Finding My Yum

It is our LAST episode of FMY… for now :). And what a way to go out with Tara and Andre! Tara is a relationship and awesomeness coach and Andre is a sex positive registered Psychotherapist and together they cofounded T&A. They talk about their own relationship and journey exploring different dynamics and their version of polyamory. How Tara and Andre both found new possibility and pleasure with each other by looking past traditional ideas of monogamy. We also talk about their incredible online community, Let's Talk Poly, and their strategies for couples and individuals navigating jealousy, communication and desire. This episode is a blast and so informative, I can't wait for you to listen!   Thank you so much to every listener and guest, I am eternally grateful for the experience of creating this show and connecting with so many incredible individuals. I have learned so much and am profoundly changed by each guest's story, expertise and willingness to share. What an absolute gift to be a witness to all of your humanity, passion, heartbreak and joy. Thank you for letting this be a space for me to grow and evolve, I am overwhelmed by what a joyful and transformative journey this has been. Please stay connected - @findingmypodcast and @gericourtneyaustein on Facebook and Instagram or email me at findingmyyum@gmail.com . This is just goodbye for now :) STAY YUMMY!   https://taraandandre.com/ https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/tandacoaching/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMFmlCnxqPDnXUrmjL6Kuuw

We are thrilled and honored to bring you this episode with the brilliant Dr. Sarah Kauffman, AGAIN :)! She talks us through the field of reproductive psychology, the role psychiatrists have played historically with abortion, and the physical and psychological changes that happen during pregnancy. We are always excited to talk with experts, and Dr. Kauffman blew us away. Enjoy!

What an absolute joy it was talking to these two amazing women, Marci Liroff and Chantal Cousineau, all about their work as intimacy coordinators. We talk about the training involved to become an intimacy coordinator and the power and necessity of precise language and transparency from the audition process to the day of filming. We discuss the protections under the new SAG-AFTRA contract, the larger scope of these protections in legislation, other industries and beyond, what they do on set to support performers and the whole crew and so much more! They have anecdotes galore and incredibly powerful stories about the industry and how it has evolved. You are going thoroughly love this episode, please enjoy! Marci has been involved with filmmakers as a casting director, producer, and acting coach for the last 40+ years. She's cast so many films including E.T, Blade Runner and Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom, to name a few. She is one of the premier intimacy coordinators today who trained, along with Chantal, with Amanda Blumenthal.  @MarciLiroff  https://www.marciliroffic.com/ Chantal has been a grounded voice within the MeToo advocacy community since 2017, helping 1400+ survivors of sexual harassment, assault, and abuse. As a long time member of SAG-AFTRA, she serves on several national safety committees and has combined her many years of experience to work as a certified film and television intimacy coordinator. @Chantalcousineau.ic https://www.chantalcousineauic.com/

I had such an inspiring chat with Barb!! She lost her arms in an electrical accident at the age of 2 1/2 years old and has grown to be a woman who has learned to live life independently. She is a mom, an accomplished athlete, and a mentor. We talk all about her upbringing, her journey to pole dancing (spoiler alert she competed and WON at an amateur stripping contest), paving the way as a limb different fitness competitor, her work with NubAbility and so much more. Limits truly only exist in our mind and she is a constant example and inspiration to live life authentically and boldly. I hope you enjoy!   www.FitnessUnarmed.com www.NubAbility.org   IG: @fitchicblt (Public) and  @the_venus_room (private and only women accepted) ***Her social media accounts are temporarily deactivated but may come back soon so stay tuned!***

What an absolute gift to have superstar Madison young on the podcast!! Madison is a sexual revolutionary with an incredible body of work - acclaimed author, a pioneer of the feminist porn movement, creator of an award winning one womxn show and host and director of a NEW documentary series, Submission Possible, available now on Revry TV. We talk about their art collective that started it all, their journey in front of and behind the camera working in porn and the importance of queer and feminist voices and representation in storytelling and erotica! AND Madison shares juicy details about her incredible journey filming Submission Possible, a new docu series exploring kink and sex positive communities around the world. You are going to LOVE this episode!!  Buy tickets to the premiere of episode 2 of Submission Possible HERE - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/first-taste-premiere-submission-possible-episode-2-seattle-tickets-160223666299 Support the show by donating to their crowdfunding campaign - https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/submission-possible-a-queer-feminist-docu-series#/ To stay up to date with all things Madison check out her website - www.MadisonYoung.org and follow her and the show @therealmadisonyoung and @submissionpossible 

Housing Law and Inclusive Language – with Dan Kozieja It was such a joy having Dan as a guest on the pod! I chat with full-time housing attorney and part-time educator, Dan Kozieja. We cover his journey and inspiration into law, his work helping unhoused folks and his educational videos discussing inclusive and mindful language. He is so insightful. I love talking about the importance of language and how we can all (especially those of us privileged white folks) be cognizant of the words we use and how they effect others. He is amazing, check out his Instagram @transcendthebinary_  for all of his educational resources! Pride month history resources: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/2021/06/03/what-pride-month-means-look-history-lgbtq-celebration/7504029002/ https://www.history.com/news/stonewall-riots-timeline https://www.forbes.com/sites/brianthompson1/2020/06/01/the-history-of-pride-month-and-what-it-can-teach-us-about-moving-forward-today/?sh=4f0337e54514

Oh boy, this one is a goodie! This week we have on AM - the Queen of Sexy - to talk to us about her journey into stripping, introducing livestreaming to the pole dancing industry, learning to dance again after losing part of her leg, and growth through adversity. They're great, and you should check out their work here! Podcast Social page Soldiers of Pole

Content warning: Todays episode is in memory of a favorite guest, Mistress Velvet, as they tragically passed away earlier this week. Their life deserves to be celebrated, and their message deserves to be heard, so we hope you will listen and support their cause and their work.  If you wish to support their loved ones, a fundraiser is being held here.

This week on Finding My Yum we are joined by Dominus Eros - a sex educator/coach, event coordinator, studio owner, founder of daddy retreat and pagans paradise, massage therapist, tantric healer and BDSM pro-Dom! He talks to us about the different paths towards orgasm, and how not every sexual experience needs to end with ejaculation. It's a perspective we are thrilled to be bringing to the podcast, and he really teaches us a lot!

This week we are joined by Doctor Kris Christiansen! She comes on the show to talk about her specialization in sexual medicine, treating sexual dysfunction, and all her cool diagrams and models!.She's a delight and it's a really fun conversation to listen to - plus updates from Geri and Will about their anxieties heading out of the pandemic You can find her and others like her here. And if you want to watch this one on youtube (diagrams!) follow this link!

We are joined by Kes, Hollis and Stacey of the Lime, Gin, Beer, Tequila (LGBT) podcast! They talk to us about Queer and Trans culture, as well as creating erotic fanfiction, expressing sexuality on stage, and their own journeys with identity.   This episode is a party - where you learn a lot, too! The best kind of party! Check out their podcast here - https://limeginbeertequila.wordpress.com/about/

This week we are joined by Kai Wes from MTV's Are You the One - Kai talks to us about everything from growing up in a small town in Rhode Island, to college, through what it was really like in the house! They share what their goals were going into the house, and what it's been like on the other side. Plus, there's an awesome story about standing up to a bully - you don't want to miss this one! 

We are thrilled to bring you this episode with Val Elefante, the head of growth and community management at Lips! Lips is an awesome new social media platform designed for women, non-binary folks and the LGBTQIA+ community that allows for open and honest expression without bias, censorship or harassment. The platform is amazing, and so is Val! We talk about that, why it's important to have an alternative to the mainstream social media platforms, but also her white picket fence upbringing that lead to her producing ethical porn as part of her thesis.  Check out Lips here - https://lips.social/ Or check out Val on substack! 

This week we're thrilled to be joined by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy! She is a psychologist and sex therapist, and gives us a ton of new ideas to work with. She shares some tips on how to listen better, what some of the most common communication conflicts stem from, and even helps us define sex positivity. She's extremely knowledgable and a great communicator, you're going to love her! -- For more information on Abortion Policy in the Absence of Roe - https://www.guttmacher.org/state-policy/explore/abortion-policy-absence-roe# Please spread the word and support Keep Our Clinics - https://keepourclinics.org/

We welcome Usha Rose to the podcast this week to talk about embodiment coaching! We hear about what self practices you can do to feel connected to your body, how to accept all parts of yourself, and why it's important to find the pleasure in all things. 

This week we are joined by artist and embodiment photographer Rebecca Tolk! She walks us through her journey, details how photographs can sometimes reveal what you're really feeling inside, and how her services have continued to thrive even in a remote COVID world.  You should absolutely check out her website here, her art is beautiful! 

This week we are getting all tied up! We bring on Doug from LA Rope Dojo to talk about the history of Shibari, the psychology behind why it's so fun for participants, and how consent is key to mutual enjoyment. Doug is extremely knowledgable and has a lot of great stories to share!  If you're interested in learning from him, you can find class information here.  Or, if you want to check out his writings and other information around Kinbaku, you can do that here!

This week we are joined by Lina Dune, the brilliant mind behind ‘Ask A Sub’! Lina talks us through what her submissive journey was like, what a 24/7 lifestyle actually is, and all the kinds of communication needed in a kink focused relationship. There's so much to learn, and she's great at teaching us - enjoy! You can find *all* of Lina's links here - https://linktr.ee/askasub

This week we bring on the charming Courtney Brame to talk about his journey through Herpes Positivity - and how he has grown from it. He talks to us about the common reactions people face when they have a positive test result, how it doesn't have to be the end of the world - and how, in fact, it can be the start of a more communicative approach to life and relationships. He also touches on how to best navigate the stigma people face everyday.  You should absolutely check out his non-profit here: https://www.spfpp.org/ Or follow him on Instagram here!

This week we bring on Sabrina Vedete to learn about Yoni Eggs! What makes those crystals so powerful? What are we missing out on if we ignore their properties? And which types bring which practical benefits? All this, as well as Sabrina's personal journey of discovery and why you should reconsider how you're using your vibrators, on this week's Finding My Yum!

This week we are joined by Natalie Brewster Nguyen, an inspiration in so many ways. They tell us about their journey as a domme, educate us about co-parenting, and teach us about their social justice organization Justice Movement. To sign up for their workshops, visit the Justice Movement website.

We are thrilled to bring you this episode with Annemarie Everett (PT, DPT, WCS) and Haley Shevener of Pop Uplifting! We talk about the importance of recontextualizing the conversation around POP, how COVID has shifted the approach to this kind of work, and why education should be the first step in your physical therapy or personal training journey.    Check them out for more information here popuplifting.com

To close out the year with Finding My Yum, Geri and Will go through their highlights from a tumultuous 2020! We talk favorite episodes, growth moments, and what we are most excited about in 2021. It's been a rocky year, but there's plenty of positivity to share around! Let us know what your favorite moments were as well - we'd love to hear from you!

Welcome Selena the Stripper to the pod! This week we talk with Selena about her journey into sex work, why the barrier to entry is much higher than many people think, and the oppressive treatment of her industry by the US Government. With even more regulations coming from social media and tech companies soon, the sex work industry is one we need to be fighting for at all levels. Listen to learn how, and check out Selena's various channels below! Instagram: Prettyboygirl Instagram: Soldiers_of_pole Heaux in the Kneaux podcast Patreon

This episode covers the gamut! We are joined by Emily Anne, kinkster, and go on a journey from growing up on a farm to leading pegging parties in LA. Touching on everything from consensual non-consent to breeding to cuckolding, this one gets specific!Trigger warning: Within the context of consensual non-consent, rape fantasies are discussed. We also discuss an instance of unintentionally crossing the line in a bdsm scenario - and how to avoid that in a scene.  Finally - check out the exploration questionnaire linked below, and get connected with Emily's new venture! https://www.thebdsmcoaches.com/free-sexual-exploration-questionnaire

On this weeks episode we talk with Chris all about his journey from Pentecostal evangelicalism to a polyamorous marriage to leather parties in San Francisco. We learn about pup play, what the leather community actually is, and what sexual hypnosis means - he is joyful to listen to and really taught us a lot, you’re going to love it!

This week we are joined by Riva Preil (PT, DPT, WCS, BCB-PMD, CLT) to talk about pelvic floor physical therapy! The pelvic floor is a group of muscles located at the bottom of your ‘core’ - and due to disorders or not being taken care of, can cause a variety of ailments. Riva talks us through common issues, why it’s important to see a physical therapist, what you can do to help yourself, and how US policy could take inspiration from France in how they handle postpartum physical therapy.  It’s super informative and entertaining - and pelvic floor issues affect more people than you probably know, so give it a listen!

We are thrilled and honored to bring you this episode with the brilliant Dr. Sarah Kauffman! She talks us through the field of reproductive psychology, the role psychiatrists have played historically with abortion, and the physical and psychological changes that happen during a pregnancy. We are always excited to talk with experts, and Dr. Kauffman blew us away. Enjoy!

This week we are excited to be joined by Hope Kodman of Dynamo Toys! We hear about what brought her from a small town in Kentucky to running a sex shop in New Orleans, what it means for a toy to be body safe, and how Dynamo has become part of the community in Louisiana. To find some new toys for you or your partner, you can check out their shop here: http://dynamotoys.com/Or follow them on Instagram for their entertaining and informative stories: https://www.instagram.com/dynamonola/

This week we are thrilled to be joined by Brooklyn-based online educator, digital content creator and female empowerment advocate Kat Harris. We hear about her journey growing up in Texas, why she chooses celibacy and what her faith has given her throughout life. She's incredibly empowering and brings a wonderful perspective to Finding My Yum!Follow more from Kat by going here: https://therefinedwoman.com/

This week we are thrilled to be joined by writer/director Michelle West! Michelle talks to us about familial secrets, abortion rights of old (that may become new again), and the importance of addressing ancestral trauma to create opportunities for future generations. She is currently creating a film that features these stories in LINEAGE - and the fundraising is going on now. Visit here to learn more about it https://www.seedandspark.com/fund/lineageshortfilm#story--Additional resources To learn about the history of abortion: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1997/05/abortion-in-american-history/376851/To learn about the privacy implications of Roe v. Wade: https://www.reuters.com/article/us-usa-court-abortion-roevwade-explainer/explainer-supreme-courts-roe-v-wade-decision-hinged-on-womens-right-to-privacy-idUSKCN26E1LU 

You do *not* want to miss this episode - this week we are joined by the wonderful Mistress Velvet! A Chicago based Dominatrix, she specialized in BDSM and Black Feminist Theory - and her submissives are often exposed to both. She talks to us about how she got into her career, the way she uses her platform to promote social justice, and the effect it has had on her clients (the work Mistress Velvet is inspiring is amazing to hear about!) Check out the HuffPost article on her here -  https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mistress-velvet_n_5a822b50e4b00ecc923d4eba Book a session with her here - https://www.miss-velvet.com

We are thrilled to have Inka Winter of ForPlay films on this week to talk about the difference in erotica made for men and the kind of films she makes - erotica for women. We also touch on her journey growing up within a cult, how social media has changed out views our image and sexuality, and how small changes in front and behind the camera can make all the difference in erotic creation. Check out ForPlay Films here - https://forplayfilms.com/

On this weeks episode we chat with pussy based business coach Julia Wells! Oh boy is she inspiring! We talk all about how to harness women's super power energetically and physically and use it to create more profit and more pleasure. Shifting out of a male centric system of hustle, rule playing and exhaustion into a life that's way better than IG. To learn more about her upcoming classes and private coaching, visit https://juliacwells.com and check out her very own podcast - Wait... WTF?!

We are delighted to be joined by Jo Heckett this week, calling in from Ireland to talk through poetry, spirituality, and looking for the point where the physical and divine meet. We also touch on the differences in upbringings within the a catholic Ireland and what we are experience in the US. To learn more about the topics we discussed in the intro, check out this intercept article here: https://theintercept.com/2020/09/14/ice-detention-center-nurse-whistleblower/

Geri is joined this week by Kevin Patterson - author (Love's Not Color Blind, For Hire: Operator, and For Hire: Audition) and educator (Unf*ck Your Polyamory with Dr. Liz Powell) to discuss his journey. We talk about what polyamory actually looks like in the real world, the role it plays in a day to day experience, and race and representation in the polyamorous and kink communities. Kevin is knowledgable, experienced, and a wonderful person to talk with - we know you'll enjoy it! Buy his book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1944934464/ref=cm_sw_r_fa_dp_t2_DiNUzbMDAA9EWAnd follow him here! https://www.instagram.com/polyrolemodels/

This week we are joined by Kirstyn Ooten, founder of Club Q (resource and support group for LGBTQ+ students across Appalachia) and educator with Sexy Sex Ed, a workshop series that compels teenagers and people of all ages to openly discuss personal and political consent, sexual safety, and anatomy. Kirstyn talks to us about what it's like tackling topics in Appalachia, what her journey was to get here, why some misconceptions about the region should be reconsidered, and all her work to support people in need. 

This week we are joined by playwright, director, and cultural activist (rooted primarily in the reproductive justice movement) Nik Zaleski! We talk about how art can help drive social change, and then dive into the practice of Orgasmic Meditation - the practice of combining mindfulness, touching and pleasure. It's all about letting go and feeling! Enjoy!To hear Nik's story that we reference in the beginning, check it out here https://www.theblaze.com/news/reproductive-justice-advocate-details-her-lockdown-abortion-experience-will-i-get-stuck-pregnantTo see more of her work, find her here https://www.nikzaleski.com 

We are bringing one of our most popular episodes back, as quarantine doesn't seem to be slowing down - we are joined once again this week by the O-Man! This week in a short, quarantine episode, we hear about all the things around your house that you can work into your play. There's not a lot going on, and there's no reason to not spice things up - consider this a guide! To contact our guest, find his website at www.the-o-man.com or reach out directly at m@the-o-man.com  For more information on how the stimulus is ignoring sex workers, check out this link! https://www.the-sun.com/news/637240/porn-no-coronavirus-stimulus-checks-donald-trump/ 

This week we are joined once again by the inspiring LP Watts! She's a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and psychological researcher with a professional focus on emotional intelligence and sex education. In part two, we talk about practical and new ways to talk about sex with your kids, non-violent communication - and what it's like to have these conversations within a christian conservative community in the south. The reception may surprise you!

This week we are joined by the inspiring LP Watts! She's a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and psychological researcher with a professional focus on emotional intelligence and sex education. In part one of this two parter, we talk about sex education, how to view it differently, and the importance of building that conversation with your children. It's hugely informative and actionable, enjoy!

As we are staring down another potential quarantine, we wanted to rebroadcast this episode for those of you stuck inside with your partner! We welcome Isabella Frappier (sexual healer, doula and founder of Geri's favorite facebook group) back with open arms to discuss how to take advantage of the time we're allowed with this pandemic. We hear tips on how to keep things spicy, but also get practical advice on how to take this moment and reimagine what sex means - and can mean - to you. 

We are thrilled to bring you this episode with Alex Creswick. They're a sensitivity reader and social impact producer, and we initially wanted to discuss just what those roles mean in the entertainment industry - while we definitely touched on the evolution of both of those jobs, we ended up talking about so much more. From the need for huge systemic changes to the problem with diversity initatives (they don't do *enough*) to representation in all areas of production. We learned a lot from Alex, and hope that you will too!

You do *not* want to miss this episode - this week we are joined by the wonderful Mistress Velvet! A Chicago based Dominatrix, she specialized in BDSM and Black Feminist Theory - and her submissives are often exposed to both. She talks to us about how she got into her career, the way she uses her platform to promote social justice, and the effect it has had on her clients (the work Mistress Velvet is inspiring is amazing to hear about!) Check out the HuffPost article on her here -  https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mistress-velvet_n_5a822b50e4b00ecc923d4eba Book a session with her here - https://www.miss-velvet.com

Because it looks like we're going back into quarantine, we're bringing this one back! In the series, we are talking with The O-Man. Personal trainer turned movement educator turned sex guru, he goes deep into how a woman can learn to squirt - and how her partner can help get her there. A great past time when you're stuck at home! If you'd like to talk with him, you can reach out here - m@the-o-man.com or see his website here - www.the-o-man.com  Let us know if it works for you!

Are you stuck inside? Do you want to support a good cause? This week we have an amazing recommendation for The Virtual Strip Club! We are joined by admin Phoenix to learn all about her entry into the world of stripping, what this new kind of strip club looks like, why virtual strip clubs might just be better than an in person experience - and how you can participate on either side of the screen.Check it out here! https://linktr.ee/Thevirtualstripclub

This week we talk with Nenna Joiner, founder of Berkely and Oakland based sex shop Feelmore. They tell us about the challenges they've faced opening a sex shop - from general community stigma to intersectional challenges as the founder of the only black-woman-owned sex shop in Oakland. When you listen to Nenna's story, you'll be inspired by their hustle - and learn to not take no for an answer. Support Nenna by checking out Feelmore here! https://feelmore510.com/

We’re thrilled to share our conversation with Michelle Hope, M.A. She is a dedicated Sexologist, educator, and Social Justice activist with a Master’s degree in Human Development and extensive post-graduate focused on human sexuality. As a veteran speaker, she has over 15 years of experience delivering impactful informative lectures and training across the nation. Amidst the current revolution and civil action worldwide, we are so grateful to talk with her about the root causes and larger scope of the Black Lives Matter movement, intersectionality and its impact on every aspect of life, reproductive justice and its connection to police violence and systemic racism, and how imperative the concept of sexuality is to each of these conversations. She is incredibly informative and we learned so much, we know you will too!    To contact Michelle Hope, M.A. and check out her streaming content go to mhsexpert.com. For more information regarding reproductive justice visit sistersong.com. For more information regarding intersectionality Kimberly Crenshaw is the leading expert and pioneer. Here is a link to her Ted Talk and other resources - https://www.ted.com/speakers/kimberle_crenshaw.

In part 2 of 'quarantining behind the mic' we talk with Geri about her experience! Listen to hear what it's like quarantining with a new partner, and what all the extra time has meant for someone who lives life with a busy schedule. It's a huge adjustment both ways, but is it a blessing in disguise?

This week (and next!) we talk to our hosts about what the quarantine experience has been like for them. This week we hear from Will about quarantining alone, working for the weekends that no longer exist, and even a few attempts at digital dating! 

We welcome Nicoletta from Sluts and Scholars back for part 2 of this quarantine special! We move from the ground level view of domestic violence during the quarantine up to the world view. We hear from Nicoletta about legislation in the works, what problems we should be aware of, and what you can do to attempt to positively affect change during times like this. As a reminder, if you need access to resources, please reach out to the national domestic violence hotline - https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 1−800−799−7233 For additional resources, you can find a lot of support at Women's Advocate - https://www.wadvocates.org/