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If a woman is stressed, holding space for her means hearing what she has to say and providing a particular kind of loving support. Once women are on their independent side, they tend to always see what's wrong with you which means they don't trust you which makes it even harder for them to go to their female side and share emotions in a more positive way. - Dr. John Gray Are You Stressed Out Lately? Take a deep breath with the M21™ wellness guide: a simple yet powerful 21 minute morning system that melts stress and gives you more energy through 6 science-backed practices and breathwork. Click HERE to download for free. Is Your Energy Low? Get more superfoods to improve your energy, digestion, gut health plus also reduce inflammation and blood sugar. Click HERE to try Paleovalley's Apple Cider Vinegar Complex + Save 15% with the code 'JOSH' *Review The WF Podcast & WIN $150 in wellness prizes! *Join The Facebook Group Wellness Force Radio Episode 435 Author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and his latest, Beyond Mars and Venus, Dr. John Gray, returns to share what has changed for him since his first interview on Wellness Force, how we can hold space in relationships, the four kinds of love, and how porn is hurting relationships. What is the core of women? What is the core of men? How can we relate to one another?  Find out as Dr. John Gray explores the masculine and feminine sexual polarities of our modern world. Essential Oil Wizardry The #1 essential oil endorsed by Wellness Force! 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Bundle & save on the “BREATHE Essentials” pack CLICK HERE FOR DISCOUNT PURCHASE Listen To Episode 435 As Dr. John Gray Uncovers: [1:30] Modern Relationship Dynamics Dr. John Gray Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by Dr. John Gray Beyond Mars and Venus by Dr. John Gray 046 Dr. John Gray: ADHD, Brain Health, & Sex Addiction What has changed for Dr. John since his first interview on Wellness Force. The power of meditation, why he meditates sometimes up to 6 hours a day, and the training he received as a monk. How breathwork has helped Josh become more centered in everyday events and conversations. Different experiences we go through in romantic relationships and why we may find ourselves triggered later on compared to the beginning stages. Why 90% of our triggers are often not caused by what happened to us today but trauma from the past that we still need to heal. The different personal growth processes that men and women go through in life. Exploring the different dynamics in our modern world for both partners working outside of the home. The fact that a man's testosterone level and a woman's estrogen levels will be extremely low when they are stressed compared to happy and feeling fulfilled. Why women's stress levels are on average twice as high as a man's when they're at work and that amount doubles when they're at home. What happens biologically with our hormones when we are triggered. How we might interpret things that bother us in a relationship to mean, "Oh, they must not love me." [24:00] Holding Space In Relationships How we can hold space for our partners especially when they're stressed and feel triggered. Why being in both our logical and emotional minds at the same time can lead to great happiness. How we start to lose our logic when we begin and stay in a negative thinking mindset. What to do and not to do when a female partner is upset. The power of listening and telling your partner, "Help me understand that better," when they're emotional and triggered. Why the only way to grow is to get out of your comfort zone by feeling, acknowledging, and letting go of your limitations. What to do when stuck, childhood traumas bubble up to the surface in our relationships. Why a man's testosterone will actually go up when he listens to and helps his partner release and heal their present emotions. The four emotions that will both release negativity very quickly and raise estrogen in a woman. Why women experience automatic negative thoughts when they are in their masculine rather than feminine self. Exploring a woman's different love needs and how their partners can fulfill them. Children Are From Heaven by Dr. John Gray How parents can set healthy boundaries and the right way to help their children understand their emotions when they're upset.  The power of delayed gratification for both children and adults as a tool to practice emotional intelligence. [43:00] The Four Kinds of Love How a relationship can heal when there's constantly headbutting and complaining. Why a man's testosterone goes down and estrogen goes up when they feel stuck. Why Men Are the Way They Are by Warren Farrell Ph.D The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell Ph.D Why men flee to protect their partner from the "fight" and the "dragon" inside of them. How Josh teaches people to do circular breathing to help them during difficult relationship conversations. Exploring the four kinds of love that women need: caring, respect, understanding, and reassurance to help keep their estrogen levels up. How a man can be there for his partner and create a safe space by being cool, calm, and collected. The incredible impact a man can feel when they're out of work or they don't feel appreciated or financially validated. Why going out of one's comfort zone through action and behavior will help raise your testosterone levels. How a man's estrogen levels will go up when they share their negative emotions (anger, sadness, despair). Moments when negative emotions and anger can be sacred and not just a "wimp" emotion. [53:00] How Polarity Creates Passion How a woman being in her masculine all day working and being outside of the home (or from home) can impact her relationship with her partner. The big surge of estrogen a woman will feel when she does something for her partner; no matter if it was something big or small. How Dr. John would comfort his wife when she would have anxious thoughts about money and the future. What creates passion in a relationship: our differences and being vulnerable. Exploring what can hurt the attraction in a relationship: not trying to relate to one another and when a woman doesn't feel safe. How chronic stress keeps us in a state of cortisol and negative mindsets. What men can do to rebuild their testosterone levels including some alone time. Why it's important for men to do things and be busy to help them feel more confident; especially if they're out of work. Various exercises and things partners can do to heal and create a stronger relationship. Why men need to spend more time alone and do something that challenges them in a healthy manner like an ice bath or a workout than women when they feel triggered. The importance of doing a lot of little things for your female partner to help build their estrogen back up. Why giving a woman 4 hugs a day will help keep their estrogen in regular supply and increase oxytocin. The genie in a bottle method: A couple takes 10 minutes to allow the feminine partner to share little things the other can do for them like get a cup of tea or help answer phone calls. Why it's important to not look at your female partner from your point of view but from her point of view. [1:07:00] How Porn Is Hurting Relationshps Why reading or watching the news (same with sports) can help a man when he is stressed because it allows him to detach and process his emotions. The fact that men tend to turn to porn when they're feeling restless or in despair. Why porn will raise a man's testosterone but then lower it dramatically as their estrogen levels increase which isn't healthy for them. How porn addiction and fake skin inhibits a person's brain's cells from being able to be turned on to and love something and someone familiar because they've been taught to crave something new and different. Wim Hof Why Wim Hof turned to ice baths to help him heal after his wife passed away. Solocast | A Victim of Intellectualization & The Wisdom of The Heart 288 Greg Woodhill 414 Greg Schmaus 431 David Wolfe 399 Iana Lahi Solocast | The Sedation of Society: How To Reconnect & Strengthen Your Soul's Connection [1:08:00] How to Build A Happy Relationship How we can create greater acceptance and trust in relationships. Why both partners need to be able to be responsible for their own happiness first and then turn to each other to raise each other up and feel even better about life; to go from good to great together. The fact that men's testosterone levels are at their highest when they're single and then they go down a notch when they begin a committed relationship and then another notch when they have a child. Why men can lose attraction to their partner if their testosterone levels are low. The fact that a man cannot have a heart attack if their testosterone levels are balanced but can if they are lower. How ejaculation impacts a man's testosterone and estrogen levels whether it's from sex or masturbation. What happens to a woman's emotional and hormonal health when they're intimate with their partners and why reassurance is so important. How a woman can dive deep and realize what other needs she has for connection in a relationship and not just intimate needs. Why it's so important for women to give men space so that they can build their testosterone levels back up. How to Get More Me-Time Secrets to Great Sex  How to Get Everything You Want in Relationships Power Quotes From The Show How Men Can Be Better Communicators "When you get angry, what is happening hormonally in your body? For men, your estrogen levels are going up and your testosterone levels are going down. Do you want to be seen as insecure or as a child? You're not seen as a big, powerful hero at that time. When you're cool, calm, and collected with pausing between responses in a conversation, that shows that you're trying to be understanding and caring to a woman. You're not trying to control her; you're providing her with the support she needs." - Dr. John Gray What Women Need "When a woman is on her masculine side after working her job all day, she doesn't feel those negative emotions and they're all kept inside. Then, she comes home to her partner who is safer than the rest of the world and those negative emotions all come up and overreact on him. For your testosterone level to stay that high, you have to feel confident that you are loved. Women need caring, understanding, respect, and reassurance. Reassurance is a key factor to level their testosterone and keep that estrogen up." - Dr. John Gray Why Relationships Are the Foundation of Growth "The only way that you can grow is to step beyond where you were limited. Limitation is all of our negative beliefs, emotions, our greed, our selfishness, and all of our violence whether we hide it or not - it's all in there. Spiritual growth can only occur when you become aware of that, feel it, and know it. Feel it and know that it is not you. You have to let it go and there are all of these processes to do that. This is one of the reasons why relationships are the ultimate foundation of growth." - Dr. John Gray Links From Today's Show  Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by Dr. John Gray Beyond Mars and Venus by Dr. John Gray 046 Dr. John Gray: ADHD, Brain Health, & Sex Addiction Children Are From Heaven by Dr. John Gray Why Men Are the Way They Are by Warren Farrell Ph.D The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell Ph.D Wim Hof Solocast | A Victim of Intellectualization & The Wisdom of The Heart 288 Greg Woodhill 414 Greg Schmaus 431 David Wolfe 399 Iana Lahi Solocast | The Sedation of Society: How To Reconnect & Strengthen Your Soul's Connection How to Get More Me-Time Secrets to Great Sex  How to Get Everything You Want in Relationships Shop the Wellness Force Store breathwork.io Paleovalley – Save 15% on your ACV Complex with the code ‘JOSH' Seeking Health - Save 10% with the code 'JOSH' Organifi – Special 20% off to our listeners with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' Drink LMNT – Zero Sugar Hydration: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack, you only cover the cost of shipping Botanic Tonics – Save 40% when you use the code ‘WELLNESS40' Essential Oil Wizardry: Save 10% with the code 'WELLNESSFORCE' Cured Nutrition – Get 15% off of your order when you visit wellnessforce.com/cured + use the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' M21 Wellness Guide Wellness Force Community Leave Wellness Force a review on iTunes Dr. John Gray Instagram Facebook Twitter YouTube About Dr. John Gray John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 best selling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray's books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller. Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus: new relationship skills for our complex modern world. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships. John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance. His many books, blogs and free online workshops at MarsVenus.com provide practical insights to improve relationships at all stages of life and love. An advocate of health and optimal brain function, he also provides natural solutions for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress to support increased energy, libido, hormonal balance and better sleep. He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three hour special hosted by Barbara Walters. John Gray lives in Northern California, where for 34 years he happily shared his life with his beautiful wife, Bonnie, until her passing in 2018. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice.

Behavior change isn't based on the behavior, it's based on the results or the reward of the behavior. - Dr. Jud Brewer Can we break bad habits by being more curious about them?   Get 15% off your CURED Nutrition order with the code WELLNESSFORCE   ---> Get The Morning 21 System: A simple and powerful 21 minute system designed to give you more energy to let go of old weight and live life well.   JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP | *REVIEW THE PODCAST* Wellness Force Radio Episode 319 Neuroscientist, Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center at Brown University, Co-Founder of MindSciences, and Author of The Craving Mind, Dr. Jud Brewer, explains the trigger-reward loop model, why curiosity leads us to greater 'being,' and his app-based programs for eating, anxiety, and smoking.   Discover how being more mindful will help you let go of bad habits and create healthy, sustainable change in 2020.   LIFEAID CBD Text FORCE to 474747 to get $15 off your own case of LIFEAID CBD The ABCs of CBD: What’s in LIFEAID CBD? 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It contains absolutely no THC and no caffeine—it's the perfect low-cal refreshment choice morning, noon or night. Drink a can on your break, with a meal, or whenever you just need a moment to find better balance and harmony for your mind & body.   Listen To Episode 319 As Dr. Jud Brewer Uncovers: 1:30 Addiction And The Caveman Brain Dr. Jud Brewer Judson Brewer: A simple way to break a bad habit | TED Talk Dr. Jud and Mind Sciences' App-based Behavior Change Programs Mind Sciences Wellness Force Media's new mission for 2020: Learn how to join us now at wellnessforce.com/team Dr. Jud's mission to not only help people break bad habits but also wake up to how wonderful it feels to belong to a community and be kind to others. (11:00) Gabor Mate How Dr. Jud defines and describes addiction based on his residency training. (12:45) The mind-body connection we have to food and how it has impacted his own wellness journey. How you can get more curious about how different factors such as food impact your health. (14:00) Why the reward or result is what drives all future human behavior.   19:40 Our Never Ending Search For Peace His current lab's study around why we are always on the lookout for the feeling of 'peace.' How our internal hierarchy of rewards will impact behavior now and in the future. Different mental states that the brain naturally categorizes as more rewarding than others and what other qualities they hold. Digging deep into the differences between opposite mental states like fear, joy, and peace. (21:00) How we approach the mental state of craving and whether it's an open or closed state. Vipassana Meditation – A Spartan Race For The Mind Josh's past with addiction and the constricting sensation he felt that many others also do in similar experiences. How our minds are wired to use cravings as a means to get up and act on them. (24:00) The mindfulness app-based programs he has helped create to allow people to better understand how some behaviors are more rewarding than others. 27:00 Better Understanding Our Food Cravings Dr. Jud and MindSciences' Eat Right Now app program which trains people in mindful eating. The food rules many people have lived with for so long and how to let go of them by following a more 'natural food law.' How you can be more mindful during each meal and with every bite. LIFEAID CBD A specific example of how he helped a patient who began binge eating in connection with emotional abuse from her mother. (33:00) Why we validate acting on our human behavior to get to the reward. (36:30) The fact that our brains hate uncertainty so much so that we will always go to what we are already familiar with based on our past experiences. 39:00 Our Intolerance For Uncertainty In The Modern Age Why we have this need to know instantly when we're going to have access to something. The perfect example of our need to know something instantly with the NYC subway system. How a greater understanding of ourselves allows us to learn how we're driven, what motivates us, and what needs we have to fulfill. Our capitalistic urges and coming to the realization of whether we actually need that money and will it better serve humanity? Linking the spiritual and scientific evidence that kindness and compassion greatly impact human behavior. (47:00) Why experiences, not things or money, is what will bring us the gift of connection. 48:50 Curiosity Is Our Superpower Why curiosity is such a superpower especially when we cultivate it during such difficult moments. How we can train our curiosity muscle that it just becomes so natural for us especially during moments of anxious thoughts and feelings. Unwinding Your Anxiety app His secret mantra: 'Hmmm' to pull us out of our heads and into our direct experiences to get curious and let go of anxiety. (51:00) The 7-day silent meditation retreat he has put on for groups including the USA Women's Water Polo team. How you can start to cultivate curiosity now and when you find it difficult to do. Dr. Jud's own difficulty with meditation during a Vipassana retreat and what his biggest takeaways were from it. Why Is It So Hard to Pay Attention? Or Is It? Curiosity May Be Key to Concentrating Eat Right Now app To Quit app for quitting smoking 288 Greg Woodhill 137 Dr. Tim Brown 201 Micheal Gervais Beginning steps for greater mindfulness that we can follow today. The Wellness Force M21 Guide Power Quotes From The Show Our Relationship With Food In 3 Basic Elements "We can narrow down our relationship with food to three basic elements: a trigger, a behavior, and a reward. The process of those three combined elements is set up to help us survive from a nutrients standpoint. What we have to stand from a modern standpoint, is why our brains are still set on survival mode when we have a fridge full of food." - Dr. Jud Brewer The Power Of Mindful Eating "Our Eat Right Now app program really teaches people step by step how to be more mindful with food. The first step is to just go ahead and eat but that really freaks out a lot of people because they've had these "food rules" forever and they feel like they're going to go to "food jail" if they don't follow them. So, we tell them to just trust themselves and follow the natural law rather than their own rules. At first, they're worried that they'll just keep eating without any self-control but when they pay attention to what they eat, discover what the reward from eating feels like, and think about why they're eating, it helps them work through their old habits and cravings." - Dr. Jud Brewer   Dialing In For Greater Emotional and Physical Intelligence   "Intelligence has a lot to do with dialing in and sensing these little feelings of contractions vs. expansions that emotions such as fear, joy, and curiosity create. If we can be intelligent around those pieces of subtle sensations that we experience, it's going to help us change bad habits, support the habits that are helpful, and foster greater kindness, connection, compassion, and mindfulness. This can all happen simply by bringing awareness to how painful the contracted emotions feel compared to how the non-painful, rewarding, pleasant ones feel. Knowing our psychophysical being, seeing these elements, and being able to link them up both with mental and physical behaviors will make us tremendously intelligent." - Dr. Jud Brewer Links From Today's Show Mindfulness Center at Brown University The Craving Mind by Dr. Jud Brewer  Judson Brewer: A simple way to break a bad habit | TED Talk Dr. Jud and MindSciences' App-based Behavior Change Programs Wellness Force Media's new mission for 2020 Gabor Mate Vipassana Meditation – A Spartan Race For The Mind Eat Right Now app LIFEAID CBD Unwinding Your Anxiety app Why Is It So Hard to Pay Attention? Or Is It? Curiosity May Be Key to Concentrating Eat Right Now app To Quit app for quitting smoking Habit Loops & Everyday Addictions Tame Your Feelings of Anxiety 288 Greg Woodhill 137 Dr. Tim Brown 201 Micheal Gervais The Wellness Force M21 Guide Dr. Jud Brewer Instagram Twitter MindSciences Facebook   About Dr. Jud Brewer Judson Brewer MD PhD is a thought leader in the ‘science of self-mastery,” having combined nearly 20 years of experience with mindfulness training with his scientific research therein. He has published numerous peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, spoken at international conferences, and his work has been featured in 60 Minutes, TEDx, Time Magazine (top 100 new health discoveries of 2013), Forbes,BBC, NPR, BusinessWeek and others. He is Director of Research at the Center of Mindfulness and an at UMass Medical School and an associate professor in medicine and psychiatry at UMass Medical School. He also is adjunct faculty at Yale University School of Medicine and research affiliate at MIT. Mindfulness Training For Addictions A psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for addictions, Brewer has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for addictions, including both in-person and app-based treatments (ex. www.cravingtoquit.com). 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When we connect to the truth that our partner can leave us at any moment, then it makes the power of choosing them and them choosing us a gift. - Mark Groves How can you create the love you truly deserve in a relationship?   Wellness Force Radio Episode 302 Host of the Mark Groves Podcast: Making Your Heart Make Sense and Human Connection Specialist, Mark Groves, shares the three questions you should ask yourself when considering ending a relationship, explains the identity loss we sometimes face in relationships and uncovers why our journey towards greater self-love is not linear.   Listen and discover the different love styles that exist when it comes to the world of dating and why great relationships happen by choice, not by fate.   Get 15% off your CURED Nutrition order with the code WELLNESSFORCE   ---> Get The Morning 21 System: A simple and powerful 21 minute system designed to give you more energy to let go of old weight and live life well.   JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP | *REVIEW THE PODCAST*   Listen To Episode 302 As Mark Groves Uncovers: [6:40] What Love Actually Is Mark Groves' Instagram Alan Watts Organifi David Deida Why great relationships just don't happen and we need skills like communication to create the love we want. (7:40) Dysfunction exists in every family but we have the opportunity to improve that structure and environment. Our responsibility to break the cycle of patterns and inherited trauma in our families. (8:20) The systems we have inherited that make it difficult for us to be good communicators and have healthy relationships. Origins of marriage and the fact that it was not designed to come from a place of love but to get more in-laws. Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz Why he found that there's no better place to start creating than from heartbreak. The relationship rock bottoms we will all face at one point or another to help us face deeper truths. (12:00) Toxic relationships and patriarchy values that have been pushed on us by role models, the media, or religion that don't celebrate individuality. (13:20) The current increase of divorce rate for people in their 60s, 70s, and 80s because women are waking up to the truth of their own experience and their need for an emotional connection with their partner.   [15:00] Embodying And Applying 'Create The Love' Mark Groves Podcast: Making Your Heart Make Sense The moment he realized that he wasn't sure if he wanted to follow through with marrying his ex-fiancée. How breaking up with his fiancée led to the creation of Create The Love and coaching others about relationships. Caroline Myss Radical self-love he experienced when he chose himself for the first time and ended the engagement despite what others would think of him. Why we're all just one rebellion away from becoming who were truly are when we make the conscious choice to make a major life decision.  (17:20) Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl Viktor Frankl The revelation he had that maybe he has another purpose on this planet than just being a provider in a relationship after reading Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl. (18:00) Steps he took to let go and unlearn everything he had been taught from a young age about relationships in order to launch Create The Love. Why it's hard for someone that is close to you to give you advice without thinking of how it will affect them.   [22:00] Should I End The Relationship? Three Questions To Ask Yourself The three questions someone asked him that helped confirm it was time to end his engagement. (22:00) An emotional charge he felt when woke up to the fact that he is responsible for his life and everything it including the people that are part of it. His past fear of connection and being loved to the point that ran away from everybody who could love him and just called it "fate." It's true that we can feel a lack of connection to other people but do you run from people who could care about you? (25:50) Why it's healthy to feel a lot of pain and shame when you begin taking responsibility for your life and choices. How to begin looking at the relationship patterns that already exist in your family tree to find out if you're in one now. (29:20) Keeping true to yourself, believing that you're worthy of love, and being loyal to what you really want in a relationship with someone else.   [30:50] Common Relationship Patterns & Cycles It Didn't Start with You by Mark Wolynn Common relationship patterns and cycles that most people find themselves in such as not feeling like you're not a priority, being narcissistic, or thinking that everything is your fault. Mark's own belief pattern that kept coming up in his dating life and relationships - "No one will ever choose me." A lot of our wounds are not our fault but we still have to take action and be responsible for them. (34:40) Eckhart Tolle Why many people feel so much pain about their childhood that they believe they should have experienced a different one when really that belief is just a fantasy and they're not connected to reality. Habits of spiritual bypassing when we focus on "just choosing love or positive vibes" and not accepting reality, all of our emotions, and authentic truth. Digging into the truth and realizing that our false stories and beliefs are not serving us. (38:50) Self-sabotaging habits when we make time for anything that is a distraction from doing the inner work and prioritizing ourselves. Why we make it a habit of subcontracting all of our healing to our partners and expect them to make us happy when it's actually our responsibility to uncover our own joy.   [40:00] Relationship Revelations Of Modern Society Everyday shame we're seeing about relationships in memes, the news, and real life. Why some people stay in unhealthy relationships for far too long because of pressure from society, religion, or family. The length of a relationship is not a predictor of actual relationship success even though society has made it out to be that way for decades. The new shift of seeking relationship depth and prioritizing that over the amount of time we're in a relationship with other people. Actual victories and milestones we should be celebrating in relationships other than just anniversaries. (41:30) 288 Greg Woodhill 055 Gay & Katie Hendricks   [44:00] Overcoming Porn Addiction & Other Obsessions The work he has done with porn addicts and his approach to helping him. An idea that if we remove the sex, it's actually the story that people are eroticizing when they watch porn. His belief that all addiction is sourced from the need to distract from a feeling. How to identify feelings that we're afraid of because we'll often try to save other people from them. Steps we can take to move through addiction by first recognizing and accepting the truth that there is a problem. (45:00) His own use of using drinking as a means to numb social anxiety and feel more comfortable talking to girls, deal with heartbreak, and forget his values. When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön The Buddhist principle of the reframed explored in the book, When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön, and how to explore it with a coach or therapist. Why we are naturally attracted to the things that hurt us the most especially as we are invited to heal.   [50:00] The Space Between Our Head And Our Heart The greatest teachers and messengers in our lives and they don't necessarily have to have an academic background. Letting Go by David R. Hawkins Why many of us use manipulation as a coping strategy and just pretend to be vulnerable. (51:00) How our past experiences and inner work today is setting us up for what we will receive in the future. Josh's current focusing on giving more love without expecting to have something in return. How to approach the conflict that comes up when what you what in life is different than your partner's. What steps you can take to hold onto your authentic self and still be in love without co-dependency. (53:00)   [54:00] Don't Take Your Relationship For Granted The radical truth that someone's partner can leave them at any moment which makes choosing them all the more powerful. (54:00) In return, the privilege of being chosen should not be just washed away nor taking the other person for granted. The problem with taking your partner for granted and not doing the work just because you're married and have a contract with them. We can only love someone as much as we're willing to be hurt by them because every time we open up to someone, we're opening up further to pain. How to be open, accept, and work with the darkest part of ourselves so that they no longer run our lives. 275 Paul Chek Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Loving Bravely by Alexandra H. Solomon Tony Robbins Abraham Hicks Sheri Salata Deepak Chopra The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra Russell Brand Why we don't need all of these teachers, coaches, and wellness influencers' messages because they all remind us of who we are so that we don't need them. Anywhere you're starting now in your wellness journey is the perfect place. Steps to take to allow your own story to unfold without the influence of other people's stories, values, or opinions. Kyle Cease Live Out Loud Los Angeles It can be scary when you start the process of trusting yourself again. (1:07:00)       Get Coached By Mark & His Team Click here to learn more about their programs and upcoming retreats If you’re ready to smash through old barriers, let go of unhealthy choices (from food to sex to booze to relationships), establish clear boundaries, and step into the wholeness, love, and passion you deserve and desire, one-on-one coaching in a Mark Groves Create The Love coaching program might be just the tonic you’re seeking. GET ROOTED Are you starting to question your relationship, who you are in your relationship, and how to determine whether you should stay or go? Are you just starting to explore why your past relationships haven’t lasted and ready to work through old negative relationship patterns so they don’t repeat? This program is for you. GO DEEP Are you struggling in your relationship? Are you looking for someone to shine a light on the potential blind spots? Do you want to move forward from a place of strength? Whether moving through a relationship or out of a relationship – this program is for you. BREAKTHROUGH Are you going through an intense transition, divorce, or dramatic shift in a relationship? Are your needs urgent? With this program, you will have increased access to me via email and 1-ON-1 coaching calls. RETREATS Wanna go all-in? And do it in a beautiful place with other people who are going all-in too? Apply to attend Mark’s next retreat in Whistler, Canada.   The Mark Groves Podcast Click here to listen to the Mark Groves Podcast Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist, explores the complex world of relationships and connection. What underlies our connection with ourselves and others? Why do we show up the way we do in our romantic relationships, professional life, friendships, our own health and wellness and more? How do we maintain long term connections that thrive? Mark has a fun, no holds barred, no BS approach to exploring the human condition and the fundamentals of all our human connections.   Power Quotes From The Show   What To Do When Your Relationship Hits A Wall "Is your partner making you a better human being? If they're not, there are some really good questions you should now ask yourself: Are they making you a worse human being? Do their values relate to your values? Do they have integrity and keep their word? Do you? Those are the questions I ask people when they've hit a wall in the relationship or they're complaining about their partner. The biggest factor of rejoining one's self is choosing yourself for the first time." - Mark Groves Why Anniversaries Aren't A Relationship Success Indicator "We often hear from older generations that people don't take commitment seriously these days. Well, some people don't but some people who have didn't take it seriously or they had side issues back in the day. If we say that people leave relationships too early now, I'd like to put on the table that people stayed far too long in a relationship before. We make relationship length the predictor of relationship success and sure, that's one marker of it but as soon as you know anyone who hates each other who's together, it's kind of eroded the value of that number. Now, we're in this revolution where we seek relationship depth."  - Mark Groves Taking Responsibility For Our Wounds "A lot of our wounds are not our fault but they're our responsibility. We might not have been dealt the best hand in life but we can have the mindset that we're going to play these cards well. When we step into that space, then we're empowered." - Mark Groves   Links From Today's Show Alan Watts Organifi David Deida Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz Caroline Myss Mark Groves Podcast: Making Your Heart Make Sense Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl Viktor Frankl It Didn't Start with You by Mark Wolynn Eckhart Tolle 288 Greg Woodhill 055 Gay & Katie Hendricks When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön Letting Go by David R. Hawkins 275 Paul Chek Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Loving Bravely by Alexandra H. Solomon Tony Robbins Abraham Hicks Sheri Salata Deepak Chopra The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra Russell Brand Kyle Cease Live Out Loud Los Angeles Create The Love coaching programs and upcoming retreats Mark Groves Podcast: Making Your Heart Make Sense Mark Groves Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube Pinterest   About Mark Groves Relationship expert Mark Groves believes great relationships don’t happen by accident; they happen by choice. He has made it his life’s mission to help people make choices and learn the skills that will lead to a lifetime of health and happiness. With a research-based approach to dating, Mark empowers people from all walks of life to take responsible steps toward living well. His passion and leadership shine in both one-on-one coaching sessions and workplace workshops where he inspires positive transformations in how people relate to one another. After years of studying and soul-searching, Mark Groves has become a sought-after expert in human connections, and now he shares impactful words of wisdom to men and women around the world.   Join The #WellnessWarrior VIP Club **Click on the photo above to get exclusive discounts on new wellness tools, be first in line for new podcasts, get access to invite-only events, and so much more.**   More Top Episodes 226 Paul Chek: The Revolution Is Coming (3 Part Series) 131 Drew Manning: Emotional Fitness 129 Gretchen Rubin: The Four Tendencies  183 Dr. Kyra Bobinet: Brain Science 196 Aubrey Marcus: Own The Day 103 Robb Wolf: Wired To Eat Best of The Best: The Top 10 Guests From over 200 Shows Get More Wellness In Your Life Join the #WellnessWarrior Community on Facebook Tweet us on Twitter: Send us a tweet Comment on the Facebook page

A porn addict is looking for connection, warmth, and comfort but they're scared of being vulnerable and rejected by someone in real life. So, the brain has found a synthetic version of the connection they're craving. There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel intimacy but we have been conditioned to be less relational as far as eye-to-eye, person-to-person contact.  - Greg Woodhill What exactly are the detrimental effects of porn and sex addiction to both the brain and heart?   ---> Join the Wellness Warrior VIP Club: get exclusive discounts on new wellness tools, be first in line for new podcasts, get access to invite-only events, and so much more.** ---> Get The Morning 21: A powerful (and free) system designed to give you more energy, let go of old weight, and live life well. JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP | *REVIEW*   Wellness Force Radio Episode 288 Licensed psychotherapist in the fields of family and marriage as well as sex and porn addiction plus the host of the A Brave New Man Podcast, Greg Woodhill, LMFT, CSAT, shares why inner conflict is driving our addictions, why all porn addicts really just want connection, and how porn trains the mind to be less understanding and passionate compared to what we can learn from a real-life relationship. Listen and find out why people often gravitate towards porn when they're trying to work through unresolved issues from the past.   A Brave New Man Podcast Click here to listen to A Brave New Man Podcast Do you want to be a better man or have a better relationship with your man? Then follow along with Greg Woodhill as he interviews experts and non-experts on masculinity, love and connection. Topics range from cheating & infidelity, to the Me Too movement, porn addiction and happy relationships.     Listen To Episode 288 As Greg Woodhill Uncovers: The honor he feels when he is the first person people go to for help with their sex addiction. Various categories of sex addiction and why addiction isn't always intercourse for some people but porn instead. Signs to be aware of that an unwanted behavior is actually an addiction. The fact that in 2017, 46% of 11-13-year-olds had already seen porn. Easy access that people have to porn through the internet compared to decades ago when this online world didn't exist. Why it's so difficult to regulate the amount of porn that is available to us especially online. Why so many people are attached to porn because it's an inanimate object that won't judge them like an actual person in real life. Facts that the vast amount of pornography is made, produced or created by men for men while the women are experts at selling it by allowing themselves to be humiliated, dominated, and hurt. What Porn Addicts Are Actually Craving how porn can build up a person's shame, negative thoughts, and eroticized rage. The term, 'pornosexual,' for those who prefer to be with pornography than be with another person. Our natural desire and need to procreate and how porn takes that natural drive and funnels it to a place that's solo, secretive, and far less scary than being rejected by another person. How smartphones have increased the impact on our lethargy, anxiety, sleep, focus, and our need for distraction. What porn addicts are actually craving for including warmth, connection, and acceptance The synthetic condition of porn and how it mirrors want addicts desire the most. You don't need permission to open up to share your thoughts and emotions with other people. How he helps men understand and realize that it's okay to let someone know when they've hurt your feelings or what emotions you're experiencing. Chaos vs. Order - Why the chaos of addiction can actually be a means for showing us order and love for those who are ready to get real with their emotions. Diagnostic criteria for porn addiction to help you discover whether are living with it or not.   Power Quotes From The Show   Fear Of Rejection And Judgement "Porn doesn't judge you and thus the attachment to the sexual experience is one in which the person is completely in control; it's a one-person system. So, if you bring that person to a room where there is another living, breathing human being who has feelings, needs, and preferences, it's like a record scratch." - Greg Woodhill     What Is A 'Pornosexual'? "A pornosexual is not a sexual orientation but someone who would rather be with pornography than a man, woman, both, or neither. Pornography has become their first choice because that is what they're attracted to. It doesn't mean that all of a sudden they're not attracted to real people but it means that when someone sees a person they're attracted to, they have the need to go watch porn." - Greg Woodhill   Porn's Affect On The Brain "When someone becomes so consumed by pornography that it takes their natural drive and funnels it into a place that is solo, secretive, and far less dangerous and scary than walking up to a person and saying, "Hello," so that they can reject you while porn can't, it takes the brain to a level of hyper-stimulation because the amount of dopamine that is created in their brain is far greater than what a real-life encounter can create. I'm not saying porn is better or more exciting, any in-person physicality or romance is far better in every way but as far as dopamine, porn creates a craving so intense that it's all people want instead of trying to finding a way to enrich their life with a real person because they're afraid of rejection." - Greg Woodhill   Our Essence Of Love "We are all born with the essence of love. That's it, that's who we are. You don't need to learn to love or love yourself, you need to allow the love that you were born with and remove the obstacles that are in front of it. One of the biggest obstacles to feeling peace, love, joy, connection, and intimacy with other people, for a lot of people, especially young men, is the fact that porn is their lifeline." - Greg Woodhill     Links From Today's Show Organifi Porn Addiction Stats - Pornography Addiction Statistics, Percentages, Numbers, & Info The Digital Generation These 16 U.S. States Passed Resolutions Recognizing Porn As A Public Health Issue 046 Dr. John Gray 208 Maddy Moon David Deida "Pornography Addiction" in 2017 Pornography Addiction Leads To Same Brain Activity As Alcoholism Or Drug Abuse, Study Shows The great porn experiment | Gary Wilson | TEDxGlasgow 012 Dan Pardi 048 Nir Eyal Sex Expert Webinar Series: Porn Addiction, Toxic Masculinity, and Anger Charles Duhigg Sex Therapy Lecture Series: Greg Woodhill - Porn Addiction: Kryptonite to Intimacy Greg Woodhill: Root Causes Of Porn Addiction And Healing With Real Intimacy Sex and Relationship Healing A Brave New Man Podcast with Greg Woodhill Greg Woodhill, MFT, CSAT LinkedIn Instagram Twitter   About Greg Woodhill Greg Woodhill, MFT, CSAT is a licensed psychotherapist who has spent thousands of hours directly helping sex and porn addicts recover from their addictions. He strongly believes that true psychological and emotional growth can only occur in a safe environment, which he provides for his clients through long-term therapeutic work. He holds a Master’s Degree from the University of Santa Monica, where he developed his personal therapeutic style of empathic listening, exploring early childhood trauma, and encouraging personal responsibility. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and spent 5 years working at the Center For Healthy Sex in Los Angeles under the mentorship of Alexandra Katehakis. He is passionate about the topic of addiction in all shapes and sizes, and he loves working with addicts to help them recover their passion and strength so that they can create true intimacy in their lives.   Join The #WellnessWarrior VIP Club **Click on the photo above to get exclusive discounts on new wellness tools, be first in line for new podcasts, get access to invite-only events, and so much more.**   More Top Episodes 226 Paul Chek: The Revolution Is Coming (3 Part Series) 131 Drew Manning: Emotional Fitness 129 Gretchen Rubin: The Four Tendencies  183 Dr. Kyra Bobinet: Brain Science 196 Aubrey Marcus: Own The Day 103 Robb Wolf: Wired To Eat Best of The Best: The Top 10 Guests From over 200 Shows Get More Wellness In Your Life Join the #WellnessWarrior Community on Facebook Tweet us on Twitter: Send us a tweet Comment on the Facebook page

In this episode Jackie talks with Greg Woodhill about his new podcast  "A Brave New Man" In this episode Jackie and Greg talk about what men and women are getting wrong and what they are getting right. Greg Woodhill is a licensed psychotherapist who has spent thousands of hours directly helping sex and porn addicts recover from their addictions. He strongly believes that true psychological and emotional growth can only occur in a safe environment, which he provides for his clients through long-term therapeutic work. He holds a Master's Degree from the University of Santa Monica, where he developed his personal therapeutic style of empathic listening, exploring early childhood trauma, and encouraging personal responsibility. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist.  

In this episode Jackie talks with Greg Woodhill about his new podcast  "A Brave New Man" In this episode Jackie and Greg talk about what men and women are getting wrong and what they are getting right. Greg Woodhill is a licensed psychotherapist who has spent thousands of hours directly helping sex and porn addicts recover from their addictions. He strongly believes that true psychological and emotional growth can only occur in a safe environment, which he provides for his clients through long-term therapeutic work. He holds a Master's Degree from the University of Santa Monica, where he developed his personal therapeutic style of empathic listening, exploring early childhood trauma, and encouraging personal responsibility. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist.  

In this episode of Behind Closed Doors Dr. Kate & Lauren speak to guest Greg Woodhill about Masculinity.

This week I am doing something different and airing an interview I did on “A Brave New Man” podcast on my podcast.  Listen in as I discuss with my friend, Greg Woodhill, what men are getting right, getting wrong and advice for how to have better relationships and communication.

Episode 244: Greg Woodhill, MFT, CSAT is a licensed psychotherapist who has spent thousands of hours directly helping sex and porn addicts recover from their addictions. He strongly believes that true psychological and emotional growth can only occur in a safe environment, which he provides for his clients through long-term therapeutic work. He holds a Master's Degree from the University of Santa Monica, where he developed his personal therapeutic style of empathic listening, exploring early childhood trauma, and encouraging personal responsibility. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and spent 5 years working at the Center For Healthy Sex in Los Angeles under the mentorship of Alexandra Katehakis. He is passionate about the topic of addiction in all shapes and sizes, and he loves working with addicts to help them recover their passion and strength, so that they can create true intimacy in their lives. Show notes: To get a free 30-day trial of Audible + 1 free book, go here: http://audibletrial.com/mindbodymusings The Feminine Surrender Retreat - learn more on how best friends are formed: https://maddymoon.com/retreat-soul-mates/ How Greg got into this line of work and why he became interested in the profound effects that pornography has on men. The freedom that opens up for men once they start talking about this. Staggering pornography statistics. "It's hard to find a man that doesn't watch porn." Maddy's first experience watching porn. “I take no moral, ethical or religious perspective with porn. I don’t think it’s good or bad.” Porn is made for men by men in general. “I don’t think anyone needs to stop watching porn unless they believe it’s causing problems in their lives.” What it means when Greg says, "The porn is choosing them and they’re sexualizing their pain.” The upsides to porn — how it builds confidence, reduces shame and education, exciting, make you feel, soothing, sexy, fun. The dark side to porn and how it affects our unresolved emotional issues. Why you choose the type of porn that you do? “People gravitate to porn when they’re trying to work through unemotional material from the past.” A question Greg only asks during his therapy sessions: "If we could remove the sexual arousal from this experience, what experiences would you be experiencing?" "They’re porn watching to feel adequate." “Healing is the application of love to the places inside that hurt.” Why do they sexualize this pain instead of using drugs/alcohol for example? The false assumptions around pornography. Most of the time, the partner of a porn addict that doesn’t know that they’re with a porn addict. Erectile dysfunction and low libido are often accompanying effects with porn addicts. What do you do as a partner who is in a relationship with a porn addict? “The partner of a porn addict needs their own hope and healing.” Resources for pornography/sex-related addiction: sexandrelationshiphealing.com   pornaddicthubby.com iitap.com The important structure, boundaries, and guidelines you need as a partner of a porn addict. The importance of weekly check-in sobriety meetings. A reminder: you can set boundaries with love. A Brave New Man Podcast: http://www.gregwoodhill.com/podcast/ Must-read book: Pornland - How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines https://amzn.to/2NWC9zX One of Greg's best purchases ever: There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem by Wayne Dyer https://amzn.to/2tYkajm Connect with Greg:  Website: http://www.gregwoodhill.com/ Instagram for a Brave New Man Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/abravenewmanpod/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/gregwoodhill [Tweet "Has porn hijacked your sexuality? Is it time to reclaim it? #mindbodymusings #podcast"] {RETREAT} The Feminine Surrender: A Weekend Haven for Restoring Trust, Love and Expression is approaching.

Episode 244: Greg Woodhill, MFT, CSAT is a licensed psychotherapist who has spent thousands of hours directly helping sex and porn addicts recover from their addictions. He strongly believes that true psychological and emotional growth can only occur in a safe environment, which he provides for his clients through long-term therapeutic work. He holds a Master's Degree from the University of Santa Monica, where he developed his personal therapeutic style of empathic listening, exploring early childhood trauma, and encouraging personal responsibility. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and spent 5 years working at the Center For Healthy Sex in Los Angeles under the mentorship of Alexandra Katehakis. He is passionate about the topic of addiction in all shapes and sizes, and he loves working with addicts to help them recover their passion and strength, so that they can create true intimacy in their lives. Show notes: To get a free 30-day trial of Audible + 1 free book, go HERE The Feminine Surrender Retreat - learn more HERE on how best friends are formed. How Greg got into this line of work and why he became interested in the profound effects that pornography has on men. The freedom that opens up for men once they start talking about this. Staggering pornography statistics. "It's hard to find a man that doesn't watch porn." Maddy's first experience watching porn. “I take no moral, ethical or religious perspective with porn. I don’t think it’s good or bad.” Porn is made for men by men in general. “I don’t think anyone needs to stop watching porn unless they believe it’s causing problems in their lives.” What it means when Greg says, "The porn is choosing them and they’re sexualizing their pain.” The upsides to porn — how it builds confidence, reduces shame and education, exciting, make you feel, soothing, sexy, fun. The dark side to porn and how it affects our unresolved emotional issues. Why you choose the type of porn that you do? “People gravitate to porn when they’re trying to work through unemotional material from the past.” A question Greg only asks during his therapy sessions: "If we could remove the sexual arousal from this experience, what experiences would you be experiencing?" "They’re porn watching to feel adequate." “Healing is the application of love to the places inside that hurt.” Why do they sexualize this pain instead of using drugs/alcohol for example? The false assumptions around pornography. Most of the time, the partner of a porn addict that doesn’t know that they’re with a porn addict. Erectile dysfunction and low libido are often accompanying effects with porn addicts. What do you do as a partner who is in a relationship with a porn addict? “The partner of a porn addict needs their own hope and healing.” Resources for pornography/sex-related addiction: sexandrelationshiphealing.com   pornaddicthubby.com iitap.com The important structure, boundaries, and guidelines you need as a partner of a porn addict. The importance of weekly check-in sobriety meetings. A reminder: you can set boundaries with love. A Brave New Man Podcast Must-read book: Pornland - How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines One of Greg's best purchases ever: There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem by Wayne Dyer Connect with Greg:  Website Twitter

Do you want to be a better man? Are you a man or woman who wants to have a better relationship with your man? Then follow along with Greg Woodhill as he interviews experts and non-experts on masculinity, love and connection. Topics range from cheating & infidelity, to the Me Too movement, porn addiction and happy relationships. In this trailer, we share a clip of a future interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, discussing eroticized anger and how people express their feelings in unhealthy ways.

Trying to decide what intervention may offer you the best bang for your buck can be tough. You may have wondered whether an intensive program can help and may feel confused about all your options. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Greg Woodhill, MFT, CSAT who will talking about the value of doing intensives. He works for The Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, CA which offers customized Intensive Out-Patient Programs for males, females, and partners. The  intensive for male and female sex addicts is an eleven-day program which  deliberately limits to no more than four people. This insures that each person gets quality care and attention and leaves the program with sound recovery skills and a felt sense of the issues they need to continue working on when they return to your care. It  also offers a one-week program for partners  that customize to their needs. Greg explains, "The Task Centered Approach remains the cornerstone of our work but all of our clinicians take a psychobiological approach to treatment. We work with the clients regulatory capacities from the beginning of treatment, engaging them in very gentle trauma work. The client's regulatory capacities inform how far we can work into the affective system while keeping them on track with their recovery." Listen to this show if you want clarification as to whether you or your partner need this level of care.