RelateAble with Dr. Chavonne

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally. What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's Coming Next:Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, over-giving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.After listening to the full series, you'll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.What's coming next: Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience calledWell Made Woman: New Year Energy Challenge — a space to take what you've learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

It's here, The Well Made Woman Audio Drop!I'm so excited to release this series to you.In this episode, I share the story behind why I created this 13 episode series just for you, just for now.I'll also discuss:Why so many women feel stuck between knowing better and living differentlyThe difference between insight and embodied changeWhat it means to lead yourself emotionally and relationallyHow this Audio Drop is meant to be experienced (not binged, not rushed)Why choosing just one inner skill can change everythingGET READY!!

In today's episode, I invite you into a different kind of conversation about goals, progress, and what really creates change. Not the hustle-hard, push-yourself-more kind—but the kind that asks a more powerful question:Who do I need to become in order for what I want to be inevitable?I talk about why so many capable, thoughtful women understand what they want—but get stuck in the follow-through. Why knowing the steps isn't the same as sustaining the transformation. And why the “in-between” phase—the part most people abandon—is actually where everything meaningful is happening.You'll hear how I think about progress through the Well Made Woman lens: not as a finish line to reach, but as a way of living, thinking, and relating to yourself—especially when results aren't immediately visible.This episode is for you if:You're clear on what you want, but unsure why it hasn't fully materialized yetYou're tired of motivating yourself through pressure, self-judgment, or external validationYou sense the real work isn't out there… but somewhere deeper inside youYou don't want to quit on your desires—you want to understand how to carry them differentlyIf you've been wondering whether you're off track… or simply still becoming—this conversation will help you see what's actually required to keep going.And to learn more about how The Well Made Woman Program can support you in becoming more of who you want to be, go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

In this episode, I break down why your progress towards your goals and desires can feel slow at the end of the year—even when you've been trying, growing, and taking the necessary steps.I explore the two very different conversations women tend to have with themselves when the things they expected or wanted to happen have not taken place yet.One is the honest, data-driven look at what may have been missing—clarity, belief, direction, or support. The other is a more grounded, self-led perspective that asks a deeper question: Who am I becoming in the process of wanting this?You'll hear why stalled progress isn't usually a motivation problem—and why giving up often comes from misunderstanding what real change actually requires. I share how I personally continue toward my own goals using the Well Made Woman process, and why I see it not as a finish-line mentality, but as a way of life.This episode is for the woman who doesn't want to abandon what she wants—but also doesn't want to relate to her goals through pressure, shame, or blaming others.If you've been wondering whether you missed something… or whether you're simply still in the middle of becoming—this conversation will help you see your progress more clearly and decide how you want to move forward.And if you'd like to join us inside Your Well Made Woman Year 2026, here's the link:https://drchavonne.com/wmwy2026/And to join the full Well Made Woman Program, go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

In this follow-up to last week's episode, I'm sharing my side of A God Move—the powerful story my husband told about a life-changing encounter with a total stranger.In this conversation, I open up about what was happening in my own world at that time, why his experience felt like divine confirmation, and how it represented an immediate answered prayer.This moment reminded me that nothing in life is random. Even when you can't see how things are coming together, God is already working for your good.If you've been waiting for a sign that hope is not lost—this episode will speak to your heart and strengthen your faith that it all truly works out for you.

Today we're celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast, and this conversation feels like one of the most meaningful ones I've ever shared.In this episode, I'm taking you inside my own marriage to tell you a story that changed everything — one I call a God Move. It's a story of divine timing, healing, and how God can use the most unexpected people and moments to remind us that He sees us, He hears us, and He's always working for our good.You'll hear my husband share his own life-changing encounter — how a complete stranger spoke words that shifted how he saw himself as a man and as a partner. The first time I heard him tell it, I cried for hours. It was that powerful.Listen in to hear this story directly from him — and then come back next week when I'll break down exactly why I call this a God Move, and what it revealed to me about love, faith, and transformation inside marriage.

In this episode, we're unpacking what boundaries actually are (and what they're not), why so many people only try to set them when they're angry, and how to create limits that honor both you and the people you love.You'll learn how to:Tell the difference between a request, an ultimatum, and a true boundarySet boundaries that feel loving, grounded, and guilt-freeStay calm and self-honoring even when others don't like your new limitsNavigate the messy middle between people-pleasing and self-protectionIf you've ever wondered how to protect your peace without losing connection—this conversation will show you how to do it with grace, strength, and self-trust.To join Marriage Coach Monday's Dial: 669-274-9890And for more about The Well Made Woman, go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

If you've ever found yourself overthinking what to say, replaying conversations in your head, or holding back your true opinion because you're worried about how others might react — this episode is for you.We're diving into the subtle and obvious ways the need for approval quietly runs your life — from how you spend your money to the decisions you make, and even how much joy you allow yourself to feel.You'll discover:How your desire to belong and be accepted can keep you stuck in patterns of self-abandonmentThe real reason you care so much about what others think (hint: it's about safety, not weakness)What it looks like to care more about your own opinion than anyone else's — without guilt, rebellion, or fearSimple, doable ways to start listening to your inner authority and take action from a place of worthIf you're tired of second-guessing yourself or shrinking your desires to make other people comfortable, this conversation will show you a different way — one where you belong to yourself first.It's time to stop seeking permission and start living in alignment with who you really are.If you're listening to this and something inside you feels ready — ready to stop overthinking, ready to stop performing, ready to start trusting yourself again — this is your moment. The Well Made Woman is open for enrollment. This program will support you in build the kind of self-trust, emotional resilience, and inner authority that makes your life so much easier and more peaceful. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

What if your worth wasn't something you had to earn—but something you already are?In this episode, we explore what it truly means to live from the truth that your existence makes you worthy—and how that truth can transform what you allow yourself to receive - in life, marriage and your relationships.Worthiness isn't just a belief; it's a daily practice. It's the sacred recognition that your needs, wants, and desires aren't indulgent—they're valid expressions of a life and love that's meant to feel good.Inside, we explore:How early conditioning teaches you to question your valueWhat shifts when you stop trying to prove your worth and start embodying itThe mindset and practices that help you receive with confidence and graceIf you've ever felt like no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough—this conversation will help you come home to yourself and the innate worth that's been there all along.Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman is open for enrollment for our 2026 group. If you are ready to master self-worth, and many other pillars to elevating the way you life your life, I invite you to join us this round. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Today's episode is a special one — because instead of just hearing from me, you'll get to hear directly from one of the women inside The Well Made Woman program.She's going to pull back the curtain on what really happens when you commit to your own growth — the fears that come up, the shifts that surprised her, the internal upgrades she didn't even know she needed, and how she now thinks, feels, and moves through her life differently.We talk about…What made coaching finally work for her after multiple attempts in other programsThe mindset blocks she had around investing in herself again — and what pushed her over the lineHow the tools received inside The Well Made Woman made this work finally stickHow she followed through, even when she doubted she wouldWhat it actually feels like to become the Well Made Woman in your own life — not just in your journal, but in your marriage, your decisions, and your self-conceptIf you've been curious about The Well Made Woman, or you've felt the nudge to invest in your growth but haven't fully said yes yet… this episode will either confirm what you're already feeling — or shift something inside you that you didn't even realize was blocking you.And for more information on The Well Made Woman and how you can join for 2026, visit my website here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

In this episode, we're exploring what I call The Way of the Well-Made Woman —the mindset, energy, and emotional maturity that separate the woman who's constantly reacting to life from the woman who leads herself through it with peace, power, and grace.This episode is for the woman, who has a voice inside saying: “I don't want to keep living this way.”Not because everything is falling apart — but because how she feels inside no longer matches the woman she knows she's meant to be.The Way of the Well-Made Woman is how you bridge that gap.It's how you start experiencing your life — and yourself — differently.In this conversation, I'll share three distinctions that define a self-led woman — the ways she thinks, chooses, and responds that change everything.You'll walk away with reflection questions and practices to help you live with more gratitude, confidence, and grounded calm — starting today.If you're ready to stop running on autopilot and start leading yourself with intention, this is your invitation.And to learn more about my signature program, The Well Made Woman, visit my website here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

In this episode, we're having an honest conversation no one else in your life probably will — about the subtle, everyday ways we create our own suffering, and how to gently pull yourself out of that negative spiral.You'll learn how to:Spot the stories your mind automatically tells you — and understand where they really come fromChoose thoughts that open the door to growth, self-love, and peaceAnd rewire your reactions so you stop repeating old emotional patterns that keep you stuckThis isn't about toxic positivity or pretending everything's fine.It's about reclaiming your emotional power — learning to see yourself and your life through a lens that brings healing instead of hurt.If you're ready to feel lighter, calmer, and more in charge of how you experience your life, this one's for you.Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman: Lead Your Life Masterclass Series. We start October 21 and you'll have lifetime access to the recordings if you cannot join us live each day. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

In this episode, we're exploring the idea of Emotional Wealth — treating YOU as the primary asset in your life.Just like investing in property or stocks for long-term gain, emotional wealth is built by consistently investing in how you think, how you feel, and how you choose to respond… no matter what's happening around you.We'll talk about:Why emotional maturity is a long-game investment, not a quick emotional hitWhat it means to see yourself as an asset that increases in value over timeHow to stay steady when life throws disruptions, disappointments, or emotional stormsAnd why building emotional wealth is legacy work — something your children will inherit through the way you live, feel, and handle lifeThis isn't about being positive all the time.It's about becoming emotionally abundant — able to feel deeply, recover quickly, and move through life with grounded confidence.If you've ever wanted to feel unshakeable, more at peace, and truly proud of who you're becoming — this conversation will shift the way you see emotional growth forever.Mentioned in this Episode: The Well Made Woman Lead Your Life Masterclass --> Learn More Here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

Do you ever feel like you're always on edge—snapping quicker than usual, running on fumes, or just carrying a quiet sense of tension that never seems to go away?In this episode, we're breaking down what's really happening beneath the surface when you feel like you're at your limit. You'll learn how to:Identify what's actually fueling your reactivity (and why your mind keeps spinning there)Reclaim your focus and calm by auditing where your attention is goingGround yourself through simple, embodied self-care—so you're not just managing stress but truly restoring your peaceShift from constant problem-solving to genuine problem-healingIf you've been feeling stretched too thin, reactive, or stuck in survival mode—this episode will help you slow down, tune in, and finally exhale.And if this resonated with you, I want to invite you to my private workshop, The Well Made Woman: Lead Your Life. Here we will go deep into how to live more authentically, feel fulfilled, and rise resilient without losing yourself. You can learn more and apply to join us here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

In this episode, we're exploring a different way of looking at your life and your marriage: the belief that it all works out for you.We'll dive into:Why releasing timelines and deadlines might be the key to more patience and peaceHow every obstacle can become an opportunity to grow into the version of yourself who can have what you wantAnd how learning to loosen control and open yourself up creates the space for more joy, more ease, and even more of God's presence in your lifeIf you've been tired of forcing things, rushing things, or stressing over why it hasn't happened yet—this conversation will help you see your challenges through a whole new lens.For more help and support making this perspective your way of LIVING, I invite you to consider working with me directly in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Over the past week, I released a special video series called The Mindsets for a Happier, More Connected Marriage. And in case you missed it — or just prefer to listen on the go — I'm bringing the full series to you here on the podcast.In this series, I walk you through 5 powerful mindsets that can completely change the way you and your spouse communicate and connect.Because the truth is, it's not just about what you say. It's about the mindset you bring into every conversation.These 5 mindsets will help you: Break out of the same old arguments Reignite your closeness and intimacy Build communication that feels safe, kind, and productiveSo whether you've been following along with the videos or this is your first time hearing the series, I know you'll walk away with practical shifts you can start using right now in your marriage.And...Early Enrollment for The Marriage UpGrade is open NOW. See what bonuses and special incentives I have for you by joining the VIP list here: https://drchavonne.com/tmu-waitlist/

Have you ever caught yourself thinking… “We're just stuck in the same patterns”?Maybe you're tired of the arguments that go nowhere…Or feeling like roommates who just handle the day-to-day stuff but don't really connect anymore.You can have more than a marriage that just “functions.” You deserve one that feels fulfilling—where you enjoy each other, laugh together, and feel like true partners.In this week's episode of the podcast, I'm sharing what it really takes to build that kind of marriage. After listening, you'll walk away with::: A way to get clear on what you actually want in your relationship (beyond just knowing what's not working):: How to stop repeating the same old habits and start showing up differently:: Why your growth matters just as much as your partner's (and what that looks like in real life):: Simple shifts that make intimacy and connection easierThis episode will lay out the steps necessary to create a marriage you actually love living in.Also mentioned in this Episode: The Marriage UpGade is opening up for Early Enrollment September 23-30. This is my signature couples program designed to guide and coach you to creating a more fulfilling marriage - one with easier communication, deeper connection, and more passion and intimacy. Get all the details here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

You've built success everywhere else—your career, your family, your home life looks great on the outside.But behind closed doors, it feels like constant miscommunication, emotional distance, or like you're just roommates passing in the night.In this episode, I'm breaking down why even high-achieving couples struggle in marriage, the common patterns I see that quietly erode connection, and the key shifts that help you communicate better, laugh more, and feel like a team again.If you've ever thought, “We should be happier than this,” you'll want to listen in.And if you'd like my proven process designed to address your unique marriage challenges, I invite you to learn more about my signature couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. You can learn more here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/Early Enrollment opens September 23-30.

When it comes to your marriage, progress doesn't come from one big breakthrough conversation or waiting for your partner to suddenly change. Progress comes from habits.Not the once-in-a-while things you do when you're on your best behavior, but the predictable patterns you fall into over and over again.In this episode, we're talking about how to recognize these habits for what they are, and—more importantly—how to start changing them so you can create a different experience in your marriage.You'll learn:How to spot the patterns that keep pulling you both back into the same fights.Why self-awareness is the first step in shifting your behavior.What it takes to experiment with new ways of responding—and why that matters.How to create systems and structures (like code words or marriage check-ins) that make new habits stick.And why celebrating small wins is just as important as the big breakthroughs.If nothing changes about what you do, nothing changes about what you experience. But once you start shifting your habits, you'll not only make progress—you'll transform who you are to each other.

In this episode, we're breaking down why managing your emotions is the key to making real progress in your marriage. You'll learn:Why emotions are physical sensations that will pass—and how to ride that wave instead of getting pulled under.How to see emotions as signals guiding you to something important.What it looks like to truly take responsibility for your own feelings—without blaming or offloading them onto your partner.Why “you can't heal what you won't feel” (and how to practice that in a safe, grounded way).And how staying centered in your emotions actually makes it more likely that your partner will hear you.If you've ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same fights, or why the same feelings seem to hijack your progress—this episode is going to show you a new way forward.And for more personalized support using my proven process to making progress in your marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

In today's episode, we're digging into the simple but transformative truth that your thoughts create your results. Not just in your to-do list, but in the way you feel about yourself, your partner, and your relationship.I'll show you how to spot the thoughts that are quietly working against you, and how to start choosing thoughts that bring you closer to the peace, connection, and love you really want.By the end of this episode, you'll know:How to recognize the kinds of thoughts that keep you stuck in overwhelm, disconnection, or resentment.A simple way to reframe your thinking so it actually supports what you want in your marriage.Why “choosing a better thought” isn't fake positivity—it's a skill that can change the emotional climate of your relationship.What to do when your negative thoughts feel true and how to shift without dismissing your reality.This is the work that changes you first—and when you change, your marriage begins to change too.And if you are looking for help to develop the right thoughts and actions that ultimately create a better marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. You can learn more on my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Staying out of that negative cycle isn't just about avoiding another argument. It's about giving your relationship the stability it needs so you can actually enjoy your time together… … and so you have the runway to address the deeper issues that have been wearing on you both.In this episode, I'm sharing the key shifts that help you:Spot the patterns that predictably trip you up.Calm your own triggers so they stop running the show.And create moments of heartfelt connection, even when things feel tense.This is how you break the cycle and start building a relationship that feels good to be in.And for more personalized support to help you and your partner keep your marriage feeling better for longer more sustained periods of time, I invite you to consider private coaching with me. You can learn more about becoming Better Together by booking a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

When you and your spouse aren't connecting, everything feels harder.You might go from small misunderstandings to full-blown silence—or you're stuck repeating the same argument over and over, never really resolving it.That's the disconnection dance or negative cycle—and it's not just frustrating, it's exhausting.In today's episode, I'm walking you through 5 powerful steps to help you break that cycle. You'll learn how to:Recognize what's actually driving your disconnection (it's not just the surface argument)Reflect on your own patterns with compassion and ownershipGet clear on what you really want—and how to create itSelf-soothe in moments where your partner isn't able to meet youAnd take meaningful steps—internally or together—to reconnect without pride or resentment getting in the wayThis episode will challenge you. It might even stir something up. But if you've been waiting for things to shift—this is your roadmap.And if you're looking for help and tools to support you in quickly getting out of these negative cycles, I invite you to consider signing up for one of my coaching programs. We can talk more about how I can help in a complimentary consultation call. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

There are three essential skills that often get left out of our upbringing—and they are crucial to creating a thriving, connected relationship.Skills like:Introspective questioning—so you can understand why you think, feel, and operate the way you do, and start asking: What if I'm wrong about this?Perspective taking—so you can stop assuming the worst and start seeing the logic in your partner's experience.And truly listening to understand—so that curiosity, not defensiveness, becomes your default.In today's episode, we're diving into these foundational shifts—what they are, why they matter, and how they can completely change the way you show up in your marriage.If you've ever wondered why you keep having the same arguments, or why your good intentions still lead to misunderstandings, this episode is going to give you a fresh lens and powerful new tools.And if you are looking for help creating positive change in your marriage and would like professional help, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

So many of the ways we show up in our relationships—how we communicate, how we love, how we cope—aren't actually conscious choices.They're inherited. Programmed. Conditioned from what we saw, experienced, or learned growing up.In this episode, we're talking about three ways of being you may have learned that are quietly wrecking the quality of your relationships—and your own personal peace.You'll hear how these patterns show up:-When you're constantly blaming others but feeling stuck-When love becomes a reward instead of a reflection of who you want to be-When avoiding your emotions becomes your way of coping—but keeps you disconnected from your own lifeThis is about unlearning the old survival strategies and stepping into a more grounded, emotionally resilient, and soul-aligned version of yourself.It's not easy work, but it's the kind of work that changes everything.If you've been feeling unfulfilled, irritated, or just tired of the way things feel in your marriage or within yourself—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we're unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they're walking into another argument they didn't ask for.You'll learn:What each partner is really thinking underneath the surfaceWhy emotional safety is the missing ingredient that keeps you both stuck in this cycleAnd what to do instead—whether you're the one bringing up the issue, or the one on the receiving end of itWe'll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard.If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you're both tired of repeating the same fight with different words…This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict.And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today's episode, we're diving into one of the most emotionally complex and frustrating dynamics between partners—what happens when one of you is anxiously tuned in to every emotion, every disconnect, every nuance…essentially hyper-self aware...And the other is not able to see what's happening, unaware of the emotions often driving them, and has a harder time communicating what's going on for them...essentially lacking self awareness...We're breaking down why this mismatch in self-awareness and emotional processing leads to blame, shame, shutdowns, and emotional spirals—and how to begin shifting that pattern.You'll hear:Why anxious partners can feel like they're always solving the relationship aloneWhy avoidant partners often feel like they're being treated as a project instead of a personAnd how this blame/shame cycle keeps both of you stuck, exhausted, and silently wondering if things will ever feel betterBut more importantly—we'll talk about what to do next. What actually helps. And how to start creating a new rhythm between you that leaves you both feeling seen, respected, and more connected.If you've been feeling like you're the only one clued in to what's happening…or if you've felt like your partner is always psychoanalyzing you—this episode is for you.And if you are looking for help and would like to explore the ways my coaching program can help you, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today's episode, we're unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who's just trying not to drown in overwhelm.If you've ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you're feeling and help you through it… Or if you've ever felt like your partner's emotions are a test you're destined to fail… You're in the right place.We're getting to the root of what's really going on underneath these reactions:Why anxious partners often feel like they can't handle big emotions aloneWhy avoidant partners often feel like emotions = failureAnd how both sides are doing their best to feel safe—but in ways that unintentionally trigger each otherThis episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it.Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you'll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn't involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com

Have you ever felt desperate for more connection in your marriage—wanting to talk more, do more things together, feel like you're truly on the same page—but no matter how hard you try, your partner just doesn't seem to meet you there?Or maybe you're on the other side—feeling like your partner always needs more from you than you can give, and all you want is a little space to think, breathe, and just be without feeling like you're letting them down.If either of those sound familiar, you're not alone—and you're likely caught in the anxious-avoidant dynamic.In this episode, we're unpacking that exact struggle: what happens when one partner craves closeness and the other craves space. When one feels rejected, and the other feels pressured. When you both want peace, but your patterns keep pushing each other further apart.You'll learn:Why the anxious partner often ends up feeling like they're too much and not enough at the same timeWhy the avoidant partner feels pressure to be someone they're not, and shuts down to preserve their sense of selfWhat it really looks like to balance independence and intimacy in a healthy, respectful wayAnd the personal growth plans each of you can start implementing today to change the cycle and create something betterThis is one of the most common dynamics I work with—and the good news is: healing is absolutely possible when you understand the deeper needs underneath the behavior.

In today's episode, we're breaking down the emotional tug-of-war between anxious and avoidant partners—and why it's so hard to stop, even when you both want things to be better.You'll hear the real fears driving this dynamic:Why the anxious partner is so afraid of being emotionally abandonedWhy the avoidant partner is terrified of not being enoughAnd how these fears fuel the very behaviors that keep you disconnectedWe're going deeper than just communication tips—this is about the belief systems that live underneath your patterns. The unconscious drivers that have you stuck in criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, and silent suffering.If you've ever thought, “Why do we keep having the same arguments?”Or felt like, “No matter how hard I try, I still don't feel close to my partner…”This episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead.Because real change happens when you understand what's really going on inside you… and inside each other.If you are ready for help growing as an individual AND together as a couple, then I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call to discuss how my coaching approach can help you get there faster: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You've probably heard the phrase “own your emotions”—but what does that actually mean in a marriage?Does it mean your partner gets a free pass to ignore your feelings?Does it mean you're supposed to just “deal with it” when you're hurt or disconnected?Not even close.In this episode, we're unpacking the delicate balance between emotional self-responsibility and relational needs.Because here's the truth:Yes, your feelings are yours.But that doesn't mean your relationship shouldn't feel good.This conversation is for you if you've ever felt stuck between two extremes:

What if the friction in your relationship isn't just about unmet expectations, but a deeper misalignment in values and life goals? In this episode, we delve into the challenging yet liberating concept of recognizing when you and your partner might not be the right fit for each other.We'll explore:Identifying Core Misalignments: Understanding when differing values, unmet needs, and divergent life paths signal a fundamental incompatibility.The Importance of Self-Work: Ensuring you've done the inner work to distinguish between personal triggers and genuine mismatches.Navigating the Realization: How to approach this awareness with compassion, reducing judgment and the urge to change your partner.Redefining the Relationship: Embracing the possibility of transforming the relationship dynamic, whether that means adjusting expectations or parting ways amicably.This conversation isn't about giving up; it's about honoring your truth and creating space for both partners to thrive—together or apart. Tune in to discover how acknowledging a mismatch can be a courageous step toward personal growth and authentic connection.Also mentioned in this episode: It's normal to have doubts—especially when love is there, but the differences feel hard to bridge. I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me to explore how my private coaching program can help.This is your chance to explore those lingering “What ifs” with clarity and compassion. You don't have to figure it all out alone. Let's talk: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn't see eye to eye with you on some of the most important aspects of life? Maybe it's domestic responsibilities, parenting styles, intimacy, finances, or even how you handle marriage challenges. The truth is, when it feels like you're constantly clashing, it's often because you're not aligned on your values—the deeper essence of what drives your decisions.In today's episode, we're unpacking why these differences can feel so intense and how they tie back to core values versus specific expectations. Whether it's a clash between traditional and modern views on roles, a difference in how you view intimacy, or how you approach finances, these fundamental values impact everything.I'll share key insights on how to:Understand the root cause of your disagreements by uncovering your values.Create a partnership where both of you feel equally heard, valued, and invested.Move away from guilt, shame, and pressure to create intentional choices that actually work for both of you.Accept that it's okay if you're not always a perfect match, and still find peace and respect in your relationship.This episode is for anyone who's feeling stuck in these deeper conflicts and wants to find real alignment and peace in their marriage. If you're ready to uncover the root issues and make empowered choices that bring you closer, tune in now.And if you'd like my personal help navigating the biggest expectation clashes in your own marriage, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You've probably heard the term “inner work” thrown around in the personal development world, but what does it actually mean, and how does it impact your marriage?In today's episode, we're digging into why inner work is one of the most powerful tools you can use to transform not just yourself, but your relationship. Whether you're just starting your personal growth journey or looking to expand your current growth plan, this episode will help you understand why this work is essential—especially when it comes to the way you show up in your marriage.Inner work isn't just about self-improvement—it's about understanding your triggers, breaking unhealthy patterns, and creating emotional resilience that positively impacts every part of your life.So if you're ready to start building a stronger, healthier version of yourself, and unlock a more connected, peaceful relationship with your partner, this episode is for you. Tune in and discover exactly how to get started on the path of personal growth and transformation, right now.Also mentioned in this episode: If you'd like my personal help walking you through your own inner transformation, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call by visiting my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

What if the secret to more peace, connection, and closeness in your marriage wasn't about getting your partner to change, but instead, learning how to tolerate your own emotions?In today's episode, we're diving into a game-changing skill that can dramatically shift how you handle those intense emotional moments in your relationship: emotional tolerance.In this episode, I'll walk you through how to:Identify your emotional triggers and the knee-jerk reactions that come with themPause and tolerate discomfort instead of reacting immediatelyDevelop emotional resilience so you can choose how to respond, no matter how strong the emotion isIf you're tired of feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns and want to break the cycle, this episode will show you how to start making lasting change—by learning to feel your feelings without letting them take over.Also mentioned in this episode: If you're tired of feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns and you're ready to learn how to navigate your emotions with more ease, I can help. Book your complimentary consultation HERE, and let's explore how we can work together to help you respond, not react—leading to a more peaceful, fulfilling marriage.

Most couples get stuck in a pattern of blaming each other for the issues they're facing—whether it's the partner withdrawing, being overly critical, or just not feeling understood. But the key to shifting these dynamics lies in understanding yourself first.In this episode, we are doing an even DEEPER dive into the often overlooked ways couples keep themselves stuck. Continuing our previous conversations, I go layers deeper into the anxious and avoidant attachment patterns and how they contribute to common struggles, including:How anxious individuals may unintentionally create negative cycles in their relationships by seeking validation and reassurance.Why avoidants may struggle with passive-aggressive behavior, emotional withdrawal, and staying stuck in fixed patterns of thinking.The shared challenge of avoiding emotional discomfort, whether by running from it or trying to fix it immediately.Understanding yourself at this deeper level empowers you to break the cycle of frustration and move toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to learn how self-awareness can not only improve your connection with your partner but also help you choose the changes that will actually lead to lasting transformation.Also mentioned in this episode: If you're ready to stop feeling stuck in cycles of conflict and distance—and start creating the marriage you truly want—I invite you to consider private coaching with me. Together, we'll work week by week to: ✅ Break the patterns that keep you disconnected ✅ Build emotional safety and true understanding ✅ Create communication that brings you closer, not further apart ✅ Rekindle the friendship, warmth, and peace you both long forYou don't have to guess your way through this. You don't have to keep hoping things will "just get better."With the right support, you can rebuild a marriage that feels good again.Book your complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Ever feel like you and your partner cannot communicate effectively? You're talking one thing, and they are hearing and reacting to another. Communication break downs are very common for couples who have different attachment styles. Today we are taking another deep dive into how the anxious and avoidant dynamic leads to communication issues.I break down exactly why communication breaks down between these two attachment styles, and how this pattern is secretly keeping you both stuck.This episode is a must-listen if you're tired of feeling misunderstood and want to finally break the cycle. Tune in and discover how you can begin transforming your relationship—one conversation at a time.Also mentioned: If you feel like you're constantly missing each other, getting stuck in misunderstandings, or just can't seem to get on the same page, I can help. I have a few spots open for private coaching, where we'll focus on transforming how you communicate with your partner—so you can feel heard, understood, and connected. Book your complimentary consultation today, and let's start breaking down those communication barriers for good: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, we're breaking down one of the most common and challenging dynamics in relationships: the anxious-avoidant cycle. If you've ever felt stuck in a push-and-pull where one partner seems to be pulling away just when you need them the most, and the other feels suffocated by emotional demands, you're about to discover why this happens—and how you can break free.We'll dive into:Why one partner pulls away while the other feels desperate for connectionHow each partner's behavior creates more tension and confusionWhat both partners can do to understand each other's emotional needs and break the cycleBy the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of what's really going on in your relationship and how to take the first steps toward healing and reconnection. If you're ready to stop feeling stuck and start building the intimacy and trust you both crave, this episode is for you.if you are ready to get help navigating some of the unique dynamics of being an anxious-avoidant couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more and book a complimentary consultation call HERE.

In today's episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, one of the most common yet frustrating patterns in relationships. Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, understanding this dynamic is the first step in breaking the cycle of emotional push and pull.We'll explore 10 key things you need to know about this dynamic—including why both partners feel unfulfilled, why communication often breaks down, and most importantly, how you can start shifting these patterns for better connection and deeper intimacy.If you're tired of feeling misunderstood or stuck in this emotional tug-of-war, this episode will give you the insights and tools you need to create more balance and understanding with your partner. Also mentioned in this episode: I have a few openings for private coaching. If you're looking to create a better dynamic in your marriage where you and your partner both feel close, I can definitely help. Book your complimentary call to discuss the ways my approach can support you: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/