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Caitlin's Couch is a space for recovering "nice girls," people pleasers, and conflict avoiders to learn what we need, how to ask for it (even when it's inconvenient for others), and unapologetically own our worth. I'm Caitlin Cantor, a Licensed Therapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Relationship Expert, Sexpert, and Author of the Modern Sex blog on Psychology Today. Get ready to transform your sexual and relational world from meh to magical. Think better communication, deeper connection, more trust, and feeling more sexually empowered than you ever thought was possible. Together, we will shed shame and heal old wounds so that you can step into your power and create the relationship of your dreams. Come take up space with us here on the Couch.

Caitlin Cantor


    • May 4, 2022 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 30m AVG DURATION
    • 29 EPISODES

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    Episode #29: Releasing Relational Expectations with Jen Banks

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2022 23:33


    Welcome to Caitlin's Couch! In this episode, Caitlin is interviewing Jen Banks!  Jen is a Teacher, quote collector and an all around amazing person who loves to share her wisdom. She lives in Salt Lake City, Utah and is supporting wildlife by raising two (soon to be three) boys. Her favorite indoor activity is baking and her favorite outdoor activity is frisbee golf. She graduated from Utah State University in Elementary Education and Early Childhood Education. Jen collects inspirational quotes, plays the violin, and is fiercely in love with her husband of seven years, Jared.  Follow Jen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aisforadversity/  Check out A is For Adversity: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-is-for-adversity/id1547037764  The Caitlin's Couch podcast is brought to you by Higher Dose. Supercharge your self care and boost holistic recovery with wellness tools designed to ignite vitality from the inside out. Caitlin personally loves their infrared sauna blanket and uses it several times a week! It increases the body's thermal energy, enhances relaxation, promotes glowing skin and it's super easy to use. Over time, It will lead you to feel an overall sense of better wellness,  improve your mood, make you feel like you're glowing and boost your immunity!  Get your Higher Dose Sauna Blanket for 15% off when you use the code: CaitlinsCouch at checkout: https://bit.ly/cailtinscouch   Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  For more from Caitlin be sure to follow her on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch! Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Who Jen Banks is and how her early childhood education degree supports her relationships. How Jen married her high school sweetheart, and together they worked through every relationship struggle that came their way.  In a relationship, you need to each give 100%. How important it is to remove expectations from your relationship.  The truth behind love languages.  QUOTES “What I learned first is to identify and meet your own needs. This is important because a lot of people rely on their spouse or their partner for their happiness, and as much as we would like to control people, we can't. If we are meeting our own needs… whatever our spouse does is just icing on the cake.” “To have a healthy relationship, you have to have space for people's differences. If you can't allow for those differences, you're going to have struggles.” “I had to realize that [my husband] was giving me love, it just wasn't in the ways that I was looking for it.” “You don't have to be completely happy and stop wanting a partner, but you can't look for a partner to be the SOUL SORCE OF YOUR HAPPINESS and WORTHINESS, because it just doesn't work out.” LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Episode #28: Find Your Purpose with ReGina Smithwick

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2022 51:35


    Welcome to Caitlin's Couch! In this episode, Caitlin is interviewing ReGina R Smithwick!  ReGina Smithwick was born in Harlem, NY, raised in Mount Vernon, NY, and Teaneck NJ. She now resides in Winterville, NC with her three children. She is the founder of ReGina Smithwick Enterprises LLC, providing Certified Life Coaching and a Professional Organizational service. She is also the creator and producer of Talk Show & Podcast, Let's Talk 1943. In addition, she is a Motivational Speaker and Author of Adoption: The Unknown Blessing. She also publishes many self-help journals.  She attended Virginia State University and received her Master of Science degree in Organizational Leadership from National University.  Click here to learn more about ReGina's book on Amazon. Check out Let's Talk 1943 on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Lets-Talk-1943-107586144745499 Follow Lets_Talk 1943 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lets_talk1943/ Follow @letstalk1943 on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/letstalk1943/_created/  Visit www.letstalk1943.com  Check out Adoption: The Unknown Blessing on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/adoptiontheunknownblessing  Follow adoption_theunknownblessing on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adoption_theunknownblessing/  The Caitlin's Couch podcast is brought to you by Higher Dose. Supercharge your self care and boost holistic recovery with wellness tools designed to ignite vitality from the inside out. Caitlin personally loves their infrared sauna blanket and uses it several times a week! It increases the body's thermal energy, enhances relaxation, promotes glowing skin and it's super easy to use. Over time, It will lead you to feel an overall sense of better wellness,  improve your mood, make you feel like you're glowing and boost your immunity!  Get your Higher Dose Sauna Blanket for 15% off when you use the code: CaitlinsCouch at checkout: https://bit.ly/cailtinscouch   Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  For more from Caitlin be sure to follow her on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch! Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Who ReGina is and how she became an author, motivational speaker and certified life coach, going from living and existing to thriving in her purpose.  How ReGina found her birth family, 50 years after her adoption, and how it helped her discover her self worth and true value. What it means to ring out your sponge to absorb growth, abundance and new beliefs.  QUOTES “When you try to fit in, at what cost?” “Everything starts with a seed. You plant your little seed in your garden and as it grows, you grow out what you want to grow out. If you put a bad seed in the ground, you're going to grow weeds.” “When you stand in your purpose and you know who you are, you let stuff roll over. You don't care about what people say about you, or how they feel about you, they don't want to be around you. You don't care.”  “When you live in your purpose, people don't understand it, because you're totally on another level.” LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Episode #27: How Childhood Traumas Manifest in Adult Relationships with Kaytlyn Gillis, LCSW

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2022 47:53


    Welcome to Caitlin's Couch! In this episode, Caitlin is interviewing Kaytlyn Gillis, LCSW! Kaytlyn is a psychotherapist and author with a passion for working with survivors of family trauma and the LGBTQ+ community.  Her work focuses on assisting survivors of psychological abuse, stalking, and other non-physical forms of family and domestic violence. Her recent book, Invisible Bruises: How a Better Understanding of the Patterns of Domestic Violence Can Help Survivors Navigate the Legal System, sheds light on the ways that the legal system can perpetuate the cycle of domestic violence by failing to recognize patterns that would otherwise hold perpetrators accountable and protect survivors.  Gillis provides training on recognizing patterns of domestic violence, treating the aftermath of abuse, and helping survivors move forward. Kaytlyn shares how red flags can be disguised as the norm as a child, but these childhood traumas can manifest in adult relationships as dysfunctional patterns.  Check out Katlyn's website: https://www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com/  Read more about Kaytlyn on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/kaytee-gillis-lcsw-bacs Follow Kaytlyn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claras__voice/  Join the Clara's Voice Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1190399851490363  Check out Kaytlyn's book, Invisible Bruises: How a Better Understanding of the Patterns of Domestic Violence can Help Survivors Navigate the Legal System: https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Bruises-Understanding-Patterns-Survivors/dp/1737551578  The lovingly blunt podcast is brought to you by Higher Dose. Supercharge your self care and boost holistic recovery with wellness tools designed to ignite vitality from the inside out. Caitlin personally loves their infrared sauna blanket and uses it several times a week!It increases the body's thermal energy, enhances relaxation, promotes glowing skin and it's super easy to use. Over time, It will lead you to feel an overall sense of better wellness,  improve your mood, make you feel like you're glowing and boost your immunity!  Get your Higher Dose Sauna Blanket for 15% off when you use the code: CaitlinsCouch at checkout: https://bit.ly/cailtinscouch   Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  For more from Caitlin be sure to follow her on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch! Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order!   IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Who Kaytlyn is and the work she does to assist survivors of psychological abuse, stalking, and other non-physical forms of family and domestic violence. How diving into childhood traumas helps to release dysfunctional adulthood relational patterns.  What's normal vs dysfunctional when you grow up in certain situations.  The pattern of Serial Monogamy, or repeating the same dysfunctional patterns in relationship after relationship because you haven't done the inner work yet.  The importance of being Trauma Informed.    QUOTES “I personally found that once I started to dive into my own childhood trauma, it was incredible in how much it helped me understand my relationship struggles as an adult.” “We normalize any dysfunction, because it's not dysfunction as a child, it's our normal.” “Most of us do [have trauma]. There is no perfect childhood.” “It's not about condemning people or anything like that. Oftentimes, parents who engaged in behaviors that ended up being traumatic, also did things that were loving and kind and ‘good parenting'. “Children of trauma had their boundaries violated.”   LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Episode #26: Exploring Relationships through the Lens of Polyamory with Heidi Savell

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2022 45:34


    Welcome to Caitlin's Couch! In this episode, Caitlin is interviewing Heidi Savell! Heidi Savell (she/her) is a therapist, coach, and educator who has been working with polyamorous people for almost a decade. Heidi believes that polyamory can be a satisfying and empowering relationship model, and is passionate about helping folks get the most out of their relationships. Heidi shares her take on polyamorous relationships and breaking down cultural norms in regards to relationships. External voices and “shoulds” can be so dangerous and detrimental to your relationships.  Follow Heidi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelovesradically/ Check out Heidi's website: https://www.shelovesradically.com/  The lovingly blunt podcast is brought to you by Higher Dose. Supercharge your self care and boost holistic recovery with wellness tools designed to ignite vitality from the inside out. Caitlin personally loves their infrared sauna blanket and uses it several times a week! It increases the body's thermal energy, enhances relaxation, promotes glowing skin and it's super easy to use. Over time, It will lead you to feel an overall sense of better wellness,  improve your mood, make you feel like you're glowing and boost your immunity!  Get your Higher Dose Sauna Blanket for 15% off. Use Code caitlinscouch at checkout: https://bit.ly/higherdosesaunablanket  Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.    Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order!   IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Who Heidi Savell is and how she became an empowered polyamorous relationship coach.  How it looks for someone going from being monogamous to entering a polyamorous relationship.  The myths of monogamy.  The Relationship Escalator and how polyamory differs from traditional relationships steps.  The self awareness and self examination that a polyamorous relationship requires.    QUOTES “These ways in which we unpack and critically examine the messages are so helpful for EVERYONE and not just polyamorous people. I think examining this can lead monogamous people to have more healthy, well-rounded, balanced relationships as well.”  “Some of the fear about getting into a relationship have to do with those myths that feel really limiting.” “Shoulds are telling you what's real for you and right for you is wrong according to those messages and maps and things that we are told.” “This idea that commitment and exclusivity are the same thing, I think is another myth that can get really harmful.”    LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Episode #25: Hopeless to Hopeful Romantics with Gabby Valdes

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2022 49:22


    Welcome to Caitlin's Couch! In this episode, Caitlin is interviewing Gabby Valdes! Gabby coaches romantics that work on themselves but still feel hopeless about love. They're afraid they will never find their person or feel good enough for love. She helps them understand themselves better and feel confident in who they are so that they can find someone special to enjoy life with. Gabby shares her personal development journey and how she went from her own worst critic, getting in her way constantly and just surviving to feeling empowered and thriving in her romantic relationships.  Check out Gabby's website: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/ Free quiz: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/right-for-you Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Who Gabby Valdes is and she got into dating coaching. What a “romantic” is and who can be considered a romantic.  The two types of “happy ever after”  How people are getting in their own way when it comes to relationships.  QUOTES “People are sometimes even afraid to stand by the fact that they want a relationship.”  “I was in this position, and I was just never taught how to have healthy relationships. So I was either hyper-independent or codependent and I didn;t know how to be in that middle, but finding my way and being guided to that place was so empowering.” “I think there's healing to do and learning to do to get to the relationship that people want.”   “If you're struggling to find someone, it's not because somethings wrong with you, it's because you're somehow getting in your own way. You're doing things you had to do.”  “We needed to survive to be able to find some sense of security in the hurtful or traumatic environment, and now we've outgrown those outdated beliefs. They are no longer serving us. Now we're shifting from surviving to thriving and thriving it going to take a completely different mindset skillset. “   LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Episode #24: Overcoming Loneliness with Janice Formachella

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2022 34:28


    Welcome to Caitlin's Couch!  Today Caitlin is interviewing Janice Formichella, breakup coach, writer, and co-host of The Ex-Philes podcast. She supports individuals who are struggling with the pain and confusion of a broken heart to turn their breakup into a magical opportunity. With a focus on overcoming loneliness and living a desire-led life, she works with people to become passionate about being their own soulmates and using solo time as a superpower.Janice shares her journey to overcoming hardships, stepping into her power and becoming self reliant. Trigger warning: There is talk of abuse in relationships in this episode.  Follow Janice on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janiceformichella/  Listen to the Ex Philes Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/exphilespodcast/?hl=en  Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Who Janice is and how she became a powerful dating and breakup coach.  How Janice went from not having herself as a resource to knowing her true power and being self reliant.  What it means to take ownership of your part.  How to overcome loneliness. QUOTES “When you are constantly looking outside (yourself), you don't find the stability that you can give yourself.” “Because I was so desperate for solutions outside of myself, I had played a big role in the things that had happened.”  “Being self reliant is such a key thing when it comes to healing and stepping into our power.”  “I couldn't go back and change the past, the only thing in my control was the future, but to gain control I had to start stepping up for myself.” “It's not about other people changing, it's about me accepting them, and making choices about if I want to spend time with them or not.” “Your gut feeling is never going to be wrong.” LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Episode #23: Healing Your Feminine Energy with Alana McKenzie

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2022 48:24


    In this episode of Caitlin's Couch, Caitlin is joined by fellow Dating & Intimacy Coach & Creator of The Art of Feminine Seduction, Alana Mckenzie. Alana shares her journey from dating failure and non-relationship, to healing her feminine energy.  She shared that what she finds for herself and her clients is that a powerful, long term, meaningful, committed relationship needs a balance of physical and emotional intimacy. This relationship will have both the excitement of physical intimacy, as well as the trust and grounding of emotional intimacy. Follow Alana on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/avesselforlove/ Check out Alana's website: https://www.alanamckenzie.com/  Need advice on dating, relationships, self-worth, boundaries, break-ups, or mental health? Submit your questions anonymously and Caitlin will answer in an upcoming Dear Caitlin column! Submit an entry for Dear Caitlin. Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order!   IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Who is Alana Mckenzie and how she found dating & intimacy coaching as a passion. How she turned around her awful dating history into a successful engagement.  How important sex and pleasure are and how it's not talked about enough.  How you can heal your feminine energy to make relationships work for you.    QUOTES “What was different was I felt like myself on the date, and I felt amazing.” “It took me a long time to find the right help.” “It was the moment that I woke up and went ‘oh this can go differently, than heartbreak and hurt and this sort of emotional roller coaster that I've previously been on'.” “It's such a product of all of those different things that we experience through societal messages, family messages, being a woman, trauma… so many things that leave people to feel not enough. Once you've figured out relationships… all of those things that I thought that I wasn't good enough for, I was objectifying myself.” “I was really thinking about ‘me, me, me' and relationships are what happens between two people.”  “It's difficult to find attraction in stability. [My clients generally] find attraction in the chaos, but that's just the beginning of the healing journey. And Ultimately that chaos becomes unattractive and stability becomes attractive.”     LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!  

    Episode #22: Raise the Bar with Evan Marc Katz

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2022 63:40


    In this episode of Caitlin's Couch, Caitlin is joined by fellow Dating Coach, Evan Marc Katz.  Evan, a seasoned dating coach, shares his background in dating coaching and how he became who he is today! Caitlin and Evan talk about the common mistakes they see women making in the dating world, and what you need to do to meet the partner of your dreams! You won't want to miss this episode!  Follow Evan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evanmarckatzfan/  Check out Evan's website: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/  There are a few days left to join Empowered AF: The Ultimate Dating Program for Women. Learn more: https://www.caitlinscouch.com/empowered-af-ultimate-dating-program  Need advice on dating, relationships, self-worth, boundaries, break-ups, or mental health? Submit your questions anonymously and Caitlin will answer in an upcoming Dear Caitlin column! Submit an entry for Dear Caitlin. Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?    Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!    Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.    Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order!   IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Who Evan Marc Katz is and how he became the Dating Coach that he is today.  The importance of confidence and self worth in your dating journey.  What it means to be relational in a dating relationship How you can raise the bar and attract a quality partner!   LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Episode #21: This Is How You Get Empowered AF

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2022 24:07


    In this episode of Caitlin's Couch, Caitlin shares EXACTLY how you can get Empowered AF. Listen to the replay of the Empowered AF Q&A that we hosted to kick off the cart opening for Empowered AF. We had some great and powerful questions!  Empowered AF is a combination of Caitlin teaching you proven and tested relational skills, and an experience where YOU get to have healthy relationships in a safe container.  We aren't just talking about relationships and relational skills, we're PUTTING those skills to ACTION.  JOIN EMPOWERED AF TODAY: https://www.caitlinscouch.com/empowered-af-ultimate-dating-program  Need advice on dating, relationships, self-worth, boundaries, break-ups, or mental health? Submit your questions anonymously and Caitlin will answer in an upcoming Dear Caitlin column! Submit an entry for Dear Caitlin. Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT How you can get Empowered AF Caitlin's story of why she created Empowered AF What is Gestalt therapy? More into Caitlin's professional background.  What does Relational mean and why does it matter?  QUOTES “Learning how to be relational, learning relational skills, is what I needed to be able to get into a healthy, amazing relationship.”  “Everything we believe about ourselves comes from society, family, experiences, trauma. Things like that. We're not born feeling shame.”  LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Episode #20: First Dates: Myths vs Facts

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2021 5:28


    In this episode of Caitlin's Couch, Caitlin shares that dating can be soul crushingly difficult nowadays. None of us were taught how to navigate the online dating world, and without the necessary knowledge, it can suck you in and spit you out with half the self-worth you started with.  But luckily, you can learn how to navigate the online dating world. You can learn how to make it work FOR you, instead of AGAINST you.  Let's start with first dates. There's so much education needed around first date mindset, expectations, and emotions. In this video, I break down the most common myths about first dates, and give you the facts you need to step into your power, and take control of your dating journey. Say goodbye to repetitive disappointments, and hello to confidence and empowerment. Hungry for  more information on first dates? Then my upcoming workshop is for you! If you want to get dating right from the first date (and even BEFORE the first date), this workshop is a MUST!  This is a 60 minute free, live workshop that will help you stop making the same mistakes (unknowingly), and start dating in a way that feels empowered and actually works. Join me Thursday December 9th at 7:30 pm EST for my live training: First Dates: Three common mistakes that are keeping you single. Click here to sign up: https://caitlinscouch.mykajabi.com/first-dates  Need advice on dating, relationships, self-worth, boundaries, break-ups, or mental health? Submit your questions anonymously and Caitlin will answer in an upcoming Dear Caitlin column! Submit an entry for Dear Caitlin. Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT All of the myths that you may be holding onto with First Dates The truths about first dates that you need to know to break toxic cycles   QUOTES “When you get excited about who you think this person is, that's when you're going to get hurt when you find out who they actually are.” “The point of a first date is to see if you want to go on a second date.”   LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    EP#:19 Dear Caitlin, How do I reverse a lifetime of abuse?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2021 34:11


    Trigger warning: We talk about abusive childhood and relationships in this podcast.    In this episode of Caitlin's Couch, The Podcast, Caitlin shares a recent Dear Caitlin submission. Anonymous No. 4 shares the story of her past, including an abusive home and abusive partners. She describes her struggles with dating and relationships, and asks: How can I reverse a lifetime of abuse?    There's good news and bad news….much more good than bad. The truth is, you can't reverse a lifetime of abuse. That's the bad news.   The good news is, you don't have to. Tune in to Episode 19 of Caitlin's Couch to hear Caitlin talk about the journey toward healing from a history of trauma.    Are you ready to meet the right partner and create a healthy, loving relationship? Caitlin is opening 2 spots for her Empowered Dating Program, a 3 month program of 1:1 coaching starting in November. Apply here and say goodbye to disempowered dating, and hello to self-love and a thriving relationship in your future! Apply for 1:1 dating coaching   Need advice on dating, relationships, self-worth, boundaries, break-ups, or mental health? Submit your questions anonymously and Caitlin will answer in an upcoming Dear Caitlin column! Submit an entry for Dear Caitlin.   Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?    Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!    Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.    Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Caitlin's response to a recent Dear Caitlin submission about dating after trauma How moving through a journey of self love can lead to happier relationships.  There is no one-size-fits-all solution for healing.  What to expect along your healing journey and how to keep moving forward QUOTES “There is no past that comes without struggle and suffering and trauma.” “There's a lack of connection and joy because there aren't relationships.” “It's not a finished journey, and it's not a journey where she's comfortable being, but it is a healing journey.” “If you didn't grow up witnessing and experiencing healthy relationships, you don't see red flags.” LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there!   If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven't already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don't miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Stop getting emotionally attached too soon

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2021 37:30


    In this episode of Caitlin's Couch, The Empowerment Lab Podcast, Caitlin talks about a scenario that may sound way too familiar to you… You've been out with him three times now, and things are going really well! You're ready to take it to the next level, and you're thinking about all the fun things the two of you will do together in the future. On your fourth date, you have sex, and it's amazing! You're high with endorphins and happier than you've been in a long time…. Fast forward two weeks.  He's not texting you as much and you don't understand why. You feel devastated. Again. You promise yourself you won't get attached so quickly next time, but you do because you don't yet know how not to. Getting emotionally attached to someone too quickly, and before the relationship grows into something that matches that strong sense of attachment, happens to the best of us.  Caitlin shares her personal experience with getting attached in a relationship too quickly, and what she has learned over the years to stop repeating that very painful pattern.  ______________________________________________________________________ If you would like to submit a question for my advice column, please do so here! Curious if you're ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin's brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship? Don't forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I'm obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Getting emotionally attached to a guy too quickly. How to stop repeating that very painful pattern. QUOTES “Getting attached so quickly is reflective of not understanding relationships.” “There is so much that you don't know you don't know.” “Part of growth and change is becoming more aware of what red flags are and not expecting yourself to just know.” “Wanting to have sex with you has very little to do with wanting a relationship with you.” “Going on three to four dates is essentially the same as going on a bus ride with a person.” “If you're emotionally unavailable, you're unavailable.”  “Go and fuck whoever you want, as much as you want!” LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don't forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.

    Should you be dating one person at a time?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2021 9:51


    In this episode of Caitlin’s Couch, The Empowerment Lab Podcast, Caitlin shares her views from a relational perspective, on whether or not to date multiple people at once. In her professional opinion, if all you’re doing is dating & that is your whole life, you’re missing out on life. Plus, you’re showing up from a place of need instead of want.  In addition, Caitlin talks about the common problem of getting overly attached too soon. You need to learn how to develop a healthy relationship to keep yourself from getting too attached. Once you learn how to have a healthy relationship, you’ll never get overly attached to someone who isn’t as attached to you in return, ever again. Curious if you’re ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin’s brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz here: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don’t forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I’m obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Whether you should be dating one person at a time. Whether you should be dating many people at once. The best way to find the right person the fastest. The best way to navigate the online dating world. The importance of dating from a place of want, not a place of need. QUOTES “When your life becomes about finding someone, you can come across as desperate.” “If all you’re doing is dating, then that is your whole life, & you’re missing out on life. You’re showing up from a place of need instead of want.” “I don’t think that dating a lot of men will teach you how to have a healthy relationship.” “When dating became something I did in addition to the rest of my life… that's when I started to show up from a place from want instead of need.”  “Honor that you are not okay being single.” LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don’t forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven’t already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts and iheart radio, so you don’t miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Online Dating is a Total Sh*t Show

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2021 10:13


    Welcome to Episode #15 of Caitlin’s Couch, The Empowerment Lab Podcast. In this episode, I am sharing all of the sh*t no one tells you about when you start your online dating journey. The dating sites and apps show you the success stories, wedding photos and fairy tale happy endings, promising you that you can have that too...but they don’t tell you about the years of trial and error, the painful experiences, and the emotional turmoil that people go through before finding their perfect match.  They don’t tell you you’re signing up for a sh*t show, and that you need to learn how to take control of your dating journey in order to make these sites work for you, rather than against you. You’ll hear all about my less than dreamy story of how I first navigated online dating and how I eventually met my husband. I worked on myself and figured out how to take control of the online dating world. And now, I’m giving you everything you need to find your forever partner faster and to feel empowered along the way. Listen as I share my tips for how to make online dating less of a total sh*t show! Curious if you’re ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin’s brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don’t forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlinsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I’m obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order!   SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES If you don’t know you are walking into a total sh*t show, you are going to get sucked into it, chewed up and spit out! No one can form a relationship in a high pressure fast paced system, and that’s what the online dating world is (if you don’t take control of it) Don’t leave it up to chance; don’t rely on the dating sites to get you to the right person; act in ways that lead you to be able to trust yourself. LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! If you like our podcast, don’t forget to give us a rating and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcasts! Your feedback really helps us to continue bringing you our best content, week after week.  If you haven’t already, Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts so you don’t miss out on all the dating and relationship empowerment coming your way!

    Let’s Talk About the First Date

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2021 19:29


    Welcome to the reboot of the Caitlin’s Couch podcast! We’ve up-levelled our name to Caitlin’s Couch, The Empowerment Lab Podcast, and we are back and ready to get you feeling EMPOWERED AF on your dating journey! You’ll learn how to date with confidence, how to maintain your sense of self-worth, and how to develop a strong, loving, long-term relationship! In this episode, Caitlin gives you all the top secrets about first dates! She busts myths you need to know about, including that you shouldn’t expect love at first sight! Stop trying to keep up with the fast pace of the online world, and start making it work for you instead of against you. Learn how to tolerate uncertainty and recognize that you really don’t know much for a while.  A big misconception about going out on a first date is that if there was chemistry and you liked him, that that means a lot. In actuality, it doesn’t. Get comfy and settle in, because you don’t want to miss a minute of this episode! Curious if you’re ready for a serious relationship? Take Caitlin’s brand new quiz and find out! Take the quiz: Are you Ready for a Serious Relationship?  Don’t forget to tag me on social media with your results!  Follow me on Instagram @CaitlinsCouch and Tik Tok @CaitlnsCouch.  Daily Harvest is the fastest, easiest, most delicious way to eat well. I’m obsessed! Use my link to get $25 off of your first order! QUOTES FROM THE SHOW “You don’t go out with someone once and instantly have a relationship.” “In this modern dating world of fast-paced swiping, screwing and ghosting, it’s important to take control of your dating life and slow things down.” “Relationships take a lot longer than you think to develop.” “Online dating is a shitshow”  “Let’s stop giving men permission to be jerks…” “The sooner you end things with the wrong people, the sooner you open up to meeting the right people” LOVE THE PODCAST? Hey there! If you liked what you heard, please give us a rating and review in your podcast player! It helps a lot and we want to continue bringing you all the empowerment we can, so you live your life from a place of self-worth and make your dreams come true! Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.

    Letting Go Of Control in Your Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2020 13:16


    In this episode, I am sharing another bonus sneak peek into this month's content. We are starting December off strong with letting go of control in your relationship. This topic is so important to create a happy, healthy partnership. We may not realize that we are being controlling in our relationship, so I am shedding light on what it means to be controlling. I am also talking about the potential harms of being controlling, reasons why you may have become controlling - if this is you, don’t be hard on yourself. Covid - 19 has thrown a wrench into everyone’s plans this year and it’s understandable if you have gained some unhealthy habits.  If you like what you hear and you’d like to learn more, you can join my membership program TODAY join my membership program TODAY and get immediate access to members-only audio content, exclusive video content and helpful downloads and workbooks to communicate more effectively and explore more deeply. When you join, you have access to the entire library of relationship education and support! You’ll also be invited to join me for monthly live calls where I answer your questions and help you move from any stuck areas. The membership is the next best thing to having me as your therapist!  https://www.caitlinscouch.com/jointhecouch  Quotes:   “I am not asking you to lower standards, that’s not what loosening your grip on control is really about.” “Being controlling means that you have your own ideas on how things should be, and you project your views onto your partner, and you expect your partner to have the same views and do things that way you think they should be done.“   If you are not ready to join me on the couch, I have multiple different content streams to help you up-level your relationship, communicate more powerfully and feel empowered for the holidays.  Join my free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/caitlinscouch  Read my Blog on Caitlin’s Couch: https://www.caitlinscouch.com/blog  Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitlinscouch/  Follow me on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/caitlinscouch/ 

    Feeling Your Feelings = Freedom

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2020 12:06


    In this solo episode of Caitlin’s Couch, I share the myth that most of us believe that feelings aren’t important. Have you ever found yourself saying phrases like “there’s no point in being angry or sad about xyz”? I’m here to tell you that feelings don’t work like that. There are many important reasons that we need to feel our feelings in order to live a truly fulfilling life. There is a reason why a baby cries when they’re hungry, or throws a tantrum when they’re unhappy. It’s how a baby shows their feelings and as we grow up, we are generally taught to suppress our feelings. We are not taught how to regulate our emotions. We are not taught that our emotions are our guide.  This episode comes with some powerful journaling prompts.  Keep the conversation going on Caitlin's Couch! The membership program opens its doors on September 1st, which means we are just a week away from the beginning! If you haven't purchased your membership yet, head to www.caitlinscouch.com right now to get the best deals. Once the program begins, the lifetime membership will no longer be available.  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Feeling our feelings Why we need to start feeling them How we learned to stop feeling them The road back to trusting ourselves SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “We weren’t able to feel our feelings in a way that felt safe and doable.” “It’s sort of an all or nothing thing. We are either able to feel, or we aren’t. We don’t get to pick and choose which feelings we want to feel.” “If we don’t know what we feel, we won’t know what we need.” “Your feelings are your guides.”  “When I started trusting my feelings, I started trusting myself.”   CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. Subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.

    Be Bold with Boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2020 32:48


    In this episode of Caitlin’s Couch, Caitlin is joined by Shyma Jundi! Shyma is an incredible human being and a powerful love healing coach! She shares about expectations and relationships as well as boundary setting and how you have fun with setting boundaries! Don’t set aside your values and make sure that you present your boundaries clearly so that you don’t need to sacrifice on them later in the relationship. Be sure to check out Shyma’s website for a FREE 30 min discovery call with her personally! Link below. What are your love languages? If you don’t know your love language yet, I recommend taking an online quiz to find out!  **Disclaimer: We apologies for the audio in parts of this interview. Thank you for sticking with us. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Love Healing Expectations and Relationships How to set boundaries and have fun setting them Love Languages  SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “It’s totally different energy” “Boundaries are important for closeness” “You keep softening and softening until it’s like ‘what boundaries?’” “Think about the non-negotiables.”   CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. CONNECT WITH Shyma  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/shymajundi/?hl=en  WEBSITE:  https://www.shymajundi.com  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/shymadreamcatcher/  LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show yourself some love this week. Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.  

    Defensiveness is Deadly

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2020 44:49


    In this episode of Caitlin’s Couch, Caitlin is joined by Suzanne Shepard, a pilates instructor with a passion for inspiring women to strengthen their connection with their partner and become less defensive overall.  Suzanne has been married to her wife for upwards of seven years and has perfected the art of taking responsibility for her defensiveness and how damaging it can be and how to have better fights.   She shares how she went from feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable from defensiveness in her relationship to a state of relief, realizing that her partner is on her side. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT How to strengthen your connection in your relationship How to become less defensive overall What defensiveness in your relationship looks like SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “I wouldn't say that realizing it has cured me, but i would like to think that realizing it has given me some tools to break that cycle.”  “It finally clicked for me when I tried something else” “I felt tremendous relief when I stopped defending myself.” “It feels really good not to need to be right.” “I was too busy mounting my defense to really hear her.” “When we are defensive, what could be easily solvable becomes so much bigger.”   CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. CONNECT WITH SUZANNE INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/eliotstreetpilates/  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Eliot-Street-Pilates-106386712715460/  WEBSITE: https://www.instagram.com/eliotstreetpilates/  LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show your beautiful thighs some love this week. Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.  

    Connection: Slow Down to Heat Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2020 17:34


    In this solo episode of Caitlin’s Couch, I am talking all about connection. Connection means to feel seen, to feel belonging, to feel safe, to feel understood, to feel accepted. This is so important in your relationship with both yourself and others. Part of my why, and the reason she created Caitlin’s Couch, is to teach her clients how to bring more connection into their lives. I share my best tips on how to slow down, work through the discomfort, and move towards better connection.  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT All Things Connection The importance of learning how to slow down How slowing down will benefit your intimacy SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “Our society is structured in a way that breeds a lot of shame.” “In connection, there is slowness.”  “A lot of us don’t know how to move from disconnection to more connection.” “There’s a lot of layers to slowing down.”  “Disappointment is part of intimacy.” “Orgasms are great, but they aren't ALL there is.”   CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show your lips some love this week. Click here to subscribe to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.

    Change the Script and Own Your Sex Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2020 39:37


    “How can I change the script so this doesn't keep happening?” In this episode of Caitlin’s Couch, I am joined by Productivity Life Coach, Brittany Caffo! Brittany and I chat about her experiences with being single for the past 6 years and all of the stories that she has gathered. She has done a lot of inward reflection over the years to take notice of the kind of guys that she is attracting and the red flags that she has been brushing under the rug for too long.  Brittany is a Productivity Life Coach who helps entrepreneurs get their sh*t together through mindset, systems & strategies. Listen as she gets vulnerable and shares her tips on taking ownership, accountability, and changing her script. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Navigating the dating scene, relationships and sex The struggles of dating during the pandemic Taking ownership of  your dating life and changing the script for yourself SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “Were there red flags that I chose to ignore, or chose to justify?” “A lot of men that I attract unfortunately are unavailable.”  “Someone that is right for me is going to appreciate all of me” “I can’t control what they do, but I can control who I choose.” “If someone tells you that you’re needy, it’s because they don't want to meet your needs.” “All of the things we do are opportunities to see if the person is the right person.” “If I don’t know you, I can NOT get turned on.” “I got the message when I was younger that ‘Strong women have sex without feelings’ and that is NOT a thing.” “I’m a grown-ass woman, I know what I like and what I don’t like and your magic dick isn’t going to change that” “When I had less room for bullshit, less bullshit came my way.” “This independent boss ass bitch ain’t going nowhere so they better love it.”   CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. CONNECT WITH Brittany Caffo  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/b_caffo/  FACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/brittany.caffo LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show your Vag some love this week. Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.

    Sexy Secrets Of A Sex Therapist

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2020 22:25


    Meet the man behind the woman behind Caitlin’s Couch! Calvin Tesler is Caitlin’s loving husband as well as father to their daughter Gabriella! He is a University Professor of History, Writing, and Literature.  Caitlin and Calvin share about their sex life and how, just like Caitlin supports her clients in putting the work in to keep their sex lives alive, she really practices what she preaches! Foreplay only exists between times that you and your partner have sex. There is a connection between getting your needs met outside the bedroom and getting your needs met inside the bedroom. Any judgment, criticism, or irritation, follows you to the bedroom and has an effect on your sex life.  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT All the sexy secrets of a sex therapist How Caitlin and her husband, Calvin, handle rejection How they practice simmering  How they contribute to keeping their sex life alive SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “I totally practice what I preach.”   “Part of keeping our sex life alive is the way that we engage with each other between the times that we have sex” “It’s very rare that there are issues inside the bedroom that aren’t there outside the bedroom.” “Between times that we have sex, I feel like we really nurture each other.” “Practice staying in a place of respect and speaking to your partner from that space.”  “We were constantly trying to help each other.”  “That head down there knows that somethings not right in a relationship before that head up here knows.” “Your partner has the biggest impact on your sense of self-worth.”     CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show your toes some love this week. 

    They're Called Daddy Issues Because Your Dad (NOT you) Had Issues

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2020 44:03


    “Part of the lack of love and affection that my dad gives me is because that was not provided to him when he was a child.”  In this episode of Caitlin’s Couch, I am joined with the Boss Bitch, Women’s Success Coach Kael Roberts. She shares how she went from a background in the fitness industry to massage therapy to reiki healing to NLP to becoming a mindset and business strategy coach! Kael really gets vulnerable in this interview and shares how events in her childhood shaped her in her adult life. With a lack of masculine affection in her family from her rarely present dad, She took matters into her own hands and became that masculine energy that she craved.    This episode is jam-packed with powerful messages and healing practices.      IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT The impact of one or more emotionally unavailable parents on our sense of self-worth How our choice of partners is often reflective of our paternal relationships How we can heal from those old wounds How we can stop looking for self-worth from others How to create healthier relationships   SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “It made me feel like I wasn’t worthy of love like I wasn’t beautiful.” “Ok then, I need to protect myself, and to do that, I need to shift into a more manly presentation of who I am.” “I had to act more powerfully in my feminine energy.” “You have to look at yourself that way (sensually) in order to feel that.” “Practice makes better, and better is all we need.” “It’s not you, it’s him, he’s coming from a place of pain and being hurt.” “Everyone’s parents do the best with what resources they have.” “Part of the lack of love and affection that my dad gives me is because that was not provided to him when he was a child.”    CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. CONNECT WITH KAEL ROBERTS INSTAGRAM:  https://www.instagram.com/the_kael_kollective/    FACEBOOK GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/levelupacademy/  WEBSITE:  https://www.kaelroberts.com  LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show your entire self some love this week!

    Real Relationships: You’ve Gotta Do The Work

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2020 43:15


    In this episode of Caitlin’s Couch, I am joined with Spiritual Business Coach, Danielle Klein, talking about her relational journey with her husband! I met Danielle in a mastermind that I was a part of earlier this year.   Danielle is a woman on a mission to help spiritual leaders wake up to their highest self and really monetize their unique gifts to be a successful entrepreneur. She ties in spiritual development, personal development, and business development, in order to help you level up as an entrepreneur. She shares how learning strong communication skills with her husband has been a learning curve since the beginning of their relationship. You must take the time to understand how to express something hurtful, or the feeling of being disrespected by your partner. Once you can understand each other's love languages, it opens the door for more meaningful and powerful conversations.  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT How honoring and respecting your partner is going to make your bond stronger How Danielle used communication and personal development to become more comfortable with herself without the aid of alcohol  How having those hard conversations and finding your partner's love language of communication, creates a powerful foundation for your relationship The power of journaling and writing letters to ease communication if face-to-face communication seems too daunting  The power of being able to apologize in your relationship   SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “I had to learn how to use my words in a way that was compassionate and understanding of his receptiveness and his thought process” “When we figured out how to communicate, it opened the door to everything”  “Communication is mostly about the process and not the content”  “You seem to speak of him, and I imagine to him, with real respect and that is key”  “If we get defensive now, we are so quick to notice it” “In my childhood, I associated saying ‘I’m sorry’ with being cowardly” “We’re not afraid to ask for help from each other” “If you’re not communicating well, don’t give up, do it more”    CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. CONNECT WITH DANIELLE INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/spiritualbizcoach/  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SpiritualBizCoachDK/  WEBSITE: https://danielleklein.com  LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show your labia some love this week. Click here to subscribe to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.

    Control and Criticism Leads to Disappointment & Disconnection

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2020 24:16


    In this solo episode of Caitlin’s Couch, I am breaking down how a partnership is NOT about two people doing things the same way. A partnership is about two people showing up, supporting each other and accepting each other in their differences. Your partner does not have to do everything your way. They are human with their own quirks and habits. It’s important to loosen your grip on control, judgment and criticism.  If your partner doesn’t do something your way, even after asking them to, it doesn’t mean that they don't care for you.  A relationship is built on communication and it’s important to learn to give criticism from a loving and respectful place, and, to receive criticism in a way that makes it useful to you.    Chew on that criticism and think to yourself “how much, if any, can I take from this and grow from?”  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT How being controlling is actually keeping you from getting your needs met Why taking ownership of your judgements is key to being less controlling and critical How to get your needs met without using criticism  How to receive criticism in a useful way SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES   “You don’t feel good when you’re in a state of being critical”  “Your right way is not EVERYBODY’s right way” “Take ownership of your anger” “The person who is more critical and controlling, feels like in some ways, they are the victim in the relationship” “Maybe I think that my way is better, but really it's just better for me” “With control comes criticism and judgement” “Essentially, you can say anything in a relationship if you say it from a place of love and respect” “I like things to be done my way and that is not my partners problem, it is my problem”   CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show your [INSERT PART HERE] some love this week. Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.

    Two Roommates who Play With Each Other’s Pussies

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2020 37:39


    In this juicy bonus Episode of Caitlin’s Couch, we are continuing the conversation from Episode 2 with Bad, Bitch, Luscious, Babe, Coach, Semi-retired Stripper, Lauren Allen and her husband Sherone and the story of how their relationship started.  Hear how Sherone’s intuition, after months of not talking to each other, forced him to reconnect with Lauren and how their relationship flourished.  After getting out of her abusive relationship with her ex, then falling into a rebound relationship filled with red flags with her roommate, Lauren was ready to find her husband.  IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT How Lauren and Sherone’s relationship went from dating other people and periodically seeing each other in passing, to falling in love Lauren’s rebound lesbian experience with her previous roommate and how they played with each other’s pussies  Red Flags to keep an eye out for in your relationship SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES “Sometime stereotypes exist for a reason” “She was a fourteen year old in a twenty eight year old body” “If you’re a bitch, this isn’t going anywhere”  CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Head over to Caitlincouch.com to  get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch and grab your Hard Conversations Checklist! CONNECT WITH Lauren and Sherone! INSTAGRAM: Lauren: https://www.instagram.com/lusciouslifestylebylauren/ Sherone: https://www.instagram.com/seriouslysevach/  FACEBOOK:  Lauren: https://www.facebook.com/lusciouslifestylebylauren/ PODCAST:  Lauren: http://hustlelikeastripper.buzzsprout.com Sherone: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/seriously-sevach/id1450882492?mt=2  WEBSITE: Lauren: https://www.lusciouslifestylebylauren.com  LOVE OUR PODCAST? Hey there! Don’t forget to give us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And as always, don’t forget to show your toes some love this week. Click here to subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts.

    Don't let pressure on a Penis crush your sex life

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 15, 2020 38:58


    In this episode of Caitlin’s Couch, we are talking to Bad, Bitch, Luscious, Babe, Coach, Semi-retired Stripper, Lauren Allen - talk about a mouthful -  and her husband Sherone AKA Bae! They share all of the juicy details of how feeling yourself and embracing your inner stripper can really up-level your sex life!  Caitlin and Lauren break it down that the best way to boost your sex drive is as simple as  taking the pressure out of your relationship. Step down for a week and see how it affects your sex life. It takes a lot of courage, trust and patience to reset your labido. Prioritize sex and find ways to feel intimate without sex. If you want to hear more about how Lauren and Sherone met and how their relationship flourished, tune in Friday for my bonus episode: Two roommates who played with each other's pussies.  Rate and review this podcast and don’t forget to follow Lauren and Sherone on social media! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT Feeling Sexy, Sensual and Empowered  Being a Generous Lover  How it is when one partner’s interest in sex lessens  Rejection and the power of Releasing Pressure on a penis! SOCIAL MEDIA + QUOTES “If you can’t say no, you can't say yes!” “Pressure is the ultimate boner killer” “Your dick knows before your head does” “Reverse Psychology for your dick” “The boundaries have been respected and that's very appealing in itself” “The lack of pressure makes room for arousal to happen.” “Pressure to cum is the fastest way to not cum” “I get off getting her off”    CONNECT WITH ME Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at Caitlin’s Couch. CONNECT WITH Lauren and Sherone! INSTAGRAM: Lauren: https://www.instagram.com/lusciouslifestylebylauren/ Sherone: https://www.instagram.com/seriouslysevach/  FACEBOOK:  Lauren: https://www.facebook.com/lusciouslifestylebylauren/ PODCAST:  Lauren: http://hustlelikeastripper.buzzsprout.com Sherone: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/seriously-sevach/id1450882492?mt=2  WEBSITE: Lauren: https://www.lusciouslifestylebylauren.com

    Stress is Killing your Lady Boner - Episode 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2020 16:35


    “When you can say “no” to sex, it makes it a lot easier to say “yes” to it.” On this episode of Caitlin’s Couch, we are exploring the effects of stress in your relationship and how it can kill your lady boner. This stress can come from any outside source, or it can originate inside your relationship. This stress may come in the form of not getting your needs met, continuing to having sex with your partner even though you have no desire to or not feeling comfortable saying “no” in your relationship and have your partner respect that. “All of these forms of stress are going to impact your desire for sex. There is nothing wrong with you! You are NOT supposed to walk around with a burning flame of desire, always ready to go.” In this episode you will hear about How your desire may be buried beneath a blanket of stress A relationship is a system. If one section is off, you may need to shift parts of your relationship in order to re-align it How to tell if you hold all or most of the emotional labor in your relationship and how to relinquish that control In a long-term relationship, you are having sex for different reasons and your “automatic-desire” isn’t felt as frequently. You may need to practice “responsive-desire” Ways to feel better in your relationship and more interested in your partner  How to talk to your partner in a different light in order and share from a place of feeling Juicy Quotes from this Episode “Everything is co-created, nothing is one person’s fault” “When we become more aware, that gives us the opportunity to make choices.”  “If you don’t give your partner a chance to change, they won’t” “You have much more power that you probably realize” Let’s Connect Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @caitlinscouch and on Facebook at Caitlin Cantor. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and get on the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch online membership at caitlinscouch.com.

    Caitlin's Couch Episode 00

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2020 3:05


    Welcome to the premiere episode of Caitlin’s Couch!  This podcast is the sex-positive and pleasure-focused sex ed you never got but definitely needed. It’s a space to shed shame and heal old wounds so you can step into your power and create the relationship of your dreams.  In my upcoming episodes, we’ll be exploring… Why stress is killing your ladyboner How to ditch the defensiveness and stop avoiding hard conversations with your partner Why everything is foreplay How to stop criticizing your way to disconnection in your relationships The sexy secrets of a sex therapist Stopping the stories that aren’t serving you Choosing pleasuring your body over punishing it Follow along on Instagram @caitlinscouch and join my Facebook community. Grab your Hard Conversations Checklist and join the waitlist for the Caitlin’s Couch membership site at www.caitlinscouch.com. If you’re loving the podcast, please leave us a rating and review in your podcast player because we’re here to embrace our ladyboners with pride and give other people permission to do so, too. And don’t forget to show your vag some love this week!

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