Podcasts about tweens

In this episode of the Joyful Courage Podcast, I invite you to reflect with me on how our beliefs about our children can shape their behavior and our relationship with them. I revisit some key themes from past episodes and dive deeper into why it's so important to look inward. When we take the time to examine our own belief systems, we open the door to creating a more positive and empowering environment for our teens and tweens. I talk about the value of self-awareness, curiosity, and our own ongoing growth as parents. You'll hear practical ways to approach everyday parenting challenges—ways that come from seeing our kids as capable and resilient human beings. My hope is that this episode encourages you to explore your beliefs, shift your perspective, and find new ways to connect more meaningfully with your children. For more info and show notes, go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-480-power-of-examining-beliefs-we-hold-about-our-teens-and-tweens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is your middle schooler or high schooler dealing with a so-called “friend” who's just… mean? You're not alone. Tweens and teens often struggle with toxic friendships, and it's tough for parents to know when to step in—and how. In this episode, Dr. Lisa & Reena help a parent navigate one of the most common challenges of adolescence: friendship drama. Learn how to coach your child through unhealthy peer dynamics, when to give advice (and when to hold back), and how to help teens build healthy, supportive relationships. ________________ “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids' resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.  Check out our Ask Lisa Podcast Playlists. Binge specific topics like Raising Sons, Staying Connected to Your Teen: https://www.youtube.com/@asklisapodcast/playlists ________________ Episode Keywords: teen friendships, toxic friends, mean girl behavior, middle school drama, emotional resilience, parenting advice, peer pressure, social skills for teens, teen mental health Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

Are you a grandparent navigating the tumultuous journey of raising tweens and teens in today's ever-evolving world? Do you feel the pressures of shaping young minds while contending with the modern challenges of social media and peer influence? Are you eager to empower your grandchildren with tools of resilience and independence? The task of providing guidance amidst this whirlwind can feel overwhelming, like steering a ship through an unexpected storm.I'm Laura Brazan, your host, who, much like you, found herself on this path unexpectedly, raising my two grandchildren while confronting the dynamics of modern youth culture. With insights from vibrant discussions with education experts like Barbara Mojica, who brings decades of experience to the table, this podcast is designed to equip you with the wisdom needed to raise confident, self-assured young adults.Welcome to 'Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through Adversity.' Here, we delve into authentic stories and expert advice, offering practical strategies to battle peer pressure and foster independence in our grandchildren. We'll discuss the importance of open communication, role-playing, and critical thinking to build strong self-esteem and individuality. Join us as we explore ways to ensure your grandchildren not only survive but thrive, all while providing a supportive community for you.Visit Barbara Ann's website for TONS of information including her online course, blog, books and more!Take this journey with us as we reSend us a textVisit our homepage link to be informed and stay updated on our Pliot Program partnership with EggMed, an international health and mental wellness software design company. Owner, Broker, and Realtor at Team Eureka with National Parks Realty Forbes Global Properties—Sandi Hall is a beacon of trust and insight for both local and international clients. With a Graduate REALTOR® Institute designation and a feature in Forbes, underscore her commitment to excellence.Visit WelcomeHomeMontana.com today or call (406) 471-0749 and experience the difference an expert like Sandi can bring to your journey home. Do you ever feel like you can never do enough? If this is you, you've got to listen to this fun self-care tip from Jeanette Yates!Thank you for tuning into today's episode. It's been a journey of shared stories, insights, and invaluable advice from the heart of a community that knows the beauty and challenges of raising grandchildren. Your presence and engagement mean the world to us and to grandparents everywhere stepping up in ways they never imagined. Remember, you're not alone on this journey. For more resources, support, and stories, visit our website and follow us on our social media channels. If today's episode moved you, consider sharing it with someone who might find comfort and connection in our shared experiences. We look forward to bringing more stories and expert advice your way next week. Until then, take care of yourselves and each other.Want to be a guest on Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through Adversity? Send Laura Brazan a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/grgLiked this episode? Share it and tag us on Facebook @GrandparentsRaisingGrandchilden Love the show? Leave a review and let us know! CONNECT WITH US: Website | Facebook

Is there anyone who's on the other side of middle school who loved it and wishes they could go back? It's just hard, and one of the toughest aspects can be navigating friendships, especially with girls.  Jessica Speer, award-winning author of several interactive books about middle school, joins us for this important conversation!   #podmatchjessicaspeer.comBFF or NRF  Jessica's bookMiddle School: Safety Goggles Advised

Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness joins host Dr. Bracho-Sanchez to discuss the latest skincare craze among tweens and teens. She provides tips for safe skincare routines, products that should be avoided, choosing the right sunscreen, and common allergens in popular skincare products. For resources go to healthychildren.org/podcast. 

Is your tween's skincare routine doing more harm than good? With the tween skincare market projected to hit $9.5 billion by 2026, the rapid rise of skincare for kids has raised concerns about safety, misinformation, and social media influence.Welcome to Skin to It, the podcast where dermatologist Dr. Sandy Skotnicki and beauty enthusiast Marlo Sutton break down everything you need to know about healthy skin. In this episode, we deep dive into the essentials of safe skincare for tweens. From the best skincare routine for tweens to understanding the risks of certain ingredients, this discussion helps parents navigate an industry increasingly targeting younger consumers.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Understanding Tween Skin- Why tween skin is more delicate and requires age-appropriate care- The risks of active ingredients like retinol, AHAs, and Vitamin C for young skin- How to build a simple, safe, and effective skincare routine- The best cleanser for tweens, best face wash for tweens, and best moisturizer for tweensNavigating the Tween Skincare Market- How the growing skincare for tweens industry impacts product development- Why natural skincare for tweens and non-toxic skincare for tweens are gaining popularity- How to identify safe skincare ingredients and avoid unnecessary products- The importance of sunscreen for tweens and daily protection from UV exposureSocial Media and Skincare Trends- The role of TikTok skincare trends, skincare influencers, and skinfluencers- How viral beauty trends impact tween skincare habits- Strategies for helping kids critically evaluate online skincare adviceFostering Healthy Skin HabitsTeaching kids the value of consistency over excessive productsHow to manage acne in tweens without disrupting the skin barrierThe risks of using adult skincare products on younger, more sensitive skinExpert Advice from Dr. Skotnicki- Understanding skincare industry trends and their impact on young consumers- The growing conversation around global legislative changes for child skincare products- Why Sweden has banned certain active ingredients for children under 15- The potential implications of California's proposed ban on retinol and AHAs for kidsMany parents wonder, is hyaluronic acid safe for tweens? What are the real risks of overloading young skin with skincare products? This episode provides the facts you need to make informed decisions about your child's skincare Every Thursday on Skin to It, dermatologist Dr. Sandy Skotnicki and beauty enthusiast Marlo Sutton guide you through the maze of skincare, cutting through the noise to help you achieve your healthiest skin. Subscribe to ensure you never miss out on our skincare wisdom!Love our podcast? Tell us what you love about the show to help others discover it too, by sharing your review.Skin to It is a skincare podcast brought to you by Bioderma.For more information about Skin to It, visit skintoitpodcast.com.Follow us on social media at Dr. Sandy Skotnicki and Marlo Sutton.

Ethan Kross, author of Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You, explains how teens and parents can become adept at emotional regulation, manage upsetting feelings effectively, and develop healthier responses to life's challenges.Full Show NotesEmotional regulation—the ability to manage and shift our feelings—has huge implications for everyone, especially teenagers. It's a life skill that might just make the difference between thriving or struggling in adulthood. Teens understandably grapple with heightened emotions and can sometimes feel controlled by them rather than the other way around. But what if we could teach them how to manage their emotions and build resilience early on?The effects of emotional dysregulation can be major: kids who struggle with this skill are more likely to face substance abuse, school dropout, and even criminal behavior as they grow older. Meanwhile, teens who are skilled at managing their emotional states tend to excel academically, professionally, and have healthier relationships overall. The good news is that emotion regulation is a learnable and teachable skill, with far-reaching positive effects if mastered during adolescence.In this episode, we're joined once again by Ethan Kross, award-winning professor, renowned researcher, and author of the new book Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You. Ethan has dedicated his career to unpacking the mystery of our emotional worlds, blending cutting-edge research with practical, actionable insights. As both a scientist and a parent of a teen himself, Ethan understands deeply how crucial it is to arm our kids (and ourselves!) with simple yet powerful emotional regulation strategies.In our conversation, Ethan shares eye-opening findings, common misconceptions, and accessible, effective tools for parents who want to raise emotionally intelligent and resilient teenagers.Why Emotional Regulation Matters for TeensEmotion impacts every aspect of a teen's daily life—friendships, schoolwork, athletics, and family relationships. Despite its importance, emotional skills are often overlooked, leaving kids unequipped to manage powerful feelings. Ethan reveals eye-opening research, from classic experiments to recent ground-breaking studies, that clearly connect teens' successes and setbacks later in life to how well they can manage their emotional states.Ethan emphasizes that there are no "bad" emotions—anger, sadness, anxiety all serve valuable evolutionary purposes. Rather than suppressing these feelings, Ethan offers strategies to help teens learn to tune into their emotions without becoming overwhelmed by them. He also tackles the "myth of universal approach," noting that always facing or always avoiding tough feelings isn't the right solution—teens must learn flexibility instead.Teaching Teens Practical Ways to Shift Their EmotionsSo how can parents and educators tangibly equip teens with emotional regulation skills? Ethan shares practical interventions from research that really work. For example, understanding how our surroundings influence our emotional states empowers teens to strategically modify their spaces to feel less anxious or stressed. Ethan discusses how teens can make small changes, like placing items or images in their environment that effectively boost their mood and sense of calm.He also explains broader methods, like the proven WOOP framework (Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, and Plan). WOOP is essentially an easy-to-use reference for teens (and adults) when emotions inevitably flare up. Ethan breaks down how parents can talk teens through this process, helping them clearly define how they want to act during difficult times—rather than becoming reactive or impulsive.Subtle (and Powerful) Ways to Help TeensSometimes offering too much direct help can backfire, causing teens to feel disempowered or defensive. Ethan reveals research that shows invisible support—the kind teens don't realize you're giving—can play a huge role in helping them build regulation skills. He's sharing small shifts, like subtly introducing conversations around emotional techniques or quietly removing stressors in the family routine, that greatly improve teens' emotional balance and confidence.We also dive deep into how teens can use sensory influences like music and smells to modify their emotions deliberately, and the importance of shifting self-talk—from a self-focused, blaming style to one that feels more empathetic and empowering.In the Episode...Ethan's extensive knowledge and relatable advice offer invaluable guidance for parents hoping to raise emotionally resilient kids. In addition to the topics above, we also discuss:How to help teens view intense emotions as temporary and manageableThe specific connection between pronouns and processing breakupsWhy avoidance can sometimes be a surprisingly helpful strategyHow shifting language perspective (like using your own name when talking to yourself) can rapidly lower distressDon't miss this enlightening conversation with Ethan Kross, where science meets practical parenting strategies. Check out his latest book Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You and explore more at ethankross.com. Thanks for listening—make sure you share and subscribe!

What do the teens of 2025 really need to grow and thrive? How is being a teen NOW different from “back in the day”? In this heartful and eye-opening episode of the Heartful Parent Podcast, I have the pleasure of sitting down with education leader and founder of Many Roads, Will Kirsop, for a thought-provoking conversation all about teens and tweens.  Will shares why traditional academics often fall short in teaching essential life skills like empathy, active listening, and resilience—and how these very skills are key to helping our kids navigate an increasingly complex world. From the pressures of social media to the uncertainty of AI and job markets, today's teens are facing challenges that most of us never had to. Will and I also dig into the importance of self-compassion as a foundation for resilience and growth. He offers tangible strategies for parents who want to support their teens with intention and purpose. Even if your kiddos are not *quite* teens yet, there are nuggets of wisdom for all parents in this episode. Listen and share! Reach out for support too, whether it's support for your teen or support for yourself--you are not meant to do this alone! Resources: manyroads.co Follow Christy @theheartfulparent | Join the Heartful Parent Academy with code PODCAST

Mike Matheny, author of The Dad Coach, reveals how parents and coaches can teach character through youth sports, handle competitive pressures, and create a positive athletic environment.Full Show NotesYouth sports can be a minefield for parents and kids alike. With intense competition and mounting pressure to excel, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters—the development of character traits that will set our teens up for lifelong success. So how do parents, coaches, and mentors ensure their teen athletes reap the full benefits of sports without becoming overwhelmed?This week, Mike Matheny joins us to share clear, impactful wisdom on harnessing youth sports as a tool for shaping teens into better people. Mike is a former MLB catcher, a four-time MLB gold glove winner, and has managed both the St. Louis Cardinals and Kansas City Royals. Mike is also a New York Times bestselling author known for his acclaimed book The Matheny Manifesto and now returns with his latest work, The Dad Coach, a practical guide for parents and coaches of young athletes.In this episode, we're exploring Mike's powerful insights on cultivating character through sports, adopting the right competitive mindset, and creating practices that engage and inspire young athletes. Mike reveals how sports, approached thoughtfully, can significantly improve teens' confidence, resilience, work ethic, and interpersonal skills.Competitive Edges: Building Inner StrengthMike views sports as a rich training ground for building crucial character traits, which he identifies as "Competitive Edges." These include grit, discipline, growth mindset, optimism, selflessness, and composure under pressure. He explains these edges not only help kids become better athletes but prepare them to thrive in academics, careers, and relationships. Mike emphasizes that these traits are controllable factors anyone can develop, regardless of natural talent.We discuss how parents and coaches can intentionally incorporate these Competitive Edges into daily interactions with teens. Mike outlines how to talk with teens about handling setbacks, sustaining focus, and showing up consistently with a positive, selfless attitude. He argues the most transformative sports experiences aren't defined by trophies or titles, but by the internal growth that sustained effort naturally creates.Planning Impactful Youth PracticesMike deeply believes every practice should empower kids and reinforce positive values—not just drill technical skills. He shares practical tips for planning engaging practices, including how to structure sessions to maximize learning, fuel enthusiasm, and build fundamental skills. Mike argues youth practices should prioritize constant involvement, curiosity, and teamwork to keep players invested and excited about the game.He explains the importance of explicitly incorporating character lessons into each practice. By setting aside a small amount of time to discuss values like humility, perseverance, or empathy, coaches can drive home powerful lessons that resonate throughout players' lives. Mike strongly advocates for a clear, shared culture within every youth team, shaped by coaches, parents, and player input.Navigating Pressure from ParentsMany coaches and parent-volunteers face the tricky issue of intense parental pressure. Mike provides guidance on handling rising expectations, parental demands, and the so-called "hovering" parents whose behaviors can discourage athletes or affect team dynamics. He emphasizes open but upfront communication about roles and expectations to set healthy boundaries. Mike also talks us through practical strategies parents can use at home—like regular backyard games, casual conversations, and unconditional support—which make a huge, positive difference.Mike's thoughtful, practical advice will empower anyone involved in youth sports to make athletics a more rewarding, character-building experience for teens—and themselves!In the Episode:Mike offers invaluable guidance on transforming sports into a platform for growth and character development. We also discuss:How to help teens develop true passions, not just follow trendsThe balance between multi-sport play and focusing on a single sportKeys to handling internal team conflict and fostering cooperationA fresh approach to pre-game motivation that builds lasting confidenceMike's inspiration behind donating all proceeds from The Dad Coach to a unique sporting initiative in the Dominican RepublicTo learn more about Mike Matheny's inspiring coaching approach, pick up a copy of The Dad Coach wherever books are sold. Thanks for listening! Don't forget to share and subscribe, and we'll see you next week.

Disney with Teens Find us on Youtube - please like and subscribe!  Looking to plan a Disney World or Disneyland vacation? Let Joe do all the hard work for you, helping you get the best discount, at no cost to you as your travel agent. Get started by e-mailing josephcheung@travelmation.net today!  Episode Description We continue our Walt Disney World by age series with those pesky adolescents, tweens and teens! We discuss where to stay and what to do as usual but also chat a bit about what it looks like to have more independent human beings with you at Walt Disney World - what can you consider letting your more independent children do? How do you keep them connected to the magic? All that and more! What do you do with teens and tweens at Walt Disney World? Let us know by e-mailing disneydeciphered AT gmail DOT com, messaging us on social media, or leaving a comment on our Youtube page. You can also follow us on Instagram! Episode Notes (all timestamps are approximate) 2:32 - Where to stay 7:03 - What to eat 11:41 - Do it for the gram 12:49 - Rides! 15:43 - Teen independence 20:36 - Lightning lane strategy 22:01 - Non ride stuff and tips for tweens and tweens 26:42 - Disney dos and don'ts If we've helped you to plan your trip and you'd like to thank us we'd appreciate you considering a one time donation. Or if you'd like to receive bonus content, check out our Patreon page and our special subscriber only content! You can also support the show by buying tickets (if they're the best deal, of course) using our Undercover Tourist link or signing up for Mouse Dining through our link. If you like what you hear, please share and subscribe! Find us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, PlayerFM, iHeartRadio, or Google Podcasts (please leave a positive review if you're enjoying the show), like our Facebook page, or follow us on Bluesky and Instagram! Connect with Leslie @TripsWithTykes on social media and Joe @asthejoeflies.  

Send us a textDid you know that the ages between 6 and 12 are often referred to as ‘the forgotten years'? In reality, these years are some of the most crucial in shaping our kids' mental health and development. In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Dr. Sheryl Ziegler back to the show to share insights from her upcoming book, The Crucial Years: The Essential Guide to Mental Health and Modern Puberty in Middle Childhood.Dr. Ziegler is a seasoned clinical psychologist, play therapist, podcast host, and author with over 20 years of experience. She has appeared as a mental health expert on major platforms, including The Today Show, The Doctors, and CNN, offering invaluable guidance to parents everywhere.In today's conversation, we dive deep into the overlooked but essential years of middle childhood, exploring why these years between 6 and 12 are so foundational for kids' mental health. We also discuss the impact of early puberty, modern challenges, and the growing pressures kids face in today's digital world. Dr. Ziegler shares practical advice for parents on how to support their child's mental health, resilience, and self-esteem during this transformative time.Where to find Dr. Sheryl Ziegler:Website: https://drsherylziegler.com/Her book - The Crucial Years: The Essential Guide to Mental Health and Modern Puberty in Middle Childhood (Ages 6-12): https://amzn.to/4iADtVMSupport the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens Membership and Website HEREFind more encouragement, wisdom, and resources: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Join our Community HERE. Find awesome resources HERE. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen's unique needs during these pivotal years. Get on the waitlist to get all the details and to be the first to know when it opens! https://momsoftweensandteens.lpages.co/waiting-list-for-membership/

Nicole Karlis, author of Your Brain on Altruism, discusses the neuroscience behind altruism, revealing how acts of kindness impact teen brains, mental health, resilience, and lasting happiness.Full Show NotesAs parents, we hope our teenagers grow up to be kind, caring, and community-oriented adults. We encourage them to volunteer, assist neighbors, or participate in community service projects, hoping it'll build character and strengthen empathy. But did you know there's actual science linking altruism to improved well-being, reduced stress, and even better health? What if building compassion wasn't just a nice extra—but a powerful tool for coping with stress, fostering mental health, and developing meaningful relationships?Many teens face abundant pressures: academic expectations, college applications, social anxieties, and now the unprecedented rise of loneliness and technology overload. With these challenges mounting, could altruism offer a unique and surprisingly effective antidote—not just helping teens survive but thrive in today's world?In this week's insightful conversation, we're joined by Nicole Karlis, health and science journalist and author of Your Brain on Altruism: The Power of Connection and Community During Times of Crisis. Nicole spent nearly a decade exploring the science behind altruism, kindness, and community connection. She specializes in translating compelling neuroscience into practical lessons we can apply right at home with our teens.Nicole reveals the neuroscience underpinning the benefits of altruism, describing how selfless actions activate brain regions responsible for stress relief, emotional regulation, and meaningful fulfillment. By cultivating altruistic behaviors, Nicole argues, teens can overcome feelings of isolation and connect meaningfully with their communities—even during a loneliness epidemic.In our conversation, Nicole sheds light on why altruism is so powerful and how parents can harness and revive this instinct in their teens to create their own "culture of caring."The Neuroscience of AltruismIt turns out our brains are wired to benefit from kindness. Nicole outlines research showing that acts of generosity, kindness, and compassion trigger neural pathways linked to reward and decreased stress. Teens who practice altruism report feeling more deeply connected to others and their community, experiencing higher executive functioning, and enjoying mental health benefits.Creating regular acts of kindness, Nicole explains, can physically change the structure of teen brains due to neuroplasticity—the brain's ability to reorganize and strengthen beneficial pathways. Over time, practicing altruism can become habitual—ultimately shaping teens into compassionate adults who experience less stress and improved overall health.This powerful link raises the important question: how can parents best encourage altruism, especially today when teens are so busy and pressure-laden?Cultivating Kindness Without CrisisEver notice how, after a crisis, communities come together in uniquely powerful ways? Nicole describes this phenomenon—called bounded solidarity—in regions recovering from natural disasters where neighbors join forces to help one another through difficult times. But eventually the solidarity fades. Nicole wondered if communities could maintain this spirit without needing a tragic catalyst.In the episode, Nicole shares inspiring stories from teens who joined together after devastating wildfires. Remarkably, their initial impulse turned into a long-term community service nonprofit that raised spirits and built lasting bonds for everyone involved. She reveals that challenges and crises aren't necessary prerequisites. Families and communities can foster sustained altruism—cultivating solidarity simply through commitment and deliberate intention.Nicole offers practical methods families can use to cultivate caring cultures, from volunteering vacations to meaningful weekend rituals. She explains why clustering multiple kindness actions on special days—rather than making kindness a daily chore—helps compassion become a joyful, healthy habit.Why Intent Matters MostTeenagers often feel pressure to volunteer to pad college applications—checking off boxes without truly feeling connected to their service activities. But Nicole emphasizes the critical role intention plays: altruism is dramatically more beneficial if teens authentically embrace their volunteering choices.When teens genuinely want to make a difference, altruism deepens their empathy, nurtures authentic relationships, and provides real mental health benefits. Finding activities that align with your teen's natural interests enables them to genuinely experience joy and authentic connection while doing good. Nicole highlights examples, from playing bingo at senior homes to fun volunteer projects during family trips, that deeply resonate with teenagers and leave lifelong positive impacts.In the Episode…Nicole shares eye-opening insights about kindness, altruism, and their remarkable effects on teenagers. On top of the above, we discuss:How kindness helps teens counter lonelinessTechniques for fostering kindness in kids and teensDecoding the bodily impacts of isolation and lonelinessThe power of awe when witnessing acts of altruismHow volunteering boosts teens' confidence, connections, and resumesThis meaningful conversation with Nicole Karlis will forever shift how you view compassion—revealing how cultivating altruism in teenagers profoundly strengthens their brains, supports emotional resilience, and helps them thrive throughout adolescence and beyond.If you enjoyed this episode, you can find more from Nicole at Salon.com or connect with her on Instagram @NicoleKarlis. Thanks for listening! Don't forget to share, subscribe, and tune in next week for more critical teen parenting insights.

Jessica Slice, author of Unfit Parent, shares her profound insights and experiences on disability and parenting, breaking down stereotypes, addressing ableism, and showing what disabled parents can teach us all about resilience, adaptability, and embracing life's challenges.Full Show NotesIn our conversations around parenting, we often have a narrow definition of what abilities and physical capacities are required to be a “good” parent. From movies and advertisements portraying mothers and fathers effortlessly multitasking and holding toddlers on their hip, to parenting talks describing the chaos of carpool lines and daily errands, the portrait of parenting we encounter every day seems to leave out those with disabilities or physical limitations. As a parent, what do you do when your experiences don't match up with these cultural representations? How can each of us benefit from broadening our understanding of what it truly means to be an effective caregiver?In today's insightful episode, we're joined by writer and disability advocate Jessica Slice, author of Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World. Jessica became disabled at age 28 and has experienced firsthand how our cultural perceptions about motherhood often exclude people with disabilities. Through her writing and advocacy, she passionately argues that disabled parents have powerful insights to offer all parents, and she exposes the ableism and biases in parenting culture. Jessica's eye-opening perspectives invite us to consider how embracing a broader definition of parenting can benefit everyone.What Disabled Parents Can Teach All of UsEarly in our conversation, Jessica describes how attending a typical parenting talk left her feeling like an imposter because none of the descriptions matched her own parenting reality. In writing openly about her experience, Jessica discovered a community of disabled parents who shared similar feelings. But what began as a revealing essay soon transformed into a broader mission: to show how disabled parents actually contribute unique abilities and insights to parenting.Jessica points out how disabled people grow adept at solving practical day-to-day problems surrounding movement, food, rest, and more. Such problem-solving skills translate directly into caring for a newborn, making disabled parents often surprisingly adept at navigating early parenthood. Moreover, disabled parents have already learned powerful lessons in letting go of expectations, embracing uncertainty, and adapting to changing circumstances—qualities that deeply serve all parents as they navigate the complexities of raising children.Ableism and Our Culture of Fear Around DisabilityJessica thoughtfully unpacks ableism: the deep-seated, often unconscious biases and fears that lead society to view disability through a lens of pity or disdain. She explores how ableism shapes everything from medical care to reproductive rights—and even the way parenting itself is structured and evaluated.One of the episode's most fascinating discussions focuses on Jessica's research around early transitions into parenthood for non-disabled families versus disabled families. Remarkably, Jessica discovered that disabled parents tend to adjust far more easily and report fewer incidences of postpartum depression—despite often facing greater physical health challenges. She explains how our cultural fear of disability makes this early period harder for non-disabled parents: society conditions us to dread having bodies that are weak, fragile, or dependent on others. Disabled parents, meanwhile, have already accepted and adapted to these realities, making the transition less shocking and chaotic.Overcoming Barriers in Parenting SystemsThroughout our interview, Jessica candidly describes how social systems and institutions—from reproductive health practices to the foster care system—are often ill-equipped for disabled people. She discusses the enormous challenges and fears disabled parents face when navigating the foster adoption process, including inaccessible mandatory classes and intense scrutiny about physical fitness to parent. Despite these obstacles, Jessica demonstrates the incredible resourcefulness and creativity that disabled parents show in developing customized solutions for caring for their families.Jessica's story about becoming a parent through fostering and surrogacy illustrates poignantly both the systemic barriers disabled people face and their impressive capacity to advocate for themselves, adapt, and thrive. She insists that disabled parents' lives are not tragedies to be pitied; instead, they exemplify adaptability, patience, and the courage to embrace life's unpredictability.In the Episode…Beyond these deeply insightful conversations, our discussion with Jessica covers much more, including:How Jessica's disability shifted her perspective from striving and achievement to genuine contentmentThe critical importance of accessible and inclusive sexual education for disabled teensThe ongoing practice of invention and creativity disabled parents rely on to accomplish everyday caregiving tasksThe connection between productivity, capitalism, and society's attitudes toward disability and human worthJessica challenges and expands our cultural notion of what it truly means to be a capable, loving, and effective parent. Her journey offers invaluable lessons, not only for the disabled community, but for parents everywhere. Join us for an illuminating conversation you won't want to miss—and don't forget to subscribe to Talking to Teens!

The history of the Holocaust is difficult to learn, difficult to grasp, and difficult to teach. But – to prevent it from happening again – it is history that demands our examination! Join Linda Lacour Hobar, author of The Mystery of History, for a pensive look at the Holocaust and what teens and tweens should know about it. Part 1 of this two-part podcast touched on Hitler's evil ideology and politics (please don't miss that important background!) Part 2, this podcast, will cover the horrendous repercussions of Hitler's ideas, as well as the bravery of those who stood against it. Let us learn what NOT to repeat in history! (This podcast may not be appropriate for young or sensitive students.)

Buckle up. In this episode, we get real about what it's like to raise kids between the ages of 10 to 18 in a world that looks nothing like the one we grew up in. From the emotional rollercoaster of middle school years to navigating social media, anxiety, and the constant pressure to be “on,” we break down the mental load parents are carrying—and what actually helps. Spoiler: It's not control, and it's definitely not panic.Join us as we unpack what long-leash parenting really looks like, why emotional regulation (yours and theirs) is key, and how to create that solid, secure attachment your kids need—without micromanaging them into dysfunction. Whether you're dealing with defiance, withdrawal, or just trying to keep your cool through the chaos, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and maybe even a little more sane. Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Why parenting tweens and teens feels harder than ever. [1:43] - Understanding adolescent brain development and modern challenges. [4:35] - Colette shares her anxious “blue dot” tracking phase and why it's so relatable. [6:13] - The “long leash, large corral” approach to parenting. [10:29] - Replacing lectures with Socratic conversations to foster trust and independence. [13:49] - Colette's unforgettable car ride convo and why staying calm matters. [16:50] - How to view misbehavior as a lack of skills—not a reason to punish. [17:33] - Why regulating your emotions is the parenting superpower. [19:50] - The horse whisperer metaphor that'll change how you parent forever. [24:32] - Parenting the “Polaroid” child: Navigating confusing or unclear behavior. [26:35] - Laura's Life360 obsession and the new realities of teen safety. [30:18] - Why social kids might actually fare better than isolated ones. [33:41] - The dangerous rise of incel ideology and digital radicalization. [34:50] - The case for no phones in schools and delayed access to social media. [36:13] - Rejection in the age of Instagram: why it hits harder now. [38:59] - Talking to your teen about the long game and giving them vision. [40:50] - The crushing pressure of college admissions and why it's unsustainable. [41:41] - Final takeaways: connection over control, collaboration over lecturing. [44:32] - Letting go: Adolescence as labor and the importance of separation. [44:57] - One last reminder: regulate your emotions and help them learn to do the same. Resources:

In today's Healthy Parenting Handbook episode, I'm going to take 5 different arguments against kids doing chores and learning life skills and counter them with facts, stories, research, and a big ol' dose of common sense.These are real arguments I hear from both well-meaning parents AND keyboard warriors on social media, plus one from a well-established expert I heard on a podcast that I simply do not agree with!If you've ever had to listen to someone say it's cruelty to make your kids clean a bathroom or have felt yourself that maybe kids are busy enough - maybe life skills aren't important to learn now - this one's for you.Resources I Mention for Chores and Life SkillsReserve your spot in our 2025 Life Skills Now Summer CampPurchase access to Life Skills Now Season One from 2022, Season Two from 2023, or Season 3 from 20243 Reasons Giving Kids Responsibility is a GiftJoin us for free #LifeSkillsNow camp this summer! Register at https://www.kidscookrealfood.com/lifeskills4! Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Today Dr. Kelly Jameson joins me to help us understand the many dynamics of teen friendships. Although this episode mainly applies to girl moms there is advice for the boy mom in this episode as well! Kelly is a trained systems therapist who practices narrative therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy. Through her many years of listening to families and teens, she has learned how to navigate the difficult years of teen and tween friendships and how to help parents coach their kids. Here is some of what we cover: The rise of “friend hoarding” and large group dynamics in 2025 What qualifies as “mean girl” behavior—and why it's all about power dynamics Coaching sons to stay out of the drama—and why that matters How moms are becoming more enmeshed in their kid's friendships and the damage that causes The 3 types of friendships every kid should understand Connect with Dr. Kelly Jameson:  Website:  Kelly Jameson - Therapy. Speaking. Consulting. Facebook: Kelly Jameson, PhD | Facebook Instagram:  Kelly Jameson, PhD (@drkellyjameson) Links Mentioned:   Queen Bees and Wannabes: by Rosalind Wiseman  Related Episodes: Back-to-School and Tech Toolkit  :: Dr. Kelly Jameson [Ep 422] Helping Our Kids Foster Friendships :: David Thomas and Sissy Goff [Ep 338] Important Topics to Cover with Tweens and Teens about Manners, Technology and Friendship :: Lee Cordon [Ep 408] Featured Sponsors:  Thrive Market: Ready to make the switch? Go to ThriveMarket.com/dma for thirty percent off your first order, plus a FREE sixty dollar gift!  The Chosen: Last Supper–The people welcome Jesus as king and expect a revolution. Threatened, the leaders will go to any length to ensure this Passover meal is Jesus' last. You can get your tickets now at TheChosenLastSupper.com Thrive Causemetics: Try your new trusty favorites with an exclusive set for our listeners. New customers can get the Liquid Lash Extensions Mascara and a mini-sized Brilliant Eye Brightener at a special set price with free shipping. Or save more with 20% off your first order at thrivecausemetics.com/DMA.  Honeylove: Treat yourself to the most comfortable shapewear on earth and save 20% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/DMA  Find links to this week's sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors. 

Sara and Morton Sherman, authors of Resonant Minds, reveal how parents can use music intentionally to build stronger connections with teens, navigate emotions, and support adolescent development.Full Show NotesIn a fast-paced world flooded by digital distractions, it's sometimes difficult for parents to understand how to connect more closely with their teens. We might even wonder: Is music helping or distracting teens? They have their headphones on non-stop, but what music are they listening to, and why does it mean so much to them? Music is consistently present throughout teen culture, providing emotional refuge, identity reinforcement, and sometimes, a channel to express thoughts that might otherwise remain unspoken. But as parents, educators, and caregivers, how can we intentionally use music as a communication tool to foster emotional growth, mindfulness, and stronger family connections?In this week's conversation, we explore how music isn't just entertainment or background noise—it's a powerful gateway to teen emotions and a key to deeper family relationships when used mindfully and intentionally.Our guests this week, Sara Leila Sherman and Morton Sherman, authors of the new book Resonant Minds: The Transformative Power of Music, One Note at a Time, help parents explore ways to better understand and support their teens through music. Sara is a classical musician, educator, and founder of the children's concert series Mozart for Munchkins and the Little Mozart Foundation, while Morton is an esteemed educational leader renowned for visionary contributions in teaching and leadership. They're here to offer insight into the rich possibilities music provides for building emotional awareness, mindfulness, and family connections.How Music Shapes Emotions and MindsetSara and Mort explain that teenagers spend up to four hours a day on average listening to music—but not always intentionally or thoughtfully. Music, they explain, is always working subtly to influence our emotions. Intentionally choosing music can help teens shift their emotional state, whether they want to reduce stress, lift their mood, or even find calm and concentration. Sara reveals how a simple piece of music can help teens reach a calmer mindset or even create safe emotional exploration.Sara shares practical tips on how parents can help teens become more purposeful listeners. Asking teens to select songs as a mood-boosting family activity, for example, can create an emotional dialogue and a stronger familial bond. But this practice takes patience and openness—forcing teens to turn off their music or forbidding certain genres won't work and can backfire quickly. The real key, the Shermans explain, is to let music serve as a platform for conversations, connections, and ultimately self-discovery.Using Music for Mindfulness and Family HarmonySara highlights examples from her workshops, where music paired with mindful practices helps students handle anxiety or self-consciousness during challenging moments. Simple exercises, like breathing along with the rhythm of a carefully-selected piece of music, can significantly relieve tension. Additionally, choosing family music traditions or routines—like designating a specific artist or playlist to accompany certain tasks like homework, chores, or winding down—can set helpful rhythms for the entire family's daily routine.Mort emphasizes that music isn't just about individual wellbeing, but also about building community and understanding. He suggests that instead of shutting down teens' interests or dismissing music they appreciate but parents might find unsettling, we can choose to engage in it as an educational and bonding opportunity. Redirecting potentially negative influences requires a careful conversational approach, built on trust, respect, and dialogue. By showing respectful curiosity about their music choices, we not only acknowledge their emerging independence, we also reinforce healthy decision-making skills.Cultivating Positive Musical HabitsThe Shermans encourage parents and teens alike to develop “mindful musical habits” to promote emotional regulation and balance. Sara explains how picking anchoring pieces of music—those we connect strongly with and that reliably help us feel grounded—can become positive habits in both teens' and parents' daily landscapes. Mort adds the importance of experimenting and discovering what works best for each individual family member, reminding parents that music choice is deeply personal, and what works for one may not resonate for all. Mutual respect in listening develops lifelong learning, understanding, and family closeness.Mort also suggests playful, simple family activities, like guessing songs by tapping rhythms, sharing musical memories from each generation, or collectively creating family playlists, can extend bonding experiences. These intentional rituals turn fleeting family moments into treasured memories, layered with musical meaning that resonates far beyond adolescence.In the Episode…Whether your teen is an aspiring musician or just glued to their Spotify account, the Shermans provide practical, actionable ideas to make music a more intentional part of family life. Other topics covered include:How music can support teens who struggle socially or academicallyUsing musical earworms positively in your teen's daily routineWhy parents shouldn't outright ban controversial music but engage through listening and dialogueEmerging technologies and AI-generated personalized music—and how it impacts teens' musical consumptionTo learn more about Resonant Minds and find the Sherman's recommended playlist, visit resonantminds.com. You can also directly experience Sara's interactive musical sessions at Mozart for Munchkins events if you're located in New York City. Thanks so much for tuning in this week—share, subscribe, and stay tuned for more fascinating conversations next week!

In this episode of the Where Parents Talk podcast, host Lianne Castelino speaks with Dr. David Yeager, a renowned developmental psychologist, author, and father of four, about the science behind motivating tweens, teens, and young adults.A former grade school teacher and current Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, Dr. Yeager challenges common misconceptions about adolescent behaviour. He explains why shifting our mindset—from seeing teens as problems to recognizing their potential—is essential for effective parenting and teaching.As co-founder of the Texas Behavioural Science and Policy Institute, Dr. Yeager draws on his extensive research in adolescent development, motivation, engagement, and mental health. He explores how communication styles and feedback can either uplift or discourage young people, and shares actionable strategies from his new book, 10 to 25, to help teens thrive.Key Takeaways:Understanding adolescent hormonal changes can improve communication and connection.Mindful device use is critical to protecting teen mental health and social development.Open dialogue and encouragement of independence help parents counteract bullying.Early, honest conversations about consent and relationships support healthier teen development.Combining high expectations with empathy builds resilience and social media smarts.Evolving your parenting approach can better support your teen's emotional well-being and autonomy.Links referenced in this episode:whereparentstalk.comCompanies mentioned in this episode: University of Texas at Austin Texas Behavioral Science and Policy Institute This podcast is for parents, guardians, teachers and caregivers to learn proven strategies and trusted tips on raising kids, teens and young adults based on science, evidenced and lived experience.You'll learn the latest on topics like managing bullying, consent, fostering healthy relationships, and the interconnectedness of mental, emotional and physical health.

In this episode of the Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW interviews Sabrina Yavil, a former beauty industry executive turned entrepreneur, who shares her journey of creating Grime, a clean personal care brand for preteens and teens. Sabrina discusses the challenges of finding safe and effective products for her three boys, the battles over bath time, and her motivation to develop a solution that meets the needs of kids while ensuring their safety. The conversation highlights the importance of self-care, the complexities of product ingredients, and the journey of entrepreneurship in the beauty industry. In this conversation, Tess Connolly and Sabrina Yavil discuss the challenges of parenting, particularly around hygiene and self-care for children. They explore innovative products designed to simplify these routines, the importance of fostering independence in kids, and the impact of early hygiene habits on self-esteem. Sabrina shares her journey in developing clean beauty products and emphasizes the significance of ingredient awareness for children's health. The discussion also touches on family dynamics, gratitude, and personal growth.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sabrina Yavil and Grime 07:40 Sabrina's Journey in the Beauty Industry 12:07 The Challenge of Finding Safe Products for Kids 18:14 Navigating Bath Time Battles with Kids 21:31 Creating Grime: A Solution for Preteens and Teens 25:09 Innovative Hair Care Solutions 26:44 Navigating Parent-Child Hygiene Habits 28:57 empowering Independence in Self-Care 30:51 The Importance of Early Hygiene 32:20 Creating a Cool and Inviting Bathroom Environment 33:39 Product Development Journey 37:55 Gratitude and Family Dynamics  38:14 Ingredient Awareness and Safety 44:51 Reflection on Family and Personal Growth   Find out more here

The Holocaust is difficult to remember, difficult to grasp, and difficult to teach. But – to prevent it from happening again – it is history that demands our examination! Join Linda Lacour Hobar, author of The Mystery of History, for a pensive look at the Holocaust and what teens and tweens should know about it. Part 1 of this two-part podcast will touch on Hitler's evil ideology and politics.  Don't miss Part 2 which will cover the horrendous repercussions of Hitler's ideas, as well as the bravery of those who stood against it. Let us learn what NOT to repeat in history! (This podcast may not be appropriate for young or sensitive students.)

The Tweens & Teens are learning how to identify themselves and the question is... Are the parents listening and do they want to understand?Press PlayDISCLOSURE: IN THIS EPISODE, I AM DISCUSSING GENDER, AND THE DETAILS OF IT. IF THIS IS NOT SOMETHING YOU WERE PREPARED TO EXPLAIN TO YOUR KID PLEASE DO NOT Play.#gender #parentingFollow us on Chan & Pods channelSubscribe to the show on YT and on your podcast apphttps://cozy-womb-shop.creator-spring.comTikTok: @chanbepoddinInstagram @TheczywmbpodcastX @theczywmbpod#parentinginabetterwaySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/cozy-womb/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-driven Child, share how parents can build connection, support autonomy, set healthy expectations, and create more joy and calm in family life.Full Show NotesAs our children grow into teenagers, parents often find themselves uncertain about how deeply to intervene. We know our kids need our involvement and guidance, but teenagers also crave autonomy and independence. Teens often appear distant and difficult, getting frustrated when we try to help solve their problems, yet feeling hurt when we don't show enough interest. Add stress about school, extracurriculars, and the future into the mix, and family life can quickly spiral into frequent conflict, anxiety, and disconnection.How can we give our teenagers the steady presence they need without micromanaging or inadvertently amplifying their stress? What does being a relaxed, positive, and supportive parent actually look like in daily practice? How can we inspire our teens to be driven, motivated, and self-directed without resorting to threats, bribes, or constant reminders?Today's guests, William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, offer compassionate, practical solutions from their new book, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-driven Child. Bill is a clinical neuropsychologist, and Ned is the founder of Prep Matters. After two bestselling books on parenting and educational motivation, their latest interactive workbook provides powerful exercises and reflective prompts to help parents foster resilience, autonomy, and joy in their families. Together, Bill and Ned show how parents can become calm, confident leaders who empower teens rather than push or control them.Building a Calm and Confident Parental PresenceBill and Ned share why being a calm, non-anxious presence is one of the most powerful ways to support our teens. Rather than reflecting back our children's stress or adding to it with our own worries, they recommend setting the goal of becoming less emotionally reactive. Bill and Ned offer practical strategies, including meditation and cognitive practices, to train ourselves out of fear-based interactions. This calm approach reinforces teens' belief that they can handle life's ups and downs without parents needing to intervene constantly.Healthy Expectations vs. Anxiety-Driven PressureHow high should parents set their expectations? Bill and Ned dive deep into how expectations can provide either healthy motivation or become harmful sources of anxiety. They remind parents that expressing gentle confidence—that our teens are capable if they work at something—is far healthier and more motivating than demanding perfect outcomes. Bill and Ned reveal thoughtful ways to assess and realign your family's expectations around what truly matters to you and your teen.Using Joy and Humor to ConnectIt's easy for family life with teens to center solely around problems to solve—grades, chores, social relationships—leaving everyone exhausted and joyless. In this episode, Ned and Bill emphasize why prioritizing joyful family rituals like Friday movie nights, outings, or humor-filled interactions are so essential. By carving out time simply to enjoy and laugh together, you communicate that your child's presence is valued and loved unconditionally, no matter the stressors you face.Helping Teens Discover Their Own PathMany teens feel overwhelmed by other people's expectations—parents, teachers, coaches—and lose sight of what they truly want or care about. Bill and Ned offer profound insights into how to ask non-threatening, reflective questions about what teens genuinely love and value. Learning to help your teens identify their intrinsic motivators rather than external pressures is vital to building lifelong skills and confidence.In this Episode, we also discussTalking to teens about their core valuesThe surprising importance of "passionate pastimes"Addressing perfectionism and self-criticismStrategies to parent anxiety-prone or avoidant teensIf you're looking for proven approaches to calm anxiety around parenting teens and foster self-driven motivation, you won't want to miss Bill and Ned's tested wisdom. Their thoughtful, compassionate insights help every parent gracefully navigate the teenage years. Listen now, and make sure to subscribe and share!

Hey! This is the 260th episode. This week we talk Arcade Games, Tweens of the Stone Age, and A Flock of Foul Fowl!! Reach out: notgoodwithmatt@gmail.com

A few months ago, I had my friend and colleague Cathy Adams on the show to talk about her book Restoring Our Girls and raising daughters to be emotionally healthy in a complicated world. I knew then that I wanted to have a similar conversation for a future episode, but this time, focusing on boys, specifically about why many teen boys are struggling right now and what we, as parents, can do to support them. I also knew exactly who I wanted to bring on the show to talk about this — Dr. John Duffy. Through his private practice, bestselling books, and media appearances on CNN, NPR, and the Today Show, John has helped thousands of parents navigate the complex world of raising teens in today's world. And he's really got a pulse on the complex inner lives of today's teen boys.   In this conversation, we talk about the unique mental health challenges boys are facing today, from increased isolation and anxiety to the messages they are getting from society that are leading to self-doubt and emotional struggles. We also discussed how the pandemic intensified these issues and why paying attention to the media they are consuming is key to connecting with them. John also shared how neurodivergent boys may experience these challenges differently and shared practical strategies for fostering emotional resilience and self-worth.   About my guest Dr. John Duffy is a Chicago-based clinical psychologist, best-selling author, keynote speaker and national media expert. He has been in private practice for 25 years, specializing in work with adolescents, young adults and their parents. Dr. Duffy has written three best-selling books intended to provide parents with the tools to help their teens and young adults thrive in this persistent age of anxiety. For more than a decade, Dr. Duffy has also spoken to thousands of parents internationally through PTA's, Fortune 500 corporate programs, and other parenting networks. Dr. Duffy has written and contributed to articles for CNN, the Washington Post, The New York Times, Your Teen, Time and countless other media outlets. On television, he has been a regular contributing expert on NewsNation and Steve Harvey, and has shared his expertise through frequent appearances on CNN, the Today show, the Morning Blend, and hundreds of appearances on local and regional outlets. On radio, Dr. Duffy is a regularly appearing expert on WGN, WLS and NPR.He shares his current articles on his Substack titled On Parenting and Life.   Things you'll learn Why boys are facing a growing mental health crisis, with increasing isolation, lack of hope, and behavioral challenges How the pandemic intensified boys' disconnection, highlighting a significant gender divide in mental health How societal narratives around masculinity contribute to self-loathing and emotional struggles in boys How parents can foster connection by engaging with their sons' interests and understanding their media influences Why looking beyond surface behaviors helps parents support boys' emotional well-being and sense of identity   Resources Dr. John Duffy's website Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys by Dr. John Duffy Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child's Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence by Dr. John Duffy The Available Parent: Expert Advice for Raising Successful Teens and Tweens by Dr. John Duffy Dr. John Duffy on Facebook Dr. John Duffy on Instagram Dr. John Duffy's Substack, On Parenting & Life Parenting the New Teen with Dr. John Duffy (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Doug Bolton, author of Untethered, reveals why teenage misbehavior is a skill issue rather than a motivation problem—and explains how adults can teach teens emotional regulation, stress management, and accountability.Full Show NotesWe've all been there; after yet another homework battle, missed curfew, or bitter argument, we throw our hands up in frustration and wonder why can't our teen just behave? Typically we've been taught to see teens' "problem behaviors"—breaking rules, fighting us on homework, zoning out—is all a motivation issue. We've internalized the idea that teens “act out” because they're lazy, they don't care enough, or they're defiantly choosing not to listen. As a result, parents often respond by escalating punishments, removing privileges, or lecturing until everyone is angry or shut down.But what if we've got this all wrong? What if we're mislabeling stress behaviors and skill deficits as "bad motivation"? Shifting from a motivation-based view to seeing teen misbehavior as a lack of emotional regulation skills can be truly transformational for families. It turns out that when teens aren't meeting expectations, they're usually struggling because they haven't developed crucial skills yet, like moving easily from something they want to do (TikTok, gaming) towards something they don't (homework, chores). Instead of punishing teens, parents can address the root cause: helping them build essential, lifelong skills.To guide us in rethinking teen discipline, we're joined by Doug Bolton, psychologist, longtime principal, therapist, and author of Untethered: Creating Connected Families, Schools, and Communities to Raise a Resilient Generation. Doug spent over two decades as principal at Northshore Academy, a school designed specifically for emotionally and behaviorally struggling teens. He's observed firsthand how approaching misbehavior as a stress and skills problem, rather than a motivation issue, transforms kid's lives and relationships.In this episode, Doug explains why punishments and incentives typically fail with teenagers—and how we can shift to skill-building and connection instead. We'll learn how teens' brains work differently around stress and decision-making (hint: they're not fully mature until age 30!) and why we can't expect instant adult-level reasoning from them constantly. Doug gives us step-by-step guidance on how to respond effectively when teens are stressed, emotional, and reactive.Why Emotions, Not Motivation, Drive Behavior:Have you ever noticed how some days your teen can easily breeze through their homework, while other days they struggle intensely? Doug explains that this is one of the telltale signs of emotional and stress behavior. Teens' emotional regulation skills are still developing, and their ability to smoothly manage stressors fluctuates based on context and daily circumstances. Their struggles come from the normal teenage brain being a "work in progress," not from laziness or defiance.Doug illustrates how quickly adults escalate to punishments when they feel out of control, unintentionally reinforcing shame and fear. Instead, he shows how we can help teens practice emotional regulation strategies like breaks, walks, or even a few minutes playing video games or listening to music, to bring their brains back into calmer, rational territory.Effective Discipline: Teaching Skills, Not Enforcing PunishmentInstead of punishments that create resentment and anger, Doug emphasizes the importance of accountability. But this accountability isn't about suffering detention or grounding—it's about responsibility and making amends. He explains how parents can coach teens through thoughtful conversations about repairing harm done, being responsible, and explaining what happened. Teens are capable of mature reflection, empathy and restitution if we guide them, rather than shame them.Doug also speaks powerfully about the mistakes adults make when it comes to teen status and stress. How younger teens or "less successful" students experience enormous stress from being at the bottom of the peer or family-status ladder, and why we must watch carefully that we aren't subtly reinforcing these harmful hierarchies at home. Treating all kids fairly and helping each teen find purpose and status in their unique talents deeply reduces unhealthy stress.Helping Teens Find Their Purpose Through Service and ConnectionSometimes the teens labeled "troubled" or 'hard-to-reach" are actually those most capable of empathy and service. Doug shares moving stories of teens who were acting out or at risk, yet discovered purpose and meaning through helping younger students or mentoring peers through similar struggles (such as substance abuse recovery). Often the kids who've encountered the biggest hurdles have profound insights to share, if we provide opportunities for them to give.Doug explains how shifting these teens from being the only recipients of support (or discipline) to being providers and mentors themselves can radically change their trajectory, healing emotional wounds and boosting their sense of self-worth.In the Episode…There's a wealth of wisdom Doug shares beyond these topics! In our conversation, Doug and I also cover:Practical emotional regulation strategies for parents and teensHow to identify "stress behaviors" and address underlying stressorsWhy punishments work against connection (and what to do instead!)What parents can learn from couples' "bids for connection"Why teens who struggle most can often give the greatest giftsThis episode takes a closer look at what truly sparks teenage acting out behaviors—and how we as parents and educators can respond thoughtfully and effectively. Doug's approach reframes teen discipline from a power struggle toward understanding, connection, and mutual learning. If you're looking for realistic strategies to reduce confrontations and transform your relationship with your teen, be sure to tune in.Doug Bolton is author of Untethered: Creating Connected Families, Schools, and Communities to Raise a Resilient Generation. Check him out online at drdougbolton.com or FPSchicago.com to learn more. Thanks for listening, and don't forget to share this episode and subscribe to Talking to Teens—we'll see you next week!

Sara Billiet from the Kewanee Public Library joined Wake Up Tri-Counties to discuss events at the Kewanee Public Library in April. The Kewanee Public Library is buzzing with activities this April. "Coding for Tweens," postponed due to weather, is rescheduled for April 9th at 3:30 PM. Meanwhile, residents can look forward to a lively block party offering a bounce house, face painting, and engaging activities aimed at uniting the community in joy and camaraderie. Adding to the excitement, the Cinema at the Carnegie is presenting the enchanting musical "Wicked," with its first screening on April 10th at 2 PM, followed by another on April 29th at 10:30 AM. Get ready for a month filled with fun, creativity, and connection! For more information, visit https://kewaneelibrary.org/.

Elizabeth Husserl, author of The Power of Enough, joins us to discuss how parents can teach their teens a healthy relationship with money, how to use financial decisions to meet deeper needs, and how families can start meaningful conversations around money.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.Full Show NotesMoney can feel like a taboo topic—even within our own households. While we'd love our teens to grow up feeling confident and secure financially, it can seem challenging to teach them how to approach money effectively—let alone joyfully. Many young people enter adulthood without a clear sense of how to balance their financial resources with their deeper needs and desires. How can parents foster a healthier, happier, and more meaningful relationship between their teenagers and money?In this episode, we're diving into how to redefine and transform your family's relationship with money, shifting from scarcity to joy. Joining us on this journey is Elizabeth Husserl, the co-founder of Peak 360 Wealth Management and author of the new book The Power Of Enough: Finding Joy in Your Relationship with Money. Elizabeth combines expertise as a financial advisor with insights gained through her study of transpersonal and somatic psychology, teaching families how to view money and wealth in deeper, more fulfilling ways.In our conversation, Elizabeth explains how to help teens understand that wealth goes far beyond having money in the bank. She argues that a healthy relationship with money is about intentionally and creatively meeting our deeper human needs. Elizabeth shares her strategies and exercises developed from psychology and personal experience, guiding parents in teaching teens to manage financial resources thoughtfully and in alignment with their unique sense of fulfillment.Redefining Wealth & ScarcityElizabeth emphasizes the distinction between money and wealth. While money is simply a tool, wealth relates to our overall state of well-being. She describes how many people carry stories of scarcity handed down from previous generations—traumas, hardships, and struggles—despite those conditions no longer matching their everyday experience.By helping teenagers examine their personal and family money stories, parents can free their children from generational anxiety around money and encourage mindful, empowered financial experiences. Elizabeth outlines how we can become "anthropologists" of our money behaviors, identifying patterns and stories without judgment, and then choosing consciously how to move forward.The Wealth Mandala and Teaching Needs-Based DecisionsOne of Elizabeth's key tools—the Wealth Mandala—is a powerful exercise for teens and adults alike. Elizabeth shows us how to use this exercise to explore our core human needs such as connection, belonging, creativity, and safety. By mapping out areas where we feel fulfilled (or lacking), families learn to consciously channel their resources—financial and otherwise—to address what truly matters.Anxiety about money often comes from not truly understanding our needs. Elizabeth provides clear and concrete examples of how parents can guide their teenagers in understanding and articulating their deeper needs—beyond fleeting desires for material possessions—and learning to fulfill these needs in fulfilling, sustainable, and financially mindful ways.Having Honest Family Money ConversationsTalking directly with your children about family finances and money values can be intimidating. Elizabeth offers practical strategies and scripts, like the Target store exercise she implemented with her own daughter, demonstrating how to let teens make empowered spending decisions through a thoughtful dialogue.By responding without judgment or shaming, parents can teach teens to pause and critically evaluate their financial choices. Teens ultimately learn agency over their decisions and how to effectively balance immediate material desires against long-term financial health and satisfaction.In the Episode…Elizabeth's holistic and compassionate approach to money and wealth shows us how we can help teenagers develop a meaningful relationship to their resources. Our conversation also covers:How to change from a finite to an infinite view of workWhy having a 'conversation' with money can change your family dynamicSimple tools for teaching teens financial decision-making skillsHow somatic psychology can guide spending for greater life fulfillmentIf you're looking to shift your family's dialogue about money from tension and confusion toward joy and deep satisfaction, Elizabeth Husserl provides profound insights and accessible strategies. Be sure to check out her book, The Power Of Enough: Finding Joy in Your Relationship with Money, and find resources, guides, and more tools on her website elizabethhusserl.com.Thanks for listening! Don't forget to share, subscribe, and we'll see you next week.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.

This interview provides insights into the tween consumer market from YPulse's MaryLeigh Bliss. Learn about their tech habits, social media use (YouTube, TikTok, Fortnite), parental influence, and key trends shaping this generation. Discover how to effectively reach 8- to 12-year-olds with digital products, gaming, and diverse content.

Sex ed in schools isn't cutting it, and studies show that kids are turning to porn for answers. In this episode, Traci Thomas of The Stacks podcast joins us to suggest books that help tweens and teens navigate the complicated world of sex and relationships. We'll cover fiction and nonfiction — plus a few picks to help spice up the sex lives of parents! … Recent episodes about sex ed • #220 The Staircase • #221 How to Now (Accidentally) Raise a Rapist … Episode resources • More about Traci • Full list of books mentioned in this episode … Episode sponsors (using our links supports the show!) • Alloy: $20 off your 1st order at alloy.com/LONGEST • Hungryroot: 40% off 1st box + free item in every box for life at hungryroot.com/LONGSHORT with code LONGSHORT • Quince: free shipping + 365-day returns at quince.com/LONGSHORT … Join LST+ for community and access to You Know What, another show in the Longest Shortest universe! Follow us on Instagram Website: longestshortesttime.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy Wednesday! Today on the podcast, we chat with Erin from UNE! Erin is an occupational therapist whose students come volunteer and lead activities in our Tweens program each spring! Thanks, for joining us Erin! Also in this episode, Jeff shares his Mount Rushmore of flowers, Noel reviews his weekend activities and we play a round of STRIVEia all about the Spring! No new ingredients this week, but make sure you tune in next week to see what Chef Ryan cooks up! If you enjoy listening to the STRIVECast – please like, comment, share, or leave us a reaction! Who knows, you could even be the next listener of the week! Happy Listening!!

Caroline Fleck, author of Validation, explains how to make teens feel deeply understood and supported, highlighting powerful validation tools, avoiding common parenting pitfalls, and uncovering practical strategies to improve teen communication and trust.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.Full Show NotesWe often hear that parenting teenagers is one of the hardest yet most rewarding experiences. Is your teen withdrawing, shutting down, or resisting connection? Does it feel like no matter what you say, you're met with silence, frustration, or emotion-driven outbursts? If communication in your household feels increasingly difficult, you're not alone—parents everywhere are struggling to maintain open, positive relationships with their teenagers. What we may not realize is that our well-meaning responses often discourage teens from fully sharing their experiences, pushing them to close themselves off at precisely the time we hope they'll open up.That's where validation comes in—not vague praise or mere agreement, but true validation that meets teens where they are and makes them feel genuinely seen and understood. It's a powerful technique drawn from psychotherapy, designed specifically to reach even the most resistant individuals. Learning validation can transform your interactions with your teenager, making your communication not just easier and more frequent, but deeper, warmer, and more meaningful.In today's episode, we're joined by validation expert Dr. Caroline Fleck, author of Validation. Caroline is a practicing therapist and expert in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), the clinical approach that developed these powerful validation techniques to treat the most challenging clients. She shares why validation was such a groundbreaking discovery in psychology—and why every parent can use it to create profound transformations at home.In our engaging conversation, Caroline introduces the dynamic and practical levels of validation, offering a "validation ladder" technique to help parents authentically relate to their teens' experiences. We discuss common pitfalls, explore why certain ways of communicating with younger children become ineffective—or even counterproductive—as they grow into adolescence, and clarify how validation can be the bridge that adapts along with your teen.Why Validation Matters for TeensValidation isn't just about making teens feel momentarily better—it has tangible, scientifically-backed effects on their emotional health, behavior, and trust. Caroline introduces powerful research that shows teens who anticipate genuine, validating conversations from their parents are likely to be more forthcoming with important details about their lives. Validation communicates that teens' emotions, thoughts, and experiences make sense and are meaningful, which is critical at a developmental stage when acceptance and belonging become extremely important.To illustrate, Caroline shares insightful experiences from her own clinical practice working directly with teenagers. She demonstrates how stepping into teens' worlds in a validating way builds powerful trust and leads to greater openness—even in teens known for being especially guarded. Surprisingly, this doesn't require heavy conversations—in fact, often doing your nails or chatting about a favorite comic can be the launching pad for deeper trust and connection.The Validation LadderCaroline breaks down her validation framework into different levels—what she refers to as the "validation ladder." From simple attention (being mindfully present) at the lowest rung, to logical understanding at mid-level, and finally to a powerful empathy level where parents disclose and relate emotionally, each rung offers progressively deeper validation.But Caroline also warns of risks at each stage. For instance, while empathy and disclosure can powerfully connect, too much disclosure or missing the emotional mark can create disconnection. Validation is subtle, with decreasing margin for error as you climb higher on Caroline's ladder—but it has undeniable, life-changing power when you get it right.Finding the Balance with TeensTeens are paradoxical. On one hand, they want to be understood as unique individuals; on the other, feeling "normal" and accepted by peers is paramount. Caroline walks us through how parents can walk that fine line—validating the emotional intensity of first-time teen experiences while still helping teens see their responses as understandable and normal.One of Caroline's favorite tips? The "Caroline Qualifier," a strategic technique that allows parents to validate the uniqueness of a teen's experience without alienating them or trivializing what they are going through. We discuss practical examples of how to implement this while navigating first breakups and intense friendships.Why "Doing Something" MattersSometimes, simply acknowledging feelings verbally isn't enough. Caroline explains how taking concrete actions can become our most powerful validation tool—clearly communicating to the teen, “I hear you, I value what you're going through, and it's important enough that I'm going to do something about it.” But how do parents decide when to act? Caroline gives critical perspective on when this is helpful, and importantly, when taking action can actually backfire.She offers practical strategies parents can use to show concretely—without becoming controlling or invalidating—that a teen's feelings and needs matter enough for concrete steps to be taken.Powerful Strategies Explored in This Episode:How self-disclosure transforms your teen's trust in youProposing and its Jedi mind-trick impact on communicationFinding the "golden snitch" to reinforce positive behaviorsWhen NOT to validate: handling emotional outbursts constructivelyHow seemingly small invalidating comments can become lasting negative self-talkWant to learn simple—but powerful—validation skills that transform your relationship with your teen? Listen to today's episode with Caroline Fleck for expert validation tools, clear guidance on common parenting pitfalls, and real-world strategies you can use today to forge deeper understanding with your teen. Don't forget to subscribe and share Talking to Teens with friends and family who have teens in their lives!Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.

Send Lauren a text! In this episode, I explore the link between smartphone use and anxiety in tweens and teens. I'll introduce the term "problematic smartphone use," explain what it looks like, how to recognize if your child is struggling with it, and share practical (as well as creative) strategies to help them set healthier boundaries with their phone.✨ What's Bringing Me More ZenTune in after the break to discover what recently brought me more zen. I was the lucky winner of a contest at a local salon and day spa! I'll tell you about the fabulous services I won and one in particular which I will definitely be returning for! Even if you're not local, I guarantee this service is offered in your area too ☺️If you're local to Fairfield County or Litchfield County, CT, check out the fabulous salons, DPZ on Main in Danbury or DPZ North in Litchfield: https://thedpz.com/

Kathleen deLaski, author of Who Needs College Anymore?, joins us to discuss the evolving necessity of college education in light of new career pathways, rising tuition costs, and the changing job market influenced by technology and skills-based hiring.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.Full Show NotesIn the rapidly changing landscape of education and employment, parents are left questioning the value of a college degree for their teenagers. With soaring tuition fees and an evolving job market that increasingly values skills and experience over formal education, it's no wonder many are rethinking the traditional path. As artificial intelligence and automation continue to reshape industries, the future of college education becomes even more uncertain.To unpack these transformative trends, we're joined this week by Kathleen deLaski, the founder and board chair of the Education Design Lab. Kathleen, a senior advisor at Harvard's Project on Workforce and a professor at George Mason University, recently authored Who Needs College Anymore?, offering a fresh perspective on the traditional college track. Through her work and personal experiences, Kathleen shines a light on how parents can navigate and advise their teens in this shifting educational paradigm.The Evolution of 'Higher Education'The script for achieving the American Dream, once dominated by the pursuit of a college degree, is being rewritten. Kathleen shares insights into how more than half of high school graduates venture towards college, yet less than 40% achieve a bachelor's degree. She delves into the inflated expectations for degrees in the job market and highlights the blurring lines between traditional blue- and white-collar roles—changes driven by technological advancements.Beyond the College DegreeKathleen explores the burgeoning pathways that don't involve college, acknowledging the roles apprenticeships and industry certifications can play. She argues for a mindset shift, urging educational institutions to offer hands-on experience outside conventional classroom settings. The traditional college experience might still benefit some, but for others, Kathleen advocates exploring micro-pathways that offer direct routes into the workforce.Addressing the Last MileOne of the significant hurdles for college graduates is the "last mile," or the transition from education to employment—a common pitfall Kathleen identifies as a gap colleges must address. She emphasizes the importance of obtaining career-related experiences and the proactive role colleges and students should undertake to ensure job readiness. As artificial intelligence becomes a staple in recruitment, standing out requires fostering real-world skills and networks.In the Episode...Throughout our conversation, Kathleen offers thoughtful insights into these pressing questions:How can parents support teens' interests while considering modern educational pathways?What role do certifications and digital skills wallets play in validating competencies without degrees?How can we facilitate skills-based hiring to redefine job readiness?Kathleen deLaski's perspective is invaluable for any parent navigating their teen's educational choices amidst rapid changes in higher education. Her work urges us to reconsider our approach to student success, encouraging dialogue and action to adapt to the future of learning. For those interested in learning more about Kathleen's thought-provoking work, visit whoneedscollegeanymore.org, where resources and discussion guides are available. Don't forget to check out her book for a comprehensive understanding of how degrees might lose their gravity in the coming years. Stay tuned and subscribe for a deeper dive into the education of tomorrow.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.

Anne-Laure Le Cunff, author of Tiny Experiments, joins us to discuss how an experimental mindset can offer teens a refreshing, exploratory approach to personal success, allowing them to break free from linear goal setting and conventional expectations.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.Full Show NotesIn our quest to guide teens toward successful futures, we often urge them to set concrete, linear goals. We believe these goals offer structure and direction—yet this mindset may inadvertently restrict creativity, unique pursuits, and personal growth in our teens. What if, instead of marching along predetermined paths, teens explored a series of small, impactful experiments that revealed their interests and potential?Today, we're exploring a whole new way of setting teens up for success. Anne-Laure Le Cunff, ex-Googler, neuroscience Ph.D. candidate, and author of Tiny Experiments, reveals how embracing an experimental mindset can help teens navigate life with creativity and freedom. Through her work at Ness Labs, Anne-Laure encourages adopting experimentation over goal-setting to discover personal and unique paths.In her book, Anne-Laure proposes that teens be encouraged to test "tiny experiments" in various areas of their lives—whether it's trying a new hobby, exploring a budding interest, or learning a different skill. Instead of focusing on long-term commitments or the fear of making mistakes, these experiments allow for trial, error, and—most importantly—learning. This approach empowers teens to gather experience and data from which they can draw conclusions for the future.Cultivating CuriosityTeens are naturally curious, and Anne-Laure asserts we should nurture this trait. She suggests parents help teens create a "curiosity circle," where they can explore interests in a group setting, driving communal and personal growth. Recalling how adulthood urged us to “figure it all out,” Anne-Laure invites parents to reminisce about their own teenage years and prioritize exploration over immediate resolutions for their children.Energy and Decision MakingManaging energy, not just time, is crucial for effective experimentation. Anne-Laure highlights the importance of tracking one's energy and aligning activities with peak times for productive engagement. Reflecting on energy levels can enhance experiment outcomes—ensuring that teens feel empowered to optimize their personal schedules for better results.Overcoming Activation BarriersA significant challenge lies in initiating the first step. Anne-Laure introduces frameworks like “the pact” and “plus, minus, next” which scaffold the experimental process, breaking down larger tasks into manageable pieces and prompting reflection. This helps teens confidently explore new initiatives by emphasizing commitment, action, and reflection over mere completion.ConclusionAdopting an experimental mindset allows teens to approach uncertainties in life with agility and resilience—turning challenges into chances to learn. By encouraging experiments, we can prevent the analysis paralysis that often accompanies teen decision-making processes, fostering a more balanced, engaged approach to life.In the Episode…On top of the above, Anne-Laure and I also discuss:How perfectionism undermines opportunityThe role of community in shared learning experiencesPractical examples of setting up a teen-led experimentTracking progress and understanding setbacksFor more insights from Anne-Laure Le Cunff, visit Ness Labs or sign up for her newsletter. If you enjoyed this episode, help us spread the word, share with friends, and subscribe to Talking to Teens for more enlightened discussions.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.

The Fat Mascara family is part of the show this week! Jess & Jenn share listener voicemails discussing Sephora birthday parties and tweens wearing makeup. We also talk about proposed legislation in California to ban the sale of “anti-aging skincare” to children. Plus, why is the FDA insisting that sunscreens in America should be tested on animals? We'll discuss that, as well as Jess's recent adventure with Fraxel, eyeliners for your (dark) chocolate brown years, and two delightful lip treats.Episode recap: fatmascara.com/blog/ep-567Products mentioned in this episode: shopmy.us/collections/1321546Sponsor links & discount codes: fatmascara.com/sponsorsPrivate Facebook Group: Fat Mascara Raising a WandTikTok & Instagram: @fatmascara, @jenn_edit, @jessicamatlin + contributors @garrettmunce, @missjuleeSubmit a "Raise A Wand" product recommendation: text us or leave a voicemail at 646-481-8182 or email info@fatmascara.com Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/fatmascara. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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A problem with disrespect from a child always goes back to a dysfunction in the parent-child relationship.   Summary When our sweet children enter the teen years and adolescence is upon them, something happens that tends to cause parents stress and dismay - back talk and disrespect.  Some of this is immaturity on the part of the child and some is simply lack of training in relationships.  It is our job as parents to teach our children how to express their feelings, disagree, and even debate while maintaining an attitude of respect towards us and therefore, other people in their lives.  The family is the training ground for life!  In this podcast we will give you some perspective on the struggles teens have, tell you what NOT to do and explain the Three C's of responding to a mouthy teen.  Listen in!   Key Takeaways A disrespectful child is, simply put, someone no one wants to be around. But the good news is that parents can change this!  We can help our child become someone we not just love, but like.   Yelling, punishing, taking things personally, and debating with your teen does not work.  Avoid these reactions.  Tweens and teens need us to guide them on acceptable ways of speaking to others.  This will help them be successful in many areas of life.  CONTROL YOURSELF - If you are triggered by your teen and fly off the handle, ask yourself why and get your emotional life in order.  CONSEQUENCES - It is our responsibility to help them see what happens when they don't control their tongue.  The world's consequences will be much harder than ours!  COACH - We need to point our teens towards adulthood so they can see we are not treating them as a child, we are teaching them how to be an adult.  Couple Discussion Questions Are we happy with the way that our children speak to us?  Can we identify areas of difficulty with them?  What would be a quick, acceptable consequence for our child's disrespect?  Which one of us would be best to talk to them about this?  How can we coach our child to do better?    Links: Link to Cana90 https://messyfamilyproject.org/programs/cana90/ Link to Beloved Event https://arrayofhope.regfox.com/beloved  

Paul Sunseri, author of "Gentle Parenting Reimagined," shares strategies for fostering respectful and productive communication with teenagers, focusing on maintaining calm authority and handling defiance with effective behavior change techniques.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.Full Show NotesParenting teens often feels like a constant negotiation, where requests are met with pushback, homework remains unfinished, and bedtime mysteriously shifts later and later. As a parent, you might find yourself repeating the same requests over and over, only to engage in a frustrating dance of argumentation that doesn't end until you're both worn out. The challenge is getting teens to engage respectfully and follow through the first time--all without nagging or raising your voice.Traditional approaches may no longer work as our teens become more independent and begin to test boundaries like never before. However, it's crucial to establish a balance between gentle connection and firm guidance to effectively communicate and set limits. How can we aspire to keep our cool while managing the everyday defiance?This week's podcast guest, Paul Sunseri, is here to help us find that harmony. Paul is a clinical psychologist, father of four, and author of "Gentle Parenting Reimagined". With over 40 years of experience working with children and adolescents with serious mental health conditions, he has developed Intensive Family Focused Therapy, specializing in behaviorally challenging youth. Paul's extensive experience informs his book, where he combines behavioral strategies with gentle parenting practices to provide actionable advice for dealing with oppositional and defiant kids.In our conversation, Paul describes how parents often feel outmatched by their teenager's ability to escalate arguments or throw them off course with "red herrings"--distracting statements meant to derail. Paul explains how to spot these diversions and prevent them from sidetracking you, maintaining focus on your original request with calm firmness.Cultivating Effective CommunicationFor parents, mastering a calm and confident “vibe” is crucial. Paul highlights that barking orders often results in more resistance—a counterproductive cycle. Instead, he advocates for maintaining a matter-of-fact tone that sets clear expectations and consequence pathways without generating conflict.This episode also explores transitioning from traditional commands to more collaborative asks. As kids mature, they respond better to peer-like respect and autonomy rather than dictatorial orders. Paul introduces a language restructuring strategy that can increase cooperation by treating teens as responsible individuals capable of managing their tasks—if they can be persuaded to see the personal benefits in doing so.Dealing with DefianceWhen kids push boundaries through disrespect or defiance, leveraging privileges effectively becomes essential. Paul shares his methodology of “pause, earn, and return” for reinforcing positive behavior without resorting to extended punishments devoid of redemption paths. These principles rest on the concept that privileges, particularly screen time, can be used as motivation to encourage desired behaviors.Through tweaks like establishing daily privilege earning systems for challenging youths, parents are guided on instilling responsibility and routine, even in seemingly intractable scenarios like morning school readiness.Reinforcing Limits with LovePaul underscores the importance of reinforcing behavioral limits with affection, humor, and attentive engagement. A harmonious family dynamic, he claims, stems from a foundation of warmth, humor, and mutual respect—qualities that make turning away from negative conduct all the more desirable to teens.In the Episode...My conversation with Paul yields a wealth of wisdom for parents grappling with unruly teen behavior. Beyond the strategies discussed, Paul and I also touch upon:How to handle anger and escalations effectivelyThe significance of raising expectations for teens' social and developmental growthUsing humor for reinforcement rather than conflictStrategies for encouraging teenagers to take on responsibilities, like driver's licenses or part-time jobsFor more, dive into Paul's insightful guide on managing teen behavior at myifft.org, and keep developing productive and respectful communication with your teens. Don't forget to subscribe to Talking to Teens for more episodes full of valuable insights every week!Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - First things first, why are schools still sending out candy grams in this current climate with a loneliness epidemic on the rise?    - Cliques and posses that form in middle school are often rife with envy, jealousy, gossip, and temptation - how to help our kids navigate this.    - What advice to give your child when they are left out in a friend group.   - How to help a child who tends to avoid conflict in their interpersonal relationships build a greater tolerance for joining in and addressing things directly.   - “There is a difference between a kid who says 'I am going to let this go' vs. 'I am going to hold this in.'"   - Understanding “social currency” and how that impacts children, especially as they move into the stage of development where their attention begins to move away from their parents and much more heavily toward their peers.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

Sharon Saline, Psy.D., helps parents understand the biopsychology of adolescent development and use practical, strength-based approaches that foster cooperation with resistant, oppositional tweens & teens and help them develop self-esteem and resilience. Teens with ADHD: More Resources Free Download: Transform Your Teen's Apathy Into Engagement Self-Test: Could Your Child Have Oppositional Defiant Disorder? Read: You Can't Change Your Defiant Teenager… Read: “Take a Sabbatical from Teaching and Judging” Access the video and slides for podcast episode #543 here: https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/teen-behavior-adhd-adolescent-parenting-help/ Thank you for listening to ADDitude's ADHD Experts podcast. Please consider subscribing to the magazine (additu.de/subscribe) to support our mission of providing ADHD education and support.

Send us a textDo you struggle to get your teen to go to bed at a decent time?Are they so overloaded with homework and activities that late nights seem unavoidable?Do mornings feel like a constant battle to get them up?Jessica Bryant, representative of the Better Sleep Council (BSC), internationally recognized pediatric sleep strategist, keynote speaker, and the founder of Sleep Happy Consulting, is dedicated to answering the questions exhausted parents have about their kid's sleepless days and nights. In a world that often prioritizes relentless busyness, Jessica is a staunch advocate for placing rest at the forefront of family life. She firmly believes that well-rested kids have the potential to make a profound impact on the world. Jessica is passionate about helping families prioritize rest and create calmer, more rested homes.Where to find Jessica:Here website: https://www.sleephappyconsulting.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sleephappy/Link to Better Sleep Council's research on teen sleep mentioned on the show:  https://bettersleep.org/uncategorized/teens-and-sleep-2/Is your teen struggling to wake up in the morning? Grab Jessica's Free Bedtime Chart Here > https://www.sleephappyconsulting.com/free Support the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERESign up for our Moms of Tweens and Teens newsletter HERE Find more encouragement, wisdom, and resources: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Join our Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Momsoftweensandteens Find awesome resources on MOTTs University: https://www.mottsuniversity.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen's unique needs during these pivotal years. Get on the waitlist to get all the details and to be the first to know when it opens! https://momsoftweensandteens.lpages.co/waiting-list-for-membe...

Melanie Shankle, author of Here Be Dragons, joins us to share insights from her complex mother-daughter relationship and discuss how parents can break generational cycles, empower their teens, and handle high school drama with grace.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.Full Show NotesParenting teenagers often means we find ourselves navigating uncharted waters, especially when attempting to break away from the generational cycles of how we were raised. As parents, we aim to avoid the pitfalls our parents may have encountered, ensuring that we foster healthy relationships and nurture authentic communication with our children. But with social media, school pressures, and developmental changes, there are always dragons to slay along the way.This week, we're delving into the struggles and joys of raising teens with Melanie Shankle, author of seven books, including her newest release, Here Be Dragons. Melanie opens up about her history with her own mother and how it influenced her journey of motherhood. Her personal experiences and stories have shaped her perspective and allowed her to break the cycle, raising her daughter with intention and resilience.In the conversation, Melanie and I touch on the complex realities of teenage friendships and the competitive pressures that come with them. Melanie reflects on how witnessing mean girl dynamics in her daughter's high school experience inspired her book and highlighted the importance of being a supportive parent without helicoptering. We explore how these teenage social challenges can sometimes echo the emotional turmoil experienced in their parents' childhoods.The Perils of High School FriendshipsTeenage friendships can be fraught with challenges, especially in a social media-saturated world. While everyone feels they need to be part of the group, Melanie notes how social media adds an unprecedented layer of complexity, allowing for relentless bullying that follows teens beyond the schoolyard. Her daughter Caroline's real-life challenges with peer drama serve as a poignant reminder of the importance of teaching resilience and self-care.Melanie's approach involved empowering her daughter to tackle her social challenges with dignity, encouraging Caroline to take decisive actions, whether by confronting her peers or turning to school authorities when necessary. This empowerment not only helped Caroline stand up for herself but also forged life-long skills she continues to use.Fathers as Role ModelsMelanie elaborates on the critical role her father played in shaping her self-worth and stability, despite having a turbulent relationship with her mother. The dynamics with her father shed light on the significant impact fathers have as role models in their daughters' lives. Melanie underscores the perseverance her father showed, being a constant presence despite difficulties, a lesson she passes along to parents on how resilience and love can transcend challenging circumstances.Understanding the complex emotions between parents and children can help foster better relationships, providing teens with a stable and loving foundation even amidst family disruptions.Navigating Generational HealingDrawing from her experiences growing up with a narcissistic mother, Melanie reflects on the crucial steps of breaking generational cycles. From learning to express her own needs in adulthood to creating a household where her child's voice is heard and valued, Melanie's story is Testament to overcoming the shadows of the past.Parents will resonate with Melanie's anecdotes of finding her own voice and her conscious efforts to parent with empathy and openness. Creating an emotionally healthy environment in which parents can communicate openly with their teens lays the groundwork for trust, ensuring a better life for generations to come.In the Episode…Melanie shares more invaluable wisdom throughout the conversation. On top of the discussed themes, we also talk about:How to equip teens for life's hardshipsAddressing teenage drinking attitudesResponding to difficult parental relationshipsTransforming personal struggles into life lessonsCheck out Melanie's latest book Here Be Dragons, and follow her on Instagram @MelanieShankle for more updates. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe and share with others who might benefit from these powerful stories and lessons.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.

Send us a textNone of us get through this life without experiencing grief and loss. The question is, how do we work through that loss and come to believe that we can actually love our lives again? My special guest today is Krista St-Germain, who knows firsthand what it means to face unimaginable loss since tragically and unexpectedly losing her spouse in 2016, leaving her with a title she never thought she'd have: widow. Now a Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, life coach, and host of the Widowed Moms Podcast, Krista has been able to take from her own experience and help hundreds of widows navigate their lives after loss and not only survive but thrive and love their lives. In this episode, we're going to dive deep into grief and loss - How do we navigate all the feelings?What the biggest myths about grief are.What post-traumatic growth is, and how this can make a huge difference in our healing process.How we can support our kids through grief and loss.And how we can come to not just survive but thrive.Where to find Krista and Resource Shared:Website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista/Free Download: Support the showCheck out our Moms of Tweens and Teens website HERESign up for our Moms of Tweens and Teens newsletter HERE Find more encouragement, wisdom, and resources: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Join our Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Momsoftweensandteens Find awesome resources on MOTTs University: https://www.mottsuniversity.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen's unique needs during these pivotal years. Get on the waitlist to get all the details and to be the first to know when it opens! https://momsoftweensandteens.lpages.co/waiting-list-for-membe...

Send Lauren a text! In this episode, I'm tackling the Sunday Scaries - those end-of-weekend worries that so many tweens and teens experience. If your child's weekend joy turns to anxiety as Monday approaches, this episode is for you!

Blaise Aguirre, author of I Hate Myself, joins us to discuss the pervasive issue of self-hatred among teenagers, explore the role of comparison and perfectionism in self-criticism, and highlight the benefits of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.Full Show NotesFor many parents, watching their teen grapple with self-critical thoughts can be heartbreaking. It's a common refrain to hear kids say, "I'm so stupid," or "I can never do anything right." When these thoughts persist, they can become ingrained, leading to deep-seated self-hatred. Addressing these feelings early can prevent them from becoming a dominant force in a teenager's life. But how can parents help their teens escape this negative mindset and view themselves with compassion and understanding?Understanding and dismantling self-loathing in teens is critical. Today's guest, Dr. Blaise Aguirre, a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and author of the new book, I Hate Myself, provides invaluable insight into this pervasive issue. Dr. Aguirre is renowned for his work at McLean Hospital, where he has developed programs for teens with self-destructive behaviors and suicidal tendencies, utilizing Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to help manage these complex emotions.In the episode, Dr. Aguirre explains that self-hatred is often a deeply internalized perception of oneself, not merely occasional self-criticism. This profound dislike integrates into a teen's core identity, creating a permanent, immutable sense of worthlessness that shadows them constantly. He discusses how identifying self-hatred requires more than just taking a teen's words at face value, particularly when they respond with "I'm fine." Instead, parents and caregivers must look for deeper signs: perfectionism, people-pleasing behavior, and excessive self-criticism.The Role of DBT in Combating Self-HateDr. Aguirre introduces us to the principles of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a method combining Zen mindfulness and behavioral therapy. DBT aims to help teens manage emotions, develop coping skills, and foster a sense of self-worth. This therapeutic approach has been incredibly effective in reducing suicidal behavior, by first accepting where a teen is emotionally and then helping them build skills to navigate through these challenging feelings.In particular, Dr. Aguirre highlights how DBT can dismantle the illusion that self-hatred is a permanent trait. Through mindfulness and practice, teens can learn to see themselves not as inherently flawed, but as individuals capable of change and value. This transformation is pivotal in helping them move past beliefs tied to early childhood experiences that fostered their negative perceptions.The Danger of ComparisonsWhile guiding teens towards self-acceptance, avoiding comparisons is crucial. Dr. Aguirre emphasizes how societal and familial pressures can exacerbate self-hatred, especially when teens are pushed to measure themselves against siblings or peers. Instead of uplifting, these comparisons can anchor teens to unrealistic standards of perfection that intensify their dissatisfaction and critical self-view.Dr. Aguirre suggests that parents reframe comparisons. Allowing teens to measure their growth against themselves—focusing on becoming more self-compassionate and less reliant on external validation—can break the cycle of detrimental comparisons and encourage personal development.In the Episode…In our conversation with Blaise Aguirre, we dissect the nuances of self-hatred among teens and explore various ways to combat it. Tune in to gain insights on:How perfectionism relates to self-hatredThe importance of listening and validation in communicationDeveloping a new framework for self-compassionPractical steps for creating a supportive home environmentFor parents and caregivers, learning about and addressing self-hate in teens is essential for fostering healthier developmental outcomes. If you enjoyed this episode, consider exploring more from Dr. Blaise Aguirre and understanding how his work at McLean Hospital continues to impact young lives. Listen and subscribe to stay informed and empowered in supporting your teen.Sponsored by Equip: Eating disorder treatment that works—delivered at home. Visit equip.health/talking for more information, and a free consultation.

I had the most amazing time at PPA's Imaging Expo and if you are one of my new listeners I met in Dallas…HELLO!!We have the most incredible industry. We are so fun, dedicated, creative, smart and love to hang out together. I feel soooo blessed ho have had 40 years in this community.This episode features Debbie McFarland, a photographer with 27 years of experience who's found her passion in empowering tweens through photography. Tweens, ages 9-12, are at a critical stage of growth and transformation, and Debbie shares how capturing their beauty and confidence has not only impacted her clients but also grown her business.Here's what you'll learn: • Why tweens are an underserved market and how focusing on them can make a meaningful difference. • Debbie's marketing strategies—from partnering with local businesses and therapists to hosting large community events. • How heart-driven work leads to success, including her global kindness initiative, Sparks of Kindness.Debbie's story reminds us that passion, creativity, and connection can transform your business. Tune in for actionable tips and inspiration to incorporate more meaning into your work while thriving financially!and connect with Deb at cedarhillstudio@comcast.net www.cedarhillstudios.comConnect with Photography Business Coach Luci Dumas: Website Email: luci@lucidumas.comInstagram FacebookYouTube

Parenting through the teen years is a wild ride—full of highs, lows, and everything in between. We get tangled up in our kids' struggles, feeling responsible for fixing things, worried about their future, and desperate to help. But what if the real work is about stepping back, seeing them fully, and trusting their journey? In this episode, we explore the power of encouragement—not as empty praise, but as a way to build resilience, connection, and confidence. If you're deep in the muck with your teen, this is for you. Take a breath and listen in. For full show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/547-energetic-encouragement-for-emotional-teens-and-tweens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're keeping the All Stars episodes coming this year!! Chris Olsen makes his grand return to the show to debrief the Golden Globes with Drew, talk about their shared obsession with Meghan Trainor, the importance of taking breaks, theatre boarding school, making your therapists laugh, the power of the Ozdust ballroom scene in Wicked, sleep paralysis, the Club Chris tour, and so much more. Chris's IG: https://www.instagram.com/chrisolsen/?hl=en Chris's Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chris?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Wonder and strangeness commingle with the commonplace and universal in Danielle Chapman's “Trespassing with Tweens.” In a not-quite mirroring, a human mother and her children stand and watch together in awe as a great blue heron flaps in and feeds its two offspring. The pleasures found here are profound and multiple – the joys in seeing, in sharing an experience of seeing, in seeing with fresh eyes, and in being seen.Danielle Chapman is a poet, essayist, and lecturer in English at Yale University. Her most recent collection of poetry, Boxed Juice, was published in 2024 by Unbounded Edition Press. Her previous collection of poems, Delinquent Palaces, was published by Northwestern University Press in 2015, and her memoir, Holler: A Poet Among Patriots, was released by Unbound Edition Press in 2023. For several years, Chapman served as the Director of Literary Arts and Events for the City of Chicago, and she was also an editor at Poetry Magazine. She currently teaches Shakespeare and creative writing and lives in Hamden, Connecticut, with her family.Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.We're pleased to offer Danielle Chapman's poem and invite you to subscribe to Pádraig's weekly Poetry Unbound Substack newsletter, read the Poetry Unbound book, or listen to past episodes of the podcast. We also have two books coming out in early 2025 — Kitchen Hymns (new poems from Pádraig) and 44 Poems on Being with Each Other (new essays by Pádraig). You can pre-order them wherever you buy books.