Forever Marriage Podcast

In S6E6 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, the Smiths talk about how, in order to THRIVE in marriage, we must "Embrace Growth." How have you grown as a result of being married? How would you like to see the two of you grow together in your marriage? How have you grown in the last year? What have you learned in marriage that you could share with the generation following you?

In S6E5 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, the Smiths talk about how, in order to THRIVE in marriage, we must "Value Vision." Why did God put the two of you together? What is His purpose? What was His reasoning? What does He wants to accomplish in and through you? Your answer to those questions will help determine God's vision for your marriage.

In S6E4 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, the Smiths talk about how, in order to THRIVE in marriage, we must "Invest Intentionally." They talk about why it's important for a couples to look beyond themselves and invest intentionally in others. They also give several ways to practically do this. 

In Season 6 of the Forever Marriage Podcast we are publishing the content from our most recent Forever Marriage Conference where Scott & Dawn talked about what it looks like to THRIVE in marriage. In these episodes we are breaking down their teaching  acrostic THRIVE. So far, we've covered:T - Trust in the Lord (S6E1)H - Honor Humbly (S6E2)And today in S6E3 we are going to hear them talk about the letter R, which is to Reconnect Regularly. Mentioned in this episode: Establishing a Culture of Honor Sheet5 Keys to a Safe Relationship 

In Season 6 of the Forever Marriage Podcast we are going to publish the content from our most recent Forever Marriage Conference that Lakewood hosted at the end of March. Scott and Dawn Smith were our keynote speakers and they talked about what it looks like to THRIVE in marriage, and not just survive. So they broke down the word THRIVE into an acrostic for their teaching points and we are going to use those session recordings for our Season 6 content. In this episode we are going to hear in the first session where they unpack the letter H in the acrostic THRIVE. Homework: Complete the Establishing a Culture of Honor Sheet mentioned in this episode. 

In Season 6 of the Forever Marriage Podcast we are going publish the content from our most recent Forever Marriage Conference that Lakewood hosted at the end of March. Scott and Dawn Smith were our keynote speakers and they talked about what it looks like to THRIVE in marriage, and not just survive. So they broke down the word THRIVE into an acrostic for their teaching points and we are going to use those session recordings for our Season 6 content. In this episode we are going to hear in the first session where they unpack the letter T in the acrostic THRIVE. Click HERE for the PDF notes from the 2025 Forever Marriage Conference - THRIVE in Marriage.

In Season 5 Episode 13 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we finish our discussion of the seasons of marriage, and specifically talk about summer and autumn. Summer is the season of sunshine, and it brings with it warmth and happiness. As a result, a couple becomes more comfortable and relaxed and enjoys their life together. Autumn is the season of change. As a result, we may become unsettled as we may be unsure of what's ahead. So, it is easy for us to become anxious and apprehensive. Finally, we discuss 4 ways to cope with the seasons of marriage. Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: James 1:19, 1 Thessalonians 5:15-18, Ecclesiastes 3:1, Psalm 46:1, Hebrews 13:5SEC Storied - The Book of ManningFootball with plays at Dick's Forever Marriage Conference 

In Season 5 Episode 12 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we finish out our acrostic, Rekindle R.O.M.A.N.C.E., with the E - Embrace the Seasons of Marriage. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, "There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven." Just like the seasons of nature, marriages also experience seasons. Gary Chapman says it this way, "Marriages are in a perpetual state of transition, continually moving from one season to another - perhaps not annually, as in nature, but certainly and consistently. The cycle repeats itself many times throughout the life of a marriage." In the episode we unpack the 4 seasons of marriage. 

In Season 5 Episode 11 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about certain responsibilities that we pick up in the context of covenant marriage. Here's what they are: Love unconditionally. Covenant, unconditional love says, "I choose to love you, regardless of what I get in return from you."Honor respectfully. Covenant marriage is literally a descent into greatness. It's a race to see who will be the first to be last. The question becomes, "Can I outdo you in showing honor?"Submit mutually. Biblical submission says, "I come under you to lift you up. I want to help you experience God's fullness in your life. I want for you what God wants for you." Mutual submission is a demonstration of humility and surrender; it's not something we demand, but something we give. Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Romans 5:8, Luke 6:32, Romans 12:10, Ephesians 5:33, Ephesians 5:21, 1 Peter 5:6Emerson Eggerich's Love & Respect 

In Season 5 Episode 10 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about how one of the ways to Rekindle ROMANCE in marriage is to "Commit to a Covenant Relationship." In this episode we discuss the rights that you give up in a covenant relationship - the right to priority, the right to ownership, and the right to privacy. Mentioned in this episode:Shout out to the Smith's honeymoon spot - Helen, GA! Scripture: Phil. 2:3-4, 1 Cor. 6:19-20, 1 Cor. 4:7, Mark 4:22Poll on how to pronounce Cozumel - let us know on instagram!

In Season 5 Episode 9 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about how one of the ways to Rekindle ROMANCE in marriage is to "Commit to a Covenant Relationship." In life we have three types of relationships - convenient, contractual or covenant. Marriage, by God's design, is neither a relationship of convenience or a contractual agreement, it is a covenant.Fun mentions in this episode: A quick debate on when to decorate for Christmas - before or after Thanksgiving? Check out this cute pic of Scott & Dawn rockin' it in the blue Honda hatchback (orange streamers and all).Shout out to Neil Anderson & Chris Hodges for their helpful insight into this topic of covenant relationships. 

In Season 5 Episode 8 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we move on to the 'N' in our acrostic - Rekindle R.O.M.A.N.C.E. By way of recap, here's what we've covered so far:R - Remember What's Good About Your MateO - Observe Your PartnerM - Mind the Little ThingsA - Advocate for a Healthy Marital SexualityN - Notice Your InteractionsC - Commit to a Covenant Relationship - Stay tuned...E - Embrace the Seasons of Marriage - Stay tuned...To Rekindle ROMANCE in marriage, you must Notice Your Interactions. If you and your spouse went out to your front yard, turned around and looked at your house, how would you describe what it's like to live in your house with one another? Do you interact with your spouse as you would with someone at work? As a roommate? Or as a business partner? For discussion with your spouse after you listen:1. What is it like to live in the house with me?2. Do you treat your spouse more like an employee, a business partner or a roommate than a lover, companion and ally? If so, what needs to change? 3. Take a look at the list of the One Another's of Scripture together. How might these relational imperatives inform our interactions as husband and wife?

In Season 5 Episode 7 of the FM Podcast, we continue the conversation of how to advocate for healthy marital sexuality. Last episode we addressed the first two biblical purposes of marital sex: Procreation and Partnership. In this episode we touch on the biblical purposes of:Pleasure - God purposely created sex for pleasure and not just progeny through procreation.Praise - Sexual intimacy in marriage, when rightly understood, becomes an act of worship - not of one another - but of the gracious goodness of God.Picture - Sexual intimacy, between one man and one women in marriage, is designed to be a picture of the union of Jesus Christ and His Bride, the Church.Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Proverbs 5:18-19, Romans 12:1-2, 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, Ephesians 5:32FM Podcast Season 2 - Six Keys to Better Sex in Marriage (check this out for a deeper dive into this conversation of healthy biblical sexuality)Visit www.lakewoodlife.org/local-missions/ and scroll down to Disaster Relief to inquire of ways to help with Hurricane Helene relief efforts.

One of the ways to rekindle romance in marriage is to advocate for healthy marital sexuality. What is your present view of sex in your marriage? As a result of the way our culture and society portrays sex, we may bring into marriage a lot of false and distorted views of sexuality. In this episode we will lay down a rudimentary biblical purpose for sexuality and how it ties into the romantic side of rekindling romance. Mentioned in this episode:Season 2 of the podcast - Six Keys to Better Sex in Marriage Scripture: Genesis 1:28, Genesis 2:24-25, 1 Corinthians 6:15-20

In Season 5 Episode 5 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about how, if you want to rekindle romance, you must mind the little things.Proverbs 3:3 says, "Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart." Before we know it, kindness and truth get replaced with complacency and exaggeration. So, what simple daily or weekly acts of kindness can you take to show honor to your spouse? Could you make their coffee in the morning? Take the kids to school? Unload the dishwasher? Take out the trash?These seemingly "little" and mundane things can add up to help rekindle romance in marriage. Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Proverbs 3:3, 1 John 3:18, Ephesians 4:32

In Season 5 Episode 4 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about how, if you want to rekindle romance, you must observe your parter.1 Peter 3:7, Peter says, “You husbands, likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way.” To understand someone you have to know them.  To know them, you must spend time with them. Would your spouse say the two of you spend adequate time together? Why is time together an important part of not only observing one another but also understanding one another? It's important to become a student of your spouse. Study them to learn…What are their likes?What are their dislikes?When are they most fulfilled?What discourages them?When are they at their best?When are they at their worst?What do they most enjoy doing with you? Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: 1 Peter 3:7, Philippians 4:95 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

In Season 5 Episode 3 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we continue our talk about how, if we want to rekindle romance, the first thing we have to do is to "remember what's good about our mate."After the newness of marriage has worn off, it's easy to let our differences become barriers to our intimacy in marriage. These differences can be frustrating sources of contention and bitterness. But it's important that we, instead, let our differences serve as bridges. How do we do this?We must accept one another (Rom. 15:7). Our acceptance of one another must be in the same way that Christ accepted us. How did he accept us? Romans 5:8 says, "While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." In this episode Scott and Dawn also mention a helpful tool to utilize when faced with a frustrating difference you see in your spouse - a series of questions to ask yourself regarding your spouse's actions. Mentioned in this episode:Pre-episode fun commentary: PSLs, Farm House Coffee, Phil Mickelson's The Good Stuff, and if it's possible to run a sub 20:00 5K at 41 years old... stay tuned to find out!!Scripture: Romans 15:7, Romans 5:8, Colossians 3, Proverbs 11:27

In Season 5 Episode 2 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about how if we want to rekindle romance, the first thing we have to do is to "remember what's good about our mate." We can't experience romance with a hard heart and so we must consider how to have a soft heart toward one another. We must work on how we see each other, how we think about each other, and how we speak to each other.  Our way of seeing each other matters. Dawn says, "I have to have a filter for how I see my husband… and that comes from a biblical worldview that I have adopted. We relate to each other through the lens of these three unchanging truths - as an image bearer of a holy God, as a child of God, and as an heir with Jesus. These are identity statements that do no change. We then are privileged to fulfill the roles of husband or wife."How we view each other and how we understand our own identity empowers us to fulfill those roles as husband or wife in a way that honors the Lord and keeps our marriage growing and thriving.Thoughts to ponder:What attributes have you been focusing on lately with your partner? Are they identity or role based? In what ways has that driven your affections for them (for good or for bad)?If we want to rekindle romance, the first thing we have to do is remember what's good about our mate. Scripture References: Proverbs 18:22, Proverbs 17:22, Proverbs 11:27, Genesis 1:26-27, John 1:12-13, Romans 8:16-17

Welcome to Season 5 of the Forever Marriage Podcast!If you're new with us, welcome to the show! My name is Emily Lavender and I'm joined by Scott & Dawn Smith. We are on staff at Lakewood Baptist Church in Gainesville, GA, and we are excited that you have tuned in! This is a marriage podcast where we hope you'll be encouraged to grow deeper in your understanding of God's design for marriage. You'll be equipped with practical action steps for your marriage, but you're also bound to have some good laughs along with us as we share from our own experiences. If you've been tracking with us in our previous seasons, we are so glad you're still with us! Of course, you know Scott loves to teach through an acrostic... SO, in this episode, we introduce the one we'll be working through this season - how to Rekindle R.O.M.A.N.C.E. in marriage.We'll consider questions like - What is romance? How do we "rekindle" the romance in our marriage if it's gone away? What does the Bible say about romance? In this episode you'll hear…A quick summer recapScott's snacking experiencesGainesville fit club promo Rekindle romance blogWhat romance isAnd a sneak peak into where we are headed this seasonStay tuned for Episode 2, where we talk about the first way to rekindle romance, which is to remember what's good about your mate.

In Season 4 Episode 17 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we conclude this series with the final One Another of Scripture - Forgive One Another.  In Ephesians 4:32, Paul says, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you." The measuring stick for how we are to forgive is how God forgave us.  SO in this episode we talk about what forgiveness IS NOT and what forgiveness IS. Consider as you listen to today's episode: Is there are particular person in your life that your heart is calloused or hard hearted toward? Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Ephesians 4:25-32, Romans 5:8, Romans 6:11, James 5:16, 1 Corinthians 13:5, Psalm 103:11-12, 1 John 1:9  Anger Train: Hurt > Anger > Bitterness > Resentment > Wrath > Revenge > Psychosomatic DisordersRuth Bell Graham quote: "A good marriage consists of two good forgivers." 

In Season 4 Episode 16 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we continue to talk about Scripture's imperative to love one another, and specifically about love's empowerment and love's teacher. 1 Thessalonians 3:12 says, "and may the Lord cause you to increase and abound in love for one another, and for all men, just as we also do for you." Can you recall a time when you knew with certainty that God was empowering your ability to love someone that was unlovely? Love is based on His love for us and not the other person's loveliness. Our ability or inability to love others as God loves them is a testament to our growth and maturity in Christ. It is also a testimony to an unbelieving world of the reality and power of the gospel.Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Luke 6:32, 1 Thess. 3:12, 1 Thess. 4:9, 1 John 3:1, Romans 13:8, 1 John 4:12, Ephesians 4:32 

In Season 4 Episode 15 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we continue our talk about Scripture's imperative to love one another. We started this conversation in the previous episode, but we pick back up with it in today's episode. As we can see in Scripture, love is a command and not a suggestion. Why would Jesus command us to love one another? What does this mean for marriage? We talk about how it can be a challenge to love sometimes. But love is based on Christ's example, and not whether the person has earned it or not, or upon whether we feel like giving it. And finally, our love for one another is a demonstration of the reality and power of the Gospel. Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: John 13:34-35, John 15:12, John 15:17, 2 John 5, Luke 6:32, 1 Peter 4:8, Psalm 103:11-12, Proverbs 11:27Register today for the 6 week study Rekindle R.O.M.A.N.C.E. beginning April 10. Blue Letter Bible

In Season 4 Episode 14 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about Scripture's imperative to love one another.But first, by way of teaser for tomorrow night's event, Forever Marriage LIVE, we talk about what romance is and what it is not. We will gather tomorrow night at 6PM at Lakewood Baptist Church to hear Scott & Dawn talk about how to Rekindle R.O.M.A.N.C.E. It's not too late to register! We hope you will join us for this fun filled date night experience, where you will be equipped with tools to help you and spouse keep the love light burning!Back to our episode. Very simply, what is love? How do we measure love? What does God's word say about love? Jesus, in John 13:34 says, "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, also love one another." So what does this look like for us in marriage? Tune in to this week's episode to hear a discussion on this one another of Scripture. Mentioned in this episode:Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice reference in our discussion about romance Scripture: John 13:34, John 15:12, John 15:17, 1 John 4:11, 1 John 5:2, 1 John 3:1, John 13:35Complete list of the One Another's of Scripture

In Season 4 Episode 13 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we cover the last 3 ways of the 10  ways to outdo one another in showing honor. First, we talk about seeking the good for one another. Out of honor for God and honor for your spouse, can you seek their good? Next, we talk about stimulating one another to love and good deeds. Familiarity in marriage can breed complacency and indifference, so we must give some forethought for how we can stimulate, or spur on, one another. Finally, we talk about submitting to one another. Submission is given because we love and revere Christ. Our culture views submission negatively. It's seen as "lording over someone to press them down." Biblical submission says, "I come under you to lift you up. I want to help you experience God's fullness in your life. I want for you what God wants for you."Consider: Of the 10 ways to outdo one another in showing honor, which one struck you most? What do you believe God now wants you to do in obedience? If you need to go back and listen again, we covered the 10 ways in episodes 8-13. Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:15, 5:11, 1 Corinthians 10:24, Philippians 2:3-4, Proverbs 3:27, Romans 12:17, Hebrews 10:24-25, Ephesians 5:21-23, Luke 2:51

In Season 4 Episode 12 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about not judging one another. In Romans 14:13, Paul says, "Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this - not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother's way." We tend to judge those who don't think, believe, feel, act or behave the way we do. Why is that? Oftentimes, we are uncomfortable with differences. We also talk about praying for one another. James 5:16 says, "Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much." Why would James tie together the concepts of confession of sin and prayer for one another as a means of healing? Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Romans 2:1-3, Matthew 7:1-5, James 5:16, Psalm 32:3, Psalm 51:4, 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, Ephesians 5:13The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

In Season 4 Episode 11 we talk about being hospitable to one another and how hospitality is a way of honoring one another. 1 Peter 4:9 says, "Be hospitable to one another without complaint." So, why would hospitality evoke complaints from us? The nature of hospitality is driven by a spirit of generosity - of heart, home, friendship, etc. Oftentimes, it takes effort, time, and energy to welcome someone with open arms into your space. We have to fight against our natural sin tendencies of "I don't want to do that right now." Questions to consider:So, as a couple, how are you doing with regard to hospitality?What is the benefit to your marriage when you practice hospitality?Mentioned in this episode:Register for Forever Marriage LIVE - Friday, March 22 at 6 PM at Lakewood Baptist ChurchRekindle ROMANCE 6 week study on Wednesday nights led by Scott & Dawn (Registration coming soon!)The Gospel Comes with a House Key by Rosaria ButterfieldScripture: Romans 12:10, 1 Peter 4:9, Romans 12:13, 1 Corinthians 11:33, 1 Corinthians 13:5, Romans 15:7

In Season 4 Episode 10 we pick up with comfort one another. Our comfort of others will often come from God's grace, mercy and healing of our own personal pain. The gift of having a spouse is the comfort they can bring to us in marriage like no one else can. Questions to consider as you listen to today's episode:1. Are you more concerned about your own pain? Or are you looking to your spouse's needs as more important than your own? 2. How are you doing in comforting your partner? Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10.3. What practical steps can you take to grow in this area of comforting your spouse?4. Consider asking your spouse these questions: How can I help you? What do you need from me? Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Romans 12:10, 2 Corinthians 1:3-6, 1 Peter 3:7, Psalm 34:19Mark your calendars! On March 22, 2024 we will host our first ever Forever Marriage LIVE. We hope you'll make plans to join us for this fun, one night event!

In Season 4 Episode 9 we are continuing the conversation of what it means to be devoted to one another and we are unpacking 10 ways to outdo one another in showing honor. We began this conversation in S4E8 where we covered the first way, and we continue on with the second and third ways in this episode:1. Bearing One Another's Burdens (S4E8)2. Building One Another Up3. Caring for One AnotherQuestions to consider as you listen to today's episode:1. How are you and your spouse building one another up?2. What has my attitude been toward my spouse lately? 3. How have I most recently used my words? To build up or tear down?Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Romans 12:10, 1 Thessalonians 5:11, Proverbs 18:21, Psalm 19:14, 1 Corinthians 12:24-25, Proverbs 21:21Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages

In Season 4 Episode 8 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we talk about what it means to be devoted to one another. Devotion is somewhat of a mixture of affection and commitment. In the early church, devotion was a binding element. And in marriage, this concept of being devoted to one another is crucial.  Romans 12:10 says, "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to now another in honor." (NASB) The ESV renders it this way, "Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor." In this episode and the following we unpack 10 ways to outdo one another in showing honor. The first is to bear one another's burdens. Some practical ways that a husband and wife can bear one another's burdens include praying for one another, listening to one another, taking a task off the other person, etc. Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Romans 12:10, Matthew 23:11, Matthew 20:16, Galatians 6:2For Men Only and For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn

In Season 4 Episode 7 of the Forever Marriage Podcast, we continue to talk about the pursuit of peace and the 'so far as it depends on you' portion of Romans 12:18.  We must ask ourself this question:  What part do I play in the pursuit of peace? And the answer is 'My part. Not the other person's part.' We also take a look at Matthew 5:9 where Jesus says, "Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God." Notice, he didn't say 'peacekeepers.' There is an important difference that we unpack in this episode.After listening to today's episode, consider this:Is there unrest between you and someone else? If so, what is your role in seeking peace?Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Psalm 26:2, Psalm 139:23-24, Hebrews 4:15-16, Psalm 34:14, Matthew 5:9, James 1:19-20, Ephesians 5:21, Ephesians 4:15

In Season 4 Episode 6, we talk about the pursuit of peace. Paul says in Romans 12:18, "If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men."  Notice in this verse, Paul gives two conditions to the pursuit of peace - 1)If possible and, 2) So far as it depends on you. We consider the 'if possible' portion of the verse and talk about how at times in may be impossible to be at peace with another person. You may have done everything God ask of you to make things right, but the person still chooses to be at odds with you. So what do you do? Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Hebrews 12:14, Romans 12:18, Psalm 133:1, Hebrews 11:1, Philippians 4:9Fun little plug about diagramming sentences and prepositions for all you English/Language Arts people out there AND two of our most favorite Thanksgiving recipes 

In Season 4 Episode 5, we talk about what it means to be at peace with one another. Paul says in Romans 12:18, "If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men." What is peace? And why do you believe peace is such a crucial part to marriage? What effect does a person not being at peace with God have on their marriage? We talk about these things and more on this week's episode of the FM Podcast.Mentioned in this episode:Romans 12:18, 1 Thessalonians 5:13, Philippians 2:5, Romans 5:1, Colossians 3:15-16, Philippians 4:9, John 14:27, Galatians 5:22-23, Mark 9:50, Matthew 5:13, Luke 14:34-35If after listening to this episode, you'd like to talk more with someone from our team, you can email us at elavender@lakewoodlife.org.

In Season 4 Episode 4, we continue our discussion of  what it means to regard one another. We specifically talk about the mindset required to properly regard one another in the way God would have us - and this has everything to do with humility. What is humility of mind? And what is not humility of mind? Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Philippians 2:3-4, John 1:13, Proverbs 16:2, Colossians 2:10, 1 Peter 5:6; Not mentioned, but for further study: Romans 15:7, 1 Corinthians 11:33, 12:24-25, Galatians 6:2, Colossians 3:12-13, 3:16, James 5:16, 1 Peter 5:14Neil Anderson's Who I Am In ChristChrist Be All by Grace Worship

In Season 4 Episode 3, we discuss what it means to regard one another. Within each one of us runs an unconscious refrain of, " I want what I want, when I want it, no questions asked..." So how do we move from selfishness to selflessness? How do we honor our spouse? How can we practically consider our spouse more important than ourself? In this episode we take a deep dive into Paul's instruction in Philippians 2:3-4 where he says, "Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others."

In Season 4 Episode 2, we continuing discussing what it looks like to accept one another. In marriage though, it doesn't take long to figure out the many differences you may have with your spouse. If differences aren't handled wisely, they can divide you. Differences are intended by God to create bridges between you, not barriers. They can actually be used by God to strengthen your marriage, not weaken it. Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Romans 15:7, Romans 5:5, Ephesians 5:25, Galatians 6:1-2, Romans 14:13, 1 John 1:8-10, Luke 7:47The Cost of Discipleship by Dietrich Bonhoeffer 

In this episode, we kick off Season 4 of the Forever Marriage Podcast! This season Scott and Dawn are talking about the "One Anothers of Scripture." These statements from Jesus, Paul, John, Peter, Luke, Mark and James were both descriptive and to some extent prescriptive of how our life together as a body of believers should be formed and lived out. As a Christian, married couple, your spouse is the first believer you wake up to and have the opportunity to practice these "One Anothers of Scripture" with. In today's episode we talk about accepting one another. Paul says in Romans 15:7, "Wherefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God." What does it mean to accept someone?Why is it difficult sometimes to accept one another?How did Christ accept us?Mentioned in the episode:Scripture: Romans 15:7, 1 John 3:1, Romans 5:8, Ephesians 4:32PDF download of One Another of Scripture list

In Season 3 Episode 17, we bring Season 4 to a close. In our FINISH WELL acrostic, we look at the last to 'Ls' - Learn for All of Life and Live With the End in Mind. Those who want to FINISH WELL never stop learning and have a teachable spirit. They learn from reading, from watching and listening to others, and from life itself. Keys to maintaining a teachable spirit are humility and responsive obedience. They also live with the end in mind. They live each day with a lifelong perspective. Psalm 90:12 says, "So teach us to number our days, that we may present to you a heart of wisdom." Questions to consider:What are you presently reading, watching or listening to in order to finish well. Are these going to help you finish well? Do you need to make any course corrections?If you could orchestrate it today, what would you want the end of your life to look like?What would you want people to say at your funeral?How would you want to be remembered?What impact would you have wanted to make?Is your life in its present state pointing people to Jesus or away from him? Mentioned in this episode:70's show references: Fantasy Island and The Love Boat (We said we'd include it, so here it is for your viewing pleasure!)Scripture: 1 Peter 5:5, 2 Timothy 4:13, Psalm 34, Psalm 90:12

In Season 3 Episode 16, we continue talking about how those who want to FINISH WELL establish sustainable habits. In our previous 2 episodes we talked about spiritual, relational & vocational habits and in this episode we talk about physical and financial habits. Those who want to FINISH WELL, establish healthy physical habits which include getting adequate sleep, eating wisely, and engaging in regular exercise. Good financial habits to establish include regularly giving the Lord's tithe,  paying yourself next, and living within your means. To consider: What course corrections would you like to make based on our discussion of sustainable habits?Mentioned in this epsisode:Scripture: Psalm 16:7, 1 Corinthians 10:31, 1 Timothy 4:8, Proverbs 3:9-10Dave Scobey's It's a New Day for Financial Freedom

In Season 3 Episode 15, we continue talking about how those who want to FINISH WELL establish sustainable habits. In our previous episode we talked about spiritual habits and in this episode we talk about relational and vocational habits. In our relationships we must seek to 1) be intentional about connections and conversations, 2) give each other the benefit of the doubt, 3) make every effort to make your wrongs right, and 4) keep short accounts.In our vocations we must seek to 1) leave work at work and try not to bring work home, 2) be careful of getting all your emotional love needs met through work, and 3) don't let people's praise or criticism define you. Mentioned in this episode:Atomic Habits by James Clear Are You Getting the Results You Desire? blogpost  Love & Respect Experience by Emerson EggerichsWho I Am in Christ by Neal AndersonScripture: Proverbs 11:27, Matthew 5:23-24, 1 Corinthians 13:5, Colossians 3:24-25

In Season 3 Episode 14, we talk about how those who want to FINISH WELL establish sustainable habits. Ask yourself, what is a habit? What would you say are your habits? Habits create the current of your life and establish the direction you're going. Habits can be both positive and negative. Are any of your habits damaging and destructive? If you want to overcome these, you have to replace it with a good habit. The first area we talk about is the Spiritual area of our lives, which include the following: 1) spending daily time with the Lord, 2) worshiping regularly with the Body of Christ, 3) connecting and growing weekly with others, and 4) serving routinely through ministry and mission.Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Mark 1:35, Luke  4:16, Psalm 122:1, Psalm 92:12-15, Hebrews 10:24-25, Galatians 5:13Thought Tree 

In Season 3 Episode 13, we talk about how those who want to FINISH WELL walk in a manner worthy of the Lord.  So, how do we do that? What does a life that pleases the Lord look like? We must consider if there is any duplicity in our life by asking if our private life lines up with our public life.Questions to consider:   When would you say you are most susceptible to your reputation and your character not being in alignment? When are you tempted to be "two-faced" or hypocritical?Mentioned in this episode: Scripture: Ephesians 4:1, Colossians 1:10, 2 Peter 3:18, John 15:5, Ephesians 5:10, Colossians 2:6, Romans 2:4, Romans 12:9, Proverbs 22:1, Proverbs 10:9, Mark 4:22, James 5:16

In Season 3 Episode 12, we talk about how those who want to FINISH WELL have a focused life. You need to not only know the purpose of your life, but you also need to know God's purpose for your life. It's important to know with certainty what God has called you to do. Consider these questions as you listen - Do you know God's specific calling and purpose for your life? Why is it important that we know this? Is there anything or anyone in your life requiring an inordinate amount of time and energy that's not necessary? If so, how might you begin to "grow your no"?Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: 2 Peter 3:9, 1 Timothy 2:3-4, Matthew 18:14, Acts 13:36, Philippians 3:13Tyranny of the Urgent by Charles HummelHalf Time Bob Buford

In Season 3 Episode 11, we talk about setting up hedges of protection around your marriage. As we have worked through some of these hedges in Season 2 of the podcast, Scott and Dawn aim to coach you through how to develop these protections. Take some time to consider what "policies or procedures" you can develop for yourselves to protect your marriage and family. They explain how it's important to go ahead and talk about these things now, not because you don't trust each other, but because you want to guard the trust that you do have. We encourage you to work through this list of policies as a couple:Policies & Procedures for MarriageTake some time to consider what policies and procedures you can develop for yourselves to protect your marriage and family. Below are some of the areas that we've considered, but there may be others that are pertinent to your life and marriage that would be helpful to create a policy for.Relational PolicyAre we going to make our relationship a priority over our children, extended family, church family, ect?What are we going to do to ensure we are relationally and intimately connected for all of life?Financial PolicyWhat amount of money are you comfortable with your spouse spending without first talking to you?Are you both fully aware of your financial status - what's coming in, what's going out?Are we going to tithe? Are we going to give to charitable organizations?Are we both fully aware of the accounts we have and the balances in them?How do you handle credit? How much are you comfortable with? Will you pay it off each month?Social Media PolicyHow much time will we spend on social media?Do we have access to one another's social media accounts?What kind of posting is acceptable to you both?Are you both comfortable posting pictures of your children?Alcohol PolicyDo we have a zero tolerance policy?Is there anything regarding me and alcohol that makes you uncomfortable?Who are we comfortable drinking around?What are our consumption limitations?Mentioned in this episode:Season 2 Episodes 12 & 13Hedges of Protection blogpost Scripture: Proverbs 11:25, Proverbs 22:7

In Season 3 Episode 10, we talk about how those who want to FINISH WELL invest in others by giving away to others what God has given to them. In the previous episode we talked about WHAT to invest in others and in this episode we talk specifically about HOW to do that. We invest in others through our S.H.A.P.E. - Spiritual gifts, Heart, Abilities, Personality, and Experiences.Mentioned in this episode:Spiritual Gifts InventoryScripture References: 1 Peter 4:10, Rom. 12:4-8, 1 Cor. 12:1-11, 27-31, Eph. 4:11-13, 1 Peter 4:9-11, Prov. 27:19, 2 Cor. 1:3-4, Ex. 31

In Season 3 Episode 9, we talk about how those who want to FINISH WELL invest in others by giving away to others what God has given to them. In this episode we talk specifically about WHAT to give away (i.e., financial capital, intellectual capital, physical capital, etc.) and in the next episode we will talk about HOW to do that. Mentioned in this episode:Proverbs 11:25, 2 Timothy 2:2, James 4:17, 1 Thessalonians 2:8Building a Discipling Culture by Mike BreenIt's a New Day For Financial Freedom (David Scobey) 

In Season 3 Episode 8, we conclude our discussion of the habits of grace and talk specifically about submission. What is submission and what does it look like? Our culture views submission negatively and is often seen as "lording over someone to press them down." But what does the Bible say? Paul says in Ephesians 5:21, "Out of reverence for Christ, submit to one another." In this episode, we take a closer look at biblical submission and what it looks like to submit to one another. Mentioned in this episode: Eph. 5:21, Col. 3:1, 1 Peter 5:6-7, Phil. 2:1-11

In Season 3 Episode 7, we continue talking about how to nurture the habits of grace (or spiritual disciplines) in your personal life. We continue to discuss the habits of engagement, and talk specifically about service and confession.Mentioned in this episode:Galatians 5:13, Matthew 20:28, Matthew 20:26, Psalm 51:4, Ephesians 5:13, Psalm 32:3, Proverbs 28:13, 1 Peter 5:7, James 5:16, Psalm 139:23-24, Psalm 26:2, Ephesians 4:32, 1 John 1:5

In Season 3 Episode 6, Scott and Dawn continue the conversation of nurturing the habits of grace (or spiritual disciplines) in your personal life. In this episode we move on to the habits on engagement, which are prayer, fellowship, worship, study, service, confession and submission. Mentioned in this episode:Scripture: Heb. 3:7-8, Heb. 3:15, Heb. 4:7, Matt. 11:15, Matt. 13:43, Acts 2:42-47, Heb. 13:16, 1 Cor. 10:13, Ps. 115:1, Rom. 12:1-2, 1 Cor. 10:31, Jn. 4:23-24, Acts 17:11, 2 Tim. 2:15, 1 Jn. 4:1, Ps. 119:18Navigators Word Hand illustration 

In Season 3 Episode 5, Scott and Dawn continue talking about the importance of nurturing the habits of grace (or spiritual disciplines) in your personal life. We began the discussion of these habits, particularly habits of abstinence, in episode 4, and in today's episode we talk specifically about frugality, sacrifice, and chastity. Mentioned in this episode:Galatians 5:22-23John 15:13Romans 12:10Phil. 2:3-41 Corinthians 7:52 Timothy 2:22Proverbs 13:201 Thessalonians 4:3-5*Season 2, Episodes 12 & 13 talk about boundaries (Hedges of Protection to place around your marriage).

In Season 3 Episode 4, Scott and Dawn talk about the importance of nurturing the habits of grace (or spiritual disciplines) in your personal life. These habits can be broken down into two categories - habits of abstinence and habits of engagement. Habits of abstinence are the ones where we push the things of this world away or set something aside in order to pull the things of God into you. The habits of abstinence include fasting, silence, solitude, frugality, sacrifice, and chastity. Mentioned in this episode:Daniel 1:5, 8-16; 10:2-3Psalm 139:23-24Dietrich Bonhoeffer's Life Together: The Classic Exploration of Faith in Community

In Season 3 Episode 3, Scott and Dawn unpack the second characteristic of those who FINISH WELL: Invite Others Into Your LifeRelationships are very important and our willingness to invite other people into our life is key to finishing well. Success in finishing well depends upon a network of key relationships which fall within these three categories: upstream relationships, walking buddies, and downstream relationships. Questions to consider: Who do you have in your life, beyond your parents and your spouse, that can speak into your life? Who are your "walking buddies"? Who are you pouring into?Mentioned in this episode:John 15:15Proverbs 27:171 Thessalonians 2:8Luke 10:38-42Proverbs 11:14Proverbs 27:6Ephesians 4:15Proverbs 17:17Luke 10:1-9