Badass Midlife

Steve Harvey has spoken of a simple action that impacted how he felt about his life and what he felt he deserved. Today I'm sharing this story and hopefully, it will inspire some actions that can set you on an "upgraded" journey and improve your daily life.

Depending on what you're trying to do in your life, your STORY is what will drive you forward or keep you stuck. We can also create a story around others' behavior that can cause harm to the relationship, without even realizing we could be wrong. Today we're talking about some things you can do to see if you're stuck in the stories you're telling yourself, about others or even about your own life.

It's so easy to get into a rut about how we feel about everything in midlife. We all have that friend in our group where you know you can't bring up this or that because they are so set in their ways. But there are things you can do to have great conversations with anyone in your life that will make them so much more fun. Today, we'll talk about 7 ways to challenge yourself and improve not only your conversations but your relationships too!

Taking care of yourself is more than popping in for an occasional massage or workout. True self-care means discovering all the pieces "of the pie" that you need to nurture in your life each day, and committing to working them in. Today, we'll talk about 6 of those common areas to help spark your imagination and get you going

Just because we are at a certain place in life, it doesn't mean that our fate is sealed; it doesn't mean we can't improve or make changes and put a focus on improving our method of operating our daily lives. Today we're talking about how we can revisit a few basics that can help you become more resilient and improve your attitude.

Get ready. The ole' monkey wrench is about to get tossed into your life. We all know these things will happen; an illness, a weather event, jury duty, even a pandemic that changes nearly everything. The challenge becomes who you will be when these unexpected interruptions happen. How do you best handle them without losing yourself? That's what we're talking about today!

It's easy to feel the world, our life, family, everything-else-but-us is in control of our lives. Our own dreams and peace can be robbed from us by the day-to-day needs of others or our obligations. Every now and then, it's useful to do a reset on what YOU want, what matters to YOU so that you feel at peace and fulfilled instead of resentful or off-center. Today we go over 4 super-simple but gripping questions you need to sit down and ask yourself that will help you do the reset you need.

You're not losing it. Having the urge to talk to yourself isn't a sign of weakness at all. It doesn't mean that you're compromised or weak. It's a really useful tool that your mind wants to use to help you deal with some challenging times. But we don't realize how beneficial it really can be to help us reach goals and live a better life.

We all have hidden expectations or certain goals based on our life experiences. But sometimes, those deeply rooted thoughts can do some harm to the people we say we love the most. It can cause strife for you as well as make the other person feel as though they have done something wrong. Today, we talk about how to catch yourself and nip this issue in the bud.

We don't know what's next for us in this chapter of midlife, and sometimes that can lead to obsessive saving, planning, and worrying about what we need to prepare for. The truth is, uncertainty is a part of life, but today we're talking about a couple of little tips that can help you live a full life and enjoy every day without consuming yourself with the burden of being ready for "what's next".

Do you ever feel like you are in a slump where your mood is concerned? Do you sometimes blame others when negativity rears its head? Today we're gonna talk about 9 Essential Tips to help you be the master of your mood....every day.

There are many things that have to be part of our daily routine and the sheer nature of repetitive tasks can lead to boredom and burnout. But today we're talking about the things that you can do to feel better about the day-to-day monotony and ways to make the ordinary a little more extraordinary. ✅ LEAVE THE PODCAST A 5-STAR REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE SO YOU DON'T MISS ANY NEW EPISODES! ✅ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/badassmidlife/message

How often do you want to move ahead and try something new or change up something in your life, but then the comfortable past excuses rear their head and keep you stuck in the same old things. Do this enough and your life will stay exactly the same and be blocked off to new experiences, improvements, and ideas. Today I'm going to offer a little inspiration to leave your little red wagon of past stuff on the sidewalk and wave goodbye. ✅ LEAVE THE PODCAST A 5-STAR REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE SO YOU DON'T MISS ANY NEW EPISODES! ✅ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/badassmidlife/message

Anticipating anxiety is a real thing. We have all had times when our worries and anxiety have kept us stuck, unable to rest or experience joy. It's almost as if we are choosing to wake up and select the worries we need to prioritize each and every day. Leaving us feeling depleted, tired, unfulfilled, and in a perpetual state of anxiety. Here are some tips to reframe your thoughts on this type of action.

"Don't Talk To Strangers!". Yes and no. The truth is, we avoid human contact way too much these days, and talking to strangers is something we need to rethink, now more than ever. Connecting is NOT a waste of time. You never know who you'll meet. Today we're talking about how to reframe those casual encounters in life so you can make every word and every minute count.

Sometimes we feel stuck in old habits or our daily routine. While some things may be out of your control, many times it's a question of choosing to stay in your comfort zone and the inability to make decisions that challenge your "story". Today we'll go over how to get unstuck and get happy.

It's easy for us to get stuck into habits and routines in our lives and miss opportunities to make the average moments special. It's easy to make a few little thought shifts to your normal routine and turn the mundane into the magnificent.

Sometimes we set goals, personal or professional, and may get frustrated or disheartened when things don't change for us. Today we're going to talk about why things may not be working out and how making some slight changes to some little habits can make all the difference!

We all do it, from the time we're kids, we're comparing ourselves, what we have and what we do to others. There are times that can help and times when it can make a bad situation even worse. Today we'll talk about the good, the bad, and how NOT to fall into the negative trap of social comparison.

So many times we look for ways to live a better life and there's no shortage of advice on that. We are all unique in what works for us, but there are 3 things that you might think are no-brainers for feeling better that may backfire if you don't do them right.

Relationships in your life matter more than anything...the relationship with a partner, friend, co-worker, and most importantly, yourself. If you feel like you have a couple of relationships that are less than perfect, today we're sharing the simplest tweaks that you can use to improve them and they will work for everyone!

When you were a little child, you used to live without boundaries, and sure, you didn't have a lot of things to worry about, but that doesn't mean that we can't challenge that inner inquisitive little lover of life. We can all stand to live a little freer and happier, and here are a few tips that will keep you from getting stuck in old negative habits.

It's easy to get in a rut and live our lives stuck in patterns and habits that may be limiting our happiness and growth as well as our mindset. Today, we will talk about things we can do (or stop doing) that will improve our lives if we just shift our thinking. Now is the time.

It can be difficult to manage our crazy moods sometimes, and often we don't even know why we go from unicorns and rainbows to daggers and darkness. Today we talk about 7 sneaky little things that you may not even realize are impacting your mood so you can watch out for them, and keep your mood in good shape. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/badassmidlife/message

You've probably done things, said things, or been vulnerable to situations in your life that you hang onto and carry around. It's no way to live, friend. Emotional baggage shouldn't be a backpack you strap on every day. There's a point in your life when you need to dump that out, recognize the why, the how, learn the lesson and LET IT GO. That point is now. You need some clear mind space to move ahead into your badass midlife. Let's go!

A bird in the middle of Chicago won't even flinch at a blaring firetruck zooming by, but in the middle of a small town, it's a different story. It's nature to adapt to life's circumstances, thereby becoming a little desensitized over time. Are you a person who may be shrinking emotionally, becoming a victim of desensitization? This episode will help you recognize if you are.

It's easy in life to encounter an obstacle or experience a setback and allow it to stop you dead in your tracks. There are a few signs that you could be allowing these obstacles to keep you from reaching your goals and recognizing them can help you maneuver around them and move forward.

In communication, there are often hammers and nails. For the hammers out there, or if you know a hammer, today we talk about how to improve communication by recognizing signs and opportunities that can make your interactions much more pleasant.

Are you impatient and trying to get that "under control"? Is there an impatient person in your life that is driving you up the wall and you wish you could get them to dial it down? Today we're talking about how the trait of impatience can not only benefit you, but at times, it can be exactly what you need.

Do you feel stuck or bored with almost everything about your life? You've heard of removing clutter from your home, but there are other things that are adding "clutter" to your everyday life that are keeping you in a rut and feeling out of sorts. Today, we're talking about 6 forgotten but important areas of your life that may need a good, old-fashioned decluttering.

Do you cringe when you hear the question, "how's that workin' for ya?" If you have had mirror neurons firing for those that would get asked that question by dr. Phil, maybe you need to check in periodically and ask yourself. There's value in checking in with yourself and evaluating where you are and how things are going, but I'm sharing a few tips that can keep the question from pulling you off track or down a negative track. Let's talk about what those are.

You hear a lot about becoming the best "version of yourself", but it shouldn't ever be at the expense of all the other versions. Everything you do and go through in life matters, and it all teaches you something. Don't be so quick to spin away from hard times in pursuit of getting back to the "good you". All of you is good and useful and it's important to remember that.

Sometimes silence can be awkward and uncomfortable, other times a beautiful reprieve the daily chaos of your life. But research shows that if you can allow yourself some blank space and quiet time, it's where you will discover the magic, become creative and inspired with new ideas, and come up with exactly what you need to make positive changes that improve your life.

It's often said that happiness is a choice-and a lot of people don't like to hear that. But it's very true. Life is gonna throw all of us curve balls, unexpected, painful situations, but how we choose to go on after these things is a choice. Happy people live life in a way that keeps them open and ready for anything and resilient to the ups and downs. Today we're gonna talk about some simple actions you can take to keep you in a happy place, starting today!

Jay Shetty, author of "Think Like a Monk" gives insight into making mornings beautiful and peaceful. He combines ancient wisdom and his experience as a monk himself to help rethink and simplify the morning with very specific, small tweaks so you can start your day with complete joy and peacefulness. Today I'll give you his best tips that will get your day started on the right foot and release any anxiety before your day begins.

You might notice that when you're trying to create some new habits, you get pulled back to what was "comfy" for you. We are wired to stay in what is familiar and comfortable. So just know that when you fall off the wagon or encounter frustrations, it's normal. Don't be too hard on yourself. Just stay focused and watch out for these common pitfalls so you can push ahead.

These days, the art of good conversation seems to be dying in the midst of constant distractions and our impatient lifestyle. Being a good listener doesn't come automatically, but it's the best thing you can do to build meaningful relationships and strengthen your bonds. We're gonna share some tips to help you become a great listener no matter who you're with.

Every year we set out with the best intentions to make some big changes to improve our lives. Sadly, they often don't stick, but there are some simple tricks you can do to make them a success.

Busy lives can take their toll on you physically and mentally. There are some tell-tale signs that you are emotionally exhausted and once you know what those are, there are a few questions you can ask yourself to work through them.

We all know those people that seem to be put on earth to grind others' nerves. Whether it's a social scene, dealing with a boaster, or someone closer to you who really enjoys verbal entanglements, it's good to have a few little tips to fall back on that will keep you on the happy train.

It's easy to keep things inside because of fear, guilt, or shame. Doing this can keep you drained, weighed down, and not able to be open to the good things you deserve in your life. Staying tied to your ugly stuff is no way to live. Today we'll talk about how having a trusted friend to spill your guts to, can be the key to getting happy!

Whatever your normal has been, or whatever your past was, you can still become a future thinker. You don't need to limit your achievable dreams to what you know to be true about your life. Dare to imagine your best life and follow these few simple steps to get there. Without the burdens and obstacles of your past.

No need to fear your midlife journey and all the scary declines that are associated with it! There is a lot of good news about these years and you should consider embracing all of it! Today I'm gonna share a twist on the midlife journey and make it more of a joyride!

It's easy to fall into the people-pleaser trap in midlife as we navigate taking care of our family, kids, partners, and parents. Many times you might feel like there is just never time for you to do the things you want to do in your life. Well, friend, it's time to make a few changes so you can have the balance you need. Without feeling selfish.

You might feel like others are disrespecting your time or your needs, but it could be that your boundaries are just unclear or don't exist. Worse yet, maybe you're not communicating them at all. If you don't set or share them, you'll begin resenting others for something that is kind of on you. Today we'll talk about how you can start setting or re-setting healthy boundaries so that you can get what you want out of your day and your life, and how to communicate it so no one feels slighted. This way, everyone is happy!

"Like sands through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives"...Yes! That is true, friend. Our time is limited and we keep lending it out to others as if there is an unlimited supply. Today, I want to inspire you to take back your time and make the most out of your days, as well as point out a few sneaky time stealers that are robbing you of precious moments.

Every day is a new opportunity to make a first impression, not only with people you're meeting for the first time but with those around you every day who usually get the short end of the stick. Think of each day as an opportunity to reboot any of your relationships and be captivating! I share 12 tips for making a captivating first impression every time.

Friend, it turns out that as we grow a little older, we become less spontaneous, and that's not fun! Maybe you've just never been super spontaneous, but regardless, it might just be because you're in the constant pursuit of staying safe, having a routine, and protecting the norm...the boring norm. :-) We're gonna talk about why it's hard and share some inspiration on how to flex that spontenaity muscle a little more every day so you can start having a little more fun. I reference a book by Shonda Rhimes, The Year of Yes, and it can help you in your spontenaity journey!

Resilience is a necessary skill to be able to better handle all of life's little ups and downs. Are you a resilient person? Truly resilient people have mastered a few little mindset tricks that can help all of us be able to weather any storm. That's what we're diving into today!

Think...ask yourself... "Am I living the life that I want? Am I doing things that I have chosen, or that someone else has?" It's easy to get into autopilot mode and go through life with a flight plan that's not all of your design. Today, we talk about how to know if you're on autopilot, things you can do to change that, and how to make an intentional new flight plan for yourself.

Maybe something didn't turn out right, it was a mistake, or maybe you even hurt someone in the process. Any of those reasons can be enough to keep you from trying that or anything new again. But there are a few tips that can help you get past that mental roadblock so you can learn the lesson and try again.