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In this episode, we talk about friendship…What does it look like to be compatible? When, why, and how do we break-up with a friend? How do we navigate these relationships as adults vs kids? We have more questions than answers, so join us as we chat & get curious. Podcast referenced: A Slight Change of Plans, episode “The Science of Quitting”

In this episode, Steph and Becky talk about self-care — what it is, the barriers to it, and how we navigate it in our own lives. We emphasize the importance of knowing our values, the systemic issues that stand in the way for many, and how we can return to the “basics”. We reference Brené Brown's value list, so if you'd like to use it for your own exploration here's the link: https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/

In this episode, Steph and Becky have a conversation with Jessi Haggerty about unlearning hustle culture. We also delve into how this overlaps with unlearning diet/toxic fitness culture, value centered goal/intention setting and goal setting burnout. We hope you enjoy! Jessi Haggerty is a Registered Dietitian, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and Certified Personal Trainer. Jessi is a Health at Every Size® practitioner, focusing on intuitive eating and movement, eating disorder recovery and weight-inclusive medical nutrition therapy. She also runs a group coaching program called Redefine Your Relationship with Exercise and an online course for personal trainers on eating disorder screening, nutrition, and body image. Where to find Jessi and learn more about her services: @jessihaggertyrd  jessihaggerty.com  

In this episode Steph and Becky come together to discuss unlearning the idea that clothing dictates our worthiness. Some of the things covered in this episode are: -A brief history of the clothing industry and how it failed to standardize and regulate women's clothing -Dressing for self-expression and authenticity over approval/other's expectations -Accessibility of clothing including things like range of sizing available in store, price, ethical origins of the clothing -Inner child healing around body shame related to trying on clothing -Realistic and helpful tips for your next clothing shopping trip Some things we mentioned in the pod episode if you're wanting to read more: The Time magazine article chronically the clusterf*ck: https://time.com/3532014/women-clothing-sizes-history/ Books referenced: The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor More Than A Body by Lexie and Lindsay Kite The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary McBride Meditation recommended: Insight Timer (Kristin Neff Self-Compassion meditation 5 mins)

On this episode of the pod we had the privilege of talking with Anna Vos. Anna is a fat queer human rainbow and artist based in Rochester, NY. She owns a small gift shop called Anna Parade and is a mom to two awesome elementary school kids. She likes to grow flowers in her garden and play board games with her loved ones. In this conversation, Anna vulnerably shares with us some of the complexity and struggle of deconstructing her faith, discovering her queerness and liberating herself from body hatred. Where to find Anna: Instagram: @annaparade Tik Tok: @anna_is_soft Website: annaparade.com (etsy link from there or annaparade.etsy.com) Books mentioned in the podcast episode: Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-Blackness by Da'Shaun L. Harrison Rethinking Incarceration: Advocating for Justice That Restores by Dominique DuBois Gilliard

Thanks for joining us again for Part 2 of our conversation on Unlearning! In this episode we talked about unlearning things like fat-phobia, wellness culture and more. We wanted to add some suggestions of books and resources that align with the topics we covered this week: Fearing the Black Body by Sabrina Strings, PhD You Have a Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar Anti- Diet by Christy Harrison Untamed by Glennon Doyle Leaving the Fold by Marlene Winell, Ph.D Keep Moving by Maggie Smith Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary Ann McBride As always we hope you enjoy and follow us on Instagram @donutmindifwedo_pod to hear about our upcoming episodes!

In our Season 2 debut episode we talk about this season's focus of “unlearning”. Steph shares more about her departure from evangelical Christianity, and Becky shares about beliefs she's re-examining after going through divorce. This episode is part 1 of 2 - we hope you enjoy! We wanted to add some suggestions of books and resources that align with the topics we covered this week: Untamed by Glennon Doyle Leaving the Fold by Marlene Winell, Ph.D Keep Moving by Maggie Smith Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary Ann McBride Here is a link to the Cycle of Socialization along with the Cycle of Liberation, both created by Bobbie Harro for Readings for Diversity and Social Justice, Routledge 2000 NOTE: In the podcast it was stated Maurianne Adams was the creator of the cycle. The image that was found for reference had the wrong credit information. https://diversity.wisc.edu/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Cycles-of-socialization-and-liberation.pdf

In this episode, we chat together about the Enneagram! Some of the topics we explore include -our own journeys with identifying and understanding our types -how we make sense of our types -how the Enneagram has changed how we meet our needs & heal -the role the Enneagram can play in relationships -the Enneagram in Steph's faith deconstruction process & Becky's ED recovery -how we've used the Enneagram in therapeutic settings *Note: We are not Ennegram Coaches, just two people who've loved learning and implementing all there is to be gained through this tool* Some of our favorite Enneagram Resources include Books: The Road Back To You by Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne Stabile (at times through the lens of Christianity) The Path Between Us by Suzanne Stabile (at times through the lens of Christianity) The HONEST Enneagram by Sarajane Case The Enneagram and You by Gina Gomez Podcasts: Enneagram and Coffee The Enneagram Journey Ask an Enneagram Coach Podcast Series - For the Love podcast (all of Season 27)

Dr. Gregory Dodell grew up in Los Angeles. He went to Albany Medical College and did both internal medicine residency and Endocrinology fellowship at St. Luke's Roosevelt (affiliated with Columbia University). He is currently in private practice at Central Park Endocrinology in New York City. Some things we discuss in this episode include -Practicing as a doctor through the lens of Health at Every Size (HAES) -The harm of weight stigma -The inefficacy of diets -How medical offices and professionals could help decrease weight stigma -The concept that “weight is not a choice” and the factors that influence weight -Internal hormone sensors -Advocating for ourselves at medical appointments You can find Gregory both dancing and sharing incredibly valuable information on his Instagram account @everything_endocrine Gregory is married to Alexis Conason, PsyD who can be found on Instagram @theantidietplan. Her book “The Diet Free Revolution” is available for pre-order now (available in June)! Note: We also talk about Dr. Joshua Wolrich's new book “Food Isn't Medicine” quite a bit in this episode. You can follow him @drjoshuawolrich on Instagram and grab a copy of his book to learn more about some of the topics we shared. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode, we have a wonderful and really important conversation with Nicole Cruz. Nicole Cruz, MS, RDN is a registered dietitian nutritionist, mom of three, wife, and eating disorder specialist. She has a private practice located in Southern California, devoted to helping others reclaim their joy and find food freedom. She works with clients from all walks of life to transform their relationship with food by practicing from an intuitive eating perspective and non-diet approach. As a mom herself, Nicole's passion is to support parents in fostering a healthy relationship with food for their children. She has a private Facebook group, Joyful Eating for Your Family, and she offers virtual nutrition coaching and programs to parents. Nicole is dedicated to transforming the way we view nutrition in order to live more full and balanced lives, at peace with food. Some of what we discuss in this episode includes: -the stress that is often present when feeding kids -as parents/care-takers, getting curious about “our own stuff” -sugar (is it bad?) -practicing & modeling intuitive eating with children -the impact of restriction on children -working with food freedom in the family as a form of eating disorder prevention -how to approach ”repairing” as a parent if introducing food freedom later in the parenting journey -serving food “deconstructed” and “family style” -history of food scarcity or current lack of access to food -Health at Every Size© -navigating interactions with doctors if you have a child in a larger body ...and more! Where you can find Nicole... -Follow her on Instagram @nicolecruzrd (you can access the below information through the link in her Instagram bio) -She hosts a *free* Facebook group, “Joyful Eating for Your Family” which is a “safe and supportive space to ask questions and share resources about intuitive eating, feeding a family, and creating a healthy relationship with food and your body.” (not intended as a replacement for professional support) -Her course called “Feed Your Family with Confidence” launches in May. “This course will help you transform the way you think about, talk about, and serve food in your home. Meals will go from stress-full to stress-free as you adopt these strategies and learn to feed your family with confidence.” --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode we interview Lindsay Wolf. Lindsay is a writer, content creator, and far-positive activist who has been cultivating a safe and inclusive train recovery community on her Instagram page for the past 5 years. Through her social media platform, she dives deep into the complexities of fatphobia, mental health, self-love, equality, and parenting in a blended family. She also came out in 2019 as bisexual and weaves her journey to living authentically into every aspect of her content. Lindsay lives in New Hampshire with her two human kids, two cat kids, and one husband. Some things we talk about include -Lindsay's eating disorder recovery journey -Body dysmorphia -Her experience living and parenting with CPTSD -Authentic self-love -and more! If you don't already, we encourage you to follow Lindsay on Instagram @thelindsaywolf She also created a new program called “Deep Dive with Lindsay” which are scheduled video or phone calls that allow anyone to get up close and personal with her about struggles they may be having (link can be found in Instagram bio). These are offered on a pay-what-you-can basis with a suggested rate. Any extra profits though exceeding suggested rate go towards mutual aid to Black individuals. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

We had the privilege of having a conversation with Julissa Minaya, a 16 year old woman of color, activist and ED recovery warrior. In this conversation we discuss some of Julissa's journey to not only her recovery, but also discovering her voice through being an activist for change. Julissa will be speaking at the upcoming Central NEDA walk on 4/17/21. The walk will be virtual so all are able to attend. Head to nationaleatingdisorders.org for more information on how to sign up! You can also find Julissa on instagram at @julissas.recovery as well as on her collaboration page, @theactivistcollab. We hope you enjoy this powerful, inspiring and fun conversation as much as we did!

This week on the podcast, we have a conversation with Angelo Thomas. Since recovering from anorexia in 2018, Angelo has been proud to give a voice to men, LGBTQ+, and Latinx people who are struggling with eating disorders. He has spoken at NEDA walks and conferences across the country and currently works as a Digital Outreach Coordinator at ANAD. Angelo recently completed The Incredible Jake Parker, a book and feature film about a teenage popstar's battle with anorexia (see below for links to both the book and the film). Some things we talk about include -How Angelo's authenticity was impacted during his adolescence -Angelo's recovery story, including his experience as a gay Latinx man in treatment -What has inspired him to do what he does in the realm of activism -The importance of inclusivity in eating disorder recovery spaces -The Incredible Jake Parker (the creation of, and inspiration behind it) -...and more To watch The Incredible Jake Parker, go to https://www.angelothomas.com/jakeparker.html And to get a copy of the book, you can find it at Amazon, WalMart, Barnes & Noble and most major book retailers

This week, we have a conversation with Mary DiGiovanna. Mary is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor working primarily as a supervisor and clinic director. She has experience working with trauma disorders (specifically dissociative disorder), as well as adolescent disorders, and substance use disorders. Mary is passionate about things like social justice, feminism, and access to care across socioeconomic classes. She finds fulfillment in guiding and educating new counselors. Mary really believes that counselor identity and development is paramount to providing informed and good quality care. She's passionate about fostering counselor development in a way that nurtures the skill building necessary to be successful in the counselor role and also that recognizes the unique strengths that each individual counselor brings to their work. Some things we chat about include: -Authenticity vs. toxic positivity -How to sit in discomfort -The role of "helper"/"fixer" -Feminist theory, social justice, and HAES in context of therapy -The importance of basic needs (including safety) being met as a foundation to therapeutic work -The need for critical thinking as a therapist -Naming the power differential ...and more! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode, we share a *very brief* overview of diet culture. We touch on… -The definition of Diet Culture (as stated by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, CEDRD) -The racist roots & oppressive nature of diet culture -Diet culture being the sea we all swim in, with or without consent -“Wellness culture” as a sneaky mask for diet culture -The harm in before/after pictures -Fatphobia, BMI, medical mis-information -Health At Every Size (HAES) …and more! Given that this is intended to be just an overview, we have listed resources for further exploration and learning which we highly recommend. Books: “Fearing the Black Body” by Sabrina Strings “You Have a Right to Remain Fat” by Virgie Tovar “Anti Diet” by Christy Harrison “Health at Every Size” by Lindo Bacon “Body Respect” by Lindo Bacon and Lucy Aphramor “The Body is Not an Apology” by Sonya Renee Taylor (Pre-order) “Food Isn't Medicine” by Dr. Joshua Wolrich We also recommend listening to any and all of Christy Harrison's podcast “Food Pscyh” for additional information on diet culture. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Haley O'Bryan, today's guest, is a recent graduate school graduate from California State University, Fullerton's Master of Counseling program. As she searches for her perfect post-grad therapy job, she is filling her time with research, art, and finding a rescue kitty to love. She lives in Encinitas, California. In our conversation with Haley we explore the risk and impact on those who participate in MLMs, and Haley's intention of doing so with compassion. Some of what we discussed was related to relationships, identity enmeshment & authenticity, financial stressors, our own experiences with MLMs, the relationship between diet culture and much more. Haley also shares a message to those considering joining an MLM. As we found in Haley's thesis, MLMs (Multi-Level Marketing Companies) are defined as: direct selling or network marketing. According to Groß and Vriens (2019), rather than being traditional employees, participants in MLMs are self-employed distributors who sell the MLMs' products directly to others. These distributors are generally required to directly invest in inventory from the organization to begin selling. You can find Haley at @counselorhaley @counselorzorgnax To access her Thesis and read more on this topic, head to her Instagram @counselorhaley (click on linktr.ee in her bio)

In this episode we unpack what authenticity means to us and how it impacts our connections and interactions with others and social media. Questions to ponder: What does authenticity mean to you? What privilege do you hold in being comfortable with authenticity? Would you consider trying to be more authentic with at least one person in your life? What would it look like to be authentic on social media? [Note: In this episode we reference Therapy Thoughts Podcast by Tiffany Roe, The Enneagram Journey podcast by Suzanne Stabile, Enneagram and Coffee Podcast by Sarajane Case, the book “Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now” by Jaron Lanier, and a post by @tonitalkstherapy] --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Welcome to Donut Mind If We Do! We're your hosts, Steph and Becky and this is an intro into what's to come on our podcast.