Life and Sex after Divorce | Kizmet

In this episode of the Kizmet podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with Alice to explore the emotional complexities of infidelity shattering Alice’s once-thriving expat lifestyle, leading to a powerful journey of personal growth, self-discovery, and healing. Alice shares the subtle signs of betrayal, and the overwhelming emotional recovery required to rebuild after separation. This heartfelt conversation highlights the role of resilience in navigating relationships post-divorce, the loneliness often experienced in expat life, and the ongoing process of reclaiming one's identity. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways: Infidelity often reveals itself in subtle yet deeply impactful ways. Honest confrontation is essential for addressing relationship breakdowns. The emotional aftermath of betrayal can feel overwhelming and disorienting. Children are highly perceptive of shifting family dynamics. Trust is the cornerstone of any strong relationship. Rebuilding after divorce demands deep self-reflection and growth. Forgiveness is a key part of emotional healing. Self-discovery is a lifelong journey, especially after significant life changes. Episode Chapters:00:00 Navigating Life After Divorce 01:38 The Expat Experience and Its Challenges 03:06 The Unraveling of a Marriage 10:14 Confrontation and Realizations 19:06 The Aftermath of Betrayal 29:49 Finding Identity and Healing 37:12 Moving Forward and Embracing Change 40:14 Reflections on Love and ForgivenessSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey has a candid and thought-provoking conversation with Dan about the complexities surrounding his parents' divorce after 50 years of marriage. They delve into the often-overlooked ripple effects of such a life-changing event, particularly how it impacts families and relationships. Kiz and Dan discuss the emotional shock of witnessing a long-lasting marriage come to an end, the crucial role of empathy in understanding everyone’s perspective, and the difficulties of navigating family dynamics in the aftermath of divorce. Through personal reflections, Dan shares the challenges of supporting children and grandchildren while still trying to maintain healthy relationships as the family adjusts to the changes. Emphasising the importance of open communication, understanding, and compassion, Dan offers valuable insights into how families can weather the emotional storm of a late-in-life divorce and find ways to heal together. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the complexities of family and the resilience needed to thrive in the face of unexpected change. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Listen to Dans mothers episode on Kizmet here Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS

The Divorce Part 3: Daughter In this deeply moving episode of the Kizmet podcast, host Kiz Harvey speaks with Kartya about the emotional impact of her parents divorce on family dynamics and mental health. Kartya recounts her journey through her parents' separation, the sudden shift in family roles, and the profound emotional upheaval she faced. It highlights how communication breakdowns, secrets, and shifting responsibilities can affect children during and after a divorce. This episode offers valuable life lessons on coping strategies, emotional recovery, and the transformative power of reinvention and personal development. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways: Divorce impacts the entire family dynamic, not just the couple. Children often experience confusion and emotional pain during separation. Poor communication can deepen emotional wounds in divorce. Children may unexpectedly take on caregiving roles. Mental health struggles can complicate the divorce experience. Keeping secrets from children fosters isolation and mistrust. Divorce can accelerate a child's journey to independence. Appearances of a "perfect family" can mask deeper issues. Post-divorce relationships thrive with open, honest communication. Personal growth often springs from emotional adversity. The emotional impact of family turmoil is profound and lasting. Support systems, especially strong friendships, are crucial for healing. Mixed emotions are a normal response to major life changes. Resilience often emerges through hardship and healing. Therapy can be a key tool for emotional growth and recovery. Trauma can unlock hidden strengths and confidence. Navigating post-divorce parental relationships is complex but vital. True personal development often requires stepping outside comfort zones. Embracing change can lead to unexpected new beginnings and empowerment. Episode Chapters: 00:00 — The Impact of Divorce on Family Dynamics03:50 — Navigating the Shock of Separation11:52 — The Unraveling of Family Facades15:46 — The Role Reversal: Becoming the Caregiver20:41 — Communication Breakdown and Emotional Fallout21:35 — Navigating Family Turmoil25:03 — The Journey to Independence30:10 — Finding Resilience Through Adversity36:10 — Mixed Emotions of New Beginnings41:16 — Embracing Change and GrowthSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Divorce Part 2: Husband In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with previous episode guest Serena’s husband Pred to explore his life during and after divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional impact of their marriage breakdown, the complexities of dating again in your 50s, and the journey of personal reinvention. Pred shares his candid experiences with navigating family dynamics, finding happiness, and ultimately remarrying. The conversation sheds light on the challenges and opportunities that come with post-divorce life and the lessons learned along the way. Stay tuned for the next episode with their daughter Kartya. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways: The emotional impact of divorce varies among family members. Reinvention after divorce is a transformative experience. Understanding different perspectives is crucial in processing a marriage breakdown. Investing in relationships before children leave home strengthens family bonds. Many couples experience a disconnect after focusing primarily on parenting. Dating after divorce requires openness to new experiences. Honest communication is essential in new relationships. The pursuit of happiness post-divorce can lead to unexpected opportunities. Navigating family dynamics after divorce presents both challenges and rewards. Personal growth often stems from reflecting on past relationships. Memorable Sound Bites: "I'm leaving on Monday." "I didn't really want to mess up his HSC." "I was literally counting the days." "Marriage is perfunctory. We're just going through the motions." "You can never go forward by looking in a rearview mirror." Chapters:00:00 – Introduction to Kizmet Podcast and Guest Pred02:55 – Reflections on Marriage Breakdown and Narratives05:57 – Understanding the Impact of Divorce on Family Dynamics08:53 – The Journey of Reinvention After Divorce12:08 – Dating and Relationships Post-Divorce15:06 – Navigating New Relationships and Family Dynamics17:46 – Finding Happiness and Remarrying20:56 – Lessons Learned and Moving Forward24:01 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts Tune in to this insightful discussion on rebuilding life after divorce and embracing new beginnings. Don’t forget to subscribe to Kizmet Podcast for more relatable stories of divorce!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Divorce Part 1: Wife In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with her guest Serena to explore the often-overlooked complexities of grey divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional journey of resilience, healing, and self-discovery that follows the breakdown of long-term relationships. Serena opens up about her experience, describing her married life as resembling the façade of a "Stepford Wife." On the outside, everything appeared perfect—happy family, smooth social life—but behind closed doors, things were slowly falling apart. Secret bank accounts, unspoken issues, and an underlying sense of growing disconnect made her realise that her marriage was crumbling, even though she hadn’t fully seen it at the time. Through candid and heartfelt conversations, Kiz and Serena shed light on how embracing vulnerability, facing painful truths, and starting over can lead to a new sense of freedom and self-purpose. This episode highlights the often transformative and empowering experience of rediscovering oneself after divorce. If you're navigating similar struggles, or just curious about the journey of emotional healing, this conversation is a must-listen. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me TikTok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways Grey divorce is on the rise due to various societal changes. Perception of a perfect life can mask underlying issues. Shame and guilt often accompany the breakdown of relationships. Financial independence is crucial for women post-divorce. Survival mode can lead to seeking necessary support and legal advice. Rebuilding life involves learning new skills and finding new identities. Emotional healing is a non-linear process that takes time. Finding purpose in work can aid in personal growth after divorce. Authenticity and vulnerability can strengthen relationships with others. Embracing change can lead to a more fulfilling life. Personal growth, resilience, emotional healing, relationships, life after divorce, self-discovery, financial independence, support systems, reinvention Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Grey Divorce and Personal Stories 03:01 Navigating the Breakdown of Relationships 06:03 The Impact of Perception and Shame 08:49 Uncovering the Truth: Financial and Emotional Realities 12:01 The Aftermath of Discovery and Initial Reactions 15:00 Survival Mode: Seeking Legal and Emotional Support 17:51 Rebuilding Life: Strategies and New Beginnings 20:54 Finding New Identity and Purpose 24:03 Thriving After Divorce: Career and Personal Growth 27:02 Reflections on the Past and Embracing the FutureSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with Jackie, a chartered accountant, to explore the often-overlooked complexities of navigating finances during and after a divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional and financial preparations necessary for separation, offering practical advice for those facing similar challenges. Kiz and Jackie dive deep into the benefits of collaborative practice in divorce proceedings, emphasising the importance of being proactive and well-informed. They also highlight the critical need to prioritise the well-being of children during this difficult transition, and how money plays a central role in shaping family dynamics and future stability. The conversation covers a range of topics, from the emotional toll of legal battles to the importance of honesty and having reliable financial advisors by your side. Jackie offers expert tips on how to address financial issues and differences, while also stressing the importance of clear communication and transparency. If you're navigating a divorce or simply seeking to understand the financial landscape of separation, this episode will empower you with the knowledge and strategies needed to face the challenges ahead. Tune in to be informed, prepared, and empowered as you take control of your financial future. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways Being emotionally prepared for marriage breakdown. Understanding financial aspects is crucial during separation. Collaborative practice can be a more amicable approach to divorce. It's important to have all financial documents in order before separation. Children's well-being should be prioritised during divorce. Communication between separating partners is key to a smooth process. Seeking professional advice can help navigate complex financial situations. Emotional readiness is as important as financial readiness. Emotional tolls can lead to hasty decisions in legal battles. Non-disclosure of assets can have severe consequences. Valuing emotional versus financial assets can be complex. Mediation is often more effective than court battles. Finding good advisors can significantly impact outcomes. Divorce, finances, collaborative practice, emotional readiness, separation, financial planning, post-divorce, family dynamics, tax returns, mediation, family, separation, divorce, financial dynamics, emotional toll, legal battles, non-disclosure, hidden assets, communication, empowerment Chapters 00:00 Navigating Post-Divorce Finances 03:11 Preparing for Separation: Emotional and Financial Readiness 08:49 Collaborative Practice: A New Approach to Divorce 12:53 The Emotional Dynamics of Separation 16:24 Practical Financial Advice for Divorcees 19:56 The Importance of Family in Times of Crisis 22:28 Navigating Financial Dynamics in Separation 25:58 The Emotional Toll of Legal Battles 29:35 The Consequences of Non-Disclosure 32:35 Investigating Hidden Assets 35:51 Valuing Emotional vs. Financial Assets 39:53 The Role of Communication in Collaborative Separation 42:41 Empowerment Through Knowledge and PreparationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey takes a moment to reflect on the past year's journey of navigating life and relationships after divorce. The conversation offers a heartfelt look at the challenges faced along the way, particularly the complexities of communication with ex-partners and the therapeutic power of sharing personal experiences. Kiz explores the importance of including diverse perspectives when discussing divorce, emphasising how different viewpoints can lead to greater understanding and healing. She also highlights the impact vulnerability has had on the podcast, sharing the positive feedback received from listeners like you, who have connected deeply with the stories and insights shared. As the episode unfolds, Kiz teases upcoming episodes that promise to dive even deeper into themes of love, healing, and personal growth after divorce. Whether you're on your own journey or simply curious about the complexities of life post-divorce, this episode offers a reflective and insightful look at the challenges and rewards that come with embracing change and moving forward. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways The podcast explores the journey of post-divorce reinvention. Communication with ex-partners can be challenging but is essential. Vulnerability in sharing personal stories can lead to healing. Different perspectives on divorce are crucial for understanding. Therapeutic conversations with children can strengthen family bonds. Navigating social media can be difficult post break up.. Upcoming episodes will explore financial and emotional aspects of divorce. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Kizmet Podcast and Season Two 02:00 Exploring Relationships Post-Divorce 06:04 Navigating Communication with Ex-Partners 11:51 The Impact of Vulnerability in this Podcast 16:13 Feedback and Transformation Through the your feedback 20:07 Teasing Upcoming Episodes and Themes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Join Kiz for a profound conversation with Vashti Whitfield as they reflect on her remarkable journey over the past two decades. Vashti's life has been driven by her unwavering passion to ignite transformation and unlock human potential. In the wake of her husband's death, Vashti embraced her role as an alchemist, transforming personal tragedy into a catalyst for global inspiration and education. Now, she collaborates with inspiring individuals worldwide, empowering others to harness their purpose, passion, and potential. Tune in for this emotionally stirring dialogue that delves into the depths of resilience, purpose, and the transformative power of the human spirit.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - @Kizmet.me Produced by - From Your Pocket See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Yas opens up about the significance of appearance following major life changes. With expertise as a seasoned hair professional and personal stylist, Yas specializes in appearance makeovers, advocating the connection between "how you look" and "how you feel." She emphasizes the transformative impact of stepping into the world with confidence and positivity, using appearance as a shield against negative opinions. Join us for an inspiring conversation on embracing change and harnessing the power of appearance to cultivate self-assurance.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - @Kizmet.me Produced by - From Your Pocket See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Join Kiz as she explores Katy's journey from peaceful experiences amidst her parents' divorce to becoming a dedicated physiotherapist specializing in pelvic floor function. Katy shares insights into the intersection of pelvic health and sexual interactions, drawing from her professional expertise. Additionally, Katy discusses her holistic approach to physical and mental well-being, stemming from her experience as a long-term personal trainer and fitness instructor. Don't miss Katy's reflections on the interconnectedness of appearance, self-worth, and attraction in this insightful episode.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - @Kizmet.me Produced by - From Your Pocket See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Join Kiz as she sits down with Evelyn, a retired counselling psychologist who dedicated her career to guiding couples through challenging times. Despite her expertise, Evelyn's own marriage of nearly five decades unravelled, sending ripples through her community and family. In this candid conversation, Evelyn shares her journey of navigating heartbreak and rediscovering love in her 70s, proving that happiness knows no age limits.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - @Kizmet.me Produced by - From Your Pocket See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dive into the world of Studio Kink owner, Mark, as he shares insights on safety, consent, and the pursuit of sexual freedom. From breaking traditional family roles to exploring diverse forms of play, Mark's journey offers a unique perspective on intimacy and self-discovery. Join us as we push boundaries and explore the depths of human connection   Website – kizmet.me Socials - @Kizmet.me Studio Kink - Website   Instagram  Produced by - From Your Pocket See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In episode 5 of Kizmet's "Life & Sex After Divorce," join Kiz and Mechele for a candid conversation that delves into the secrets of a successful long-term marriage. Mechele shares her insights on what made her own marriage thrive, as well as how she helped Kiz navigate the challenges of being single after a lengthy union. From discussing the most intimate details of intimacy to offering practical tips for boosting connection in any relationship, this nothing-off-limits conversation is equal parts funny, witty, shocking, and engaging. Tune in for an eye-opening discussion that will leave you inspired to foster deeper connections in your own life.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - @Kizmet.me Produced by - From Your Pocket See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In episode 4 of Kizmet's "Life & Sex After Divorce", we sit down with Nicole, a home organising specialist - extraordinaire! As we navigate the murky waters of dividing assets and homes during divorce, Nicole offers invaluable insights gleaned from moving thousands of everyday and high net worth families through break-ups. From the nitty-gritty of who gets what to the deeper questions of what we truly value, Nicole sheds light on the complexities of post-divorce life. Join us as we explore how kids thrive in separate households, why men cherish cars and tech equipment, and why women hold onto precious keepsakes. Tune in for a revealing conversation that will reshape your perspective on life after divorce.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - kizmet.meSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this emotionally charged episode, John, an adult child of divorce, candidly shares his experience grappling with the complexities of family breakdown. Growing up in a close-knit family where he felt safe and loved, John found himself thrust into uncertainty when his parents' marriage ended. John opens up about the overwhelming feelings of confusion and helplessness he faced, struggling to navigate his emotions and relationships amidst the turmoil. The pressure to pick sides added to his distress, leaving him feeling lost and adrift in a sea of conflicting emotions. Reflecting on his teenage years, John shares his desire for freedom and independence, yet craving the security and support of family. He eloquently articulates the internal struggle of wanting to break free while yearning for comfort and reassurance. Through it all, John emphasizes the importance of seeking external support and communication in navigating the challenges of family breakdown. His story serves as a poignant reminder that amidst the chaos, there is strength in seeking help and finding one's own path forward.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - kizmet.me John's Instagram – @john_agnewSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this compelling episode, Kiz sits down with her adult daughter, Gabi, to delve into the profound impact of family breakdown from both a child and adult child perspective. Gabi, the expert survivor of a late-life marriage dissolution, shares candidly about the family dynamics before, during, and after divorce. Their conversation unfolds with honesty and vulnerability as they explore the emotional turmoil Gabi experienced, including anger and the challenges of navigating divorce during her final year of high school. Despite the upheaval, Gabi reflects on her resilience and growth. Together, they reflect on the monumental shifts in family dynamics and Gabi's journey towards independence and self-discovery. Gabi shares how she grappled with her identity as a child of divorce and ultimately found strength in her own voice and autonomy. Additionally, Gabi shares her experiences of navigating her parents' dating after divorce. This episode offers a poignant glimpse into the complexities of family breakdown and the enduring resilience of the human spirit. Through Gabi's story, listeners are reminded of the power of love, support, and personal growth in overcoming life's greatest challenges.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - kizmet.me Gabi's TikTok – @gabiagnewSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Exploring the phenomenon of "Grey divorce," this podcast delves into the complexities faced by individuals navigating separation later in life. From notable figures like Bill and Melinda Gates to Hugh Jackman and Deborah Lee, the trend is evident across various walks of life. Through personal stories a deeper understanding of the challenges and opportunities inherent in this journey of rediscovery. Termed "Silver Splitters," these divorces are on the rise in Australia, contrasting with overall declining divorce rates. Dispelling the notion of unbreakable bonds in long-term relationships, the podcast illuminates the unique dynamics and considerations at play when love, commitment, separation & sexual reawakening intersect in the later stages of life. Join us as we shed light on this increasingly relevant aspect of modern relationships, offering hope, guidance, and understanding to those facing similar transitions.   Website – kizmet.me Socials - kizmet.meSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.