RelateAble with Dr. Chavonne

In today's episode, we're unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who's just trying not to drown in overwhelm.If you've ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you're feeling and help you through it… Or if you've ever felt like your partner's emotions are a test you're destined to fail… You're in the right place.We're getting to the root of what's really going on underneath these reactions:Why anxious partners often feel like they can't handle big emotions aloneWhy avoidant partners often feel like emotions = failureAnd how both sides are doing their best to feel safe—but in ways that unintentionally trigger each otherThis episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it.Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you'll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn't involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com

Have you ever felt desperate for more connection in your marriage—wanting to talk more, do more things together, feel like you're truly on the same page—but no matter how hard you try, your partner just doesn't seem to meet you there?Or maybe you're on the other side—feeling like your partner always needs more from you than you can give, and all you want is a little space to think, breathe, and just be without feeling like you're letting them down.If either of those sound familiar, you're not alone—and you're likely caught in the anxious-avoidant dynamic.In this episode, we're unpacking that exact struggle: what happens when one partner craves closeness and the other craves space. When one feels rejected, and the other feels pressured. When you both want peace, but your patterns keep pushing each other further apart.You'll learn:Why the anxious partner often ends up feeling like they're too much and not enough at the same timeWhy the avoidant partner feels pressure to be someone they're not, and shuts down to preserve their sense of selfWhat it really looks like to balance independence and intimacy in a healthy, respectful wayAnd the personal growth plans each of you can start implementing today to change the cycle and create something betterThis is one of the most common dynamics I work with—and the good news is: healing is absolutely possible when you understand the deeper needs underneath the behavior.

In today's episode, we're breaking down the emotional tug-of-war between anxious and avoidant partners—and why it's so hard to stop, even when you both want things to be better.You'll hear the real fears driving this dynamic:Why the anxious partner is so afraid of being emotionally abandonedWhy the avoidant partner is terrified of not being enoughAnd how these fears fuel the very behaviors that keep you disconnectedWe're going deeper than just communication tips—this is about the belief systems that live underneath your patterns. The unconscious drivers that have you stuck in criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, and silent suffering.If you've ever thought, “Why do we keep having the same arguments?”Or felt like, “No matter how hard I try, I still don't feel close to my partner…”This episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead.Because real change happens when you understand what's really going on inside you… and inside each other.If you are ready for help growing as an individual AND together as a couple, then I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call to discuss how my coaching approach can help you get there faster: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You've probably heard the phrase “own your emotions”—but what does that actually mean in a marriage?Does it mean your partner gets a free pass to ignore your feelings?Does it mean you're supposed to just “deal with it” when you're hurt or disconnected?Not even close.In this episode, we're unpacking the delicate balance between emotional self-responsibility and relational needs.Because here's the truth:Yes, your feelings are yours.But that doesn't mean your relationship shouldn't feel good.This conversation is for you if you've ever felt stuck between two extremes:

What if the friction in your relationship isn't just about unmet expectations, but a deeper misalignment in values and life goals? In this episode, we delve into the challenging yet liberating concept of recognizing when you and your partner might not be the right fit for each other.We'll explore:Identifying Core Misalignments: Understanding when differing values, unmet needs, and divergent life paths signal a fundamental incompatibility.The Importance of Self-Work: Ensuring you've done the inner work to distinguish between personal triggers and genuine mismatches.Navigating the Realization: How to approach this awareness with compassion, reducing judgment and the urge to change your partner.Redefining the Relationship: Embracing the possibility of transforming the relationship dynamic, whether that means adjusting expectations or parting ways amicably.This conversation isn't about giving up; it's about honoring your truth and creating space for both partners to thrive—together or apart. Tune in to discover how acknowledging a mismatch can be a courageous step toward personal growth and authentic connection.Also mentioned in this episode: It's normal to have doubts—especially when love is there, but the differences feel hard to bridge. I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me to explore how my private coaching program can help.This is your chance to explore those lingering “What ifs” with clarity and compassion. You don't have to figure it all out alone. Let's talk: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn't see eye to eye with you on some of the most important aspects of life? Maybe it's domestic responsibilities, parenting styles, intimacy, finances, or even how you handle marriage challenges. The truth is, when it feels like you're constantly clashing, it's often because you're not aligned on your values—the deeper essence of what drives your decisions.In today's episode, we're unpacking why these differences can feel so intense and how they tie back to core values versus specific expectations. Whether it's a clash between traditional and modern views on roles, a difference in how you view intimacy, or how you approach finances, these fundamental values impact everything.I'll share key insights on how to:Understand the root cause of your disagreements by uncovering your values.Create a partnership where both of you feel equally heard, valued, and invested.Move away from guilt, shame, and pressure to create intentional choices that actually work for both of you.Accept that it's okay if you're not always a perfect match, and still find peace and respect in your relationship.This episode is for anyone who's feeling stuck in these deeper conflicts and wants to find real alignment and peace in their marriage. If you're ready to uncover the root issues and make empowered choices that bring you closer, tune in now.And if you'd like my personal help navigating the biggest expectation clashes in your own marriage, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You've probably heard the term “inner work” thrown around in the personal development world, but what does it actually mean, and how does it impact your marriage?In today's episode, we're digging into why inner work is one of the most powerful tools you can use to transform not just yourself, but your relationship. Whether you're just starting your personal growth journey or looking to expand your current growth plan, this episode will help you understand why this work is essential—especially when it comes to the way you show up in your marriage.Inner work isn't just about self-improvement—it's about understanding your triggers, breaking unhealthy patterns, and creating emotional resilience that positively impacts every part of your life.So if you're ready to start building a stronger, healthier version of yourself, and unlock a more connected, peaceful relationship with your partner, this episode is for you. Tune in and discover exactly how to get started on the path of personal growth and transformation, right now.Also mentioned in this episode: If you'd like my personal help walking you through your own inner transformation, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call by visiting my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

What if the secret to more peace, connection, and closeness in your marriage wasn't about getting your partner to change, but instead, learning how to tolerate your own emotions?In today's episode, we're diving into a game-changing skill that can dramatically shift how you handle those intense emotional moments in your relationship: emotional tolerance.In this episode, I'll walk you through how to:Identify your emotional triggers and the knee-jerk reactions that come with themPause and tolerate discomfort instead of reacting immediatelyDevelop emotional resilience so you can choose how to respond, no matter how strong the emotion isIf you're tired of feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns and want to break the cycle, this episode will show you how to start making lasting change—by learning to feel your feelings without letting them take over.Also mentioned in this episode: If you're tired of feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns and you're ready to learn how to navigate your emotions with more ease, I can help. Book your complimentary consultation HERE, and let's explore how we can work together to help you respond, not react—leading to a more peaceful, fulfilling marriage.

Most couples get stuck in a pattern of blaming each other for the issues they're facing—whether it's the partner withdrawing, being overly critical, or just not feeling understood. But the key to shifting these dynamics lies in understanding yourself first.In this episode, we are doing an even DEEPER dive into the often overlooked ways couples keep themselves stuck. Continuing our previous conversations, I go layers deeper into the anxious and avoidant attachment patterns and how they contribute to common struggles, including:How anxious individuals may unintentionally create negative cycles in their relationships by seeking validation and reassurance.Why avoidants may struggle with passive-aggressive behavior, emotional withdrawal, and staying stuck in fixed patterns of thinking.The shared challenge of avoiding emotional discomfort, whether by running from it or trying to fix it immediately.Understanding yourself at this deeper level empowers you to break the cycle of frustration and move toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to learn how self-awareness can not only improve your connection with your partner but also help you choose the changes that will actually lead to lasting transformation.Also mentioned in this episode: If you're ready to stop feeling stuck in cycles of conflict and distance—and start creating the marriage you truly want—I invite you to consider private coaching with me. Together, we'll work week by week to: ✅ Break the patterns that keep you disconnected ✅ Build emotional safety and true understanding ✅ Create communication that brings you closer, not further apart ✅ Rekindle the friendship, warmth, and peace you both long forYou don't have to guess your way through this. You don't have to keep hoping things will "just get better."With the right support, you can rebuild a marriage that feels good again.Book your complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Ever feel like you and your partner cannot communicate effectively? You're talking one thing, and they are hearing and reacting to another. Communication break downs are very common for couples who have different attachment styles. Today we are taking another deep dive into how the anxious and avoidant dynamic leads to communication issues.I break down exactly why communication breaks down between these two attachment styles, and how this pattern is secretly keeping you both stuck.This episode is a must-listen if you're tired of feeling misunderstood and want to finally break the cycle. Tune in and discover how you can begin transforming your relationship—one conversation at a time.Also mentioned: If you feel like you're constantly missing each other, getting stuck in misunderstandings, or just can't seem to get on the same page, I can help. I have a few spots open for private coaching, where we'll focus on transforming how you communicate with your partner—so you can feel heard, understood, and connected. Book your complimentary consultation today, and let's start breaking down those communication barriers for good: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, we're breaking down one of the most common and challenging dynamics in relationships: the anxious-avoidant cycle. If you've ever felt stuck in a push-and-pull where one partner seems to be pulling away just when you need them the most, and the other feels suffocated by emotional demands, you're about to discover why this happens—and how you can break free.We'll dive into:Why one partner pulls away while the other feels desperate for connectionHow each partner's behavior creates more tension and confusionWhat both partners can do to understand each other's emotional needs and break the cycleBy the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of what's really going on in your relationship and how to take the first steps toward healing and reconnection. If you're ready to stop feeling stuck and start building the intimacy and trust you both crave, this episode is for you.if you are ready to get help navigating some of the unique dynamics of being an anxious-avoidant couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more and book a complimentary consultation call HERE.

In today's episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, one of the most common yet frustrating patterns in relationships. Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, understanding this dynamic is the first step in breaking the cycle of emotional push and pull.We'll explore 10 key things you need to know about this dynamic—including why both partners feel unfulfilled, why communication often breaks down, and most importantly, how you can start shifting these patterns for better connection and deeper intimacy.If you're tired of feeling misunderstood or stuck in this emotional tug-of-war, this episode will give you the insights and tools you need to create more balance and understanding with your partner. Also mentioned in this episode: I have a few openings for private coaching. If you're looking to create a better dynamic in your marriage where you and your partner both feel close, I can definitely help. Book your complimentary call to discuss the ways my approach can support you: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

What if the key to transforming your relationship (and your life) isn't about rushing to the finish line, but instead giving yourself the patience to truly grow? In today's episode, I challenge you to think differently about time, progress, and change.For many of us, impatience leads to feeling stuck, frustrated, and drained. But what if the opposite—infinite patience—could actually be the secret to moving faster and feeling more aligned along the way?I'll take you through how giving yourself, and your process, a longer runway can provide the space to surrender and gain a new perspective that accelerates your growth. You'll learn why this shift in mindset, combined with self-care, boundaries, and actively taking steps toward what you want, will help you experience less regret and resentment.Most people wait for their marriage to improve before allowing themselves to feel happy, but this episode shows you how to enjoy the process and embrace change in a way that makes it sustainable.If you're ready to stop feeling behind and start moving forward with more joy, purpose, and clarity, this episode is for you.Also mentioned in this episode: Get my direct help in creating positive change that lasts in your marriage. Schedule a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, you'll discover the top 5 beliefs that are essential for transforming your relationship and creating lasting change. If you've been feeling stuck, frustrated, or disconnected, shifting your mindset is the first step toward a better, more peaceful partnership.Inside you'll discover why these essential 5 mindsets are so important, how they will help you change the dynamic with your partner, and how they work together to create a more peaceful and fulfilling experience for you. You'll also have the opportunity to uncover which mindset might be most valuable for you to work on so that you start to make more progress. If you're ready to dive deeper into these changes and want personalized support, I invite you to schedule a free consultation call to discuss ways we can work together to improve the way you feel and operate in your marriage. Visit DrChavonne.com

In this episode, we explore how different attachment styles define effort in relationships and why understanding these differences can be a game-changer. Whether you're more anxious, avoidant, or secure, your unique way of showing effort shapes how you connect with your partner and navigate challenges.I dive into the primary driving factor that determines what effort looks like for each attachment style and how misunderstanding those drivers can lead to miscommunication, distance and resentment.I also share where I see these differences show up the most: in domestic support, connection and vulnerability, personal growth, and the pace of progress in the relationship.By understanding the underlying motivations driving each attachment style's effort, you can better communicate, reduce frustration, and create deeper, healthier relationships. Tune in for insights on how to recognize these patterns and start shifting them in your own relationship for more harmony and growth.Also mentioned in this episode: My practice is open to accepting new clients. Schedule a consultation call to learn more about my programs and how coaching can help you both come together and give your marriage the attention and effort it needs to truly thrive.BOOK YOUR CALL HERE: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, we dive into how to recognize where your triggers are really coming from—whether it's from you, your partner, or the relationship itself. Understanding the root of your emotional reactions is key to breaking unhealthy patterns and building a stronger connection.By identifying the source of your triggers, you can begin to heal, have more productive conversations, and break free from negative cycles. Not all triggers are the same, and understanding the difference is crucial for moving forward in your relationship.This episode invites you to reflect on your emotional responses and offers strategies to create meaningful change. It's not easy, but it's worth it. If you're feeling stuck in the same patterns, this is the kind of work that can transform your marriage, and I'm here to help you through it.Also mentioned in this episode

In this episode, we dive into the concept of communicating from the self. This is when, instead of blaming, shaming and criticizing your spouse, you simply express your feelings, your experience, and what's going on for you.It's a powerful way to express your needs and work through issues in a way that opens up the lines of communication, increases understanding, and helps you feel seen and heard. I give you 8 specific approaches to try, and encourage you to pick on to master in every conversation you have this week.This work is simple to understand, but the real transformative power comes when you apply it regularly in your life.And if you are looking for help improving your communication so you can have an easier, more connected and fulfilling marriage, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me to discuss how my coaching programs can help you get the results you're looking for. Visit my website here to do that: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode of the podcast we dive deep into the results you're getting in your relationship—both positive and negative. Are you feeling connected, supported, and fulfilled? Or are arguments, frustration, and disconnection more frequent than you'd like?We often point to surface-level reasons for struggles in relationships—poor communication, unmet expectations, and stress. But those are just the tip of the iceberg. To truly shift the dynamic in your marriage, we need to go deeper and uncover the root causes of these negative results.In this episode, we explore the 5 underlying issues I see most often at play whenever a couple is producing results in their relationship that they don't want.By looking beyond surface issues and addressing the real causes of conflict, you'll gain insight into how to shift your relationship results, create deeper connection, and break free from unproductive cycles. Tune in for practical advice on how to take responsibility for your role in your marriage and make lasting changes that support mutual growth.Also mentioned in this episode:How to Be Married ProgramPrivate Coaching

In this episode of the podcast, we dive into the power of a marriage reset—why taking a step back from the chaos of everyday life can bring you closer together and reignite the spark in your relationship.Whether you're feeling emotionally distant, disconnected, or simply stuck in the day-to-day routine, a reset can help you reassess your connection and renew your commitment to each other.You'll learn:The signs that your marriage might need a resetSmall, actionable ways to create space for reconnectionHow stepping back from your busy life can deepen trust, intimacy, and communicationBy the end of this episode, you'll have practical tools to reset your relationship and start fresh, building a stronger, more intentional partnership.Tune in for a conversation on how taking the time to pause and reconnect can transform your marriage—starting today.Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married - my coaching program where you learn the 6 core skills all couples need - but no one teaches them. It's open for enrollment now! Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

In today's episode, we explore how to manage intense emotional moments in relationships, especially when triggered by something your partner says or does. I break down the four key steps that happen in these moments and provide practical strategies to help you slow down and navigate the emotional storm.We start by understanding how a trigger is created and what it does inside your body and how to truly tune in to uncover your needs in the moment.I share specific thoughts and actions you can use to calm yourself, reframe your reactions, and approach the situation with more clarity and compassion. Plus, I'll walk you through some reflective questions to process the deeper layers of what happened and how to heal from it. Tune in for a deeper understanding of emotional triggers and how to handle them in a way that supports your relationship and your own well-being.Also mentioned in this episode; Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass - happening February 17th. Learn more and sign up for free here: https://drchavonne.com/fundamentalsHow to be Married Program - opening for enrollment on February 17th - learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

What makes a marriage truly thrive? Whether you're engaged, newly married, or years into your relationship, there are five key areas that every couple must get right to build a strong foundation. In this episode, we're breaking down the essentials that lead to long-term love and connection.I cover:How to communicate effectively (even when you disagree)The money conversations that prevent stress and resentmentNavigating family dynamics, boundaries, and personal spaceConflict resolution strategies that actually workAligning your long-term vision so you grow together, not apartIf you want a marriage that's built to last, don't miss my upcoming Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass on February 17th! This live session will give you the tools and insights to strengthen your relationship at any stage.Register now: https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals/Also mentioned in this episode:Communication Styles MasterclassAttachment Styles Masterclass

In this episode, we're diving into a transformative topic: Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married To. Whether you're engaged, newly married, or have been together for years, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to reflect on your role in creating the kind of marriage you desire.What You'll Learn:The common trap couples fall into: focusing on your partner's flaws while downplaying your own need for growth.How self-awareness and accountability can create deeper connection, trust, and teamwork in your relationship.Practical steps to embody the qualities of a great partner, such as patience, kindness, empathy, and reliability.Small, intentional actions that lead to big shifts in your marriage.Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married Program - opens for enrollment on February 17th. This program teaches you the 6 most essential skills all couples need to not only become a great partner, but to build a lasting, fulfilling, and joyful marriage that thrives through every season of life. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

Welcome to the NEW podcast! We're shaking things up to better reflect the work I do with couples and individuals—helping you love your marriage again, navigate major decisions, or build a strong foundation for your future.Marriage isn't just about the partnership; it's deeply tied to how you show up as an individual. Your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors shape the connection, communication, and fulfillment you experience in your relationship.In this episode, we explore what it truly means to show up for your marriage by diving into five foundational areas of self-awareness and growth.These five areas come together to shape your role in the relationship and define the experience you create—not just for your partner, but for yourself.As we explore these concepts, ask yourself: What does my best self look like in this marriage? What do I want to contribute to this partnership, and how can I show up in a way that reflects that?This is the work that creates real transformation—from the inside out. Let's dive in and uncover what showing up as your best can mean for your marriage and your life.Also mentioned in this episode, my new program, How to Be Married. Read all about it here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

Does it ever feel like you and your spouse just go around in circles over and over again? It's so common for couples to stay in the same kinds of negative cycles.In this episode, we dive into why we repeat unhealthy patterns in relationships and how to break free.I share with you where your patterns come from, why we choose familiar over the "right and healthy" thing, and how our brains are driven to try to solve issues the same way over and over again.I explain the greatest key in actually changing things for the better and offer you the three most important areas to explore when it comes to your current patterns. Also mentioned in this episode: The Happy Marriage Checklist! The key to changing your patterns is being deeply aware of what they are. This checklist provides you with a complete self assessment process for you to uncover what you and your partner are doing that either brings you closer or drives you farther apart. Get your free checklist instantly by going here: https://drchavonne.com/checklist/

What does it mean to grow together as a couple? It's not always as simple as it sounds. This episode is all about navigating those differences and creating a process that works for both of you.Here's the thing: growth will look different for everyone. I break down what growing together as a couple looks like, particularly for couples that experience the anxious - avoidant attachment style dynamic.In this episode, we dig into:The real work anxious and avoidant partners need to focus on to grow individually and together.Why setting clear goals and intentions for your growth is non-negotiable—and how to align those goals as a couple.How to recognize when you're making progress (and when you're stuck), so you can celebrate wins and seek support when needed.The delicate balance of respecting each other's pace, without rushing or dragging your feet.Why setbacks are inevitable—and how to handle them with trust, compassion, and resilience.Growing together doesn't mean you won't stumble along the way, but it does mean committing to showing up—for yourself and for each other.I've created a brand new resource to help you and your spouse have an initial conversation about where you are and where you want to be as a couple.Download my free "Happy Marriage Checklist: 10 Essential Habits for Lasting Love" HERE

Even though it's so easy to avoid them, hard conversations have the potential to move your life forward in the direction you want to go.Hard conversations can happen with yourself, with your spouse, with your children, and anyone else you have an important relationship with.In this Episode of the podcast, I'm breaking down all aspects of having hard conversations. From your intentions and goals, to the barriers that get in the way, to how to have effective (yet hard) conversations.It is my hope that you see having hard conversations as a tool to live a more authentic and fulfilling life, and to experience more out of your marriage and intimate partnerships.As we end 2024 and begin 2025, these kinds of powerful conversations can literally change your life.Also mentioned in this episode:Work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more about working together in my couples or individual coaching programs, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

There are stages of changing your life. In this episode, I share with you the process of change, and offer the most important things to focus on when you are getting ready to change. I also share one of the biggest obstacles to your success - managing your emotions. I walk you through a process that helps you to understand, process and manage your emotions in way that fuels you to move forward instead of remaining stuck.Whatever you want to create for yourself in 2025 is totally possible for you. May this episode guide you and be one that you find incredibly helpful.Also mentioned in this Episode: The Well Made Woman - my 6 month group coaching program for women. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

What we all crave in our human existence is a sense of emotional fulfillment. We want to feel content, satisfied and happy.Often we seek emotional fulfillment inside a marriage or within other intimate relationships. Yet, when for various reasons, when those relationships are not fulfilling or there is constant strain, it can be difficult to know how to create emotional fulfillment in other areas of life.In this podcast episode, I'm essentially answering the question: "How do I create emotional fulfillment for myself when my marriage isn't happy?"I offer four specific areas and give you suggestions on how to think about emotional fulfillment in an expanded way.Also mentioned in this episode:The Well Made Woman Year- This is a 4-session series where we set you up with a transformational goal that creates CHANGE in your life. We'll create clear next steps for you and find new solutions to the biggest barriers keeping you stuck. You'll walk away feeling clear, confident and prepared to make the internal shifts that you need for 2025 be a better year for you.The Well Made Woman Coaching Program - This INCLUDES Your Well Made Woman Year, plus 6 months of weekly coaching and support as you grow and build the skills to create positive change in your marriage, life, or other relationships. You'll become a more confident, calm, and empowered woman who has one of the BEST years of your life.

What would it be like to truly choose yourself? To have an lived experience where you WANT you? You are a priority to you. You fully accept and love you?In this episode of the podcast, I invite you to overcome the specific obstacles that often stand in the way and prevent you from fully choosing yourself.It is my hope that you walk away completely inspired and more committed to YOU and your wellbeing.Also mentioned in this episode:December 16 -19: Your Well Made Woman Year 2025 4 Day WorkshopThe Well Made Woman 6-Month Program

I'm so thrilled to introduce you to my client Carolyn, who joined The Well Made Woman Program last year.In this conversation, you'll hear what helped her go from being a long-time podcast listener (and note-taker) to officially joining one of my coaching programs. You'll hear how her commitment to make the most out of the experience lead her to do the work and ultimately achieve the progress she was seeking. Carolyn also shares how she is different now, and how this work has had many ripple effects in not only her life, but the life of her children and other family members. Her story and relatable experience is so valuable and I am honored to share it with you.And to learn more and join The Well Made Woman Program, visit my website, here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Anger in relationships. It's a natural human emotion that when misunderstood can create a lot of conflict and disconnection.In this episode, I break down the most common reasons for some of the anger you have been feeling and offer a pathway forward to help you use your anger to create positive progress in your life.The work of navigating difficult emotions is so essential. When you have the tools to understand what's truly going on for you, then you have the power to change it.Anger can be an incredible teacher and fuel to help you create the kind of dynamic you want.This episode will help you do just that.Also mentioned in this episode:Marriage Coach Mondays: Learn more and get all the details by CLICKING HERE: https://drchavonne.com/mcm/My recent IG Live Videos: Go here: https://drchavonne.com/iglivewmw/The Well Made Woman Program: Go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Diana's story is that of a woman who is committed to finding her place of power rather than always blaming her husband. Through our work together in The Well Made Woman, she realized how much of her resentment and frustration came from not being able to see her role, and not doing things to create better situations for herself.In this episode we talk about her Transformational Goal, and how achieving that goal has had immense ripple effects in her life - not only herself, her marriage, but also her parenting, and now her career. What's even more exciting about this interview is that Diana completed The Well Made Woman Program over a year ago. You'll have the opportunity to hear what an initial investment in herself and her growth 18 months ago has created for her even now. I could not be more proud of her progress.Also mentioned in this Episode:To connect with Diana and her parenting coaching business, call or text: 732-630-7818 to set up a free one-hour consultation.And for more on The Well Made Woman, visit my website HERE

In this episode, we are diving into the idea of Transformational Goals - goals that change YOU, and thereby change your LIFE.This is a new concept I created that I am SOOO excited to share with you. Because, it really does have the potential to change your life.Whatever you are wanting to be better - in your life, your relationships, you marriage, it starts with critical shifts inside of YOU.When you focus on the qualities and characteristics you want to embody and live out in your life, you evolve into the next level version of yourself. This is the pathway to ultimately creating next level outcomes in your life like-better communication-an improved marriage-a healthy, happy relationship-a better career-more supportive friendships-greater life successI'd love to hear about the transformational goal you are setting for yourself after listening to this episode. Also mentioned:Here are all those IG live videos I've done over the past couple of weeks:FIND THEM HEREAnd for more about The Well Made Woman Program, visit my website, HERE

In this episode, I have the absolute pleasure of sharing with you one of my clients' experiences inside my coaching program, The Well Made Woman.I appreciate so much Cindy's willingness to share her relationship journey, all the transitions, and the power she has been able to reclaim for herself. You will hear from her as she talks about attempting to get her partner on board with improving their relationship, and then coming to the realization that focusing on herself, her healing, her understanding, her growth was the BEST use of her time. I know you will love her as much as I do. May her story inspire you to stand for yourself, see your worth, and go after what you deserve. And for more information on joining the Well Made Woman, CLICK HERE

What comes to mind when you hear that something is well made? In this episode, we are diving into the concept of a well made woman and why becoming more intentional in the way you show up in your life has so many positive ripple effects.We have goals for everything - work, finances, health - and today we are talking about the internal goals that create you being your BEST.In this episode you will come to better understand yourself, what it would be like for you to become a well made women, as well as hear all the details of my coaching program, The Well Made Woman.You can learn more, and enroll in our January 2025 cohort, by visiting my website, HERE

Whose opinion do you value the most? If the answer is anyone other than yourself, this episode will be eye-opening. We are conditioned from an early age to please others. To change the way we operate to accommodate how others feel. As children this makes sense - it's essential for our survival. But as adults, and especially in marriage, we want to cultivate the skill of internal validation. When you value, acknowledge and appreciate your own feelings, perspectives and needs, you become less co-dependent on your spouse to always agree with you.A healthy, happy marriage requires TWO healthy, happy people. Mastering the skill of internal validation is one important way to create that. Tune in to this episode as I break down the steps to doing so, and help you overcome the obstacles that have already been in your way.Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman - my 6 month group coaching program for women - is opening up for enrollment on November 20th for our January 2025 cohort. For all the details and to book an information call with me, visit: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

If you've ever wondered "how do I communicate more effectively with my spouse"...then this podcast episode is for you.I break down the hidden agenda behind this question, and help you determine what you true communication goals are.You'll also learn the 3 essential components of effective communication, and what needs to happen in each category in order to your to truly be heard and understood.This unique perspective will truly help you create the transformations necessary to improve the way you and your spouse communicate.Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman Program is opening for enrollment on November 20th. This is my 6-month coaching program for women who want to become less reactive, and more effective in communicating and connecting with their spouse. You can learn more and book your initial program information call here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

What are your thoughts about your spouse? If I were to ask you to describe them on their worst day as a partner to you, what would you say?Your answer is the Core Negative Image you have of them. It's the set of negative thoughts and beliefs you have that often you are responding to when you are angry, frustrated, sad or disappointed.It's important to uncover these thoughts and to take a look at how they drive your energy, interactions and communication with your spouse.In this episode, I break down WHERE these beliefs come from, and what you can do to reduce the negative impact they are having on your marriage. Also mentioned in this episode: If you are ready to have objective and professional help for your marriage, so that you and your spouse can get along better and have a happier marriage, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me to discuss my coaching programs and how I can help. Visit: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

How often do you sit and contemplate what's possible from a positive perspective?Our brains are very good at asking the "what if" question when it comes to worry inducing thoughts.In this episode of the podcast, I'm turning it upside down and introducing you to a powerful concept that will open your mind and accelerate your progress in creating more of what you want in your life and marriage.You will learn the power of asking "what if" from the future you desire.So much is possible for you.But first, you've got to get your brain on board.Tune in now for some incredible questions and the inspiration you need to grab on to what's truly possible for you.And if this resonated with you and you're ready to start taking the steps to create a marriage that feels like a dream come true, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. Visit DrChavonne.com to learn more.

What you do, over and over again creates BIG gains. In how you feel, how you experience your marriage, and your overall life.In this episode I share with you the concept of cumulative effect and why it's so important to create the healthy, happy marriage that you want.It may seem like your day-to-day decisions to do the right and loving thing are slow in crating the BIG changes you want, but that's not necessarily the case.Tune in to learn more about this power concept and what you can do right now to shift your mindset to appreciate exactly what it offers you and why it's so important in creating positive change for GOOD.Also mentioned in this episode:You can work with me directly in one of my coaching programs to create better communication and a closer connection week by week. You'll be amazed at how just shifting a few things in how you think and operate as a couple can produce massive improvements that you can tangibly feel and see. Book your complimentary consultation call with me HERE to talk more about what's possible for you with the right help and support.

What you do, over and over again creates BIG gains. In how you feel, how you experience your marriage, and your overall life.In this episode I share with you the concept of cumulative effect and why it's so important to create the healthy, happy marriage that you want.It may seem like your day-to-day decisions to do the right and loving thing are slow in crating the BIG changes you want, but that's not necessarily the case.Tune in to learn more about this power concept and what you can do right now to shift your mindset to appreciate exactly what it offers you and why it's so important in creating positive change for GOOD.Also mentioned in this episode:You can work with me directly in one of my coaching programs to create better communication and a closer connection week by week. You'll be amazed at how just shifting a few things in how you think and operate as a couple can produce massive improvements that you can tangibly feel and see. Book your complimentary consultation call with me HERE to talk more about what's possible for you with the right help and support.

When a marriage experiences challenges, there are a set of predictable positions each person holds that create conflict, disconnection and dysfunction. In this episode I'm taking you inside a concept I first learned about from world-renown couple's therapist Terry Real and sharing with you 4 common relational positions that perpetuate marital issues.Knowing where you and your partner fall on each of these is incredibly important data to have in order to shift things in a more position direction.The positive changes you are wanting to see start with an awareness of exactly where you keep getting stuck, followed by concrete steps to break your cycles, and create new healthier patterns of interacting.As you listen to this episode, identify where you are, and where your partner falls.Then I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me to learn more about the productive changes that can be made to move your marriage into one that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling.You can book your call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Have you ever considered how giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt can actually benefit YOU?In this episode, I share with you the power concept of Benefit of the Doubt and talk you through why it will help you improve your marriage.If you find yourself assuming and expecting the worst, this podcast will give point you in a more productive direction to experience more of what you want.Also mentioned in this episode:Work with me directly! There are a variety of options available for how you can have my direct help to support you and your spouse in improving your communication, reconnecting, and feeling like a united team.Book a complimentary call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

One of the most important distinctions you need to be able to make in your marriage is what is healthy vs. what is unhealthy.So much unhappiness and conflict arises when one or both of you are operating from a relationally UNhealthy place.In our episode today I'm breaking down the most common unhealthy dynamics I see - both those that I would considered "marital neglect" and those that I would define as "marital aggress". When you clearly understand what is healthy and what is not, you are more able to see yourself, your marriage and your partner more clearly. You understand what's yours to own and work on, vs. the work that belongs to them.You also open the door to breaking some of the dysfunctional patterns you may have grown up with as a child.Also mentioned in this episode:New Masterclass: How to Create a Healthy, Happy Marriage that LASTS. Register for free here: https://drchavonne.com/hhm/Book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Does your spouse sometimes feel like an enemy to you? Do you struggle to get on the same page about simple things? Find yourself always feeling like you are on the defensive with them? Does it feel like they look for ways to make things harder to you to get along?If so, this episode will help you so much.I'm breaking down the concept of the Enemy Mindset and how it's taking a toll on you and your marriage.I also teach you a simple shift in your perspective to go from feeling like enemies to having more accurate and neutral thoughts about your spouse. This opens the door to you feeling better, and then ultimately having better interactions.This episode will offer you relief for the heaviness and hardness of your marriage right now.Also mentioned:You can also work with me directly in one of my coaching programs and learn how to create a happier, more peaceful experience with your partner. I offer couples and individual coaching programs that teach you the mindset, skills and tools to have better communication and rekindle your loving connection. To schedule your call, visit: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

This one is a vulnerable and personal podcast about my own parenting challenges as my daughter enters her tween years. In several conversations I've had, I noticed the striking parallels between different seasons of the parenting relationship and different seasons of the marital relationship.At the end of the day relationships are relationships are relationships.As I've processed my own shifting dynamics as a parent, there are so many relevant lessons, take aways and helpful approaches that will support you in our own shifting dynamics with your spouse. I walk you through a variety of valuable perspectives to help you navigate difficult moments with greater ease, and insight. I offer some specific tips and strategies you can use to keep yourself grounded and focused on the right things. I also help you understand some of your underlying fears and how to react differently to them.Grab a coffee and let's connect with each other on this important conversation.Mentioned in this Episode: If you're looking for help and support to improve how you and your spouse interact, and are ready to have an easier, more peaceful marriage, I invite you to book a private consultation with me where we will explore how my coaching program can give you the help and guidance you are looking for. BOOK YOUR CALL HERE

How do you lead yourself well in a challenging season of your marriage? What does it look like to still show up as your best, even when you are angry, hurt and upset? What are the standards you commit to holding yourself to, no matter what?In today's podcast episode, we are diving into the topic of self leadership - showing up, doing what's right, with kindness, love and respect. This concept is so important in order for you to create the experiences and positive changes that you want. Your ability to lead yourself well sets the tone for your marriage and can radically shift unhealthy patterns. Today, I build upon two previous conversations I've had on this topic (see my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drchavonne) and you'll walk away with a deeper understanding of it's importance and some tangible next steps to create some positive momentum in the dynamics with your spouse. And if you're ready to create a marriage where it's easy to talk to each other and you feel seen, understood, and on the same page, I invite you to book a private consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode of the podcast we are having a sensitive conversation about the topics of grief, compassion and radical acceptance.So many people struggle with what to do with their unmet expectations. The answer is to grieve.So many people struggle with regret and shame for past choices. The answer is to have compassion.So many people exhaust themselves trying to make their partner or marriage something different than what it is. The answer is to practice radical acceptance.I break down each of these concepts today and show you what they mean and can look like for you in your marriage.For more help and support moving things in a positive direction, I invite you to work with me privately in one of my coaching programs. To learn more and to book your complimentary consultation call, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

We all have behaviors and actions we take that keep us from our goals. In marriage, there are likely things you have a habit of doing that keep you from experiencing the healthiest and happiest marriage possible. In this episode of the podcast I break down some of the most common "bad" habits I see couples engage in. Underneath any behavior that keeps you from your goal is an underlying need. We will be discussing how to go beyond "will power" and "discipline" to change the foundation of how you operate so that forming more desirable and helpful habits becomes easier.I walk you through a specific process for understanding "bad" behavior and leave you with a dose of inspiration to help you continue to do the work of creating positive shifts.Also mentioned on this episode:If you want to work with me inside of one of my coaching programs, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation. There you can share exactly what you want to work on, and I'll offer the exact process and support I can offer to help get you there. Take the next step here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today's podcast, we are diving into the experience of being STUCK. So many people come to me feeling like they are not making the progress they want. And it's a long-term experience for them.If you have this same experience it's important to identify exactly where you are stuck. There are 4 specific categories of "stuckness" to consider. Once you have more information about where the bottle neck is for yourself, then you have the roadmap for making positive changes that move you forward.So whether you feel stuck with changes you want to make within yourself, confused about whether to stay in your marriage, or feel like you are at an impasse with your spouse on certain issues, this episode will give you the clarity you need to make progress.If you'd like to learn more about my coaching programs and how I can support you in getting "unstuck", book a complimentary consultation with me here:

Does your life feel like groundhog day, where you're just going through the motions day in and day out with little that brings you joy?Or maybe the troubles in your marriage weigh you down so much it's hard to find joy in the rest of your life.If so, this episode is for you. We are diving into the topic of how to create a more fulfilling life.No matter what circumstances you currently find yourself in, there is a perspective, way of thinking and being that can help you create more contentment and fulfillment.You don't need to wait for things to change, or your spouse to change in order for YOU to have a life that feels good to you.It just takes a commitment to following through on the process I outline for you in this episode.So grab your pen and journal and get ready to do things differently so that you can feel great about yourself and your life.Looking for some 1:1 support on creating your joy-filled and more fulfilling life? I have openings in my private coaching program. Your next step is to book a complimentary consultation call with me to get to know each other better and make sure it's a great fit.GO HERE to schedule your call: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/