Ask An Advanced Bitch

Ask an Advanced Bitch is back...and she's Serving Cult! Welcome to our new and improved podcast, Serving Cult where we mock cult leaders one cult doc at a time and learn the lessons so we don't accidentally join one.   On this first episode of season three, we are diving into...Love Has Won: The Cult of Mother God. This cult doc series is all about the life (and death) of Mother God, also known as Amy Carlson. Join us as we dissect the first episode of Love Has Won and learn about her galactic celebrity A team, how she girlbossed her way into becoming a cult leader, and why we all should stay away from drugs...    Come hang out with me on TikTok and Instagram or join my Secret Membership where we can continue doing our trauma work together!   Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Advanced Bitches Website Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Additional Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Join The Secret Membership Learn How to STOP Dealing with Narcissist Emotional Blackmail!   Produced by: Dianni Hall

Advanced Bitches, it's time to say Bye Bye! Sadly, we have made it to the end of another season. I'm immensely grateful for every bitch listening and I hope these episodes have given you insight or made you laugh in some way. Stick around for season 3, Advanced Bitches! In Part 1, I answer the question, “How do I stop self-isolating when I'm dealing with my shit?” First of all, I am the QUEEN of isolating myself when I'm struggling so the first thing I will tell you is….don't beat yourself up. What would happen if you only treated yourself with compassion? I tried it…listen in to find out how that went! In part 2, Trent and I dissect the final episode of Wild Wild Country. This episode hits a bit differently as we see more blatant racism, Bhagwans in chains, and Shela continues to show zero remorse (not surprising) check out this episode to find out how this cult ends in flames.  Come hang out with me on TikTok and Instagram or join my Secret Membership where we can continue doing our trauma work together while the podcast is on hiatus!  Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another   Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Advanced Bitches Website Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Join The Secret Membership Learn How to STOP Dealing with Narcissist Emotional Blackmail! Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall  

in Part 1, I answer the question, “How do we embrace and grow into our true selves as we heal? I have done some advanced as fuck work on self-acceptance. Now I'm faced with the question of who am I without all the bullshit?” And I answered this question with a question, “What if it is okay to not know?” Of course, advanced bitches, you know I can never give a short answer so listen in to hear me go into more detail! And if you're looking for more on this topic, check out my newsletter where I recently answered this question! Also, in part 1 of the episode, I mention that next week's episode is going to be the last episode of season two. We have decided to put the podcast on pause for a bit. But, If you still want to interact with me, join me at my membership or on socials! In Part 2, of this week's episode, we begin to see the beginning of the end for Wild Wild Country. Sheela has fled to Germany, the Bhagwan has decided to cancel his religion, and apparently, they're blending up beavers?! Yeah, there's a lot going on so listen in to find out more! And by the way, have you joined a cult this week? Write me and let me know! If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another. Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Advanced Bitches Website Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Join The Secret Membership Learn How to STOP Dealing with Narcissist Emotional Blackmail! Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall

Advanced Bitches, have I got a juicy episode for you this week! From NXIVM updates to chocolates being delivered to Trent and Taylor, you won't want to miss this one! In Part 1, I answer the question, “Does Imposter Syndrome include hanging out with a certain group even when you really don't belong?” Answer? The only requirement to belong is resonating with the message and wanting to belong. I get way deeper into this answer, but if you are struggling with Imposter Syndrome and want to learn more, check out my Secret Membership where I teach classes on healing trauma! In Part 2, of this week's episode, we dig a lot deeper into Wild Wild Country, and trust me it gets WILD! In the first 10 minutes alone we find out about mass salmonella spreading through tacos causing all the old people to shit their pants…Also, Bhagwan is strung out on valium and laughing gas while starting doomsday prepping?? If you're confused, advanced bitch, trust me so was I! You'll have to listen in to find out what happens! And by the way, have you joined a cult this week? Write me and let me know! If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another.   Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Advanced Bitches Website Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Join The Secret Membership Learn How to STOP Dealing with Narcissist Emotional Blackmail! Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall

Advanced Bitches Welcome Back! In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “How do I start journaling?” There is only one answer! And it's a much simpler answer than you're probably expecting. Even Advanced Bitches tend to overcomplicate things sometimes, but that's okay because you're still an advanced bitch. In my response, I break down some journaling techniques to help you get started and even share a special one I haven't shared before. Listen in to find out! And in part 2, We find out that Taylor has joined a cult…well she's the leader, and Trent and I are thinking about joining?? No, we are working on getting her out, I promise! Trent and I also dive much deeper into Wild Wild Country and trust me, things certainly get WILD! From nude sunbathing in public parks to sedating homeless people, this episode has A LOT going on. If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another. Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall  

Are you an anxious, avoidant, anxious-avoidant, or secure attachment style? Well, in Part 1 of this week's episode, I answer this question from a listener, “How do I work on being secure in all relationships?” Answer? It starts with knowing the attachment style you have and making the conscious decision to have a real relationship! If you want to know more about what having a REAL relationship means, check out the episode and my book, The Irreverent Trust Guide! Does Duolingo count as a cult? Well according to Taylor it does and so does Wild Wild Country! In Part 2 of this week's episode, Trent joins us again to spill all his first impressions of the new cult series. There's everything from obliterating OSHA regulations to naked screaming?? Listen to this week's episode to find out! If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another. Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall

Advanced Bitches, Welcome back! In this episode, we dissect a new cult documentary, talk about how not trimming your eyebrows is grounds for divorce, and Taylor reminisces on the old youtube days (who remembers salad fingers??) In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “How do I support my husband, he just lost his mom and has never experienced a loss like this?” I share 3 things I would tell anyone who is dealing with grief right now. I also suggest checking out my book, The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to Survive Months 1 to 3. In Part 2, Taylor and I set the scene for the new cult documentary we're watching Wild Wild Country. We talk about everything from why this cult leader is actually kind of iconic (??) to why salad bars are absolutely canceled! If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch (or primitive cunt) to another.   Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall   

Advanced Bitches, we've brought last week's guest back! Alex is here again to share more about her experience with her alternative peer group aka cult. In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “Is freeze mode just the psyche's way of waiting for things to get better?” Because I'm not just an advanced bitch, but an honest bitch, I share about how I used to dissociate through bulimia and TV (my preferred dissociative cocktail) and why it's important to be so so gentle with ourselves! In Part 2, We talk more with Alex about some of the “games” she used to play in her alternative peer group aka cult, in order to be accepted. Everything from drinking ash to smoking two packs a day. We also dive into the last episode of the three-part series, Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult of Sarah Lawerence! This episode ranges from ding dong ditching to creating a survivor reality show: cult edition? You'll have to listen to find out, bitch! If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another. Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall   

Welcome to another episode of Ask An Advanced Bitch! This episode is special because we have an advanced bitch guest on today. This guest has some experience with cults, so we got the inside scoop! In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “Dear Advanced Bitch, I'd love your quick and dirty guide to building self-worth.” I promise listener, you're already more worthy than you think, but in case you don't believe me - I give a three-step quick and dirty guide to building self-worth! And trust me, being worthy doesn't always feel comfortable. In Part 2, The Advanced Bitches crew is joined by Alex Gisler! Alex is a labor and delivery nurse, a lover of the podcast, and an ex-cult member? Listen to find out more about Alex's experience! We, of course, also continue to dissect Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult of Sarah Lawerence and there are LOTS of new developments to cover! If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another. Alternative Episode Titles:  Ask A Labor and Delivery Nurse It All Starts With Self How To Have a Self Something That Was Learned Can Be Unlearned Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall     

Advanced Bitches, have you joined a cult this week? Well, the students at Sarah Lawerence accidentally did. On this week's episode of Ask an Advanced Bitch, we dive a little deeper into Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult of Sarah Lawerence. In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “How do I tell if I like someone romantically, as a friend, or if it's my attachment wounds that like them?” Answer? The Ladder of Trust! If you're not sure what that is, click the link below to check out my youtube video explaining exactly what the ladder of trust is! In Part 2, We continue to unpack the insanity that is Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult of Sarah Lawerence! We point out more things cult leaders do, so you can be on the lookout for if a creepy old man ever shows up at your university, Trent is disappointed by the lack of feet in this cult series, and the Ask an Advanced Bitch podcast is possibly starting a band called Gaslighting in Stereo??? You'll have to listen to find out! If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another. Alternative Episode Titles:  Advanced Bitches Always Win Magic is in The Action How Do I Trust Myself Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall     

Hey, there Advanced Bitches! Welcome back to the second episode of season 2 where we talk gentle habit stacking, college students getting stoned, and doing pilates in the dark?? Anyway, if you haven't watched Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult of Sarah Lawerence, RUN to Hulu right now! In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “How…all of it…how?” Even with so few words, this question hits deep and the answer hits even deeper. In Part 2, Now with our season 2 catch-up out of the way, it's time to dig into Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult of Sarah Lawerence! As cult experts we come up with rules for how to start a cult, discuss how creepy it is for a father to be living with college students in exchange for steak dinners, and how in an alternative universe, Taylor could have ended up in the Sarah Lawerence cult… If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another. Alternative Episode Titles:  You Can Blame Trauma For That Just Do The Next Right Thing The Power of Gentle Habit Stacking Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall  

Advanced Bitches, we are back with Season 2 of Ask An Advanced Bitch! Have you missed me?! I sure as hell have missed you and that's why I'm extremely excited to be back kicking off another season with a primitive cunt chat with Taylor! In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “What is the safest and most advanced way to respond when people who aren't advanced try to tell you that they are? How do I protect myself from people who try to weaponize my healing?” In Part 2, Taylor and I have a long catch-up chat to start off season 2. We talk about everything from Taylor getting last-minute floor seats at a Taylor Swift concert to my Instagram impersonator offering people psychic readings? And of course, there's a sprinkle of Vanderpump Rules chat too! If my podcast has helped you become the advanced bitch you want to be, leave a 5-star rating in Apple Podcast! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch (or primitive cunt) to another. Alternative Episode Titles: Back And As Mediocre As Ever Primitive Cunt Talk Life is Short Buy The Taylor Swift Tickets Connect with Us More: Advanced Bitches Instagram Advanced Bitches TikTok Advanced Bitches Youtube Taylor Instagram Trent Instagram Advanced Bitches Resources:  The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Past Trauma F*cked You Up Cover Art By: https://www.jaymade.co/ Produced by: Dianni Hall 

It is the finale of Season 1! In Part 1 I talk about the 10 Requirements for healing trauma, citing D. Crenshaw's work, linked below. I detail each requirement, explain the importance and give contextual examples of what this may look like. In Part 2 I am joined by Taylor to let you know about new developments in our lives and in the podcast, and what to expect for Season 2.   If my podcast helped you grow or made you giggle, I'd really appreciate it if you left an Apple Podcasts review. Let me know via email and socials what you'd like to see from Season 2, and hopefully I'll see you in my group coaching calls linked below! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another.     LINKS   Neuroscience and Trauma Treatment: Implications for Creative Arts Therapists by D. Crenshaw - https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2006-12259-001 The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books: The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

This is the penultimate episode of Season 1 of Ask An Advanced Bitch! I am joined by Taylor and Trent to discuss all things The Vow Season 2 Episode 2. The Vow is an HBO true crime documentary series about the NXIVM Cult and its leader Keith Raniere. Thank you so much for riding with us for 24 episodes! If my podcast helped you grow or made you giggle, I'd really appreciate it if you left an Apple Podcasts review. Let me know via email and socials what you'd like to see from Season 2, and hopefully I'll see you in my group coaching calls linked below! Lots of love from one Advanced Bitch to another.     LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books: The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In this episode I give an update about how I'm doing as I experience post-event collapse syndrome due to moving house and state. I explain the coping mechanism I use in times where I have limited emotional and physical capacity, and have to let some responsibilities slide. I tease out a comforting concept, that while people might care about our dropped responsibilities, no one will remember the incident within a year. I also make a case for Imperfection Practice, which is showing up and doing things with the capacity available, rather than waiting for when one can achieve perfectly. I then answer a listener question about how to make big life decisions in general when stuck in paralysis because of it. I explain that indecision is still decision and its often the inner saboteur's doing. I walk the listener through the exercise of creating environments that lead to conducive behaviours and decisions.   You can email in your written question, or send in a recorded MP3 voicenote to be inserted into the podcast via hello@advancedbitches.com. Please leave an Apple review to help my show grow, and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

Taylor joins me to wrap up season 1 of The Vow, discussing all things in episode 9. Grooming, manipulation and hypnotism through the screen!? The Vow is an HBO true crime documentary series about the NXIVM Cult and its leader Keith Raniere.   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books: The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

Today's episode is jam packed with your questions! In this solo episode I tackle everything from toxic workplaces to maladaptive food habits. Specifically, the questions are: how to handle a toxic work environment, understanding why parents' décor decisions are frustrating, how to stop filling the void a codependent relationship left, how to maintain healthy relationships with family despite differing world views, how to find clarity and purpose after a divorce, and how to stop being emotionally overwhelmed. Buckle up for an episode full of tools for emotional self-regulation, advice on how to analyse relational dynamics, managing CPTSD responses, addressing detrimental coping mechanisms, and insight on the healing power of time.   You can email in your written question, or send in a recorded MP3 voicenote to be inserted into the podcast via hello@advancedbitches.com. Please leave an Apple review to help my show grow, and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In today's episode I answer two listener questions. The first one is about how to engage with bigoted family. My short answer is that…you don't! I explain that engaging is a losing game, because they remain unconvinced and you remain frustrated. I share that in moments like these I like to reach into my toolbox of strategies and coping mechanisms, and offer some to them. I explain that if you have to be in the same space as a bigot, use scripts which are predetermined answers to questions and situations you will find uncomfortable as may help you feel prepared and safe. I also recommend “C Jade Run”, an acronym that outlines what co-dependents should avoid doing: Convincing people, Justifying themselves, Arguing, Defending and Explaining. Finally, I encourage the listener to leave spaces that make them uneasy; either physically by leaving a room, or mentally checking out by going on their phone. The second question is from a listener who asks why they can't get better. I discuss this in detail, assuring them that the work isn't staying on the path but about getting back on it when we veer off. I elaborate on what this looks like through a personal anecdote about how my therapist guided me through this same feeling   You can email in your written question, or send in a recorded MP3 voicenote to be inserted into the podcast via hello@advancedbitches.com. Please leave an Apple review to help my show grow, and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

Today's episode is all about your trauma related questions! The first listener asks how much of our trauma do we share with our children once they become adults? I tackle this question in two parts, firstly how to approach discussing trauma with children when they're young, and then with our children once they're adults. I discuss how I approached telling my children I would be checking into to rehab, and how I navigated not wanting to lie while also not burdening them with details they wouldn't be able to process. I encourage the listener to talk to their kids about their trauma how they'd talk to their kids about any difficult subject: with clarity and awareness of which details are unnecessarily scary. The second listener question is about how to deal with the voice that tells them they will fail after every ounce of success they achieve. I contextualize this fear of “the other shoe dropping” as very normal for folks who have CPTSD. Many of us don't want to feel hope because we've had it crushed before, and so it is a natural defence mechanism. I detail the science behind why we think this way, and reference a study linked below. I offer some reassurance to help them reframe this feeling, to feel this feeling and to push past it anyway.   You can email in your written question, or send in a recorded MP3 voicenote to be inserted into the podcast via hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Homeostasis, Stress, Trauma, and Adaptation A Neurodevelopmental View of Childhood Trauma by Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD Ronnie Pollard, MD, PhD - https://scholar.google.co.za/scholar?q=perry+and+pollard+1998&hl=en&as_sdt=0&as_vis=1&oi=scholart     Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

Today's episode is packed with your listener questions! From co-dependency, to comparison and divorce. In Part 1 I answer a listener question about what to do about a man she's dating who is ‘hot and cold', and generally inconsistent. I explain that first and foremost, in order to heal from co-dependency we must develop a keen eye for identifying relationship dynamics. I explain that the one he is exhibiting is the “bait and switch” and that she ultimately needs to create a standard for behaviour she tolerates and then move towards what she appreciates and away from what is distressing. I also recommend she revisit the Ladder of Trust. In Part 2 I describe a tool previously touched upon, called The Comparison Tool. I add more detail to it, describing how I avoid the natural but brutal act of comparison. I explain that inheriting people's well fortune also means inheriting their woes, and that ultimately, it is safer to deal with the devil you know – ie. your own circumstances. In Part 3 a listener writes in to express her devastation that after her husband divorced her, he and his family seem happier than ever. I caution that social media is far from an accurate depiction of how  people are truly doing; pictures are a curated snapshot of what people want you to see. I also advise that dysfunctional dynamics follow people, so if her husband was not doing his self-development work with her, he won't have suddenly become more enlightened with someone else.   You can submit your question by text or mp3 voicenote to be played on the podcast via hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In Part 1 I answer a listener question about whether she can do my self-development programme while remaining in communication with a friend she has co-dependent and sometimes abusive dynamics with. She loves her friend dearly and is also afraid of being alone and without said friends' love. I firstly establish that she is in control of her healing, and gets to decide who stays and who goes; there are no mandatory requirements. I warn her that it is easy to fall into old patterns with people we formed bonds with when we were young, and that this is something to be mindful of. In light of this, I give her two tools she can use to ensure she honours her self development while maintaining her friendship.  The first tool is for self-reflection, to help her understand what her friendship might reflect about herself, and to allow her to release judgement of herself and her friend. The second tool is about how to get off the cycle of abuse, which is also on my YouTube channel linked below. I assure her that as she keeps working on herself and her boundaries, the friendship will either withstand the changes or naturally fall away, both which she will be equipped to deal with because of the inner work she is doing. In Part 2 Trent and Taylor join me to discuss The Vow episode 5   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/ Codependent No More – https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025     Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In Part 1 I answer a listener question about how to deal with someone in their running club who makes derogatory remarks about their body that inadvertently trigger the listener. I explain that we need to separate the question into its two parts: concern for the person making the remarks, and addressing how the listener is triggered by them. I firstly encourage the listener to consider whether adults need ever tell other adults how to feel and act. I explain that correcting adults in this way may highlight an underlying assumption that our behaviours and beliefs are superior to theirs. I suggest that the listener can lift up the person with compliments and assurance, or even use the nonviolent communication method to clearly illustrate the impact of the person's remarks. For more on this communication method, check out Episode , for more on that check out Episode 13. I advise the listener to prepare for the person's reaction, which could be that she resents them for this feedback. I then advise the listener on the second part of her question, which is how to deal with what triggers us. I advise setting a boundary or simply physically distancing from this person during their running club. In Part 2, Taylor and Trent join me to discuss The Vow Episode 4 and 5   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/     Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In Part 1 I answer a listener request to offer support to those facing hurricane Ian in Florida. I talk about my experience during the grid failure in Texas and how isolating it was on an emotional and physical level. I encourage people suffering due to the hurricane to acknowledge the depths of their distress, and to generally allow themselves to grieve the end of the natural world as we know it due to climate change. I summarize that shitty things happen to all of us, but come in different flavours, and your flavour is unfortunately this hurricane. I explain that the best you can do is to have grace with yourself, understand that of course your executive function will drop, and to give yourself time and space to process, grieve and feel whatever comes up. In Part 2 I dig into the archives to bring you a special Harry Potter segment Trent and I recorded at the podcast's inception.   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/     Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

Today is a solo episode, in Part 1 I discuss why I love studying cults, and in Part 2 I answer two listener questions. During the first half I explain how beneficial I find it to observe cults. I discuss how cults can be a mirror for our interpersonal relationships, and how empathizing with their victims helps us examine our own trauma responses. I also detail how engaging in cult material can help us be more aware and alert of cultish dynamics in the mundane and everyday. In Part 2, the first listener asks if their post-breakup expectations were unrealistic, and the second listener asks how to stay friends with people not doing inner work. In both scenarios I detail the ladder of trust as an appropriate tool to create intimacy and mutual investment.   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions PETE WALKER – COMPLEX POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER BOOK   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In part 1 answer a listener question about how to approach confronting a Fight Mode person about their upsetting behavior. I first detail why assessing other people's trauma responses in times of crisis is not conducive in achieving the desired outcome of mutual understanding, respect and boundaries. Diagnosing people can have the unintended effect of creating hierarchies and power dynamics in our heads that don't aid conflict resolution. I then recommend the highly effective tool of Nonviolent Communication coined by Marshall Rosenberg. This framework advocates for a formulaic approach to confrontation that distinguishes fact from emotion in order to facilitate resolution. In part 2, Trent, Taylor and I discuss The Vow Episode 4 To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ NonViolent Communication book by Marshall Rosenberg - https://amzn.to/3drVSZy The Center for NonViolent Communication - https://www.cnvc.org/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow     

In Part 1, a listener writes in explaining that her hairdresser did a poor job, and - despite her dismay - she found herself comforting the hairdresser. I explain that this is typical Fawn and Freeze Behaviour and contextualize what this behaviour looks like in different scenarios. I offer her comfort and practical tools to ensure better outcomes. I illustrate the power of bringing ‘advocates' with her to services she knows she struggles vocalizing her needs. I recommend bookending experiences with check ins with an accountability partner so that she doesn't end up agreeing to prices or services she didn't want. And finally I discuss the importance of allowing people to experience the consequences of their actions instead of subsuming them herself. I encourage her to be free of self-judgement, and rather to observe and accept the resulting consequences of her Fawn and Freeze Behaviours, in a way that allows her to learn from them. I explain that the length of her self-advocacy will shorten and that's how she can measure her progress. In Part 2, Taylor and Trent join me to discuss The Vow, Episode 4   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS Sign up to my Fairy Dusted Newsletter: https://www.advancedbitches.com/ The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In Part 1, I tackle a listener question about how to stop comparing herself to other women. I contextualize where this behaviour stems from. Her parents projected their own insecurities onto her by using comparison to other children as a tool to affirm and uplift her. This had the opposite effect, creating a belief that her achievements only exist in competition and contrast with others', and that to be ‘up' someone must be down. Moreover, this behaviour robs her of the opportunity to feel happy for herself and others, independent of jealousy. I detail an incredibly sobering tool I developed years ago that helps contextualize what one is envious of by humanizing the person in comparison. In Part 2, Taylor and Trent join me to discuss The Vow, episode 3. To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS Sign up to my Newsletter: https://www.advancedbitches.com/ The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions The Onion Article: https://www.theonion.com/teachers-reveal-why-they-are-quitting-their-jobs-1849443196 Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In Part 1 I make a special announcement about the formatting of the podcast going forward, and detail my newsletter subscription (linked below). In Part 2 I answer a listener question about how to safely engage with her ailing, emotionally manipulative mother. The listener is torn between caring for her mother in her time of need, while maintaining her own boundaries, work and general life interests that her mother sees as a direct threat to the love and care she's receiving. I explain how ‘fawn' responders might react to this overwhelming situation, and then detail how to foster a healthier. Firstly, I outline that she must not let her parent assume the role of a child because this forces the listener it0 chase after her mother emotionally. I detail how to mentally establish an ‘adult-to-adult' approach and dynamic. From there I go over how to slowly and safely introduce boundaries in a way that still implies love and care for her mother, and that honours the listener's needs too. I end by encouraging her to have patience and compassion for herself as dealing with such complicated family dynamics as a ‘fawner' is incredibly triggering. In Part 2 Taylor and Trent join me to discuss The Vow, Episode 2. To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   Codependent No More by Melody Beattie https://amzn.to/3CZiWsW I'm Glad my Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy https://amzn.to/3KVmFtn Sign up to my Newsletter: https://www.advancedbitches.com/ Caregiving Vs. Caretaking article - https://www.expressivecounseling.com/articles/codependency-caretaking The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In Part 1 I tell you about what I'm working on: developing a comforting and sustainable sleeping routine! It's harder than you think. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about intuition vs. trauma responses. How can she learn to trust her inner voice when it comes to dating men if it's been informed by abandonment and neglect? I discuss the importance of defence mechanisms and how they're rooted in experience and your body's attempt at self-preservation. I then detail the active choice to override your initial defence mechanism response with an intentional tool to ensure your discernment is coming from an objective and carefully considered place. These tools are detailed further in my book, “The Irreverent Trust Guide”, linked below.   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/  Trent Twomey - https://www.instagram.com/p/CdUNemlMxhL/ Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow  

In Part 1 I talk tooth trauma! If you know, you know. For many of us the dentist's chair is the last place we want to find ourselves. I share a recent distressing dental experience and use it to discuss how anxiety manifests differently in different people. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about how to deal with a toxic workplace. I explain that all organizations exist on a spectrum of toxicity and then walk through how to decide whether poor mental health is the price the listener is willing to pay to keep her job. In Part 3 Taylor joins me to discuss Netflix' Keep Sweet, Prey and Obey.   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/  The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA Produced by Wowow

Yes, I mean it! Getting ghosted is a blessing in disguise. In Part 1 I explain how ghosting is a key indicator that someone is unwilling or unable to develop trust and emotional intimacy with you. I explain that it is only the beginning of what will be a string passive aggressive behaviour from the perpetrator, and that we must learn to heed ghosting as an early end of an inevitably doomed relationship. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about what to do when a bestie befriends an abusive ex-friend. I use an anecdote about how a strong friendship cultivated in recovery had a difficult but necessary ending. In Part 3 Taylor joins me for an analysis of the ending of Netflix' Keep Sweet, Prey and Obey.   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/  The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions 4 Reasons to Fall in Love with Getting Ghosted - https://thriveglobal.com/stories/4-reasons-to-fall-in-love-with-getting-ghosted/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

Warning! Today bubbles will be burst. In Part 1 I challenge the idea of self-sabotage. I invite you to consider how self-sabotage is actually a trauma response, and explain that defining our body's act of inertia as "sabotage", is discrediting its effort to keep us safe. I then use my journey with chronic dieting and eating disorders to illustrate this. In Part 2 I answer a listener's question about how to handle a friend who repeatedly crosses their boundaries and who doesn't make an effort. I use Gottman's relational theory of “bid's for connection”, my theory of “ladder of trust”, and Rosenberg's theory of nonviolent communication to contextualize their experience and provide possible solutions. In Part 3 Taylor joins me to discuss Episode 2 of Netflix' Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey. Trigger warning: sexual violence   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Atomic Habits – https://amzn.to/2KCFs1E Gottman's “Bids for Connection” - https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/ Breaking Free:  How I Escaped Polygamy, the FLDS Cult, and My Father, Warren Jeffs - https://amzn.to/3Qyx28e   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In Part 1 I talk about the difference between telling people your boundaries versus living them. I discuss how boundaries are about protecting and honouring ourselves and our standards rather than controlling the behaviour of others. I hone in on the concept of consequences and acknowledge how difficult they are to act out because it places the consequence of a crossed boundary on us and not on the other person. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about how to mourn the death of a relationship they have fantasized about and exaggerated in their mind. I contextualize fantasy as a coping mechanism and not shameful and assure them that fantasy is just as painful as reality. I discuss shame and abandonment issues. In Part 3 I invite a dear friend Taylor Wallis on the show to discuss our obsession with cults, through the lens of the show Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey.   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow

In Part 1, I talk about ego and how surrendering my ego has transformed my recovery from food addiction. On the flipside, I discuss how ego has sabotaged my efforts, and describe ego as a defensive mechanism in response to stress. In Part 2, I answer a listener question about whether it's possible for imposter syndrome to show up in romantic relationships. I discuss how imposter syndrome is often just trauma dressed up, and how interrogating negative self-talk and learning about attachment theory could ease their overwhelm. And in Part 3, Trent and I take a deep dive into all things Obi Wan.   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books: The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA Produced by Wowow Podcasts  

I discuss the experience of going to therapy as a counsellor myself, and a traumatic run-in with an overzealous one. I then answer a listener's question about developing a crush on her therapist and explain transference and dreamwork to help contextualize and normalize her feelings. I discuss ethics that protect patients and therapists from romantic entanglements and leave her with actionable tools to process said feelings within the session itself. Trent joins me for the last segment where we mull over satirical gift ideas for dads, sad frozen pizzas and our quirky sense of humour.   To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Dad Gift Guide article - https://www.theonion.com/onion-gift-guide-father-s-day-gifts-for-every-type-of-1849065889     Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books: The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

I talk about being gentle in times of grief and making peace with the process through the lens of a personal loss. I answer an Advanced Bitch's question about why I prioritize healing trauma before addressing addiction. I then give you a tool to combat perfectionism, which is a trait hardly taken seriously, but can kill – literally. Finally, we finish on a silly note with Trent joining me for a hilarious dissection of a local education scandal. To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Teacher article - https://www.newsweek.com/houston-teacher-resigns-video-trading-grades-book-reviews-1710055   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books: The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow  

I answer an Advanced Bitche's question about how to handle her flight response that results in uprooting her family when faced with triggers. In discussing her dilemma I detail the four trauma responses: I explain how to address when they don't serve you, and how to have compassion for yourself through them. I also discuss how to embrace parts of your personality created from your trauma response and how to identify and leverage the benefits that may be hidden within it. To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books: The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

Hello, I'm Elizabeth. And I was formerly fucked up. Very fucked up. It took years and years to unlearn self-sabotage, rewrite negative self-talk, forgive myself and others and develop the tools to understand and manage my trauma. Through therapy, and becoming a therapist and life coach myself, I leveled up my mind, body and soul - and have realized my true nature as a confident, self-assured, free woman. Or for short, an Advanced Bitch. And I want this for you, too! Every week I'll deliver no-nonsense episodes that break down and simplify the dirty work that is transforming your life, one mindset shift at a time. And to let you know, even though I'm a licensed therapist, this podcast is not therapy. If you want to further your healing, please seek out relevant practitioners and join my membership for in-depth, personalized classes.