Simpin After Dark

Welcome to season 6 of Simpin After Dark! Today I'm talkin about Ari Lennox's newest album, age/sex/location, focusing on the songs: “POF”, “Waste My Time”, “Boy Bye (Ft. Lucky Daye)”, “Leak it (Ft. Chlöe)”, “Blocking You”, & “Queen Space (Ft. Summer Walker”. It's all about the transitional space of growth and self-love that most of us go through at some point in our healing journey. It's normal and natural to crave love and connection but learning to get past being desperate is important if we want to find healthy relationships. Ari sings about dealing with players and sweet talkers and learning to see through the bullsh*t in order to avoid unnecessary f*ckery. You gotta know what real love is by starting with yourself, in order to seek it out from others. The album wraps up with Ari standing her ground and learning to cut off anything that's messing with her peace, and by acknowledging that her love and presence is a privilege that not just anyone should be able to access. That's the beauty of stepping into your healing journey, is that you can be confident in your standards and what you deserve. Queens don't bite their tongue about their needs and if you can't speak up in your relationship then we need to talk! I wrap up the episode by talking about the drama on instagram stories with Nick Cannon and one of his latest babymommas, cause it's a mess. Don't forget to DM me on instagram or email me simpinafterdark@gmail.com with your relationship or dating horror stories/psycho lover experiences for an upcoming Halloween special episode where I'll share your submissions and talk about them!

It's the season finale y'all! I had to end it off with my girls April and Alexa so it's a family affair and we're talking Bad Bunny's song "Tití Me Preguntó" from his recent album Un Verano Sin Ti. It's about him loving his single life and being too scared of love, or trusting anyone. In the music video, he gets kidnapped and dropped off at his wedding where his real life girlfriend comes down from the sky looking like an angel and they get married, so we dive into what this all could mean and what it must be like to date Bad Bunny or anyone of that caliber. This all segues into a deep dive convo about bridesmaids and wedding party's in general. We're talking a lot of sh*t so brace yourself. We're only here to open up the conversation because there are a lot of problems with wedding culture that need to be talked about. Especially in this economy AKA a recession and just a being a part of a generation that is broke af. Another big topic is the huge commitment of being a part of a bridal party, and what a financial burden and stress it can be for someone who isn't aware of everything it actually entails. We also read some wild submitted stories all about bridesmaids, bachelorette/bachelor parties, and weddings, and talk about our own personal experiences with them all. We end the episode with a Pick Me Patrol tweet of the week and go in on this girl that needs to go to pick-me-jail for her horrendous take. Tune in for all the juicy mess! Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Alexa on ig @alexajannel @yourbigsisrexx Follow April on ig @aprildirects @wild7studios Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ on IG Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Youtube - Click here to watch full episodes Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Master Steph came through to get into Ella Mai's song, "How" ft. Roddy Rich, from her latest album Heart On My Sleeve. It's all about someone switching up on you when you least expected it, so in turn you have to learn to be on your own and work on your self, because at the end of the day, time heals, but you gotta do the work if you wanna come out better than before. We jump straight into the Netflix show, "The Ultimatum", which is about 6 couples who all gave their partner an. ultimatum to get married to move on. We def give away some spoilers, but if you haven't watched, we do a full break down so you won't be lost. There were so many interesting dynamics in every relationship for us to get into including communication styles, non verbal behavior, using trauma as an excuse for unhealthy behavior, compromise, and lots more. We also talk about femininity coaches and the slippery slope of relying on a man, and treating a relationship like it's your job and your man is your boss... Stay tuned till the end where we address a comment from a guy on one of my videos about how he thinks men have it so hard trying to get a "high quality" woman, and how these days being "average" just doesn't cut it.  Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Master Steph on ig @stephanie_venezuela Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ on IG Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Youtube - Click here to watch full episodes Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I got a solo episode talking about ImaniCarolyn's 2021 song, "Water". It's a bop! It's all about tryna break free from someone who won't stop playing games but also won't let you go. I'm also catching up on a few topics from previous episodes that slipped my mind. I'm talking about girls that try to be the cool girlfriend by breaking their neck to check out girls asses with their men. There are layers to how dumb and embarrassing it is. I also read an excerpt from "Attached" about the importance of having a "secure base" in a relationship and how a lack of it is bad for your health and the trajectory of your life. Heads up, I'm doin a deep dive into how intense the Johnny Depp stans are about this case that has become a source of entertainment and community for them. He's not an innocent victim and people need to stop with the Amber Heard bashing. There is no such thing as a perfect victim and this witch hunt is so damaging to real life victims of Domestic Abuse, so please keep an open mind if you have been sucked down the rabbit hole already. Stay tuned till the end for an announcement about next weeks episode! Merch available on simpinafterdark.com Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Today I'm getting into Ne-Yo's 2008 song, "Miss Independent", with a guest - ceci bendita. The song is all about Ne-Yo seeing a woman being a boss, getting it all by herself, and him being obsessed and so happy that it seems like he doesn't need to offer or do anything for her. It's funny hearing this song and thinking about the meaning now that we're older. We talk about the relevance the song had back in 2008 when women were first starting to celebrate being on their own, making their own money, and divorcing ain't sh** dudes. Before that, women were more reliant on men and stayed home as mothers or homemakers, and men were only expected to work and provide financially, but nothing more than that. It left a lot of women feeling unfulfilled, and once they started getting their own bag, they realized that some of these men weren't really providing much else other than money, but when it came to domestic tasks, they were making their life more difficult and not providing enough peace. It's a sentiment that more and more women are coming to terms with, which is why women initiate more divorces, and are happily and intentionally single. We also get into the whole idea of giving a man your "best years" and how women that have children and give a man everything, are so easily discarded and looked down upon for simply aging and are treated like disposable objects, or traded in for a younger better looking woman, or cheated on. This all leads into a conversation on how some men view single mothers as low value, even when those same men are all broke and ugly. Lastly we talk about a clip from Tik Tok from a TLC show called "Unexpected", in which a young girl is going into labor (her and her boyfriend are 17 ish), and he tries to stop her from getting an epidural for the pain. He's controlling and it seems like she has no one else or no where to go. We get into how some men trap women by getting them pregnant as a control tactic, and all the downfalls of that situation. It's a fun episode full of lots of other juicy convo's so make sure to tune in! Follow ceci bendita on IG @ceci.bendita Follow ceci bendita on Tik Tok @ceci.bendita Simpin After Dark MERCH HERE Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_  Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I'm getting into Megan Thee Stallion's song, "Plan B" today! It's all about knowing your worth and not putting your faith into an ain't sh** man. I talk about how some jealous insecure people will try to date your ex when you're done with them and how a lot of times it's because they wanna be you, but you can't pay them no mind. Of course I had to get into abortion rights and contraception, being that the title is "Plan B", and that women's rights are being threatened. I strongly encourage women to be smart about who they lay with, and to stay in control of the trajectory of their life even if contraception fails. I also talk about taxing dudes that think they can keep playing with you and doing you wrong, women spewing misogynistic takes on Tik Tok, discussing your stance on Roe V. Wade with a partner before it gets serious, why you shouldn't date guys that try to make plans super last minute, and quickly spill some thoughts about the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard situation. I also do a quick rant about motherhood and the importance of children being born into a world by someone who WANTS to be a mother. I rant a lot and get into a lot of other juicy topics so tune in! Merch available on simpinafterdark.com Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

It's a special episode today! I'm getting into the song "ABT U", by BLKGLFNKS, who also happens to be my guest today. It's his second time on the podcast, and we're going over his lyrics on his new song dropping this Friday, April 29th, so we're getting a special sneak peak! "ABT U" is about meeting someone that looks just like ur type and becoming immediately infatuated and watching your whole life together flash before ur eyes. It all seems like a dream until you start psyching yourself out and thinking about all the ways it can go wrong, and you start to wonder if you should even pursue it, or leave it alone. We also talk about whether baecations are a good idea in the early dating stages, The Ultimatum on Netflix, the false illusion people get when they idealize someone outside of their relationship, when you should or should not get married, how you know if someone truly loves you or simply settled, and lots more. Listen to "ABT U" full song @ 1:25:15

This episode I'm getting into Sabrina Claudio's song, "Problem With You", from her 2019 album Truth is. It's all about the struggles of an over thinker with an anxious attachment dealing with a partner that doesn't take any accountability about the way their behavior is damaging the relationship and the way they feel. Part of the problem of course can be the nitpicking and constant over-analyzing, but dealing with someone that leaves you hanging and puts you in a position to constantly fill in the blanks, is only gonna make the situation worse. I also talk about JT, lil uzi vert, and the long lost thirsty tweet that caused her to break up with him. I get into the Muni Long and Drake situation and how some dudes project so hard and should just admit they're cheaters, or that they wanna f*** Drake. I also touch on day and night difference between the way Kanye stans react to him going to an island to destress, versus Kim having 10 minutes to herself and how moms in general are not allowed to ever have an identity outside of being a mother. I also give a quick opinion on the smear campaign against the Smith's, specifically Jada Pinkett Smith. Lastly I answer a question someone asked me on what I think about dating a guy with a baby on the way. I use a tik tok that showcases how toxic some babydads are to back up my stance, and why it's ok to simply avoid specific situations that you want no part in. Merch available on simpinafterdark.com Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Today I'm getting into MARG's song, "Promise Me" which is all about falling for someone quickly and feeling like it was destined and you're meant for one another. It leads into a conversation about how when we apply to much pressure with someone that doesn't like you, you look like a creep, and some people need to learn to read social cues better. I also talk about the difference between being controlling and setting boundaries. Then I talk about dealing with anxiety in a relationship whether it be you or your partner, and the effects of being in fight or flight mode for a long time and how it can negatively affect a relationship. I expand on a few topics from last weeks episode including: how to see if your partner might show signs of being controlling or trying to dim your light, and how some men do not need to be fathers. For the Pick Me Patrol segment I explain how worrying about what other women "lack" and trippin about them getting "picked" regardless, is pathetic and pick-me's just need to worry about themselves. Merch available on simpinafterdark.com Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I'm getting into Lucky Daye's song, "Over", from his recent album Candydrip. It's about that toxic relationship that you keep going back to and feels impossible to let go of. He compares it to being trapped in a bad dream that you can't escape. Sometimes we fear letting go of someone because we think they might change for the next person and if we would've just been patient and given them one more chance, then it could've been us. Then i get into some Twitter discourse about a woman saying she stopped seeing a guy because he didn't compliment her once on a date. People were in an uproar. Then i talk about a crazy Tik Tok I saw about a girl spilling about how she used to do everything for her ex, she was basically his mom, and the audacity of men like that. I know people talk about girlfriend versus wife duties, but the things she was doing are above even a wife's pay grade. Then i talk about the codependent to hyper-independent pipeline and why it's not healthy, and how being consistent and keeping your word play into it all when dealing with someone who is hyper-independent due to trauma or just years of dealing with unreliable people. Merch available on simpinafterdark.com Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I'm getting into "Post Nut Clarity" by Alemeda this week so you know I have lots of fun topics. Alemeda's music is super fun, and in this song she speaks on some really relatable feelings that most woman have probably been through. It's all about hooking up with someone when your mind wasn't right, and immediately regretting it and feeling like it wasn't worth it at all. Sex should be a mutually enjoyable thing and you should only be with someone that you're comfortable enough with to speak up about your needs. Hookup culture has kinda proven itself to be mostly damaging so I talk about making sure to be smart about picking partners and how women need to be more picky and selfish about it. I also get into the hate that the artist Erin Kaith received for her song "Down Bad", because it wasn't fair at all, and toxic positivity goes way too far sometimes. For the Pick Me Patrol segment I talk about women seeking validation on the internet about their body types and how it just invites men to say mean things about women and makes them feel like they're the prize. I also talk about a Tik Tok I saw about a dude saying his mom put him and his brother through "husbands in training" and how it's a really good idea that all moms should adopt. Merch now available on simpinafterdark.com

Yung Student Loans joins me for tonight's episode. We get into Reggie Becton's song "Issues" from his 2021 debut album, California. It's about a relationship gone sour because of too many issues and games being played. We talk about "dating" versus "hanging out", and why you need to always communicate what a situation is. Then we get into the phenomenon of post-nut clarity and post-nut euphoria in terms of a bumpy relationship, and whether continuing to have sex in those situations is even a good idea or if you should remain celibate. Is there such thing as over-communication? Someone sent me a very interesting instagram post, that they wanted me to talk about, from a spiritual account, about patience in relationships and how we should give people time to grow and heal in their own time. It's a wild one, the gaslighting is very real, so you know we give our honest opinions about what's really going on. We talk about the importance of having a backbone in relationships, and then we close it out talking about cheating and when, if ever, it's acceptable. Keep an eye out for YSL's project, King of the Low Key - An Emo Space Odyssey, coming May 15th, 2022. Simpin After Dark hoodies now available on simpinafterdark.com Follow Yung Student Loans on IG @yungstudentloans Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Merch available now simpinafterdark.com Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Checkout Amigas The Series on YouTube - A Spanish Telenovela I'm in (With Subtitles) Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I got another solo episode for u guys today, featuring a song by an artist that is new to my rotation that I'm super excited about. Lou Val's song "Eternal Sunshine" from his EP, Tayo And The Dreamer, is such a dreamy love song with a psychedelic indie pop feel and just the right amount of R&B. It's all about the infatuation stage of falling in love. The part where you're blind to any possible red flags, and everything is all rainbows and butterflies. Everyone questions whether they're falling too fast but it feels good so you don't even care, as long as the the other person is on the same page as you.  I had you guys DM me on instagram to tell me about the cutest, most romantic, thoughtful date anyone has ever planned for you, and although there were plenty of girls who said that hasn't happened for them yet, a few of you shared your experiences with me so I read them and talked about them. I talk about how a lot of woman crave romance and grand gestures, yet don't receive it, so I explain the importance of having that in a relationship, and in the dating phase. I have a wild tweet for the Pick Me Patrol segment so tune in to hear me rant about man caves, men needing personal quiet time away from their girl, and more pseudoscience BS. Then for my Lemme Explain segment, I talk about destroying personal property in a fight and controlling your impulses when you're angry. Lots of fun topics today so stick around till the end

Today's song and conversation starter is "Ain't Easy" by Muni Long. She's a singer and songwriter who's been in the game for a long time. She used to go by Priscilla Renea when she was doin more songwriting and in the pop lane, but recently did a rebrand and went full R&B when she put out her EP "Public Displays of Attention". The most popular song from it is probably "Hrs and Hrs", but today I wanted to be real about toxic relationships and the way a fight can really make a couple hate each other and forget all about the love. A love like that, where you're both prideful, can take a toxic turn and make it really hard, and sometimes impossible to have a healthy relationship. Love isn't easy but it's gotta be worth it. Then I talk about the double standard of men being allowed to be career focused while family oriented and still consider themselves independent, but women gotta pick one or the other. You really can't win as a woman sometimes so I get into all the unfair assumptions we gotta deal with. I also get into how men will really try to get you to quit a certain job that isn't "wifey" enough for them, and how letting a man like that talk you into being financially dependent on him is a red flag. I talk about the Euphoria season finale so SPOILER ALERT, and lots more so tune in

I'm getting into FKA twig's mixtape, CAPRISONGS, today because I've been obsessed and it has such a good message while also being fun and playful. Trigger warning for this episode I'm getting into some explicit-ish details about her relationship with Shia LaBeouf, which was very abusive, so the details can definitely be upsetting. She's done many interviews in order to be a voice for women who have had to deal with abuse, both physical and emotional. Her story is inspiring and she was able to use this mixtape as a cathartic experience to regain her self confidence, self identity, and to find the beauty in everyday life once again. It's such a relatable project because imposter syndrome, fear of failure, self doubt, and negative self talk, hold so many of us back, so listening to her lyrics and feeling the love and energy she put into this is empowering. I specifically get into 4 song from the mixtape - "meta angel", "oh my love", "lightbeamers", and "thank you song". I also introduce a couple new segments, "Pick Me Patrol" and an unnamed one where I'll get into things that I felt I could've addressed better from the previous episode - So if there's ever anything you want me to clear up or expand on, email me, or dm me and let me know. This episode I expanded on the Cassie from Euphoria issue because I definitely forgot to finish my thoughts and ended up coming off as a Cassie apologist. I also give some more possibly hot takes on the show after watching episode 07. I wrap everything up touching on the Kanye, Kim, and Pete Davidson situation, The Tinder Swindler, Khloe Kardashian, people pleasers, and how they all tie into narcissistic abuse, or just being taken advantage of in general. I also give an update on merch but just stay tuned on my instagram or twitter for an official release. Lots of great topics in this one so tune in

Welcome back everyone! It's the season premier and I'm jumping right into all the fun juicy topics with a recurring special guest, April - director & producer at Wild 7 Studios (also, my sister). As always I picked a bop to get into - “Party Tricks” by Äyanna, which is all about being stupidly in love with someone who doesn't love you back and could not care less if you disappeared from their life. This beautiful and sad song ties in so perfectly with some other topics we get into - Euphoria episode 04, Maddy's messy a** birthday party. This song reminds me of Cassie and how dumb she is for Nate, which spirals into a whole bunch of other topics like love spells, magic, the pick-me pandemic, toxic alpha males, toxic positivity, self deprecation, Rihanna being pregnant without a ring and lots more. Tune in & rate your girl 5 stars if you enjoy the podcast

It's the season finale y'all! I picked a song from 2019 cuz it's a bop and it still hits - "Hide Out" by Mahalia, from her album Love and Compromise. It samples bits from an Eartha Kitt interview throughout the song, that go along with the theme of self love and the unwillingness to compromise when you know your worth. Mahalia addresses a man that cheated on her and was chasing women while feeding her false promises of a future together. I get into a lot of topics including, going through phones, serial cheaters, rumors, liking other girls pics on instagram, being thirsty, the ick, and a lot more.  Then I get into the "Paradox of Choice", the "Madonna-Whore Complex", social media, and how they all intertwine and f*** up so many relationships. Lastly I talk about D.A.R.V.O. and how to arm yourself against it, because if you fall victim to it, it can have dangerous effects. It's a form of gaslighting and can get outta hand real quick. Also, heads up, about 46 minutes in till about 50 minutes in, I talk about the show "You" season 3, & the show "Maid".  Tik Tok "The Paradox of Choice" "Medium" Article "How Narcissists Use DARVO to Escape Accountability" PsycNet "Madonna-Whore Dichotomy" "The Latch" Article "What is the Madonna-Whore Complex?" Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Checkout Amigas The Series on YouTube - A Spanish Telenovela I'm in (With Subtitles) Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Adele finally dropped an album, 30, and it did not disappoint. The whole project is so beautiful and sad from front to back, but I'm talking about the song, "Woman Like Me". It's the "diss track" of the album and it hits for anyone going through a breakup or divorce. She is super honest and vulnerable but she keeps it classy of course. It's the perfect song for anyone that knows their worth and knows that they tried their best in a relationship, but in the end has to let go of someone who can't match their energy.  Then I get into the recent drama with DaniLeigh & DaBaby. She just had his baby and has been living with him and he decided to record her on Instagram live, saying she was never his girl and all this crazy sh**. It's giving narcissist in the "discarding" stage behavior.  I also get into the Taylor Swift, "All Too Well" short film/music video which is apparently about her relationship with Jake Gyllenhaal, from when she was 20/21 and he was 29. Age gaps like that automatically are gonna add a power dynamic and can cause a lot of issues, so I give my two cents and talk about my experience with guys like that. Lastly I talk about triggers, and why it's important to understand what they are, and I play a Tik Tok of a  really good comparison to help understand what it can feel like. Tik Tok "Triggers" Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Checkout Amigas, the spanish telenovela series I worked on. New episodes on Thursdays 6pm PST Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

You know I had to get into Summer Walker's highly anticipated sophomore studio album, Still Over It. Not gonna lie it's definitely still growing on me, but to be fair, it's hard to top Over It, so it's understandable. I talk about my favorite song on the album, and then I get into all the drama between Summer & London on Da Track. I start at the top of the album and work my way down, touching on topics like, being bitter, being a ride or die for a dude that ain't sh**, baby mama & baby daddy drama, cheating, healing, mama's boys, and lots more. Then I talk about my take on all the weird "I'm too good for Summer's music now, I can't relate, it's too toxic for me, I could never" a** takes, because... I'm tired. We've always been able to objectively enjoy music so I don't get where these takes are coming from. I end with a tweet about the bar being so low for men and go on that tangent. Tune in! Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Checkout Amigas, the spanish telenovela series I worked on. New episodes on Thursdays 6pm PST Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This is the second annual Halloween special edition episode, Psycho Lover Vol. 2. Master Steph joins me to get into Mariah The Scientist's song, "2 You", from her latest album RY RY WORLD. It has the perfect haunting vibes for this episode, and it's about grieving a relationship that had to end, but looking back and appreciating it for what it meant to her. Then we dive into attachment theory and how it pertains to relationships. The different attachment styles are secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized/fearful avoidant. They all have negative effects on relationships and it's important to become aware of which attachment style you fall under, so that you can take the steps to become more secure. I've been reading the book "Attached" (I'll link it below), and it has a lot of great examples of couples with different dynamics, and of different research and studies that have been done to emphasize the importance of having a secure attachment and how we develop them. For the past few weeks I've been asking you guys to send in your stories for the "Psycho Lover" segment of this episode, and I got some wild ones. TRIGGER WARNING: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, NARCISSISTIC ABUSE, DRUG USE, ASSAULT/VIOLENCE. Thank you so much to everyone who shared their story, I appreciate you and I'm sending lots of love.  References: "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love" By Amir Levine, M.D., & Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. Lee Hammock Tik Tok - Self Aware Diagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder  Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ on IG Follow @AmigasTheSeries on IG Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode is all about marriage, and my girl Erica Mo came thru to dive all the way into it. Of course marriage is a beautiful thing, but this episode we're getting into all the not so fun parts that people don't really talk about. Marriage isn't some willy nilly decision you can take lightly so we get into all the things you should consider before saying "I do". Jagged Edge has probably the most popular RnB wedding song in the game, "Let's Get Married", so I had to get into some of those lyrics, and one of their members super problematic life decisions. It's still a great song, and the remix is a classic 2000's bop, but after learning about the crazy things this man did, you won't be able to listen to the song the same. A listener hit me up with an issue she recently ran into involving her husband, strippers, and snapchat, so we give our opinions and advice. The rest of the episode we talk about the origin of marriage and how it's evolved as an institution since then. Up until fairly recently, women needed to marry men in order to thrive in life, and were expected to get married and have kids. These days, women have more freedom to decide if they even want to get married, since we have more options. These days women only gotta get married if they actually want to. Divorce rates are going down, but more and more people are opting out, or at least considering their options.  We get into a very important topic that's been trending on Tik Tok, which is - weaponized incompetence. It's something that most of us are aware of, but never knew the name for, nor did we really think much into it, but it's hard to unsee once you know. Be aware of these things gives us the tools to set the right expectations, and have the difficult conversations. Another topic we spent some time on was the scary, gross phenomenon of incel culture. There is so much biased information spread online about marriage and how men lose everything and are emasculated in marriage, so we had to address these topics and set the record straight. Women do so much in a heterosexual relationship that goes unnoticed and undervalued. Married men definitely benefit in a huge way from marriage and it needs to be recognized so that men can stop with the false narrative that there's nothing in it for them. There is a plethora of topics we got into so make sure to tune in, it's a long one full of juicy convos. Reference: Skit about women aging - "Last F**kable Day" Follow Erica Mo on IG @ericamovintage Follow MO Vintage on IG @shopmovintage Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ on IG Follow @AmigasTheSeries on IG Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Today I'm talking about the song "Your Heart", by Joyner Lucas & J. Cole. It's such a bop and it's all about this dude facing the reality that he lost a good girl and that it's all his fault for being a f***boy. J. Cole hops on to hold his homie accountable and let him know that, yeah she's probably about to be out doing her own thing and you can't even be mad because you did this to yourself. Like he says in the song, "What goes around, comes around". I talk about whether getting dick for revenge is a good idea or not, and why we need to be smarter about the specific dick we use for revenge. Nicki Minaj says you should f*** his friend, but I think that's dumb.  There were two listeners that hit me up with some relationship issues that they needed an outside perspective on so I get in depth about those. One is about whether a girl should let her dude go and work on himself so that they can get back together later, because she's scared she'll lose feelings. They've been through a lot and it's hard to just let go. The other girl shared that her boyfriend has been making her feel a way because he has this girl friend that he spends time with one on one a lot, in low key romantic settings. She doesn't wanna come off as possessive and her homegirls think it's weird but I weigh in and give my two cents.  Then I talk about a Tik Tok I saw about the Gottman Method and a study about what the key to a long lasting relationship is. The Atlantic has an article that references the study, and I found a blog that broke that article down into 10 bullets as the most important takeaways of what the study found.  References: Tik Tok  The Atlantic - "Masters of Love" Real Love Ready - "10 Takeaways From Masters of Love" Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Follow @AmigasTheSeries on instagram Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

BLKGLFNKS joins me on this episode to talk about Doja Cat's song "Alone", from her latest album Planet Her, released in June. It's all about feeling alone in a relationship and being ready to dip out and be alone. Sometime we stay in a relationship because of comfortability or because we don't wanna be alone, even if it's turned toxic and we know deep down it's best to be alone. We also talk about the scandalous situation of meeting someone and then realizing maybe you like their friend better, but how maybe that's the way it was meant to be. We also get into different dating styles and how he feels he might be a situationship type of guy and why it's what's best for him right now. We also get into love languages and why certain ones may be perceived negatively, but that each one is valid and they can change over time. A listener sent me a question asking about what i think about her boyfriend going to a bachelor party where strippers are gonna be at and how it makes her uncomfortable even though she trusts him. Tune in to hear me and BLKGLFNKS give our opinions on that and the reasoning behind it.   Follow blkglfnks on IG @blkglfnks Follow blkglfnks on SoundCloud @blkglfnks Checkout Stoney Slice on IG for cannabis infused pizza @stoneyslice Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ on IG Follow @AmigasTheSeries on IG Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I'm talking about Shelley FKA DRAM's song "Exposure", from his self titled comeback project released in February of this year. It is soo good and all about deep sensual love. He talks about the vulnerability of opening up and "exposing" yourself to someone you love in order to build a life together. I also briefly get into his hiatus, the reason for his stage name changing, and his relationship. Then I get into a poll I did on instagram about whether or not it's a good idea for men to stay sober with their wives for the duration of the pregnancy. The guy who made the tik tok saying he did that, said he chose to do it to train his brain to be a teammate instead of selective participation. I think that is an amazing form of true companionship and that every man should do it if he's a real one.  I had a lot of people hit me up with questions and topics that they want advice on so I covered - Tips on how to dump someone, how to tell if you're asking for too much or if it's bare minimum, and going through someones phone. I also talk about how people in long term relationships (6+ years) can go about keeping the relationship alive, and whether or not treating your partner nicely to make sure they're in the mood to have sex is manipulation or not. Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Follow @AmigasTheSeries on instagram Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode I'm getting into the myth that after marriage your sex life dies, and how the blame seems to be put on women. I'm also talking about Fousheé's song "2 l8" from her latest project Time Machine, which uses the chorus from the 1971 song "It's Too Late", by Carole King. The original song is a timeless classic and I really love Fousheé's rendition because it takes on a different perspective on a love that has gone past the point of salvation. You gotta nurture the relationship while it's good or lose it forever. I came across a Tik Tok of 2 women talking about how they don't give their husbands head anymore and how it grosses them out, so I dive into the different possible reasons as to why this is a common situation in marriage or long term relationships. I think there is a huge disconnect between what men and women need in a relationship to even be aroused enough to keep the sex life poppin. For men I feel like they are just horny for no reason 24/7 whereas for women, more often than not, especially in a long term relationship, it's a mental thing. There is a need for a deeper connection and that along with hidden resentment from carrying the burden of domestic duties, or child care, etc., can eventually lead to a failed relationship. Stick around for a PSA I have about the dangers of stalkers and social media, based on recent stories and videos that have been circulating Twitter lately. Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Follow @AmigasTheSeries on instagram Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode I'm covering a lot of important juicy topics. First I start with getting into Tinashe's song "Unconditional" from her album, 333. The album is one of my favorites so far this year and although it's bop after bop, I picked this song to get into because it perfectly sheds light on how toxic the idea of unconditional love is. It's really manipulative and women have been brainwashed into eating up the idea that being a "ride or die" is something to be proud of. In reality, with the wrong partner, it's degrading, humiliating, and will wear you down little by little till u have no self respect or self confidence left. I talk about when it's time to let it go, what circumstances are just beyond repair, and what a real healthy love is supposed to entail. Unconditional love is romanticized and it's time to let it die. I also get into a few tweets about how the way you're raised completely shapes your reality and affects your expectations in relationships. Sometimes even if people are doing their best, it's not enough, but it doesn't mean they're a bad person in totality. You can try to teach someone to love you, and you absolutely should, but if it becomes too much and it feels like ur teaching the same lesson over and over and it falls on deaf ears, it's time to hang it up. Then I get into a few topics that circulated social media from twitter to tik tok to instagram. There's a quote by Chris Rock that circulates Twitter from time to time about how men aren't loved without providing something, but women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally... You know i have thoughts about this false statement. There was a whole Twitter discourse about getting your girl flowers if she asks for them, and then a video on tik tok that went viral on all social media platforms of this insecure little man that went on a rant about being "dominant", "a leader", and why women are single today, and that if he provides for you, you better do what he says. He also says no woman will ever be his queen because they're not his mom. Yikes. Naturally that led into the topics of mommas boys, emotional incest, and triangulation. Ended with a lil recap on the recent Summer Walker drama on Instagram live, where she went off on London on da Track, and his two other baby mamas. Lot's on fun info so tune in! Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Follow @AmigasTheSeries on instagram Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Ryan & Troy from the AntiArt Podcast joined me for a fun crossover episode. We talked all about breakups, from how messy they can be, to different ways of breaking up, reasons for breakups, common courtesy, rebounds, rules, and more. We had to get into Summer Walker's song "Session 32" which is super short and sweet but one of my favorites. It's about peoples definition of love and fighting for a relationship that's falling apart, with a dash of toxic sentiments. Ryan and Troy shared some stories about crazy relationships, breakups they've gone through, boundaries, staying friends with exes and more. We wrap up the episode talking about the top reasons for divorce, like loss of shared interests, loss of intimacy, etc. and get into marriage a little bit. Tune in for all the tea! Follow AntiArt on IG @__antiart__ Checkout their podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts or wherever u stream podcasts Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)  

Got another solo episode today with lots of tips and information about long distance relationships. It's probably no ones ideal situation but life happens and you never know if you might end up on one one day. The most common reasons are going away for school, getting a new job, or some kind fo family emergency where you have to tag along. Another reason could be if you have to travel a lot for your job, which is what Ambré talks about in her song "The Catch Up", which was released along with "Alone" in December of 2020. It's about being in a situationship where you don't have time for a full fledged relationship but you try to meet up with someone that you're really vibing with whenever you can. The relationship is very lowkey and doesn't really extend past this honeymoon phase where it's all fun and sensual and stays in the hotel room and ends at checkout. It really just shows how difficult it can be to develop a relationship when you're not both in one location or at least close to each other. I go over 2 videos by Psych2Go on YouTube titled "7 Stages of a Long Distance Relationship" & "6 Tips on Maintaining Long Distance Relationships". LDR's are very high maintenance and 100% not for a relationship that is rocky or where one or both of the ppl aren't very committed. It takes a lot of planning, setting boundaries, and very open and honest communication. If you can't be vulnerable and learn how to regulate your jealousy, insecurity, and emotions, then you're gonna have a tough time. If everyone is on the same page, equally committed and willing to put in the effort then it can definitely work, but you can't go into it all willy nilly with zero preparation. I end as always with some tweets I found this week about making sure the person you're choosing is also choosing you, because you will break your own heart thinking people f*** with you the same way you do them. Don't go above and beyond for someone who wouldn't even put you first. Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode I'm talking about South African singer, Elaine, and her latest single "Right Now". It's all about dealing with someone who is all talk with no progress to make up for their BS, and being ready to move on from that. It's all about focusing on yourself so much to the point that there's no looking back, and even if you wanted to, you're too busy to even consider it. Breakups are hard but when your a bad b**** you can not date someone insecure, because they will tear you down. They will be your number one undercover hater and try to constantly dim your light by making you feel small or trying to control and change you. Dealing with an insecure man can also foreshadow some cheating scandals because if they see you getting all this attention, they will need to fuel their ego and go seek attention from women that do not compare, in turn embarrassing and hurting you. You gotta leave people like that behind, and you need to be smart about your exit because they will cry and say anything to get you to stay and waste more time. I also catch you up on Amigas, the Spanish telenovela parody mini-series, that I've been working on with Nightshade Collective & Wild 7 Studios. Make sure to check out our pilot episode that we shot 3 years ago to get a taste of what to look forward to, only this time bigger and better ;) Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Welcome back! This is the Season 4 kickoff and new episodes will be back every week from now on, Wednesdays at 7pm PST. Yung Student Loans joins me today to talk all about dating apps. We start by getting into Jenevieve's 2020 song, Baby Powder. It was the second single she dropped right after Medallion, which is another bop. She's a new artist on the come up, working on her album and I'm excited to hear more.  Baby Powder is about being really into someone but then you see who they really are, maybe they do you dirty or something, but once you see it, you're over it. This happens a lot with dating, even more specifically when you use dating apps. We talk about how easy it is to catfish not just physically, but personality wise as well. Dating apps can be scary cuz people have the ability to study your profile and shape themselves to seem compatible, but you can't be fake forever. I had listeners send me their dating app stories and experiences so we have some wild ones, some funny ones, and some cute ones. YSL tells me about his experience with Hinge & Feeld, which is a popular app for singles and couples with "alternative lifestyles" like polyamory, kinks, etc. We also talk about Tinder versus Bumble.  We talks dating app and social media profile red flags and how to tell if your significant other could possibly still be on these apps. Tune in for all the sh** we got into on this episode, it's definitely a juicy one! Follow Yung Student Loans on IG @yungstudentloans Checkout his Youtube  Listen to his music on SoundCloud & Spotify & Tidal New Project by Yung Student Loans droppin in August 2021 keep an eye out! Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This is technically episode 1 of season 4, BUT, think of it more as a preseason episode before I come back in August with regularly scheduled episodes. I'm talking "daddy issues" in honor of Father's Day which just happened this past weekend. I get into Rihanna's song "Kiss It Better" off her ANTI album and use it to show how her relationship with her dad affected her adult relationships, specifically the one with Chris Brown. It's such an amazing song with so much emotion and too many relatable sentiments of pride, desiring affection, and toxic relationships. I talk about how misogyny affects the way children are raised, unhealed trauma, dating guys with kids, all things dad related, and lots more so make sure to tune in!   IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Last episode of the season! Master Steph joins me again to talk all about narcissistic personality disorder (npd), and most importantly the scary real life effects of narcissistic abuse. It can have detrimental effects on the brain and one's mental health. As always we get into some lyrics to get the conversation started, so for this episode we talk Jhené Aiko's "Triggered (Freestyle)". I also played a tik tok made by Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) to get into the topic of gaslighting, manipulation, and reactive abuse. We also talk about an article that was sent to me about a woman, Vanessa Reiser, who survived narcissistic domestic abuse, who is currently running a marathon in a wedding dress to bring awareness to the topic. Lots of info and important topics to wrap up the season!  Articles/Pages Referenced & Supplemental Info: Woman to Run 285 Miles in a Wedding Dress to Raise Awareness for Narcissistic Domestic Abuse Tik Tok 12 Signs You've Experienced Narcissistic Abuse (Plus How to Get Help) The Overt Versus Covert Narcissist: Both Suck Narcissistic Abuse: Signs, Effects, & Treatments Follow: IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode is dedicated to all of the important things people need to talk about before moving in with their significant other. The lovely VAL, host of the Reflections with VAL. podcast, or Soulfully_VAL on instagram, joined me and blessed me with her experience and knowledge on the topic. Together we went over all the submitted tips people gave me on instagram and dove deep, because there was a lot. We touch on machismo, using babies/moving in together as a "quick fix" to save a relationship, boundaries with having visitors, cleanliness, date nights, splitting bills, personal space etc. As always we went on a few fun tangents talking about sex, the importance of getting to know your body as a woman and other related topics.  It wouldn't be S.A.D. if we didn't talk about some music so we had to get into WILLOW's new song "t r a n s p a r e n t s o u l" ft. Travis Barker. Tune in for all juicy convos! Follow VAL on IG @soulfully_VAL IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode my girl Krystal joins me to talk about Charlotte Day Wilson's song "Take Care of You" ft Syd. It's another simpy one, this song is basically about being so passionately in love with someone who isn't ready for your love quite yet. We talk about how people should always give their all in a relationship even if you've been hurt before cause that's the only way you'll ever find real love again. The conversation takes some wild turns and we get into the topics of porn, masturbation, intimacy & sexual compatibility, dating while being bisexual/queer, staying friends with a friends ex after they break up & lots more! Follow Krystal on IG @krysnicoleee IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode I'm talking about Alex Mali's song, "Start It Up", from her 2019 EP, Sweet & Sour. Joining me today is the talented Ivan Leon, who is a creative director in Los Angeles. He came through with some wisdom and we had a blast talking about the many facets and current state of dating culture. He's an Aquarius & I'm a Virgo so we get into our similarities and differences when it comes to questions like - Is omitting info the same as lying? How to tell if someone actually likes u or just wants to mess with u? Can it work if family doesn't like u? When is it too soon to tag someone you're dating on Instagram? Should you be loyal in the talking stage? We also answer some listener submitted questions together so tune in to hear us get into this and lots more! Follow Ivan on IG @eye_van02 Follow Ivan's Business/Creative IG @iiEntertainment IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Nightshade Collective joins me once again for a fun episode talking about Yo Trane's song, "Rider" from his 2021 album Time & Space. April & Alexa chime in on the topic of being an "alpha" woman - being independent, making your own money, being outspoken, not taking anyone's bullsh**. A woman who is independent is idealized in so many ways but in reality a lot of people can't handle it. We also talk about being the "naggy" partner and why it's misconstrued and actually a good thing. Then we dive into the dreaded topic of submitting to your partner in a relationship, what it actually means, the benefits, and things to look out for. Leadership is important in a relationship so we talk about that and finding the balance between maintaining independence but still achieving unity. IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow @nightshadecollective on IG & Tik Tok Follow Ashley @ash_friday_ Follow April @aprildirects Follow Alexa @alexajannel Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I got a solo episode today and I'm talking about Numi's song "Hit Me Up", from 2018. We all know those guys that won't take no for an answer that keep asking you out, so you finally give in but you let them know it's just as friends, and they STILL get the wrong idea. Or the guy that slides in you and all your girls DM's thinking that's the move. Some men cannot read social cues, so that's what I'm talking about today, cause someone needs to help them. I also get into a tweet that went viral last week about "friendship dates". It was messy so I break it down and give my thoughts. I did a poll on my IG about people who say they're not ready to be in a relationship, and if the "with you" is silent, so I cover the results. Then I respond to a listener's question about when is it too soon to say "I love you" and if it's necessary to say it everyday. Tune in to hear all this and more! Follow S.A.D.: IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark  Follow me on IG @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Checkout @montsterandghostxx for incense, candles and all that vibey stuff Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode is all about cheating and staying together. It happens more often than we think, yet it's still frowned upon and shamed, but we don't judge over here, so we're talking about how to make that work, why it happens, and when you should or shouldn't give it a shot. Not all cheaters are created equal so this is not to normalize it at all, but more to give some insight into what it takes and how much work is required to make it to the other side in a healthy way. My guests Ailec & Ayvione are a couple who dealt with cheating in the past and today their relationship is strong with the communication, and they came through with lots of great advice about the growth and emotions they went through together. As always, we talk music, and what better album to talk about than Beyonce's "Lemonade", specifically "Pray You Catch me"? Follow Ailec's IG & Support her small women owned business @BoxedBloomss Follow & Support Ayvione's small business @AvAutoDetail Follow Me on IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Ashley's IG @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee) Articles referenced during episode: Katie Moritz - “If One of You Cheated, Is There Hope for Your Relationship?” Sophia Benoit - “What it's like to stay in a relationship after cheating” Candice Jalil - “Can A Relationship Survive Cheating? A New Study Found The Chances Aren't Promising”

Yung Student Loans joins me on this episode, where we get into anaïs & Azekel's song, "Learn To Love". We also listen to a clip of his latest song "iiWii" and he explains the meaning behind it and why he doesn't f*** with sending generic love songs as a way to be romantic. We talk about his experience being polyamorous, why he doesn't experience jealousy, and the science of threesomes. We also talk all about the Saweetie & Quavo situation, open relationships in Hollywood, Will & Jada, and more. Follow Yung Student Loans on IG @yungstudentloans Checkout his Youtube  Listen to his music on SoundCloud & Spotify & Tidal New Project droppin this Summer! Follow Me on IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Ashley's IG @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Warning: We discuss certain drugs in this episode, not to promote their irresponsible or illegal use, but to educate and inform people of responsible hypothetical consumption. This episode I'm talking magic mushrooms & weed, with my girls April Mendoza (my sis) & Master Stephanie. We get into SZA's latest single, "Good Days", and talk all about our experience with shrooms, weed, mental health, staying present, spirituality, psychosis, etc. Steph mentions how important it is to be aware of the drugs u consume and doing research beforehand, especially if you're combining them. Certain drugs can have horrible reactions together and even cause death, whether they're prescription or natural substances. We also talk about how crucial it is to do everything in your life with intention and purpose, specifically mushrooms since they can be so helpful in being introspective and pushing you to come face to face with your inner thoughts and feelings. The relationship we have with ourselves and our inner most demons is a crucial one, and learning healthy detachment is helpful in dealing with heartbreak and accepting the end of a relationship. Continued growth is vital to our happiness and the ultimate goal is to learn to be present and at peace in our minds, so make sure to tune in and hear how "Good Days" gets us feelin. Follow April on IG @aprildirects  IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Ashley's IG @ash_friday_ Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee) If you wanna hear more episodes w Master Steph on Simpin: Season 2 Episode 8 "At Least You Payin Attention" Season 2 Episode 19 "Cant' Get Enough" Season 3 Episode 4 "Ain't Here for Love" If you wanna hear more episodes w April on Simpin: Season 3 Episode 5 "Fine Line Between Love & Hate"

This episode is all about friendships, and I'm talking about the song "Girl", by Destiny's Child, with my girls Alexa & Crystal. The song focuses on Beyoncé and Michelle trying to get Kelly to open up to them about her relationship because they can see it's bringing her down. We've all been on both sides of that situation as friends so we talk about how we handle situations like that and how people shouldn't go about it. We also touch on the importance of having solid friends, how we handle falling outs w friends, having friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship, and making friends.  IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Ashley's IG @ash_friday_ Alexas IG @alexajanel Crystal's IG @crytsalsheeer Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Got another solo episode for you today I'm talking about Anderson .Paak and Bruno Mars' new song, "Leave The Door Open". They formed a group, Silk Sonic and they are on their funky, soulful, simpy sh*t so u know I had to get into it. I recorded this episode on international women's day btw so I also went on a tangent about women supremacy and how some of you men don't deserve us cause u ain't doing enough. Had to rant about feminism & the  patriarchy for a second so bare with me I just needed to get it off my chest. I also comment on a poll I did a few weeks ago about how relationships don't work unless the man loves the woman more than she loves him, cuz I fully support that, and Rihanna's grandma said it so it must be a fact. I go on a few tangents so make sure to listen cuz I got some opinions for y'all today.  IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

Today I'm talking Chloe x Halle's song "Tipsy" from their album Ungodly Hour, w my special guest Naz Red. He talks about his experience being love bombed and dealing with some crazy a** women, and how we sometimes miss huge red flags. We talk about how the older we get the less shit we're willing to put up with and how dedication to your career can sometimes mean putting your love life on hold. Also, do better looking women get away with being more crazy? How early is too early to make the "don't break my heart or I'll kill you" joke? The list of topics goes on, it's a fun one so tune in now! IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow @mr.nazred @thewild7podcast @wild7studios on IG  Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

TRIGGER WARNING: Self harm/Physical & emotional abuse/Suicide This episode I have April Mendoza and Alexa Morales (my Nightshade Collective sisters) on to get into some wild topics. We talk all about the new Netflix movie, "Malcolm and Marie" starring Zendaya and John David Washington, which, in short, is about a couple having a crazy a** fight, so SPOILER ALERT. We tie it all together by getting into Raveena's song, "If Only", which is about her getting out of an abusive relationship, reflecting on it, and dealing with the aftermath. Me and the girls reflect on our own manipulative ways and experiences with fights that turn into a toxic sh*tshow. With this movie and this song, we got A LOT to say between the 3 of us so make sure to listen now to hear our different perspectives.  IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow @nightshadecollective on IG & Tik Tok Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode I talk CHIKA's song, "FWB", with my guest Stephanie. We've all either been involved in a friends with benefits situation or have contemplated it, so we discuss the factors that need to be considered. Sometimes people decide they want a FWB because of the timing and things goin on in their life, but sometimes they decide based on a predetermined criteria they have for potential partners vs f*ckbuddies. I asked my instagram followers on my story what their criteria is, so I went over all that with Stephanie and we talked about our own. We also talk about whether maybe some people aren't built for that life and how to navigate it if u do give it a go, so tune in for all the tips and tricks. IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I'm simpin alone tonight y'all, and of course I picked the saddest song ever, "Stuck On You", by Giveon. It's the last song on his EP, When It's All Said And Done, and it's all about that relationship you just can't bare to leave. It's that one relationship that is stuck in purgatory and you're too embarrassed to even tell your friends that you're still seeing that person. I think we've all been there at some point in our lives and hopefully you escaped that cycle cause it is like an addiction. I make sure to distinguish between a relationship gone sour, and an unhealthily toxic relationship, because there are definitely levels and there is hope for some but not all! Tune in for tips on moving forward from an argument, and a PSA to people who haven't asked their boo to be their Valentine yet. IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

We're talking Ariana Grande's song "pov" from her 2020 album Positions. It's the last song on the album and it's the perfect culmination of her learning to love herself, radiating her sensual side, and continuing to accept love from another person fully without letting it define her or break her. In POV she's grateful for the love she's receiving from someone and she just wishes she could see herself through his point of view so that she can love and trust herself the same way. People always say that the hardest relationship you'll have is the healthy one after a toxic one. It leaves you feeling like maybe you're hard to love or not worthy of love, so learning to receive and accept it can be a battle. This song is all about believing someone can love you despite your flaws and how real love is supposed to lift you up and make you feel like a better person. Second half of the episode we review the poll results from our instagram so make sure to stick around and hear what we have to say about it! IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Go like our "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

For our season 3 opener we are diving all the way into Jazmine Sullivan's EP, Heaux Tales. It's such a cohesive body of work that it wouldn't have been fair to just pick one song. It gets into the complexities and struggles of being a woman which are all too relatable whether you're in your early or late twenties, thirties, or even sixties and beyond. We touch on all the controversial and highly debated topics of using sex appeal to bag a rich dude, financial standards while dating, hoeing and being reckless to cope with the remorse of messing up a good relationship, and more. Of course we also talk about the repercussions of all those things and the effects it has on everyone as a society. Tune in and hear all the juicy things we got to say about it all! IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Go like our "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

You already know we love Kehlani on Simpin After Dark so we had to do her  song "Open(Passionate)" from her amazing album, It Was Good Until It Wasn't. We also have a special guest for this episode! Zoey Trope, a relationship coach specializing in polyamory, takes our phone call and answers all our questions about the topic. We asked our listeners on instagram to send us questions to ask so we got right to it. We cover everything from common misconceptions, jealousy, communication, boundaries, hierarchy, terminology, sex and STI safe practices, and so much more. Make sure to follow @LAPolyamory & @LAPolyPersonals on instagram to checkout any upcoming events, and all the great things she is doing for the community and for anyone who is considering it. Kehlani's song is all about the question of whether she should consider an open relationship being that her and her man are doing the long distance thing, and they're both around a lot of temptation. She is being real with herself and wondering if maybe their relationship is too vague or maybe too vulnerable to transition into an open relationship. There's a lot to unpack so make sure to listen cause we get into a lot this episode, it's such a good one!   IG/Twitter @simpinafterdark Go like our "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)  

This episode we're talking all about astrology with our girl Alexa. We picked Beyonce's song "Signs" from her album Dangerously in Love, just as a fun recap of all 12 signs. We briefly get into every sign's modality, element and traits. We also talk about body parts the signs rule and what planets they're ruled by and how it can affect them. Alexa explains how astrology can be used as a tool to help anyone from people in romantic relationships, friendships, family, to self reflection and growth. A really important part of learning about astrology is discovering your own natal chart and learning to understand it. Once you know what sign your planets are in, and what those planets rule, you can start diving into synastry. People usually look up sun signs when trying to see compatibility between them and a partner, but there are actually planets that are way more important to look at so make sure to listen to the episode to hear what we think about it. Some of our favorite astrology accounts: Twitter @iJaadee & @marenaltman IG @chriscorsini IG/Twitter @simpinafterdark Follow Alexa on IG @alexajannel Follow Nightshade Collective on IG @nightshadecollective Follow Wild 7 Studios on IG @wild7studios Go like our "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

This episode we're talking about Melii's song "See Me" from her album phAses. We also had our friend Mayron on as a guest to chime in from a dude's perspective. We talk all about being lowkey hurt by someone but trying to front on social media like you're not. Sometimes it's obvious to the other person and we know this yet we still do it. Sometimes we do it because it's part of the healing process. Mayron tells us his experience with being ghosted and the struggles of the single life and dealing with people who aren't up front. Sometimes we have to be drunk to spill how we really feel, but are drunk words sober thoughts? We also talk missed booty calls, the total opposite state of mind between guys and girls during sex, thirst traps, and lots of other juicy topics. IG/Twitter @simpinafterdark Follow Mayron on IG @mayronhurst Follow Wild 7 Studios on IG @wild7studios Go like our "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)