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Hate and Humiliation often go together. ? #Hijackals--relentlessly difficult, toxic people--hate and humiliate to get the upper hand in relationships...AND to make you feel bad about yourself especially in front of other people. It’s nasty! Listen in to understand the double standards of enjoying watching other people be humiliated on Reality TV or Celebrity Roasts, yet hating to be the object of humiliation ourselves. Then, make better decisions about what to do about your relationship with a #Hijackal!#Narcissists and other #Hijackals hate to see you happy. They resent it and too often take swings at you--in every way--to take you down and make you as unhappy as they are inside. Yes, they may appear confident and in control, but inside they are conflicted and concerned every minute.Hijackals work on the premise that making others feel small, miserable, angry, unhappy, and demeaned will assure and secure their power and control. Hence, they use hate and humiliation to accomplish that. Again, nasty!If you are in a relationship with a partner, parent, sibling, or co-worker that you now recognize is based on underlying hate and the need and desire to humiliate, it's time to take action and get help. That is not OK on any level.You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship based on honesty, safety, trust, respect, and reliability.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why we laugh when other people are humiliatedWhat "celebrity roasts" are really about and why you need to knowHow deprecating supposedly humor takes the heat off the speakerHow hate and humiliation too often go togetherClearly seeing why #Hijackals hate and humiliateKnow why you cannot tolerate hateful comments and broadsiding humiliation from a HijackalSchadenfreude: the tendency to take delight in the misery of othersThrowing shade: clever and humiliating Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boardsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#hate #humiliate #whyanarcissisthates #whyanarcissisthumiliates #humiliationisnothumor #humiliatingpeople #hijackalhate#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You've likely turned yourself into a pretzel to please a toxic person. That's what they want. You can stand on your head and spit wooden nickels for a decade, and you cannot please them beyond a hot minute when they really want something for you. Notice that! You were discarded. Not your idea. Not your choice. Not your timing. You're unhappy and focused on what you've lost. That's natural. BUT, you're out! Being discarded by a narcissist, or a person who narcissistic or sociopathic tendencies, never feels good. But, you can feel much better when you focus on the ten ways to resist the urge to return to a toxic relationship! Being discarded may have been your worst fear, but look! You're still alive, breathing and all. And, doing all that good stuff in spite of the fact that the #Hijackal, the #narcissist, the #sociopath discarded you. Great start! Feel the pain, but don't wallow in it. There's a difference. Acknowledge the pain. Give it a name. Recognize the source. Then, turn around, face forward, and realize that, no matter how you got there, you're out of the emotional abuse! Yay! The pull to return to a toxic person can be great, overwhelming even. It's what you know. It may be what your early life trained you to believe you deserve. Not true! You deserve SO much more than emotional abuse! Listen to these ten ways to resist going back to a toxic person, a #Hijackal! Listen again...and, again...and....as many times as necessary to not go back. You now have the opportunity to be free of ridicule, blame, put-downs, insignificance, and begging for crumbs of affection. Woo-hoo! best regards,RhobertaWant to talk with me? One-hour introductory session is only $97.-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why discard hurts so muchWhat you can take charge ofWhat you actually deserve much more than you have receivedHow being discarded can be the best thing ever10 ways to resist returning to a narcissist by focusing on moving forwardWant to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#discardedbyahijackal #resisttheurgetoreturn #discarded #discardedinrelationship #resistreturning ##healthyrelationshipwithyourself#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

I know. You don't want to be accused, or accuse yourself, of abandoning a person. You especially don't want to be accused of abandoning a person in need.#Hijackals are always in need: in need of you to use, misuse, and abuse. Does that make you want to stay? I hope not.Would you tell your best friend to stay in a situation like yours? Hmmmm....pause for thought, right?I'm Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, and I work with individuals and couples from many countries through videoconferencing and I say:"You cannot remain in a strained relationship with no conceivable healthy future out of a sense of duty, obligation, shame, or guilt." Do you understand that?Will you allow yourself to believe that?Will you, then, entertain the idea that guilt, obligation, and duty are NOT reasons to stay in an unhealthy relationship?I hope so.Today's episode is a little hard-hitting--maybe--but that may be what you need today. You may be in the excuse-making business, and there is no profit in that.Got that? THERE IS NO PROFIT IN THE EXCUSE-MAKING BUSINESS! I want the best for you, and I'm here to help. If you want to talk with me directly one-to-one go to BeAClient.com now.----------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you may be reluctant to leave a difficult personWhy you make excuses for another person's behavior too longSteps to take to making clear decisions about a relationshipHow to know when it's time to foldWhy you're not a bad person when you want to leave a person who treats you badlyUnderstanding the needs of a #narcissist to win You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful videos and access to the libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!OptimizeCircles.comCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#stayingoutofguilt #leavinganarcissist #whyleaveanarcissist #hijackals #changeanarcissist #changeasociopath #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! Does thinking of yourself as being UNSTOPPABLE light you up? Then, you'll love today's episode! Connie Phieff was adopted--but she didn't know it until later in life--and lived her young life a bit like Cinderella. Now, you know that's not good, right? Cook, clean, take care of the kids, repeat!How Connie overcame the pain of her past toxic life to go on and create such amazing accomplishments is inspirational. She became a leader in the community and in her own life in every way.Yes, not only did she come from a toxic home, but she went on--as most of us do--to marry a toxic person. Oh, no, that didn't stop her, either. That's where she really started developing her recipe for lemonade from all the lemons in life. She knew she needed to cleanse the negativity from life if she wanted the life she envisioned. AND, she did it!Listen as she shares her story, her vulnerabilities, her tears, and her learning. All this propelled her to the amazing successes she has now!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why what happened to you in your young life does not have to define your adult lifeWhat it takes to turn those lemons into lemonade and succeedHow adoption and alienation played into Connie's young lifeHow you can find the confidence to live fullyThree top things that make you unstoppable...according to Connie Pheiff>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING? Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: CONNIE PHEIFFFrom cleaning houses to filling houses, Connie Pheiff, Philanthropist, Social Venture Entrepreneur, and #BeyondMeToo Activist is the Jewel in the Crown of the Pheiff Group, Inc. With her distinctive voice audiences everywhere know her.She is blessed from her work as a corporate CEO, award-winning speaker, Podcaster, Mentor, Coach, and author. She is provocative, edgy, and brings a genuine humor to the platform.Connie is best known as the Unstoppable DIVA; Former Corporate Executive tuned Media Industrialist. Since founding the Pheiff Group, Inc. in 2007, she has become a Social Venture Entrepreneur, producer, and host of the Connie Pheiff Show; and founder of Talent Concierge, representing the World’s most daring minds. She has authored five business books, and coming soon is her most powerful book yet, about her Unstoppable life. She is the former CEO of Girl Scouts of Penn’s Woods Council, Recipient of the Community Leadership Award (2016); and most recently received the Inspirational Woman in Media Award (2019); and Finalist for the 2018 Indie Author Legacy Award. Insights Success Magazine calls her “a symbol of Exemplary Entrepreneurship.” Connie always shares a bit of herself; a life of spectacularly epic fails. Through it all, her success hasn’t come in spite of her failures, but because of them.FREE GIFT FROM CONNIE PHEIFF : Connie is happy to give you an autographed copy of her book, Marketing Masters. If you'd like to have one, email Connie at Connie@PhieffGroup.com CONTACT INFO FOR CONNIE PHIEFF:Website: talent.concierge.coPodcasts:LinkedIn: @ConniePheiffFacebook:Connie.PheiffInstagram:@talentconcierge.coTwitter: @ConniePheiffYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKQs4iIknPHsdypD6EdgfvQCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #beunstoppable #ConniePheiff #overcomingobstacles See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! Does thinking of yourself as being UNSTOPPABLE light you up? Then, you'll love today's episode! Connie Phieff was adopted--but she didn't know it until later in life--and lived her young life a bit like Cinderella. Now, you know that's not good, right? Cook, clean, take care of the kids, repeat!How Connie overcame the pain of her past toxic life to go on and create such amazing accomplishments is inspirational. She became a leader in the community and in her own life in every way.Yes, not only did she come from a toxic home, but she went on--as most of us do--to marry a toxic person. Oh, no, that didn't stop her, either. That's where she really started developing her recipe for lemonade from all the lemons in life. She knew she needed to cleanse the negativity from life if she wanted the life she envisioned. AND, she did it!Listen as she shares her story, her vulnerabilities, her tears, and her learning. All this propelled her to the amazing successes she has now!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why what happened to you in your young life does not have to define your adult lifeWhat it takes to turn those lemons into lemonade and succeedHow adoption and alienation played into Connie's young lifeHow you can find the confidence to live fullyThree top things that make you unstoppable...according to Connie Pheiff>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING? Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: CONNIE PHEIFFFrom cleaning houses to filling houses, Connie Pheiff, Philanthropist, Social Venture Entrepreneur, and #BeyondMeToo Activist is the Jewel in the Crown of the Pheiff Group, Inc. With her distinctive voice audiences everywhere know her.She is blessed from her work as a corporate CEO, award-winning speaker, Podcaster, Mentor, Coach, and author. She is provocative, edgy, and brings a genuine humor to the platform.Connie is best known as the Unstoppable DIVA; Former Corporate Executive tuned Media Industrialist. Since founding the Pheiff Group, Inc. in 2007, she has become a Social Venture Entrepreneur, producer, and host of the Connie Pheiff Show; and founder of Talent Concierge, representing the World’s most daring minds. She has authored five business books, and coming soon is her most powerful book yet, about her Unstoppable life. She is the former CEO of Girl Scouts of Penn’s Woods Council, Recipient of the Community Leadership Award (2016); and most recently received the Inspirational Woman in Media Award (2019); and Finalist for the 2018 Indie Author Legacy Award. Insights Success Magazine calls her “a symbol of Exemplary Entrepreneurship.” Connie always shares a bit of herself; a life of spectacularly epic fails. Through it all, her success hasn’t come in spite of her failures, but because of them.FREE GIFT FROM CONNIE PHEIFF : Connie is happy to give you an autographed copy of her book, Marketing Masters. If you'd like to have one, email Connie at Connie@PhieffGroup.com CONTACT INFO FOR CONNIE PHIEFF:Website: talent.concierge.coPodcasts:LinkedIn: @ConniePheiffFacebook:Connie.PheiffInstagram:@talentconcierge.coTwitter: @ConniePheiffYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKQs4iIknPHsdypD6EdgfvQCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #beunstoppable #ConniePheiff #overcomingobstacles See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Got Empathy? That's one key that unlocks the willingness to enter into a problem-solving process with your partner, according to today's guest, Dr. James. L. Creighton. You need more! Dr. Creighton says: "Empathy allows us to enter into the emotional reality of our loved ones, so that even when there are differences, there is still shared experience." In today's episode, I'm asking how to keep that 'shared experience' loving, kind, and helpful. It takes willingness, skill, finesse, and interest to keep a relationship strong and growing. Dr. Creighton has been married for a very long time. He openly shares the good and not-so-good moments, and how he and his wife have weathered the difficult ones. His recent book, Loving Through Your Differences, draws on the latest research in cognitive science and developmental psychology to show how we invent our realities with our perceptual minds. He offers clear, concrete tools for shifting perceptions and reframing responses, with the result that couples move out of the fear and alienation of "your way or my way" and into a deep understanding of the other that allows for an "our way." HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why the ability to reframe is important to loving through your differencesHow Dr. Creighton's Five Minute Rule helps let off steamImportant steps in the problem-solving process that can't be missedHow to get past not agreeing with each other Do we have to share an "emotional reality" in order to stay together? >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: JAMES L. CREIGHTON, PhDJames L. Creighton, PhD, is the author of Loving Through Your Differences. A psychologist and relationship consultant, he has worked with couples and conducted communications training for more than fifty years. Creighton recently developed and conducted couples conflict training for several hundred professional staff of the Thailand Department of Mental Health, based on a new Thai translation of his book, How Loving Couples Fight. He has taught throughout North America as well as in Korea, Japan, Israel, Brazil, Egypt, Russia, and the Republic of Georgia. FREE GIFT FROM JAMES CREIGHTON : Not at this time.CONTACT INFO FOR JAMES CREIGHTON:Website: JamesLCreighton.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook:Instagram: Twitter: @NewWorldLibraryYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #personalwholeness#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #newworldlibrary See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Got Empathy? That's one key that unlocks the willingness to enter into a problem-solving process with your partner, according to today's guest, Dr. James. L. Creighton. You need more! Dr. Creighton says: "Empathy allows us to enter into the emotional reality of our loved ones, so that even when there are differences, there is still shared experience." In today's episode, I'm asking how to keep that 'shared experience' loving, kind, and helpful. It takes willingness, skill, finesse, and interest to keep a relationship strong and growing. Dr. Creighton has been married for a very long time. He openly shares the good and not-so-good moments, and how he and his wife have weathered the difficult ones. His recent book, Loving Through Your Differences, draws on the latest research in cognitive science and developmental psychology to show how we invent our realities with our perceptual minds. He offers clear, concrete tools for shifting perceptions and reframing responses, with the result that couples move out of the fear and alienation of "your way or my way" and into a deep understanding of the other that allows for an "our way." HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why the ability to reframe is important to loving through your differencesHow Dr. Creighton's Five Minute Rule helps let off steamImportant steps in the problem-solving process that can't be missedHow to get past not agreeing with each other Do we have to share an "emotional reality" in order to stay together? >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: JAMES L. CREIGHTON, PhDJames L. Creighton, PhD, is the author of Loving Through Your Differences. A psychologist and relationship consultant, he has worked with couples and conducted communications training for more than fifty years. Creighton recently developed and conducted couples conflict training for several hundred professional staff of the Thailand Department of Mental Health, based on a new Thai translation of his book, How Loving Couples Fight. He has taught throughout North America as well as in Korea, Japan, Israel, Brazil, Egypt, Russia, and the Republic of Georgia. FREE GIFT FROM JAMES CREIGHTON : Not at this time.CONTACT INFO FOR JAMES CREIGHTON:Website: JamesLCreighton.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook:Instagram: Twitter: @NewWorldLibraryYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #personalwholeness#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #newworldlibrary See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You're out! You likely took a long time to make the decision to leave the narcissist, or in my terms, the #Hijackal. You also likely talked yourself out of it more than a few times, right? Then, you make your move for all the right reasons. It's difficult AND you do it. Uh-oh! Now, you're second-guessing your decision, and beating yourself up a bit. NO! Please don't!Remind yourself that you left for all the right reasons.Not so easy when you're feeling unsure, alone, and maybe even a little helpless...at least, once you're in your new place all along. Right?That's when the doubts creep in, You wonder if you did the right thing. You start romanticizing the past and remembering only the good parts. Oh, I know, I've been there, and I left, too.So today, I'm talking about understanding what may be driving you to think of going back to the abusive relationship. I give you SIX practical and immediate things to do to stay on the path of leaving, and keep yourself on an even keel while staying away. So important for your growth, self-esteem, and self-confidence!Every client I have who has told me stories of leaving a #Hijackal and going back has said how much s/he regretted that decision. Some of them actually left a couple of times before they moved away for good.It's not easy, because you're emotionally addicted. You may not like to think of yourself in those terms, but basically, that's what has been going on.To break any addiction, you have to go through a rough patch. If you go back, you have to go through the rough patch again. Not so smart, right?--------------------------------------------------------------------If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. ForRelationshipHelp.com/Circles Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!Once, you recognize this, you'll need more information to change that. You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you may think that going back is a good ideaHow to know it's a very bad ideaWhat to do when you are tempted to go backTrauma-bonding can keep pulling you back and you need to recognize thatSix active steps to take to make a good start on your new life away from a #HijackalIf you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful webinars and access to the webinar libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #verbalabuse #toxcirelationships #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #dontgobacktoanarcissist See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Don't make your children feel like pawns, messengers, or casualties of your divorce! In a perfect world, after divorce, your children would only know that life is more peaceful with two homes, and that they miss the way things used to be with both parents in the home. (Of course, if there was a lot of tension, bickering, and anger, they won't miss that at all!)When you co-parent well, you eliminate exposing the children to adult issues. Right? I sure hope you said "Yes!"Children have enough upset to content with when parents separate. It's enough to deal with moving, losing time with their friends, missing the non-custodial parent, feeling uncertain about what's going on, and not have the right things in the right house at the right time. These are kid concerns!FIVE GOAL/AFFIRMATIONS TO KEEP TOP-OF-MIND WHEN CO-PARENTING: I am the model I want my children to follow. Therefore, everything I do and say demonstrates who I want my children to strive towards becoming.I communicate with my ex in the way I wish for him/her to communicate with me. I choose collaboration and conversation, over conflict and acrimony. (Listen to today's episode for how this works with #Hijackals!)I focus on my children and what keeps them healthy--physically, mentally, and emotionally. That includes doing what is in their best interests first.I turn my attention from what I don't like about my ex to what s/he does well for the children. It's about the kids, not what my personal issues are with my ex.I allow my children to enjoy their childhoods and ensure they're only concerned with age-appropriate thoughts, feelings and actions. I protect them from being pawns, messengers, or casualties of my divorce.Now, those are just for you. A #Hijackal ex may make them VERY difficult, and I've talked about this in today's episode, at length.----------------------------------------------------------------------If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. ForRelationshipHelp.com/Circles Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!Today's episode offers insights into the crazy-making minds of narcissists, narcissistic #Hijackals, anti-social people, and drama queens...and, of course, drama kings.Once, you recognize this, you'll need more information to change that. You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you must keep the best interests of the children top of mindGoal Affirmations for you (see above)Value of communicating with your children in age-appropriate ways onlyWhy not to discuss divorce difficulties with your children that only belong between you and your exIf you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. Want my help? I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful webinars and access to the webinar libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #verbalabuse #toxcirelationships #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #parentalalienation #coparenting #coparentingwithanarcissist See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Have you heard that TV ad for air freshener that implores you to notice that you may have gone "nose-blind" to the unpleasant smells in your kitchen, garbage, basement, or car? Well, I think people go "nose-blind" to verbal abuse...and, to emotional abuse, too. It's time to stop! Today, I'm talking about the ways you might be justifying the bad behavior of a #Hijackal in your life, a relentlessly difficult, usually self-centered person who wants power and control over you...always. It's not just occasional. It's a way of life for them, and they have endless expectations that you will not only allow their verbal abuse, but you'll begin to believe you deserve it. YOU DON'T!!!!If you've had a #Hijackal parent, an emotionally unavailable parent who had unreasonable expectations of you, you may subconsciously be so used to the behavior that you don't see it in all it's awfulness. You're used to it, and even though it makes you uncomfortable, it is still "comfortably uncomfortable." It's familiar. And, that can change. (And, I hope today's episode will keep you on that change train, too. )----------------------------------------------------------------------If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. ForRelationshipHelp.com/Circles----------------------------------------------------------------------Constantly being told you are worthless, or thoughtless, or even much less, wears away self-esteem, and with it goes your self-confidence. Especially if a parent emotionally abused you, you are groomed to accept this behavior from others. You believe the abuser. Please DON'T!(Yes, I know, you don't want to think that about your parent, but you're an adult now. You need to call it what it was...and deal with it.)If you're wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up. Hijackals have to believe they are always right, and the smartest person in ever room, at all time. So, they give you false messages about yourself. Time to examine those and stop believing them.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why verbal abuse may have become something you're "nose-blind" toWhy you simply cannot excuse their behavior because "they're having a bad day"Why it is NOT YOU who has to changeHow it's possible to have a wildly successful career and still be abused at homeHow to stop being "Nose blind" and wake up smell the herbal tea...lolYAY! Step up today and don't let anyone put you down ever again. OK?If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. Want my help? I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful webinars and access to the webinar libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #verbalabuse #toxcirelationships #recognizeverbalabuse #noexcuseforabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #beassertive See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How many times have you heard someone--maybe on TV--say, "Oh, we're just going through a rough patch." Really? Is it? Or, is it abuse? It's SO important to know the difference, and that's what today's episode sets out to make very clear: the difference.Here's how Dictionary.com defines abuse:to use wrongly or improperlymisuseabuse one's authoritytreat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive wayto speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or aboutmalignto commit sexual assault uponharshly or coarsely insulting languagebad or improper treatmentOK...big difference from a supposed "rough patch," right?There's no getting away from it. When someone treats you in a degrading, mean, discounting, or dismissive way, it's abuse!If you don't have strong boundaries that you express and maintain, you'll turn yourself into a pretzel, and end up being a doormat. You don't want that for a moment longer, right? That's why you need to see this clearly right now, whether it is happening to you or to someone you care about.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you mustn't dismiss "bad behavior"Clear outlines of what emotional abuse and verbal abuse areWhy it is essential to express and maintain boundaries in outing abuseWhy you must never allow someone to diminish your sense of identity, dignity, or self-worthExamples of what #Hijackal abusers do that you need to recognize for what it is.#Hijackals, finances, and financial abuseI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #identifyingabuse #callitabuse See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Whatever has the story of the Three Billy Goats Gruff got to do with covert narcissism? Just who is that troll under the bridge in the story? In your story?Let's take a look at that in today's episode of Save Your Sanity.Sad that any one has to live under a bridge, for sure. No doubt about it, the parents of a covert narcissist taught them how to do it. That's how they survived their childhoods. Unfortunately, those are the only strategies they currently have, and so....under the bridge!Covert narcissists love to live under a bridge, have a sad story to tell, and offer to "gobble you up" when you don't meet their needs. Today, I'm using this story to help illustrate how crafty covert narcissists are, how they hide in wait to pull you under! How they are lying in wait to make you wrong!Dr. Craig Malkin wrote that: "What's different about covert narcissists is that because they're introverted, they don't advertise their inflated egos." They may not advertise, but they still sell you that bill of goods.Are you feeling guilty that you can't make things right or good for someone who seems to never want to feel better?Are you exhausted from trying to show someone that they matter, and it seems they don't want to see it?You could be with a covert narcissist...or, maybe, you were raised by one. For sure, today is a good day to see what's under the bridge, and refuse to cross any more!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why your heart goes out to people who are "takers"What covert narcissists do to make you feel as though you're never doing it enough to make them feel goodWhy their constant stories of "it's not fair" or "no one ever gives me a chance" need to stop playing on your heartstringsHow covert narcissists use passive-aggressive behavior to pull you down, and pull you under the bridgeWhy you're only valued for what you can give a covert narcissist, never for who you areI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #covertnarcissist #trolls #identifycovertnarcissism See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

HIJACKALS®! They exist! You've likely met one or two. Most everyone has. There is no real need for a diagnosis. The Hijackal will not subject him or herself to one, anyway. After all, s/he is perfect, right?All you really need to have is the ability to clearly see the patterns, traits, and cycles of these relentlessly difficult people, and know what to do to not become their prey! They are emotional predators.I created and trademarked this term, #Hijackals, to give you a way to easily talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of the relentlessly difficult people in your life, and in a non-clinical way. After all, what you need is to know what to do when you're in a relationship with one, right? That begins with clearly being able to identify a toxic person's behaviors, and know that there are those patterns. That's helpful!Hijackals like to push you away. They do their upmost to push your buttons...or, at least, it sure feels that way. You might be surprised to learn today that they are really doing that for other reasons than driving you to drink!Not only do they like to shove you away, but they also then make you wrong for going, and then demand that you stay. Crazy-making!That's why today's episode is so important to clearly seeing what's really going on!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why "overgiving" to a Hijackal is a really bad ideaWhy difficult people can't see what they're doing, even when you point it outWhy Hijackals have such a need for power and controlDr. Shaler's definition of her term, Hijackals®: "People who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control." Know one now?I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Constant drama in one of your relationships? Are you frustrated and resentful, but unsure how to change things? Do you fool yourself by making excuses for the other person's poor, damaging, or degrading behaviors? No more, OK? You will feel SO much better when you are confident that you can:set boundariesexpress your boundariesmaintain your boundariesset consequences for trampled boundariesfollow-through on the consequencesRight?Of course.If you had a #Hijackal parent, you are used to having your boundaries trampled. You likely wonder if you know anything different! That's because all Hijackals® believe that things should be their way or the highway. How dare you have a point of view, or a desire for something different than they want you to have!And, how about name-calling? NO! That's not OK at all.How do you stop it? In today's episode I use stopping name-calling as an example to take you through the steps to setting boundaries, through to following through on the consequences of trespassing a personal boundary.Follow these steps, and you'll soon be more comfortable with creating boundaries.What's the pay-off? Less drama over time! Whoo- hoo!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why constant drama may feel comfortably uncomfortable to youWhy you may be hoping too much that the person really loves youSteps to setting and express clear boundariesWhen you need to set consequencesEmpowering yourself to be assertiveI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotional abuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #boundaries #settingboundaries #toomuchdrama #stopthedrama #name-calling See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Men and Women. How different are men and women from one another? What about the research on the differences between men's and women's brains? How does this play out in behavior?What you need to know first!You'll hear fascinating perspectives from today's guest, so I've opened this episode with some actual, researched facts about the differences in the brains of men and women. You might be surprised what this high-level, long-term research from Stanford University.When you look at all the information on the differences between the brains of men and women, you'll see everything from "there is no difference" to "there are huge differences." I decided to look to well-regarded studies to bring you a whole lot of well-documented differences in my introduction to the show.GUEST: Robert Manni. Host of Guy's Guy Radio, Novelist, Former CEO My guest today, Robert Manni, is the host of Guy's Guy Radio, and author of The Guys' Guy's Guide to Love, praised as the "men's successor to Sex and the City." That book has been developed into two feature-length adapted screenplays, a scripted television series, and a series of non-scripted Guy's Guy show concepts.I ask Robert "Why now? What makes a Guy's Guy?" He said:"There's never been a better time for men to be whoever they want to be. Yet, it's also never been less clear who men really are. The Guy's Guy platform redefines and re-imagines modern men with a fresh approach of timely content across media platforms.Whether it's navigating modern dating and relationships, bonding, male friendships, or men's wellness and spirituality, Robert makes it a point to share his insights and possibilities for the modern man's emancipation and success through his "Guy's Guy" lens.Robert's varied background includes writing for and advertising campaigns for many of the world's leading brands, and also being an energy worker with master certifications in Reiki and hypnosis.So, I've asked Robert as many questions as I could that I thought you would want answers to. Look at these highlights...HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why is the best time for a man to be whomever he wants to be?Why is a "guy's guy?"How do you think roles are defined in today's world between men and women?Is there a growing chasm between men and women?What about men and emotional IQ?CONNECT WITH ROBERT MANNI:Website: RobertManni.comTwitter: @RobertManniFacebook: Facebook.com/ManniLinkedIn: LinkedIn.comInstagram: Instagram.com/RobertManniCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#mentoday #communicationwithmen #Phonesinrelationships #RobertKandell #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #mensbrains #womensbrains #robertmann #guysguyradio #KCOR See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Men and Women. How different are men and women from one another? What about the research on the differences between men's and women's brains? How does this play out in behavior?What you need to know first!You'll hear fascinating perspectives from today's guest, so I've opened this episode with some actual, researched facts about the differences in the brains of men and women. You might be surprised what this high-level, long-term research from Stanford University.When you look at all the information on the differences between the brains of men and women, you'll see everything from "there is no difference" to "there are huge differences." I decided to look to well-regarded studies to bring you a whole lot of well-documented differences in my introduction to the show.GUEST: Robert Manni. Host of Guy's Guy Radio, Novelist, Former CEO My guest today, Robert Manni, is the host of Guy's Guy Radio, and author of The Guys' Guy's Guide to Love, praised as the "men's successor to Sex and the City." That book has been developed into two feature-length adapted screenplays, a scripted television series, and a series of non-scripted Guy's Guy show concepts.I ask Robert "Why now? What makes a Guy's Guy?" He said:"There's never been a better time for men to be whoever they want to be. Yet, it's also never been less clear who men really are. The Guy's Guy platform redefines and re-imagines modern men with a fresh approach of timely content across media platforms.Whether it's navigating modern dating and relationships, bonding, male friendships, or men's wellness and spirituality, Robert makes it a point to share his insights and possibilities for the modern man's emancipation and success through his "Guy's Guy" lens.Robert's varied background includes writing for and advertising campaigns for many of the world's leading brands, and also being an energy worker with master certifications in Reiki and hypnosis.So, I've asked Robert as many questions as I could that I thought you would want answers to. Look at these highlights...HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why is the best time for a man to be whomever he wants to be?Why is a "guy's guy?"How do you think roles are defined in today's world between men and women?Is there a growing chasm between men and women?What about men and emotional IQ?CONNECT WITH ROBERT MANNI:Website: RobertManni.comTwitter: @RobertManniFacebook: Facebook.com/ManniLinkedIn: LinkedIn.comInstagram: Instagram.com/RobertManniCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#mentoday #communicationwithmen #Phonesinrelationships #RobertKandell #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #mensbrains #womensbrains #robertmann #guysguyradio #KCOR See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Is life confusing for men these days? Are men confusing to you these days? So, what's this all about? Why are men and women confused about the roles of men? Or, are they? My guest thinks they are!Personally, I think that there is much confusion over roles, and that they are fluid in each family. It's a BIG, IMPORTANT conversation for every couple to have before they get married: to learn about each other, talk about values, vision for life, beliefs, and goals. Talk about how those values will play out in the roles each of you want, and/or accept, BY AGREEMENT.Making agreements requires willingness to communicate deeply. Now, we're getting into the thorny issues about why these issues can all be too fuzzy. People don't want to talk about difficult things. They want to stay with their fantasies about a life together all magically working out. It doesn't.It's not news that you have to consciously work on your relationship. You have to work on it and at it. You have to be present, and willing to talk, change, grow together.Listen in to this fascinating conversation, and see what questions it leaves you with. You can ask them by liking my Facebook page, Relationship Help Shows, and we can talk there.If you want my help directly, we can do that, too.GUEST: Robert Kandell, Coach, Lecturer, Consultant My guest today, Robert Kandell, hailed as “part football coach, part loving dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant”, has spent the last 20 years helping people re energize their lives and build better relationships and sex through authentic connection and honest communication.After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded One Taste (orgasmic meditation) in 2004. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market. He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own consulting firm, Kandell Consulting, which helps small businesses become marketable and profitable.Robert is also an accomplished coach, and lecturer with over 400 workshops under his belt. He also brings his enthusiasm and passion to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love (over 100k downloads) on subjects around relationships, intimacy, sex, communication and gender dynamics.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why men are so obsessed with their phonesWhat Robert Kandell means by a "chasm of intimacy"Why he says "aggrieved entitlement" is what causes your man to withdrawWhat Robert thinks about the idea that the #MeToo movement causes men to be scaredHow women can encourage men to speak about their anger CONNECT WITH ROBERT KANDELL:Website: RobertKandell.comTwitter: @RobertKandellFacebook: Facebook.com/Robert.KandellLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RobertKandellInstagram: Instagram.com/Robert.KandellCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#mentoday #communicationwithmen #Phonesinrelationships #RobertKandell #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy # See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Is life confusing for men these days? Are men confusing to you these days? So, what's this all about? Why are men and women confused about the roles of men? Or, are they? My guest thinks they are!Personally, I think that there is much confusion over roles, and that they are fluid in each family. It's a BIG, IMPORTANT conversation for every couple to have before they get married: to learn about each other, talk about values, vision for life, beliefs, and goals. Talk about how those values will play out in the roles each of you want, and/or accept, BY AGREEMENT.Making agreements requires willingness to communicate deeply. Now, we're getting into the thorny issues about why these issues can all be too fuzzy. People don't want to talk about difficult things. They want to stay with their fantasies about a life together all magically working out. It doesn't.It's not news that you have to consciously work on your relationship. You have to work on it and at it. You have to be present, and willing to talk, change, grow together.Listen in to this fascinating conversation, and see what questions it leaves you with. You can ask them by liking my Facebook page, Relationship Help Shows, and we can talk there.If you want my help directly, we can do that, too.GUEST: Robert Kandell, Coach, Lecturer, Consultant My guest today, Robert Kandell, hailed as “part football coach, part loving dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant”, has spent the last 20 years helping people re energize their lives and build better relationships and sex through authentic connection and honest communication.After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded One Taste (orgasmic meditation) in 2004. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market. He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own consulting firm, Kandell Consulting, which helps small businesses become marketable and profitable.Robert is also an accomplished coach, and lecturer with over 400 workshops under his belt. He also brings his enthusiasm and passion to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love (over 100k downloads) on subjects around relationships, intimacy, sex, communication and gender dynamics.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why men are so obsessed with their phonesWhat Robert Kandell means by a "chasm of intimacy"Why he says "aggrieved entitlement" is what causes your man to withdrawWhat Robert thinks about the idea that the #MeToo movement causes men to be scaredHow women can encourage men to speak about their anger CONNECT WITH ROBERT KANDELL:Website: RobertKandell.comTwitter: @RobertKandellFacebook: Facebook.com/Robert.KandellLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RobertKandellInstagram: Instagram.com/Robert.KandellCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#mentoday #communicationwithmen #Phonesinrelationships #RobertKandell #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy # See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Oh, that's crazy-making, right?You try to talk about your feelings and you get shut down?In today's episode, I give you insights into this whole nasty process of being blamed for being overly sensitive when you're actually speaking up for yourself when attacked.You know what I'm talking about. IT HURTS!Are you told that you're being overly sensitive too often? Hijackals® can be brutal. Nothing can be their fault, so everything has to be yours. When they want to put you down, and keep you down, they tell you how hopeless, useless, and worthless you are in SO many nasty, overt AND underhanded ways, right?And, when you speak up for yourself, they tell you that you are overly sensitive, that you have a thin skin.Or, the worst, that they were just kidding! You know so well they were not, but you also know that they take absolutely no responsibility for anything they do or say, so everything has to be your fault.Speak up for yourself, and a #Hijackal will say anything to squish you like a gnat! Today, I'm giving you insights into this nasty behavior, and a very good practice for how to respond effectively...over time.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why telling you constantly that you're overly sensitive is abusiveWhat's really going on this dynamic between you at that timeWhat to practice saying to yourself to get ready to respond wellHow to speak up effectively for yourself...and, it works!I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUP AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" callsat least monthly insightful webinarYou can get most of this for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/ESCCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #communication #overlysensitive #speakuptoabuse #highlysensitive See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you ever try to downplay your need for great self-care? If you're like many folks--too many folks--you likely do! You may have been raised to believe that you should be ok, power through, and need nothing.You may have been told that other people are more important than you are, and that you are a good person when you put other people first...all the time!NO! Not good. Always putting yourself at the end of your list is DEFINITELY NOT GOOD! . You may well become a tired, isolated, worn down, and resentful person, though! That's definitely not good.You see the pattern immediately, don't you? You feel tired, and then, because a parent or someone told you that you should put other people first, you push yourself well beyond your limits. You "think you should!" ARGH! No, you shouldn't. Sure, there are crises and you might have to push through, real emergencies. But, really, those are few and far between. Not much is a crisis or an emergency, but too many people live as though everything is. If you're with, or were raised by, a Hijackal, that's how they want you to think the world works. And, Hijackals® are absolutely delighted to create crisis and emergency, after disaster and destruction. Exhausting! Sounding familiar? I had to learn all this the hard way, too. You deserve to be healthy. That's your job. Do it for yourself. I'm giving you lots of food for thought this week, and next week, I'll add even more to help you think about how you really want to feel, think, live, and love.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you may not think you need to take good care of yourselfWhat does it really mean to be selfishWhy being selfish is not a bad thing when it comes to self-careMany questions to deeply think about, even journal about, to help you consider taking super good care of yourself in every wayI hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.Let's talk soon. I can help. Schedule an initial hour consultation HERE for only $97.I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT GROUP AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to a Emotional Savvy Circlemy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" callsYou can get most of this for the price of one latte a month!ForRelationshipHelp.com/ESCCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #stress #self-care #emotionaldistress See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I give you five solid reasons why mediation is a good choice...and, why it may not work well with a #Hijackal! There are several important things to know about mediation. Some folks don't know about them, and I wanted to be sure you did. It's important when deciding how to proceed to resolve differences in partnerships of any kind, and relationships of all kinds.I've mediated in workplace settings, in primary family relationships, with estranged sisters in two parts of the country, with parents who have been alienated from their children for quite a while, and, of course, I've mediated many, many divorces. And, mediation is, in my opinion, the best way to go when both parties want a fair--or, even somewhat fair--settlement so they can move on with life with less stress and angst.Things can go well, or go south, though, when mediating where one person is a relentlessly difficult person. No surprise, right?Enjoy this segment, and learn why mediation may be the best first strategy for you.(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )GUEST: ANTHONY DIAZ, THE PEACE CATALYST Anthony Diaz, Esq. is a family law attorney and mediator specializing in resolving disputes easily, effortlessly, and amicably. In his practice, he is known as the Peacemaker. He is also a Licensed Practitioner with the Centers of Spiritual Living. As a coach, attorney, and mediator, Anthony utilizes his spiritual practices to guide others from pain to peace. He is also an international speaker whose passion, mission, and purpose are to help those in pain to move on from their divorce with dignity to co-create the life they were meant to live.Your kids are watching! You know that, and I'm sure it worries you when you and your partner are often arguing, or worse, right? One big thing a parent has to always keep in mind is, that even at your worst moments, you are being a model for your children. We talk about that today. It's a big deal!What about the practical things? Like coming to agree, or not? What can you expect? Anthony gives you the inside look at mediation, and what you can expect, realistically. Of course, sometimes, things just don't get resolved, and we talk about that, too.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why being a model for your children needs to be a high-priority conscious actWhat to do in the face of resistanceHow do you choose between attorney's and a mediatorIs it "spiritual" to divorce?How you can know if it's time to quit a relationshipWhat is Collaborative Divorce?CONNECT WITH ANTHONY DIAZWebsite: AnthonyJDiaz.comTwitter: @The1PeaceMakerFacebook: Facebook.com/AJDCPALinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/the1peacemakerInstagram: Instagram.com/the1peace_makerCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #mediation #AnthonyJDiaz See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I give you five solid reasons why mediation is a good choice...and, why it may not work well with a #Hijackal! There are several important things to know about mediation. Some folks don't know about them, and I wanted to be sure you did. It's important when deciding how to proceed to resolve differences in partnerships of any kind, and relationships of all kinds.I've mediated in workplace settings, in primary family relationships, with estranged sisters in two parts of the country, with parents who have been alienated from their children for quite a while, and, of course, I've mediated many, many divorces. And, mediation is, in my opinion, the best way to go when both parties want a fair--or, even somewhat fair--settlement so they can move on with life with less stress and angst.Things can go well, or go south, though, when mediating where one person is a relentlessly difficult person. No surprise, right?Enjoy this segment, and learn why mediation may be the best first strategy for you.(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )GUEST: ANTHONY DIAZ, THE PEACE CATALYST Anthony Diaz, Esq. is a family law attorney and mediator specializing in resolving disputes easily, effortlessly, and amicably. In his practice, he is known as the Peacemaker. He is also a Licensed Practitioner with the Centers of Spiritual Living. As a coach, attorney, and mediator, Anthony utilizes his spiritual practices to guide others from pain to peace. He is also an international speaker whose passion, mission, and purpose are to help those in pain to move on from their divorce with dignity to co-create the life they were meant to live.Your kids are watching! You know that, and I'm sure it worries you when you and your partner are often arguing, or worse, right? One big thing a parent has to always keep in mind is, that even at your worst moments, you are being a model for your children. We talk about that today. It's a big deal!What about the practical things? Like coming to agree, or not? What can you expect? Anthony gives you the inside look at mediation, and what you can expect, realistically. Of course, sometimes, things just don't get resolved, and we talk about that, too.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why being a model for your children needs to be a high-priority conscious actWhat to do in the face of resistanceHow do you choose between attorney's and a mediatorIs it "spiritual" to divorce?How you can know if it's time to quit a relationshipWhat is Collaborative Divorce?CONNECT WITH ANTHONY DIAZWebsite: AnthonyJDiaz.comTwitter: @The1PeaceMakerFacebook: Facebook.com/AJDCPALinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/the1peacemakerInstagram: Instagram.com/the1peace_makerCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #mediation #AnthonyJDiaz See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorGO FOR THE GOLD. BE A LEADER IN YOUR OWN LIFEGUEST: LISA MARIE PLATSKE, AWARD-WINNING LEADERSHIP EXPERTDR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Important Principles To Achieve the Results You Want Today, I'm sharing four important--actually essential--principles to grow your business, increase your effectiveness, and create relationships you most want. Tall order...and, these work!You've heard that "attitude is everything." There's truth in that, and we also need focus, attention, and intention, too. There really is method in the madness of achieving the success in life that you want, on all levels. AND, I want to encourage you to create success on your own terms. Not success based on "shoulds" or societal expectations. Success based on who you are, what you value and believe, and what you feel called to create.These four principles are the keys to conscious creation. Use them daily.GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske, CEO of UpsideThinking, and award-winning leadership, connection, and positioning expertLisa Marie Platske is an award-winning leadership expert and a #1 international best-selling author of Designing Your Destiny and Turn Possibilities into Realities. She uses her law enforcement journey. which began on the piers of New York and ended post 9/11, and shares what exceptional leaders do differently and how to be positioned as an expert in order to seize big opportunities. She understands how to develop the skills, mindsets, and abilities to be a leader worth following!Lisa Marie shares how she overcame toxicity in her own life, and her strategies for staying toxic-free. A big part of that journey is arriving at the clarity required. Listen for those tips.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it's so important to know and live your valuesHow to get clarity on your goals and purposesWhat it requires to be present--truly present--to someone's painWhy is it essential to recognize the facts of an experience, and not just the emotional components.What does it mean to be a leader, and a leader in your own lifeLisa Marie helps leaders in business develop themselves to live and express their values and vision. Being congruent in these ways is an amazing foundation for being a wildly successful, influential leader, no matter the size of the community you lead.CONNECT WITH LISA MARIE PLATSKEWebsite: UpsideThinking.com Twitter: @UpsideThinkingFacebook: Facebook.com/Lisa.Marie.PlatskeCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #bepresent #LisaMariePlatske #connection See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorGO FOR THE GOLD. BE A LEADER IN YOUR OWN LIFEGUEST: LISA MARIE PLATSKE, AWARD-WINNING LEADERSHIP EXPERTDR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Important Principles To Achieve the Results You Want Today, I'm sharing four important--actually essential--principles to grow your business, increase your effectiveness, and create relationships you most want. Tall order...and, these work!You've heard that "attitude is everything." There's truth in that, and we also need focus, attention, and intention, too. There really is method in the madness of achieving the success in life that you want, on all levels. AND, I want to encourage you to create success on your own terms. Not success based on "shoulds" or societal expectations. Success based on who you are, what you value and believe, and what you feel called to create.These four principles are the keys to conscious creation. Use them daily.GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske, CEO of UpsideThinking, and award-winning leadership, connection, and positioning expertLisa Marie Platske is an award-winning leadership expert and a #1 international best-selling author of Designing Your Destiny and Turn Possibilities into Realities. She uses her law enforcement journey. which began on the piers of New York and ended post 9/11, and shares what exceptional leaders do differently and how to be positioned as an expert in order to seize big opportunities. She understands how to develop the skills, mindsets, and abilities to be a leader worth following!Lisa Marie shares how she overcame toxicity in her own life, and her strategies for staying toxic-free. A big part of that journey is arriving at the clarity required. Listen for those tips.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it's so important to know and live your valuesHow to get clarity on your goals and purposesWhat it requires to be present--truly present--to someone's painWhy is it essential to recognize the facts of an experience, and not just the emotional components.What does it mean to be a leader, and a leader in your own lifeLisa Marie helps leaders in business develop themselves to live and express their values and vision. Being congruent in these ways is an amazing foundation for being a wildly successful, influential leader, no matter the size of the community you lead.CONNECT WITH LISA MARIE PLATSKEWebsite: UpsideThinking.com Twitter: @UpsideThinkingFacebook: Facebook.com/Lisa.Marie.PlatskeCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #bepresent #LisaMariePlatske #connection See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GGUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery processWhy a "recovery message" is important to createUnderstanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recoveryThe importance of knowing the natural recovery processHow to be aware of warning signs of addictionListen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's RecoveryCONNECT WITH JEFF JONESWebsite: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.comTwitter: LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GGUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery processWhy a "recovery message" is important to createUnderstanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recoveryThe importance of knowing the natural recovery processHow to be aware of warning signs of addictionListen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's RecoveryCONNECT WITH JEFF JONESWebsite: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.comTwitter: LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorAbundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your daily life.Prosperity is much more than money or success, right? So is abundance! I'm offering you some clear examples and strategies you can use immediately to create prosperity in your life, AND, in your relationships.Do you know what you actually want? What would make you happy? Or, are you focused on what isn't working, and is making you miserable? These mindset shifts that help you create the prosperity you want are ones you can make immediately. Really!You are powerful--no matter what some Hijackal has tried to tell you--and what you think most about is what you will create more of. That's why I wrote What You Pay Attention to Expands in 2002. It's still available on Amazon, too.Gather these insights, and use these strategies. Use the one's from today's guest, Jolen Philbrook, to create powerful shifts in your body and in your life.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you clear reasons, encouragement, and practical strategies to create more of what you want in your life: prosperity on every level.GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert, author of From Tears to Triumph Jolen Philbrook is known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. Her specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck negative emotions to attract more success, prosperity, and happiness in your life.In 2008, Jolen survived a rare type of breast cancer, went through a custody suit with no income. Then, one year later, she survived kidney cancer. Now, she shares her wisdom so that you can find your inner strength, prosperity, and happiness to live your greatest life.She is the author of 365 Days of Gratitude, Reflections, and From Tears to Triumph.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it's important to know precisely what you want in your lifeWhat to do when you recognize you are suffering from the resentment you're carryingHow an abundant mindset can help you deal with toxic people, #HijackalsHow Jolen dealt with someone who was always attacking herThe vital connections between what you are thinking and what you are creating in lifeHow Jolen successfully dealt with two bouts with cancerThis episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HER FREE GIFT:Are You Stressed About Money? - GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH JOLEN PHILBROOKWebsite: JolenPhilbrook.comTwitter: @Julen_PhilbrookLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jolen-philbrook-bb004b50Facebook: Facebook.com/JolenPhilbrookCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #abundance #prosperity See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorAbundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your daily life.Prosperity is much more than money or success, right? So is abundance! I'm offering you some clear examples and strategies you can use immediately to create prosperity in your life, AND, in your relationships.Do you know what you actually want? What would make you happy? Or, are you focused on what isn't working, and is making you miserable? These mindset shifts that help you create the prosperity you want are ones you can make immediately. Really!You are powerful--no matter what some Hijackal has tried to tell you--and what you think most about is what you will create more of. That's why I wrote What You Pay Attention to Expands in 2002. It's still available on Amazon, too.Gather these insights, and use these strategies. Use the one's from today's guest, Jolen Philbrook, to create powerful shifts in your body and in your life.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you clear reasons, encouragement, and practical strategies to create more of what you want in your life: prosperity on every level.GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert, author of From Tears to Triumph Jolen Philbrook is known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. Her specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck negative emotions to attract more success, prosperity, and happiness in your life.In 2008, Jolen survived a rare type of breast cancer, went through a custody suit with no income. Then, one year later, she survived kidney cancer. Now, she shares her wisdom so that you can find your inner strength, prosperity, and happiness to live your greatest life.She is the author of 365 Days of Gratitude, Reflections, and From Tears to Triumph.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it's important to know precisely what you want in your lifeWhat to do when you recognize you are suffering from the resentment you're carryingHow an abundant mindset can help you deal with toxic people, #HijackalsHow Jolen dealt with someone who was always attacking herThe vital connections between what you are thinking and what you are creating in lifeHow Jolen successfully dealt with two bouts with cancerThis episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HER FREE GIFT:Are You Stressed About Money? - GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH JOLEN PHILBROOKWebsite: JolenPhilbrook.comTwitter: @Julen_PhilbrookLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jolen-philbrook-bb004b50Facebook: Facebook.com/JolenPhilbrookCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #abundance #prosperity See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.