Anything Goes with the Bonis

It all started with the question, “How do you do everything, Miss Rica?” We run, workout, overland, join races, while completing tasks at home and for our careers, so they must be thinking we're some kind if unicorns to achieve all these but you'd probably be surprised to know that we aren't special at all. But what we do have is a philosophy in life that enables us to di teh things we want to do and have the kind of life we actually want to have. The best part about it is you can do these steps, too. It's not even anything magical or hard to achieve — it only requires intentionality, coupled with discipline. So go ahead and dig into this brand new episode from The Bonis! We hope you come away empowered after listening to this! If you want to continue the conversation, make sure you're part of our Telegram Channel and Chat Group. Join us here.

Hey all! We're back! Before we completely turnover to 2025, in this episode we decided to stop and share our best finds for 2024. We talked about books, movies, series, podcasts, content creators, and music! If you have things to add to our list, feel free to do so in our TelegramGC. Which reminds me, if you aren't part of it yet, then do click this link, join the rest of us and we can do post-episode discussions: https://t.me/+2PK0xsN6nYg3NjI1 As promised, too, here are some links we'd share with you about the media we mentioned: Rica's notes on One Day Joe's Soc Med Recommends (IG): @angenay_, @iansimkins, @jacobsalguerro

In this episode we share the books we've opene since 2024 started. Consequently we started talking about why we read many books at once, why it isn't exactly wrong to not finish a book, our diet when it comes to book genres, and also what made us shift from physical to digital books, including audio books!

Long time no episode! Life happens — as you will hear us explain in the beginning of this podcast episode BUT we couldn't let this topic pass. Especially since so many people are claiming this must or must not be followed by whatever qualifier — because I am a family man, Christian, etc. so we might as well talk about it and talk about the claims, too, and what we feel about them saying those things about why divorce must be enforced as a law of the land. Wanna hear your take, too. So if you have time do join our telegram community and let's chat there! Join our Telegram group here. See Joe's preaching on marriage and divorce here.

We turned ten years old as parents this year and we decided to recount things we've learned from being parents so far. They turned out to be ten pairs: - Father and Mother - Discipline and Grace - Time and Seasons - Dependence and Independence - Physical and Spiritual - Joy and Sacrifice - Hard or Easy - Future and Past - Nuclear and Extended - Qualified and Unqualified - Nature and Nurture This might be good for you all who are new parents, and all of you who are children. Might just make you understand the immense responsibility that comes with being a mom or dad amd how it is so easy to get it all wrong. Which in the end is the driving force behind why we were left without a choice but to ask help from God. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Ps 139:14

Owning our own home did not come in an instant but it was a long process of asking people we trust to know about such things and doing our research. In this podcast we share questions we asked, and pieces of advice we were given by some of the best financial and real estate people. We were asked questions that were so helpful like the ones we mentioned above. We also recall times when we've visited sites that gave us a better handle of who we are and what we want for our family, and more realizations that came along the way as we were growing. This is a sponsored post by Camella homes which we also visited in the pricess of owning our first ever home as a fam. Hope this episode helps and gives us the hope that it is never too early or too late to think about it.

We were having our anniversary dinner when our friends asked about how different Joe and I were. Well, super. Haha! And that's how this episode started. We tried talking about how the there are places where commonalities fade over time and where they were crucially needed from the beginning and through and through the relationship. I hope this episode helps if you are navigating through your differences with your loved one. And if by any chance you wanna join our chat group for follow ups, go ahead and add us up in Telegram. Here is a link: https://t.me/+eO28y0wQlyQxYjk1

We're back! And we begin the year moved like crazy because of this MMFF 2024 film!!! We've seen it and we've been moved by it so much so we ended up talking about it for more than an hour. Oh but also, we geek out on some new things like our Garmin watches and well, some video games. (Video games and interdental toothbrushes always find a way!) Happy new year everyone and do let us know if you have additional thoughts to this by joining our telegram group chat! Here is the link: https://t.me/+lLQiqaM4WAA5NTg9 And for the NHCP documentary link we recommended, here we go: https://youtu.be/iUlf9KtbqC8?si=8c7hF0yfpZM2JhCo

When we saw this on Disney+ we just knew it was something we needed to see LIVE, on stage. It finally happened. Glad to have GMG productions bring it to us here in Manila. And so we talk about the songs and themes we loved about the musicale, as well as what warrants a live a show when you could just see it on screen anyway. By the end of the podcast, we contemplate on the whole "Who lives, who dies, who tells my story?" Do we actually want our stories to be told? Listen to our answers and maybe you can tell us yours, too! If you want to comment and chat real time, please join our Telegram group over here: https://t.me/+lLQiqaM4WAA5NTg9

Might be the hardest of all topics to talk about because not only did we get questions about cheating spouses or girlfriends, boyfriends, but also children. We got kids asking what must they feel and do when one of their parents cheat? Infidelity is not a light thing to talk about and we explore why in this episode, as well as our own take on what we should do when we experience this either directly or indirectly. Hope this sheds a light. We deep dive this topic to help. And if you wanna process some more with us we are over here: https://t.me/+lLQiqaM4WAA5NTg9

The second most pressing topic requested from us these days is about burnout. We have both experienced this already as workers and career people ourselves and so we have some thoughts about the following: is it avoidable? can we recover from it? or is quitting the only way? what if I am burned out from tasks that cannot be delegated? whose fault is this anyway? Mine or my employer's? And more. Plus some forgiveness follow ups that trail behind the previous episode. May you be blessed and helped with this one. Join our Telegram Community over here: https://t.me/+lLQiqaM4WAA5NTg9

Does Forgiveness Require Reconciliation? Does Forgiveness Include Forgetting? Do I need to forgive to honor mg parents? How do we ask for someone's forgiveness? Why is forgiveness essential in life? So many questions too little time. For this episode, we talk about what forgiveness means and what it doesn't. Beginning with what we thought it to be in our younger years and how it's developed and practiced in our adult lives. We also included Languages of Apology and if you wanna know what you are more inclined to do, here is a link: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/languages-of-apology/ And lastly we wanna shout out a big thanks to the telegram community that we have for giving us questions to answer and as we say in the podcast, should you wanna be a part of it here is a link: https://t.me/+lLQiqaM4WAA5NTg9

Jason and Moira, Alyne and Nas, Tyler and Bethany Toney, and including ourselves, have relationships that are subjected to the public dimension. And we argue in this podcast that anything public becomes performative to the point that even the most authentic looking content we put out there is still within the bounds of “filtered” material. We explore the whys behind this and also how we should feel about these things, not only as consumers but also as content creators ourselves. Let us know what you think after listening to this podcast. We can continue the discussion in these places: Join our Telegram broadcast channel and discussion group: Main Channel: https://t.me/+Frr2jUYIBHZhZTI1 Discussion Group: https://t.me/+w4aurRBuQDwxYWM1 Also, we have a book! Check it out at https://shopee.ph/wellandwise

Carla talks about one the homeschooling books she's reading. We get into the power of stories to shape our minds. And Joe geeks out about one of his favorite video games and what makes a memorable villain.

This episode explores parenting as it has evolved from physical to virtual spaces. It is also our first time to have a guest on the show and while she shares the same last name, we are in no way related! Ronna Bonifacio is the editor in chief of Smart Parenting and together we deep dive into the changes this parenting village has gone through from print to digital, and the nature of questions and topics parents are now raising, and why so much grace is needed despite the differences in styles, context, and generations, that continually affect or inform our parenting. Let us know what you think of the episode? Follow us ok IG/TIKTOK: @anythinggoeswiththebonis

We share the latest things we're into. One of us is into anime and one of us is into a whole country.

We start the podcast with some soul searching: why dont we like celebrating our birthday? What hang ups do we have with receiving? How did we get this way? Then we ask each other some questions about our thoughts now that we're both in our 40s, including the most submitted question, “Does life really begin at 40?”

We do a deep dive into the revenge songs that just came out, including Shakira, Miley Cyrus, Moira, and, of course, Beyonce. We look at it from the perspective of a content creator, consumer, and as a Christian. We'd love to hear your thoughts on it! Continue the conversation with us on our Instagram and FB group. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_thebonis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/238036487382521/ Links to the things mentioned in the podcast: Examples of revenge art in history: https://www.ranker.com/list/art-created-as-an-insult/philgibbons Taylor Swift's Revenge Evolution: https://www.elitedaily.com/entertainment/taylor-swift-midnights-songs-about-revenge Shakira's Husband's Response: https://expatguideturkey.com/piques-response-to-shakiras-revenge-song/ What Makes Revenge Sweet and Why It's Not All That Worth It: https://12ft.io/proxy?q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.telegraph.co.uk%2Fwomen%2Flife%2Fshakiras-revenge-gerard-pique-speaks-every-womans-fantasy%2F

We celebrate our 13th anniversary by asking each other questions about ourselves and our marriage. It's a fun and light way to engage your partner, with surprising revelations along the way. For the first part of this conversation, check out Carla's vlog, link below. The questions are great for friends and other family members also. LINKS: – Our IG: @_thebonis – Carla's ANNIV VLOG:  ANNIV VLG: What we like abt each other, embarrassing moments & how we need each other more than ever Sources of the Questions: – connectcouplestherapy.com – cafemom.com – trentcasto.com – mysweethomelife.com

We talk about seven shifts in mindsets that we learned more about in 2022 and are excited to apply in 2023.

We take time to reflect on the past year and to ask each other questions. We'd love for you to answer them with your loved ones also, and if you're willing to share them with us, please tag us. Merry Christmas!   1. What Christmas parties are you excited to attend this year? Why?   2. What food are you always excited to eat around Christmas time? Who prepares this? Why do you like it so much?   3. What are the most wonderful things about this seaspn for you?   4. Is there something that saddens you on Christmas time? What is it?   5. Name three highlights for the year 6. Name three sorrows for the year 7. Name three of the best series/movies yove seen this year 8. Bible verse that sums up your year

We talk about our Gift Personalities, favorite gifts we've received, and favorite gifts we've given. We also give ideas for gifts that may help those still looking for something special to give.

We took the time to answer a number of the other marriage questions that didn't quite fit the last episode, but were too good to ignore.

We received over 150 questions about marriage and were surprised that most of them could be grouped in eleven issues that affect most, if not all, marriages. This is also the episode where we share about our book, Eleven Eleven: Painting the Challenge and Beauty of Marriage. You can pick up a copy from the Well and Wise store.  Instagram: @wellandwise.co Shoppee: https://shopee.ph/wellandwise

With our current season of different health challenges, we took the time to try different hacks and we share our thoughts on them. We ranked them from free to inexpensive to kinda pricey to expensive. Hopefully, this proves helpful to people. This episode is in partnership with one of the brands we use, Erceflora Kiddie.

We talk about female empowerment: why it's important, what it really looks like, and how men can help. This episode is in partnership with an important campaign with World Vision called #GirlsCan.

We continue the talk about gaslighting. What does it look like? And most importantly, how do we respond in a healthy and biblical way? Be sure to stay tuned to the lengthy Q&A at the end.

We've been hearing this word around so decided to do a deep dive. We talk about what gaslighting is and isn't, why people do it, how to respond to it, and how the Bible helps us understand and overcome it.

Joe and Carla take the time to do a deep dive on a post that spread through their Facebook. We agree with the points we find true and consistent, and explain which parts we disagree with and why. We also rave about our new favorite tv series and book. What We're Into: Iron Chef and Tribes by Seth Godin (00:49) Topic of the Day: Responding to the Post Traumatic Church Abuse Post (18:31)  

We take the time to rave about this amazing movie from a production, literary, and even Christian perspective. Joe also tries to educate Carla on the NBA Finals while she describes her event planning philosophy.   What We're Into: The NBA Finals and Home Parties (01:28) Topic of the Day: Everything Everywhere All at Once (14:16) Question and Answer: How do you give yourself a little grace? (01:08:06)

We continue our conversation on thoughts about the elections including how people our moving forward and where it intersects with our faith. We also share What We're Into and one of us is really happy that a celebrity trial is over.   What We're Into: The Nerdwriter and Jhonny Depp and Amber Heard's Trial Being Over  (01:04) Topic of the Day: Processing The National Elections (15:01) Digital Cocaine by Brad Huddleston (31:29) Question and Answer (01:10:20)    

Carla and Joe discuss their thoughts about the recent elections, their plans moving forward, and their prayers for our new government leaders.   What We're Into: The Child's Story Bible by Catherine F. Vos and Philippine Literature (04:22) Topic of the Day: Processing the National Elections (24:23) Question and Answer: What did your counselor mean when he said "Fathers are supposed to call their into life?" (53:56)  

We're back after a two month hiatus. We went on plenty of trips and got to see some beautiful places in Luzon, Visayas, and Mindanao. Here are some bright spots to celebrate about our nation!   What We're Into: Jacob's Well Masala Chai Concentrate and Better Call Saul Series (01:37) Topic of the Day: The Philippines and Our Different Travels (15:20) Question and Answer: Thoughts on Christians calling out other Christians for making political stance (01:12:02)

Carla, a complete non-fan of comics and superheroes, reflects on timeless threads in the newest Spider-Man movie. And Joe connects Spider-Man's origin to Christian conversion.   What We're Into: Beginning Well: Christian Conversion & Authentic Transformation by Gordon T. Smith and Negros Island (02:34) Topic of the Day: Spider-Man: No Way Home (23:19) What did You Like About the Movie? (42:36)

We each recount ten books that had lasting effects on our lives. We talk about how those books came during key seasons of our life to produce significant impact. What are your top 10 life-changing books?   What We're Into: Superhero Movies and Steak to One (0:43) Topic of the Day: Books that Have Changed Our Life (04:49) Question and Answer: How Do You Achieve Consistency in Everything You Do? (01:06:17)

For the first time, Carla and Joe are into the same thing and they get really carried away. Then they take a few minutes to answer questions about calling, purpose, and career.   What We're Into: Toyo Eatery (00:54) Topic of the Day: Career Questions (38:50)

Carla and Joe take the time to answer 22 questions people asked including about vaccines, toxic positivity, and difficult relationships at work, among friends, and among family.   What We're Into: When Narcissism Come to Church and Aligners (03:23) Topic of the Day: Questions Under the General Category (10:35) 

The Bonis discuss their thoughts on Encanto. The conversation goes everywhere with Rica dropping thoughts on hegemon and zeitgeist, and Joe making puns. Jump in, we'd love to hear from you too!   Puritan's Pride Shopee Link   What We're Into (03:34) Topic of the Day (11:57)    

We took the time to talk about the fun experience of moving to another house during the holidays. And also helpful perspectives for facing 2022.   What We're Into 08:40 Topic of the Day 20:43 Question and Answer 53:59  

This is the year we discovered how health really is wealth. And what a rich thing to give yourself and your loved ones not only for Christmas but for a long, long, long time! In this podcast we share the book that changed our lives. It helped us see healthy living as something doable and not unattainable! Very very practical episode right in there, guys! Lots of tips and lots stories of us sleeping better, losing weight, and more!   Check out Puritan's Pride products on Lazada and Shopee https://podlink.co/puritansxbonislaz https://podlink.co/puritansxbonisshp https://shopee.ph/puritansprideph   What we're into: Shopify and Carplay (1:46) Topic of the Day: The Gift of Health (11:05) Question and Answer (1:00:24)

We took the time to remember some of the most memorable weddings we've been to. We talk about what made them special. And we also talked about our wedding and how things have changed since then. If you are looking to get married soon, we also share a few things we learned through the wedding process that has a lot to do with fear, foolishness, faith and Great Big Father God.   What We're Into: Taylor Swift and Screwtape Letters Audiobook (1:08) Topic of the Day (14:41) What have been some memorable weddings for you? (24:48) Did you like our wedding? (41:26) Tips for those who are planning to get married (43:50) Question and Answer (1:05:15)

We took the time to ask each other questions we haven't asked each other before. Here's the link to the questions we asked: https://www.indwellweddings.com/resources/2019/2/4/50-questions-to-ask-your-partner-during-date-night   What We're Into: Oven Kick Bakery & The Bible Project Podcast (2:08) Topic of the Day: How people change  (9:25) In what ways are we the same? And it what ways are we different? (15:25) When did you first learn you loved me? (20:57) When was the time that you felt really close to me? (26:01)  What personality trait of yours do you wish you could change? (32:50) What would constitute a perfect day for you? (35:30)  What is your favorite time of the day to be physically intimate? (38:24) What movie reminds you of us? (39:16) How do you want to be remembered after you die? (47:16)  Do you like kissing or hugging me? (54:05) Question & Answer (55:42)

What We're Into: Divinity 2: Original Sin & The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk (00:54) Topic of the Day: Mental Health Part 2 - How God intervened and the road to healing (07:49) Question & Answer: If your boyfriend searches girls in social media, is it considered cheating? (52:14)

What We're Into: Balara Studio and Content House & Flacbox Topic of the Day: Carla's mental health Question & Answer: Do you have a 5-year or 10-year plan for your family?

What We're Into: Melatonin & Sex with Presidents: The Ins and Outs of Love and Lust in the White House audiobook (00:36) Topic of the Day: The Power of the Tongue (19:21) Question & Answer: How do we take notes: notebooks or tablets? (59:55)

What We're Into: Apple Watch & The Tudors Audiobook (07:20) Topic of the Day: When is it wrong to be bold as Christians? (14:02) How to know the right church for you? (19:37) Church trauma and authoritarian Christians (27:26)  Cheating in a relationship (40:32) Being equally yoked (48:46) How to deal with a husband who accuses you of liking someone else (57:53)

What We're Into: Chicken Binakol & Rope Flow (05:40) Topic of the Day: Strong Women (10:31) Question & Answer: How to overcome a heartbreak? (53:37)

We continued the discussion on church trauma. Hopefully this helps model for others how to process the situation. What We're Into: Orgain Protein Powder & Life of Fred (02:15) Topic of the Day: Church Trauma (14:44) Question & Answer: How to say no to relatives who ask for money without them thinking you're selfish? (01:29:12)

We take the time to respond to a widely circulating post about What Church Trauma looks like. We talk from personal experience, stories we've heard, and, most importantly, what the Bible says. Some of these we've experienced, some of it we're guilty of and have repented from, some of it we still may still even stand by. We barely got through all the points so we'll continue it in the next episode. What We're Into: Christian Rap & Sparkling Water (01:32) Topic of the Day: Is This Trauma? (Church Trauma) (09:16) Question & Answer: Balancing All Roles (1:18:02)

What We're Into (2:58) Topic of the Day (13:08) Question and Answer (1:15:06)

What We're Into Carla is into the Power of Spaces (whatever that means) Joe is into Disney+   Learning How to Learn (OSDA) Openness “A key to creativity is to pursue knowledge without a sense of whether it will be relevant in the future. Too often, people assumed they can judge in advance what they need to understand and what they do not. Instead, creative people build up their knowledge base so that they will be ready for the opportunities that come later.” – fastcompany.com Self-awareness The Dunning–Kruger Effect Learning Preferences Discipline A Little History of the World by E.H. Gombrich The Well-Educated Mind by Susan Wise Bauer https://www.amblesideonline.org Find a Framework Frefare a Feast Application Processing, annotating, teaching, doing, creating   Q&A: Dealing with interfering in-laws