Podcast appearances and mentions of Erica Jong

Her 1973 novel Fear of Flying rocketed Erica Jong to International fame overnight. in this 2006 interview Jong recalls how that book launched a distinguished literary careerGet your copy of Seducing the Demon by Erica JongAs an Amazon Associate, Now I've Heard Everything earns from qualifying purchases.You may also enjoy my interviews with Germaine Greer and Gloria Steinem For more vintage interviews with celebrities, leaders, and influencers, subscribe to Now I've Heard Everything on Spotify, Apple Podcasts. and now on YouTube#1960a #sexual revolution #feminism #FearOfFlying

For Mother's Day, Lorraine & Trish take a deep dive into motherlove in all its forms. The duo meet journalist and political commentator Molly Jong Fast to discuss her moving new memoir chronicling her mother Erica Jong's descent into dementia at the same time her husband Matt was diagnosed with cancer. She talks to the duo about childhood trauma, growing up with the celebrated feminist and author of Fear of Flying, Erica, who she describes as an alcoholic narcissist, as well as her own battle with drug and alcohol addiction in her teens. Find out how Molly broke the cycle to become the mother she always wished she'd had, her advice for looking after a parent with dementia and what it means to forgive. Plus: Is your heart younger than you & the mystery of the missing airpods is finally solved.Handy linksDiscover our content website & sign up for our newsletters: Postcards From Lorraine & TrishContact us: hello@postcardsfrommidlife.comFollow us on Instragram: @postcardsfrommidlifeJoin our private Facebook Group here Check us out on YouTube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's Daylight Savings and we are alternately miserable and happy about it. Which is a good reflection of the books we've read this week. We love them and not! Here's what's on the agenda: - "Wild Dark Shore," by Charlotte McConaghy — if you like one of her books, you're going to like this one. Hannah's a big fan. Nevermind the sleeping with the seals.  - "A Thousand Splendid Suns," by Khaled Hosseini — also, like "The Kite Runner," not a memoir. Sam was confused. Kinda miserable. Hope the U.S. doesn't wind up like this.  - "Lion," by Sonya Walger — she's "Penny" from "Lost," and here she is with an autobiographical novel. The lion in question is her father, who's a crazy rich guy.  - "How To Lose Your Mother," by Molly Jong-Fast — did everyone else know that Erica Jong was Molly's mom? Read this, regardless, because Molly can write like hell.  - "I Heard There Was a Secret Chord," by Daniel Levitin — an exploration of music therapy and why it works. Sam was already a convert, but you should read it if you're not.  - "Parable of the Sower," by Octavia Butler — after some confusion with how this dovetails with the Patternist novels (it doesn't), we come around to discussion why this novel is must-read. 

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Send us a text“Sex doesn't disappear, it just changes forms.” -Erica Jong. Retirement is usually associated with quitting the work or profession you've engaged in for most of your life. Retirement doesn't mean that you retire from relationships and intimacy.If you'd like to be a part of a free online retirement community, join us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/399117455706255/?ref=share

Mit „Angst vorm Fliegen“ wurde Erica Jong in den 70ern schlagartig berühmt. Das Buch erzählt von einer jüdischen New Yorker Lyrikerin und Journalistin namens Isadora Wing, deren Ehe und unstetes Liebeslieben sie durch ganz Europa, und besonders nach Wien und Heidelberg führt. „Angst vorm Fliegen“ sorgte in den 70er Jahren für einen literarischen Skandal und etablierte sich als feministischer Bestseller. Doch in den Jahren danach ist er in Vergessenheit geraten. Das ändert sich nun mit der neuen Übersetzung im Ecco Verlag, die den Sprachwitz der Autorin Erica Jong würdigt und die zeigt, wie zeitlos dieses Buch ist.

rWotD Episode 2769: Fear of Flying (novel) Welcome to Random Wiki of the Day, your journey through Wikipedia’s vast and varied content, one random article at a time.The random article for Monday, 2 December 2024 is Fear of Flying (novel).Fear of Flying is a 1973 novel by Erica Jong. It became controversial for its portrayal of female sexuality, and figured in the development of second-wave feminism.The novel is written in the first person, narrated by its protagonist, Isadora Zelda White Stollerman Wing, a 29-year-old poet who has published two books of poetry. On a trip to Vienna with her second husband, Isadora decides to indulge her sexual fantasies with another man.The novel's tone may be considered conversational or informal. The story's American narrator is struggling to find her place in the world of academia, feminist scholarship, and in the literary world as a whole. The narrator is a female author of erotic poetry, which she publishes without fully realizing how much attention she will attract from both critics and writers of alarming fan letters.The book resonated with women who felt stuck in unfulfilling marriages, and it has sold more than 20 million copies worldwide.This recording reflects the Wikipedia text as of 01:06 UTC on Monday, 2 December 2024.For the full current version of the article, see Fear of Flying (novel) on Wikipedia.This podcast uses content from Wikipedia under the Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike License.Visit our archives at wikioftheday.com and subscribe to stay updated on new episodes.Follow us on Mastodon at @wikioftheday@masto.ai.Also check out Curmudgeon's Corner, a current events podcast.Until next time, I'm neural Niamh.

After a whirlwind political season of campaign ads, fundraising texts, and seemingly-endless breaking news…Election Day has finally arrived! To mark the occasion, host Alec Baldwin speaks with Molly Jong-Fast, political analyst for MSNBC, special correspondent for “Vanity Fair,” and host of the podcast “Fast Politics with Molly Jong-Fast.” Daughter of celebrated writers Erica Jong and Jonathan Fast, Jong-Fast is also the author of the books “Normal Girl,” “Girl [Maladjusted]” and “The Social Climber's Handbook.” As a member of the press – a profession often attacked by Donald Trump – Jong-Fast has been sounding the alarm about the 45th President's escalating extremism and authoritarian bent. In this episode, Alec and Jong-Fast discuss Project 2025 and its troubling implications, the effect J.D. Vance has had on the Trump ticket, and her reasons for remaining optimistic about the future. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mit „Angst vorm Fliegen“ wurde Erica Jong in den 70ern schlagartig berühmt. In Deutschland aber geriet ihr Roman etwas in Vergessenheit. Das ändert sich mit der neuen Übersetzung im Ecco Verlag, die SWR Kulturredakteurin Kristine Harthauer durch die kalten Herbstwochen tragen wird. Lesetipp von Kristine Harthauer

A daily quote to inspire the mind, gratitude to warm the soul, and guided breathing to energize the body. Quote: You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame. –Erica Jong. Gratitude: The internet. Guided Breathing: Equal Breathing. Visit TheDailyRefresh.com to share your unique piece of gratitude which will be featured on an upcoming episode, and make sure to watch the tutorial of how to make The Daily Refresh part of your Alexa Flash Briefings! Call to action: If you're ready to master productivity, discipline and focus in 100 days, visit TheMasteryJournal.com and you'll have the step by step guidance to do just that. Use promo code 'refresh' as a thank you for listening to The Daily Refresh.

David Baddiel joins Simon and Matt for a chat about his new non-fiction book, 'My Family: The Memoir' He discusses his relationship with his mum and dad, some of the hilarious anecdotes from his childhood that appear in the book and the love that he has for both his parents, despite their quirks and faults. His family life growing up was complicated, and David doesn't shy away from telling the home truths of his upbringing. Simon and Matt also discuss David's brilliant new podcast, "A Muslim And A Jew Go There" which he co presents with Sayeeda Warsi. Here's some more gumf on the book: A searingly honest, funny and moving family memoir in which David Baddiel exposes his mother's idiosyncratic sex life, and his father's dementia, to the same affectionate scrutiny. On the surface, David Baddiel's childhood was fairly standard: a lower-middle-class Jewish family living in an ordinary house in Dollis Hill, north-west London. But David came to realise that his mother was in fact not ordinary at all. Having escaped extermination by fleeing Nazi Germany as a child, she was desperate to make her life count, which took the form of a passionate, decades-long affair with a golfing memorabilia salesman. David's detailing of the affair – including a hilarious focus on how his mother turned their household over to golf memorabilia, and an eye-popping cache of her erotic writings – leads to the inescapable conclusion that Sarah Baddiel was a cross between Jack Niklaus and Erica Jong. Meanwhile, as Baddiel investigates his family's past, his father's memories are fading; dementia is making him moodier and more disinhibited, with an even greater penchant for obscenity. As with his mother's affair, there is both comedy and poignancy to be found: laughter is a constant presence, capable of transforming the darkest of experiences into something redemptive. My Family: The Memoir is David Baddiel's candid examination of his childhood, family and memory offering a twisted love letter to his parents. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Today we welcome back to the show author and cultural analyst, Molly Jong Fast. She has written extensively about her wild life as a young woman growing up in New York City at the height of the ‘90s. She is also the daughter of authors Erica Jong and Jonathan Fast. Today, she's a regular on MSNBC and currently contributes articles to various publications including Vanity Fair, Vogue, the Atlantic, and The Daily Beast. Molly is here to share her sharp observations about the pressing issues of the moment. Get TWENTY PERCENT OFF YOUR FIRST ORDER RIGHT NOW at TommyJohn.com/COHEN Save TWENTY PERCENT on Second Skin at TommyJohn.com/COHEN See site for details. Visit smileactives.com/cohen Today to receive a special Buy One Get One Free offer with Auto Delivery plus Free Shipping & Handling. That's smileactives.com/cohen. Terms and conditions apply. See site for details. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame – Erica Jong Check out John Lee Dumas' award winning Podcast Entrepreneurs on Fire on your favorite podcast directory. For world class free courses and resources to help you on your Entrepreneurial journey visit EOFire.com

Med Rädd att flyga kom Erica Jong att bli en stilbildare inom den feministiska litteraturen. Katarina Wikars berättar om hur Jong går att vända sig till för livsvisdomar under ett helt liv. Lyssna på alla avsnitt i Sveriges Radio Play. ESSÄ: Detta är en text där skribenten reflekterar över ett ämne eller ett verk. Åsikter som uttrycks är skribentens egna. Ursprungligen publicerad 2022-03-24.Författaren Erica Jong skrev nånstans att skilsmässan var hennes generations mognadsceremoni. Rituella sår i själen som får allt som sker efteråt att verka uthärdligt.Jag har under årtionden låtit mig inspireras av hennes romaner. De är som handböcker om åldrandet, passionerna och avgiftningarna och ingen kan trots en viss pladdrighet få mig på så gott humör som hon.Det kanske inte är självklart att kunna Erica Jongs litterära position på sina fem fingrar. 1973 kom monsterhiten som förändrade hennes liv ut, debutromanen "Rädd att flyga", eller "Fear of flying" som den heter i original, och där begreppet the zipless fuck etablerades. Fram till idag har den sålt sisådär 20 miljoner exemplar. Jag var för ung för att erfara detta men när jag hittade boken på en loppis för tjugo år sen blev jag ändå lite uppiggad retroaktivt.I "Rädd att flyga" flyger Isadora Wing, en amerikansk poet på tjugonio år, till en psykoanalytikerkongress i Wien med sin man som också han är psykoanalytiker. Omgivna av 117 andra analytiker på planet inser Isadora att hon har gått hos i terapi hos sex av dem. Vad finns det då att vara rädd för? Att klara sig på egen hand utan man, hoten från terrorister och neonazisterna. Så dyker en älskare som fantastiskt nog heter Adrian Goodlove upp. Isadora drömmer om ”det knapplösa knullet” med en främling men de utspelar sig mest inne i hennes fantasier. Romanen har enligt Erica Jong alltid marknadsförts felaktigt, nej, det är ingen avförtrollad promiskuitet det handlar om. Knapplösa knull är knappt genomförbara annat än i fantasin, och sex är inget botemedel för rastlöshet, menade hon i efterhand. Konsekvenserna av denna omtalade roman blev hur som helst att hon kallades mammutvulva av manliga kritiker, sågades av vissa av sina feministkolleger som ensidigt hetereosexuell och blev läsarnas sexguru i generationer.Men det är snarare böckerna om åldrandet som jag brukar citera fritt ur minnet, först var det "Rädd för femtio". Uttrycket klämd mellan generationerna, som jag oavbrutet använde när barnen var tonåringar och föräldrarna sjuka, stal jag från henne. Andra halvan av livet ska väl inte behöva vara en pendelrörelse mellan fasa och resignation! Och det är först när man vågar vara ensam som man kan vara tillsammans med en annan människa för då är man inte längre rädd för att bli lämnad, sa jag till väninnorna, citerande Erica Och när jag var utled på all meningslös dejting sa hon: Man måste tycka om män för att träffa män! Aha!Som fyrtiotalist växte hon upp i ett Amerika och i en värld som hånade kvinnlig mognad men vid femtio, hävdade hon, bryter sig den galna kvinnan på vinden lös, klampar nerför trappan och sätter eld på huset. "När kärleken är klar med en har man massor av liv kvar. Varför ombeds vi alltid sätta strålkastaren på den smala sektor av våra liv som vi delar med män? Skriva om kärlek tills vi blir uttråkade själva?".På en annan loppis hittade jag sen romanen "Rädd att dö" från 2016 som i original förstås heter "Fear of Dying". Den handlar om Vanessa, som är en skådespelare strax över 60 på Manhattan. Hon är hyfsat lyckligt gift för fjärde gången med en stenrik industrimagnat med hjärtproblem och hon har döende kulturföräldrar i en jättevåning. Omgiven av döden börjar hon söka lite handfast sex på sajten zipless dot com – naturligtvis uppkallad efter Jongs egen sjuttiotalsklassiker – men önskedrömmen om sex med okänd bortom ansvar funkade ju inte ens då. Och som andlig vägvisare i denna metaroman uppträder självaste Isabella Wing. Efter diverse tröstlösa dejter med skiträdda män i gummidräkter konstaterar Erica Jong som vanligt att fantasin är mer potent än verkligheten.Jongs moraliska credo på åldershösten skulle kunna vara: Ansträng dig lite mer med det du har. Tillit och långsamhet. Och samtidigt är ansiktslyftningarna för Vanessa en klen tröst när föräldrarna dör och barnen är på rehab. Hundarna älskar en men de dör också, trots alla svindyra veterinärförsäkringar.Rundgången i romanerna gör inte Erica Jong mindre intellektuellt fascinerande. I intervjuer på Youtube är hon alltid bländande analytiskt politiskt spirituell som den gamla akademiker hon är och hon har en krass blick på det Amerika som omger henne. I "Rädd att dö" stryker jag under: "Halva moderskapet är att hålla käft". Och "det fjärde äktenskapet kommer att bli bättre ska du se".Över fiktionen ligger bara en tunn hinna, det är alltid samma föräldrar och systrar och dotter, exmän och gamla gondoljärälskare i Venedig men i handboken om skrivandet "Förföra demonen" menar hon att man alltid ska skriva – just sanningen. "Man skriver bara det man bryr sig om. Likgiltighet behöver inte sättas på pränt". Och man behöver tro på nån demon för att kunna skriva. Det har hon lärt av nobelpristagaren Singer och sin gamla vän från sjuttiotalet, Henry Miller, och som hon sen skrev en biografi om. "Det är livbojen som dränker en", säger Henry till Erica i en fiktiv dialog efter döden. "Bara på botten kan man finna sin egenart."En anekdot som blivit mindre rolig och mer uppfordrande med tiden handlar om den kvinnliga författarkollegan som redlös vaknade upp med Norman Mailer ovanpå sig och sa: Om en enda kvinna skulle berätta sanningen om sitt liv skulle hela världen brista.Och kanske har den gjort det efter Metoo, men jag vet faktiskt inte vad Erica Jong skrivit sen "Rädd att dö" 2016, och medan jag letar hittar jag en av mellanböckerna, "Alla kvinnors Blues", en roman om att komma ur sprit- och sexmissbruk, och hantera dessa kroniskt flyende män, och insikten: Jag behöver inte få min självkänsla sönderslagen varje dag bara för att få uppleva hudlös sexualitet, och jag minns att den meningen fungerade utmärkt åtminstone i teorin för att försöka bryta destruktiva affärer förr. Hon är som en äldre väninna som trasslat sig genom AA och försörjt fel män i årtionden, som kan klappa en på huvudet och säga: Hela den amerikanska ekonomin skulle kollapsa om vi alla tillfrisknade.Ibland påminner hon också om en temporärt insiktsfull Ulf Lundell, lika flödande lättläst, vindlande iväg, tappande tråden där hon prövande utgår från de egna erfarenheterna, och kanske är det därför det så ofta bränner till: "Att kunna sitta stilla, vad är det? Ren nåd, skulle jag tro", säger Erica eller hennes alter ego. "Och det är det svåraste av allt". "Nu ska jag sitta ensam på landet och göra ett collage av mitt liv." Det är jättebra sagt!!Vid 64 motade hon kritiken i grind, lovade att utvecklas som författare, för att hon kommit på att det finns enskilda liv som är mer intressanta än hennes. Det är nu inte helt säkert. Hon har fyllt åttio år och jag hoppas innerligt att det finns många uppgörelser kvar att sätta hårdlackerade naglar i, rädslor att rispa hål på. Fast hon verkar vara skitsur på förläggarna, säger i en teveintervju att "agents are whores".Så jag försjunker en stund till i det redan utgivna. Och jag vet redan att när jaget börjar namedroppa berömdheter och kräkas på festerna kan man läsa diagonalt en stund för på nästa sida kommer något att åter messa väninnorna, som detta helt geniala ur "Rädd att dö": "Föräldrar blir ädlare efter sin död. De blir också roligare och mer älskvärda, de börjar sakta förtjäna ens desperata kärlek."Katarina Wikarsmedarbetare på Kulturredaktionen

“What really amazed me here was that so many of the authors who submitted stories wrote something completely outside their genre,” reflects best-selling author Douglas Preston, one of the project editors behind the dynamic new collaborative novel Fourteen Days. “This book is full of all kinds of weird stories.”  Yes, it is. And so is podcast guest Douglas Preston, co-author of dozens of New York Times best-selling thrillers written with his longtime writing partner Lincoln Child—a shining example of what it means to write in collaboration. In all, Preston has published 39 books of fiction and non-fiction. In addition to books, Preston writes about archaeology and paleontology for the New Yorker. He has worked as an editor for the American Museum of Natural History in New York City and taught nonfiction writing at Princeton University and is the recipient of numerous writing awards in the U.S. and Europe. He served as president of the Authors Guild from 2019 to 2023. Set in a Lower East Side tenement in the early days of the COVID-19 lockdowns, Fourteen Days turns on a narrative frame written by Preston, with contributions from a disparate collection of contemporary writers, headed by fellow project editor Margaret Atwood. In addition to Atwood and Preston, the novel features the “voices” of Charlie Jane Anders, Joseph Cassara, Jennine Capó Crucet, Angie Cruz, Pat Cummings, Sylvia Day, Emma Donoghue, Dave Eggers, Diana Gabaldon, Tess Gerritsen, John Grisham, Maria Hinojosa, Mira Jacob, Erica Jong, CJ Lyons, Celeste Ng, Tommy Orange, Mary Pope Osborne, Alice Randall, Ishmael Reed, Roxana Robinson, Nelly Rosario, James Shapiro, Hampton Sides, R.L. Stine, Nafissa Thompson-Spires, Monique Truong, Scott Turow, Luis Alberto Urrea, Rachel Vail, Weike Wang, Caroline Randall Williams, De'Shawn Charles Winslow, and Meg Wolitzer. All proceeds from the book will be directed to the Authors Guild Foundation, the charitable and educational arm of the Authors Guild, dedicated to empowering all writers, from all backgrounds, at all stages of their careers.  Learn more about Douglas Preston: Author's Guild Author's Guild Foundation Instagram Facebook Preston & Child website The Lost Time: And Other Real-Life Stories of Bones, Burials, and Murder Please support the sponsors who support our show: Daniel Paisner's Balloon Dog  Daniel Paisner's SHOW: The Making and Unmaking of a Network Television Pilot Unforgiving: Lessons from the Fall by Lindsey Jacobellis Film Movement Plus (PODCAST) | 30% discount Libro.fm (ASTOLDTO) | 2 audiobooks for the price of 1 when you start your membership Film Freaks Forever! podcast, hosted by Mark Jordan Legan and Phoef Sutton A Mighty Blaze podcast The Writer's Bone Podcast Network Misfits Market (WRITERSBONE) | $15 off your first order  Film Movement Plus (PODCAST) | 30% discount Wizard Pins (WRITERSBONE) | 20% discount

Artist's Way Week 3: Listen to my take on week one here: https://shows.acast.com/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/1033-artists-way-week-1 Listen to my take on week two here: https://shows.acast.com/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/1048-the-artists-way-week-2-going-sane Margin quote: ‘Take your life in our own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.'—Erica JongJulia Cameron says: "ANGER IS FUEL. We feel it and we want to do something. Hit someone, break something, throw a fit, smash a fist into the wall, tell those bastards. But we are nice people, and what we do with our anger is stuff it, deny it, bury it, block it, hide it, lie about it, medicate it, muffle it, ignore it. We do everything but listen to it. Anger is meant to be listened to. Anger is a voice, a shout, a plea, a demand. Anger is meant to be respected. Why? Because anger is a map. Anger shows us what our boundaries are. Anger shows us where we want to go. It lets us see where we've been and lets us know when we haven't liked it. Anger points the way, not just the finger. In the recovery of a blocked artist, anger is a sign of health. Anger is meant to be acted upon. It is not meant to be acted out. Anger points the direction. We are meant to use anger as fuel to take the actions we need to move where our anger points us. With a little thought, we can usually translate the message that our anger is sending us."RESOURCES: https://juliacameronlive.com/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame. –Erica Jong Check out John Lee Dumas' award winning Podcast Entrepreneurs on Fire on your favorite podcast directory. For world class free courses and resources to help you on your Entrepreneurial journey visit EOFire.com

This year, the novel Fear of Flying — which broke all sorts of unwritten rules around marriage, sex, and women's bodily autonomy when first published — turned 50 years old. So for today's episode, we dug up a 1973 interview with author Erica Jong and NPR's Steven Banker where Jong speaks frankly about the constraints women felt at the time about making art, and how their husbands would be perceived as a result. Then, NPR's Sarah McCammon speaks with Jong's daughter, Molly Jong-Fast, about the legacy of Fear of Flying, second-wave feminism and the overturning of Roe v. Wade.

Sonitotum with Matthew Wayne Selznick is back with another in-depth, evergreen podcast episode conversation on making stuff (mostly writing), finding success as we each define it, and staying healthy and sane in the process. This time around, I speak with multi-genre pulp author R. Jean Mathieu. He provides a fascinating perspective on the creative writing life, owing to his intersecting influences of Taoist philosophy, karate, and his Quaker beliefs. We talk about the difference between writing and publishing, especially as they pertain to difficult topics and "trigger" issues, the hidden rituals in our creative process, the importance of balance in all aspects of our lives, personal, professional, and creative (even as we strive to grow and challenge ourselves) and the "hat trick" that keeps it all moving forward... The conversation with R. Jean Mathieu was recorded on May 29th, 2023. The rest of this episode was recorded on September 26, 2023. About R. Jean Mathieu R. Jean Mathieu is the fiction writer of all trades. From award-winning stories of the Peace Corps and meditators on Mars to time-traveling mysteries of a Mexican detective solving his own murder, Mathieu revels in different genres, different voices, and cultural chop suey. Under other noms de plume, he writes romances, thrillers, pulp adventures, Westerns, and mysteries. Mathieu grew up in Morro Bay, California. He enrolled in college at fifteen, where he would spend the next ten years. With an Associate's degree in International Studies and $100 in his pocket, Mathieu traveled to China, alternately working as a teahouse server, organic farmhand, Hong Kong movie extra, and English teacher. Despite being deported thrice, he won his degree in Sociology (minoring in Business) over his five years in China, refining his craft along the way. He lives in San Luis Obispo with his wife Melissa and daughter Lyra, where they keep a good table when not writing side-by-side or chasing trains to the next adventure. A convinced Quaker, he attends Central Coast Friends Meeting in between writing and publishing his fiction, learning new languages, and practicing Uechi-ryu karate. You can find all his stories at Amazon.com and his commentary at RJeanMathieu.com. Links and Topics Mentioned in This Episode My day job? I'm a creative services provider helping authors, podcasters and other creators. How can I help you? Who are the Quakers? The Blade Runner soundtrack. Renaissance humanism. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and his classic Flow make another appearance in a Sonitotum interview, just in case that's on your bingo card... The Big Chill. Fear of Flying by Erica Jong. How to Meditate: A Guide to Self Discovery by Lawrence LeShan. Writing the Other by Cynthia Ward and Nisi Shawl. The Science Fiction and Fantasy Writers Association. My novel Light of the Outsider. The "fridging" literary trope. David Simon's famous (to me?) Believer interview. Another frequent mention, for those playing at home. Lester Dent's Doc Savage. The "Mary Sue" literary trope. Taoist philosophy. Jack London's No Mentor but Myself. Maybe you would like to be a future guest on Sonitotum with Matthew Wayne Selznick? Learn more! Big thanks to my Multiversalists patron community, including Amelia Bowen, Ted Leonhardt, Chuck Anderson, J. C. Hutchins, Jim Lewinson, and Pearl Zare! I'm incredibly grateful for the support of my patrons. If Sonitotum with Matthew Wayne Selznick brings you joy, become a patron! The Multiversalists patron member community receives the uncut, unedited version of every episode. For this episode, patrons get almost forty five minutes of additional content, almost all of it extra content with R. Jean Mathieu! Want in on that? Become a patron for at least $5.00 per month (start with a free seven-day trial / cancel any time) and get a bunch of other perks and special access, too. Every month the member community has at least twenty members, I will donate 10% of net patron revenue to 826 National in support of literacy and creative writing advocacy for children. Let's go! Love Sonitotum with Matthew Wayne Selznick and have the desire and means to make a one-time donation in support of the show? Donate via PayPal or leave a tip via Ko-Fi, with my grateful thanks.

Hardly anyone knows Ursula Parrott today, but not long ago she was close to being a household name. As a bestselling novelist of the Roaring Twenties and beyond, Parrott's life was filled with literature, celebrity, and scandal. In this episode, Jacke talks to Parrott's biographer Marsha Gordon (Becoming the Ex-Wife: The Unconventional Life & Forgotten Writings of Ursula Parrott) about this fascinating figure, whose racy novel Ex-Wife reads like a Jazz Age forerunner to Bridget Jones, Sex and the City, and the works of authors like Erica Jong and Nora Ephron. Help support the show at patreon.com/literature or historyofliterature.com/donate. The History of Literature Podcast is a member of Lit Hub Radio and the Podglomerate Network. Learn more at www.thepodglomerate.com/historyofliterature. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame - Erica Jong Check out John Lee Dumas' award winning Podcast Entrepreneurs on Fire on your favorite podcast directory. For world class free courses and resources to help you on your Entrepreneurial journey visit EOFire.com

  You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame - Erica Jong Check out John Lee Dumas' award winning Podcast Entrepreneurs on Fire on your favorite podcast directory. For world class free courses and resources to help you on your Entrepreneurial journey visit EOFire.com

A daily quote to inspire the mind, gratitude to warm the soul, and guided breathing to energize the body. Quote: You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame. –Erica Jong. Gratitude: The internet. Guided Breathing: Equal Breathing. Visit TheDailyRefresh.com to share your unique piece of gratitude which will be featured on an upcoming episode, and make sure to watch the tutorial of how to make The Daily Refresh part of your Alexa Flash Briefings! Call to action: If you're ready to master productivity, discipline and focus in 100 days, visit TheMasteryJournal.com and you'll have the step by step guidance to do just that. Use promo code 'refresh' as a thank you for listening to The Daily Refresh.

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame – Erica Jong Check out John Lee Dumas' award winning Podcast Entrepreneurs on Fire on your favorite podcast directory. For world class free courses and resources to help you on your Entrepreneurial journey visit EOFire.com

(00:00:36) Die Autorin Erica Jong ist eine Ikone des Feminismus. Inzwischen ist Erica Jong 80 Jahre alt. Der neue Dokumentarfilm «Erica Jong - Breaking the Wall» lässt ihr Leben nochmals Revue passieren. Wir haben den Film gesehen und Erica Jong in ihrer Wohnung in New York getroffen. Weitere Themen: (00:05:04) Hyperinflation und Hitlerputsch – in seinem Buch «Ausser Kontrolle. Deutschland 1923» untersucht Historiker Peter Longerich, wieso die deutsche Demokratie schon 1923 extrem fragil war. (00:09:25) «Kleiner Kiesel ganz gross» – das Naturmuseum in Winterthur widmet sich dem vermeintlich unscheinbaren Kieselstein. (00:13:32) Schnittpunkt zwischen Ost und West – zu Besuch in der europäischen Kulturhauptstadt Timisoara in Rumänien.

The daughter of legendary author and social critic Erica Jong, Molly Jong-Fast is a special contributor to Vanity Fair and the host of the Fast Politics podcast. Join us for a fun, funny, insightful and frank conversation about a range of subjects including childhood family dysfunction, rehab, life with teenagers, Trump, Trumpism, the midterms, Nancy Pelosi, Marjorie Taylor Greene, anti-Semitism and Elon Musk and the crisis at Twitter. Got somethin' to say?! Email us at BackroomAndy@gmail.com Leave us a messege: 845-307-7446 Twitter: @AndyOstroy Produced by Andy Ostroy and Matty Rosenberg @ Radio Free Rhiniecliff Associate producer Jennifer Hammoud Music by Andrew Hollander Design by Cricket Lengyel

On this week's show, we... continue raging through the scary old month of Rocktober with a Genreview of instrumental & vocal trip-hop spend quality time with the superlative new record from Titus Andronicus   spin fresh tracks from Bruce Springsteen, Neil Young & Margo Price All this & much, much less! Debts No Honest Man Can Pay is over 2 rock-solid hours of musical eclectica & other noodle stories. The show started in 2003 at WHFR-FM (Dearborn, MI), moved to WGWG-FM (Boiling Springs, NC) in 2006 & Plaza Midwood Community Radio (Charlotte, NC) in 2012, with a brief pit-stop at WLFM-FM (Appleton, WI) in 2004.

  Barry Kibrick is a recipient of the 2019 Ellis Island Medal of Honor for his service to the country. He was acknowledged for his work as producer/host of his series Between the Lines with Barry Kibrick and for his educational, instructional, and professional development multi-media productions that benefit the citizenry.   He is a three-time EMMY winner for best host and show for his series Between the Lines with Barry Kibrick seen on PBS stations throughout the country for 25 years, and now he transformed the series into a podcast and YouTube show by the same name. Barry is currently writing his first book and will continue to create content for people to develop a deeper understanding of their world and a greater appreciation for their role in it. On his PBS Barry's guests have included: dignitaries like, Queen Noor of Jordan; Secretary of the United States, Warren Christopher and Secretary of Labor, Robert Reich. Director and Producers the likes of: Sir Ridley Scott; Jerry Bruckheimer; Ron Howard; William Friedkin and David Cronenberg. Authors, artists, and musicians like: Anne Rice; Ray Bradbury; Walter Mosley; Mario Puzo, Richie Havens; Chaka Khan; Luis J. Rodriguez; Victor Villaseñor; Dave Winfield; Kirk Douglas; Erica Jong; Elmore Leonard, James Elroy and hundreds of others. To date on his podcasts guests have ranged from John Densmore, co-founder, and drummer of the iconic rock group The Doors to Nobel Laurette Physicist -Frank Wilczek and Chief Decision Scientist of Google, Cassie Kosovo. www.barrykibrick.com

This week Write-minded revisits two powerful interviews in which guests Erica Jong and Lilly Dancyger shared with us about the power of emotion on the page. Erica Jong's work has often centered fear and desire while Lilly Dancyger's work has circled anger. Both women share the power of unlocking emotion on the page, and touch upon the ways in which women are expected to be more confined in their emotional expression. This is exactly why it's so important to feel those emotions and express them on the page, and these two authors give the absolute permission to do so, and model how in their wonderful works of fiction and nonfiction. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we take a look back at a magical Moth live show. This episode is hosted by Sarah Austin Jenness. Host: Sarah Austin Jenness Live Host: Andy Borowitz Storytellers: Zeroboy explores gluttony in audio. Erica Jong gets a meat and fish delivery from an ex. This episode is dedicated to the memory of Katie Sanderson, who ran The Young Lions program in 2006, and later came to work with us at The Moth.

Welcome to Day 1971 of our Wisdom-Trek, and thank you for joining me. This is Guthrie Chamberlain, Your Guide to Wisdom Acquiring Courage – Daily Wisdom Welcome to Wisdom-Trek with Gramps. We are on Day 1971 of our Trek, and it's time to explore another nugget of wisdom, which includes an inspirational quote and some wise words from Gramps for today's trek. Wisdom is the final frontier in gaining true knowledge. So we are on a daily trek to create a legacy of wisdom, seek out discernment and insights, and boldly grow where few have chosen to grow before. Hello, my friend; this is Gramps. Thanks for coming along on today's trek as we increase Wisdom and Create a Living Legacy. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs%2016%3A16&version=NLT (Proverbs 16:16)  How much better to get wisdom than gold, and sound judgment than silver!    If you apply the words you hear today, over time, it will help you become more healthy, wealthy, and wise as you continue your daily trek of life. So let's jump right in with today's nugget: Today's quote is from Erica Jong, and it is: Always do the things you fear the most. Courage is an acquired taste, like caviar. Acquiring Courage I don't believe I have ever tasted caviar, so I am not sure if it is an acquired taste, but the thought of eating raw fish eggs is not very appealing to me. In addition to that, I understand caviar is very expensive, so that would stop me from buying it, even if I did enjoy it. I can vouch that courage is undoubtedly something we acquire when exposed to the things we fear most. Of course, there is a limitation to our ability to handle fear, but if you gradually do things that are not comfortable for you, and persevere through them, you will slowly gain courage. With each occurrence of overcoming fear, you will see your courage grow, and even multiply exponentially. So do what you desire, even if it is a bit fearful. The more frightening the task may be, the more you should attempt it, which will build your courage. Always do what you fear most, and then watch your courage build. Facing fears will open new doors that you never thought imaginable. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+John+4%3A16-19&version=NLT (1 John 4:16-19) We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.  Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. We love each other because he loved us first. As you ponder this nugget of wisdom for yourself, please encourage your friends and family to join us and come along tomorrow for another day of ‘Wisdom-Trek, Creating a Legacy.' If you want to listen to any of our 1970 treks or read the Wisdom Journal, they are available at Wisdom-Trek.com. In addition, I encourage you to subscribe to Wisdom-Trek on your favorite podcast player to download each day's trek automatically. Finally, if you would like to receive our weekly newsletter,' Wisdom Notes,' please email me at guthrie@wisdom-trek.com. Thank you so much for allowing me to be your guide, mentor, and, most importantly, your friend as I serve you through this Wisdom-Trek podcast and journal. As we take this trek together, let us always: Live Abundantly (Fully) Love Unconditionally Listen Intentionally Learn Continuously Lend to others Generously Lead with Integrity Leave a Living Legacy Each Day I am Guthrie Chamberlain….reminding you to 'Keep Moving Forward,' ‘Enjoy your Journey,' and ‘Create a Great Day…Everyday'! See you next time for more daily wisdom!  

The Hey, Boomer guest today is Stella Fosse, writer, advocate for older women's empowerment and workshop leader.  Our topic today was Sexy Stories for and about Women Over Sixty. Stella reinvented herself from a technical writer, to a writer of erotica for and about older women. Her first book, Aphrodite's Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica after Midlife, includes lots of how to's and prompts to get your started. Her latest book, "Brilliant Charming Bastard" was released this year. We talked about claiming our narrative at this stage of our lives.  We discussed the difference between Elderotica and Seasoned Romance Stories.  When I asked about being objectified as sexual beings, Stella turned that around to finding the freedom of being able to walk down the street without being harassed, and the freedom to be more playful in our relationships. We talked about the benefit of finding supportive writers groups, both in person and online.  It was a fun discussion. I think you will enjoy it. Episode Takeaways: 1. Read books, and watch movies that show possibilities of this part of life. 2. Find ways to build creativity into this part of your life. 3. Enjoy your body. 4. Learning and sex until rigor mortis.  Thanks so much for listening. Subscribe on Apple Podcast, Stitcher , Google Podcast. or Spotify Follow up on Facebook and Instagram You can email me with questions or comments at wendy@heyboomer.biz – Wendy Green is a Certified Life Coach, working with people going through the sometimes uncomfortable life transition from full-time work to “what's next.” Find out more about Wendy's 6-week “What's Next Transition” Coaching workshop – You can find Stella at stellafosse.com or email her at stella@stellafosse.com  Other resources mentioned Writing Open the Mind by Andy Couturier  Fifty First Dates After Fifty by Carolyn Lee Arnold  Fear of Dying by Erica Jong Naked at our Age by Joan Price  Forever 51 by Pamela Skjolsvik ============================================ Show transcript And welcome to the Hey Boomer Show, which is live every Monday at 1:00 Eastern on Facebook, LinkedIn and YouTube. My name is Wendy Green and I am your host for Hey Boomer. And hey, Boomer is a show for those of us who believe we are never too old to set another goal or dream, a new dream. It is for lifelong learners who want to find meaning and purpose in their lives and live the best part of their life in this next chapter. Every year I put together an Alzheimer's walk team and every year I get a bunch of people that come and walk with me and we raise money. Last year, we hit the championship level. We raised over 1000. So this year I am asking you to join our team. There's a couple of ways you can do this. You can join the local team here in Greenville, South Carolina, and walk with us and help raise money for that. Or you can join our our hey boomer team and walk in your community. So for now, I have a Greenville team. I have a hey boomer team in California and I have a Hey Boomer team in Maryland. And anybody that joins our team, I'm going to give them this cute, hey, boomer hat so that you can wear that when you walk and you can wear it afterwards proudly as a member of Hey, Boomer. So all you have to do is go to act.Alz.org/goto/HeyBoomer, join our team and support the hopeful end of Alzheimer's. I also want to say that I am not anti retirement. anti retirement, but I don't recommend it for almost anybody because retirement means withdrawal. And if you withdraw from life, you really are giving up on life. And what happens is that every day starts to run into the next. You become bored and lethargic. You find yourself spending more time on the couch than doing just about anything else. And I want to encourage you, as I said in the opening, this show is about living your best life in this next chapter. So I have a six-week group program called What's Next? And you can find it and get more information about it on HeyBoomer.Biz/coaching. There you'll find a synopsis of what the group coaching experience is about. A little video from me and an opportunity to sign up for a free 20 minute consultation so that I can learn more about you. You can learn more about me. And then we can make a decision whether this is a good fit for you or not. So there's no obligation. Check it out at heyboomer/coaching and get set or get your mojo back if you feel like you've lost it. Now to talk about what's coming up. Kathleen, A Berry PhD and coeditor of "Unmasked: Women write about sex and intimacy after 50" said, "When we think of erotica, we don't usually link it together with middle aged women." In fact, it is middle aged women who are finally liberated to fully experience the sensuous delight of erotica. They have reached the point in their lives when they are no longer encumbered by the risk of pregnancy, nor zapped by the physical ramifications of menopause. And there's another aspect to this topic. Ageist thinking says that older women become matronly and we lose our beauty. And the idea of older women having sex seems almost unappealing in our society. There are a few examples of women over 50 being sexual in the media. I'm sure that or I hope that you all have seen Grace and Frankie with Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda. And there's a new movie out with Emma Thompson called Good Luck to You, Leo Grande. And in this movie, Emma Thompson plays a widow who has never had a satisfying sex life. She is curious and she's nervous. She hires a sex worker. This movie explores her journey to becoming comfortable with her own sexuality. It is available on Hulu. Good luck to you, Leo Grande. So today we're going to talk about the idea that we are all sensual beings into our sixties, seventies, eighties and beyond, and that we can all make our own decisions about what is right for us regarding sex at this stage of our life, really at any stage of our life. So let me bring Stella on and introduce you. Hello, Stella. I want to thank. Thanks for having. Me. Oh, I've been looking forward to this. And so is the audience. I've heard a lot of people say, Oh, I'm going to watch. I'm going to watch. So brief bio. Stella is a former biotechnology writer who advocates for the creative power of older women. Her books include "Aphrodite's Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica After Midlife", "The Erotic Pandemic Ball," And ooh, did you hear the Thunder? And her debut novel at age 68, "Brilliant, Charming Bastard." She is currently teaching romance writing to seniors and writing a book about creative retirement. Stella lives with her partner in North Carolina. You can follow her on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram, and she blogs on her website, which we will get to, and I'll share all of her contact information later. So, Stella. Yes. So, you know, in my coaching practice, I always talk to people about reinvention. And many people have a really hard time thinking about what they're going to do next. They had their career and That was that was who they defined themselves as they didn't have an idea of what was next. So I'm curious about your reinvention journey from tech writer to writer of erotica and the ups and downs of that. Oh Well, I always wanted to be a writer. In fact, my childhood goal was to write my first novel by the time I was 25. So I missed that by 50 years. As you said, it's never too late. So I went to college in the early seventies when there was a total double standard about writing anything sexual. Philip Roth's novels were literature. Erica Jong's novels were trash. And so that's that's what it was like when I came up. And I certainly never thought about writing erotica back then after college, after I got my degree in creative writing, which when I moved to New York, I was told would get me. If I had that plus $0.25, I could get a ride in the subway. So I went back to school, got a master's in biology, and had a career writing FDA submissions, which are about as asexual as you can get. And when I was starting to think about graduating from that career, if we don't like the word retirement, maybe we can. Graduation. I happened to read an article in the New York Times Book Review section by a romance author who was also in her late fifties, who was advising her sister writers that if they wanted to get published, they should write romance characters in their twenties. And I thought, that's pretty outrageous. Why should women of a certain age have to closet themselves when they write? And around that time, a friend of mine Linx Cannon started a reading series at an Oakland bookstore called Dirty Old Women, and she invited all her friends to write erotic stories and come and read them before an audience. And I thought, Well, why not? So that's that's how this started. So I mean, I think if you asked me to come to a book reading and writing erotic stuff called Dirty Old Women, I would probably be pretty nervous. Were you nervous at first? Yeah, I sure was. But, you know, we had a great crowd every time, and it was really a mixed age crowd. There were a lot of younger women in the audience who would come up to us afterwards and thank us and say, you know, we we thought that part of life ended around age 40. So thank you for showing us that that's not the case. I've come to think of this kind of writing as a political act, really, as part of our part of liberating ourselves. So a political act and an educational act in a sense, for the young people that there is. You can continue to look forward to this. That's right. This doesn't just there's not a not a cutoff date. Right. Right. So in Aphrodite's pen, you talk about the power of writing erotica. As older women, what do you mean by that power? I think I think there are a couple of kinds of power involved. One is the power to claim back our narrative for ourselves. You mentioned earlier that there's this there's this idea in the culture. There's this sexist age trope that older women have outlived their own sexuality. And when we write, even if even if a woman writes a story and saves it for herself, she's reclaiming her own agency because, you know, sexuality isn't something society gives us or something society can take away. It's innate in us. And when we write, we reclaim that for ourselves. And if we decide to publish a story, then we're pushing back on this big cultural narrative. I think of. I think of culture as sort of like an ocean liner. You know, it's going in one direction. It's big, has a lot of there's a lot of inertia. But if if everybody gets out their teaspoon, writes their story and starts, you know, pushing the water, we can we can start turning the culture in a better direction if a lot of us are writing our stories. Well, if you've never written anything like that before. Yeah, how would you even get started? Well, I think, you know, if you're not in a community that has a dirty old women reading series, you can still you can certainly get a copy of Aphrodite's Pen, which has exercise, writing exercises, writing prompts, all kinds of ideas for how to create characters, how to mine your own life experience. Because by now all of us have lots and lots of experience that we can draw from in creating plots and creating characters. And then the book also has interviews with women, older women who write erotica, talking about their experience and examples of stories that they've written. So you can really get a sense of of this what I think of as a developing crone culture. Hmm. Hmm. So I, I have to tell you, I mean, I was so a naive, I guess is the right word about all of this. You know, I was I was thinking, well, there's not really going to be much of a plot. It's just going to be one sexual act after another. And and when I read your book, Brilliant, Charming Bastard, there was quite an involved plot there and not nearly as much sex as I expected there to be. And it was tastefully managed. So it was a big surprise to me. And you called this form of this genre of writing. Like, what did you call it? Elderotica. Elderotica. And and the way they categorize it. So seasoned, well there is a category of seasoned romance. Seasoned romance. So when I was speaking earlier about that article, I read by that the woman advising other women writers to make their characters young. She was writing romance, which is a really structured form. And I sort of thought I was writing romance when I wrote Brilliant Charming Bastard. But now that I'm teaching about romance, I realized that I did not follow the rules. Romance. Romance has a very set structure for how you set up your plot and how your characters interact and what happens at the end. And it's really about a happily ever after ending. And my book is more a lot of people hate the phrase women's literature. But I think mine is more like seasoned women's literature. But there is a whole category now called season romance. Publishers are realizing that we are a big market. There are a lot of people now, more and more people in their fifties, sixties and seventies. And we don't necessarily want to read about people in their twenties. Right. So what's the difference then between Seasoned Romance and Elderotica? Oh, that's a good question. So. So if you think about again, if you think about what romance is, it's it's really centered around one relationship between two people and they have to have a happily ever after ending. Erotica is more like how one person develops, one main character develops through her sexual experiences and and becomes a more fully developed person by the end of the story. So it's it's it's a different it's a different genre. And then there's porn, which is a whole different thing. Right, right, right. So I would say that Good Luck To You, Leo Grande is Elderotica. Have you seen it? Oh, I love that movie. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Because she definitely develops into a more fuller person. Yes. And she's really developing her relationship with herself. Yes. Not that the other person is objectified because he's not. I think he's he's he's a fully developed character in his own right. But but the the real theme of the story is that she comes into her own, as you said earlier. Yeah. Yeah, I guess it is sort of. It is elder erotica. I hadn't thought of that. Yeah. Yeah, I loved it. It is. I mean, at first I wasn't sure if I was going to like it, but yeah, it was so brave. Yes. So so talking about objectification. Yeah. Right. So when we're young, you know, society, I mean, sex sells and ads, right? They encourage young women to dress sexy, wear the highest heels, you know. And it is a very objectified way of gaining attention as older women, of course, we still want to look lovely and sexy. And how do we how do we do that so that our minds are not telling us? Yeah, but that's just objectifying yourself. That's a really interesting question. I think. I think there comes a point in most of our lives where we can walk past a construction site without being harassed. And and, you know, that is, you know, people talk about invisibility of older women. There is that upside. There is that freedom. And in that freedom, I really think there's an opportunity, again, to to look at our own agency, to claim our own sexual being and to not feel like we're always having to fend off unwanted attention. So I like to look at the freedom side of it. And and once we've once we're kind of in that state, once we're in that stage, when we reclaimed our freedom, then I think it gives us room to be more playful in our relationships because because we have freed ourselves of that concern about being objectified. Not that I mean, you can you can play with objectification in a consensual relationship. That's something there's that wonderful book, Mating in Captivity, that talks about talks about that. But but again, I really think that this notion of invisibility has a huge positive aspect for us as a women. It's a great way to phrase it. Yeah, because we don't have to. We don't have to be harassed walking down the street. No, but we can be free and playful on our own terms when we want to. With whom we want to. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. I know. We've got a big thunderstorm coming up here. Thor Agrees with you. That's right. So so talking about the women's movement and the whole discussion about ageism. Now, you and I have both been involved in in those discussions in larger forums and, you know, the societal myth of women losing their sexuality like you talked about with the young people. So I'm curious how you think writing about sexuality or erotica or reading about it even can can help in that, dispelling some of those ageist myths? Yeah. Yeah. You know, we all grew up with women our age, grew up swimming in this gender age group without even realizing it. I mean, think about, you know, Sleeping Beauty and Maleficent. Think about Cinderella and the wicked stepmother. I mean, we we absorbed a lot of that before. We were old enough to have maybe have clear thinking about the fact that we weren't always going to be Cinderella's age someday. We were going to be the age of the stepmother. And what did that mean for us? So. So when we step back from those myths and start creating our own myths, I think that really gives us a lot of power and it gives us a new voice that's important for us as older women. So I think it's key to seek out as a reader, as a watcher of movies and shows. I mean, you mentioned some really powerful, significant shows. There are a lot of great books out there. I mentioned Erica Jong earlier. She wrote Fear of Flying as a young woman. She wrote Fear of Dying as an older woman, which is a great novel with a lot of sexuality about being in our sixties. These are ways that we can reclaim our our power through reading and writing and kind of we can reprogram ourselves away from all that sexist age stuff that we were exposed to when we were young. I do think there's power in that. You know, when we when we stay in our own heads and and tell ourselves the same old story over and over again, which we bought into because that's how we were raised. Seeing other examples like Grace and Frankie, like Leo Grande, you know, you start to say, Oh, well, there are other ways to look at this. And I love Erica Jong. Yeah, yeah, she's great. And, you know, there are more and more women writing from that vantage point now. Caroline Lee Arnold has a new memoir out called 51st Dates After 50. Which which is really fun. I got to got to interview her from my blog recently. And that's just one example I have on my website. I have a whole list of references for movies, shows and books because I really think it's important as a as a consumer of culture, to be mindful of what we are consuming and and look at the positive aspects of this part of our lives, because there are plenty of negative stories out there. Right. I think I'll try to link to that in the show notes. Oh. Yeah, because that would be good for everybody. So you're teaching a course now? Yeah. What is that course? It's called Thee and Me Could Write a Bad Romance. What is that about? Oh, so I. One day I just on a whim, I put up something on LinkedIn saying, I'm thinking about teaching this class. Thee and Me Could Write a Bad Romance. And a woman from an organization that provides lots of content for for older folks wrote to me and said, Oh, great, we want you to come teach this class. Well, of course, I had no curriculum. I just I just had this title. So that's when I started learning what romance is actually about as a genre, and that I actually had not written one. I thought I did, but I didn't. So. So I put together a curriculum. It's eight weeks long and we've been looking at the whole structure of romance, what act one looks like. Act two looks like Act three looks like how to build characters, how to build plot, how to make your scene conform to what you're looking for, how to construct dialogue that works the whole the whole thing. So it's been a lot of fun and I'm I'm looking forward to offering it again for a wider audience later on. And are most people going to end the course with a written story? Well, they're they won't end with full drafts of romance novels, but they'll end with a lot. They have everybody by now has a schematic with every scene they're going to write. They have descriptions of their main characters. They're supporting characters. They have a lot of their scenes written, and now they're working on love scenes, which is fun. That's great. So can they find out about this on your website? It's not up there yet. I will I will put it up there because as I said, I do want to offer this again in the fall. I'll be offering this class. So Stella's website is StellaFosse" FOSSE" and you can sign up for her newsletter at page.StellaFosse/What's-new? And you don't have to worry about that because as soon as you get in the website, you'll start getting these annoying invitations to sign up for the blogs and the newsletter. Yeah, so they're fun to read too, so I would encourage you to do that. So just a couple more questions. This one's a little bit more. Yeah. Okay. Realistic, let's say. All right. All right. So you're writing erotica, right? Sex at this stage of your life, our lives is not always easy, right? Women are not lubricating the way they used to. Men are not getting erections like they used to. And sometimes our knees hurt trying to get into position. So, I mean, you could make a comedy erotic story about that, but I'm wondering how you handle that in an erotic story. That's a really good question. So so there's a woman named Joan Price who writes she writes a senior advice column for Senior Planet on Sexuality, and she's written also some great books, including one called Naked at Our Age, which I highly recommend. And she reviews, by the way, she reviews sex toys from the standpoint of an older person and recommends vibrators and all kinds of sex toys. So she's a wonderful resource. I really recommend her. And when I read so, so I like to think about this from the flip side, I like to think about if I'm looking at what she has to say about senior sexuality. Then what is it that works well for us at this stage and focus on that. So for example, in one of her books, she talks about that that men have passed a certain age do really well sexually if they're standing because of the way blood flows. So so that inspired me to write a story in which a couple in their sixties at the end of the story, there's a there's a love scene where they're leaning against a vibrating dishwasher while they're they've been in the kitchen talking, and then they end up doing that. So so I think there are ways to incorporate the positives, the things that do work well into our writing. So and again, I really I really recommend Joan. I think she's a great. Great resource. Yeah, thanks. I'll have to check that out. And you put up a quote from Anderson Cooper, which I thought was hysterical. His mother, Gloria Vanderbilt, was 85 when she said to him, I'm going to write an erotic novel. And he said, those were the seven most horrifying words he'd ever heard. I haven't asked my kids how they would feel if I was to announce that. Maybe I will ask them. But how did your sons or daughters or how did your kids respond to this? You know, I love it when I love that quote. And when I put that up on Facebook, I'm Facebook friends with Janet Herdy, who some of your readers may know as the author of The Ethical Slut, a book that came out quite a while ago about polyamory. And and so my comment was, oh, my poor babies. And then and then her answer was, oh, mine too. So but actually, the interesting thing is so that's Stella Foster is a pen name. And the reason I chose a pen name is that I didn't want to embarrass my adult children any more than necessary, but they've actually been pretty cool about it. In fact, one of my daughters, who's a professional designer, designed the cover for Brilliant, Charming Bastard. So, yeah. I think that they I think that they they like the idea of empowering older women and that this is a way to do it. And after all, I have two sons and two daughters. My daughters are going to be older women at some point, too. So. So I think they get it surprisingly. Have they read your books? No. No, they. Don't. Not necessary. No, no, no. That's not for them. So what's next for you? What's coming down the pike? Well, I am in the middle of writing a book about creative retirement with a friend of mine, Stevie Jane Parks, who is a psychotherapist and an abstract painter. So she took up abstract painting after her former career was winding down. So. So we're we're in the middle of doing that. We're we're writing about lots of different topics, everything from housing to sexuality to creativity and play to just everything you can think of movement. And so that's great fun. And we're collecting anecdotes to include in that book from a lot of older women who've who've taken on new adventures after 60. So that's being fun. I also have decided that if I'm going to teach about romance, I'd better actually write a romance that actually is a romance. So, so in the in the in teaching this class, I've come up with an outline that I use as an example. And it's a, it's a, it's a vampire romance. So. So that can. Be pretty sexy, actually. Fun. There's already one out there. There's a there's a really good one out there called Forever 51. Oh, I don't know that. It's about a woman who becomes a vampire in the middle of menopause. So she's she's permanently in the throes of menopause. It's very fun to read. Oh, gosh. Now, you mentioned earlier that some some like if you really wanted to try and learn how to do this, you know, you certainly your book, Aphrodite's Pen is one way, but you also talked about writing groups. So I know you had some great groups out in California. Now you're in your new home in North Carolina. Are you finding other women that you can form a group with and write with? I'm. I'm involved in. So in North Carolina, we have this wonderful organization called the North Carolina Writers Network, which is a statewide organization there. They're like, you couldn't throw a rock without hitting a writer in North Carolina. There's so many. So I'm involved in the local chapter of that statewide organization. When I first got there, I walked in with a stack of Aphrodite's pen, which had just come out at that point, and I think they were somewhat taken aback by that. I bet they were. This California girl, what's up with her? But they've gotten used to me and I'm on the steering committee for that local organization now. So I think they've decided they can tolerate me, after all. But at this point, I would say a lot of. There's so much opportunity online to work with other writers all over the country. For example, I really recommend anybody who's interested in getting involved in writing to sign up with National Novel Writing Month, or NaNoWriMo, which is based in the San Francisco Bay Area. People all over the country are writing first novels through NaNoWriMo. And actually, I have there are lots of local subgroups through NaNoWriMo, and there also are topically related groups. So for example, I have one on there for erotica writers. There are lots of opportunities no matter where you live. Yeah, the pandemic has changed things so much that doing things virtually is so much closer to the norm now than it was a couple of years ago. So true. That's so it's really, really opened up a lot of opportunities for for folks our age to do many things that we wouldn't have been able to do before. So how does that work? Well, yeah, but say I've never written before. Right? I write a blog, but I've never written a book. I've fantasized about it. But yeah, you know, I would like to want to creep in and sit in the very back row and like, don't ask me anything, let me just listen; harder to do on a virtual screen. But how does it work when you join a writing group? Well, a couple of things. One is, you know, there are books you can get that will just help you launch into writing from starting from zero. And my favorite and this is not about erotica, but my favorite book to to introduce people to writing in general is called Writing Open the Mind. It's by Andy Couturier, and it has all kinds of ideas and exercises for helping people look at writing as play and not judge themselves. And that's really key when you're when you're writing a first draft, when you're first getting involved in writing, to set aside your inner critic and be playful about your writing. So that's how I approach writing, teaching, writing. That's how I'm approaching the and me could write a bad romance because it doesn't matter if your first draft is bad, it's just play and it's fine. So that's, that's one thing. But yeah, I think it's important to find a safe. If you're going to find a writing group, it's important to find one that's a safe space where people are going to give you feedback that encourages you to keep going and not not nitpick. And. And when I when I run a writing group, I ask folks to give. The following kind of feedback. Listen to what the person is reading you and then write down the phrases that really grab you that seem really significant to you. Write down what you like and give the person that feedback that will help them to keep going. You know, I think I think those things are really significant. Yeah. Sometimes one or two phrases of compliments can take away some of that fear. So. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, this has been this has been really interesting. You know, I have I have read and watched more erotica this past week or so, getting ready for this show then probably ever. And it's really been interesting, though, Stella. It has helped. It has opened my eyes and acceptance in a lot of ways and. Yeah, yeah. Fun, yeah. You know, Maggie Kuhn, who founded the Gray Panthers had this motto, Learning and sex until rigor mortis. Keep learning. Keep having sex. That's the best advice ever. Well, before we went on, we talked about possibly you gifting a couple of downloads of your book, your newest book to some of our listeners. Do you want to tell people how you do it? And I will share your email address. Sure, I'm happy to do that. So the first three folks who write to me at Stella@StellaFosse.com, be happy to send you an E-copy of Brilliant, Charming Bastard. So just, just get on there and write to me. The book will come from book club and it may go into your spam or junk folder. So if you don't see the book in the next day or two, please check your spam and junk folders. Make sure that it's not hiding there. And if that doesn't work, write to me again and let me know and I'll we'll sort it out. So, okay, so it's the first three people. So you can't wait. We have more than that. We have a bunch of people watching so it's good. Yeah. It's Stella@StellaFosse "Fosse" .com. So drop her a note right now. Yeah. Get started on. Brilliant, charming bastard. Yeah. And I hope that lots of folks will sign up for the blogs and emails and also look look for the resources tab on the website. Because, again, we have lots of movies, shows and books that talk about the positives around your sexuality from a fictional standpoint. And also I have I have some of Joan Price's books up there as Resources to. Awesome. Thank you for what you're doing, Stella. Well, it's fun. It's a fun revolution. I like to. It's a fun revelation. So I always ask my guests for two or three takeaways. Okay, so what would you like to leave the audience with? All right. The first is one of the things we've been talking about this whole time, and that is read books and watch movies that show the possibilities of this part of life. It's easy to find the negative stuff, but if we're going to reprogram ourselves and look at the bright side, it's important to find those those books and movies and shows. And I'd say Caroline Arnold's new memoir, 51st Dates After 50, would be a great place to start. That sounds like fun. The second thing is find ways to build creativity into your life. Whatever works for you, whether that's cooking or painting or writing and and find people who enjoy the same thing you do so you can reinforce each other. Share, share information and resources and successes. And as I said earlier, National Novel Writing Month is a great free way to get involved if writing is a way that you want to be creative. The third thing is enjoy your body. Your body is a good gift. And you know, I took up weightlifting in my sixties. It's marvelous. Talk about helping you feel powerful. Go swimming, buy a vibrator. I mean, look at Joan Price's recommendations and and find something that works for you. And again, remember what Maggie KUHN said, learning and sex until rigor mortis. Great advice. Thank you, Maggie KUHN. Maggie, if you read her autobiography, she certainly took her own advice. All right. So we've been I've been sharing Stella's website information again. You can email her at Stella@StellaFosse.com So hopefully you get lots and lots of emails and questions and check out the resource page like she said. Absolutely. Join our walk to End Alzheimer's. Yes. The link for that is act.alz.org/goto/HeyBoomer and join the team, contribute to try and end this awful disease. You know, it's certainly our parents or us could be looking at that at some point. We don't want to! Connect with me about the What's Next coaching program, the six week group coaching program at HeyBoomer.biz/coaching. I'd love to talk to you 20 minutes. 20 minutes. That could change your life and really give you some insights into what's next for you. So check that out. This guest has been amazing. Well, thank you. Yes. And thank you for having me. Thank you for joining us. It's such an interesting conversation. And I want to tell you about my guest for next week. Her name is Minette Norman and we're calling the show Jumping Off into the Great Unknown. So both Minette and I have done this more than once, and we are going to share our stories and our experiences together. We talked about kind of interviewing each other, so that should be an interesting experiment. Minette's LinkedIn Profile says she helps leaders cultivate inclusive teams. She's a keynote speaker, a psychological safety certified practitioner and an upcoming author. And I thought, how cool is that? That she claimed it before her books out there. I am an upcoming author, so I thought that was pretty cool. And like Stella modeled for us today and like we all strive for "live with passion, live with relevance, and live with courage". My name is Wendy Green, and this has been Hey, Boomer.

Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to lose weight after you turn 40?   If you have, you're not alone. In fact, it's a question that many women ask themselves as they approach middle age.   The good news is that there is an answer. And, even better, it turns out that there is a simple way to turn on your cell's "fat switch" and lose weight, no matter your age.   That's what Dr. Betty Murray is here to talk about in this episode.   Dr. Murray is a nutrition expert, certified functional medicine practitioner, and speaker. She helps women 40+ harness their hormones to lose weight, optimize sleep, restore energy, and thrive in life.   During her research for her PhD, Dr. Murray made 4 key discoveries that lead to hormone imbalances that plague women over 40. Restoring balance to these key metabolic pathways is the basis of her Hormone Reset Program which has helped her, and her clients lose weight with ease, restore sleep, and turn up their energy.   She is the host of This Functional Life Podcast and the founder and CEO of Living Well Dallas Functional Medicine Center. Dr. Murray is a frequently featured nutrition expert on Fox News Broadcasting, CW33, NBC, and CBS.   So, if you're ready to learn how to turn on your cell's fat switch and lose weight after 40, then this episode is for you.   In this episode, we discuss: The 4 key discoveries that lead to hormone imbalances in women over 40 How to turn on your cell's "fat switch" How your genetics that controls estrogen detoxification may lead to weight gain and risk for diabetes, obesity, and cancer Body positivity and how to love your body at any age The role estrogen plays in weight loss The role of the nervous system in your hormonal function and your fat retention Foods to avoid that screw up your hormones And much more!   If you're struggling with your weight, or if you're just curious about how to lose weight after 40, then this episode is a must-listen.   So, grab a cup of coffee, put your feet up, and enjoy!   (00:00): Erica Jong said, "If you don't risk anything, you risk even more." And if you're struggling with your weight and excess fact, then you might not even be aware of why or what you're risking. And my guess today is gonna tell you all about how to unlock this situation. So the big question is how do women over 40, like us keep weight off, have great energy balance. Our hormones in our moods feel sexy and confident and master midlife. If you're like most of us, you are not getting the answers you need and remain confused and pretty hopeless to ever feel like yourself. Again. As an OB GYN, I had to discover for myself the truth of about what creates a rock, solid metabolism, lasting weight loss, and supercharged energy. After 40 in order to lose a hundred pounds and fix my fatigue. Now I'm on a mission. This podcast is designed to share the natural tools you need for impactful results. And to give you clarity on the answers to your midlife metabolism challenges, join me for tangible natural strategies to crush the hormone imbalances you are facing and help you get unstuck from the sidelines of life. My name is Dr. Kyrin Dunston welcome to The Hormone Prescription Podcast.   (01:14): Hi, everybody. Welcome back to the hormone prescription with Dr. Kyrin. I'm so grateful that you chose to join us today. Welcome today. My guest, Dr. Betty Murray is going to help shed some light on why your cells' fat switch is stuck, and you can't seem to lose any weight after four eight after 40. This is true for women, but also for men losing weight no longer is a math problem where it's calories and minus calories out. It becomes way more complex. And maybe you have really tried everything, you're at your wits end, and you just can't figure out what's wrong. No worries, Dr. Betty is gonna help you figure it out. She's the host of this functional life podcast and has a very dynamic practice. Her graduate work has focused on the difference inside the cell mitochondrial function and carbohydrate metabolism. Don't worry if you're like, what are you talking about?   (02:12): Betty is gonna explain it to you and she's gonna help you understand why if you don't risk anything, you risk even more. That's a quote from Erica young, which is prolific and really applies to us at midlife. So I'll tell you a little bit about Dr. Betty and we will get started. She's a nutrition expert, certified functional medicine practitioner and speaker Dr. Betty Murray. She's a PhD candidate. MSCN if F M C P all those initials after her name, she helps women over 40 harness their hormones to lose weight, optimize, sleep, restore, energy, and thrive in life. And who doesn't want that during her research for her PhD, she made four key discoveries that led to hormone imbalances that plague women over 40 restoring balance to these key metabolic pathways is the basis of her hormone reset program. She's the host of this functional life podcast and the founder and CEO of living well Dallas functional medicine center. And she's a frequently featured nutrition expert on Fox news, podcasting, CW 33, NBC and CBS. Welcome Betty Murray.   (03:20): Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here.   (03:23): Me too. I'm so excited to have you. I loved your interview and the stop, the menopause madness summit. And I said, Betty, you gotta come on the podcast and talk to all of us women over 40 about really what's going on inside ourselves. Why are we gaining weight? Um, we're gonna dive into that in a second, but I gotta share with everyone, or have you share why you're so passionate about this topic of weight gain in women over 40?   (03:53): I came to functional medicine and functional nutrition originally because I was diagnosed with colitis and I kind of went on my own journey to try and figure out how I could do things with my diet and lifestyle to keep from taking harsh drugs. And, you know, through that process was able to really, you know, kind of heal that. And honestly, I've been, you know, knock on wood flare free for more than a decade. And, but when I hit my forties, so I've never been a naturally thin person, but in my teens and twenties and thirties, I was able to maintain body composition by doing what everybody hears, you know, in high intensity intervals and doing some weight training and eating really, really lean right, low, low carb. And I could have the occasional cheat and it would all work when I hit my forties. It was like some major switch turned off.   (04:40): My hormones got worse. Like everybody talks about heavier periods, more moodiness and sleep problems that were already a problem. And that, you know, became almost unyielding, you know, two or three hours a night awake. And I went back to my functional medicine peers, cuz I was already in the industry and tried hormones, tried all these different things and no matter what I did, I might get my sleep slightly better, or I might, my periods might be a little bit better, but I could not lose weight to save my life. I'm a nutritionist. So, you know, it's one of those things like you don't wanna be sitting in the room with somebody talking about weight loss and those kind of things, when you yourself are struggling. And I, and I, and all the women I was seeing, I could just feel it for them cuz I was in it with them. And so when I went back to school for my PhD, cuz I just, I love to learn. That really was where I centered a ton of my research is what is different between men and women? Because I think any woman can tell you if they go on a dietary change with a male, it's like two different worlds, a guy gives up beer and pizza and they drop 20 pounds.    (05:44): Lettuce and...   (05:46): Right.    (05:47): Let guys do the beer and pizza, no beer and pizza diet, which does not work for any woman.   (05:53): And most of the women I see are the ones that are like, I'm doing all the right things. They're working out, you know, every morning, and they're eating low, low-carb and they're drinking just water, and they can't figure out why it's not working. And so that's really where I went on this journey because I myself was in it. And I just I saw all these women struggling with it. And the other thing that just broke my heart, and it was true for me and true for most of my clients is at some point in our conversation, they would say, you know, Betty, I want my life to be about this, this next season. Right? Cause when you get to your forties and fifties, we're looking at this next season of life. Maybe it's I want to do this with it. I wanna have a bigger impact.   (06:30): I wanna have a better relationship. And then they would almost always say Betty, if my body was different, I could, if I felt at home in my body, if the vehicle that I'm driving every day was where I felt comfortable. My life would be better. Then I would do X mm-hmm . And that for me broke my heart because I think women in this time period of life, we are in such a great opportunity to leave our impact. However, we wanna do that, whether it's with our family and kids or reaching out into the world or change the world. But a lot of times we're holding ourselves back because we don't feel at home in our body anymore. That just drives me at this point. That's why I do my podcast. It's why it's, you know, I, I go to the clinic every day. It's why I really reach out and try and help women because I, I truly believe we are the ones that are gonna change the world.   (07:19): You're speaking my language. I got the chill, bums going all up and down because that's why I do what I do. And you know, it really gets to this quote you shared with me before we started from Erica J if you don't risk anything, you risk even more. And I see so many women just giving up because they can't do what they wanna do in life because of their health, they can't get their health where they want it to be. And I consider my mission to help women get physically in shape so that they can give, deliver the gifts that they have to give to the world that are gonna save the world. What are your thoughts on that?   (08:00): Absolutely. You know, I, and sometimes that risk, you know, is really uncomfortable. So when I work with women in my hormone reset group, part of what we do is we start acting on those dreams, desires and goals, even though we don't feel as if we should could or would, right? So I'll give a really good personal example and you know, people might be uncomfortable with this. So for obviously more than a decade of my life, I was not comfortable in my own body. It affected my relationship with my husband. Cause I'm like, please don't look at me. You know, please don't look at me. So one of the things that I started doing is I started taking pictures of myself, slightly provocative, nothing, nothing nasty, but you know, for my husband and I, you know, I would set up my phone on a little, you know, a little stand I'd take a bunch of pictures, I'd take 50 in one of 'em I'd be like, that's not too bad. Right. Cause that's where you brain   (08:49): It. Right.   (08:51): And then I would show them to 'em and he would be like, you look beautiful. It wasn't for that response. It was for me to look through all those photos and go, this one looks good. Cause it started out. This one looks okay. And then it started out going and then it started changing to, I look, look pretty in this one, I look hot in this one. I send this to me. And so like weird things like that, that it seems so foreign to people help you start to own that beauty. Like the younger women and today are embracing body positivity. And as healthcare workers, we, we have this fine line between, we want body positivity, but we need to be healthy, but you don't see anybody our age doing it, Paulina, PVA. She does it. But none of us are really standing in it and going, yes, you know, I have some scars, I have some, you know, I have some jiggly bits, but I'm still beautiful.   (09:39): You know, you know, it's so true. Let's have a little divergence. We're gonna get into the hard science. Y'all, don't worry. It is the hormone prescription podcast after all, but let's go down this little detour because I was actually thinking the same thing the other day, when I saw the cover of the new sports illustrated with the woman, who's very curvy. And I actually interviewed a woman on the podcast when I first started it several years ago, who is a younger woman. I believe she weighs 350 pounds who actually has a huge following about it. And I saw some of the comments about the sports illustrated cover. And they're saying, are we now, uh, condoning obesity and core health in service of not shaming anyone and being body positive. And I'm just wondering what other people's thoughts are. So since you brought it up, can you talk a little bit about that?   (10:33): Yeah. You know, it's, it is hard because I do think cuz I think it's a circular thought. I know my body opinion changed by the time I was at like at the end of elementary school. Right. As, as soon as you hit that tween years, I think a lot of times our eating habits and other things that may lead to weight gain. And then cuz it starts as a little bit of weight gain. Then you get a lot of metabolic changes that adds to that weight loss. It's not as easy as calories and calories out. But I think the shame that we feel about our body that often develops when we're teenagers that we carry into our adulthood, mm-hmm, perpetuates behaviors that also make us more likely to use food as comfort and emotional and those kinds of things. So I think there is an important part of body positivity, but I also think that we have to look at, if somebody is significantly overweight, they do have all kinds of additional risks for chronic disease like diabetes, hypertension, cardiovascular disease, even cancer. But I think if we keep coming at it from the shame game and making people feel less than, but whether it's through media or other things for not being, you know, the ideal 1% person, then we're gonna perpetuate a bigger problem, you know, mm-hmm so I think it is a timeline dance. And it's one that I struggle with all the time, how to, how to handle it in an emotional way. And then also in a professional way. Cause I have a pro professional responsibility, right. To be real of what the risk factors are.   (11:58): Yeah. I agree with you. Well I think when we look at a lot of health problems, there is shame attached to them. I think there's a lot of shame associated with type two diabetes for instance, or sometimes for hypertension or high cholesterol people think in their minds, oh, well you must be eating too much salt. You must be eating too much animal fat. You must be eating too much sugar, but we don't have that around things like autoimmune conditions. If someone has lupus or multiple sclerosis, we really don't have shame around that. So I don't know that weight issues are unique in that respect. I do think that our generation, well, at least I might be a little older than you, my generation. I mean, I was steeped in like a Dell Davis and Jack Lane and oh my gosh, thin and Twiggy and you got to be so thin.   (12:50): And I look back, I had to pull out some photos of myself when I was younger for my Ted talk, that's coming up and I look how skinny I was and I thought I was fat. I know so that's, I think that's really insane making people who are healthy, feel like they're overweight, but I do think it's a very fine line cuz it's my understanding from the data that even a 10%, if you're 10% over your ideal body weight, there are consequences to be had from that. And that's not much if you're, if you're ideal body, weight's 150 pounds and your 15 pounds overweight, my understanding of the data is you are going to have consequences. And so I struggle with that. I still think we should embrace everyone. Scars, bulges, you know, skin blotches, all the things that we all naturally have and love that. But I don't think, you know, I personally don't think that the like the sports illustrated cover is condoning poor health. I think they're just celebrating beauty in all of its various forms.  (13:57): Absolutely. Well, the definition of beauty has been different over millennia, right? So if we look back into the Renaissance being curvy meant that you were fertile. Right? Right. So no, just depends what time period. So beauty is defined by time period and paradigm and the zeitgeist of the time I'm slightly younger than you, but I definitely hit the, you know, the supermodel era of the eighties. And then right after that, my early twenties was heroin chic, cuz nothing's better looking than somebody that looks like they do heroin. Right. you know, and so you, you, those mixed messages and those messages that we get, I think are damning and damaging and metabolic damage that results in obesity, which is a hundred percent metabolic changes in the cells that cause that, but we take it and still as a medical community treated as a morality problem, which makes me crazy. Yeah. Because it's not a morality and a, and a behavioral problem. It is a metabolic problem that happens. And the problem is you can't give up eating. Right.   (14:57): Can't you cannot stop   (14:58): That. Yeah. It's like, oh, I'm just not ever gonna eat again. That doesn't work. So yeah. So I think it is all those things. So my goal going forward is to help people understand what's happening inside their cells, what's happening with their hormones, how we might be able to manipulate that both therapeutically in a short term to fix some of the problems and then how to live ongoing, where I can maintain a healthy weight. That means my body feels healthy. Cuz a lot of times the other thing is we, we have a number on the scale and it's often a number we've had like 18 to 22 and that's the number we feel like we need to be when we weren't at hormonal peak yet it might not really be the most ideal weight for us. And I like for people to focus on what does healthy feel like? What does it mean? Can I run around and play with my grandkids? Can I go hiking? Can I bike 60 miles in a weekend? Like those things to me are more meaningful because those are real gauges of, can you live your life? It's not a number on a scale.   (15:53): Yes. I love that. It isn't a number on a scale and light with that. Let's dive more into the science. So I know that you focus on four main areas that lead to hormonal balances that plague women over 40 and contribute to the weight game. I love how you talk about this cellular fat switch. And basically that this fat switch gets turned on by these factors. And we have to learn about them to turn that switch off. So let's start, start there and talk about what these factors are.   (16:28): Right? So some of these people may have heard these stats. So statistically a woman's metabolism will slow about 5% for every decade, right? And most women experience about a 10 to 15% increase in body weight around the belly, just from entering menopause. Right? So the thing to remember is that estrogen, when it's balanced with the other hormones and everything's working in, in, in synchrony is actually sliming. But when it's out of balance too high or too low, we have a problem. We have, we play that sort of exorbitant price for that. So part of what we see is we have inside the cell, we have mechanisms that help our cell either burn your carbohydrate forms like glucose or fat and really what's happening is that stuff has to be happening inside the cell in a very, very orchestrated way. And a lot of times we focus on you gotta lower your insulin, which then, you know, makes your body able to burn fat.   (17:26): Well, my question always was is if women's metabolism changes at a rate that's different than men, what role must estrogen play? Cuz it does. So there's a fat switch inside the cell and it's controlled by a cellular metabolite called uric acid. So uric acid gets produced inside the cell and it's produced when there's damage inside the cell when there's damage to the DNA in RNA. And so when your at acid rise rises inside the cell, it acts as a switch and lowers the cellular mechanic. So think of it as the powerhouse inside the cell, it makes that powerhouse slow down. So, you know, for anybody that's in our age group, instead of having a brand new rock and Tesla, you have a 1984, you go, so everything slows down and, and this, this came about, this is not my research. This is another gentleman. Uh, Rick Johnson, I believe he's found a university of Colorado, I believe that's right.   (18:18): But they found that this change, this mechanism is something that happened millions of years ago when we went from being ape two man. And it was what allowed us to make it through an ice age. So the apes that actually had this switch turned on where uric acid would come up and slow. The powerhouse survived, you know, a, basically a disaster, which was an ice age where food was not available. So this uric acid response is to some degree, a starvation response. It's also the response of hibernation. So that's how they found it. They started looking at bears and squirrels and things that hibernate. And as the bears go into the spring and summer, where they start eating more high fructose, I, environmental things like fruits and things like that, honey, we would see this increase in uric acid. They would start gaining body fat.   (19:06): And then when they got to the wintertime and they'd go to hibernate, they'd be able to use that body fat over the winter to survive. So the rise in uric acid slows the powerhouse and slows down your ability to burn fat. And it's doing it through a bunch of mechanisms, which we won't really go into. So the interesting thing is women. When they go through menopause, have an automatic increase in uric acid, to the extent of at least about a 0.2, a point and a two at a minimum. And part of this is there is interplay between estrogen and the cellular mechanics in the mitochondria that affect uric acid levels. So if uric acid rising inside the cell is the switch that tells the slow to slow down. And now we can't burn fat or carbohydrates very efficiently. It is intimately tied to the actions at perimenopause and menopause when we lose estrogen. So that's super huge because a lot of women are like, wait, I'm eating low carb, I'm burning 400 calories a day in my exercise and I'm eating 1200 calories. How can I possibly not lose weight? And it's cuz the hormones and the interest cellular the stuff going on inside the cell directly control whether you burn those calories or not.   (20:13): Cause your fat switch is off. Right? it   (20:18): Right? It's on. It's on. Yeah. Well and then depending on what you eat, you may be turning it on all the time. Right? Cause food uric acid.   (20:27): Talk a little bit about that. Cuz everybody's wanting to know Betty, what foods are gonna be turning my switch on and which ones turn 'em off.   (20:34): Anything with fructose in it, high fructose corn syrup is the devil never eat it, never touch it. Don't do it. Anything with high fructose amounts now fruit like strawberries, blueberries, raspberries, apples do have some fructose resident in it, but it's got fiber and water and all this other stuff and it's not gonna raise that fructose level in your body. So fructose is the primary driver of uric acid in the body period, alcohol, sugar, processed flour. So anything that's baked, any kind of processed things that we've manufactured, cookies, crackers, breads, all of those things. If we eat them too much, they're gonna raise uric acid and then the other most insidious thing. And I think this is where this may be hiding for a lot of women. I know it is for a lot of women in my group is that a lot of the food additives raise uric acid, things like MSG, idolized, yeast extract, ye extract, flavor enhancements are all things that we've added to foods that make them taste more flavorful that actually raise uric acid.   (21:36): You know, you and I both grew up in the same age in the seventies. We had definitely a small percentage of the population that was overweight, but the obesity epidemic ballooned in the eighties and then it accelerated. So if we look at what happened to our food supply, high fructose corn syrup was introduced in the eighties, the use of crappy seed oils, which is a whole other conversation like soy corn, all of those things. And then the massive explosion of food additives and flu flavor enhancements has exploded. The other thing that raises uric acid and this is gonna upset. A lot of women I think are of these foods. So things like Parmesan, cheese, your charco trees. So all the women that are like, I just want a glass of wine and some cheese and crackers and, and some, you know, salami and I'd be happy, guess what? That food's gonna raise it. And I'm one of those people, like if I'm on my deathbed, I'm probably gonna have that.   (22:30): Okay. We'll get it ready for you, but maybe not so much right now. Right?   (22:35): Right. You can have it, but you just can't have it frequently. So, and then depending on your genetics, you either have a hair trigger uric acid switch, or it might be like a moderate uric acid switch.   (22:45): Let's talk a little bit about that cuz I know that's one of the four factors that you talk about your genetics. So you talked about the hair trigger switch. So what genetics are we talking about? Cuz everybody's wondering, do I have that?   (22:57): The truth is, is all of us have that enzyme URI case? We, to some degree. So all of us have an expression of that. There is a very small percentage of the population that don't and guess what they can't gain weight period at all. Zero zip never and, and we're talking handful. So if you're hopeful, that's not us. Right. Um, so all of us have that switch to some degree and then the degree in which it gets turned on, depends on a, the other thing that the research is kind of indicating is the more you do those foods and the more you've done this over time, the more hair trigger it is. Cause you gotta remember, it's a starvation response. It's our body thinking we're starving with plenty of food. So there's another enzyme that's also there. And genetically we may have this more expressed or less expressed is a thing called the polyol pathway.   (23:41): And the polyol pathway is where our body takes glucose. So the blood sugar circulating around in the body changes it to fructose. And so fructose again, we just learned is terrible for the uric acid. It also gets metabolized differently than glucose. It doesn't have insulin control. So if you're doing a, you know, low carb diet, but you're eating things that drive that uricase activity and drive uric acid up and what little glucose you may have circulating in your bloodstream, your body can convert it to fructose. And again, it's part of this sort of starvation pathway. That pathway is amplified as we go through menopause. So we are more likely to do that. What's interesting. Same gentleman, Dr. Johnson. They were looking at this pathway and when you're dehydrated. So let's say you're dehydrated. You had a bunch of coffee. You're having a smoothie with some fruit and stuff in it, but you probably don't have enough.   (24:36): You're not hydrated well enough. Mm-hmm being dehydrated increases the activity of turning glucose into fructose in everybody. That was a mic drop moment for me. When I heard that, I was like, oh my gosh. It's not just that it helps your selling your mechanics, but it quite literally changes whether your body is gonna make fructose and drive uric acid up. So those two genes we all have, but as women, we have genes that control how our body metabolizes estrogen. So can we take the estrogen that we make and can we get it outta the system? So think about it this way, our estrogen, we wanna use it. We need to wrap it in a bunch of different tissue wrappers. And those are, those are handled by your genes and your enzymes. And then you eventually get it to the trash can. People that have mutations that slow down the pathway for getting rid of estrogen.   (25:24): One of them's called co methyl. Transferase the other one's called C Y P one B one or cytochrome P 4 51 B one. Those are genes that help our liver sort of package stuff. If those are slow to do that, you are gonna have an increased  risk of metabolic syndrome, diabetes and obesity as a female, as you go through into perimenopause and menopause, the research shows that, and it's because there are alterations to how your body handles glucose. And the other side of it is, I think, and I haven't seen this in the research. I think that this might be part of the mechanism that increases our liver's capacity to make glucose out of amino acids. So let me back up, so I can explain that mm-hmm , our body always needs glucose. Red blood cells must have it. The brain must have glucose if you're not a good fat burner.   (26:14): So if you don't have ketones, we gotta have glucose. So our body has a mechanism inside the liver that can take glucose. I mean, I'm sorry, amino acids. So that's proteins broken down, and it can take it and convert them through a thing called glucose neogenesis into glucose. So your body can use it. I think that there's an interplay between that and these hormone metabolism genes, because we know that women are amplified. Also in that pathway, we are more capable of going through glucogenesis at a greater level as we go into perimenopause and menopause than we were when we were in our twenties and thirties and all of our hormones were balanced. It's that our survival mechanisms are sort of ramped up. We're designed to conserve nature, care about women being able to reproduce, right? So our bodies are generally designed to conserve. We don't need a lot of men on the planet. They just need to be hot,   (27:06): Right? no, no.   (27:09): You know, because, because truthfully, if you look at what nature cares about, can we reproduce and keep the species going? So we are designed to make sure that our body can manufacture food when we need it and make them, you know, make the body work properly. And so we have those things that are automatically turned on by our genetics. We have the estrogen detoxification pathways that a significant percentage of us are slow to do. I have those genes. That's how I ended up down this pathway and that I'm gonna have a harder time losing weight as those hormones start to fluctuate. And especially once estrogen kind of drops,   (27:42): You know, there are so many important points that you bring up there. So let's unpack this a little bit. So it is true that biological nature sees us as reproductive organs, basically mechanisms, and to bring a baby to life and take care of it for 18 years. And when we go through menopause, the hormonal changes are such that we're almost disposable, and we're only one of two species that lives any length of time in menopause. There's a certain species of whale that is the other species, but every other species of animal, when the female loses reproductive capacity, she dies. But I think that what we don't recognize is that some of the changes that we undergo actually do promote our death. Even though we don't die quickly, it's kind of like a slow death. And so I want everyone to wake up to the fact that everybody who listens knows that I am a firm believer that you can't have optimal health without balancing your hormones and hormone replacement.   (28:41): But this issue of how we package and detoxify our liver, our estrogen, I think is huge. And I think it's one of the biggest places where mainstream medicine totally misses the boat. And so I would encourage every woman listening. If you don't know your sip, one B one, and your C OMT. And if you don't know what we're talking about, we're talking about estrogen, detoxification pathways in the liver. You have got to find somebody who can help you dissect your genetics on that and figure out what you're doing with your estrogen or not. And if you're one of many women, most women are worried about breast cancer, which is actually not a thing that you're likely to ever die from. But it seems like more women are concerned about that. Then the consequences of no hormones, definitely you need to get these checked because if they don't function properly, your risk for breast cancer will be increased. And I know I'm on a little bit of a rant here, but I think it's so important. This idea is not only do you have the right hormones on the bus and are they in the right seat at the right level, but are they getting off the bus when it's their bus stop?   (29:52): Yeah, I believe for me, that was a major mechanism in my forties, as I hit perimenopause and all these things were going nuts. You know, I have. This is where my entire PhD was looking at hormone metabolism. And I was basically doing two things. I was estrogen dominant and estrogen toxic, and I was doing all the right things, but it was one of those things I needed to probably monitor it. , you know, a lot. And a lot of that research wasn't there when I first went into or was there, but wasn't commercially available. And now we have the capacity to test this and look at it, look at the genes and also the way to get rid of it. But there's a significant portion of women walking around with mutations there.   (30:29): It's so true, Betty. So everybody listening, hopefully you've heard that. And the other thing you mentioned that I wanna highlight that you don't hear everybody talk about is the role of the nervous system in your hormonal function and your fat retention or not. Right. So can you give a little more detail on that? Because I don't think that everybody knows about that.   (30:56): Yeah. So your nervous system, you know, is, uh, are the nerves that go out from the brain and communicate, and you know, and your brain and communicate to the body. And so they communicate through neurotransmitters and most of us know things like cortisol, cortisols bad. It leads to insulin resistance which leads to weight gain, but the nervous system is also responsible for giving the nerve message to your fat cells, to tell your fat cells, to dump the fat out, so you can burn it. So the nervous system sends out MES through NOP, epinephrine and epinephrine that are there that are supposed to help transport basically the fat out of the fat cell and be able to get it to particularly your muscle cells to burn and the nervous system activity of those hormones and neurotransmitters becomes weaker when we get older. So as estrogen levels decline, these also become weaker epinephrine and neuroepinephrine are also affected by C OMT, right?   (31:52): So if your cots messed up, they're probably gonna be a little bit off mm-hmm . So as we go into pen menopause, the jiggly bit fat that we don't like. So the stuff that's on the outside of the muscle, like the hip thighs, but abdomen that requires a ton of nerve responses. There's adrenal receptors in there that pick up the epinephrine and or epinephrine and, and sort of get that message. They sort of go to sleep. So the fat on the outside of your body is first in, last off. It's very hard for your body to do that. Particularly if you're not moving enough, if you're sedentary, cuz you don't feel good, those nerve cells sort of go to sleep. And so a lot of women may embark on an exercise routine or other things, and they don't see movement fast enough. They're like, oh the fat's not coming off yet.   (32:33): It's because that jiggly bit stuff is the last. So I like to paint this picture cause I think it helps people kind of move through that discomfort of it's not moving fast enough. Think of your muscles, like your legs, your hips, your abdomen, your butt as a piece of meat. Right? So think of it as it's prime rib. So prime rib, if you've ever looked at it, has fat running through it and then cutaneous fat or the fat on the surface on the outside, your body has to nerve and get that muscle tissue to burn everything off on the inside first. So it becomes a filet, and then it finally gets to the fat on the outside, and it's through that nervous system response. So here's a really cool thing. Did you know that a person that is twitchy, you all know these, usually they're a boy, not that it's not girls, but you know, they move kind of herky jerky.   (33:19):They, um, they're always, something's bouncing, something's twitching, some finger, something like that. They just can't sit. Still. Those people burn an average of 500 to 800 more calories because of the way their nervous system responds to twitching. And these, uh, these UN not uncontrolled, but non-flu movements. And so you think about how many women are like, you know, no, I'm very poised. I'm not bouncing a knee. I'm not doing that. It's quite literally because it keeps stimulating, stimulating these cells. So being somebody that moves and Turkey jerky actually helps it's O it's odd it's because these cells don't work very well.   (33:51): Well. So we should all take that up. Just be one of these people is moving and constantly   (33:59): But you think about it. It's very like the people that are, you know, the ones that you're like, do you know they're yeah. Do you ever, they, they are often thinner.   (34:08): I used to be married to one.   (34:09): Oh, my husband's always got his knee bouncing, and he can eat an exorbitant amount of food. He's got an eight pack at 56. It's like he used to make me crazy. Right? So the nervous system's really, really important. The other thing that happens is we have a transporter in our muscle tissue that transports glucose into the cell, right? And it's a transporter called Glu four. We have diabetes medications that we're trying to build for this stuff. Gluten forward gets sleepy when we go through menopause. So it makes it harder to get sugar inside the muscle cell. So you kind of think of it this way, the sugar Mo molecules sitting on a corner, waiting to get into the muscle cell, and they can see the Uber driver at the corner, and they're waiting for it. But the Uber drivers never get there cuz they're off in the distance cuz they're only doing about four miles an hour. So these transports become slow. Now it sounds terrible. Cause people go, oh man, now what do I do? It sounds like I'm screwed. Right? yeah. So the truth is we can turn all those things back on.   (35:06): You know, it's funny cuz you're you're saying now it sounds like I'm screwed, and I'm thinking no, the, the answer is just, don't go through menopause. And then I know people look at you, like what do you mean? Don't go through menopause, keep your hormones like they were before you went through menopause, and then you don't have to have any of this. That is the secret y'all   (35:27): Yeah. It's it's interesting. Cuz if, if female hormones balanced was so damaging and it was gonna cause cancer and all these other things, then we should see an extraordinary amount of cancer in 20 and 30 year olds. When they're at hormonal peak,   (35:41): Exactly   (35:42) Balanced hormones are what, tell the body that we're still supposed to be on the planet and we're valid and important to the planet. When you take 'em away, the body goes, oh, time to decay, right. Time to break down and fall apart.   (35:54): It is so true. And the idea that we believe otherwise, this notion that anything we were given that made us healthy and developed us into the healthy, vital, alive adults that we become is bad for us. Just boggles my mind, what we will actually believe. And it's like, we park our brains sometimes. You know, I think we women, we give up our power, a bit of a rant here, but we give up our power, and we look to other external authorities to tell us what is the truth? When you just use your common sense, right? It's like if someone tried to tell you that, oh, that calcium that you're getting in your diet is bad for you. And it's, you know, the calcium that's in your atherosclerotic plaque, in your heart causing heart disease is what's causing heart disease. Right? If somebody told you that, I would hope you would say that's insane.   (36:51): Calcium is needed. It's what helps me grow and develop healthy bones and have good neuro transmission and all of this. But this idea that people say the hormones, estrogen, progesterone, testosterone that make us healthy. All of a sudden when we replace it in menopause, they're gonna turn on us and cause breast cancer and all these other problems, it's insane to me. But I think that we, women, should stop questioning things. And if someone told you that was true of calcium, oh no, don't take calcium. It's gonna fog up your arteries and cause plaque and heart disease, we hopefully would say, that's insane, but we don't do the same with hormones. Is this making sense? Or am I sounding crazy?   (37:30): no, absolutely. So the, the thing that I would, I would recommend everybody think about and I think I'm gonna do a podcast on this. So as a researcher, right? So I'm actually truly a researcher. I spend time digging through the research, making up hypotheses, proving my hypotheses either right or wrong. Right. So the first thing you have to think about is you gotta check your premise, a good scientist and a good researcher comes up with a hypothesis, a hypothesis. And that's their question. Is this true? Yes or no, a good researcher goes to disprove their hypothesis. They don't go to prove it. Most of the research, particularly the women's health study that still gets quoted and should be retracted and burned at the stake for its inappropriateness and its poor methodology was started by people that wanted to prove that hormones were bad for women over 50 that were over, you know, past menopause.   (38:23): That's the premise that most of them went into it with and did a poor study design, which is probably too much more than what we get into that. So you have to check your premise. And the problem is, almost all of our research is funded by outside interests that want a particular outcome. And it's also being conducted by people that have a selection bias and a personal bias that they're translating into their research. So the best thing you could ever do is if you're looking at something, and you believe something, you should always go look for what the other side says. I am required to do that as a researcher. I must look at everything that contradicts what I think before I can really go and do my study. But unfortunately, a lot of the research that gets published, and particularly stuff in, in major media is poorly done. The methodology is terrible and our health is paying for it.   (39:16): Extraordinarily as women. And particularly as women, I think it's just egregious because, because of our high levels of estrogen progesterone, and we have testosterone too, and then we lose it in such a dramatic fashion over a very short period of time and the consequences are devastating, literally. So, all right, we have gone down a little bit of a rabbit hole. I'm wondering if you can leave everyone with a little optimism about what's possible for them and how they can get this beautiful vehicle that they've been given to live this life and into the shape that they need so that they can deliver the gifts that they have so that they can risk and do the things they wanna do. Like we started talking about Erica Jung's quote, "If you don't risk anything, you risk even more." What have you got left to do on this planet before you leave it? This is like the third act, the second act, whatever act you wanna call it, you've gotta have great health to get there. And that means a healthy weight, healthy energy. So what's possible. And how do you get there?   (40:27): So definitely I don't want anybody to, just to hear what I said and go, oh my gosh, it sounds like it doesn't work. Because for me, as I dug through this and found this, I was able to drop 35 pounds without extraordinary. Like without killing myself, I can eat foods today. I'm metabolically flexible. So I can, I can have some carbohydrates, and it's not like it's gonna go straight to my butt. By the next day I can eat a high protein, low-carb diet. And I'm fine. I can, I can go through things like intermittent fasting where I'm not, you know, ready to cloth somebody's eyes out. Cause I'm starving because my body is efficient. Right? So some of the things that you can easily do right now. So the first thing is all those foods that I listed off that raise uric acid, check yourself, check yourself and try not to eat so many of those, right?   (41:12): It's not that you don't have any of them, cuz it's impossible to really remove everything. But you wanna, you wanna kind of make sure that you're not driving it. So if you, so even if you go get a skinny margarita, cuz I hear this all the time, I'm gonna have a skinny margarita. Mm-hmm they're using an agave that is almost all fructose. So if I do that before I eat a meal, and I'm dehydrated, I'm setting myself up for bad stuff. Right? So take out the high fructose corn syrup, the fructose, the aged foods, the food additives eat foods in their whole natural form because it's the food additives that are also causing a problem yet the sugar out of the diet watch your alcohol cuz that also raises uric acid. The other thing is to make sure you're well hydrated. So you're not turning on that fructose conversion from glucose, cuz you could do that all day long every day, particularly before you eat the other thing.   (41:58): So when we look, I think it's really important to find out, you know, obviously we do genetics, we do hormone metabolism. I think it's really important for women to know how you're wired. Mm-hmm , you know what works for one person doesn't work for another and when you know those rules, it makes it easier for you to manipulate. So things like hormones, metabolism, testing, and DNA are super important, but even if you don't have that, the next thing I would make sure that I'm doing is that I'm doing movement. That helps turn on some of that nervous system stuff. You know, I alluded to it because if I have a slow nervous system to burn my fat and my transport for sugar into the muscle cell is slow. The two things that I make sure I really, really want to do is I need to turn on that nervous system.   (42:42): So you know, some of my people we practice like, you know, those sorts of, kind of crazy little movements, but I need to move more. That doesn't mean exercise more cuz sometimes women are overdoing it, and they're driving cortisol and a bunch of other stuff, but I need to move more. So think I'm walking, I'm doing more general movement. Mm-hmm and I need to do exercise that stimulates the heck outta my big muscle groups, your butt, your hips, your thighs, your legs. So that means that I need to do weightlifting. And weightlifting's super important also to bone density and other things, which is a huge area of concern for women our age and above. So weightlifting stimulates that Glu four transport along with more movement and high intensity intervals. But that doesn't mean I do two a days. right. That doesn't mean I have so many women that work out too much because they think if I keep burning it, I'll get it off, you know, but that could be counterproductive, but we do need to move more particularly for sedentary, cuz it's very hard for our body to do that stuff. And that could be simply just going out and walking in nature. I think that's another big part of it is like getting a little more centered, getting a little more, you know, time to yourself, getting a little more time in nature also helps.   (43:51): Yeah. So true. So there is hope you can have the best health of, of your life over 40. It's perfectly possible. You just need to find a guide who can help you get there, and you need to do it, and you need to do it now because like Cheryl Sandberg says, we need women at all levels, including the top, to change the dynamic, reshape the conversation to make sure women's voices are heard and heated, not overlooked and ignored. Thank you so much for joining me, Betty. Thank you for the research you do. And the work you do, we will have links to Betty's social media to her podcast, but tell everybody about these resources that you have and where they can find out more about.   (44:30): You. Certainly. So, so definitely my podcast is this, this functional life, and we cover these topics in more. You can also find a link in the show notes for a quiz, a hormone type quiz. So you can understand what's at play cuz again, your hormones, all interplay and that's a fun quiz that gives you a lot of information. And then if you look me up@bettymurray.com, you can find information about me and the things that I do.    (44:55): Yes, the hormone reset quiz definitely we'll have the link in the show notes. You can go there and find your unique hormonal imbalance, and we'll have the link in the show notes. So you wanna do that and thank you so much, Betty for joining me. It was so good to see you.   (45:09): Yes. Thank you for having me.   (45:11): Thank you so much for listening. I know that incredible vitality occurs for women over 40. When we learn to speak hormones and balance these vital regulators to create the health and the life that we deserve. If you're enjoying this podcast, I'd love it. If you give me a review and subscribe, it really does help this podcast out so much. You can visit the hormone prescription.com, where we have some free gifts for you, and you can sign up to have a hormone evaluation with me on the podcast to gain clarity into your personal situation until next time, remember, take small steps each day to balance your hormones and watch the wonderful changes in your health that begin to unfold for you. Talk to you soon.     Take the Hormone Reset Quiz from Dr. Betty Murray  to find out your unique hormonal imbalance: Some women over 40 experience hormonal imbalances that cause body composition changes, fatigue, and mood swings. 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This week, we are joined in the studio by author & podcaster THOMAS E. STAPLES! We play a game of WOULD YOU RATHER?! We get hear a special double header edition of STORYTIME WITH DINASAURUS AND STAPLES! We interview him about his book THE CASE OF THE GIANT CARNIVEROUS WORM and he shares an exclusive excerpt of his brand new stand-alone novel, SCOURGE OF ELDERS. And then, he reads a bad romance scene from the 2015 winner of the Literary Review's BAD SEX IN FICTION AWARD from OF BLESSED MEMORY by ERICA JONG in this week's CRINGEY COPULATION! #WritingCommunity #Bookish #BookTubeThis week's guest:Thomas E. Staples on Twitter: https://twitter.com/MrTEStaplesCheck out THE PENDLETON CASES series on Amazon!: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09219NWFQ?ref_=dbs_p_mng_rwt_ser_shvlr&storeType=ebooks Add SCOURGE OF ELDERS to your TBR on GoodReads!: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/61310810-scourge-of-eldersStuck In A Lift Podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and virtually any other podcast app!Check out the upcoming video game GRID FORCE - MASK OF THE GODDESS on:Steam: https://store.steampowered.com/app/1379960/Grid_Force__Mask_Of_The_Goddess/Xbox: https://www.xbox.com/en-US/games/store/grid-force-mask-of-the-goddess-demo/9NT218VZG9DHFight against purity culture and the patriarchy and support THE DARK SIDE OF PURITY on Kickstarter!: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/bandofbards/the-dark-side-of-purity Follow BAND OF BARDS on Twitter for additional updates and information: https://twitter.com/bandofbardsWould You Rather? Article Link: https://parade.com/964027/parade/would-you-rather-questions/You can find the video presentation of this show on our YouTube channel, and the audio only version on any of your favorite podcast apps!Want to support the show? Check out our merch store here!: https://dmiwpodcast.com/storeLiterally every cent goes back into producing content for the show!Give us a call on the Don't Make It Weird Hotline and leave us a voicemail message! We just might use your message on a future episode of the show! 347-69-WEIRD! That's 347-699-3473!Don't Make It Weird Podcast on Twitter: http://twitter.com/dmiwpodcastDaniel on Twitter: http://twitter.com/danqwritesthingDina on Twitter: http://twitter.com/dinasaurusdProducer Sean on Twitter: http://twitter.com/shaceholdu--------------------------Music Credit:Swing Rabbit ! Swing ! by Amarià https://soundcloud.com/amariamusiqueCreative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/al-swing-rabbit-swingMusic promoted by Audio Library Support the show

LIT CHICKS READ: The Podcast Trailer Join Instagram book creators Lauren and Sheryl from @litchicksread as they chat about their favorite books, interview guest authors, and more. This unscripted, uncensored, conversational podcast will give you the fun book club experience you've been waiting for. In this intro episode, learn how they met, what they like to read, and what to expect from this podcast! SHOW NOTES: The amazing Outlander community we bonded in can be found at www.instagram.com/obsassenachs We mention Outlander by Diana Gabaldon, Henry Miller, Anais Nin, Erica Jong's Fear of Flying, the Sleeping Beauty Trilogy by Anne Rice (writing as A.N. Roquelaure), Red Dress Ink, Colleen Hoover, Christina Lauren, and A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J Maas. Instagram: www.instagram.com/litchicksread TikTok: www.tiktok.com/litchicksread Join our exclusive community and help support this podcast: www.patreon.com/litchicksread Email: litchicksread@gmail.com

It's the 80th birthday of the author Erica Jong. Best known for the boldly sexual feminist novel “Fear of Flying”. Her most recent work is a poetry collection, The World Began with Yes (2019).

At the end of 2020, the Keats-Shelley Podcast spoke to Erica Jong, the bestselling novelist, feminist icon and poet. In fact Erica was a poet before she was a novelist, publishing two poetry volumes making her name with 1973's Fear of Flying. While fiction has dominated her literay output, she has continued to release poetry throughout her 50 year career.  Indeed, the inspiration for our own conversation was a poem she wrote in 1975: 'Dear Keats', which we found while researching John Keats' epitaph 'Here lies one whose name was writ in water' during 2021's Keats-Shelley Prizes (Erica's poem quotes the line for her own purposes).  Part of the interview has appeared: Erica offered some writing advice to our Young Romantics.  We are sending the full audio version to Friends of the Keats-Shelley Memorial Association before releasing to the general podcast public later in 2022.  You can learn more about Erica Jong at www.ericajong.com The Keats-Shelley Podcast is hosted by James Kidd. The music is 'Androids Always Sleep' By Chris Zabriskie. Visit http://chriszabriskie.com/ For more about 2022's Keats-Shelley and Young Romantics Prizes visit: Young Romantics Prize 2022 Keats-Shelley Prize 2022  You can support the Keats-Shelley House by Becoming a Friend. Follow us on Twitter Like us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Subscribe to us on YouTube

Connie's motivational quotes for today is by – Erica Jong, “What is the fatal charm of Italy? What do we find there that can be found nowhere else? I believe it is a certain permission to be human, which other places, other countries, lost long ago.” YouTube: https://youtu.be/zjT48t3FNB8 Check Out These Highlights:   As I reflect on my Italian heritage and the huge family I am blessed to be part of; there is something that allows me to naturally feel like the people I meet, personally and professionally, easily become part of my personal family!  As I think about this, I wonder what my dad experienced living in Italy until he was 19 years old, the values he learned from a different land and culture than the US.  I know so much of who I am is because of the piece of Italy that he has carried with him through his life and in turn has shared that Italian energy of ease and family with myself and my siblings.  What a gift! I ask you to pause and contemplate the values (good and of course the not-so-great) that your family has passed to you.  Maybe think about if they are serving you in your career and business.  If not, what can you change? About Angela Santi: Angela Santi is the one-of-a-kind Dolce Vita Lifestyle Designer for elite entrepreneurs, executives, and experts. She is fiercely protective of her craft - the art that is the science behind the good life. As such, she has pioneered the Four Pillars of Dolce Vita life mastery model. Working privately with a select group of ultra-high performers and global leaders, her Mediterranean-infused methodology ascends today's high flyers to unprecedented levels of success while living Le Dolce Vita (the signature Italian lifestyle), through her bespoke best-life blueprint, a transformational implementation of daily business and personal routines and habits fall effortlessly into place. How to Get in Touch With Angela Santi: Website:  https://angelasanti.it/ Email:  angela@angelasanti.it Stalk me online! Website:  https://whitmanassoc.com/ Connie's #1 International Bestseller Book - ESP (Easy Sales Process): 7-Step to Sales Success:  https://whitmanassoc.com/resources/ Download Free Communication Style Assessment:  www.whitmanassoc.com/csa Subscribe and listen to the Changing the Sales Game Podcast on your favorite podcast streaming service or on YouTube.  New episodes post every Monday on webtalkradio.net - listen to Connie dive into new sales and business topics or problems you may have in your business.

We writers often talk about the reasons we write. But what are the reasons we don't write? What keeps us from writing? Several things probably come to mind: procrastination, not enough time, and not feeling creative, among others. But at the end of the day, there is one main thing that keeps us from writing. The novelist Erica Jong hit the nail on the head when she said, “I went for years not finishing anything. Because, of course, when you finish something you can be judged.” On this episode, Kent reminds us not to worry about who won't like our writing, but to focus on those who will enjoy it. *** Are you looking for a community of enthusiastic, generous writers to help you build better habits and grow your writing business? Check out our Daily Writer Community.  Check out our Daily Writing Prompts, which will help you break through creative blocks, brainstorm new ideas, and get back into a state of flow. Writing prompts are a fantastic creative tool for creative writing, journaling, teaching, social media posts, podcasting, and more! Connect with Kent:  https://DailyWriterLife.com  Facebook: https://facebook.com/kent.sanders  Instagram: https://instagram.com/kentsanders  LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/kent-sanders  Twitter: https://twitter.com/kentsanders  

In this episode Kristina is  discussing a topic that comes up frequently in her business coaching with clients... and that is MINDSET! We understand hard decisions can be overwhelming! That is why we want you to tune in to this episode to hear what Kristina has to say about stopping the approval and affirmation seeking about decisions that affect YOUR business.Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.” Quote by Erica Jong. Tune in to this episode to hear why you don't need to ask advice or permission when making decisions that affect your business. You own it! You make the rules!Don't miss this episode! Kristina is talking about the importance of MINDSET! As a business owner, minimizing the “what if's” and talking through your fear/emotions or nervousness about changes with a coach or business confidant can help get you past the hump.There is a freedom that comes with owning your own business… and some stress occasionally. Remind yourself why you do what you do and what foundation your business was started on before throwing in the towel and punching someone else's time clock. Listen to this episode to hear all about how to change your mindset when you're having a tough time in your business.BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL UNDERSTAND Mindset is everything and you are everything to your own business! You're the boss. You make the rules… and you don't need anyone's permission to change how you operate it.Tell us how you've let your mindset get in the way… and then overcame your “stinking” thinking and tag us on Facebook or Instagram @theringtheblingandallthethingsConnect with the host:Kristina Stubblefield - www.kristinastubblefield.com social media @kristinastubblefield  Our vision is to bring vendors, venues, show producers, wedding groups and engaged couples to ONE amazing place! We have built a platform that you can use us to access local vendors, video and photo inspiration galleries, mood boards, wedding stories and articles, engagement stories, exclusive savings, wedding show and expo events in your area, online stores, resources like wedding registries and informative podcasts as well as education events! www.ringblingallthethings.com

Erica Jong smashed countless taboos when she released her now-legendary novel, FEAR OF FLYING, in 1973. In the four decades that followed, Ms. Jong published more than 25 fiction and nonfiction titles, cementing her status as one of America's all-time favorite writers. In this episode, she talks with fellow author and A Mighty Blaze cofounder Jenna Blum about the perils and pleasures of female sexuality, creativity and power in our modern age. Hosted by Trisha Blanchet

We writers often talk about the reasons we write. But what are the reasons we don't write? What keeps us from writing? The novelist Erica Jong hit the nail on the head when she said, “I went for years not finishing anything. Because, of course, when you finish something you can be judged.” On this episode, you'll learn why you don't need to fear judgment. *** Are you looking for a community of enthusiastic, generous writers to help you build better habits and grow your writing business? Check out our Daily Writer Community. Follow Kent Sanders: Facebook: https://facebook.com/kent.sanders Instagram: https://instagram.com/kentsanders Twitter: https://twitter.com/kentsanders

We've come to the end of Season 1, but before we set the bears free forever, we have some great personal John Irving stories to share. From one friend's profound experience with a John Irving commencement speech to writer Rand Cooper's bromance with Irving that spans two continents and at least a decade. (Salman Rushdie and Erica Jong also make cameos!) Theresa and Rebecca also get into everything from their favorite characters to which book Rebecca should read next. And there are plenty of tangents to be explored, so don't miss a minute. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/midlit/support