Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Do you instantly feel anxious and on edge when your partner or friend is in a bad mood? Do you find yourself feeling so uncomfortable that you just want to fix it?And get them to cheer up or snap out of it, so that you can feel better?Do you sometimes feel frustrated by your partner's bad moods - and blame them for ruining your experience because they can't just be more cheerful or positive?If so - this episode is for you!I'm going to talk you through 5 key mindset shifts that need to happen to stop you feeling like a victim to other people's emotions.Mentioned in the episode:The MYRMD Society - FIND OUT MOREUse the discount code: 'Secure'

How do you perceive your value as a partner? Or a friend? Or perhaps a member of your family?Do you often doubt your value? Or does your self worth tend to go up and down based on how other people are responding to you?If so - this episode is for YOU. I'm going to help you to reflect on how you're currently thinking about your worth and value AND offer you concrete, cognitive steps for building your sense of self - regardless of what's going on outside of you.Ready? Let's dive in!Mentioned in the episode:Your Secure Self: Creating emotional safety in the face of uncertainty - FREE masterclassThe MYRMD Society

What does it take to feel emotionally safe in a relationship?Emotional safety is a word that is being used quite a lot these days...So in today's episode, I'm breaking down:What emotional safety really isHow we experience itHow other people impact us feeling itAnd 4 reasons why you might be struggling to feel emotionally safe - even in the most loving relationshipsMentioned in the episode:Sign up to my FREE masterclass - 'Your Secure Self: Creating emotional safety in the face of uncertainty'Join my coaching membership - The MYRMD Society

I just don't want to get hurt - have you ever said that before? It's something I've heard a lot in client sessions - and it makes total sense. But how might your unwillingness to get hurt actually be holding you back in your relationships and creating more suffering than it's preventing?Listen to find out:- Why we're afraid of getting hurt- What we're really afraid of- And to steal my willingness script to coach your brain from anxiety to courage in any situation.Mentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditationThe MYRMD Society - JOIN US

Do you often find yourself feeling disconnected in your relationships - having unnecessary arguments that seem repetitive?Or do you feel like you're on a rollercoaster - feeling great one minute and anxious the next - like your brain is just always on the look out for what's ‘wrong'? If so - you're likely stuck in one of the two cycles I'm discussing today:The rejection cycle and the reassurance cycle.Listen to find out the common signs, why our brain's get stuck here, and how to break the pattern.Mentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditationJoin The MYRMD Society

Today The Master Your Relationship Mind Drama Society is officially OPEN!For just £99 a month - you can get weekly live coaching, monthly masterclasses, access to my digital course content, AND a community hub to get written support and cheer on other society members.And in today's episode, I'm chatting with two members of my previous rounds of group coaching.Listen to hear about their personal struggles and experiences - and to learn how these tools & concepts have transformed their relationships.SIGN UP TO THE MYRMD SOCIETYFind out more details (& read FAQs)Email me with a question - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you ever wonder what the difference is between a healthy boundary and a control attempt coming from a place of insecurity? If so - this episode is for you. We're going to cover:The difference between a healthy boundary and a power struggleThe key ingredients that go into setting a healthy boundarySome examples of real life situations showing the difference between a healthy boundary & a control attempt (situations you will likely relate to)How to manage your own mind first so you know you're approaching the boundary as your most secure selfHow to communicate a boundary in a way that creates opportunities for connectionAnd the fear of rejection that we can often feel when we want to express a boundary - and how to overcome it.Ready? Let's dive in!Mentioned in the episode:SIGN UP TO MY FREE 5 DAY CHALLENGEFind out about my new membership - The MYRMD Society

Do you have a partner or friend that exhibits some of the signs of an avoidant attachment style?And do you find your own anxiety being triggered by their behaviour - resulting in a push-pull cycle - where both people feel frustrated and disconnected?You're certainly not alone with this.And in today's episode, I'm teaching you how to manage your OWN mind and create a secure response to avoidant behaviour.So that you can feel calm and grounded, regardless of what's going on for them - and actually create more connection.Mentioned in this episode:SIGN UP TO THE 5 DAY CHALLENGEProcessing emotions meditationSelf Esteem Building KitEmail me about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

We all talk a lot about self-love and being compassionate to ourselves.But what does that actually mean or look like?In hundreds of coaching sessions - I've seen the many ways we can reject and disconnect from ourselves. And the impact that has on our lives & relationships.And in today's episode, I'm going to share some questions to help you do an audit of your own relationship with YOU. AND I'm going to offer you 3 exercises to help you improve it.Mentioned in the episode:Contact me about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.comSelf Esteem Building Kit

So many of us spend our lives trying to avoid being triggered. We blame other people for triggering us.We try and convince people to change their behaviour so we can be less triggered.But what if instead you could change the way you respond to your triggers...And turn them into opportunities to understand your thought patterns on a deeper level.In today's episode - I'm going to teach you steps to turn any trigger into an opportunity for growth.Mentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditationEmail me: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

This week, I'm continuing on from last week's episode on the most common limiting beliefs I see coming up in my client sessions!I'll be discussing the following thought patterns, how they impact our relationships, and how to challenge them! Including:Believing your worth is dependent on the way you lookGauging how much someone cares about you by how they follow your manualNeeding to be perfect to be lovableDoing something bad = Being badAND MORE!

In today's episode, I'm discussing some of the most common beliefs I see coming up time and time again for my clients.And the impact they have on our relationships.Including:Believing you cause other people's emotionsMaking rejection mean something about YOUBelieving you have to be a certain way / have a certain quality to be lovableAND MORE!PS. There were be a part 2 next week!

Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships?You either did it perfectly or you're terrible.You're a good friend or a bad friend.Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all.If so - you're not alone!Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - preferring things to fit neatly into set categories - leaving very little room for nuance or shades of grey.In today's episode I'm covering:A recent example of my own perfectionist brainHow black & white thinking impacts our relationship with ourselvesHow it impacts our relationships with othersHow it can mess with our expectations and overall enjoyment of a relationshipAnd some easy thought work hacks to take your brain to a more nuanced place!Mentioned in the episodeEmail me about coaching opportunities: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

In today's episode, I'm talking about relationships doubts and anxiety - something which is often referred to as ROCD (Relationship OCD).For many of my clients, they're in relationships with loving partners & they don't want to break up with them - BUT their brains will not let them relax.They find themselves constantly questioning 'Am I in the right relationship?' and overthinking and nit-picking everything their partner says and does.If you can relate, here's what I'm covering today:Why asking 'Am I in the 'right' relationship'? is the wrong questionThe myth of 'The One'The unreasonable relationship expectations that may be f*cking with youHow to discover what your brain is trying to keep you safe fromA process to guide yourself through a moment of doubtAND how to change the way you think about your partner's flawsMentioned in the episode:Contact Rebecca about coaching: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.comJoin my email list

When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection.And yet... sometimes humans lie!In today's episode, I'm discussing:Why humans lieThe act of self-preservation Bringing curiosity to situations - instead of black & white thinkingHow to handle conversations around lyingAnd the fear of being lied toReady?Mentioned in the episode:Spring 5 week 1:1 coaching package - email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you often find yourself thinking:'Why am I still thinking this?!''What's wrong with me!''I shouldn't STILL feel this way...'Maybe you've done the work of challenging your unhelpful thoughts, but find them still popping up and ruining your day? If you're feeling disheartened and frustrated with your brain right now - this episode is for YOU.I'm going to be covering:Why changing the way you think isn't quick and easyThe unfair expectations we have of ourselves and our brainsThe montage fallacy - and how it messes with our ideas of growth and personal developmentWhat the reality of changing your brain actually looks likeMy own journey with changing the way my brain thinksAND why changing your relationship to your brain is THE most important thing you can doMentioned in the episode:Self Esteem Building KitProcessing Emotions MeditationGet on my email list

In today's episode - I'm answering questions written in by some of you lovely listeners.We're going to cover a wide range of topics, including:Feeling guilt for things like finding other people attractiveShould I tell my partner about the work I'm doing on myself?The fear of missing a sign that you're being cheated onFeeling like you attract busy partners - and how to get your needs metHow to catch yourself before you project your insecurities Dealing with a partner with female friendsNOTE - Just because these things may not directly describe what you're struggling with, that doesn't mean the coaching won't still apply to YOUR brain.No one is going to be in your exact situation - but the fears, thought errors, and behavioural patterns will be surprisingly similar! Mentioned in the episode:Join my email list!

Do you often feel jealous in your relationships?Maybe your partner mentions a new co-worker, or a friend you're a little insecure about, or maybe you get that pit in your stomach when your best friend mentions one of their other friends...Jealousy is a normal human emotion.But it can cause so much havoc when left unchecked.In this episode we're talking about:What jealousy isHaving compassion for our jealous brainsTypes of jealousyThe biggest lies jealousy tells us How to coach your brain out of moments of jealousyAND how to deal with situations where a boundary might be being violated by your partnerMentioned in the episode:Processing Emotions MeditationJoin my email list

This episode is for anyone that's tired of feeling like a slave to their anxious brain.One of the biggest shifts for me was changing my relationship to my anxious thoughts.Most of us take our thoughts verrrrry seriously. We think the fact our brain is saying something to us MUST mean it's true. We place a lot of importance on the thoughts in our brain - and then end up ruminating, spiralling, and acting in ways we really don't love.In today's episode, I'm talking about:Why we have such unhelpful thoughtsWhy understanding the purpose of these thoughts is powerfulAnd I'm sharing practical tools for shifting into the observer of the thoughts - instead of feeling at the mercy of themMentioned in the episode:How to handle 'What if...' thoughtsQuestioning your thoughts cheat sheetI HAVE 1:1 COACHING SPOTS AVAILABLE. Email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

In today's episode, I'm talking about how knowing our core values can help guide us in and out of our relationships.We'll be covering:What values areHow yours and your partner's values may differWhether that's a problemAnd how to let your values guide you when making decisionsMentioned in the episode:James Clear's list of valuesSign up to my email listContact me: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

In today's episode, I'm interviewing one of my past clients and amazing friends - Mariah Kay. Mariah speaks openly about her journey navigating her husband's alcohol addiction and talks about how you can help your partner in their recovery.Mariah now coaches women facing the same struggles.Find her at @myhusbandsaddictionCheck out her website: https://www.mariahkaycoaching.com/

As promised - in today's episode I'm answering 6 questions from listeners on a variety of topics.Including:The fear of falling out of love with your partnerWhen to end a relationship / when to try againComparing yourself (and your life) to others Jealousy over your partner's successWhat to do when you're triggeredMentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditation

Do you feel terrified about what your partner may or may not be doing online...Here's a snippet from a question I received from a listener:"My question is about trusting someone in the digital age. It feels like more and more our devices are built for hiding things. Every social media app now seems to have a vanishing mode for deleting conversations, and every new version of an operating system offers additional “privacy” features. For someone working hard to heal their anxious attachment tendencies—including hyper vigilance—it feels exhausting! Like trouble could be lurking in every (digital) corner."Can you relate?In today's episode, I'm talking all about trust in the digital age. And covering:Is it easier to lie and hide things nowadays?What we're actually afraid ofThe beliefs that often fuel our fearsShould you be checking their phone?AND setting boundaries around online behaviour

Anyone who has ever felt anxiety in their relationships will know what it's like to feel constantly afraid. To fear what other people might be thinking of us...To fear what our partners or friends might do...To fear having to start again...To fear being alone...But I believe the antidote to fear is courage.And so in today's episode, I'm talking about:What courage isWhat loving without fear can createWhat loving courageously looks likeAnd how to cultivate more courage in your relationshipsReady? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in this episode:Processing emotions meditationMYRMD - 12 week group coaching programmeEmail me: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Ever make requests of your partner (or friend / family member) and maybe they agree to do it... but they don't really do it the way you hoped?Maybe you ask them to plan more romantic date nights - and they do for a week or so - but then they go back to their old pattern of behaviour?Or perhaps you're struggling with knowing when to compromise in your relationship - wondering if you and your partner are just too different?In today's episode I'm exploring:How there are really only 4 responses we can get to any request we makeHow to spot which response you're gettingHow to navigate each one and determine what's a dealbreakerMentioned in the episode:SIGN UP TO MASTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP MIND DRAMAEmail me - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Our brains are always constructing a narrative. We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and distort the way we think about situations in our present and what we create for our futures.But did you know that you could rewrite your entire past, simply by changing the way you think about it?Have you been cheated on...Broken up with...Made a big mistake...Struggled in dating...These events could be long gone but the story you tell yourself about them could be shaping your reality today.Tune in to learn why rewriting the story you tell about the past is important and how to get started today!Mentioned in the episode:Sign up for the Breaking Free of Codependent Thinking masterclassFind out more about my 12-week group coaching programmeWin a £100 Amazon voucher & provide some feedback!

Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now?Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark...It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the imperfect humans in our lives.But in this episode - I'm going to teach you how to take back control, think intentionally, and handle unmet expectations.Ready?Mentioned in this episode:12 week group coaching programme details and waitlistEmail Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered?Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives?If so... I've got you!This is the reminder we ALL need this time of year. Mentioned in this episode:Group coaching details

This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings.People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!'If your brain has offered a similar question...This episode is for YOU!

Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach?Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy? And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve? If so - this episode is for YOU.I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and talking about why our obsession with them isn't actually helpful.Listen to find out:Why the idea of red flags fuels anxietyWhat we're really most afraid ofHow self-certainty can be created, even in the uncertainty of relationshipsMentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditationGroup coaching programme

Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over?Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle?Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction...And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before?If so - it's time to break the cycle.And this episode will help you do just that!Mentioned in the episode:Info on 1:1 coaching - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.comLink to group coaching info - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all!But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships. Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you?Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you?Do you often blame other people for how you're feeling or for the choices you're making?If so, this episode is for YOU!In today's episode - I'm sharing some examples of codependent thinking and revealing the thought errors driving them.Mentioned in the episode:Find out more about 1:1 coaching by emailing rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us...And certain things that aren't... In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead. Mentioned in the episode:Next round of my group coaching programme - DETAILS

Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category? In today's episode, I'm talking to Emilie Leyes - expert in brain training and hypnosis - and founder of the Doddle hypnosis app.We're covering topics like:Why our brains worryWhether worry is ever productiveSome of Emilie's favourite techniques for overcoming worry and anxietyAnd how to face any worrying situation with confidence and self-certaintyFind out more about Emilie:InstagramWebsite

How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently?If it's quite a lot... you're not alone!Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier.But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward.And focusing on who YOU want to be in your relationships, regardless of what the other humans are doing.I'm covering:Why we often struggle to show up as the partners / friends we really want to beWhy owning our own behaviours is important (rather than justifying them with the actions of others)And how to step into that future version of YOUMentioned in this episode:Information on my next round of group coaching and waitlist

Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age?Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner...Buy a house...Get married...Have a child...Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are?In today's episode - I have a conversation with the amazing Kate Berski - author of 30 Phobia.And we'll be digging into:Her experience with fear and dread about turning 30Milestone myths - and the biggies we get caught up inSocietal pressures and how to handle themThe expectation gap - and how to close itAND her 4 step approach for overcoming milestone anxietyHow to find Kate:InstagramTik-TokHer website

Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you?Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned?If so - this episode is for YOU!I'm covering:Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking spaceHow to regulate your nervous system and create inner safetyHow to challenge the beliefs and thoughts creating your fearMentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditation

Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself?Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want?Then this episode is for YOU!I'm discussing:The reason why we challenge our thinkingWhen fear of leaving a relationship gets in the way of making a conscious decisionHow the first thought your brain offers you isn't the ultimate 'true' thoughtInterested in 1:1 coaching?Email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel?Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions?Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions?If so - this episode is for YOU!Don't forget to leave a review or a rating if you found this episode useful!

Today I'm sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded.Do you struggle with trusting your partner? Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!Then this episode is for you.We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF. 

Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships.If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU.I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing.Ready? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in this episode:MYFR - 8 week coaching programme - INFOMYFR - SIGN UP NOW

When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts...- What if they break up with me?- What if they're mad at me?- What if they're lying to me?- What if they leave me?... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions.In today's episode, I'm talking about:Why rejection seems so terrifyingWhat we're actually afraid ofHow dirty pain is the cause of a lot of our sufferingAND how to overcome your fears and feel confident and secureReady? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in the episode:Sign up to the FREE master class: How to become rejection proofInformation on the 8-week group coaching programme: Master Your Fear of Rejection

Do you tend to take things personally?Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable?Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts?Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good?If so - you likely have a fear of rejection.And in today's episode, I'm sharing 7 symptoms of fear of rejection and how each of them f*cks with our relationships.Mentioned in the episode:How to become rejection proof - FREE master classMaster Your Fear of Rejection - 8 week group coaching programme

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?In today's episode, I'm talking about:Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughtsAnd the two key components to creating unshakable confidence Mentioned in this episode:Self Esteem Building Kit

When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism? Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'? When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up?With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar experience of noticing increasing pressure from my brain to look and be 'good enough'. And in today's episode, I share 4 steps for overcoming these thought patterns and getting out of the 'good enough' trap. Mentioned in this episode:The Self Esteem Building Kit

There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs.But how do we actually go about asking for what we want? In this episode, I'm discussing:What do we really mean by 'need'?Why we often don't just ask for what we wantWhy need entitlement causes issues in relationshipsHow to see needs as a collaboration How to meet your own needs when your partner can'tReady?Mentioned in this episode:Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones?Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug to avoid conflict?Or maybe you do bring up issues, but you do it in a way that doesn't tend to result in connection...Then this episode is for YOU!I'm going to talk you through some key steps for cleaning up your own mind before difficult conversations and some practical tips for showing up as your best self. AND how to make the conversation a SUCCESS - regardless of their response.Mentioned in the episode:Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you?Whether your partner loves you as much as you love them...Or whether your friends feel as close to you as you do to them...If so - this episode is for YOU!We're going to talk about:Why answering the question isn't cut and dry Why we're so obsessed with it in the first placeA better question to focus on in your relationships insteadMentioned in the episode:Self Esteem Building Kit

Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life?Your partner, your friends, your family members...Feeling frustrated and negative about the ways they show up or the things they do / don't do?Our brains' habit of criticizing can cause so much unnecessary disconnection in our relationships.Tune into this episode to find out WHY we're doing it and useful tips for how to stop.Mentioned in the episode:Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

In this episode, I chat with the lovely Sarah Siegert - Expat Friendship Coach, on all things FRIENDSHIP.We talk about:The manuals and expectations we have of our friendsFriendship breakupsWhen friendships change due to life circumstancesMaking new friends as an adultWhy it's really all about our thoughts about ourselvesMentioned in this episode:1:1 coaching - Email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!We're going to cover:Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they're not physically with usCompromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will lookManaging your anxious brain and processing your emotionsThe fears that often come up in long distance relationshipsFeeling pressure for the time you spend together to be perfectAND how you can feel connected to your partner, even when they're not around or in contactReady? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditationQuestioning your thoughts cheat sheet