FACT: 1 IN 3 WOMEN suffer serious physical violence from intimate partners during their lifetimes. Typically, it happens between 16-24 years of age. This does not need to happen. Bill Mitchell, author of the book, When Dating Hurts, lost his daughter to dating violence in 2005. He will interview individuals with extensive insights into dating violence, including: • Professionals in the domestic violence field • Law enforcement experts • Parents of children who were either lost to, or barely survived, dating violence • Survivors of dating violence • Friends and family of Bill's daughter
Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is the second part of a two-part story with Erin. We interviewed Erin about three years ago, and her story has remained on our minds ever since. So, we're bringing it back to you. Erin was taken advantage of while she was suffering through a highly sensitive passage in her life. Her mother had just passed away. Charlie presented himself as the right answer at the right time. Like many victims, she was an innocent, generous person. The kind of target predators are looking to lure straight into problematic relationships. She became easy prey. The warning signs of potential danger were there, but Erin didn't interpret them. You will learn plenty from this powerful episode. You will see how difficult it is to break from an accomplished abuser. You need to hear Erin's story. Charlie's control over Erin goes off the charts. His demands are ridiculous, but her generous nature forces her to comply with his every request. Be sure you share this WHEN DATING HURTS episode with someone who's dating. Only through education can we help others to see what is plain sight. Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is the first in a two-part story with Erin. We interviewed Erin about three years ago, and her story has remained on our minds ever since. So, we're bringing it back to you. Erin was taken advantage of while she was suffering through a highly sensitive passage in her life. Her mother had just passed away. Charlie presented himself as the right answer at the right time. Like many victims, she was an innocent, generous person. The kind of target predators are looking to lure straight into problematic relationships. She became easy prey. The warning signs of potential danger were there, but Erin didn't interpret them. You will learn plenty from this powerful episode. You will see how difficult it is to break from an accomplished abuser. You need to hear Erin's story. Charlie's control over Erin goes off the charts. His demands are ridiculous, but her generous nature forces her to comply with his every request. Be sure you share this WHEN DATING HURTS episode with someone who's dating. Only through education can we help others to see what is plain sight. Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
"Devaluation in an Abusive Relationship" This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Devaluation in an Abusive Relationship. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to love bomb you -- or someone you love. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can lead to peace of mind and even save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
"Understanding Flying Monkeys" This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Understanding Flying Monkeys This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to love bomb you -- or someone you love. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can lead to peace of mond and even save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Karan told me she spent the past several months healing from a deeply harmful relational experience. She understands how stories like hers bring both awareness and healing, and so she wanted to share with us. What makes her story quite so unique? She is a therapist, which gives her a unique dual perspective. As she states: "both understanding relational dynamics (clinically), and living through the reality of them (personally)." The complications she had to solve will find many of us listening to her story more than a few times. Karan's desire is to take such a painful experience and use it to help others feel less alone, more informed, and more empowered to trust themselves. This was precisely what I was hoping she would do and she did this perfectly. Keywords & Themes: Trauma bonding, divorce, overcoming domestic abuse, single parent family struggles, women's empowerment, and resilience. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
"Financial Abuse in Abusive Relationships" This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Financial Abuse in Abusive Relationships. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to love bomb you -- or someone you love. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can lead to peace of mond and even save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Love Bombing. This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What You Need to Know About Love Bombing. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to love bomb you -- or someone you love. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is part two, the final episode of a two-part story with Julia. The power in this narrative comes from the fact that our survivor, Julia, is a smart person from a good family living in Canada. If she could be coercively controlled, anyone could. She was raised to respect and be helpful to people, and she wanted to trust that everyone was basically good. It was a wonderful outlook on life until a guy named Damon came along. Damon knew how to put on the mask of a thoughtful, generous guy. A guy who had been wronged several times before by women. His presence completely mesmerized Julia right from their first phone call. As you are listening to this story, keep track of the warning signs that Julia either missed or ignored. There are many. Besides a full display of deception, mirroring, pocketing, manipulation, cohesive, control, future faking, gaslighting, financial abuse, and more, we also hear about the ways he isolated her. There are plenty of lessons to be learned. In listening to this story, we ask ourselves what is going on in Julia's mind. When will she feel she has experienced enough to say she was done with this abusive man? Keep in mind, this is a survivor story. So, no matter how bad it gets, it is good to know she will eventually get out. Keywords & Themes: Trauma bonding, overcoming domestic abuse, single parent family struggles, Louisiana true story, healing from childhood trauma, women's empowerment memoir, resilience stories 2026. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is part one of a two-part story with Julia. The power in this narrative comes from the fact that our survivor, Julia, is a smart person from a good family living in Canada. If she could be coercively controlled, anyone could. She was raised to respect and be helpful to people, and she wanted to trust that everyone was basically good. It was a wonderful outlook on life until a guy named Damon came along. Damon knew how to put on the mask of a thoughtful, generous guy. A guy who had been wronged several times before by women. His presence completely mesmerized Julia right from their first phone call. As you are listening to this story, keep track of the warning signs that Julia either missed or ignored. There are many. Besides a full display of deception, mirroring, pocketing, manipulation, cohesive, control, future faking, gaslighting, financial abuse, and more, we also hear about the ways he isolated her. There are plenty of lessons to be learned. In listening to this story, we ask ourselves what is going on in Julia's mind. When will she feel she has experienced enough to say she was done with this abusive man? Keep in mind, this is a survivor story. So, no matter how bad it gets, it is good to know she will eventually get out. Keywords & Themes: Trauma bonding, overcoming domestic abuse, single parent family struggles, Louisiana true story, healing from childhood trauma, women's empowerment memoir, resilience stories 2026. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Gaslighting - with examples. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Gaslighting: How it Sounds, Works, and Steals Your Reality. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to gaslight you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Future Faking. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What Future Faking Is. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to "future fake" you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Tricia Gray grew up as one of four children in Louisiana, raised by a single mother who was trapped in a cycle of abusive relationships. At just five years old, Tricia became her mother's protector, shielding her through years of violence until into her late teens. Then tragedy struck: her mother was murdered in their own front yard by one of her abusers. Left to save herself, Tricia faced unimaginable pain and adversity. Yet from those darkest days, she forged an extraordinary path of resilience, mental strength, and spiritual growth. Her story is a powerful testament to human endurance and the ability to rise above trauma. In July 2026, Tricia Gray will release her highly anticipated memoir, "The Lotus Legacy". The book details her journey from childhood protector to empowered survivor, sharing the mindset, strategies, and inner work that helped her rebuild her life. In an exclusive interview, Tricia opens up about how she approached life's challenges and the deeply personal process of writing "The Lotus Legacy." Her story resonates with anyone seeking inspiration to overcome hardship, break generational cycles, and create a meaningful legacy. If Tricia could transform such profound trauma into strength and purpose with so few advantages, it challenges the rest of us to examine our own excuses. Her memoir isn't just a survival story — it's a blueprint for anyone ready to stop waiting for perfect conditions and start building a better life. Tricia's website is TriciaNGray.com. Keywords & Themes: childhood trauma survivor, overcoming domestic abuse, single parent family struggles, Louisiana true story, healing from childhood trauma, women's empowerment memoir, resilience stories 2026. Stay tuned for the full interview with Tricia Gray and the launch of "The Lotus Legacy" — a must-read memoir for anyone searching for hope, healing, and the courage to rewrite their own story. A Memoir of Hope and Healing... That is Why Tricia Gray's Story Matters Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ghosting. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What Ghosting Really Is. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to "ghost" you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Gaslighting. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What Gaslighting Really Is. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to gaslight you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We decided to rerelease this story because it gathered so much attention when it first ran. This is part two of a two-part story with Anna Astwood. Anna is a survivor of teen dating violence. It happened about 25 years ago, but she has lived with it every day since. As a survivor herself of sexual assault and teenage dating violence from the ages of 12 to 18 years old, she knows the pain, the trauma, the guilt of what relationship violence brings. Most importantly, she knows the healing that can take place after trauma. Although not an easy task, Anna explains that by taking the steps to heal and being willing to be vulnerable and authentic with what she has experienced, will bring back the power and peace that was stolen from her many years ago. Listen for warning signs in her story. See how not feeling you can go to your friends or family only makes everything worse. Anna suffered emotional and physical abuse. She had to figure out, on her own, what to do about it: How to cope. How to live. Listen carefully, feel the experience, and learn from this true story from Anna Astwood on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. The "Love Doesn't Hurt" Mission Statement: Love Doesn't Hurt is a nonprofit dedicated to ending teenage dating violence and supporting those affected through education, empowerment and community support. You can contact Anna Astwood at this link. Or email Anna: lovedoesnthurtinc@gmail.com. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We decided to rerelease this story because it gathered so much attention when it first ran. This is part one of a two-part story with Anna Astwood. Anna is a survivor of teen dating violence. It happened about 25 years ago, but she has lived with it every day since. As a survivor herself of sexual assault and teenage dating violence from the ages of 12 to 18 years old, she knows the pain, the trauma, the guilt of what relationship violence brings. Most importantly, she knows the healing that can take place after trauma. Although not an easy task, Anna explains that by taking the steps to heal and being willing to be vulnerable and authentic with what she has experienced, will bring back the power and peace that was stolen from her many years ago. Listen for warning signs in her story. See how not feeling you can go to your friends or family only makes everything worse. Anna suffered emotional and physical abuse. She had to figure out, on her own, what to do about it: How to cope. How to live. Listen carefully, feel the experience, and learn from this true story from Anna Astwood on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. The "Love Doesn't Hurt" Mission Statement: Love Doesn't Hurt is a nonprofit dedicated to ending teenage dating violence and supporting those affected through education, empowerment and community support. You can contact Anna Astwood at this link. Or email Anna: lovedoesnthurtinc@gmail.com. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Coercive Control. This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What You Need to Know About Coercive Control. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to coercively control you in a relationship -- or someone you love. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Escalation. This episode is me talking with you. It is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. Let's call this: What You Need to Know About Escalation. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to escalate a relationship with you -- or someone you love. It is a fairly short episode, so it is easily heard in one sitting. And so you can hear it again and again. You might want to take notes. This information can save someone's life. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Anne offered to tell her story to us. An army veteran, Anne found herself falling for Peter, who was also an army vet. They had a lot in common, so striking up a relationship was very easy. There are many facets about Peter that were appealing, but when he became angry about something, he turned into a whole different person. Not only in his behavior, but also the look on his face, in particular, his eyes. He promised he would not allow himself to become that angry again. But he was not able to do that. Although a very strong person in many ways, Anne made the mistake of allowing Peter into (and taking control of) her life. This took time to happen, but later had the appearance of an overall plan. There were many unfortunate decisions made by Anne, but they were attempts at making Peter more comfortable and increasing his self esteem. We ask ourselves how could a smart woman like Anne allow this to happen, but she was a good person who was trying hard to lift Peter up in life. He took full advantage of her good acts. Like with each of our survivor stories, there are many lessons to be learned from hearing Anne's story. If you're in an abusive relationship, dealing with trauma from childhood, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers validation, insight, and hope. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer These stories contain detailed accounts of emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and narcissistic abuse. They include descriptions of alcohol and drug misuse. Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Crystal offered to tell her story to us. The underlying point is, she found herself heading into one abusive relationship after another. Was it bad luck? Maybe not. Crystal put a focus in understanding why this was happening to her. And she eventually found the answer deep inside of herself. This is one of those interviews where you should probably be taking notes. As a highly logical person, Crystal was able to piece together why she was on the receiving end of so much abuse. You will hear about power imbalances, gaslighting, and the many masks abusive predators wear to disguise what they are all about. Get your pen and paper read for this one. Stories like this one highlight critical warning signs of narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation. Recognizing these red flags early can help you or someone you love avoid years of pain and escape the “conveyor belt of chaos” that toxic relationships often become. If you're in an abusive relationship, dealing with trauma from childhood, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers validation, insight, and hope. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer These stories contain detailed accounts of emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and narcissistic abuse. They include descriptions of alcohol and drug misuse. Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Crystal offered to tell her story to us. The underlying point is, she found herself heading into one abusive relationship after another. Was it bad luck? Maybe not. Crystal put a focus in understanding why this was happening to her. And she eventually found the answer deep inside of herself. This is one of those interviews where you should probably be taking notes. As a highly logical person, Crystal was able to piece together why she was on the receiving end of so much abuse. You will hear about power imbalances, gaslighting, and the many masks abusive predators wear to disguise what they are all about. Get your pen and paper read for this one. Stories like this one highlight critical warning signs of narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation. Recognizing these red flags early can help you or someone you love avoid years of pain and escape the “conveyor belt of chaos” that toxic relationships often become. If you're in an abusive relationship, dealing with trauma from childhood, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers validation, insight, and hope. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer This true story contains detailed accounts of emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and a near-fatal poisoning. It includes descriptions of prescription drug misuse. Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse, trauma, or those struggling with suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is strongly advised. We decided to bring one of our early survivor stories back for you. It is a story of a man being abused by a woman. From Psychology Today: Abused men often don't tell their stories due to a combination of deep seated, social stigma, internalize expectations around masculinity, practical fears, and systemic barriers. The silence isn't unique to men – abuse victims of any gender face shame and fear – but the dynamics hit male victims particularly hard because of cultural norms that frame men as inherently strong, self-reliant protectors, who cannot or should not be victims – especially at the hands of a female partner. J.D. McCabe maintained a living relationship with his wife for nearly 20 years before their marriage, family, and world begin to crumble. Their foundation had always been rooted in trust. That trust is the bedrock of a healthy relationship. His wife always claimed things wouldn't, couldn't work without trust. But one day, for reasons, J.D. could not fathom, his wife became suspicious of his every move. She enlisted her mother in her efforts, and together they forged the words of family, trust, and honesty into a hammer that beat him into the ground. Their accusations accumulated and eventually it resulted in J.D. being involuntarily hospitalized. This is an unusual story of abuse. And one of the few brought to this podcast where it's a man being abused by a woman. There are plenty more of these stories, however, men are reticent to come forth and speak. But J.D. does in this episode of WHEN DATING HURTS. Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer This true story contains detailed accounts of emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and narcissistic abuse that began in childhood and continued into adulthood. It includes descriptions of prescription drug misuse, recreational drug abuse, failed suicide attempts, and completed suicides. Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse, trauma, or those struggling with suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Throughout the interview, you'll hear the term DARVO — a common manipulation tactic used by abusers. DARVO stands for: Deny Attack Reverse Victim and Offender It occurs when the abuser flips the script, making the victim believe they are the problem and positioning themselves as the victim. This powerful form of gaslighting is explained clearly during Riel's powerful testimony. When I sat down with Riel, I thought I understood the broad strokes of her story. What unfolded was far more shocking and complex than I anticipated. The layers of betrayal — not just from her long-term partner, but also from her own mother — were deeply disturbing and completely unexpected. Riel survived 20 years in a toxic, chaotic relationship that should never have begun. Her story is a sobering reminder of how narcissistic abuse and childhood trauma can trap someone in a destructive cycle for decades. Stories like Riel's highlight critical warning signs of narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation. Recognizing these red flags early can help you or someone you love avoid years of pain and escape the “conveyor belt of chaos” that toxic relationships often become. If you're in an abusive relationship, dealing with trauma from childhood, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers validation, insight, and hope. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer This true story contains detailed accounts of emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and narcissistic abuse that began in childhood and continued into adulthood. It includes descriptions of prescription drug misuse, recreational drug abuse, failed suicide attempts, and completed suicides. Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse, trauma, or those struggling with suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Throughout the interview, you'll hear the term DARVO — a common manipulation tactic used by abusers. DARVO stands for: Deny Attack Reverse Victim and Offender It occurs when the abuser flips the script, making the victim believe they are the problem and positioning themselves as the victim. This powerful form of gaslighting is explained clearly during Riel's powerful testimony. When I sat down with Riel, I thought I understood the broad strokes of her story. What unfolded was far more shocking and complex than I anticipated. The layers of betrayal — not just from her long-term partner, but also from her own mother — were deeply disturbing and completely unexpected. Riel survived 20 years in a toxic, chaotic relationship that should never have begun. Her story is a sobering reminder of how narcissistic abuse and childhood trauma can trap someone in a destructive cycle for decades. Stories like Riel's highlight critical warning signs of narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation. Recognizing these red flags early can help you or someone you love avoid years of pain and escape the “conveyor belt of chaos” that toxic relationships often become. If you're in an abusive relationship, dealing with trauma from childhood, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers validation, insight, and hope. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode contains descriptions of emotional abuse. It's not suitable for all audiences, especially those sensitive to themes of dating violence or domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast focuses on authentic experiences without sensationalism. Our goal is to educate on the many forms of abuse in relationships to promote safer lives. We avoid judgments and encourage empathy for survivors navigating complex ups and downs. Sarah Hanson's true story exposes the classic red flags of emotional and domestic abuse in a relationship—from early warning signs she ignored to escalating manipulative behaviors such as gaslighting. The relationship she had with her partner helped her realize she had also had similar experiences emotionally dealing with her father when she was growing up at home. This survivor account reveals how abusers groom, control, and manipulate. Once free from her abuser, Sarah was able to reclaim her life and move on. She channeled her pain and recovery into a new book that has a release date of April 28, 2026. "Conjuring the Hurricane" can be found at all major book outlets. Key Insights on Abuser Tactics — Real-life examples of manipulation, love-bombing followed by devaluation, isolation, and post-separation abuse that many survivors face long after leaving. Building Empathy & Awareness — A compassionate, blame-free exploration of the challenges domestic violence and narcissistic abuse survivors endure, ideal for anyone seeking to understand intimate partner violence. In-Depth Multi-Part Series — This is Part 2 of 2, diving deep into Sarah's journey from an abusive relationship, through her escape, to the long road of healing and reclaiming her life. If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Mae's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode contains descriptions of emotional abuse. It's not suitable for all audiences, especially those sensitive to themes of dating violence or domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast focuses on authentic experiences without sensationalism. Our goal is to educate on the many forms of abuse in relationships to promote safer lives. We avoid judgments and encourage empathy for survivors navigating complex ups and downs. Sarah Hanson's true story exposes the classic red flags of emotional and domestic abuse in a relationship—from early warning signs she ignored to escalating manipulative behaviors such as gaslighting. The relationship she had with her partner helped her realize she had also had similar experiences emotionally dealing with her father when she was growing up at home. This survivor account reveals how abusers groom, control, and manipulate. Once free from her abuser, Sarah was able to reclaim her life and move on. She channeled her pain and recovery into a new book that has a release date of April 28, 2026. "Conjuring the Hurricane" can be found at all major book outlets. Key Insights on Abuser Tactics — Real-life examples of manipulation, love-bombing followed by devaluation, isolation, and post-separation abuse that many survivors face long after leaving. Building Empathy & Awareness — A compassionate, blame-free exploration of the challenges domestic violence and narcissistic abuse survivors endure, ideal for anyone seeking to understand intimate partner violence. In-Depth Multi-Part Series — This is Part 1 of 2, diving deep into Sarah's journey from an abusive relationship, through her escape, to the long road of healing and reclaiming her life. If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Mae's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Content Warning & Disclaimer These stories contain detailed accounts of emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and narcissistic abuse. They include descriptions of alcohol and drug misuse. Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. I offered to listeners who recorded their stories that I would put them into an episode. This is the second time I have done this. It takes plenty of courage to sit with your phone, hit the record button and tell a story of domestic abuse. In this case, two women stepped up and came through. You will hear what they tell us abuse the abuse they suffered in this episode. Stories like these highlight critical warning signs of narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation. Recognizing these red flags early can help you or someone you love avoid years of pain and escape the “conveyor belt of chaos” that toxic relationships often become. If you're in an abusive relationship, dealing with trauma from childhood, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers validation, insight, and hope. Host: Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Riel's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We conducted this interview a few years ago. We decided to bring it back now. It is a valuable discussion on how law enforcement can be helpful years after horrible crimes have taken place. This is worth an investment of your time. J R Waltemyer is a valuable contact at the Office of Victim Advocate (OVA) in Pennsylvania. OVA is the state agency with the authority and duty to advocate for the rights and needs of crime victims. OVA accomplishes their mission through victim services, which includes post-sentencing notifications of offender status and movements within the Department of Corrections and the parole system; restorative justice programs that promote resilience and healing; and they are currently developing new initiatives around crime prevention. OVA envisions a Pennsylvania in which justice thrives. They collaborate closely with fellow state agencies and community groups to develop and promote trauma informed programs. You will find this episode useful if you want to know how the system works to help all survivors of violent crimes. Bill Mitchell If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Mae's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode contains graphic descriptions of emotional abuse, physical abuse, and explicit intimate sexual situations. It's not suitable for all audiences, especially those sensitive to themes of dating violence or domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast focuses on authentic experiences without sensationalism. Our goal is to educate on the many forms of abuse in relationships to promote safer lives. We avoid judgments and encourage empathy for survivors navigating complex ups and downs. Mae Scott's harrowing true story exposes the classic red flags of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence in marriage—from early warning signs she ignored before the wedding, to escalating manipulative behaviors, gaslighting, and the devastating role of toxic in-laws who enabled and exploited her trust. This powerful survivor account reveals how abusers groom, control, manipulate, use, and discard their victims, often with family complicity. Mae trusted her in-laws completely—only to discover they played a key part in the psychological and emotional entrapment. Key Insights on Abuser Tactics — Real-life examples of manipulation, love-bombing followed by devaluation, isolation, and post-separation abuse that many survivors face long after leaving. Building Empathy & Awareness — A compassionate, blame-free exploration of the challenges domestic violence and narcissistic abuse survivors endure, ideal for anyone seeking to understand intimate partner violence. In-Depth Multi-Part Series — This is Part 2 of 2, diving deep into Mae's journey from an abusive 19-year marriage, through her escape, to the long road of healing and reclaiming her life. Mae Scott's book, "An Embarrassment of Pandas" is available on Amazon. If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Mae's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode contains graphic descriptions of emotional abuse, physical abuse, and explicit intimate sexual situations. It's not suitable for all audiences, especially those sensitive to themes of dating violence or domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast focuses on authentic experiences without sensationalism. Our goal is to educate on the many forms of abuse in relationships to promote safer lives. We avoid judgments and encourage empathy for survivors navigating complex ups and downs. Mae Scott's harrowing true story exposes the classic red flags of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence in marriage—from early warning signs she ignored before the wedding, to escalating manipulative behaviors, gaslighting, and the devastating role of toxic in-laws who enabled and exploited her trust. This powerful survivor account reveals how abusers groom, control, manipulate, use, and discard their victims, often with family complicity. Mae trusted her in-laws completely—only to discover they played a key part in the psychological and emotional entrapment. Key Insights on Abuser Tactics — Real-life examples of manipulation, love-bombing followed by devaluation, isolation, and post-separation abuse that many survivors face long after leaving. Building Empathy & Awareness — A compassionate, blame-free exploration of the challenges domestic violence and narcissistic abuse survivors endure, ideal for anyone seeking to understand intimate partner violence. In-Depth Multi-Part Series — This is Part 1 of 2, diving deep into Mae's journey from an abusive 19-year marriage, through her escape, to the long road of healing and reclaiming her life. Mae Scott's book, "An Embarrassment of Pandas" is available on Amazon. If you're experiencing intimate partner abuse, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse—or if you suspect someone you care about is—Mae's story offers critical perspective on spotting red flags early, breaking free, and finding support. You're not alone, and recognizing the patterns can be the first step toward safety and recovery. Domestic violence resources are available 24/7—reach out if you need help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Before diving in, please note: This episode contains graphic descriptions of emotional abuse, physical abuse, gun violence, and explicit intimate sexual situations. It's not suitable for all audiences, especially those sensitive to themes of dating violence or domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast focuses on authentic experiences without sensationalism. Our goal is to educate on the many forms of abuse in relationships to promote safer lives. We avoid judgments and encourage empathy for survivors navigating complex ups and downs. Informative Insights: Learn how abusers manipulate, use, and discard victims, drawing from real-life examples. Empathy Building: Understand the challenges survivors face without blame—perfect for anyone interested in relationship abuse awareness. Multi-Part Series: This is Part 3 of 3, offering an in-depth look at Emma's path to healing. If you're dealing with dating abuse or know someone who is, this episode provides valuable perspectives on recognizing warning signs and seeking help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Before diving in, please note: This episode contains graphic descriptions of emotional abuse, physical abuse, gun violence, and explicit intimate sexual situations. It's not suitable for all audiences, especially those sensitive to themes of dating violence or domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast focuses on authentic experiences without sensationalism. Our goal is to educate on the many forms of abuse in relationships to promote safer lives. We avoid judgments and encourage empathy for survivors navigating complex ups and downs. Informative Insights: Learn how abusers manipulate, use, and discard victims, drawing from real-life examples. Empathy Building: Understand the challenges survivors face without blame—perfect for anyone interested in relationship abuse awareness. Multi-Part Series: This is Part 2 of 3, offering an in-depth look at Emma's path to healing. If you're dealing with dating abuse or know someone who is, this episode provides valuable perspectives on recognizing warning signs and seeking help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Before diving in, please note: This episode contains graphic descriptions of emotional abuse, physical abuse, gun violence, and explicit intimate sexual situations. It's not suitable for all audiences, especially those sensitive to themes of dating violence or domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast focuses on authentic experiences without sensationalism. Our goal is to educate on the many forms of abuse in relationships to promote safer lives. We avoid judgments and encourage empathy for survivors navigating complex ups and downs. Informative Insights: Learn how abusers manipulate, use, and discard victims, drawing from real-life examples. Empathy Building: Understand the challenges survivors face without blame—perfect for anyone interested in relationship abuse awareness. Multi-Part Series: This is Part 1 of 3, offering an in-depth look at Emma's path to healing. If you're dealing with dating abuse or know someone who is, this episode provides valuable perspectives on recognizing warning signs and seeking help. Are you a survivor ready to speak out? Email Bill Mitchell at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com to share your experience on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Get the WHEN DATING HURTS Book: Explore more through the WHEN DATING HURTS book by Bill Mitchell, available on Amazon in paperback, eBook, and audiobook formats. It's an essential resource for understanding domestic violence and dating safety. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
For a long time, I have wanted to share some chapters from my WHEN DATING HURTS book with you. I am happy to have this for you now. This is part two of a two lengthy episodes. In this case, lengthy means I am sharing a lot... The WHEN DATING HURTS book is a memoir about my daughter Kristin's murder in 2005 due to dating violence. Reviews describe it as having short, gripping chapters that mix raw family story with lessons learned. It's more narrative than structured—think chronological heartbreak plus practical takeaways. If you're interested in this book (that can save lives), find it on Amazon in audiobook, paperback, and e-book. People mostly call it "heartbreaking—like, gut-punch level sad—because it's a dad's raw account of losing his daughter Kristin to dating violence back in 2005". Readers say it hits hard emotionally, leaves them in tears, but also feels eye-opening and urgent. They love how Bill mixes the family's grief with real talk on red flags—like controlling stuff or jealousy—that everyone misses until it's too late. On Amazon it's sitting at 4.9 stars from over a hundred reviews; folks write things like "this book will save lives" or "it stole my heart and educated me." Goodreads averages around 4.5, with people urging parents, teens, even teachers to read it—phrases like "must-read for every parent" or "I feel like I knew Kristin" pop up a lot. And, "It's not just sorrow; it's inspiring too". Readers admire the Mitchells turning pain into advocacy, saying it empowers you to spot abuse early and speak up. They say, "Super recommended if you're into true stories that double as wake-up calls." I hope you read my book. I wrote it for you even though we have never met. We cannot bring back Kristin, but she would want you to live a long life and be happy. Thank you for your attention to the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Bill Mitchell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
For a long time, I have wanted to share some chapters from my WHEN DATING HURTS book with you. I am happy to have this for you now. This is part one of a two lengthy episodes. In this case, lengthy means I am sharing a lot... The WHEN DATING HURTS book is a memoir about my daughter Kristin's murder in 2005 due to dating violence. Reviews describe it as having short, gripping chapters that mix raw family story with lessons learned. It's more narrative than structured—think chronological heartbreak plus practical takeaways. If you're interested in this book (that can save lives), find it on Amazon in audiobook, paperback, and e-book. People mostly call it "heartbreaking—like, gut-punch level sad—because it's a dad's raw account of losing his daughter Kristin to dating violence back in 2005". Readers say it hits hard emotionally, leaves them in tears, but also feels eye-opening and urgent. They love how Bill mixes the family's grief with real talk on red flags—like controlling stuff or jealousy—that everyone misses until it's too late. On Amazon it's sitting at 4.9 stars from over a hundred reviews; folks write things like "this book will save lives" or "it stole my heart and educated me." Goodreads averages around 4.5, with people urging parents, teens, even teachers to read it—phrases like "must-read for every parent" or "I feel like I knew Kristin" pop up a lot. And, "It's not just sorrow; it's inspiring too". Readers admire the Mitchells turning pain into advocacy, saying it empowers you to spot abuse early and speak up. They say, "Super recommended if you're into true stories that double as wake-up calls." I hope you read my book. I wrote it for you even though we have never met. We cannot bring back Kristin, but she would want you to live a long life and be happy. Thank you for your attention to the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Most of the episodes in this podcast are populated with survivors telling their stories. But there are many more survivors who are not prepared to be interviewed and have their full stories heard around the entire world. For this very special episode, we asked survivors to either record or email us stories. The recorded stories include the actual voice of survivors. If survivors emailed us their stories, we used computer-generated voices to tell their stories for them. If you want to tell your story on WHEN DATING HURTS but do not want to be interviewed, either record and send us your narrative to us–or write your story as an email, and we will take it from there. Survivors need to know they are not alone. Your stories are precious because they bring comfort to others, and they influence victims to seek help in recovering their freedom. Thank you for listening to WHEN DATING HURTS. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Trigger Warning / Content Disclaimer: This episode contains explicit discussions of heavy drug use, narcissistic manipulation, physical violence, attempted murder, and life-threatening domestic violence. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is the real-life survivor story that shows dating abuse and domestic violence can happen to anyone — in Ontario, Canada, the U.S., Australia, South America, Europe, or right in your own city. Ruth courageously reveals how a relationship that started with intense love-bombing quickly escalated into isolation, financial traps, physical violence, and an attempt on her life — and the lives of her two young sons. Why this episode is so important: Narcissistic abuse survivor story Domestic violence warning signs Why didn't she just leave? Dating "red flags" most people miss Real story of narcissistic manipulation and control Critical Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships You'll Learn in This Episode: • Love bombing & rushing the relationship at the very beginning • Financial traps that create permanent damage • Systematic isolation from friends and family • Escalating control that leads to physical violence and attempted murder From the outside everyone asks the same questions: “Why didn't you just leave?” “Why were you still seeing this person?” Ruth answers both — honestly, painfully, and with zero sugar-coating. This isn't theory. This is what actually happens when dating turns dangerous. This powerful 3-part series is essential listening for anyone who dates, has daughters, has sons, or works with survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence. Ruth's story will help you spot the warning signs before it's too late. Raw. Real. Life-saving. Thank you, Ruth, for trusting us with your story so others can finally understand the hidden dangers of modern dating and break the cycle of abuse.
Trigger Warning / Content Disclaimer: This episode contains explicit discussions of heavy drug use, narcissistic manipulation, physical violence, attempted murder, and life-threatening domestic violence. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is the real-life survivor story that shows dating abuse and domestic violence can happen to anyone — in Ontario, Canada, the U.S., Australia, South America, Europe, or right in your own city. Ruth courageously reveals how a relationship that started with intense love-bombing quickly escalated into isolation, financial traps, physical violence, and an attempt on her life — and the lives of her two young sons. Why this episode is so important: Narcissistic abuse survivor story Domestic violence warning signs Why didn't she just leave? Dating "red flags" most people miss Real story of narcissistic manipulation and control Critical Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships You'll Learn in This Episode: • Love bombing & rushing the relationship at the very beginning • Financial traps that create permanent damage • Systematic isolation from friends and family • Escalating control that leads to physical violence and attempted murder From the outside everyone asks the same questions: “Why didn't you just leave?” “Why were you still seeing this person?” Ruth answers both — honestly, painfully, and with zero sugar-coating. This isn't theory. This is what actually happens when dating turns dangerous. This powerful 3-part series is essential listening for anyone who dates, has daughters, has sons, or works with survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence. Ruth's story will help you spot the warning signs before it's too late. Raw. Real. Life-saving. Thank you, Ruth, for trusting us with your story so others can finally understand the hidden dangers of modern dating and break the cycle of abuse.
Trigger Warning / Content Disclaimer: This episode contains explicit discussions of heavy drug use, narcissistic manipulation, physical violence, attempted murder, and life-threatening domestic violence. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is the real-life survivor story that shows dating abuse and domestic violence can happen to anyone — in Ontario, Canada, the U.S., Australia, South America, Europe, or right in your own city. Ruth courageously reveals how a relationship that started with intense love-bombing quickly escalated into isolation, financial traps, physical violence, and an attempt on her life — and the lives of her two young sons. Why this episode is so important: Narcissistic abuse survivor story Domestic violence warning signs Why didn't she just leave? Dating "red flags" most people miss Real story of narcissistic manipulation and control Critical Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships You'll Learn in This Episode: • Love bombing & rushing the relationship at the very beginning • Financial traps that create permanent damage • Systematic isolation from friends and family • Escalating control that leads to physical violence and attempted murder From the outside everyone asks the same questions: “Why didn't you just leave?” “Why were you still seeing this person?” Ruth answers both — honestly, painfully, and with zero sugar-coating. This isn't theory. This is what actually happens when dating turns dangerous. This powerful 3-part series is essential listening for anyone who dates, has daughters, has sons, or works with survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence. Ruth's story will help you spot the warning signs before it's too late. Raw. Real. Life-saving. Thank you, Ruth, for trusting us with your story so others can finally understand the hidden dangers of modern dating and break the cycle of abuse.
Trigger Warning / Content Disclaimer This episode contains explicit discussions of heavy drug use, narcissistic manipulation, physical violence, and attempted murder. Listener discretion is strongly advised. From the outside, people always ask the same two questions about toxic and abusive relationships: “Why didn't you just leave?” “Why are you still seeing this person?” This is one of those stories that makes those questions impossible to answer — until you hear Meghan tell it. In this no-holds-barred second part of a two-part survivor series on the When Dating Hurts podcast, Meghan pulls back the curtain on the insidious control, the twisted attraction, and the psychological prison that keeps intelligent, strong women trapped in dangerous dating relationships. You'll hear how narcissism, substance abuse, and escalating violence can create a nightmare that looks completely different from the inside. Meghan answers the questions everyone wants to ask — honestly, painfully, and without sugarcoating. This is real. This is raw. This is why we do the show. Thank you, Meghan, for trusting us with your story so others can finally understand. Hosted by Bill Mitchell When Dating Hurts – Real survivor stories that expose the hidden dangers of modern dating.
Trigger Warning / Content Disclaimer This episode contains explicit discussions of heavy drug use, narcissistic manipulation, physical violence, and attempted murder. Listener discretion is strongly advised. From the outside, people always ask the same two questions about toxic and abusive relationships: “Why didn't you just leave?” “Why are you still seeing this person?” This is one of those stories that makes those questions impossible to answer — until you hear Meghan tell it. In this no-holds-barred first part of a two-part survivor series on the When Dating Hurts podcast, Meghan pulls back the curtain on the insidious control, the twisted attraction, and the psychological prison that keeps intelligent, strong women trapped in dangerous dating relationships. You'll hear how narcissism, substance abuse, and escalating violence can create a nightmare that looks completely different from the inside. Meghan answers the questions everyone wants to ask — honestly, painfully, and without sugarcoating. This is real. This is raw. This is why we do the show. Thank you, Meghan, for trusting us with your story so others can finally understand. Hosted by Bill Mitchell When Dating Hurts – Real survivor stories that expose the hidden dangers of modern dating.
Trigger Warning / Content Disclaimer This raw, true survivor story contains explicit details of heavy drug use, narcissistic abuse, physical violence, and attempted murder. Listener discretion is strongly advised. In this powerful episode of When Dating Hurts, we interview Abe, now 20 years old. Before diving in, we strongly recommend listening to episodes 310 and 311 where Abe's mother, Heather, shares her own harrowing story of serial narcissistic abuse, near-fatal domestic violence, and survival at the hands of her ex-husband Rick. Abe was also repeatedly emotionally and physically abused by Rick during those years. Abe bravely opens up about his experience starting at age seven and lasting until he was thirteen. He paints a vivid picture of daily abuse in a home where a child feels powerless — and reveals how his own actions played a key role in helping his mother survive. Heather and Rick were both deep in active addiction throughout this nightmare. While many assume drugs caused the abuse, Heather has always been clear: drugs do not cause narcissistic abuse or domestic violence — they make it far more dangerous and deadly. This episode drives that truth home through a child's eyes. In this episode you'll hear: • What it's really like growing up with narcissistic parents and early childhood trauma • A string of emotionally and physically abusive acts from a violent stepfather • How a young boy became an unlikely hero in his mother's fight to survive attempted murder • The brutal reality of drug addiction combined with intimate partner violence • A child's perspective on living in constant fear with no escape It is nothing short of a miracle that both Heather and Abe are alive today. If you or someone you love is trapped in narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, toxic relationships, or addiction-fueled trauma, this story delivers raw hope, validation, and proof that recovery and freedom are possible. Perfect for anyone searching: • Narcissistic abuse recovery stories • Domestic violence survivor interviews • Child survivors of narcissistic abuse • Escaping abusive relationships with children • Healing from narcissistic parents • Drug addiction and intimate partner violence • Real stories of surviving attempted murder
This is part two, the final part of a two-part story with Heather. Trigger Warning / Content Disclaimer: This raw, true survivor story contains explicit details of heavy drug use, narcissistic abuse, physical violence, and attempted murder. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Heather bravely steps forward to share her unfiltered journey in this two-part series. Many assume drugs were the root of her nightmare — but Heather makes one thing crystal clear: drugs do not cause abuse; they only make abuse far worse. She knows this truth from painful, firsthand experience. In Part 2, you'll hear about: • Growing up with narcissistic parents who shaped her early trauma • A string of emotionally and physically abusive boyfriends • Her dangerous marriage to a violent ex-husband who nearly ended her life It's nothing short of a miracle that Heather is still here today. Despite the years of manipulation, control, beatings, and terror, Heather fought her way back to the strong, authentic woman she was always meant to be. Her greatest lifeline? Herself — and her son, Abe. Together, this mother-son duo refused to give up. They saved each other, broke the cycle, and are now both thriving in freedom and healing. If you or someone you love is trapped in narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, toxic relationships, or battling addiction-fueled trauma, Heather's story will give you hope, validation, and proof that recovery and freedom are possible. Perfect for anyone searching: • Narcissistic abuse recovery stories • Domestic violence survivor interviews • Escaping abusive relationships with children • Healing from narcissistic parents • Drug addiction and intimate partner violence • Real stories of surviving attempted murder
Heather's Powerful Survivor's Story: Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse, Domestic Violence, Drug Addiction & Attempted Murder – Part 1 of 2 Trigger Warning / Content Disclaimer: This raw, true survivor story contains explicit details of heavy drug use, narcissistic abuse, physical violence, and attempted murder. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Heather bravely steps forward to share her unfiltered journey in this two-part series. Many assume drugs were the root of her nightmare — but Heather makes one thing crystal clear: drugs do not cause abuse; they only make abuse far worse. She knows this truth from painful, firsthand experience. In Part 1, you'll hear about: • Growing up with narcissistic parents who shaped her early trauma • A string of emotionally and physically abusive boyfriends • Her dangerous marriage to a violent ex-husband who nearly ended her life It's nothing short of a miracle that Heather is still here today. Despite the years of manipulation, control, beatings, and terror, Heather fought her way back to the strong, authentic woman she was always meant to be. Her greatest lifeline? Herself — and her son, Abe. Together, this mother-son duo refused to give up. They saved each other, broke the cycle, and are now both thriving in freedom and healing. If you or someone you love is trapped in narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, toxic relationships, or battling addiction-fueled trauma, Heather's story will give you hope, validation, and proof that recovery and freedom are possible. Perfect for anyone searching: • Narcissistic abuse recovery stories • Domestic violence survivor interviews • Escaping abusive relationships with children • Healing from narcissistic parents • Drug addiction and intimate partner violence • Real stories of surviving attempted murder
Dr. Diane Mueller has dual doctorates in naturopathic as well as acupuncture and Oriental medicine. She is a best-selling author, a speaker, and the founder of a sexuality education center entitled, MyLibidoDoc.com. She hosts The Libido Lounge podcast with over 33,000 followers. It is specifically curated for couples in long-term relationships. This is a good episode about moving on after an abusive relationship appears to be over. Trying out a new relationship with a caring partner is discussed here. Thank you, Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Hello, it's Bill Mitchell, your host of WHEN DATING HURTS. Here's what I'd like for you to do: I am inviting you, our WHEN DATING HURTS listeners, to contribute a 2-3 minute audio recording of your survivor story (or your thoughts about dating abuse or domestic violence) to be included in a future episode. This initiative is specifically for those of you who may not want to do a full interview, but wish to share your dating abuse or domestic violence experiences. Who can participate? You! What should you share?: • Survivors: Whether you are currently free from abuse or in the midst of working your way out, we want to hear your story. • Friends and Family: Those who have witnessed the journey of a survivor. Or, maybe you want to share your point of view. Your words can save someone listening to what you share. • Podcast Listeners: If you have been helped by WHEN DATING HURTS, and you wish to share their thoughts, we would love to hear from you. There are no strict categories; you can share a story, a current situation, or just whatever is on your mind. The submission process is very easy: 1. Record: Simply use the voice memo app on your phone and record your thoughts. 2. If you make mistakes: Don't worry. We all make mistakes. Simply take a pause and restart your thoughts. I will be happy to edit and bring out the best version of your story. Your willingness to join is what is most important. 3. Anonymity: To ensure your privacy and safety, all stories need to remain anonymous. If you mention names, please create those names. 4. Send: Use the "share" button in your voice memo app to email the file to BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com. I will take it from there. Our goal: We want to encourage listeners who live in unhealthy relationships to find safe ways to break free. You can help! We want to remind listeners, worldwide, they are not alone. Speaking together, we can make life better for thousands. By sharing your perspective, you could be providing the motivation another listener needs to work to save their own life. Your words are powerful. Thank you Thank you for listening and subscribing to the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Now you can be part of our growing community by telling the world the truth about dating abuse and domestic violence. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is an interview about stalking with Michele Locke. Michele is a Texas divorce lawyer, and she was formerly an Associate Judge in Texas. The interview was for an Instagram Live show she conducts every Friday evening (4pm Texas time). The subject of our interview was stalking, but we picked up on other areas related to domestic violence as well. Michele was interviewed on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast twice in 2025. I suggest you listen to those interviews when you have time. Those two interviews focus on divorce – especially divorce from an abusive marriage. Special thanks to Michele Locke for my interview with her. I am sure she will be back on with us very soon. If you're interested in watching Michele Locke's Friday Instagram Live feed, just head to her Instagram page: @attorneymichelelocke Thank you, Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Hello, it's Bill Mitchell, your host of WHEN DATING HURTS. Here's what I'd like for you to do: I am inviting you, our WHEN DATING HURTS listeners, to contribute a 2-3 minute audio recording of your survivor story (or your thoughts about dating abuse or domestic violence) to be included in a future episode. This initiative is specifically for those of you who may not want to do a full interview, but wish to share your dating abuse or domestic violence experiences. Who can participate? You! What should you share?: • Survivors: Whether you are currently free from abuse or in the midst of working your way out, we want to hear your story. • Friends and Family: Those who have witnessed the journey of a survivor. Or, maybe you want to share your point of view. Your words can save someone listening to what you share. • Podcast Listeners: If you have been helped by WHEN DATING HURTS, and you wish to share their thoughts, we would love to hear from you. There are no strict categories; you can share a story, a current situation, or just whatever is on your mind. The submission process is very easy: 1. Record: Simply use the voice memo app on your phone and record your thoughts. 2. If you make mistakes: Don't worry. We all make mistakes. Simply take a pause and restart your thoughts. I will be happy to edit and bring out the best version of your story. Your willingness to join is what is most important. 3. Anonymity: To ensure your privacy and safety, all stories need to remain anonymous. If you mention names, please create those names. 4. Send: Use the "share" button in your voice memo app to email the file to BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com. I will take it from there. Our goal: We want to encourage listeners who live in unhealthy relationships to find safe ways to break free. You can help! We want to remind listeners, worldwide, they are not alone. Speaking together, we can make life better for thousands. By sharing your perspective, you could be providing the motivation another listener needs to work to save their own life. Your words are powerful. Thank you Thank you for listening and subscribing to the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Now you can be part of our growing community by telling the world the truth about dating abuse and domestic violence. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is part two of my interview with Nichole Schmidt, the Mother of Gabby Petito. Most of you remember the Gabby Petito story as it unfolded on national news across this country. When the reports said this young woman, traveling in a van out west with her boyfriend, had not been heard from for days, I admit I thought he probably killed her. Unfortunately, my intuition was correct. I wanted to speak with Gabby's parents right away, but guessed it would never happen. But now it did. In two episodes, I speak with Gabby's mother, Nichole Schmidt, on the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. QUICK NOTES: • You will hear us mention a documentary in our chat. It is the 2025 Gabby Petito documentary you can see on Netflix. It is worth your time. • Also, Gabby's parents were divorced when she was very young, but they stayed in close touch in an amicable fashion. Gabby's mother and father married others, and all four parents are involved in the Gabby Petito Foundation. The Gabby Petito Foundation is driving real change in the fight against domestic violence and missing persons. Inspired by Gabby's legacy, their mission is to take action on the front lines, partnering with organizations and equipping communities and first responders with the tools, training, and support they need to prevent and respond collectively to violence, and to protect those at risk. Gabby Petito Foundation Gabby's Blog Get Involved with Gabby Petito Foundation Thank you for listening and subscribing to the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is part one of our two-part interview with Nichole Schmidt , the Mother of Gabby Petito. Most of you remember the Gabby Petito story as it unfolded on national news across this country. When the reports said this young woman, traveling in a van out west with her boyfriend, had not been heard from for days, I admit I thought he probably killed her. Unfortunately, my intuition was correct. I wanted to speak with Gabby's parents right away, but guessed it would never happen. But now it did. In two episodes, I speak with Gabby's mother, Nichole Schmidt, on the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. QUICK NOTES: • You will hear us mention a documentary in our chat. It is the 2025 Gabby Petito documentary you can see on Netflix. It is worth your time. • Also, Gabby's parents were divorced when she was very young, but they stayed in close touch in an amicable fashion. Gabby's mother and father married others, and all four parents are involved in the Gabby Petito Foundation. The Gabby Petito Foundation is driving real change in the fight against domestic violence and missing persons. Inspired by Gabby's legacy, their mission is to take action on the front lines, partnering with organizations and equipping communities and first responders with the tools, training, and support they need to prevent and respond collectively to violence, and to protect those at risk. Gabby Petito Foundation Gabby's Blog Get Involved with Gabby Petito Foundation Thank you for listening and subscribing to the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast. Bill Mitchell NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We are bringing back one of our most educational episodes. It was recorded a few years back soon after we met Nurse Laura Clary at the Greater Baltimore Medical Center. Listen to Ms.Clary and see domestic violence from her point of view as a professional. Few have as many credentials added to their names as this amazing woman. Allow me to introduce you to Laura Clary, BSN, RN, FNE-A/P, SANE-A. There is much to be learned from someone who has accumulated such a vast amount of knowledge. Laura has been a registered nurse for 11 years. In 2010, she completed her Forensic Nursing training at Greater Baltimore Medical Center and joined the GBMC team as a Forensic Nurse Examiner. She has been the Clinical Program Manager of the GBMC SAFE (Sexual Assault Forensic Examination) & Domestic Violence Program since 2014. Laura is certified to care for patients who have been victims of sexual assault, rape, child abuse/neglect, intimate partner violence, and human trafficking. Laura obtained her National professional certification as a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner from the International Association of Forensic Nurses in 2013. Laura is a Board of Nursing approved Forensic Nurse Examiner Instructor and an active member of the International Association of Forensic Nurses, as well as the Maryland Child Abuse Medical Providers (CHAMP), and is Chair of the Baltimore County Sexual Assault Response team. In May of 2017, she was nationally recognized when she was awarded the title of “America's Most Amazing Nurse” by Prevention Magazine and additionally awarded Baltimore County, Maryland's Woman of the Year in 2018. She sees the worst that can happen. That's when she brings her best. Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. Bill Mitchell WhenDatingHurts.com NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book (in paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can be found on Amazon. HELPFUL RESOURCES: • National Domestic Violence Hotline – The Hotline.org – Call 800-799-SAFE • LoveIsRespect – Call 866-331-9474 • RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) – RAINN.org – Call 800-656-4673 • SUICIDE HELPLINE: Call 988 DISCLAIMER: The WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast is providing this platform for information to be shared. We do not state with any certainty that anything is true or untrue. Understand that what you hear is the viewpoint of the people sharing. The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only. Any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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