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In this episode, I sit down with my co-author, Dr. William R. Stixrud, to do an origin story into the key concepts from our latest book, "What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home". We discuss the crucial importance of connection between parents and children, exploring how empathy and validation can transform relationships and foster mental well-being. Bill shares insights from our research and experiences, highlighting the profound impact of close relationships on kids' stress levels and overall happiness. Tune in as we unpack practical strategies for effective communication and building stronger bonds with your children. Episode Highlights:[01:37] - Bill discusses the motivation behind writing our second book, "What Do You Say?".[03:13] - The challenges of balancing control and fostering independence in children.[06:57] - The unexpected mental health risks in high-achieving children.[08:19] - The power of empathy and validation in strengthening parent-child connections.[10:25] - How reflective listening can enhance communication and trust.[12:25] - The importance of understanding before judging in parent-child interactions.[18:27] - Real-life stories illustrating the impact of empathetic responses. Links & Resources:Get the book: What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home by Dr. William R. Stixrud and Ned JohnsonWebsite: Get the Top 10 Tips from Our Books: https://www.theselfdrivenchild.com Submit questions: Bill@theselfdrivenchild.com or Ned@theselfdrivenchild.com High Schoolers College Prep: https://prepmatters.com/ or call (301) 951-0350If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com
Today we are talking about the roots of "The Self Driven Child" with my co-author, Dr. William R. Stixrud. Discover how our understanding of autonomy and control transformed our approach to parenting and education. We explore the neuroscience behind stress and motivation, sharing our journey from initial insights to the profound impact our work has had globally. Join us as we recount our Marvel origin story and reveal the science and anecdotes that shaped our bestselling books.Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist, joins me, Ned Johnson, as we discuss the key principles of our collaboration. From handling stress to fostering intrinsic motivation, this episode covers it all. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to our podcast, this episode offers valuable insights into creating a supportive environment for children and young adults. Episode Highlights:[0:34] - Welcoming Dr. William Stixrud and introducing the topic of autonomy and control.[1:34] - The global impact of "The Self Driven Child" and the importance of a sense of control.[2:12] - Discussing stress and its effects on the brain from Dr. Stixrud's early research.[5:39] - How stress and control relate to motivation and mental health.[6:28] - Personal anecdotes and professional experiences on stress and motivation.[8:45] - The concept of autonomy in parenting and education.[13:17] - The bi-directional relationship between stress and brain function.[17:07] - Practical advice on supporting autonomy in children.[20:24] - The impact of test preparation on stress and performance.[25:38] - Addressing the physiological aspects of stress and anxiety.[30:02] - Reflections on the journey of writing "The Self Driven Child".[31:03] - Concluding thoughts and a sneak peek into the next episode. If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com
We're continuing summer break with #8 of our Top 10 Season 1 episodes. Can freeing your child from the shackles of constant parental control lead to a happier, more successful future? Kaity and Adriane unlock the secrets to self-driven learning with Dr. William R. Stixrud, a renowned clinical neuropsychologist and co-author of "The Self-Driven Child." The episode also explores: the power of shifting from fear-driven parenting to fostering a calm, supportive atmosphere that allows children to flourishthe transition from protective to consultative parenting as kids growpractical advice on managing parental anxieties through therapy, exercise, and meditation, ultimately benefiting children by reducing control tendenciesthe contentious issue of homework is tackled head-on, advocating for a respectful, supportive approach that honors children's individuality and promotes autonomyand so much more!By understanding the critical relationship between the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala and recognizing the biochemical factors influencing child behavior, we can create nurturing environments where children feel valued and empowered to take charge of their lives.ABOUT THE GUEST:Dr. William (Bill) R. Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist, founder of The Stixrud Group, a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center, and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. He is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the bestseller "The Self-Driven Child." He is also a frequent lecturer on adolescent brain development, stress & more.
Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves. William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves. William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
We are honored to have Dr. Bill Stixrud as our guest today. Dr. Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of the The Stixrud Group. He is the co-author of the national bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Diana and Dr. Stixrud discuss the false assumptions that self-driven children of affluent families face. They discuss the benefits of medication and other behavioral strategies for children with ADD and ADHD, as well as how neuropsych testing can help kids be more confident and successful in school. Dr. Stixrud gives advice on how parents can have high expectations yet still allow their kids to be successful in their own way. IN THIS EPISODE: [01:40] What does a neuropsychologist do and what neuropsych tests tell about children and their skills? [04:03] False assumptions about self-driven children and perfect educational pathways. [10:50] The balance between high expectations and high support for children to be successful. [13:01] How neuropsych testing can help kids be more successful in school. [16:23] Does medication for ADD and ADHD work? [19:57] Other behavioral strategies for those diagnosed with ADHD. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Many children of affluent families in high achieving schools don't feel as close to their parents. We recommend, more than anything else, that parents spend time alone with each one of their kids. Parents must balance their expectations. Express confidence in your children to let them know they can do something really interesting in this world and let them know you'll support them however you can. Don't weigh children down with the idea that somehow there's only one path for them. If children are suffering from ADD or ADHD, or it's holding them back from being successful in school, try medication. See how it works for your child, and then decide whether to continue to use it or not. BIO: William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a faculty member at Children's National Medical Center and an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. He is the co-author, with Ned Johnson, of the national bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, and of their new book, What do You Say? Talking with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. Dr. Stixrud's work has been featured in media outlets such as NPR, CNN, MSNBC, The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and New York Magazine. He is a long-time practitioner of Transcendental Meditation, and he plays in the rock band, Close Enough. The Stixrud Group Website The Self-Driven Child Website Prep Talks Podcast Website
In this episode, we're talking about why it's important for kids to have a sense of control. Why do we feel the need to control things as parents? And is it necessary for our kids to feel like they have control too? If we're not giving some control to our kids, then they're not gaining confidence and learning to do things for themselves. Joining me for this conversation is Dr. William R. Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. He is a frequent lecturer and workshop presenter and the author of several articles and book chapters on topics related to adolescent brain development, stress and sleep deprivation, integration of the arts in education, and meditation. His work has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. Listen in as we talk about: [2:25] Why we as parents and kids need control [8:00] How to help our kids find their own motivation [11:05] Tips for parents who feel like it's too late to make changes [16:30] Why it's okay to let our kids “fail” [20:28] What happiness means to young people Resources mentioned in this episode: Self Driven Child By William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck What Do You Say? By William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson Notes from Natalie: Sign Up for Natalie's Newsletter Try Canva Pro for free here: https://www.natalietysdal.com/favorites Collaborate here! Connect with Dr. William Stixrud Self-Driven Child Facebook Group https://www.selfdrivenchild.com https://stixrud.com Connect with Natalie Tysdal On Instagram On YouTube On Facebook Website
On todays episode, Ryan has another conversation with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson about their new book What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, experiencing adversity and developing resilience, why we should look at the last year as a gift that can improve our lives rather than a burden, how to teach kids to find purpose and control in their own lives, and more. Ned Johnson is the president and founder of PrepMatters. A 1993 graduate of Williams College, Mr. Johnson has a BA in Economics and Political Science. Originally from Connecticut, Mr. Johnson now resides with his wife and children in Washington, DC.William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine.Four Sigmatic's mushroom coffee is real organic, Fair-Trade, single origin Arabica coffee, with Lion's Mane mushroom for productivity, and Chaga mushroom for immune support. We've worked out an EXCLUSIVE offer with Four Sigmatic on their best-selling Mushroom Coffee - but this is JUST for Daily Dad listeners: Get up to 40% off + Free Shipping on Mushroom Coffee bundles. To claim this deal you MUST go to Foursigmatic.com/DAILYDADBetterHELP will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist and you can start communicating in under 48 hours. Visit betterhelp.com/dailydad and join the over 1,000,000 people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/dailydadMunk Pack makes the best Keto Granola Bars that contain just a single gram of sugar and 2 to 3 net carbs—and they're only 140 calories. Get 20% off your first purchase of ANY Munk Pack product by visiting munkpack.com and entering our code DAILYDAD at checkout.Magic Spoon is an adult version of what you loved as a kid—without the sugar, carbs, or guilt. Go to magicspoon.com/DAILYDAD to grab a variety pack and try it today. Use our promo code DAILYDAD at checkout to save five dollars off your order.Sign up for the Daily Dad email: DailyDad.comFollow Daily Dad: Twitter, Instagram, FacebookFollow Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson: Homepage, Twitter, Facebook See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Ryan reads today's meditation and has another conversation with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson about their new book What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, experiencing adversity and developing resilience, why we should look at the last year as a gift that can improve our lives rather than a burden, how to teach kids to find purpose and control in their own lives, and more. Ned Johnson is the president and founder of PrepMatters. A 1993 graduate of Williams College, Mr. Johnson has a BA in Economics and Political Science. Originally from Connecticut, Mr. Johnson now resides with his wife and children in Washington, DC.William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine.GiveWell is the best site for figuring out how and where to donate your money to have the greatest impact. If you've never donated to GiveWell's recommended charities before, you can have your donation matched up to $1,000 before the end of June or as long as matching funds last. Just go to GiveWell.org/STOIC and pick podcast and The Daily Stoic at checkout. Talkspace is an online and mobile therapy company. Talkspace lets you send and receive unlimited messages with your dedicated therapist in the Talkspace platform 24/7. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com or download the app. Make sure to use the code STOIC to get $100 off of your first month and show your support for the show.KiwiCo believes in the power of kids and that small lessons today can mean big, world-changing ideas tomorrow. KiwiCo is a subscription service that delivers everything your kids will need to make, create and play. Get 30% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line with code STOIC at kiwico.com. Ten Thousand makes the highest quality, best-fitting, and most comfortable training shorts I have ever worn. They are a direct-to-consumer company, no middleman so you get premium fabrics, trims, and techniques that other brands simply cannot afford. Ten Thousand is offering our listeners 15% off your purchase. go to Tenthousand.cc and enter code STOIC to receive 15% off your purchase.Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://DailyStoic.com/signupFollow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookFollow Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson: Homepage, Twitter, Facebook See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this episode, we are joined by a dynamic duo- William R. Stixrud, Ph.D. & Ned Johnson as we discuss how we as parents have such a crucial role in our kids' motivation and how many times as parents if we step back a little it gives such HUGE rewards to our kids! William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group, as well as a faculty member at Children's National Medical Center and an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and the founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test prep. A battle-tested veteran in the fields of test preparation, anxiety management, and student performance, Ned coaches kids on how to manage their stress while simultaneously motivating and empowering them to reach their full potential. Together they are the co-authors of the national best-selling book, The Self-Driven Child, and of their newest book, What Do You Say? Talking with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. Resources We Shared: Happy Parent Checklist What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home William Stixrud, PhD Ned Johnson The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence No Guilt Mom Podcast #60 Guarding Kids Against Addiction with Jessica Lahey No Guilt Mom Podcast #29 How to Raise a Brave Kid with Ned Johnson Download the Transcripts HERE The best mom is a happy mom. To better take care of you, download our No Guilt Mom mindset here . These reminders will help you second guess less, and feel more confidence every day in your parenting.
“I just can't handle you right now.” That's how I'm feeling around my kids lately. As many of you know, I've been on a pretty epic family road trip across the country. We've been making some incredible memories and having a ton of fun, but it hasn't been without some serious challenges. My wife has been sick for the past week, the boys are constantly fighting, I'm trying to manage my business (while keeping everyone engaged), and there've been some tragic events with my extended family, to name just a few. To be honest, I feel like I'm reaching my breaking point. I've lost all patience, I'm emotionally drained, and I just don't have the bandwidth to deal with my kids immediate needs. And I can feel the negative impact that my energy is having on my kids—which doesn't sit right with me. I don't want to be the Dad who replies to my kids with the classic “Because I said so…” line. Well, the timing for today's episode of the podcast couldn't be better. Returning guests, Ned Johnson and William Stixrud, join the show to talk all about their new book, What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. Ned and Bill reminded me that nobody gets it right all the time. In fact, perfect parenting just doesn't exist, and my current feelings are completely normal. Thankfully, they shared some pro tips for practicing self-compassion and dealing with the kids when life gets crazy—ones that I know you'll appreciate! If you sometimes find it hard to talk with our kids, you're going to love this conversation. Ned and Bill share some really powerful strategies for creating deeper connections, building empathy, and engaging in respectful and effective dialogue. This is your comprehensive guide to effectively communicating with kids! Ned Johnson Podcast Highlights How to talk to kids (and really listen) in order to build powerful connections. Changing the energy in the way you talk to your children. Letting your kids know when you're having a tough day/week. How to practice non-judgmental self-compassion. Why nobody needs perfect parents. In fact, ‘good enough' is better than you may think. The power of spending one-on-one time with your kids. Talking with kids about the pursuit of happiness. Using reflective listening to build empathy with your kids. Helping kids find their own motivation. How does a kid's age impact how you speak to them? Why you should want your kids to solve their own problems as much as possible. Are you accidentally bailing on your kids emotionally? Get the Full Show Notes Want access to the full show notes, including links to all resources mentioned during today's conversation? Visit FrontRowDads.com/281 Want to learn more about Front Row Dads? We are in the business of building better families. While most dads would say that family matters most, the challenge is they feel guilty knowing their careers get the best of them, and their family seems to get the rest of them. We help Dads become family men with businesses, not businessmen who have families, so they can thrive personally AND professionally. Subscribe to the Front Row Dad podcast to learn about fatherhood, marriage and how to level up your game at home, or if you're ready for the best coaching and true brothers to grow with, Join The Brotherhood! Are you getting all the shows? Subscribe today! Want to leave a review? THANK YOU! http://FrontRowDads.com/review
On today's podcast, Ryan speaks with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson about their book The Self-Driven Child which they wrote to help parents and educators nurture a sense of agency and purpose in children, how to define and give your best effort in all of the things that you do, the difference between a healthy drive for excellence and having enough, and more.Ned Johnson is the president and founder of PrepMatters. A 1993 graduate of Williams College, Mr. Johnson has a BA in Economics and Political Science. Originally from Connecticut, Mr. Johnson now resides with his wife and children in Washington, DC.William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine.Felix Gray offers desined glasses to make daily screen time more comfortable and the workday more productive.Get yourself a pair of glasses made for the 21st century and designed for modern, hardworking eyes. You have nothing to lose (except maybe eyestrain). Go to felixgrayglasses.com/DAILYDAD for the best Blue Light glasses on the market.Ritual is a multivitamin that delivers high quality nutrients, including Vitamin D3, in just 2 daily pills. Your multivitamins are delivered to your door every month with free shipping, always. You can start, snooze, or cancel your subscription anytime. Get key nutrients without the B.S. - Ritual is offering listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/DAILYDAD to start your Ritual today.Harry's is the best subscription service where you receive new razor blades, shaving cream, and other grooming products by mail. New customers can get a Harry's Starter Set for just $3 at harrys.com/dailydad. Go to harrys.com/dailydad to redeem your offer.BetterHELP will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist and you can start communicating in under 48 hours. Visit betterhelp.com/dailydad and join the over 1,000,000 people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/dailydadSign up for the Daily Dad email: DailyDad.comFollow Daily Dad: Twitter, Instagram, Facebook
Ryan reads today's meditation and speaks with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson about their book The Self-Driven Child which they wrote to help parents and educators nurture a sense of agency and purpose in children, how to define and give your best effort in all of the things that you do, the difference between a healthy drive for excellence and having enough, and more.Ned Johnson is the president and founder of PrepMatters. A 1993 graduate of Williams College, Mr. Johnson has a BA in Economics and Political Science. Originally from Connecticut, Mr. Johnson now resides with his wife and children in Washington, DC.William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine.Athletic Greens is a custom formulation of 75 vitamins, minerals, and other whole-food sourced ingredients that make it easier for you to maintain nutrition in just a single scoop. Visit athleticgreens.com/stoic to get a FREE year supply of Liquid Vitamin D + 5 FREE Travel Packs with subscription. LinkedIn Jobs is the best platform for finding the right candidate to join your business this fall. It's the largest marketplace for job seekers in the world, and it has great search features so that you can find candidates with any hard or soft skills that you need. And now, you can post a job for free. Just visit linkedin.com/STOIC to post a job for free. KiwiCo believes in the power of kids and that small lessons today can mean big, world-changing ideas tomorrow. KiwiCo is a subscription service that delivers everything your kids will need to make, create and play. Get 30% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line with code STOIC at kiwico.com. Ten Thousand makes the highest quality, best-fitting, and most comfortable training shorts I have ever worn. They are a direct-to-consumer company, no middleman so you get premium fabrics, trims, and techniques that other brands simply cannot afford. Ten Thousand is offering our listeners 15% off your purchase. go to Tenthousand.cc and enter code STOIC to receive 15% off your purchase.Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: http://DailyStoic.com/signupFollow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, and FacebookFollow Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson: Homepage, Twitter, Facebook
In this episode clip Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson discuss self driven kids. Do you have one? ABOUT Dr. William Stixrud William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group, a lifespan neuropsychology practice. He is also a member of the Adjunct Faculty of the Children’s National Medical Center, and he holds a faculty appointment as Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the George Washington School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is a frequent lecturer, and he has authored scientific articles on Transcendental Meditation and book chapters on meditation and the integration of the arts into education. Dr. Stixrud has been quoted often in publications including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, Scientific American, Time.com, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, Businessweek, Barron’s, and Vogue. Dr. Stixrud holds a doctorate degree in School Psychology from the University of Minnesota. He did his training in neuropsychology at the Children’s Hospital of Boston (as a fellow of the Harvard Medical School) and Tufts New England Medical Center. Dr. Stixrud is also a rock and roll musician and plays in the band Close Enough. Ned Johnson Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent nearly 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests and honing his interpersonal skills. A battle-tested veteran in the fields of test prep, stress regulation, and student performance, Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety and find the motivation to reach their full potential. In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Their book explores how fostering children’s autonomy can help solve two challenges endemic to kids today: facing anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is a sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others.
In today’s episode, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson join the podcast to talk about giving your kids the freedom to make choices and take control over their lives. We cover the importance of asking your kids questions, being calm as a father, meditation, mental health, motivation, sleep, and a lot more! KEY TAKEAWAYS: The importance of autonomy The stress that comes with lack of control What is non-anxious presence? Why the family unit is most effective when Dad stays calm Don’t go home until you meditate What does it mean to “take the long view” How to help kids do better now What you can do now, to help you kids avoid being one of the 60% that are seeking mental health. In college 38% of girls in highschool are diagnosed with anxiety and 28% of boys How do kids get intrinsically motivated Understanding the passionate pursuit of pastimes Why testing works for kids, and where it doesn’t Dads should be consultants and not managers Helping your kids know what they want Instead of leading your kids, try walking by their side Kids become resilient by solving their own problems Ask your kids questions, ask your kids questions, ask your kids questions Letting children own their decisions Your problems might be that they’re not sleeping enough It's not always an issue of character, it may be an issue of chemistry QUOTE "As much as possible, encourage kids to make decisions. " - Dr. William Stixrud "The worst job in the world is trying to get your kids to do things that they don't want to do. " - Ned Johnson ABOUT TODAY’S GUESTS Dr. William Stixrud William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group, a lifespan neuropsychology practice. He is also a member of the Adjunct Faculty of the Children’s National Medical Center, and he holds a faculty appointment as Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the George Washington School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is a frequent lecturer, and he has authored scientific articles on Transcendental Meditation and book chapters on meditation and the integration of the arts into education. Dr. Stixrud has been quoted often in publications including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, Scientific American, Time.com, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, Businessweek, Barron’s, and Vogue. Dr. Stixrud holds a doctorate degree in School Psychology from the University of Minnesota. He did his training in neuropsychology at the Children’s Hospital of Boston (as a fellow of the Harvard Medical School) and Tufts New England Medical Center. Dr. Stixrud is also a rock and roll musician and plays in the band Close Enough. Ned Johnson Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent nearly 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests and honing his interpersonal skills. A battle-tested veteran in the fields of test prep, stress regulation, and student performance, Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety and find the motivation to reach their full potential. In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Their book explores how fostering children’s autonomy can help solve two challenges endemic to kids today: facing anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is a sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. EPISODE RESOURCES TheSelfDrivenChild.com Follow on Twitter, Insta, Facebook The Self Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives The Stixrud Group PrepMatters PEOPLE MENTIONED Edwin Friedman ABOUT FRONT ROW DADS Front Row Dads is in the business of building better families. 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Nowadays it seems that even high-performing kids are acutely stressed and lacking motivation. Many feel that they have no control over their own lives. Some stumble in high school, or hit college and unravel. As parents, we can only drive our kids so far; at some point, they will have to take the wheel and map out their own path. The Self-Driven Child (Penguin, 2019) written by Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist, and Ned Johnson, a motivational coach who runs an elite tutoring service, offers a combination of cutting-edge brain science, the latest discoveries in behavioral therapy, and case studies drawn from the thousands of kids and teens. Together, Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson discovered that the best antidote to stress is to give kids more of a sense of control over their lives. But this doesn't mean giving up your authority as a parent. In this groundbreaking book they reveal how you can actively help your child to sculpt a brain that is resilient, and ready to take on new challenges. In this interview, cross-posted from the podcast Psychologists Off The Clock, Dr. Diana Hill interviews Dr. Stixrud about how to support healthy development, self-motivation, and emotional resilience in our kids. They discuss more effective approaches to dealing with homework battles, technology use, and underage drinking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology
Nowadays it seems that even high-performing kids are acutely stressed and lacking motivation. Many feel that they have no control over their own lives. Some stumble in high school, or hit college and unravel. As parents, we can only drive our kids so far; at some point, they will have to take the wheel and map out their own path. The Self-Driven Child (Penguin, 2019) written by Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist, and Ned Johnson, a motivational coach who runs an elite tutoring service, offers a combination of cutting-edge brain science, the latest discoveries in behavioral therapy, and case studies drawn from the thousands of kids and teens. Together, Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson discovered that the best antidote to stress is to give kids more of a sense of control over their lives. But this doesn't mean giving up your authority as a parent. In this groundbreaking book they reveal how you can actively help your child to sculpt a brain that is resilient, and ready to take on new challenges. In this interview, cross-posted from the podcast Psychologists Off The Clock, Dr. Diana Hill interviews Dr. Stixrud about how to support healthy development, self-motivation, and emotional resilience in our kids. They discuss more effective approaches to dealing with homework battles, technology use, and underage drinking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves. William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves. William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don’t have the skills, yes, but also where they don’t have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves. William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children’s National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron’s, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don’t have the skills, yes, but also where they don’t have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves. William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children’s National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron’s, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.
Psychologists Off The Clock: A Psychology Podcast About The Science And Practice Of Living Well
According to neuropsychologist Dr. William Stixrud, parents should be their kids’ consultants, not their managers. When we spend our time trying to control our kids, we weaken them and exhaust ourselves. In this episode, Diana talks with Dr. Stixrud about his book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Additionally, they discuss how to support healthy development, self-motivation, and emotional resilience in our kids. This episode is a game-changer for parents and clinicians, but, of course, “It’s your call” if you want to listen! Listen and Learn Why giving kids more sense of control sets them up to thriveA more effective approach to homework battles, technology use, and underage drinkingThe parenting magic of the words, “It’s your call”How to prepare your kids for college (and it’s not practicing SAT’s!) About Dr. William Stixrud: Dr. William Stixrud William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group, a lifespan neuropsychology practice. He is also a member of the faculty at Children’s National Medical Center, and he is an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the George Washington School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is a frequent lecturer the author of scientific articles and book chapters on Transcendental Meditation and other topics. Most recently, he is the author--with co-writer Ned Johnson--of The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Dr. Stixrud has been quoted often in publications including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, Scientific American, Time.com, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, Barron's, Businessweek, and Vogue. He is also a rock and roll musician and plays in the band Close Enough. Resources The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by William Stixrud and Ned JohnsonThe Stixrud Group: A Lifespan Neuropsychology PracticeWhen a College Student Comes Home to Stay - The New York TimesOn Leave: College Wellness, Mental Health and Not Returning to Campus - On Point 87. Cribsheet with Dr. Emily Oster112. Nature vs. Nurture: Why Temperament Matters With Co-hosts Debbie Sorensen and Yael Schonbrun79. Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes