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Transcript of Episode: Good afternoon everyone. Well maybe it's afternoon for you. I am on a lunch break and it was on my list to record a podcast. So here I am. It is finally summer in Milwaukee. And so, you know, that's exciting. Um, I really enjoy the Midwest or being in Milwaukee because, um, in the evening for the most part it does cool off and there's a nice breeze coming off the lake, especially now cause the lake is still it. Um, it's not as warm. It might be like 50 or 60 degrees, but um, so it gets a nice, cool breeze. But anyway, today's episode is something that has been on my mind. Um, something so I don't know, maybe most of you know that I also have, um, a full time job where I work as the Women's Center director, um, at the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee. And uh, part of that job is having to go to various meetings across campus to work on different projects or events. In not too long ago, I was in a meeting and the person who was leading the meeting was, um, we were planning like an annual event and we got on the topic of evaluation and looking at, we use like a paper, uh, we historically use a paper questionnaire for students just to get more information about their experience in, in how, like how the event went from them for them, what did they learn, et cetera. Like, you know, suggestions for new or upcoming events or things like that. Just to give feedback. And the person who was leading the meeting was saying, you know, like, I really liked the open ended questions or it's like three or four questions at the end of the evaluation. Just really like it, but it's very time intensive. Um, the coding process was very long and tedious and we had to do all these rounds and people had to learn and she essentially said, you know, it's just too much work. And so I'm thinking we could either s um, significantly reduce them or get rid of them and just have the likert scale questions, um, to make things easier for my staff because it took us almost a whole year to, you know, analyze the open ended questions. And so there's about 10 people in this meeting. So I have to the leader got through talking than someone at the table. It was like, Oh, you know, I'm from a different office I'll gladly, you know, volunteer my staff to help you with the coding if it's a matter of you needing additional people to make things go faster. And the leader was like, no, no. I mean she just kept saying like, it's just so much and I just don't want to do it. And then someone else was like, well yeah, we would also be willing to help you if you know that make it easier. And she just kept going on and on about how it's just was too hard and like if we could just help her reduce the questions, that would be really helpful. And so then I chimed in because by this point I was just irritated. You know, like you said, you had a problem, two people offered you solutions, but you're still saying how difficult it is. So part of me was frustrated because I was like, oh, it must be nice to be a leader of a meeting in to have the privilege to be able to say how this is too much work and your, you don't want to work that much and you don't want to do your job. That must be nice on one hand. But that was a petty part of me. The second part of me was like, don't say that out loud. You just try to be helpful in this meeting. And so I, I said, well, it sounds like to me that the questions aren't so much the issue as it is your process for analysis. It's seeming to be the issue and the timing of it. So I said, you know, I'm wondering, one, is there a rush? Like did you, because she was saying how it took, um, like the event is an August and she was saying that ideally, you know, they would do the analysis right after the event, but the first six weeks of school was very busy and so they were not able to get to it until winter break and she wasn't able to get the report out, um, until maybe April and May. And that was too much. And so I said, you know, one, is there a time constraint? Like do you have to have it by a certain date or in, what is that date? Does it have to be by September that this report is finished? I said, two, is there a way that you can change your analysis process? Because there's different ways of analysis and analyzing, um, qualitative data. And three, I don't think we need to get rid of this because we already privileged quantitative data because it's easy, right? We, we quote unquote think it's easy. Um, because we could just put it through a machine and it gives us information. Whereas when you have to analyze qualitative data that requires people and could you reduce the amount of people and you know, she went back into how difficult and how hard that was and it just, so I stopped talking because to me it was clear that she just wanted to be in her frustration. She just wanted people to say like, oh, like, yeah, I understand that is hard. Yeah, let's not do it. And you know, beyond the other ridiculous of being able to do that in a meeting and take up a significant portion of the meeting talking about how you're frustrated and one to do the woe is me. And we still didn't walk away from that meeting with a clear solution that she accepted. Um, it just had me thinking like, how often do I do that? How often do I see clients do that? How often do we do that in regular life? Right? Like we are talking about our problem or frustration we may be having and the person or people that we're talking to may offer solutions, but we dismiss them, right? Because we just want to stay in our own wallow or pity or feelings in the moment you feel justified like, yeah, this is wrong and you should agree with me and you may even say something like, I don't want you to solve my problems. I just want you to listen and understand and people who are about their business, who are winners, who are in, they are concerned with about getting things done. They don't have time to listen to you complain. Let me say that again. People who are moving forward, who are about their business, who are about getting shit done, don't have time to listen to you complain. Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't be able to be vulnerable with someone or express your feelings. However, if you're like home girl from the meeting and you're complaining about something that's very fixable, that doesn't have to require you to be in pain, it doesn't have to require you to be frustrated and people are trying to help you get out of that. But you're so committed to being frustrated that you don't even take on the solutions or sit or stop for a minute and consider it, then they don't have time for that. Like no one has time for that. And particularly I think about this when I'm working with clients, you know, the question that I asked them to consider and that even when I'm working with my own coach, like if I am I willing to be coachable in this moment and how you're, how you know, if you're willing to be coachable, if like despite how you're feeling cause feelings are live this by how you're feeling, no matter how justify you feel or how you like no I done wrong. No matter that are you willing to stop for a minute and listen to the person who you are venting to or being vulnerable with quote unquote. Um, are you willing to stop for a minute and consider what they're saying to you? I'm not saying is someone who is coming from like a high horse because I'm definitely guilty of not being coachable in the moment and not willing to listen, right? And, if you're saying you want to achieve a certain goals or if you're saying, I want to finish my dissertation proposal and you constantly keep scheduling meetings with your chair and week after week, you go into their office and you're complaining about how you don't have any support in the program like other people or how it's so much more difficult for you or you don't understand what you're doing or you just wish people would show up for you or whatever the complaint is in your chair constantly is trying to give you suggestions of who to talk to, things to look up, steps to take next. They're spending their good precious time with you, hours and hours with you and you still come back week after week with the same problem. Then the issue is you, it's you, it's you not being willing to be coachable. It's not that you can't do it, and it's not that you don't understand. You aren't put down your victimhood or your wanting to be right and dignified in your frustration. You won't put that away long enough to even listen to what they're saying to you. And eventually what happens is that your chair is going to stop giving you that. Those suggestions, your chair is probably just going to let you talk and talk and talk and just say, oh, okay, well, well that's nice. Or they may stop like scheduling meetings with you all together because no one wants to listen to that. Particularly someone again who was about their business. Nobody wants to hear you complain because the other part to consider with that is, okay, so, so you're right. Okay. Yeah. So people, so-and-so did that to you so and so is not being helpful to you. So and so is being difficult. Oh, and. Okay. It's hard to do, to write about x, Y, Z. Oh there. There's no literature around this topic. Okay. You're right now what? No, what? You're right. You're right. The, everything you're complaining about you're right, what's going to be your next step? Have you ever thought or consider? Okay, so you're right. And if somebody did say you were right, okay, what's next? Like is that all you want? You want somebody to be like, oh, woe is you? Okay. And they give you that and then what? Because just because you're right, it doesn't solve your problem. And just because such and such happen doesn't help you get to the next step. It doesn't help you get what you want. So take some time and really consider what do you want? What do you really want? Do you want to be right or do you want to be doctor? Because it doesn't matter. At the end of the day, like I've had some shitty experiences in my phd experience and program, I felt like people didn't show up for me in ways that they showed up for other people. I felt like things could have been easier for me. I felt like a lot of things. But at the end of the day, I had to take responsibility for my own experience. I had to take responsibility that it doesn't matter that these people are doing that or these are the conditions or whatever. I don't have x, Y, z. It doesn't matter. What am I going to do in this moment? What choices am I going to make? What am I going to believe so I can finish this dissertation and graduate because they got theirs and I want to get mine right? So do I want to, um, you know, stay stuck in this moment and fight this fight about how you did this to me and so unfair, or do I want to get my dissertation and move on and have a business where I can help other people avoid the things that I had to go through? You have to ask yourself that same question. Are you willing to be coachable? Are you willing to listen? Are you willing to take responsibility for your situation, for the results that you have in your life right now so that you can achieve what it is that you want to achieve? And if you're not willing to do that, if you don't think it's worth the cost and that's very fair and legitimate, that you don't think it's worth the cost. Like sometimes it's not worth being around certain people. Sometimes it's not worth jumping through certain hoops to achieve a certain goal. Sometimes it's not worth it and that's okay, but at least you made that decision. Don't leave it to the whim of circumstances to be like, oh well I guess I quit. No, you make the decision that it's no longer for you and you exit stage left, but if you still want to achieve that goal, if that's still something that you want to have, then what are you going to do to make sure that happens and how can you not give up so that you can achieve those things because it doesn't matter how you feel. And I don't mean, I don't mean any disrespect or try to come off too harsh. I guess. Clearly I'm still in my bag, but I, you know, I'm not trying to come at you per se. I'm just trying to say, you say you want to achieve this. What are you going to do about it? Cause no one is coming to save you. No one is coming to like, yeah, you know. Yeah that was, that was wrong. Let me do all the things for you to make sure you get there. No, that's not going to happen because if that was the case, everybody would have a phd. Everybody would be called Doctor. So what are you going to do to make sure that you can achieve your goal? How can you get out of your feelings long enough? It really take a step back and figure out what it is that you need to do to achieve your goal. So as I think about home girl from the meeting, what I really wanted to say to her, like, I mean this cute that you took up 30 minutes to complain about something that we just offer at least three solutions to you and you didn't want to take, it's cute that you did that but what are we gonna do next? But you know, jobs and professionalism and whatnot. However, if you're a client and that's what you think you're going to do on a call and me, that's not going to happen. I'm going to ask you, what are we doing? Like I don't, it's that I care about you and because I care about you and because I care about your experience, I'm not going to let you sit there and complain. Instead, we're gonna spend our good time, our valuable time and energy, figuring out what we can do, what we can control. How can we take the next step to get to the like closer to the end goal. Because winners win and we don't have time to be complaining and be in victim mentality. Instead, we need to keep moving forward. And I have to say that, um, cause you know, I'm all about taking time for yourself to be and to be in peace and have joy. How and ever when you are sitting there and you're complaining about how things are not fair, that's you being a victim. That's not you focusing on your peace and joy. That's the opposite. So when you get into a frustration around your dissertation or your phd program or you feel like so and so is being fair, I want you to take a minute, stop and ask yourself, how can I be coachable right now and figure out the next step, just the next step of something I can control that's going to get me closer to my end goal. And if you want to talk more about that, then definitely you should schedule a meeting with me, a call and we can talk about how we can work together to help you get to your end goal to help you finish this dissertation and graduate and become doctor. All right, so that is all I have for this week. Come on over to Instagram at @marvettelacy and let me know what you thought about today's episode or if you want to talk talk it up, um, if you want to talk in a dms or whatever, but I wish you much love and success for the rest of this week and I'll talk to you later. Bye for now.

I'm back! My first official blog post and podcast episode as a married woman! Okay that just sounds weird, but I wanted to acknowledge the fact that I've been gone for the past 2 weeks and that my amazing and wonderful team took over the blog to show off their skills. Clearly I'm a lucky woman having Tanya and Georgia by my side! Oh and C :) He's pretty great too. Today's podcast episode is near and dear to my heart. I've invited the incredible Kat Dahlen onto the show to chat about therapy, how it benefits us and why everyone should have a therapist. Kat is a holistic psychotherapist who has her masters in Integral Counseling Psychology. She takes an individualized approach while incorporating the best of both eastern and western techniques. She's incredible! Having been in therapy for most of my adult life, I can 100% vouch for its benefits. That being said, there is still so much stigma around therapy and mental health so I hope today's episode can help dispel the myths out there and bring some light to a very important conversation. Here are a few other things we cover in today's episode: Kat's journey and how she became a holistic pyschotherapist What is "holistic psychotherapy" and how does it differ from other types of therapy? Mental health stigma and why therapy isn't just for those who struggle with their mental health Who should be in therapy and when should you start going? How Kat incorporates eastern and western techniques into her practice "Emotional fluency" and why its important to identify your emotions Anxiety and why it isn't an emotional state but a clue to your emotions Isolation and why so many people struggle with anxiety and depression What advice she would give to her 20 year old self Join The Healthy Maven Tribe to ask guest questions and to find out who will be on the show before anyone else! http://facebook.com/groups/THMTribe Please don't forget to rate + review in iTunes if you love the podcast. Your comments and subscriptions help us make the podcast best for you! Follow Kat: Website: https://www.kdahlentherapy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapywithkat/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kdahlentherapy/

Hi. Hmm. Hello. Okay. Sometimes I get really shy. What do you mean you accidentally clicked on it? It was divined. It's not possible that you clicked on it accidentally. Why, why, is my wifi choosing right now to freeze? What's happening? Reset. Oh my God. Hello, Tamara. Georgine, this jacket is so old. This is like my old faithful. But thank you. I love it. Hi, Tamara. This is like the other side of my studio, you guys. I'm here in my studio. My throne is right there. I nearly just picked up the laptop, and I was like, "Look, there it is." Okay, wait. Hold your horses. Or your wine. Or whatever else do you have. What do you have? Leah, I must admit that when you commented on my post about the ribs, and you said that's awesome, I was like I don't get it. Where's the pun? What's the catch? I don't get it. And I was like, "I think she's being serious." I don't know if I've ever seen it before. Not on a normal Facebook post. I had to read it three times. And then I was just honestly so thrown that I couldn't reply. Mermaid cushions. Are they? These are some pretty cool cushions. I'm gonna share this over ... Looks good, doesn't it? This is my backup set. You were fucking hungry. I was devastated. Devastated. I was in shock. I thought ... 100% I was like, he's joking. So, for those who missed it, I went to my favourite steak and ribs place for dinner tonight, where I go like, maybe four times a week. I really like ribs. And I know the restaurant manager there, Matt, extremely well. Of course. Because I go there so often. And he was like, "Oh, have you seen our new menu?" And I'm like, "No, whatever. I don't need the menu. I have the same ribs every time I go there." He's like, "No, we don't have ribs on the menu anymore." And I'm like, "Oh, ha-ha." He's like, "No, no. We really took them off." I'm like, "No you didn't. You're just joking." And he's like, "No, no. We took them off. It's minimum four." And then sometimes I might order them up as well. They don't even deliver up, except for me. Obviously. Anyway. I manifested the fucking ribs. Obviously. Obviously. Where am I? I'm in my house. Here I am in my house. Welcome to the show. Okay. I'm in my gangster outfit. Which just means like shiny black all over. With a wild top on. It says wild. Except I have my fluffy pink slippers on, because it matches the painting. By the way, how talented is my sister-in-law, Rachel? She's an artist, and I commissioned this piece behind me. She made it for me. I don't think I've ever shown it before, because I kind of got the painting delivered, and then I just took off, travelling. As I do. There's another one just over there in the corner. It's leaning up against the wall. You can't see it properly. No, well then what happened with the ribs ... I'll show you the rest of the room in a moment, because you're in a different side of the studio. Yeah, but I've got a top on under it. What's the problem? So, what happened with the ribs was, he's like there's no ribs and no steak. They're pink slippers, Jason. Pink slippers. Matches my pink hair tie. Yeah. I thought he was joking. It's like, it's a steak and ribs place. That's what it is. You can't even make this shit up. When the hell does a steak and ribs place take steak and ribs off the menu? The ribs and the steak, they took off the menu. So, obviously I'm laughing at it, because I go there all the time. And it's a steak and ribs place. He's like, "No, no. We're trying burgers and pizzas." I'm like, "Yeah, good one." He's like, "No, really." So, then I start looking around at people's tables. I'm like ... because I knew for sure he was just trying to mess with me. Because we always have a good chat. We're good friends. So, I'm like, "He's just messing with me." I'm looking at people's tables to find the ribs, and I'm like, "I don't see any ribs." He's like, "No, no. I'm serious." I was in horror. I was just in a state of being frozen in horror. What's the word for that? There must be a word for it. I was in a shock state. Tremors were coming upon me, largely because I thought I was gonna cry, because I wanted ribs. And anyhow, long story short, I already wrote it on my personal Facebook. Ribs were delivered to me. He went and got them for me. Form another restaurant, and brought them there. All right, and here we are. So, that's roughly the whole story. I'm really not remotely in the mood to talk about anything much at all, so I feel like it's gonna be one of those live streams which is gonna be just very interesting. Having a day of being fucked with by the shenanigans crew. Leah, I said to Alyssa afterwards, it must be topsy turvy day. And then she was like, "What's topsy turvy day?" And I'm just thinking, "Who raised you, girl?" What kind of child doesn't know what topsy turvy day is? And then I'm like, "Well, maybe I never told her." Because all this random shit just kept happening. Everything weird kept happening. So, then we make it through dinner somehow. I got my food, but the children's burgers that they always normally order had been changed into sesame seed coated burgers. Like kids burgers with sesame seeds on top. Has anybody ever heard of such a ridiculous idea? So, of course both of my little precious offspring, who are reared in a manner in which they have come to expect that whatever they desire will be delivered to them, forthwith, and it is. They were not impressed, shall we say. At the sesame seed topped burgers. In fact, it's fair to say they were appalled. If my father was there, he would've said, "Bernard." And I would've said ... Nevermind. It would've descended. Only very few people have got that joke. Maybe Leah. But anyway. We would've both agreed that we're appalled. He would've said, "How do you feel about it?" And I would've said, "I'm appalled." And I would've said, "Well, how do you feel?" And he would've said, "Well, I'm appalled." And we both would've said, "I'm appalled." Anyhow. If you can name the show, I'll be very impressed that I'm not the only one who watches weird stuff. So, that happened, and the sesame seed burgers were not a hit. Nobody ate them. By the time we got to the end of the dinner, and we discovered that they don't ... Okay. The one with the minister. The minister. The one with the minister, the British show with the minister. Now I don't remember the name of it. There's definitely a minister involved and then his off, right hand guy is called Bernard. And there's just this ... Surely if you watched Faulty Towers, you watched the one ... Minister. Sometimes with a minister. I don't know. Somebody knows. Tell me the show. There were books as well. Get your wine. It's all gonna go haywire momentarily. It's just very funny when my dad says it. And then both of us go back and forth. Yes, Minister. Exactly. Yes, Minister. Right. So, then dad and I ... It's nothing to do with [Bernicky 00:08:23]. Dad and I would just go back and forth, back and forth, agreeing that we're both appalled, and we just think we're hilarious. That's really the whole story. That's all you need to know. But by the time we got to the end of the dinner, even my eight year old daughter, she says ... Oh, that's right. Because they had no chocolate ice cream. They've changed the children's ice cream menu, to no chocolate. They've got strawberry, but it's like some sort of woo-woo strawberry, and, wait for it ... Hazelnut. On a children's dessert menu. These are your two options. Weird woo-woo strawberry, which can't even possibly be explained, even if you asked me to, and hazelnut. So, Alyssa says, "The only thing I can possibly consume at this restaurant from here on out is the water." She's eight years old. I was like, I'm dying, I'm laughing. And then we went to the grocery store and more weird shit happened, and basically I said it was topsy turvy day, and she didn't know what it meant. And then it was just ... I couldn't even, even, with the whole world. I had to go home and put the children to bed, and now her I am. So, check it out, because I'm gonna talk about the burn, and the pain, and I don't even really feel like it, but it's just the title that came to me when I was in the toilet. There's my throne, so now you know where you are in time and space. Do you see where you are? That's where I usually am over there. There's all your fancy lights, there's one big fancy light up there. There's another one, and there's a ring light there. I'm live streaming without a fancy light on me. Who would've thought? I just felt like sitting on the couch. I felt like everybody's seen enough of the throne. Driven by the burn. Okay. Where are we gonna go with this conversation? I was thinking about various forms of pain today. I was triggered today. It happens to me from time to time, and I always flip it straight into gratitude as soon as I get triggered by something, or I feel uncomfortable by something. Well, firstly I might have a little hissy fit, or crack it, or get upset, or whatever the trigger is. It's not usually very, you know, emotive in a big way. Not a huge reaction. But there'll be some sort of little blip, right? You know, maybe you see something online, or you see something out in the real world, whatever that is. Or something occurs to you, or maybe you say something, that's kind of like, "Why did I say that? Now I sound like an idiot", or now I look like an idiot, or maybe they now think that I meant this, and actually I meant this, and maybe they're analysing it, and maybe they don't give a fuck about you because they're pretty obsessed with themselves. But anyway, these are the thoughts that the mind does. And then you just feel that like, ugh. And I don't know about you, but sometimes when I get that feeling, I then can't remember why I have the feeling, right? So, then you know when you carry around this weird feeling of like, I know that I'm triggered and I know that I'm upset about something, but I'm now not sure what it is, so I'm walking around feeling kind of naked and exposed. But I don't know if I have valid reason for it or not, and I wish I could fucking remember why I'm upset or why I'm triggered. I just know that there's a reason that this feeling's here and I've gotta shift it. That might be just me. But I'd be curious to know. But anyhow, today I had a little trigger. It was like a little ... That's what happens. Energetically. You're just going about your day, you're cruising along, you're writing a blog, or you're doing your thing, you're walking down the street listening to client audios, whatever it is that you're doing. And sometimes happens, and it's just this kind of, uh. And all of a sudden, you feel like you're not on path anymore. You were merrily swimming in a sea of abundance and alignment, or seeking to as the case may be, and now you suddenly feel like somebody just grabbed you by the shoulder and pulled you off, you've kind of got this tug going on, and it's like, ugh. It's annoying, right? So, then if you lean into the trigger though, it might get more annoying, and it might get upsetting. It might cause you to feel inferior, not good enough, same thing really. Frustrated, annoyed, disheartened, sad, et cetera, or worried, or whatever it is. I used to try and avoid those things. Or I used to get super reactive, in the sense that ... Okay. I feel like I've forgotten how to swallow. Something's happening inside of me. I'm sure I'll be able to manage it. Fear not. I used to get super reactive when I would get triggered. Like I would get reactive in the sense that I would probably retaliate to the trigger, which was not always necessarily the most useful thing, particularly because typically, or often anyway, frequently, the person who's triggered you has no fucking clue, because it's just some random post that they put on Facebook. So, then I would retaliate though, via response, text, of minimum 2000 words. I don't mean private text message, I mean post on Facebook, right? You know when you do a Facebook post, you're just hoping that one person will see it, or some people will see, right? I used to do that. I would do a rant, or kind of a defensive post, or kind of a let me make my point sort of post. That is actually a really good way to avoid letting a trigger work on you. And letting it serve the lesson that it came along to serve. And all of these things come along to serve as a lesson, right? So, if we don't gain the lesson from it, or if we don't get the growth work that we're meant to get from it, then what can happen is we just ... or what typically does happen is we just keep on getting the same lesson again, and again. It just keeps getting served back to us. Okay, I feel like nobody's talking to me. I feel like I'm being insanely boring. I'm now getting triggered by the fact that I'm pretty sure I'm being really boring, and I don't know what's happening. I feel like I've never live streamed before, or I've forgotten how to live stream. Do you think it's because I'm on the couch and not on my throne? But I really like to sit up here. I think it looks fancy. Am I being boring right now? Tell me something you want me to talk about, because I feel like I've lost my way completely. I'm getting really squirmy inside of myself, and I'm getting kind of like ... Yeah, super self conscious. I just feel like I wanna dance and sing, and have some people around for a drink. But that'll be, maybe tomorrow night. Meanwhile, literally nobody's even commenting. However, the numbers are somehow weirdly going up slightly. So, I feel like you've all banded together and you're just refusing to talk to me on purpose, but you've got some kind of conversation thread going on behind the scenes on fucking telegram, or telegraph, or telepole, or whatever that app is that everybody's using without me. Okay, no. The comments are all over here. My communication chakra might be out of whack. Okay, there was no comments on the phone. All right, I'm clearly just a bundle of insecure nerves, because as soon as I don't get a comment for like 10 and a half seconds, on my phone, I'm like, "Everybody hates me." But they're all over here on the laptop. Okay. Thank you. It's only 12:12 here as well, Jamie. Except not really, it's 9:12. All right. You're captivated. Georgina says, "Everybody's captivated", and Addison says, "Everybody's enthralled." Carla says is my communication out of whack. I don't know, where is the communication chakra? I know where the heart one is, I know where the self expression one is. Where is the communication one? I know where the sexual one is. I'm all over that shit. Burn. Okay. You guys are helping me out. Thank you. I just didn't know the comments were coming over here. What's with that Facebook? It's trying to screw with me. What was I talking about? I feel revived. I feel like I've had an injection of self love and confidence, and enthusiasm. Maybe the injection of love came from you guys and not from me. Maybe I'm getting validated right now, and I need to address my own self love shit again. Instead of allowing myself to be validated. Oh, even the wine at the restaurant had changed to terrible wine. I normally get the grated pepper jack [Chiraz 00:16:32]. It's $25 for a glass, and it's amazing. And they pour a big glass, so $25 is pretty reasonable for an oversized glass of wine. But it's not cheap for a glass of wine. They didn't have a single glass of wine that was over eight dollars 50. I was honestly like ... where's the kind of better wine? I find it very scary, and I said this to the guy, who like I said I know. The one who went and got me my ribs from a different restaurant and brought them to me at the restaurant. I said, "I find these prices a little scary, Matt. They're a little scary cheap. What's happening? Where's the good wine gone?" He's going, "I know." The owner's just changed everything. They're trying to cater to a cheaper crowd. So, I couldn't even drink any wine at the restaurant. I had half a glass. So, now I'm just having some ... Of course, I only drink fucking Solo wine's Prophetic Wine. So, I'm having Witches Falls. I mean, ti's the best title ever for a bottle of wine, isn't it? Witches Falls Prophecy. I drink the [inaudible 00:17:36] as well. Isn't it much more fun when I'm not talking about the topic? Okay, let's get back to the topic though. How did I put the banner on the live stream? [German 00:17:44], no idea at all. [German 00:17:46]. We switch to German when we feel like it. [German 00:17:52]. Somebody did it for me. I don't know. But something to do with Facebook Creative. You could Google it, I imagine. So, anyway. It's so nice to wine. I know, I know, you cannot buy a glass of wine for eight dollars 50 in a restaurant, Jason. It's upsetting, it's unbecoming to the wine, and it's probably unbecoming to your own self if you would drink the wine, because it's gonna be full of shit for that price. It's just, the whole situation was just upsetting to behold. So, the triggers, okay. I feel revived. I feel a little concerned that I got validated by comments in a really big way, when I should only be validating my own self, so we'll work on that later. We'll work on it later. We'll work on it later. We'll work on it later. We'll work on it later. We'll work on it later. I'll give you some affirmations. Love thyself. That's probably [inaudible 00:18:45]. And actually I do. Yay me. And we already talked about that earlier today. I did the self pleasure blog. It wasn't really about self pleasure, but I was certainly thinking about self pleasure, and it was about self pleasure. The whole thing was about pleasure. Depends whether you mean masturbation or not, when you're talking about self pleasure. But that was definitely part of it, and it was involved. So, the trigger thing. If you don't ... Okay. If you don't learn the lesson ... Just making sure everything's in order because I'm getting overheated. If you don't learn the lessons that you need to learn ... All right. Now I'm clashing with the painting. I don't match the painting at all. This is gonna have to stay on. This is why I can't sit in front of this painting normally. My art clashes with the other art. If I would turn my back to you, I feel like what's on my back would totally go with that art. No. Nope. Okay. I don't know what country you're drinking you're wine in, but you cannot go around having a glass of wine for eight dollars 50 at a restaurant in Australia. It's not acceptable. If you're in a different country, I'll give you permission to have something for eight dollars 50, depending on where you are. Because sometimes wine here is expensive, right? So, if you see a glass of wine for eight dollars 50, that is a cheap ass, dodgy ass wine that you don't wanna drink, that's for sure. It's upsetting to see that price on a menu. Okay. If you don't learn the lesson from the fucking trigger, it's going to keep coming back at you, right? So, to ... Okay, I was frozen in a most unflattering position just now on my own phone screen. So, it was just a little bloop of a trigger. Exactly it made that noise, as I was walking about doing my business. Which was largely that I wanted to sit in the sun. That was roughly the entire business for the moment in time. And I thought to myself, "Ah, don't even need to think about that. Whatever, put it aside." And I did, for a moment or for several hours, or whatever. And then it just presented itself merrily back to me. Via reappearing in my Facebook feed, like a mother fucker. Just so that I could be reminded again of the trigger, and this time it was like, ugh. Exactly like that, like an annoying fly on your shoulder. And you're just like, "Brush it away, brush it away, brush it away. I don't need to know about this shit. You can mosey on along to another feed, not my feed." But then, then, then, I went and did some inner stuff, [meditationy 00:21:13] sort of zen situation that I had myself in, in the afternoon. You don't need to know all the details, and then from there, something occurred to me, which I found simultaneously fascinating and infuriating. Fascinated and infuriating. Which was that perhaps this trigger had been given to me for the opportunity of growth, which is always the case, actually. I think you'll find. I don't really care for the fact that these comments are not coming up here. Trigger sound bites. Exactly right. The lessons will keep coming back until you learn them. I'm just ignoring the comments about my top. It's not like I was showing anything anyway. God knows I've shown a fuckload more than that on my own streams before. Largely by accident. All right. Check out my black and gold cushion. How do you like my styling of my own couch? I styled this couch myself. I styled myself with my black shiny leggings, and my wild top. I won't flash it to you again since you're all getting so concerned about it. And I styled this black and gold cushion to match that, and then I brought this pinky cushion in to match it. Now here we are. So, all your lessons will keep on coming back until you figure them the fuck out. If you don't shift and learn from what you were supposed to, from each lesson or trigger that presents itself to you, then it's just gonna be like a persistent child in a candy store, just tugging on your leg, except in a much more annoying way and impacting you, potentially in your ability to make money. Something's beeping. Let's ignore it. Potentially in your ability to make money, or receive in other areas, or whatever it is. So, as I went into my zen meditation period within my day, it occurred to me, what if I was grateful for the trigger? Hmm? How do you feel about that? What was the most recent thing you were triggered by? Do you wanna tell me? Put it in the comments. Let's hear. What was the most recent thing where you were like ... Or maybe you were like fuck you. Or maybe you were like ... it really deflated you and it made you feel sad. That's okay. You can own it. We all been there. We've all been there. Share your triggers. So, this thing was just kind of uncomfortable and annoying, but I wouldn't say it was majorly triggering me, but it felt a bit ... It felt like it was throwing me a little bit. You know where you get thrown and you're kinda like, I was on my path, I was completely doing my thing, and just like la, la, la, happy. And now I feel like hmm. Hmm, do I need to think about that? No, I don't want to because it's annoying, so I'll put it aside, but then Facebook just brings it back to you on your news feed, helpfully. And then you go and you try and do your inner shit, and your meditation shit, and your zen shit, and you're like ahhh, and then it's like knocking on the door inside of your head. And so, it occurred to me that I could be grateful. I do indeed know ... Jamie says her most recent trigger was somebody's face. I love it. Jason says, "WB." I've got no idea what that means. Georgina says, "I think you know." I think I do. I've got to admit though, Jamie, I'm frequently triggered by people just from them existing, and frequently inside of my head I feel like saying something to somebody. Like, can you please just not exist near me? And that's 100% my own shit, for sure. Because I do it to random people who did nothing at all. They didn't even bump into me, they did nothing. They were just existing in their own time and space, like being a perfectly lovely, wonderful person, quite likely. Or maybe a complete asshole, but how would I know? They were not doing anything to me, and I'm just like, "Stop existing near me." Is how I feel about the matter. I suppose it's typically when I'm having one of those days, or afternoons where I shouldn't be seen around people, and I should hide myself from the world. Or something like that. Jamie was triggered by somebody's face in their email. That's awesome. Just look at you with your face, right there in the email. So, mine was may be somewhat similar to that. I was definitely triggered by a person for just being a person, and I was like, "I'm sure you're a perfectly lovely person, but I just don't care for your personness right now." And then you see your own ridiculousness, and you're like, "Just put it aside, just centre yourself and be a fucking adult, or a professional, or whoever you're supposed to be imagining that you're being for the day." And then it just keeps coming back and you're like grrr. So, anyway, I decided to flip it into gratitude. And it was actually a real thing, right? It wasn't like I'm going to try and flip this into gratitude, or let me find a way to be grateful for this discomfort. Was I grateful for the person? Maybe. Yes, no I think I was. It was genuine gratitude that came along to me. It was kind of like, ahhh. It was an Unagi moment, for sure. Like, Unagi. Right? It was a moment of realisation and recognition, like ooh, this is good. And do you know why I realised it was good? Because of the burn. Hence the title of this live stream. Let's say it all together. Burn. Okay. Lately my voice has been doing weird things. Two days ago it broke, like a teenage boy. My voice just broke, mid live stream. It was pretty embarrassing. And now I don't know what that was. It sounded like a small piglet grunting. Okay. People copying me, says Julie. That's a definite trigger alert. Trigger alert. In fact, even today when this happened, I may or may not have audioed my friend saying, "Trigger alert." And then I felt like an idiot. Spicy salmon roll. Exactly. Unagi. I thought it was salmon skin roll. Hmm. We gotta watch some Yes Minister, and some Friends. It's obvious. Yes. Okay. Got it. On the friends and the fuckwits. So, I just 100% did flip into gratitude, and the reason for the gratitude was that I realised how good the discomfort was. It actually reminded me in that moment of the feeling, or kind of the philosophy that I have around the days when I do like six to eight hour day getting tattoo work done on me, and often it's about six hours, but the longest I've done I think is nine. So, let's say somewhere between six and eight hour sessions, where we'll have like a five minute fucking break, two or three times throughout, and that's it really. And it reminded me of that, because the way that I've worked to get through that, and even to open up and embrace it, not just get through it, has been by opening myself up to the pain, right? Like I think the first time that I did ... I mean, I had like two little tattoos. One from 20 years ago, when I was 18, and one from about 11 years ago. But they were tiny. So, then when I started doing all the big work that I've now got all over my upper body, the first one which was on my shoulder, was a five hour session. That I just found so painful, I found it so traumatic. For some reason, the next morning my gums were bleeding like a mother fucker. I felt like I'd been hit by a truck, my body was so not used to it. I was just really whacked from it for several days. But I was fine overall. It's not like I couldn't function. But it affected me. And then the next time when I came back ... And I really felt all the pain of it, right? I just found it such a painful experience, but the next time when I came back, I guess I was kind of psychologically prepared for it, and it was gonna be a longer session ... I think that was the first eight hour one, and I really just decided I'm gonna open myself up to this pain, and I'm gonna embrace the pain. And I didn't know if I'd fully decided that in advance. I know I had kind of psychologically prepped myself in advance, and thought about it. But it was within the first hour or so of that day that I noticed I was continually pulling away internally from the pain, and just kind of like we do when something triggers us online, right? Or offline. Where you're like, ugh. You wanna avoid it, or it might just be a little bit annoying like that, which is how I felt today, just a little bit annoyed. But it could be a bigger thing, and then you feel really disheartened, or really sad, or really upset or whatever it might be. And so, you pull away, right? Or you turn away, or you kind of try and withdraw and you distract yourself with other stuff. And in this case, with the tattoo thing, back then that's what I was sort of trying to do. I was trying to pull away internally. You can't pull away physically, or you're gonna screw up the fricking art work, right? And all of a sudden, I had this Unagi moment. Complete fricking hashtag Unagi. And the Unagi moment was ... and if you don't know what an Unagi moment is, then just chat amongst yourselves and figure it out. Hello. I did say trigger alert out loud. I'm definitely not as cool as I purport to be. That's for sure, right? I might walk around presenting myself to the world as somewhat of a badass. I'm pretty certain it's not true, and if I was interviewed extensively on the matter, and required to prove myself, really all I'd be able to present as evidence is probably this jacket, this gold bling-bling cushion, and my tattoos. But probably get through on that. Just a little side tip there, just so you know. Total nerd. That's the problem. Just sneaks out from time to time, and it is what it is. We all have to live with ourselves in the end. So, anyway ... Oh my fucking God. Okay, my friend, who I said trigger alert to, has messaged me saying, "Oh my fucking God", right now. It just came through them. She must've had a trigger alert as well. We'll find out later. I'm not gonna read it now. I can just see the top of it. From time to time the geekyness just slips out, but I feel like I mask it well, and nobody's really quite certain what's going on. Is she secretly like a massive bookworm nerd? Well, actually that part's true. Who sits largely at home watching old episodes of Yes Minister with her father. Well, he lives in another state, but still, on an energetic level perhaps. Or is she a total gangster badass who's just out there taking on the world, and doing whatever she wants, and making millions of dollars? Well, the millions of dollars part for sure. Gangsta badass? That's just a freaking thing that you put on. Right? It's like stepping into a performer. Oh my God, should we get back to the trigger thing in a moment and talk about something about sex for a second? Because last night I was at an event about the bedroom and the sex things, and the enlightenment things, and being more sexual and sensual, and having more pleasure, blah, blah, blah. It was amazing, by the way. But people were talking about whether or not it's okay to be a performer sexually, either to perform to your partner ... you know, like to kind of put on a show. Or performing when you're having sex with your own self, which was an interesting concept for me, because it was like, "Do I? Do I perform when I'm alone?" I actually don't think I do. I genuinely don't think I perform for my own self during sex. I don't even know if I perform for anyone else during sex. I felt a little bit bad about it. I was like, "I don't think I do put on a show. I think I'm just authentic." Which could be a good thing. But then people ... But no, performing is fine, because then people were being like, maybe it's not okay to be a performer, because they were saying it's not authentic or real. And I was still trying to assess my own sexual moves and whether or not I'm a performer. Okay, definitely have performed at times during sex. That's for sure. I feel like I need to bring out the performer more, the more that I think about it. But I was certainly feeling that there's nothing bad or wrong with being a performer during sex, or at any other time, because obviously I perform all the time, and that's really what being a badass is. It's just stepping into it. And it's part of who you are. That's just one part of you. Be all that you are. Be a performer. Be the scarlet woman. Be the quiet book nerd. Be the person who embarrassingly yells trigger alert in a public place, if need be. So, it was actual gratitude, because I suddenly realised that this opportunity had been presented to me via the gods of Facebook. I'm not sure how many of them there are. The Facebook overlords, I feel, would be probably a more appropriate way to classify those people. Rather than Facebook gods. I have to rearrange my legs. So, they had presented the opportunity for me to be triggered several times over, because I tried to ignore it, and then the stupid annoying post just popped merrily back into my feed and I had to see it again. So, I was like fine. Okay, I'll ignore it again. And then I thought about it later, and I was like, "Well, or I could be grateful." And I could imagine to myself ... I thought about the tattoo thing. I thought about how when I learn to lean into the pain of the tattooing, the long sessions, I became grateful for the way that it was strengthening me, and that's how I felt about it. In that moment, as I flipped into gratitude. I was like, yeah. This is strengthening me. This is making me into a warrior of inner power and strength, and resilience. I don't think I used to word warrior, but I did send a message to my friend. I'll check what I even said, and maybe I'll read it to you if it's not too sneaky and cheeky. Well, it's kind of boring, anyway. I said I flipped into gratitude. That was the whole message. It's very boring. It's way more interesting the way I'm telling the story here. Because I just realised that all these things come along to teach us something and to help us to grow, and to become more grounded in who we are. Right? So, maybe you see somebody's post, maybe somebody's triggered by me right now. That would be an unusual thing, and probably the first time that it's ever happened, I would imagine. Somebody should write me a letter and tell me about it, for sure. Don't worry, they already do. All the fucking time. Usually when they sign up as clients, and they tell me how much they couldn't stand me for three years prior to that. Not everyone, not everyone. Where's my comments? I'm getting no comments on my phone. Adidas and Lycra do go together. I have the matching pants for this jacket, you guys. I can go full gangsta. I wore them to a night club opening. It wasn't a night club opening, it was an app launch at Bootsy Bellows on Sunset Boulevard. A year ago. They're like 18 months old, this jacket. How embarrassing. Whatever. But, old fashion. But always fashion. There's no point in time at which the three stripes are not in. But I do have the matching pants for them. They're low rider pants though. They're super low rider. You gotta stay as upright as a pin if you wear those pants. If you bend yourself just a little bit, your whole ass is hanging out the back end, which may or may not be a good thing. But it's an annoying thing when it's a windy evening and you're trying to wear some Tonne Ford shoes with a whole bling-bling black shiny Adidas, slash Adidas. Whatever it's supposed to be, get up going on, and you've got a bunch of bling chains on, and your hair in a top knot because somebody said that it looks fancy. I'm just hypothesising. I'm not saying that that actually happened. So, anyhow, it's always a fricking opportunity to grow and become stronger, and grounded in who you are. If you ignore the triggers, when somebody triggers you ... That's right. I was talking about maybe I'm triggering somebody. I'm triggering people all the fucking time. They do seem to enjoy telling me about it. Well, sometimes my existing clients tell me the things that other people say about me, in enclosed Facebook groups or message threads, or wherever they are. And I guess shocked and appalled, and then other times people tell me themselves how much I annoy the fuck out of them for how ever many years before they fell just wildly and haplessly, and helplessly in love with me. You're welcome. I understand, because sometimes I trigger myself as well, for sure. Sometimes when I watch my own replays, and I really was in full performer mode, sometimes I smack talk myself. But in a total self love way, because I do love and accept myself. I really just nailed that shit last year, actually. After much work prior to that. So, sometimes though, I do smack talk myself. Sometimes I'm like, "Really? Like you really think that that was a smart move? Look at you. Who do you think you are?" But then I think what's happening is it's the performer within the performer, because I think when I'm smack talking myself, that actually what I'm doing is I'm kind of simultaneously playing several Seinfeld-esque type roles at one. So, kind of the voice of me that's smack talking the other version of me who was already on the live stream, that one is that new one who is doing the smack talking, is now quite impressed with her own hilarity and wittiness, and so she's becoming the performer, smack talking the other one. So, then I get super clever at telling my own previous self off. It's kind of confusing, but if you think about it, it's very logical and entirely normal, I'm sure. But anyway, I do. I'll watch my own live stream replays probably half the time, because I have no idea what I fucking said, and then I like to see the comments coming in and what people had to say that I was missing. And it's not uncommon that I'll just be like, "Oh my God, I can't even look at this. This is so embarrassing to look at." Or it's annoying. There's been times for sure, many times, where I'm like, "Would you just shut up? Why are you talking so much? Can you ever possibly get to the point?" Or if it pops on to my screen and starts talking, I'm like, "My God, she's so annoying. She just keeps talking, and talking, and talking." But I say it all with a smile, because I just still also do love it. And I accept it. And I just either way, and nevermind, I keep on allowing it out. So, there you have it. I think that's everything I came here to say. I'm not remote ... Oh my God. I've only had this one glass of wine, because I didn't even drink the wine at dinner, and I've already forgotten how to talk. I'm not ... What's happening? Told you it was topsy turvy day. I'm not remotely impressed with my own ... No, with Facebook's inability to show me the comments on my phone. It's kind of annoying having to look over here all the time. So, the driven by the burn thing was simply, it is exciting to feel the pain, I think, right? I don't know. I get off on it. Not in a sexual way. Sorry, if anybody was hoping that. Nope. Not actually. In a life way, for sure. I find it exciting and fun, and definitely there's some ego in there for sure, I would say, about being able to take it, and enjoy it, and thrive on it, and I feel very self satisfied that I know that I'm getting stronger in situations where other people would flake out, or run away, and do exactly that, and I see them do that, right? So, I feel satisfied with myself when I do like a six to eight hour session at the tattoo studio. I feel glad it's over, but I feel like I became stronger, and I feel proud of myself. And same with many situations in business and life. Many things that I've persevered through, which I just know other people wouldn't. And then I feel really good about myself. And this particular little minor situation today, which was sort of being relatively easy. I was gonna say so easy to brush aside and forget about as well, because it wasn't anything that's really even remotely connected to my world, but then it's so easy ... sort of so easy to brush aside, because really, things do keep circling back if we brush them aside when they kind of knocked on the door for a reason. And instead, I allowed myself to feel it, and allowed myself to feel the discomfort, and to feel that trigger feeling, and to feel kind of that slight annoyance, or whatever it was, and really it's all fear. If we're being triggered by something and we're feeling discomfort or annoyance, or frustration, or whatever it is, being disheartened, it's actually all fear. It's actually all ... it all boils down in the end to some sort of version of maybe I'm not good enough, maybe I couldn't do that, or be like that, or show up like that, or whatever it might be, right? I think even when we're ... Even Jamie said, she was triggered by someone's face. Where in there is there sometimes around how somebody else is showing up? And how you wanna show up, right? Just for example. So, for me, I find it really helpful and I think it was a good choice, to allow myself to then feel all of those feelings, and then to be like, "Oh, this is so good", because just like when I feel all the feelings of the tattoo work, it allows me to grow stronger, because I increase my ability to withstand that so called pain, I guess. Or I realise that it's not as painful as I thought, so I change my perceptions, I adapt, I do all these amazing things altogether. It was kind of the same thing, right? I changed my perceptions, I adapt, I felt myself grow stronger, I felt myself grow more grounded in who I was, and so instead of something that was like a burn or a pain, or a discomfort, being that, and being a supposed bad thing or a negative thing, it became a positive thing, and it became something that was exciting, and that I genuinely felt grateful for that opportunity through the day to kind of heal or shift sometimes inside of myself, and become even more connected to my own self, my own soul, my own truth about who I am and how I get to show up in the world, right? And I just think man, we have all these continual opportunities through the day and through, well, every day, and every week, and every month, and just day in and day out, to grown and to become stronger, better humans, more powerful entrepreneurs, more centred, more soul connected, et cetera. And if you allow each of those opportunities to be what they are meant to be, and what they came here to be, you become this ... Honestly, you just become an unstoppable success machine. Which I believe is how it's meant to be. I feel that that is meant to be the human experience, right? So, I don't think that my, I guess, mindset, which is something that I've cultivated to a strong level, or however you wanna term it, for many years now. I don't think that it's anything special in a sense that it's not ... it is special, and it's special to me, and it's unique, and unique to me as well, but it's available for everybody, right? Yet when I go on occasion into environments with people who are not, I'm gonna say, as committed to their growth work as myself, or my clients, or my friends, actually it tends to shock me because it's quite rare for me to really connect in a deep way, or spend an extended period of time with people who don't kind of think and grow all day, every day. And continually up-level themselves. So, obviously I would go out in the evening to places socially, or restaurants, or the beach, or an airport, or wherever. Clearly I'm around people all the time, but I would say that it's rare to be in a situation where you really hear a lot from people who are not like us, right? I don't know if you relate to this. But it's happened to me once or twice recently, and I found it quite shocking. Like eye opening, and almost like wow, I think I've become super naïve about how the world works. I think I've forgotten how little growth work the vast majority of people do, and how rare it is to actually continually up-level every single day, which is what I do, what my clients do, what my friends do. And I honestly think that 24 hours a day I'm doing mindset work and I'm up-leveling and growing. It's just become automatic, right? So, for us, if you relate, for us then every single thing that comes along, becomes a growth opportunity and a healing opportunity, and I know with my friends and with my clients, and it's like a continual conversation every day, where it's like oh my God, this happened, and I felt this way, and it was like ugh, and then it's like hmm, and what I realised is blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right? Even random shit, like little road rage, right? I don't even mean something major, or maybe running late, or okay. I'll give you an example. Last week, I was kind of snarky with the new babysitter who came along. A babysitter that I hired from an agency, and she ended up being like 20 minutes late, and I was going to a movie with my sister. And I was like, "I'm gonna miss the start of the movie." She's like ... Oh no, she was 30 minutes late by the time she got here upstairs. I kind of, I was [restrainededly 00:46:57] polite, but I kind of deliberately made my voice in a way where I showed that I was annoyed. And I knew that I was deliberately, I wanted her to know that I was annoyed at her, right? So, I was kind of being understanding, but in a snooty snort of a way. And then when I left, I felt bad about it, and I kind of ... I was really nice to her right before I left, and I sort of tried to smooth over what I felt was my own bad attitude. And now, this is an example, right? Because then I left, and so I spent the drive to the movie theatre kind of going over it in my head, and then as I walk through the car park, I audio my friend. I'm like, "Right. So, here's what happened. Do you feel that I was in a state of ego? Or do you feel that it's fair enough for me to show my boundaries, and show what's acceptable to me when somebody's late? But then again, here's why I would be compassionate to her understanding of her being late, because of whatever such and such reason that I was giving her kind of like an out for being late." She wasn't just randomly late. There was like a whole confusion thing that had happened. But it ended up being probably by the time I'd gone back and forth on audios with my friend about this, and then I spoke with my sister about it as well, while we had dinner, or while we had a drink or whatever. It ended up being probably 30 minutes of an analysis around this situation, which was not like fucking naval gazing, right? It was healing and correcting and understanding something like was I in ego? Or this is a trait that I didn't really feel that was attractive in myself, and then I was like, "Hmm, I notice that I do that from time to time." I used to do it a lot. I've shifted it massively, but let's say that you wait for ages in a queue, and then you get to the front of the queue, and you just kind of deliberately want that person in the checkout, the checkout person, to know that you're shitty about it, right? And that this is not okay, and I'm important, and I shouldn't have had to wait. It's a very common thing that you see people do all the time. I very rarely do it at all anymore, but I definitely used to, and I see it a lot. I see it with people boarding planes, is another one. If there's been some sort of hold up, and so then I talked about that, and I kind of processed it, and I'm like, "Hmm, do I still do that? Because it's definitely not a trait that I desire to keep in myself if I do that." And it was just kind of this whole thing, and then it brought up something in my friend. And so then we spoke about that, and I don't know if it was that situation, or some other sort of similar, pretty low key situation, but recently I found myself saying to someone, "You know, this is not normal that people don't have hiccups in their day, or just random little disruptions or triggers, or they feel a bit bad about their own behaviour, and then they're not sure whether or not they should feel bad about it", or whatever. But they don't then go an have an audio conversation with a friend about it, and turn it into a high level consciousness conversation. And then have all these breakthroughs and a-has and then connect it into some other part of their life, and then have a massive fucking revolution about something huge because you pulled at that one little string. That's not what people do. But that's what we do all day, every day. Every burn, every pain, every discomfort, every disruption, every little trigger gets turned into growth. And so, what I've found is that just through the process of being this person, that over the years, it's become, for a while now, a long time now I would say, like all day every day mindset work. Everything is continually shifting and growing, and evolving, and the smallest things get to become kind of little threads that can be pulled on, and undo the biggest things. And sometimes it feels, I guess, kind of relentless or exhausting, or sometimes you just think, "Man, can I ever just move on and not analyse or seek to understand every single thing that comes along?" But it's not really about that. It's about being so committed to growth. Allison says, "That's the exact sort of friendships I want for me now." Well, I feel that you'll totally create that and call that in through Rich Hot Empire. And that's why I created the inner circle for as well. Not specifically continual shifting and up-leveling and analysis of little day to day situations, but that sort of environment, right? Like a women's circle, or it's like women, men, whatever. But a circle of like-minded individuals who are connected by ... well, a like-minded desire, right? To continually grow and evolve. 100% of my friendships are like that now. I just can't even imagine a friendship that would be different. Yes, it's about sometimes just hanging out and being silly, and having fun, or whatever. Or just sometimes it's just kind of sharing what's going on, and connecting in that way. But honestly, every single thing that causes any, either of us, whoever's in the relationship, any sort of disruption or feeling of, "Oh, I don't feel quite in alignment now", or I feel like maybe that wasn't the best choice, or was I coming from this place? And what do you think? It's just continual discussion and continual evolution and growth. So then, and that's exactly how it is in the inner circle, and there's a few inner circle people in here so you know this, right? But with all of my clients as well, in Rich Hot Empire, which you're in obviously Allison, it's a version of that. Julie says, "It's 24/7, even when I look like I'm doing nothing, I'm doing everything." Exactly. Right? Like I could be standing, waiting for something at the post office, or ... I usually wouldn't do that, so I'd send Serafina. But if I was, right? Or wherever I am, at a store or something, or pumping gas, or I don't know, getting changed in the gym, and you just continually kind of creating your life in your mind. And then on occasion, you go into an environment with normal people, not just okay, passing through the airport or whatever. But where you're actually listening to people who are not like that, and hearing how they do life, and I do find it really shocking. Honestly, I do. I find it kind of like that, is how I feel. I kind of feel like, oh my God. How do you even live? And I guess I logically know that the way we think and do life is so different, but maybe I didn't realise it's so different, because I think you just adapt to, of course I'm gonna turn everything into an exercise and a lesson around alignment. What else would I do, right? Of course every single thing that occurs or happens in my life is monetizable, if I want it to be, right? I don't take every single tiny thing in my life and turn it into content, or turn it into money, but a pretty good percentage. Of course, every random story, whether it's a funny story, or a silly story, or a an up-level story, whatever, of course that can be content. And money as well, right? So, I don't know, it's just ... I just think I'm so fucking happy to be the person that I am, and I'm so fucking happy to have created a community around me of like-minded individuals as well, because I think it would sound crazy if you were trying to explain this stuff to anybody else out there. And of course, that's that's why many entrepreneurs end up alone. Hello, Sally. Hello, Kyra. I see you jumping on. Jamie says, "This reminds me of the beginning of our call on Tuesday." I'm in such a rambly mode. The live stream on Facebook, on my laptop computer over here says that only three people have been reached so far, from this live stream. I feel that that's quite a bunch of lies, actually. Because there's definitely like 28 people who are on right now live and there's been tonnes more before. So, my inner circle, if you don't know ... Okay, that silver cushion was not supposed to be on screen. That was not part of my visuals that I decided. I wanted it behind my back. Let's fix that up. The inner circle is open, by the way, which is my private client, 12 month ongoing one on one mentoring. I have been actively promoting that for two days now, and I've had some amazing badass people reaching out about that. And starting to say yes as well. So, this is a really, really exciting time for me, because my inner circle is ... well, it's my most inner circle. My innermost circle, and it's exciting to really put some focused attention into the growth of the inner circle, for this current time. And just watch the badassery rise. It is completely unlimited one on one access to me. It is the hottest and most badass mastermind in the world. Created by me, for driven entrepreneurs, creators, the crazy ones who just want more. And it's really the kind of thing to have an individual conversation about. So, there's not a whole lot more that I'm gonna say about it right now. If you'd like to know what it's like to mentor with me at the highest one on one level, then the best thing to do is ... Actually, you can click on the cover photo, I think. Let me just double check. You can go on the cover photo of this page, or my personal page, yeah. And if you click on that, there's a little overview description. I'll even put a version of it here into a comment here. But really, you're just gonna message me, okay? You're just gonna send me a private message on my personal Facebook is best. Not this one ideally. I'm live streaming from my business page right now. But I do take messages on the business page, I just prefer them on the personal page. I prefer to have my personal conversations on my personal page. Send me a message if you'd like to know more about the inner circle. I will send you a written overview that explains what it's about and how it all works, and what you get. Largely, you get being in my energy. You get me, you get coming into that space and that environment. You also get a tonne of other things, including amazing retreats and the next one is coming up in July. And then there's a video, or a couple videos even, where I talk about it more, and some other things that you can look at. But you can send me a message about it, and I'll get you all the details. So, I wanted to tell you about that. Here's a small written overview. I'm popping it into the comment now. I really like the way this set looks actually, on my computer by the way. I should sit here on this couch more often. I've got so many cool bling-bling couches in this house. I've got two more really bling-bling couches way over there. So, right here behind this phone screen in my kitchen, and this is the studio, as you know. The throne's right there. And then, through the other room is a massive lounge. The big lounge. The main lounge, downstairs lounge. That has two hot as fuck couches on it. And this massive big painting that's over there, is supposed to sit above one of them, and I'm not sure why it's not up there. And then there's another whole lounge room upstairs which nobody ever uses at all. Lounge room, living room, whatever it is. Anyway. I have the low down on all my living areas. And now you have the low down on the inner circle. It's in the page comment there. That's a small low down. If you want the whole low overview, you gotta message me about that. All right. I could ramble on and on all evening. Do I have anything else to say? Do you have anything else you'd like me to say? Tell me something interesting. Everything gets to be turned into a story about alignment. Everything gets to be turned into growth. That's really what driven by the burn meant, when I divinely had that title for a live stream given to me, whilst in the bathroom. It was really just that everything gets to be turned into growth, and that I think if you embrace the discomfort or even pain, and you see it as purposeful, which it absolutely is and can be, then it becomes exciting. And that, to me, is kind of not even about the outcomes, right? Because the outcome of shifting through discomfort and pain, and triggers, or whatever it is, the outcome is actually like fucking abundance and the ability to receive. The outcome can be phenomenal, right? And absolutely will be, and it will connect into all areas, but for me, what's probably more exciting than that, to be honest, what I'm really driven by is not the outcome of getting through a period of growth, or discomfort, or pain, or whatever it might be. It's actually the feeling that I get from being in that moment, right? Where I'm experiencing the so-called pain, and I'm like, "Oh my God", and I'm okay with it. I'm not only okay with it, but I've actually found a way to thrive on it, and to enjoy it. You know, it could sound a little bit masochistic? Or sadistic? Which ones the one that's to yourself? I don't know. I'm not up with my pain words, even though I'm driven by pain, or driven by purposeful pain. Right? So, it sounds a little bit like that. It sounds a little bit like ... trying to get off on pain for no reason, or something like that. I'm waiting to see if somebody tells me what word it is here in the comments. But it's not that. It's abour realising that these things generally are sent to serve us, and for us to grow, and that it's actually only positive. You know, I think that we could really reframe the concept of pain and discomfort, and struggle, and realise that it's not a bad thing. It's not something to be scared of. No, it doesn't mean that it's gonna suddenly feel comfortable, or that if something feels painful that it will all of a sudden not feel painful. It's about realising that pain, purposeful pain ... it hurts, but then it feels better than what it hurts, right? It hurts so good. And I genuinely believe that. So, you can be feeling the pain and you're in the pain, but you're like, it's so good. It's doing me so much good, right? Same as working out. It's a really obvious example of that. Like, oh my God, I'm loving that I'm feeling this so much. Like oh my God. Fuck, I can't keep going, but it's so good. It hurts so good. And you know that you're growing, and you know that you're becoming stronger. So, to me that's what it's all about, and frankly I'm really not interested in working with, or even collaborating, or communicating with anybody who would think that pain is something to be avoided, or that struggle is something to be avoided, or the discomfort is something to be avoided. To me, that's some of the most exciting stuff in the world. It's where you really have the opportunity to experience what it really means to be human. To experience growth, and to experience the incredible rush and the incredible power that does come from overcoming adversity, or looking I guess, your inner demons, or your inner insecurities in the eye, and pushing on regardless, on the path of alignment. And I think maybe the final thing I wanna leave you with ... Alignment itself is such an interesting term that I feel like very few people understand. Alignment doesn't mean you're bouncing around on a fucking marshmallow cloud with unicorns, sitting by your side, and everything's la. Alignment is continual growth, right? And in fact, we're never fully in alignment. We're always slightly off course, and just adjusting, adjusting, adjusting, kind of like how a plane is never exactly on target for reaching it's destination, but then it does. It ultimately reach there, because it's continually aligning to the destination. So, that's one thing about alignment. But also, the process of alignment itself is one that inherently contains and includes discomfort, and scary times, or confronting times. Or things that are thrown up at us to kind of test us and to help us to become stronger, and to help us become better equipped for the journey ahead, right? If you wanna create an amazing life, and you wanna forge ahead with all of the things that you have inside of you, you're going to need to have certain skills for that. You're going to need to be a person different to the other people out there. You're going to need to be able to handle, or endure, or overcome, but I believe also thrive on things that other people would run from. And it really is a topic that I feel so passionately about, because I think that what actual pain is, in the sense of how most people would define the word pain, like what actually would fucking be painful is living your life in a way where you're not willing to face into adversity, or to face into discomfort, or to face into that growth because oh, it's gonna hurt. Or it's gonna feel uncomfortable, so no, I'll stay over here and stay in the safe zone. Or stay in the comfort zone, or whatever it is. And then okay, look how that life ends up turning out. That looks fucking painful to me. That looks painful in the sense of what people think pain is. Actual pain, what I really believe pain is, in the way we've been talking about it, is so exciting, and it's so fulfilling, and it's so rewarding, and it's just like yeah, I'm doing this thing. I'm really in this life thing, and I'm fucking doing it. So, there you go. I'm gonna go and get more up in my life thing right now, which sounds really weird. I don't even know what it means, but I'm gonna go find something else that I'm gonna go do now, so thank you so much for being here. I feel like it was extra rambly for sure. I'm not sure if it was the change of scenery, or the jacket, or the wine, or the weird experience with the ribs. But whatever it was, it turned out exactly as it was meant to be, because it's always perfect. Everything is always perfect. And as it's meant to be. Which is another reminder when these things come along. Okay. Thanks for watching. Thanks for watching, replay if you're in replay. Let me know if you are. Leave me a comment. I always like to look through my comments afterwards, so say something to me, let me know did this impact you? Did it give you something? Share with me what that was. Have an amazing, amazing rest of the day. I hope you get served up some really good fucking purposeful pain. Some massive triggers that are gonna piss you right off, and then you can sort that shit out, then you're gonna become stronger, and you're gonna join me as a freaking Adidas warrior. And tell me all about it. And if you wanna join me in my inner circle, the most ... the most? The hottest and most badass mastermind in the world for creators, entrepreneurs, crazy ones, message me about mentoring with me one on one in my inner most inner circle. I will send you all the details. Message me on my personal page. Don't forget. Life is now, press play. Bye.

Nailed it. Nailed it. Yo, hello people of the internet. Hang on. I thought I freaking nailed it. Where is my best siding at? Maybe that's it. Maybe that's it. Hang on. All right, that looks terrible. What if we sat on the grass? How do you feel about that? Where's my best siding? What if we put the light on? That did ... No, nothing at all. I already did this whole 360 before I pressed Go Live. That's super dark. That's a little bit lighter. That's a breezy. I really wanted to livestream of the beach. I feel certain that if I went and sit on the grass over there, I'm gonna look more fabulous. So we're gonna do that. Currently I'm sitting on top of the table. I'm on a pick-nick table. This is how I do. There seems to be some mushrooms growing over there. I'm not sure if they're edible or not. Side note. So I had my hair done. So it seems like it would be selfish to not livestream afterwards. Because I feel confident to show my face to the internet again. My hair was looking max level skanky. I didn't get it done for like seven weeks from travelling so much. Okay, we can sit on the ground. Well, now I'm more ... That's not working either, is it? This is a dilemma, you guys. Oh, was that the moment right there? I'm gonna tell you how to let it be so fucking easy, that you'll be wondering what the hell you are even thinking or doing with your life previously. Okay, there's literally nowhere where I have good lighting. I'm just sitting on the ... Oh, maybe that's it. I'm just on the grass doing circles on my bottom like a toddler wearing a diaper just spinning around. I'm spinning around. Get out of my way. I know you're feeling it 'cause you like it like this. Not like that. I'm breaking it down. That's it. Okay. It was a team effort. We did it together. Thank you, everybody. Now we just have one more small problem, which is that now we have a leaning tower of tripod situation. What do you think we need? Should we build a small canoe with some bark? I'm crafty as fuck, you guys. I didn't like the dark roots, It was looking brassy. What just happened? I just nailed the lighting, and now it's gone. Jana, you're the sweetest. And thank you for using the dancing emojis. Do you know that I had a small moment of panic when I went to Go Live just now. Because the dancing emojis which everybody knows is my favoritest emoji of all the emojis, they were not even in my ... You know your little panel that you've got of your most frequently used emojis? And so do you know what that means? That means I've been absolutely flaking out on proper emoji use. Maybe I'll go back to that table over there where I was before. I'm gonna tell you something that's embarrassing for me. And it's gonna make you shake your head at me in despair, although perhaps you'll understand. I was over at this table over here earlier, and I was ready to livestream. And I'd felt that I'd nailed the lighting situation. And then I saw that there was a chick sitting on the grass not far away, and I was like, "Well, then I'm gonna filter myself a bit, 'cause she's gonna hear me carrying on and waving my arms in the air like a crazy person." And I thought I'll end up being self-conscious and not livestream properly. So on the one hand you could say what a wuss I am. But on the other hand you could say that I'm certainly considerate of her, 'cause maybe she wanted to have a nice nap on the grass and not listen to me carrying on. Okay. This could be it. Now the thing is, I refuse to sit ... This is a pick-nick table. There's no fucking way I'm sitting on the chair when I could sit on the table. I just feel better when I'm above other people. You know, table sense, not necessarily anything else. Okay. Are we ready now? Do you think we can settle in? Got grass all over me now. Hope you guys appreciate it. So the beach is right there though, if you don't know the Gold Coast. If you do know the Gold Coast, you'll know where I am and you'll probably come to hang out with me. Don't, 'cause I'm gonna livestream and then go and do many important things. Tell me before you come down and hang out with me. Don't creep up on me. Anyway, the beach is like 20 metres or maybe 50 yards. I don't know what a yard. I'm just making up shit that sounds good. It's very fucking close. I wanted to go and sit on the beach for you all, because I thought it would be a beautiful background for you. And I'm super kinda that way. But it was so freaking windy that I probably would've been blown to Kansas if I would've sat there. And it would've ruined my hair. And you wouldn't have been able to hear me either. Okay. I don't know why I just got my laptop out like I was about to present a slideshow. But that's what I just did. I have just been at the hair salon for four hours, or however fucking long it takes to achieve this level of fabulousness, which is roughly 38 years and four hours. Because really the fabulousness comes from my energy. Mt energy. It just come on out of me. It just splays on out. I don't know about, "Splays." It sounds kinda gross. Anyway, I do nothing at all to make the money I make. I just open my mouth and things pop out of it. And I put no preparation time into anything even if I do an entire three day event, I just show up and see what pops out. But then on the other hand, i prepared for 38 fucking years to show up this badass. How long have you been preparing for? Just a reminder? You've got all that knowledge and power inside of you already. So what I did though whilst I was at the hair salon was firstly fucked around for a bit on Facebook and Instagram, because that's basically a rule of life, and I'd already done my journaling and my blogging and that sort of thing for the day. But then, then I did something very interesting, [Jamie Jod 00:06:15], very interesting. And everybody else too. I just point out Jamie, 'cause she's the most recent one to comment. Okay. You know when you take a drink of your water and you're like, "I think I've been reusing the same water bottle for too long," because I can smell something that smells like, I guess, my own saliva, is the truth of the matter. 'cause they get the [inaudible 00:06:39] bit. And then I have a $6000 dollar fucking water filter at home that is God's gift to the Earth apparently. And so I refill the bottles. Is my skin fabulous from all the water? Or is it from the yoga? Or is it from the journaling? Or is it because I chose to age backward? Who knows. But the water people will say for sure that it's the water. But it's getting that funny sort of smell. I think we're gonna have to throw it out after this. Somebody remind me. Keep accountable, 'cause it's quite disgusting otherwise. I just realised I made my life so fucking easy that it's actually a little bit scary. It is nasty. Yeah. How embarrassing. I shouldn't admit this stuff on the internet. I should maintain a professional visage at all times. I'm actually a little bit ... I feel destabilised by how easy I just made my life. I feel a little worried. I feel like a kite that's been snapped free in the breeze. And I haven't even lived into what I just did yet. But I thought I should share it with. I can't stop touching my hair, because it's so silky. Look how silky it is. If you were here, you would be stroking it like a kitten, depending on who you are might be nice for everybody. And yes, I will tell you about the easy thing. I feel like I could build it up into quite a story, but there's nothing come out of me to do that. So I might just get to the point and tell you, and then we'll see what else happens after that. So I keep lists, and I feel embarrassed to admit it. I'm Katrina Ruth and I have lists of things that I never action. I have always been a list making type of person since I was a kid. I would ... This is embarrassing. I would come home from school when I was about seven or eight years old, and I would make a list of everything that I had to do that afternoon after school, like whatever homework, maybe a chore or something that my mum had given me. And then I would even put on the list kind of like fun or creative things that I wanted to do just for myself. I always had a side hustle. I mean as a child, you should always have a side hustle. So my side hustle as a child typically selling shit to people. I used to take all my broken old toys and also just random bits of half eaten candy, I'm not even kidding, that I would smuggle away from parties or something. And I would take them to school and I would sell them on the school yard. And then I got shut down. The store of Katrina Ruth got shut down. It was a black market operation from the get-go. And the principle of the school shut me down. And I'm pretty sure I got reported to my mother. And yes, that was the end of that until I did it again and then got caught again. And that cycle basically perpetuated itself until like I say, I stopped going to school. Interestingly though, I was such a good girl. I was such a rule follower. I really was. Except for when it didn't suit me. Which is roughly how I play life these days. I'm actually the most obedient civilised, well-conditioned member of society that you could ever care to encounter, except for when it doesn't suit me. And then I do what I fucking want. But from the outside looking in, if you were to encounter me in the normal day-to-day operations of your life, you would think, "What a well-behaved lady about town." I'm sure you would. You would probably label me as gentile. Particularly if I had long sleeves on and you couldn't see. I guess the tattoos add a level of rebelliousness. But I tend to think ... I tend to feel like nobody can notice the tattoos anyway, 'cause to me they look very normal. I don't feel like it at all stands out. So probably nobody's even aware of it. I'm very proper is what I'm trying to say, except for when it's not proper to be proper, and then I'm supremely improper. But nobody notices, because I've always been exceptionally good at selling to people. And one of the things that maybe you didn't realise about being a fantastic sales person is that you can convince people that you're anything, because you almost believe it yourself. Or you do believe it yourself. You become the thing. So people believe that I'm an upstanding, well-about town gentile type of a lady. I am upstanding. I [inaudible 00:10:49]. And I'm upstanding as far as the morals and laws of society anyhow, just not I guess other areas. But I've always been very good at ... I don't know. I don't do it on purpose. I'm not trying to manipulate or trick people. But I'm thinking back to when my teachers always thought I was just the best most obedient, subservient, good student. Because I kinda was. And I always got the top available mark on everything academically, because manifestation. I never studied for it. I just ... Well, I have like a really high IQ. I do, it's true. But it runs in my family. And it's also just how it was in my family. So my parents were just like, "Well, of course you'll be the top of the class. That's just how it is as. It's who we are." So then as a kid, you're kinda like, "Oh, okay." And you just expect to get the top grades, and so then you do. And so then because you kind of on the surface of it, you appear to be this very subservient, well-behaved child about town. I supposed I wasn't a lady about town back then. Then what happens is, you build up a perception of yourself. You build up a reputation. I built my reputation from an early age of being a good girl, a square. And I am a good girl. I'm not trying to say I'm not. I'm very good when it suits me. So basically, I'm getting there. And I'm gonna tell you about the easy thing, and I'm gonna. I thought I was gonna spit it out in tow minutes, but it's turned into a fabulous story, so I'm happy about that. Okay, send more of the cat stickers. If you see where on the right-hand side of your screen is the little emojis. And then just to the inside left of your little emojis, you've got some cat stickers. You can hit that sticker button, and you can choose some cool shit to send at me that's, "1% [inaudible 00:12:36]. She'll press play. Sure it's about me." It really smells gross, but I'm very thirsty. There it is. There's the Press Play signs. They're so cool, aren't they? Where's my banner by the way? I had the freaking Katrina Ruth Show banner on this, and now it's disappeared I just noticed. Whatever. Yeah, so you build up a reputation. And I feel like once people see you as a certain ... Once people have labelled you, and they see you as a certain type of a thing, then it's maybe difficult, or it could be potentially difficult ... Oh, it is there, is it? The banner? Cool. Thanks [Brittany 00:13:11]. It's potentially difficult ... You'll only get the emojis if you're on your cellphone. Potentially difficult to change that. I guess you would have to consciously do that. But the point is, even though I broke min rules from an early age at school, such as continually selling on the school yard, I did get told off and shut down for it. But then I would always get away with it again. Because overall the way that I was categorised as far as the academic people were concerned was, "Good girl," at school, "Square." And then even in later years since schooling, like my final two years of school. And I just rocked out all my grades and all my classes. And I came like top three point something percent in the country. But I barely went to class at all, and I'd continually broke all the rules. But it was like nobody noticed. It was like they were all blind to it, because I had so effectively created my persona. All right? So I don't know what you wanna take from that. But be a badass and people will think you're a badass, because you then created yourself into a badass. But are you really a badass or not? Who really knows. And it doesn't matter. It's all perception. So that was one of the side hustles as an eight year old. And then my other side hustle was, I had membership clubs, which I would charge people $5 to join my member. It was a one-time fee. It was the best fucking deal offer ever. There was no repeating monthly fee, I should've thought about. It was very non-entrepreneurial of me to only charge a one-time fee of $5 I suppose. But I guess nobody else was selling memberships at that age. And people couldn't just get the $5 from their parents though. They had to present to me a list of how they'd earned the $5 by doing chores. The rules were ... I mean, I wouldn't follow the rules myself. But I will make them up for other people no problem. The rules were, you could do one task that gave you a full dollar, like washing a car. You were allowed to get a dollar for washing a whole car. But you couldn't go around washing five cars. You had to prove your metal. So one task I would allow them to do where they got a dollar. And then the rest had to be 10 and 20 cent tasks such as unstacking the dishwasher, or whatever it was. And then I would peruse the list. And basically decide if this person had the work ethic to be in my club. It's pretty much exactly how I take inner-circle subscriptions to this day. All right. I just want to know if people have different moral and ethical compass that I have around the hustle. So that's how I made my money. That was my side hustle. Well, that was several of them. I was also selling my own drawings door-to-door, and daffodils, and oranges and lemons. But that was since I was three years old. And then by the time I was 11, I was an Avon lady and I was making a $1000 a week. When it's in the blood, it's in the blood. But my point is that I would come home from school and I would make a list of all the things that I had to do that afternoon that I wanted to do and chose to do for my hustle as well as my homework, et cetera. But I would make the list and I would include like 20 things on the list that I'd already done. I would just make shit up and put on it on the list and cross it off straight away. And I still do that. I still make lists, and I'll add like a whole bunch of random shit onto the list like, "Sit in park and do a livestream." I'm like, "Oh, well I did that already. Tick." And I'll just add it on for the fun of it. But then the things that I put on the lists that I haven't already done ... Who does this? Who makes lists at all? Am I the only person in this sad world ... No. Am I the only sad person in this amazing world who's still addicted to making lists? Because for me, the things that I put on the list that have not already been done, it's taken me many years to finally acknowledge this. Like 30 fucking years plus. I never do them. I just never do them. [Rache 00:16:45], would you do the things on your lists though? I repeatedly make lists. I like to organise my lists. I'm a fantastic list organiser. I will write and rewrite the thing till kingdom come. And I will merrily continue on my life path without referring back to the list, or doing a single item from the list, except for when I refer back to the list in order to reorganise the list. And then I feel really good about myself, 'cause for that one moment in time I'm like, "Maybe I am an organised person who plans things." I don't know why I even wanna be. I don't actually even wanna be an organised person who plans things. I am full conscious of the fact that I built a multi million dollar empire online by being chaotic as fuck, and surrendering to that. So why would I wanna be organised? But I think it's like an emotional detoxification when I write the list. Okay, what's that person doing behind me? Julian says, "Just so you know, when in horizontal view, the banner is completely covered by the comment box." Is it bottom-right? We're trying to figure out where we wanted this banner to be. We're just moving the banner all around the screen from every livestream to livestream. So thank you for that, and I'll check it out later. Well, there's my confession for you. And then here's the problem though, like on the one hand I'm like, well it's good to get it out of head so I'm not carrying it around in my head, so I write, get that shit down like an emotional detoxification like I said. But then on the other hand, I've got to admit to you, it feels like it's hanging over me a little bit, right? It feels like I'm never fully maybe relaxed into my flow. Well, that's not true. When I'm in Super Flow, I couldn't give a fuck whether the world is turning or not. I'm just creating content and doing stuff. Or even like when I'm working out, or when I'm hanging out with my badass clients or friends, I'm not aware or conscious of anything. But it's more so on a day like today, where I'm in the hair salon for four hours. And like hello, I don't think I need to say this, but clearly I'm not sitting in the hair salon reading fucking magazines. Clearly I'm sitting there with my laptop like a normal human person making money. Hello to everybody who I was messaging and going back forth with about Rich Hot Empire over the last few hours. [Mim 00:18:50], if you're watching, you can pop that Rich Hot Empire comment in right now. Rich Hot Empire, six weeks 101 with me started yesterday. Our live call is tonight my time. You can still join. It's the final chance to work with me in Rich Hot Empire until well until the end of this year. Six weeks unlimited one-on-one with me. After this closes in the next few days, then the only way to work with me one-on-one will be in the inner-circle. So Rich Hot Empire is fucking amazing. The money results, the alignment results, the dream, life and business creation results that my clients consistently get with this programme every time I run it are beyond. Check out what [00:19:25] just put in the pinned comment. I don't know exactly what it says, but it will say something like, "Rich Hot Empire. Work with me for six weeks one-on-one so we can build your soulmate [inaudible 00:19:33]. Create your low right through to high-end empire to build your multi seven figure and beyond online business doing what you love, just like I've done, just like all my clients do." And you literally get unlimited access to me when you're working with me at the private client level. So message me now on my personal Katrina Ruth page if you wanna get in before the doors close. Like I said, final chance to work with me in this sort of short-term intensive, rapid result way. After this closes, it's only gonna be inner-circle, which is a $72,000 investment currently. And at some stage of course I'll do something shorter again, but no current plans to. I'm shutting it down after this and focusing on existing clients and inner-circle growth as well. So you can message me about that after this, 'cause I wanna get back to this conversation and talk about the list thing, and how I just did like a big release of everything. And who that's freed me up creatively to make a fuck-load more money and content. So anyway, yeah, on a day like today I'm at the hairdresser and I'm like ... I kind of already did ... I'm very good at ignoring lists, which is an important trait to cultivate in yourself, by the way. Because I consistently ignore all my tasks and the things that I think I should be doing, or have previously told myself I should be doing. Because I consistently ignore shit that I put on to list, I have instead created literally thousands of pieces of content on the internet, launched over 300 products and programmes online. I drafted in badass high-level [inaudible 00:20:56] client. I just posted today's testimonial from a Rich Hot Empire client, Jessica who did the January run of Rich Hot Empire, did 30K in January, 43K in February, 45 in March, and has just hit her first $100,000 mark in April. That's the sort of results clients are getting from their Rich Hot Empire. And of course, she's gone into the inner-circle because of that after Rich Hot Empire. So anyway, those sort of clients though, they come into my life and become part of the norm for me, in large part because I've spent the past decade plus ignoring shit that I put on the list, and instead showing up for my content, showing up for my purpose work, showing up for my own inner-work, showing for my own flow, taking care of myself, whatever I need to do to be in that super flow state. And to unleash my message and to speak into your soul. That is my number task and job every single day is to be in my soul, to be in my super flow, and to let what's inside of me out for you, right? Not to freaking work my way through a list. So just a little reminder there, if you feel like undisciplined, or you're undisciplined, or disorganised, or you're not getting your shit done. Just step back for a moment and be like, "Okay, but what are the big things that are gonna move the needle?" Because I know for me and for my clients it's typically inner-work, messaging, sales activity and your own self-care and getting yourself into flow. If you did those four things every day and nothing else, you're gonna build a freaking empire. That's how I do it, that's how my clients do it. Yet still, I've had all this shit on the list. And like well, some of it might be to do with P.S. stuff, getting my name out there in a bigger way, random things that maybe I want to improve on my social media, or on my website, different cool ideas that I have to leverage existing platforms. Sometimes when clients tell me awesome results, I just kind of note it down on the list like a little reminder for later, "Oh, we should do a little testimonial piece about that," and then it just goes on the list. Or like personal errands or whatever. But I have probably 50 random things there all together. And I just consistently don't fucking do them, because I'm just not a person that works by sitting down and working my way through a checklist. It's not who I desire to be. And fundamentally, I don't believe that it's how it needs to be. However for whatever reason, I'd still been telling myself this story that if I don't write this stuff down and kinda keep it somewhere, then I'm gonna forget important things, and it's kind of like a fear mentality, right? Kind of telling myself that I might miss out on something that's gonna make a difference in my business or life. So today I just thought, "Fuck this shit." I was thinking about the fact ... Gross water. Gross water break. I was thinking about the fact that there's like these two or three things creatively that I've consistently not been quite getting around to doing. Like I would do them, but I'm inconsistent with it. I'm motherfucking consistent with the things that I just said, right? Like I do my daily Ass-Kickery blog, 365 days a year. Zero exceptions. I've done it for decades. I typically write two or three blogs a day. Sometimes I post them all, sometimes not. I do my sales activity every day, I do my inner-work every day, I do my fitness and self-care every day. It's all just so automated. Where I wanna step up further is around creating videos as opposed to Facebook Live. Specific short videos created into kind of like ... I don't know, really engaging, either entertaining or inspiring pieces that could be shared and re-shared and that sort of thing for YouTube and Facebook. That's one of my projects that I really give more time and attention to. And then the other one is publishing more books. I'm already writing all the content for the books, but it's kind of just being collected in my Dropbox, just endless reams of articles, poems, mantras, affirmation, stuff that's not being collated. And so I noticed today I was like, it feels like ... And tell me if you've ever felt this way. It feels like I can't get to that shit yet, because I've got all this stuff hanging over me that I've been telling myself I need to do. Even though fundamentally, I do not believe that success comes from a list. And I logically actually legitimately know that I don't need to do it. But yet, because I've been carrying it around so to speak. Like lugging it around on a list, it's kinda weighing me down, or detracting from me energetically. And finally today, and I must admit I've done this before, and I've had the list then creep up again. It's kind of like when you do a Spring cleaning at home or ... Or I wouldn't do that. I'd pay somebody to do it. But when you do something like that, and then the clutter kinda creeps up again. But today I was just like, "Fuck this shit. I'm getting rid of all of that." And I spent probably 90 minutes, and I worked my way through every single item on the list, and either sent it straight off to a team member. So [00:25:18], you now understand why you're getting gajillions of small emails from me today with random comments and little memories. And like, "You should do this." And, "There's this happening. Let's do this." So I either like sent it off to team members. Or for things that weren't really ... Like for that, that were more to do with me. Or that just felt like, "Uh, it's not actually relevant right now." I popped it into my Google Calendar as a reminder, like decide when that would get to be action, put it into my Google Calendar as a reminder. So that that way it will send me an email notification on the day that I chose for it to do that. And got down to nothing. I've got my list down to absolutely deleted. Completely stripped off the list. And then I sat there, and this was just now. I currently just come out of the hair salon before I started this. Hair salon's right there. Beach there. Hair salon there. My house over there. Now you're fully orientated. So I jumped out of the salon, drove down here we are. And so that was only less than an hour ago. But I just sat there for a moment before I finished up and paid, and left. And I was like, "Huh, interesting." What I noticed is there's no more excuses left for why I don't have time to make these cool videos I wanna make, or to bring my books to life in a bigger way. Well actually, the book thing's been fully actioned now, because part of what I did just now as go back and forth with Cat Ninja Mim, who's in charge of collating, putting all my written content together into some sort of sequential order for my different poetry volumes, affirmation books, and my actual real books and that sort of thing. So fully passed over all my thoughts and ideas to her that I had sort of had on a list still, 'cause I was like, "Oh, I'll talk to Mim about this once we get past the initial phase that we're working on." I was like, "No, I'll just send it all through to her." So that's done. The book side of it's done. The only thing I still need right now to continue my book business the way I wanted to is I only gotta find a new cover designer, 'cause my cover designer had a change of freaking purpose and stopped designing books covers, which sucked 'cause he's amazing. But good for him in his purpose work. And that's it. And so it was this feeling of, "Oh shit, I just made it so easy." Like I literally stripped my whole list down to nothing, meaning that now as of this moment right here, there is nothing I have to do. I have nothing on my life list. Yes, I have upcoming things in my calendar, like reminders or well, appointments. I have very minimal appointments in my life in general. But I have upcoming reminders, like I know I popped in the calendar for later this week, "Book in for a dental checkup." That sort of shit. And a few little reminders for things to do with stuff I do wanna change in my business. But there's nothing that's a list. There's nothing that's like, when I go into my day ... When I continue on with my day now or go into my day tomorrow, you know that feeling that you carry around, fears of like, "Fuck, I've got all this shit that I've gotta do." And then I'm like, "Done," or then I can relax, or then I can be fully present. Or then I can have time for my purpose work. There's nothing there. It's just me and the freaking air around me, right? Now I'm gonna give myself massive credit here to say, like I did say before that I've been fucking amazing at consistently creating my purpose work into the world day in and day out for many years now. Even while having an idea in my head that there's other things that I've gotta do. I've been really good at putting first thing first. It's probably one of the best life lessons I ever received. And if you haven't kind of figured that life less out, figure it out right here right now. I learned it from Stephen Covey. I think learned it even earlier than that. But I religiously read Seven Habits of Highly Effective People over and over again when I was about 22. I think I read it for the first time when I was like 12. So 26 years ago. But I remember religiously reading his book Seven Habits, as well as his other book, First thing's First when I was 22. I was supposed to ... This is another example. I was supposed to be doing fitness management, but I hacked the job and figured out how to do the 38 hour job in like three hours a week. And since then I was reading and journaling. Much like back in the school days with getting the top grades. And I really just implemented that, and I have ever since. I've been really good at first thing's first. And I just don't react. I don't react to other people, even clients and friends. I don't react to a list. I don't react to anything until I do my sole work in the morning, I do my journaling work, I do my blog, I do whatever writing's coming through me. Even now, right? There's other things potentially I could be doing rather than this livestream. Well not really, since I just deleted them all. But there's a few little things that I know that I will do today. But I'm doing the livestream first, because that's content, right? So that's been probably one of my most effective success habits that I really suggest you fucking think about. Like if you do one thing, then make it that you learn to freaking prioritise and do first thing's first in your business and in your life. Because the big rocks, if you leave them till the end of the day, there's no space for them. You filled your whole life up with little rocks and pebbles and things that are relatively meaningless, and just responding to other people. And then ultimately your life gets cratered from that. Whereas when you do first thing's first and you go, "Okay, what is like the one big thing in my business where if I did it every day, I would create the business that I dream of even if I just did that one thing and nothing else?" Then you make that your first thing, your highest priority. And then, "What is the next thing after that, and what is the one big thing in my fitness, or the one big thing as a mother, or the one bug thing for my own sanity?" Or whatever it might be, right? That has seriously been ... Like I'm so grateful for wherever that knowledge and awareness first came from, whether it was through Stephen Covey or even before that through my dad, who I first got those books from, or whatever different sources. But I know for sure that I would not have the business that I have, the multi seven figure online empire. Nevermind like the term and the lifestyle freedom, and the incredible way that I get to live. But also my physical results in my health and my body. And even how much time I get to spend with my friends and my children, and that sort of thing. All of that really stems from the fact that I freaking learnt to put first thing's first. And it is a discipline, because I'm the same as anyone. I wake up in the morning and I'm like, "Maybe I'll just quickly check my messages." No. I just don't. I just don't fucking allow myself to. Sometimes I break the rule for sure. But extraordinarily rarely. I would break that rule literally 1% of the time. And 99% of the time I'm laser focused. The world does not get a piece of me until my soul got everything that it needs, right? Think about that. Because I'm pretty certain that most people are the other way around. 99% of the time, the world gets all of them, and nothing's left for their soul. And then you think, "Oh, I'll do it later in the day." No, you fucking won't. You burn out, and you're also energetically depleted from giving your life for the wrong thing. How do we get on to this little piece of sermonising? Let me come back to it. Okay, okay, okay. So I was like, giving myself props, right? Because yeah, I just cleared my list. And I'm like, "Okay, I've got nothing to do. I've got no more excuses." I just made my life so easy there's literally nothing on my list. There's nothing there at all. "Oh my God, what do I do?" Well, all right, I was already putting first thing's first. But what I would love to do, and what I have now chosen to do, and what I just went through today was making space to do that. What my choice is, is to now add to the foundation that I've already created of putting first thing's first. Now I love the concept of there's never anything you need to do in order to manifest anything you desire and have it all. There's nothing you ever need to do, but there's always ... Always magic. There is always magic. There's always action to take. It's one of my favourite philosophies and concepts. And what it means though is to not have a freaking list or a plan, right? But yet you're always taking action. So I have nothing on my list. Like I just said, I have nothing I need to do at all in any area of my life. I'm completely free as a bird. However, do you think that means I'm gonna be sitting around twiddling my thumbs, and sunning myself on the grass? Well, maybe if I could turn it into content. And maybe sometimes anyway, for sure. But what I'm going to be doing is being the person who automatically lives a certain way and creates certain results into their business and life. And currently for years now, the vast majority of how my time is spent, is me just being me. So I say frequently, I ... Like I'll often say to a client or a friend, "Oh my God, I did nothing today. I had the laziest day ever. I did nothing." And clients say this to me as well. And then we always laugh, 'cause I'm like ... When a client will say this to me ... Like actually my friend Linda who's staying with me at the moment. So hopefully we'll do a livestream together in the next day or two. She said this to me the other day, she's like, "Oh my God, I had the laziest day ever. I did noting." She's like, "I just wrote a blog, and then this, and then this, and then this, and then ... " And I was like, "So let's just clarify, you did nothing. You wrote a blog post of 1500 words. That'd take most people a month, if not a lifetime firstly. You did a great workout. You did a live training with client. So you met a client for the first time in-person who's like a private client, or whatever. And created content together, and that turned into sales action at the end of the livestream, and in the blog post. And then whatever other different things as well." Like literally her doing nothing was more than most people would do in a week or even a month, and that's for real. And so whenever I say, "Oh my God, I did nothing. I had the lazies day ever," then when I actually reverse-engineer it, I'm like, "Well, technically not nothing, because studied and did like ... Study and meditation." In the morning I just do it automatically every morning. To me that's like ... I'm being a little tongue-in-cheek to say this, but not really. But to me doing my morning spiritual study is the same as brushing my teeth or putting my clothes on. You wouldn't go around being like, "I put my clothes on today, and I brushed my teeth." It's not really something that needs to be talked about. I know that it's not that. But that's how it feels to me, and this is the big point that I'm trying to make. I'm like, "Well, of course I did my study in the morning." I always read something that inspires and uplifts me, and feeds my soul in the morning. It's hardly something to report home about. But at the same time, it very much impacts who I am as a person. I'm continually growing, right? Of course I did my morning journaling and my mindset work, and my inner-work, 'cause I just always do. I don't think about, "Am I gonna do it again?" It just kinda happens. So well, I didn't feel like I did anything. And then well, of course I wrote a freaking blog and a powerful message to the world after I did my journaling, 'cause that's a natural thing, right? After you do journaling, don't you wanna tell the world the things that have bubbled up inside of you? Isn't it logical that you wanna tell people? Even if you weren't publishing it on the internet, if you're reading or learning something inspiring, or having like an, "Ah-ha," moment in your life, don't you then as a normal human person, legitimately, not being a smartass now, you go and tell someone, right? Just look at anyone who's ever happened upon the latest fad diet. Is it or is it not true that they're sermonising about it to everybody that they encounter, because they're so passionate about it and they're excited about it. Well, that's all I'm doing when I let my blog come out at the end of my journaling, so that's not doing anything. Okay, but because I write like a 1500 to 2000 plus word daily Ass-Kickery blog post, every fucking day for years now, that's really like the cornerstone of how I've built this empire. The content, why do people wanna [mentiod 00:36:37] me? Because of what I've said, because of my words. Maybe livestreams is about also. But blog posts, huge part of it, right? To me the ... That's not doing anything. That's not like work, right? I don't even feel like I do anything if I write a freaking blog post. That's for my own soul and my own sanity. I get super antsy and don't feel connected to my self if I haven't unleashed my message, so I love to do that. And on the days when it doesn't happen for whatever reason, I feel that kind of restlessness. Like I just gotta get away from the world for 20 minutes and just be here and create something for my soul. And sure yeah, I'll chuck it on Facebook. And then yeah, you know what? People pay me tens of thousands of fucking dollars collectively or individually as a result of that. Sales activity, it's like an automatic thing that happens. Of course if I write a blog I'm gonna put a call to action at the end of a blog. I'm not stupid, right? So I don't feel like I did anything though. I just chucked a little P.S. on the end of a blog post like, "Hey, buy my thing." And then I could keep going all day, right? This doesn't feel like I'm doing work. I'm like, "What else would I wanna do after sitting in a hair salon for four hours, looking largely as spreadsheets," 'cause I was doing all my ... Counting all my monies, which I do calculate my net worth and check in on my payments. And make sure that I know which payments are coming up, and manifest more money. I did all that. And then I was deleting things, slashing them left, right and centre off my list and sending them off to other people. That was fun. And now I'm like, "Well, of course I wanna come and talk about it. What else would I do?" That's not work, right? But yet, I'm creating content that you now get stripped off Facebook, put onto YouTube. I already did a sales call to action about Rich Hot Empire. Make sure you read that pinned comment. Literally final few days to work with me one-on-one at this amazing price point. Six intensive weeks unlimited access to me. And then it's closing, and then it's inner-circle only for one-on-one work for the foreseeable, right? So okay, sounds like too many [inaudible 00:38:26]. That's not a big deal. And you see my point. So on the days when I do nothing, I could add up all the different things I've done, and there's a million other things I've done today that I haven't even listed. But all of it felt so just like ... Well, of course I respond to people's messages. I haven't checked in on my clients yet, but I'll do that. That probably is the next thing I'll do just while I'm going on a walk on the beach or something, I'll probably listen to [voxxes 00:38:46] from my high-level clients. And that's me mentoring ... Well, that's one aspect of my mentoring of my high-level clients is ... Well, what else would I wanna do? I mean, I'm there. Sometimes I like to listen to music while I walk or drive. But pretty freaking cool to get to listen to my high-level clients checking in, asking me stuff, or sharing their massive wins. So if we bring it back to the point that I'm trying to make here for you, my point that I'm sure you can feel this and see it already is, let it be easy by making it into part of who you are. Any thing that is in your life that feels disconnected from who you are, just think about this right now. Anything that feels like, "This is something I've gotta do that kind of goes against my nature in some way, or I don't really wanna do." Or, "It feels like it's separate from me, or outside of me." Or it's more like a chore. It's kinda like, "Yeah okay, I gotta go do such and such thing," right? Those are the things to seriously consider deleting, delegating, or just freaking get it done really quickly. You know that old saying, "Delete, delegate or do." Or just realise that maybe actually, this is a big thing I've learned over the years, that if you just did the big rock stuff, like the messaging, the showing up, the letting people see and hear you, connecting and communicating, then all these other freaking shit that you think you need to do to make money, wouldn't even be necessary. Because you could do a 100 things on a list of internet market to-do's, but if you're not doing this in some way, shape, or form, communicating, connecting, sharing message. None of that shit's gonna fucking matter. Nobody cares if you have a perfect funnel and website if they don't know you. So you're over here like, "I gotta do this, and this, and this. And then the world will see me as a very important person." No, they're gonna see straight through that. They're gonna see smoke and mirrors, and no substance. And they're not gonna feel your soul. If you want people to follow and buy from you, you need to reach in and grab them by the soul. And by the way, that is not gonna happen if you're not connected to your own soul. It's not possible. So the more that you get rid of anything that takes you away from soul and super flow, and just focus on what your soul needs, what you desire. And focus on integrating anything that would be a great habit into being part of who you are, the more it becomes so easy. It becomes like money tap that you can't turn off. I know that's a controversial statement that might trigger or annoy some people, but that is how I feel about how I make money. I'm like, every day I get a little report from one of my assistants, Kelly that says I pulled this much ... She transfers the money out of PayPal every day and puts it into my bank account. So she'll go, I pulled out whatever it was. I think yesterday, $20,700 out of PayPal. And she just tells me the number. And that's every fucking day, right? And I'm like, "Cool." Like, "Awesome. Of course. I expect that." Or whatever. I'm appreciative and grateful. But I'm not like, "Oh, I don't really know where it came from. I guess I could technically figure it out and break it down." But my actions have got nothing to do with that. That's how I see it. The money comes in because I turned on a freaking money tap by living life purposely. And by claiming and stating, and my journaling, and in my mind and my heart, and my soul what it is I wanna receive. And just choosing to believe that that's how it gets to be. What I'm doing, I'm never doing shit with the intention like, "If I do this, then I make that money." No way. No way. That's totally separate. I'm only doing what my soul grants be to do, which is the job of being myself. So when I go through my list of shit that I got rid of, if there was anything on there which was there literally like two things, which is the two things that I said earlier, like the videos and the books, that I want that stuff to be a day-in, day-out habit. Because I know that when it becomes a small thing that gets attended to every day for a small period of time, that's how you build epic fucking results. That's how I have my fitness results, that's how I have my business results. Results in all areas. Just a very small amount of time each day for all these different sections. And it's all effortless, and I feel like I do nothing, because I've made it part of who I am. So for those things that I'm like, "Okay, these are things I wanna implement into my routine and into being part of who I am." Those are the only things that I will give concerted daily attention to now. All the rest of it is like well, it doesn't actually matter. Here I have some cool ideas on that list of things that could improve my social media presence in different way. So I just sent if off to my team and they can do whatever with it. But I will focus only on, and have focused only on up until point to get these results, becoming more of who I'm meant to be, right? And making it so easy by just making it into who I am. So I feel that I do nothing, and yet I create a very impressive ... What's the word? Prolific amount of content each day. I probably be content creator. And I'm continually immersing myself in growth work and mindset work, which then feeds on into what I'm creating and how I get to make the money I make, I guess. 'Cause people wanna learn from me. And it all feels so effortless, because I just made it who I am, right? So literally my laziest day where I'm like, "I honestly did nothing," is still mad insane awesome mindset work, even if I wasn't journaling, it's still going through my mind all the time. Or it's just how I converse with my friends and people that I care about in my life and my clients, plus content creation in some form 'cause it just kinda bubbles out because of all that I'm putting in. Plus sales activities, just is automatic, right? So my suggestion to you is, I'm not here obviously to go on and on about how awesome my habits are, and yay for me. But my suggestion to you is, what do you need to make into part of who you are? Like if you think even now about what is an area of your life where you already have epic results, whether it's something in your business, or your health and fitness, or potentially it could be even how you keep an amazing beautiful home or something like that, whatever it is or whatever comes to mind for you, isn't it true that you just made it a habit? It's just part of who you are. Like you automatically attend to that area of your life, and you do it even without thinking, right? There's some ... I know for sure there's some people that really struggle to cook and prepare healthy food. It feels like a chore, and then I don't really wanna do it. Well, when I grew, my mum would automatically prepare a home made from scratch healthy dinner every single night. I don't know if she loved doing it or not. I think sometimes yes, sometimes no, right? But either way, it was definitely habitual. Like it just fucking happened every day. It wasn't like, "How do you do this?" It was a habitual thing. Same as the way she kept house and other ... Even same as the way she parented us as far as always coming up with cool creative games. We always did cool creative games after school. So it was just like a habit. For me, the cooking thing is semi-habitual. I definitely always wanna eat a healthy great meal. But I won't necessarily cook it every time. I'll go out and get it sometimes. "What is better to do? 10 Day Wake Up or Die? Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life?" Probably Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life is deeper and more powerful. But honestly, they're both fucking amazing programmes. Really, those are two of the best mindset programmes I've ever created. The 10 Day Wake Up or Die audio goal setting course is just in your face and it gets you straight to the point. And Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life I created straight after that. It was kind of a lead on. They really work together. So yeah, you've already done this in different areas of your life. Right? You've already created habits, you've already become the person who automatically does whatever it is. And guaranteed, that's the stuff where other people look at you and they're like, "How do you get such great results in that?" And they maybe think that it takes you a lot of effort, or a lot of planning, or a lot of energy. And you're like, "I don't do anything. What do you mean? Like it's easy." That's how I feel about fitness, it's how I feel about blogging and messaging and creating content for my business. It's how I feel about selling. It's how I feel about inner-work. It's how I feel about various other things also. And I know that for me to go to my next level, and to become the next version of the content creator that I wanna be, and do the different styles of content that I haven't quite stepped into yet, it's the same fucking thing. It's not set aside a weekend to do it all in a weekend. It's not, plan out the different elements and bits and pieces of it on a list. It's literally just make it part of who I am. Make it something that gets a little bit of attention every day. And I'm talking like 20 to 25 minutes. All those things that I just listed, usually like 25 minutes. Sometimes a bit more, sometimes less. But none of those different building blocks of my success, none of them are taking me hours a day or even a full hour. I'm doing like 15 to 20 minutes of mindset work in the morning, and then it feeds into the rest of my day. I mean, every fucking conversation I have is mindset work at this point as well. I do usually probably 30 to 40 minutes workout, but it's not uncommon for me to do a 20 or 25 minute workout. I do 20 to 25 minutes writing my blog post each day. And collectively if you added it all up to the days, probably 20 to 25 minutes of sales activity. So we are not talking something that's out of reach for any person here. We're just talking having some Goddamn consistency, and creating a habit out of the things that are gonna change your business and your life. All right. I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go. So read the comment, pinned comment. Rich Hot Empire. Six weeks one-on-one with me. Build your soulmate culture. Create your own low right through to high-end empire top multi seven figure and beyond, doing what you love, doing your purpose work in the world with me as mentor, one-on-one. It's a six week structure programme with content that you get to keep access of, for life. I show you everything behind the scenes of how we do all the different elements of strategy and putting things together, and launching, and selling, and coming up with your ideas, clarifying your message. Anything you could imagine where you're like, "But I'm not sure about my message yet," or, "I don't know what I'm gonna sell yet." Or, "What about high-ticket, how do you sell that?" Like everything. I teach you everything in there. We also do live hot seat mastermind calls each week with our other private clients. And it's one-on-one you and me as well. So we'd be talking pretty much daily through my client private channel. So I do audios and messages with my clients day to day. As well as obviously one-on-one calls. There's a whole bunch other stuff I can tell you about Rich Hot Empire, the very best thing to do if it's speaking to you, is message me over on my Katrina Ruth personal page. I'll give you a fully overview, as well as a couple of videos that you can watch that explain more about this. It gets amazing results. I get amazing results from my clients doing this work. And it's for clients at all stages. I've had clients who are typically in each Rich Hot Empire intake. There's like 30 to 40% of people are total startup. And then there's people who are already making as much as 30, 40, 50K. Or I have even had a couple clients do Rich Hot Empire who are already doing over a million dollars when they came through. So it's not about where you're at now. Depending on where you're at now, you may need more or less support on different areas. There might be things where you need more support and hand-holding around structural stuff and strategy stuff. You will get that, not just from me, but from my team as well. But what does join all my clients together is not whether you're in a business, it's who you are as a person. And it's being that 1% within the 1% revolutionary fucking leader who knows that they were born for more. And is willing to now do what it takes no matter what it takes to bring that purpose work to life. You should message me now about this. It is the final few days to join after this intake closes, which it will do in a couple of days at the latest. There will be no more way to work with me outside of my high-end inner circle 12 month mentoring until way later on in the year. And I'm sure I'll do something at some point again. But I'm really locking it down for this point in time after this intake. So send me a massage. I'll give you all details in the overview. If it's for you, we can get you onboard. And if not, that's totally fine as well. Have an amazing rest of the day. Think about who you need to step in to becoming, to let it be so damn easy that all you've gotta do each day is wake up, be you, and then create everything that's inside of you. Have an amazing rest of the day. 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This week we look at Atari's 1978 game SURROUND. Yep, there it is. This...strategy game, I guess? pits you against the computer or your opponent to see which one of you can paint lines on the screen faster to box the other player in. The graphics are rudimentary; the gameplay simple (though addictive). There are no characters, dialogue, back story or even stakes. PERFECT for a story-based, game review podcast. I must have been crazy to pick this one. Clearly I'm unwell. Have pity and give it a listen. Thanks! The Atari Party sponsored by the XEGS Podcast. Thanks to Kevin McLeod at Incompetech.com for creative commons license to his songs "Reformat", "Take a Chance" and "Pinball Spring". Atari Bytes It's a Podcast, Charlie Brown Our Zazzle.com AB_Pod_Store for cool Atari Bytes merchandise The Atari Bytes Patreon page