Sex at Every Size

This week in fatphobia we're talking about Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos who've recently discussed how they keep the spark alive while filming in different locations. There's some fatphobic undertones that we discuss. Personally, Cassie is a big fan of Kelly Ripa, but it's important to recognize problematic patterns even when people we like are perpetuating them. Our listener question is from a woman in a relationship with a woman this week and it's about how to handle differing sexual desires regarding length of time spent and the activity menu. Then we have wins of the week where Cassie talks about her love affair with America's government teacher, Sharon McMahon (@SharonSaysSo). Sharon recently discussed banned books and used examples of porn without backing down from her stance that censorship is bad. We encourage anyone who lives in the US to pay attention to what's going on with local public libraries and school districts in your area! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesThis Week in Fatphobia:Kelly Ripa & Mark ConsuelosPatreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're talking about Gwyneth Paltrow's terrible podcast interview with Dr. Will Cole. We also chat briefly about our childhood favorite, Gilmore Girls and the appalling amount of fatphobia in it. We're skipping a listener question this week because I'm still exhausted from last week's question. Then we have wins of the week where we talk about CBS's Survivor and the changes they have made over time in order to keep up with the changing social landscape of its audience.  Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesThis Week in Fatphobia:Maintenance Phase Elizabeth Taylor Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're talking about The Blue Zone Diet. What is a “Blue Zone” and why is boiling down a way of eating as a path towards health problematic? We got on an excellent tangent about Christianity, capitalism, and other societal structures which work together to keep us from communal living. We're answering a listener question about desire discrepancy between a cis/het male partner and a cis/her female partner and breaking down the mythology around men having inherently high sex drives. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie talks about finding the ice box in her mini fridge like a dork and Hailey talks about a fun parenting learning opportunity.  Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesThis Week in Fatphobia:Blue Zones CNN Blue Zone article Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're talking about the new American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines on treating children in larger bodies. As a little pallette cleanser we're offering a review of That 90's Show. We talk about how they handle sexuality and fat characters. We're not having a listener question this week since we have so much to go through with the AAP guidelines.Then we have wins of the week! Cassie talks about an ad on Dear Hank and John that Hank Green recorded where he very delicately talked about resolutions while avoiding leaning into diet culture. Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesThis Week in Fatphobia:American Academy of Pediatrics Guidelines The Daily by the New York Times Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're talking about an article from the New York Post titled Bye Bye Booty: Heroin chic is back. It's bad enough for a fashion trend to be named after a drug, but to boil bodies down to trends as though we should be treating our bodies as accessories is just.. Gross and dangerous.Our listener question this week is from a cis/het couple who's feeling disconnected after years of a intense work hours which have recently shifted and how that's impacting their sex life currently. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie's 6 year old kid is trying out basketball and helped her through her anxiety about it! Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesThis Week in Fatphobia:New York Post  Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're talking about a new report out from The New York Times on Diabetes prevention where they actually cited the environmental and life factors as necessary to preventing the disease! Our listener question this week is from a cis/het couple who's feeling like they're not getting what they signed up for in their intimate relationships. We talk about the concept of aftercare, altered circumstances, as well as communication. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie tells a funny sex story about her partner being obnoxious. Then Hailey shares a story about her realtor friend who caught a house painter having sex in a house during a showing. We'll be expecting follow ups on this story. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesDiabetes Prevention Article:New York Times  Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're diving into a review of Disney's new short Reflect. The short is about a fat ballerina and we have a lot of thoughts and feelings about this one!Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her cis-male partner's discomfort with “plastic dicks”. We break down how to determine core values around sex and sexuality in relationships and once again encourage communication in order to establish boundaries!Then we have wins of the week! Cassie's win is about working with her son through preschool drop offs to get him to be less aggressive during those times which leads into a conversation about raising our boys to be gentle and loving the same way we do with our daughters. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesReflect:https://www.npr.org/2022/10/29/1132360615/disney-plus-sized-heroine-bianca-reflect  Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we've gotta talk about Taylor Swift. She had some pretty blatant fatphobia in her video released for the song Anti Hero. We talk about how she's changed the video to remove the most blatant imagery, and discuss whether we think that was enough to address the mistake. Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her cis-male partner. It's something we found on a Facebook page that we felt really allowed us to have a nuanced discussion around porn. We've tried to talk about porn on the pod in the past and that tends to be a hot-button issue for folks, so we're hoping this brings in more layers to the ongoing conversation. Then we have wins of the week! Hailey's win this week is that she cleaned the dust off all of the fans in her house & programmed her car to open her garage! Cassie's win this week is about cleaning too! Her house is clean and she's dedicated to keeping it clean and has been making a solid effort daily to keep clutter from piling up. For a bonus win Cassie talks about her ADHD and progress she's making to stay focused!Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesOfficial Taylor Swift Anti-Hero video:https://youtu.be/b1kbLwvqugk  Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we're doing a solo episode with Cassie! I'm going through some of the perks that come with being a member on Patreon. The bulk of the episode goes through a blog post available to Patreon subscribers about ADHD & Eating for Stimulation. I offer commentary along the way and hope you'll learn something both about the subject matter as well as how you can advocate against fatphobia in the way you discuss eating behaviors. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesHealthline Article:ADHD & Eating For Stimulation Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're talking about Kanye West's recent interview with Tucker Carlson. In the interview he uses Lizzo's body/weight to criticize the cultural move towards body & fat acceptance. Of course, he does this Ye style by getting really conspiracy theorist with it. We break down the phrasing he uses and the claims he makes highlighting the misogyny and fatphobia within them. Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her partner shaming her for needing/wanting to use a vibrator. We discuss the cultural expectations around orgasms and who gets to have them. We give some pointers for how this conversation could be opened up for discussion. Then we have wins of the week! Our win this week is a combined win about our sister reaching out for help in how to talk to her 8 year old son about sex and bodies because he's expressed some curiosity. This conversation is a great one if you have kids especially. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesYe on Tucker Carlson:https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRurrgHw/  Vulva Book:www.thevulvagallery.comLet's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, and Respecthttps://www.amazon.com/Lets-About-Boundaries-Consent-Respect/dp/1925089185 It's Not the Stork!It's Not the Stork! BookGenderbreak Personhttps://www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2018/10/the-genderbread-person-v4/  Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're talking about Bryce Dallas Howard's role in the new Jurassic World movie and the interview she gave where she discussed being asked to lose weight for her role in this third installment of the franchise. DeWanda Wise also discussed her body being criticized for being too muscular and it just goes to show that there's no right way for a woman to be in Hollywood. We have some excellent tangents this episode! The include: why Hailey doesn't read romance novels when she clearly should and TikTok Toilet Time. Gotta listen to find out what that's about!Our question this week is about being tense about the prospect of sex and also how to enjoy the sex you're having without upsetting your partner for “doing it wrong”. We do some educating here around vulvas and clitorises and how they're all delicate little snowflakes that show up with different needs on any given day. A lot of this comes down to helping people game plan some ways to talk about this if you're struggling with anything similar!Then we have wins of the week! Hailey is really loving her job these days and feels really good about working for a company that aligns with her values so well. Cassie has figured out using noise canceling earbuds in the car with her kids! Safety + sanity!Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesBryce Dallas Howard:Jurassic World Interview      Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

This week we're talking about fatphobia in children's media. Hailey talks about a TikTok making the rounds where the humor is partially reliant on the child's body size. Cassie talks about Inside Out and how the characters' bodies seem to be a part of their characterization as well. Our question this week is about being in a new relationship with someone and figuring out the right time to introduce some of your kinkier ways. We also touch on the hows and whys of getting into something that you'd never really thought about doing sexually. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie grew pumpkins! Hailey and her ADHD have a new planner and daily task system they're using to stay on track with work! Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesInside Out:Wikipedia     Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

This week we're doing a deep dive on Aries Spears' follow-up comments on the fatphobic crap he said about Lizzo. We're calling out all the -isms we see pop up in his commentary and also pointing out the way that these types of comments contribute to patriarchy and domestic violence on a macro level.Highlights:“What is wrong with holding people accountable!?”“Oh so, we're supposed to fuck you for your money, but we're also gold-diggers and leaches..”These interviews do get progressively worse as they go on, so while we do keep things light where possible, take care if you need to not hear this kind of thing. Then we have wins of the week! Hailey talks about wins with her job! Cassie is super excited that the Michigan Supreme Court has ruled that they will vote on the constitutional amendment to codify abortion rights in that state this November!Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesAries Spears:Part 1Part 2Part 3Part 4Part 5     Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

In This Week in Pop-Culture we're talking about Lizzo and.. whatever the hell his name is? Aries Spears? He did an interview where he said some heinous crap about her appearance and was wildly fatphobic. We break down the different ways that even the interviewer participates in this. We talk about the unique ways that fatphobia impacts women vs men and especially women of color. Our listener question this week is from a woman who's annoyed with her partner for making sex jokes and innuendo as a way to initiate sex. We talk about how to communicate better about this and we give lots of examples. We also play devil's advocate a bit in trying to interpret the meaning behind the behavior to give a different perspective!Then we have wins of the week! Cassie talks about their little sister's hilarious terms and conditions for a threesome. Hailey is tapped out because we have extended family stressors this week. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesAries Spears:Original Interview Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

In This Week in Pop-Culture we're talking about modern body positivity on the social internet from straight sized influencers. Victoria Garrick is a body positive influencer who posted a video recently showing how videos can be photoshopped as easily as photos can be. While this is wildly valuable information, we're not convinced it doesn't also hit the same parts of your psyche that are impacted by before and after photos which we've ranted about before. Our listener question this week is from a cis woman who's asking about how to handle a partner who is fully engulfed in diet culture and is feeling some negative effects on her relationship because of it. We discuss the ways you can address these issues with your partner and give some pros and cons of just dumping him. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie is talking about Southwest Airlines and their extra seat policy. Hailey's win is about playing kickball as a family! Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesVictoria Garrick:TikTokYahoo  Southwest Airlines:Extra Seat PolicyBlog Post Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

In This Week in Pop-Culture we're talking about a CNN article titled Is Losing Weight an Important Health Goal? This article is a part of a larger series on disordered eating and diet culture. We break down some quotes from medical professionals used within the article and consider the validity of those statements.We go on a bit of a tangent about capitalism, “quiet-quitting”, and the idea that “people just don't want to work anymore”. Our listener question this week is from a 29 year old cis woman trying to navigate a sexual relationship with her partner now that they are co-habitating. Highlighted topics are: responsive desire vs spontaneous desire, navigating turn ons AND turn offs, & mindfulness during sex. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie is bringing a Reel from Instagram where a fat activist provides some tips on how to make requests of the FAA regarding seat size on airplanes. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for Resources:Bri Campos@BodyImageWithBriCNN article:How Important is Weight Loss for Health? Instagram Reel:Some Practical Advocacy Tips! Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

In This Week in Pop-Culture we're talking about Melanie Lynski who played Rose from Two and a Half Men. She did a recent interview talking about what Hollywood life was like for her early on in her career in terms of fatphobia and body image. We bring it full circle by drawing attention to the ways that the entertainment industry has changed to be more inclusive.Our listener question this week is from a 33 year old woman about how to overcome negative body image in order to enjoy sex. We go over some tips for how to combat those negative thoughts including confronting any fatphobia you may still have lingering around. We've got a tangent in there about period sex and how it's defined. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie found a research article that debunks the myth that kids “become trans” via “social contagion”. AND Kansans stopped the Amendment at the 8/2/2022 primary election and the right to abortion remains in the state constitution!Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for Resources:Melanie LynskiBody Shaming ArticleYellowjackets (2021) Official Trailer | SHOWTIME Research Debunking Transphobic Justifications:New Study Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

CW: There are a couple mentions of SA in this episode.In This Week in Pop-Culture we're talking about that jackass Matt Gaetz. Matt Gaetz is a US House Rep from Florida who responded to the backlash following the repeal of Roe v Wade by saying that the people who are fighting for abortion rights are mostly fat and unfuckable. He called out a woman on Twitter who then raised hundreds of thousands of dollars in his name to donate to various abortion funds. Our listener question this week is from a 29 year old woman about her cis/het couple who is struggling with sexual compatibility and negotiating the kind of sex they want to be having and figuring out what you want sexually in the first place. We have some great vegetable metaphors mixed in there. Then we have wins of the week! Hailey recently discovered that when you put two fingers on your computer touchpad and move up and down, it scrolls the whole page really smoothly. This also blew Cassie's mind as well. Enjoy the tip!Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for Resources:Matt GaetzVanity Fair ArticleYahoo Article  Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

This week's episode is a solo episode. Cassie dives into a series of points on the benefits of reading romance novels. We've talked about it on the podcast before and now you're getting an exclusive look at the random thoughts she's working on cobbling together into a cohesive essay for her blog.Some of the highlights include: using romance to increase your desire for sex, increasing your awareness of the nuances within your own sexual fantasies, and thinking critically about how to balance core values with your sexuality. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeIG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

In This Week in Pop-Culture we're breaking down a story about a water park ride that turned down a young girl due to weight limitations and her father going to the media about it. We use the segment to discuss how we can use personal harms like this to advocate for larger systemic changes towards weight inclusion.  Our listener question this week is about sexual compatibility within a long-term partnership. We talk about how its unreasonable to expect yourself to have spontaneous desire before every sexual encounter and what you can do to make peace with responsive desire instead.Then we have wins of the week! Hailey had a staff appreciation party and had a blast with a bunch of other adults throwing water balloons at each other. Then Cassie found out that Icing is still a store and they have all the nostalgic accessories there! Plus Cassie took her 3 year old to a town hall event for a US Senate candidate!Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for Resources:Raging Waters Ride Weight LimitWater Park ArticleIcingGet your nostaligia fix here!^not sponsoredPatreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

In This Week in Pop-Culture we're breaking down how two different celebrities handle being asked to do better. Both Lizzo and Bette Midler have had a misstep recently and we talk about how each of these were handled differently and who did it well. Our listener question this week is about how to navigate living in “the lifestyle” with adult children who may or may not cross paths with you and also tiptoes into a discussion on various kinds of consent. Then we have wins of the week! We're still feeling a little bit heavy about the Supreme Court being supremely shitty, so Cassie takes this segment as an opportunity to further discuss “cancel culture” vs “call-out culture” and how we can make change as society without getting stuck in this constant battle to shame one another for advocating for that change in different ways.Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for Resources:LizzoLizzo Ableist Lyric ApologyBette Midler Bette Midler Transphobic "Apology"Joy Beharhttps://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-d&q=joy+behar Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

This week we're sick of articles about celebrities abdominals, so we're breaking down a shitty new fad diet so you don't get duped by it! We go over their faulty logic and sketchy claims as well as their co-opting of anti-diet language and inclusive imagery in order to trick you into thinking it's not really a diet. Our listener question this week is about helping a male partner feel more excited about your sex life. We talk about how to prioritize your sex life in a long term relationship and how each partner has to take ownership of the sex life you share. Tangents include: losing our credibility by not understanding the size and appropriate unit of measurement for a mouse and how to raise our kids to have a healthy relationship with sexuality. Then we have wins of the week! Except this week there are no wins because we recorded this after Roe V Wade was overturned and female sexuality is being controlled and stigmatized all around. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeEpisode highlights:“Hey it's not your fault, but here's a bunch of shit for you to do anyway.”Links for Resources:Link to my Google docs with letter templates for writing to your congresspeople:Contacting CongresspeoplePatreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

This week we're introducing a new segment called We Read the Comments So You Don't Have To! We came across a Yahoo article about Sarah Nicole Landry of The Birds Papaya and went down the rabbit hole of reading the comments. We break down a couple of comments and find the cultural/societal/social constructs that are embedded within them. Our listener question this week is about having a new partner who's not into post-sex snuggling. We talk about logistics and communication around this issue as well as compromising to get needs met within relationships.Then we have wins of the week! Hailey's friend mentioned wanting to lose weight and she brushed right past it in avoidance but her partner handled it like a real anti-diet champ! Cassie's win is about the Patreon perk stickers we ordered! Go to our Patreon page or her Instagram to take a peek and get your own!Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeEpisode highlights:“Some people might not even feel comfortable touching that part of their bodies.”“If you actually wanted people to be more healthy, you would stop trolling them for being fat.”“We live in a world where we don't make it comfortable for a fat person to exercise.”Links for Resources:Sarah Nicole Landry Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

This week Hailey's telling us a story about her work as a registered dietician where she was asked to perpetuate fatphobia and how she managed the situation without having to do that! We also talk about James Patterson's recent reverse racism yikes moment. Our listener question this week is talking about if and when it's ever okay to get divorced over an unsatisfying sex life. It turns into a conversation about being loved the way you want to be loved. We talk about how people can really misinterpret the needs of their partners in order to feel loved.Then we have wins of the week! Cassie just found out about the new Disney movie Lightyear! We talk a little about feeling grateful that one of our favorite classics is trying to do the right thing by bringing diversity to the casting and storylines. Tangents include: Book-Twitter takes a crappy moment and makes it funny, Gweneth Paltrow pops up again, and the definition of a core vs. side tangent. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeEpisode highlights:“If you've lived that long, it's not a fucking mystery to you what your body looks like!” “It's a tangent always on the side?”Links for Resources:James Patterson Whoopsie Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

This week Hailey's asking Cassie about childhood sexual development which turns into a great discussion on not equating pleasure to orgasms only. Our listener question this week is about neurodivergence, fat sex, and long-term partnerships with mismatched desire. Check out the links below for some resources to improving sex in fat bodies. We also talk a lot about how to find a sex therapist for you. Then we have wins of the week! Hailey's is about learning how to communicate really well and Cassie's is about a woman winning a court case holding her sexual partner accountable through his car insurance for knowingly infecting her with HPV. Tangents include: How to find a sex therapist. Improving your sex life on your own even if you're in a relationship. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeEpisode highlights:“I'm just the kind of a person that gets really excited anytime you can stick it to an insurance company.” Links for Resources:Accessibly Sex Devices:Extra Long Handled Vibrator Penis Sleeve/ExtendersWedge Pillow Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

There's a new Top Gun movie and we have thoughts.. starting with the fact that we have no idea what the theme, setting, or plot of this movie is. We talk about how the original female love-interest has been swapped for another actress and the cultural implications of this casting decision. Our listener question this week is about carrying the mental load in long term relationships, obligatory sex, and we even give a few pro-tips on giving oral sex to a penis owning partner!  Then we have wins of the week! Cassie's win this week is about her kid's foul mouth again. Hailey's win is about feeding a toddler without all the food weirdness we got as kids. Tangents include: Rant about Tom Cruise and the proper way to fold towels. Also an unintentional oral sex pun. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeEpisode highlights:“It's not a great face.” “If that's the case, yeah your jaw does hurt.”“That's how I talk about getting an oil change.”“That wasn't intentional..”Links for Resources:Top Gun Maverick:https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/why-kelly-mcgillis-isn-t-174010220.htmlhttps://money.yahoo.com/why-tom-cruises-love-interest-213851071.htmlPatreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we remind Hailey that Jessica Simpson is still a thing! Jessica Simpson has been making waves on Instagram over some saucy photos of her body. We point out the ways in which her trainer's plan is a repackaging of Health at Every Size in order to perpetuate diet culture. Our listener question this week is about being afraid of sex. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie's win this week is about going to Physical Therapy and Hailey signed up for a half-marathon!Tangents include: The impact of faith on sexuality, capitalism and productivity culture, the importance of community and human connection. Our Patreon page is also live now! We would love the support!Episode highlights:“Why is it always centered around your thinness?” “We're not attacking the person.”“It's not a mystery to anyone why bodies are getting larger throughout the lifetime.”“Why are we even researching this!?”“We're expected to do more work with no extra time and not enough more money to live in a way that would afford all the things that Jessica Simpson has available to her.”“They'd be horrified because we're wearing pants.”“I'm also not a person who believes that you have to leave you faith tradition to have good sex.”Links for Resources:Jessica Simpson:https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/jessica-simpson-zebra-print-swimsuit-170859863.htmlEvident 3 Study:Lugones-Sanchez, Cristina; Recio-Rodriguez, Jose I; Agudo-Conde, Cristina; Repiso-Gento, Irene; Adalia, Esther G; et al. Journal of Medical Internet Research; Toronto (Feb 2022): e 30416. DOI:10.2196/30416Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

We are unfortunately talking about Sports Illustrated again! Yumi Nu is one of the cover models for the 2022 swimsuit edition. We talk about the importance of representation and we break down some of the history behind Sports Illustrated and the ripple effect it can have on our culture as a whole. Instead of a listener question this week Cassie is asking Hailey a question about her job as a Registered Dietitian. Hailey goes on to break down how she works as a dietitian without perpetuating diet culture and fatphobia. Cassie crushes Hailey's win of the week. Cassie got some overalls! Our Patreon page is also live now! We would love the support!Episode highlights:“Cassie is the mitochondria of this podcast.”“I did a deep dive into the Wikipedia page so I'm basically an expert now.”“Her leg looks like my leg! My leg has dimples like that!”“These women, their boobs, they do normal boob things!”“He's trying to talk about everyone coming after him, when he literally started a shitshow about her.”“Mickey Mouse credentialing!”“Where do these people get the audacity and then where do they store it all!?”“I'm sorry that I crushed your soul and your win of the week.”Links for Resources:Sports Illustrated:Hunter McGrady Sports IllustratedNatalie Mariduena Sports IllustratedYumi Nu Sports Illustrated CoverJordan Peterson:Maintenance Phase JP Pt. 1Maintenance Phase JP Pt. 2  Jordan Peterson NY Post Help A Reporter Out:HARO Target Ava & Viv Overalls:Target Ava & Viv Overalls Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/sexateverysize IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care resident s in skilled nursing facilities.Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

We're talking about c-section scars in Sports Illustrated this week. We had a discussion on the importance of representation for all different kinds of bodies in the media.Our listener question this week is about insecurity in sexual relationships. We go into the differences in individual sexuality and partnered sexuality. We give some ideas about how to communicate feelings of insecurity without making accusations. We also touch on the concepts of attraction and the role of porn in sexuality. Then we talk about the barriers that can be involved with insecurities and contribute to low desire for partnered sex.  Cassie's win this week is the book Fat & Queer being awarded the “Book for General Audiences” recognition for 2022 from the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Episode highlights:“Was the interpreter my mother-in-law?”“I learned to shave without looking, bitch.”“She doesn't even have the pooch!”“Having a baby isn't an achievement.”“If we could just stop promoting this one kind of body as the ideal for sexuality, that would be great.”“I don't think it's going to leave people being like, ‘wow that's what I might look like if I have a c-section one day'.”“I am having a genital response to this, and I never want to watch this again.”“I need the weird.”“Why do you have to have boundaries!?”“I know that I am in the wrong right now, but–”“He doesn't just have eyeballs when he's staring at his phone.”“I like bread, but I also like cheese”“We don't always need things to be fixed, sometimes you just need validation.”Links for Resources:Sports Illustrated C-Section Scar Model Photohttps://news.yahoo.com/sports-illustrated-swimsuit-debuts-first-110423783.html -Fat & Queer Anthology:https://www.fatandqueer.com/IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we're talking about Kim K's Met Gala crash diet and Lili Reinhart's response to it. Then we dive into the episode of Survivor that aired on 5/4/2022. There was a powerful discussion on race that happened in the episode and we felt compelled to share it from our white lady lens in case it might be helpful to you on your anti-racist journey! There are some spoilers mentioned, so if you're not caught up, skip ahead a bit!Our listener question this week is about how to break out of the cycle of what feels like “obligatory sex” in a long term heterosexual relationship. Our win of the week section got hijacked by the Supreme Court's leaked draft. BUT–don't despair, Cassie gives some actionable steps you can take to help the situation and ideally feel like you're not just watching this hell-scape we're living in go up in smoke entirely. Episode highlights:“I kind of like the idea of not using her name.”“Does Kim really need anymore going on right now? No. But does she put herself in these situations? Yeah.”“We're asking her to stop with this really harmful diet culture talk 24/7.”“She has the right to do these things to her body.”“When people are hungry they don't have the most sound judgment.”“It's very easy to have a heart for someone that is mentally ill so visibly, but that's not the only issue.”“One, ew, can we stop with the virgin thing?”“It's not fucking about you!”“My white lady feels”“This is about being aware of the way that the world works for people that aren't like you.”“Where's the fucking fun?”Links for Resources:Kim K & Lili Reinharthttps://pagesix.com/2022/05/04/lili-reinhart-slams-kim-kardashian-over-met-gala-2022-diet/Find your US Senators:https://www.senate.gov/senators/senators-contact.htmFind your US Representatives:https://www.house.gov/representatives/find-your-representativeIG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we're talking about an episode of the new season of The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel and refuting the tired old trope that fat women aren't sexually attractive. We also touch on how we're trying to move away from the black and white thinking of tossing off everything that is problematic in one way or another. Yes, this show portrays fatphobia. Yes, that is problematic. However, the show also does a wonderful job of tackling issues of racism and feminism. Then we answer a listener question about fetishes and break down how to work on incorporating aspects of a fetish into your partnered sex life. If fetishes aren't your thing, you might want to stick around anyway because we talk about a lot of things that can be applied more generally to improving your sexual experiences!We also talk about the role of “movement” in our own lives and how we're working to break free of the demands of our smart watches.. Episode highlights:“Uhhh, because people love the fat kid story. There's nothing more than what a standard American loves than a fat kid who overcame being fat.” “Recognize that your erection isn't the number one most important thing to having a sexual and enjoyable sexual experience for you partner.”“Whatever we do, we need to stop putting so much pressure on our partners to have their bodies behave exactly as we're expecting.”“I'm just curious, how was your sex life before this “failed attempt”?”“We have to find a way to get you more into your body during the experience.”“What makes you actually feel present in your body?”“Most people don't jump to penetrative sex immediately.”“The sex that you have in the beginning of your relationship is almost always different.”“Stop panicking about your erection.”“Sometimes you will have a partner who isn't as cool as your wife.”“Don't have an assumed boundary!”“Whatever the boundaries are, I don't care, just make sure they're clear!”Links for Resources:The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel Watch from about 25 seconds through 1 min 30 secondshttps://youtu.be/MAy6FnwjzjMKate Smithhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kate_SmithLena Hornehttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lena_HorneIG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we're breaking down a quote a friend of Hailey's sent in about “eating addiction” highlighting some of the finer points of how diet culture and fatphobia spread from one context to the greater culture as a whole.We answer a listener question about sexual compatibility within a marriage and try to work through some different ways this can be worked through. Sexual awakening post-purity culture is a theme throughout as well. We also talk about the woes of smart watches and determining whether or not it is a part of the problem of diet culture at large. Episode highlights:“Maybe the problem is that you live in diet culture.” “Either you feel good, or you're shameful.”“But shame and regret are the same thing that sent you to the chip bag in the first place!” “It's not an addiction, but there's a reason that it's happening.”“2012 feminism probably had a lot more problematic parts to it than 2021 feminism.”“Your sexuality isn't a light switch that you get to turn on the day you get married.”“They did ya dirty, man, they really did.”Links for Resources:Caitlyn Moran How to Be a Womanhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Be_a_WomanI'm Learning How to Rethink My Binge Eating Habits - Lindsay Rae Brownhttps://medium.com/illumination/im-learning-how-to-rethink-my-binge-eating-habits-7ac7d6507adeIG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we're talking about Amanda Lee, the TikTok creator who posted about her experience with a fatphobic gastrointestinal medical specialist. We break down the incident that happened to her as well as the problematic way that her interview for The Today Show was framed. We answer a listener question about a couple who takes a break, then chooses to get back together and has some resentment leftover.  Stay until the end where Hailey talks about how she discovered the modern medical marvel of cough drops. Episode highlights:“How bad must it be for the people who are more marginalized than her.”“I'm ready to be at a point where people are going to take this shit seriously.”“Absolutely gender bias is a real thing, but…”“Not only is it dismissive to all fat people, but it's dismissive to what happened to Amanda.”“We're clearly not in a society yet that is willing to have empathy for fat people.”“You shouldn't have to have cancer for this to matter.”“Why do we need a mental health diagnosis for fat people?”“No, stress causes fatness, you dumbass.”“She shouldn't have to have a cancer diagnosis to get invited to do this interview.”“It doesn't matter what label we put on it, this is a thing that broke trust in the relationship.”“I understand how you could get 2 years into a crappy situation and still be there because of extenuating circumstances.”“I'm not going to be permissive to the guy who told you that you were ‘cuntsplaining'.”“I thought cough drops were a scam … my whole world has changed.”Links for Resources:Amanda Lee TikTok Video:https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMd5QG5YY/Woman, 27, Body Shamed by Doctor who Dismissed Her Pain, Later Diagnosed with Stage 3 Cancer:https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/woman-27-body-shamed-doctor-194139681.htmlWilling to be Wrong with Dr. Joshua Wolrich:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/3-amanda-lee-medical-weight-stigma-history-bmi-why/id1555417267?i=1000512892912IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

CONTENT WARNING: at about 24 minutes we talk a bit about childhood sexual abuse. Skip ahead about 2.5 minutes if you need to not hear about that. There is another brief mention at 29:30 that lasts about 90 seconds.This week we're talking about the importance of identifying behaviors that people engage in versus the diseases they may or may not have. Instead of a listener question, we're talking about an article about sex education where we break down the ways that good sex education can be made into an inflammatory article. Around 27 minutes it sounded like transgender people and people who do drag were being conflated with one another. We want to be really clear that these are two different things. People who do drag are not transgender and transgender people are not doing drag. Those are two different things that may overlap, but do NOT always.Episode highlights:“Depressed people aren't choosing to be depressed just like no one chooses to be fat. If we could all win the genetic lottery we would all absolutely choose that.”“We need to feel safe and not angry all the time”“It's hard enough to just live life and try not to be angry all the time.”“An all-you-can-eat buffet can still nourish and sustain you.”“It says good shit.”“I just can't wait until we're not doing that anymore.”“For the record, I'm the OG Gossip Girl fan because I read the books.”“So, basically, I've always been interested in sex.”“Tell me more, is there more sexy things in this..?”“It was appropriate…” “--apparently it's not”“But you're gonna keep doing it because it feels good.”“We can go down that road, but it's going to be a really long episode.”“Having that tiny piece of information could reduce so much shame.”Links for Resources:How to Rearrange Your Post-Pandemic ‘Friendscape'https://www.nytimes.com/2021/06/01/well/family/curate-friends.htmlDalton Parents Enraged Over Masturbation Videos for 1st Gradershttps://nypost.com/2021/05/29/dalton-parents-enraged-over-masturbation-videos-for-1st-graders/Amaze Parentshttps://amaze.org/parents/IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

We're breaking down the differences between body positivity & and fat-activism this week.  We ask the all important question: are we obligated to speak out about injustices when they happen in order to be a good steward of the social internet?We also tackle a listener question about growing up in purity culture and how it has impacted their sexuality into adulthood and marriage. We discuss how religion doesn't have to be all or nothing and how we get to decide which values align for us.Episode highlights:“Please don't promote diet culture, that's the bare minimum of body positivity and fat-activism.”“It's sort of like ‘I'm sad because people think I'm unf*ckable' and that's not oppression.”“First of all--people will f*ck you.”“I'm not saying that a thin person with stretchmarks doesn't deserve to have good self-esteem”“It's hard for me to imagine someone making their livelihood off of [fighting] diet culture and not making a space for fat activism in that.”“I don't think she's an asshole, I just think she can do better.”“I would love to be an activist for everything, but I have a day job. Capitalism doesn't allow us to do that.”“When you think about talking to your kids, think about what messages would have been really good for you to hear.”“There's research shows that the best way to make kids safer with sex is by telling them about sex.”“I just want people to not be in religions that are harming them and I just want people to choose their beliefs for themselves.”Links for Resources:Caroline DoonerInstagram: @thefuckitdiethttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-f-ck-it-diet-basics/id1084208738?i=1000372607404Tina Schermer SellersSex, God, and the Conservative Churchhttps://www.tinaschermersellers.com/booksKristin B. HodsonLDS Sex Educator and Therapist@kristinbhodsonhttps://www.kbhconnect.com/Tiffany RoeUtah Therapist - works with clients questioning faith@heytiffanyroehttps://www.tiffanyroe.com/Clitoris 3D Printed Model:AfterDark3Dhttps://www.etsy.com/listing/795941045/clitoris-model-full-size-anatomical-clit?ref=shop_home_feat_4&bes=1IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

We honestly cannot believe that we got this far into the pod before highlighting Hank & John Green in a whole segment, but fear not, this episode is the one! Hank posted some great videos on TikTok highlighting the strange way we look at “health” with regards to food and we break that down this week. Then on their podcast, Dear Hank and John, John talked about how focusing on the nutritional value of food has never been helpful for his mental health and we fell in love all over again. We briefly touch on Cassie's time working in child welfare and the intersection between that work and the moralism of food and health. We answer a question about a long term relationship where the partners disagree about the root cause of their disconnection and explore themes of gaslighting, communication, and codependency. We also give out some advice on how to find the right therapist for you!Episode highlights:“He's such a good human--he's like the best white guy I know.”“We're not numbers people, so much.”“We do not need that level of specificity, if this is about health.”“Anytime someone announces they're pregnant, my first thought is ‘oh god, please don't f*ck up this kid.'”Links for Resources:Hank & John Greenhttps://vm.tiktok.com/ZMeGDyfEr/https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMeGDAfvW/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-hank-john/id1002937870Juice Box Ithttps://www.juiceboxit.com/IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we talk about Will Smith's new “health & fitness” journey *eyeroll*. We dig into the idea of “discipline” and how we tie that to the morality of body size and healthism. Then we break down the phrase “out of shape” and try to decide how we feel about the message it conveys. Special tangents featuring Jonah Hill and Lizzo. In our listener question segment has us tackling some questions from folks about pornography and why “sex addiction” is not a phrase you'll hear us using much. We also talk a little about how you might navigate porn exposure with the youths. Episode highlights:“I hate myself.. And you a little bit.”“So you're like a normal human, cool.”“Bro eat the fuckin' muffin any time of the day that you want to.”“The way your body looks does not equal how disciplined you are.”“We don't really do solutions here, we just have ideas, okay?”“And this is something we're going to do every week--talk about how old Cassie feels because of the age of celebrities.”“Of course you want to be thin--it's winning the social lottery!”“Take that fat body and do all the things you want to do anyway, because if you're waiting for our culture to say it's okay, they're never going to, so do it anyway.”“It's complicated--not an addiction though.”“If you're not prepared to have conversations with your kids about BDSM porn, then don't have kids.”“Parents can not want their kids watching porn and still talk to them about it.”“There's a difference between choosing [porn and masturbation] instead of partnered sex & having that in addition to [partnered sex].”Links for Resources:Will Smithhttps://www.menshealth.com/fitness/a36371768/will-smith-day-one-gym-photo-instagram/https://www.menshealth.com/entertainment/a36320539/will-smith-shirtless-photo-weight-gain/IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCAbout the hosts:Cassie Willnauer, MA, LPCCassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. Hailey Rausch, MS, RDNHailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. She is currently working towards getting her IBCLC to become a Lactation Consultant in addition to a Registered Dietitian to not only help folks reach their breastfeeding goals but also support parents during their postpartum journey and love and nurture their bodies without the presence of diet culture. Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we're talking about Billie Eilish and her recent photoshoot and interview for British Vogue and everyone's right to shift their image to include their sexuality. Somehow we also touch on The Chicks, Colin Kaepernick and the differences between wanting celebrities to use their platform for good vs. being told to “shut up and _____”. We also mention Hank Green for the first time on the pod. Can't believe it took us this long! We answer our first question from a same sex couple this week!Episode Highlights:“Whoa, I sounded a little Canadian there” Hailey: “My love for her could be enough to…” Cassie: “Scare her?”“Music stresses me out”“I know, I know, I got into a political debate with my waitress.. this is just who I am.”Resources:Billie Eilish:https://www.esquire.com/entertainment/music/a36317440/billie-eilish-your-power-body-image-lyrics-meaning-vogue-cover-interview/https://www.billboard.com/articles/columns/pop/9566373/billie-eilish-british-vogue-interview-abuse-your-power-new-album/https://www.vogue.co.uk/news/article/billie-eilish-vogue-interviewYou're Wrong About Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCMusic: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we're talking about the Derek Chauvin verdict and holding space for the work that still needs to be done (by white people) to dismantle White Supremacy. We also answer a listener question about navigating disagreements with partners about visiting strip clubs. IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCMusic: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we tackle the impact of before & after pictures on social media and answer a listener question about low desire and difficult communication about sex.IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCMusic: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we tackle our first listener question from a man. It's on a group sex experience gone awry. Also, Khloe Kardashian--victim AND perpetrator..?IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCMusic: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we're talking about Lena Dunham and her new clothing line. We answer a listener question about examining internalized fatphobia and whether or not it's ever “okay” to want to lose weight.https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/05/style/lena-dunham-body-positivity-11-honore-spanx.htmlhttps://11honore.com/collections/11-honore-x-lena-dunham IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPC Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

Today we talk about "fatphobia" as a term and the pros and cons of using it. We also do more chatting about the differences between Eating Disorders and disordered eating!https://www.self.com/story/fat-activist-fatphobiaMaintenance Phase Podcast @maintenancephase http://maintenancephase.com/Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

A brief segment on the Atlanta shooting & "sex addiction" & how toxic masculinity contributes to shootings. Plus answering a listener question on having orgasms solo vs partnered. IG: @sexateverysizeGmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPC

Broaching the subject of racism & fatphobia today and answering a listener question about how to love your body!IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPC

Talking about how fat bodies on social media are highlighted in the greater media and how Jennifer Garner's post-baby body is apparently STILL news. We answer another listener question about how to meet people outside of your male-dominated job!

This week we're talking about a recent drug trial study and answering a listener question about open relationships. 

Here we introduce ourselves so you can get to know us a little before we dive right into our first episode!Please email us questions, comments, concerns, etc.sexateverysize@gmail.comFind us on social:@sexateverysize@cassiewillnauerlpc