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Join Dr. Diana Hill on The Wise Effort Show as she interviews Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of 'The Self-Driven Child' and their new book 'The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child.' They discuss foundational strategies for parenting that include establishing a strong connection, acting as a consultant rather than a manager, communicating healthy expectations, teaching an accurate model of reality, motivating children without trying to change them, being a non-anxious presence, and encouraging radical downtime. The episode offers insights, examples, and personal stories, underscoring the importance of balancing support with autonomy to foster responsible, self-driven children.Listen and Learn About:The Self-Driven Child PrinciplesThe Importance of Connection in ParentingDebunking the Myth of a Linear Path to SuccessThe Importance of Psychological RichnessThe Hero's Journey and Personal SetbacksRelated ResourcesGet enhanced show notes for this episodeWant to enhance your movement? Take Diana's audio course, "Level Up Your Movement." It's on pre-sale today for a special subscriber-only discount ($40 off for a limited time) and will be available on March 3, 2025.Get our new book I Know I Should Exercise, But…44 Reasons We Don't Move and How to Get Over Them. I wrote it with Katy Bowman, and it will be available on March 4, 2025.Want to become more psychologically flexible? Take Diana's "Foundations of ACT" course.Diana's EventsReserve your spot in Diana's Costa Rica retreat in 2025!See Diana at an upcoming eventConnecting With DianaSubscribe for free on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Leave a 5-star review on Apple so people like you can find the show.Sign up for the free Wise Effort Newsletter.Become a Wise Effort member to support the show.Follow Diana on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and

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William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-driven Child, share how parents can build connection, support autonomy, set healthy expectations, and create more joy and calm in family life.Full Show NotesAs our children grow into teenagers, parents often find themselves uncertain about how deeply to intervene. We know our kids need our involvement and guidance, but teenagers also crave autonomy and independence. Teens often appear distant and difficult, getting frustrated when we try to help solve their problems, yet feeling hurt when we don't show enough interest. Add stress about school, extracurriculars, and the future into the mix, and family life can quickly spiral into frequent conflict, anxiety, and disconnection.How can we give our teenagers the steady presence they need without micromanaging or inadvertently amplifying their stress? What does being a relaxed, positive, and supportive parent actually look like in daily practice? How can we inspire our teens to be driven, motivated, and self-directed without resorting to threats, bribes, or constant reminders?Today's guests, William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, offer compassionate, practical solutions from their new book, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-driven Child. Bill is a clinical neuropsychologist, and Ned is the founder of Prep Matters. After two bestselling books on parenting and educational motivation, their latest interactive workbook provides powerful exercises and reflective prompts to help parents foster resilience, autonomy, and joy in their families. Together, Bill and Ned show how parents can become calm, confident leaders who empower teens rather than push or control them.Building a Calm and Confident Parental PresenceBill and Ned share why being a calm, non-anxious presence is one of the most powerful ways to support our teens. Rather than reflecting back our children's stress or adding to it with our own worries, they recommend setting the goal of becoming less emotionally reactive. Bill and Ned offer practical strategies, including meditation and cognitive practices, to train ourselves out of fear-based interactions. This calm approach reinforces teens' belief that they can handle life's ups and downs without parents needing to intervene constantly.Healthy Expectations vs. Anxiety-Driven PressureHow high should parents set their expectations? Bill and Ned dive deep into how expectations can provide either healthy motivation or become harmful sources of anxiety. They remind parents that expressing gentle confidence—that our teens are capable if they work at something—is far healthier and more motivating than demanding perfect outcomes. Bill and Ned reveal thoughtful ways to assess and realign your family's expectations around what truly matters to you and your teen.Using Joy and Humor to ConnectIt's easy for family life with teens to center solely around problems to solve—grades, chores, social relationships—leaving everyone exhausted and joyless. In this episode, Ned and Bill emphasize why prioritizing joyful family rituals like Friday movie nights, outings, or humor-filled interactions are so essential. By carving out time simply to enjoy and laugh together, you communicate that your child's presence is valued and loved unconditionally, no matter the stressors you face.Helping Teens Discover Their Own PathMany teens feel overwhelmed by other people's expectations—parents, teachers, coaches—and lose sight of what they truly want or care about. Bill and Ned offer profound insights into how to ask non-threatening, reflective questions about what teens genuinely love and value. Learning to help your teens identify their intrinsic motivators rather than external pressures is vital to building lifelong skills and confidence.In this Episode, we also discussTalking to teens about their core valuesThe surprising importance of "passionate pastimes"Addressing perfectionism and self-criticismStrategies to parent anxiety-prone or avoidant teensIf you're looking for proven approaches to calm anxiety around parenting teens and foster self-driven motivation, you won't want to miss Bill and Ned's tested wisdom. Their thoughtful, compassionate insights help every parent gracefully navigate the teenage years. Listen now, and make sure to subscribe and share!

It was wonderful to have Ned Johnson back on the podcast to talk about his new workbook for parents. This is a companion book to “The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives”. We discuss the importance of having control as a protective factor in preventing youth mental health challenges, especially with anxiety and depression. Here are links to Ned Johnson and William Stixrud's other co-authored books: The Seven Principles for Raising Self-Driven Children – A Workbook The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their LivesWhat Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. You can follow Ned's Fabulous advice on his IG and Tik Tok: @theothernedjohnson And on LinkedIn here.Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode we chat with Sari González and Becka Koritz – co-founders of Radical Learning – about unschooling and alternative models of education. Sari and Becka are mums to neurodivergent unschoolers, youth rights advocates, and agile learning facilitators who challenge conventional education and parenting. Through their business, Radical Learning, and their podcast, Radical Learning Talks, they support parents and educators in unlearning control-based approaches to education and embracing trust, consent, and youth agency - especially when supporting neurodivergent kids. On this episode we cover: How Becka and Sari think about neurodivergence. Becka and Sari’s paths to alternative education. What’s the difference between homeschooling and unschooling? Concepts in unschooling, including de-schooling, consent-based learning, and understanding how power manifests in mainstream ideas of teaching and learning. How can we teach our kids if we aren’t teachers? Navigating our inner ‘Mrs. Trunchbull’ and the internal work of de-schooling. Neurodivergence and learning; honouring our unique talents and skills. Unpacking the concept of ‘resilience’. The Shift Retreat from Radical Learning Sari and Becka are coming to us from Mexico, so listeners may occasionally hear the sounds of nature in the background! Connect with Sari and Becka through their podcast, their website, or their Instagram @radical_learning. Plus, books that Marie recommends in this space: Unschooling To University: Relationships matter most in a world crammed with content by Judy Arnall Homeschool Gone Wild: Inspired Learning Through Living by Karla Marie Williams College Without High School: A Teenager’s Guide by Blake Boles The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Raising Free People: Unschooling as Liberation and Healing Work by Akilah S. Richards Got questions for us?? Come along to our LIVE Q&A event! Held online on 27th June (with replay available to all ticket holders). Grab a ticket here and submit your question! Enjoyed the episode and want to support us further? Join our Patreon community! Patreon subscribers receive ad-free episodes, basic episode transcripts from Season 4 onwards, access to a monthly live zoom hang out, 50% off our episode articles, plus bonus monthly content (depending on subscription tier). Check out our Patreon page to support us, as we aim to make quality mental health care information accessible to everyone: www.patreon.com/ndwomanpod. Want polished copies of our episodes in beautiful and readable pdf article format? Grab them here. Contact us at ndwomanpod@gmail.com, or visit our website: www.ndwomanpod.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's episode, I'm joined by clinical neuropsychologist Dr. William Stixrud, co-author of The Self-Driven Child and the brand new Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child workbook. We talk about how to nurture internal motivation, what it really means to be autonomy-supportive, and how to step back without checking out. We also explore the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, how to support kids with executive function challenges, and why doing less as a parent can sometimes mean giving more.I WROTE MY FIRST BOOK! Order your copy of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans Here: https://bit.ly/3rMLMsLSubscribe to my free newsletter for parenting tips delivered straight to your inbox: draliza.substack.com Follow me on Instagram for more:@raisinggoodhumanspodcast Listen to my last episode with Gretchen HERE.Buy her new book.HERE.Sponsors:Sakara: Head to Sakara.com and check out The Essentials Bundle. And donʼt forget to tell them how you heard about them at checkout (podcast - Raising Good Humans)Great Wolf Lodge: Learn more at GreatWolf.comYNAB: Listeners of Raising Good Humans can claim an exclusive three-month free trial, with no credit card required at www.YNAB.com/humansWayfair: Head over to Wayfair.com and find something that's just your style today.iRestore: Reverse hair loss with @iRestorelaser and get $625 off with the code RGH at https://www.irestorelaser.com/RGH! #irestorepodGabb: For the best deals, sign up to Gabb today–no contract required–at GABB.com/HUMANSPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Trust Your Kids More and Worry About Them Less isn't just advice—it's a revolutionary mindset that could change your parenting forever. In this powerful episode of The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast, host Ginny Yurich sits down with Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud, authors of The Self-Driven Child and The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child, to explore what children really need to thrive in today's high-pressure, performance-driven culture. Drawing from decades of experience in neuropsychology, education, and working with families, Ned and Bill share a deeply hopeful and science-backed message: when kids feel a sense of control over their lives, their mental health flourishes, their motivation ignites, and their joy returns. Together, they unpack the cultural myths that are crushing childhood—like the belief that success hinges on relentless achievement or acceptance to a prestigious college. Instead, they advocate for autonomy, play, radical downtime, and the steady practice of parental trust. With humor, warmth, and actionable insight, this conversation offers an honest look at the fears we carry as parents and how to loosen our grip without letting go. If you've ever wondered how to raise a resilient, happy, and truly self-driven child, this episode will equip you to start today—with confidence. ** Get your copy of The Seven Principles of a Self-Directed child here Learn more about Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm thrilled to welcome back two favorite podcast guests and just all-around wonderful humans, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson. You might know them from their bestselling book The Self-Driven Child, which I often refer to on this show as one of the most important resources in my parenting life. Well, Bill and Ned have a new phenomenal resource that I can't wait to share with you — a workbook based on their beloved book called The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child.  Today's episode features a rich and deep conversation about some of the concepts they support parents in navigating in their new workbook, like why fostering autonomy is key to motivation, emotional well-being, and long-term success, why connection matters more than control, how to support our kids without trying to change them, and ways we can create a home environment that builds confidence and trust. They also share practical strategies for effective communication, including how to guide our kids through challenges without adding pressure or anxiety. As parents, it is scary to let go of control and to trust our kids to navigate their own problems, but as you'll hear in this conversation, this is exactly what they need to be motivated. We know we can't change them, but we can support them in finding the reason to change for themselves.   About William R. Stixrud, Ph.D William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, What Do You Say: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, and The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook. About Ned Johnson Ned Johnson is president and “tutor-geek” of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring and standardized test preparation. A battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and optimizing student performance, Ned has spent roughly 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. Ned is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, NPR, The Guardian, Wall Street Journal, US News, Seventeen, and many others.   Things you'll learn Why empowering children with autonomy fosters their development, motivation, and ability to navigate their own reality Why connection matters more than control, and parents should act as supportive guides rather than enforcers The role of self-reflection, an understanding of different temperaments, and a willingness to listen without pressure in effective parenting (guiding) How to cultivate respectful environments where children feel safe to explore, make decisions, and learn from their experience Why raising self-driven children leads to the best outcomes for their lives as self-determined and self-actualized adults   Resources mentioned The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook by Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson Ned Johnson / Prep Matters What Do You Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Teens Overcome the Pressure and Succeed by Ned Johnson and Emily Warner Eskelsen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered if trusting your teen more could actually make them more responsible? Or do you find yourself constantly worrying and feeling like it's your job to control everything in their life? In this episode of Power Your Parenting – Moms with Teens, host Colleen O'Grady sits down with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, co-authors of The Self-Driven Child and their latest workbook, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child. Together, they explore how fostering a sense of autonomy in teens can actually make them more motivated and resilient. They discuss the critical difference between control and influence, the importance of parents being a non-anxious presence, and how stepping back can help teens step up. Through relatable examples and real-life experiences, they illustrate how letting go of excessive monitoring and trusting teens to navigate their own decisions—while still providing guidance—can lead to stronger relationships and more self-sufficient young adults.  William Stixrud, Ph.D. is a clinical neuropsychologist and a faculty member at Children's National Medical Center and George Washington University Medical School. He lectures and writes widely on the adolescent brain, meditation, and the effects of stress, sleep deprivation, and technology overload on the brain. He is on the board of the David Lynch Foundation.    Ned Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters and the coauthor of Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Teens Overcome the Pressure and Succeed. A sought-after speaker and teen coach for study skills, parent-teen dynamics, and anxiety management, his work has been featured on NPR, NewsHour, U.S. News & World Report, Time, The Washington Post, and The Wall Street Journal.   Here are three key takeaways from this conversation: First, teens need to develop a sense of control over their own lives to build confidence and resilience—over-managing them often backfires. Second, maintaining a calm and supportive presence as a parent is more effective than reacting with anxiety, as emotions are contagious. Lastly, success isn't defined by a perfect academic record or a linear path—giving kids room to make mistakes and learn from them is one of the greatest gifts a parent can provide. This episode will leave you with a fresh perspective on parenting and practical ways to create a more positive, less stressful dynamic with your teen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I talk about parenting scripts which have become a controversial topic and are often at the heart of the backlash against this parenting style. We cover when and how you can use parenting scripts, all the nuances involved in what we say, and how the same words can be used be a peaceful parent or a conventional parent.  We talk about: 1:56 How peaceful parenting is both a science and art 5:00 Why people want scripts 8:00 How the same words can be used for peaceful or conventional parenting 13:00 The importance of being authentic to your own personality when parenting 17:00 Focusing on the intent and context of your words 20:00 When words are not enough Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: What Do You Say? By Ned Johnson and William Stixrud  The Declarative Language Handbook by Linda Murphy   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

Today's conversation feels both important and timely, because they're tackling a challenge so many parents are facing: how to help disengaged teens reconnect with learning. My guests are Jenny Anderson, an award-winning journalist focused on learning and parenting, and Rebecca Winthrop, a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution specializing in education innovation. Together, they've been diving deep into the science of student engagement, and today, they're sharing what they've learned about reigniting curiosity and motivation in kids who have checked out of school and their excellent new book, The Disengaged Teen: Helping Kids Learn Better, Feel Better, and Live Better. In our conversation, Jenny and Rebecca broke down why engagement isn't just about academics—it's an intricate mix of cognitive, emotional, and behavioral factors, often even more complex for neurodivergent children. We discussed the connection between technology and disengagement, why traditional models of education often fail to meet kids where they are, and how parents can foster curiosity by modeling a love of learning. Jenny and Rebecca also walked us through the four modes of learning and offered strategies to help kids switch from resistor, passenger, or achiever mode into explorer mode, which is the mode where kids learn best. One of the most powerful takeaways from this discussion is the reminder that resistance in learning doesn't equal a lack of interest in learning—it's often a signal that the context is not working for the student. Things you'll learn Every child deserves access to quality education, but disengagement, exacerbated by technology, has long been an issue Engagement is a dynamic mix of cognitive, emotional, and behavioral factors, often highlighted by challenges faced by neurodivergent children Parents can bridge the gap between school and real-world relevance by modeling curiosity and fostering the thrill of learning Disengagement today carries higher costs, making it vital to connect learning content to children's interests and help them envision possible future selves Resistance in children can become part of their identity, but with emotional coaching and redirection, their agency can lead to growth Why staying emotionally connected, fostering curiosity, and engaging in meaningful discussions supports both academic and emotional development   Resources mentioned The Disengaged Teen (website) The Disengaged Teen: Helping Kids Learn Better, Feel Better, and Live Better by Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop Jenny Anderson's website Rebecca Winthrop on Brookings Institute website Giving Some Kids Autonomy Has Surprising Results (New York Times article) How to Be Brave (Jenny's Substack) Winthrop's World of Education (Rebecca's LinkedIn newsletter) Jenny on Instagram Rebecca on Instagram Cathy Adams on Navigating the Complexities of Raising Daughters (Tilt Parenting podcast) Restoring Our Girls: How Real Conversations Shape Our Daughters' Lives, Help Them with Teen Challenges, and Remind Them That They Matter by Cathy Adams Lisa Damour The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents by Lisa Damour The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud and Ned Johnson (Tilt Parenting podcast) Daphna Oyserman / Future Possible Selves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our brains hold our relational history—all the joys, all the ruptures, all the repairs. And even in the most difficult childhood or parenting circumstances, the science of relationships and connection can give us hope for whole-brain and whole-life transformation.Therapist, bestselling author, and mom—Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is seeking a connection revolution that brings neurobiology and practical relational wisdom to bear on both how we were parented, how we parent, and how we relate throughout our lifespan.In this conversation with Tina Bryson, we discuss:The science of childhood relational development and growth into strong, adaptive adultsThe brain as our most social organ—capable of holding a lifetime of relational and emotional historyHow to emotionally co-regulate with another person to achieve a calm, peaceful, and vibrant relationshipNeuroplasticity and our ability to change with intention toward our deepest held valuesAnd we explore how the science of connection, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology sheds light on how we were parented, and impacts how we might parent ourselves and how we relate to everyone.Books by Dr. Tina BrysonThe Way of Play (Tina's latest book!)The Whole-Brain ChildNo-Drama DisciplineThe Yes BrainThe Power of Showing UpFollow Tina BrysonTinaBryson.com Instagram X The Center for ConnectionShow NotesDr. Tina Bryson: an expert in neurobiology, parenting, child development, and attachment theory.Highlighting Tina's unique perspective as both a clinician and science-engaged researcher.This conversation focuses on parenting, but it's relevant for everyone—whether you're a leader, mentor, or someone reflecting on your own upbringingThe importance of connection, attunement, and emotional regulation in today's world."I feel so aware that this is not an easy time to be a child or a teenager in the world."Kids today face unique challenges that are very different from previous generations:More stimulation, information, and pressure than ever before.Earlier onset of puberty and adolescence, with young adults taking longer to launch."We often talk about the challenges of youth, which are absolutely real, but we don't want to forget that in many ways, the world is actually safer."Positive shifts in youth well-being: fewer teen pregnancies; safer environments (cars, car seats, public spaces)l greater awareness of mental health, substance use, and emotional well-beingWhat Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, by William Stixrud and Ned JohnsonThe brain is a social organ—we are profoundly shaped by the people around us."A huge contributor to some of the struggles youth are having is because their grownups are not thriving."Interpersonal neurobiology teaches that children's well-being is tied to their caregivers' ability to regulate their own emotions.Takeaway: Parents who are anxious, reactive, or dysregulated create environments where their children struggle to regulate their emotions."The greatest gift we can give each other is a calm presence."“History is not destiny.”Emotional offloading or outsourcingSafe haven or safe harbor: cozy, safe, calm“My mom will never listen.”Understanding teenagers“Please don't chase your child and force connection.”Non-eye contact feels less intrusive and they'll open up moreUnderstanding Attachment & The Four S's: Safe, Seen, Soothed, SecureSecure attachment is a key predictor of well-being in children and adults.Attachment is built through repeated experiences of the Four S's:Safe: "Do I feel physically and emotionally secure with this person?"Seen: "Does this person understand and acknowledge my emotions and experiences?"Soothed: "When I'm in distress, does this person help me feel better?"Secure: "Do I trust that this person will be there for me consistently?"Set an intention: "When my child walks through the door, I want them to feel at rest, safe, and accepted."Practical Parenting Tip: If your child pushes you away, don't force connection. Instead, say: "I can see you need some space right now. I'm here whenever you're ready to talk."Managing Teen Independence: When teens ask for space, don't take it personally. Instead, try: "I'm here if you want to talk later.""Would you be open to a short walk or helping me in the kitchen?"The basics of attachment theory: John Bowlby and Mary AinsworthMama BearsNot just brain, but whole nervous systemSecure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World, by Sue Marriot and Ann Kelley"Without awareness, we don't have choice."—Dan SiegelHistory is not destiny. We can rewire our brains and create new, healthier patterns in relationships.The availability of your presence creates a secure environmentRegulation & Emotional ResilienceDefinition of Regulation: The ability to monitor and modify emotional states rather than reacting impulsively.It's NOT about being emotionless—it's about responding intentionally”When we mess up, the research shows that as long as we make the repair, the rupture itself was actually beneficial.”Tina Bryson's Fragility Formula: Adversity minus support or plus too much support = fragility. Adversity plus the right amount of support = resilience.Real-Life Example: The Yahtzee IncidentTina shares a personal story of losing her temper while playing Yahtzee with her kids.She repaired the rupture by apologizing, taking responsibility, and asking for a do-over.Pink Flags vs. Red FlagsPink Flags: Subtle signs that you're getting dysregulated (irritability, sarcasm, tension)Red Flags: Full-blown loss of control (yelling, throwing things, shutting down)The Three R's of Parenting: Regulation, Responding, RepairingThe Window of ToleranceGentle Parenting vs  Responsive, Respectful, Regulated, Intentional parentingRegulation: Managing your emotions firstResponding: Engaging with your child in a safe, attuned wayRepairing: Acknowledging when you mess up and making amendsReduce pressure—kids should not feel they must "perform" to be loved.The Power of Breathwork: The Physiological SighQuick, evidence-based technique to reduce stress and reset the nervous system.Take a double inhale through the nose, followed by a longer exhale."It's the quickest thing we know to calm the nervous system."Non-eye-contact conversations (e.g., driving in the car) help teens feel less pressured.The science of thriving vs. surviving: "Survive and thrive are not separate categories. What we do in survival moments can lead to thriving."The River of Well-Being: A Person is Like a Boat on a RiverThe FACES Model for Well-Being (essentially a definition of thriving)Flexible: Open to change and new ideasAdaptive: Able to adjust based on new circumstancesCoherent: Emotional and cognitive stabilityEnergized: Engaged and present in lifeStable: Grounded and consistentFamily Dinner Time: Keeping it light, being more presentPractical Exercise to Regulate Emotions: The Deep Physiological SighTurn down the reactivity of your nervous system“The key is: Make your exhale longer than your inhale.”“At his worst is when he needs you the most.”Pre-frontal cortex development: Not mature until late-20s.“The prefrontal cortex is changeable throughout the lifespan.”The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child, Dan Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonThe YES Brain Approach: Four pillars that cultivate resilience in children BRIE (like the cheese)Balance (emotional regulation)Resilience (bouncing back from challenges)Insight (self-awareness and growth mindset)Empathy (understanding others' experiences)"Thriving isn't about avoiding hardships—it's about learning how to navigate them."Recognize your influence: "Your child's nervous system mirrors yours. Take care of yourself first."Discipline and moralityHarsh, punitive discipline doesn't change behavior or develop a moral compass. It teaches them to hide the behavior.Healthy Guilt vs Toxic Shame“The way we don't get kicked out of our group is our conscience.”Guilt “is one of your superpowers.”“No one can lose each other's love.”Give yourself permission to wait and not respond in the moment.“My number one job is to keep you safe.”No lecturing. “What do you think I would say here?” “What's your plan to keep yourself safe?”Tina Bryson on Faith and SpiritualityHealthy spirituality leads to feeling safe, seen, soothed, and secure.The power of narrative and journaling: Making sense of our lives and integrating our brains*Parenting from the Inside Out,* Dan Siegel and Mary Hartzell*The Power of Showing Up,* Dan Siegel and Tina BrysonPractical Exercise: Acknowledging, Noticing, and Accepting“Negative emotions does not mean something's wrong.”“Emotions are important information, but they don't make the final decision.”Are your emotions making the decision?Curiosity in order to bring softness and nurture.Practice daily regulation: Set a personal cue (e.g., getting in the car) to check in with your emotions.Embrace repair: "Making mistakes in parenting is inevitable—what matters is how you repair them."Parenting is about progress, not perfection. "Every small shift you make has a ripple effect on your child's well-being."Pam King's Key TakeawaysWe're inherently wired for connection, and our brains store all of our relational history.Rupture is inevitable, but our capacity for repair can strengthen our bonds with each other when we make the effort to reconnect.Thriving involves and integrates all our most intense emotions. We get closer to thriving when we can learn to regulate and integrate our inner emotional experience.Attuning and paying attention to our nervous system is a core emotional and relational skill—and goes a long way in healthy, intimate relationships.We were all children once. We were all parented, for better or for worse. Learning to integrate every aspect of our relational history can keep us on the path to thriving.About Tina BrysonDr. Tina Bryson is an expert in applying interpersonal neurobiology and neuropsychology to maybe the most central part of human life: our closest, most intimate relationships. A bestselling co-author (with Dan Siegal) of THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD and NO-DRAMA DISCIPLINE, she has written several other books on parenting and the brain. Her latest book on the science of play came out in January 2025.Tina is a psychotherapist and the Founder and Executive Director of The Center for Connection. She speaks and advocates widely, has appeared across media outlets like TIME Magazine, “Good Morning America,” Huffington Post,Redbook, The New York Times, and The Wall Street Journal.Her doctoral research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology. But Tina emphasizes that before she's a parenting educator, or a researcher, she's a mom.Tina is an absolutely brilliant and motivating and encouraging communicator, breaking down the science of connection in a way that's clear, realistic, humorous, and immediately helpful.For more resources from Tina, including her books, and science-packed relationship tips, visit https://www.thecenterforconnection.org/ and tinabryson.com. About the Thrive CenterLearn more at thethrivecenter.org.Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenterFollow us on X @thrivecenterFollow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter About Dr. Pam KingDr. Pam King is Executive Director the Thrive Center and is Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. Follow her @drpamking. About With & ForHost: Pam KingSenior Director and Producer: Jill WestbrookOperations Manager: Lauren KimSocial Media Graphic Designer: Wren JuergensenConsulting Producer: Evan RosaSpecial thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and the Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy.

Hi #AmWriters, Jess here. I've been wanting to do an episode on workbooks forever - on any form of companion text that pairs with nonfiction books, really. How do you propose them, write them, format them? You know me, I like the granular details. Fortunately, Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud are publishing The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child in March, and Ned was willing to come on the podcast and teach me all about the nuts and bolts of putting a workbook out into the world. This episode truly flattened my learning curve, and I hope it does the same for you. People and things we talked about in this episode:William StixrudKatie Hurley and A Year of Positive Thinking for TeensTina Payne Bryson, The Whole-Brain Child and Bottom Line for BabyStrengthsFinder2.0TriMetrixMoo.comCan you make custom post-it notes? Yes, yes you can. The Disengaged Teen by Rebecca Winthrop and Jenny AndersonLAST Last Call: Join the Winter 2025 Blueprint ChallengeIf you have big goals for 2025 that include writing, finishing or revising a book, you'll want to join us for the Winter 2025 Blueprint Challenge.We started January 5, but it's JUST not too late to jump in. We'll be walking Blueprinters through the 14 steps of the Blueprint over 10 weeks. Some of the steps are very short and we combined them into one episode—and the first step is indeed on the shorter side, so you still have time to catch up if you subscribe now.Every episode speaks to fiction writers, memoir writers, and nonfiction writers. There are workbooks, and you will get a link to the digital download of the Blueprint book of your choice.We'll also be hosting weekly AMAs (ask me anything), write-alongs, and Zoom meet-ups with coaches—and KJ will be writing her own Blueprint, and Jennie will be coaching her through it in weekly episodes. For more about the challenge, check out these past posts:* What the Blueprint is and why Jennie made it* Introducing the winter book coach hosts* Overcoming Pantsing Pitfalls: How the Blueprint Method Can Save Your Story* The Blueprint is the Solution for Time-Strapped Writers* How to Use a Blueprint for Revision* Befriending the BlueprintIf you finish your Blueprint during the Challenge, you will be eligible to win a review from either Jennie or KJ. (If you missed the #AmWriting Success Story about the writer who won the Blueprint Sprint grand prize in 2022, give it a listen. It's very inspiring! It's right HERE.)It's going to be such a good time and we'd love to have you join us!The Blueprint Challenge is for Supporters only—10 weeks to plan the book you want to write instead of 90K words figuring it out. You in? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amwriting.substack.com/subscribe

The new year has begun. 2024 is over and whatever happened in 2024 DOES matter. However, you can create a fresh template for the new year, especially regarding your parenting. Take a listen as Dijon discusses three essential ways to help create a vibrant parenting atmosphere for you and your children. Also, engage with the poll question as well. And as always, Listen. Enjoy. Share. Fund. Repeat. Resources Bringing Up Boys: Practical advice and encouragement for those shaping the next generation of men by Dr. James Dobson The Wonder of Boys: What parents, mentors and educators can do to shape boys into exceptional men by Michael Gurian, PhD What Do You Say?: How to talk with kids to build motivation, stress tolerance, and a happy home by William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson

If you are a regular listener to The Peaceful Parenting Podcast you know that at the end of every Guest Expert interview, I ask them if they could go back in time and give advice to their younger parent self, what advice would they give themselves? There are so many gems of wisdom that come from that question that I thought it would be fun to end 2024 with a mashup of all of the advice from our guests of 2024. We talk about: 3:00 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) with Casey Ehrlich 4:13 Understanding and Loving Spicy Kids with Mary Van Geffen 5:23 Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 5:54 From Strict Disciplinarian to Peaceful Parenting Dad and Coach with Kyle Wester 8:32 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids with Stephanie Pinto 13:17 When Your Child is Different with Sonali Vongchusiri 15:21 Neurodivergent Insights with Dr. Megan Anna Neff 17:31 Parenting Middle Schoolers with Phyllis Fagell 21:00 Conscious Parenting with Destini Davis 22:01 Ruth Whippman Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys- BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood 24:05 ADHD and Feeding/Eating Challenges with Dr. Roberto Olivardia 24:42 How to Help Kids Manage Stress and Difficulty with Ned Johnson 30:08 Greg Santucci on Sensory Processing 33:10 Kristen Day Play Based Learning: Or Why You Don't Need to Get Your Child Ready For Kindergarten 36:33 Why Is Parenting So Hard with Yolanda Williams 38:28 Sexism and Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World with Jo Ann Finkelstein 40:19 School Avoidance and Anxiety with Lynn Lyons 44:32 Strong-Willed Kids with Vivek Patel 46:32 Disordered Eating and Body Image Issues with Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos 48:51 How to Help Our Little Ones Sleep with Kim Hawley 52:49 When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic with Jennifer Wallace   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Casey Ehrlich https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode139/  Mary Van Geffen https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode138/  Eve Rodsky https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode30/ and Eve's book Find Your Unicorn Space Kyle Wester https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode141/  Stephanie Pinto https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-144-raising-emotionally-intelligent-kids/ and Stephanie's Book- From Chaos to Connection  Sonali Vongchusiri https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-146-when-your-child-is-different-with-sonali-vongchusiri/  Dr. Megan Anna Neff https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/neurodivergent-insights-with-dr-megan-anna-neff-episode-147/ and Dr. Neff's book Dr. Megan Anna Neff's book Self-Care for Autistic People: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask!  Phyllis Fagell https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/parenting-middle-schoolers-with-phyllis-fagell-episode-151/ and Phyllis' books Middle School Matters and Middle School Superpowers Destini Davis https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/conscious-parenting-with-destini-ann-episode-153/ and Destini's book Very Intentional Parenting: Awakening the Empowered Parent Within   Ruth Whippman https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/raising-emotionally-healthy-boys-boymom-reimagining-boyhood-episode-155/ and Ruth's book BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity Ned Johnson https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/how-to-help-kids-manage-stress-and-difficulty-with-ned-johnson-episode-156/ and Ned's books What Do You Say with Ned Johnson and William Stixrud  and Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud (PhD) and Ned Johnson  Dr. Roberto Olivardia https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/adhd-and-feeding-eating-challenges-with-dr-roberto-olivardia-episode-149/  and Dr. Olivardia's book The Adonis Complex: How to Identify, Treat and Prevent Body Obsession in Men and Boys by Dr. Roberto Olivardia Greg Santucci https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/greg-santucci-on-sensory-processing-and-live-qa-with-my-membership-community-episode-157/  Kristen Day https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/play-based-learning-or-why-you-dont-need-to-get-your-child-ready-for-kindergarten-episode-159/  Yoland Williams https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/why-is-parenting-so-hard-with-yolanda-williams-episode-160/  Jo Ann Finkelstein https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/sexism-and-sensibility-raising-empowered-resilient-girls-in-the-modern-world-with-jo-ann-finkelstein-episode-164/  and Jo Ann's book Sexism & Sensibility Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls In The Modern World Lynn Lyons https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/school-avoidance-and-anxiety-with-lynn-lyons-episode-166/ and Lynn's book Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons Vivek Patel https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/strong-willed-kids-with-vivek-patel-and-qa-with-membership-episode-168/  Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/disordered-eating-and-body-image-issues-with-luciana-rosu-sieza-and-alexis-sauls-ramos-episode-170/  Kim Hawley https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/how-to-help-our-little-ones-sleep-with-kim-hawley-episode-172/  Jennifer Wallace https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/when-achievement-culture-becomes-toxic-with-jennifer-wallace-episode-173/ and Jennifer's book Never Enough: 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We've touched on the theory of self-determination on the show before, but today, I'm thrilled to dedicate an entire episode to this important topic. Joining me for this deeper dive is Dr. Gina Riley, an expert in self-determination theory and motivation. This conversation will resonate with so many of you because it beautifully ties into themes we often explore here, like low-demand parenting and fostering our kids' natural passions and strengths. In this episode, Gina explains the theory of self-determination and dives into the science behind why it's so impactful, particularly for neurodivergent kids. We explore how it connects with autonomy-supportive parenting and discuss the three tenets of cognitive evaluation theory, which examines what fosters intrinsic motivation. We also tackle the hot topic of whether extrinsic motivators like stickers and rewards have a place and how to genuinely connect with our kids' interests—even when they differ from our own.   About Dr. Gina Riley Gina Riley, Ph.D., is an educational psychologist, Program Director, and Clinical Professor of Adolescent Special Education at CUNY – Hunter College. She has conducted significant research on homeschooling and unschooling, an educational method and philosophy that advocates student intrinsic motivation as a primary means for learning. In addition to her research on self-directed learning environments, Dr. Riley has expertise in Supported Decision Making, an alternative to guardianship for students with disabilities. She is a faculty advisor for Supported Decision Making New York, promoting autonomy and self-determination for individuals with disabilities.  Dr.Riley also has extensive experience in online, hybrid, and HyFlex education, having been actively involved in the field since 1998. Her contributions to educational psychology and alternative education models have been influential in shaping contemporary discussions on personalized and flexible learning approaches. Dr. Riley is the author of numerous academic articles and three books, including Unschooling:Exploring Learning Beyond the Classroom (Palgrave, 2020), The Homeschooling Starter Guide (Simon & Schuster, 2021), and The Joys of Self Determined Learning: A Collection of Essays (Ricci Publishing, 2022). She is the current President-Elect of the New York State Association of Teacher Educators.   Things you'll learn from this episode What self-determination theory is, and how it's connected to intrinsic motivation Why a sense of competence, autonomy, and relatedness, as outlined in the cognitive evaluation theory, are crucial for motivation Why it matters that parents focus on facilitating autonomy and decision-making in their children What the science says about how and why intrinsic motivation leads to better academic and social outcomes in adulthood How intrinsic and extrinsic motivations can coexist and why it's important that they're balanced   Resources mentioned Dr. Gina Riley's website Gina on Instagram Gina on Twitter Unschooling: Exploring Learning Beyond the Classroom by Dr. Gina Riley The Homeschooling Starter Guide: How to Create and Adapt the Best Education Action Plan for Your Needs by Dr. Gina Riley NYS Decision Making Curriculum (free decision making curriculum for schools and homeschools I Will Die on This Hill: Autistic Adults, Autism Parents, and the Children Who Deserve a Better World by Meghan Ashburn and Jules Edwards Meghan Ashburn and Jules Edwards on Autistic Adults, Autism Parents, and the Children Who Deserve a Better World (Tilt Parenting podcast) Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Dan Pink The intrinsic motivation of Richard Ryan and Edward Deci The Self-Driven Child, with William Stixrud and Ned Johnson (Tilt Parenting podcast) The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to The Self-Driven Child podcast! In this episode, I chat with Dr. William Stixrud, co-author of The Self-Driven Child, to explore the concept of “brainless education” and why the way we approach learning in schools often overlooks the very organ meant to do the learning: the brain. We explore how prioritizing stress reduction, sleep, and autonomy for students can revolutionize not just their academic success, but also their mental health and intrinsic motivation.Together, we discuss how giving kids more control over their learning and personal lives can foster better stress tolerance and deeper engagement with education. Dr. Stixrud shares research-based insights, and we provide actionable ideas on how educators, parents, and students themselves can shift toward a brain-friendly approach.  Episode Highlights:[01:58] - Dr. William Stixrud explains the low levels of student motivation and mental health issues[04:30] - How schools often act as a major source of stress and anxiety for students[06:12] - The success of Transcendental Meditation for medical students and its positive effects on learning[08:48] - The three pillars of healthy brain function: learning, mental health, and motivation[09:24] - How stress impacts the prefrontal cortex and executive function[12:27] - The importance of the hippocampus and the damaging effects of stress on memory[18:56] - The critical role of sleep in memory retention and emotional regulation[20:45] - How sleep deprivation increases stress and worsens anxiety[25:41] - Developing a sense of control and its importance in mental health[31:59] - Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation: how autonomy enhances learning[37:16] - Supporting autonomy in schools and how it improves student outcomes[42:19] - The argument for making homework optional and ungraded to reduce stress[44:01] - Final thoughts: fostering a brain-friendly environment for students Links & Resources:If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference.If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Part 2 with Dr Ned Johnson where we discuss strategies for motivating children to do chores and homework, such as involving them in decision-making and offering support rather than control. We also talk about the big picture---where we hope to form strong relationships with our children, and also have children who grow into independent, self-reliant adults.  The conversation concludes with the reminder that the time spent with children during their upbringing is crucial and should be focused on building trust, support, and independence. Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation.   Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety, and find the motivation to reach their full potential.  In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and “What Do You Say?: How to Talk With Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home”.   Aa sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Dr Jessica Hochman is a board certified pediatrician, mom to three children, and she is very passionate about the health and well being of children. Most of her educational videos are targeted towards general pediatric topics and presented in an easy to understand manner. Do you have a future topic you'd like Dr Jessica Hochman to discuss? Email Dr Jessica Hochman askdrjessicamd@gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram: @AskDrJessicaSubscribe to her YouTube channel! Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to this podcast: Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to her mailing list: www.askdrjessicamd.comThe information presented in Ask Dr Jessica is for general educational purposes only. She does not diagnose medical conditions or formulate treatment plans for specific individuals. If you have a concern about your child's health, be sure to call your child's health care provider.

Episode 153 with Ned Johnson, co-author of 'The Self-Driven Child'  discusses the importance of giving children autonomy and control over their own decisions. He explains that a low sense of control is the most stressful thing a person can experience and can lead to anxiety and other negative outcomes. Johnson emphasizes the need for parents to shift from protecting their children to helping them protect themselves, allowing them to develop problem-solving skills and resilience. He also highlights the importance of being a "non-anxious presence" in our children's lives.  To help them, consider playing the role of a "consultant" and validating children's feelings, rather than immediately jumping in to solve their problems.  Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation.   Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety, and find the motivation to reach their full potential.  In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and “What Do You Say?: How to Talk With Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home”.  Aa sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Dr Jessica Hochman is a board certified pediatrician, mom to three children, and she is very passionate about the health and well being of children. Most of her educational videos are targeted towards general pediatric topics and presented in an easy to understand manner. Do you have a future topic you'd like Dr Jessica Hochman to discuss? Email Dr Jessica Hochman askdrjessicamd@gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram: @AskDrJessicaSubscribe to her YouTube channel! Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to this podcast: Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to her mailing list: www.askdrjessicamd.comThe information presented in Ask Dr Jessica is for general educational purposes only. She does not diagnose medical conditions or formulate treatment plans for specific individuals. If you have a concern about your child's health, be sure to call your child's health care provider.

Neuropsychologist William Stixrud PhD and Ned Johnson talk about their gamechanging book "The Self-Driven Child" and explain the importance of supporting our child's sense of control and autonomy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we are talking about the roots of "The Self Driven Child" with my co-author, Dr. William R. Stixrud. Discover how our understanding of autonomy and control transformed our approach to parenting and education. We explore the neuroscience behind stress and motivation, sharing our journey from initial insights to the profound impact our work has had globally. Join us as we recount our Marvel origin story and reveal the science and anecdotes that shaped our bestselling books.Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist, joins me, Ned Johnson, as we discuss the key principles of our collaboration. From handling stress to fostering intrinsic motivation, this episode covers it all. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to our podcast, this episode offers valuable insights into creating a supportive environment for children and young adults. Episode Highlights:[0:34] - Welcoming Dr. William Stixrud and introducing the topic of autonomy and control.[1:34] - The global impact of "The Self Driven Child" and the importance of a sense of control.[2:12] - Discussing stress and its effects on the brain from Dr. Stixrud's early research.[5:39] - How stress and control relate to motivation and mental health.[6:28] - Personal anecdotes and professional experiences on stress and motivation.[8:45] - The concept of autonomy in parenting and education.[13:17] - The bi-directional relationship between stress and brain function.[17:07] - Practical advice on supporting autonomy in children.[20:24] - The impact of test preparation on stress and performance.[25:38] - Addressing the physiological aspects of stress and anxiety.[30:02] - Reflections on the journey of writing "The Self Driven Child".[31:03] - Concluding thoughts and a sneak peek into the next episode.  If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I interview one of my favourite people and author of two parenting books, Ned Johnson. We discuss how to talk to kids to build stress tolerance, manage anxiety, build intrinsic motivation, and self regulate screen time. Ned has been on the podcast twice before- be sure to check out the other two episodes linked below once you're done listening to this one. We talk about: 2:17 How you can get access to a live Q&A with Ned 6:35 Increasing stress tolerance in kids 9:30 The difference between resilience and stress tolerance 11:00 How to help kids with their anxiety 21:48 How to help kids stuck in a loop of negative thinking 37:00 How to help kids with intrinsic motivation 48:00 How to help kids with balanced screen use Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: www.reimaginepeacefulparenting/membership to join a live Q&A with Ned Johnson, my workshop on healthy self-esteem, and access to our weekly Office Hours What Do you Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home By Ned Johnson and William Stixrud https://amzn.to/3HwZuDT  Raising A Self-Driven Child with Ned Johnson https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode8/ Bonus Q&A: What Do You Say? How to Talk to Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home with Ned Johnson https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/bonusnedjohnson/  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In today's episode, we explore the complexities of an issue that's close to the hearts of parents, teachers, and students alike—college readiness. Alongside my friend and co-author Bill Stixrud, we discuss the crucial aspects that determine whether a high-school student is truly ready to take on the challenges of college life. We start by questioning the common rush towards college right after high school, bringing to light the concerning rates of dropout and burnout among college freshmen. Our conversation covers effective strategies for assessing and enhancing readiness, emphasizing the importance of emotional resilience and maturity over mere academic preparation. Listen in to gain insights into making the transition to college successful and sustainable.Episode Highlights:[2:26] College readiness and mental health challenges among students.[7:05] College readiness, stress tolerance, and emotional resilience.[12:21] Prioritizing life skills over academic achievement.[14:40] College readiness and the importance of self-care for students.[19:53] Importance of sleep for adolescent brain development and academic success.[24:29] Executive functions, self-evaluation, and stress management in adolescents.[30:10] Stress management and self-care for high-achieving students.[35:08] College preparation and stress management for high school students. Links & Resources:Visit SelfDrivenChild.com for more resources on developing autonomy and resilience in children.For further insights into college readiness and effective stress management strategies, check out the books “The Self-Driven Child” and “What Do You Say?” by Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud.If today's discussion resonated with you, consider exploring our books and resources to better prepare for the college journey ahead. Remember to rate, follow, share, and review our podcast if you find our content valuable. Here's to nurturing a self-driven and resilient next generation!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

This week, Kaity and Adriane chatted with Ned Johnson, co-author of "The Self-Driven Child" and "What Do You Say?" about healthy brain development. Episode 42  explores:

If I could show you how to:* Help your children think and act independently* Build better resilience in them, and* Improve your relationship with them.How much would that be worth to you?Well, I might not be able to do the above, but this week's podcast guest can.Ned Johnson (who co-authored the fantastic book, The Self-Driven Child, with William Stixrud) and I discuss what we as parents can do to achieve all of the above list. It's a fun conversation and has given me a new lens to view parenting through as well as some really actionable approaches.“I love you too much to fight with you about your homework but is there a way I can help”If you'd like to find out more about Ned and read his books visit his website here.You can also find Ned on Instagram here and here is a link to the viral TikTok post that he mentioned.On his website, Ned has listed out insights from the Self-Driven Child. Here are just a few:* Say “It's your call' whenever you can* Foster a sense of control in your child* Be a non-anxious presence in your family* Be a consultant* Encourage flow* Take the long viewI believe, and hope, this episode will really help your family build motivation, stress tolerance, and above all, a happy home.Big hugRich Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe

  Parents want to keep their kids safe, healthy, happy and motivated but sometimes it's hard to know what to say to achieve those goals. Conversation between parents and kids can be difficult at times, if not impossible. That's why we're excited to welcome neuropsychologist William Stixrud and test prep expert Ned Johnson to the show. They are the authors of the bestselling book, "The Self-Driven Child".   Their latest book is called, "What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home". Their website is prepmatters.com.   Shopify is the all-in-one commerce platform that makes it simple for anyone to start, run and grow your own successful business. With Shopify, you'll create an online store, discover new customers, and grow the following that keeps them coming back. Shopify makes getting paid simple, by instantly accepting every type of payment. With Shopify's single dashboard, you can manage orders, shipping and payments from anywhere. Shopify's award-winning help is there to support your success every step of the way. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at Shopify.com/nobody.

In today's episode, join me in a thought-provoking conversation with Ned Johnson, author of several books and founder of PrepMatters. We delve into crucial parenting topics, sharing insights from his book, "The Self-Driven Child." Your journey to understanding and empowering your child begins here, tune in!BioNed Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, an educational company that helps students find success in high school and get into and through college. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent more than 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed.    With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. He is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast and his work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Follow Ned on LinkedIn, visit The Self-Driven Child Website, and click to listen to The Self-Driven Child Podcast.Become part of Signet's Parent Support Community here!Access free resources and learn more about Sheila and her team at Signet Education at signeteducation.com or on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheilaakbar/.

On episode 206 we talk about autonomy and motivation. In a world where autonomy is key to motivation and engagement, how do we navigate this with our children, especially those who are neurodivergent? Today, we're exploring the vital role of independence and control in fostering engagement and motivation, not just in kids, but in all of us. Joining us is Ned Johnson, founder of PrepMatters and co-author of The Self-Driven Child, and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. If you're a teacher and not yet a member of the Neurodiversity University Educator Hub, we'll be opening up registration in January. It will only be open for a limited time, so make sure you're notified when it happens. Sign up here. Ned Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, an educational company that helps students find success in high school and in getting into college. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent more than 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. He co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud. Ned is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast and his work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. BACKGROUND READING The Self-Driven Child website TikTok Instagram X, formerly Twitter

Middle school can be such a stressful experience for kids, their parents, and educators alike. It's a time of change, pressure, and uncharted territory that can be extremely overwhelming. In this conversation, Emily Edlynn speaks with the author of Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times, Phyllis Fagell, who has crafted a science-backed and compassionate resource for parents and educators to support middle schoolers through the most challenging situations. You will learn why this particular age group has the capacity for remarkable growth and resilience and why adults should not be afraid of this stage of life—instead, concentrate on the strengths and skills that can be cultivated during it. We invite you to listen to this episode for actionable strategies and skills to help your tweens thrive and become more resilient in a world that can be chaotic and anxiety-inducing. From managing rejection, friendships, and self-regulating emotions to academic performance and recovering from setbacks, Phyllis' advice is invaluable.  Listen and Learn:  What Phyllis enjoys most about working with and writing about the middle-school age group Why Phyllis wrote a book to help parents better understand and support middle schoolers Tips to help provide a foundation of security for kids in these chaotic and scary times Common parenting concerns during middle school and how using different superpowers can help with such challenges  How being a middle school counselor, writing about middle school, and being a parent at the same time has been a gift and a liability for Phyllis Resources: Phyllis Fagell's website Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times About Phyllis Fagell  Phyllis Fagell is a practicing school counselor, a psychotherapist who works with children and teens in private practice, and an author and journalist. She is the author of "MIDDLE SCHOOL MATTERS, The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond – and How Parents Can Help," and her most recent book that we're discussing today: "MIDDLE SCHOOL SUPERPOWERS, Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times." Phyllis is a frequent contributor to publications such as The Washington Post and CNN, and her ideas have been shared in outlets including The New York Times, NPR, The Chicago Tribune, and The Atlantic. Phyllis has three children and lives in Bethesda, MD. Related Episodes: 272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 213. Back To School! How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and A Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson 293. Quit with Annie Duke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by my co-host and co-author of The Self-Driven Child Dr. William Stixrud to discuss how to be a non-anxious presence for your kids when things feel stressful and scary in the world. As parents and educators, modeling calmness and confidence helps children feel braver.Dr. Bill Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist and co-author of the bestselling books The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say? His work focuses on supporting kids to build resilience, motivation, and handle anxiety. Timeline Summary:[00:39] - Introducing the idea of a "non-anxious presence" and why it's so valuable for kids.[02:43] - Where Dr. Stixrud first came across this concept and what it means.[04:37] - Children look to parents' reactions in stressful situations. Staying calm helps kids feel confident.[06:16] - Accepting worst-case scenarios while remaining motivated to support your child.[09:23] - Taking care of yourself models self-care and brings equilibrium.[11:06] - The benefits of scheduling prescribed worry time.[12:40] - Dr. Stixrud's 50-year meditation practice for managing stress.[15:43] - Rats turning a wheel to activate the prefrontal cortex and reduce stress.[18:31] - Validating children's difficult feelings while emphasizing their competence.[21:02] - Making home a safe haven and modeling handling hard emotions.[22:35] - The recipe for developing resilience: stress plus rest and recovery.[24:09] - Being calm helps other people manage crises better.[25:50] - Good sleep gives perspective on challenges.[27:27] - Wishing for peace in the Middle East. Moving towards non-anxious presence. Links & Resources:·         The Self-Driven Child by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson·         What Do You Say? by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson If you found this episode helpful, please rate, follow, share, and review the Self Driven Podcast. Being a non-anxious presence helps kids handle hard things. Look for opportunities to model calmness, confidence, and coping. Wishing you peace in unsettled times.If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

I'm going to confess something with you right here and now. When it comes to having important conversations with my kid, about tricky topics, big issues…things where the stakes feel very high, I often feel like I blow it. I get really anxious, if the subject comes up without any advance warning I fumble over my words, I very often say the exact wrong thing and then feel stressed about what I wish I'd said and then I often awkwardly force a do-over. You get the point. Am I the only one? Okay, so if you are like me and you struggle with knowing what to say anything that feels big and important and potentially tricky, you are going to love this episode. Because today I'm sharing a conversation with Dr. Robyn Silverman about her new book How to Talk to Kids About Anything: Tips, Scripts, Stories, and Steps to Make Even the Toughest Conversations Easier. And when Robyn says anything, she means anything. Today we are talking about how to have conversations with our kids, no matter their age, about things like death, sex, diversity, depression, suicide, big feelings, and more, and even more, why it matters so much that we are safe, informed adults to talk about these issues with our kids, and how a little preparation goes a long way in terms of helping us feel regulated and calm. We want our kids to know that we're always there to talk with them about anything and that we are their top trusted and safe source of information, no matter the topic. About my guest Known as the “Conversation Doc,” Dr.Robyn Silverman is a child and teen development specialist and host of the popular podcast, How to Talk to Kids About Anything, as well as the book of the same name. She is a cofounder of the Powerful Words Character System, which gives educators the talking points they need to help children become kind, responsible citizens of the world. Dr. Robyn has appeared on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS Early Show and Nightline and has been quoted on CNN and in the New York Times, Washington Post, and many other publications. You'll learn: The impetus behind Robyn's new book How to Talk to Kids About Anything and why she decided to include so many expert voices in it The biggest roadblocks that get in the way of parents talking about difficult or uncomfortable subjects with their kids How to customize “scripts” for your individual family's needs Common mistakes parents make when broaching tricky topics Advice for parenting kids who are struggling with emotional and mental health challenges An example of how a conversation about a difficult topic might change over time and why it's important that it is a continuous conversation  Resources mentioned: Dr. Robyn Silverman's website How to Talk to Kids about Anything: Tips, Scripts, Stories, and Steps to Make Even the Toughest Conversations Easier by Dr. Robyn Silverman How to Talk to Kids About Anything (Dr. Robyn's podcast) Dr. Robyn Silverman on Nurturing Our Kids' Character and Character Strengths (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Dr. Robyn on Facebook Dr. Robyn in Instagram Dr. Robyn on X The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Kids Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Julie Lythcott-Haims Jessica Lahey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode of How to Talk to Kids about Anything focuses on effective communication tools that parents can use to best reach their children as they enter middle school and the teen years. How do we engage in respectful and effective dialogue, give constructive feedback, problem-solve and provide boundaries and still navigate the complex terrain of teenhood? Dr. Robyn Silverman interviews William Stixrud and Ned Johnson in this lively and fascinating exchange. The post How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance & a Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson – ReRelease appeared first on Dr Drobyn Silverman.

In this insightful interview, I am joined by my friend and co-author Dr. William Stixrud to speak with child development specialist Dr. Robyn Silverman. We discuss her new book, How to Talk with Kids About Anything. We dive into tough but critical conversations like handling big emotions, building self-esteem, making mistakes, and forming friendships. Dr. Silverman shares valuable advice and scripts for connecting with kids through their triumphs and tribulations. Her vast experience and research is distilled into an accessible guide for parents and caregivers. Don't miss her incredible insights on empowering kids to handle life's ups and downs. This conversation overflows with compassion and tools to foster healthy communication.Dr. Robyn Silverman is a renowned child and teen development specialist seen frequently on national television programs. Her podcast “How to Talk with Kids About Anything” offers incredible wisdom from leading experts. Dr. William Stixrud and I have been guests sharing approaches from The Self-Driven Child. Now we have the tables turned and get to ask Dr. Silverman about her must-read new book. Timeline Summary:[02:26] – Starting the podcast after being bullied as a child when adults didn't know what to say.[05:00] – The importance of giving kids words and understanding to handle life's challenges.[06:28] – Emotional inhibition and invalidation lead kids to become more dysregulated over time.[08:33] – Discussing the benefits and catharsis of expressing sadness.[09:47] – Anger often masks hurt; getting underneath to find the real issue.[12:36] – Assuring kids of unconditional love, regardless of mistakes.[17:11] – Identifying when sadness becomes persistent depression.[19:39] – Allowing kids to go through the “tunnel” of hard feelings is better than taking those feelings away.[22:58] – Fostering self-esteem by celebrating kids' unique strengths.[26:51] – Toxic perfectionism and low self-esteem start early and plague high achievers.[30:15] – The power of observing vs praise in building kids' self-esteem.[33:08] – Guiding kids to recognize and leave toxic friendships.[35:58] – Sharing stories of famous failures to reframe mistakes as learning.[40:04] – Modeling imperfection and apologies fosters empathy in kids.[44:40] – Long parenting relationships mean we keep learning as kids grow. Connect with Dr. Robyn Silverman:·         Robyn's Podcast: How to Talk to Kids About Anything·         Robyn's Book: How to Talk with Kids About Anything Links & Resources:·         Book: Raising a Kid Who Can Thank you so much for tuning in to this episode. If you found it insightful, I urge you to share it with others. And hey, if you enjoyed it, please don't forget to rate, follow, and review our podcast. Your support means the world to us. Until the next time, remember to love your kids and stay curious!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

This episode of How to Talk to Kids about Anything focuses on effective communication tools that parents can use to best reach their children as they enter middle school and the teen years. How do we engage in respectful and effective dialogue, give constructive feedback, problem-solve and provide boundaries and still navigate the complex terrain of teenhood? Dr. Robyn Silverman interviews William Stixrud and Ned Johnson in this lively and fascinating exchange. The post How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance & a Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson – ReRelease appeared first on Dr Drobyn Silverman.

Many times I hear parents wanting to spark that internal motivation in their children to learn, acquire new skills, and be kind. But how do you do this?In this episode, you will learn what is intrinsic motivation, is external motivation bad? and how to support your children's internal motivation and how early you can do this.Additional relevant episodes :#36 Beyond Sticker Charts; How to Wisely Use External Motivators and Rewards?#32 "Roaring with Compassion: discovering parenting styles"#17 How To Form Healthy Habits And Raise Calmer Kids? With Michelle ColeThis episode is based on the following resources:The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Raising Kids Who Love to Learn by William Stixrud and Ned JohnsonHow to Raise Internally Motivated Children by Amy WrzesniewskiLee W, Reeve J, Xue Y, Xiong J. " Neural differences between intrinsic reasons for doing versus extrinsic reasons for doing: an fMRI study." Neurosci Res. 2012;73(1):68-72. doi:10.1016/j.neures.2012.02.010Want to join an online  Parent Talk?Join the waiting listAs a certified parent coach, I can help you own your parenting style! Want to connect? Book your free 30-minute session Leave a message Instagram Join the Bonding Boost Newsletter (We'll keep it short & sweet)!

Ravi sits down with William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson to discuss lessons learned from their book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives. Listen in for William and Ned's insights about stepping back as parents to let your children navigate the world with confidence and find their own path.

Ever find yourself wanting to have a good talk wtih your teen or tween and either getting nothing or an unexpected earful? How can we connect without seeoming pushy or fake? Do we avoid the deep emotions or dive in headfirst? If these questions are nagging and you feel you are just not able to connect with your child - this episode will provide some great advice. Ned Johnson co-wrote The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud. After the success of that book they tackled some of the tougher communication problems described above in What Do You Say? Today we get to pick Ned's brain on some of the key messages he has for parents on how we can best communicate with our teens and tweens (and anyone else for that matter). It's a tricky balance sometimes  - being interested, but not pushy; being empathic, but not an anxious presence; wanting to give advice, but not be dogmatic; being logical, but not neglecting to respect the emotions....parenting is hard! This episode will help.

Welcome to another exciting episode of our podcast, where I had an enlightening conversation with Dr. William Stixrud. We explore the fascinating world of neuroscience, education, and how stress affects learning. You won't want to miss this![2:56] ADHD and anxiety in teens.[5:20] Taking the long view.[8:59] Three questions to ask yourself about your child.[11:24] College isn't an entitlement.[15:21] Where do you have some leverage?[17:01] The language of silence in social media.[20:44] How we connect with our kids.[24:51] The importance of a non anxious presence.Resources:What Do You Say by Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson: amazon.com/What-You-Say-Motivation-Tolerance/dp/B08SP4CQ57/The National Sleep Foundation: thensf.orgThe American Psychological Association's resources on stress: apa.org/topics/stressThank you for tuning in to this episode of Self Driven Child. If you enjoyed this conversation, please follow the podcast on your favorite platform and leave a review to let us know your thoughts.If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

In today's episode, we have the privilege of talking to Myra McGovern, Vice President of Media at NAIS, the National Association of Independent Schools. We talk about the role of NAIS, the importance of independent schools, and what things set us apart. She also has several book recommendations and those are listed below. If you are interested in finding out more about how your child can become a part of the Brookstone family, reach out to Anne Parker, our Director of Enrollment for more information on how to apply. Her email address is aparker@brookstoneschool.org. You can watch this episode and other podcast episodes on our YouTube Channel, ⁠CougarLive.⁠ We also invite you to visit our website at brookstoneschool.org and follow us on social media. Go Cougars! Myra's Book Recommendations: The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Raising Kids: Your Essential Guide to Everyday Parenting by Sheri Wong and Olaf Jorgenson The Emotional Lives of Teenagers Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents by Lisa Damour Who Gets In and Why: A Year Inside College Admissions by Jeffrey Selingo

In this excerpt of a class about homework with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of The Self-Driven Child, Susan explores the anxiety parents often feel around their kids' unwillingness to take their school work seriously. https://susanstiffelman.com/stixrud-johnson-podcast-2/

Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves.  William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

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While we take a pause to record new content and to spend time with our families over spring break, we wanted to take this opportunity to replay a few episodes that our newer listeners may not have heard and that long-time TIMSL listeners have loved.  We hope you enjoy this fantastic 2-part conversation with Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud, co-authors of parenting books The Self Driven Child and What Do You Say?  Link to Orignal Episode Shownotes

Parents want to keep their kids safe, healthy, happy and motivated but sometimes it's hard to know what to say to achieve those goals. Conversation between parents and kids can be difficult at times, if not impossible. That's why we're excited to welcome neuropsychologist William Stixrud and test prep expert Ned Johnson to the show. They are the authors of the bestselling book, "The Self-Driven Child".   Their latest book is called, "What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home". Their website is prepmatters.com.   Our sponsor, Green Chef, is a CCOF-certified meal kit company that makes eating well easy with plans to fit every lifestyle.  Whether you're Keto, Paleo, Vegan, Vegetarian, Gluten-Free, or just looking to eat more balanced meals, Green Chef offers a range of recipes to suit your preferences.  And Green Chef has expanded its menu!  Now choose from more than 30 recipes weekly, with the option to mix and match meals from different dietary preferences in the same box, without changing your plan.  For example, you can order Vegan one day and Keto the next.  Try Fast and Fit recipes under 750 calories and ready in less than 10 minutes!   Cut down on meal prep with pre-portioned and prepped ingredients, including pre-measured sauces, spices and dressings.  Go to GreenChef.com/nobody60 and use code nobody60 to get 60% off plus free shipping!

While we take a pause to record new content and to spend time with our families over spring break, we wanted to take this opportunity to replay a few episodes that our newer listeners may not have heard and that long-time TIMSL listeners have loved.  We hope you enjoy this fantastic 2-part conversation with Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud, co-authors of parenting books The Self Driven Child and What Do You Say?  Link to Orignal Episode Shownotes

Middle school might not feel like a very enchanting time in our lives — it definitely didn't feel that way for me when I was living through it. But according to my guest Chris Balme, middle school is a time of great magic and opportunity for our kids, and for us as parents, if we know what we're looking for. In our conversation, Chris explains the three stages of identity development a child goes through in middle school, how we as parents will want to adapt our parenting styles change as our kids reach these stages, and how to navigate our child breaking our trust. We also talked about what individuation is and what it means to become a better companion for our kids, which is a reframe I really love.Chris Balme is an education leader and writer, passionate about helping young people discover more of their human potential. As Co-Founder and Head of School at Millennium School, a lab school in San Francisco, Chris helped pioneer new learning methods for middle schoolers, based in developmental science. Chris then founded Argonaut, an online program to bring social-emotional learning to more students. He now serves as the Founding Principal of Hakuba International School in Japan, developing learning approaches that foster human and environmental well-being. Things you'll learn from this episodeWhy Chris believes the middle school years are magicalWhat the three stages of identity development for middle school students are how kids may progress through themWhat individuation is and how to navigate it with your childrenAdvice for parents regarding scaffolding in a way that supports their child's developmentHow to navigate a child breaking our trustWhat companioning is and how to do that for our kids Resources mentionedChris Balme's websiteFinding the Magic in Middle School: Tapping Into the Power and Potential of the Middle School Years by Chris BalmeChris's Growing Wiser newsletter (Substack)Not Much, Just Chillin': The Hidden Lives of Middle Schoolers by Linda PerlsteinMaria Montessori Anders Ronnau on How He's Transforming ADHD (Tilt Parenting podcast)Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud on How to Motivate Kids and Build Their Stress Tolerance (Tilt Parenting podcast) The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson (Tilt Parenting podcast) Support the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

In this episode, Ned and I discuss the “parent as consultant” way of approaching raising children. It's important to not solve all your kids' problems, they need to build those skills themselves to face issues in a constructive and thoughtful way. We also discuss stress and how we all need to learn how to deal with it. As a parent, guardian or teacher, we all need to model self-care to manage our stress levels so our children can watch, learn and mimic that behavior.The topics we cover in this episode are:Why it's important for kids to feel a sense of controlBeing the parent and a consultantHow important play isWhy you should let young people solve their own problemsHow to be that non-anxious presence in a Child's lifeRemaining calm in stressful situationsUnderstanding that your kids want their lives to be great tooAbout The Guest - Ned JohnsonNed Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993 and battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and student performance, Ned has spent nearly 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. Ned is the host of the PrepTalks podcast: conversations with parenting and education experts. A sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Website - theselfdrivenchild.comInstagram - @theothernedjohnsonNed's Resource - Top 10 Tips from The Self-Driven Child: https://prepmatters.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/SDC_Talk_Handout-1.pdfAbout The Host - Janine HalloranJanine Halloran is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, an author, a speaker, an entrepreneur and a mom. As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Janine has been working primarily with children and adolescents for over 15 years. She loves to create products and resources, so she started two businesses to support families and professionals who work with children and teens. ‘Coping Skills for Kids' provides products and resources to help kids learn to cope with their feelings in safe and healthy ways. It's the home of the popular Coping Cue Cards, decks of cards designed to help kids learn and use coping skills at home or at school. Janine's second business ‘Encourage Play' is dedicated to helping kids learn and practice social skills in the most natural way - through play! Encourage Play has free printables, as well as digital products focused on play and social skills.Coping Skills for Kids - https://copingskillsforkids.comEncourage Play - https://www.encourageplay.comInterested in reading my books? The Coping Skills for Kids Workbook - https://store.copingskillsforkids.com/collections/coping-skills-for-kids-workbook/products/coping-skills-for-kids-workbook-digital-versionSocial Skills for Kids - https://store.copingskillsforkids.com/collections/encourage-play/products/social-skills-for-kids-workbook Connect with Janine on Social MediaInstagram: @copingskillsforkidsFacebook: facebook.com/copingskillsforkids and facebook.com/encourageplayYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JanineHalloranEncouragePlay

In this episode, I'm highlighting the top 10 episodes on my podcast this past year.    We learned so much about health, wellness, parenting and prioritizing our mental health and boundaries. I know you will take away so much from these conversations, and I am so grateful for you tuning in to each one.   Listen in as we talk about: [1:20] Episode 39: The Best Tips For Productivity (Part 1) with Natalie Tysdal [1:30] Episode 40: The Best Tips For Productivity (Part 2) with Natalie Tysdal [2:50] Episode 41: Setting Goals That Help You Become Happier with Natalie Tysdal [3:35] Episode 89: Finding Your Inner Truth Amongst Adversity with Rachel Macy Stafford [5:30] Episode 56: Why it's Important for Kids to Have a Sense of Control with Dr. William Stixrud [7:00] Episode 55: How to prevent cancer with Dr. Leigh Erin Connealy, MD  [8:55] Episode 42: Helping Families Set Boundaries with Technology with Amy McCready [10:30] Episode 53: How to Optimize Hormone Health Through Menopause with Pauline Cox [12:10] Episode 69: (RERUN) Navigating the Nervous System and Trapped Trauma with Irene Lyon [13:40] Episode 67: Signs of Nutrient Deficiency with Dr. Cheryl Kam [14:30] Episode 79: Safety Issues Parents Need to be Aware of When it Comes to Their Teens with Deputy Gomez [16:15] Episode 66: Guiding vs. Controlling Our Kids – Is There Really a Difference? with Dr. Siggie Cohen [18:40] Episode 63: How to Eat to Beat Disease with Dr. William Li   Notes from Natalie: Sign Up for Natalie's Newsletter: https://marvelous-designer-6863.ck.page/fd348899af Mediterranean Diet Shopping List: https://marvelous-designer-6863.ck.page/330fbbe53a How to Make a Vision Board: https://page.natalietysdal.com/visionboard Blog: https://www.natalietysdal.com/blog    Connect with Natalie Tysdal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ntysdal/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ2puxB_hWDNn1Qe3UzOMKg  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NatalieTysdal/  Website: https://www.natalietysdal.com 

In Part 2 of this two-part series, we continue our conversation with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, authors of parenting books The Self Driven Child and What Do You Say?  We talk with Bill and Ned about the importance of giving our kids autonomy,  helping them learn how to manage technology (the dreaded phones and video games), and the importance of a good night's SLEEP.  And we talk about the all-important pursuit of happiness.  Bill and Ned set us straight by reminding us that by the time they graduate from high school, most kids have already spent 90% of the time they will ever spend with us.  Episode Links and Resources:The Self Driven ChildWhat Do You SayNed Johnson PrepMattersStixrud Group: A Lifespan Neuropsychology PracticeLori Santos Happiness LabSupport this podcast by subscribing and reviewing it!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.

As a neuropsychologist with over 40 years of practice, Dr. William Stixrud has seen many parenting trends come and go. His best-selling book The The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives with co-author Ned Johnson is on my must-read list for parents. It was a pleasure to speak to one of my all-time favorite scientists, authors and practitioners about motivating our children, screen time, and the root causes of stress. Links from the episode Dr. William Stixrud Website The Self-Driven Child: The Science & Sense of Giving your kids More Control over their Lives Dr. Stixrud's Band: Larry and the Flames Simple Families Episode 302 - Analog Curious: Part I Simple Families Episode 303 - Analog Curious: Part II Sponsors Native – Get 20% off your first order on your favorite deodorant at nativedeo.com/families and use promo code "Families." Indeed – Visit indeed.com/families for an all-inclusive hiring platform. Seed – A different probiotic that works! Try Seed's DS-01TM Daily Synbiotic, learn more at seed.com/simple and use the code SIMPLE to get a 20% discount on your first month.