Podcasts about idealizing

In this revealing episode of Unlock U with Dr. Shannan Crawford, we dive deep into the often‐hidden dynamics of narcissistic grooming—from a psychoanalytic lens—and uncover how early relationship templates can leave us especially vulnerable. You'll learn how to spot the red flags, understand the unconscious roots, and put practical safeguards in place. What Is Narcissistic Grooming? Definition: A gradual process by which someone with narcissistic traits gains your trust, isolates you, and then exploits your emotions and boundaries for their own validation and control. Often including intense amounts of verbal praise "Idealizing you", in which they give you signifiant amounts of attention, time, gifts, acts of service, and praise that, many people have described as, "intoxicating." Some have described that "it almost felt like he adored me so much and so suddenly that it was overwhelming. It was so flattering that I ignored all red flags because the life he described we would have was exhilarating! He sent huge flower arrangements and flashy expensive gifts to me at work so my coworkers could see it. He messaged me multiple times a day with the most amazing complements and telling me everything I always wanted to hear. He came into my life, so strong and so fast... he literally came out of nowhere and now, boom, this amazing man is telling me he wants to marry me and take me around the world and I would never need to work again because he wants to spoil me! I was so enraptured that I didn't notice that his current life didn't match up to the fantasies he was creating in my mind of how our life would be..." Another woman says, "He convinced me that he loved me so much that he couldn't be without me... I didn't notice that he was starting to isolate me... I had to give up friends and family who did not fully "support" our relationship. I was so overwhelmed by the intensity of his attention and praise, that I started to subtly build my life around him... eventually I lost my other relationships... By the time he discarded me, I was COMPLETELY alone."  Can you resonate?  Psychoanalytic Perspective: Splitting & Idealization/Devaluation: Narcissists first “idealize” you as perfect, then “devalue” you once they feel threatened. Projective Identification: They project their own unacceptable feelings onto you, making you feel responsible for their emotions. Object Relations Roots: Early caregivers who were inconsistent or overly enmeshed can leave you craving approval and slow to see manipulation. Why Some of Us Are More Susceptible Drawing on the Restoring‑Self‑Cohesion (RSC) model, Dr. Crawford explains how unconscious templates from childhood shape our adult relationships: Caretaker Role: You learned to put others' emotional needs first to feel safe or worthy. People‑Pleaser Template: Seeking external validation became your primary way to soothe childhood anxieties. Rescuer Script: You believe “fixing” others proves your value—making you an easy target for someone who preys on empathy. Unconscious Sabotage Loops: Old patterns pull you back into dynamics where your boundaries blur and your self‑worth hinges on pleasing someone else. Practical Safeguards to Protect Yourself Strengthen Your Boundaries Practice saying “no” and notice your discomfort. Use “I” statements to express needs: “I feel… when you…” Build an Early‑Warning System Keep a journal of interactions that feel off—look for patterns of praise turning into blame. Share concerns with a trusted friend or therapist to get an outside perspective. Cultivate Healthy “Mirror” Relationships Surround yourself with people who reflect empathy, consistency, and genuine care. Schedule regular check‑ins with your support circle. Deepen Self‑Awareness with RSC Tools Identify your primary relationship template and notice when you slip into old roles. Use grounding rituals (breathwork, journaling, somatic check‑ins) to stay connected to your own needs. Build Community Be honest with your friends and family. Try not to sugar coat the relationship. A healthy relationship can withstand reality testing. When you're early on in a relationship, you're infatuated which means you're literally not thinking clearly. So build healthy relationships with those who can see clearly and have permission to speak into your life!   Seek Professional Partnership Consider one‑on‑one RSC coaching to map unconscious blocks and restore internal alignment. Subscribe & Stay Connected

In this revealing episode of Unlock U with Dr. Shannan Crawford, we dive deep into the often‐hidden dynamics of narcissistic grooming—from a psychoanalytic lens—and uncover how early relationship templates can leave us especially vulnerable. You'll learn how to spot the red flags, understand the unconscious roots, and put practical safeguards in place. What Is Narcissistic Grooming? Definition: A gradual process by which someone with narcissistic traits gains your trust, isolates you, and then exploits your emotions and boundaries for their own validation and control. Often including intense amounts of verbal praise "Idealizing you", in which they give you signifiant amounts of attention, time, gifts, acts of service, and praise that, many people have described as, "intoxicating." Some have described that "it almost felt like he adored me so much and so suddenly that it was overwhelming. It was so flattering that I ignored all red flags because the life he described we would have was exhilarating! He sent huge flower arrangements and flashy expensive gifts to me at work so my coworkers could see it. He messaged me multiple times a day with the most amazing complements and telling me everything I always wanted to hear. He came into my life, so strong and so fast... he literally came out of nowhere and now, boom, this amazing man is telling me he wants to marry me and take me around the world and I would never need to work again because he wants to spoil me! I was so enraptured that I didn't notice that his current life didn't match up to the fantasies he was creating in my mind of how our life would be..." Another woman says, "He convinced me that he loved me so much that he couldn't be without me... I didn't notice that he was starting to isolate me... I had to give up friends and family who did not fully "support" our relationship. I was so overwhelmed by the intensity of his attention and praise, that I started to subtly build my life around him... eventually I lost my other relationships... By the time he discarded me, I was COMPLETELY alone."  Can you resonate?  Psychoanalytic Perspective: Splitting & Idealization/Devaluation: Narcissists first “idealize” you as perfect, then “devalue” you once they feel threatened. Projective Identification: They project their own unacceptable feelings onto you, making you feel responsible for their emotions. Object Relations Roots: Early caregivers who were inconsistent or overly enmeshed can leave you craving approval and slow to see manipulation. Why Some of Us Are More Susceptible Drawing on the Restoring‑Self‑Cohesion (RSC) model, Dr. Crawford explains how unconscious templates from childhood shape our adult relationships: Caretaker Role: You learned to put others' emotional needs first to feel safe or worthy. People‑Pleaser Template: Seeking external validation became your primary way to soothe childhood anxieties. Rescuer Script: You believe “fixing” others proves your value—making you an easy target for someone who preys on empathy. Unconscious Sabotage Loops: Old patterns pull you back into dynamics where your boundaries blur and your self‑worth hinges on pleasing someone else. Practical Safeguards to Protect Yourself Strengthen Your Boundaries Practice saying “no” and notice your discomfort. Use “I” statements to express needs: “I feel… when you…” Build an Early‑Warning System Keep a journal of interactions that feel off—look for patterns of praise turning into blame. Share concerns with a trusted friend or therapist to get an outside perspective. Cultivate Healthy “Mirror” Relationships Surround yourself with people who reflect empathy, consistency, and genuine care. Schedule regular check‑ins with your support circle. Deepen Self‑Awareness with RSC Tools Identify your primary relationship template and notice when you slip into old roles. Use grounding rituals (breathwork, journaling, somatic check‑ins) to stay connected to your own needs. Build Community Be honest with your friends and family. Try not to sugar coat the relationship. A healthy relationship can withstand reality testing. When you're early on in a relationship, you're infatuated which means you're literally not thinking clearly. So build healthy relationships with those who can see clearly and have permission to speak into your life!   Seek Professional Partnership Consider one‑on‑one RSC coaching to map unconscious blocks and restore internal alignment. Subscribe & Stay Connected

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In this powerful episode, Dr. Alison welcomes Adam Young, a psychotherapist and author of the new book, “Make Sense of Your Story”, to dive into the complexities of family dynamics, and how the stories we tell about our families shape our adult lives. Adam shares his personal experiences and professional insights on how being triangulated within his family as a child impacted his psychological development and emotional health. Here's what you'll learn: * Why it's crucial to identify family myths * The unique trauma of being the chosen child * Idealizing families—why we do it & how it hurts us * The danger of self-betrayal in relationships * The #1 way to heal childhood attachment wounds * Traits of securely attached relationships Get Make Sense of Your Story by Adam Young Have a question for Dr. Alison? Leave it here. Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here. If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love: Episode 79: Surviving Trauma & A Path to Forgiveness—Finding God In the Hardest Parts of Your Story With Esau McCaulley Thanks to our sponsors: Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self. Contact Restoring the Soul today and learn how their Intensive Counseling Process can jump start your journey. As a special gift for The Best of You podcast listeners, visit www.restoringthesoul.com/bestofyou to download their pdf "5 Ways Unresolved Trauma May Be Derailing Your Relationship." Go to Quince.com/bestofyou for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order! Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every Day with Jesus - Acts 2.42-47, Ephesians 4.11-16, Matthew 28.18-20Jobey McGintyGod's design for the local church is to gather His people regularly for daily life in Christ, to be built up, healed, equipped, and matured so that we can go out and spread the aroma of Christ and make disciples of all nations. Until that desired end and goal, we have the challenges of sin, failures, pride, pain, death, laziness, stubbornness, and a litany of other roadblocks. While the church is not perfect, nor is it easy, Jesus models how we are to enter into that messy, difficult, imperfectness, to bring healing and help. And so we submit and ask the Spirit to work through us to do the same, here and now, in our local churches.

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#93 In this episode we dive into the pressure to meet UNREALISTIC beauty standards. We get into topics such as the idealization of certain body types, pressure to change the way we look, the expectation of flawless skin, wrinkles & botox, whether makeup is something to be celebrated or criticized, and so much more. Tune in for tips and advice on how to not let your worth and confidence be defined by these ridiculous standards. Buckle up for a good one besties!!Find me on Instagram @wonderfullyzoeFind me on TikTok @wonderfullyzoeExplore the website unfreezepod.com

Ok sooo excited for this weeks episode with my bestie Stephanie Wray!! You guys overwhelmingly voted for this one and I called it "Steph's Tell All" LOL. But we talk all about our history of relationships and how idealizinng relationships and creating rom coms in our head has lead us to staying in relationships that likely dont really serve us. Plus she shares about how she has overcome abuse, past codependent tendencies + some more details about her marriage, and her called off engagement that she hasn't ever really shared publicly. I know this was a super open, honest and vulnerable convo and I am so proud of her for opening up because I know she hasn't felt like she could share full truths of everything that was going on in her life over the last 1.5 years. Takeaways Stephanie's journey of self-discovery began after going to rehab at 19, which sparked her journey of self-love and self-worth. How Stephanie's past abusive relationships have affected her self-worth and reactions in current relationships. Reactive abuse occurs when someone reacts to abusive behavior, and the abuser turns the situation around to make the reactive person the problem. It is important to address personal issues while single and not idealize relationships. Stephanie wanted to be saved in her relationships, but realized she had to save herself. She experienced an abusive relationship and struggled to leave, feeling trapped and addicted. CONNECT WITH STEPH ON SOCIAL HERE CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL Instagram Tiktok Youtube The Empowered Feminine Course : For the woman trying to reconnect to herself, her heart, her intuition and her body. Knowing how she's living her life is leading to burnout and exhaustion and wants to better understand masculine and feminine energetics but doesn't know where to start or how to become more "feminine" this course is for you! + I promise you will become a magnet for miracles and attract all of your deepest desires.

Get on the waitlist for Justina's next program: https://coachjustina.myflodesk.com/weeklylettersofhope Have a question you'd like Justina to answer on the show? Email her at hello@justinabutler.com Summary Idealizing partners and lack of accountability. 0:00 Idealizing partners and enabling harmful behavior. 3:20 Idealizing others and its impact on self-worth. 6:53 Idealization in relationships and healing emotional wounds. 13:01 Self-care and setting boundaries in relationships. 17:42 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/goodgirlfreewomanjustina/message

In this episode, I talk about how when you put someone on a pedestal you'll probably end up acting in ways that are inauthentic and unsustainable, which can reinforce any self-limiting beliefs you have. If you like my thoughts and insights follow me on my socials below for more! To be clear, I am not a therapist! I am just very interested in and passionate about self-awareness and personal growth :)Book a 1:1 session ☕️

Incredibly captivating episode for listening, contemplating, and self-analysis. Meditation is the key to immersing yourself in the experience that Angela will guide you through. Truly a remarkable journey to explore and understand oneself Our host shares a deep love for prayer and delves into its definition, revealing it as a trigger word synonymous with communion and union. Tune in as we uncover the profound healing nature of all prayers, regardless of their intent. We keep going into the Idealization concept, and a crucial insight emerges: never place anything before God. God signifies presence, an incredible power felt in the here and now. Learn to release attachments to what should or shouldn't be; a perpetual quest that often leaves us unsatisfied. Avoid idealization by adopting a childlike perspective, opening the door to the kingdom of God. We come to understand that within love, there exists an order, a divine order. Our troubles and problems, in some inexplicable way, are perfectly orchestrated. To fully embrace this divine order, we're encouraged to rest mentally and emotionally in God, interpreted as resting in faith. Faith, allows us to let what is naturally arise. Join us as we explore the art of resting in faith, surrendering to the divine presence, and immersing ourselves in the mysteries that unfold. We invite you to become a part of our community: subscribe to our website at https://angelamontano.com/ to receive your zoom link for the live call and to stay updated on our latest episodes. Your feedback and topic suggestions on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or via email at admin@angelamontano.com are highly valued, as we're dedicated to crafting meaningful and resonant content.

On today's episode Dr. Rick and Forrest focus on one of the most important decisions we'll make in life: the choice to become a parent. They focus on what good parenting looks like in practice, the key difference in thinking of a child as a “means” or an “end,” and how to know whether becoming a parent is the right path for you. Neurodharma Course! Join Dr. Rick for Neurodharma, a live, online course focused on developing seven key qualities that help us steady the mind, warm the heart, and find a reliable sense of inner peace. Neurodharma launches October 14, use code BeingWell20 for 20% off the purchase price. You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction2:20: The significance (and uniqueness) of this choice4:50: Being aware of your motivations for having a child16:55: The influence of primal biology20:50: Qualities of a good parent30:30: Mirroring, idealizing, twinship, and the process of differentiation36:35: Optimal frustration, and a healthy parental work ethic41:25: The rewards of being a parent46:45: If you don't like __ you shouldn't become a parent48:50: A word for current parents who wish things had been different 53:00: Community, partnership, and resources55:10: Meaning and fulfillment with or without a child1:00:50: RecapSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Factor delivers fresh, never-frozen, fully prepared meals right to your door. Head to factormeals.com/beingwell50 and use code beingwell50 to get 50% off. Body Electric is an interactive six-part podcast series from NPR that investigates how our relationship with technology is impacting our health. Listen wherever you get your podcasts!Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Finally get that project off the ground with Squarespace! Head to squarespace.com/beingwell for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch use coupon code BEINGWELL to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

Although we know there isn't such a thing as perfection, we look for it, especially when looking for a romantic partner. We all have this romanticized idea of love, and every time we fall in love, we think we have found the one, our other half, our soulmate, the person that completes us. It is all rainbows and butterflies until we get triggered by what they say, do, or think. Why is that? Is there a way to keep seeing the prince when they turn into a frog? Can we still fall for the shoeless, humble maid? Today's episode is all about intimate relationships. You'll hear about why romantic relationships are so triggering, why they can take you from heaven to hell in seconds, and how awareness of your feelings and emotions can help you build sustainable, stimulating, and long-lasting relationships. Additionally, you'll hear about Abraham Hicks' five steps model for unconditional love, Jay Shetty's 8 rules of love, the key to forgiveness in a relationship, and much more. Tune in and listen to the fourth episode of Raditude. Let's unravel long-lasting and fulfilling relationships' secret formula. In This Episode, You'll Learn:If you want a spiritual journey, be in a relationship (2:20)How relationships help us change the way we see the world (6:50)Why do we rarely have unconditional love for our partners (10:40)Abraham Hicks' five-step model for unconditional love (12:00)The key to forgiveness in a relationship (17:10)Stop focusing on the 13%! (22:20)A relationship is not a "me vs. them" situation (25:30)Resources:Book: Jay Shetty - 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It and Let It GoLet's connect!WebsiteLinkedInInstagramFacebookTwitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I discuss my tendency to romanticize life, love and suicide. What are the challenges that come with that?Sponsor:Is there something interfering with your happiness or is preventing you from achieving your goals? https://betterhelp.com/leo and enjoy 10% off your first month and start talking to mental health professional today!! 1-on-1 Coaching: If you want go from feeling hopeless to hopeful, lonely to connected and like a burden to a blessing, then go to 1-on-1 coaching, go to www.thrivewithleo.com. Let's get to tomorrow, together. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline988Teen Line (Los Angeles)800-852-8336The Trevor Project (LGBTQ Youth Hotline)866-488-7386National Domestic Violence Hotline800-799-SAFE [800-799-7233]Crisis Text LineText "Connect" to 741741 in the USALifeline Chathttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/International Suicide Hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.htmlhttps://www.nowmattersnow.org/skillshttps://sobermeditations.libsyn.com/ www.suicidesafetyplan.com https://scaa.club/

Award-winning author, depth psychotherapist, and guide Connie Zweig shows us encountering darkness is a necessary part of our spiritual journey. In the first half of life, we disown aspects of ourselves to fit in and navigate our world more smoothly. Over time we realize all aspects of ourselves must be recalled and befriended. Integration of these shadow aspects lays the foundation for spiritual awakening.  Through careful introspection, dreamwork, and self-confrontation, we can see beyond stereotypes and projections, avoiding the pitfalls of black-and-white thinking. Jung reminds us,   "…we shall, by carefully analyzing every fascination, extract from it a portion of our own personality, like a quintessence, and slowly come to recognize that we meet ourselves time and again in a thousand disguises on the path of life."  Navigating the complex psychodynamics between spiritual students, the teachers they choose, and the disciplines of the path they tread can be more complicated than most people imagine. The inherent power dynamics in many spiritual traditions can encourage students to dismiss their agency and silence their ambivalence. Idealizing their teachers through projecting the Self upon them or contracting to be unquestioningly obedient can leave students disoriented and vulnerable to exploitation.  Falling into moral idealism and accepting standards of spiritual perfection, students may split off essential aspects of their unique personality, hobbling their developmental progress. Spiritual bypass may be encouraged by certain spiritual teachers leaving the leader and the student blind to harmful impulses and minimizing destructive behaviors.  Confronting the flaws and failures of the teacher can help students place their spiritual center back inside themselves. Accepting the limits of many spiritual traditions may free students to rediscover their autonomous inner guidance.  Connie's work can help us understand why some are drawn to charismatic leaders, unconsciously surrendering parts of their psyche to them or the system they represent. In worst cases, students suffer abuse and betrayal that alienates them from their spiritual instinct, blocking them from the very experiences they long for. Shadow work and depth psychology can be key tools in breaking free from denial, projection, and dependency.  With support, time, and corrective action, it is possible to recover one's inner connection. Connie's stories of renowned teachers like Sufi poet Rumi, Hindu master Ramakrishna, and Christian saint Catherine of Siena exemplify the different paths that can support spiritual yearning.  Meeting the shadow, internally or externally, is a painful but inevitable stage on the path to a more mature spirituality. We can use spiritual shadow work to separate from abusive teachers or barren traditions and reclaim inner spiritual authority. It's about navigating the narrow path through the darkness toward the light, reigniting the flame of longing, and engaging once more in fulfilling spiritual practice.  ABOUT CONNIE:  Connie Zweig, Ph.D., is a retired therapist and coauthor of Meeting the Shadow and Romancing the Shadow. Her award-winning book, The Inner Work of Age: Shifting from Role to Soul, extends her work on the Shadow into midlife and beyond and explores aging as a spiritual practice. Workshops, Blog, Videos, Meeting the Shadow on the Spiritual Path: The Dance of Darkness and Light in Our Search for Awakening BECOME A DREAM INTERPRETER: We've created DREAM SCHOOL to teach others how to work with their dreams. A vibrant community has constellated around this mission, and we think you'll love it. Check it out.  PLEASE GIVE US A HAND:: Hey folks -- We need your help. So please BECOME OUR PATRON and keep This Jungian Life podcast up and running.

To romanticize heartbreak means to idealize or glorify the experience of emotional pain and heartbreak. It involves creating a romantic or poetic narrative around the suffering, seeing it as a beautiful, profound, or necessary part of love or personal growth. When someone romanticizes their heartbreak, they may focus on the intensity of their emotions, viewing the pain as a testament to the depth of their love or the significance of the relationship. They might engage in behaviors that perpetuate the romanticized narrative, such as clinging to memories or mementos associated with the pain, seeking validation through suffering, or resisting healing and moving on. It's important to recognize that romanticizing heartbreak can prevent individuals from fully healing and moving forward. While reflecting on past experiences can be valuable, it's essential to maintain a balanced perspective and prioritize emotional well-being over the romanticized notion of pain. It's the same people that when you notice that they seem to be feeling all better and you say that they remind you that they're not. They're quick to say I'm not OK, instead of observing and agreeing with you that yeah you know what today is not too bad I'm feeling better today. I was with some friends this weekend, and we are all divorced. We're all in new relationships and remarried, and there was just conversations about our children getting married because you're outside each of the challenges that come with the fact that we're on fairly hostile terms with our exes all of us and them One of my friends she almost competes to have the worst case scenario, and I think partly because of the attention that one receives the sympathy, the concern the love, whatever again romanticizing, almost suffering of dealing with us People may romanticize heartbreak for several reasons. Firstly, heartbreak is often associated with intense emotions and heightened experiences. There is a certain allure in the depth of emotions and the ability to feel so passionately, which can be seen as romantic or poetic. It can be seen as a testament to the intensity of one's love or the significance of a relationship. Here are some signs that you may be romanticizing your emotional pain: Idealizing the pain: You find yourself glorifying or romanticizing your emotional pain, seeing it as a noble or beautiful experience rather than acknowledging its negative impact on your well-being Seeking validation through suffering: You believe that the more you suffer emotionally, the more authentic your experience or relationships are. You may view pain as a way to prove the intensity of your emotions or the depth of your love. Holding onto the past: Instead of actively working towards healing and moving forward, you find comfort in dwelling on past pain. You may continuously replay memories or hold onto mementos that remind you of the pain, seeing them as tokens of a profound connection. Resisting healing and support: You resist or reject opportunities for healing, such as therapy, support groups, or healthy coping mechanisms, because you believe that your pain is an essential part of your identity or creativity. Longing for a repeat: You develop a desire for similar emotional pain in future relationships or situations, believing that it's necessary for true passion or depth. It's important to recognize these signs and consider the impact they have on your overall well-being. While it's natural to reflect on past experiences and learn from them, it's crucial to prioritize your emotional health and seek ways to heal and grow. 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Hi friend, this short episode wraps up Season 1. I'm taking time off to enjoy travels and be present with all the summer activities, as well as reflecting on the direction I want to take this podcast. Today, I talk about the pressure of being being consistent and deciding to stay present with cycles of the seasons. I also share what I've learned about showing up to record episodes every week and what the process has looked like to find my authentic way of doing things.I would love your questions and ideas for future episodes! You can send me a message in any of these places:Newsletter: heidijandel.com/contactInstagram: instagram.com/heidi.jandelFacebook: facebook.com/hjweilandYouTube: youtube.com/@heidijandel

Learn about what's important when it comes to making a good first impression with a woman... Are you navigating the world of dating, seeking that elusive chemistry and connection? Have you ever found yourself in a position where you're unsure about the impression you're making when meeting women? This thought-provoking video addresses a common pitfall in men's dating experiences - the tendency to idealize women, a mistake that 98% of men reportedly make. Drawing on the insights of psychology and the realities of what women want, we delve into how to create an authentic and charismatic first impression. We provide you with an actionable guide on how to talk to women, avoiding dating mistakes, and using engaging conversation starters to establish a genuine connection. The goal here isn't merely ‘how to get a girlfriend', but to understand, connect with, and attract women in a way that respects both your individuality and hers. "Stop idealizing women" is not just a piece of advice; it's a perspective shift that can transform your approach to meeting women. This shift does not diminish the charm of your encounters but rather enhances the authenticity and depth of your connections. Join us as we embark on this enlightening journey, a journey that will equip you with the understanding to navigate the complexities of dating, to radiate charisma, and ultimately, to forge bonds that are grounded in respect and shared affinity. This is your chance to be part of the 2% who gets it right from the start. Are you ready? Hey, Anna here, your go-to guide for all things dating & self-improvement! Did you know that, according to psychology, first impressions are made within the first seven seconds of meeting someone? Yes, you read that right - seven seconds. That's barely enough time to say hello! But those few seconds can set the tone for the entire relationship, making it incredibly important to avoid some common pitfalls. So, buckle up, gentlemen! We're diving deep into the top 11 mistakes men often make when meeting a woman for the first time. From poor listening skills and personal grooming blunders to rushing things or being too available - I'm unmasking them all. Stick with me, and by the end of this video, you'll be well-equipped with the know-how to make your next first impression not just good, but absolutely unforgettable!  Before we get going, if you're new here please hit the red button to subscribe to the channel and comment “I've subscribed” so I can thank you! Now, let's get started, shall we? #Dating #Crush #Flirting #bodylanguage  You may have stumbled onto today's video because you're looking for advice on any of the following dating topics: - Dating advice for men - Relationship advice for men - How to get girls - Attractive body language - Signs she likes you - How to tell if a girl likes you - What women want in a guy - How to be a high value man for women - How to know if a girl likes you If so, then today's video is PERFECT for you. You'll be able to use the information from today's dating advice video to tackle any problems you may be facing with the scenarios mentioned above.

Elisabeth Anker is a professor of American Studies and Political Science at George Washington University.  Her first book, Orgies of Feeling: Melodrama and the Politics of Freedom lays a groundwork for analyzing freedom-based narratives in popular culture.  The theme is extended in her 2022 book Ugly Freedoms, which is the basis for our conversation.

We're still taking some much needed time away but will be back May 2nd with a brand new series! In the meantime, enjoy this rewind episode from January 2022. We're all guilty of it… We meet someone and they seem perfect, right? Or, we meet someone and they're a little less than perfect so we MAKE them perfect in our minds by idealizing their less desirable characteristics. News flash, y'all…the idealized version of someone is NOT who that person actually is!  In this episode we discuss: Our personal experiences with romantic idealization  Why we place others on a pedestal and avoid red flags Ways to avoid idealizing your relationships in efforts to move towards healthier patterns  And much more! Hit our Homegirl Hotline…we'd love to hear from you!  Call or Text us at (310) 363-0167 for advice, to share the things you're proud of, or any gems you think we'd enjoy.  Support us on Patreon | Get Bravado bonus content + special discounts! Shop our Merch here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-black-girl-bravado1502/donations

Stop idolizing masculinity 'gurus'/ content creators and demanding David Deida-level of expression from your man. That's called entitlement. Learn to see your husband as the 'real deal', rather than allow subtle discontentment to seep into your relationship by consuming polarity content. The worst thing this space can do is make you believe that the grass is greener elsewhere, or that a masculine man is all about verbal eloquence, Jamie Fraser (fictional) perfection, and personal branding. And yes, the objective of polarity/masculinity/femininity content is to enrich and invigorate your relationship and life. If that's the case, awesome! If not, re-evaluate. -- ❤️‍

Wish you had your body from spring break 2002?  We discuss how to stop idealizing the past and progress forward.Work with me: apply for coaching Contact me for consults (100% of profits are for charity): ryan@poundcake.itJoin us on the Fitness Sucks Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitsuckFollow us on Instagram @fitness.sucks.podcastwww.poundcake.fit

A Narcissist can make you feel good temporarily or for a moment. At the end of the day, they are human beings. However, you must remember they have a personality disorder. So, there will always be a motive or an agenda behind their actions, good or bad, that's only in their favor. It has nothing to do with you. Don't let your guards down. Keep gaining knowledge to protect your mind, heart, soul and peace. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rachel-real/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/rachel-real/support

We all know how influential social media can be on our lives, but have you ever stopped to think about the impact is has on your romantic relationship? Unrealistic expectations, unhealthy bonds, and comparison - here's why you shouldn't idealize couples you see online! Instagram | TikTok | YouTube Follow Afiyat and Katherine ♡

Links mentioned in this episode (some may be affiliate links):Get all the show notes and all of the links at wannabeclutterfree.com/111Wannabe Clutter Free Summer SaleDr. Hank's WebsiteBooks: The Burnout Cure & The Assertiveness Guide for WomenFollow Dr. Julie Hanks on InstagramWannabe Minimalist Facebook Group - come join the community filled with amazing people just like you who are on their journey toward a better life with less stuff.Follow Deanna on PinterestFollow Deanna on InstagramFollow Deanna on Facebook**********************Music: Fresh Lift by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.com**********************It's no secret that moms are under a lot of pressure these days. The recent pandemic has just made matters more visible. One thing we see over and over is this idea of super mom and how moms can be expected to do it all, be amazing, and look great doing it.On this episode of the Wannabe Minimalist Show, I'm chatting with Dr. Julie Hanks about the cost of idealizing motherhood and what it means for our homes. If you've ever felt like you weren't enough or that you were doing a bad job, tune in because Dr. Hanks has some amazing advice to share.Dr. Julie Hanks is a licensed psychotherapist, author, content creator, thought leader, online influencer, owner of therapy clinics in Utah, and host of the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast.With nearly 30 years of clinical experience, Dr. Hanks provides online resources that empower women to prioritize their dreams, revolutionize their families, and personalize their faith.Be ready for a fun conversation, a peak into my personal life, and some genuine moments.This episode of the Wannabe Minimalist Show will also help you discover:- How we can break free from traditional roles in the home- Understanding what comparison mode is and how to stop it- Why we need to stop idealizing motherhood- The steps you can take to become the main character in your life- What to do if you feel too overwhelmed to make a changeSubscribe & ReviewAre you subscribed to the Wannabe Minimalist Show podcast? If you're not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don't want you to miss an episode. I'm adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you're not subscribed there's a good chance you'll miss out on those.And if you enjoyed today's episode, it would make my day if you left me a review on Apple Podcasts too. Those reviews help other people find my podcast and they're also fun for me to go in and read. Let me know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!

Featuring special guest Natalie Marlin (https://twitter.com/NataliesNotInIt)! Screened only once at release before it was banned during the Iranian cultural revolution, Mohammad Reza Aslani's CHESS OF THE WIND (aka THE CHESS GAME OF THE WIND) is still shocking after more than 40 years in obscurity. Focusing on the lurid power plays conducted behind the closed doors of an aristocrat's mansion (including marriage for status, murder, and revenge for both), it's squarely pointed at the powerful and influential and the ways and reasons they leverage and maintain power. A paraplegic spinster plots against her stepfather, whose lust for status cost her mother her life, while suitors and staff leverage the home's growing paranoia and tension to maneuver for rank underneath them both. In this episode, we mull over the movie's sense of style, genre fluidity, humor, and how its late restoration feels as much like an act of rebellion as its original release. Links: - Find your local abortion fund at https://abortionfunds.org/funds/ - Find more of Natalie's work at https://twitter.com/NataliesNotInIt - “NIC CAGE, NATIONAL TREASURE” (June - Aug 2022 at the Trylon): https://www.trylon.org/films/category/national-treasure/ - “GENE TIERNEY” (July 2022 at the Trylon): https://www.trylon.org/films/category/gene-tierney/ - “YAPHET KOTTO” (Aug 2022 at the Trylon): https://www.trylon.org/films/category/yaphet-kotto/ Follow us on Twitter at https://twitter.com/trylovepodcast and email us at trylovepodcast@gmail.com to get in touch! Buy tickets and support the Trylon at https://www.trylon.org/. Theme: "Raindrops" by Huma-Huma/"No Smoking" PSA by John Waters. Outro: Closing ambiance from CHESS OF THE WIND (1976). Timestamps 0:00 - Episode 182: CHESS OF THE WIND (1979) with Natalie Marlin 4:00 - The Patented Aaron Grossman Summary 5:47 - Restoration, lost media, and censorship 15:19 - Idealizing – and criticizing – the future 26:49 - ​​Style, form, setting, dust, and how the movie presents itself 55:00 - The time-traveling final shot of the movie 59:45 - It's actually a really fun movie, too 1:06:34 - Cody's Noteys: Trylibs – Spooky Crime Part II

Have you ever found yourself pining for the good ol' days? Idealizing those times when you used to be able to do things that would get certain results, or when you used to feel better, or when everything was so much easier than it is now? My friends, we all get stuck in the past sometimes, and even spend time thinking that our lives from here forward are inevitably going to be worse. But is that actually true? (And – more importantly, for my beautiful Bs who are working on managing their minds – is that thought helpful?) Today's episode of the Fitness Matters podcast will help you step out of being stuck in the past, and step forward into your brilliant future, where you can achieve any goal you want. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

In this episode, I'm closing out season two with an important conversation about practicing presence, facing forward, and writing ourselves into an aligned storyline. This conversation is about seemingly simple topics, but I promise they're incredibly potent, no matter where you are inside your present journey. In fact, nearly two decades into my own healing and growth work, I recently had to remember the power of presence for myself, and it became such a transformational experience in so many ways. Plus, you can't face forward into what's supposed to come next if you're not here now. I know you're going to gain so much from this conversation, and I'm also sharing some exciting announcements about our upcoming second podcast launch! What to listen for: Launching our newest podcast and other goodies Where to follow me and my updates in the meantime The importance of presence and my own reminder to practice it Feeling silly after doing so much growth work “It has been so healing and has produced such incredible shifts so rapidly. The pace at which I have been getting clarity, getting downloads, feeling more like myself, feeling happier and more aligned and fulfilled and creative and healthy and all these things has just been so accelerated.” Navigating the times when presence is most difficult Grief and trauma are full body experiences This isn't about bypassing the more challenging emotions Holding our vision for the future while engaging with this moment The best ways to practice presence and how it assists our healing Facing forward into what's next and why presence is essential “Facing forward, facing into what it is that we want, this involves presence. This involves being here now and orienting ourselves towards things that we say that we want.” Idealizing the past even when we want change Orienting to ourselves in time and space Don't beat yourself up when you're hooked into the past The visual metaphors that guided my healing “I would close my eyes in this little movie would play. And after I had clawed my way out of the depths of grief and trauma, clawed my way out of this deep dark well, I remember turning away from the well and facing in a different direction. And so we're doing that energetically. We are reorienting ourselves, our whole selves towards the things that we want, even if they're small.” Identifying what you want and orienting towards it What it means to write yourself into a storyline that feels aligned Using our meaning making skills productively How to look at what happened in a way that frees you to move forward The truth about “everything happens for a reason” Deciding how you want to be shaped and how the story will unfold Resources: Grab a copy of, What Really Happened? Break Free from Interpretation and Make the Impossible Happen, along with other products and books in the online shop. Access our free workbook for how to make the impossible happen, and our powerful 8-part Journey Mapping™ sampler program and begin uncovering the purpose of your path at www.TalesFromTheJourney.tv/Free/. Read my memoir, Unravel: Rising Up and Coming Back from a Season of Living that Damn Near Killed Me at www.TheUnravelBook.com. Tales from the Journey™ is a Stephenie Zamora Media Production.

I review the whole series as well as analyze the main and supporting characters. I was also on a walk so please enjoy the relaxing sounds of cars passing #Multitasking    Show notes:   -How it ended   -I cried after every episode (except one)   -Rebecca and Jack   -Miguel   -I'm walking home   CHARACTER ANALYSIS   JACK   -A fixer   -Relationship with Nicky   -Jack's death   -Kate's guilt   -Idealizing Jack   -Jack's pain   -REBECCA   -What she wanted at first   -The anchor of the family   -The cast revolved around her   -MIGUEL   -Loyal   -His relationship with Rebecca    -“His favorite person”   -Another fixer   -Reconciling and closure   -RANDALL   -Sterling K. Brown's performance   -Randall's arc and identity   -Adoption and grief   -Beth and the worst case scenario game   -WILLIAM   -Substance abuse   -Guilt   -Redemption   -Randall and fixing   -The good and bad of fixing   -Closure   -William's life   -KATE   -Kate's arc   -Jack    -Body image   -Finding purpose   -Marriage, kids, money   -Her life at the finale   -The Pearsons and their issues   -Madison   -Eating disorders (Kate, Madison, and Kevin)   -KEVIN   -My least favorite character   -Things usually just worked out   -What would have been a better arc   -Sophie   -Group therapy scene - Watch it here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KD7CqBYEq8Q   -Tension with Randall   -TOBY   -Chris Sullivan and The Knick   -Geek and nerdy in adulthood   -My apartment   -My nephew   -Depression   -Pressure   -Tension with Kevin and Randall   -“Being Jack”   -Idealizing someone after death   -Still loving Kate   -Toby's relationship status?   BETH   -R&B!   -Relationship with Randall   -Relationship with her mother   -Jobs   -Strong character   -Using humor   -Anxiety and pressure   NICKY   -His personality compared to Jack's   -Drafted to Vietnam   -Recovering from Vietnam   -Griffin Dunne and Johnny Dangerously   -Void, non-support, substance, abuse, PTSD   -Kevin and Nicky   -Kevin's resources and easier writing   -Kevin and Toby   -Using humor   -The writing   TANGENT   -Why I turn to music, movies, and TV   -Expressing feelings   -Growing up in the 80s and 90s and “acceptable” emotions   -Destructive and constructive coping mechanisms   -Seeking therapy   END TANGENT   -Great overall   -Ran its course   -Rebecca and Alzheimers    -Respecting the kind moments for people with Alzheimers   -Jack's speech to Kevin and Randall   -Going back    -Appreciating the moment   -Healthy fondness of the past without overly nostalgic   -Goals   -Plugs!   Twitter https://twitter.com/mmampodcast Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mmampodcast    Apple Podcasts https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/music-movies-and-other-stuff/id1236495556?mt=2  Podbean https://mmam.podbean.com/ Email mmampodcast@gmail.com     -Get your info from credible sources (New York Times, USA Today, NPR, BBC, Washington Post, etc).   © MMAMPodcast 2022 All Rights Reserved

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Do you struggle with self worth and confidence? Is your self worth determined by your accomplishments, appearance, possessions, and work ethic? Then you definitely want to tune into this episode. In this episode I talk about the Idealizing coping style by Dr. Sam Rader and ways to heal these parts of you as an athlete. 

Today we discuss the idea self-care is anything that makes you feel good. We have to stop idealizing self-care in order to make it a priority in our lives. This may shock you- but you don't need a consistent routine to have a healthy self-care practice. You just need a consistent mindset that you will do something for YOU every day.  Welcome to the club, let's be friends! Instagram: @sareenarama TikTok: @wellnesscheckinclub Website: https://www.wellnesscheckinclub.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Caution: Topics include sexual violence. You have been warned, the past sucks.

If you think about it, we're all drawn to people most like us. Call it in-group bias or being 'hard-wired' for like-minded people — the fact remains that we can connect best with those we think are similar to us. That's why, when a celebrity, superstar, or sports person comes forward with a challenge they've been facing, we begin seeing them in a different light. Their candor and the fact that they're also dealing with something you or someone you love have made them more human and relatable. This also applies to religious leaders and spiritual teachers. In fact, it also works for any of your teachers — anyone you think has the capability to make an impact on you. When teachers come forward with their own challenges and how they deal with them, it has a transformational effect on students. Not only do the students gain a deeper understanding of 'who' their teacher is as a human, but they or someone they love might be in a similar situation. Instead of idealizing the teacher, the students can ask questions. How has the teacher been taking care of themselves? What are they going to do to get through whatever they are finding most challenging? Do they need any help? All of this is extremely important. More often than not, when we see our leaders and our teachers, they appear dominantly as fully self-sufficient. We might even believe they've arrived — they're not overtly moving toward healing and awareness like those of us that are. This is also partly because most teachers don't share their challenges to make themselves be the leader in faith, trust or understanding for their congregation, and how they deal with the part of life that is most difficult. Robert Strock shares a few examples of how the teachers in his life have fared when it comes to sharing their personal challenges with their students. He explores how compartmentalization of challenges and who we share our difficulties with can be limiting. It stops teachers from being vulnerable with their students, which could forge stronger connections. It prevents students from seeing their teacher in a human way; there's a lost opportunity for learning and deeper gratitude here. This is because students can take the trust shared by their teacher to express their own biggest challenges, something that they need help with too.  De-idealize your teachers and bring them down from the pedestal you've likely unwittingly placed them on. Take a moment to ask them sincerely and humbly about their personal challenges and encourage them to share. This will bring you and your teacher closer and give you insight into how to apply what they're teaching to your life's challenging situations. This may be difficult for you, but it is very likely to be beneficial to you, the teacher and the congregation at large. Read the transcription and listen to this episode on The Global Bridge Foundation website.

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Suzie is a mom of 2 who agreed to have a coaching call recorded to share here on the podcast. I love to share examples of coaching sessions to show the range of topics that life coaching can cover - and to give you an idea of how I approach coaching. But really, we share this because the issues that women get coached on are always an issue someone else can relate to and get support on just by listening.    Issues she wanted coaching on are: Increasing self-control around food Snacking without thinking or to get some pleasure in the day Eating inline with an AIP (autoimmune protocol) Putting off the food restrictions of the AIP   Main points we covered in this coaching session: Getting clear on what ‘self-control' would mean to her when it comes to food/health Idealizing the past self ‘before kids' and recognizing where she can let go of the expectations she puts on her current self to do what her past self has done Using the ‘rules' against herself, to keep her from sticking with it and making progress (all or nothing thought trap) Consider what level of awareness she has of her food habits and how she responds to breaking her own rules Being on autopilot through the day and using up her  willpower until it is exhausted in the day The comfort and gratification we get from snacking  Taking action from a place of feeling frustrated with your health vs from a place of feeling empowered Loosening her grip on having control and doing ‘what is right'  How we have trained our bodies to crave modern foods that give us so much dopamine  Undoing the programming and autopilot and approaching her life from her own intentional values Using the lessons learned from having an eating disorder at how to proactively approach health moving forward Looking for the disconnects on how to measure the success of diet and exercise and seeing where they can be at odds with one another Negative motivation running in the background (subconscious) vs positive motivation Listening to her inner dialogue (mental story) going into situations like snacking and how she wants to respond to herself when she eats the food and regrets it Different approaches to the AIP diet and how to manage the overwhelm it can create Acknowledging where she can seek peace instead of perfection with the approach to food Noticing the inner rebel that resists her own ‘rules' Eating mindfully in times where she normally ‘fog eating'    Questions to ask yourself  in applying this session to your own wellness journey Where do you have all or nothing thinking about your wellness? What expectations do you have of your health and wellness that overwhelm you? What values do you have for how you approach taking care of your health? How do you measure your success differently from what you say out loud to what you think deep down? Where do you feel unclear about what your approach should be? And how can you break it down to one small goal you know you want to have?   Suzie's actions and takeaways Choose one food goal to stick with (going paleo) Seek peace in food rather than perfection   Approaching her health intentionally will not feel natural, but it has to be done ON PURPOSE! Looking at the root thinking behind how she approaches health This all takes intention, it doesn't just ‘happen' because we talked about it  Make an imperfect meal plan for this week Write out her ‘intentional' thoughts she wants to practice   Other related episodes Do you trust yourself? Expectation overwhelm Why it matters what you think   Join the Simple on Purpose Facebook community here (make sure to answer the entry questions!)

The joys of finding someone that is compatible is beyond words, that often leads to idealizing and if it fails becoming emotionally distant. I DO NOT OWN THE RIGHTS TO ANY MUSIC USED. FOR PROMOTIONAL PURPOSES ONLY All Featured Content Is Monetized By The Respective Copyright Owners & Record Labels. FAIR USE DISCLAIMER: I do not own copyright for this copyrighted material, but under Section 107 United States Copyright Law as noted by the United States Copyright Office (Copyright Act 1976), allowance is made for fair use for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. I state here in a good faith that I have made and uploaded here this copy of this copyrighted material completely for the purposes of comment and criticism - i.e. my production of the copy of this copyrighted material and sharing of it here on this podcast in this particular case - is totally non-profit, and that I believe that my production of this copy of this copyrighted material and sharing of it here in this podcast in this particular case can only increase value of this copyrighted material and produce only positive effects for this copyrighted material in its potential market. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/djkevinstew/support

In today's video, I'd like to talk about a dangerous mental pitfall that a lot of retroactive jealousy sufferers fall into. We're going to discuss why idealizing your girlfriend is so dangerous. Anyone who's taken my premium online course, Get Over Your Partner's Past Fast, or for those who have my Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy guidebook, […] The post Idealizing Your Girlfriend? Don't Put Anyone On a Pedestal… [VIDEO] appeared first on Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy.

Is what you see posted on social media an accurate and honest portrayal of reality? When you look at the social media accounts of other families and other people’s kids are left feeling that your family is somehow an inadequate mess? And when you post on social media do you communicate an accurate portrayal of you, your marriage, your family, and your kids? If we’re honest, we are so beaten down by what we see in others that we portray ourselves online with what’s been called “an idealized self.” I recently chatted with a mom who has had enough with the pressure that comes with the comparison game. She told me, “I’m done! I’m done posting, and I’m done believing that what I see online is actually what others really are.” In many ways, this mom was finding freedom from pursuing the idol of the idealized self and getting the attention of others. Social media is fertile ground for idolatry. Present yourself and your family honestly, and don’t believe everything you see! 

This episode we talk about the song "New Religion" by NSTASIA, from her 2017 album New Religion. It's another simpy mushy episode! The comparison between love and religion is made all the time in music, and it's beautiful, we can't get enough, but we gotta talk about how songs like this, or music/movies in general, maybe set an unrealistic expectation of what love is supposed to feel like. Idealizing love can be harmful to your romantic relationships or to your own emotional wellbeing, because it can leave you feeling empty, disappointed, or unfulfilled. On the positive side, it's ok to crave a love that deep as long as you know it's not like that 24/7, and that like religion, love requires dedication, mindfulness, respect, commitment and discipline.    IG/Twitter @simpinafterdark Go like our "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify ! Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

On today's episode of Running Through My Mind, love is on my mind! I give you a little background into how I learned to love myself and a little glimpse into my romantic relationship. Love yourself like your life depends on it - because it does. Thanks for listening along. Go get that run in! Follow me on instagram: @hellahgood9 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/runningthroughmymind/support

Dr. Jin Zhao is a 5th generation doctor with his Ph.D in the history and development of schools of thought in Chinese Medicine. He is a professor and a very busy clinician who sees over 200 patients a day. He holds that mastery is not about esoteric knowledge or secret techniques, but better organizing what you already know in a more efficient way.

I interview Dr. Julie Hanks, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, author, and assistant professor at Utah Valley University on the topic of why idealizing motherhood can be harmful to women's mental and emotional health. Specifically, we discuss: - Why our culture idealizes mothers. - How how idealizing motherhood can be harmful to women's mental health. - The difference between "role and relationship". - Why betrayed women feel shame that they're not available for their children and how idealizing motherhood adds unnecessary pressure. - How betrayed women deal with the shame of not being best their self while healing from trauma. - How women can challenge the glorification of self- neglect, especially when resources are low. www.drjuliehanks.com Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist with 28 years experience specializing in women’s emotional health and relationships. She is an assistant professor of social work at Utah Valley University. Dr. Hanks is the founder and director of Wasatch Family Therapy, an outpatient therapy clinic in Cottonwood Heights and Bountiful, UT. She is author of The Burnout Cure and The Assertiveness Guide for Women, a blogger, a local and national media contributor, an online influencer, a private practice consultant, and an award-winning performing songwriter. A native Californian, Hanks currently lives in Sandy, UT. For additional resources visit DrJulieHanks.com or connect with @drjuliehanks on social media. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT and founder of LifeStar of St. George, Utah, a treatment program for couples healing from the impact of pornography and sexual addiction. Learn more at www.lifestarstgeorge.com. Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.

Its an especially tough time to live in the moment but this week Gabi and Emma are talking about how this is something they've always struggled with. Hear their thoughts on nostalgia, anxiety about the future and whether it's really so bad to not always be living in the moment. Follow us on Instagram @hotcocopodcast Check out our YouTube Channel! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hot-coco-podcast/support

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Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and coach with over 28 years experience specializing in women's emotional health and relationships. She is the founder and director of Wasatch Family Therapy, an outpatient therapy clinic in... The post Cost of Idealizing Motherhood Ep 375 The Cultural Hall appeared first on The Cultural Hall Podcast.

Did you miss us? We missed you! Your DYDYH crew is back and joined by return guest and wonderful human Sarah Caputo to dig into the big question plaguing us all today: why on earth would anyone actually want to be Darth Vader?

Join Tiffany and Allyson this week as they discuss Jenna Hager Bush's treasured Christmas stocking, eyebrow tinting, the first all female paving crew, and a fabulous interview with Dr. Julie Hanks about her Tedx talk, "Idealizing Motherhood."  News Story:  Jenna Hager Bush's unexpected Christmas gift Main Topic:  Julie's Tedx Talk Dr. Julie Hanks' website Favorite Things:  Julie: Hush Puppies Ballet Flats  Old Navy Jumper McDonalds Diet Coke (it tastes better!) Allyson: Eyebrow tinting Leaving Time by Jodi Picoult Elevate App (brain games) Inspiring Woman: First all female paving crew      

Story ideas get talked about a lot. But do they deserve the attention? Today we'll chat about idea-focused writers, the obsession with “originality,” and what to do if you don't have anything to write about.

Listen in this week as Allyson and Tiffany discuss an Alaskan teen who was disqualified for having a wedgie, the idealization of motherhood, and Meyer's Acorn Spice scented counter spray.  News Story: Alaskan teen swimmer disqualified for wedgie  Main Topic:  Julie Hanks TEDx talk Allyson's "'Good Mom' Redefined" article Favorite Things:  Tiffany -  1) Live plants in her home 2) Loft no show socks 3) Costco carne asada (Bill Bailey brand) Allyson -  1) Fall Play List on Spotify: Windham Hill Guitar Sampler 2) Meyer's Acorn Spice counter spray 3) Nutella chocolate chip cookies in a muffin tin Inspiring Woman:  Lexie and Lindsay Kite of Beauty Redefined  

Narcissistic Abusers use Idealizing, Devaluing & Discarding as a way of controlling victims. The initial love bombing stage is done to make the victim feel exceptional and as if they have found the perfect partner. The narcissistic abuser will then engage in the process of Devaluation which includes put downs, humiliation, gaslighting and withholding of love. The Discard phase is when the narcissistic abuse throws out the victim and sees the partner as needy, demanding and no longer a valid source of narcissistic supply. It is important for victims to see the relationship for what it was, a con job and an emotional manipulation. Victims will need to work through the many layers of intense emotions that came with the chorus of having emotions toyed with and used against the victim.

Chris Freiman joins us today to argue that the liberal egalitarian rejection of free market regimes rests on a crucial methodological mistake. Liberal egalitarians regularly assume an ideal “public interest” model of political behavior and a nonideal “private interest” model of behavior in the market and civil society.Why do we need the state? What is the free rider problem? What is ideal theory? How did Rawls mix ideal and non-ideal theory when analyzing institutions? What kind of state would we have in a perfectly just world? What kinds of institutional designs is Rawls aiming at? How is voting an expressive behavior?Further Reading:Unequivocal Justice (Political Philosophy for the Real World), written by Christopher FreimanRawls, Ideal Theory, and the Public Goods Argument for the State, written by Christopher FreimanA Theory of Justice, Post-Trump Edition, written by Christopher FreimanRelated Content:A (Revised) Theory of Justice, written by Brian KogelmannThe Federalist No. 10, written by James MadisonThe Virtue of Justice, Free Thoughts Podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

As Jung well knew, eros – love – is an essential part of the analytic process. In Vol. 16 of his Collected Works Jung used alchemical images of a king and queen to illustrate the various ways in which erotic feeling can enter the consulting room. The safety of a time-limited, fee-based relationship is important to allow a full range of feelings and fantasies to be admitted into consciousness without being enacted. Idealizing and erotic feelings for another can pave the way to finding one’s center in oneself. The Dream: "I was some kid, with a family. The family left me out of some event, and then they went on a hot-air balloon trip without me. After returning, when I complain, the mother announces that I'm "ready" for it, and prepares to have intercourse with me. But just then, her upper body turns into a giant snake and moved to devour me. And that woke me up." Link to the Rosarium Images

Episode 7- Piero Place & Idealizing by Airplane Mode

How are we to make progress on AI alignment given moral uncertainty?  What are the ideal ways of resolving conflicting value systems and views of morality among persons? How ought we to go about AI alignment given that we are unsure about our normative and metaethical theories? How should preferences be aggregated and persons idealized in the context of our uncertainty? Moral Uncertainty and the Path to AI Alignment with William MacAskill is the fifth podcast in the new AI Alignment series, hosted by Lucas Perry. For those of you that are new, this series will be covering and exploring the AI alignment problem across a large variety of domains, reflecting the fundamentally interdisciplinary nature of AI alignment. Broadly, we will be having discussions with technical and non-technical researchers across areas such as machine learning, AI safety, governance, coordination, ethics, philosophy, and psychology as they pertain to the project of creating beneficial AI. If this sounds interesting to you, we hope that you will join in the conversations by following us or subscribing to our podcasts on Youtube, SoundCloud, or your preferred podcast site/application. If you're interested in exploring the interdisciplinary nature of AI alignment, we suggest you take a look here at a preliminary landscape which begins to map this space. In this podcast, Lucas spoke with William MacAskill. Will is a professor of philosophy at the University of Oxford and is a co-founder of the Center for Effective Altruism, Giving What We Can, and 80,000 Hours. Will helped to create the effective altruism movement and his writing is mainly focused on issues of normative and decision theoretic uncertainty, as well as general issues in ethics. Topics discussed in this episode include: -Will’s current normative and metaethical credences -The value of moral information and moral philosophy -A taxonomy of the AI alignment problem -How we ought to practice AI alignment given moral uncertainty -Moral uncertainty in preference aggregation -Moral uncertainty in deciding where we ought to be going as a society -Idealizing persons and their preferences -The most neglected portion of AI alignment

Larry Wilmore weighs in on Bill Cosby’s sexual assault conviction and President Donald Trump’s latest antics (1:00). Then, he is joined by CNN's chief Washington correspondent Jake Tapper to dive deep into political history (12:37), the role of a journalist in our current climate (30:45), and the Twitterization of politics (40:14).

In our society, we tend to elevate our leaders to high and sometimes unhealthy levels as we idolize certain characteristics or personalities they may possess. When we do this we unconsciously fall into many traps or holes (for example: creating feelings of isolation / separation and even an “us versus them” mentality). Today we’ll talk about how idealizing our leaders or thinking of them as superhuman can trip us up in the area of thriving together or creating We.

Knowing what you want is key, but what happens when your goals are an idealized version of what is possible? We have been sold so many dreams and given so many messages of what to...

July 19, 2017 Idealizing vs. Dehumanizing, calls on the topic of indecisiveness by Dr. Farid Holakouee

Rabbi David Almog presents his Valley Beit Midrash (www.valleybeitmidrash.org) lecture "Idols and Idealizing: The Jewish Encounter with Buddhism" at Congregation Or Tzion (congregationortzion.org) in Scottsdale, AZ. Learning Materials: http://bit.ly/2kBMyV7 DONATE: bit.ly/1NmpbsP For more info, please visit: www.facebook.com/valleybeitmidrash/ www.facebook.com/Congregation-Or-…on-103351795773/ twitter.com/VBMTorah www.facebook.com/RabbiShmulyYanklowitz/

Do you sometimes see others as "better" than you. Perhaps you think they are very confident, successful, powerful, or charismatic. You see them and are impressed. When you look at yourself by comparison, you feel inferior and "less-than." Join Dr. Aziz as he helps you break this habit of comparison. You'll see how you can "idealize" others, seeing them as better than they really are. You also can "devalue" yourself and not be able to see your own strengths and values.

Do you sometimes see others as "better" than you. Perhaps you think they are very confident, successful, powerful, or charismatic. You see them and are impressed. When you look at yourself by comparison, you feel inferior and "less-than." Join Dr. Aziz as he helps you break this habit of comparison. You'll see how you can "idealize" others, seeing them as better than they really are. You also can "devalue" yourself and not be able to see your own strengths and values.