Podcasts about self driven child

Join Dr. Diana Hill on The Wise Effort Show as she interviews Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of 'The Self-Driven Child' and their new book 'The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child.' They discuss foundational strategies for parenting that include establishing a strong connection, acting as a consultant rather than a manager, communicating healthy expectations, teaching an accurate model of reality, motivating children without trying to change them, being a non-anxious presence, and encouraging radical downtime. The episode offers insights, examples, and personal stories, underscoring the importance of balancing support with autonomy to foster responsible, self-driven children.Listen and Learn About:The Self-Driven Child PrinciplesThe Importance of Connection in ParentingDebunking the Myth of a Linear Path to SuccessThe Importance of Psychological RichnessThe Hero's Journey and Personal SetbacksRelated ResourcesGet enhanced show notes for this episodeWant to enhance your movement? Take Diana's audio course, "Level Up Your Movement." It's on pre-sale today for a special subscriber-only discount ($40 off for a limited time) and will be available on March 3, 2025.Get our new book I Know I Should Exercise, But…44 Reasons We Don't Move and How to Get Over Them. I wrote it with Katy Bowman, and it will be available on March 4, 2025.Want to become more psychologically flexible? Take Diana's "Foundations of ACT" course.Diana's EventsReserve your spot in Diana's Costa Rica retreat in 2025!See Diana at an upcoming eventConnecting With DianaSubscribe for free on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Leave a 5-star review on Apple so people like you can find the show.Sign up for the free Wise Effort Newsletter.Become a Wise Effort member to support the show.Follow Diana on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and

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It was wonderful to have Ned Johnson back on the podcast to talk about his new workbook for parents. This is a companion book to “The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives”. We discuss the importance of having control as a protective factor in preventing youth mental health challenges, especially with anxiety and depression. Here are links to Ned Johnson and William Stixrud's other co-authored books: The Seven Principles for Raising Self-Driven Children – A Workbook The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their LivesWhat Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. You can follow Ned's Fabulous advice on his IG and Tik Tok: @theothernedjohnson And on LinkedIn here.Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's episode, I'm joined by clinical neuropsychologist Dr. William Stixrud, co-author of The Self-Driven Child and the brand new Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child workbook. We talk about how to nurture internal motivation, what it really means to be autonomy-supportive, and how to step back without checking out. We also explore the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, how to support kids with executive function challenges, and why doing less as a parent can sometimes mean giving more.I WROTE MY FIRST BOOK! Order your copy of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans Here: https://bit.ly/3rMLMsLSubscribe to my free newsletter for parenting tips delivered straight to your inbox: draliza.substack.com Follow me on Instagram for more:@raisinggoodhumanspodcast Listen to my last episode with Gretchen HERE.Buy her new book.HERE.Sponsors:Sakara: Head to Sakara.com and check out The Essentials Bundle. And donʼt forget to tell them how you heard about them at checkout (podcast - Raising Good Humans)Great Wolf Lodge: Learn more at GreatWolf.comYNAB: Listeners of Raising Good Humans can claim an exclusive three-month free trial, with no credit card required at www.YNAB.com/humansWayfair: Head over to Wayfair.com and find something that's just your style today.iRestore: Reverse hair loss with @iRestorelaser and get $625 off with the code RGH at https://www.irestorelaser.com/RGH! #irestorepodGabb: For the best deals, sign up to Gabb today–no contract required–at GABB.com/HUMANSPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Trust Your Kids More and Worry About Them Less isn't just advice—it's a revolutionary mindset that could change your parenting forever. In this powerful episode of The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast, host Ginny Yurich sits down with Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud, authors of The Self-Driven Child and The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child, to explore what children really need to thrive in today's high-pressure, performance-driven culture. Drawing from decades of experience in neuropsychology, education, and working with families, Ned and Bill share a deeply hopeful and science-backed message: when kids feel a sense of control over their lives, their mental health flourishes, their motivation ignites, and their joy returns. Together, they unpack the cultural myths that are crushing childhood—like the belief that success hinges on relentless achievement or acceptance to a prestigious college. Instead, they advocate for autonomy, play, radical downtime, and the steady practice of parental trust. With humor, warmth, and actionable insight, this conversation offers an honest look at the fears we carry as parents and how to loosen our grip without letting go. If you've ever wondered how to raise a resilient, happy, and truly self-driven child, this episode will equip you to start today—with confidence. ** Get your copy of The Seven Principles of a Self-Directed child here Learn more about Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm thrilled to welcome back two favorite podcast guests and just all-around wonderful humans, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson. You might know them from their bestselling book The Self-Driven Child, which I often refer to on this show as one of the most important resources in my parenting life. Well, Bill and Ned have a new phenomenal resource that I can't wait to share with you — a workbook based on their beloved book called The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child.  Today's episode features a rich and deep conversation about some of the concepts they support parents in navigating in their new workbook, like why fostering autonomy is key to motivation, emotional well-being, and long-term success, why connection matters more than control, how to support our kids without trying to change them, and ways we can create a home environment that builds confidence and trust. They also share practical strategies for effective communication, including how to guide our kids through challenges without adding pressure or anxiety. As parents, it is scary to let go of control and to trust our kids to navigate their own problems, but as you'll hear in this conversation, this is exactly what they need to be motivated. We know we can't change them, but we can support them in finding the reason to change for themselves.   About William R. Stixrud, Ph.D William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, What Do You Say: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, and The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook. About Ned Johnson Ned Johnson is president and “tutor-geek” of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring and standardized test preparation. A battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and optimizing student performance, Ned has spent roughly 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. Ned is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, NPR, The Guardian, Wall Street Journal, US News, Seventeen, and many others.   Things you'll learn Why empowering children with autonomy fosters their development, motivation, and ability to navigate their own reality Why connection matters more than control, and parents should act as supportive guides rather than enforcers The role of self-reflection, an understanding of different temperaments, and a willingness to listen without pressure in effective parenting (guiding) How to cultivate respectful environments where children feel safe to explore, make decisions, and learn from their experience Why raising self-driven children leads to the best outcomes for their lives as self-determined and self-actualized adults   Resources mentioned The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook by Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson Ned Johnson / Prep Matters What Do You Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Teens Overcome the Pressure and Succeed by Ned Johnson and Emily Warner Eskelsen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this very special episode, I sit down with my friend and co-author Dr. Bill Stixrud to celebrate the arrival of our third “baby” — our brand new book, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook. If you've ever read our earlier books (The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say?), and found yourself thinking, “I love these ideas, but how do I actually apply them?”—this episode (and this book!) is for you. We created this workbook to help you go beyond the theory and actually make the Self-Driven Child way your way.Bill and I unpack the inspiration behind the workbook and walk through the seven core principles that anchor it. We talk about everything from building calm, connected homes to the delicate art of motivating kids without trying to change them. Along the way, we share powerful stories from families we've worked with, lessons from years of practice, and candid reflections from our own parenting journeys. This episode has actionable insights to support you—and your kids—in building a happier, healthier, and more autonomous life. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking things off with the big news: our new book has officially launched![3:00] - Why we wrote a workbook and how it supports parents in putting ideas into practice.[6:24] - How old myths about parenting can derail connection, and why reflecting is essential.[8:39] - Real-life stories of transformation when parents shift their approach.[11:15] - It takes practice to make new parenting habits stick—why this book is about just that.[13:25] - Diving into the first principle: “Put connection first” and why it matters most.[15:00] - Principle #2: Be a consultant, not the boss—fostering autonomy through trust.[16:19] - Communicating healthy vs. toxic expectations—and the power of belief in your kid.[17:33] - Why kids need an accurate model of reality (and success isn't a straight line).[21:03] - Motivating kids without trying to change them—how to be more effective and empathetic.[24:22] - The critical role of being a non-anxious presence and how it strengthens the whole family.[25:14] - Principle #6: Practicing radical digital downtime for mental clarity and brain health.[26:26] - Bonus chapter! What education could look like if we built it around brains, not just grades.[33:51] - Our favorite exercises from the workbook—and how they'll help you build connection and effectiveness. Links & Resources:To order The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook: https://politics-prose.com/book/9780143138259 If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Have you ever wondered if trusting your teen more could actually make them more responsible? Or do you find yourself constantly worrying and feeling like it's your job to control everything in their life? In this episode of Power Your Parenting – Moms with Teens, host Colleen O'Grady sits down with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, co-authors of The Self-Driven Child and their latest workbook, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child. Together, they explore how fostering a sense of autonomy in teens can actually make them more motivated and resilient. They discuss the critical difference between control and influence, the importance of parents being a non-anxious presence, and how stepping back can help teens step up. Through relatable examples and real-life experiences, they illustrate how letting go of excessive monitoring and trusting teens to navigate their own decisions—while still providing guidance—can lead to stronger relationships and more self-sufficient young adults.  William Stixrud, Ph.D. is a clinical neuropsychologist and a faculty member at Children's National Medical Center and George Washington University Medical School. He lectures and writes widely on the adolescent brain, meditation, and the effects of stress, sleep deprivation, and technology overload on the brain. He is on the board of the David Lynch Foundation.    Ned Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters and the coauthor of Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Teens Overcome the Pressure and Succeed. A sought-after speaker and teen coach for study skills, parent-teen dynamics, and anxiety management, his work has been featured on NPR, NewsHour, U.S. News & World Report, Time, The Washington Post, and The Wall Street Journal.   Here are three key takeaways from this conversation: First, teens need to develop a sense of control over their own lives to build confidence and resilience—over-managing them often backfires. Second, maintaining a calm and supportive presence as a parent is more effective than reacting with anxiety, as emotions are contagious. Lastly, success isn't defined by a perfect academic record or a linear path—giving kids room to make mistakes and learn from them is one of the greatest gifts a parent can provide. This episode will leave you with a fresh perspective on parenting and practical ways to create a more positive, less stressful dynamic with your teen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Help ISHA WARRIORS help more teens! When we raise $2,000 we get to advertise this podcast and the free work we offer teens to 100,000 people! SHARE MONDAY MINDSET WITH MORE TEENSDonations make it possible for us to continue to produce life changing podcasts and provide free yoga to teens!!  DONATE HEREAll of our teen yoga content is now FREE! Go check out www.ishawarriors.comToday I have Sarah Johnson on. As co-founder of JamboJon, an Utah based website development company, Sarah's unique experience with sales, psychology, and human connection give her the ability to create websites that marry technology, storytelling and graphics. Show Highlights:What's the same and different about teens today compared to our generation? Teens have unique struggles we never had to face. No one ever filmed us, we didn't have a play by play of world wide catastrophes at our finger tips…teens empathy can be crippling and cause anxiety AND it can be their superpower because they are compassionate.How I learned to Heal My Voice.Jodi Brown's Book, “Depression Fighter"- What I thought the rules were about using my voice (always have to be nice, kind, polite, take care of others before self, hide in shame.)- What I learned how powerful my voice can be. (Stand up for self, use voice for good, I don't have to earn worthiness, I deserve to be loved. Kobe Campbell, “Healing isn't becoming the best version of your self, healing is knowing that all the parts of yourself deserve to be loved.")- Physical healing: deal with the physical problems (doctors, medicine, vitamins, taking care of my physical body)- Emotional healing (Shadow work, facing what I fear, using my voice to create boundaries, being honest)Sarah's new podcast with her daughter: Mom I'm Home!Two generations exploring what it means to take brave risks and be adventurous, but also how important secure attachment and safe environments are to rest and digest.  (My daughter Anna is 22, an Art student. She and I host this podcast)Why is rest so important?Fight or Flight mode is designed to help us be superheroes- but it is intended for short term use…our problem is that we stay in this state. It is essential to have a space to reset and rest. Have a home to come back to. A safe place where we can face out emotions.Science of Rats. The Self Driven Child by WilliamStixrud and Ned Johnson. The National ScientificCouncil on the Developing Child for those 3 types of stress and their impact (of 13-15)National Scientific Council on the Developing Child, "Excessive Stress Disrupts the Architecture of the Developing Brain: Working Paper 3," Harvard University Center on the Developing Child, Reports &Working Papers, 2005, access May 16, 2017.CHECK OUT MORE ABOUT SARAH:Company Website: https://jambojon.comPersonal Website: htSend us a textSupport the showClick below to make a one time donation and help "Monday Mindset With ISHA WARRIORS" bring peace & empowerment to more teens all over the world!Donate Here

In this episode, Elizabeth and Vicki are joined by education experts Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud, authors of the book The Self-Driven Child and of the new workbook for parents, 7 Principles for Raising the Self Driven Child  for a thought-provoking discussion on how to empower your child to become self-driven, allowing them to navigate their own educational journey with confidence and independence. We tackled the intricate dynamics of parenting children as they transition to college and the overarching message was clear: encouraging self-management and resilience is vital for students facing the pressures of academic life. Join us as we dissect these ideas and outline practical steps that parents can take to ensure their students thrive – in college and beyond.Thank you for listening! Much more information for college parents can be found on our website, College Parent Central Find us on Twitter at @CollParCentral Sign up for our newsletter for ongoing information Please leave us a review at “Love the Podcast” to help others find us.

Did you know the pre-frontal cortex where executive functioning lives doesn't fully develop until our early 30s???I still struggle with some executive functioning skills like time management and following a plan, but if I learned anything from this interview, it's that we ALL can continue to grow, change, and improve. You are not married to your weaknesses!If we can help our kids BEST develop their executive function, they will be more independent, better at their jobs, find deeper relationships, and be better parents themselves. It's THAT important!My guest today, Noel Foy, helps us understand what executive functioning is, how it develops over time, and some really practical ways to build it best in our kids.Her question, “What is your plan for that?” is pure gold, and I know you'll love all the little strategies she shares to reduce anxiety in our kids while improving their executive function. As we teach life skills and independence, we are also teaching executive functioning skills! Score!

Hi #AmWriters, Jess here. I've been wanting to do an episode on workbooks forever - on any form of companion text that pairs with nonfiction books, really. How do you propose them, write them, format them? You know me, I like the granular details. Fortunately, Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud are publishing The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child in March, and Ned was willing to come on the podcast and teach me all about the nuts and bolts of putting a workbook out into the world. This episode truly flattened my learning curve, and I hope it does the same for you. People and things we talked about in this episode:William StixrudKatie Hurley and A Year of Positive Thinking for TeensTina Payne Bryson, The Whole-Brain Child and Bottom Line for BabyStrengthsFinder2.0TriMetrixMoo.comCan you make custom post-it notes? Yes, yes you can. The Disengaged Teen by Rebecca Winthrop and Jenny AndersonLAST Last Call: Join the Winter 2025 Blueprint ChallengeIf you have big goals for 2025 that include writing, finishing or revising a book, you'll want to join us for the Winter 2025 Blueprint Challenge.We started January 5, but it's JUST not too late to jump in. We'll be walking Blueprinters through the 14 steps of the Blueprint over 10 weeks. Some of the steps are very short and we combined them into one episode—and the first step is indeed on the shorter side, so you still have time to catch up if you subscribe now.Every episode speaks to fiction writers, memoir writers, and nonfiction writers. There are workbooks, and you will get a link to the digital download of the Blueprint book of your choice.We'll also be hosting weekly AMAs (ask me anything), write-alongs, and Zoom meet-ups with coaches—and KJ will be writing her own Blueprint, and Jennie will be coaching her through it in weekly episodes. For more about the challenge, check out these past posts:* What the Blueprint is and why Jennie made it* Introducing the winter book coach hosts* Overcoming Pantsing Pitfalls: How the Blueprint Method Can Save Your Story* The Blueprint is the Solution for Time-Strapped Writers* How to Use a Blueprint for Revision* Befriending the BlueprintIf you finish your Blueprint during the Challenge, you will be eligible to win a review from either Jennie or KJ. (If you missed the #AmWriting Success Story about the writer who won the Blueprint Sprint grand prize in 2022, give it a listen. It's very inspiring! It's right HERE.)It's going to be such a good time and we'd love to have you join us!The Blueprint Challenge is for Supporters only—10 weeks to plan the book you want to write instead of 90K words figuring it out. You in? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amwriting.substack.com/subscribe

If you are a regular listener to The Peaceful Parenting Podcast you know that at the end of every Guest Expert interview, I ask them if they could go back in time and give advice to their younger parent self, what advice would they give themselves? There are so many gems of wisdom that come from that question that I thought it would be fun to end 2024 with a mashup of all of the advice from our guests of 2024. We talk about: 3:00 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) with Casey Ehrlich 4:13 Understanding and Loving Spicy Kids with Mary Van Geffen 5:23 Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 5:54 From Strict Disciplinarian to Peaceful Parenting Dad and Coach with Kyle Wester 8:32 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids with Stephanie Pinto 13:17 When Your Child is Different with Sonali Vongchusiri 15:21 Neurodivergent Insights with Dr. Megan Anna Neff 17:31 Parenting Middle Schoolers with Phyllis Fagell 21:00 Conscious Parenting with Destini Davis 22:01 Ruth Whippman Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys- BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood 24:05 ADHD and Feeding/Eating Challenges with Dr. Roberto Olivardia 24:42 How to Help Kids Manage Stress and Difficulty with Ned Johnson 30:08 Greg Santucci on Sensory Processing 33:10 Kristen Day Play Based Learning: Or Why You Don't Need to Get Your Child Ready For Kindergarten 36:33 Why Is Parenting So Hard with Yolanda Williams 38:28 Sexism and Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World with Jo Ann Finkelstein 40:19 School Avoidance and Anxiety with Lynn Lyons 44:32 Strong-Willed Kids with Vivek Patel 46:32 Disordered Eating and Body Image Issues with Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos 48:51 How to Help Our Little Ones Sleep with Kim Hawley 52:49 When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic with Jennifer Wallace   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Casey Ehrlich https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode139/  Mary Van Geffen https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode138/  Eve Rodsky https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode30/ and Eve's book Find Your Unicorn Space Kyle Wester https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode141/  Stephanie Pinto https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-144-raising-emotionally-intelligent-kids/ and Stephanie's Book- From Chaos to Connection  Sonali Vongchusiri https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-146-when-your-child-is-different-with-sonali-vongchusiri/  Dr. Megan Anna Neff https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/neurodivergent-insights-with-dr-megan-anna-neff-episode-147/ and Dr. Neff's book Dr. Megan Anna Neff's book Self-Care for Autistic People: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask!  Phyllis Fagell https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/parenting-middle-schoolers-with-phyllis-fagell-episode-151/ and Phyllis' books Middle School Matters and Middle School Superpowers Destini Davis https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/conscious-parenting-with-destini-ann-episode-153/ and Destini's book Very Intentional Parenting: Awakening the Empowered Parent Within   Ruth Whippman https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/raising-emotionally-healthy-boys-boymom-reimagining-boyhood-episode-155/ and Ruth's book BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity Ned Johnson https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/how-to-help-kids-manage-stress-and-difficulty-with-ned-johnson-episode-156/ and Ned's books What Do You Say with Ned Johnson and William Stixrud  and Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud (PhD) and Ned Johnson  Dr. Roberto Olivardia https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/adhd-and-feeding-eating-challenges-with-dr-roberto-olivardia-episode-149/  and Dr. Olivardia's book The Adonis Complex: How to Identify, Treat and Prevent Body Obsession in Men and Boys by Dr. Roberto Olivardia Greg Santucci https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/greg-santucci-on-sensory-processing-and-live-qa-with-my-membership-community-episode-157/  Kristen Day https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/play-based-learning-or-why-you-dont-need-to-get-your-child-ready-for-kindergarten-episode-159/  Yoland Williams https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/why-is-parenting-so-hard-with-yolanda-williams-episode-160/  Jo Ann Finkelstein https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/sexism-and-sensibility-raising-empowered-resilient-girls-in-the-modern-world-with-jo-ann-finkelstein-episode-164/  and Jo Ann's book Sexism & Sensibility Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls In The Modern World Lynn Lyons https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/school-avoidance-and-anxiety-with-lynn-lyons-episode-166/ and Lynn's book Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons Vivek Patel https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/strong-willed-kids-with-vivek-patel-and-qa-with-membership-episode-168/  Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/disordered-eating-and-body-image-issues-with-luciana-rosu-sieza-and-alexis-sauls-ramos-episode-170/  Kim Hawley https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/how-to-help-our-little-ones-sleep-with-kim-hawley-episode-172/  Jennifer Wallace https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/when-achievement-culture-becomes-toxic-with-jennifer-wallace-episode-173/ and Jennifer's book Never Enough: 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If you are a parent whose child struggles with anxiety and motivation, this episode is for you! In this sneak peek of one of our summit masterclasses, Dr. Stixrud- neuropsychologist and co-author of Self-Driven Child, explores the science and sense of helping children develop a strong sense of control. Dr. Stixrud drives home how to foster internal drive, strong executive functioning skills, and enhanced stress tolerance while remaining a non-anxious presence for your child. Inspiring, concrete, and knowledgeable -this is a masterclass you do not want to miss!Dr. Stixrud co-authors "The Self-Driven Child" and "What Do You Say?" To find out more about his work go to: https://theselfdrivenchild.comInterested in more from the Institute?Don't miss our upcoming Summit on November 18-21st! This summit is packed with fabulous masterclasses from Dr. Shefali, Dr Neufeld, Dr. Hammond, Dr. Macnamara and so many more! ADHD, Aggression, Depression, Parental Wounds- there is something for everyone. A beautiful blend of recorded masterclasses and live online workshops- and it is all free! Click here to register!Fostering Emotion Regulation Workshop - December 7th - LIVE and RecordedEmpowering parents and caregivers to proactively and lovingly help children during these challenging moments.Take an additional 25% off the sale price with the coupon code: FER25%off - Register HERE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of The Self-Driven Child Podcast, I'm joined by the brilliant Dr. Bill Stixrud, co-author of The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say? We dive into the challenges parents face around academic pressure, mental health, and helping kids find their way without being overwhelmed by stress. Bill shares powerful insights on why a sense of control is so essential to young people's mental well-being, and we explore practical strategies for fostering resilience, decision-making, and problem-solving skills in children.This episode is perfect for parents, educators, or anyone working with kids who wants to learn how to support them better without adding more pressure. If you're looking to understand how to motivate your kids without micromanaging or forcing change, you'll love what we have to share. Tune in as we unpack the importance of being a “consultant” to your child and how building strong, empathetic connections can reduce stress and improve mental health. Episode Highlights:[00:00] – Introduction to the episode and discussing the importance of the parent consultant approach.[2:33] – The connection between academic pressure and adolescent mental health, and why it's a global issue.[5:58] – Why a sense of control is key to mental health, and how we can foster that in our kids.[8:17] – How increasing a child's sense of control improves both their learning and decision-making.[9:14] – Five key principles for parents to raise self-driven children, with connection being the foundation.[11:48] – Exploring the consultant approach: empowering kids to solve their own problems.[21:53] – How to reduce stress for both you and your child by changing the way you approach decisions.[24:31] – The power of letting kids make their own decisions and learn from their mistakes. Links & Resources:If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Welcome to The Self-Driven Child podcast! In this episode, I chat with Dr. William Stixrud, co-author of The Self-Driven Child, to explore the concept of “brainless education” and why the way we approach learning in schools often overlooks the very organ meant to do the learning: the brain. We explore how prioritizing stress reduction, sleep, and autonomy for students can revolutionize not just their academic success, but also their mental health and intrinsic motivation.Together, we discuss how giving kids more control over their learning and personal lives can foster better stress tolerance and deeper engagement with education. Dr. Stixrud shares research-based insights, and we provide actionable ideas on how educators, parents, and students themselves can shift toward a brain-friendly approach.  Episode Highlights:[01:58] - Dr. William Stixrud explains the low levels of student motivation and mental health issues[04:30] - How schools often act as a major source of stress and anxiety for students[06:12] - The success of Transcendental Meditation for medical students and its positive effects on learning[08:48] - The three pillars of healthy brain function: learning, mental health, and motivation[09:24] - How stress impacts the prefrontal cortex and executive function[12:27] - The importance of the hippocampus and the damaging effects of stress on memory[18:56] - The critical role of sleep in memory retention and emotional regulation[20:45] - How sleep deprivation increases stress and worsens anxiety[25:41] - Developing a sense of control and its importance in mental health[31:59] - Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation: how autonomy enhances learning[37:16] - Supporting autonomy in schools and how it improves student outcomes[42:19] - The argument for making homework optional and ungraded to reduce stress[44:01] - Final thoughts: fostering a brain-friendly environment for students Links & Resources:If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference.If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Episode 153 with Ned Johnson, co-author of 'The Self-Driven Child'  discusses the importance of giving children autonomy and control over their own decisions. He explains that a low sense of control is the most stressful thing a person can experience and can lead to anxiety and other negative outcomes. Johnson emphasizes the need for parents to shift from protecting their children to helping them protect themselves, allowing them to develop problem-solving skills and resilience. He also highlights the importance of being a "non-anxious presence" in our children's lives.  To help them, consider playing the role of a "consultant" and validating children's feelings, rather than immediately jumping in to solve their problems.  Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation.   Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety, and find the motivation to reach their full potential.  In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and “What Do You Say?: How to Talk With Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home”.  Aa sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Dr Jessica Hochman is a board certified pediatrician, mom to three children, and she is very passionate about the health and well being of children. Most of her educational videos are targeted towards general pediatric topics and presented in an easy to understand manner. Do you have a future topic you'd like Dr Jessica Hochman to discuss? Email Dr Jessica Hochman askdrjessicamd@gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram: @AskDrJessicaSubscribe to her YouTube channel! Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to this podcast: Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to her mailing list: www.askdrjessicamd.comThe information presented in Ask Dr Jessica is for general educational purposes only. She does not diagnose medical conditions or formulate treatment plans for specific individuals. If you have a concern about your child's health, be sure to call your child's health care provider.

Neuropsychologist William Stixrud PhD and Ned Johnson talk about their gamechanging book "The Self-Driven Child" and explain the importance of supporting our child's sense of control and autonomy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Self Driven Child podcast, I'm thrilled to welcome back one of my favorite voices in parenting, Jess Lahey. Jess is a New York Times bestselling author, an educator, and someone who's been on the front lines of both teaching and parenting. We discuss the emotional rollercoaster that is the transition from high school to college—not just for our kids, but for us as parents too. We talk about the balance between supporting our children and giving them the space to grow into their own people. Jess shares personal anecdotes about her own children's experiences, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs that come with this major life change. Jess gives insights on how to approach the first day of college, handle the inevitable bumps along the way, and most importantly, how to step back and let our kids take the reins. Episode Highlights:[00:42] - Introduction to the episode and guest Jess Lahey.[3:25] - Jess shares her experience with her children's transition to college.[7:09] - The importance of letting kids create their own identity in college.[14:24] - How to support your child without taking over, and the power of apology.[22:19] - Preparing kids for the unexpected challenges in college.[26:19] - The importance of helping kids build competence and a sense of control.[39:17] - Understanding why kids push away during major transitions and how to handle it. Links & Resources:https://www.cnn.com/2024/08/16/health/college-student-independence-wellness/index.html https://www.jessicalahey.com/comingofageinthemiddle/2015/6/21/season-of-the-malcontents  If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference.  If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Today we are talking about the roots of "The Self Driven Child" with my co-author, Dr. William R. Stixrud. Discover how our understanding of autonomy and control transformed our approach to parenting and education. We explore the neuroscience behind stress and motivation, sharing our journey from initial insights to the profound impact our work has had globally. Join us as we recount our Marvel origin story and reveal the science and anecdotes that shaped our bestselling books.Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist, joins me, Ned Johnson, as we discuss the key principles of our collaboration. From handling stress to fostering intrinsic motivation, this episode covers it all. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to our podcast, this episode offers valuable insights into creating a supportive environment for children and young adults. Episode Highlights:[0:34] - Welcoming Dr. William Stixrud and introducing the topic of autonomy and control.[1:34] - The global impact of "The Self Driven Child" and the importance of a sense of control.[2:12] - Discussing stress and its effects on the brain from Dr. Stixrud's early research.[5:39] - How stress and control relate to motivation and mental health.[6:28] - Personal anecdotes and professional experiences on stress and motivation.[8:45] - The concept of autonomy in parenting and education.[13:17] - The bi-directional relationship between stress and brain function.[17:07] - Practical advice on supporting autonomy in children.[20:24] - The impact of test preparation on stress and performance.[25:38] - Addressing the physiological aspects of stress and anxiety.[30:02] - Reflections on the journey of writing "The Self Driven Child".[31:03] - Concluding thoughts and a sneak peek into the next episode.  If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

We're continuing summer break with #8 of our Top 10 Season 1 episodes. Can freeing your child from the shackles of constant parental control lead to a happier, more successful future? Kaity and Adriane unlock the secrets to self-driven learning with Dr. William R. Stixrud, a renowned clinical neuropsychologist and co-author of "The Self-Driven Child." The episode also explores: the power of shifting from fear-driven parenting to fostering a calm, supportive atmosphere that allows children to flourishthe transition from protective to consultative parenting as kids growpractical advice on managing parental anxieties through therapy, exercise, and meditation, ultimately benefiting children by reducing control tendenciesthe contentious issue of homework is tackled head-on, advocating for a respectful, supportive approach that honors children's individuality and promotes autonomyand so much more!By understanding the critical relationship between the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala and recognizing the biochemical factors influencing child behavior, we can create nurturing environments where children feel valued and empowered to take charge of their lives.ABOUT THE GUEST:Dr. William (Bill) R. Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist, founder of The Stixrud Group, a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center, and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. He is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the bestseller "The Self-Driven Child." He is also a frequent lecturer on adolescent brain development, stress & more.

In this episode, Debbie and Seth discuss how parents can balance the concepts from the book ‘The Self-Driven Child' with the challenges of supporting a child with ADHD and executive functioning issues. They emphasize the importance of scaffolding and giving children control over their lives while still providing support. They also discuss the need for parents to do their own inner work and manage their own anxiety in order to effectively support their children. The episode concludes with a discussion on the importance of planning and setting goals for children's development. Get Exclusive NordVPN deal here → https://nordvpn.com/tilt - It's risk-free with Nord's 30-day money-back guarantee! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we explore the complexities of an issue that's close to the hearts of parents, teachers, and students alike—college readiness. Alongside my friend and co-author Bill Stixrud, we discuss the crucial aspects that determine whether a high-school student is truly ready to take on the challenges of college life. We start by questioning the common rush towards college right after high school, bringing to light the concerning rates of dropout and burnout among college freshmen. Our conversation covers effective strategies for assessing and enhancing readiness, emphasizing the importance of emotional resilience and maturity over mere academic preparation. Listen in to gain insights into making the transition to college successful and sustainable.Episode Highlights:[2:26] College readiness and mental health challenges among students.[7:05] College readiness, stress tolerance, and emotional resilience.[12:21] Prioritizing life skills over academic achievement.[14:40] College readiness and the importance of self-care for students.[19:53] Importance of sleep for adolescent brain development and academic success.[24:29] Executive functions, self-evaluation, and stress management in adolescents.[30:10] Stress management and self-care for high-achieving students.[35:08] College preparation and stress management for high school students. Links & Resources:Visit SelfDrivenChild.com for more resources on developing autonomy and resilience in children.For further insights into college readiness and effective stress management strategies, check out the books “The Self-Driven Child” and “What Do You Say?” by Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud.If today's discussion resonated with you, consider exploring our books and resources to better prepare for the college journey ahead. Remember to rate, follow, share, and review our podcast if you find our content valuable. Here's to nurturing a self-driven and resilient next generation!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Terri continues the conversation with Ned on what we can do to reverse the trend of anxiety and learned helplessness. 

We are wired to care.  Care about ourselves, our learning, and each other.  Ned Johnson, co-author of The Self-Driven Child, shares his experience and views on why we are becoming an uncaring society.  

This week, Kaity and Adriane chatted with Ned Johnson, co-author of "The Self-Driven Child" and "What Do You Say?" about healthy brain development. Episode 42  explores:

If I could show you how to:* Help your children think and act independently* Build better resilience in them, and* Improve your relationship with them.How much would that be worth to you?Well, I might not be able to do the above, but this week's podcast guest can.Ned Johnson (who co-authored the fantastic book, The Self-Driven Child, with William Stixrud) and I discuss what we as parents can do to achieve all of the above list. It's a fun conversation and has given me a new lens to view parenting through as well as some really actionable approaches.“I love you too much to fight with you about your homework but is there a way I can help”If you'd like to find out more about Ned and read his books visit his website here.You can also find Ned on Instagram here and here is a link to the viral TikTok post that he mentioned.On his website, Ned has listed out insights from the Self-Driven Child. Here are just a few:* Say “It's your call' whenever you can* Foster a sense of control in your child* Be a non-anxious presence in your family* Be a consultant* Encourage flow* Take the long viewI believe, and hope, this episode will really help your family build motivation, stress tolerance, and above all, a happy home.Big hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

  Parents want to keep their kids safe, healthy, happy and motivated but sometimes it's hard to know what to say to achieve those goals. Conversation between parents and kids can be difficult at times, if not impossible. That's why we're excited to welcome neuropsychologist William Stixrud and test prep expert Ned Johnson to the show. They are the authors of the bestselling book, "The Self-Driven Child".   Their latest book is called, "What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home". Their website is prepmatters.com.   Shopify is the all-in-one commerce platform that makes it simple for anyone to start, run and grow your own successful business. With Shopify, you'll create an online store, discover new customers, and grow the following that keeps them coming back. Shopify makes getting paid simple, by instantly accepting every type of payment. With Shopify's single dashboard, you can manage orders, shipping and payments from anywhere. Shopify's award-winning help is there to support your success every step of the way. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at Shopify.com/nobody.

Listen in as I chat with Journalist Lisa L. Lewis about the importance of sleep for teens. We explore why sleep matters for learning, behavior, and mental health. Lisa also shares her pivotal role in getting California to pass a landmark law on healthy school start times. We covered everything from the science of sleep to practical tips for ensuring our teens get the rest they need. You won't want to miss this episode if you're looking to understand the crucial role sleep plays in your teenager's life and well-being.Lisa L. Lewis is a leading expert on adolescent sleep who played an instrumental role in California passing a first-of-its-kind state law regulating middle and high school start times. Her book "The Sleep-Deprived Teen" is described by Ariana Huffington as "a call to action" and by Daniel Pink as "an urgent and timely read."Episode Highlights:[01:19] The issue with sleep deprivation on children and teens.[03:15] An op-ed Lisa wrote helped catalyze major statewide revolutionary change around school start times in California.[04:57] Lisa's personal experience with her child in school starting very early in the morning.[05:33] Lisa put on her Journalism hat and researched other schools and the research on sleep deprivation.[12:26] Lisa highlights how being sleep deprived makes learning far more difficult across all stages.[18:17] Beyond duration, irregular sleep seriously sabotages academic performance too.[20:39] Lack of sleep eats away at teens' emotional resilience, exacerbating conditions like anxiety.[25:26] Exploring the challenges and solutions for changing school start times to benefit teen sleep.[30:43] Coordinated statewide change helps bypass complications related to sports scheduling across districts.[37:40] One remarkable example: a Florida school saw disciplinary issues, absentee rates and more improve after start times shifted later.[47:14] The importance of making sleep a family priority for both teens and parents.Links & Resources:•"The Sleep-Deprived Teen" by Lisa L. Lewis: https://www.lisallewis.com/book •The Self-Driven Child by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson•What Do You Say? by Bill Stixrud and Ned JohnsonIf this episode has struck a chord with you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. Here's to growing, learning, and thriving as adults in this wild world. Until next time!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

In today's episode, join me in a thought-provoking conversation with Ned Johnson, author of several books and founder of PrepMatters. We delve into crucial parenting topics, sharing insights from his book, "The Self-Driven Child." Your journey to understanding and empowering your child begins here, tune in!BioNed Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, an educational company that helps students find success in high school and get into and through college. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent more than 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed.    With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. He is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast and his work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Follow Ned on LinkedIn, visit The Self-Driven Child Website, and click to listen to The Self-Driven Child Podcast.Become part of Signet's Parent Support Community here!Access free resources and learn more about Sheila and her team at Signet Education at signeteducation.com or on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheilaakbar/.

"The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives"

Ever feel like the teen years are an enigma wrapped in a hormonal riddle? Buckle up, parents, because today's chat is about to shed some much-needed light on that infamous rollercoaster ride. We will arm you with the essential tips needed to not just weather this storm but set sail smoothly through the tempestuous seas of adolescence. From fostering open communication—where judgment is left at the door—to being the pillar of approachability and support, we're unlocking the secrets to a bond with your teen that's as strong as it is vital.Join us as we unpack the art of modeling healthy relationships and the delicate dance of encouraging independence. We don't just dole out advice; we're in the trenches with you, sharing strategies that promote growth and pave the way for well-adjusted adults. Our conversation extends beyond the talk as we introduce practical tools like the 'Tame the Tech' bundle, designed to help your family navigate the digital world together. So, gather 'round, all ye parents of teens, and let's journey together through this transformative chapter—it's a ride you won't have to brave alone!Want more info on navigating the teen years? We highly recommend the book, The Self Driven Child.  For specific strategies on becoming an active listener, check out Episode 49 of our show, titled "Transform Your Family with Active Listening, featuring Heather Younger". TakeawaysBuilding and maintaining a strong connection with your teen is crucial for successful parenting.Open and honest communication is key, and parents should encourage their teens to talk about anything without fear of judgment.Quality time together helps strengthen the bond between parents and teens.Parents should be available and approachable, creating an environment where teens feel comfortable seeking guidance.Establishing trust and empowering teens to make responsible decisions is important.Parents should show empathy and understanding towards their teen's challenges and emotions.Setting real and clear expectations, teaching decision-making skills, and encouraging independence are essential for parenting teens.Parents should stay informed about their teen's life while respecting their boundaries.Modeling healthy relationships and conflict resolution within the family is important for teens.Encouraging independence and supporting teens in making choices and facing challenges prepares them for adulthood. Feeling like you'd like to level up your game in marriage, learn how to gain clarity over the chaos of the family calendar, and find out how to get your whole family playing together like a winning team? Check out our SHOP for current Parent Coaching Sessions! Together, we are better! Support the showGive $20 to keep the mic on. We're a 501 c(3) non-profit and produce this show for parents around the globe. our website | our Private FB community!

In this episode, I have a great conversation with my co-author and friend Dr. Bill Stixrud about motivation and change, especially as we start a new year. We discuss the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation and how to help kids find their own internal drive.Dr. Bill Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist and author. We have co-authored two books together - The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say? He brings a wealth of knowledge about the adolescent brain and supporting kids' development.Episode Highlights:[02:18] - Sharing my own New Year's resolutions as an example.[05:03] - Explaining intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.[06:16] - Discussing natural consequences using a story about my tractor.[09:39] - Connecting coping skills to motivation and change.[11:27] - Talking about the ambivalence people feel around change.[14:51] - Sharing a story about motivational interviewing and drug use.[20:32] - Emphasizing you can't force someone to change.[26:22] - Offering advice for parents who want to reset their approach.[30:14] - Laughing about a story from our new book.[33:51] - Wishing everyone a happy new year!Links & Resources:•The Self-Driven Child by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson•What Do You Say? by Bill Stixrud and Ned JohnsonIf this episode has struck a chord with you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. Here's to growing, learning, and thriving as adults in this wild world. Until next time!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

On episode 206 we talk about autonomy and motivation. In a world where autonomy is key to motivation and engagement, how do we navigate this with our children, especially those who are neurodivergent? Today, we're exploring the vital role of independence and control in fostering engagement and motivation, not just in kids, but in all of us. Joining us is Ned Johnson, founder of PrepMatters and co-author of The Self-Driven Child, and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. If you're a teacher and not yet a member of the Neurodiversity University Educator Hub, we'll be opening up registration in January. It will only be open for a limited time, so make sure you're notified when it happens. Sign up here. Ned Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, an educational company that helps students find success in high school and in getting into college. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent more than 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. He co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud. Ned is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast and his work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. BACKGROUND READING The Self-Driven Child website TikTok Instagram X, formerly Twitter

I'm joined by my co-host and co-author of The Self-Driven Child Dr. William Stixrud to discuss how to be a non-anxious presence for your kids when things feel stressful and scary in the world. As parents and educators, modeling calmness and confidence helps children feel braver.Dr. Bill Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist and co-author of the bestselling books The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say? His work focuses on supporting kids to build resilience, motivation, and handle anxiety. Timeline Summary:[00:39] - Introducing the idea of a "non-anxious presence" and why it's so valuable for kids.[02:43] - Where Dr. Stixrud first came across this concept and what it means.[04:37] - Children look to parents' reactions in stressful situations. Staying calm helps kids feel confident.[06:16] - Accepting worst-case scenarios while remaining motivated to support your child.[09:23] - Taking care of yourself models self-care and brings equilibrium.[11:06] - The benefits of scheduling prescribed worry time.[12:40] - Dr. Stixrud's 50-year meditation practice for managing stress.[15:43] - Rats turning a wheel to activate the prefrontal cortex and reduce stress.[18:31] - Validating children's difficult feelings while emphasizing their competence.[21:02] - Making home a safe haven and modeling handling hard emotions.[22:35] - The recipe for developing resilience: stress plus rest and recovery.[24:09] - Being calm helps other people manage crises better.[25:50] - Good sleep gives perspective on challenges.[27:27] - Wishing for peace in the Middle East. Moving towards non-anxious presence. Links & Resources:·         The Self-Driven Child by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson·         What Do You Say? by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson If you found this episode helpful, please rate, follow, share, and review the Self Driven Podcast. Being a non-anxious presence helps kids handle hard things. Look for opportunities to model calmness, confidence, and coping. Wishing you peace in unsettled times.If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

In this insightful interview, I am joined by my friend and co-author Dr. William Stixrud to speak with child development specialist Dr. Robyn Silverman. We discuss her new book, How to Talk with Kids About Anything. We dive into tough but critical conversations like handling big emotions, building self-esteem, making mistakes, and forming friendships. Dr. Silverman shares valuable advice and scripts for connecting with kids through their triumphs and tribulations. Her vast experience and research is distilled into an accessible guide for parents and caregivers. Don't miss her incredible insights on empowering kids to handle life's ups and downs. This conversation overflows with compassion and tools to foster healthy communication.Dr. Robyn Silverman is a renowned child and teen development specialist seen frequently on national television programs. Her podcast “How to Talk with Kids About Anything” offers incredible wisdom from leading experts. Dr. William Stixrud and I have been guests sharing approaches from The Self-Driven Child. Now we have the tables turned and get to ask Dr. Silverman about her must-read new book. Timeline Summary:[02:26] – Starting the podcast after being bullied as a child when adults didn't know what to say.[05:00] – The importance of giving kids words and understanding to handle life's challenges.[06:28] – Emotional inhibition and invalidation lead kids to become more dysregulated over time.[08:33] – Discussing the benefits and catharsis of expressing sadness.[09:47] – Anger often masks hurt; getting underneath to find the real issue.[12:36] – Assuring kids of unconditional love, regardless of mistakes.[17:11] – Identifying when sadness becomes persistent depression.[19:39] – Allowing kids to go through the “tunnel” of hard feelings is better than taking those feelings away.[22:58] – Fostering self-esteem by celebrating kids' unique strengths.[26:51] – Toxic perfectionism and low self-esteem start early and plague high achievers.[30:15] – The power of observing vs praise in building kids' self-esteem.[33:08] – Guiding kids to recognize and leave toxic friendships.[35:58] – Sharing stories of famous failures to reframe mistakes as learning.[40:04] – Modeling imperfection and apologies fosters empathy in kids.[44:40] – Long parenting relationships mean we keep learning as kids grow. Connect with Dr. Robyn Silverman:·         Robyn's Podcast: How to Talk to Kids About Anything·         Robyn's Book: How to Talk with Kids About Anything Links & Resources:·         Book: Raising a Kid Who Can Thank you so much for tuning in to this episode. If you found it insightful, I urge you to share it with others. And hey, if you enjoyed it, please don't forget to rate, follow, and review our podcast. Your support means the world to us. Until the next time, remember to love your kids and stay curious!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

We all want to raise our children to be self-sufficient and to explore their own identities, but it can be difficult to strike a balance between control and support. For this episode, we enlisted the guidance of Clinical Psychologist Emily Edlynn, who, through her book ‘Autonomy-Supportive Parenting', provides parental strategies that encourage your kids to have autonomy while also establishing boundaries.  We love how Emily's compassionate, very non-judgmental approach alleviates some of the responsibilities that parents take on. You'll get so many helpful on-the-ground tools for instilling independence in your children and fostering motivation without imposing control. She also touches on questions about giving children allowances, navigating privacy, and how to reward your children in a positive way. Listen in to find out more about Emily's powerful parenting framework! Listen and Learn: How Emily's book stands out by translating evidence from parenting research into a digestible practical guide The internal and external factors that might contribute to controlling parenting Adopting autonomy-supportive parenting as a way to step away from controlling behavior without giving up the responsibility of engaging in parenting that helps shape your children in healthy ways? Strategies for encouraging active participation in chores Why academic achievement has become a real pitfall for controlling parenting Are there advantages to giving your child an allowance?  Navigating privacy from an autonomy-supportive parenting perspective when you might be concerned about your child's safety Resources: Emily's website Emily'sbook Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children Emily's substack The Art and Science of Mom  Ask Your Mom Follow Emily on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn  About Emily Edlynn Emily Edlynn, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice with specialized training in pediatric health psychology. She's the author of parenting blog The Art and Science of Mom, as well as the upcoming book Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children. Dr. Edlynn has worked as a pediatric health psychologist in two large urban hospitals and was previously an assistant professor at University of Colorado Denver School of Medicine. She's currently the Director of Pediatric Behavioral Medicine at a private practice in Oak Park, Illinois. Dr. Edlynn writes a parenting blog, The Art and Science of Mom, and has penned the advice column, Ask Your Mom, for Parents since 2019. Dr. Edlynn has been featured as a parenting expert across national outlets and is the author of Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children. Related Episodes: 14. Mindful Parenting 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud 94. Parenthood in the Age of Fear with Kim Brooks 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de Marneffe 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne 149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Carla Naumburg 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 253. Free Range Kids with Lenore Skenazy 258. How to Have a Kid and a Life with Erika Souter 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell'Antonia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this age of technology, our children are more exposed than ever before. As parents, it falls upon us to educate and mentor them in responsibly navigating boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation.  For this episode, we bring you Devorah Heitner, who, in her most recent book titled Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in the Digital World, touches on many important strategies for guiding our children to live in a digital world where privacy is nonexistent and judgment is unavoidable.  Devorah's book could not have come at a better time and is a tremendously valuable resource for parents, kids, and community members to draw from because she offers so much advice on having meaningful conversations with your kids that foster trust and create connectedness.  Listen and Learn:  What motivated Devorah to explore the idea that our children's childhoods are much more public than ours? What impact do constant surveillance and digital exposure have on child development? Tips for guiding children to make thoughtful decisions in the digital age Why a fear-based approach to protecting your child's safety can breed increased secrecy and distrust How to move from monitoring to mentoring when teaching your kids how to wisely engage with technology  Educating your children when it comes to exposure to sex and pornography online Why it's important to talk with your kids about the risk of sexting and practicing safe-sexting  Devorah shares her recommendations for kids' educational resources What is intrinsic motivation, and how does it relate to our modern world's omnipresent grade apps? Resources:  Devorah Heitner's website  Devorah's books, Growing Up in Public, Coming of Age in the Digital World and Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World Scarleteen and Girlology Devorah's Substack - Mentoring Kids in a Connected World  Follow Devorah on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter  Books referenced in this episode:  Out: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Your Lgbtqia+ Kid Through Coming Out and Beyond by John Sovec It's Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained by Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett  About Devorah Heitner Dr. Devorah Heitner is an author who specializes in helping kids navigate tech using practical, research-informed approaches. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern. Her work on mentoring kids in a connected world has appeared in the New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, and CNN Opinion. She is a mother of a teenager of her own and the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World and Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World which we are here to discuss today.  Related Episodes: 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud 61. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Leahy 194. How to Be (and Raise) an Adult 297. School of Hard Talks with Emily Kline 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers 307. Navigating Social Media as a Parent with Cara Goodwin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ravi sits down with William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson to discuss lessons learned from their book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives. Listen in for William and Ned's insights about stepping back as parents to let your children navigate the world with confidence and find their own path.

Ever find yourself wanting to have a good talk wtih your teen or tween and either getting nothing or an unexpected earful? How can we connect without seeoming pushy or fake? Do we avoid the deep emotions or dive in headfirst? If these questions are nagging and you feel you are just not able to connect with your child - this episode will provide some great advice. Ned Johnson co-wrote The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud. After the success of that book they tackled some of the tougher communication problems described above in What Do You Say? Today we get to pick Ned's brain on some of the key messages he has for parents on how we can best communicate with our teens and tweens (and anyone else for that matter). It's a tricky balance sometimes  - being interested, but not pushy; being empathic, but not an anxious presence; wanting to give advice, but not be dogmatic; being logical, but not neglecting to respect the emotions....parenting is hard! This episode will help.

Ever wondered why middle school can feel like a turbulent ride not just for kids, but for parents too? In this episode, we dive deep into the world of middle schoolers with our special guest, Phyllis Fagell. Phyllis, a seasoned middle school counselor, shares her unique insights into the complexities of adolescence, identity formation, and the pivotal role that parents and educators play. Whether you're a parent, educator, or simply curious about the intricacies of this developmental stage, this episode offers a fresh perspective. Phyllis debunks some common misconceptions about the middle school experience and provides valuable strategies to navigate this often misunderstood phase.Timeline Summary[0:00] How to talk with kids to build motivation, stress tolerance, and a happy home.[6:38] Middle school is a phase of enormous growth and development, not suffering.[10:51] What should we look for when we see bullying.[15:00] Being different makes you a target in middle school, it's associated with bullying.[20:52] How to talk to your kids so they don't feel like they're disappointed in you.[22:47] Where do we get the crazy idea that in order to help kids do better, we have to make them feel worse?[26:21] What is it about the brains of kids at this age?[33:52] When children identify with a core value, it improves academic performance in a way that persists.[37:43] The importance of having male influences in a boy's life.[43:03] Why is it so hard for parents and schools to help kids with racial and ethnic differences?[48:46] What's the difference between a real apology vs. a “sorry”?[57:03] Why is it so hard for parents to love their kids for who they are?Links & Resources- Phyllis's website: phyllisfagell.com - Phyllis's book, Middle School Matters: phyllisfagell.com/middle-school-matters/I hope you enjoy this episode of "The Self-Driven Child". If you found our conversation with Phyllis Fagell insightful, please take a moment to rate and follow our podcast, share this episode with others, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us bring more meaningful content to you. Thanks for tuning in!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

In today's episode of The Self-Driven Child, I interview Eli Lebowitz, the creator of the concept SPACE, or Supportive Parenting of Anxious Childhood Emotions. He is helping parents and kids break the cycle of chronic stress. We discuss how to help our kids cope with uncertainty or a lack of control over situations. I'm so excited to share this conversation with you – Bill and I are huge fans of Eli's work, and we feel so fortunate to spread the word about the SPACE concept. I hope you enjoy it! Timestamps:[2:48] Why he wrote Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD[4:35] The pandemic's effect on childhood anxiety[6:10] Is it regular anxiety or an anxiety disorder?[10:50] The value of coping mechanisms [11:15] The heart of anxiety disorders [13:37] Helping with anxiety comes from a place of love [17:24] Empathy helps parents with this process[21:22] How anxiety can present in families [23:44] The NUTS and bolts of anxiety[25:27] Addressing anxiety widens a child's world[27:58] The traps parents fall into [35:38] Accommodations for anxious kids[38:56] Moving toward letting kids feel anxiety sometimes[42:47] Teaching kids to be the hero of their anxiety story[44:05] The problems of always accommodating kids' anxieties[47:51] Preventing learned helplessness[50:23] The value of a plan & where to start[58:00] Final thoughtsResources:Breaking Free from Child Anxiety and OCD: https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Free-Child-Anxiety-Scientifically/dp/0190883529More about the guest: Professor Lebowitz is the Director of the Program for Anxiety Disorders at the Yale Child Study Center, where she researches and treats anxiety in children and adolescents. His work investigates the genetic and hereditary factors that have a role in the onset and maintenance of anxiety and associated diseases. Dr. Lebowitz has written extensively on child and adolescent anxiety and is the primary researcher on several grant-supported studies.If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

In this excerpt of a class about homework with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of The Self-Driven Child, Susan explores the anxiety parents often feel around their kids' unwillingness to take their school work seriously. https://susanstiffelman.com/stixrud-johnson-podcast-2/

If you find yourself struggling to connect with the adolescents in your life, don't worry, you're not alone! The truth is, building relationships with teens and young adults can be challenging, but with the right mindset and approach, anything is possible. Get ready to be inspired by our guest, Emily Kline, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist who has written a practical and research-backed guide called "The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids". Whether you're a parent, teacher, mentor, or just someone who wants to connect better with the younger generation, this book is a must-read for improving communication and building stronger relationships with young people. So, let's dive in and explore some of the key insights and tips that Emily has to offer. Listen and Learn:  The guiding principles of motivational interviewing for adolescents  How is motivational interviewing helpful What we know about expressed emotion and how it can empower parents Why adolescents are often more willing to follow the advice and direction of supportive parents than those who demand obedience Emily breaks down the foundational skills needed for hard conversations with young adults using clinical scenarios Resources:  Visit Emily's Website: www.dremilykline.com Order your copy of The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781632174703 Follow Emily on Instagram and TikTok @learnaboutmilo Psychology Today Blog:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-school-of-hard-talks A Minor Revolution: How Prioritizing Kids Benefits Us All by Adam Benforado: https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-minor-revolution-how-prioritizing-kids-benefits-us-all-adam-benforado/18501375?ean=9781984823045 Influence is Your Superpower by Zoe Chace: https://bookshop.org/p/books/influence-is-your-superpower-the-science-of-winning-hearts-sparking-change-and-making-good-things-happen-zoe-chance/16987804?ean=9781984854339 About Emily Kline: Emily Kline is a clinical psychologist and writer who has held faculty positions in psychiatry at Boston University and at Harvard Medical School. She created a simple motivational interviewing curriculum for family caregivers and The School of Hard Talks Online free e-course, and her book, The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with You Almost Grown Kids is now available.  Emily lives with her husband and children who graciously beta-test her experiments in family communication and a dog who can't be reasoned with at all. Related Episodes: Episode 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing with Nadine Mastroleo Episode 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud Episode 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick Episode 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In episode 3 of The KindlED Podcast, hosts Kaity Broadbent and Adriane Thompson talk with Bill Stixrud, co-author of "The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives."Dr. William (Bill) R. Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist, founder of The Stixrud Group, a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center, and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. He is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the bestseller "The Self-Driven Child." He is also a frequent lecturer on adolescent brain development, stress & more.

While we take a pause to record new content and to spend time with our families over spring break, we wanted to take this opportunity to replay a few episodes that our newer listeners may not have heard and that long-time TIMSL listeners have loved.  We hope you enjoy this fantastic 2-part conversation with Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud, co-authors of parenting books The Self Driven Child and What Do You Say?  Link to Orignal Episode Shownotes

Parents want to keep their kids safe, healthy, happy and motivated but sometimes it's hard to know what to say to achieve those goals. Conversation between parents and kids can be difficult at times, if not impossible. That's why we're excited to welcome neuropsychologist William Stixrud and test prep expert Ned Johnson to the show. They are the authors of the bestselling book, "The Self-Driven Child".   Their latest book is called, "What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home". Their website is prepmatters.com.   Our sponsor, Green Chef, is a CCOF-certified meal kit company that makes eating well easy with plans to fit every lifestyle.  Whether you're Keto, Paleo, Vegan, Vegetarian, Gluten-Free, or just looking to eat more balanced meals, Green Chef offers a range of recipes to suit your preferences.  And Green Chef has expanded its menu!  Now choose from more than 30 recipes weekly, with the option to mix and match meals from different dietary preferences in the same box, without changing your plan.  For example, you can order Vegan one day and Keto the next.  Try Fast and Fit recipes under 750 calories and ready in less than 10 minutes!   Cut down on meal prep with pre-portioned and prepped ingredients, including pre-measured sauces, spices and dressings.  Go to GreenChef.com/nobody60 and use code nobody60 to get 60% off plus free shipping!

While we take a pause to record new content and to spend time with our families over spring break, we wanted to take this opportunity to replay a few episodes that our newer listeners may not have heard and that long-time TIMSL listeners have loved.  We hope you enjoy this fantastic 2-part conversation with Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud, co-authors of parenting books The Self Driven Child and What Do You Say?  Link to Orignal Episode Shownotes

In this podcast episode, Tammy interviews Dr. Wiliam Stixrud about how to create a child who is motivated and not crippled by anxiety (based on his critically aclaimed book "The Self-Driven Child")and how to motivate children & teens without coercion or micromanaging. It is a radical shift for many parents to think of their role as a consultant instead of a manager. As parents, we can only drive our kids so far. At some point, they will have to take the wheel and map out their own path. But there is a lot you can do before then to help them tackle the road ahead with resilience and imagination. Want to learn more from Dr. Stixrud on helping your child or teen manage stress and get motivated? Take Dr.Stixrud's course  based on his best-selling book "The Self-Driven Child." Use code MOTIVATION30  to take 30% OFF at checkout! https://instituteofchildpsychology.com/product/the-self-driven-child-course/ You can also watch this workshop as part of our membership -- podcast listeners can take 40% OFF their annual membership (or $19.99/m). Get your 7-Day Free Trial today!

As a neuropsychologist with over 40 years of practice, Dr. William Stixrud has seen many parenting trends come and go. His best-selling book The The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives with co-author Ned Johnson is on my must-read list for parents. It was a pleasure to speak to one of my all-time favorite scientists, authors and practitioners about motivating our children, screen time, and the root causes of stress. Links from the episode Dr. William Stixrud Website The Self-Driven Child: The Science & Sense of Giving your kids More Control over their Lives Dr. Stixrud's Band: Larry and the Flames Simple Families Episode 302 - Analog Curious: Part I Simple Families Episode 303 - Analog Curious: Part II Sponsors Native – Get 20% off your first order on your favorite deodorant at nativedeo.com/families and use promo code "Families." Indeed – Visit indeed.com/families for an all-inclusive hiring platform. Seed – A different probiotic that works! Try Seed's DS-01TM Daily Synbiotic, learn more at seed.com/simple and use the code SIMPLE to get a 20% discount on your first month.