re ❤️ love with Dr. Ezzie Spencer

I'm so excited to share my new 1:1 re.love coaching program!Tune into discover how to remove splinters from your love consciousness.xo EzzieBODY OF WORK:www.ezziespencer.com1:1 re.love:www.ezzie.loveCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Am I really attracted to very masculine men?Or is this just part of how I've been socialised (the whole girl fairytale thing)?Today we're diving into attraction patterns on the pod.Truth be told, you won't know the answer to this Q until you strip back social conditioning and experience what lies beneath for you.What you might find might surprise you, either way!It's not about trying to talk yourself into liking the softer nicer people, and it's not about pathologising desires — neither work.When you're open and available for what is genuine for you, you can confidently claim it and call it in. Today's podcast ep includes some thoughts and prompts to help gain that openness and clarity.And if you're ready to move fast — release what is standing in the way and find your person who is attractive in all the ways — I have a few 1:1 spots opening next week. Look out for my email.xo EzzieBODY OF WORK:www.ezziespencer.com1:1 re.love:www.ezzie.loveCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

You can find love after a toxic relationship. I help women to restore self-belief, self-trust and to feel the courage and confidence to put themselves out there again to find real love.Last week, goop published my article on dating after a narcissist. You can read the article here.I'm sharing my best tips in this week's podcast episode. Tune in below.X EzzieBODY OF WORK:www.ezziespencer.com1:1 re.love:www.ezzie.loveCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

I'm so excited to share my new website!You know how when you look back at life and suddenly all the steps along the way make perfect sense? Jo ChunYan created a gorgeous cosmic visual reflection of that: past, present and future.Check out the new www.ezziespencer.com here.You can link to the three individual websites of my body of work from the above “temple” site. Clarity around my coherent body of work emerged through working with the wonderful Pamela Slim.I share all in depth on today's podcast!Oh also, check out these announcements on this podcast episode:  the revamped re.love program coming soon: pure magic!Unconscious Vows workshop on 4 May: join interest list.brand new Lunar Abundance creations: say what?!xo Ezzie P.S. I recently sat with Kylie Patchett on her brilliant show. She's an intuitive interviewer and I shared the back story of my body of work there too: big initiations, vision, mission. Listen in here.  BODY OF WORK:www.ezziespencer.com1:1 re.love:www.ezzie.loveCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Want to find out if you have any Unconscious Vows in love? Today's podcast episode is a thought experiment designed to help you uncover any secret beliefs that are holding you back in love. Lots of prompts for contemplation and journaling that may just unlock the clarity you need to take your love-life to the next level.X EzzieBODY OF WORK:www.ezziespencer.com1:1 re.love:www.ezzie.loveCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

When is it too hot too soon?What to look out for, to know if it's going to crash?Love-bombing might feel like a special “karmic bond”.Feels great, until it doesn't.Today's podcast episode helps you track the signs in dating, including unexpected conversational behaviours and other hints that something may be off in the early stages ...… plus how to build your immunity so you aren't ever seduced by someone who will waste your time or dash your hopes in love (no narcissists allowed).Tune in and let me know your thoughts,x EzzieBODY OF WORK:www.ezziespencer.com1:1 re.love:www.ezzie.loveCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Today's podcast episode is a mini-life-update from L.A., tune in you're into that kind of thing! I share what's exciting me at the moment, a new way I'm working with the seasons (hello Imbolc), collective liberation with Elizabeth DiAlto, and a peak into MY NEW BOOK! xo EzzieApply for 1:1 coaching:www.ezzie.love/privateCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Something that upsets me is how many of my gorgeous, brilliant, magical women clients have been brainwashed by old-fashioned tropes about what it means “to be feminine” in love. It's not the “feminine” part that upsets me — it's those old cliches about “how the feminine should act so the masculine wants her" that translate into women feeling they have to be passive in love. No! That's the fast-track to giving away your power … and missing out on the love you want. In this week's new podcast episode, I share more about what feminine power might actually look like in a dating context. This topic gets me feisty … Tune in! xo EzzieApply for 1:1 coaching:www.ezzie.love/privateCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Do you ever lose yourself in the balance between wanting big love, and getting a little fixated on the specifics?If you relate, then you'll love today's podcast episode. We cover:Why it is so hard to keep the balance between wanting the thing and attaching to the thing (when you really do want the thing!).What to focus on instead; andA simple phrase to keep you open to the mystery — before your seeds of desire have come to fruit (the hard part!).xo EzzieApply for 1:1 coaching:www.ezzie.love/privateCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

In my private client work:… we unearth any blockages to self-worth in romantic relationships (return to unconditional love and self-acceptance),… we release any Unconscious Vows that may be preventing us from turning our Heartlight on, allowing our feminine essence and magic to shine out to catch the attention of gorgeous, appropriate suitors …… and we enjoy squeals of delight as we spin the wheel of love in real time, with dating profile and texting reviews in real time (gold).Love is inevitable with this powerful trifecta!Today's episode is about the third part of the trifecta:Modern online dating etiquette!This is a super practical episode with tips to stop the second-guessing and put your mind at ease, create a powerful dating technique that works for you, plus communication scripts.When do you unmatch someone? And how to do it in an elegant, graceful fashion? Tune in below for insights into the weird language of virtual dating. xo EzzieApply for 1:1 coaching:www.ezzie.love/privateCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

If you've been single for awhile (or you're recently out of a long-term relationship) then you may be confronted with the weirdness of the current dating climate. You might feel intimidated or turned off — which is entirely understandable. And I firmly believe that it is still possible to have fun dating right now, a belief rooted in the reality of how I help my clients everyday to enhance their dating experience. The quality of your experience will likely correlate with the depth of your inner work, the rigor of your vetting system, and your fluency in today's “dating” language. So how to do that?As my cosmic pal Theresa Reed likes to say: be prepared, not scared! On that: I give preparation tips in today's podcast episode. Tune in below, or search my name in your fave podcast platform. xo EzzieApply for 1:1 coaching:www.ezzie.love/privateCheck out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezzie.love/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezzie.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

So. We can know that the hype around February 14 is commercially manufactured, we can know that everyone is on their own timeline but … Valentine's Day can still be a tricky one to navigate if your love-life is not exactly where you'd like it to be.In honour of this, today's podcast episode is a bit different. Tune in for a guided meditation to connect with unconditional love and hope, and to receive guidance from your own inner wisdom about what to do for yourself at this time of year.You are so loved,... and big love is coming for you.xo EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Love Blocks don't mean that you are doomed. On the contrary, figuring out you have a love block is cause for celebration! Okay, that sounds weird. Why celebrate? Because correctly identifying what is blocking you means that you can swiftly address it.In today's episode, we go through the 3 main love blocks that I see with my clients. These blocks might come up at any stage in dating and relationship. But when you melt these away, the more ease you'll have in your love-life. This applies whether you are single, dating or yes — even in relationship and wanting to go deeper.Do you feel blocked in love? Do you relate to, 1, 2 or 3? Listen to the episode and let me know. xo EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Think of it this way. If expectations signal a focus on them (how they "should" behave) Then standards emanate from the inside-out (what works for you). It's how you position and hold yourself in relation to the thing that matters. Starting with your own standards in the quest for love can make all the difference.And then, to hold your standards is a sign of embodied self-worth. Good in theory ... a little crunchier when you are connecting with someone you really like. In today's episode, we dive into that scenario.xo EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

FROM THE ARCHIVES: In the weird online world, when things seem increasingly uncertain and complex, a system can help you stay grounded and confident and relax into the flow. The wheels of (re)love is the exact system I use to help my clients weave their way from single to loved-up. Tune into another classic podcast episode from the archives: how to go from dating to relationship. xo EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

FROM THE ARCHIVES: This week I'm sharing one of the top re.love® podcast episodes of all time.THE GOLDEN QUADRANT gives a helpful framework to help you approach dating conversations with the energy of curiosity, openness, abundance and play. It helps to take the pressure down and have fun dating.Try it out and let me know what you think!xo EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

If you've ever wondered whether you missed the chance with someone special because of something you said or did, then this episode is for you. I loved recording this episode because it gives insight into a private client session (details shared with her permission). She came into the session beating herself up about what she said to an ex one night - and left feeling peace, calm and relaxation at the end, knowing that she was enough. Tune in, as this is a practical dive into self-love and weaving the unconscious into the light.Love EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

On the cusp of a new year, today's podcast episode is another personal update.  Tune in for my reflections on my word for 2022 (what was yours?) Also:Highlights of 2022 - and big decisions for me Why I'm so excited about changing things up in 2023 And why I believe love is possible in 2023!xo EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Happy end-of-the-year, and good wishes for whatever you celebrate! Amidst it all, it can be a tricky time of year where friends and family take the opportunity to probe into your love-life … tricky if your love-life isn't exactly where you'd like it to be.If you're experiencing any awkward questions or opinions around the holiday dinner table, you might find today's episode helpful. This is about love, but the principles apply to any tender subject.Tune in for:A framework to determine who to open up to.Communication scripts on how to frame your shares - you don't have to cut out your loved ones altogether!What to do if no one gets you — what action to take.I hope this episode helps you navigate any tricky conversations at this time of the year. Listen to your heart, and you've got this! xo Ezzie Apply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

This question breaks my heart because there is so much toxic dating advice out there, making you feel wrong for simply being YOU.The toxic part? "Having" to do/be something to be loved. The truth?Show YOUR magic. You don't need to fix or change yourself to find love. And if you ever catch yourself trying to “be” or “do” something in order to “get” something … … it's really risky business.  I share my personal experience with that in this episode, Plus an alternative rooted in self-love and self-revelry. Click below to listen, or search my name in your fave podcast app. Show your own magic!xo EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

I had more fun dating in my thirties than any other time. I was really hitting my stride when I met my guy, tee hee! Whether you're dating in your thirties, forties, fifties or sixties: in today's episode, I dive into some of the gifts of dating with a bit more experience under your belt ;) I see false scarcity kick in with many of my clients who haven't hit a certain “milestone” by a certain age by which they earlier decided that they would be happily coupled up. The truth? Whatever your age, you are not too late, you can shift back into an abundance mindset, you can find love. One of my gorgeous re.love grads, now in a happy relationship, just turned 70. 70! Let's unhook from the mainstream narratives, trust the timing and have FUN. Bring. It. On.xo EzzieApply for a private re.love® journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/privateCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

So many of the gorgeous women I work with are go-getters out there in the world (achievements, tick!). They can do all day and give and give and give. But inside their relationships? They tend to find it harder to receive support, affection, and love. There are heaps of reasons why we may find it difficult to receive. Fear is one. If you have ever wondered how to receive without fear, then tune into today's podcast episode to:  Frame a powerful threshold question to ask yourself (safety)Why you might be accidentally gaslighting yourself.Try a self-love journaling practice to melt away fear. To your love,EzzieJoin the waitlist for re.love® in 2023,  details here:www.ezziespencer.com/reloveCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

What to say if someone asks you tricky questions about your past relationships? I mean Why are you still single … do you have to even answer that?! No, of course not!There is nothing wrong with you — your path is perfect!Claim your truth, loud and proud. This episode includes communication scripts for exactly that. Tune in for:  Your quick and easy go-to answerHow to claim your story in a real and powerful wayWhat to say if you have been hurt in love.xo EzzieJoin the waitlist for re.love® in 2023,  details here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove Check out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Every day, I'm asked some variation of … And what about this thing [in dating], is THIS a red flag? I so get it. When you've been hurt in love, you don't want to put yourself in harm's way. But I teach a different method than “red flag spotting” — an approach grounded in curiosity and your own inner wisdom. There may be really good reasons why someone hasn't had a long-term relationship before. You'll know when you ask. In this episode, I give tips on how to open up the conversation. When to ask? How to ask?   What to pay attention to, in their answer? And … What happens if you hear something you don't like?xo EzzieJoin the waitlist for re.love® in 2023,  details here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove Check out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Kiss when it feels right of course! But let's be honest, that can be hard to discern, especially when you're dating with a serious goal in mind, like marriage/kids. What if you're heading back into the dating world after a (long) pause? What if you tend to leap into a physical bond super fast to establish desire/approval? What if you feel nervous meeting strangers from the internet? When it is too soon?  And when might you be holding back unnecessarily? If you've ever wondered about these questions, tune into today's episode for my take. It's less about “wait two dates!” and more about questions to ask yourself to get clear on your own truth.xo EzzieJoin the waitlist for re.love® in 2023,  details here:www.ezziespencer.com/reloveCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Bus Stop is one of Marilyn Munroe's most critically acclaimed films.She acts a treat, that is for sure … but the moral of the story, eeek!We see a courageous young woman from a small town on a mission to Hollywood, paying her own way across the country …… until she is “spotted” by a young man who decides he is going to take her back to his ranch, her dreams be dammed.We see Marilyn's character repeatedly decline his advances, we watch her literally run away from him in public, as he continues to pursue her, right into her bedroom as she wakes up one morning.When she again declines his proposal and attempts to catch a bus out of town to escape him and carry on with her dreams …… he literally throws a lasso around her and pulls her back to him as she attempts to board the bus.A lasso.Eventually, Marilyn's character rips up her (dreams) map to Hollywood. The screen goes dark as she heads to the ranch.Even though this film is from the 1950s, IMO we cannot underestimate how older pop culture depictions of unhealthy pursuit still unconsciously imprint our psyches re: how ppl are supposed to behave if they like someone. All genders are affected.  The number of clients who come through my door in 2022 who are still scarred by this type of thinking tells the tale! That can run the gamut of thinking that love-bombing = love … … to wondering why a well-regulated, emotionally mature human no longer gets turned on by climbing Rapunzel's tower.But then again, after #MeToo, what is healthy pursuit? In these recent years of reworking social and gender norms, together with a major tech disruption of how we meet and mate… IS THERE ANY WONDER that we might be confused about all this? What DOES healthy pursuit look like in dating?If you're curious about this for yourself, I offer questions for contemplation plus examples of healthy pursuit in today's episode.x Ezzie P.S. The gorgeous Jo ChunYan has given the re.love® podcast a lovely refresh this week. I love the symbolism of the Lunar Abundance book sitting under re.love®, it really is an evolution of my first book! Thanks Jo!Join the waitlist for re.love® in 2023,  details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Tori finally met the one she was calling in. He shared her profession, he was emotionally mature, he wanted a globe-trotting life, he was super cosmic, she was catching feels …Except that ... He was focusing on building up his business. Like, super focused on that. He wasn't able to meet her where she was at, he said. OMG.  Maybe you've had this experience, meeting someone GREAT but,They're not exactly available. It's not as on-the-nose as “they have a partner”. It's a little more tricky, how it shows up.They might be single, but aren't ready for a relationship ...Or not emotionally available, or no space for loveOr they might be absolutely perfect, but living somewhere else.The temptation is to start convincing yourself ... and them !  ... that this is perfect, these feelings can't be ignored, maybe even trying to coach them through any blocks.While it can work out, sure, this is a pretty risky approach.It can mean that you lower your standards, delay your timeline ...... all the while, entrenching a relational dynamic that may later lead to resentment.If you're in this situation,  you may wish to ask yourself:Are you available?Listen in today's episode to go a little deeper on that question.And if you are available, then tune into today's episode for a simple framework to figure out what to do if you are available and they aren't, exactly.You deserve it all.  Abundance baby,x EzzieJoin the waitlist for re.love® in 2023,  details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

We're back with Season 5 and it felt like the right time to give a lil update on re.love®My vision is a world of open hearts, so I'm musing on the question: How to most effectively realize this vision ... in a way that feels yummy and alive? I sense that my word for 2023 might just be "evolving".The good news is that this will mean more podcasts and sharing!Tune into hear more of the news ...xo EzzieJoin the waitlist for the re.love® mastermind in 2023, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveCheck out the new self-study program LOVEABLE here:https://www.ezziespencer.com/loveableEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Have you ever had the experience of being just about to arrive at your destination, and then being blown completely off course?  It can be so confusing to take one step forward and then 65 steps back ... … just when you were celebrating all your hard work and thinking you were “graduating”. But the reality is that many great spiritual and mythological traditions show us that we are often presented with the biggest obstacle right before we reach our destination. It's the mirage in the desert, it's the storm winds of Aeolus that blew Odysseus to oblivion right when he was about to land from his “Odyssey” as you may recall if you read Steven Pressfield's War of Art (or the original opus from Ancient Greece!). It's a very common aspect of the human experience, to experience massive resistance JUST before we are about to make our biggest breakthrough.In the final podcast episode for Season 4, I speak through a predictable step on the path to love, where we shrug off old codependent (or less-than) relational dynamics for good and step into self-sovereignty. One of the support mentors in re.love, Elisa Hatton, says that “resistance is fertile” — and it is the most quoted statement in each and every re.love cocoon.Don't give up, dejected and disappointed, all on your own. Let's find the fertility in the challenges you are experiencing.Let this resistance be grist for the mill! Let's create LOVE in 2022. This is the last call, folks. We are into the final week to join re.love until 2023. If you've still got questions, send them my way! x Ezzie Doors closing for re.love on 2 October, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Dating and looking for a job? Are they the same?Well, one involves a money goal (or vocational purpose) — and let's hope the dating experience is more aimed at love!So on one level no ...AND YET …We can share learnings about the job-seeking process in a way that can actually build your confidence in the new dating landscape.For example, one of the biggest mistakes I see with my dating clients is that they give up too soon.If you did that while job-seeking you would be broke!So why short-change yourself in love?There are critical skills and mindset-shifts that you learn in any successful job-seeking process that you can also apply to love.In today's podcast episode, I take you through specific mindset shifts that will gift you a more enjoyable experience in dating.You might be surprised to learn how much these mindset shifts can help you build emotional resilience — and be the irresistable woman who has FUN — in what can otherwise be a harsh dating landscape.If you've ever been disappointed on the dating apps, this episode is for you.x EzzieP.S. Are you coming to the free Masterclass? Sign up here.Doors closing for re.love on 2 October, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Today we're talking attachment styles. What's yours?Sure, it can be helpful to understand your romantic prospect's style …... and know when to get out of their heads, and back into your heart.Ultimately the real question is: what works for you?This episode is for you if you've felt anxious or confused about someone's dating behaviour.Tune in to:-  understand different attachment styles; and-  how to gracefully ask the other person what's going on. This episode includes communication scripts you can use rightaway to move forwards — plus common errors to avoid.This is one of the most juicy episodes I've ever recorded.Love to hear your thoughts once you listen!xo EzzieDoors closing for re.love on 25 September, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Wondering how is it supposed to feel is so normal — especially when you have done deep personal work in recent years, had a spiritual awakening, or upgraded your relationship goals. The short answer? Listen to your body, trust yourself.The longer answer? There are certain clues to look out for.I'll go through two big 2 clues in this episode:- what you DO want to be feeling- what you DON'T want to be feeling.Both are pretty revolutionary, if you are doing the deep work to shift lifetime(s) of old relational patterns that no longer serve.This episode may hit on quite a deep level. Tune in. You deserve to be adored.xo EzzieDoors closing for re.love on 25 September, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Intentional Celibacy is trending.There's a good reason — a sacred pause can be a brilliant way to reset your attraction patterns and attract in the quality of suitors that you desire.So ...What is it?Why do it?For how long?How to approach a period of sacred alone time?Plus ... How to get back onto the court, when you're ready? (eeek!).Tune into today's episode for all the juicy goss on this important topic. (I'm increasingly seeing that Intentional Celibacy is a key stage on my clients' journeys into delicious relationship).Can't wait to hear your thoughts about the episode!xo EzzieDoors closing for re.love on 25 September, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

While I'm a huge fan of dating apps (when done right), many of my clients are feeling the urge to meet people the old-fashioned-way too — in real life.I love that! I mean, why scrimp? Open up as many avenues as possible!Today's episode is for you if you're wondering how to meet people in real life after a period of relying on the apps (or not meeting anyone at all).  In this episode, you'll discover: - awesome places to meet people, which are working right now- a mindset shift that will help you get over the awks- fun, simple ways to flirt and … how to assess their availability. There's a renewed zest for meeting IRL right now, so if you're looking for love, you will want to take notes from this practical episode — and then take action!xo EzzieDoors closing for re.love on 25 September, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

But what do I SAY at the end of the date - so he initiates the next one?The woman who asked me this was a go-getter who expressly wanted to learn how to embrace her feminine in love.Sidenote opinion : there's no right or wrong relating dynamic. It all comes down to what YOU want.THIS beautiful woman had a habit of stepping into the driver's seat in her romantic relationships — and that dynamic was leaving her depleted.She was clear that she wanted to establish a different dynamic in her romantic life but wasn't quite sure ... how. What might it look like to "be in her feminine" while dating?How might she indicate her interest, she wondered?I gave her some super practical ideas, and she is now in the most delicious deeper dating dynamic (which works for her!)Tune in to find out: what not to say, what to say, and why say it.If you wish to invite masculine pursuit, listen to this episode.Explore, experiment, do you!xo EzzieDoors closing for re.love on 25 September, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Remote work: Once for the fringe dwellers, now mainstream. It's not possible for all professions of course, but maybe it is for you. The choice is great.  So many possibilities for where to live, how to set up your life.And ...Will you find love when you don't yet know where you'll be?Is love even possible in these circumstances? (Yes!).In this episode, I guide you through a 3-step process to gain clarity, belief, and confidence in communication with your suitors.I can't wait to hear how this episode helps you to move forwards!xo EzzieDoors closing for re.love on 25 September, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

After a summer hiatus, we're back with Season 4 of the podcast!This is such a juicy season, kicking off with the question ... How to handle multiple suitors?!In this episode we cover: - what rotational dating is (and isn't)- why do it (this may surprise you!)- how to do it elegantly (graceful communication alert!).This episode is for you if you feel some resistance about the idea of having "multiple loops" open at any time ...... and also if you feel like you don't know where to start with this approach ("omg one is enough!").Mastering the mindset behind this approach heralded a major breakthrough in my own dating life. Hello, courtship!As always, love to hear your thoughts, my DMs are open.xo EzzieDoors closing for re.love on 25 September, details here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Elisa is an incredible life coach who is a graduate of the re.love program.In our conversation, Elisa speaks candidly about her concerns before entering the re.love program — was this just a heteronormative experience? What about those with intersecting identities?  I welcomed Elisa's hesitations, and was also excited to jam about her journey with re.love. Elisa is now a mentor inside the re.love program, lucky ducks for this program, as Elisa has so much wisdom to share!Tune in to hear Elisa's experiences and bathe in her gorgeous love energy.x EzzieDetails on the JUNE 2022 re.love group here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveElisa's IG: @elisa.lifecoach.hattonEzzie's IG: @ezziespencerWatch my conversation with Elisa on IGTV video here Free quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig © 

 I'm sharing this seminal episode again because is an EPIC roadmap to love, and exactly what I use to (re)activate the love magic of the brilliant women I work with.Interestingly enough, I found that the women who listened to this episode and then joined re.love nominating a specific focus on “Wheel One” … are in gorgeous relationships, 12 months later.  As you will hear in the episode, Wheel One = self-love. Goes to show, what we create within first …! Tune in for a self-diagnostic tool to quickly figure out:your exact block to love (in self-love and in dating/rships)what is at the root of that block (hint: often self-protection!)how to quickly dissolve the block and re(activate) YOUR love magic.xo EzzieRegister for the free Masterclass on 1 June 2022:Be Irresistable to LoveReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on the JUNE 2022 re.love group here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.love

There are two types of situation-ships I see my clients get lost in… Where the connection is palpable, the potential is STRONG, but the relationship itself feels elusive or remains just-out-of-reach.Are you in one of these 2 types of situation-ships?(And if you are — what to do about it?) Listen to this week's podcast episode to find out —Of course, you deserve more than a situation-ship.You deserve to be fully met in your relationships. x EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on the JUNE 2022 re.love group here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

"Is it possible to get too much into self-love and self-sovereignty?"Well, firstly, there's no rule that says you have to want to be in romantic relationship!But what happens if you did want that — and now you don't?How to know whether this is a passing phase, avoidance, or a core desire? In this week's podcast episode, I share why this question might come up, together with prompts for inner contemplation and practical next steps.To your love (in all the ways!)x EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on the JUNE 2022 re.love group here:www.ezziespencer.com/re.loveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

As a love coach, I see a LOT of text messages each week.This gives me a ringside seat to what exactly is misfiring for women who wish to be pursued (and who are experiencing the opposite in their dating lives).While every situation will naturally have its own context, there is one particular mistake I see time and again. What is it? Tune in today's episode to hear! Love to hear your thoughts, xo EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on the JUNE 2022 re.love group here:www.ezziespencer.com/reloveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Why is he not pursuing you … or even asking you out?In this week's podcast episode, you'll learn - 1. The counter-intuitive tip I teach my clients (to activate pursuit)2. What to do when you become magnetic (and what not to do)3. The critical mindset shift to make now (to keep all this flowing). This is for you if you're dating — and it might just spark up your existing relationship too.You'll love this episode, it is pure love magic!xo EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on the JUNE 2022 re.love group here:www.ezziespencer.com/reloveMusic composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Welcome to season 3 of the re.love podcast! If you are a highly sensitive person, or an empath, you may have porous energetic boundaries. This can be a superpower in terms of navigating spiritual realms ...  … But in romantic relationships?It can become kryptonite, particularly when coupled with a tendency to take on and transmute the pain of others, and to compromise your own needs in the name of love.In this week's podcast episode, I answer an empath's question on how to stop losing herself in relationship. In the episode, we dive into :— How to distinguish between your feels and desires - and theirs?— A powerful affirmation to return to self-love + self-acceptance— How to keep yourself in relationship - a longer-term strategyTo your self-sovereignty,x EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on the JUNE 2022 re.love group here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove

Most of the brilliant magical women I work with are yearning for a committed relationship, a healthy life partnership, a loving long-term partnership ...... what we call the Secret Garden in re.love language, the ultimate Spoke #8 on the wheel ...... but they keep getting stuck at the dating stage, in Spoke #6 of the re.love wheel.When your dating explorations and relationships get stuck here, it is a BIC clue that you are not quite ready for that committed relationship that your heart is craving.The good news? Becoming ready might not require months and months of work.To become ready, you might just need to make a few tweaks.In this episode, I walk through how to identify if you are not quite ready for that Secret Garden relationship, even if you are really into someone ...... and 3 things to incorporate to become ready. x EzzieP.S. This is the end of Season 2 of the Podcast. I'll be back (very) soon with Season 3.Reach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on re.love here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove

My answer to this is — No, And.Tune in to hear what I advise my clients about dating apps vs love-in-the-wild.xo EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on re.love here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove

... my living situation is sorted, until my heart is healed, until I figure out what is happening with my work, until I lose those pandemic pounds … ?I see many so many women delaying love unnecessarily … resulting in loneliness.And I see others rush forwards into dating before they are ready … resulting in (further) heartbreak.Are you ready to date now, or would it be better for you to pause?This episode contains different advice for three specific situations -- if your life, your living situation, or your work is not exactly where you want it to be- if you've exited a toxic relationship, or if you have a habit of attracting unavailable people or settling for less-than what you deserve- if a major life change is on the horizon for you.Tune in for prompts and the metric that I suggest that my clients use to assess when it is time to get back on the court of love!x Ezzie Reach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails on re.love here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove

Recording this episode dredged up the memory of that time I was ghosted after dating someone for six months …It was excruciating. Ghosting truly sucks. But in hindsight, the reason why it happened was obvious.In today's podcast episode, I share three reasons why people ghost, and how to handle it when they do.The third is rarely spoken about, but I see it each week in my client sessions. Hint: “Shift #3” in this week's masterclass.This episode is designed to bring internal closure and help you shift your attention back to where it belongs ... ... on YOU, your standards, and the high-quality love you are calling in.x EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails for the February 2022 re.love journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove

 "After I got out of that toxic marriage, I'm now in a relationship with a decent, kind man … he is so nice … buttt I just don't fall in love with him.  Am I blocked? What is it that I'm doing?" Are you familiar with the pendulum swing —  From wild, all-consuming, BIG LOVE (great til it crashes!)To the sensible, “safe” choice (great until it becomes a bit boring). What if you do not need to settle for the “safe” relationship? What if you were with someone who was stable, consistent, kind — and you were also in love, had fun, were happy and inspired? It is possible! In fact, it is what you deserve. In today's podcast episode I share how to create exactly this. I walk you through the re.love wheel through the lens of both chemistry and compatibility. You need both. But what does this look like in practice?You want to get out of the reactive, painful-or-unfulfilling swing, and turn the re.love wheel in the right way. This is a BIG topic, so tune in. I can't wait to hear what you think! x EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails for the February 2022 re.love journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove

What if I told you there was a method to go from dating to relationship?  I have created a very simple method, which cuts through all the noise. In today's episode, I lead you through this tried-and-tested method that I lead my re.love clients through, from non-existent love-lives to being happy and settled.All you need to do - 1. Follow the 8 steps in order,2. Take the correct role in spinning the wheel, and3. Release any old blocks at each of the spokes on the wheel. Tune into today's episode for more on what each step looks like! To your love in 2022, x EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails for the February 2022 re.love journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove

Take a peek into the different types of dating apps that my clients are seeing great results with right now. Hinge, Bumble, Coffee + Bagel, the League, Raya, eHarmony, Match.com, Plenty of Fish, the Pattern, Feeld -   How to choose?! In today's podcast episode, I use three categories to help guide you through the confusing landscape of online dating today:Low Barrier to EntryHigh(er) Barrier to EntryNicheI usually give individual recommendations to each of my clients because there is no one-size-fits-all.In this episode, I walk you through the exact considerations that will help you to pick a) a category and b) an app to focus on. … and I also share some of the real ingredients for success online. Tune into today's episode, it is super specific and juicy!  x EzzieReach out on IG: @ezziespencerFree quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:www.ezziespencer.comDetails for the February 2022 re.love journey here:www.ezziespencer.com/relove