Podcasts about emotional savvy

Episode #941 Are you shutting down your emotions without even realizing it? Many men do—pushing down anger, regret, and fear in an attempt to stay "even-keeled." But here's the truth: when you numb the hard emotions, you also numb the joy, passion, and fulfillment you crave. In this episode, Doug and Andy dive deep into emotional intelligence and what it really means to be strong. They unpack: Why suppressing emotions limits your happiness How vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness The real meaning behind anger—and how to use it constructively Why emotional attunement makes you a better partner, leader, and man If you've ever been told you're "emotionally unavailable" or struggled to connect with your wife on a deeper level, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in now and take the first step toward unlocking your full emotional potential. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Episode #832 Join Doug Holt and Andy Torr in this enlightening episode of "The Powerful Man Podcast" as they dive deep into the heart of emotional intelligence. Discover how understanding and managing your emotions can lead to stronger relationships, greater self-awareness, and a more fulfilling life. In this episode, Doug and Andy explore the concept of emotional intelligence, shedding light on how emotions like anger and vulnerability play pivotal roles in our lives. They discuss practical strategies for recognizing and addressing underlying emotions, enhancing your ability to connect with others genuinely. Listen as Andy shares his insights on developing the muscle of vulnerability and the power of emotional attunement, while Doug emphasizes the importance of balancing emotional expression with maintaining a sense of safety and stability in relationships. This candid conversation also touches on the cultural misconceptions around stoicism and the critical difference between being stoic and being emotionally numb. Whether you're navigating personal challenges or seeking to improve your relationships, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to help you become emotionally savvy and unlock your inner potential. Tune in and take the first step towards a more emotionally intelligent and fulfilling life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

In this episode, Tim and Russell, discuss the crucial role of leadership in all facets of life, with a particular focus on emotional intelligence and its significance for leaders. The Tim and Russell delve into how leaders must manage their own emotions and inspire positive feelings such as enthusiasm and trust in their teams. We underscore the importance of psychological safety in the workplace, encouraging leaders to cultivate an environment where team members can voice unconventional ideas and bad news without fear. However, they argue that it's not sufficient to merely create safe spaces; leaders should also foster their team's courage to engage in difficult conversations and manage conflict. The discussion addresses the concept of emotional mastery, emphasizing the need for individuals to separate facts from the interpretations they assign to events. By understanding that emotions are a product of these personal interpretations, leaders can take responsibility for their reactions and work towards more constructive outcomes. Russell introduces the “results model,” a five-step process (fact, meaning, emotion, action, and results) designed to help individuals be mindful of their emotions and choose actions that align with their desired results. The text connects emotions to actions, illustrating how misinterpretations can lead to unnecessary conflicts and stressing the importance of personal accountability for one's feelings. Lastly, the podcast touches upon the idea of being proactive in designing one's life, hinting at a deeper exploration of this topic in the following week's episode. Listeners are encouraged to share and engage with the podcast's content.   Russell Heath Links: Russell runs the Master Coach Training Program. The Program trains coaches to perform at an exceptionally high level in a short period of time: https://russellheath.net/master-coach-training/ Website: https://russellheath.net Books by Russell: Nearly award-winning Alaska thrillers. Broken Angels: https://www.amazon.com/Broken-Angels-Russell-Heath-ebook/dp/B00ZBM3M0W Rinn's Crossing: https://www.amazon.com/Rinns-Crossing-Political-Russell-Heath-ebook/dp/B085MNF2L6   Tim Stating the Obvious Social Links: Website: https://timstatingtheobvious.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/timstatingtheobvious Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHfDcITKUdniO8R3RP0lvdw  Instagram: @TimStating TikTok: @timstatingtheobvious X (Formerly Twitter): @TimStating  

What is a Hijackal®? Have you ever heard of that term? Whether you have heard about it or not, you probably have experienced it. Hijackals® are “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.” Do you want to make it stop? Join me and Rhoberta Shaler tonight Aug 24, 2021, at 6:30 pm Mountain time for an incredible journey as we discuss 2 of her 16 books: Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Kaizen for Couples: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain, and Strengthen Your Relationship. The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D., provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help! Dr. Shaler particularly helps the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. She defines Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.” Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence--and your sanity--when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home, and at work. Author of sixteen books, including her Hijackal ebook series, Escaping the Hijackal Trap, and, Stop! That's Crazy-Making, she is the host of the popular podcast, listened to in more than seventy-five countries: Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. She is the former host of the Emotional Savvy channel on Binge TV Networks. Dr. Shaler's work has been featured on PsychCentral, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Your Tango, The Good Men Project, and eHarmony, among many others. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, is an evergreen source of practical insights and tips for relationships and has reached over a half million views. WEBSITES AND SOCIAL MEDIA: Website and Blog: ForRelationshipHelp.com Podcast: SaveYourSanityPodcast.com Facebook: @RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: @RhobertaShaler Pinterest: @RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler Clubhouse: @DrShaler

Are you suffering as a result of what Dr. Gary Salyer calls "badly-formed love?" You could be. Suffering is part of it, for sure. And, so much more. Do you know what well-formed love is? Have you seen it when you were growing up, or created it as an adult? Were you comfortable with it? BIG QUESTIONS! Dr. Gary Salyer has been my guest on Save Your Sanity before, and we talked about Trauma-Bonding. He was also on my Emotional Savvy podcast and we talked in-depth about Attachment Theory and Styles. (And, P.S. there are still over 150 episodes available to listen to even though I don't do it anymore.)So much wisdom, great insights, and a wicked sense of humor, too. Enjoy! Big hugs,RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What well-formed love isWhere you form the basis for badly-formed loveWhat is reasonable to expert from a "loving relationship"What might skew or warp your ideas of what a healthy relationship isWhat Dr, Gary Salyer means by "bonded to misery"The dysfunctional bond when love is mixed with suffering GUEST: DR. GARY SALYER Based on a field of study called Attachment Theory, the science of intimate relationships, Dr. Salyer’s insights have a profound and often times immediate impact. As a transformational relationship mentor, he helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains. After Dr. Gary Salyer’s second marriage crumbled he felt like an utter, complete failure. Rather than give in, he dedicated himself to doing deep research about all things love. He read, researched, furthered his education in the field, talked to experts and to people he loved. Most of all he did the deep transformation work that unlocked his heart and released his soul to love as he had always imagined.Love and how to make it lasting – became his life’s highest calling—In so doing, he has developed a powerful and effective methodology to make it “Safe to Love Again” GIFT FOR YOU: Not at this time.CONNECT WITH DR. GARY SALYER:WEBSITE: https://www.garysalyer.comPODCAST: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SafetoLoveAgainYOUTUBE: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dr.gary.salyer/LINKEDIN: http://www.linkedin.com/pub/gary-d-salyer-ph-d/8/93a/8a5TWITTER: https://twitter.com/GaryDSalyer--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Support Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Relationship Help Support Circles ----------------------------------------------------------------------#drgarysalyer #badlyformedlove #illformedlove #attachmentstyles #whymyrelationshipisfailing #sabotagingrelationship #safetoloveagain #ruiningrelationships #subconsciousrelationshippatterns #canIbeloved #passiveaggressive#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #hijackalabuse #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #unhealthyrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #passiveaggressive Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity. She defines Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.”Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence--and your sanity--when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home and at work. Author of sixteen books, including her Hijackal ebook series, she is the host of the popular podcast, listened to in more than seventy-five countries: Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. She is the former host of the Emotional Savvy channel on Binge TV Networks.In this episode, we dive into the following:Rhoberta's story - having toxic parents and later finding herself in a marriage with another toxic personEnabling or excusing toxic behavior"Toxic" as a buzzwordToxic relationships with parents, friendships, and in the workplaceWarning signs and red flags to look out forCycle of abuse -- lovebombing / grooming, the 'gotcha' factor / devalue, hovering, & discardTune in to hear more from the wise expert herself!!//Connect with Dr. Rhoberta's work:Website: forrelationshiphelp.comPodcast: Save Your Sanity PodcastDr. Rhoberta's series of booksInstagram: @drrhobertashalerFacebook: Relationship Help DoctorLinkedIn: Rhoberta Shaler//Song: Gaslighter by The Chicks//Follow along with the rest of my journey.Instagram:@whytli@inthewakewithwhytliFacebook: Whytli RogersTwitter: @whytliPinterest: WhytliTikTok: @whytliLinkedIn: Whytli RogersWebsite: whytli.comContact me here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/whytli?locale.x=en_US)

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals® to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity.Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 305,000 views.12 Ways Your Narcissistic Mother Lied to You About Who You AreSupport Josieology by sharing it with your friends on social media or via email.Let’s hang out!Instagram: @josieologypodcastFacebook: @josieologypodcastFacebook Group: josieology podcast private group - you’ll need the password to get in (password was mentioned in the episode)Website: www.josieology.comClick here to Follow the BlogContact Josie via email josie@josieology.com⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If you’re listening on Apple Podcasts, please take a moment to give Josieology a 5 star rating or leave a review! Thank you so much!

Do you have a parent, partner or colleague who always has to be RIGHT? Do they blame you for things that you have no control over? If so, you may be dealing with a Hijackal. So, how do you identify when you’re in a toxic relationship? And more importantly, what can you do about it? Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, is the Relationship Help Doctor behind Transforming Relationship, a platform designed to provide ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She focuses on helping the partners, exes and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to ‘stop the crazy-making and save their sanity.’ Rhoberta is also the author of 16 books on toxic relationships, and she serves as the host of the Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity podcasts. On this episode of Wickedly Smart Women, Rhoberta joins Emerald to walk us through the characteristics of a toxic relationship. She describes how Hijackals show up in personal and professional relationships, explaining what we can do to recognize their behavior and reclaim our sense of self. Listen in for Rhoberta’s insight on why fixing someone else’s behavior is not YOUR responsibility and learn the three hallmarks of a healthy relationship! What You Will Learn How growing up with Hijackal parents called Rhoberta to this work How to identify when you’re in a toxic relationship How the public perception of a Hijackal differs from their private behavior What Rhoberta does to help people regain their sense of confidence Why our adversarial court system favors Hijackals How Hijackals show up in business relationships The three hallmarks of a healthy relationship How to recognize ‘love bombing’ in personal + professional relationships How to identify when you’ve taken on Hijackal traits Why fixing someone else’s behavior is NOT your responsibility How Rhoberta’s spiritual life supports her in showing up + speaking out Connect with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Transforming Relationship Emotional Savvy Podcast Save Your Sanity Podcast Rhoberta on YouTube Resources Escaping the Hijackal Trap: The Truth About Hijackals and Why They are Crazy-Making by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Stop! That’s Crazy-Making: How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD New Media Summit Wrestling Rhinos: Conquering Conflict in the Wilds of Work by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD KAIZEN for COUPLES: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain & Strengthen Your Relationship by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Connect with Emerald GreenForest Emerald’s Website Emerald on LinkedIn Emerald on Twitter Emerald on Instagram Email listeners@wickedlysmartwomen.com Apply to Wealthy Life by Design Leave Us A Message On Our listener line:   540-402-0043 x4343

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler is the relationship help doctor who provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform the relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. She is the author of 16 books including Escaping The Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy Making. She also hosts two podcasts Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelps, has reached over 290,000 views. Here are the key links from this episode: Dr. Rhoberta's books (https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/product-category/books/) Subscribe to Dr. Rhoberta's YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/user/ForRelationshipHelp) Hijackals (http://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/hijackals-intro) Transforming Relationships (http://transformingrelationship.com)

The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!Dr. Shaler particularly helps the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. She defines Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.”Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence--and your sanity--when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home and at work. Author of sixteen books, including her Hijackal ebook series, Escaping the Hijackal Trap, and, Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she is the host of two popular podcasts listened to in more than fifty countries: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show and Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. She is the former host of the Emotional Savvy channel on Binge TV Networks.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis, at home and at work. She awakens listeners to recognize, and stop tolerating abuse from, the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author of 16 books, she offers practical insights to stop the crazy-making. Information & Blog:  ForRelationshipHelp.com Podcasts:  Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity  RelationshipHelpShow.com Free ebook: How To Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com   Join the free Closed Facebook group: Optimize Life! Help for Handling Hijackals® Website and Blog: TransformingRelationship.com Facebook: @RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: @RhobertaShaler Pinterest: @RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler

TO READ TRANSCRIPT SCROLL TO THE BOTTOM OF THE PAGEIn episode #1 of the new Awaken The Possibilities Podcast, Host Terry Wildemann interviews Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on "Navigating the Holidays When Single". This scenario can be challenging, especially if you haven't prepared yourself. Rhoberta share wonderful insights and perspective that can assist singles, and their family members, to respect one another in ways that allow all to enjoy the holidays._____________________________________________________________________________________________________________About Dr. Shaler:Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to know why and how to transform relationship with themselves and with other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity.Widely published and author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two popular podcasts: Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 275,000 views._____________________________________________________________________________________________________________About Terry Wildemann:Terry Wildemann is the owner of Intuitive Leadership® and a Business and Resilience Accelerator, Speaker and Certified Executive Coach,Terry's specialty is working with tired, unhealthy workaholic entrepreneurs and professionals and helps them leap off the stress hamster and evolve into unstoppable stress resilient intuitive leaders. Terry’s timely message taps into how to integrate intuition, stress resilience, positive communications and leadership with grounded business systems that help her students to successfully and positively serve and influence others. Her leadership experience includes owning a manufacturing company, image consulting company, leadership and holistic education center.Terry is a best selling author of The Enchanted Boardroom: Evolve Into An Unstoppable Intuitive Leader. _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________TRANSCRIPT welcome everyone to awaken the possibilities I'm your host Terry will demand and I'm really excited because this is the very first episode of the awaken the possibilities popped up podcast and I am delighted to have as my very first guest who helped me so much in creating the background in creating the set everything to do with the awaken the possibilities podcast Dr we're Burda Shaler we're Burda is a very good friend of mine and someone who I hold in very high esteem so to have her on as the very first episode as my very first gas is truly truly exciting so I like to tell you a little bit about her because she truly is a magnificent human being Dr Roberta Scheller PhD is known as the relationship help doctor and provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis our mission is to provide insights information and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationships with themselves and other humans to be honest respectable respectful and respectable I'm sure state in all ways even the United States marines have sought her help and as you know I'm a navy spouse so that means so much to me that our military who joined this much I regard as I do %HESITATION doctor Schiller focuses on helping the partner's exes an adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls hi jackals I love that word hi jackals to stop the crazy making and saving their sanity she is the author of sixteen books including escaping the Hyde Jekyll trap and stop that's crazy making she has two podcasts emotional savvy and save your sanity her YouTube channel for relationship help has reached over two hundred and ninety thousand views wow congratulations on your accomplishments for Burnett and thank you for being here %HESITATION is totally my pleasure I love talking with you and you to biz is a wonderful thing when our over three hundred and five thousand views and them that it's amazing to be able to give people some relief when they're up in the middle of the night wondering what's going on in their world and kind of tents and to have somewhere they can go to get information to feel safe to feel empowered and to feel that they can understand what's happening to them and that really is special because that can be such a clear scary place where things are going on around you and and it's completely chaotic and you know your head is just spinning you just don't know where to go what to say what to do how to behave and it can be quite frightening it absolutely is you know and if you have happened to be raised by high jackals or you're with one and your being your very best empathetic self you're going the extra mile you're reaching out you may be justifying people's poor behaviors and you think that you know that's a great way to create relationships it's so important to know when you've actually gone beyond what is reasonable and something that is healthy and when other people have invaded you too and your space in ways that are unhealthy and to be able to recognize those boundaries and sometimes those unhealthy ways our cultural are they not sure they certainly are I mean there's a distinction I teach negotiation for the university of Texas and and when I'm helping people in project management because is seeing MBA program you know we talk about the difference between a collectivist culture in an individualist culture and if you're in a collectivist cultures that means that the focus of the culture is that the family is more important than the individual and so then you could have differences between the males and female roles within that collectivist culture and it can be sometimes oppressive and it can have some patterns in it that are really unhealthy and then on the other side the individualist culture then people feel that they can do whatever and say whatever they want to each other because they have that right and then we don't know exactly what the rules are so it's really important yeah I find in most situations %HESITATION that it's truly important to listen to your intuition how you feel and a lot of us aren't given permission to be able to do that and when we do oh my god it can become even more chaotic requiring us to completely step away for Saturday's Centru well it certainly can be I mean I think you hit on a really important piece Terry is starting to believe that maybe your intuition your got your sense your first feeling your first read of something may be accurate and then because society has said so many things you might start second guessing that and you might start asking other people's opinion of what's good are right for you and you've already been told what's good are right for you but you're not listening yet so it's important to be open to listening to that so in that vein a lot of us are single during this time of year we are in the holiday season it is you know we've got Hanukkah on one side Christmas on the other side Kwan signed some of us don't even celebrate the holidays but when you're single that can be a double edged sword to some people oh my god it's wonderful he did work about a lot of family stuff but on the other hand there are those who are single who want to engage in the family stuff so I really see it as a double edged sword and one of the %HESITATION I really wanted to talk with you today about stress and being single during the holidays because as we were talking before the show you had mentioned well is there really enough time to do that because we haven't prepared well I'm sure there are a lot of singles who have been prepared themselves in mind body and spirit for being single in the holidays so input in this podcast up I think we may be able to we may be doing a service in that once you even recognize that you haven't prepared isn't that the first step well it certainly is in order to be able to say I'm in a different paradigm down maybe a whole lot of other people am I comfortable in my paradigms do I miss something terribly do I not know how to create it do I experience as you say thank one of the big things in my life that I'm so delighted with this Joe Morrow you know the joy of missing out but there are a whole lot of people who were in the formal world to the fear of missing out and so when they're not included that something they have to look at and it does it can you come from the place of I choose what I do where do you come from the place of nobody's choosing me and that's where the preparation as I get to know yourself well enough to know what your needs and wants are what your thoughts and feelings are and what you're moving toward what your beliefs are about all this and then what the cultural dictates you know is it is it he %HESITATION are you noticing a bunch of articles that are written about you know I'm so sorry if you're alone for the holidays well you know I have a wonderful relationship in my life but it doesn't include the holidays and I am like %HESITATION you know someone asked me today what he could do it I I was tomorrow because of Chris's Christmas tomorrow and I said well I plan on eating good foods not getting dressed and reading a good book what do you have a place to go no %HESITATION delightfully I don't but for some people that dislike I'm not included I haven't I don't have a place to go I don't have a tribe I feel left out and there's a whole Lotta should surround it so we have two examiners shoots that you should have a person you should be connected well what if you're not you know and let's talk for a minute to in this context about bright people super bright people they tend to be a bit of an out liar you know they don't fit in every situation nor do they want to and and they have to look at you know what are my preferences do I get my joy from deciding where I go or do I feel downtrodden when people don't invite me to go somewhere what is going on is there a lot of factors at play here the preparation is a big thing because we don't spend enough time buyers sellers you know talking about intuition well we also spend enough time listening to that but we don't spend enough time enquiring into ourselves who am I which way I want what represents me water may boundaries what are my values what's my vision for my life what are my next steps many people don't want to encounter themselves so they don't spend time in the quiet finding out who they are and what's up you know it's interesting that you say that about being in the quiet when alone is about twenty five years ago when we first moved here in Rhode Island my car radio stopped working and all of a sudden I had to learn how to sit and drive in silence and today twenty five years later when I'm driving with family in the car and then they turn the radio on I can't handle it thank the card that I had before the one that I have now didn't have a radio sports car and I never noticed when I bought it didn't come with the radio and then I thought well let me explore this and so like this I don't you know it really is once you learn how to be in quiet you can hear your thoughts you can really look at how you feel about different things you will allow things that you were masking before the bubble up to the surface and I really do believe that it's important whether you're in a relationship or not in a relationship with your single or not single whether you're with family or not family that you own that part of yourself and but you can only own it once you know it yeah and and that's the whole point of preparation and %HESITATION if you if you can spend time with yourself like so many times %HESITATION clients all over the world because I work through video conferencing I'll say which is Quincy it quietly what what how long do I have to do that for and you know start with two minutes and then we'll talk about it in you know I lead them to answer the question is your real fear of finding out who you are and you don't want to do that is it that you're you know what are you busy about what is it that you must get up and do that will distract you from knowing yourself and is a really stemming from a fear of I don't know who will find when I spend time with myself and I might not like it so I think I'll go and put in the laundry and sweep the carport you know now one thing I do now it's interesting you said that about I'll go put the laundry in suite the carport one thing I do know is there are that there are folks of which I'm married to one who loves constant momentum and while he's doing things with his hands and doing different tasks I can see him in his mind just reviewing things in reviewing things M. processing and thinking so that action of doing mindless work actually assist him to engage internally that often happens for people have it's not that that they need the distraction of that it is that they have a kinesthetic need to be doing something that allows them then to let their mind go free you know when we look at the different modalities of how people process information kinesthetic people you know they're the people in school %HESITATION always tapping their pen or their food or something driving you crazy but the thing is that if you don't have that processing stuff they'll that be annoying to you but to them to be in motion allows them to pay attention they've taken care of the body so they can free the mind then that's an important thing to know if if you think about spending time alone and sitting still and that goes %HESITATION and why don't you do that then you probably want to look into the world of walking meditation so that you can walk and get into that state where you can cut you reflect and that will be a really good thing for you to do but the thing is you know you do you want to be able to encounter yourself as well as encounter the divine when you're sitting there if that's part of your agenda but first off start out by encountering yourself and not being fearful if that so that when you begin to encounter yourself and you begin to become interested in care but that person I love that person and be curious about that person then you will be able to listen to your intuition so were burned out right now we're %HESITATION ten I discuss today's Christmas he and there is a lot of time to prepare we may be going to family tomorrow or the next day it's Christmas Eve is on a Tuesday because Christmas is a little weak you may not be seen family until the weekend like us we're going to be driving down to Pennsylvania on later on in the week that kind of thing what would you suggest to assist those who are single who have been prepared themselves for the onslaught called the holidays well I think one important thing for all of us prepared or not prepared is to be able to answer the question what what I want from this exchange of time so if I'm going to a social event what do I want from this exchange of time if I'm in a conversation what do I want from this exchange of words what is the end result that I want then when we get you skip conscious about that that may be a single person we're we're meeting somebody new we're having a conversation what I want well I just simply want to know and be known a little more a little deeper I'm not gonna make huge leaps and just want to make a little incremental stat and if I understand what I want for many exchange and anytime of any kind then we become much more aware of ourselves and that's the first step so if you don't have much time now because you're going to encounter family or you're going to encounter nothing to do very shortly ask yourself what could I have isn't it an exchange of this time what do I want what what what is the result of this exchange I am our friend at that you and I had %HESITATION recently passed and I I was given everything I wanted of her belongings and I brought home a lot of books so one of the things that are more for the exchange of time tomorrow particularly is I want to look at life from her point of view why is she reading these books what seen here that you know there are things that are definitely related to what I I like to read anyway but %HESITATION that was curious so I can get excited about that but if I had a feeling like well it's not okay on the holidays do not have anywhere to go and nobody inviting me anywhere then I would be all wrapped up in that what I don't have and if you're wrapped up in what year you don't have then you can't be open to what you do have and what you're moving toward to the quick answer to your question is what am I moving toward right now what what is it that is available to me right now that I could actually look forward to and whether that is a long time and being able to and go to bed early %HESITATION %HESITATION %HESITATION it's being with a bunch of people and getting to know somebody or being seen and known by somebody else just know what you want for this exchange of time and it's a great place to start it really is a great place to start and as you're talking %HESITATION I am I'm just curious a lot of the millennials today and when we were kids do we really want to do what our family wanted us to do absolutely not a lot of millennials today are very very clear on what they want and what they don't want and one of the things I keep hearing is I don't want to go to this family event I don't want to go to that family event I you know I don't want to answer their questions I I I don't want to you know and I do know that some millennials feel very much that they're not good enough that there you know some folks are you know college educated they may not be college educated or whatever it is so what I'm hearing you say is from a listening perspective %HESITATION where the millennials are concerned under them or encourage them to keep joining family because that can be a real catch twenty two for families well it is but you know let's I would like to just broaden the conversation to the world perspective be it be in the namaste be honoring who it is you're speaking to be accepting of the person you're speaking to be interested in that person and don't impose your values are your culture or your showed three year ought to use and then you can be in the present moment with them and isn't that what we all want I can't think of one person who wants to go home and have somebody say well I remember when you did this and it wasn't very nice we want that to be gone that's not us Tuesday so why don't we give us today the opportunity of knowing them today and be in the present moment with Sam so what do you say to the parent was hard time with that well if I'm a millennial and someone asked me a difficult question and this came up from one of my groups the other day and I don't want to go home they're gonna ask me why I don't have kids do I have a good job yet they can ask all these tough questions and I said you know just benignly say you know I'm on track with my life it and I'm going to preach I'm going to progress through it in the best way that I possibly can how are things with you give the most general I've been nine answer and then ask a question because the other person probably wants to speak about themselves more anyway so answer them because as respectful to answer them and serve them broadly and don't don't have high expectations of them changing like I just did a show with Laura Rubenstein this morning on our transforming your relationships live on Facebook then the topic that I suggested for the show and it worked well was lower your expectations not your standards really nice so go home if you're going home lower your expectations of the folks being different yeah I know what they're going to ask tough questions if they're tough question answered asters and don't expect there to be different you'll be different right still don't go with this way go with with acceptance you know talk to me about you and just you know divert the conversation back to them and yeah maybe so persistent and you may have to set a boundary and say you know something I'm working on I'll get back to you or yeah %HESITATION but we don't have to get into the tassels we don't have to get into the tough stuff and we don't have to be tough you can just accept them where they are that's what's important to them they're concerned about your future they want to make sure that you're making money and you're on a good track and Nick you know yeah they may come across as as to inquisitive and too judgmental and those kind of things may be in your mind but try and put yourself in their shoes for a little moment and just say okay they're really concerned that I'm going to be able to take care of myself in a good way and that I am going to be a successful human and this is their way of doing it right exactly exactly and you know as you were talking I kept getting this feeling of large traction if you're going to be judging them they're gonna be judging you stop with the judgment and as you say accept them for who they are no accept you for who you are the mayor they may not I mean we each work to our capacity but the only focus that each one of us could have is and who we are and how we're being and that we're living from our values and vision and beliefs and so you know sometimes people say well you know I'm going I have my mother wants me to come home and I don't like her at all what should I do my question is always who are you yeah and they say well what do you mean I said well you are the person who can have the capacity to go except your mother how she is because you want to see here or can't you live without regrets because you don't care for your mother and how she behaves in life and you don't want to make a wrong either so you just don't go right but if the question is who are you and how do you process what do you do what is representative of you living from your values not how do I how do I eight exchange things with other people this how do I be me and then I can after the into change I can say yeah that was me I I stood in my truth I stood in my integrity and my authenticity and I was kind you know what the Terry one of my favorite quotes and I've been using this now for thirty years %HESITATION it was written by a Jesuit high priest ten he said the genius of good communication is to be totally kind and totally honest at the same time when you can muster being totally kind and totally honest at the same time here could you can relax right running into and what a phenomenal place two entities interaction with you being totally kind I just love it absolutely love it we're very sheller thank you so much for being here today in a week in the possibilities M. launching our very first episode in such magnificent fashion as always I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for also being a great friend right now it's my pleasure to be with you in a moment I'm honored to be your first guest and I hope everybody understands that when you get to know yourself and you live from that you can follow my other great important formula and that is H. E. B. B. whether you're thinking of yourself where you're thinking of another human A. B. B. and that stands for always be leave behavior hello I remember to working people get in touch with you %HESITATION you can find me at transforming relationship dot com when you go there you will see that there's a place you can click on for blogs and for podcasts and that'll take you out so to my you tube channel thank you so much for birthday and to my listening audience you can find out more about what it is that we do it intuitively to ship dot com awaken the possibilities where we help entrepreneurs and leaders leap off the stress him just real of life and shift out of chaos into calm ease and flow I'm your host Terry will demand and I look forward to sharing many future episodes with you in the coming year to your success and have a fantastic holiday season See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to know why and how to transform relationship with themselves and with other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity.Widely published and author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two popular podcasts: Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views.Get ready for things to change for the better. Connect with Dr. Shaler today:http://TransformingRelationship.comFREEBIE:How to Spot a Hijackal® Download the FREE ebook that will help you recognize the toxic people in your life an businesshttp://Hijackals.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?You betcha! Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is the connect between intention and physical healthHow to think about what you think about that might need changingSharon's experience with her own medical journeyCompliance vs non-compliance as patientsThe power of the mind and the decision to put yourself firstTaking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditionsCONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLERWebsite: UnderstandingAutoimmune.comTwitter: @SharonSaylerFacebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSaylerInstagram: Instagram.com/SharonSaylerCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #autoimmunedisease #SharonSayler #understandingautoimmune See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?You betcha! Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is the connect between intention and physical healthHow to think about what you think about that might need changingSharon's experience with her own medical journeyCompliance vs non-compliance as patientsThe power of the mind and the decision to put yourself firstTaking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditionsCONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLERWebsite: UnderstandingAutoimmune.comTwitter: @SharonSaylerFacebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSaylerInstagram: Instagram.com/SharonSaylerCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #autoimmunedisease #SharonSayler #understandingautoimmune See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! 
Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. 
Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views. Important TopicsThe reason why the United States Marines sought her helpHow the term "Hijackal" came aboutWhat does Hijackal meansHow to know if you are in a relationship with HijackalThe importance to work within yourselfWhat is it that makes you attractive to HijackalsSteps if you have just realized Hijackal patterns in your relationship and you want to stop the crazy-makingNot to beat yourself upFigure out who you are todayMaintaining boundariesThe importance on spending time with yourselfSpiritual understandingCoercive controlQuotes"You need to keep promises to yourself.""You need to spend enough time with yourself to clarify who you are, what your values are and your vision for your life.""Start small.""Don't set one unless it is not negotiable."BooksEastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea JudithKaizen for Couples by Rhoberta ShalerEscaping The Hijackal Trap by Rhoberta ShalerConnect with Rhoberta:Free Ebook - How to Spot a Hijackal - https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/bonus-hijackal-book/Email list - http://TransformingRelationship.com/subscribeTransforming Relationship - http://TransformingRelationship.com/Email - rs@transformingrelationship.comWork with Dr. Shaler - beaclient.comRadio/Podcasts - RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
Speaker Site - RelationshipHelpDoctor.com
Other links and resources:Free Gift from Diane (Life Reset Quiz) - https://liferesetquiz.com/Bankcode - https://MyBankCode.com/VictoryDiane Halfman's website - http://www.DianeHalfman.comWant to know more about yourself?Some people ask me how to RESET their life.Some people ask me how to be more sensual.Others are wondering how to make more money. How to be more successful. How to start a business. All of these questions and more are what I answer in my programs.Come see me at http://www.DianeHalfman.com

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! 
Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. 
Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views. Important TopicsThe reason why the United States Marines sought her helpHow the term "Hijackal" came aboutWhat does Hijackal meansHow to know if you are in a relationship with HijackalThe importance to work within yourselfWhat is it that makes you attractive to HijackalsSteps if you have just realized Hijackal patterns in your relationship and you want to stop the crazy-makingNot to beat yourself upFigure out who you are todayMaintaining boundariesThe importance on spending time with yourselfSpiritual understandingCoercive controlQuotes"You need to keep promises to yourself.""You need to spend enough time with yourself to clarify who you are, what your values are and your vision for your life.""Start small.""Don't set one unless it is not negotiable."BooksEastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea JudithKaizen for Couples by Rhoberta ShalerEscaping The Hijackal Trap by Rhoberta ShalerConnect with Rhoberta:Free Ebook - How to Spot a Hijackal - https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/bonus-hijackal-book/Email list - http://TransformingRelationship.com/subscribeTransforming Relationship - http://TransformingRelationship.com/Email - rs@transformingrelationship.comWork with Dr. Shaler - beaclient.comRadio/Podcasts - RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
Speaker Site - RelationshipHelpDoctor.com
Other links and resources:Free Gift from Diane (Life Reset Quiz) - https://liferesetquiz.com/Bankcode - https://MyBankCode.com/VictoryDiane Halfman's website - http://www.DianeHalfman.comWant to know more about yourself?Some people ask me how to RESET their life.Some people ask me how to be more sensual.Others are wondering how to make more money. How to be more successful. How to start a business. All of these questions and more are what I answer in my programs.Come see me at http://www.DianeHalfman.com

The Relationship Help Doctor - with Rhoberta ShalerRhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! 
Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. 
Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views. Important TopicsThe reason why the United States Marines sought her helpHow the term "Hijackal" came aboutWhat does Hijackal meansHow to know if you are in a relationship with HijackalThe importance to work within yourselfWhat is it that makes you attractive to HijackalsSteps if you have just realized Hijackal patterns in your relationship and you want to stop the crazy-makingNot to beat yourself upFigure out who you are todayMaintaining boundariesThe importance on spending time with yourselfSpiritual understandingCoercive controlQuotes"You need to keep promises to yourself.""You need to spend enough time with yourself to clarify who you are, what your values are and your vision for your life.""Start small.""Don't set one unless it is not negotiable."BooksEastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea JudithKaizen for Couples by Rhoberta ShalerEscaping The Hijackal Trap by Rhoberta ShalerConnect with Rhoberta:Free Ebook - How to Spot a Hijackal - https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/bonus-hijackal-book/Email list - http://TransformingRelationship.com/subscribeTransforming Relationship - http://TransformingRelationship.com/Email - rs@transformingrelationship.comWork with Dr. Shaler - beaclient.comRadio/Podcasts - RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
Speaker Site - RelationshipHelpDoctor.com
Other links and resources:Free Gifts from Diane Life Reset Quiz - https://LifeResetQuiz.comReset Your Power Guide - https://ResetYourPowerGift.comBANKCODE - https://MyBankCode.com/VictoryDiane Halfman's website - http://www.DianeHalfman.comWant to know more about yourself?Some people ask me how to RESET their life.Some people ask me how to be more sensual.Others are wondering how to make more money. How to be more successful. How to start a business. All of these questions and more are what I answer in my programs.Come see me at http://www.DianeHalfman.com

The Relationship Help Doctor - with Rhoberta ShalerRhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! 
Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. 
Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views. Important TopicsThe reason why the United States Marines sought her helpHow the term "Hijackal" came aboutWhat does Hijackal meansHow to know if you are in a relationship with HijackalThe importance to work within yourselfWhat is it that makes you attractive to HijackalsSteps if you have just realized Hijackal patterns in your relationship and you want to stop the crazy-makingNot to beat yourself upFigure out who you are todayMaintaining boundariesThe importance on spending time with yourselfSpiritual understandingCoercive controlQuotes"You need to keep promises to yourself.""You need to spend enough time with yourself to clarify who you are, what your values are and your vision for your life.""Start small.""Don't set one unless it is not negotiable."BooksEastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea JudithKaizen for Couples by Rhoberta ShalerEscaping The Hijackal Trap by Rhoberta ShalerConnect with Rhoberta:Free Ebook - How to Spot a Hijackal - https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/bonus-hijackal-book/Email list - http://TransformingRelationship.com/subscribeTransforming Relationship - http://TransformingRelationship.com/Email - rs@transformingrelationship.comWork with Dr. Shaler - beaclient.comRadio/Podcasts - RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
Speaker Site - RelationshipHelpDoctor.com
Other links and resources:Free Gifts from Diane Life Reset Quiz - https://LifeResetQuiz.comReset Your Power Guide - https://ResetYourPowerGift.comBANKCODE - https://MyBankCode.com/VictoryDiane Halfman's website - http://www.DianeHalfman.comWant to know more about yourself?Some people ask me how to RESET their life.Some people ask me how to be more sensual.Others are wondering how to make more money. How to be more successful. How to start a business. All of these questions and more are what I answer in my programs.Come see me at http://www.DianeHalfman.com

*ABOUT* Relationship consultant, mediator, and speaker, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®” to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making, she hosts three podcasts: Emotional Savvy, Save Your Sanity, and Focus on Forward. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 200,000 views. *SHOW NOTES* To successfully restore and re-claim your life after emotional abuse is a long-term, absolutely worthwhile undertaking. The definition of “Hijackals®” and how they can be present in your personal and professional relationships. Learn strategies on how to spot them and how to be assertive in any situation. How to use your intuition to notice the signs of being in a toxic relationship Scientific research of an increased risk of cancer for women when you have this emotional trigger To live La Dolce Vita means wanting to move towards it and being willing to do what it takes to achieve it. *QUOTES:* "Learn to be proactive and lean in to ask one or two more questions" *FOLLOW:* https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Radio/Podcasts: www.RelationshipHelpNetwork.com ( http://www.RelationshipHelpNetwork.com ) Speaker Site: www.RelationshipHelpDoctor.com ( http://www.RelationshipHelpDoctor.com ) Facebook: www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor ( http://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor ) Twitter: www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler ( http://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler ) LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler ( http://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler ) Pinterest: www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler ( http://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler ) Help for toxic relationships LIVE STREAM on YOUTUBE: ForRelationshipHelp

Wow! Seventy three episodes and I'm finally talking about what Emotional Savvy means.You know that "to be savvy" means that you know what's up and what's going on. You're awake, aware, and alert. You're "with it!"Great! You may have the practical knowledge, but it's not much use if it's not applied. Relationships require emotional savvy. Otherwise, you don't make good judgments. You don't see what's really going on, and maybe prefer denial. Not much emotional savvy there, right?Emotional savvy covers all areas that impact our emotional lives: mental, intellectual, spiritual, financial, health, well-being, relationships--everything that impacts making our way in the world. So, some good things to think about in the first segment, for sure!GUEST: Kerri Hummingbird, SoulGuideKerri Hummingbird has served as a social activist, leader, and philanthropist for over three decades. She is the founder of the Skills Not Pills Movement, and Host of the Soul Nectar show. Ms. Hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake, with an authenticity, passion, and purpose that positively impacts others.She catalyzes mind-shifts that transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom with her Reinvent Yourself programs for individual and group mentoring. She is the author of the award-winning best-selling book, Awaken to Me: One Woman's Journey to Self Love."She says, "Your life is for YOU. Live it how you CHOOSE. It's your secret conversation with the DIVINE."You'll get a new perspective from Kerry, for sure. Lovely conversation. Inspiring and motivating.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it means to Kerry Hummingbird to be "wide awake" in the shamanic waysHow to shift life's challenges into gifts of wisdom that serve you wellWhat the impact of the message "If I leave, I'll be bad" is, and how to change itHow to reduce your fear so you can see relationships more clearlyWhy it's important to get into the flow of life energetically, how fear gets in the way, and how to reduce fearKerri's gift to you: Ebook, :Reinvent Yourself: Indulge Your Deepest Desires By Becoming Who You Are Starving To Be" GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH KERRI HUMMINGBIRD:Website: KerriHummingbird.comTwitter: @KerriHummingbirdFacebook: Facebook.com/Kerri.Hummingbird.Author.Speaker.SoulGuideLinkedIn: LinkedIn.comInstagram: KerriHummingbirdCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #KerriHummingbird #healingenergy #self-love#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! Seventy three episodes and I'm finally talking about what Emotional Savvy means.You know that "to be savvy" means that you know what's up and what's going on. You're awake, aware, and alert. You're "with it!"Great! You may have the practical knowledge, but it's not much use if it's not applied. Relationships require emotional savvy. Otherwise, you don't make good judgments. You don't see what's really going on, and maybe prefer denial. Not much emotional savvy there, right?Emotional savvy covers all areas that impact our emotional lives: mental, intellectual, spiritual, financial, health, well-being, relationships--everything that impacts making our way in the world. So, some good things to think about in the first segment, for sure!GUEST: Kerri Hummingbird, SoulGuideKerri Hummingbird has served as a social activist, leader, and philanthropist for over three decades. She is the founder of the Skills Not Pills Movement, and Host of the Soul Nectar show. Ms. Hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake, with an authenticity, passion, and purpose that positively impacts others.She catalyzes mind-shifts that transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom with her Reinvent Yourself programs for individual and group mentoring. She is the author of the award-winning best-selling book, Awaken to Me: One Woman's Journey to Self Love."She says, "Your life is for YOU. Live it how you CHOOSE. It's your secret conversation with the DIVINE."You'll get a new perspective from Kerry, for sure. Lovely conversation. Inspiring and motivating.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it means to Kerry Hummingbird to be "wide awake" in the shamanic waysHow to shift life's challenges into gifts of wisdom that serve you wellWhat the impact of the message "If I leave, I'll be bad" is, and how to change itHow to reduce your fear so you can see relationships more clearlyWhy it's important to get into the flow of life energetically, how fear gets in the way, and how to reduce fearKerri's gift to you: Ebook, :Reinvent Yourself: Indulge Your Deepest Desires By Becoming Who You Are Starving To Be" GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH KERRI HUMMINGBIRD:Website: KerriHummingbird.comTwitter: @KerriHummingbirdFacebook: Facebook.com/Kerri.Hummingbird.Author.Speaker.SoulGuideLinkedIn: LinkedIn.comInstagram: KerriHummingbirdCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #KerriHummingbird #healingenergy #self-love#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, I talk with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler about hijackals. Not sure what a hijackal is…listen to this show! Relationship consultant, mediator, and speaker, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®” to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making, she hosts three podcasts: Emotional Savvy, Save Your Sanity, and Focus on Forward. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 200,000 views.

Have you ever had a relationship that made you feel crazy, confused, and controlled? Maybe you felt powerless at the same time as blamed for everything? You may have been mesmerized by a hijackal. After surviving a childhood of emotional turmoil and psychological distortion from her parents, Rhoberta Shaler began a lifelong exploration to heal that led her to define the term Hijackals®. Rhoberta's intense childhood experience, and subsequent toxic relationships derived from early conditioning, fueled her passion to demystify and disempower the hijackals of her own life. She now shares her mastery from decades of spiritual and psychological training as The Relationship Help Doctor through her blog, podcasts, books, and speaking. Watch this interview with Rhoberta for keen insights that expose the patterns of Hijackals® so you can spot them in your own life, and take steps to regain your sanity. Listen to Emotionally Savvy: The Relationship Help Show Take the Relationship Checklist About Dr Rhoberta Shaler As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis.  Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of the difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game.  She is the host of two podcasts:  Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show and Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals, and her own channel, Emotional Savvy, on the Binge TV Network. Connect with Rhoberta: Web: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshiphelpdoctor YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ForRelationshipHelp Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/rhobertashaler Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drrhobertashaler/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rhobertashaler   YOUR GUIDE TO SOUL NECTAR – KERRI HUMMINGBIRD SAMI I love mentoring women to rewrite the story of their lives through inner transformation, connection to essence, remembrance of purpose, and realignment to authenticity and truth. If you don't want to settle for anything less than a life of passion and purpose, book a Discovery Call and let's talk! Schedule today! http://bit.ly/2CpFHFZ FREE GIFT: The Love Mastery Game, an oracle for revealing your soul's curriculum in every day challenges. http://www.kerrihummingbird.com/play Do you lack the confidence to trust yourself and go for what you want? When you take actions towards your dreams, does self-doubt infect your certainty? Do you find yourself distracting and numbing while also feeling something is missing inside? Do you feel disrespected and like your wisdom is being dismissed? Do you have a hard time asking for what you need? You may benefit from healing the Mother Wound and reconnecting with the Divine Mother for love. Find out more at www.motherwoundbook.com You may be a member of The Second Wave, here to uplift human consciousness from the inside out by healing patterns of suffering that run through your ancestry. Find out about “The Second Wave: Transcending the Human Drama” and receive a guided meditation at www.thesecondwave.media READ an Excerpt from the Award-Winning memoir, Awakening To Me.

Best divorce possible from a narcissistic Hijackal? Does such a thing exist? Stay tuned.Yes, divorce is often messy, and definitely messier when there is a difficult person, or a toxic person involved, those people I call Hijackals®!All divorces--in my opinion--go in two clear ways: one end is a Divisive Divorce, and the other end is the Collaborative Divorce. There is a third that takes in the benign, neutral space in the middle that some people wander in, too.If you're divorcing--or, divorced from--a narcissist, a Hijackal, you're definitely going to be on the Divisive end. That's because Hijackals MUST win, and divorce doesn't feel like that. So, the Hijackal wants to win every way to Sunday IN the divorce. That creates divisiveness, for sure, and also pain, stress, anxiety, and too much uncertainty and chaos. Nasty, but true.Listen to these suggestions I have in the first part of today's episode of Emotional Savvy, and see how you could move towards a more collaborative arrangement--IF you're not an ex of a Hijackal, that is!GUEST: Jason Levoy, The Divorce Resource Guy, and former divorce attorney.Jason Levoy aka The Divorce Resource Guy, is a former divorce attorney turned divorce coach who works with people who have attorneys, or are representing themselves to get through the divorce process as quickly as possible, without spending thousands of dollars wasting time.Jason is the creator of DivorceU, the most comprehensive and affordable divorce resource on the internet.In today's conversation, Jason and I discuss the pitfalls of divorce, and how to prepare to avoid them. Especially when you've divorcing a relentlessly difficult person, you need these particular insights we're sharing today.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Need to know things that make divorcing a narcissist differentWays you can recognize that you're dealing with narcissism during a divorce (...just in case you weren't sure, right? lol)Why preparation is particular important BEFORE you say you want a divorceWhat preparation is required to divorce a narcissistHow to best shortcut the divorce process when a narcissist, a Hijackal, wants to make the divorce process last as long as possibleHow to save money on legal bills in a divorce FREE GIFT FROM JASON LEVOY:ebook: Tips on How to Co-parent with an A-Hole GET IT HERE!CONNECT WITH JASON LEVOYWebsite: JasonLevoy.comTwitter: @JasonLevoyFacebook: Facebook.com/YourDivorceResourceLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/JasonLevoyInstagram: Instagram.com/JasonLevoyCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #divorcinganarcissist #difficultdivorce #saveonlegalbills See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Best divorce possible from a narcissistic Hijackal? Does such a thing exist? Stay tuned.Yes, divorce is often messy, and definitely messier when there is a difficult person, or a toxic person involved, those people I call Hijackals®!All divorces--in my opinion--go in two clear ways: one end is a Divisive Divorce, and the other end is the Collaborative Divorce. There is a third that takes in the benign, neutral space in the middle that some people wander in, too.If you're divorcing--or, divorced from--a narcissist, a Hijackal, you're definitely going to be on the Divisive end. That's because Hijackals MUST win, and divorce doesn't feel like that. So, the Hijackal wants to win every way to Sunday IN the divorce. That creates divisiveness, for sure, and also pain, stress, anxiety, and too much uncertainty and chaos. Nasty, but true.Listen to these suggestions I have in the first part of today's episode of Emotional Savvy, and see how you could move towards a more collaborative arrangement--IF you're not an ex of a Hijackal, that is!GUEST: Jason Levoy, The Divorce Resource Guy, and former divorce attorney.Jason Levoy aka The Divorce Resource Guy, is a former divorce attorney turned divorce coach who works with people who have attorneys, or are representing themselves to get through the divorce process as quickly as possible, without spending thousands of dollars wasting time.Jason is the creator of DivorceU, the most comprehensive and affordable divorce resource on the internet.In today's conversation, Jason and I discuss the pitfalls of divorce, and how to prepare to avoid them. Especially when you've divorcing a relentlessly difficult person, you need these particular insights we're sharing today.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Need to know things that make divorcing a narcissist differentWays you can recognize that you're dealing with narcissism during a divorce (...just in case you weren't sure, right? lol)Why preparation is particular important BEFORE you say you want a divorceWhat preparation is required to divorce a narcissistHow to best shortcut the divorce process when a narcissist, a Hijackal, wants to make the divorce process last as long as possibleHow to save money on legal bills in a divorce FREE GIFT FROM JASON LEVOY:ebook: Tips on How to Co-parent with an A-Hole GET IT HERE!CONNECT WITH JASON LEVOYWebsite: JasonLevoy.comTwitter: @JasonLevoyFacebook: Facebook.com/YourDivorceResourceLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/JasonLevoyInstagram: Instagram.com/JasonLevoyCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #divorcinganarcissist #difficultdivorce #saveonlegalbills See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I'm talking about what it takes to get past the fear of intimacy that a past relationship has taught you. It happens so often, doesn't it?You fall in love, and really trust someone. You are tell them your secrets, and share your vulnerabilities. You so want to have that one person you can share life with, warts and all. You want to believe you are safe.Sometimes, you are safe, and it all works beautifully. It deepens, grows, and enriches over your time together.Then, there are the times where you share deeply, and the other person uses what you said, turns your fears into weapons, and beats you with them in future arguments. Does that sound at all familiar?You can recover from this nonsense, pain, and trepidation. Really! You can. I'll give you some hints, and so will today's guest.GUEST: ALLANA PRATT, Intimacy Expert Wow! So delighted to have Allana on Emotional Savvy! She's a delightful spirit and a lovely friend, as well as a colleague helping folks to grow past the pain.Allana Pratt is an Intimacy Expert--on all levels. She inspires open-hearted, unapologetic living, and does it, as she says, "with delicious sass!" Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject.com , featured as an Icon of Influence, and as guest expert on CBS, TLC, FOX, Forbes, People Magazine, and Huffington Post.Were you wondering why to listen? After reading that, any questions...lol?Allana is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University, and the author of four books. She hosts the empowering podcast, Intimate Conversations, with guests like Grammy-award winning Alanis Morissette. Allana is a certified coach, and was invited to work with Leeza Gibbons during Dancing with the Stars. With over 3.7 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create hot, healthy, thriving intimate relationships.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What happened to Allana at 16 years old that changed everythingHow to move towards vulnerable, honest, transparent relationshipsWhy Allana knows the Universe caresHow to live an unapologetic life after being with a #HijackalWhy moving past the bad stuff is a choice and how you can make itWhat can be learned from a nasty divorce, and difficult custody battleLearning to trust yourself after divorceEmpowering yourself to live fully CONNECT WITH ALLANA PRATTWebsite: AllanaPratt.comTwitter: @AllanaPrattFacebook: Facebook.com/CoachAllanaPrattLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AllanaPrattInstagram: Instagram.com/AllanaPrattCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE! If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #fearofintimacy #AllanaPratt #intimacyexpert #intimaterelationships See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I'm talking about what it takes to get past the fear of intimacy that a past relationship has taught you. It happens so often, doesn't it?You fall in love, and really trust someone. You are tell them your secrets, and share your vulnerabilities. You so want to have that one person you can share life with, warts and all. You want to believe you are safe.Sometimes, you are safe, and it all works beautifully. It deepens, grows, and enriches over your time together.Then, there are the times where you share deeply, and the other person uses what you said, turns your fears into weapons, and beats you with them in future arguments. Does that sound at all familiar?You can recover from this nonsense, pain, and trepidation. Really! You can. I'll give you some hints, and so will today's guest.GUEST: ALLANA PRATT, Intimacy Expert Wow! So delighted to have Allana on Emotional Savvy! She's a delightful spirit and a lovely friend, as well as a colleague helping folks to grow past the pain.Allana Pratt is an Intimacy Expert--on all levels. She inspires open-hearted, unapologetic living, and does it, as she says, "with delicious sass!" Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject.com , featured as an Icon of Influence, and as guest expert on CBS, TLC, FOX, Forbes, People Magazine, and Huffington Post.Were you wondering why to listen? After reading that, any questions...lol?Allana is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University, and the author of four books. She hosts the empowering podcast, Intimate Conversations, with guests like Grammy-award winning Alanis Morissette. Allana is a certified coach, and was invited to work with Leeza Gibbons during Dancing with the Stars. With over 3.7 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create hot, healthy, thriving intimate relationships.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What happened to Allana at 16 years old that changed everythingHow to move towards vulnerable, honest, transparent relationshipsWhy Allana knows the Universe caresHow to live an unapologetic life after being with a #HijackalWhy moving past the bad stuff is a choice and how you can make itWhat can be learned from a nasty divorce, and difficult custody battleLearning to trust yourself after divorceEmpowering yourself to live fully CONNECT WITH ALLANA PRATTWebsite: AllanaPratt.comTwitter: @AllanaPrattFacebook: Facebook.com/CoachAllanaPrattLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AllanaPrattInstagram: Instagram.com/AllanaPrattCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE! If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #fearofintimacy #AllanaPratt #intimacyexpert #intimaterelationships See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Are you spiritually-minded?" Being spiritually-minded is not simply having an interest in spiritual things. It's much more than that.Are you basing your thinking on the spiritual principles you hold dear? That's the real question.What about the mind? Your mind? Can you point to it? Can it be surgically isolated? Even though you cannot indicate its physical whereabouts, you do understand that you have a mind, or, more precisely, that you use one. It's more than your brain, isn't it?Your mind is creative. When I wrote my book, What You Pay Attention to Expands, I was writing about the very things I'm introducing into the conversation today on Emotional Savvy. It's impossible to have a "mind by-pass" so it's important to think about how you're using your mind every day.In today's episode, as something completely new, I talk about the difference between the objective, conscious mind, and the subjective, sub-conscious mind. An introduction.If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShowGUEST: Terry Wildemann, of IntuitiveLeadership.com Terry Wildemann is a high performance coach, helping socially conscious small business owners and leaders to accelerate their businesses with intuition, speed, and ease. She's know for the speed with which she helps her clients achieve results, and the ease with which they do it. No more burning out, she says. No more spinning your wheels. No more wondering how to grow your business quickly.So, what's this talk of intuition, angels, and other spiritual ideas? Terry uses all these in the effective work she does with clients. As you listen, you'll clearly see how she integrates and intertwines these ideas with high-level business and interpersonal practices to create success.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What's the difference between intuition and guidance?Why is intuition important in business?Does everyone have it?What stops people from using intuition?What is the relevance of intuition to leadership?How does that apply in your own life?TERRY WILDEMANN'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Use this technique to shift into your heart and get grounded in the moment. Gift is available in both English and Spanish QuickShiftZone.comCONNECT WITH TERRY WILDEMANNWebsite: IntuitiveLeadership.comTwitter: @TerryWildemannFacebook: Facebook.com/TerryWildemannLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/TerryWildemannCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #listeningtoyourintuition #angels #intuitiveleadership See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Are you spiritually-minded?" Being spiritually-minded is not simply having an interest in spiritual things. It's much more than that.Are you basing your thinking on the spiritual principles you hold dear? That's the real question.What about the mind? Your mind? Can you point to it? Can it be surgically isolated? Even though you cannot indicate its physical whereabouts, you do understand that you have a mind, or, more precisely, that you use one. It's more than your brain, isn't it?Your mind is creative. When I wrote my book, What You Pay Attention to Expands, I was writing about the very things I'm introducing into the conversation today on Emotional Savvy. It's impossible to have a "mind by-pass" so it's important to think about how you're using your mind every day.In today's episode, as something completely new, I talk about the difference between the objective, conscious mind, and the subjective, sub-conscious mind. An introduction.If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShowGUEST: Terry Wildemann, of IntuitiveLeadership.com Terry Wildemann is a high performance coach, helping socially conscious small business owners and leaders to accelerate their businesses with intuition, speed, and ease. She's know for the speed with which she helps her clients achieve results, and the ease with which they do it. No more burning out, she says. No more spinning your wheels. No more wondering how to grow your business quickly.So, what's this talk of intuition, angels, and other spiritual ideas? Terry uses all these in the effective work she does with clients. As you listen, you'll clearly see how she integrates and intertwines these ideas with high-level business and interpersonal practices to create success.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What's the difference between intuition and guidance?Why is intuition important in business?Does everyone have it?What stops people from using intuition?What is the relevance of intuition to leadership?How does that apply in your own life?TERRY WILDEMANN'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Use this technique to shift into your heart and get grounded in the moment. Gift is available in both English and Spanish QuickShiftZone.comCONNECT WITH TERRY WILDEMANNWebsite: IntuitiveLeadership.comTwitter: @TerryWildemannFacebook: Facebook.com/TerryWildemannLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/TerryWildemannCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #listeningtoyourintuition #angels #intuitiveleadership See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER talks about 'Clearing Your Head When Chronic Stress and Anxiety Have Clouded Your Thinking.'Much research has been done that shows the effects of chronic stress coupled with chronic anxiety. When you're in a troubling or toxic relationship, you have that combination of stress and anxiety. It has been shown to lead to chronic illness, and seems very likely to produce inflammation and autoimmune issues, particularly. Of course, each body is different, and each will react differently as well.Your brain changes with chronic stress and anxiety. Your hippocampus in your brain shrinks, causing fuzzy thinking and reduced ability to remember things well. Your amygdala enlarges and you become more prone to fear-based anxiety. The amygdala triggers the sympathetic nervous system, and your body goes on the alert. Living like that--hyper-vigilant--is very hard on the body. Today, Dr. Shaler talks about what goes on in your brain when you're living with the chronic stress and anxiety of toxic people. YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS!GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance, Expert on Stress Management in Relationships Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a speaker, author, and registered psychologist from Edmonton, Alberta. For more than twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.Today, Dr. Shaler taps his thinking to focus on overcoming chronic stress...and all that it takes to do it!So many times, particularly when you're with a Hijackal®, you will try to keep yourself safe by trying to appease him or her. That won't work, and you'll understand why when you listen to this episode.Dr. Ganz has been on Emotional Savvy before, and he brought great insights and wisdom. Be sure to listen to the other episodes with him.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What "sneaky stress" is and how it affects youHow you fool yourself into thinking that you have no stressThe sad effects of a toxic relationship on your bodyWhere to find your hidden stressorsHow, as Dr. Ganz says, "stress affects your state"This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy to help you understand why it is essential to your health to get away from the troublesome combination of chronic stress AND chronic anxiety.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH DR. GANZWebsite: DrGanz.comTwitter: @DrGanzFerranceFacebook: Facebook.com/GanzFerranceCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #chronicstress #effectsofchronicstress #GanzFerrance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER talks about 'Clearing Your Head When Chronic Stress and Anxiety Have Clouded Your Thinking.'Much research has been done that shows the effects of chronic stress coupled with chronic anxiety. When you're in a troubling or toxic relationship, you have that combination of stress and anxiety. It has been shown to lead to chronic illness, and seems very likely to produce inflammation and autoimmune issues, particularly. Of course, each body is different, and each will react differently as well.Your brain changes with chronic stress and anxiety. Your hippocampus in your brain shrinks, causing fuzzy thinking and reduced ability to remember things well. Your amygdala enlarges and you become more prone to fear-based anxiety. The amygdala triggers the sympathetic nervous system, and your body goes on the alert. Living like that--hyper-vigilant--is very hard on the body. Today, Dr. Shaler talks about what goes on in your brain when you're living with the chronic stress and anxiety of toxic people. YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS!GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance, Expert on Stress Management in Relationships Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a speaker, author, and registered psychologist from Edmonton, Alberta. For more than twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.Today, Dr. Shaler taps his thinking to focus on overcoming chronic stress...and all that it takes to do it!So many times, particularly when you're with a Hijackal®, you will try to keep yourself safe by trying to appease him or her. That won't work, and you'll understand why when you listen to this episode.Dr. Ganz has been on Emotional Savvy before, and he brought great insights and wisdom. Be sure to listen to the other episodes with him.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What "sneaky stress" is and how it affects youHow you fool yourself into thinking that you have no stressThe sad effects of a toxic relationship on your bodyWhere to find your hidden stressorsHow, as Dr. Ganz says, "stress affects your state"This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy to help you understand why it is essential to your health to get away from the troublesome combination of chronic stress AND chronic anxiety.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH DR. GANZWebsite: DrGanz.comTwitter: @DrGanzFerranceFacebook: Facebook.com/GanzFerranceCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #chronicstress #effectsofchronicstress #GanzFerrance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorStop Emotional Energy Leaks! What About Forgiveness?GUEST: Brenda Adelman, Acclaimed Actor. Author. Recipient of Hero of Forgiveness Award. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Do You Have Unfinished Business from Emotional Energy Leaks? What are emotional energy leaks?procrastinationdenialresentmentsgrudgesunresolved relationship issuesfor a few! Which ones are plaguing you?Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place, and why you need to get rid of them now. You are holding yourself back, creating obstacles, and preventing your growth towards satisfying goals in life.GUEST: Brenda Adelman. Author of My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable Brenda is an award-winning actor, a recipient of a Hero of Forgiveness award, and a sought after guest. She's performed her critically-acclaimed one-woman show, My Brooklyn Hamlet, about the power of forgiving the unforgivable for over 12,000 people worldwide, including women prisoners, youth-at-risk, domestic violence coalitions, spiritual communities, and the US Military.Brenda teaches mission-drive entrepreneurs how to use their story to heal themselves, inspire others, and be memorable on stage and video.Today, Brenda offers her three-step, proven forgiveness process to help you on your journey to ending your energy leaks!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Brenda tells her horrific story of loss and how she came to forgive her father for killing her motherWhat is forgiveness?Why we should engage with it when the pain is still thereWhat needs to change in your thinking to make forgiveness possibleWhat people find most challenging about forgiveness...and whyWhat to do to forgive now.This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on the practical and spiritual aspects of forgiveness, even in the most seeming impossible circumstance. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Brenda offers you her ebook. CLICK HERECONNECT WITH BRENDA ADELMANWebsite: ForgivenessandFreedom.comTwitter: @BrendaAAdelmanLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/BrendaAAdelmanFacebook: Facebook.com/BrendaAAdelmanCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #forgiveness See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorStop Emotional Energy Leaks! What About Forgiveness?GUEST: Brenda Adelman, Acclaimed Actor. Author. Recipient of Hero of Forgiveness Award. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Do You Have Unfinished Business from Emotional Energy Leaks? What are emotional energy leaks?procrastinationdenialresentmentsgrudgesunresolved relationship issuesfor a few! Which ones are plaguing you?Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place, and why you need to get rid of them now. You are holding yourself back, creating obstacles, and preventing your growth towards satisfying goals in life.GUEST: Brenda Adelman. Author of My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable Brenda is an award-winning actor, a recipient of a Hero of Forgiveness award, and a sought after guest. She's performed her critically-acclaimed one-woman show, My Brooklyn Hamlet, about the power of forgiving the unforgivable for over 12,000 people worldwide, including women prisoners, youth-at-risk, domestic violence coalitions, spiritual communities, and the US Military.Brenda teaches mission-drive entrepreneurs how to use their story to heal themselves, inspire others, and be memorable on stage and video.Today, Brenda offers her three-step, proven forgiveness process to help you on your journey to ending your energy leaks!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Brenda tells her horrific story of loss and how she came to forgive her father for killing her motherWhat is forgiveness?Why we should engage with it when the pain is still thereWhat needs to change in your thinking to make forgiveness possibleWhat people find most challenging about forgiveness...and whyWhat to do to forgive now.This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on the practical and spiritual aspects of forgiveness, even in the most seeming impossible circumstance. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Brenda offers you her ebook. CLICK HERECONNECT WITH BRENDA ADELMANWebsite: ForgivenessandFreedom.comTwitter: @BrendaAAdelmanLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/BrendaAAdelmanFacebook: Facebook.com/BrendaAAdelmanCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #forgiveness See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Episode 092 of Cool Culture Corner A conversation with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on how to recognize "Hijackals" in your organization and how to work with them within your culture. Learn more about Dr. Shaler at www.forrelationshiphelp.com and her podcast, Emotional Savvy, on iTunes, Stitcher, and many other platforms. Also grab a copy of her free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, at www.hijackals.com. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/kenneth-bator/support

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GGUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery processWhy a "recovery message" is important to createUnderstanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recoveryThe importance of knowing the natural recovery processHow to be aware of warning signs of addictionListen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's RecoveryCONNECT WITH JEFF JONESWebsite: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.comTwitter: LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GGUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery processWhy a "recovery message" is important to createUnderstanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recoveryThe importance of knowing the natural recovery processHow to be aware of warning signs of addictionListen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's RecoveryCONNECT WITH JEFF JONESWebsite: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.comTwitter: LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #shame #addiction #toxicshame #recoveryprocess See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorAbundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your daily life.Prosperity is much more than money or success, right? So is abundance! I'm offering you some clear examples and strategies you can use immediately to create prosperity in your life, AND, in your relationships.Do you know what you actually want? What would make you happy? Or, are you focused on what isn't working, and is making you miserable? These mindset shifts that help you create the prosperity you want are ones you can make immediately. Really!You are powerful--no matter what some Hijackal has tried to tell you--and what you think most about is what you will create more of. That's why I wrote What You Pay Attention to Expands in 2002. It's still available on Amazon, too.Gather these insights, and use these strategies. Use the one's from today's guest, Jolen Philbrook, to create powerful shifts in your body and in your life.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you clear reasons, encouragement, and practical strategies to create more of what you want in your life: prosperity on every level.GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert, author of From Tears to Triumph Jolen Philbrook is known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. Her specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck negative emotions to attract more success, prosperity, and happiness in your life.In 2008, Jolen survived a rare type of breast cancer, went through a custody suit with no income. Then, one year later, she survived kidney cancer. Now, she shares her wisdom so that you can find your inner strength, prosperity, and happiness to live your greatest life.She is the author of 365 Days of Gratitude, Reflections, and From Tears to Triumph.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it's important to know precisely what you want in your lifeWhat to do when you recognize you are suffering from the resentment you're carryingHow an abundant mindset can help you deal with toxic people, #HijackalsHow Jolen dealt with someone who was always attacking herThe vital connections between what you are thinking and what you are creating in lifeHow Jolen successfully dealt with two bouts with cancerThis episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HER FREE GIFT:Are You Stressed About Money? - GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH JOLEN PHILBROOKWebsite: JolenPhilbrook.comTwitter: @Julen_PhilbrookLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jolen-philbrook-bb004b50Facebook: Facebook.com/JolenPhilbrookCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #abundance #prosperity See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorAbundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your daily life.Prosperity is much more than money or success, right? So is abundance! I'm offering you some clear examples and strategies you can use immediately to create prosperity in your life, AND, in your relationships.Do you know what you actually want? What would make you happy? Or, are you focused on what isn't working, and is making you miserable? These mindset shifts that help you create the prosperity you want are ones you can make immediately. Really!You are powerful--no matter what some Hijackal has tried to tell you--and what you think most about is what you will create more of. That's why I wrote What You Pay Attention to Expands in 2002. It's still available on Amazon, too.Gather these insights, and use these strategies. Use the one's from today's guest, Jolen Philbrook, to create powerful shifts in your body and in your life.In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you clear reasons, encouragement, and practical strategies to create more of what you want in your life: prosperity on every level.GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert, author of From Tears to Triumph Jolen Philbrook is known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. Her specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck negative emotions to attract more success, prosperity, and happiness in your life.In 2008, Jolen survived a rare type of breast cancer, went through a custody suit with no income. Then, one year later, she survived kidney cancer. Now, she shares her wisdom so that you can find your inner strength, prosperity, and happiness to live your greatest life.She is the author of 365 Days of Gratitude, Reflections, and From Tears to Triumph.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it's important to know precisely what you want in your lifeWhat to do when you recognize you are suffering from the resentment you're carryingHow an abundant mindset can help you deal with toxic people, #HijackalsHow Jolen dealt with someone who was always attacking herThe vital connections between what you are thinking and what you are creating in lifeHow Jolen successfully dealt with two bouts with cancerThis episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HER FREE GIFT:Are You Stressed About Money? - GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH JOLEN PHILBROOKWebsite: JolenPhilbrook.comTwitter: @Julen_PhilbrookLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jolen-philbrook-bb004b50Facebook: Facebook.com/JolenPhilbrookCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #abundance #prosperity See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorLove, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?How do you know when to terminate a relationship?How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:Website: RadicalAcceptance.loveTwitter: @YourTangoLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTangoCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #radicalacceptance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorLove, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?How do you know when to terminate a relationship?How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:Website: RadicalAcceptance.loveTwitter: @YourTangoLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTangoCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #radicalacceptance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIntimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not present in a relationship, you don't feel fully connected and secure. There is insufficient emotional intimacy.The first--and most important--step towards creating emotional intimacy is to know yourself well. That means spending time with yourself and digging deep."As long as we are looking outside ourselves for intimacy, we will never have it and we will never be able to share it. In order to be intimate with another person, we have to know who we are, what we feel, what we think, what our values are, what is important to us, and what we want. If we do not know these things about ourselves, we can never share them with another person." ~ Ann Wilson ShaefIn today's episode, Dr. Shaler offers insights into creating emotional intimacy, and how to make it safe to be emotionally intimate.GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? Rabbi Friedman is a world-renouwned author, counselor, teacher, and speaker, well-known for his provocative and incisive wit and wisdom. His international speaking tour, seminars, and retreats take him around the world. He has been featured in many publications, such as The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Publishers Weekly.Rabbi Friedman is the author of the new book, The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality, and Marriage. He has been counseling and teaching about relationships and marriage to audiences around the world for more than forty years, and he is here for you today.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is intimacy and how is it developed?How can it be enriched?If you're in a troubled relationship, how do you know to leave?What about unconditional love?What about the idea that love is a decision?How can you get more pleasure in your relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on intimacy. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Rabbi Friedman's ebook: Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? - GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH RABBI MANIS FRIEDMANWebsite: TheJoyOfIntimacy.comTwitter: @ManisFriedmanLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Manis-FriedmanFacebook: Facebook.com/ManisFriedmanCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIntimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not present in a relationship, you don't feel fully connected and secure. There is insufficient emotional intimacy.The first--and most important--step towards creating emotional intimacy is to know yourself well. That means spending time with yourself and digging deep."As long as we are looking outside ourselves for intimacy, we will never have it and we will never be able to share it. In order to be intimate with another person, we have to know who we are, what we feel, what we think, what our values are, what is important to us, and what we want. If we do not know these things about ourselves, we can never share them with another person." ~ Ann Wilson ShaefIn today's episode, Dr. Shaler offers insights into creating emotional intimacy, and how to make it safe to be emotionally intimate.GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? Rabbi Friedman is a world-renouwned author, counselor, teacher, and speaker, well-known for his provocative and incisive wit and wisdom. His international speaking tour, seminars, and retreats take him around the world. He has been featured in many publications, such as The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Publishers Weekly.Rabbi Friedman is the author of the new book, The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality, and Marriage. He has been counseling and teaching about relationships and marriage to audiences around the world for more than forty years, and he is here for you today.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is intimacy and how is it developed?How can it be enriched?If you're in a troubled relationship, how do you know to leave?What about unconditional love?What about the idea that love is a decision?How can you get more pleasure in your relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on intimacy. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Rabbi Friedman's ebook: Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? - GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH RABBI MANIS FRIEDMANWebsite: TheJoyOfIntimacy.comTwitter: @ManisFriedmanLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Manis-FriedmanFacebook: Facebook.com/ManisFriedmanCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

A Hijackal® is a person who hijacks relationships, for their own purposes, while scavenging them for power, status, and control. Hijackals® make you question your sanity and constantly second-guess yourself.  That’s their game … and they are very good at it!  They play to win … at any cost. Sound familiar?  Of course! My guest is Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and she coined the word Hijackal®.  Her Mission is helping people identify emotional abuse and learn that there is a safer, saner, better world available. Dr. Shaler discusses the fact that there are reasons we are attracted to, and are attractive to, abusers and that there is choice involved in embracing our freedom from their control. Listen to this fascinating discussion about Hijackals® ; who they are and what’s really going on in the crazy-making relationships in your life. Learn more about Dr. Rhoberta Shaler at www.forrelationshiphelp.com.  Her YouTube channel is For Relationship Help and her podcasts on iTunes and all the other popular podcast channels are Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity.  On her web site you can access her online television show, Emotional Savvy, and subscribe to her newsletter.  When you’re ready, Dr Shaler is available for online counseling, around the world!

Catherine is here today with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler knows as - The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviours of toxic people. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is also the host of three podcasts: The Relationship Help Show, Emotional Savvy, and, Save Your Sanity! Dr. Shaler asks what's going on in your relationship? Do these comments or thoughts feel familiar? “I can't put my finger on what's wrong anymore and feel like I am going crazy.”  “Nothing I do is right or good enough.”  “It's always my fault…even when it isn't.”  “I'm so tired of the drama, the outbursts, the attacks, and the cycles.” Dr. Shaler knows it's very debilitating to feel like you never do it “right”, or well enough. That every time you become hopeful that you can find honesty and safety, you are taking a risk that seldom turns out to improve communication or resolve conflicts. She knows this because she lived through it, too. It leaves you feeling exhausted, anxious, and uncertain. Unfortunately, you might also feel guilty, like you just didn't do enough, give enough, or be enough. And, that's not true! Find Out More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Dr. Shaler's Website Connect with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on Facebook Follow Dr. Shaler on Twitter @rhobertashaler Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on Instagram @drrhobertashaler It's now time to tune into this very brave and inspirational woman – The Relationship Help Doctor. Enjoy!

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorMental Health: Know What To Do When It's Slipping Into Anxiety, Depression, and More - Episode 42GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio NetworkDR. RHOBERTA SHALER'S TOPIC: Mental Illness Scares Us More Than A Broken Leg Today, Dr. Shaler talks about the prevalence of mental health issues in our world, and why it is so essential to remove any stigma from it.People feel sorry for you, and behave in understanding ways, when you have heart surgery and a twelve-week recovery. Why do people not recognize, and be compassionate, when someone has a twelve-week period of depression, or a day or two of extreme anxiety? It scares them!The American Psychiatric Association at Psychiatry.org tells us:"Mental illnesses are health conditions involving changes in thinking, emotion or behavior (or a combination of these). Mental illnesses are associated with distress and/or problems functioning in social, work or family activities.Mental illness is common. In a given year:nearly one in five (19 percent) US adults experience some form of mental illnessone in 24 (4.1 percent) has a serious mental illnessone in 12 (8.5 percent) has a substance use disorderMental illness is treatable. The vast majority of individuals with mental illness continue to function in their daily lives."So, let's get real. Mental illness happens to folks around us. Let's be compassionate. Let's not be afraid. Let's not tell them to "snap out of it." Let's help them get the help they need to recover.GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network Kristin's news network was born from her popular podcast downloaded in over 170 countries. It has been on air for four years and has over one million listens. She now produces additional podcasts for others in the field of behavioral health as well as organizations such as McLean Hospital in Boston, Springbrook Behavioral Health in Greenville, SC, and many others. Currently, Kristin's organization is producing over eighteen additional podcasts on the network, all dedicated to eradication of stigma around mental health and addiction disorders.Kristin is also the CEO of EverythingEHR, a behavioral health consulting firm. The stigma of mental illness is prevalent, and we need to shift that. Kristin had a Hijackal® home, and the too frequent first marriage to a Hijackal as a result. She knows what we talk about here on Emotional Savvy, and on my sister podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals. Kristin is all too familiar with the challenges of mental health. I loved what she said about Hijackals:"They use you as a waste receptacle for their unhealed wounds. Then, dump on you to get a vacation from their waste." Familiar? It was to me!Kristin shares with us her refreshing look at why we don't recognize how we've been drained without knowing it and what we need to do to refill ourselves...in healthy ways.Here's some interview highlights:How can early childhood sexual abuse set you up for having toxic people in your life as an adultHow you can remove yourself from narcissistic relationshipsWhat steps you can take to move out of co-dependent relationships CONNECT WITH KRISTIN WALKER:Website: MentalHealthNewsRadio.comTwitter: @mhnrnetworkInstagram: @kristinsunantaCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorMental Health: Know What To Do When It's Slipping Into Anxiety, Depression, and More - Episode 42GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio NetworkDR. RHOBERTA SHALER'S TOPIC: Mental Illness Scares Us More Than A Broken Leg Today, Dr. Shaler talks about the prevalence of mental health issues in our world, and why it is so essential to remove any stigma from it.People feel sorry for you, and behave in understanding ways, when you have heart surgery and a twelve-week recovery. Why do people not recognize, and be compassionate, when someone has a twelve-week period of depression, or a day or two of extreme anxiety? It scares them!The American Psychiatric Association at Psychiatry.org tells us:"Mental illnesses are health conditions involving changes in thinking, emotion or behavior (or a combination of these). Mental illnesses are associated with distress and/or problems functioning in social, work or family activities.Mental illness is common. In a given year:nearly one in five (19 percent) US adults experience some form of mental illnessone in 24 (4.1 percent) has a serious mental illnessone in 12 (8.5 percent) has a substance use disorderMental illness is treatable. The vast majority of individuals with mental illness continue to function in their daily lives."So, let's get real. Mental illness happens to folks around us. Let's be compassionate. Let's not be afraid. Let's not tell them to "snap out of it." Let's help them get the help they need to recover.GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network Kristin's news network was born from her popular podcast downloaded in over 170 countries. It has been on air for four years and has over one million listens. She now produces additional podcasts for others in the field of behavioral health as well as organizations such as McLean Hospital in Boston, Springbrook Behavioral Health in Greenville, SC, and many others. Currently, Kristin's organization is producing over eighteen additional podcasts on the network, all dedicated to eradication of stigma around mental health and addiction disorders.Kristin is also the CEO of EverythingEHR, a behavioral health consulting firm. The stigma of mental illness is prevalent, and we need to shift that. Kristin had a Hijackal® home, and the too frequent first marriage to a Hijackal as a result. She knows what we talk about here on Emotional Savvy, and on my sister podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals. Kristin is all too familiar with the challenges of mental health. I loved what she said about Hijackals:"They use you as a waste receptacle for their unhealed wounds. Then, dump on you to get a vacation from their waste." Familiar? It was to me!Kristin shares with us her refreshing look at why we don't recognize how we've been drained without knowing it and what we need to do to refill ourselves...in healthy ways.Here's some interview highlights:How can early childhood sexual abuse set you up for having toxic people in your life as an adultHow you can remove yourself from narcissistic relationshipsWhat steps you can take to move out of co-dependent relationships CONNECT WITH KRISTIN WALKER:Website: MentalHealthNewsRadio.comTwitter: @mhnrnetworkInstagram: @kristinsunantaCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Feel like something is lurking in the subtext of your communication with your partner?Is a breakup on the horizon?Is it appropriate?Is it your choice?Or, is a #Hijackal always using breaking up as a threat to keep you in uncertainty?Decipher the cues and listen to this week's episode of Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.Join my Optimize Circles now.Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.