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Dr. Stephanie Melka returns to discuss VBAC, or vaginal birth after cesarean. In this episode, she and Dr. Fox review risks associated with VBAC, which patients are candidates for VBAC, and choosing between cesarean and vaginal deliveries.
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Tori shares her transformative journey through pregnancy loss, anxiety, and ultimately triumph. After experiencing a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks, Tori conceived her son Sol but faced a pregnancy filled with complications including fibroids, subchorionic haematoma, and ultimately placental insufficiency requiring an emergency caesarean at 40 weeks. Her second pregnancy with daughter Juno was a complete surprise that led to the healing VBAC home water birth she'd always dreamed of. Tori's story beautifully illustrates how subsequent pregnancies can offer opportunities for healing, especially with the right support and preparation. She also shares her challenging breastfeeding journey with her first child and the EMDR therapy that helped her process the grief, ultimately leading to a successful breastfeeding relationship with her second baby.Sponsor:Today's episode is brought to you by Moonpig. Remember the excitement of finding a beautiful card in your mailbox? Moonpig has brought that special feeling back to over 4 million Aussies.As parents, we know how important it is to celebrate life's milestones. Speaking of birthdays, it's actually my son Nik's 12th birthday this week, so we've jumped on Moonpig, like we always do, to create some personalised cards for him. We've also made a beautiful mug with a family picture on it, and we really hope that he enjoys it.With over 33,000 personalised cards for every occasion, you can create something truly special from home. Add your own photos, scan in your handwriting, or even include QR codes for video messages. It's so much more than a basic supermarket card – it's a keepsake they'll treasure.Starting from just $9.99, you can create something beautiful through their website or the Moonpig app. And here's something special for our Australian Birth Stories community – enjoy 50% off your first card plus free standard shipping when you use the code ABS at checkout.Visit Moonpig.com today. Moonpig – Making life's moments magical, one card at a time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Send us a textIn this episode, I talk with Tenae, a mum of three, who opens up about her powerful VBAC birth story — from an unexpected emergency caesarean to two empowering vaginal births after caesarean. Her story is honest, emotional, and full of insights for anyone navigating pregnancy, birth choices, and recovery.In this episode, we discuss:Tenae's experience of her first emergency caesarean just before the pandemicHow feelings of failure and isolation led her to seek an empowered VBACThe decision-making process behind choosing a VBAC — and the importance of informed consentOvercoming hospital pressure and learning to trust her instinctsThe difference between her two VBAC births — one induced, one spontaneousNavigating fear, medical intervention, and unexpected challenges during labourPostnatal recovery: managing prolapse symptoms and rebuilding strengthHow gentle, physio-led exercises through FitNest Mama supported her healing journeyWhy every woman deserves to feel informed, supported, and confident — no matter how she gives birthConnect with Tenae: @tenaeadamcicLINKS: Preparing for birth Pelvic health checklist Free 7 Day Trial Pregnancy Workouts Free 7 Day Trial Postnatal Workouts FitNest Mama Website Instagram @kathbaquie.physio 1:1 Consultation with Physio Kath at Hatched House ** This podcast has general information only. Always seek the guidance of your doctor or other qualified health professional with any questions or concerns you may have regarding your health or medical condition.
Kari joins us today from Huntsville, Alabama sharing her story of two induced but very different births. Her first was an unplanned Cesarean after a 39-week induction and the second was a medically induced VBAC due to preeclampsia. With her second baby, Kari saw a new provider who was VBAC supportive, hired a doula, and went to a chiropractor. She also found out that she had a velamentous cord insertion and signs of preeclampsia. Although she was planning for a spontaneous, unmedicated labor, Kari was able to have an empowering experience with Pitocin, an epidural, a delivery, magnesium, a 3rd-degree tear, and a blood transfusion, Kari found deep healing and pride in her VBAC experience.She and Meagan talk about blood pressure numbers, preeclampsia, the ARRIVE study, how epidurals can help or hinder progress, and navigating the emotions that come when birth unfolds differently than planned. Kari reminds us that birth can be beautiful and healing no matter what twists and turns come about!The VBAC Link Blog: VBAC With PreeclampsiaACOG Article: Preeclampsia and Blood Pressure During PregnancyNeeded Website: Code VBAC for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Donna B. Part 2. | Infertility, VBAC in the hospital with a midwife, and the NICU. This is part 2 of Donna's story as she shares the long road to getting pregnant with her daughter. Donna went on to have a Vaginal Birth after Cesarean (VBAC) in hospital with midwives. Her daughter then spent some time in the NICU. Find us on Instagram: @moonybirthstoriespodcast @alivitrihShop 15% off Everydae Health prenatal & postnatal supplement: https://www.everydaehealth.com/DOULAALIShop Pregnancy Must Haves: https://shopmy.us/collections/2744988Support the show
Feeling more energized and less nauseous? It's the perfect time to prepare for a smoother birth and postpartum. Trish shares a practical, no-fluff checklist of 11 actionable steps to take in the second trimester - from mobility exercises to crucial conversations with your provider - that can reduce interventions, ease labor, and boost your confidence. Whether you're a first-time mom or a seasoned parent, these tips are designed for real, busy mamas to help you feel prepared and in control.Your Essential Second Trimester Checklist:#1: Anatomy Scan (Around 20 Weeks): Go beyond the gender reveal - understand checks for placenta location, baby's growth, heart, and fluid levels. Bring questions and follow up with your provider for clarity.#2: Gentle Pelvic and Mobility Routines: Dedicate 5-15 minutes daily to movements like pelvic tilts, squats, cat-cow stretches, and glute bridges to reduce tension, improve baby's positioning, and open your pelvis by up to 30% during labor.#3: Nutrition for Energy and Baby's Development: Focus on high-protein snacks, iron-rich meals, choline from eggs, DHA from supplements, and hydration. Balance cravings while preventing anemia and supporting brain growth.#4: Mindset and Breath Practice: Combat fear and tension with 5 minutes of daily breathing (inhale for 4, exhale for 6) and visualization to activate your parasympathetic nervous system for easier labor.#5: Build Your Birth Team and Define Roles: Educate your partner, family, and friends on your birth goals. #6: Screening Tests and Vaccine Timing: Research and discuss upcoming tests with your provider. Ask about alternatives and risks.#7: Fetal Positioning Moves: Adopt habits like forward-leaning positions, birth ball sitting, side-lying releases, and pelvic rocks to encourage optimal LOA (left occiput anterior) positioning and avoid back labor.#8: Maternity Leave and Logistics: Plan now - talk to your boss, HR, and insurance about leave, work handoffs, and paperwork to reduce third-trimester stress.#9: Baby Gear Essentials vs. Convenience: Prioritize must-haves like a car seat, safe sleep surface, diapers, thermometer, and basic clothes. Borrow or skip gadgets; survey mom friends for realistic advice.#10: Advocacy Scripts and Being Informed: Practice simple phrases like "What are the risks of waiting?" or "No, thank you" to navigate decisions calmly and firmly during labor.#11: The "What If" Conversation: Schedule a detailed chat with your provider about induction thresholds, failure to progress, pain management, VBAC policies, and newborn care like delayed cord clamping. Share this episode with a pregnant friend, and tag @labor.nurse.mama on Instagram with your second-trimester wins. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review - your feedback helps more mamas prepare for the birth they deserve!More episodes:Second Trimester Pregnancy: What To Expect | 3111 Things to Do During the Second Trimester of Pregnancy | 82Second Trimester Pregnancy Testing | 165
“I want to be the light I wish I'd had in my darkest moments.” As we close out Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, we are sharing Abbie's two birth stories and honoring the memory of her firstborn, Rowan. Rowan was born prematurely via emergency Cesarean at 29 weeks during the height of COVID and passed several weeks later in the NICU. Abbie shares what it was like to come home from the hospital without a baby, the weight of overwhelming grief, and how self-care has helped her find healing. Her second pregnancy was labeled advanced maternal age and considered high risk. With the support of her care team, Abbie went on to have a healthy and empowering VBAC birth at 41 weeks that was filled with joy and deep healing.Professionally, Abbie is a massage therapist. She shares her tips around things like herbal support, massage therapy, and acupuncture. Abbie wants Women of Strength to know that acknowledging fear doesn't mean we have to act on it. “Be afraid when you're afraid, but do it anyway— whatever it is. Different baby, different birth.” Needed Website: Code VBAC for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
No matter which way you bring your baby into the world, you are incredible! If you had a cesarean birth with your first baby, that doesn't automatically mean you need to have another c-section if you choose to have more children. Today's guest Meagan Heaton, co-founder of the VBAC Link, doula, and c-section educator had a successful VBAC with her third child after two previous cesareans. That third birth sparked a drive in her to help other women like herself feel educated, supported, and empowered with their birthing choices! Education is key to a successful vaginal birth after cesarean, so today we will bring you key information to help you make an informed decision if you've been considering trying for a VBAC. Meagan will discuss what may make you a good candidate for a VBAC and also a few of the limiting reasons. Any birth is not without risk; both risk of VBAC and repeat c-section will be covered. She emphasizes the importance of finding a provider whose birthing goal aligns with yours and debunks some common misconceptions and myths about VBACS. To close, Meagan shares critical information about how to mentally and physically prepare for a successful VBAC!If you enjoyed listening to this episode, we would love it if you could share it to your Instagram stories and tag us, @thevbaclink and @expectingandempowered. As we like to say, knowledge is power, and we just really want to give more people the information that they may need on their childbirth journey!Follow Meagan Heaton on Instagram and Facebook, and join her VBAC Link Facebook Community!Meagan's WebsiteListen to Meagan's PodcastHow to Heal a Bad Birth: Making Sense, Making Peace, and Moving OnLinks & ResourcesExpecting and Empowered App - Enter code 'PODCAST25' at checkout Expecting and Empowered WebsiteExpecting and Empowered InstagramThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
„Po císařském řezu zůstane jizva na děloze a v dalších sedmi vrstvách. Nejdůležitější je ale mysl. Žena, která chce zkusit vaginální porod po císařském řezu, to musí skutečně sama chtít,“ říká porodní asistentka Julie Bischofová o takzvaném porodu VBAC, tedy o situaci, kdy se žena rozhodne rodit vaginálně poté, co předchozí porod proběhl císařským řezem. „Žena s jizvou na děloze je brána jako riziková a postup českých porodnic není jednotný.“
„Po císařském řezu zůstane jizva na děloze a v dalších sedmi vrstvách. Nejdůležitější je ale mysl. Žena, která chce zkusit vaginální porod po císařském řezu, to musí skutečně sama chtít,“ říká porodní asistentka Julie Bischofová o takzvaném porodu VBAC, tedy o situaci, kdy se žena rozhodne rodit vaginálně poté, co předchozí porod proběhl císařským řezem. „Žena s jizvou na děloze je brána jako riziková a postup českých porodnic není jednotný.“Všechny díly podcastu Houpačky můžete pohodlně poslouchat v mobilní aplikaci mujRozhlas pro Android a iOS nebo na webu mujRozhlas.cz.
It's a big week as we have a huge announcement for 2026, involving you! Plus, vaccinations, why we've been getting VBAC's wrong and Molly Maes latest doc debrief. Two New Mums Patreon Have you joined our magnificent parenting community on Patreon yet? For just £5 a month you'll have access to extra content, the full video episode ad free, huge giveaways and our dedicated mum chat group. PLUS head there now to make sure you don't miss out on the launch of our first Two New Mums Day Retreat! https://www.patreon.com/c/twonewmums?redirect=true We want to hear from you! Get in touch with anything related to episodes or simply sharing your parenting experiences; twonewmumspodcast@gmail.com Busy Bees Find out more about our partnership with Busy Bee's here; https://www.busybeeschildcare.co.uk/two-new-mums Childcare Funding Busy Bees has created a handy blog on a guide to funding - https://www.busybeeschildcare.co.uk/blog/30-hours-free-childcare Their website page also has lots of information for parents who are navigating funding - https://www.busybeeschildcare.co.uk/funding Octopus Legacy Wills We have a special offer this month to write your will for free! We just completed ours with Octopus legacy and it's such a relief to know everything is in place for your family and little ones. This offer only runs until 31st October 2025 so take advantage now here: http://will.octopuslegacy.com/twonewmums GET IN TOUCH Email: twonewmumspodcast@gmail.com Patreon: PATREON.COM/TWONEWMUMS Instagram: twonewmumspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In today's episode, I'm wrapping up my birth series with something I've been so excited to share — my best postpartum advice (after three very different experiences). I'm currently three months postpartum with baby Sofia, and after walking through this season three times now, I've learned so much about what truly matters, and what doesn't, in those early months after birth.Instead of focusing just on recovery or baby care, this episode is all about the real-life side of postpartum — how to rest, ask for help, nurture your body, and actually enjoy this fleeting season. I'm sharing 13 pieces of advice that go beyond the typical “sleep when the baby sleeps” kind of tips — from taking the rest your body is inviting you into, to embracing freezer meals, saying yes to help, getting ready for the day (even a little bit!), how to make meal times easier, and finding rhythms that actually make you feel like yourself again.Whether you're a first-time mom or welcoming your third (or beyond!), my hope is that this episode reminds you that every postpartum journey is unique. I'm also sharing encouragement for my fellow business owners on planning a real maternity leave and giving yourself permission to rest because your business will still be there when you're ready.Links Mentioned:- Read the full shownotes: https://elizabethmccravy.com/321- If you missed the earlier parts of this series, you can go back to listen to:Episode 318: My Pregnancy + Home Birth PlansEpisode 319: Sofia's Home Birth StoryEpisode 320: Your Birth Questions Answered- My best home birth and VBAC resources: elizabethmccravy.com/birth- Colin's birth story: Episode 148- Ethan's birth story: Episode 265- Maternity Leave Prep Episodes: Episodes 139, 276- BTS of my maternity leaves with Colin and Ethan: Episodes 158, 277, 278- Shop our Showit Website Templates (use code BBPODCAST for 10% off!): https://elizabethmccravy.com/shop - Connect with Elizabeth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethmccravy/Thanks to our sponsor, Christian Healthcare Ministries! CHM is a faith-based, budget-friendly alternative to health insurance— at half the cost. And, you can join anytime! My family has trusted CHM for 5+ years through multiple pregnancies and health needs. With CHM, you'll save money and know that 100% of eligible bills are shared when medical needs arise. Learn more at elizabethmccravy.com/CHM Over my 9 years of business, I have learned some financial skills the hard way and a few years ago, I developed an an 8 step process I go through at the end of each month. This process helps me know how my business is doing financially, pay myself well and allocate money for things like taxes and expenses. And, it's yours for FREE at https://elizabethmccravy.com/profit
What does it look like to give birth at home five times over the span of 20 years? In today's episode, we talk with Melissa — mama of five and seasoned home birth veteran — about her powerful, unique journey through two decades of birthing at home. From her first home birth at age 19 to her fifth birth at 39, Melissa shares the rich tapestry of her experiences: the growth, the healing, the joy, the challenges, and all the moments in between. This is a celebration of home birth in all its forms — fast births, long labors, water births, VBAC fears, healing after miscarriage, and welcoming a baby with both joy and strength. Melissa's message is clear: You are powerful. Your body is wise. Birth can be sweet, sacred, and sovereign. Here's what we cover in this episode: Why Melissa chose home birth from her very first pregnancy, and never looked back What has (and hasn't) changed in the world of home birth since the 90s How she navigated birth across two marriages and five children The differences in labor and recovery from her 20s to her late 30s Planning home births with supportive partners and what that looked like for her Her experience with miscarriage, healing, and conception after loss The emotional and physical aspects of preparing for birth at age 39 Involving older siblings in the birth space and their beautiful role in the process Why she describes home birth as “addicting” in the best way The power of midwifery care and creating sacred, intimate birth environments Connect With Us Website: https://diahpodcast.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@diahpodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingitathome/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/diahpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doingitathome Merch: https://doingitathome.dashery.com/ Our Book: https://amzn.to/45Sxyr1 Support DIAH: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KA3QQRRU58VPL Check Out Our Partners: Needed: https://needed.sjv.io/XY3903 - use code DIAH to get 20% off your first, one-time order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What if your body was powerful enough to birth a ten-pound baby without force, fear, or tearing?In this powerful VBAC home birth story, Jenny Duke shares how she went from a planned C-section with her first baby to an unmedicated, pain-free VBAC birth of her second-a ten-pound baby born at 41 weeks and 4 days.Jenny opens up about her first pregnancy, discovering her baby was breech, and how that unexpected cesarean became a divine setup for her healing and preparation. She walks through how she rebuilt her body and confidence using pelvic floor therapy, chiropractic care, and The Pain Free Birth Course to prepare for a redemptive second birth filled with faith, surrender, and power. Tune in to hear:How Jenny's first breech pregnancy led to a planned C-sectionWhy her VBAC journey started before her second pregnancyHow pelvic floor therapy, chiropractic care, and faith prepared her bodyThe mindset shift that removed fear and made her birth pain-freeThe truth about pushing and why force isn't what your body needsHow she birthed a 10-pound baby without tearing or medicationThe emotional “surrender moment” that opened her body for birthThe power of a supportive midwife who trusts physiological birthJenny's advice for moms preparing for an unmedicated VBAC Use code PODCAST to get $50 off the Pain Free Birth E-course HERECONNECT WITH KAREN:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/painfreebirth Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/painfreebirth/ Spotify Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/5zEiKMIHFewZeVdzfBSEMS Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/pain-free-birth/id1696179731Website - https://painfreebirth.com/ Email List https://pain-free-birth.mykajabi.com/website-opt-in
In this episode, we speak with Tori about how a broken leg at 32 weeks changed the course of her first birth, and shaped the way she approached her VBAC.Tori had hoped for a straightforward first birth, but a series of cascading events starting with breaking her leg and ending with a premature, face presenting baby at full dilation saw to it that she had anything but. After a traumatic caesarean and being labelled 'not suitable for VBAC' Tori explains how she wasn't sure she could go back to have more children. Then, she started listening to the stories of other women and decided she was the expert in her body and she knew she could have a VBAC.Throughout her second pregnancy, she explored her options, connected with a new hospital, brought along her sister who had become a doula and another wonderful student midwife, and ultimately approached birth with a stronger sense of confidence. She explains how important education was over this journey, and shares with us the exhilarating experience of pushing out her baby. Thank you so much Tori, for sharing your powerful story - we know you're all going to love it!Please join us on our journey to bringing you all kinds of VBAC stories from across the country from here on in by subscribing and following us on social media, @australianvbacstories on Instagram and Australian VBAC Stories on Facebook. If you enjoyed this episode, we'd love to rate or review, and tell your friends!If you are feeling that you might benefit from mental health support after listening to our podcast, please reach out to one of the organisations below:PANDA https://panda.org.au/Gidget Foundation https://www.gidgetfoundation.org.au/COPE Australia https://www.cope.org.au/If you've experienced mistreatment or disrespectful care in your pregnancy, birth or postpartum and are seeking advocacy support, please contact one of the following organisations:Maternity Choices Australia https://www.maternitychoices.org/Maternity Consumer Network https://www.maternityconsumernetwork.org.au/Thank you for tuning in to our podcast.
We are so excited to welcome back our friend, Rachel! She shared her first precipitous VBAC story all the way back in Episode 56. This time, she joins us again to talk about her next two VBACs— one of which included an unexpected diagnosis of gastroschisis and the other surprisingly beginning with PROM (premature rupture of membranes).Rachel opens up about navigating gastroschisis and how her care team supported her through it. Though she wasn't sure she'd be able to have another vaginal birth, her provider actually encouraged it as the safest option for baby. Rachel achieved her second VBAC, but had to watch her baby be intubated immediately after birth, hemorrhaged, and was left alone when her husband went to be with their baby. She was thankful for her VBAC, but also deeply traumatized by the scary circumstances. With her fourth, Rachel decided to give birth in the hospital. She experienced PROM for the first time, back labor with an OP baby, and had her first sweet baby girl. From the prep before to the processing after, each of Rachel's births were truly their own story. Women of Strength, you are strong enough to handle whatever birth throws your way, and Rachel is a beautiful example of just that.Gastroschisis ArticleEpisode 56 Rachel's First VBAC StoryNeeded Website: Code VBAC for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Orgasmic Birth Story Series Ep 162 Description: "Try and change your mindset, because we're taught that birth is painful and hard and scary and can't be fun." —Tara Muckerheide Vaginal Birth After Cesarean (VBAC) is more than a medical choice—it's a profound journey of bodily autonomy and healing. Every woman's birth story carries the potential to rewrite medical narratives that have historically limited her agency. Tara Muckerheide transformed her birth experiences from medical trauma to empowered motherhood, challenging medical assumptions after two cesarean sections. Through midwifery care and a deep commitment to understanding her body, she successfully achieved two transformative vaginal births, proving that women's birthing experiences can be reclaimed and redefined. Tune in as Debra and Tara dive deep into a raw, inspiring conversation exploring pleasure-centered birthing, midwifery support, overcoming medical trauma, the power of mindset, partner involvement, and strategies for creating a joyful, empowering birth experience. Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 Episode Highlights: 02:43 Meet Tara: Embracing Labor with Joy and Confidence 09:24 Preparing for Baby Number 4 15:13 The Role of Pleasure in Labor 24:02 Advice for Future Parents Resources:
This week on the podcast, I'm wrapping up my birth story series with something really fun - a Q&A episode! After sharing Sofia's birth story and the journey leading up to it, I wanted to take some time to answer the most common questions you all sent me about birth, mindset, and preparation.In this episode, I'm chatting through everything from what surprised me the most to the mental and emotional work that went into preparing for this season. I also open up about some behind-the-scenes parts of the experience that I haven't shared yet and what I learned along the way.If you've ever been curious about home birth or considering a VBAC, this episode is a real, honest look at both. I share what I loved most about being at home (like the peaceful atmosphere, the lack of interventions, and how supported I felt) as well as the mindset shifts that helped me feel confident and calm despite being scared.Whether you're planning a home birth, hospital birth, or just love hearing real birth stories, my hope with episodes like these is always to encourage you and help you see what's possible when you're informed, supported, and trust your body.Links mentioned:- Read the full shownotes: https://elizabethmccravy.com/320- Home birth and VBAC resource guide (with links): https://elizabethmccravy.com/birth/- Shop our Showit Website Templates (use code BBPODCAST for 10% off!): https://elizabethmccravy.com/showit-website-templates/ - Join me inside the Podcast Success Blueprint: https://elizabethmccravy.com/psb - Join me inside Booked Out Designer: https://elizabethmccravy.com/bod - Want the insider scoop? Join my Free Facebook community: https://elizabethmccravy.com/facebook - Connect with Elizabeth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethmccravy/Thanks to our sponsor, Christian Healthcare Ministries! CHM is a faith-based, budget-friendly alternative to health insurance— at half the cost. And, you can join anytime! My family has trusted CHM for 5+ years through multiple pregnancies and health needs. With CHM, you'll save money and know that 100% of eligible bills are shared when medical needs arise. Learn more at elizabethmccravy.com/CHM Over my 9 years of business, I have learned some financial skills the hard way and a few years ago, I developed an an 8 step process I go through at the end of each month. This process helps me know how my business is doing financially, pay myself well and allocate money for things like taxes and expenses. And, it's yours for FREE at https://elizabethmccravy.com/profit
Today we're revisiting one of our earliest episodes — Episode 13 Kelie's VBA4C in Utah! Our audio quality has come a long way since those early days
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In this episode, I'm sharing Sofia's incredible birth story, and how God provided me with truly everything I've ever wanted in a birth. After two very different births with my boys (one ending in an unexpected C-section and another full of surrender and faith), this home birth felt like everything coming full circle. From the moment labor began to the second I held her in my arms, I could see God's hand over every single detail.You'll hear all about the final days leading up to Sofia's birth, when I was trying to balance faith and patience while waiting for labor to begin. I share how I prepared my heart and home, the ways I sensed God guiding me through my fears, and even how my midwife's gentle encouragement helped me rest and trust His timing. I also walk through her actual birth story… including what it was like to realize things were moving fast, how supported I felt by my husband and birth team, and the calm presence that filled our home that day (even with our boys home!).This episode is full of answered prayers, quiet miracles, and reminders that God cares about every part of our story, even the smallest details of birth. Whether you're preparing for your own home birth after a C-section (HBAC), a VBAC, hoping to experience peace after a difficult birth, or simply love hearing stories of faith and motherhood, I hope Sofia's story encourages you the way it has encouraged me. I feel incredibly grateful to be able to share it with you.Links Mentioned:- Read the full shownotes: https://elizabethmccravy.com/319- Home birth and VBAC resource guide (with links): https://elizabethmccravy.com/birth/- Shop our Showit Website Templates (use code BBPODCAST for 10% off!): https://elizabethmccravy.com/showit-website-templates/ - Join me inside the Podcast Success Blueprint: https://elizabethmccravy.com/psb - Join me inside Booked Out Designer: https://elizabethmccravy.com/bod - Want the insider scoop? Join my Free Facebook community: https://elizabethmccravy.com/facebook - Connect with Elizabeth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethmccravy/Thanks to our sponsor, Christian Healthcare Ministries! CHM is a faith-based, budget-friendly alternative to health insurance— at half the cost. And, you can join anytime! My family has trusted CHM for 5+ years through multiple pregnancies and health needs. With CHM, you'll save money and know that 100% of eligible bills are shared when medical needs arise. Learn more at elizabethmccravy.com/CHM Over my 9 years of business, I have learned some financial skills the hard way and a few years ago, I developed an an 8 step process I go through at the end of each month. This process helps me know how my business is doing financially, pay myself well and allocate money for things like taxes and expenses. And, it's yours for FREE at https://elizabethmccravy.com/profit
If you didn't get the vaginal birth you wanted, you may be considering a VBAC with your next baby. VBACs (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) are becoming a popular childbirth choice, but how do you know if it's right for you? What are some of the risks and benefits of having a VBAC? What are your chances of success? We'll hear from moms who have experienced it firsthand! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
About her VBA2C, Chloe says, “I've been dreaming of my VBAC for 8 years. When my HBAC turned into a scheduled CBAC, I wasn't even sure I'd get the option to have a VBA2C. It took a lot of planning & hard work & I knew as a first time labouring mom that it would be a longer labor but I completely underestimated just how long… Dreams came true New Years Eve as fireworks went off & my husband & I welcomed our daughter!”Chloe's first birth was a scheduled Cesarean due to a partial placenta previa. For her second, she was planning an HBAC, but after going overdue with no signs of labor, concerns about her baby's size, and a CPD diagnosis, she had another scheduled Cesarean. For her VBA2C baby, Chloe went all in. She connected with supportive providers, leaned into physical prep, and was so inspired from other women's stories on The VBAC Link Podcast.Chloe labored hard for almost 3 days and was progressing veryyy slowly. Though it wasn't what she thought she'd want at 3 cm, she got an epidural and AROM which ended up being incredibly helpful! Her midwife even said that she pushed as though she had delivered five babies. Take that, CPD!
In this episode, I'm sharing one of the most personal journeys I've ever shared: the path from having a C-section with my second baby to experiencing a home birth with my third, our sweet Sofia Kate McCravy. Just seven months after my C-section, I found myself pregnant again, facing a decision I never expected to make so soon: Would I try for a VBAC, schedule a repeat C-section, or try for the home birth I had always quietly longed for (but felt unlikely)?I walk you through the ups and downs of that decision-making process (and yes, there's a business lesson in here), from being told “no” by multiple midwives, sitting in doctor's offices feeling dismissed and even shamed, and ultimately learning how to advocate for myself and dig into the research around VBACs (vaginal birth after cesarean) and HBACs (home birth after cesarean). I also share how journaling, prayer, and conversations with supportive providers helped me process both my fears and my desires. And I'll tell you about the persistence it took (17 inquiries later!) to find the right midwife who believed in me and my ability to have this birth.If you're curious about home birth, considering a VBAC, or simply love hearing honest, real birth experiences, I hope my journey encourages you. And if you're a business listener who found this episode in your feed, stick around. You'll be surprised at how many lessons from pregnancy and birth apply directly to entrepreneurship, resilience, and trusting your instincts.Links Mentioned:- Read the full shownotes: https://elizabethmccravy.com/318- Home birth resource guide (with links): https://elizabethmccravy.com/home-birth-resource-guide-vbac-hbac/- Shop our Showit Website Templates (use code BBPODCAST for 10% off!): https://elizabethmccravy.com/showit-website-templates/ - Join me inside the Podcast Success Blueprint: https://elizabethmccravy.com/psb - Join me inside Booked Out Designer: https://elizabethmccravy.com/bod - Want the insider scoop? Join my Free Facebook community: https://elizabethmccravy.com/facebook - Connect with Elizabeth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethmccravy/Thanks to our sponsor, Christian Healthcare Ministries! CHM is a faith-based, budget-friendly alternative to health insurance— at half the cost. And, you can join anytime! My family has trusted CHM for 5+ years through multiple pregnancies and health needs. With CHM, you'll save money and know that 100% of eligible bills are shared when medical needs arise. Learn more at elizabethmccravy.com/CHM Over my 9 years of business, I have learned some financial skills the hard way and a few years ago, I developed an an 8 step process I go through at the end of each month. This process helps me know how my business is doing financially, pay myself well and allocate money for things like taxes and expenses. And, it's yours for FREE at https://elizabethmccravy.com/profit
Liza takes us through her transformative journey across three very different birth experiences in the Northern Rivers region of New South Wales. From an unexpected first pregnancy at 24 whilst her husband was deployed, through a traumatic second birth that led to essential mental health support, to finally achieving her dream VBAC after two caesareans - Liza's story is one of resilience, growth, and the power of therapeutic healing. Her candid discussion about birth trauma, the importance of mental health care, and how changing her mindset completely transformed her final birth experience offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating challenging birth experiences or considering a VBAC.If you'd like to prepare for birth with our courses, you can find them here:The Birth Class The Caesarean Birth ClassWelcome to the First Trimester Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
It's ya favorite homegirl Koereyelle, officially stepping into the 40/40 club with big birthday blessings and a baby girl on the way! In this extra personal and powerful episode of the Girl, Stop Playin' podcast, I'm bringing you some real, raw reflections on turning 40, being pregnant (again!), and preparing for baby #3.I'm sharing my unfiltered birth stories—from the unexpected C-section with my first son, to the unmedicated VBAC that nearly took your girl out, to what I've decided to do for baby #3!Whether you're a mama-to-be, a seasoned mom, or just dreaming of motherhood someday, this episode is full of lessons, tips, and truth bombs about pregnancy, childbirth, and the things no one really talks about—like the real recovery from vaginal birth, advocating for yourself in a medical setting, and using your benefits like an FSA to get that prenatal massage covered, sis!
Women of Strength, we are making waves. We are so excited to be sharing our second Maternal Assisted Cesarean story on the podcast today! There are so many beautiful details within Brianna's entire episode that you will not want to miss. In the small town of Crosby, Minnesota with a population of less than 3,000, Brianna was the first MAC under a brand-new policy. About her birth, she says: “While I didn't get my VBAC, I did get a redemptive and healing birth. It just goes to show that acceptance, advocacy, and will power go a long way! I never thought I'd be happy to be writing my testimonial after experiencing all C-section births. My first birth was in August of 2020 where she was breech. It was in the week following her birth that I jumped into all things VBAC. My second birth was complicated by preeclampsia where what was supposed to be my redemptive VBAC turned CBAC when my blood pressure wouldn't cooperate. This birth was traumatic and gave me more grief than my first birth experience. This leads me to my third and final birth story where I changed providers at 20 weeks. I was active and proactive in my own mental and physical health. I ultimately decided that I wanted a Maternal Assisted C-section after seeing Paige's story on The VBAC Link. I thought it would be nearly impossible in small-town Minnesota, but ended up finding my voice and a provider who was extremely supportive. In May 2025, my daughter was born in my hands in the OR. While my grief of not getting a vaginal birth isn't gone, it is much quieter. And despite not getting my VBAC experience, I have found extreme peace and healing in the autonomy and active participation of my maternal assisted cesarean. I encourage all women who are experiencing grief with their birthing experience to get educated, find a supportive provider, keep an open mind, and to not give up.”The VBAC Link Podcast Episode 357 Paige's MACThe VBAC Link Podcast Episode 220 Dr. Natalie ElphinstoneHow to Cope When You Don't Get Your VBACHow to Heal a Bad Birth BookNeeded Website: Code VBAC20 for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
In this episode, I share a short, practical guide to finding a midwife in Australia to support your HBAC or VBAC homebirth. Starting the search can feel overwhelming, but there are trusted pathways and communities to help you connect with the right support.Here's what we cover: ⭐ How to begin your search for a midwife in your local area ⭐ The role of Homebirth Australia as a representative organisation, and how it connects with state groups like Homebirth Queensland, Homebirth NSW, and Homebirth Victoria ⭐ How to use Facebook groups such as Homebirth Australia, Homebirth Queensland, and the VBAC Homebirth Support Group to find midwives, birth workers, and supportive communities ⭐ Why reaching out to a local doula can be an important first step when planning a homebirth ⭐ How the HBAC Homebirth Stories Podcast and support networks can help you feel connected and informedI also share how I can personally support you through Power Hour sessions, virtual pregnancy support, and both in-person and online guidance to help you prepare for a confident, empowered birth.Enjoy this episode! More from Ashley:The VBAC VillageInsta: @ashleylwinningWebsite: www.ashleywinning.comJoin our VBAC Homebirth Support Group hereLove the podcast? Buy me a coffeeDisclaimer: The VBAC Homebirth Stories Podcast is for educational and inspirational purposes only. The stories and opinions shared are personal experiences and should not be considered medical advice. Every birth journey is unique, and we encourage you to research, trust your intuition, and consult with a qualified healthcare provider before making decisions about your pregnancy, birth, and postpartum care.
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What happens when your first birth leaves you traumatized and fearful—but God writes a redemptive story through your next births?In this powerful episode of the Pain Free Birth Podcast, Karen sits down with Grace Kaminkow, a mom of three, who went from an unexpected emergency c-section to experiencing a VBAC home birth and eventually a pain-free birth filled with faith and worship.Tune in to hear:How her first c-section birth unfolded after a cascade of interventions and left her questioning everything.The shocking words her husband heard from the anesthesiologist that fueled his fears about birth.Why she started researching VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) and discovered the truth about home birth safety.How she convinced her hesitant husband to consider home birth, and the midwife who completely changed their perspective.The role of prayer, Scripture, and faith in moving from birth trauma to joy.Her second home birth after c-section, where peace replaced fear and her husband found redemption too.The incredible story of her third birth—worshipping through labor, resting at home, and experiencing a nearly pain-free supernatural home birth.Use code PODCAST to get $50 off the Pain Free Birth E-course HERECONNECT WITH KAREN:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/painfreebirth Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/painfreebirth/ Spotify Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/5zEiKMIHFewZeVdzfBSEMS Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/pain-free-birth/id1696179731Website - https://painfreebirth.com/ Email List https://pain-free-birth.mykajabi.com/website-opt-in#VBAC #HomeBirth #PainFreeBirth #BirthWithoutFear #ChristianBirthTestimony #EmergencyCSection #BirthTrauma #VBACHomeBirth #NaturalBirthStory #FaithInChildbirth #RedemptiveBirth #ChristianMom #SupernaturalBirth #BirthAsWorship #PeacefulBirth
In this informative and compassionate episode, an OB/Gyn and pediatrician team up to discuss how a cesarean section can affect future fertility. We break down what the latest research says about C-sections and their potential impact on conception, pregnancy spacing, and risks in future pregnancies. With clear explanations and practical tips, we'll help you understand the facts, separate myths from reality, and feel empowered to make informed decisions about your birth and family planning. Whether you've had a C-section, are planning one, or simply want to know more, this episode offers expert insight in a warm, relatable way.
Join hosts Sarah Marie Bilger and Katelyn for a concise Doula Talk focused on cesarean options, including maternal-assisted cesareans, spinal vs. general anesthesia, and ways to stay present during an unplanned or planned C-section. Learn practical choices you can ask for in the OR: lowering or clear drapes, not strapping arms, music, delayed cord clamping, partner skin-to-skin, and immediate bonding strategies. Hear tips on planning ahead, advocating with your provider, and deciding between scheduled C-section or pursuing VBAC. Reach out with questions, share your experiences in the comments, and subscribe for more episodes that empower you through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. Find the Full Show Notes Here: https://www.enteringmotherhood.com/episodes Relevant Links: Register for the O.W.N Your Birth Childbirth Education Course Learn more about the Build Your Village Summit 5 ways to prepare for an Unmedicated Birth Download the FREE Comprehensive Birth Vision Planner Hypnobabies is a great tool to use hypnosis when preparing for childbirth. Use the code MOTHERHOOD20 to receive 20% off today! Truly fuel your body with FOND Bone Broth a verified regenerative by land to market company dedicated to serving you rich and handcrafted items. Use code ENTERINGMOTHERHOOD for 10% off. Looking to become a doula yourself and get into birthwork? Check out the Online Doula Training Program to get started on your path today. Become certified through Postpartum University and help clients learn more about how to nourish their bodies in the postpartum period. Want a baby carrier you can snuggle your baby tight in? Check out LoveHeld for their handwoven ring sling carrier you'll be sure to love. In need of nursing tops and postpartum items? Kindred Bravely is the place to shop for all of your attire needs and more. Connect with Entering Motherhood: The Entering Motherhood Website @entering.motherhood (IG) Entering Motherhood (FB) Contact us Directly
Send us a textIn this month's Q&A, we start with a big one: What are your biggest fears in life? (Besides snakes and spiders, of course!) Then we dive into your thoughtful community questions, including:Homebirth vs. family pushback: My sister is a labor & delivery nurse, my family isn't supportive, and my MIL has no boundaries. What should I do?Breastfeeding oversupply: I had a major oversupply with my first baby—will it be worse or the same with my next?Birth interventions: In my first birth, my midwife used hands-on pushing techniques and I was given continuous antibiotics. Were these necessary?In the extended version of today's episode available on Patreon or Apple subscriptions, we answer additional questions on:preparing for a long home birth after a cesarean (HBAC) and how to avoid hospital transfer, "failure to progress" in a vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC), whether we consider water birth to be a birth intervention, and if it is ok to sleep on your back in pregnancy. Finally, in quickies, we discuss: the best HypnoBirthing class (ha), preventing perineal tearing, cycle length & gestation, our current favorite podcasts, breast reductions and breastfeeding, posterior babies, pushing length and positions, and a favorite item in our homes. Thanks, everyone, and call us any time at 802-GET-DOWN! That's 802-438-3696.Watch this episode in full video format on YouTube.**********Our sponsors, Patreon, and contact info below: Needed
Why is it that most avenues of healthcare delay preventative intervention, but when it comes to birth, there is so much more of a fear-based “just in case” mindset? Elisabeth, her doula (and our TVL team member!) Ashley Marg, and Julie Francom talk about how most of the time we can trust the physiological process of birth, yet providers often don't. Elisabeth's first birth was a whirlwind. After pushing at 9.5cm for 4 hours and feeling extremely exhausted with a swollen cervix, she consented to a Cesarean. But in the OR, her fetal ejection reflex kicked in and the doctor realized she was complete— minutes after the spinal block had already been given. She managed one more push, then the numbness took over and contractions stopped. Baby was too high for a vacuum, yet low enough that her doctor needed to push baby back up for the Cesarean. As you can imagine, her recovery was difficult, but her fire to educate herself all about birth was ignited. Elisabeth knew things could be different and fought for a redemptive VBAC! Discussion topics: Post-dates, evidence-based info, fetal ejection reflex, swollen cervix, induction, membrane sweep, artificial rupture of membranes, birth tub, preeclampsia misdiagnosis, spinal block, doulaNeeded Website: Code VBAC20 for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
This week on Growing, Lilly opens up about what pregnancy planning looks like for her this time around. It's part reflection, part preparation, and fully honest in the here and now. We chat candidly about: VBAC plans and what it feels like to carry the weight of a previous birth into the conceptualising of the next oneHow she's thinking about her birth team and the kind of support she wants around her this timeThe “in between” moments, where excitement and nerves live side by sideWhy preparation in pregnancy isn't about perfection, but about feeling held, resourced and supportedThis is one of those episodes that feels like sitting down with a friend who says the quiet things out loud. Whether you're planning your first baby, your third, or simply reflecting on your own birth experiences, there's warmth, solidarity, and gentle encouragement here.Revisit Lil's first birth story with Ru: Listen here and Learn more about VBAC with Dr Hazel Keedle: Listen hereThis episode is proudly supported by ergoPouch and their brand-new Ellska Cot - a beautifully designed sleep space with ergoPouch's trusted focus on safe sleep and comfort.Use the code GROWING20 for 20% off (selected styles only, T&Cs apply). Offer valid until 5/10/25.Shop ergoPouch hereListen now wherever you get your podcastsIf you loved this conversation, please share it with a friend who's also navigating pregnancy planning or dreaming of a VBAC.Follow us on Instagram @growingthepodcast for more honest chats about pregnancy, birth, and matrescence.
Alexandra's story begins abroad in Italy, where she goes into labor around 25 weeks while pregnant with twins and delivers via emergency C-section. Devastatingly, one twin survives the ensuing NICU stay, while the other does not. Back in the United States later, Alexandra is thrilled to become pregnant again. She knows she wants a VBAC and achieves it in a hospital setting, although the experience includes both obstetric violence and unnecessary interventions. During her third pregnancy, Alexandra becomes determined to have a positive, trauma-free birth experience. She hires homebirth midwives and comes achingly close to delivering at home. However, she transfers to the hospital at the last minute out of fear and gives birth just an hour later. Her fourth birth, which took place only four and a half months before the time of this recording, was finally the healing experience she had dreamed of for so long. Today, Alexandra is a devoted mother of four who passionately thrives on all things related to birth and motherhood. She is a strong advocate and champion for well-informed pregnancies, holding a firm belief that every woman should feel fully empowered, secure, and supported throughout their pregnancy journey and childbirth experience. You can connect with Alexandra via her website and on Instagram @birthrightwellnesscollectivenc If you love the show, I would greatly appreciate a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts! Follow me on Instagram @healingbirth Do you have a birth story you'd like to share on the podcast, or would like to otherwise connect? I love to hear from you! Send me a note at contactus@healingbirth.net Check out the website for lots of other birth related offerings, and personalized support: www.healingbirth.net Intro / Outro music: Dreams by Markvard Podcast cover photo by Karina Jensen @karinajensenphoto
Jennifer is a mom to three boys, each born in a different decade. Her first birth started out spontaneously but, after going to the hospital early and experiencing many interventions, ended in an emergency Cesarean under general anesthesia with an inverted T incision.For her second birth, Jennifer was excited to try for a VBAC but learned about her special scar and, trusting her doctor's advice, scheduled a repeat Cesarean.By the time her third baby came along, Jennifer was older, wiser, and ready to fight for the birth she knew was possible. With insulin-controlled gestational diabetes, she went into labor spontaneously and even left one hospital AMA to find the support she needed. Her determination paid off when she went on to have her VBA2C!Jennifer's story is full of faith, courage, and the reminder that instead of being fear-based, our decisions should be ones that bring us the most peace.Discussion Topics: gestational diabetes, VBAC, special scars, inverted T, repeat Cesarean, VBA2C, general anesthesia, spontaneous labor, AMA, changing providers, operative reports, faith affirmations, baby aspirin, fast dilation, fetal scalp electrode, tachycardia, fever, decels, advanced maternal age, pitocin, epiduralNeeded Website: Code VBAC20 for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
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Are you a momma looking to go from a C-section to a medicated or unmedicated VBAC?Are you considering doing a home birth, but are worried your history of breech babies or Caesareans?Or - are you simply an avid listener of mine who has been wanting to be a fly on the wall and hear my birth story for baby #2? If you said "yes" to any of these questions, then this episode is for you! In today's episode, I'm sharing my full VBAC birth story. Everything from what it looked like to pursue a vaginal birth after cesarean after my first child's delivery ended in surgery. To asking the question, “Should I have a home birth or not?” To facing breech pregnancy fears, working with a midwife, and preparing for both the risks and advantages of a homebirth. Whatever it is, I'm taking you inside every step of my pregnancy for baby #2. You'll hear what surprised me most about my VBAC recovery versus C-section recovery, what I learned about tearing during birth and birth hematomas, and my honest perspective on whether vaginal or cesarean recovery is harder. I'll also share what the HARDEST part of my mental hurdles — the fear of a repeat 48-hour labor, the doubt over my body's progress, and how I finally delivered in just 14 hours. If you're pregnant, considering a VBAC in pregnancy, or curious about the pros and cons of homebirth, this story will give you insight, encouragement, and the reality behind one mom's choice to write a new birth story. And because easy, nutritious food was one of my greatest supports through pregnancy and postpartum recovery, I want to give you a FREE GIFT on this episode: my 60+ page family recipe book. Inside are 45 gluten free, grain free, and dairy free recipes — quick, nourishing, and perfect for moms juggling newborns and toddlers. Grab your copy at betterbellytherapies.com/recipes, then listen in to hear EXACTLY how I used this book to make my pregnancy and post-partum easier - and how you can, too. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Introduction and Episode Overview 02:15 - Welcome to the Better Belly Podcast 03:24 - Preparing for a VBAC and Home Birth 05:30 - Prenatal Concerns and Preparations 11:53 - Health Focus During Pregnancy 20:20 - Labor and Delivery Experience 26:01 - Postpartum Recovery and Reflections 31:04 - Financial Aspects and Cost Sharing 34:40 - Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes EPISODES MENTIONED:87// IBS and Pregnancy: My Top Tips for an IBS-Free Pregnancy73// Surprise – I'm Pregnant!! How My First and Second Pregnancy Compare (Totally Different!) and How I Used Bloodwork to Overcome Miscarriage and Get Pregnant Again197// How to Balance Postpartum Hormones After Pregnancy245// The Best Air Filter...
In today's episode, Julie Francom talks with Diana, who shares her Cesarean and two very different VBAC stories. Diana's journey began with a Cesarean birth including a velamentous cord insertion and a long, difficult recovery complicated by painful breastfeeding abscesses. For her second baby, she planned a home birth VBAC and euphorically welcomed her baby at home—only to need a hospital transfer for repair of a third-degree “starfish” tear. With her third, Diana prepared for another home birth and experienced her dream waterbirth VBAC with no tearing at all.While Diana's third birth was physically healing, she faced unexpected emotional struggles afterward. She opens up about her experience with postpartum anxiety and depression, reminding us that healing is not only physical, but mental and emotional too.This episode brings important awareness to postpartum mental health and the resources available for support. Julie and Diana discuss the importance of community, professional help, and breaking the silence around postpartum mood disorders.If you had an unexpectedly tough recovery after your VBAC, know that you are not alone! Postpartum Support InternationalThe Postpartum Stress CenterPostpartum UniversityNeeded Website: Code VBAC20 for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
This show is about the VBAC Playbook—your complete guide to Vaginal Birth After Cesarean. We bring together everything you need to know in one place: all of our experience, the risks and benefits, the latest evidence, and the practical steps to prepare. Whether you're weighing your options, looking for reassurance, or wanting to feel fully informed before talking with your provider, this playbook equips you with clear, comprehensive, and empowering information to help you make the best decision for your birth. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe—your questions could be featured in our next episode! For additional resources and information, be sure to visit our website at Maternal Resources: https://www.maternalresources.org/. You can also connect with us on our social channels to stay up-to-date with the latest news, episodes, and community engagement: YouTube: Dive deeper into pregnancy tips and stories atyoutube.com/maternalresources . Instagram: Follow us for daily inspiration and updates at @maternalresources . Facebook: Join our community at facebook.com/IntegrativeOB Tiktok: NatureBack Doc on TikTok Grab Our Book! Check out The NatureBack Method for Birth—your guide to a empowered pregnancy and delivery. Shop now at naturebackbook.myshopify.com .
Did you know that The VBAC Link is made up of a whole team of VBAC doulas? Our Co-founder and Owner, Meagan Heaton, is joined today on the pod by TVL team members Lily (Director of Social Media & Community Engagement) and Paige (Production Admin & Community Liason) chatting all about questions we see from you in our community— topics like induction methods, providers, where to find info, prepping for VBAC, and the “why” behind everything we do!Needed Website: Code VBAC20 for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
What does it really take to have a good birth in a hospital?In this episode, I'm joined by Care Messer, Founder of the Birth Education Center in San Diego. She's a certified hypnobirthing instructor, a DONA-certified doula, and a childbirth educator who also trains doulas. Care teaches engaging, partner-friendly online classes that have helped many families prepare for birth with more clarity and confidence.We get into what it means to prepare early, why most women don't realize how much choice they actually have, and what it looks like to create a safe, grounded birth experience inside a hospital system. From power dynamics with providers to the small, practical things that shift your sense of safety, this conversation breaks down what women and their partners need to know before walking through those hospital doors.You'll Learn:Why choosing the right hospital and provider early changes everythingWhat it feels like to enter a system where you're treated as room number instead of a person giving birthWhy staying home longer in early labor can dramatically shift your hospital experienceThe surprising link between hospital C-section rates and NICU levelsHow eye masks, dim lights, and warm blankets keep your body in labor modeWhen partners step into the role of protector and advocate in the birth roomThe quiet damage of being a passive participant versus owning your birth decisionsWhy hospital classes often train you to be a “good patient” instead of giving you real optionsHow listening to birth stories helps you recognize and avoid common intervention cascadesTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:00] How preparation and safety shape the hospital birth experience[09:22] Rethinking what safety really means in birth[13:01] Choosing the right hospital, provider, and birth team[20:20] The partner's role in protecting space and shifting power dynamics[36:37] Practical ways to protect labor hormones in a hospital birth[50:15] Arming with education and optimizing the hospital environment for laborResources Mentioned:Episode 65: All About VBAC pt.1: Perspectives from an OB, Midwife, and Doula with Care Messer | Spotify or AppleBirth Education Center | WebsiteBucky Eye Mask | AmazonThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. | Book or AudiobookMen, Love & Birth by Mark Harris | Book or AudiobookLabor Like A Goddess by Alexandria Moran and Lauren Mahana | BookBirth Psychology | WebsiteMorgan's First Birth | VideoLearn more about the Birth Education Care by visiting their website, YouTube channel, and Facebook page.Follow Care on Instagram, LinkedIn and listen to her Podcast on Apple or Spotify.Find more from Leah:Leah Gordon | InstagramLeah Gordon | WebsiteLeah Gordon | WebsiteFind more from Morgan:Morgan MacDermott | InstagramMorgan MacDermott | WebsiteUse code HEALTHYMOTHER and save 15% at RedmondFor 20% off your first order at Needed, use code HEALTHYMOTHERSave $260 at Lumebox, use code HEALTHYASAMOTHER
In this episode, Ashley shares her powerful story of overcoming domestic abuse. Ashley recounts her tumultuous marriage marked by emotional and psychological abuse, her journey through a traumatic childbirth experience, and her eventual separation. She discusses the impact of her childhood abuse, her struggle with self-doubt, and the challenges of single motherhood with special needs children. Ashley also shares how her faith and community support played vital roles in her healing journey. The episode concludes with Ashley's advice for others in abusive situations to prioritize self-care and seek supportive communities. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:34 Meet Ashley: A Survivor's Story 01:38 Ashley's Background and Journey 04:19 Challenges of Parenting Special Needs Children 05:12 Coping During the Pandemic 06:55 Ashley's Upbringing and Faith Journey 14:21 Meeting Her Husband and Early Red Flags 16:15 The Birth of Ashley's Children 21:34 Experiencing Abuse and Control 23:26 Realizing the Extent of Abuse 24:15 Deciding to Leave 25:42 The Second Separation 32:05 Ongoing Abuse During Divorce 35:02 Healing and Support 38:56 Faith and Moving Forward 41:53 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement Website: https://dswministries.org Subscribe to the podcast: https://dswministries.org/subscribe-to-podcast/ Social media links: Join our Private Wounds of the Faithful FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1603903730020136 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dswministries/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Keep in touch with me! 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They do it all with a written guarantee for results so you don't waste time and money on a program that doesn't exceed your goals. There are martial arts programs. Specialize in anti-bullying programs for kids to combat proven Filipino martial arts. They take a holistic, fun, and innovative approach that simply works. Sign up for your free class now. It's 7 5 3 academy.com. Find the link in the show notes. Welcome to the Wounds of the Faithful Podcast, brought to you by DSW Ministries. Your host is singer songwriter, speaker and domestic violence advocate, [00:01:00] Diana. She is passionate about helping survivors in the church heal from domestic violence and abuse and trauma. This podcast is not a substitute for professional counseling or qualified medical help. Now here is Diana. So today on the wounds of the Faithful podcast, we have a survivor story today. So please welcome Ashley to the show. Thanks for coming on the podcast and sharing a bit of yourself with us. Hi. You're welcome. I'm glad to be here. I haven't seen you since the girls. We went over to Starbucks for an outing and we had that incident with the spider. Yes, I know. Multiple spiders crawling around the table and on you. Oh, well I thought that Kelly had killed the one on the ground and then we found out there was another [00:02:00] one and it was on my shoulder and you wanna see me freak out? Okay, that's how you get me to freak out is a spider. So here we are trying to kill the spider. But we had a good time. It was fun. Just fun to get out. It was a hot day. We were out there roasting in the heat, but it was just fun to get out and, have some girl time. Right? Yes, definitely. We needed it. So, let's, get to know you a little better. So give us a little introduction about yourself. What general part of the country are you from, and are you married? How many kids you got, what do you do for a living? That kind of stuff. Okay. Well my name is Ashley, and I live in Arizona. I've been here for five years now. I was living in North Carolina with my husband and our family for, we were on the East coast for about, oh gosh, probably about eight years or so. And, living in, in North Carolina, Virginia, and [00:03:00] that area. So I met Diana through Mending the Soul. I joined because I have been separated from my husband for, about a year now. We've been separated twice and that was due to abuse that was going on in the marriage. So I have a history of abuse in my life, starting from when I was little. There was abuse that happened outside of the home, with. People that were slightly older than me. And that was more of like a, sexual abuse or molestation kind of situation. And then getting married, I thought it was a good relationship. I thought we were a good team. And we, I think it, it was okay for a while until we had children and that's when things started. Unraveling and a lot of patterns started popping up all over the place of, all kinds of a abuse that, not physical, but it was [00:04:00] emotional, mental, psychological, spiritual abuse, all of those. And I'm still kind of working through and wrestling with the effects that that had on me. And it's still, I mean, I have good days and I have really, really hard days. So it's kind of, it's still, even though it's been a year of being apart, it's still all over the place. Mm-hmm. Um, but I do feel like I'm making progress and, many, the soul did help with that along with counseling. So that's where I'm at right now and I'm currently going to school to get, to become a speech language pathology assistant. And, I have about just one semester left of that. And then I know I'm so excited to, hopefully get to work with kids that are, you know, having difficulties for whatever reason. And I am a special needs mom. My, middle child has autism and. So that's been a journey. And then my youngest also has struggles in certain areas of learning. So, yeah, this [00:05:00] will help me also, while being able to help other people. So that's where I'm at right now. So your special needs kids, what kind of challenges does that bring as a single mom and going through abuse? Mm. Oh gosh. I hadn't really thought of it in that context before, but it's a lot because you're, as a parent, you're trying to focus on their needs and trying to meet them where they're at, but at the same time, you're trying to meet yourself where you're at. So it's constantly trying to think of everyone's needs and trying to meet everyone where they are, including myself. So it is, it's a lot to think through. Every day. Yeah, but I love 'em and I mean, it's amazing to see their growth and, yeah. But it is definitely a struggle. So your kids free today, get a break, but how have you been coping during the pandemic with your kids? [00:06:00] What have you found that works? Yeah, so thankfully I've been talking to family about this also, our schedule. Because of Kim, his running his elopement, we have a hard time going to a lot of places already. So even before the pandemic, we didn't go to a lot of stores or we mostly spent our time outside and at home. So that really, I think, helped set us up for this situation because it wasn't a huge jump, you know, from being out around people all the time to nothing. So we were already kind of ready in some ways. So it's a lot of time outside as much as we can. The kids love roller skating. They love swimming. They love, yeah, just being outside doing anything they can. So that, and then, even doing games inside the house together is fun, like pillow fights or box, like my youngest likes to, like, he's practicing boxing and he loves to, [00:07:00] like I put on the oven MITs, and then he has his little boxing gloves, which is so cute. It's, it's fun. And, just trying to get their energy out. And then I work out also, so we're trying to like get all that energy from all of us. So it's, that's been good. Well, it's pretty funny. When we've had group, you know, the kids are there, three boys, like climbing all over her and poking her and mom, mom, mom. And she's trying to focus on, her part in the group, and, you just do the best you can, right? Yep. Exactly. That's, I think it's learning to just roll with it, so it's like, yeah, and like the pandemic continues to teach us that I think is, we just have to be able to roll with it as it comes. Wow. Oh, so tell us a little bit more about your upbringing. Were you raised in a Christian home? Not with my mom and my stepdad, who I lived with later, but my grandparents, who I lived with when I was little, they took me to the Nazarene Church and I was a part of that [00:08:00] community, so I was a part of a church. I don't particularly remember learning about Jesus or, salvation in particular. I just remember just in general learning about. God in general. And so that's kind of how I was raised. And then when I moved in with my mom and my stepdad, they're not a part of any faith community. So I would go either with friends to church, and then when I was older I would just go by myself, drove, I drove myself there. And and that's kind of how it started. What kind of relationship would you say you had with God? Was it personal? Was it God was distant or? Uh, I think when I was very little, I didn't feel like I had a relationship really, but always as I got older, I remember always feeling like he was there. I remember always feeling like I didn't quite understand how I knew that, but he just, I just felt like he was there with me. And then as I [00:09:00] continued. Learning more and especially after Ava, or sorry, especially after my daughter was born, I really realized the connection with Jesus and got, had my relationship with God through him. And so that's when it really became very personal. So like in the last 10 years, more so. Do you remember when you actually made that decision? Was there a day? Yeah, I don't remember the date, but, we had started having struggles in our marriage pretty soon after Ava was born and I was feeling so confused and so lost and like I needed to be doing more. And so I was going through the Love Dare book and in there it was really a really good book for that moment. And it lays out. Scripture each day. And at the end, it gives you an opportunity to accept Jesus. And I remember being so blown away during that book because no one had ever explained to me the importance of Jesus [00:10:00] and what he did for me. And so when I was like, why have I not heard this? Like, oh my gosh. And yeah. And so at the end I remember just sitting at the table crying, crying, like I could not stop crying. And it was like something inside of me just clicked and, yeah, so I said the prayer and, every, a lot of things changed after that and continued to change. Wow. That's, I've never heard a story like that. You know, I had The Love Dare book, actually, the guy I was dating. Mm-hmm. That was abusive to me, gave me that book, and it was really strange. He tried to get me to go back to my ex-husband, who was my one abuser, and, it was an excellent book, but at that time. There wasn't going to be any parting of the Red Sea Miracle with my ex-husband. I kept telling this guy, we're already divorced. It's over. Yes, I'm moving on. Yes. But it's amazing that you found Jesus through that book. I praise the [00:11:00] Lord for that. I know, and that's the, I think it's interesting because I started reading that book to help with the marriage. And it did somewhat, but I think the most, it was cool because God met me where I was doing what I was doing, you know? And it didn't matter why I started it. Yeah. It's just so cool. Amazing. So what were your teenage years like? Did you have a lot of self-confidence growing up? Oh gosh. I would say no. I mean, middle school was really hard for me. I had a lot of rejection and embarrassing things happen, and they kind of linked with the abuse. That happened when I was younger. And so that kind of, I spiraled quite a bit there and I just, I think, decided that I wanted to protect myself. And so I decided, okay, I'm gonna get straight A's in school. I'm gonna run track and I'm gonna do [00:12:00] the best I can with that and I'm not gonna get in trouble. And I just made all these like promises to myself, I think, to protect myself. So I think I appeared on the outside probably like I had. I a lot of confidence, but it really was protection and so I don't feel like it was confidence at all. It was all rooted in fear and trying to protect myself. So, no, I don't think I did. Mm. Now how did your grandparents play a part in your life? They were very significant. Mm-hmm. And they, yeah, they still, they're a huge part still. Yeah. I mean, it's hard to put into words everything that they've done, but they gave me a safe place. They've always been a safe place for me. And no matter what they, I have never felt abandoned by them. I've never felt judged by them. I've never felt, like they didn't try to understand me so they've always, they've been a consistent, safe place. Throughout my whole life. And [00:13:00] so even in those hard times, I, I did always know they were there. And, I would call my grandma instead of talking to my mom or anyone else, I would always call my grandma and talk to her. And she kind of helped me work through in college when I finally, I think I was hitting another breaking point in college when I was drinking a lot and really depressed. Honestly, I was running track at a college and. Trying to perform still, but then partying also. And there were these two parts of me that were like colliding and it was so painful and I didn't know how to get out of this situation. And so she helped me a lot through that also. And then later with my realizing the abuse with Dan, with my husband, and deciding to make changes there, she helped me a lot through that Also. Hmm. So yeah, her support has meant the world. I didn't really grow up with traditional grandparents. I didn't, my grandfathers died long before I was even cognitive, [00:14:00] and my dad's mother died when I was seven. And then my mother's mother, we didn't have a very close relationship because she was a very abusive person, and my mother mm-hmm. Didn't, my mother didn't want us around her and she really was a, nasty person. But, so I didn't really grow up with grandparents. I think that's why I was always friends with a lot of senior citizens. Were my good friends because I didn't have grandparents. I had, teachers and coaches and, the next door neighbor. Mm-hmm. I kind of clung too. So it was a blessing that you had have grandparents to be there for you and guide you through these tough times? Yes. Yeah. It's, it is. I mean, thinking about if I didn't have them, it's been hard enough. Even having that support. So I can't imagine not having that support. It's been, it literally feels like a gift. That God has put there to help me [00:15:00] get through all of this. And, yeah. So I'm just really thankful. So we're gonna transition to the unsavory part of the podcast. When did you meet your husband and were there any warning signs, that there was going to be abuse? So we met, we were both attending Arizona State University and we met there. We were part of a co-ed business fraternity. And, we met at a party and we, I mean, I felt like right away that I wanted to be with this person, even though I didn't know him. As I was telling you before, like I was in a really unhealthy place. All through college. It's because I, everything from my childhood hadn't been addressed and was still, all that pain was under the surface. And I think I was just trying to cover it up any way I could by drinking, sleeping with people. And, that's kind of where our relationship started. That's how it started in that [00:16:00] kind of context and. So we were both in a really unhealthy place. I think his, parents had just started the divorce process, I think when I met him. And he had a lot of pain from his childhood too. And so I think we both were just trying to cover up the pain. And so in the beginning I couldn't see any red flags because we were very similar, I think, in how we were. Covering up things and living life. And so it wasn't until really, until we had kids, because my attention was divided between him and the kids and my, and needing to take care of myself once my attention was divided, that's when all of the. The pattern started bubbling up, so I couldn't see it until quite a bit later. Mm. Wow. So when your children came along, you had a pretty dark time for you. Did you wanna share [00:17:00] about the, birth of your children? Yeah, I can. So my daughter's birth. Was overall good. We had to have a c-section because she was, she was not head down. She was bottom down and she did not wanna flip, which is totally, it's funny 'cause she's very, like kind of stubborn in her own way. And so it's funny that she just was like, Nope. Like, I'm good right here. I'm not moving. And so yeah, the C-section went well and, but. I remember I felt so sad in the hospital. I was so happy to see her, but at the same time, I think seeing her face and seeing how vulnerable she was as a baby, I think triggered everything in me at a whole new level from what happened when I was younger. So that's how her birth was difficult. And then, or my second child's birth. Was a slightly difficult Also, I was trying to have a [00:18:00] VBAC and the cord was wrapped around his, around his neck and his heart rate was dropping and so we had to go in for an emergency C-section. That one, went pretty well too. Overall, given the circumstances and everything. So it wasn't until a lot, our third child's birth. That was really, really difficult. And during that I was trying for another vbac, which looking back I wish I had not done that. But I was trying because I felt like that's, I really wanted that experience. And so I was trying and I found a doctor that would support me in doing that. And, um. It was, the birth was taking too long. I was kind of stalled in labor and they, I had an epidural and. I couldn't feel very much, but at one point I felt a pop. And this was as they were planning to get me into the [00:19:00] emerge, into the room to deliver, to via C-section. They were already planning it. We were just trying to get in there once it was open and available. Mm-hmm. And I felt this pop as they were planning this. And, I didn't know to say anything because I didn't. No, anything was wrong. I couldn't feel any pain. And we get into the emergency room, no, still no one knows anything has happened. And he's allowed to be awake and okay. And so I'm still awake and they find the, the rupture in my uterus. And I lost about probably half my blood and, and so that was very, very traumatic in and of itself. Getting out of the hospital was difficult because my blood still didn't look quite right to them. My blood work and everything, they weren't happy with it. And so, but I went home. And decided not to get a blood transfusion. Just because I didn't feel comfortable with it. [00:20:00] I ended up developing a hematoma and an infection, and had to go back in the hospital and was on antibiotics. I think it was about a week I was in there and. So when I came home, I was experiencing PTSD symptoms, but didn't understand that's what it was. Mm-hmm. I literally thought I was going to die all the time. I thought I was every minute of the day. Mm-hmm. I was checking to see what was happening in my body. Because I thought I was going to die for sure. And so I kept wanting to go to the hospital because I felt like what if I'm, I missed the infection before, I didn't know I had this infection. No one was telling me that I looked sick, you know? And I could have died from that infection. And, so yeah, I kept wanting to go to the hospital to see a doctor, just to make sure I was okay. And. I didn't understand what was happening to me, but at the time [00:21:00] he would tell me I didn't need to go to the doctor, you know, and yell at me that I, nothing was wrong with me, that I was fine telling me I didn't need to go to the doctor, making me feel bad about it. I was struggling to take care of the kids, because I was going through all this and not understanding what was happening. So this is where I really, really started to know that something was wrong, in the marriage because of how he handled this situation. So. Yeah, this is his children that he's talking about Most, you know, normal people. If you're, if you're suffering and it involves your kids or your spouse, you're gonna take them to the hospital. That's, that isn't normal. No. Even when I had the infection in my fever. I had started at home and I was shaking like I was, I couldn't stop. Like I would [00:22:00] shake out of the blue. My body would just, that's how far the infection had progressed. And he still was kind of telling me that I didn't need to go. But thankfully my doctor was like, you can come in tonight if you think you need to. And I was like, yes, I need to. Yes. When can I be over there like yesterday? Yes. So was that the first time that you've experienced abuse by him or were there other stuff on top of the post pregnancy and delivery stuff? There was, I mean, there was stuff here and there definitely like control over money, like making me feel bad about buying groceries like that. I spent too much, when I just, I mean I am very frugal. Like I love finding deals. I love all that. I mean, I am into that. I always have been. I am very particular about what I buy and mm-hmm. And I still, no matter how hard I tried to do a good [00:23:00] job, I would come home and it would not be good enough and it would be that I spent too much money. And so, yeah, it's definitely control stuff. I saw I was happening before, but I kind of took it on as this is something I'm doing wrong. And so it wasn't until the medical stuff happened that I realized. That I started to realize a little bit that maybe it was something else. Yeah. You're not the only one that had that. Mm-hmm. Had that problem with the spending money. I was in charge of getting groceries and buying all the Christmas gifts for his family, and it was always the same thing. You spent too much money and mm-hmm. And you bought too many groceries, like, well, why don't you try and get a full, week budget on a hundred bucks and see how good you do. Exactly. Or you buy all the presents for your family and see how well you do on the budget you gave me. [00:24:00] Yeah. The control, the verbal and emotional abuse. Mm-hmm. It's not just physical folks. Your abuser can make your life a living hell without laying a finger on you. Yes, and I think that's what I'm realizing now is I still have physical, issues related to the abuse that happened when Elijah was born. I have heart palpitations that I believe. Come from a mixture of what happened to me physically, but also what happened to me emotionally, that I felt so abandoned and so, confused during that time because of what was being told to me by, by my husband and. Yeah, and just realizing the extent that the damage goes, it's very different than, I mean, physical abuse and emotional abuse have some similarities, but Yeah. The, depths doesn't change just because we can't see it [00:25:00] on the outside. Exactly. Mm-hmm. When did you decide, enough is enough? I need to get out now. Was there a specific day or an event? Well, there were two, I mean two, it happened twice. So it happened in North Carolina. He was continuing to escalate as far as like telling me he was suicidal, which I believe he is. But he seems to, he uses it in certain ways to get me to stop doing things that he doesn't want me to be doing, like spending time by myself outside of the house or spending time with friends. Um. You know, not being able to have intimacy and things like that. So he uses that as a way to get me to stop. And so that was escalating also. He had started using intimidation, punching walls in the house, that kind of thing. So, and the friend had [00:26:00] just, I had never, no one had ever told me that what was happening was abuse. And I didn't know. I honestly did not know. And someone had just. That who had come from an abusive marriage had pointed out to me that I had told her what was happening at home. And she was like, that is abuse. And I was like, what? Are you serious? Mm-hmm. Like I was in shock that I didn't know that. And I think that was just a wake up call for me. When I have confronted it, he pushed back right against it and wanted me to come back home. He and, I, the kids and I had moved to a different house and, we're trying to figure out what to do and that's when I decided to move closer to my family. And so that was the first time we got back together about nine months after we separated. 'cause I just, I think I. I was struggling physically to [00:27:00] handle everything on my own, plus dealing with my mental health. And it was really hard. And I think I was struggling with how am I going to do this? And I missed having someone to share life with. I missed. And I thought, what if I'm wrong? What if I am, what if I'm wrong? And I'm just as messed up as he is? And, um, which I do have my stuff, but it's different. It's not the same. And so we got back together and then about, I think it was about three years after we got back together, all the same patterns had come back up. Mm-hmm. And it had started transferring over to things happening with the kids that as far as control and just emotionally abusive language towards them. And when I started seeing how it was affecting the kids, that's when I decided. No, I cannot let this continue. Because seeing that affect them, how it could affect them [00:28:00] being exposed to that long term, I can't handle that. So I think the kids have really, really helped me to do things for them and for myself that maybe I wouldn't, it would've taken me longer to do it if it was just for me, I think. So yeah, that's kind of how that happened. Yeah, I didn't have children early in the relationship. My ex didn't want kids right away, but then we were married about five to seven year mark then all of a sudden he decided he wanted to have children. And by that time, I already knew I was trapped in a marriage that was abusive and I did not wanna bring children into this world and subject them to that. Because like you say, it's fun if it's just me, but now I have kids that I am in charge of and you know, it's going to affect them. So I just made the decision and I told him, I'm not having children. Mm-hmm. [00:29:00] Sorry, I already have to deal with everything in the marriage that I didn't have. I wouldn't have had any, anything left. But, you made a lot of big points in that you didn't know that you were abused. And I was the same way. I was abused for 13 years and I used to call up my, one of my closest friends, and I used to cry every time. You know, this man would do something horrible and I would cry, and what am I gonna do? And mm-hmm. And one day, you know, she tells me. I'm tired of you calling me up and telling me all your stories. Every time this man does something to you and you need to get out of there. He's an abusive man and I'm like, but the church won't let me get a divorce. And she said, God is not going to not love you anymore [00:30:00] because you've made the choice to divorce this abusive man. That was the day that I, I woke up and I'm like, this is abuse. Mm-hmm. All this time, that's what this was. Mm-hmm. And I made the choice then and there, I need to make plans to get out. Mm-hmm. So , when you decided to leave the second time, what were the steps that you took to get out? I. Hmm. Let's see. So what was that? Was it similar to the first time or was it different? It was a little bit different. I'm trying to think through it. I was more on my own this time. I didn't like, I didn't have someone, I wasn't seeing a counselor at the time. I wasn't really a part of a group. I think I was the most isolated probably that I have been. [00:31:00] And so I really, I just, I think I talked to my grandma and just telling her what was happening. I also listened to some resources from Leslie Vernick and there was one in particular, I can't even remember what it was called, but it was about. Oh gosh, I can't remember specifically, but it was how a man was treating his wife in the Bible. And I think it was the Levite, maybe the story of the Levite. And when I saw their, just the implications of abuse and the effects and the seriousness of it, and that's not what God wants for me. I think once I saw that. I, that's when it really clicked. And I was also getting solo physically that I knew I had to do something. My body was starting to react, to all of the stress and [00:32:00] abuse. Heart palpitations, just constantly tense, feeling like something's going to happen. And so I think all of those things and seeing the effect on our kids, that's when I decided just to. Let him know that I'm not okay with it. And I'm trying to remember even we had a conversation and I let him know, I think we need to be separated. And at the time he agreed with me that we need to be separated, but he wanted us to stay in relationship still, even though we were separated. But I knew in my head that I was done. But it was good be that because that kind of started the process even though he thought that. You know, in his head he thought we would work it out eventually, I think it started the process and we lived in separate places. And then it just has continued from there with filing divorce. Hmm. So you're still in the middle of the divorce proceedings now, right? Yes. Mm-hmm. What's your [00:33:00] interactions been with him, through this proceedings? It's been. Just on and off communication. He, that's with him. He's not outrightly like, glaringly abusive, especially in text messages. That's never been how he is really, it's more covert. So the communication part, except for about a year ago, we had a situation where he wouldn't leave the house and, that's when I stopped being able to let him be here with the kids. But besides that, the communication has been minimal, thankfully. It's more been through money that the abuse has continued. And also through the legal proceedings, what he's asking for legally feels like abuse also. So yeah, he was like canceling credit cards and stuff on you. Yes, exactly. Yeah. Yeah. So it's those like subtle, [00:34:00] under the radar where people won't notice really that the abuse is still happening. Yeah. So you look like the bad guy 'cause you're leaving mm-hmm. Your husband, but he's like, trying to sell the house out from under you and the kids and cutting your credit cards. And it's like, how are you gonna feed the children? Where are they gonna sleep? I mean, these are your children. It's insane. Yeah. Your spouse makes you look like. Or makes you feel like you've lost your mind. Or like you said in the first time you left, well, maybe he's not that bad. Maybe I'm crazy. Maybe it's not him, it's me. No, that's what they do. That's what they do, is they make you question your sanity and the reality of the situation. Mm. And that's still, that is the hardest part for me, especially right now with thinking about having to share my story with the court, with [00:35:00] people maybe who side with Dan. And having him there in front of me as I share what has happened. I'm really struggling even right now with, yeah. Do I know what's real? Can I, can I hold on to that? And. Not get confused. Mm-hmm. So that's how the effects of psychological abuse go so deep. Like even if you know the truth, it can create this pattern in your brain where you start questioning yourself, questioning what you know. And you and I tend to go back to. Seeing it as my fault. So I really have to push back against that and be around people who help me remember the truth and keep telling my, reminding myself of what's happened and this is real. This is not something that I'm making up. So how did you start the healing process? Us? Oh gosh. I mean, I think it's been a constant process of trying to put [00:36:00] myself around people. Like I said, who will tell me the truth and, um, about myself and about the situation and how God sees me. So I went back to counseling. Recently after Mending Arm mending the Soul Group ended. I realized I needed to be around people still, and I needed people to speak that truth. So I went back to counseling and that's helped a lot. Still listening to, voices that remind me. Of how toxic that kind of situation is, and that I don't need to stay in that environment. And also it's just, I think a process of acknowledging how much all of it hurt, acknowledging the damage that was done, and just the reality, letting myself accept the reality of the situation. While also taking care of myself, like mentally, physically, and all of that. So it's definitely, it feels like a full-time, full-time job sometimes just, trying to keep myself going in the right [00:37:00] direction. But I'm definitely, I feel like I'm learning about what I need and, trying to meet those needs the best I can. Would you recommend manning this all to others? What was your experience with the group? Definitely, yes, I would recommend it. Yeah, that was a first for me, being around other women who have been through abuse, and I think that alone is huge. Just being able to hear other people's stories and realizing that the patterns are the same, even though the situations are so different and the effects can be very similar too. And, and also the steps to healing and processing what happened are so good. So it's just that combination of community with people who have been through it, and also the path to working through the, what happened to you. Well, I'm glad that it was so helpful to you. I've definitely seen some changes in you from the beginning when you joined the [00:38:00] group and now. So that, I hope that's an encouragement to you. You seem so more confident and you recognize those red flags. You understand now what he's doing to you when he's talking to you. He is gaslighting you. He is narcissistic. He is being manipulative. You're recognizing those things, whereas you might not have seen those things before. Mm-hmm. And, talking to our listeners that are going through abuse right now, or maybe they just left their abuser, what advice would you give to someone else who's being abused right now? Hmm. I think that, I would say to take care of yourself, and to think about what you really need. That it is not wrong to think about. What you need and where you are at. I feel like a lot of times, especially in [00:39:00] Christian communities, we take on this idea that I think thinking about ourselves and what we need is selfish or wrong, and I feel like that kind of, that mentality set me up to stay in that situation a lot longer, than I probably should have. So yeah, just considering what you really need, and. Getting people around you that will help you decide what steps you need to take, to get into a better position, a better situation where you can have healing, and, and just to yeah, feel better. So I would say, yeah, take care of yourself and get people around you that can support you and help you make a plan. Very good advice. What would you say your relationship with God is like now that you've gone through some of your healing process? Hmm. It's definitely, it's good, but I do, I still [00:40:00] struggle with, Not putting the characteristics. And protecting myself from God, I guess I have a hard time, like not distancing myself, and so it's always reminding myself that he is safe, that he cares about me, that he's leading me through this, and that I can trust him. So it is really good, but it is a constant, a, a journey also reminding myself of the truth over and over so that I can keep coming back to him and not hiding. Oh, that's, that is so true. It is a journey and it's messy Sometimes it's, but God understands he's there and he's gonna be patient and waiting for you while you're still figuring things out and, mm-hmm. Awesome. So like we have a music segment at the end of the episode. I don't suppose you're sing or play an instrument or juggle or anything like that. No. I play the, but I [00:41:00] don't have it. Oh, how about a joke? You got any jokes, kid jokes, cheesy jokes? No. Don't have any jokes? No. Oh, well, no. How about, I know that you have one of these. How about what's a Christian song that really encourages you and that you just go to it whenever you're having a bad day. Oh my gosh. I think I mentioned this one during the group actually. Mm-hmm. I can't remember the title of it, but it's, it's the one, like, he's greater than All My Mistakes. Gosh, I wish I can remember who, oh, I can't remember the name of the band. But anyway, it's something about, greater than all my mistakes, and if you type that in, it should come up. But it's amazing and it just talks about how, it's just such a peaceful song to me and just realizing that he really is, he's greater than all my mistakes. The mistake that I made of being in a relationship with someone that's abusive. Mm-hmm. [00:42:00] Any mistakes I make with the kids, mistakes I make with putting characteristics on God that aren't him, anything that I do, nothing is big enough that is going to change his relationship with me. And that he's always there, waiting for me to, turn and look at him. So, yeah, I love that song. I'll definitely put that in the show notes for people to look that up. 'cause I did listen to it when you mentioned it the first time and it is an awesome song. Yes. But I so appreciate you coming onto the show and sharing your journey with us. You're welcome. Thank you so much for having me. So I hope you really enjoyed Ashley's story today. She had a lot of great nuggets to share with you, and I've heard her story before, of course, in a lot more detail, a lot more gory detail, but you can tell that she is an awesome lady, an [00:43:00] awesome mother who's gone through so much, so many challenges. Yet, the Lord has really blessed her life, blessed her kids. How did you feel about what Ashley said? Can you relate to any of the struggles that she's had that she's continuing to go through? You have a prayer request that you'd like me to bring before the Lord. I have my personal time with the Lord usually at breakfast time, so I'd be honored to pray for you. So until next week. Choose one thing, just once, small thing today to get you closer to your healing goals. Thank you and God bless. Thank you for listening to the Wounds of the Faithful Podcast. If this episode has been helpful to you. Please hit the subscribe button and tell a friend. 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Pregnancy and childbirth are filled with important decisions, and sometimes the advice you receive from your OB/GYN or midwife can feel overwhelming—or incomplete. In this episode of True Birth, we take an honest look at when and why you might consider seeking a second opinion during pregnancy or for birth planning. A second opinion is not about questioning your provider's expertise—it's about ensuring you have the full picture before making decisions that impact your health and your baby's well-being. We discuss situations where a second opinion can be especially valuable: when facing a major intervention such as induction, cesarean birth, or surgery; when you're given limited options; or when your instincts tell you something doesn't feel right. We'll explore how different providers approach issues like VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean), high-risk pregnancy management, and birth preferences, and why those perspectives can vary. Just as importantly, we share practical tips on how to approach the process: how to ask for your records, how to frame the conversation, and how to choose the right expert for a balanced perspective. Our goal is to empower you to feel confident, informed, and supported in your care. Remember: seeking a second opinion is your right, not a sign of mistrust. It's one of the best ways to advocate for yourself and ensure you're making decisions aligned with your values and goals. Tune in as we unpack real scenarios and offer guidance on making the second-opinion process respectful, productive, and ultimately reassuring—for a healthier pregnancy and a birth experience that feels right for you. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe—your questions could be featured in our next episode! For additional resources and information, be sure to visit our website at Maternal Resources: https://www.maternalresources.org/. You can also connect with us on our social channels to stay up-to-date with the latest news, episodes, and community engagement: YouTube: Dive deeper into pregnancy tips and stories atyoutube.com/maternalresources . Instagram: Follow us for daily inspiration and updates at @maternalresources . Facebook: Join our community at facebook.com/IntegrativeOB Tiktok: NatureBack Doc on TikTok Grab Our Book! Check out The NatureBack Method for Birth—your guide to a empowered pregnancy and delivery. Shop now at naturebackbook.myshopify.com .
What happens when you've been told your body “can't” birth vaginally… and then God writes a different story?In this episode, Karen sits down with Audrey Stinson, a mom of four, who went from believing she would never experience a vaginal birth to having not one, but two redemptive home births—the last being completely pain-free.Audrey vulnerably shares her journey through two cesareans, the heartbreak of feeling her body was “broken,” and the desperate prayers that led her to invite God fully into her birth story. With the support of her doula, a faith-filled mindset shift, and leaning deeply on God's presence, Audrey discovered strength, redemption, and joy in birth that she never imagined possible.Tune in to hear:The limiting beliefs that often follow cesarean birth—and how faith can rewrite themHow prayer and preparation paved the way for a redemptive VBAC at homeThe integral role a doula played in supporting Audrey and empowering her husbandThe difference between “intensity” and “pain” in laborHow inviting God into every part of pregnancy and birth can transform the experienceAudrey's pain-free birth story with her fourth baby and how she walked away with an even deeper faithJoin the Doula Mastermind: https://painfreebirth.com/doula-mastermind/Connect with Audrey:IG: @faithful.laborConnect with Karen:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/painfreebirthInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/painfreebirth/Spotify Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/5zEiKMIHFewZeVdzfBSEMSApple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/pain-free-birth/id1696179731Website - https://painfreebirth.com/Email List https://pain-free-birth.mykajabi.com/website-opt-in
Former science teacher turned genetic counselor Natalie Richeimer joins the podcast to discuss her journey through IVF and a VBAC after a traumatic first birth. She set her sights on a more informed, empowered birth for her second child, seeking autonomy and healing as a Covid lockdown birth was imminent. Connect with the guest: @lotsofbracha Informed Pregnancy Media and Mahmee present an all new podcast! One Way or a Mother is a new narrative podcast from Dr. Elliot Berlin, DC. Each season is an intimate story of one woman, one pregnancy, and all of the preparations, emotions, and personal history leading up to the birth. Episodes feature the expectant mother along with her family, doctors, and birth work team. Start listening to Episode 1: I Should Have Died featuring Arianna Lasry Keep up with Dr. Berlin and Informed Pregnancy Media online! informedpregnancy.com @doctorberlin Youtube LinkedIn Facebook X Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we are revisiting another one of our favorite episodes! Episode 188 featured Lindsay's amazing story of preparation and perseverance through doubt during her COVID VBAC.Lindsay's first birth was a planned home birth which ultimately resulted in a hospital transfer and emergency C-section. She was left feeling unprepared and unheard and committed to fighting for a VBAC next time. Lindsay worked for months preparing for a VBAC both physically and emotionally. Once labor started, she was coping extremely well with her intense contractions. She arrived to the hospital at 10 centimeters, ready to have her baby!Until…her contractions completely stopped. Lindsay shares with us how she overcame ultimate doubt when pushing continued for over FOUR hours! Doubt can creep in at any time on your VBAC journey. Trust yourself and your preparation. Lean into your supportive birth team. We know you can do this!Needed Website: Code VBAC20 for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
In today's episode, Meagan chats with our friend, Hannah, who is a mom to three little ones under the age of 4. Hannah has had two VBACs that were both unique in their own ways. Her first birth was an induction that led to an unplanned Cesarean. She was induced for the convenience of avoiding the upcoming holidays and to prevent her baby from getting too big if she chose to wait for spontaneous labor. While her Cesarean was straightforward and a positive birth, avoiding another tough recovery was the biggest reason why she wanted to have a VBAC.Hannah's second birth included late onset gestational diabetes, PROM (premature rupture of membranes), and a VBAC with a 3rd-degree tear in every direction. With her third birth, she also had late onset gestational diabetes, spontaneous labor, a stall, a scary shoulder dystocia, and a VBAC with a 2nd-degree tear. Hannah says that even with the complications during her VBACs, she would choose those recoveries over her Cesarean recovery every time. We know the choice to VBAC is deeply personal, but an easier recovery is often a huge benefit to having a VBAC! Discussion Topics: shoulder dystocia, 18-month duration, close pregnancy duration, two VBAC stories, labor dystocia, calcium bicarbonate, TUMs, Pitocin, induction, uterine receptors, PROM (premature rupture of membranes), holidays, Cesarean recovery, perineal tears, late onset gestational diabetes, epidural, hospital VBAC, backup doula, unavailable provider, failure to progressNeeded Website: Code VBAC20 for 20% OffThe Ultimate VBAC Prep Course for ParentsOnline VBAC Doula TrainingSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-vbac-link/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Rikki and Nova Jenkins join Dr. Rebecca Dekker to share the personal and powerful story of their second birth: a planned home VBAC that ultimately led to a hospital transfer. Rikki, Evidence Based Birth® Instructor Coordinator, doula, and IBCLC, reflects on the trauma of her first Cesarean birth and the deep healing she found through midwifery care, doula support, and intentional preparation. Nova, a Grammy-nominated music producer and proud girl dad, shares his emotional journey from feeling powerless in their first birth to becoming a protective presence throughout this redemptive experience. Together, they offer a vulnerable, moving conversation about reclaiming birth after trauma, processing grief, and creating a peaceful bubble of support for their family, even when things don't go as planned. Content Note: This episode contains description of obstetric violence from (14:05) to (18:55) and of unexpectedly losing consciousness during a Cesarean from (40:54) to (45:43). (04:36) Why They Chose a Home VBAC After Trauma (08:46) Dual Care with a Midwife and OB (11:22) Processing the First Cesarean—Seven Years Later (19:09) Prepping for a Home Birth and VBAC (21:40) Including Their Daughter in Prenatal Care (24:10) Amora's Labor and When Things Stalled (30:12) Making the Empowered Decision to Transfer (34:11) A Healing, Respectful Cesarean Experience (45:02) When Language Hurts: “Failed Home Birth” (51:04) Planning for Postpartum and Accepting Support (52:49) Advice for Those Planning a VBAC or Home Birth Resources Follow Rikki: @sacredjourneylv Follow Nova: @novablessed Explore Heart & Soul Collective: www.heartandsolcollective.org | @heartandsolcollective Check out Flor Cruz's “Badass Motherbirther:" www.badassmotherbirther.com For more information about Evidence Based Birth® and a crash course on evidence based care, visit www.ebbirth.com. Follow us on Instagram and YouTube! Ready to learn more? Grab an EBB Podcast Listening Guide or read Dr. Dekker's book, "Babies Are Not Pizzas: They're Born, Not Delivered!" If you want to get involved at EBB, join our Professional membership (scholarship options available) and get on the wait list for our EBB Instructor program. Find an EBB Instructor here, and click here to learn more about the EBB Childbirth Class.