If Only They'd Told Me Podcast

We're thrilled you enjoyed all of our episodes for parenting in the early years. We're excited to launch this NEW series where we are a bit older (and possibly wiser) and the focus is on tips and tools to help each other navigate parenting in the tween & teen years. 

Jacqui interviews Danni from 'Baby on the Move' about Car Seat Safety rules and how to keep your baby/children safe.   For more amazing parenting blogs & podcasts visit:  ifonlytheytoldme.com with Natalie Cutler-Welsh and Jacqui Lockington.  'If Only They'd Told Me' Book available in paperback and e-book. 

Nat & Jacqui are together in the studio and they're talking all about tips for successful Sleepovers with kids age 8 and under.  Topics include: Maners & Dynamics, What age, What time is bedtime & catering.  If Only They'd Told Me: Parenting tips & laughs.  We're not the experts, we're the best friends you never knew you had.    If Only They'd Told Me Website If Only They'd Told Me book

It's tricky keeping fit while raising kids.  In this podcast Nat talks to mum of 3 Amy from Powerhoop NZ.  She shares her tips on 'fitness with a twist' and banishing the belly fat adn how hula hooping isn't just for kids!   Blog: Banishing the Belly Fat   Powerhoop NZ

In this episode, Jacqui interviews Brand Manager of Plunket NZ Benji. They discuss what Plunket does and how they help families across New Zealand.    Plunket Website: https://www.plunket.org.nz

What things did you take into account when planning your big day?  Are you having a naming ceremony for your child?  In this podcast episode, Natalie Cutler-Welsh talks to NZ Wedding Celebrant & Specialist Rochelle Fleming about Ceremony & Celebration. http://nzweddingcelebrant.co.nz  

In this podcast, Jacqui interviews mum of two Casey McPike about her experience with IVF and endometriosis.    Related Blogs & Podcasts IVF Experience Blog - Guest blog by Casey McPike You can follow Casey's musings on motherhood on her blog & facebook page. For more great stories & tips on Pregnancy, Parenting & Relationships, you can buy If Only They'd Told Me paperback or e-book on Amazon.

Anyone else strugging with night time toilet training?  Nat interviews mother of 2 and owner of Brolly Sheets Di Hurford about her tips and tools for making night toilet training easier and less stressful.

Have you had an experience personally or with your child when the school system just didn't serve you?  In this episode of If Only They'd Told Me podcast, Nat talks with mum of two Chandra Achberger about the school system not serving her kids and what they did about it.   Related blogs & podcasts: How Many after-school activities is too many?  Blog & Podcast Top tips for getting your child ready for school Blog & Podcast

Nat & Jacqui share 5 of their 10 Top Tips for Parenting in the early stages of parenthood.   More amazing tips can be found in their book 'If Only They'd Told Me' available in paperback or e-book.

Wondering about hiring a nanny?  In this episode, Nat interviews Lisa Bentley co-founder of KiwiOz Nannies about tips for recruiting a nanny.   KiwiOz Nannies website (KiwiOz Childcare) KiwiOz Nannies on facebook KiwiOz Nannies on Pinterest   Related blogs & podcasts Would you hire a hot nanny? Choosing childcare

Jacqui talks to fellow mother about their shared experience when both of their boys went missing... A story with a happy ending and some good lessons around communications, rules and expectations for school age kids. 

Nat & Jacqui are together in the studio talking about Sibling Rivalry.  This episode covers the why" Jealousy, competition and just plain annoying each other as well as some solutions: The star plate, compliments books and more!Related podcasts:Episode 102: When Kids HitEpisode 15: Personality TypesEpisode: 116 Playing Favourites   #parenting #kids #siblings

Interview with Lorraine Scapens from PregnancyExercise.co.nz Lorraine from Pregnancy Exercise shares her tips on 'connecting with your true core muscles’ and how to be fit for birth and beyond.  She covers the 3 most common complaints and her solutions as well as her ‘no more mummy tummy 14 day challenge’.  Related Podcasts: Baby Wearing, Birth Hypnosis and VBac or PBac More great info on being healthy in pregnancy and beyond in our paperback/ebook ‘If Only They’d Told Me’ http://ifonlytheytoldme.com/book

Did you ever feel like your parents favoured one of you kids as a child?  Or do you sometimes find that one child is just 'easier' to love?  In this episode, Nat & Jacqui talk about the often untalked about topic of 'playing favourites'.   Related blogs & podcasts:  Personality Types, Introverts & Extroverts and Love Languages, 

Nat talks to Baby Wearing advocate Anna Hughes about the how and why of Baby Wearing and about her new DVD ‘Wearing Your Baby’.   Resources:   http://wearingyourbaby.co.nz http://Slingbabies.org.nz Related Podcasts:  Episode #20 Elimination Communication

Jacqui interviews her friend Natalie about having an unexpected home birth. http://ifonlytheytoldme.com

Nat talks with internationally renown parenting expert and family coach, Annie Fox. Check out Annie's latest book Teaching Kids to Be Good People: http://www.anniefox.com/books/tk.html

Nat & Jacqui are back in the studio, sharing their individual stories around deciding  to have (or have not) a third child. They cover things to consider including: time,  money, career plans, lifestyle plans, gut feelings and more.    Related podcasts:  41 Parenting Twins, Having Another Baby  87: Birth Control after baby

Thanks to VanillaBloom.co.nz for sponsoring this episode of the If Only They'd Told Me Podcast. Gorgeous natural, organic & eco beauty products. This week Jacqui talks to British mother-of-two, Magda Rabenda. Magda is 47 years old and a mother of two, Lauren 26 years, and Lucy 2 years.  She shares with Jacqui the trials and tribulations of becoming a older mum.  http://ifonlytheytoldme.com

Sometimes as a parent life seems to throw a bit too much at us.  Nat talks to friend and fellow mum in business, Maxine Shea about eczema, renovations & illness. Feeling overwhelmed & coming out the other side.

Natalie Cutler-Welsh interviews Rebecca Armstrong from Shine Hypnosis. They talk about how hypnosis can help with gentle and natural childbirth. Related podcast: VBAC or PBAC? Links: http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/ http://www.shinehypnosis.co.nz/ http://www.pinterest.com/shinehypnosis/ https://www.facebook.com/ShineHypnosis http://www.linkedin.com/profile/pub/rebecca-armstrong/7b/120/979/

In this special episode of If Only They’d Told Me, Matthew Cutler-Welsh takes the microphone and shares a conversation with the founder of Engaged Marriage, Dustin Riechmann.  Dustin and his wife have a great relationship, they’ve designed their lifestyle and have enough income to support that lifestyle. Dustin still works full time at a job he enjoys, but has another couple of businesses on the side. He also just ran his first marathon.  Oh, and they have three kids! But five years ago, things weren’t all that rosy. They were $50,000 in debt. Dustin was overweight. Their relationship was ‘okay’, but they’d kind of ‘settled’ into a pattern. They made a conscious decision to change. Listen in to hear how they intentionally improved their finances, fitness, romance and sex life, and how they can now help others to do the same.  Find out more at:   http://www.engagedmarriage.com/

Nat talks with friend and parent, Sarah Valentine about caring for a child with Type 1 diabetes.

In this episode Jacqui chats to her good friend, Jo about her experiences hiring and managing au pairs as part of her family. Jo gives some great insights and tips on how to get the best out of your au pair and to ensure your au pair fits in and works well within your family environment. http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/

Jenny Hale is a very experienced family coach and presenter, having been at the Parenting Place for fourteen years and a reguar guest on TVNZ's Good Morning show.  Nat talks to her this week about the sensitive child. How to know if you've got one, and what you can do to help your sensitive child.  http://www.theparentingplace.com/ This weeks show if brought you by Vanilla Bloom - Natural Beauty Boutique: http://www.vanillabloom.co.nz/ http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/

Fran Ninow and Jude Mitchell are two inspirational ladies. 10 years ago, with teenage children and one divorce between them, they borrowed money from a friend and started up a small magazine, called Verve. It started from hard work and perseverance..they literally cold-called until they found advertisers. Today, Verve is one of the most glossy and highly regarded local magazines here in New Zealand. Here, Jacqui chats to them both about hard work, perseverance and how, even with children and divorce, women out there can aspire to and achieve anything they want... http://vervemagazine.co.nz/

Mother of 5, Zita Cameron talks to Nat about Infuzed Business Group:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/INfuzed-Business-Group/246620455368655?fref=ts   http://www.infuzednz.com/   This episode of the If Only They'd Told Me Podcast is brought to you by Vanilla Bloom natural beauty boutique, http://www.vanillabloom.co.nz/

When we posted the question of what to do when kids hit on our Facebook page, we were amazed with the number and variety of responses and techniques. In this episode we summarise some of your suggestions and share some top tips for helping kids control their behaviour. 

Nat chats with parents Amanda and Clint about having a baby before getting married.

What are the top 6 podcast episodes from Nat and Jacqui's first 100? Nat & Jacqui celebrate their 100th podcast by featuring tips from 6 most popular episodes, and their personal favourites.  http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com

This episode is the first of a series of Pregnancy-related ailments. In the coming weeks, Jacqui and Nat will be cover serious pregnancy-related problems including preeclampsia, anemia, ectopic pregnancy, gestational diabetes to name a few.  In this episode, Jacqui talks about Extreme Swelling in Pregnancy, otherwise known as ‘Edema’. She covers the symptoms and some tips for prevention and relief and interviews Neralee Heard who became so swollen during her pregnancy that she looked obese. http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com

Ever wonder how to become a blogger?  In this episode Nat talks with blogger newbie Sarah Wilson about her blog ‘Lattes laced with Grace’.    Why blog, how to start and a reading from one of her most popular blogs: "Singleness on Valentine’s Day”.

Nat & Jacqui are in the studio talking about ‘baby showers’. They discuss: Do you or don’t you? Gifts, Games, Catering and the Dad. Related podcasts: Episode 25: Birthday party etiquette   Episode 57: Do’s & Don’ts for visiting a friend with a newborn baby http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com

The 5 Love Languages How do you express and receive ‘love’?  In this episode Nat talks to lifestyle coach Tracy Manu from “Blossom” about the 5 Love Languages. Being aware of the love language of your partner, children and yourself, can have an amazing impact on your life and relationships.  They are: Physical touch words of affirmation gifts acts of service quality time. Related content: 86: Love Yourslef Slim with Lisa & Gina Keeping the Love Alive

Nat & Jacqui candidly chat about 5 areas to consider when getting your child ready to go back to school after the summer holidays! Mental prep, Physical prep, Routine & Responsibility, First day and after school activities. Related podcasts: 30. Parenting tip for getting ready for school 73: Stay at home Dad 77: How to get your kids to help with chores 70: After school activities http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com

Do you Have a book in you? Nat talks about writing a book including: Do you have a book in you? the IOTTM backstory Finding time to write while raising the kids From concept to hard copy  Getting the word out. Check out http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/book

Jacqui talks to Personal Trainer, Nicola Merrilees who specialises in pregnant, post-baby and mummy training. They discuss her top 10 best exercises for getting rid of the ‘mummy tummy’. You can contact Nicola for more information or any questions about training or injuries through her website: http://www.nextlevelpersonaltraining.co.nz/ Or her facebook page:https://www.facebook.com/nextlevelnz Related Espisode: 18 - Exercising while pregnant and with a new baby, http://bit.ly/1bamfX9 Don't forget to visit our Kickstarter page and check out the video: http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/book

With the extended family visiting from Australia during the New Year break, Nat took the opportunity to have a chat with her Mother-in-Law, Cecile Cutler. Among other things, they discuss approving, asking for help, keeping kids in check and dancing in your knickers in the rain.

Just because we have kids now doesn’t mean we can’t have a good time at New Year’s right?   In this episode Nat & Jacqui chat about ideas and traditions for celebrating New Year’s with children. Backyard camping, a favourites feast, crafty corner and a picnic in the park are some of the goodies they discuss. Related blogs & podcasts: New Year New You:  http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/new-year-new-you/ New Years Resolutions Re-visited:  http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/nyrr/

This episode is about Christmas Traditions as well as being grateful year round. Often it takes bad news or a near miss to shock us into appreciating what we have.  But how can you be grateful on a day-to-day basis.  Find out how… http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com

Wanna meet a mother who:  Only serves the same breakfast 3 x per month, serves veggies at every meal and wakes at 5am to write in her gratitude journal before sitting down to a family meal? This week Nat talks to Bronwyn Hudson, family food coach from ‘Fuel Your Family’. www.fuelyourfamily.co.nz http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com

Nat talks to Lucy Corry about her blog ‘The Kitchen Maid’.  Why she loves instagram, how and why she started blogging and her most popular recipe. www.kitchen-maid.blogspot.co.nz www.kiwimummyblogs.co.nz http://www.pinterest.com/thekitchenmaid/ https://twitter.com/thekitchenmaid http://www.iphoneogram.com/u/216141031

Deliberating between an IUD, abstinence or the snip? In this episode, Nat & Jacqui talk candidly about birth control after babies (and birth control in between babies). The pros, the cons, personal preference and things they wish they had known.

How do you have your cake AND be slim too? Lysa Black was a personal traininer and Gina Brown was a dietician. Now they offer books, courses, audio downloads and workshops to help 'love yourself slim'.  Lysa and Gina's approach to weight loss is based on our relationship with food and with ourselves. "How we eat is always a reflection of how we relate to ourselves" For more, go to: http://www.lysaandgina.co.nz/ http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/ https://www.facebook.com/IOTTM https://twitter.com/IOTTM http://www.pinterest.com/iottm/

Tips and tricks for successful play dates: Contain the mess. Have boundaries Go for it. Play dates are beneficial for everyone Make it happen Depends on your situation Double play dates Ages and stages Keeping them fed Also, what's Jacqui so excited about this week, and what's her latest diet? http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/ http://www.youtube.com/ifonlytheydtoldme https://twitter.com/IOTTM https://www.facebook.com/IOTTM https://plus.google.com/b/111802149887016280277/+Ifonlytheytoldme/posts

Jacqui was very excited this week to have iconic Kiwi 'foodie', Simon Holst in the studio.  As co-author of 27 best selling books, Simon knows a thing or two about preparing meals. He also has two children of his own.  Check out his new book "Everydayday Easy Quick Meals".  http://www.holst.co.nz/Shop/Books/Every-Easy-Quick-Meals.aspx For more info, or to contact us, go to: http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/ https://www.facebook.com/IOTTM https://twitter.com/iottm http://www.pinterest.com/iottm/ https://plus.google.com/b/111802149887016280277/111802149887016280277/posts

Rachael Berndt is a long time IOTTM listener. She contacted us a little while ago about her husband who had recently been diagnosed with cancer and this week she shares her moving story with Nat.  Rachael talks about how their family cope with the diagnosis.  To find out more, or to contact Nat & Jacqui go to: Web: http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IOTTM Google+: https://plus.google.com/b/111802149887016280277/111802149887016280277/posts Twitter: https://twitter.com/IOTTM Email: nat@ifonlytheytoldme.com or jacqui@ifonlytheytoldme.com

Jogging Pants Must Die with Erin Jae http://joggingpantsmustdie.com/ https://www.facebook.com/pages/Jogging-Pants-Must-Die/507190722651817 http://www.pinterest.com/joggingpants/ http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com

How to cook healthy, easy family meals for all seasons. Jacqui talks with author of Munch, Anna Bordignon. http://www.munchcooking.com/ http://www.munchawards.co.nz/ http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/

Paula Ruiz talks to Nat about her personal journey with her teenager's pregnancy, marriage breakdown, depression and starting a business out of necessity to pay the bills. For the second side of Paula's story, listen to the Go to Girl podcast where she goes into detail about her business Comfy Bebe. Episode sponsor - Party By Design Let Party by Design create the perfect backdrop for your next party with their themed party hire packages. http://www.partybydesign.co.nz/ Links: http://www.ifonlytheytoldme.com/ http://www.comfybebe.co.nz/ http://www.gotogirl.co.nz/