The Mature Momma Life

Hey Mommas, Have you ever wondered what would it be like to have a Doula that had some medical knowledge to know what was going on to help advocate fo you? I've wondered the same. To the point that I almost wanted to start a school just to teach Doulas LOL But then I realized I'm already doing to much. Also figured that these unicorns already had to be out there and I was right, I found one.  Get comfy and listen to how this Doula got the fire to start on this journey AND how amazing her journey continues to be. 

Hey Mommas! It's Black Maternal Health Week. You know I couldn't let this week go by without doing an episode on the soul reason this podcast was even started. So much valuable infomation was packed into this hour and some much more to come on my page this week.  Click play now to listen to a chat about where we are with Black Maternal Health and how the Pandemic has effected us. 

Hey Mommas I know I promised you this episode way back in February but one, life is crazy and two life is just crazy. After this conversation I took a few days to really absorb what was said and to take a look at how I was treating myself. The words spoken on this episode are words that I've said to many mommas and words that rang so true for me but I let life pull me away from just being me. Just accepting me. Just loving on me. Just taking time to be with the girls I love. This episode, this conversation was just what I needed. After listening a few times...and even crying it out...I'm ready to share with you. My tribe.    Pull out your tissues because you will surely cry from laughing and just feeling. It's one of those vulernable conversations that you need to hear just so you know you are seen and you're not alone.    Click play now and join in. 

Hey Mommas I know alot of you are "Mature Mommas" but I have a few of you who are young or have young children that are on the journey to motherhood or fatherhood.  On this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Thlisha. She is a doula with a specific purpose and I can't wait for you to hear how she is answering the call. Her "lemons" were turned into lemonade just by ONE person adding sugar to her situation. Powerful word spoken to a teenager that was growing a life in her womb changed the trajectory of her life.  In this episode, you get a power lesson on the power of your words and what it means to step up and step in for someone in their time of need.  Teenage parenthood isn't the end of the word when you have the right resources and community supporting you. Thlisha is just that and more.  Hit play NOW and hear how she is pouring into this space and how we can do a better job as supporting these young people, even if it's only by offering words of encouragement. 

Hey Mommas So this episode is a quick reminder that it's okay to only choose positive people to go on your pregnancy and birthing journey. When someone starts to speak negativity over your life you can quickly and unapologetically say "Whew...you don't have to worry about me" and leave.  Sometimes I'm just here to give you permission so today I'm giving you permission to silence and leave negative people.    Click play NOW to get your fill of laughter and positivity for the week. Love yall. 

Hey Mommas So this episode is just a quick reminder to not forget who you are just because you became somone's Momma. You are still you, just with a mini person judging every little thing you do.  Don't forget to take the time to love on yourself. Get out and do things that you love without thinking about the little crotch fruit that you love and adore.  If you need to hear it from me, click now to listen.  Also for this Valentine's Day, the Hair and Body Butter Cream Souffle is 30% off with the code: VDAY at www.DoctorCoily.com  

Hey Mommas!! Back again for another Doula Chat. I'm going to be honest with you, I've been trying for days to come up with a title for this episode but I just couldn't. I've listened several times and each time, I found another nugget and another title. At this point I'm like "Can I call it a chat about all the things with my best girlfriend?", which really isn't that far from the truth.  This episode touches on what a Doula is, what they add to the space, the relationship between Doulas and Physicians/Midwives, How to find the perfect Doula, how important "Vibe" is in that relationship...we talked about it ALL.  I wish you were there live but this recording is life changing enough. Pull up a chair, get comfy and hit play on another amazing conversation.  I introduce to you, Chena The Holistic Doula.  To find her:  Instagram: ButtaTheHolisticDoula Website: www.buttaTheHolisticDoula.com

Hey Mommas So every year I pick a word to carry me through the year. I guess you can think of it as my anchoring word. Something to focus on and to keep my year productive. Well this year my word is "NEW" and only a month in, it's changed my life.  Hit play today to see how opening myself up for new has changed me and how it can change your life too.   

Hey Mommas,  You asked, and to be honest so I did I, so I'm going to bring more information on home birthes from the experts out there doing it. One thing I have learned in this sacred space called birth is, women are going to do what they feel they need to do. What I'm here to do is to keep them safe. So to my Mommas that want to have a home birth, this episode is for you because EVERYONE isn't a candidate. EVERYONE isn't practicing safe practices. The same way I want to keep women safe in the hospital, I have to do my part for women that choose not to use the hospital as their birthing space.  On this episode, I have a chat with Bethany. She is a certified nurse midwife that received her training from a high risk institution and also practiced there before opening her own practice and choosing to provide out of hospitals birthes. Today we have a candid discussion on who should attempt these deliveries and how to stay safe.  I'm open to learn and I hope you are too. 

Hey Mommas! Are  you ready for the next level of The Mature Momma Life. Every season my goal is to get better and to grow bigger. This season, you'll hear a new voice every Thursday. I'm so excited to introduce you all to these amazing women that I've had the priviledge to talk to over the last month.  These conversations will indeed be life changing and soul saving. Open up you heart, minds, and notebook...yall are about to get all this info. 

Hey Mommas!! Freebirthing, let's talk about it...respectfully of course.  If you look through birthing history, there was never a time when birthing alone was celebrated or recommended. There was ALWAYS someone in the city, town, or village that was called to assist with labor and delivery. Then there was a team of support to help during the postpartum period. In every culture, there was always someone. There was always a community.  This episode is just a transparent conversation on MY opinion of freebirthing and why I 1. Don't think it's safe and 2. How there has never been a time where it was even "a thing". Except now it is and it's more performative vs beneficial.  If you want to hear what Dr. San has to say, click here. If you want to add to the discussion, email me at DrSanObGyn@gmail Click play NOW

Hey Mommas I'm here to give you the real on the lies of social media. Snap back culture is NOT a thing. You're hearing it from someone that sees at least 50 postpartum bellies and bodies a week.  Stop trying to live up to the exception when your postpartum physical journey is the NORM.  If you want to hear what the snapback really looks like, click play NOW. 

On this episode I just want to chat about what it means to have an STI and how it does NOT define who you are and how you should be treated.  Hit play now. We not starting off the new year with any negativity influencing our energy.  Buckle up, tearing down misconceptions one episode at a time. 

Hey Mommas! For the Mommas that know me, hey girl hey! Season three is here. For the new Mommas...don't believe anything the other mommas have told you.  New Year, same me. Just want to re-introduce myself to everyone just incase you forgot the crazy person you were getting all of your vital information from.  Get comfy. Grab some tea...or coffee...or wine. And hit play on the latest episode. 

Hey Mommas! What a wild and crazy year 2021 has been. One minute locked up...the next we can kinda go back outside and now we are back in the house scared of "Omarion". Yes, I know it's Omicron but my Mommas that remember B2K know what I'm talking about LOL.  This episode is just me talking about the accomplishments of the podcast along with what's to come in 2022. Mostly just me rambling but isn't that every episode? If you want to know what we've done over the year and what's to come, get comfy and click now.  Happy New Year!

Today you're in for a treat. To piggy back off the amazing episode on mental health last week, I bring you this badass to help us not only recognize if we are in burnout but to also work through it.  Errin Weisman, DO is a physician, life coach, speaker, podcaster and fierce advocate for wellness in medicine. She faced professional burnout early in her career and speaks openly about her story in order to help others, particularly female physicians and working moms, know they are not alone. Dr. Weisman wholeheartedly believes to be a healer, you must first fill your own cup. She lives and practices in rural Southwestern Indiana, loves her roles as farmer's wife, athlete and mother of three.  She is interested in using her medical knowledge beyond the standard outpatient clinical realm through innovative technologies, public speaking, writing and social media as well as utilizing her business skills in organization, team leadership and creative problem solving. This isn't an episode you want to miss. And yes, you will need pad and pen for this one. CLICK NOW and get ready to have your mind blown.  You can find out more about Dr. Weisman on her podcasts "Doctor Me First," and “Burntout to Badass”,  her website or hang out with her on Instagram @burntout_to_badass

I can say that I'm doing so much better now that I've taken the time to truly take care of me. I've said many times that I needs to just lay on somebody's couch and get some healing. Well guess what? A couple weeks ago, I decided to do just that. You know how people say, do as I say but not as I do? I live that DAILY. I know how to take care of yall and take care of others very well, but I don't do the same for myself. Click Play now to hear how I got myself together and why YOU need to do the same.

So what are we talking about today? Doulas! Boy do I love Doulas. I know that word on the street is physicians and doulas don't get along well but that's far from the truth. Or let me say it's a “not all” situation. With anyone or people, some personalities just to mesh. If you think Doulas aren't for you, this episode will prove just how wrong you are. Get comfy and click play now. Your doula is waiting for you.

This month is Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) month. It's a topic that comes up in my exam room a lot, especially in my ladies that want to have children and are having difficulty. If you have irregular or no periods, abnormal hair growth, obesity, infertility, and ovarian enlargement you may have PCOS. Click play to learn the signs and symptoms and also how to have it treated. This might be the episode to change your life.

The last week of Breastfeeding Month is “Black breastfeeding week”. And why does it deserve it's own week? Because for so long we have been excluded from the “everybody” months, days, and weeks. So it's okay that we, yes we because I'm a Black woman, have a week to get correct information out there and celebrate in a space for us. Also because we have our own issues that prevent us from initiating and continuing to breastfeed past 6 months. In this episode I bring to light the barriers we have and how to help remove them.

On this episode, we are going to talk about all the ridiculous lies…well let me say fibs or stories because I'm from the South and lie is a bigger cuss word that shit and damn…you've been told about breastfeeding. Trust me, I've heard them ALL. Now I must warn, some of the language may be triggering so make sure you're in a safe place. I don't want to minimize any words that may trigger memories or events that were traumatizing.  Get comfy and click play NOW 

Today we are going to talk the numbers and percentages. What can breastfeeding do not only for your little cherub, but also you? This is the episode to get you the information you need to decide why breastfeeding is for you. Why you should start and continue your journey. What you should do to support others in the journey. Get comfy and click to start this episode NOW. Share with your girlfriends, family and support systems. 

You're stuck in a break...and place of stillness and you think that something is wrong. Or you're being punished. It's the opposite Sis, God or whomever you see as your high being, is preparing you for something greater. Something so big, that they know you need a break to prepare for it. 

Well May 22nd is World Pre-Eclampsia Day. I'm going to be honest; I'm always tickled at the celebrated days that pop up. Like there is a day to recognize and celebrate everything. I love it in one way but in another I am like “Dang, do I need a gift for that?!??” LOL But if giving it a day makes it more recognized and saves lives, then I'm for it. So in comes “World Pre Eclampsia Day”. So I've done an entire episode on hypertensive disorders that can effect and present themselves in pregnancy. If you having listened, jump back to episode Day 21. Today we will do a quick talk on Pre-Eclampsia. Now I say quick but you know these conversations are just that, live conversations of me talking to myself while talking to you. So it could be really quick or a bunch of rambling with important information mixed in LOL.

It's National Infertility Awareness Week and boy do I have a treat for you. Yesterday I had the honor of chatting with a Momma that has devoted her life to helping yall become Mommas when you need a little extra help. I learned so much from this Queen and I'm still massaging my hands because I couldn't keep up with the knowledge she was dropping. Dr. Torie Comeaux Plowden is an Obstetrician Gynecologist like me but she also decided to do an extra 4 years to learn all the things dealing with fertility. She's one of the gurus I send my patients to when my tricks to get pregnant just aren't working. In this hour plus, yes…we were yapping that long…we tackle normal fertility physiology, how to recognize when something isn't normal, we dive into the questions you should be asking yourself concerning child bearing…we talk about the myths of fertility especially in Black culture, we talk about the different options out there to achieve motherhood…and even after an hour and a half, we only scratched the surface so you know she's coming back. LOL So grab your notebooks, pens, girlfriends, significant others, and let's talk fertility with Dr. Torie.

Have you ever felt like there was more to life than what you were doing but you didn't know how to change your course? Or you knew exactly what to do but fear was holding you back? On this episode, we talk to a Momma that made the ultimate pivot and what a blessing it has been to her and her family. What was a thought has now become her reality and she's loving every minute. She will teach us how to listen to our inner voice and make us comfortable with making a leap that can enrich our lives 10x over.  Dr. Carmen is a Board Certified Obstetrician Gynecologist that is doing big things down under. She's also a mom to a beautiful little boy with an accent to die for.  Tune in today and listen to two girlfriends cackle about life and grab some gems while you're at it. 

Let me first say that I'm #TeamVaccinations. I believe in the science behind them and I've been able to live freely in the world because of them. There are diseases that I only know about because I had to study them in school. This is 100% because of science and vaccinations. As yall know, I always tell you to read the facts and make your own decisions. The only thing I can provide is facts and you make your decisions from there. This episode hopefully will answer some of your questions about the Covid vaccination and help you make a decision that is best for you and your unborn babe. 

Your girl has been out here doing the most but I'm back. I've missed you and promise not to leave again. This is just a little snippet into what I've been up to. Also some rambling as you know I'm good for that. 

Dr. Fatu Forna is one of my favorite humans in the entire world. She's an OB/GYN that has a passion for helping Mommas navigate the world of puberty and sex with our babies. Many of us probably never even had the conversation with our parents and now we are responsible for having this conversation with our kiddies. As an OB, I can tell you that ignoring the topic doesn't make the curiosity go away. I babies will find a way to get information and many times it's the wrong information that lands them in my office for OB appointments way too early. And lets not talk about the misinformation that keeps them from coming to my office for abnormal menses and vaginal issues. Let's be honest Mommas, we might not want to have this conversation, but we have to have this conversation. Our babies are depending on us.  Dr. Fatu is here to help give us the words and wisdom to make this conversation as painless as possible. I learned so much talking to her and I hope you learn the same. 

Get ready for a wild ride. If you need a laugh, this is it. I'm not even going to summarize the crazy. You just have to listen. 

So today we are going to talk about the definition of pre-eclampsia, the signs and symptoms, and treatments. Remember, this podcast is to keep you informed so you participate in your prenatal period. If you have any of these symptoms, you need to be evaluated. If your concerns are being ignored, you need to escalate until your voice and concerns are being properly addressed. Where to find the tribe:  www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn www.drsanlare.com Facebook Group: The Mature Momma Life Podcast

This is an episode straight from the heart. No script. Just a Black Momma pleading for someone to hear me and my sisters to help us get healthy enough to birth our next generation.  Weathering as a phenomenon that has been found in Black women and is one of the reasons we see an increase in fetal and neonatal mortality and morbidity It has been found that in Black women, the younger we are the healthier our children are born and the older we are, the more complications our unborn children deal with. In comparison to other races, it's the opposite.  Why? Because the older we get, the more stress we build in our bodies. This stress causes chronic disease and complications in future pregnancies. By the time we get to late 20s, our mind, body, and spirit are broken. No matter that we are more financially stable, our wombs are stressed.  This episode is a talk from my heart on how others can help decrease the stress Black women face everyday which will help us birth healthier babies to help lead the next generation. 

In this episode I give five reasons on why work peace as a mother is important and how to achieve it. Work doesn't have to stress you out or make you feel guilty for being a mother. Work should add to your life, not drain you. Plus, you have to have joy to give back to your family once you're home.  Tune in today so you can soak in what you need to make work life and Momma life work for you.  Resources and how to find your tribe:  Free Birth Plan: www.drsanbirthplan.com FB: www.facebook.com/DrSanObGyn IG: www.instagram.com/DrSanObGyn

A course is coming!! I'm so excited to bring this idea to yall and see what you need and want added. I have been working on a course to help bring joy and ease back to your pregnancy, no matter how high risk.  This episode dives into the modules being offered so you know what to expect. I want you to hear what I'm doing so you can help me go in the right direction. Remember, this course is for YOU. I want you do get everything you need out of it and more. Under promise and over deliver right? Get super comfy and pull out your notepads. I want you to write down everything right and wrong about this course and report back. You know how to find me. Send your suggestions to:  IG: www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn FB: www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn Facebook Group: The Mature Momma Life Podcast Email: drsanobgyn@gmail.com

Hey Mommas. On this episode I go through all the options you have for contraception/birth control during this global pandemic. I know alot of you all are suck in the house with nothing to do so I'm trying to make sure that the one thing you find to do, doesn't result in a whole baby in 9-10 months.  If you want a quick run down of all of your options. Hit PLAY now.  Where you can find the tribe:  www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn The Mature Momma Life Facebook Group

The secret is out. Not only is the Maternal Mortality rate in the US is at an all time height, it effects Black Women 4-5 times more than other races. Yes you heard me, Black women are dying at a rate of 4-5 time more than other women. And no, lets not be quick to blame educational barriers or socio-economical barriers. Nope. White women with a high school education still have a higher chance of surviving pregnancy, labor, delivery and postpartum (1 year after delivery) than Black women that have a college degree. And no, these studies aren't saying that White women with less education deserve less education, it's say that ALL WOMEN deserve the same level of care. There ARE guidelines in place but because of implicit bias, racism, and access to care, we as Black women are receiving different levels of care.

So the biggest issue now is Mommas having to labor and deliver alone. Never did I think we would be in a time where Mommas would have to labor alone. Like I know back in the day it was the norm but today in 2020 it is not and should not. So many people are asking me how I feel about it and I'll tell you that I'm not happy. It makes me so sad that women are now delivering their children without a familiar support system. Yall know how big I am on advocates and it's no doubt in my mind that advocates keep mother's safe and heard.  On this episode, I give some tips to deal with this huge curve ball that has been thrown your way. I know this is not what you expected but we have to make the best out of it and keep everyone safe. You know I had to pop in with some knowledge that you could implement because as you know, knowledge has no power without implementation. So hit play and absorb information will keep you safe if you are one of the Mommas that will have to labor alone.    Community:  Facebook: www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn Instagram: www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn Facebook Group: The Mature Momma Life Podcast 

Obesity is a touchy subject that many physicians don't like to bring up. Especially with pregnant women. It's a fine line of trying to educate and offending. I know some patients view even addressing obesity as body shaming so it's really trying to make sure the patient understands that we are coming from a place of love (Because yall know I love yall) and help. Obesity in pregnancy automatically puts you at a high risk for complications in pregnancy. Because of these higher risks, I make sure to educate my patients on how to decrease their BMI before pregnancy and how to safely navigate a healthy diet and activity routine while pregnant. I want you to not be embarrassed by the number or diagnoses of obesity. I want you to be aware of the diagnoses and how you should be monitored during your pregnancy. It's not something you should run away from and it shouldn't be ignored by you or your obstetrical provider. You should both be on the same page so you and your child will make it through safely and alive. I want you to be well versed on this so when you recognize something it's right, you can speak up. How to find the community:  www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn Facebook Group: The Mature Momma Life Podcast

It's been a crazy few weeks with information changing by the minute. A few weeks ago we first heard about the coronavirus but it wasn't that big of a deal, right? It was just something China was dealing with while we blissfully living in our uninfected bubble. Blissfully ignorant to horrors that were going on in China and then Italy. Now look at us. Every social media post is about covid-19. Every news story is about covid-19. On this episode, I will share with you what it means for you if you're pregnant and how you an stay safe.  Facebook Group: The Mature Momma Life Podcast IG: www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn FB: www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn      

This episode is dedicated to the Momma that inspired this entire Podcast, Kira Johnson. Maternal Mortality is at an all time high and women are dying at alarming rates. Pregnancy-related deaths have increased from 7.2 per 100,000 live births in 1987 to 18 deaths per 100,000 live births in 2014. The United States is ranked 50th globally for its maternal mortality rate and is one of eight countries in which the mortality rate has increased. What's scarier?  Women that look like me were dying at an even higher rate. Did you know that Black women have a 4-5 times chance of dying during pregnancy, labor, delivery and postpartum? The CDC reported "considerably racial disparities in pregnancy-related mortality exist" in its findings of 12.4 deaths per 100,000 live births for white women compared to the 40 deaths per 100,000 live births for black women. A study conducted showed the most prevalent racial disparities within America's middle class and determined that black mothers with advanced professional degrees, such as a master's degree or higher, have a higher chance of infant mortality compared to white women whose highest education level is the 8th grade. The causes of the gap remains unclear, but a study done states that it may be due to the way healthcare systems are organized and operated. Healthcare providers' biases, prejudices and uncertainty when treating minorities could also contribute to healthcare disparities. The study also claims patients' attitudes and behaviors play a role. A small percentage of minority patients do not trust health care professionals due to pass encounter or stories passed down by family member.  This episode will teach you how to use your greatest tool, your voice, to help you advocate for yourself and save your life or the life of someone you love.  Press play and join the conversation.    Where can you find the tribe? Facebook group: The Mature Momma Life Podcast Facebook: www.facebook.com/DrSanObGyn Instagram: www.instagram.com/DrSanObGyn 

How in the world do we make friends with other Mommas this late in life? We come to a place where we KNOW we need new friends but we have no idea on how to find them? We are all “old ladies” with toddlers. It's scary and funny because none of us really know what we are doing.  The reason I feel that you have to have people in the struggle with you is because you need other people to let you know everything that's happening right now is normal. We need to find ANYTHING to do just to relax and get our minds off of parenting for a few hours. This could be happy hour, dinner at a nice restaurant, spa day, walking around the neighborhood, trying something new like candle making/cooking/etc, or just sitting in each other's house and gossiping…or watching reality TV. Those few hours are so refreshing. The energy you get from people that are going through the same things you are is just so invigorating. You get to bounce ideas, concerns, questions, and situations off people that can give you clear answers in a way they know you can receive them. I love my Momma Dates. Now like I said, I know it's hard finding friends this late in life. People are pretty protective of their intimate spaces and really don't want to take the time and energy to learn new people. I get that. But if you don't have a circle of Momma friends or what I like to call a Momma tribe, you need one, ASAP. They can be life changing. Now that I've given you enough reasons on why you should have a Momma Tribe, I'm going to give you a few tips on how to find people for yours. It's easier than you think. Plus this week start's Women's History Month. Get out there and meet some new women to make history with.

I want to say that this is no means and episode to bash or degrade women that choose freebirthing or homebirthing. What this episode and all episode is here to do is to empower women with information so they can make the best decision for them and their unborn child. What I don't want to do is create a hostile environment for any woman. I don't want anyone to leave this podcast and feel beat up on or bullied. What I do want is for women to leave this podcast and feel that they have a little more education so they can make sound decisions. I may not agree with the decision but at the end of the day, you get a little more information to keep you and the baby safe. That's what this podcast is about. Well that and old ladies having babies LOL.

Birth plans, one of the most popular topics in my office. I know many of you have probably seen the memes, or heard jokes about them, or maybe you've never really heard of them at all. Today I am going to help y'all make the ultimate birth plan that will make your obstetrician, family medicine physician, or midwife proud. First off, it doesn't have to be color coded. It does not have to be laminated. It doesn't have to be notarized either. Yes Mommas, there have been notarized birth plans. LOL.  It just has to useful. Let this piece of paper speak for you when you can't. It's not about what essential oil you want to have in the diffuser or what music you want playing while you labor. You want the people taking care of you to look at this paper and say, “We know you and we know how to keep you safe”.  Yes Mommas, you can have a birth plan that help the physicians and the nurses take better care of you. If you need help on making the perfect birth plan, then this episode is all for you! Grab your pins and pad and CLICK PLAY!!   For follow up discussion make your your following the community at:  Instagram: www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn Facebook: www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn

Your first prenatal visit is the most important visit. I mean they ALL are, so don't try to skip out after the first one. I know how some of us are so don't try to say Dr. San told me I only had to show up for day one and delivery. I want you to come to all your appointments. I say that your first appointment is your most important because it's when I can gather the most information that can determine the path of your pregnancy. Is this a 25-year-old with no high-risk medical history or is this a Mature Momma that's healthy at 40 year old or is this a 35 year old woman who has heart issues and a history of pulmonary embolism? Your past and current medical history determines a lot when it comes to how you will be monitoring during pregnancy. It also determines where you need to safely be delivered or even if I'm appropriate in caring for you. So yes, the first visit is a big deal. It is probably longest visit so be prepared to talk about all the things. On today's episode, I am going to give you a few tips to make the best of your first prenatal visit.

I know we are told that the biggest decision as a woman is who we choose, if we do, to spend the rest of our lives with. And that's very true when you think of life goals, financial goal, career goals, etc. but next to that, if you choose to have a family, the biggest decision is who will take care of you before pregnancy, during pregnancy, during labor and delivery and then postpartum. Oh my goodness. I didn't realize how big of a deal this was until I was deep into my training. Yall, I have seen the good, the great, the amazing, the bad, the ugly, and the WTF. 99% of my colleagues are amazing women and men that have devoted their life (Yes their LIFE) to women and the life of their unborn. 99% of us take you into our hearts and treat you like family. Obstetrical providers that aren't the same but for different reasons. It could be training, or bias, race, cultural, upbringing, or whatever. It is your duty as a Momma to make sure you are putting the life of yourself and your child in the best trained person you have in your area. You want a physician or midwife that views your life and the life of your child as a priority. On this episode, I'm going to give tips on how to find the perfect and safest Obstetrical team and birthing facility for you.   Find Dr. San and the Mature Momma Tribe at : www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn   And don't forget to join the mailing list:  https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5e0a1f31efd02b0026c7ab64     

So ladies, this is gonna be one of those real conversations. You know one of those conversations that just goes over so much better with a glass of wine. But if you listen to podcast while driving like I do, then made a nice warm tea or coffee. No drinking and driving ladies! I know this is a podcast is primarily for women who have already been hazed into the wonderful life of Mature Momma hood. But I also know that we have women here that are trying to start their journey or want information for when they are ready to start. For some it's because you're waiting until your career is at a perfect spot or you're waiting for the perfect person or you have fears of judgment because you would be a single mother or because you are struggling with infertility. Many reasons as to why you don't have a little person screaming “Momma” every 30 seconds. Today this podcast is going to be for the ladies who are struggling with the mindset or decision whether it's the right time. Today I want you to see me as your girl that's having a real heart to heart with you about some real ish. I might get all in your business. I might step on all of your toes, but know that's coming from a place of love and want.   Find Dr. San and the Mature Momma Tribe at : www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn   And don't forget to join the mailing list:  https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5e0a1f31efd02b0026c7ab64 

From the moment women pee on that stick and see a positive indicator, they are instantly in love with the ball of cell growing in their belly or someone else's belly. I mean surrogacy is a thing.  But how many of us really prepare ourselves before we start trying? How many of us as the hard questions with truthful answers? Do you even know what questions you should be asking yourself or those that take care of you? If you're trying for a pregnancy or not doing anything to prevent one you really need to ask yourself these questions.  “Are you healthy enough to take on pregnancy” or “Is your hypertension under control” or “Are you on medications that could be harmful to you or the baby during pregnancy” or “Is your diabetes well controlled”. Another biggy that many of my patients don't want to talk about is “will my weight play a significant role in my pregnancy, labor, and delivery”? And I'm not only talking about obesity.  These are all questions that should be asked and answered before pregnancy. Yes, for most women,  it's exciting to get pregnant but Mommas, I want you to see it to the end. I want you to enjoy the Mature Momma life with your kids. As beautiful as pregnancy is, it can kill you if you're not optimized to your best health. As one of my good friends recently said, “Pregnancy is like having one foot inside a grave”. Scary, but so true. Your body is so vulnerable. So many systems are stretched and challenged during those 40 weeks. Things can change so quickly and if you're not optimized before pregnancy and monitored appropriately during pregnancy, you could lose your life.  To get five simple tips to help prepare your body and mind before pregnancy, click play now. And don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes.    To continue the conversation, don't forget to join the email list or follow Dr. San on Instagram and Facebook at:  www.instagram.com/DrSanObGyn www.facebook.com/DrSanObGyn 

Today we will discuss the “Why”. Why is this space needed. Why do we need this tribe? Aren't all Mommas built the same? Shouldn't we just all figure it out as we go? Isn't this life easy? Doesn't everyone just breeze through pregnancy and childbirth. Super easy right?!?! Wrong. So I won't get to far into the numbers because we have forever together right? So I can dive into those another day. So if you've been living under a rock, you might not know that the Maternal Morbidity and Mortality rate in the United States is embarrassingly high. In a land where we have cars that run by electricity and Instapots that can cook frozen food in 15 minutes, we have thousands of women die during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. Some of these deaths and injuries were preventable. The prevention is in the education. The prevention is recognizing bias. The prevention is in better access. The prevention is in having a strong advocate. The prevention is also in…dare I say it, calling out racism. All of these things combined will help to significantly decrease the mortality rates.  My why is simple, it's because I want to save lives. I want to help keep you safe. I want us to all be safe.  So if this why speaks to you, hit the subscribe button and join the best Mature Momma Tribe Ever. By subscribing, you won't miss any episodes. Also make sure to share with all of your friends.  To engage with the tribe, follow at:  www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn  

Where will you find your fabulous new tribe of Mommas? You'll be able to listen to a new episode every week on Monday. I thought Monday was a great idea because 1. I'm corny and love Mature Momma Mondays and 2. I feel that it gives you information to take into the week with you. I'm hoping that this podcast will empower you with a voice and knowledge, so you walk into spaces really to talk. This is all spaces, whether they are in a medical setting, your advocates or your girlfriends. As the podcast grows, we may chat twice a week or if it's topic that needs to tim to be devoted, you'll hear from the Mature Momma tribe as many times needed to get all the info in. So yes Mommas, I made it simple and easy. All you have to do is click subscribe to hear from your Mature Momma Crew once a week. I know you're busy, so by subscribing, you automatically get a notification that a new episode is available.  Places to find Dr. San after the show: www.instagram.com/drsanobgyn www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn  

What is “The Mature Momma Life” podcast. Is a space where we talk about pregnancy, labor, delivery, and the after but from the voices of Momma's that are in their thirties. I would say Mommas that fit the true definition of “Elderly Momma” which is over the age of 35 but once you hit 30, it's pretty much the same to me. Now why isn't this just a podcast for all Mommas? I'm not saying all Mommas aren't welcome as there aren't too many Mommas I meet and don't love but,  I've had the pleasure of treating women in their teens and twenties compared to women in their thirties and trust me,  it's completely different. Our conversations are different. The risks are different. Just completely different worlds. All ages are welcomed. We still need to know information to keep us Mature Mommas hip. Nothing worst than your kid saying a new phrase or talking about a new singer and you have no idea who or what they are talking about.  We are going to be discussing topics before you are pregnant. Meaning, making sure your body is ready to undertake pregnancy. Yes, this is something that we should be doing at all ages but it's critical after the age of 35. We will discuss fertility at this age. Options on getting pregnant or having a child. We are going to talk about diseases that plague our bodies and how that effects pregnancy after 30, especially after 35. We are going to talk about ALL THE THINGS MATERTITY. We will also have topics after the little cherub is born. So that's discussions on parenting, being a great friend/tribe member and partner. So if this is what you need in your life, hit the play button and join in on today's episode.  If you love what we are talking about, hit the subscribe button so you don't miss an episode.  And where can you find me after the episode is over? Click the links below to join the social media family.  www.instagram.com/drsanobgn www.facebook.com/drsanobgyn