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What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce D. Perry explores the impact of childhood trauma on emotional and mental well-being. Instead of asking, “What's wrong with you?” the book shifts the focus to “What happened to you?”—emphasizing how past experiences shape behavior. Using personal stories and neuroscience, the authors highlight how early adversity affects brain development and offer insights on healing and resilience. As always, it is our prayer that you receive powerful life lessons from each and every episode that you can apply to your daily life to help you reach the other side of depression. If you have any questions for Dr Earle, please reach out to him at Guy@DrGuyEarle.com. If you, or someone you know, is struggling with the thought of suicide, please, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline @ 800-273-8255. www.DrGuyEarle.com A Podcast by www.Grzzly.Digital
Nghe trọn sách nói Chữa Lành Những Sang Chấn Tuổi Thơ trên ứng dụng Fonos: https://fonos.link/podcast-tvsn --Về Fonos:Fonos là Ứng dụng âm thanh số - Với hơn 13.000 nội dung gồm Sách nói có bản quyền, PodCourse, Podcast, Ebook, Tóm tắt sách, Thiền định, Truyện ngủ, Nhạc chủ đề, Truyện thiếu nhi. Bạn có thể nghe miễn phí chương 1 của tất cả sách nói trên Fonos. Tải app để trải nghiệm ngay!--Là một sự kết hợp mới lạ giữa Nữ hoàng truyền hình Oprah Winfrey và Tiến sĩ, bác sĩ Bruce D. Perry - chuyên gia lâm sàng và nhà nghiên cứu tích cực về sức khỏe tâm thần của trẻ em và khoa học thần kinh, Chữa Lành Những Sang Chấn Tuổi Thơ là cuốn sách giúp chúng ta khám phá những tác động của mất mát đau thương, ngược đãi, lạm dụng tình dục, phân biệt chủng tộc, kỳ thị giới, bạo lực gia đình, bạo lực cộng đồng, và nhiều vấn đề khác, để từ đó giúp hiểu thêm về sức khỏe, quá trình chữa lành cũng như khả năng phục hồi và trưởng thành sau sang chấn. Trong cuốn sách này, Oprah Winfrey mang đến những câu chuyện của chính bà cũng như của những người đã từng trò chuyện cùng bà, về những ký ức đau đớn trong quá khứ, và cách mà chúng ảnh hưởng đến quá trình phát triển của mỗi người, thậm chí cả cuộc đời họ ra sao. Trong khi đó, Tiến sĩ, bác sĩ Bruce D. Perry sẽ đưa ra các lý giải, phân tích mỗi nguyên nhân, hậu quả và sự thật ẩn sau tất cả mọi hành vi của con người. Thông qua quá trình thấu hiểu cả về phương diện khoa học lẫn tâm lý học, chúng ta sẽ có dịp nhìn lại những tổn thương, không phải để sợ hãi hay lẩn trốn, mà là để đối mặt và chữa lành cho đứa trẻ bên trong mình. Các tác giả hy vọng mỗi người theo từng cách riêng, sẽ có được những chiêm nghiệm riêng để bỏ lại quá khứ ở phía sau và tận hưởng cuộc sống một cách trọn vẹn hơn.--Tìm hiểu thêm về Fonos: https://fonos.vn/Theo dõi Facebook Fonos: https://www.facebook.com/fonosvietnam/
What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce D. Perry explores the impact of childhood trauma on emotional and mental well-being. Instead of asking, “What's wrong with you?” the book shifts the focus to “What happened to you?”—emphasizing how past experiences shape behavior. Using personal stories and neuroscience, the authors highlight how early adversity affects brain development and offer insights on healing and resilience. As always, it is our prayer that you receive powerful life lessons from each and every episode that you can apply to your daily life to help you reach the other side of depression. If you have any questions for Dr Earle, please reach out to him at Guy@DrGuyEarle.com. If you, or someone you know, is struggling with the thought of suicide, please, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline @ 800-273-8255. www.DrGuyEarle.com A Podcast by www.Grzzly.Digital
In this episode, Steve Fretzin and Chuck Andrews discuss:Challenges in making law firms and businesses scalable and saleableStrategic and mental preparation for business transitionsUnderstanding client needs as a driver for business growthOvercoming personal barriers to achieve professional success Key Takeaways:Many lawyers fail to create saleable practices because they don't view their firms as scalable assets, instead focusing solely on leveraging personal skills.Emotional and psychological unpreparedness for life after selling a business often causes transitions to fail, making mental readiness as crucial as financial planning.Business owners can significantly improve scalability and growth by conducting client surveys to understand why customers choose their services.Identifying and managing personal saboteurs, such as the need to please or overachieve, is essential for breaking patterns that hinder both business and personal progress. "The biggest challenge an attorney has is recognizing that they can build their practice into a saleable practice." — Chuck Andrews Be That Lawyer is now syndicated on Above the Law! Catch all our new episodes and my monthly column there—spread the word and help us grow: https://abovethelaw.com/ Thank you to our Sponsors!Rankings.io: https://rankings.io/Rainmakers Roundtable: https://www.fretzin.com/lawyer-coaching-and-training/peer-advisory-groups/ Episode References: What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry: https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Understanding-Resilience/dp/1250223180Wisdom at Work by Chip Conley: https://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Work-Making-Modern-Elder/dp/0525572902Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine: https://www.amazon.com/Positive-Intelligence-Individuals-Achieve-Potential/dp/1608322785The Fifth Discipline by Peter M. Senge: https://www.amazon.com/Fifth-Discipline-Practice-Learning-Organization/dp/0385517254 About Chuck Andrews: Chuck combines expertise in technology, M&A advisory, and executive coaching, integrating AI-driven solutions into his firm's services. Clients gain from tools like AI-based Value Drivers, a Positive Intelligence mental health app, and leadership development rooted in Vistage Peer Advisory Boards. Connect with Chuck Andrews: Website: https://ceo15.us/Email: chuck@ceo15.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ceo15-cca/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chuckCEO15/ & https://www.facebook.com/CAndrewsCEO Connect with Steve Fretzin:LinkedIn: Steve FretzinTwitter: @stevefretzinInstagram: @fretzinsteveFacebook: Fretzin, Inc.Website: Fretzin.comEmail: Steve@Fretzin.comBook: Legal Business Development Isn't Rocket Science and more!YouTube: Steve FretzinCall Steve directly at 847-602-6911 Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.
Aké boli tie najlepšie knihy roka 2024? V našej ankete odpovedajú: Alenka Petejová (architektka) Ján Hreško (filozof a pedagóg) Katarína Zemčík (projektová manažérka ReFormatio) Richard Vávra (Archívny chlapec) Kristína Gburová (turistická sprievodkyňa) Oliver Zajac (historik) Zuzka Lenartová (psychologička) Lukáš Bajgar (Starý Bral) Spomíname: Tvorivý akt: Spôsob bytia (Rick Rubin) Umenie blízkosti (Monika Kompaníková, Ján Hrustič) Všetko čo nás spája: Príbeh slovenskej Vietnamky (Kvet Nguyen) V balíkoch hrklo (Lyrik H) Kráľ Lear (William Shakespeare) Teorie spolehlivosti (Ivan Diviš) Pôvod kultúry (René Girard) Premenená na hudbu (Katarína Džunková) Posledné leto v meste (Gianfranco Calligarich) Sofia Copolla Archive (Sofia Copolla) Takové maličkosti (Claire Keegan) Dom (Paco Roca) Pasažier (Cormac McCarthy) Dejiny lásky (Nicol Crausová) Nadácia na rozhraní (Isaac Asimov) Kim Čijong (ročník 82) (Čo Namdžu) Ťažké časy v Číne (Pavol Dvořák) Zabijaci v móde (Alden Wicker) Bardejovské potulky: Dejiny inak (Peter Harčar, Lucia Guthová) Putovanie ľudí Knihy (Olga Tokarczuk) Šógun (James Clavell) V službách šóguna (Frederik Cryns) Mýty naše Slovenské (Eduard Krekovič, Elena Mannová, Eva Krekovičová) Natašin tanec: Kultúrne dejiny Ruska (Orlando Figes) Předminulé století: Evropa v politice a kultuře 19. století (Jiří Hanuš, Vít Hloušek) Čo sa vám stalo? (Bruce D. Perry, Oprah Winfrey) Ty krásna temná Vanesa (Kate Elizabeth Russell) Komnata ozvien (John Boyne) Smrť vo Viedni (Frank Tallis) Ľad (Ilona Wiśniewska) Slovník ztracených slov (Pip Williams) Poslední jednorožec (Peter S. Beagle) Cesta domů (Peter S. Beagle) Krčmářova píseň (Peter S. Beagle) William Shakespeare: Dílo The Mythmakers (John Hendrix) The Collective Poems of J. R. R. Tolkien (Christina Scull, Wayne G. Hammond) ČITATEĽSKÝ DENNÍK mudrovanie o knihách, komiksoch a preplnených poličkách. (23. 12. 2024) Mix & zvučka: Jakub Lenart Podporiť nás môžete tu: cutt.ly/fwN6NGZK www.kandelaber.sk
What Happened to You?" by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey
SAFETY LISTENER NOTE: This presentation will discuss aspects of trauma, its impact on children, families and practitioners. We acknowledge that the content in this discussion may trigger your previous experiences with trauma or the trauma that your patient's have experienced. We encourage you to perform self-care practices even within this podcast; if you need to take a break and pause, please do so as you need. Today is the continuation of Sheila and Sara discussing Trauma Informed Care with Katelyn McNamara-Kays PT, DPT, PCS and Bridget Griffin, PT, DPT, PCS. Kate works at a level 1 pediatric trauma center in Louisville, Kentucky and Bridget works at a large children's hospital in the pediatric ICU in Cincinnati, Ohio. If you have not listened to last week's episode, please go back and listen to part 1 and then come back to today's episode for part 2 as we wrap up our discussion of Trauma Informed Care. Links and Resources: Trauma-Informed Care Fact sheet 1 Trauma-Informed Care Fact sheet 2 “Trauma-Informed Care in Pediatric Physical Therapy as a Standard Precaution: The Time Is Here” “What Happened To You” by Dr. Bruce D. Perry, MD, PHD, and Oprah Winfrey “In Shock: My Journey from Death to Recovery and the Redemptive Power of Hope” by Dr. Rana Awdish Use code PUSHING PEDS for $150 off your Medbridge subscription! Check out our website for resources discussed in today's episode, and subscribe for our subscription only episodes. Follow us on Instagram This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
SAFETY LISTENER NOTE: This presentation will discuss aspects of trauma, its impact on children, families and practitioners. We acknowledge that the content in this discussion may trigger your previous experiences with trauma or the trauma that your patient's have experienced. We encourage you to perform self-care practices even within this podcast; if you need to take a break and pause, please do so as you need. Sheila and Sara will be discussing Trauma Informed Care with Katelyn McNamara-Kays PT, DPT, PCS and Bridget Griffin, PT, DPT, PCS, who are both highly qualified to tackle this topic today. Kate works at a level 1 trauma center in Louisville, Kentucky and Bridget works in Cincinnati, Ohio. Today we will be breaking down exactly what Trauma Informed Care is, why it is important to consider when interacting with pediatric patients, considerations for different ages of children, and how to apply it to your practice. Come back next week for part two of this topic! Links and Resources: Trauma-Informed Care Fact sheet 1 Trauma-Informed Care Fact sheet 2 “Trauma-Informed Care in Pediatric Physical Therapy as a Standard Precaution: The Time Is Here” “What Happened To You” by Dr. Bruce D. Perry, MD, PHD, and Oprah Winfrey “In Shock: My Journey from Death to Recovery and the Redemptive Power of Hope” by Dr. Rana Awdish Use code PUSHING PEDS for $150 off your Medbridge subscription! Check out our website for resources discussed in today's episode, and subscribe for our subscription only episodes. Follow us on Instagram This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Helle Tõnts on tervisearengu treener ja tervise-ja heaolu podcasti “Tervise Progress” saatejuht. Varasem periood oma elust oli ta naine, kes oskas pikalt veenda iseennast, et kõik tema elus on imeliselt hästi, ärevus on normaalne elu osa, magusaisud on paratamatud, edukas naine peab jõudma kõikjale ning tervislikud eluviisid tulevad kasuks vaid siis kui vaja kaalu langetada. Helle on enda tervise vastu alati suurt huvi tundnud. Ta on lasknud teha endale vähi tõenäosuse väljaselgitamiseks geenianalüüsi, kontrollinud enda sünnimärke ja pidanud ka mõned kehalt eemaldama. Sukeldunud ka mikrobioomi testidesse. Helle leiab, et inimloomuse huvitav osa on see, et üldjuhul ilma niinimetatud tõestusmaterjalita või madalseisu langemata midagi enda elus ette ei võeta. Viimased 4 aastat on ta aktiivselt tegelenud oma intuitsiooni kuulamisega ja sellega, mida tema keha talle ütleb. Helle on õppinud kuulama, mida ta vaim ja keha vajavad. Helle on lõpetanud ka ülemaailmselt tunnustatud coachingu kooli Institute of Transformational Nutrition. Helle kireks on toetada naisi pisikeste ja nauditavate sammudega liikuma oma tegeliku potentsiaali suunas. Tema sügav soov on, et naised säraksid nii seest kui väljast ja tunneksin end oma kehas üha kergemalt, enesekindlamalt ja tervena. HEAD MÕTTED: “Minu sünniteema on pannud mind vaatama teisi alati grammivõrra empaatilisemalt.” “Kui sa tahad kuuluda, siis sa ei reageeri.” “Tihtipeale me ei oska enda juures neid tugevusi märgata.” “Ükskõik, mis sinu taus on, või mis sinuga on juhtunud, see absoluutselt ei loe.” “Kõigega ei peagi tegelema enda juures aga sellega on vaja tegeleda siis, kui see häirib sinu elu.” “Kui su kehal on mingisugune ebamugavus, siis see on signaaliks kehalt selle kohta, et miski talle ei meeldi.” “Meil on tendents vaadata tulevikku helgemalt kui see olla võib, eriti kui see puudutab tervist.” “See, et kas mul om geenid olemas saada näiteks vähki, ei määra nii palju rolli kui see, mismoodi ma enda elu elan.” “Sünnimärgid võivad ka välja areneda vähiks, seda juhul kui sinu kehal on sedatüüpi sünnimärgid.” “Kortisool ja insuliin on võtmehormoonid meie kehas.” “Tervise juures pööratakse kõige vähem tähelepanu taimede mitmekesisusele meie toidulaual.” “See, et sildil on kirjas vegan, ei tähenda, et see on alati tervislik.” “Piim ei ole jook, mida ükski toitumisnõustaja soovitaks juua.” “Alateadvus ei armasta muutuseid.” “Kiirdieedid ja jo-jo dieedid ei toimi, sest kehale ja alateadvusele ei meeldi kiired muutused.” “Levinumad probleemid, miks inimesed minu poole pöörduvad on seedeprobleemid, energiapuudus ja kehakaal.” “Evolutsiooniliselt tänu rasvale oleme me tegelikult ellu jäänud, seega see on oluline.” “Rasv kogub endasse kõiksugu toksiine.” Mainitud teosed: Helios Kirjastuse raamat Bruce D. Perry, Oprah Winfrey "Mis sinuga juhtus?" Million Mindset kirjastuse raamat Keith Ferrazzi "Ei ühtki einet üksi" Helle teenused leiad siit: https://tervisearengutreener.ee/ Kursuse Helle kursusele leiad siit: https://terviseprogress.ee/ #chriskala #helletõnts #terviseprogress #tervis #toit #toitumine #immuunsus #soolestik #mikrobioom #vegan #veganlus #hormoonid #vähk #analüüsid #podcast #podcasterid #keha #tunnetus #impulss #sümptomid #rasv #kalorid
Micro-Connections are small moments of connection with other people. Literally moments, not even minutes. Just a moment of holding the door open for someone, for instance. In this episode, we talk about why micro-connections are so important and powerful, for individuals – especially for people with a history of trauma– and for societies. The book Siena references is What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Dr. Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey. And the other podcast episode we mention is 205 Relationship Quality Is Life. https://sienaandtoast.com/podcast/micro-connections Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In Episode 175, Susie Boutry (@NovelVisits) and I explore our favorite Micro Genres for 2024. Over the past year, we've continued to refine our reading tastes and identify specific themes and types of books that resonate deeply with us. This year, Susie and I have a curated list of 10 all-new Micro Genres, along with standout books from each category. It's another big episode with tons of great book recommendations! This post contains affiliate links through which I make a small commission when you make a purchase (at no cost to you!). CLICK HERE for the full episode Show Notes on the blog. Cold War Espionage (Sarah) [3:19] Sarah Red Widow by Alma Katsu | Amazon | Bookshop.org [4:49] Red London by Alma Katsu | Amazon | Bookshop.org [4:50] Our American Friend by Anna Pitoniak | Amazon | Bookshop.org [5:10] The Charm School by Nelson DeMille | Amazon | Bookshop.org [5:20] Red Notice by Bill Browder | Amazon | Bookshop.org [5:47] The Spy and the Traitor by Ben Macintyre | Amazon | Bookshop.org [6:01] Susie The Sisterhood by Liz Mundy | Amazon | Bookshop.org [6:26] Angsty Motherhood (Susie) [7:21] Sarah Perfect Tunes by Emily Gould | Amazon | Bookshop.org [12:00] Susie Soldier Sailor by Claire Kilroy | Amazon | Bookshop.org [8:38] Same As It Ever Was by Claire Lombardo | Amazon | Bookshop.org [10:04] Amazing Grace Adams by Fran Littlewood | Amazon | Bookshop.org [10:37] When I Ran Away by Ilona Bannister | Amazon | Bookshop.org [10:53] Little Prisons by Ilona Bannister (currently unavailable in the US) [10:54] Landslide by Susan Conley | Amazon | Bookshop.org [10:57] The Push by Ashley Audrain | Amazon | Bookshop.org [11:00] Memoirs About the Demise of a Marriage (Sarah) [12:18] Sarah How to Stay Married by Harrison Scott Key | Amazon | Bookshop.org [13:26] You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith | Amazon | Bookshop.org [13:52] A Beautiful, Terrible Thing by Jen Waite | Amazon | Bookshop.org [14:11] Bankruptcy by Janet Lombardi | Amazon | Bookshop.org [14:14] Susie Untamed by Glennon Doyle | Amazon | Bookshop.org [14:49] Pandemic Stories (Susie) [15:26] NOT Based on the COVID-19 Pandemic & More Dystopian [15:49] Sarah Wanderers by Chunk Wendig | Amazon | Bookshop.org [17:43] Susie Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel | Amazon | Bookshop.org [16:06] The Dog Stars by Peter Heller | Amazon | Bookshop.org [16:20] The Memory of Animals by Claire Fuller | Amazon | Bookshop.org [16:41] Severance by Ling Ma | Amazon | Bookshop.org [17:07] The Dreamers by Karen Thompson Walker | Amazon | Bookshop.org [18:20] With the COVID-19 Pandemic in the Background [18:28] Sarah 56 Days by Catherine Ryan Howard | Amazon | Bookshop.org [20:37] Reef Road by Deborah Goodrich Royce | Amazon | Bookshop.org [20:40] Susie Blue Ruin by Hari Kunzru | Amazon | Bookshop.org [18:37] Day by Michael Cunningham | Amazon | Bookshop.org [19:17] Tom Lake by Ann Patchett | Amazon | Bookshop.org [19:47] Pete and Alice in Maine by Caitlin Shetterly | Amazon | Bookshop.org [19:49] Other Books Mentioned Wish You Were Here by Jodi Picoult [21:09] Invisible Son by Kim Johnson [21:14] This Is My America by Kim Johnson [21:19] The Measure by Nikki Erlick [22:03] Did She Actually Say That?! (Sarah) [23:03] Sarah Miracle Creek by Angie Kim | Amazon | Bookshop.org [24:18] Happiness Falls by Angie Kim | Amazon | Bookshop.org [24:19] The Push by Ashley Audrain | Amazon | Bookshop.org [24:55] All This Could Be Yours by Jami Attenberg | Amazon | Bookshop.org [25:14] Sociopath by Patric Gagne, PhD | Amazon | Bookshop.org [25:42] Susie The Change by Kirsten Miller | Amazon | Bookshop.org [26:15] On the Savage Side by Tiffany McDaniel | Amazon | Bookshop.org [26:32] Books Revolving Around Generational Trauma (Susie) [27:34] Sarah Strange Sally Diamond by Liz Nugent | Amazon | Bookshop.org [31:24] Memphis by Tara M. Stringfellow | Amazon | Bookshop.org [31:28] What My Bones Know by Stephanie Foo | Amazon | Bookshop.org [31:52] The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD | Amazon | Bookshop.org [31:54] What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry, MD PhD | Amazon | Bookshop.org [31:57] Susie Grown Women by Sarai Johnson | Amazon | Bookshop.org [29:08] Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi | Amazon | Bookshop.org [29:58] The Postcard by Anne Berest | Amazon | Bookshop.org [30:27] Saving Ruby King by Catherine Adel West | Amazon | Bookshop.org [30:50] All My Rage by Sabaa Tahir | Amazon | Bookshop.org [30:53] Swift River by Essie Chambers | Amazon | Bookshop.org [30:56] Brotherless Night by V. V. Ganeshanathan | Amazon | Bookshop.org [30:59] Co-Ed Friend Groups (Sarah) [32:18] Sarah The Interestings by Meg Wolitzer | Amazon | Bookshop.org [33:17] Shotgun Lovesongs by Nickolas Butler | Amazon | Bookshop.org [33:29] The Ensemble by Aja Gabel | Amazon | Bookshop.org [33:39] All Together Now by Matthew Norman | Amazon | Bookshop.org [33:47] Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin | Amazon | Bookshop.org [34:01] The Christmas Orphans Club by Becca Freeman | Amazon | Bookshop.org [34:14] Susie The Celebrants by Steven Rowley | Amazon | Bookshop.org [34:36] Who We Are Now by Lauryn Chamberlain | Amazon | Bookshop.org [35:16] Peace, Love, and Rock n' Roll / Books Set in the '60s & '70s (Susie) [36:58] Susie The Women by Kristin Hannah | Amazon | Bookshop.org [38:09] Daisy Jones & The Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid | Amazon | Bookshop.org [38:31] Mary Jane by Jessica Anya Blau | Amazon | Bookshop.org [38:57] The Nickel Boys by Colson Whitehead | Amazon | Bookshop.org [spp-timestamp time=”[39:11]″] All You Have to Do Is Call by Kerri Maher | Amazon | Bookshop.org [39:39] Last House by Jessica Shattuck | Amazon | Bookshop.org [39:53] Surprisingly High-Quality Celebrity Memoirs (Sarah) [40:33] Sarah Open by Andre Agassi | Amazon | Bookshop.org [41:05] Spare by Prince Harry | Amazon | Bookshop.org [41:07] Open Book by Jessica Simpson | Amazon | Bookshop.org [42:16] Finding Me by Viola Davis | Amazon | Bookshop.org [43:11] Becoming by Michelle Obama | Amazon | Bookshop.org [43:15] Only Say Good Things by Crystal Hefner | Amazon | Bookshop.org [43:21] Susie Born a Crime by Trevor Noah | Amazon | Bookshop.org [44:19] Other Books Mentioned The Woman in Me by Britney Spears [41:45] The Many Lives of Mama Love by Laura Love Hardin [43:33] Look Backs (Susie) [44:38] Sarah City of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert | Amazon | Bookshop.org [48:11] Lillian Boxfish Takes a Walk by Kathleen Rooney | Amazon | Bookshop.org [48:33] Victim by Andrew Boryga | Amazon | Bookshop.org [49:06] Susie The Rachel Incident by Caroline O'Donoghue | Amazon | Bookshop.org [45:30] The Age of Miracles by Karen Thompson Walker | Amazon | Bookshop.org [46:03] Now Is Not the Time to Panic by Kevin Wilson | Amazon | Bookshop.org [47:08] Absolution by Alice McDermott | Amazon | Bookshop.org [47:30] Other Books Mentioned Happiness Falls by Angie Kim [47:47]
Arlis Kay Perry (née Dykema; February 22, 1955 – October 12, 1974)[1] was a newlywed 19-year-old North Dakota native who was killed in Stanford Memorial Church on the grounds of Stanford University on October 12, 1974. Her murder remains unsolved.[2] Perry was found murdered in the church in the early morning hours of October 13, 1974.[3] Perry went to church at around 11:30 p.m. the previous night after an argument with her husband. Perry was sexually assaulted with altar candles but was not raped.[4] An ice pick was found jammed deep into the base of her skull during autopsy.[5] David Berkowitz, the notorious "Son of Sam" killer from New York City, mentioned the Perry murder in a few letters, suggesting that he heard details of the crime from "Manson II", the culprit. In the San Jose Mercury News, Jessie Seyfer noted that "investigators interviewed [Berkowitz] in prison and now believe he has nothing of value to offer" regarding the Perry case.[6] Perry's widower, Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD, is a clinician and researcher in children's mental health and the neurosciences, and an internationally recognized authority on children in crisis.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-opperman-report--1198501/support.
The radical shift in perspective that can come when we change our question from “what's wrong with you” to “what happened to you?”Dr. Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. is the Principal of the Neurosequential Network and a Professor (Adjunct) at the School of Allied Health, Human Services and Sport, La Trobe University, Melbourne, Victoria Australia. Over the last thirty years, Dr. Perry has been an active teacher, clinician and researcher in children's mental health and the neurosciences holding a variety of academic positions. His work on the impact of abuse, neglect and trauma on the developing brain has impacted clinical practice, programs and policy across the world. Dr. Perry is the author, with Maia Szalavitz, of The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog, a bestselling book based on his work with maltreated children and Born For Love: Why Empathy is Essential and Endangered. Dr. Perry's most recent book, What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (2021), co-authored with Oprah Winfrey, has been translated into 26 languages and has been on the New York Times Bestseller list for over 100 weeks after becoming #1 on the list in April of 2021.Related Episodes:The Art and Science of the World's Gooiest Cliche | Barbara FredricksonHow to Live with the Worst Things That Ever Happened to You | Stephanie FooAn Ace Therapist Gives Dan A Run For His Money | Dr. Jacob HamDeep Genealogy | Spring WashamDeep, Provocative Success Strategies From the “Yoda of Silicon Valley” | Jerry ColonnaSign up for Dan's weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/drbruceperryAdditional Resources:Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/installSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
When a child is in need of support to help navigate the traumatic experiences in their lives. Renowned psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and leading authority on childhood trauma Dr. Bruce D. Perry is the man to call. Dr. Perry has researched childhood trauma and its impact on brain development and behavior throughout his decades, long distinguished career. Perry's dedication to understanding and addressing the effects of trauma on individuals, families, and communities has played a pivotal role In advancing our understanding of trauma informed care and resilience, building strategies. Dr. Perry is the co-author of the New York Times #1 best seller. "What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing," co-authored with none other than Oprah Winfrey. You're about to hear Dr. Perry delve into the transformative power of understanding trauma, our ability to reprogram our brains, and a wonderful explanation of a theory a lot of adoptees have relied on for healing. It is my pleasure to present to you my conversation with Dr. Bruce D. Perry.Neurosequential.comWho Am I Really?Who Am I Really? Website Share Your StoryDamon's story Find the show on:InstagramFacebookAppleYouTubeSpotifyGoogleTuneIn StitcherPlayer FMPodbean
Happy May!I unfortunately had some unexpected technical difficulties while working to record a new episode for May 1st, and wasn't able to make it happen in time. I'm working on getting back up and running, but regardless it's always a good time to listen anew or listen again to one of my favorite episodes on the book, What Happened to You by Dr. Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey. The book tackles how trauma can impact how we see the world and interact with the people around us. I hope you listen to the end.As always, please share and recommend, and thank you so much for the support!Subscribe to my new YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKqzLvt6WEK7Dfl7SJFtJFAEMAIL: contact@thelettersandlayers.com-OR-DM me through my social media handles! IG: @amaka_agI appreciate you!
The word resilience is being used more on social media and normal conversation. The question we had is, how do we build resilience in our children and ourselves. Amanda Zelechoski is here to answer our question! Amanda is a Professor of Psychology at Purdue University and has some incredible insights. Subject Resources: 1. All about Amanda: https://www.pnw.edu/people/amanda-d-zelechoski-j-d-ph-d-abpp/ 2. Bruce D. Perry information: https://traumaresearchfoundation.org/programs/faculty/bruce-perry/ Contact us: -Email us questions or topic ideas: parents@thefamilyplaceutah.org -Record questions here: https://anchor.fm/theparentsplace -Parent's Place FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/196037267839869/ - https://www.facebook.com/jendalyTFP Music by Joystock - https://www.joystock.org --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theparentsplace/message
Lisa Cooper Ellison joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about therapy vs. memoir, taking care of our nervous systems while working on charged material, writing about trauma without retraumatizing ourselves, developing a robust self-care practice, how to avoid creating victim narratives in our memoirs, what to do with gaps in our memory, putting more of ourselves on the page, and her new podcast Writing Your Resilience. Also in this episode: -signs of a trauma response -learning how to be present -neuroplasticity Book mentioned in this episode: Writing to Heal by James Pennebaker Healing Trauma: Restoring the Wisdom of the Body by Peter A. Levine Trauma and Memory by Peter A. Levine Becoming the Love You Seek by Dr. Nicole Lepera Stash by Laura Cathcart Robbins Acetylene Torch Songs by Sue William Silverman What Happened to You by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey Hunger by Roxanne Gay Another Bullshit Night in Suck City by Nick Flynn Lisa Cooper Ellison is an author, speaker, and trauma-informed writing coach with an Ed.S in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and a background in mindfulness. She regularly presents and teaches courses on the use of mindfulness in writing, writing about trauma, the book proposal, and all things memoir. A regular contributor to the Jane Friedman blog, her essays and short stories have appeared in HuffPost, Hippocampus Literary Magazine, the New Guard Review, Kenyon Review Online, and Brevity, among others. Connect with Lisa: Website: https://lisacooperellison.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisacooperellison/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisacooperellison/ Threads: https://www.threads.net/@lisacooperellison LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-ellison-b5483840/ — Ronit's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer's Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts' 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories. She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and lives in Seattle with her family where she teaches memoir workshops and is working on her next book. More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com Sign up for monthly podcast and writing updates: https://bit.ly/33nyTKd Follow Ronit: https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/ https://twitter.com/RonitPlank https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank Background photo credit: Photo by Patrick Tomasso on Unsplash Headshot photo credit: Sarah Anne Photography Theme music: Isaac Joel, Dead Moll's Fingers
In a world often marred by trauma and despair, where stories of neglect and suffering abound, there shines a beacon of hope—a reminder of the transformative power of love. Join us on a journey inspired by the insights of child psychiatrist Dr. Bruce D. Perry, as we explore the profound significance of love in the lives of those who have faced unimaginable horrors. In his renowned work "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog," Dr. Perry shares tales of resilience and redemption, offering glimpses into the lives of children scarred by adversity. Among these stories is that of Mama P., a woman whose unwavering love and compassion transformed the life of a traumatised foster child named Robert. Through Mama P.'s nurturing embrace, Robert found solace and security, experiencing the healing power of love in the midst of his pain. Dr. Perry's account of Mama P.'s selfless devotion serves as a poignant reminder of the profound impact of love on the human spirit. Drawing from the timeless wisdom of 1 Corinthians 13, we embark on a journey to uncover the true essence of love. As the apostle Paul eloquently declares, "If I have not love, I am nothing." In these words, we find a profound truth—that love is the very foundation of our existence, the essence of our humanity. Join us as we delve into the depths of 1 Corinthians 13, unravelling its rich tapestry of love and discovering what it truly means to embody love in our daily lives. Through reflections on the stories of Mama P. and others like her, we seek to answer the age-old question: What is the Most Excellent Way? We are Unlocking the Power of Love: The Most Excellent Way. Throughout the coming weeks, we will explore the transformative power of love and its profound implications for our lives. Together, we will journey towards a deeper understanding of love and its central role in our quest for spiritual growth and fulfilment. So come, join us on this extraordinary adventure—a journey fuelled by love, guided by compassion, and inspired by the boundless grace of a God who is love. Together, let us discover the most excellent way—the way of love.
Sapphire, Michelle and Joseph chat about what they've been reading, watching, and listening to this week including the thought-provoking The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce D. Perry, the international bestseller Caste: The Origins of Our Discontent from Pulitzer prize-winning journalist Isabel Wilkerson, the atmospheric novella Eastbound by Maylis de Kerangal (translated by Jessica Moore), and Blue Sisters, the highly anticipated second novel by Coco Mellors.This week's deep dive book is the critically-acclaimed grim dark epic Babel by R. F. Kuang.This week's listener recommendation request comes from Cathy who is looking for engaging detective fiction similar to her favourite, Agatha Christie. Sapphire recommends The Maid and The Mystery Guest by Nita Prose, An Expert In Murder by Nicola Upson, The Franchise Affair by Josephine Tey, Small Pleasures by Clare Chambers, The Appeal by Janice Hallett, and The Twyford Code by Janice Hallett. Michelle recommends Whose Body? By Dorothy L Sayers, Footsteps In The Dark by Georgette Heyer, Eight Detectives by Alex Pavesi, and Curtain Call by Anthony Quinn. Joseph recommends The Honjin Murders by Seishi Yokomizo.Also mentioned in this episode:The Life and Rhymes of Benjamin Zephaniah by Benjamin ZephaniahThe Bee Sting by Paul Murray The Year of Living Danishly by Helen RussellHow to Raise a Viking by Helen RussellThe Novel Thoughts team also pay tribute to poet and activist Benjamin Zephaniah. Rest in power. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Are you exhausted from all the drama around difficult relationships in your family? If you are, you are absolutely not alone. I'm chatting with special guest, Cailin Allain, on just how she manages to navigate through these less than desirable situations. She gives some truly amazing and inspiring advice for anyone going through this. And most importantly, she makes us all feel like we aren't alone. About Cailin She is a mama to three beautiful daughters: Genevieve, Josephine, and Bernadette, and wife to Andy. Cailin is a work-from-home attorney specializing in estate planning and successions, and she also works full-time as a research attorney for CivicSource. She earned my J.D. and Comparative Law degrees from LSU, as well as a Bachelor's degree in English with a concentration in creative writing and a minor in political science. Cailin is passionate about reading, writing, and learning something new every day! You can find her writing at neworleansmom.com Resources: The Boundary Setting Song: https://open.spotify.com/track/2vcDt6RGoLg0pfHsFvV8GM?si=OYxLvJ2qQUmL6cdJX2NKrg Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, Or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson Calling Home Podcast with Whitney Goodman, LMFT & Instagram @sitwithwit What Happened To You?: Conversations On Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk THERAPY Cailin's Instagram: @cailin_allain Grab your FREE Resource: 10 Quick and Easy Steps to Avoid Mom Burnout: https://www.messyminivanmoms.com/burnout Follow the podcast on Instagram: @momlifeunscripted.podcast Join my Facebook group, a safe, non-judgmental space for mamas: https://www.facebook.com/groups/momlifeunscripted Like the podcast? Please be sure to rate and review the podcast and subscribe so you don't miss a thing!
In this National Adoption Awareness Month special, we hear adoptee Sara Odicio, LSW, of Core of Adoption. She talks about ruptured attachments. We then discuss some of Dr. Bruce D. Perry's research on child attachment and development, and eight ways caretakers can help nurture children who struggle with secure attachments. We reference two articles by Dr. Perry called “Examining child maltreatment through a neurodevelopmental lens: clinical application of the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics” (2009) and "Bonding and Attachment in Maltreated Children Consequences of Emotional Neglect in Childhood" (2001).For more about how to nurture children experiencing ruptured attachments, and for more information on some of Dr. Perry's work, go to ChildTrama.org and bdperry.com.
#160 What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry Энэ удаагийн дугаартаа "What Happened to You?" буюу "Чамд юу тохиолдсон бэ?" номыг хүргэж байна. Таны амьдралд тохиолдсон үйл явдалууд, тэр тундаа бага насанд тохиолдсон хүнд, хэцүү мѳчүүд нь траума болон үлдэж, хэрхэн энгийн ѳдѳр тутмын амьдралд том нѳлѳѳтэй байдагыг, мѳн тэрхүү нѳлѳѳнѳѳс хэрхэн ангижрах боломжтойг энэхүү номноос олон жишээгээр мѳн сэтгэл зүйн шинжлэх ухааны үүднээс нь мэдэж авах болно.
In this episode, foster care trainer Liz Rivera shares key takeaways from the book, What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her experience working at Utah Foster Care for more than 2 decades shines in this conversation about childhood trauma and finding peace and healing.
Today Glenn joins Clodagh to speak about a topic Clodagh has wanted to cover since Unspoken by born, homelessness. Glenn's story centres around the heartbreaking factors that led to him living on the streets but also the humanity he found there in the arms of strangers. You will find Glenn's story incredibly moving and it will leave you with so much hope in your heart. Today's conversation is a very special listen.Today's podcast is very proudly sponsored by award-winning Irish skincare brand, Ella & Jo Cosmetics. Find your skin confidence again by shopping Ella & Jo's beautiful products on www.ellaandjo.ie using discount code UNSPOKEN for 15% off.RESOURCES:Featured book: What happened to you? (Bruce D Perry & Oprah Winfrey)Additional Books: Body Keeps the Score (Bessel Van Der Kolk)Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma (Peter A Levine)Homelessness Websites:Homepage - Homelessness in IrelandUnderstanding Homelessness - Simon Communities in IrelandFacts and Figures - Peter McVerry Trust (pmvtrust.ie) Support Lines:AWARE support line: Freephone 1800 80 48 48Samaritans support line: 116123 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Chapter 1 What's The Boy Who Was Raised as a DogThe book "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook" is written by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz. It explores the impact of trauma on children's developing brains and offers insights from the field of neuroscience to understand their recovery. The book's title is based on a specific case study of a young boy who experienced severe childhood trauma and the therapeutic approach used to help him heal.Chapter 2 Why is The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog Worth Read"The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog" by Bruce D. Perry is worth reading for several reasons:1. Insightful exploration of trauma: The book delves into the effects of early childhood trauma on a child's brain and development. Through real-life case studies, Perry provides valuable information and a deeper understanding of the impact of trauma on the developing child.2. Groundbreaking research: Perry shares his extensive knowledge and research in the field of child psychology, highlighting the latest neuroscience and using it to explain how trauma affects the brain. This book presents a comprehensive exploration of trauma-informed care and the importance of early intervention.3. Engaging storytelling: Rather than presenting dry academic information, Perry uses compelling stories of his patients to illustrate his points. These stories are both heart-wrenching and inspiring and help to humanize the complex topics discussed.4. Practical guidance and hope: Alongside the narratives, Perry provides practical advice and strategies for helping children who have experienced trauma. The book emphasizes the importance of compassion, understanding, and connection in facilitating healing and recovery.5. Offers a broader perspective: While the book focuses on individual cases, it draws attention to systemic issues surrounding child welfare and the need for a societal shift in how we approach trauma. It challenges traditional views and highlights the importance of a compassionate and informed response to childhood trauma.Overall, "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog" is worth reading for its accessible and engaging narrative, its evidence-based insights, and its potential to inspire meaningful change in our understanding and response to childhood trauma.Chapter 3 The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog Summary"The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog" by Bruce D. Perry is a book that explores the impact of trauma on childhood development by sharing the stories of various children Dr. Perry has worked with throughout his career. The book begins with an introduction to the concept of childhood trauma and its effects on the developing brain. Dr. Perry explains the different types of trauma and how they can shape a child's behavior and emotional responses. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing these traumas at an early age to prevent long-term consequences.Dr. Perry then delves into several case studies, each highlighting a different aspect of trauma and its diverse manifestations. One of the notable stories is that of a young boy who was neglected and severely abused by his caregivers. Through this case, Dr. Perry illustrates how early childhood trauma can negatively impact a child's social and emotional development, leading to difficulty forming healthy relationships and regulating emotions.The book also explores the concept of the "childhood crisis response" and how trauma can alter the brain's stress response system. Dr. Perry discusses the importance of recognizing and treating trauma early on to mitigate the impact on a child's brain and overall development.Throughout the book, Dr. Perry emphasizes the...
Chapter 1 What's the Book What Happened To You"What Happened to You?" is a book written by Dr. Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey. In this book, the authors explore the impact of childhood trauma and emphasize the importance of understanding and addressing these experiences in order to heal and move forward. They discuss the effects of trauma on both personal and societal levels and offer insights into how individuals can foster resilience and create a more compassionate society. The book aims to raise awareness about the lasting effects of traumatic events and encourages empathy and understanding when interacting with others who have experienced trauma.Chapter 2 Is What Happened To You A Good BookAccording to reddit comments on What Happened To You, "What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing" is a collaborative work by Dr. Bruce D. Perry, a leading expert in childhood trauma, and Oprah Winfrey, a renowned media personality. The book explores the impact of trauma on individuals and how it shapes their lives. It delves into the science behind trauma while offering insights into resilience and healing. The book has received positive reviews for its compassionate and informative approach to understanding trauma. It combines personal stories, scientific research, and practical advice to help readers gain a deeper understanding of trauma's effects and find ways to heal. It emphasizes the importance of empathy and compassion when addressing trauma. Ultimately, whether a book is considered good or not often depends on personal preferences and individual interests. If you are interested in learning more about trauma and its effects, and if the topic resonates with you, "What Happened To You?" could be a valuable read.Chapter 3 What Happened To You SummaryIn the book "What Happened To You," renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist, Dr. Bruce Perry, delves into the transformative power of understanding the impact of trauma on our lives. This article provides an insightful summary of Dr. Perry's groundbreaking work, offering readers a glimpse into his empathetic approach to childhood trauma and its long-lasting effects on individuals. Discover how this book sheds light on the importance of compassion, connection, and resilience in fostering healing and growth for those who have experienced trauma.Chapter 4 What Happened To You the AuthorBruce D. Perry is a renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist who has made significant contributions to the field of child trauma and attachment. He is the Senior Fellow of The ChildTrauma Academy, a non-profit organization that aims to improve the lives of traumatized children through research, training, and advocacy. Dr. Perry's work primarily focuses on understanding the impact of early childhood experiences, including abuse, neglect, and other forms of trauma, on brain development and emotional well-being. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing the unique needs of these individuals from a neurobiological perspective. Through his research and clinical practice, Dr. Perry has developed innovative therapeutic approaches for helping traumatized children heal and recover. One of his notable contributions is the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics (NMT), which provides a framework for assessing an individual's strengths and vulnerabilities based on their developmental history....
To access more full episodes and the conference library of 200+ fascinating psychology talks and interviews (with certification), please visit: https://twumembers.com In this interview, I'm joined by Dr Guy Macpherson, PhD. In a wide-ranging conversation, we discuss: — Why it's important that we become more trauma-informed; both individually and collectively — How trauma impacts the body and nervous system — Why trauma exists on a continuum, and how the same experiences can affect people in different ways — The power of authenticity in the therapeutic relationship — The dangers of unrecognised trauma, and some symptoms that indicate someone may have had a traumatic experience. And a whole lot more. After receiving his doctorate in clinical psychology, Guy spent several years studying the impact and treatment of trauma and early psychosis. In 2014, he founded The Trauma Therapist Project to raise awareness of trauma and create an educational and supportive community for new trauma workers. His podcast has an audience in more than 160 countries. You can learn more about Guy's work at www.thetraumatherapistproject.com/, and follow him on Twitter @guy_phd. --- This session was recorded as a TWU podcast interview in September 2021. If you're interested in learning more about The Weekend University and our yearly events, please visit: https://theweekenduniversity.com/events/?_year_filter=2022 --- Relevant Links: — Guy's website: https://www.thetraumatherapistproject.com/ — Guy's newsletter: https://bold-field-2905.ck.page/3f8a5c5f3f — The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Body-Keeps- Score-Transformation-Trauma/dp/0141978619 — Bruce Perry's books: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bruce-D.-Perry/e/B004G8LMOU — Get our latest psychology lectures emailed to your inbox: http://bit.ly/new-talks5
Welcome to This Changes Everything, the only running podcast hosted by two mental health professionals–just kidding! But Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice do happen to have some stories about their recent journeys into physical movement that have some real tie-ins with some of the topics they've talked about on the show. They also answer plenty of your questions, of course. This week, they focus on questions about emotion: emotional regulation, availability, vulnerability, all of the stuff we know is good for us but can sometimes struggle to access. Sarah recommends a trio of books this weeks: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. (Jeff highly recommends getting this one as an audiobook.) Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff. (And the accompanying TEDTalk) Therapy Jeff recommends Eckhart Tolle's absolutely iconic work, The Power of Now. But be warned, it did make Jeff want to become a monk. Give your skin the protection it deserves with Native's mineral Sunscreens! Go to NativeDeo.com/tce or use promo code TCE at checkout, to get twenty percent off your first order. We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426
Trauma affects everyone around us, including children. Join hosts Montez Dove and Cedricia Thomas as they share how to assist children who are impacted by traumatic events. In this episode, Montez and Cedricia discuss: Causes of childhood trauma, Signs of trauma in children, How to assist a child who has experienced trauma, The importance of communication, How to not fall victim to a victim mentality, and How not blaming others can lead to healing.Reference: Verywell Mind Article: What Is a Victim Mentality by Arlin Cuncic, Medically reviewed by Steven Gans, MDReference: Psych Central Article: How Do You Know If a Child Is Traumatized? Medically reviewed by Cydney Ortiz, PsyD — By Mellisa Gooden, LMFT, LMHC, CCTP, CCATP for DRK Beauty Healing — Updated on Dec 6, 2021Reference: Trauma books for parents and childrenIf you're a parent or caregiver looking to understand more about trauma, these books could be a good place to start:“What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing” by Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD, and Oprah Winfrey“The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk, MD“Trauma Through a Child's Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing” by Peter A. Levine, PhD, and Maggie Kline, LMFT“The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired” by Daniel J. Siegel, MD, and Tina P. Bryson, PhDReference: Children's books that explore topics of trauma can help children by validating their feelings. If you think that exploring trauma through reading could help your child, here are some recommendations:“A Terrible Thing Happened” by Margaret M. Holmes“The Invisible String” by Patrice Karst“The Day My Daddy Lost His Temper” by Carol S. McCleary, PsyD“You Weren't With Me” by Chandra G. Ippen, PhD“Once I Was Very Very Scared” by Chandra G. Ippen, PhD“Kaddish for Grandpa in Jesus' Name Amen” by James Howe“Please Tell: A Child's Story About Sexual Abuse” by JessieQuote Correction: The American Academy of Pediatrics estimates that around one-half of American children ages 18 years or younger — roughly 34 million kids — have faced at least one potentially traumatic early childhood experience.Join Through the Fire Podcast on Facebook @throughthefirepodcasts and Instagram @throughthefirepodcastFor more on Cedricia Thomas, follow her on Instagram and Facebook @cedriciathomasFor more on Montez Dove, follow her on Instagram @thepoeticinsp and Facebook @MontezDove or visit thepoeticinspirations.com
A new month, and a new focus on Storytellers! In this episode, Sarah does her own storytelling to remind us that every day we get to write and live a new story, and discover a piece of ourselves. She shares a book recommendation, her latest epiphany, and the upcoming guests for April. After listening to this jolt, Sarah will leave you awe-inspired to share your own stories with the world. What Happened to You by Dr. Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey Connect with Sarah Johnson: Sarah's Website Sarah on Twitter Sarah on IG Sarah on LinkedIn Sarah on Facebook In AWE Podcast Subscribe to Sarah's Podcast Need a high-energy, authentic presenter for your organization?Contact Sarah Johnson for presentations on Going Beyond Balance, Leadership Foundations, Affirming Purpose, and many more. Review the Podcast The ranking of this show is 100% tied to subscriptions and reviews. You can help amplify more women and reach more who need their messages by subscribing to the show and leaving an honest rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/inawepodcast/message
This week Tayla is joined by Jessica and Chantal from North American Family Institute of RI to talk about the work their organization does to connect children with foster care families. They talk about the need for foster parents in Rhode Island and dispel some myths about foster care. They also discuss children's books, reality TV, comedies currently on Hulu. During The Last Chapter they discuss: What is a book that you recommend to someone interested in learning more about foster care? Podcast disclaimer Like what you hear? Rate and review Down Time on Apple Podcasts or your podcast player of choice! If you'd like to submit a topic for The Last Chapter you can send your topic suggestions to downtime@cranstonlibrary.org. Our theme music is Day Trips by Ketsa and our ad music is Happy Ukulele by Scott Holmes. Thanks for listening! Books Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson School For Good Mothers by Jessamine Chan On the Night You Were Born by Nancy Tillman Survive the Dome by Kosoko Jackson Three Little Words by Ashley Rhodes-Courter The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce D. Perry & Maia Szalavitz AV Love is Blind (2020- ) Jersey Shore (2009-2012) Last of Us (2023- ) What We Do In the Shadows (2019- ) Better Things (2016-2022) Bros (2022) ReMoved by Nathanael Matanick (YouTube) Rita Pierson: Every Kid Needs a Champion (TED Talk) Other NAFI Rhode Island Network RI Department of Children, Youth & Families
Damon, Damo, and Tisha are back with more shenanigans, top stories, and most importantly; ownership. The fellas reflect on why they chose not to release a recent interview with a guest. Damon's issue with the price of eggs leads Tisha to ask who would stay in the military if they won the Mega Millions. MCPON Honea hosted an AMA on Reddit last week. Super cool idea, but how did it go? Damo asks Damon to take accountability for something he said in last week's episode, Damo apologizes for something he said a few episodes ago that he learned was insensitive to women; Tisha gives her feedback. Navy Seal Lieutenant Michael E. Thornton is highlighted as the ‘Hero of the Week.' Do Better: eNAVFIT and NMCI. What would you do if you were the only person a Sailor trusts? Damon has a resolution for all smokers and dippers. You have to hear this! How far will you go to honor your deceased spouse? Three active duty Marines are charged in January 6 riots. 12 weeks of leave across the board as NAVADMIN 008/23 announced the expansion of the military parental leave policy. Army Officer Caron Nazario gets less than $4k in a million dollar lawsuit against the police wrongly assaulted him. The trio discusses brutality, race, police, and the murder of Tyre Nichols. These topics and more are covered in this episode. Remember to follow the ‘Permission to Speak Freely' podcast on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and subscribe on YouTube. Link to all social media and Youtube - https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast Hero of the Week: Lt. Michael Edwin Thornton https://achievement.org/achiever/lt-michael-e-thorntonusn#:~:text=In%20the%20words%20of%20his,of%20the%20U.S%20Naval%20Service.%E2%80%9D Links and More from this episode: MCPON Reddit AMA (Damo) https://www.reddit.com/r/navy/comments/10g73jx/mcpon_honea_ask_me_anything_jan_20_2023_starting/ Man brings wife back as living doll https://nypost.com/2023/01/05/i-brought-my-dead-wife-back-to-life-for-3k/ 3 Active Duty Marines are charged in January 6 riots www.npr.org2023/01/21/1150565969/jan-6-capitol-attack-marines-charged Expansion of Military Parental Leave Program https://www.mynavyhr.navy.mil/Portals/55/Messages/NAVADMIN/NAV2023/NAV23008.txt?ver=jHAMug-P7GWQs1pM85GoEg%3d%3d Caron Nazario gets $3,685 in million dollar lawsuit https://abcnews.go.com/US/caron-nazario-army-lieutenant-pepper-sprayed-police-awarded/story?id=96491296 Tyre Nichols death https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/27/us/tyre-nichols-memphis-friday/index.html Book of the Week: What Happened To You? (Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce D. Perry) https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Understanding-Resilience/dp/1250223180 Movie of the Week: TV Show: Echo 3 (Episode 3) - The Gambler https://tv.apple.com/us/show/echo-3/umc.cmc.mzqa5sj4m2i80g51cgu04i3j Intro Music Produced by Lim0
In today's episode (100th!!!) we are joined by co-host Claudia Belliveau and guest Dr. Bruce D Perry. Join me on January 31st for a Zoom Party! Click link below:https://curiousneuronacademy.mykajabi.com/pl/2147655111Here's what we talked about in this episode: 7:00 - How the brain is organized i.e. a layered cake13:23 - How to deal with after school - the sequence of engagement16:14 - How humans communicate: repair and rupture18:03 - How do we stop the cycle19:30 - How can we change the health system and classroom based on how the brain works22:40 - What parents need to know about being a parent: how useful are parent handbooks25:08 - Humans were not meant to live in the world the way it is, and neither were parents29:08 - How are single parents supposed to be successful? The caregiving challenge tool35:15 - If the research is so clear, why is the system still broken?45:37 - Why did Cindy and Claudia get into this line of work?48:40 - Are child psychiatrists really doing the best job they can do?52:37 - What can a parent do if they experienced childhood adversity themselves? Are they a lost cause?1:00:13 - Is my child's development at risk if home life is heated?1:02:54 - How can we help our children build resilience?1:07:38 - What is Dr. Perry's #1 tip for parents?1:11:54 - Summary of the episode and the most important takeaway pointsMy favorite quotes from the episode “Curious Neuron is an example of positive change in the right direction” - Dr. Bruce D Perry“Be an advocate for yourself and your child. If you need a break, find a way to take it, don't let anyone lead you to believe that it's selfish.” Dr. Cindy HovingtonJoin Dr. Perry on twitter or on his websiteCheck out this campaign run by Nike called Why So Sad? https://www.nikesb.com/whysosadWhy So Sad? is an ongoing exploration into the nature of mental health initiated by John Rattray. After losing his sister to suicide and dealing with depression himself, Rattray developed the project starting in 2017.Please leave a rating for our podcast on iTunes! You can listen to our podcast on iTunes, Spotify, and Amazon Music. Let me know if you rate the podcast and I will send you a FREE Emotions Moutain PDF to help your child regulate their emotions. Email me at info@curiousneuron.comTry my Wondergrade app for free to teach your child healthy emotional coping skills: https://wondergrade.onelink.me/4kBE/curiousneuronThank you to our supporter the Tanenbaum Open Science Institute at The Neuro. The Neuro is the first health sciences institution in the world to commit to Open Science, an approach to research that ensures scientific knowledge is shared widely and transparently. Join our community: Instagram: @curious_neuron Website: www.curiousneuron.com Podcast website: www.curiousneuron.com/curiousneuronpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAMkWjtcMFVrOmFPtyLk1owAmazon Music: www.amazon.com/curiousneuron
CW: In this episode Adi shares her story of childhood trauma, involving SA by a person of trust, as well as the death of an infant family member. We also discuss how purity culture can make trauma worse. Adi Tilford, author, speaker, fellow podcaster, and longtime educator (specializing in trauma informed practices) walks us through her story of how early childhood trauma impacted her life and faith. She asks honest questions like, "Does Jesus love me if I am being harmed?" We discuss the presence/absense of God in situations of harm and abuse. While this topic is heavy, Adi brings light an life to a difficult subject. Her story is one that is brimming with healing and hope. Resources: Bryan Post Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/8000-promises-saying-yes-to-gods-promises-for-your/id1630246939?i=1000581994125Adi's Website: https://www.aditilford.com/Adi's Podcast 8,000 Promises (Season 2 out next week!!): https://www.aditilford.com/single-project Adi's Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/ADITILFORD“What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing” by Bruce D. Perry, Oprah Winfrey – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/53238858-what-happened-to-youOprah Winfrey & Dr. Bruce Perry in Conversation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uUAL8RVvkyY&ab_channel=SXSWEDUDr. Karyn Purvis: https://child.tcu.edu/karyn/EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37I3sqflU_k&ab_channel=HarleyTherapy-Psychotherapy%26CounsellingSupport the showFollow us for more ✨bad✨ content: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtobebad_podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtobebad Website: https://calledtobebad.buzzsprout.com/ Sponsor of this episode: https://www.arthumorsoul.com/ Want to become part of the ✨baddie✨ community? Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/calledtobebad Have a ✨bad✨ topic you want to talk about on the show? Get in touch with host, Mariah Martin at: calledtobebad@gmail.com #ctbb #podcast #podcastersoffacebook ...
Is it Christmas time yet? Can we decorate and not feel shame? Kelly Morris joins Brook this week as we discuss our holiday traditions before we dive into the heavy conversation on trauma and Kelly shares some of her story of healing from her past of trauma. Then Loren sits down and goes On The Mic with Cesar Diaz, a Colonial member and trauma therapist. Links From The Episode The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind, and Body In The Healing Of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey Did you miss Sunday? Before you listen to this episode, catch up with our weekly gathering at any of these places: Colonial Website Facebook YouTube Got questions or feedback? Join the conversation by emailing us at podcast@colonialchurch.com and don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!
Today's episode is all about your trauma related questions! The first listener asks how much of our trauma do we share with our children once they become adults? I tackle this question in two parts, firstly how to approach discussing trauma with children when they're young, and then with our children once they're adults. I discuss how I approached telling my children I would be checking into to rehab, and how I navigated not wanting to lie while also not burdening them with details they wouldn't be able to process. I encourage the listener to talk to their kids about their trauma how they'd talk to their kids about any difficult subject: with clarity and awareness of which details are unnecessarily scary. The second listener question is about how to deal with the voice that tells them they will fail after every ounce of success they achieve. I contextualize this fear of “the other shoe dropping” as very normal for folks who have CPTSD. Many of us don't want to feel hope because we've had it crushed before, and so it is a natural defence mechanism. I detail the science behind why we think this way, and reference a study linked below. I offer some reassurance to help them reframe this feeling, to feel this feeling and to push past it anyway. You can email in your written question, or send in a recorded MP3 voicenote to be inserted into the podcast via hello@advancedbitches.com LINKS The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Homeostasis, Stress, Trauma, and Adaptation A Neurodevelopmental View of Childhood Trauma by Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD Ronnie Pollard, MD, PhD - https://scholar.google.co.za/scholar?q=perry+and+pollard+1998&hl=en&as_sdt=0&as_vis=1&oi=scholart Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ My books: The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA Produced by Wowow
Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are talking about that old classic, anxiety. Jeff provides a useful explanation of the actual science behind how anxiety works in your brain and what you can do to help yourself work through it when it feels like anxiety is really taking over. Sarah breaks down the ways that physiological, cognitive, and emotional responses can feed and be fed by anxiety. Jeff has some strategies for recognizing early subtle signs of oncoming anxiety. Sarah talks about grounding as a really helpful way to manage anxiety in the moment. Jeff and Sarah trade their favorite grounding exercises, from doing semi-complicated mental math to five-finger breathing. Remember though, no matter how you get there, when it comes to anxiety, your main goal is to convince your brain that it's safe. This episode is chock full of great ways to think through and about anxiety. Sarah recommends Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey's book What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing. The audiobook is especially good! We want to hear from you! Let us know what's on your mind: Jeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff Jeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahrice Sarah On Brain Candy: https://thebraincandypodcast.com More podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426
In Episode 126, audiobook producer Karen Dziekonski from Penguin Random House Audio joins me for today's deep-dive discussion. Karen takes us behind the scenes from the growth of audiobooks in the industry to the ins and outs of how audiobooks are produced. Plus, Karen shares her audiobook recommendations! This post contains affiliate links, through which I make a small commission when you make a purchase (at no cost to you!). Highlights What it means to be an audiobook producer and Karen's career progression. How the landscape has changed for audiobooks over the past 20 years. The days of abridged audiobooks and the process of editing down a print book. The types of books today that make it to the audiobook format. The process of auditioning an audiobook narrator, including deciding on celebrities or full-cast recordings. How much the author's relationship has grown to incorporate production input — especially for books in translation or featuring foreign language text. The decisions behind when the author narrates their own audiobook — fiction vs nonfiction. How producers court celebrities to narrate audiobooks. A bit about post-production editing of audiobook performances and checking for errors. How much the audiobook segment has grown over the past decade and the anticipated continued trajectory. Karen's Audiobook Recommendations [38:12] Two OLD Audiobooks She Loves Beautiful Ruins by Jess Walter, narrated by Edoardo Ballerini | Amazon | Bookshop.org | Libro.fm [38:31] The War That Saved My Life by Kimberly Brubaker Bradley, narrated by Jayne Entwistle | Amazon | Bookshop.org | Libro.fm [40:25] Two NEW Audiobooks She Loves Bittersweet by Susan Cain, narrated by the author | Amazon | Bookshop.org | Libro.fm [42:42] Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown, narrated by the author | Amazon | Bookshop.org | Libro.fm [44:57] How She Feels About Talking About Books She DOESN'T Love [48:40] One NEW RELEASE She's Excited About Age of Vice by Deepti Kapoor (January 3, 2023) | Amazon | Bookshop.org | Libro.fm [50:25] Last 5-Star Book Karen Read The Maid by Nita Prose | Amazon | Bookshop.org | Libro.fm [52:57] Other Books Mentioned Our Missing Hearts by Celeste Ng, narrated by Lucy Liu [1:37] 41-Love: A Memoir by Scarlett Thomas [8:57] Our Share of Night by Mariana Enriquez, narrated by Megan McDowell [17:18] The Nanny Diaries by Emma McLaughlin and Nicola Kraus, narrated by Julia Roberts [28:52] Sparring Partners: Novellas by John Grisham, narrated by Ethan Hawke, Jeff Daniels, and others [32:58] Angels in America by Tony Kushner, narrated by Nathan Lane (and the full Broadway cast) [34:22] What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry, M.D. Ph.D. [36:33] The War I Finally Won by Kimberly Brubaker Bradley [41:59] Quiet by Susan Cain [43:31] The Making of Another Major Motion Picture Masterpiece: A Novel by Tom Hanks (May 9, 2023) [48:55] She Said by Jodi Kantor and Megan Twohey [49:55] Other Links Ep. 81: Behind the Scenes of Narrating Audiobooks with Julia Whelan About Karen Dziekonski Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Karen Dziekonski, VP, Audio Production for the Penguin Random House Audio Publishing Group, has been an influential member of the audiobook industry for over twenty years. Starting at Random House in 2000, Karen has produced thousands of audiobooks and forged strong collaborations with bestselling and debut authors, celebrities, and professional narrators. An excellent problem-solver and active collaborator, Karen leads a team of elite, award-winning producers in the day-to-day operation of one of the most successful audio publishers in the United States. She lives on Long Island, New York, with her chef husband and two daughters.
Oh my goodness, I can't wait to speak to our guest today...I'm already crying (who's surprised?). Our guest Dottie Lawrence has touched my life, personally, by helping my daughter through a particularly difficult time in life and I really owe so much to her. Dottie, herself, experienced tremendous difficulties at a young age and was raised, in part, by a father who struggled with mental illness. It seems unexpected that those with such difficulties are able to heal and move on. However, as she became an educator in adulthood, Dottie found herself in a position where she had tools at her disposal to dig into her own past trauma. She dove deep to understand the the ways in which this trauma was showing up in her life, heal, and mend key personal relationships. Now, she's even able to forge new relationships in a healthy and meaningful way. She brought her passion for mindfulness to her role as a school administrator, creating a mindfulness program to enhance the well-being of students and strengthen their social and emotional skills as learners. And now, as a Lead Trainer for FuelEd Schools for 5 years, leads workshops with educators to provide them with the social and emotional skills essential for building relationships in schools with students and faculty. Maybe you have had a relationship in your life that doesn't feel right or healthy. Have you ever asked yourself why you feel afraid to connect with people and hold friends and romantic or personal relationships at an arms distance, while you remain safe behind an invisible wall? Perhaps, you feel anxious that the party with whom you're in a relationship is about to leave at any moment and that they don't value you in the same way you do them? Have you ever thought about why you feel this way? I just went out with a guy on probably 8-10 dates. We really connected, he actually knew how to carry on a conversation. However, I realized that each time we were together there was some thing he said or did that was a little triggering for me. The closer he tried to get and the more of my time he wanted, the more inclined I felt to pull away. This experience has caused me to dig into my own past traumas and try to figure out why this has always been, frankly. Thank goodness we have Dottie here to help us unpack all of our shit! Dottie is the real deal. She holds a degree in Psychology and a Masters in Education. In our episode today, she will walk us through practicing social and emotional skills like showing empathy to others in difficult situations, Emotional Regulation and will help us to better understand Attachment Theory and how (and why) our attachment styles form. Dottie has sooo much goodness to share like: Understand our attachment style as the characteristic way in which you relate to others in your intimate relationships and is heavily influenced by the self-worth and interpersonal trust that was developed with your caregivers as a child Move beyond attachment styles and begin to resolve the differences in approach by using empathy. When you change your dance steps, the other person is forced to change theirs and it can change and heal the relationship Leverage the "perspectrum" to identify the spectrum of things you can consider when you'e taking someone else's perspective and use the tool to evaluate your own thoughts and feelings. What's the problem they're having? What do they need right now? What are they feeling? What's the story they're telling themselves? What do they value? Use the 3-part "genuine statement" when communicating your needs with empathy: 1. identify and state the behaviors (when this happens), 2. call to light the impact of the behaviors (this is the impact on me) 3. State how it makes you feel (and this is how I feel) Avoid using empathy blockers: "Silver Lining", "Fixer-Upper", "Interrogating", "Discounting" and "Stealing the Thunder" So many of you reached out saying how much you liked our last guests core self quiz, that today, we're including a quiz for attachment styles. So, find the link in our show notes, take the quiz and leave us a review and let us know what YOUR attachment style is. We'd love your help on the reviews because positive reviews and your participation are how we can keep this show going! So, if you're loving the Dear Midlife podcast, please let us know. We'd love to hear from you! It's Not About the Nail Video Book Recommendations Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. Van der Kolk Atlas of the Hear: Mapping Meaningful Connecting and the Language of Human Experience by Brene Brown What Happened to You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry IG Influencers @the.holistic.psychologist http://www.facebook.com/FuelEdSchools @fueledschools.org
ADHD and trauma overlap quite a bit in how they affect the brain, so much so that clinicians often misdiagnose one for the other. So how do clinicians distinguish between ADHD and trauma when both impact the same areas of the brain and can cause similar symptoms? And moreover, what happens when ADHD and trauma co-occur, which they so often do, due to the inherent trauma of growing up with a differently wired brain? This solo episode I'm diving into the research on how trauma impacts the brain and nervous system, how untreated ADHD can lead to developmental trauma, and where to start with treatment when you have that oh-so-wonderful combo of ADHD and trauma. Just like with ADHD, trauma is never your fault and your symptoms are not moral failings or character flaws to be hidden away. Shame is a component of both trauma and ADHD, and the more we shed light on it, the easier it is to eradicate it. In other words, what is sharable is bearable. Resources What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
Nichol Bridges is a survivor of multiple incidents of violence. A current member of the RAINN Speakers Bureau, Nicole bears all in this Initiated Survivor interview. From her childhood when she encountered unwanted sexual advances from men much older than her, to being assaulted by multiple peers, to suffering violence at the hands of an ex-boyfriend, Nichol recounts these horrific experiences as an open book. Nichol's strength shines through her raw honesty of her life as a survivor. Taking us through the moment she first started to heal to when she decided to become a force of change, Nichol is paying it forward by working to create a better place for all of us. Topics/Triggers: Childhood sexual abuse Being raped by a friend Forced oral penetration Shame and fear paralysis "What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing" by Dr. Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey The way the mind is change by trauma Hyper sexuality and hyper sensitivity Substance abuse Being dismissed by the police Rape kits Hoffman Institute PTSD, Anxiety, Depression, and other illness that correlate to surviving sexual assault Julian Walker: Mind-Body Practice Dr. Dan Allender The Hunting Ground Documentary Joyce Meyers' books ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ If you took anything away from today's podcast, please share it with someone who may need to hear it. And if you really want to support the podcast please give us a rate/review. If you or anyone you know is suffering through trauma contact the National Sexual Assault hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or online for 24/7 support. (This podcast is not a replacement for psychotherapy or mental health care. You can obtain a referral for mental health care provider from your primary care physician, or search on Psychology Today's Find a Therapist directory) Find more Initiated Survivor content here and on Instagram!
This week Tayla is joined by John Donegan from the Our Build Environments subcommittee of the OCHEZ and John Flaherty from Grow Smart RI to talk about making RI cities work for ALL Rhode Islanders. They also discuss their Irish ancestry, educational YouTube channels, and Anywhere, USA. During The Last Chapter they discuss: What fictional environment/world would you like to visit on vacation? Like what you hear? Rate and review Down Time on Apple Podcasts or your podcast player of choice! If you'd like to submit a topic for The Last Chapter you can send your topic suggestions to downtime@cranstonlibrary.org. Our theme music is Day Trips by Ketsa and our ad music is Happy Ukulele by Scott Holmes. Thanks for listening! Books What Happened to You by Dr. Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey The Death and Life of Great American Cities by Jane Jacobs The Geography of Nowhere by James Howard Kunstler Messy Roots by Laura Gao AV Seinfeld (1989-1998) House of the Dragon (2022- ) Not Just Bikes (YouTube) City Beautiful (YouTube) Other Grow Smart RI OneCranston Health Equity Zone Our Built Environment initiative
“There's no organ called ‘the mental'. This is your brain's health. It's an actual organ and it happens to be the most important organ in the body. And so this is very real; it's not made up. When people are presenting with symptoms of PTSD, they're not going bonkers, they're not crazy. This is very concrete, very described, and fortunately, there are strategies for healing.” - Dr. Sadie Elisseou, MD Nationally recognized health expert Dr. Sadie Elisseou joins our conversation today on DocWorking: The Whole Physician Podcast, to discuss trauma informed care. Master Certified Coach Jill Farmer talks with Dr. Elisseou about how she developed an award-winning curriculum on ‘trauma-informed physical examination' that is now taught in medical schools across the United States. Her inspiring story serves as an example of how we as physicians can respond to our patient's needs in order to strengthen relationships, give aid to others, and create a more fulfilling practice of medicine. Resources mentioned in the podcast: A Novel, Trauma-Informed Physical Examination Curriculum for First-Year Medical Students- Curriculum on Trauma-Informed Physical Examinations, MedEdPORTAL, by Dr. Sadie Elisseou Books mentioned in the podcast: What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey Sadie Elisseou, MD is a primary care physician in the Boston VA healthcare system, a Clinical Instructor of Medicine at Harvard Medical School and Adjunct Instructor of Medicine at Boston University School of Medicine, and a nationally recognized expert in the field of trauma-informed care (TIC), an organizational framework for supporting survivors of various forms of trauma. Dr. Elisseou's award-winning curriculum on ‘trauma-informed physical examination' is now being taught at medical schools and healthcare institutions across the country. Last year Dr. Elisseou worked with VA colleagues to publish a framework for trauma-informed telehealth. Dr. Elisseou is the co-founder of the Veterans Health Association TIC Collaborative and a member of the Trauma Informed Health Care, Education and Research (TIHCHER) collaborative and the Harvard Medical School TIC Steering Committee. She enjoys building platforms for educating healthcare professionals in trauma-informed practices. Find full transcripts of DocWorking: The Whole Physician Podcast episodes on the DocWorking Blog The past few weeks have been busy at DocWorking! We have been working behind the scenes to add even more CME credits to the THRIVE memberships. Let your CME budget help you prioritize your own wellness so you can get on with living your best life on your own terms, as defined by you, with DocWorking THRIVE. You can take the first step today by taking our 2 Minute Balance to Burnout Quiz! Where are you on the Balance to Burnout Continuum? Take the quiz and find out today! DocWorking empowers physicians and entire health care teams to get on the path to achieving their dreams, both in and outside of work, with programs designed to help you maximize life with minimal time. Are you a physician who would like to tell your story? Please email Amanda Taran, our producer, at podcast@docworking.com to be considered. And if you like our podcast and would like to subscribe and leave us a 5 star review, we would be extremely grateful! We're everywhere you like to get your podcasts! Apple iTunes, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google, Pandora, Stitcher, PlayerFM, ListenNotes, Amazon, YouTube, Podbean You can also find us on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter. Some links in our blogs and show notes are affiliate links, and purchases made via those links may result in payments to DocWorking. These help toward our production costs. Thank you for supporting DocWorking: The Whole Physician Podcast! Occasionally, we discuss financial and legal topics. We are not financial or legal professionals. Please consult a licensed professional for financial or legal advice regarding your specific situation. Podcast produced by: Mara Heppard
In this laidback episode, I answer a few listener voicemails. We discuss tough topics like trauma-bonded friendships, why so many more women are diagnosed with BPD than men, and I share some books I've been reading lately that have contributed positively to my recovery journey.
Summary: Real love (agape) is given freely -- but it is not received freely in our fallen human condition. Join me in this episode as we discuss the costs of opening our hearts to loveand the price of being loved fully, of being loved completely, in all of our parts. We review why so many people refuse to be loved -- and we examine the psychological and human formation reasons for turning away from love. Finally we discuss what we can do to get over our natural-level impediments to receiving love. Lead-in I am a rock I am an island I've built wallsA fortress deep and mightyThat none may penetrateI have no need of friendship -- friendship causes painIt's laughter and it's loving I disdainI am a rock I am an island I am a rock -- Paul Simon wrote it in 1965 and Simon and Garfunkel Released it as a single in 1966, and it rose to #3 on the charts -- why because it resonated with people. It was popular because it spoke out loud what many people's parts feel. The desire to become a rock, the impulse to build the walls, to keep everyone out, to repudiate love and laughter, to not need anything or anyone. Kate McGahan -- untitled poem I don't need anyone, I said.Then you cameI need I need! I NEED YOU. I needed you.What did you teach me?Not to need you.NOT TO NEED. - I don't want to be in love, anymore. I just want to be left alone. And no, I am not depressed or something. No suicide is happening here... I am fine. Trust me. Sharmajiassamwale So you want love. But you also don't want love. But you want love. But you don't. You do. You don't. You're conflicted. How do you understand this conflict within you? Can you and I understand this push-pull, this attraction - avoidance, this Yes and No within us more clearly. Yes we can. And we must. Or we will wind up always skating along the edge of love, never really entering in. And there are consequences for that -- and no one put it more succinctly than the English poet and playwright Robert Browning, who said: “Without love, our earth is a tomb” Intro We do want to be loved, but we don't. Why? Because we want the benefits of love, but we don't want the costs The Benefits To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides. David Viscott If you don't have that memory of being loved, you are condemned to search the world for something to fill you up. -- Michael Jackson The costs. Real love is given freely, but it is not received freely in this fallen world. Almost no one talks about the costs of being loved. I find that so strange. People don't think this way. There are costs to receiving love, to accepting love, to allowing love in to our hearts. It's painful to be loved in this fallen world. this is not well understood by many people, especially those who are not in touch with trauma, or who haven't suffered as much as others Bernard Brady's 2003 book "Christian Love: How Christians Through the Ages have Understood Love Second sentence of the book, in the preface: "Loving seems entirely natural and being loved seems wonderfully good." Not to many people RCC member -- so glad you can discuss tolerating being loved. Real love -- Agape -- burns away things that are sinful within us -- it doesn't coexist with the vice within us. Bernard Brady: Christian Love, p. 16: "…love transforms those who love and those who are loved." Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we haven't loved enough.” ― Elif Shafak, The Forty Rules of Love Change is scary “Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.”― Fyodor Dostoevsky, Crime and Punishment Real love also purifies us from anything that is not morally wrote, but that is disordered or dysfunctional or imperfect Real love is the greatest good. And because it's the greatest good, it requires us to give up lesser goods. Perceived good and actual goods. Coping strategies, crutches that helped us in the past Analogy of the safe -- limited room, silver and gold. Vulnerability I will lose what I have I will lose to possibility of being loved in the future I don't want to find out I am unlovable. I can't bear that. Because for love to be real, for love to be agape means me allowing you to love all of me. All my parts. My entire being Not just the acceptable parts of me in the shop window, those that I allow others to see. The greatness of the adventure of loving can be intimidating Love, in some sense, is nothing other than an invitation to great joy and suffering, so they shy away from it. Paul Catalanotto Refusal to love is also refusal to live The Catholic Weekly Dietrich von Hildrebrand those who "wish to linger with small joys in the state of harmless happiness … in which they feel themselves to be master of the situation … lacking any element of surprise or adventure. Let's go on this adventure of being loved and loving together. I want you to come with me into the themes of this podcast. I want you to really engage with what I'm presenting to you. Not just listen like the Athenians listened to Paul about the resurrection of the dead. Acts 17:32: Now when they heard of the resurrection of the dead, some mocked; but others said, “We will hear you again about this.” But they weren't really that interested. Only a few of the Athenians joined him. Stay with me in this Episode 96 of Interior Integration for Catholics, released on August 1, 2022, and titled "I Am a Rock: How Trauma Hardens us Against Being Loved" I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist, passionate Catholic and I am very pleased that we can share and engage with this information. Why do I think being loved is so important? First because receiving love is absolutely essential. It is our starting point in the spiritual life. And second, because most people will not realxly allow themselves to be loved. Psychiatrist and Harvard Professor George Valliant wrote: It's very hard, for most of us to tolerate being loved.-- That's been my experience as well. The vast majority of people have chosen to severely limit how much love they will let in, how much love they will tolerate. You can't love unless you are willing to be loved. 1 John 4:19: We love because he first loved us Look at the order here. God loved us first. We can't generate any love on our own. We can reflect love, we can channel love, but we can't create love out of nothing like God can. We have to cooperate in love and be open to love in order to love, in order to follow the two great commandments. That is what this Interior Integration for Catholics podcast is all about -- it's about preparing the way for you to have a much deeper, richer and much more intimate relationship with God in the three Person of the Trinity -- Father, Son and Holy Spirit, and with the Blessed Virgin Mary our Mother. A deep, personal relationship with God and Mary. That's what I want from you. And if you won't tolerate taking in real love, if you deprive yourself of real love, you are going to wind up in a de facto hell on earth. The most miserable people on earth are the loveless people -- loveless not because no one will love them -- but loveless because they actively or passively reject love. And so many people do that. And there are spiritual consequences to cutting ourselves off from real love. Our heart become small, they become hard, they become closed, they become fearful, they fester in wounds. And if we persist in refusing to be loved and to love, there is no other place for us to be in the afterlife than in hell. That's what I think hell is -- a place for those who have refused love. That's how serious all of this is. Eternal consequences of the highest order. Hallmark Movie Love What so many of our parts really want is what I call Hallmark movie love -- in Latin, this is rendered "Lovus Hallmarkius" Hallmark love. Yes, I've given it a ridiculous translation, but that because Hallmark love is not only a ridiculous concept, it's a dangerous one. I mean it. Really Dr. Peter -- all those sweet, feel-good Christmas movies? What are you some kind of grinch, to criticize Hallmark movies? I mean really, come on.. That's a bit much. Hear me out, hear me out. What is Hallmark love -- love is always just around the corner, painless, fun. They are delightful. Love is so gratifying and enjoyable, love takes away suffering. Clean and tidy. It's a myth. The Hallmark company is selling illusions. Their movie production arm is peddling falsehoods about love to an audience who wants what they are offering to be true. But it isn't. Kristine Brown captured this theme in her online article Living in a Hallmark Movie December 11, 2015 I want to live in a Hallmark movie. I want to walk down the cobblestone Main Street into the corner coffee shop where everyone greets you with a smile and a Merry Christmas. I want to move to a new town where you immediately become acquainted with everyone and your child makes instant friends at school and there's always time to bake Christmas cookies and decorate trees and drink hot cocoa with peppermint sticks. I want to live in a Hallmark movie. I want to walk my child to school holding hands and have him tell me how much he loves me and what a great mom I am. I want to live where kids don't make bad choices and parents don't make mistakes. Where the toughest decision is whether to stay in the small town where you grew up or chase after a promising dream in the big city. Where things always just work out. And the movie always ends with a kiss from your true love and snow. Always snow. But life isn't a Hallmark movie, not even close. Example of the life of Christ -- the greatest lover ever, who died in making the greatest act of love ever, and it was nothing like a Hallmark movie. We assume that we want love -- and we do. Or parts of us do Made for love and in love -- That's a beautiful line in the Litanies of the Heart, written by Dr. Gerry for Souls and Hearts -- "Lord Jesus, you created me in love, for love." Colossians 3:14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. Discussion of Parts Reference Episode 71: A New and Better Way of Understanding Myself and Others Definition of Parts: Separate, independently operating personalities within us, each with own unique prominent needs, roles in our lives, emotions, body sensations, guiding beliefs and assumptions, typical thoughts, intentions, desires, attitudes, impulses, interpersonal style, and world view. Each part also has an image of God and a whole religion developed around its understanding of God, self, and the relationship between God and self. Parts have different roles within the self system. Narrow slice of experience, very limited vision. Some parts don't care about being loved. They are focused on never being hurt like that again. They are focused on protection from harm, defending the self system against threats from others, very protective. IIC 89: Your Trauma, Your Body: Protection vs. Connection Conflict “I wished I didn't need an ocean of space to feel comfortable. I still wanted to be loved. Yet again I felt like two people: one who desperately needed a hug, and one who would break apart at the slightest touch. How could I get people to keep their distance without leaving completely? How long would it take for them to get tired of the way I flinched and evaded?” ― Ruby Walker, Advice I Ignored: Stories and Wisdom from a Formerly Depressed Teenager Using a metaphor to describe how trauma hardens us against being loved Overview Roots = unresolved trauma Single trunk -- shame Five Main stems -- acronym CRIES -- as in cries for help. C R I E S -- Each of these main stems is driven by shame in the trunk, shame that results from the unresolved trauma in the roots. Cognitions Relationships Identity Emotions Spirituality Each main stem has branches -- branches that cross and interweave in this big bush And the branches have fruits. Roots -- Unresolved trauma This includes the original trauma, original sin. Underground, not seen -- Check out Episodes 88 and 89 -- a lot about the nature of trauma in those episodes Primary effect of unresolved trauma is shame. Single Trunk -- Shame Discussed shame at great length in Episodes 37 to 49 of this podcast. Definitions of shame in episode 37: Shame is: a primary emotion, a bodily reaction, a signal, a judgement, and an action. I encourage you to go through those episodes again -- really get a grip on shame, because understanding shame is the key to understanding almost all psychological dysfunction, and understanding shame is the key to really comprehending why you have difficulties with your human formation. Can't stress that enough. Shame -- the central role of shame. Issue of survival. Life and death. Deep assumptions that my shame is so bad that it will kill me. Our protector parts assume they have a need to defend against our exiled parts that have burdens of shame -- protectors believe they have to keep the shame out of awareness, keep it buried, distant. They don't know that we can work with shame and the parts that carry the shame in collaborative, cooperative, constructive ways. Our protector parts don't know that shame can be resolved -- the burden of shame can be lifted and there can be healing. “When you're a child trapped in a situation of physical or psychological deprivation, you learn shame as an efficient, elegant mechanism of survival: shame simultaneously shields you from the reality that danger is out of your control (since the problem is not that you're unloved and deprived; it's that you're Bad) and prevents you from doing or saying anything challenging that might provoke a threat.” ― Kai Cheng Thom, I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girl's Notes from the End of the World Go back and really get the shame piece of this. Main Stems off the trunk: Cognitions, Relationships, Identity, Emotions, Spirituality -- Acronym CRIES Emotions Stem: Five aspects Grief, Anger, Fear, Flooding, Shutdown -- GAFFS -- so many of these emotions are generated by the shame that results from unresolved trauma Love is affective -- Bernard Brady -- discussed this at length in episode 94 Love is a movement from your heart, your soul -- a movement from the innermost depths of your being. From your core self. So the emotions are intimately involved with love Grief Emotional reaction to deep sense of loss. Sadness about what you don't have that you need. Parts want to be seen and heard and known and loved by the one who might love you. All of you wanting to be loved. All of you wanting to be healed. So parts surge up, wanting to come to the surface. Parts that carry grief have never been loved -- never been connected with in an emotional way, never been included in relationship with your innermost self or with others. Never been seen. Anticipatory Grief -- if I allow myself to be love, I could lose that love. The one who loves me could die. Fear -- this is an emotion that drives so much fleeing from love. This really is the big one. Philophobia -- fear of love All of us have parts that fear love. Being loved arouses anxiety because it threatens long-standing psychological defenses formed early in life in relation to emotional pain and rejection, therefore leaving a person feeling more vulnerable. Robert Firestone Fears of being revealed Fears of vulnerability Fears of loneliness Fear of the unknown Fears of being hurt one more time -- like Charlie Brown and Lucy and the football, winding up flat on your back again. Fears of betrayal Fears of abandonment So much of this fear is driven by shame. All this fear is a barrier to being loved. “To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.” Betrand Russell All the bruised lives, searching hearts ... Everyone wants a love story but few will risk what it takes to live one. - Donna Lynn Hope Flooding: Emotional overwhelm -- flooding. Emotions become all dysregulated. Hyperarousal -- moving into fight or flight mode. Intensity of emotions because very great. Often because old emotions from previous unresolved trauma are welling up -- parts that carry the burden of intense emotions want to be seen, heard, known and understood, they no longer want to be exiled, banished into the unconscious -- they want a voice, they want relationship they want redemptions. Paul Simon Don't talk of loveWell I've heard the word beforeIt's sleeping in my memoryI won't disturb the slumber of feelings that have diedIf I never loved I never would have criedI am a rock I am an island “Our biggest challenge is that we have an overwhelming desire for an extraordinary love story but low capacity to hold space for it in our nervous system.” ― Lebo Grand Dietrich von Hildebrand: Fear of losing oneself in intense joys or griefs Anger So much of this anger is driven by fear driven by shame Our protector parts can use anger to distract from fear and grief. Behind every angry soul is a wounded child that just wanted you to love them for who they are. Shannon L. Alder Shutting down Avoiding inner experiences is one of Nathanson's four defensive scripts for avoiding shame. Hypoarousal -- moving down out of the window of tolerance to the freeze mode. Example of an electrical panel, or breaker panel v-- metal box with a door down in the basement or utility closet with the main and the circuit breakers Fruit: We have a very difficult time tolerating being loved when we are not in our window of tolerance. Fight or flight mode or freeze mode -- we move very much into self-protection, to a focus on survival, on just perpetuating our existence. We're not open to love -- we've moved into survival mode, not seeking connection. We're not open to God. Fr. Jacques Philippe, Searching for and Maintaining Peace: The more our soul is peaceful and tranquil, the more God is reflected in it, the more His grace acts through us. On the other hand, if our soul is agitated and troubled, the grace of God is able to act only with much greater difficulty… God is a God of peace. He does not operate except in peace, not in trouble and agitation. We need that emotional regulation, that sense of being in our window of tolerance to be able to connect with God. So many times fear is identified as a barrier Fear as a result of shame drove Adam and Eve into the bushes -- hiding from God John 14:27: Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. Cognition Stem Perceptions extremely sensitive to stimuli Very vigilant -- scanning for threats in the environment Negative self-talk I am unloved I am unlovable I don't deserved to be loved -- bred in families where there is conditional love -- unattainable ideals of perfection I will be seen and I will see myself. I might contaminate anyone who would love me with my badness. I won't live up to the love. Doubts fostered about goodness in the world, about the nature of others Skepticism about who actually makes the effort to love Demanding perfection from others before trying again. To have the chance of being loved we have to take a chance on being destroyed inside -- Jo Nesbo Pessimistic evaluation of the future No one will love me I will be deceived, tricked and then betrayed, rejected, abandoned Distractions Paul Simon: I have my booksAnd my poetry to protect meI am shielded in my armor Fruit we can dwell inwardly, on our own damage -- we can focus on our wounds. Direct our attention to all the things that are wrong with us and pull inward -- self-absorption, ruminating and obsessing about our defects, curling up inside to protect ourselves, not letting anyone in. So common. Or we can reach out and embrace love anyway. We can trust that parts of us may be seeing things inaccurately, thinking about things in ways that are distorted. Identity Stem Drawing from Robert Firestone's Why Do So Many People Respond Negatively to Being Loved? article on psychalive.org I am inadequate, unworthy of love “We accept the love we think we deserve.”– Stephen Chbosky Being valued or seen in a positive light is confusing because it conflicts with the negative self-concept that many people form within their family. Firestone Being loved can provoke an identity crisis Firestone Your identity, at least for some of your parts, can be very bound up in being unloved and unloveable Parts may not know who you are if you were loved -- such a radical change Very disconcerting to lose a sense of who I am, even if the identity is a negative one. Comfort in the familiarity of the dysfunction I know -- so I accept and even seek out rejection and failure -- they are familiar and harmonize with my life narrative. Deep sense of having to earn conditional love. But that is not what love is about “Love is not concerned with a person's accomplishments, it is a response to a person's being: This is why a typical word of love is to say: I love you, because you are as you are.” ― Dietrich von Hildebrand, The Art of Living Little or no ordered self-love -- we will be discussing ordered self love in the next episode. One of Nathanson's four strategies to cope with shame is to attack the self. Internal disconnects to survive the trauma -- horror of abuse Love relationships pull for integration Love is never fragmented; it's an inseparable whole which does not delight in bits and pieces. John A. Andrews And that integration will bring up the parts of ourselves that we have rejected as too scary, too unacceptable, too unlovable, too dangerous, too overwhelming, too much in some way to be allowed a seat at the table of our consciousness. Takes a lot of courage to really be loved. Ursula Wirtz, Trauma and Beyond: The Mystery of Transformation “I consider love to be the matrix for this transformation, which calls new being into existence. Love has the power to reawaken and bring to the fire what has been entombed or distorted by traumatic forces or has retreated out of defensiveness and self-protection. Without love and compassion for the fragility of human identity in the face of death and the reality of evil, the madness found in these barren spaces of the soul might not be meaningfully encountered. For the stripping away of the constricting cocoon of traumatic fixations and the untangling of what has become distorted and convoluted during painful traumatization, love is needed.” ― Fruit -- will we let our burdened parts define ourselves-- will we let those traumatized parts of us, and the parts that guard us from those traumatize parts be the ones to determine who we are -- with their limited vision and their narrow slice of experience -- or can we work gently with ourselves and allow ourselves to be seen through the eyes of those who do love us. Relationship Love affirms the other, love responds to the other, love is unitive -- love is steadfast more of Bernard Brady's characteristics of Agape, of real love described in episode 94 Effects of Shame Lack of trust in others Lack of confidence How bold one gets when one is sure of being loved. Sigmund Freud Fear of exposure To myself To the one who loves me “To be deeply loved, means a willingness to cut yourself wide open, exposing your vulnerabilities... hopes, hurts, fears and flaws. Hiding behind the highlight reel of who you are, is the real you and that person is just as worthy of love. There is nothing more terrifying or fulfilling, than complete love, it's worth the risk... reach for it.” ― Jaeda DeWalt Fear of rejection The fear of rejection makes sense: If we've had a steady diet of shame, blame, and criticism, we learned that the world is not a safe place. Something within us mobilizes to protect our tender heart from further stings and insults .The Hidden Reasons We Don't Let Love In -- John Amodeo Ph.D., MFT The one who loves me will hurt me. It's inevitable Fruit in the Behaviors -- all focused around protection from the other leading to relationship sabotage Undue criticism of the other --you are not enough for me. Withdrawal and isolation -- one of Nathanson's strategies for coping with shame. Paul Simon Hiding in my room safe within my wombI touch no one and no one touches meI am a rock I am an islandAnd a rock feels no painAnd an island never cries Avoidance Pursuing unavailable people I found myself in a pattern of being attracted to people who were somehow unavailable, and what I realized was that I was protecting myself because I equate the idea of connection and love with trauma and death.” ― Zachary Quinto Pushing others away Basically, love is scary when it contrasts with childhood trauma. In that situation, the beloved feels compelled to act in ways that hurt the lover: behaving in a punitive manner, distancing themselves and pushing love away. Robert Firestone “You push people away, Marley. You don't realise it, but you do. You close yourself off to anyone and anything that doesn't fit in your perfect little hamster ball of life. But you can't experience love only on your own terms. It doesn't work that way.” ― Kate Lattey, Dream On Aggression -- Fueled by anger. Attacking others is one of Nathanson's four strategies of coping with shame. Why do we attack? We are afraid, we are struggling with shame. “Those who love to be feared fear to be loved, and they themselves are more afraid than anyone, for whereas other men fear only them, they fear everyone. St. Francis de Sales Emotionally disconnecting from the relationship Out of anger. Harden my Heart -- 1982 Hit Sung by Quarterflash … I'm gonna harden my heart, I'm gonna swallow my tears, I'm gonna turn and leave you here Out of fear and shame “Many freeze types unconsciously believe that people and danger are synonymous, and that safety lies in solitude. Outside of fantasy, many give up entirely on the possibility of love. The freeze response, also known as the camouflage response, often triggers the individual into hiding, isolating and eschewing human contact as much as possible. This type can be so frozen in retreat mode that it seems as if their starter button is stuck in the ‘off' position. It is usually the most profoundly abandoned child - ‘the lost child' - who is forced to ‘choose' and habituate to the freeze response… Unable to successfully employ fight, flight or fawn responses, the freeze type's defenses develop around classical dissociation.” ― Pete Walker Dietrich von Hildebrand -- shrinking away from commitment. Difficulties receiving partial, incomplete, imperfect love -- as replacements for God's love Glazed carrots. Side dish, not the main entrée. Mother Angelica's Little Book of Life Lessons And Everyday Spirituality : Allow people to love you as they must love you, not as you want them to love you. Even God does not love us as we wish Him to. Learning to love is learning to accept love as it comes Spiritual Disconnecting from God, who is love. Human beings must be known to be loved; but Divine beings must be loved to be known. Blaise Pascal We to love God to know Him And so we have to find him lovable -- and so often parts of us don't find him lovable. Need for Faith and Hope -- Infused virtues. To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us. Timothy Keller everyone wants perfect love... no one wants to be a perfect lover... - Author: Brijesh Singh Being loved by God is often even more difficult I John 4:8 "…God is love." Issues around God images (IIC 23-29) God is not as tangible, immediate Transferences to God Projections onto God. Edward Vacek: Love, Human and Divine: The Heart of Christian Ethics. The sequence in loving and being loved. (1) God affirms us; (2) God receives a; (3) we accept God's love; (4) we affirm God; (5) God forms community with us; (6) we cooperate with God in loving God in the world; and finally (7) we grow in a limited code responsibility with God. p.. 177 Problems with the sequence -- not tolerating enough contact with God to be affirmed, to understand him in a totally different way. 1 John 4:19: We love because he first loved us Active vs. passive refusal to be loved. Active refusals to be loved are more obvious Passive refusals to be loved are more common. Five attachment tasks Felt sense of safety and protection -- have to go through the valley of shame, fear, anger, grief Feeling seen, heard, known and understood -- have to tolerating being in relationship, being present. Feeling comforted, soothed and reassured Feeling cherished, treasured, delighted in “If your parents' faces never lit up when they looked at you, it's hard to know what it feels like to be loved and cherished. If you come from an incomprehensible world filled with secrecy and fear, it's almost impossible to find the words to express what you have endured. If you grew up unwanted and ignored, it is a major challenge to develop a visceral sense of agency and self-worth.” ― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Feeling the other has your best interests at heart Love heals The more healthy relationships a child has, the more likely he will be to recover from trauma and thrive. Relationships are the agents of change and the most powerful therapy is human love. — Bruce D. Perry “Love alone brings a human being to full awareness of personal existence. For it is in love alone that man finds room enough to be what he is.” ― Dietrich von Hildebrand, Man, Woman, and the Meaning of Love “Trauma ruptures and hollows. Compassion mends and fills; love heals.” ― Na'ama Yehud There you have it from a trauma researcher, a philosopher, and a writer -- Example of Sr. Josephine Bakhita Born about 1869 in the village of Olgossa in the Darfur region of Sudan. She was a member of the Daju people Uncle was a tribal chief, well-to-do family At age 8, kidnapped by slave traders, forcerd to walk barefoot 600 miles to a slave market Over the next 12 years, bought and sold many times, at least 12 times Trauma of the abduction -- Forgot her given name in captivity -- consider that - - a loss of identity Owners varied in their treatment of her. Some were sadists Family of Turkish general Josephine wrote that as soon as one wound would heal, they would inflict another. another woman drew patterns on her skin with flour, then cut into her flesh with a blade. She rubbed the wounds with salt to make the scars permanent. She would suffer a total of 114 scars from this abuse. A total of 114 intricate patterns were cut into her breasts, belly and into her right arm I am definitively loved and whatever happens to me -- I am awaited by this Love. Action Plan You gotta pray Point is to focus on developing the relationship with the Persons of the Trinity and with Mary -- as a little child, a little son or daughter. Litanies of the Heart - the Litany of the Closed Heart the litany of the fearful heart, the litany of the wounded heart. Soulsandhearts.com/lit Books Intimacy in Prayer -- Personal Prayer: A Guide for Receiving the Father's Love -- by Frs. Thomas Acklin and Boniface Hicks. Fr. Jacques Philippe -- Time for God -- excellent guide for learning pray from a more relational perspective. I also like Fr. Jacques Philippe's book The way of Trust and Confidence Fr. Thomas Dubay -- Fire Within -- more of a Carmelite approach. If you haven't been to confession recently, go. If you feel like you can't go, I want to hear about it. Calling all Catholic therapists and -- Interior Therapist Community is starting our fall groups. 80 therapists and graduate students in mental health fields in community -- each of us working on our own human formation, but not in isolation. New Foundations experiential groups are forming -- and we have advanced groups. 2022 Webinar Series: Of Beams and Specks: Therapist-Focused Consultation - Peter Malinoski $30 Soulsandhearts.com/itc -- call me at 317.567.9594 or email at crisis@soulsandhearts.com Weekly reflection -- related to this podcast, delivered to your inbox every Wednesday -- We do get around to archiving them in the blog section of our website -- soulsandhearts.com/blog Conversation hours -- every Tuesday and Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM Eastern Time call me at 317.567.9594 or email at crisis@soulsandhearts.com. If I don't pick up, I'm on another call leave a voicemail. Patroness and Patron.
El ser humano es antes que nada un ser social y nuestros cerebros están biológicamente diseñados para estar en comunidad; para sentir que pertenecemos. En el episodio anterior hablamos de lo difícil que es hacer amigas en la adultez y en este profundizamos en por qué es importante tener amigas: porque el rechazo social, la falta de apoyo, la soledad, se siente igual que el dolor físico, y no es una exageración. Dani y Carla, además de reflexionar sobre experiencias muy personales en esta conversación, abarcan a través de referencias de libros, estudios y series de televisión las distintas situaciones sociales en las que está presente ese deseo o falta de pertenencia: las relaciones familiares o de amistad, la migración, la apariencia física, la discriminación, el bullying. Libros “What happened to you? Conversations on trauma, resilience and healing”, Bruce D. Perry, Oprah Winfrey. “Creía que solo me pasaba a mí”, Brené Brown. “El peligro de estar cuerda”, Rosa Montero. “Prohibido nacer: memorias de racismo, rabia y risas”, Trevor Noah. Series “Heartstopper” (Netflix). “This is us” (NBC). “Intimidad” (Netflix). Otras referencias La pirámide de Maslow, o jerarquía de las necesidades humanas, es una teoría psicológica propuesta por Abraham Maslow en su obra “Una teoría sobre la motivación humana”, de 1943. El experimento de David Eagleman sobre el dolor social aparece en el episodio 5 del programa “The brain with David Eagleman”: “Social Pain is real pain”. En PBS. “Whanaungatanga”, es un elemento común en todas las prácticas de sanación de la tribu de los Maori en Nueva Zelanda y se refiere a las relaciones recíprocas, la amabilidad, la sensación de conexión familiar. “Common Humanity” o “Humanidad compartida” es uno de los tres elementos de la autocompasión consciente según la autora e investigadora Kristin Neff. Grupo de Telegram Nuestro grupo de Telegram, para construir comunidad alrededor de este podcast completamente gratis. Para unirte haz clic en el link: https://t.me/joinchat/M1BzCR3IAqy81OkjKXqYdA Se trata de un espacio de valor y de crecimiento en comunidad. Será nuestra pequeña tribu de apoyo, un espacio de coraje colectivo. Todas las que se unan podrán acceder a: • Audios exclusivos: respondiendo preguntas, • Reseñando libros, películas, series y todo el contenido que consumimos y creemos puede ser de valor para ustedes. • Zoom exclusivos solo para integrantes de esta comunidad • Conversación o discusión de un tema en específico de interés para todas Si quieres sugerirnos un tema , contarnos tus historias o simplemente saludarnos puedes hacerlo en podemosvivirestahistoria@gmail.com Suscríbete, déjanos un comentario y comparte con tus amigas ¿Dónde nos puedes encontrar? En nuestra redes sociales: • Carla Candia Casado es @agobiosdemadre • Daniela Kammoun es @danikammoun y @projectglamm
In this Onward Podcast episode, Joshua Ebalz talks about how he's survived trauma and is thriving forward. In the past few years, Joshua survived the unthinkable. Both of his brothers and his father passed away. Furthermore, Joshua shares his story and his belief that even through loss, after loss, after loss, after loss; there is still the chance for you to live your life in a healthy, constructive, hopeful way. Also, overcoming adversity has to come from within. It will not come from someone else. Finally, living your life in the NOW requires you to understand your past and the trauma that lives in it and what you hope to accomplish in the future. Happiness will lie in your NOW if you are able to understand your past and not focus incessantly on your future. Joshua is a recent graduate of Atlanta's John Marshall Law School and is sitting for the bar exam in July 2022. Resources Mentioned: Joy Crowe's (Joshua's mom) Onward Podcast episode Reflections on Losing Two Sons to Overdoses & Nearly Losing Her Third to COVID-19 Joshua on LinkedIn Facebook - Joshua Ebalz Email Joshua - joshelbaz23@gmail.com Books recommended by Joshua: The Power of Now, by: Eckhart Tolle The Confidence Gap: From Fear to Freedom, by: Russ Harris What Happened to You? by: Bruce D. Perry, PhD Connect with Emily on LinkedIn Emily Harman Positive Intelligence Coaching Program Onward Accelerator Coaching Program Onward: Twitter | Onward Movement Facebook Group | YouTube Buy Emily's Best Selling Book Step Into the Spotlight Schedule a Complimentary Coaching Call with Emily Music by Soul Pajamas Enjoyed the show? Please remember to leave a rating and review in Apple Podcasts
Maia Szalavitz is a neuroscience journalist obsessed with addiction, love, evidence-based living, empathy, and everything related to the brain and behavior. She's the author or co-author of eight books, including Her New York Times bestseller, "Unbroken Brain," where she uses her own story of recovery from heroin and cocaine addiction to explore how reframing addiction as a developmental disorder could revolutionize prevention treatment and policy. Two other of her bestselling books include "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog" and "Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential— and Endangered," both co-written with a leading child psychiatrist and trauma expert Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Maia is also a contributing opinion writer for The New York Times and recently released her latest book, “Undoing Drugs: The Untold Story of Harm Reduction and the Future of Addiction,” the first history of the harm reduction movement. I am honored to have Maia join me for this conversation. We talk about tolerance, addiction, dependency, empathy, trauma, harm reduction, and the stigma of being an addict. Episode Resources: https://maiasz.com/ (Maia Szalavitz Website) Link to purchase: https://for-your-listening-pleasure.creator-spring.com/listing/fylp-x-wrdsmth-collab (FYLPxWRDSMTH Merch Collaboration) *suggestion is to size up Download this episode of For Your Listening Pleasure wherever you get your podcasts! Make sure you follow us on Instagram @https://www.instagram.com/foryourlisteningpleasure/ (foryourlisteningpleasure) Click https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3QIs28pC7TR4OMgPflPNOh?si=35775356c6554f52 (here )to listen to the For Your Listening Pleasure Theme Song Playlist on Spotify. To continue the conversation, feel free to DM me at https://www.instagram.com/foryourlisteningpleasure/ (https://www.instagram.com/foryourlisteningpleasure/) or email me at foryourlisteningpleasure@gmail.com.
Host Dr. Tarryn MacCarthy celebrates all the Mamas out there, in whatever shape or form, in today's episode. She considers motherhood one of the most, if not the most difficult, jobs she's ever known. It's very important for all mothers out there to understand that you are allowed to give yourself grace! Give yourself some compassion. Happy Mother's Day!!!Show notes:[1:35] The most difficult job in the world[3:33] Moms, please give yourself some compassion[8:54] Book recommendation: What Happened to You? by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey [11:34] Join Dr. Tarryn's Business of Happiness Prosperity Coaching to redefine success on your terms. Check out www.thebizofhappiness.com and be the happiest business owner you know[12:55] Recognizing the mistakes you made and the marks you've left on your kids[15:25] Dr. Tarryn's Mother's Day wish for you[18:45] What happens when you give compassion to your mom [22:00] OutroPlease join my Facebook group: Business Of Happiness Hive so we can all take this journey to find fulfillment and happiness together. Click here.Where to find meWebsite: www.thebizofhappiness.comFacebook: facebook.com/thebusinessofhappinessIG: @thebizofhappinessIt would mean the world to me if you subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with your friends, co-workers, and families. This will help the trajectory of this podcast and allow others who are seeking true happiness to find the podcast.
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