The Poly (Pod)Cast

So, you're Queer and/or Non-Monog and the idea of going home for the holidays is causing more dread than delight? Today, we're joined by transformational love and life coach Elizabeth Cunningham. Elizabeth leads us through a masterclass on how to prepare for difficult conversations with family and friends over the festive season. She shares tips on how to remain true to yourself when speaking about identity, how to keep yourself safe during difficult interactions and how to walk away from them feeling grounded. First, Siobhan shares with Rich her 'seating choreography' theory that she applies in the early stages of dating. A huge thanks to Elizabeth for bringing her warm and infectious energy to the show. Check out Elizabeth's "hilarious" website, her free polyamorous and dating questionnaire and learn more about her coaching certification. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Have you never met a neurotypical, monogamous person? Alyssa Gonzalez hasn't. Today, we are joined by Alyssa, author of Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity, to discuss how the two interact. We talk about how non-monogamy can be uniquely suited to neurodiverse people, and how finding non-monogamy can be a freeing experience for some with neurodiversities. We also unpack some of the challenges neurodiverse individuals might have with non-monogamy including rejection sensitivity dysphoria or alexithymia. A huge thanks to Alyssa for coming on the show. You can find Alyssa's work, her book and her social media links at her website. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Finally, an episode on relationship anarchy!We welcome creator of the Annie Undone Instagram page, artist and writer Annie Undone to the show. We explore what relationship anarchy is, the different forms it can take and how it's a philosophy rather than a relationship type. Annie also talks about coming out 'later in life', how she communicated the change in her relationship structures to others and how she confronted 'hidden' homophobia in her community. We can't thank Annie enough for sharing her time, knowledge and energy with us. You can find Annie on Instagram and at her website. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Today, we welcome somatic coach, sex-positive educator, pleasure advocate and the author of The Polyamory Paradox Irene Morning to the show. We talk about the difficulty of knowing polyamory is right for you, but still struggling to come to terms with how it might work practically. We chat about navigating life changes and Irene shares some tips for regulating the nervous system. But first, Rich and Siobhan talk about polyamory in one of the hottest fiction books on the market. A huge thanks to Irene for coming on the show. You can find her work at her website and on Instagram, YouTube and Facebook. You can find her book The Polyamory Paradox. Read the GQ article Siobhan read from. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

How does race impact polyamorous experiences? Do existing polyamorous discourses erase people from minority ethnic backgrounds? Is being 'out' as non-monog overrated? How can we all grow to be more inclusive of experiences that we don't immediately identify with? We're joined by founder of Polyamorous While Asian, Michelle Hy, to discuss race, polyamory and politics. We discuss being Asian and non-monog, unhelpful and hurtful stereotypes that can come with this and how Michelle manages this when it arises. We also deep dive into how identities and relationships are ruled by political policy and how to wade through it all to be unapologetically your authentic self. We thank Michelle for her vulnerability and openness during today's episode. You can find Michelle on Instagram and at her website. Check out Dolly Chugh's 'The Person You Mean To Be', the book Siobhan talked about in the intro. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

It's a kinky one today! We are so lucky to be joined by certified s*xplicit educator + Non-Monogamy content creator Poppy Scarlett aka Polyam Poppy. We chat about how kink can be non-physical, how masturbation is a form of self-expression and the power of pleasure affirmations. We also delve a little into BDSM, why it's good to schedule sex and Sex Worker Pride. First, Rich and Siobhan chat about the recent Dave Grohl infidelity news. A huge thank you to Poppy for coming on the show. You can find Poppy Scarlett at her website. You can check out both of her Instagram accounts Poppy Scarlett and Polyam Poppy. She's also got a pleasure affirmations PDF free for download and you can find out more about her upcoming London socials. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Our relationships are just a unique as we are. We're joined by best-selling author, Relationship Diversity advocate and host of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, Carrie Jeroslow, to discuss how to design our relationships to reflect who we are.We talk about how to bring intentionality into intimate relationships by shedding the programming of what relationships 'should' look like and asking ourselves what we want. Carrie opens up about her journey in and out of non-monogamy and how she opened her marriage after years of monogamy. Carrie tells us about the need to understand ourselves before we design our relationships, how to check-in with ourselves and our partners and how to discuss relationship orientation with kids. First, Siobhan updates Rich on the Australia Census story (and it's a good update, yay) and Rich shares a recent article about kids growing up with polyamorous parents (also a positive story, double yay!) You can find Carrie and all her offerings, including her podcast, at her website. She's the best-selling author of Why Do They Always Break Up With Me? You can also find Carrie on Instagram, Tik Tok and YouTube.You can hear us on the Relationship Diversity Podcast, too. Check out the Guardian Australia article Siobhan read from and the Psychology Today article Rich shared. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Today, we examine the complications and considerations relationships of more than two need to consider when combining finances, moving in together and having children. We chat to Laura Boyle, creator of Ready for Polyamory and author of the recently released book 'Monogamy? In This Economy?' about how to navigate household budgets, how to know when to move in with your partners and metamours and how to deal with unplanned pregnancies. First, Siobhan tells Rich about an Australian news story involving the next census and the erasure of Queer people.A huge thanks to Laura for joining us on the show. You can find all of her work at the Ready For Polyamory website, including her new book, Monogamy? In This Economy? You can also check out Laura's polyamory glossary. Read the TDA post we discuss in the intro. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

It's our very first listener Q+A episode! We've collated all the best questions we've got recently and put all the answers in one place. We chat about how to safely add a third to a relationship and the ethical considerations that go with it. We answer questions on transitioning to a long distance dynamic, how to deal with intense crushes and what meaningful media representation looks like. To kick off, Rich shares a recent experience of being ghosted after coming out as poly to a prospective partner. We really hope you enjoy this episode and encourage you to send us questions for the next one. We mention a range of resources in this episode. The links for them are below:Our episode on the Relationship Diversity PodcastThe Pineapple Express Podcast Non-Monogamy Media Guide Multiamory's RADAR Lola Pheonix's Long Distance NRE blogDr. Eli Sheff's article on Long Distance ENM Relationships You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Finally, a deep dive into jealousy. We are joined by certified sexuality educator, best-selling author, Ted X speaker and host of the ‘Playing With Fire' podcast Dr. Joli Hamilton. We chat about why feeling jealous can be a good thing, the differences between jealousy and envy and how to use jealousy to create erotic experiences. First, Rich chats to Siobhan about an advert he saw on the London Underground and if it has any links to the non-monog community. We can't thank Joli enough for joining us on the show. You can find Dr. Joli at her website and on her podcast. You can also check out her Jealousy Masterclass and her monthly salons and quiz. And, here is how you can vote for us in the British Podcast Awards Listeners' Choice category: 1. Going to the voting page 2. Typing in 'The Poly (Pod)Cast' 3. Scrolling till you find us 4. Entering your name and email address5. Clicking 'Submit'You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Is non-monogamy Queer? Does it fit under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella? Does it even need a category at all? We are joined by sound healer, coach, Queer mentor and host of the Queer and Poly Podcast Liana Griebsch to discuss where non-monogamy fits and why people feel the need to categorise it at all. We chat about the parallels between the Queer and non-monog experiences, the opportunities and limits of language and how to navigate the chronic 'boxing' of minority identities. First, Rich and Siobhan reflect on the Week of Non-Monogamy Visibility. A huge thanks to Liana for joining us on the show. You can find them and details about their services on Instagram. Check out the Queer and Poly podcast, too. And, here is how you can vote for us in the British Podcast Awards Listeners' Choice category: 1. Going to the voting page 2. Typing in 'The Poly (Pod)Cast' 3. Scrolling till you find us 4. Entering your name and email address5. Clicking 'Submit'You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Happy Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy! To discuss the first ever week of its kind we welcome back the Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Organisation of Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN) Brett Chamberlin. We discuss how the week came about, each of the day's themes and how each of us can get involved. A huge thanks to Brett for coming on the show. You can find out more about the Non-Monogamy Week of Visibility and about OPEN. During our interview, Brett also mentioned OPEN's campaign on Facebook's AI Chatbots, the Centre for Intimacy Justice and the Woodhull Freedom Foundation.You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

What is compersion? Should you feel compersion? Do you have to feel compersion when you're non-monogamous? Leading expert on compersion, Marie Thouin, joins us to talk about compersion, the different ways that it can be felt and some of the things that can help it and hinder it. But first, Rich and Siobhan talk Foo Fighters, #Poly4Paly and online dating advice. A massive thank you to Marie for joining us on the show and helping us grow some more brain cells. Check out Marie's website, her new book, 'What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships' and her compersion worksheet. You can also find her on Instagram. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Not friends, but not lovers? We discuss the grey colourful, often-dismissed area between platonic friendship and serious, romantic relationships. We unpack the terminology we have for these relationships and how following binary thinking can severely limit the possible spectrum of relationships we might experience. Get your Poly4Paly tickets. You can watch the video from Chill Polyamory about donating e-Sims if you need step-by-step directions. If you want to donate in other ways to support people in Gaza visit Operation Olive Branch, Doctors Without Borders, Anera, Medical Aid for Palestine and Action Aid. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

We are joined by Dr. Eli Sheff, the world's foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children. In this episode, we discuss The Bonding Project, her endeavour to help people across the relationship spectrum learn more about how they bond. We took The Bonding Project tests and discuss our results with Dr. Eli, plus we get an update on her work studying polyamorous families. But first, Siobhan tells Rich about an article that compares being single and being polyamorous.We can't thank Dr. Eli enough for joining us on the show. Check out The Bonding Project, Dr. Eli's website and her blog on Psychology Today. Complete OPEN's 2024 Non-Monogamy Community Survey and read The Conversation article. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Are all gay men non-monogamous? Do gay men want monogamy? Does non-monogamy feel compulsory in the Gay community? We put these questions and much more to the hosts of the Gayish podcast Mike Johnson and Kyle Getz. We chat about the role non-monogamy plays in Gay dating, how it can be difficult to negotiate monogamy and if discrimination and homophobia led to Gay men being regarded as the 'pioneers' of non-monogamy in the Queer community. First, Rich and Siobhan chat about how to answer a question commonly asked of non-monog folk, "What is the end goal of dating as a non-monog person?"A huge thanks to Mike and Kyle for joining us on the show. Check out the Gayish podcast and their website. You can also follow them on Facebook, Instagram, X, Threads and YouTube. Check Gayish out on Discord. Take the 2024 OPEN survey. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Sex with robots. Dating avatars. Polyamory. Is this the future of love? Futurologist and anthropologist Roanne Van Voorst has the answers.We discuss some of the topics in her new book, Six in a Bed: The Future of Love - from Sex Dolls and Avatars to Polyamory, and uncover the impact of technological advances on how we build relationships. We delve into the likelihood of everyone being non-monogamous in the future and explore research about why young people are having less and less sex. It's also our FIRST BIRTHDAY as a podcast, so we kick off the show reflecting on the year that was. Thanks so much to Roanne for joining us on the show. Check out her new book, find out about her other research at her website and listen to her radioplay (The Emic). You can buy tickets for our workshop Polyamory: Lifestyle of Orientation here. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Does anyone actually like being a secondary? Today, we dive into some of your good, bad and mixed experiences of being a secondary. We chat about the term 'secondary' and how it could be improved, some of the reasons why being a secondary can work and the difference between implied and intentional hierarchies. Thanks so much to everyone who shared their experiences with us for this episode. You can buy tickets for our workshop Polyamory: Lifestyle of Orientation here. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

WARNING: We have a brief discussion about self-harm in this episode.We are joined by the CEO of Plura Noa Elan. Plura is an app that facilitates connections between burner, queer, artist, creative, polyamorous, wellness, kink, conscious, spiritual, and alternative people. We chat to Noa about the difficulties of cultivating consent in online spaces and the ways that social media is limiting meaningful virtual discussions about sex and sexuality. Find out more about Plura at their website. Download the Plura App at the App Store or on Google Play. Check out Siobhan's latest article for i News. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Our very first Australian-based guest joins us on the show! Meg Wilson is the founder and lead therapist of Unison Counselling, a practice that focuses on issues relating to polyamory, non-monogamy, open relationships, and the LGBTQIA+ communities.We chat to her about how being non-monogamous might impact your nervous system and if maintaining multiple romantic or sexual relationships could increase your risk of repeating destructive relationship patterns. We also delve into increased hyper-individualism in western society and why it's especially important to build connection in this context. But first, Siobhan shares a 'radical' new thing she's trying out. A massive thanks to Meg for starting her day incredibly early to accomodate the 11-hour time difference between London and Melbourne so she could come on the show. Find her offerings at the Unison Counselling website. Check out Siobhan's latest article about non-monogamy and step-parenting. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

We are joined by the talented and inspiring Dr. Lily Lamboy. She's the co-founder and managing director of the Modern Family Institute and a director at the Organisation for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN). We chat about things poly people should consider when coming out at work and how employers can support their workers' family and relationship structures. We also discuss the constant conflation between sex and non-monogamy and the need for all family and relationship structures to be protected in law. But first, Rich and Siobhan discuss sexism, jealously, discrimination and other fun stuff!A huge thanks to Lily for joining us on the show. Check out the Modern Family Institute and OPEN's Open Workplaces Initiative. Visit OPEN's website and you can join OPEN's Discord. Rachel Lark's song is here. Read The Guardian article on polyamory that we discuss. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

In this episode, we're joined by Jon Simons, a certified life coach who works with people within the gender, sexual, and romantic minority communities. Their dad also came out as poly when they were 11-years-old. Jon shares their personal experiences of growing up with a poly parent, what it was like knowing non-monogamy was an option at such a young age and how this impacted their understanding of their own sexuality and orientation. We also discuss BDSM relationships and the limitations of seeing the end of a relationship as a 'failure'. To round out, we play Poly Quest with Jon. But first up, Rich and Siobhan discuss some exciting poly news out of California. A massive thanks to Jon for coming on the show. You can find them and their offerings at their website. If you'd like to get involved in OPEN's work in Berkley and Oakland you can at this link. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Today we are joined by award-winning author and certified sex & relationships psychotherapist Gigi Engle. We talk about how shame can manifest around sex and sexuality, why it can be so hard to overcome and some strategies to beat it. We also discuss stigmas, stereotypes and hypersexualistion that are often applied to non-monog folk, plus we delve into the power of masturbation. First, Rich and Siobhan discuss some recent news stories around non-monogamy and the possible economic benefits of being poly! A huge thanks to Gigi for joining us on the show. You can find Gigi and her offerings at her website. She works at The Therapy Yard and is on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter. Her book is 'All The F*cking Mistakes'. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com

It's a longy, but a goody. Today we are joined by actor, producer and writer Nicole Pacent to talk about everything from jealousy, to commitment, to starting new relationships and transitioning in others. For the first time, Nicole talks about uncoupling from a long-term partner who is a parent to her son and the difficulty navigating this when there is no social script. We also talk about the risks of being out as Poly, the power of radical honesty and myths around Poly people and feeling jealous. This is a raw, honest and funny episode and we are so excited to share it with you. We can't thank Nicole enough for her openness and vulnerability in sharing her story with us. You can find Nicole on Instagram and check out Coming Out Pod. You can find out more about As Love Goes here. If you'd like to continue to support the show, please leave us a review, a five-star rating and share this episode with someone in your network. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com

To ring in the new year, we dive into the topic of relationship hierarchy. We discuss the arguments for and against hierarchical non-monogamy, ethical considerations when structuring your relationships and if there is a difference between structural hierarchy and emotional hierarchy. We also chat about if it's possible to practice non-heirarchical non-monogamy when you're married and how we see our future marriage looking. If you'd like to continue to support the show, please leave us a review, a five-star rating and share this episode with someone in your network. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com

It's our final episode of the year! Rich and Siobhan recap some of the major non-monogamous news of 2023. They also discuss some key pop culture moments and Siobhan shares some of the titles on her inaugural The Poly (Pod)Cast Reading List. Finally, Rich and Siobhan share their reflections on the year that was and round out with some highlights that were sent in by you, our listeners. Thanks so much for listening to The Poly (Pod)Cast this year and we'll see you back here in 2024.You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

The holidays are upon us and that often means spending more time with friends and family members. It can also mean being asked about more personal aspects of your life. In today's episode, certified sex therapist, speaker, writer and relationship expert Susan Wenzel shares some advice about how to navigate these conversations. We discuss how to talk about non-monogamy with others, whether you are telling them for the first time, or revisiting the topic. We also chat about setting boundaries and how to broach the topic with children. But first, Siobhan shares a tip for coming out as Non-Monog that she's recently found useful, and Question of the Week returns at the end of the show for the final time this year. A huge thanks to Susan for joining us on the show. You can find her at her website and on Instagram, Twitter, YouTube and Facebook. Her book is ‘A Happy Life in an Open Relationship. The Essential Guide to a healthy and fulfilling non-monogamous love life.' You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

We chat to Dr. Heath Schechinger about the need for research into non-monogamy and how the current lack of insight into the non-monogamous experience impacts our families, workplaces and health care. Luckily, Heath is working alongside individuals and groups that are dedicated to researching alternative family structures and relationships and he shares with us some incredibly interesting and insightful data. But first, Siobhan and Rich discuss an exciting breaking news story and to finish, Question Of The Week makes a come back. We can't thank Dr. Heath enough for coming on the show. You can find him and his offerings at his website. He's a Co-Founder of the Modern Family Institute and is currently fundraising to establish a unique institute at UC Berkeley dedicated to the study of family and relationship diversity. If you're interested in helping with fundraising efforts, you can contact Heath at this form. Dr. Heath's also involved in many different organisations including The Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition (PLAC), American Psychological Association Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) and Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. He's an Affiliate Faculty member at the Kinsey Institute and an Advisor to the Kinsey Institute's Haslam Collection on Polyamory. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains extensive discussion of abuse, coercion, control, alcoholism and drug abuse that might be distressing for some listeners. If these topics could be difficult for you to listen to, maybe consider skipping is week's show. Today we are joined by the founder of the non-monogamy resource Poly Pages Claire Travers. We discuss how abuse can manifest itself in non-monogamous relationships and how we can be aware of this to keep ourselves and others safe. Claire also highlights the need for a community-level understanding of what abuse looks like in non-monogamy and non-monogamy-specific resources around this topic. But first, Rich and Siobhan talk about coming out at work and joining Lauren Flans on Coming Out Pod. A huge thanks to Claire for joining us to discuss this important topic. You can find Poly Pages on Tiktok, Instagram, Twitter and Threads. At their website you can find their Podcast and all their resources including the PolyPages' List of Red Flags and PolyPages' Model for Polyamorous Abuse: The Duluth Wheel. For resources on vetting visit Kynk 101. Other websites Claired mentioned at the end of the episode are listed below. These are specific to the UK and the US. We encourage you to seek out similar resources in your own country if you need them. USA ResourcesThe Network/LA Red 800-832-1901Partner Abuse in Poly Communities Safety PlanningUK ResourcesRefuge 0808 2000 247

It's all about the importance of activism in the non-monogamy space for this episode, and who better to chat to about this than the Co-Founder of the Organisation for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy, Brett Chamberlin. We talk all about the work OPEN does, why it's vital non-monogamy becomes a protected characteristic in law across the globe and how the principles of non-monogamy can help the world at large. First up, Rich and Siobhan discuss the problems with Meta's new AI dating coach and what you can do to make it more inclusive. A huge thanks to Brett for joining us to talk about his work. You can find the Organisation for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN) at their website, on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Discord. You can also read their Media Guide and get in touch with OPEN at info@open-love.org. Sign OPEN's letter to Meta about the AI dating advice chat bot. Check out Siobhan's latest article for Salty. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

WARNING: We briefly discuss coercion, manipulation and abuse in this episode. Today we're talking all about mixed orientation relationships which can be shorted to our favourite acronym to date, MORE. We chat mainly about mono/poly dynamics, how they work and times when they might not. We incorporate some research from Dr. Elisabeth Sheff and chat about our own experiences of dating (or not) as part of our polyamorous relationship. To start, we talk about some poly-friendly US suburbs and to finish we discuss one of our fave shows for another edition of Poly Pop Culture/ Poppyamory. Check out Dr. Elisabeth Sheff's article that we read from.Check out Siobhan's article on her fluidly of orientation for Residence 11.Check out Siobhan's latest article for Salty. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Want to get into swinging, but don't know how? Curious what 'The Lifestyle' is all about, but not sure where to start? Well, look no further! We're joined by Kiley aka 'Sexyswingerchic' from The Pineapple Express Podcast where we chat about the swinging community, progressive swinging and the outdated stigma attached to it. But first, Rich and Siobhan discuss some recent news articles about the so-called 'polyamory capital' of England. We're so grateful for Kiley for joining us on the show. You can find The Pineapple Express Podcast on Apple Podcasts and wherever else you listen to your favourite shows. She's also on Tiktok and Twitter. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Today we're joined by Emily, Dedeker and Jase from the Multiamory Podcast. We discuss conflict, how to be better at it and tools to help everyone in a relationship feel understood after an argument. We also put some non-monogamous conflict scenarios to Multiamory and get their take on how to navigate them.First, Rich and Siobhan unpack some questions sent in by a listener about their goals for their relationships outside each other. A huge thank you to Jase, Dedecker and Emily for joining us on the show. Their podcast, Multiamory has a catalog of hundreds and hundreds of episodes. Their book Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships was released this year. You can also find more things Multiamory at their website. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

In this episode we're joined by relationship coach Ro Moëd of 'Unapolygetically' fame. We talk about toxic monogamy, not because we think all monogamy is toxic, but because some ideas in monogamy can easily become toxic when not evaluated or practiced properly. We delve into when monogamy isn't consensual and how toxic relationships have become normalised in western societies. First up, Rich and Siobhan discuss the controversial Riverdale series finale. Plus, Poly Quest makes a return at the episode's conclusion. A massive thank you to Ro for sharing their thoughts and experiences with us during the episode. You can find them on Instagram and Twitter. Information on their coaching services can be found at their website. Ro is currently looking for someone to publish their book which is a philosophical/psychological deconstruction of toxic relationship norms, helping readers to question monogamy-by-default so they can create autonomous and fulfilling relationships. You can contact Serendipity Literary Agency for details on that. We were lucky enough to be guests on two other non-monogamy podcasts. We chatted with Ellecia Paine on Nope! We're Not Monogamous and with Kiley on The Pineapple Express Podcast. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

For today's episode, we're joined by author of The Polyamory Workbook Sara Youngblood Gregory. We discuss how freedom-based relationships are different from free-for-alls and why we should avoid focussing on quantity over quality in non-monogamy. Plus, we look at how concepts like capitalism and 'The Bootstrap Mentality' are connected to our relationships. But first, Rich shares some results from a recent Poly Poll, a former romantic interest slides back into Siobhan's life and to conclude, Poly Quest returns. A huge thanks to Sara for joining us on the show. You can find her at her website and on Instagram and Twitter. You can also order The Polyamory Workbook. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

When someone says they are 'just looking for something casual', what do they mean? How do you work it out? Is 'casual' a red flag? In today's episode, we dive into the world of casual dating. We discuss some research about casual dating and the sex divide in casual relationships between people raised as women and those raised as men. Plus, we explore the assumed, but not always accurate, associations between non-monogamy and casual relationship styles. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

We're joined by psychotherapist, coach & author Jessica Fern to discuss the impact of microaggressions when you're in a non-monogamous relationship. We dive into the benefits of understanding your reactions to microaggressions, plus we get Jessica to respond to some questions we've been asked as a non-monogamous couple and her responses are game changers!First, Rich and Siobhan discuss an interesting advert they've seen around London and a Polyam-themed news story out of Scotland. A huge thank you to Jessica Fern for sharing her wisdom and expertise with us. You can find Jessica's practice, books and offerings at her website. Her new book Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships is available for pre-order now. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

How can you have the best sex of your life? With today's guest, sex, love and relationship coach Ellecia Paine, we discuss the difference between romance and sex, the problem with 'body counts' and how to use sex to connect with yourself and others. Plus, Ellecia lifts the lid how she went from a monogamous marriage to being non-monogamous and thriving. First, Siobhan and Rich discuss accidentally becoming kitten foster parents and the beauty and joy of Pride season. We also play a brand new game with Ellecia. A massive thank you to Ellecia for joining us on the show. You can follow her on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube. You can listen to her podcast Nope! We're Not Monogamous wherever you get your fave shows. Ellecia's website is elleciapaine.com where you can get info on all of her offerings, including her course on Group Sex Choreography. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Threads and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Warning: We speak extensively about anxiety and depression in this episode.Today, we are joined by the author of The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy, podcaster and advice columnist Lola Phoenix. We chat about how feeling anxiety when exploring non-monogamy can be a normal reaction and how to show yourself and others compassion when difficult feelings and situations arise. We conclude our time with Lola by asking her one of the most common questions they've been asked for their advice column Non-Monogamy Help. But first, Rich and Siobhan talk about some new milestones, a branding change and the 'Crab Bucket' mentality. We can't thank Lola enough for joining us on the show. You can follow Non-Monogamy Help on Instagram, Twitter and Youtube. The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy is available at their website and you can listen to their podcast here. For everything else from Lola, visit the Non-Monogamy Help website. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Today we welcome our very first guest to the show, Roy Graff! We talk about the importance of vocabulary and how non-monogamous people are often defined what they aren't. We chat about Roy's answer to this problem with his concept 'Multigamy' and query why we add the qualifiers 'ethical' and/or 'consensual' to the term non-monogamy. Plus, Question Of The Week returns where we ask Roy a question he gets asked a lot as someone who's Solo Poly. But before all that, Rich and Siobhan talk about howPolyam people connect in the wild, and the idea of exploring group sex with your mates. A big thanks to Roy for coming on the show. You can follow him @openrelating on Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, Youtube and Facebook and you can find him at his website openrelating.love. He's also put together an extensive glossary of terms available here. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

SURPRISE! Yep, we're just like David Bowie and are out here dropping content without any warning. In this bonus episode we discuss the second season of Channel 4's reality TV show Open House: The Great Sex Experiment. We unpack how non-monogamy is portrayed in the show and chat about language, consent and boundaries. We also introduce our very own rating system that we plan to use when reviewing other things. Exciting! You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

DATING! That wasn't the D you were thinking of, was it? Today, we are talking all about dating while in a committed relationship. We discuss everything from the first time your partner(s) go on a date with someone else, what we did to manage jealousy and anxiety around this and how great it is to genuinely experience compersion. Before that, we chat about the new dating apps we're trying and have a very British-bitching session. Poly Pop Culture/Poppy-amory returns where we compare two examples of non-monogamy in one of our favourite American sitcoms. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

TW: We briefly discuss abuse in relationships in this episode.In this episode, we delve into how we agreed on 'the rules' of our open relationship which we now call our 'Relationship Agreement.' We also talk about cheating and how to redefine it to suit being non-monogamous. Plus, we chat about the importance of communication when setting up boundaries for any relationship, wherever you sit on the spectrum.But first up, Siobhan asks Rich about a controversial Tweet she saw and shares a dating app story. We also introduce a new game this episode, which is having a bit of an identity crisis. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Almost everyone has questions about jealousy when they are exploring the concept of ethical non-monogamy. We talk about what we do when we experience jealousy and how we acknowledge the emotion rather than nurturing it. We also talk about how we managed to free ourselves of crippling and controlling jealousy and how this has bought us closer together.Siobhan talks about being benched by someone she liked and Rich discusses a hot date that went cold. 'Question of the Week' also returns where we address a query rooted in a common misunderstanding of ENM. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Our 'origin story.' All superheroes have them, and so does this poly couple!We share how the topic of polyamory first came up, the pain and confusion of letting go of our monogamous relationship so we could have an open one and we discuss polyamory as an orientation versus a lifestyle choice. We finish the episode with the first round of our segment 'Question of the Week', where we answer common questions we get asked when people find out we aren't monogamous. You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram and Twitter. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, podcastthepoly@gmail.com.

Hello world! We are Rich and Siobhan and we are thrilled to share with you the official trailer for The Poly (Pod)Cast! We're so excited to have you with us as we lift-the-lid on our experiences of ethical non-monogamy.There are many ways you can keep in touch with us.You can follow us on Instagram and Twitter: @poly_podcast.You can email us: podcastthepoly@gmail.comAnd you can check out our website : the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm.