fiasco and Gigi Vin Rouge! Gigi is a stand-up comedian and burlesque artist combining sex and statistics like they've never been combined before. Sextistics if you will. April Fiasco is the showgirl alter-ego of comedian Carmen Ali. A regular on the London Cabaret scene, she is resident host at Sexquisite Events & Co-organiser at Socialist Strip Club Cybertease. She has been featured by TimeOut, The Guardian, and the BBC, and has a whole host of awards and accolades to her name, including finalist at Burlesque Idol 2019, and LGBTQ New Comedian of the Year 2019. From threesomes to sx work, to the tragic absence of foreplay, she has a lot of stories to tell... Of course, no Glitter n Titter show would be complete without compere extraordinaire, Gemma Layton, and the one who makes it all happen, the indomitable Ms Larissa Thorne! There are songs, games, burlesque acts (audio only), and a lot of 'dirty talk' stories from us and our guests. We had so much fun doing this episode, and we hope you have (almost) as much fun listening! Extra special thanks go to: Tom the Tech, who has a couple of voice cameos and is the reason you can hear us at all; Stormina Teacup, who you won't hear, but who was making sure the show ran smoothly with her incredible stage management skills; our fabulous photographer @corsmedia; and our magnificent audience who made the show the success that it was! We would also like to thank and pay tribute to two friends of the podcast who passed away this year: Trixi Tassels was a friend and mentor to us both and was in the audience for our live show. We wouldn't be the performers, or people, we are without her, and her support meant so much to us. Flavio Buonerba was not in the audience, but we would never have had the courage to put on a live show without his encouragement. He generously shared his time and expertise recording and editing some episodes of our show, even guesting on episode X of series 1. The show would not be the calibre it is without him and we will always remember and love him for that. Keep up with our performers here: April Fiasco instagram: @aprilfiasco twitter: @aprilfiasco_ Gigi Vin Rouge instagram: @gigivinrouge Gemma Layton: instagram: @theonlygemmalayton Ms Larissa Thorne: instagram: @mslarissathorne twitter: @msthorne2 facebook: @mslarissathorne Follow Glitter & Titter Cabaret here: instagram: @glitterntitter twitter: @glitterntitter facebook: @glitterntittercabaret And of course keep up with A to Z with Men here: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com

This week is all about friendships and relationships that come with added 'benefits'. We discuss the pros and cons of a typical 'with benefits' type setup, and explore what the 'benefits' actually are - is it just sex, or is there more to it? Can you, in fact, have a non-sexual friendship with benefits? We also look back fondly on our own 'with benefits' friends of the past. This week's 'with benefits' related film is 'Y tu mamá también' directed by Alfonso Cuarón. We thought it was an excellent representation of these types of relationship, which navigates a beautiful line between humour and pathos. TW: There are no specific trigger warnings, but the film discussion touches on the topic of terminal illness, in case anyone's feeling particularly sensitive to that right now. Contact: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #friendswithbenefits #fwb #ytumamatambien #anatozofsexwithmen

Episode P was devoted to Penis, so it's only right that episode V should be all about the Vulva! And we're not alone, as joining us this week is the lovely professional hula-hooper and graphic designer, Beth! As we vivaciously vocalise about various things vulvic, we learn about similarities (and differences) in the arousal of different genitals, and discover that the vulva-owners among us know shockingly little about vulvic anatomy. Our vulva-related film this week was Park Chan-Wook's 2016 film, The Handmaiden. The overall consensus was that we loved it, and were generally happy with the vulvic representation. TW: mention of child abuse (1:23:23-1:23:47) Contact: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com Sources and recommendations: Watch The Handmaiden here - https://homecinema.curzon.com/film/the-handmaiden/

This week is all about celebrating the things that don't get enough attention - i.e. the sexually, sensually, and romantically Underrated! Based on the anecdotes and experiences of their social circle, Raphael and Jacinta look at the sex and relationship related experiences that are overlooked, but delightful none-the-less, be it a touch of the waist, a caress of a leg, or a comfortable silence. This week's Underrated-related film is Gilda, because *that* glove peel... There are no trigger warnings this week! Contact: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #UisforUnderrated #sexualrevolution #gilda #ihateyoujohnny #earstuff #eyetemples #secretspankingsocialsoirees #laughtogetherfucktogether #compersion #restonabreast #lustystuff #thezinginessoftouch #ejectjuices #ritahayworth #glovepeel #comeonhayworth #loverita #anatozofsexwithmen

Last season episode T was devoted to Turn-offs, so we thought it only right that this season T should be all about Turn-ons! We look at top turn-ons in America and Western Europe, as well as unlikely places to be turned and unusual things to be turned on by. We obviously talk all about out own turn-ons, and how we discovered them, and discuss the sexiest scents. Our film of the week is Happiness, an exploration of problematic and stigmatised turn-ons. This bit is full of trigger warnings, so listen to the film discussion with caution. TW: 56:05-end (discussion of the film Happiness which deals with topics of rape, sexual assault, and sexual harassment of both adults and children, and suicide) Contact: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com Sources and recommendations: 'The top 10 biggest sex turn ons for men and women in South Yorkshire have been revealed' https://www.thestar.co.uk/news/the-top-10-biggest-sex-turn-ons-for-men-and-women-in-south-yorkshire-have-been-revealed-818679 Non-Sexual Turn-Ons https://onlinedoctor.superdrug.com/atypical-arousal/ #atozwithmen #givemethetinglies #pervert #scentofaman #matchymatch #earnibbles #exploratoryjourney #happiness #anatozofsexwithmen

This episode is all about that previously indefinable type of relationship, The Situationship. With a lot of help from the glossy mags (and a lot of wading through the heteronormative monogamous agenda), Raphael and Jacinta work out what a 'situationship' actually is, and discuss whether they have ever had one. They look at the pros and cons of a situationship and conclude that (surprise, surprise) it all comes down to communication, really. The situationship related film up for discussion is bernardo Bertolucci's The Dreamers starring Eva Green. They have a lot of effusively good things to say about it! TW: coercion and sexual assault (1:01:07 - 1:03:03), discussion of suicide (1:09:29 - 1:11:50) Sources and recommendations: '10 Signs You're In a 'Situationship' - https://www.instyle.com/lifestyle/hump-day/what-is-a-situationship 'What Is a Situationship?' - https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-situationship-5216144#:~:text=A%20situationship%20is%20a%20casual,expending%20too%20much%20emotional%20energy. 'Stuck in a 'situationship'? It's the destructive dating trend that's ruling our love lives - and here's how to spot it' - https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/situationships?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=SocialFlow&fbclid=IwAR3OaiyeilvbJhCbmnC_wqzSs4CBXpKcAEAozneRJCufEsgsUWEYvb2FtpI 'A Beginner's Guide to Relationship Anarchy: Examples and How To Practice' - https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-relationship-anarchy Buy a copy of The Ethical Slut here: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/54944.The_Ethical_Slut Watch The Dreamers here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Dreamers-Michael-Pitt/dp/B00U1X9WB4 Contact: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #situationship #sisforsituationship #relationshipanarchy #dtr #oozing #anatozofsexwithmen

It's time to talk about that word we hate so much, Rape. Sadly, rape is something that a LOT of us are survivors of, and Jacinta and Raphael are no exception. It's so important to talk about it and that's exactly what they do. Sharing personal experiences; discussing the inadequate language around rape and sexual assault, and exploring how to support people who have survived rape. This is a difficult episode with a lot of triggering content so please listen with caution. Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #risforrape #anatozofsexwithmen

Raphael and Jacinta are back with a quip-filled, laughter-fuelled, fast-talking episode all about quickies! They are not alone though, joining them is none other than genealogist, socialite, and all round smutty guy, William Hall. Jumping from orgasms to red wine and white carpets, to blowjobs in the 'bog', sexy teeth-brushing, and #quickiesinthequeueforthequeen, they explore the meaning of 'quickie', the best places to have them, and the best people to have them with. They also have much to say on this week's film, 'Scenes of a Sexual Nature', which definitely oversold on the 'sexual' part. TW: none Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #qisforquickie #oohaah #quickieinthequeueforthequeen #havingyourpipesdone #beaujolaising #briefandtrivial #boredrigid #remembermefondlingly #disembodiedpenis #loveactuallyactually #anatozofsexwithmen

For a podcast about sex, there's been remarkably little chat about the specifics of genitalia so far. It's now time to change all that with this week's episode, P is for Penis! (Don't worry, Vulvas will be getting an episode too, you've just gotta wait a few weeks for that one.) Join Raphael and Jacinta as they talk penis parts (inside and out), penises in art (spoiler: there are a lot), and tell stories of penises they have known and loved. TW: There are no trigger warnings this week. Sources and recommendations: '10 things you didn't know about the penis' - https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320748#5.-One-final-erection 'Cleopatra: Histories, Dreams and Distortions' by Lucy Hughes-Hallet - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/505261.Cleopatra Find out more about the Icelandic Phallological Museum here: https://phallus.is/en/ Find out more about the V&A 'Fashioning Masculinities' here: https://www.vam.ac.uk/exhibitions/fashioning-masculinities-the-art-of-menswear Follow the incredible drag king, Hot Rod, on Instagram at @hotrod_drag Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #pisforpenis #pisforpeepee #antidepressants #angleofthedangle #penisenvy #territorialpenis #nocturnalpeniletumescance #angellust #peniswindchime #trousersnake #touchmytingly #flappypenis #anatozofsexwithmen

Today Jacinta and Raphael have not one but TWO guests because, as we establish in the course of the episode, it takes at least four to make an orgy, which just so happens to be the focus of this week's discussion! The guests in question are drag adjacent performance artist, the fabulous Felix Le Freak (returning after their brilliant appearance in Season 1 episode Q is for Queer), and first time (but no less fabulous) guest, actor, musical theatre performer and educator, Tanya! With much merriment, the group discuss what an orgy is, how many you need to make an orgy, how to find an orgy and keep yourself safe once you're there, the etymology of 'orgy', and talk about some of their own orgiastic experiences. This week's orgy-related film was Dance of the 41. It elicited some strong reactions, heated discussion, and varying reviews (the hosts liked it better than the guests)! Let us know your thoughts on it, as well as on orgies! TW: There are no triggers this week! Sources and recommendations: Learn about the etymology of the word 'orgy' here: https://www.etymonline.com/word/orgy Watch Dance of the 41 here: https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/80235267 Contact: Keep up with Felix Le Freak here: Instagram: @felixlefreak And buy their book, Serving Face here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/serving-face/felix-le-freak/felix-le-freak/9780241471296 Keep up with Tanya and Jacinta's cabaret group, Cabaret Selection Box here: Instagram: @cabaretselectionbox Contact A to Z with Men here: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #oisfororgy #outercourse #ordinary #acoverisnotthebook #danceofthe41 #licentiousrevelry #orgiastic #sensualfun #howmanymakesanorgy #coffeeandorgy #flavoursoforgy #sarcasticblowjob #sweetshop #moustacheaction #anatozofsexwithmen

Jacinta and Raphael bare the naked truth in this week's discussion of nudity. They look at a range of feelings involved with nudity, from shame to confidence and embarrassment to empowerment, and look at the contexts when it is and isn't ok to be naked and why that might be. And of course how nudity should very much be on the nude person's terms, you should never have to take your clothes off if you don't want to! Having got to a stage in their personal journeys where they're both extremely comfortable with being naked, Jacinta and Raphael thought a good film to watch this week would be Steve McQueen's 'Shame'. They have a lot of appreciation for the naked scenes, less for the long shots of Carey Mulligan singing an extremely boring song! tw: domestic assault (1:25:25 - 1:26:07) #atozwithmen #nisfornudity #nostalgia #nosuchthingasnormal #shame #michaelfassbender #nakedjobs #historyofnudity #bigsymbol #blamethevictorians #bornnaked #lifedrawing #nakedjourney #bodycontact #anatozofsexwithmen

Rounding off the first half of Season 2, we bring you an in depth discussion on Masculinity, featuring very special guest, Cabaret performer and producer of the fabulous Glitter n Titter Cabaret, Matt Rowan! Positive, performative, toxic and fragile, Masculinity encompasses a lot of things, but what actually IS it? Is it a useful definition, a societal construct, an outdated term, an intrinsic part of our identities, or possibly all of the above? We're left uncertain, but happy to be part of this important and complex conversation. Our Masculinity related film this week is the 2020 version of The Boys in the Band. We were all big fans of the film, although it didn't enlighten us much further on what masculinity (or indeed femininity) is. TW: Reference to domestic violence (36:12 - 36:49), Homophobic Language (57:09 - 57:12), (1:00:57 - 1:00:59), (1:07:06 - 1:07:10) Watch The Boys in the Band here: https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81000365 Keep up with Matt on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mattwych/ Get all your Glitter n Titter Cabaret news here: Website: https://www.glitterntitter.co.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/glitterntitter/ Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #misformasculinity #performativity #masculinity #femininity #identity #gender #theboysintheband #formen #fragilemasculinity #toxicmasculinity #performativemasculinity #positivemasculinity #theboysintheband #anatozofsexwithmen

This week we're looking at Love's near, dear, and much maligned relation: Lust. Where Love is the stuff of epic poetry and enduring fiction, Lust is the stuff of banned books and pornos, hidden away behind closed doors and under creaking beds. So why is that? Why is such a strong, and often enjoyable, feeling surrounded by so much stigma? Join us on a journey of erotic discovery, in which we examine religion's role in our cultural and societal perceptions of Lust; lament the havoc Lust in the workplace can cause; and reminisce about our own lusciously lustful encounters. Our Lusty film of the week is Les Choses Secretes. It now holds joint first place as our highest reviewed film ever! There is a lot of lust in it, it's amazing, and we've got a lot of very complimentary things to say! There are no triggers this week. Sources and recommendations: You can buy Paul Takes the Form of a Mortal Girl here: https://www.wob.com/en-gb/books/andrea-lawlor/paul-takes-the-form-of-a-mortal-girl/9781529007671?gclid=Cj0KCQjwwJuVBhCAARIsAOPwGASi4-TQKfRMfVpgPOVfrmh_-PFnN4pjPURmJjay0lRaqvKVsxsLDjUaAg9lEALw_wcB Read Healthy Lust vs. Unhealthy Lust here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/202001/healthy-lust-vs-unhealthy-lust Buy our Thrust, Thrust, Thrust t-shirt here! https://atozwithmen.square.site/product/men-s-v-neck-tee-thrust-/7?cp=true&sa=true&sbp=false&q=false Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #LisforLust #liftlust #thrustthrustthrust #sevendeadlysins #dante #dantesinferno #insatiablelust #secondglance #frissondangereuses #anatozofsexwithmen

In this week's episode K, Raphael and Jacinta are talking all things Kissing! Whether it's reminiscing about the pillowy lips of partners past and present; deep diving into the science of smooching; discussing kissing compatibility; or explaining the importance of consent when it comes to the platonic peck, they cover it all. Does good kissing equal good sex? Is it bad form to kiss in public (especially if you're straight)? And how does kissing make us feel? Listen now to find out! Our Kissing film of the week is 2017 Oscar winner, Moonlight. There's a little less kissing than we hoped for, but the ones we got were great! TW: Homophobic Language (59:45 - 1:00:05) (1:02:22 - 1:02:31) Sources and recommendations: 'Why Do We Kiss? What Science Says About Smooching' https://www.healthline.com/health/why-do-we-kiss#:~:text=It%20boosts%20your%20'happy%20hormones,feelings%20of%20affection%20and%20bonding. Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #kisforkissing #kamasutra #moonlight #kithandkin #happyhormones #kissfeeding #lippy #kissingconnection #quantumkissing #salivasharing #prolongedkiss #morekissingplease #anatozofsexwithmen

In our efforts to find something relevant beginning with J, we came up with... Just Kidding! (In other words, faking it.) There are of course fake orgasms, which we talk a lot about. How common are they? Do cis men fake orgasms too?! Are fake orgasms even possible?? Have we ever faked them, or had them faked to us? But there are, we discover, a lot of other ways of faking or 'just kidding' within romantic and sexual relationships. Can we all honestly say we're completely honest with our partners all of the time. And how openly do we actually talk about our sex lives? And are we even completely truthful with ourselves when it comes to our relationships, hookups and turn-ons? We had no difficulty choosing which film to watch this week. Famous for its iconic fake orgasm scene, as well as it's witty dialogue and touching central friendship and romance, it's only When Harry Met Sally! We were both surprised at just how much we enjoyed it. TW: Homophobic Language (59:12 - 59:15) Sources and recommendations: Faking Orgasms: Men do it too, but it's not 'necessarily a bad thing' - https://globalnews.ca/news/2670021/faking-orgasms-men-do-it-too-but-its-not-necessarily-a-bad-thing/ The fake orgasm scene! - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lNEX0fbGePg #atozwithmen #jisforjustkidding #justkidding #jk #tellmemore #fakingit #fakeorgasm #mendoittoo #dryorgasm #crazyexgirlfriend #igaveyouauti #analtearing #whenharrymetsally #illhavewhatsheshaving #anatozofsexwithmen

This week I is for that all powerful, all consuming emotion, Infatuation. We often compare infatuation with love, but what is the difference (and what are the similarities)? It's erotic, distracting, and at times deeply inappropriate. But can infatuation be a good thing and does it ever lead to, or indeed, co-exist with, love? Infatuation with people, places and pastimes, we cover it all! Our infatuation related film of the week is Théo & Hugo. With intense and sexy (unsimulated) sex scenes, a HIV scare, and extensive shots of Parisian streets, there is much to discuss. There are no trigger warnings this week! Sources and recommendations: Infatuation vs. Love: How To Tell If You're Just Infatuated https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/is-it-love-or-infatuation-how-to-know-when-youre-infatuated/ 12 Clear Signs You Are Infatuated And Not In Love - https://www.bonobology.com/signs-infatuation-not-love/ You can watch Théo & Hugo here: https://watch.amazon.co.uk/detail?gti=amzn1.dv.gti.feac3a18-b8e5-a309-fe3f-4b128e44ca48&ref_=atv_dp_share_mv&r=web #atozwithmen #infatuation #iisforinfatuation #interlewd #paranormalromance #parasocial #outofcontrol #sickness #consuming #obsession #stalkingnotstalking #emotional #justpickle #theoethugo #Paris #unsimulatedsexscene #Frenchcinema #lovethisdick #whofuckedwhom #hyperrealism #artyfilm #greatkissing #likemagic

This week Raphael and Jacinta are joined by very special guest, Achim Brandenburg (aka Prosumer) to delve into the topic of Heartbreak. We look at post-breakup heartbreak, the heartbreak after the loss of a loved one, and the physical impact heartbreak can have on your actual heart. Amongst the usual 'extensive' research, practical (and less practical) advice, witty anecdotes and film discussion, Achim movingly shares his feelings of heartbreak following the recent loss of his close friend, Gary. We feel so privileged to have been able to honour Gary and his memory and legacy on our podcast and would like to dedicate this episode to him. This week's Heartbreak related film is Mario (a 2018 Swiss film directed by Marcel Gisler), a love story between footballers Mario and Leon. Our nutshell review is: 'beautiful sex scenes, too much football, why is being gay always the problem??' but listen to the episode for our in depth analysis. TW: Coercion and Sexual Assault (5:53 - 10:16) Sources and recommendations: 'The Science of a Broken Heart and How to Put It Back Together' - https://greatist.com/happiness/science-broken-heart#death 'Hacking Heartbreak: The Ultimate Guide to Getting Over 'The One'' - https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/996edc30-d6e9-480b-b4a8-15b626f0aa76 Follow Achim on instagram here: @prosumerama Contact Achim about hypnotherapy and sound/gong baths here: https://resonant.me/about/ Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #HisforHeartbreak #getoutmylido #beltane #warmication #heartbreak #scienceoflove #impartial #stagesofgrief #oursong #mario #football #anatozofsexwithmen

This week we are getting technical and discussing the all important genitals! We all have them, we all use them (for peeing if not for sexing), but do we really know them? A bit of research suggests that, no, we don't. Vas deferens anyone? Or what about a mons pubis? In this episode we try to clarify a bit of genital biology, as well as exploring our relationship with our own genitals. Turns out it can be complicated, but ultimately, every genital is different and, more importantly, every genital is gorgeous! At the end of the episode we treat ourselves to genital filled movie, Wetlands, based on the novel of the same name by Charlotte Roche. It's visceral, gross, sweet, sexy, and excellent. We can heartily recommend! There are no trigger warnings this week! Sources and recommendations: 'Female Internal Genital Organs' - https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-gb/home/women-s-health-issues/biology-of-the-female-reproductive-system/female-internal-genital-organs Intersex information - https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/001669.htm Genitalia sketches - https://dirtycode.io/ Books we mentioned were: - How to be a Woman by Caitlin Moran - Cunt by Inga Muscio Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #gisforgenitals #genitals #genitalia #groping #publicgroping #donaldtrumpreference #gag #wetlands #charlotteroche #nudity #sexeducation #vulvacupcakes #penisscrotumballs #everygenitalisgorgeous #visceral #balls #ballplay #greatbritishfuckoff #bigmouth #onlyconnect #hellocervix #pussyhygiene #healthypussyflora #penis #vulva #anatozofsexwithmen

This week we're delving into the fabulous and fascinating topic of Fetish. We couldn't do it alone though, so this week we are joined, for the SECOND time, by A to Z favourite, bisexual burlesque beastie, Bambi Bang Bang! Together we discuss the difference between between fetish and kink, explore some common and less common fetishes, and muse about what our own fetishes might be (if indeed we have any, it seems some of us can wank to anything)! We also watch the iconic kink film, Secretary and debate how successful it is at portraying fetish in a relationship. We had a lot to say and a lot to unpack! While we all agreed that more communication and after care would have been great, we'd still take Edward Grey over Christian Grey any day. TW: Self Harm (47:01 - 48:46) (1:31:50 - 1:42:57), Rape and Sexual Assault (54:34 - 55:48) Follow Bambi Bang Bang at: Instagram: @bambibangbanguk For Bambi's artwork and commissions follow: Instagram: @doeeyeddoodles Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #fisforfetish #ponyplay #bopit #nippletown #burfordbrowns #morewood #kink #fetish #tentacleporn #prepareyourareas #secretary #pissoffsandra #dontbeafraid #imhorny #ohmaggie #softdom #whosthat #iwannamakelove #ilikedullwork #eedwardgrey #christiangrey #anatozofsexwithmen

This week E is for Ejaculation! An exhilarating release and the perfect accompaniment to an orgasm, but ohhhh the mess... Join Raphael and Jacinta as they discuss existentialism, ejaculation etiquette, the science of ejaculation, and get personal about their own ejaculations past and present. Today's Ejaculation related film is Shortbus and they LOVED it! There is much vocal ejaculating at the film's sex positive perfection. They highly recommend you go watch it immediately! There are no trigger warnings this week! Sources and recommendations: Wikipedia article on ejaculation (with explicit explanatory media) - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ejaculation Beverly Whipple - article on female ejaculation - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/9781118896877.wbiehs125 #atozwithmen #eisforejaculation #ejaculation #kinseyreport #mastersandjohnson #11mph #cumplay #squirting #utiprone #femaleejaculation #weakejaculation #nutritiousanddelicious #messy #release #squirtycumexperience #shortbus #preorgasmic #existentialism #weallgetitintheend

Stressful, scary or scintillating, Drama is a prevalent part of many sexual and romantic relationships (not to mention friendships and work relationships)! Whether it's the drama of first love or fifty-first love; breakup sex or makeup sex; whirlwind romances or relationships that have passed their sell-by-date, Drama is everywhere. What creates drama in a relationship? Is it avoidable? Can it ever be a positive thing? Raphael and Jacinta discuss all this and more, as well as reminiscing over some particularly dramatic relationships in their turbulent sexual pasts. The film up for discussion this week is Blue Valentine. It sparked some animated discussion and left them both extremely tense! TW: domestic abuse (51:51 - 52:43) (54:18 - 57:43), rape and sexual assault (54:18 - 57:43) Sources and recommendations: 9 Types of Relationship Drama You're Too Old For https://www.bustle.com/p/9-types-of-drama-youre-too-old-to-be-dealing-with-in-a-relationship-27741 Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #disfordrama #drama #relationshipdrama #conqueringyourdaunts #dramallama #playinggames #treatemmeankeepemkeen #bridesmaids #nochill #mostnaked #dramaaddict #bluevalentine #thrustthrustthrust #anatozofsexwithmen

Communication is essential for any relationship, be it sexual, romantic or platonic, but it's so hard to do! This week Jacinta and Raphael explore just why that might be, as well as discussing some tips and tricks to make it that little bit easier. This week's film is Duke of Burgundy, which we have a lot of good things to say about! There are no trigger warnings this week. Sources and recommendations: ‘Communication That Truly Connects' https://www.tonyrobbins.com/stories/date-with-destiny/communication-truly-connects/ ‘10 Communication Patterns That Hurt Relationships' https://goop.com/gb-en/wellness/relationships/communication-mistakes-in-relationships/ Buy Marshall Rosenberg's book, Nonviolent Communication, here: https://biblio.co.uk/book/nonviolent-communication-language-life-life-changing/d/906090346?aid=frg&gclid=CjwKCAiAvaGRBhBlEiwAiY-yMFU0lX1qqOhSJxRSMFGGDBJO_wPpbkRcz_SbzpjPDSo8JQqYN90mzBoCFFIQAvD_BwE?dcx=906090346 Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #communication #communicationskills #cisforcommunication #kinseyreport #frustratedactor #orthopterist #sixhumanneeds #livingisgiving #softeyesaha #DukeofBurgundy #anatozofsexwithmen

Most of us will have gone through at least one break up (some of us considerably more), whether it was from your childhood crush, your first proper romantic partner, your kid's other parent, or any of the relationships in between. They all seem to happen for different reasons (falling out of love, sleeping with someone else, annoying habits getting that bit *too* annoying, lives simply following different paths) but they are all HARD. To help them explore the variety and similarities within breakups, Raphael and Jacinta have enlisted the help of special guest, the wonderful Flavia Fraser-Cannon. It turns out breakups tend to involve a fair amount of guttural sobbing, numbness, and film-watching. Speaking of which, their film up for discussion this week was Ingmar Bergman's Scenes from a Marriage, which they had some *very* differing views on! TW: Domestic Assault (1:06:28 - 1:06:44) (1:16:22 - 1:17:04) Follow Flavia at: Instagram: @flaviafrascan And for Flavia's photography and graphic design: Instagram: @flaviafcphotography Website: www.frasercannon.com/ Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #bubblyblowjob #mutualdrift #youredumped #breakupcontract #scenesfromamarriage #ingmarbergman #anatozofsexwithmen

An A to Z with Men is BACK! And today is all about aphrodisiacs and erogenous zones, because this week, A... is for Arousal. In a new, Season 2 format, Raphael and Jacinta will be discussing words of the week; answering questions from the audience; doing the usual 'extensive research'; sharing their personal stories, and watching a topic related film. This week it's 90s classic, Cruel Intentions... Listen now to hear just how successful they think it was at exploring the topic of Arousal! Spoiler: Not very... TW: homophobic language (43:47 - 45:16) Sources and recommendations: Tips and remedies for getting 'Turned On' - https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/how-to-get-turned-on The Science of Sexual Arousal - https://www.apa.org/monitor/apr03/arousal Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #aisforarousal #arousal #doesthehandjob #moistylane #erogenouszones #friendsreference #toolanalogy #screwingthings #prizingthingsopen #stimulated #tisnobiggy #exciting #mastersandjohnson #cruelintentions #so90s #90scringe #dampsquib #justsuckonit #terriblewriting #anatozofsexwithmen

It's been a wild ride and now here we are at our final destination, Z is for Zipless Fucks! Jacinta and Raphael had no idea what a zipless fuck was so they drafted in some expert help in the form of SPECIAL GUEST, writer and comedian, Michael Cumes. Together they academically analyse the zipless fuck (a term coined by Erica Jong in the novel Fear of Flying by the way) in an attempt to define something so elusive that it's almost undefinable. Drawing on more ‘personal experience' and ‘extensive research' than ever before, they wend their way through magical memories of steamy nights, delve into some second wave Feminist history, and share plenty of juicy details. So strap in (or possibly on) for this week's final installment of Season 1! TW: None! Follow Michael Cumes on Instagram here - @michaelcumes Sources and recommendations: Fear of Flying Turns 40: Has the "Zipless Fuck" Become Quaint? https://www.vogue.com/article/fear-of-flying-turns-40-has-the-zipless-fuck-become-quaint/amp #atozwithmen #zisforziplessfucks #nextnextbigthing #ziplessfuck #ziplessfucks #ericajong #fearofflying #isadorawing #thatslove #nowthatslove #velveetacheese #blandasvelveetacheese #bittersweet #thedroop #isthisavocadoripe #thepornpath #intimacyissues #ruuun #beforesunset #sauna #demystify #itwasme #selfflagellating #spankbank #ziplessmindfuck #justalittlecrush #pureinfatuation #daddyissues #anatozofsexwithmen

While we're waiting for episode Z to zoom it's way to you (read: we're still editing it), we thought we'd tide you over with a mini bonus episode, in which we chat love... in the bedroom. Dinners, blowjobs and bondage are all in the mix, but how do you think love can be expressed during the act of sex/fucking/love making etc? We would super love to know!

No means no, but does yes always mean yes? This week it's time to look at the big Y.E.S. and what it means when we say it. There's the tentative yes, the spontaneous yes, the considered yes and the all important enthusiastic yes! There's yes to sex, yes to cuddles, yes to relationships and yes to marriage. What do all these yeses entail? Can yes be said without being spoken? And what's the difference between ‘yes', and ‘yeah'? Join Raphael and Jacinta this week as they yak and yarn about all things YES. TW: There are some brief allusions to sexual assault but no specific triggering stories this week. HUGE thank you to our sound technician Flavio Buonerba of TripleFSound! Get in touch with him here for all your sound related needs: https://www.triplefsound.com/ Sources and recommendations: How to say 'yes!' to sex (and not just 'OK, only if you shut up about it') https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/mar/04/how-to-say-yes-to-sex-and-not-just-ok-only-if-you-shut-up-about-it DO YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO SAY YES TO SEX WITH YOUR PARTNER? https://www.avert.org/young-voices-africa/do-you-always-have-say-yes-sex-your-partner Does yes always mean yes? https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/sexual-consent-not-simple-saying-yes-a7052811.html #atozwithmen #DICKtionary #penispuns #cumtent #alphablocks #yoreyesteryearandoldentimes #notosexyestoyou #yes #yeah #exposethoseangles #battlestargalactica #enthusiasticyes #cummunication #freesinglereadytomingle #meloveme #youloveyou #neverisnotawordinlove #anatozofsexwithmen

This week is a little different folks! Not many things begin with X so Raphael and Jacinta have thrown caution and convention to the wind in this X-RATED drinking game special. X-pect X-cruciating quizzes, X-plicit Would You Rathers, X-posing truths and X-pedient lies, not to mention an X-plosion of alcohol fuelled X-uberance in this X-hilarating X-stravaganza! There are no trigger warnings this week! HUGE thank you to our sound technician Flavio Buonerba of TripleFSound! Get in touch with him here for all your sound related needs: https://www.triplefsound.com/ Sources and recommendations: 70 best porn movies with plot https://www.marieclaire.com/culture/a12466598/best-porn-movies-of-all-time/ #atozwithmen #episodex #buyatesla #popcornorporn #wouldyourather #truthandalie #drinkinggames #drinkinggamespecial #xrated #xisforxrated #hintofblowjob #penissundial #anatozofsexwithmen

This week W is for exactly what you'd think - that's right… Wanking! In one of the most revealing episodes yet, Raphael and Jacinta discuss what gets them off when they're on their own; the health benefits of wanking (physical, mental and emotional), and why mutual masturbation is the best. Oh and also how wanking doesn't make your hands hairy! Welcome to the wack(ing one out)y world of wanking. It's wicked, it's wizard, it's wondrous. There are no trigger warnings this week. Sources and recommendations: Does Masturbation Have Positive or Negative Effects on the Brain? https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/masturbation-effects-on-brain Is Masturbation Good for You? https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/masturbation/masturbation-good-you HUGE thank you to our sound technician Flavio Buonerba of TripleFSound! Get in touch with him here for all your sound related needs: https://www.triplefsound.com/ #atozwithmen #wisforwanking #wobbleu #holesaregoals #locationlocationlocation #yourmumscarrots #womblingwankingfree #quickdiddle #legallyblonde #ARSEnal #wankingwords #reactiontime #anatozofsexwithmen

Jacinta and Raphael are addressing their sensitive sides in this week's episode on vulnerability. Whether it's sex with strangers, expressing your feelings, or giving your first hand job, there are many ways to feel vulnerable in a sexual context. It sounds scary, but can vulnerability actually be a good thing and, most importantly, can we have good sex without it? Danger, passion, erotic anticipation - they discuss all this and more in this in depth analysis of what it means to be vulnerable. TW: rape and sexual assault (38:50 - 44:33), harrassment in a sexual context (30:10 - 39:16) HUGE thank you to Flavio Buonerba of TripleFSound for doing our sound (recording and editing) this week! Get in touch with him here for all your sound related needs: https://www.triplefsound.com/ Sources and recommendations: Articles about sexual vulnerability https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-future-intimacy/201911/when-sexual-vulnerability-empowers-you http://swell.damewellness.co/three-men-on-being-vulnerable-about-sex/ https://fizzymag.com/articles/how-sexual-vulnerability-can-actually-be-a-positive-thing https://www.amyjogoddard.com/dancing-around-sexual-vulnerability-2/ #atozwithmen #visforvulnerable #episodev #vulva #wickedwoman #Wagina #sexwithstrangers #totalnakedness #coldlightofday #vilified #greekgoddess #actaeon #actaeonreference #sideways #sandrao #whatsgonewhere #spankingcomplex #alongcamepolly #guysandnonguys #anatozofsexwithmen

This week, Raphael and Jacinta turn their attention to the humble sex noise or, as every porn film would have us believe, ‘uhhh'. Why do we make noise during sex? What noises do we make? How does hearing our partner's noises make us feel? How do we feel about our own noises? They discuss all this and more in today's exploration of the sex soundscape - groaning, moaning and gutteral cries abound. Sources and recommendations: Shape.com – 'What your sex noises really mean' https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/sex-noises Time magazine– What Our Sex Sounds Say About Us https://time.com/5370374/sex-sounds-noises-faked-mara-altman-gross-anatomy/ Listen to other people's orgasm sounds here: https://orgasmsoundlibrary.com/#gallery Ethical porn sites: Free Porn Videos for Her | Bellesa - Porn for Women Crash Pad Series | Lesbian/Queer Porn from Queer Adult Filmmaker Shine Louise Houston and Pink & White Productions Beautiful Tasteful Erotic Films & Sensual Stories for Women & Couples (frolicme.com) Ethical gay male porn site: Himeros.TV | The Best Gay Sex of Your Life Listen to gay male sex sounds here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h5-WJsiNG4w #atozwithmen #uhhh #uisforuhhh #episodeu #copulatoryvocalisation #thrustthrustthrust #ballwhacking #uninhibited #sexnoises #sexsounds #mmm #peoplewhoreceive #insertivepartner #receptivepartner #anatozofsexwithmen

Jacinta and Raphael talk a lot about their turn ons in this show, but what about their turn offs? They've both experienced being in the mood and raring to go, then a chance turn of phrase, mannerism or unwelcome thought leaves them suddenly cold. But why does it happen and why do those things turn us off? They surveyed their friends and it turns out turn offs are as varied and as particular as turn ons, and that's fine. Join them for a light hearted discussion on the terrible tribulations of truncating titillations known as turn offs! There are no trigger warnings this week. #atozwithmen #tisforturnoffs #turnoff #throwoff #turnofforthrowoff #auralearaction #sitonmyface #thenakedpoint #finishhim #buttonbash #tummytime #penisrecipients #anatozofsexwithmen

You there, come a little clossser, I have a sssecret.... It beginsss with the letter Sss - it'sss for Sssafe Sssexxx! That's right folks, condoms aren't just for preventing pregnancies. Ever since the terrifying HIV epidemic of the 80's, safe sex has been the main method of preventing the transmission of STIs - but the stigma attached to these sordid sicknesses is unjustified. Today's statistics show that around half of those testing positive with HIV are straight men and women, yet most people still know it as the ‘gay disease'. From the fear of knowing your status to the guys who try to get away without protection, safe sex is everyone's responsibility, there are lots of parallels to be had with the current global coronavirus pandemic - but knowledge is power. Stay safe everyone! TW: Pregnancy and abortion (41:15 - 49:18), Sexual assault (50:09 - 57:20) Sources and recommendations Articles: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/may/23/unsafe-sex-why-everyones-at-it https://www.australiacounselling.com.au/people-unprotected-sex/ Find out more about HIV and AIDS here: https://www.nat.org.uk/ Find out more about the amazing Emma Cole here: https://www.positivevoice-emmacole.co.uk/ Watch It's A Sin by Russell T Davies here: https://www.channel4.com/programmes/its-a-sin Listen to Burlesque Stripped Down here: https://anchor.fm/burlesquestrippeddown/episodes/048---Season-OSex-Vote-NO-on-Prop-60-eoc674 Listen to Jacinta talk about her abortion on the brilliant Masterbators podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/25-bodily-autonomy-with-jacinta/id1448369602?i=1000444206360 WE'VE GOT MERCH! You can now find us at our BRAND SPANKING (hey hey) NEW WEBSITE: atozwithmen.com! Where you can listen to ALL the episodes, buy SEXY MERCH and support us on Patreon (especially if you want SECRET SQUIRREL ACCESS to our second OPENING THE THESAURUS for H to M (and very shortly third for N to S!), released to SUBSCRIBERS ONLY! Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #sisforsafesex #manymanymen #ribbedanddotted #greatbighoe #dontbeannoying #pregamanger #armedwithcondoms #factsareimportant #amusedandbemused #anatozofsexwithmen

It's the stuff of novels and films; genres of music and artistic movements are named after it; people yearn for it, scoff at it and make grand gestures to achieve it; but what exactly is romance? Raphael and Jacinta went into this week's recording with a very specific set of ideas and came out with their minds totally turned around. We may think we want that grand gesture, but a freshly brewed cup of coffee can be the most romantic gesture of all. And a romantic fling in a European city may set our pulses racing, but it could be a thoughtful note left on the fridge that really melts our hearts. Join them as they readily ramble their rakish way through the ravishing ravine of romance. TW: None Sources: ‘Is romance REALLY essential in your life? I asked 33 people... Here are the responses…' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNHCjL4wIdk Lucy Jordan by Marianne Faithfull https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d0NxhFn0szc Get your delicious doughnuts here! https://www.crosstown.co.uk/ Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #risforromance #surveyofshh #boatingneeds #genitalarea #lepassiondejumper #flavoursoftheloveicecream #sogenz #everydayromance #romanceiscontextual #creepynotromantic #romancenotNECromance #romancethestone

Jacinta and Raphael have arrived at the quirkiest of letters, and they can't quite believe how quickly they've quoted the alphabet so far. But our ‘Quota of Quickening pulses' would be quintessentially questionable without qualifying it with a quantity of fabulous Queerness. Q is for Queer and we have not one but TWO quirky guests to question the quagmire of queerdom, bringing their own quixotic quips and queenly quibbles to the quadrat to be queried: drag adjacent artist and performance maker, Felix Le Freak and writer, Georgia Iacovou. Covering umbrella terms (pun intended) to schoolyard mockery, we chat about our own positions on gender, sexuality and romance. Are we quorate? Good, then let's begin our dive into the letter Q, for Queer! TW: Homophobic language (20:14 - 20:43) (38:28 - 38:30) Keep up with Felix Le Freak here: https://www.instagram.com/felixlefreak/?hl=en And book tickets to F*gwartz: A Queer Musical Quiz Cabaret Experience here: https://www.outsavvy.com/event/6007/fgwarts-a-queer-musical-quiz-cabaret-experience Keep up with Georgia Iacovou here: http://www.georgiaiacovou.com/ Sources and recommendations: The Naked Civil Servant by Quentin Crisp - https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-naked-civil-servant/quentin-crisp/9780006540441 The Weight of Them by Noelle Stevenson (about their top surgery) - https://gumroad.com/l/tJzTV WE'VE GOT MERCH! You can now find us at our BRAND SPANKING (hey hey) NEW WEBSITE: atozwithmen.com! Where you can listen to ALL the episodes, buy SEXY MERCH and support us on Patreon (especially if you want SECRET SQUIRREL ACCESS to our second OPENING THE THESAURUS for H to M (and very shortly third for N to S!), released to SUBSCRIBERS ONLY! Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #qisforqueer #quarry #knotsarequeer #queerclaire #jusset #skusset #kusset #theworldisyourgusset #clovesarequeer #feyasfuck #theprebit #kissykissywankwank #section28 #generation28 #ancientgreeksaregayasfuck #outofcontextpenis #penisitup #bottomfordays #defyingdefinition #queerisanantilabel #antilabel #georgeisqueer #hermioneisgayasfuck #anycoincidencesarepurelycoincidental #gussetbuster #anatozofsexwithmen

What's the internet for? Yes, whether you think it's a good thing or bad, we can all agree that porn (for which P stands this week) is everywhere, and there is no place it won't go. We'll start things off with a fun quiz (who doesn't love trivia?) and find out just how much porn there is and how long we watch it for. Can the fantasy of porn ever match reality? Will you ever relive that fantasy you watched on screen? Do you get off on stopping those lemon-stealing whores? Or do you prefer a big sausage pizza? There are no trigger warnings this episode. Watch the intro to Lemon Stealing Whore here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U5mI407Uks4 Watch the intro to Big Sausage Pizza here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U5mI407Uks4 Find out more about Channel 4 show, Mums Make Porn here: https://www.channel4.com/press/press-pack/mums-make-porn-press-pack Follow artist, sex activist and actor, Colby Keller on Twitter here: https://twitter.com/colbykeller?lang=en WE'VE GOT MERCH! You can now find us at our BRAND SPANKING (hey hey) NEW WEBSITE: atozwithmen.com! Where you can listen to ALL the episodes, buy SEXY MERCH and support us on Patreon (especially if you want SECRET SQUIRREL ACCESS to our second OPENING THE THESAURUS for H to M (and very shortly third for N to S!), released to SUBSCRIBERS ONLY! Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #pisforporn #bigsausagepizza #lemonstealingwhore #superdick #vulva #anatozofsexwithmen

This week's episode will make you die. But only a little death - as this week O is for Orgasm! The big O is more complex than anyone ever realised. Oh! What a variety - from the ones that are almost nothing, to the full body experiences that linger; from the first orgasms, to the self-initiated, to the best ones, and everything in between - and that's without even discussing all the different types of orgasm! There's so much to learn this week, from the known to the unknown, from the science to the vast reaches of conjecture and hearsay, surprisingly little is known about that thing which argues it lies at the very epicentre of sex: the Orgasm. But even that's up for debate… TW: Sexual Assault (3:09 - 4:25) (32:20 - 33:40). Sources and recommendations: Article about orgasm - https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/232318 WE'VE GOT MERCH! You can now find us at our BRAND SPANKING (hey hey) NEW WEBSITE: atozwithmen.com! Where you can listen to ALL the episodes, buy SEXY MERCH and support us on Patreon (especially if you want SECRET SQUIRREL ACCESS to our second OPENING THE THESAURUS for H to M (and very shortly third for N to S!), released to SUBSCRIBERS ONLY! Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #oisfororgasm #suckorfuck #vaginagrab #suckitup

Jacinta and Raphael are back with a tough one - the word 'No'. Hard to say, hard to hear, yet vitally important, they explore just what our issues with 'No' might be. From milky tea to stroppy men, via many overstepped boundaries, they tell their own stories of ignored and unsaid 'no's. It's a difficult topic but they couldn't have explored it in a safer or more loving space. They hope you feel the love too! TW: This week deals explicitly with sexual assault, coercion and crossing of boundaries. If any of these are triggers for you we recommend listening until just after Raphael's milky tea analogy, at which point there will be an 'arruga' and a warning from Jacinta that this is the safe place to stop listening. Sources and recommendations: Don't Hold My Head Down by Lucy Anne Holmes https://www.waterstones.com/book/dont-hold-my-head-down/lucy-anne-holmes/9781783528776 WE'VE GOT MERCH! You can now find us at our BRAND SPANKING (hey hey) NEW WEBSITE: atozwithmen.com! Where you can listen to ALL the episodes, buy SEXY MERCH and support us on Patreon (especially if you want SECRET SQUIRREL ACCESS to our second OPENING THE THESAURUS for H to M (and very shortly third for N to S!), released to SUBSCRIBERS ONLY! Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #milkytea #cupofeugh #cruxofthematter #communicateyandmutual #maincourseofurghh

In this week's episode Jacinta and Raphael go back a few thousand years and uncover some mythical memoirs of monolithic proportions. It seems not much has changed since those ‘good old days' when heroes and gods roamed the earth, causing confusion with their bows and arrows (and genitals) and epically sized desires. Metamorphosing into “golden showers”, bulls, and a menagerie of other totally mundane and normal things; shacking up with goddesses while leaving your long suffering wife to deal (or not deal) with the fallout; abandoning women on remote islands; hitting men in the head with flying rocks; it's a miscellany of monsters and mayhem. What could be more relevant to our sex lives today than the bizarre and ancient world of mythology? The answer, they think you'll agree, is ‘not much'! While there are no personal or ‘real' stories of rape and sexual assault, if these are triggers for you, please note that these concepts are explored through the concepts of Greek (and other) myths, and discussed more generally throughout the episode. Listener discretion is advised. SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT! You can now find us at our BRAND SPANKING (hey hey) NEW WEBSITE: atozwithmen.com! Where you can listen to ALL the episodes, buy SEXY MERCH and support us on Patreon (especially if you want SECRET SQUIRREL ACCESS to our second OPENING THE THESAURUS for H to M, released to SUBSCRIBERS ONLY on 30 MAY! Sources and recommendations: Olivia Olsen - creator of alternative telling of The Odyssey, 'Penelope the Odyssey through her Eyes' https://www.cssd.ac.uk/staff-profiles/olivia-olsen Let's Talk about Myths Baby - podcast: https://www.mythsbaby.com/ The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller http://madelinemiller.com/the-song-of-achilles/ Circe by Madeline Miller http://madelinemiller.com/circe/ 1000 Ships by Natalie Haynes https://nataliehaynes.com/books/a-thousand-ships/ The Children of Jocasta by Natalie Haynes https://nataliehaynes.com/books/the-children-of-jocasta/ Mythos by Stephen Fry https://www.waterstones.com/book/mythos/stephen-fry/9781405934138 The Silence of the Girls by Pat Barker https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-silence-of-the-girls/pat-barker/9780241983201 Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #misformythology #frenchpastries #sexwarandwater

This week Raphael and Jacinta are loquacious about Love. In a world obsessed with the language OF love, they discover that there isn't much of a language FOR love. Nothing seems to have been done about this since the days of the Ancient Greeks, so they turn to them for some much needed guidance. From self love (philautia) to lust (eros), via obsession (mania) and long term commitment (pragma), they unpick the eight types of love, applying them to sexual relationships both past and present. As thorough as the Ancient Greeks were, it looks like Aphrodite should have taught them a few more things, instead of letting her son (Eros) run wild with his bow and arrow! (Fans of that joke can also look forward to episode M!) This week, love is in the air - or the soundwaves, at least. There are no trigger warnings this week! Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #toomuchdill #foodforthought #thongsofpassion #penisinorificeiloveyou #whenshallwethreewordsmeetagain #veryfrenchfilmromance

This week Jacinta and Raphael are tying up all things Kink. Apprehensive to embark on such a topic alone, they are joined by very special guest, 'bisexual burlesque beastie' and all round brilliant bunny, Bambi Bang Bang! (Perhaps we should bring her back for a future B episode?)This week Jacinta and Raphael are tying up all things Kink. Apprehensive to embark on such a topic alone, they are joined by very special guest, 'bisexual burlesque beastie' and all round brilliant bunny, Bambi Bang Bang! (Perhaps we should bring her back for a future B episode?) Guided by Bambi's knowledge, practical advice, and candid stories from the kink scene, they ‘submit' their thoughts on safety and communication; ‘dominate' roleplay and setting a scene; ‘whip' up a domming, subbing and switching mindset; and get all excited about Disney trivia! They discover a sexy world of konsent, konsideration and respekt (sorry) that couldn't be further from the dreaded (whisper it) Fifty Shades of Grey… Whether you're curious about kink, already a kink expert, or simply looking for ways to communicate your sexual needs, there are tips here for you! Welcome to sub space. TW: Sexual assault (16:28 - 18:39) Follow Bambi on instagram at: @doeeyedoodles (for beautiful burlesque and kink inspired artwork, including the one featured on the episode art!) @bambibangbanguk (for burlesque and some super sexy floorwork) Follow us at: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #kisforkink #consentissexyandmandatory #kinkpositive #boundariesarebeautiful

In this week's episode J, Raphael and Jacinta tackle that green-eyed monster (for once, not the one-eyed kind), Jealousy… Facing it head on, they dive into jealousy's murky depths, its gaping maw, its infernal pits, recalling times they are less than proud of as well as telling some difficult truths from the LGBT+ perspective. Destructive, senseless and illogical, yet all too prevalent in our romantic and sexual relationships. Is it innate or imposed on us by society? Does jealousy have a role in the game of love, or is it a redundant player, ruining the fun for everyone? And if so, how do we make this unwanted party guest go away? TW: Sexual assault (3:14 - 3:54) Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #sexysex #notalwaysaboutkids #itsalsoaboutfood

In this week's Episode I, Jacinta and Raphael discuss the topic of Intimacy. Turns out, it's more complex than they might have thought! They look at four types of intimacy (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual) and explore which of them, if any, are needed for some truly sexy sex and meaningful love making. Is intimacy indispensable or irrelevant for an impassioned invitation? Listen now to hear their thoughts, then let them know what you think. What's your favourite type of intimacy and why? They'd love to know! There are no specific trigger warnings this week. Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #sexysex #inflagrante #collisionofintimacies #somethinginahole #intimateteethcleaning

Hark! What's that you hear? Raphael and Jacinta are back?! With the letter H?!! ‘And what's H for?' you ask. Horny hopes, humiliating horrors, heartwarming happenings; why it's the humble Hookup of course! Hop aboard for a first-hand history of hookups full of helpful hints and heinous howlers. Hilarious, hopeless or horrific? Take from it what you will... There are no specific trigger warnings this week. Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #atozwithmen #hisforhookups #sexualdigestion #tunanicoise

In this end-of-part-one special, Jacinta & Raphael look back on episodes A - G. Instead of kicking themselves over what they forgot to talk about, they open up the Thesaurus to synonymise, harmonise and fantasise in this reprise of this very special exercise. Get ready to be surprised as they improvise, summarise and advise on the stuff they forgot to memorise! Don't compromise - be wise and realise you'll only have yourself to chastise if you miss us finalise the first quarter of our franchise! Going back through each letter they've already covered, Raphael & Jacinta add in the forgotten, the edited out, the bloopers, and the stuff they thought of a few minutes too late. TW: coercion and sexual harassment (7:37 - 9:42) Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com

This week, Raphael and Jacinta are joined by their first ever very special guest (cue the trumpet!), Joshua Freddie Vaughan! Together they attempt to unpick the complex topic of gender: From language, attraction and ‘types' to gender expression, education and colonialism - all placed on the metaphorical dissection table as they discuss their own, as well as societal, attitudes toward gender. This garrulous gaggle generates stories that gyrate between the glorious and the garish! TW: coercion and sexual harassment (48:02-48:56) rape and sexual assault (49:14-53:03) Follow Josh on Instagram at @joshuafreddievaughan Follow An A to Z of Sex With Men in the following places: Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #triggeredvegans

We all remember many of our firsts. First bicycle, first car, first kiss, first love... From frivolous fun to frustrating flops, every first is full of fascinating findings! With fresh facts, fabulous follies and no fiction whatsoever, Jacinta and Raphael offer up a feast of furtive fantasies and sexual firsts. TW: Homophobic language (1:27 - 1:30) Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #schrodingerssex #sainsburysfantasy

What connects joy, sadness, contentment and fear? Why, sex of course! Join Jacinta and Raphael for episode E, where they tackle the torrid topic of… Emotion. Sex, breakups, love and lust, they all come with their own set of complex emotions, but why is that? They're not sure they know, but they're very happy to talk about it! TW: Coercion (2:58 - 3:36), sexual assault (5:20 - 6:26). Raphael's first story deals with themes of emotional abuse. If you would like to skip these specific points the timings are 31:50 - 32:26 and 33:34-35:28. If you'd prefer to skip the whole story the timings are 29:16 - 36:35. Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com

Episode four! The letter D! D is for Dating! Online dates! Boring dates! Decadent dates! Speedy dates! Dangerous dates! Jacinta and Raphael have done them all and are here to share their romantic recollections with you. Look forward to the date we can all date again. Just don't order the large white - and don't ‘date, drink and drive'! TW: Rape and sexual assault (1:15-2:45, 3:10-4:05, 26:46-27:44), alcohol abuse (36:10-36:20, 37:00-37:20). Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com #havingacoffee #bottomlesswine #fuckdisney