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On Today's show, I'm joined by Amanda Waldron and Jill Richardson. Amanda is a Clinical Social Worker and works as a therapist in Grand Rapids, MI.  She's just launched a new venture called Hey Amanda! where she will be mentoring thoughtful Christian in the midst of doubt and deconstruction, who want to toss toxic teachings, retain the authentic parts of their faith, and discover a deeper way to believe in Jesus. Instagram: heyamandawaldronTwitter: heyamandawalJill pastors Real Hope Community Church in suburban Chicago. Her doctorate is in Church Leadership in a Changing Context, with a focus on the next generation and preaching. Her tagline is “Reframed: Picturing Faith what the Next Generation,” and her passion is to work with the next generation to create a healthy church for the 21st century. She's written or contributed to 6 books, and her latest work is on how interactive preaching can better disciple people. She likes to travel, garden, work with refugees, and break into random musical numbers. She nerds out on Tolkien, tea, and animals of all kinds except spiders.Twitter: @JillMarieRicharInsta: @bluehairedpreacherladyThe three of us get together to talk about the sins of church and state (and their redemption), the mob mentality and manipulation, and where does Mark really end and why?If you enjoyed our discussion, I'd love if you would rate + review on your favorite podcast player. This helps more people to find the show and learn with us. Then come on over to social media and let's talk about it! You can find me on Instagram @kateboyd.co and on Twitter @thekateboyd. And don't forget to check the show notes to find and follow today's contributors as well. Thank YOU for joining us, and I'll see you next time.If you find yourself in the messy middle as a Christian, you're not alone, and I'd love to help. I've created the Untidy Faith newsletter just for you. Together, we'll navigate the many tensions of the Christian life and in the process find ourselves wandering closer to the Way of Jesus. When you sign up, you'll get a printable version of the Messy Middle Christian manifesto to your inbox today and first access to more Untidy Faith resources as they come out. You can sign up today at kateboyd.co/newsletter

Joanne Williams interviews, Amanda Waldron, LCSW, she tells her story of a life experience that shook her faith and now helps her clients as a Licensed MH professional.  She's launching a new venture called Hey Amanda!  A mentoring program, where anyone can come by video chat who is having doubts about their beliefs in their Christian faith to be listened to and supported. Amanda is a Clinical Social Worker, that works in Grand Rapids, MI where she supports clients around anxiety in life transitions, and distressing life events as a therapist. She shares what she has learned on her journey to Make this process easier for others. 3 ways to Shift Shame to Self-compassion: Identify consciously what you are feelings. Guilt is a gateway to shame in her body, that can move into depression is you are not aware of it. Patterns of thinking that keep unhealthy thoughts Shifting to nonjudgement to self-compassion Self-compassion gives you options to make kinder choices of self-acceptance. Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) gave her Ideas of how to change her thoughts affecting how she feels. She offers a quiz of the unhealthy thinking style with recommendation.at Heyamandawaldron.com This is by no means a replacement for therapy of any medical attention if you need it.  Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911. Remember to Share the Love. Remember to practice the skills we shared today to feel more joys in your life. Video of Podcast at anxietysimplified.net  Find out how to get an Emotional Support animal for housing or a Certified Psychiatric Service dog to go anywhere with to feel the calm at ESAPros.com

Hey, Amanda Marcotte! Will TimesUP & MSM Cover the Tara Reade/Joe Biden Scandal Now that She Has Legal Counsel? Howell Underground on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_ALrQNOIs04v_7y6yTAY6g/videos #MeToo #MeTooUnlessItsBiden #BelieveWomen #IBelieveTaraReade Yes! I Pledge to #BernTheDNC https://www.bernthednc.org Biden accuser Tara Reade files criminal complaint over 1993 allegation https://www.businessinsider.com/former-biden-staffer-tara-reade-files-sexual-assault-complaint-2020-4 Amanda Marcotte - Salon - A woman accuses Joe Biden of sexual assault, and all hell breaks loose online https://www.salon.com/2020/03/31/a-woman-accuses-joe-biden-of-sexual-assault-and-all-hell-breaks-loose-online-heres-what-we-know Krystal Ball takes apart feminist smears of Joe Biden accuser https://youtu.be/WkuAF2B5o8M There Can Be No Viable Progressive Movement Without Labor Strikes . . . https://medium.com/@allenkithowell/there-can-be-no-viable-progressive-movement-without-labor-strikes-fff299c4bee5 Vote for Bernie in the Primaries https://voteforbernie.org/ Howell Underground FaceBook Page https://www.facebook.com/Howell-Underground-103101477733312/ Revolt Against Plutocracy donation to help spread the word. https://secure.actblue.com/donate/bernieorbust2020 Buy the Book! http://bernieorbust.info Contact me directly: https://www.facebook.com/allen.kit.howell --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/allen-c-howell/support

On this episode of The Chalene Show, you’re in for a real treat as Chalene chats with, fellow podcaster, Lori Harder (Earn Your Happy Podcast). This conversation was an additional piece from their recent interview on Lori’s podcast and, because the topic is one they’re both super passionate about, we included it for you here! What's the ever intriguing subject? Communication! Look, how you communicate with others will determine how they perceive and receive you. And, not to mention, has the ability to make or break any type of relationship. Get ready for an enlightening dialogue that feels much more like a good talk between friends than an interview!   Thank you to our sponsor Fabletics!!!  Links from today’s episode:   Learn more about at LoriHarder.com Listen to Lori’s podcast Earn Your Happy Check Lori’s book A Tribe Called Bliss The New Queen Bee Journals are here but in Limited numbers!! Be sure to order yours quick before they sell out www.pushjournal.com Be sure to check out the new and Improved Courageous Confidence Club Sign up for the Free 10 Day Sugar Challenge and kick the sugar cravings!!! Leave Chalene a Voicemail review HERE if yours is played on air Chalene will send you a gift!! Hey Amanda!!!! Email me at kristin@chalenejohnson.com     Stop dieting & start living: www.131Method.com Get the 131 Book!!!   Here’s The System I Use Every Day to be More Organized & Crazy Productive: www.pushjournal.com   Sign Up For MY WEEKLY NEWSLETTER and you'll get FREE tips on how to live a ridiculously amazing fun-filled life!   Be sure you are subscribed to this podcast to automatically receive your episodes!!!    Subscribe to Build Your Tribe!!!      Join our NEW, awesome PodSquad on Facebook here!   Get episode show notes here: www.chalenejohnson.com/podcast    Connect with me on your fav social platform: SnapChat: ChaleneOfficial    Facebook: www.Facebook.com/Chalene      Instagram: www.Instagram.com/ChaleneJohnson    Twitter: www.Twitter.com/ChaleneJohnson TikTok: @chaleneOfficial Hey! Send me a tweet & tell me what you think about the show! (Use the Hashtag) #TheChaleneShow so I know you’re a homie! XOXO Chalene

Hey Amanda, it's my girlfriend's birthday coming up. Would you mind helping me pick out a perfume for her? 嘿，Amanda，我女朋友的生日快到了。你能帮我挑一瓶香水给她吗？ Sure, Tony. Do you have a brand in mind? 当然可以啦Tony。你有中意的品牌吗？ Uh… not really. 额...没有。 Ok, most women like either floral or fruity scents. But some prefer musky or spicy ones. What's her personality like? 好吧。大多数女生都喜欢花香或果香。但也有人喜欢麝香或辛辣的香型。她的性格是什么样的？ She's really fun and energetic. 风趣幽默、充满活力。 Then a citrus scent might be nice for her. They smell like oranges. 那柑橘类果味应该适合她，闻起来像橘子味道一样。 That would totally suit her. 那肯定适合...

Amanda and Jenn discuss distracting reads, international parenting advice, Austen read-alikes, and more in this week’s episode of Get Booked. This episode is sponsored by Libro.fm, The Lightest Object in the Universe by Kimi Eisele, and Stubborn Archivist by Yara Rodrigues Fowler. Subscribe to the podcast via RSS, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. FEEDBACK Sex With Shakespeare by Jillian Keenan (rec’d by Miranda) Disunity in Christ by Christena Cleveland (rec’d by Jessica) Oral History by Lee Smith (rec’d by Jena) QUESTIONS 1. Hey Amanda and Jen, I will be traveling to Iran this year and would love any book recommendations, either fiction or non fiction set in the country. I really enjoyed Persepolis but no comic books, please. Thank you in advance! -Luiza 2. My mom has not read a book in over 20 years because her job is bananas. The only things she reads are ‘the journal of accountancy’ because it’s related to her job and ‘TIME’ magazine (for fun but I’m pretty sure she only looks at the pictures). SHE REALLY NEEDS HELP. She will be retiring in the next year and she has mentioned that she wants to try to read for fun now that she has more time. Myself, my brother, and her two retired sisters (my aunts) are all voracious readers and I think she feels a bit left out. She currently watches a lot of TV (easy when she’s tired from work). She watches things like ‘this is us’, ‘Life in Pieces’, and the hallmark channel. Could you help recommend some books that might help transition her from a tv couch potato to a book couch potato? She has stopped watching procedurals (CSI, Criminal Minds, etc) because apparently now they ‘scare’ her, so maybe try to avoid gorey murder-y type stuff. P.S. you have affirmative consent to use my name

Katrina Ruth: Scary? Why is it scary? I thought I looked mystical and fabulous, like a fairy in the garden, in the night. Katrina Ruth: Hi Melanie. Hi Megan. Melanie, who says I look scary. Hey Sarah. Hey Kelly. There's many things that we could discuss. It's quite likely that we'll discuss none of them. Katrina Ruth: Hey Mandy. You're such a breath of fresh air on my newsfeed, all the time. I just want to let you know that. You're always so positive and uplifting. Quite commonly, I unfollow people left, right, and centre on my newsfeed just for being fricking boring, or annoying, or I don't know. I unfollow people. Do you guys do this? I unfollow people. Hey Claire. Hey, hey to everybody whose names I didn't see. Hi Brittany. You know, sometimes it doesn't tell me that you jumped on, so if you feel like I said hello to everybody else and then not to you, I'm not trying to blank you out. It just randomly tells me some people and not other people. Katrina Ruth: What was I saying? Do you unfollow people for being annoying? Why would you not? Or do you just let them be annoying on your newsfeed and then kind of be like, “Ugh. You're annoying,” but then you keep them there? I unfollow people Hang on, let me share this over to my group. Hello from the mystical gardens of Bali. That's where I'm at if you didn't know. I will unfollow a bitch. What's the male version of a bitch or is it a bitch as well? I don't know. Shanshera, I'm sending you love and a shout out cause I didn't know what was going on with you and I saw that on my feed not too long ago, a day or two ago. Katrina Ruth: You've been MIA on my feed. Sometimes people just go missing in action on my feed. It doesn't mean I unfollowed them, they just went missing in action. But I will unfollow a bitch or, I was going to say bitchette, but that's kind of the female version, as well. What's the male version of a bitch, Christine? Still a bitch? Christine says still a bitch. She's the expert. Appointed just then, by me. Katrina Ruth: I will unfollow somebody for putting some bullshit post up. I would try and give you an example except I unfollowed all the examples that I already saw this evening. Let me see if I can find my ... No I can't go reading their post. What if the person was on here? I don't know. You know, people put up like kind of “Woe is me" ... not woe is me. What's the word? I'm going to call it a hoity-toity post. Kind of vague. A hoity-toity post is something like, "Did you know that blah, blah, blah, blah blah?" I don't know. I've got no good examples but I saw one earlier today. I was like, "You know what? I'm done with your boringness on Facebook, person" and I unfollowed them. Cause what I want to see on my Facebook, what I want to see, what I want to see is value. Value. Value, which could be entertainment. It could be randomness and shenanigans. It could be something raw and real. Here's what I don't care for. Katrina Ruth: People try to be raw and real. You can tell when somebody's written a post ... I definitely want to see bleeding mother fucking purpose, Christine ... You can tell when somebody's written a post where they're like, "Now I'm going to be raw and vulnerable, and I'm going to share my struggle, and then people will know that I have a bleeding heart, and here is this special bleeding heart that I packaged up for you, to present to the world as a bleeding heart. So that you know that I'm raw, and vulnerable, and real." And I'm like, "No, bitch. You just wrote some shit up that you hoped would get engagement, and we can all tell, and it's embarrassing for you." Katrina Ruth: So then I unfollow them. Why were we talking about that? Why did we start talking about that, what was it? I don't know, but I nearly didn't go live cause I sat here, I stared at myself for some minutes ... Which is a confession that I do pretty frequently ... I put the livestream on. I was like, "Will we do this thing? Yes or no? No or yes?" I felt that I have nothing of interest to say to anybody. But then I reminded myself that, that's often when the best live streams happen. I did want to talk about what I said the topic was ... Let me refer back to it ... because one of my clients had asked me on a Voxer, which I answered, not so long ago. Something around she notices she's becoming an influential leader and building a following. Of course, cause that's what my clients do. Katrina Ruth: I was asked if I unfollow people, or did I initiate that conversation? I felt like I jumped in there. Did I ask myself? Was it higher self Katrina asking current less conscious Katrina? I like it when people make jokes about conscious versus unconscious, because is anybody actually unconscious, then they're dead? But at the same time, I love to be surrounded by conscious, hot as fuck, sexy people. I started talking about it because he said, ... Oh right it was all about Mandy, that is right. Thank you Mandy. Katrina Ruth: Because, you go through Facebook, and when I'm putting my kids to bed is a time when they're drifting off to sleep and I'm still in the bed with them, that's kind of the key time of day I would say when I do a bit of Facebook scrolling. I tend to avoid doing it otherwise cause it's a ghastly, ghastly fricking quick sand of a rabbit hole to fall down, if you're not careful. If you're not careful, your whole life will fall down the rabbit hole of Facebook. And I was on there earlier tonight, when I was putting ... I was like, "This is so much bullshit." Which was very judgemental of me and judge not lest you be judged, so judge me all you like, judge away. Katrina Ruth: You could judge my greasy hair, it's quite interesting what's going on up in there. You could judge that I do have no bra on, that's true. You could judge whatever you like. You could judge the fact that you could stay on here for an entire hour, and it's pretty unlikely that I'll ever get to the point, but it will probably be amazing. You can judge whatever you want, cause it's true, I do judge from time to time. But then I saw Mandy saying something about something. I don't remember what it was. I'm going to go look it up now. Katrina Ruth: I was like, "Well at least Mandy's always very positive and uplifting on my newsfeed." Is it too dark and pixelated for everybody or just for Rachel? Let me turn up my screen on my computer. No, it's already all the way up. Too bad, you're going to have to deal with it, but it looks good on my screen. Mandy has a brightly coloured question here on her page, which I found to be delightful. That was basically the entire story. Odd to see that my hair is greasy. Well that's probably better for everyone. That's fine. That is totally fine. Katrina Ruth: It doesn't matter anyway, it's Bali. There's no need to wash, or get dressed in Bali. You can just walk around looking as you will, like a vegan hippie who eats a lot of meat. That's me, I'm a vegan hippie who eats a lot of meat. I love a good vegetarian diet with steak added. All right, I'm going to try and get on point, cause it's actually a really good point. So, I was talking to my client, I was replying on Voxer, and she's noticed that she's becoming an influential leader, of course because that's what happens with all my clients. Katrina Ruth: She said, "Now the only next thing to figure out is how to monetize that". And I was like, ... well, well, I gave her an answer relevant to her particular situation and examples from her life. So, that won't necessarily apply for everybody, but essentially I was like, "Well, because you just fucking decide to." As soon ... Everybody loves a good vegetarian diet with steak added, it's the healthiest thing for you. Now I'm going to lose a hundred vegan followers. Do I have a hundred vegan followers? Don't worry, I have vegan friends. It's not unheard of. Katrina Ruth: Say what you will. I just said, "Judge not lest you not be judged." I just called it in. That was probably a foolish mistake. So, have you ever noticed that those people who have like two hundred thousand followers on their fan page, or I don't know if you know people, but I know a few people who have a couple a hundred thousand people on their email lists, or even more. I'm gonna let you in on something which may not have occurred to you, and then I'm going to tell you the fastest way to make all the monies that you want to make. Katrina Ruth: There's people have a massive fucking following who make no money at all. So, if you have some kind of idea in your head, ... or they make a small amount of money, that seems like a lot smaller than what it really fucking should be for the size of their following, in my opinion. And I've seen many people at that. Good examples often, comedians and entertainers who have really funny Facebook pages, but they clearly know nothing about monetization or marketing, and it's a very sad thing. But I've seen it with entrepreneurs as well, have massive followings and they just, I don't know, they must be going for a numbers game, quantity over quality or something. I can't be bothered talking about that cause it's just not interesting. Katrina Ruth: But, because why would you do that, it'd just be weird? My point is, or my ... I'm already bored with myself. I get so bored with myself when I try to stay on topic. I'm like "What is this? Am I trying to teach a fucking university lecture here? Do I need a slide show? Should I've made some fricking notes?" Somebody once told me that they make notes before they do a livestream. I felt like I needed to pray for them. Does anybody here make notes before they do a livestream? Katrina Ruth: Do you make notes before you go to lunch with a friend? Do you make notes before you go on a date? Do you make notes before you go for coffee? Do you make notes before you sit down and have a conversation with your children? Because if you make notes in those situations, there's many things that I could say about that, which I choose not to, but I probably would walk away backwards from you slowly if I saw you in person. But if you make ... in case I caught it, nothing against you, just in case it was contagious, but if you make notes when you're going into lunch or coffee or a date, then you probably should make notes before you go on to a livestream, since that's your way of being. Katrina Ruth: How do I stop going off on a tangent? I am definitely not the person to ask that of. Rosie asked me "How do I stop going off on a tangent?" Do you guys realise that so many of my clients say to me, or so many random people as well, not just clients, will say to me "Imagine you made notes on a date. Imagine then you got caught with the notes. Maybe you called in the right person and they wanted you to make notes, maybe they wanted a slide show, maybe they wanted a PowerPoint presentation." That's it, next time if I ever go on a date I'm gonna make a PowerPoint presentation, I'm gonna pull it out, I'm gonna say "Here's all the ways that I'm fabulous and entertaining" cause that's basically what you're fucking doing if you're making notes for livestream. Just saying, all right? Katrina Ruth: On the odd occasion of my notes, I completely ignored them. Well, one should definitely only make notes for the purposes of ignoring them, whether they're mental notes or bullet points on a Post-It. Technically, I did make a note, I made one note, which was the topic title of the livestream, in fact, I'm sorry. I should pay some kind of penance because obviously I'm making fun of people for making notes, but I always make a note, I make one note. I make the title of the livestream and then I typically forget it by about ten minutes in and have to ask what it was. Katrina Ruth: So people will often say to me "Kat, I'm just so rambly all the time, I don't ever get my point across to people, and I don't feel like I'm making any sense or being clear." And then they say to me "You're so clear and concise" or something like that. I'm like "Aaaaah, have you heard me? Are you talking to the wrong person?" I go off onto seven thousand tangents. "Yeah, I still go off on a tangent even when I've made notes" says Rachel. Katrina Ruth: Well, I'm gonna admit that back in the day, I'm not sure which day it was cause I don't keep notes on the day, but back in the day, one day, once upon a time, many, many moons ago, I would make notes when I did presentations of any kind, and then I would typically ignore them or forget them. Or, alternatively, probably give the most boring fucking seminar/workshop or whatever it was in the history of the world cause I was looking at my notes instead of looking at my soul. You have a choice in life which is that you can look at your notes or you can look at your soul. Katrina Ruth: Okay, let me just clarify the topic of the livestream, it was something about just cause you have a following you're not gonna make money. Well, the whole answer to that is just fucking decide to make money, okay? That's actually the answer to all of it. There's nothing more that can be said about it. But if you wanted more detail on it, I suppose you could join me in Rich Hot Empire, and then I teach you all the things, but I don't want to talk about it right now. You can message me about that, and I'll give you the overview of how it works. Katrina Ruth: Rich Hot Empire, six weeks one-on-one with me, it starts next Monday. It's actually very fucking structured, despite all the fun that I poke at structure. It's structured purely, purely so that you can take the structure and throw it off the penthouse balcony; which is where I'm at right now, in my Bali Airbnb penthouse. They call it a penthouse, so I think they're just trying to market it because actually you went up one flight of stairs, so it's technically one level above ground, but it says penthouse on the front door. I'm like "Hmm. I feel like this is an interesting appropriation of the word penthouse, but I'll go with it". Katrina Ruth: So when I was a kid my dad had a book called Nonsense Omnibus, it was a very hilarious book. Nonsense Omnibus, and in it had the recipe to make a nonsense omnibus cake. Let's see if we can find it, it was hilarious. Nonsense omnibus cake. This is going to be important. This is what you should do with notes, let me read this recipe to you. I can't believe I just found it. Did I find it? No, that's bullshit. They're just making shit up, hang on, let me try one more time. Edward Lear's Nonsense Omnibus. Okay, so basically you made the cake and then once you've made ... it would be more funny if I could find the actual recipe. Katrina Ruth: Does anyone know it? Is anyone's family as odd as mine? Then once you've finished making the cake, and it had all these really specific instructions about how to make the cake and then at the end it said "And promptly throw it out the window". And I don't remember why, but it was definitely hilarious as a child. That's pretty much what notes are for, you should make all the notes, you should make a PowerPoint presentation about the notes and of the notes, you should definitely put some pie charts in there. People love pie charts, for sure. If I could procure one right away, I would, but I have a bottle of Bordeaux, similar, same type. Katrina Ruth: And then you should make all of the notes, with the pie charts, and with some graphs in there, and then right as you're going in ready to present, you should throw it somewhere, quickly. Then maybe burn it, as well, just in case you get some sort of scarcity mindset and think that you need it back. That's what notes are for. To say it again, if you are the kind of person who likes to make notes before you like to go to coffee with a friend or on a date with a person, certainly you could make notes for livestream. Otherwise, I feel like you could just turn on the camera and have a conversation. I mean, I'm sure nobody ever built a fucking business based on conversation and communication, imagine that sort of horrific idea. It would be bizarre, it would be next level bizarre. Katrina Ruth: Imagine if anybody ever thought that they could build a business by communicating with people and listening to them, and engaging in like a real, sort of normal, human person, everyday fashion. Imagine if some moron thought they could build a business without 26 pre-written sales emails, and a Facebook ad. I don't know what people are thinking out there in the world. It's similar to if you want to make new friends, which is another topic that I was discussing with a client earlier this evening. She said maybe we could start like a, in the email client group, that they could start some group threads or conversations, I don't know, an accountability thread. Katrina Ruth: What's up, savage? John's just in there, he's like, straight in, commenting calling me a savage. I'll go with it, thank you. Okay, so I see this happen a lot right? I'm gonna call you guys out on this. If you join my client groups on my programme, my high ticket programme, whatever you do, and then you go "Let's all make an accountability thread so that we all have to check in with each other once a week and that way we can all become friends or something" I just want to remind you that in a normal friendship, a real friendship that's a genuine friendship, ... I like the savage part of me too ... you don't typically say "We're going to have an accountability thread in a friendship and we must check in with each other once a week". Katrina Ruth: You're definitely not the first person. I've seen it happen repeatedly. It always happens, and then people tell me about it. "We made an accountability thread" and I'm like "Cool." I don't care, do whatever you want, but that's not actually how friendship works, right? And it never lasts, they never last, and then typically people start messaging me and they're going like "Oh, I feel like I want to quit the accountability thread but I feel bad" basically. I get those messages a lot, cause it's kinda becomes like a chore. Imagine you had a friend who said to you that you've got to check in and give them an accountability update every Tuesday or any sort of timeframe, and that you would have an accountability friendship thread. I'm just saying. Katrina Ruth: The best way to do it is to act like it's already real, and actually that brings us right back to the topic at hand, right back to the topic at hand. Yes! Sometimes we go back there. So the best way to do it, the best way to make money from being a leader, let's say you already have some sort of influence, you might have an influence over four people, or four hundred people, or four hundred thousand people, well done. Maybe, you're fricking hilarious, and you've got millions of people following you already, and you don't know how to make money from it. Maybe you have done some sort of something and you've somehow managed to get people into your list by giving them free PDFs, that definitely does it, always give free PDFs, people love to get a free PDF. Give it to them, they will join your list for sure. Katrina Ruth: If you got into the fricking DeLorean and went back to 1989, I would say that definitely join your list for sure. Now, you're welcome to test it out. But maybe, maybe, maybe you did build the list in 1989 and you still haven't figured out how to monetize the fuck out of it. The point is, you just act like it's already done. Same as with making friends. If you want to make new friends on the internet, and who doesn't, it's a gross place to meet weird and interesting people, then you should act like you're already friends with them because people do like friendly people, it's a true fact. Katrina Ruth: People like to have new friends approaching them, they genuinely do, I'm not even trying, it sounds like I'm being a smart-ass for some reason, but I'm not. Everybody's out there ... I think it's just because it's my nature ... but everybody's out there wanting new friends, for sure, entrepreneur friends. How many people don't want new friends? If they're total badasses, like none of us want flaky friends who talk about PDFs and think that you've got to make notes before you can go to coffee together. Katrina Ruth: I don't have that many friends myself, but I'm always open for amazing new friends, and I'm growing my friendship base all the time. Maybe I've hundreds of friends at this stage, I don't know. A few years ago, I had no friends at all, or I only had several that I'd kept leftover from my previous life, and how I made new friends was I fucking decided to turn [inaudible 00:21:37] in my journal. Now, if you want new friends, if you want badass, entrepreneurial friends, which I would say that 99.99% of people here would desire that for sure because it's pretty normal to feel quite alone, kind of lost in the wilderness, not this particular wilderness necessarily. If you were lost here you'd have me and a bottle of bordeaux, you'd be totally fine. Katrina Ruth: There's a spire over there too, so we'd have the best time ever. Anyway, I think I might have made my point. There's nothing else I need to say about it, but it's the same with making money online. If you ... exactly, Kellie wants more friends ... everybody wants more friends, but don't all of you go friending each other off on the comments thread by offering an accountability for it thread. That's not how friendships work, you guys, you can offer a shenanigans thread, I've seen that done very successfully, and somewhat disturbingly. Don't offer an accountability thread for your friendships. Nobody wants that, I don't know why that became a thing on the internet. Katrina Ruth: I don't think people even want that from their coach. Do you want me to give you an accountability thread? Cause I give you a kind of shenanigans thread, which is my private client message channel and then you can say, you can ask for things for accountability there, as an official, but I don't think anyone wants me fricking knocking on their soul door every Tuesday morning asking for a check in. Your vibe attracts your tribe. Hey Amanda. Great advice about the PDF. I'm full of great advice about PDFs. I've many things I could say about PDFs, I've many PDFs, also. I've made many PDFs. Katrina Ruth: What is that? Accountability thread is when I run a programme, like even Rich Hot Empire which is my six week, one-on-one which starts, again for, open until next Monday. And it's fucking amazing, and people form connections, but they're not necessarily create like a real friendship in six weeks, but they obviously see that they're aligned and the same sort of person and then people want to keep in communication with the other people in the group and they want to make friends. And so then some bright spark says "Let's all do an ongoing group thread together so that we can all stay in touch with each other and be accountable" and the words be accountable are where you just moved out of the friend zone and into some kind of ... I don't know what zone that is because it's not being a mentor because, to be perfectly frank with you, people don't want a mentor with the people that they see as being on the same level with them as friends. Katrina Ruth: Even though, of course, we all coach our friends in some way, cause we're mainly fricking coaches of some form, so that's fine, that's normal, but you know what I mean? Like, delete the word accountability, if the intention is friendship. If the intention is accountability, well, good fucking luck with that, cause I'm gonna let you know most people just don't want accountability. What do I think about accountability? Well, pretty much what I just said. I think that people think that they should want it, but in the end, who wants to answer to anybody. Well, if you did, I'm gonna tell you there's a name for you, and it's called non-entrepreneur. Katrina Ruth: That is largely the problem with accountability threads. So now that we've cleared that up, the money making thing. How do you make money as an influential leader. If you have a following of four people or four hundred or four hundred thousand or four million. Well, it's actually going to happen because you decide that you're going to make money from it. It's not gonna happen because you build a fucking funnel, it is not gonna happen because you make a fabulous offer, it is not gonna happen because you made the best PDF in the history of PDFs and you gave it to your people for free ... they're gonna love you for that. They do love the free PDFs, the people, they don't really care what's on it, it's just the word free with the word PDF, people get very excited about it. You're gonna build your email list like that, hopefully nobody thinks I'm fucking serious right now. Katrina Ruth: People are looking at me like "Okay, must make a PDF, doesn't matter what's on it, Kat said so". Nontrepreneur. Exactly, a nontrepreneur. A person who legitimately wants accountability as opposed to a person who just thinks that they want accountability cause they think they should, person who actually wants accountability is called a nontrepreneur, and you should hire them to work for you in your business as your assistant. You should not try and be accountable because if it works then you have a problem which is you're a nontrepreneur. Katrina Ruth: How've we never thought of the word nontrepreneur before? People love free. People freaking hate free. The wrong people love free. Who wants a free PDF? I would unsubscribe forthwith if somebody sent me a free PDF. As if, I have no tonal inclination to be clicking on downloads in my Gmails. In my Gmails, sounds like my underwear. If you want to send me something in my Gmails, paste it into the email so that I don't have to open any fucking stuff up. I will not open stuff, not even from my own staff, I make them send it to me in a pretty format in WhatsApp, so that it looks visually attractive. I make them put it into something that's visually sexy, like literally, my weekly report that I get that I largely don't look at, but it's called Katrina Ruth's Sexy Stats and it has pie charts, for sure, and it has definitely some pretty graphics on it, which I look at and I go "Ah, looks pretty. I guess we made a lot of money" and then I ignore it. Katrina Ruth: No, I do look at it, kinda briefly. So, the making money thing, did we cover it already, do you feel like we've covered it? Do you have questions about the making money thing? Because honestly it's a very serious topic that's very serious and important which makes it hard to talk about cause I'm not so good with the serious at the moment, I've noticed. But it is a serious topic, people do tend to assume that if they have this following, they're gonna automatically make money, but then there's many people out there in the land of the internet who have a big following, or a reasonable following, and they're not making any money at all because nobody ever fucking told them that if you want to make money you gotta ask people to pay you money. That might just blow your mind, right then and there. Katrina Ruth: Actually, it took me like two or three years of marketing online back in 2006 before I came to terms with the fact that I wasn't making any money online and that it was largely a result of the fact that I hadn't been asking people to pay me, and it was kinda like "Hmm. Probably should've thought of that". I think for a lot of people here if you're not making the money you want to be making, at some point you might want to check in on how much fucking sales activity you're doing, how much promotion you're doing, how much you're putting yourself out there and actually telling people to buy from you, and it might be a little bit of a case of "Well, if you make more money, you may, in fact, have to be selling more often". And maybe you should just chose that that is a daily part of your business. Katrina Ruth: And honestly it's about getting over it, right? Guess we're going to go into preacher mode, I'm warning you, I'm just letting you know. I can feel it coming through me like a flood, like a Bali sweat flood. I think that people think that the people who are making a fat load of money online, such as myself, and a load of my friends and clients, I think that maybe people think, and maybe you think, that we just kind of always got the confidence game going or always know what to say. Even one of my clients did say to me tonight "Do you ever not know what to say? I'm sure that never happens to you Kat" or that we always are like just waking up like ready to sell. Katrina Ruth: What you might not realise, is it's not actually true. I did not feel particularly inclined to press "go live" on this livestream tonight. I didn't want to go to bed though, and it's, what time is it? It's midnight right now, midnight oh five. I was sleeping for like two hours in the car today, I was on a road trip back from the jungle and, you know when you're in that zombie state, where you're not quite asleep, but you're not awake, and your head keeps lolling down and you're definitely probably snoring in the car? I was doing that for an hour and a half. I was like "Am I awake? Am I asleep? There's a temple, there's a cow, there's a goat. I was asleep. I'm awake", it was kinda like those ones for a couple of hours so, long story short, I'm not tired right now at midnight. Katrina Ruth: But, so I didn't want to go to bed, I did all my stuff, I emptied my inbox down to no new email, two motherfuckers have already emailed me again since I emptied my Gmail. One of them was me cause I send myself a load of email notifications for my coder. The other one was Tim Ferriss, I don't mind Tim emailing me but I'm gonna delete him. Now my email's empty again, as of right now, this moment. I've already answered all my clients, I've done everything that I wanted to do today, which was roughly a full 75 minutes of work, so it was somewhat arduous day. And, basically that's the whole story of running a multi-seven figure business at this point in time, which is exactly what I'm going to teach you in Rich Hot Empire so you definitely should fucking message me about Rich Hot Empire. Katrina Ruth: By the way, I'll give you a comment about it because I haven't told you much about it. [inaudible 00:30:51] video break down is the title of my file that I need here. Right, so I was like "well, if I don't go to bed right now, what am I gonna do? I'm gonna sit around and probably read Facebook and then unfollow a bunch of people cause, I kind of, I don't know, you know when you feel like "I'm really good, I've really done everything that I desire to do for today, I feel like in a flow and at peace with the world and myself and life". And I'm not going to go to sleep though, so long story short, here I am. I decided, well, I will livestream because I'm not a selfish person even though I can appear to be that way at times ... there's a comment for you, it's a pinch now, you can read it later, it's all about Rich Hot Empire. I might refer to it later. Katrina Ruth: Work with me six weeks personally, to grow your perfect cult tribe, perfect cult tribe, like this one right here that's happening on this livestream, create and launch your Low through to High End Empire and set up multiple recurring incomes streams to take you to seven figures and beyond doing what you love. And there's a little break down there in the comments. So read that, that is my six week one-on-one, it is super fucking badass. I would love to talk with you about whether that's for you. You can private message me over on my personal page, Katrina Ruth, and I will get you all the details. Katrina Ruth: Anyway, so I decided to livestream. However, I really didn't feel any message or power coming from me. You gotta understand this, you've got to understand this cause I know that people look at how I do business online and that people want to learn from me or find a way to emulate, you know, in their own way, what I'm doing and how I make my money, and people know I make a lot of money and people also know that I live a really cool lifestyle and I just really honestly do what I want. And that I've reached that entrepreneur holy grail where I have put the work in over the years, and I've been marketing online for years, and so now, it's kinda like "Well, I make money doing what I love and I do what I want, and ease fricking flow and ease" and I teach other people how to do that, aka Rich Hot Empire, right? Katrina Ruth: But, a lot of times people are missing out, or just not aware of, or maybe even kinda don't believe me, I think on the fact that, that doesn't mean that it just comes like automatically all of the time. I guess it comes automatically in the sense that I'm committed to being this person and it's a conscious thing that I choose into on a daily basis. But at the same time, I don't really think about it, like it's just very natural that my mind or my heart or my soul or the voices in my head would say to me "Well, if you're not tired, then what does a normal person do at midnight?" Obviously what a normal person does at midnight is [inaudible 00:33:30], it's perfectly natural, like legitimately in my world, I'm not even trying to be funny, right? Katrina Ruth: So, that's normal that it comes up inside me, like "Well, okay, if you've kinda done everything and there's nothing you really feel called to do, well, obviously we'll do a livestream, right?" But that doesn't mean that I feel inspired to do it necessarily or that I have content that feels like it's coming out and also for whatever reason I felt like a little bit clunky in my head. You know, when you feel a bit clunky in your head? Katrina Ruth: Because I didn't do much of anything all day, I had a real like chilled out rest day, I was staying out in the jungle last night with one of my amazing self-made millionaire clients, Amanda Frances, and another amazing self-made, all the badass things clients, I'm just gonna list off like twenty things at once, Katy Henry, and we stayed there overnight last night. Me and my kids and my nanny, and just had a super fun night and a sleepover, and then built a floating yoga studio in the swimming pool this morning. Got so many Instagram stories, you can go watch it. It was very funny. Katrina Ruth: And then, you see, it's like a three hour drive back from there to where I'm at here in Bali. And so really, I didn't do much all day, and so I felt kind of disconnected, I didn't feel that the power, or the spirit, or the flow, or the angel inside ... I was gonna say devil inside but that doesn't seem necessary ... was coming through me. I definitely didn't really feel the vibe of selling or of showing up or of being on this livestream at all, but at the same time I was like "But I kinda want to do a livestream". And so what do I do? Well, I did sit here, I did type in my little title, I did put the camera where it is now on the tripod, and then I looked at myself for a longer than probably reasonable or professional amount of moments to decide whether I felt like actually going live and to reposition my hair forty-nine and a half times. Katrina Ruth: And then I did what I always fucking do, which is that I just press "go live", and it's like "Well, too late. 3, 2, 1, you're live". That's how Facebook live works, right? You hit the fricking button, too late, it's gonna be live, gotta think of something to say. And honestly, 80-90% of the time, that's how I do my livestreams. I'm like "Eh, I'm not really sure if I'm feeling it" and like there's times for sure when I'm like "I'm fucking feeling it, everybody needs to listen to me right now", but like, somewhat contrarily, if I think that I've got amazing fucking content coming out and that it's gonna be gold is when it will tend to be a bit more random or like, not connected and awkward, and if I think that I've got nothing to fucking say and then I just press exactly [inaudible 00:36:02] I did and press play, then that tends to be when it's better. Katrina Ruth: I have no idea whether this one is like rambly as fuck or of any value at all. And do you know what? I'm not saying that's [inaudible 00:36:16] people like "Oh, it's full of value" or whatever. Cool if it is, but actually it doesn't fucking matter, right? This is the point that you've got to understand if you want to make money online, especially you wanna make serious money online, not just a few dollars here and there. You've gotta understand it doesn't fucking matter. It doesn't matter what content comes out today. It doesn't matter if it was rambly and random, it doesn't matter if a hundred people got value or nobody got value. It doesn't matter if you feel like you brought the gold or not. It doesn't matter if anybody bought your thing or not, it matters: did you show up? Katrina Ruth: So, if you want to be an influential leader online, and/or you just want to get your message and your art out into the world, number one, show the fuck up for your message and your art. Share it with people on a day to day basis, let what's inside of you out, and like people are doing that. There's people doing that, but then if you also want to make money from it, you're gonna need to sell stuff, right? Unless you're relying on pure, you know, manifestation which is not the worst thing at all to rely on. But manifestation also includes practical motherfucking action, all right? So if your thing is "I will just show up and people will send me donations via PayPal or just offer to pay me" well actually that happens to me all the time. Not the donations bit, I've never energetically decided that people would send me donations. I suppose I could experiment with it but I don't really care to. It doesn't feel interesting to me. Katrina Ruth: But people do just ask me how they can send me money, so that really does happen, so I'm not really proving my point particularly well. But actually the reason why people just ask me how they can send me money, and like what do you, I don't even care how much it is Kat, like tens of thousands of dollars, right, to work with me at the high level, how can I pay you I know I need to work with you, that's how 100% of my inner circle clients sign up by the way, no joke. I don't do anything to sell my highest level stuff. The reason is, though, that they've seen how I've shown up, through all the areas of my business, which includes that I freaking sell a lot. Katrina Ruth: The point I was trying to make, and then I kind of undid my own point, cause of course you can manifest anything, however the point I was trying to make is well, what would showing up fully look like for you is actually what matters, because maybe legitimately for some people here showing up fully would simply be getting the art out there and pure solid gold intentions setting that people find, do just come to you and offer to pay you. That legitimately fucking works, that is how all my inner circle clients sign up. And there's people out there for sure who do business that way, they just trust fully in their art and people show up. Katrina Ruth: For me, it has to at least be in aligned to know that I'm going to sell, and I actually enjoy selling when I get the fuck out of my own way and stop making [inaudible 00:38:59] drama in my head, and that it's part of my day to day flow. That I like to make shit up and I like to sell it. And I've been doing it since I was a little kid, we've all been selling since we were kids, in some way, shape, or form. Katrina Ruth: For the entrepreneur who is not currently making the money that they feel they should be making, a very simple action to take could be "Well, I'm just fricking going to make an offer each day in some way, shape, or form". And of course most people won't do it because they feel like "But I'm not really quite sure yet what I'm going to sell or how to put it out there" or "I tried that and then nobody bought my thing and so now I'm kinda feeling bad or walking away with my tail between my legs" ... what's my favourite book about sales? The Bible, for sure. That's gonna teach you everything you need to know about sales. Katrina Ruth: Seriously, I'm not joking. I don't know, I don't read like sales books off the business sales shelf, I learned everything I need to know about sales from Church, from watching all the preachers and my grandfather being a preacher. And I think I read maybe like maybe two sales book in my life to be honest, but I just practised it the whole time, since I was a little kid. Katrina Ruth: I don't really read business books, I will read them and I have read them, I don't tend to make it through them. I get a bit hoity-toity about it, actually. Actually, no more than this, this is how I feel about it to be perfectly frank with you, and it's not like me the human form, it's my higher self and my soul is like "I'm very good here, like I fricking know that if I tap into source energy and higher self I don't need this shit because I just don't want to hear a fucking system or a plan or a script or a I don't care". I don't want to do it even if it works for a hundred million other people. I know that I access everything that I need to access that's gonna make me money, get me results from when I'm connected to soul and higher power and God and source, and whatever, right? All the stuff that most people don't really want to think about or believe in it, even though they actually fucking know that it's real and true. Katrina Ruth: So, for me, I almost find it detrimental or kind of just plain, it feels very two-day old boring to read something that would teach like how to sell or how to do marketing or business strategy or something like that. It would either be detrimental to me cause it will sway me from my purpose if I'm, you know, kind of not grounded state, which happens from time to time, or it's just fucking boring cause my higher self is just sitting there twiddling her thumbs going "Yeah, okay, cool, sure, you can apply a sales strategy. Or, you could just reach into your soul and decide that you're going to make money, and then you do". And you put an offer out there from flow. Katrina Ruth: Maybe I should start a Kat church. Well, I do say Kat church all the time, well, I say Purpose Church with Kat or Money Church with Kat, I've had that hashtag for years. And I've got a couple background banners and stuff and even, you know how I've got the Katrina Ruth frame at the top of this? So, I've got frames that say Purpose Church with Kat and Money Church with Kat, I just always use the Katrina Ruth one, but I can switch them out actually. Cause I do go into full preacher mode, the problem is that I don't really go into preacher mode on command. Like if I say to myself "I'm gonna go into full preacher mode", then I'll probably end up being really irreverent and just funny, which is great cause I like being funny and irreverent but then it's like, then I'm not preaching. Katrina Ruth: But if I say that I'm gonna try and be funny, then I'll probably end up in serious preacher mode, like basically you've gotta let the message be the message. I'm using my AirPods case for emphasis for some reason today cause I don't have a sceptre handy. I do have a bottle of wine, I could, I don't really want to use that for emphasis I'll probably accidentally tip it on to the laptop. So let's move right along, we did that, it's about my favourite sales book. Katrina Ruth: But what I prefer to read is stuff that's gonna help me to ... ooh ... Hello. It's a small person that's arrived. Can you not go to sleep? It's like the middle of the night. What I prefer to read is ... you can sit on my lap ... is higher purpose stuff, like soul, I don't know, I prefer to read stuff that helps me access my beliefs and kind of reaffirm for me my beliefs and what I already feel and what I already know is true inside of me. That's the sort of stuff I like to read, so kind of woo-woo manifesty, mystical, spiritual stuff. But I'll definitely pick up books, especially if people recommend them I guess, on the other things, and then largely I'll throw them out the window much like the cake in Nonsense Omnibus, except you can't really throw a book on Kindle out the window. You just have to leave it on the Kindle. Katrina Ruth: You can't even seem to actually delete a book, fully, off Kindle. I don't know what that's about. Like I've tried to do it and it's like "Too bad. For all of eternity and all devices that you ever buy from here on out, the world is gonna know that you downloaded this fricking book". And there's definitely some books on there I would prefer to remove from now. I'm sure there's a way. What do you think, are you awake? No, not awake. People are saying hello to you. Katrina Ruth: So, I think I'm gonna go. You want me to come to bed? I'm gonna go, but we said many things about many things. I've no idea if I made my point at all, but roughly the whole point of the entire livestream was if you want to monetize your audience, then you probably should start asking for money. It's just an idea, right? But you can do that asking energetically or you can do it in a practical and physical sense, or you can do both. I like to do all the things, try everything out, everything, everything, everything. Katrina Ruth: And then the other point of the matter was, Rich Hot Empire is my six week, one-on-one, private client intensive, it is amazing. I've been running it since 2016, it is incredible stuff that we do. You have completely unlimited one-on-one access to me through that six weeks, so as a one-on-one mentor, I give unlimited access to my clients. So we talk pretty much every day in some way, shape, or form. We do a lot of audio messages, obviously we have one-on-one call time as well, but then you also go into private client master mind with my other Rich Hot Empire clients and typically some of my inner circle clients come and play in there as well. Katrina Ruth: And what we're doing over those six weeks is looking at how you can build your soulmate cult tribe, build a low right through to high end online empire just like I've done. I've taken my business to multi-seven figures, per year, and continuing to climb each year. With products ranging from like $47 through to tens of thousands of dollars and based all on following what I love doing, I'm following my flow and that's what I teach you to do in Rich Hot Empire. So take you behind the scenes of my business, show you exactly what to do and exactly how to do it. There's some info here in the pinned comment, and really just give you all the insights into what we do do in my business. You get to access that content for life, so you get to keep it all for life. Katrina Ruth: So that's the structured side of it, and then in our one-on-one work we're doing a lot of actually soul trips, inner work, and do transformational stuff that you specifically need. We also do ... Where are you going, are you going to sit down? Alyssa: I'm sweaty. Katrina Ruth: I'm sweaty. We also do ... yeah, I'm sweaty. It's Bali. We also do Hotseat Masterminds and a whole bunch of other stuff. But it's all here in the pinned comment, you can have a read about that. I know I was extra rambly tonight, but I do go all in with my clients when we really just get into the core of who you are, what you want to put out there into the world. And the intention with Rich Hot Empire is, in a six week period we're doing more, and bringing to life more than what most people do in two years, and that's exactly what happens so have a read if it's speaking to you. Message me over on my Katrina Ruth personal page and I'll get you all the details and we'll go from there. I hope that you got something of value from the livestream today, tonight, where ever you are in the world, whatever time it is for you, have an amazing rest of the day, and do not forget: life is now - Alyssa: There's no part of the rest of the day. Katrina Ruth: There's no ... Alyssa says there's no part of ... I thought you were gonna say press play when I said life is now, and she said "there's no part of the rest of the day". Well, sorry everyone in America, the day is over, Alyssa just said so. All right, bye. Love you guys.

Amanda and Jenn discuss mysteries, all-ages comics, YA fantasy, and more in this week's episode of Get Booked. This episode is sponsored by Unearthed by Amie Kaufman and Meagan Spooner and Heart on Fire by Amanda Bouchet. Enter our Top 20 of 2017 giveaway here! bookriot.com/bookriottop20 Questions 1. Hey Amanda and Jenn! I'm looking for a good book for my boyfriend. He's never really enjoyed reading but is trying to change that, particularly because his sister and I just gush over books every time we're around each other and I think he wants in on the fun. He's mentioned that he might be interested in something like Stephen King, but the size of the books are too intimidating. I think he would particularly enjoy mysteries or thrillers, but any genre is welcome. The most important thing is that the books are not too long and they are easy to get through -- so no complicated structures or long lists of characters. Thanks for all you do, --Morgan   2. Hey Get Booked, After reading Bad Feminist for my book club and LOVING it, I've been craving more feministy reading. I've read We Should All Be Feminists and Men Explain Things to Me. I'm currently listening to Missoula by Jon Krakauer and it's completely fascinating. Could you recommend a few of your favorite feminist books? Even novels with strong feminist themes or characters would be good. Thanks!! --Anna   3. Hello! I’m looking for a graphic novel/ comic recommendation. I love the format, but find that I’m quite picky. Based on what I’ve read and liked, it seems that I prefer comics geared towards a younger audience. I’m not opposed to more adult/ mature content, but I’m not super into gratuitous violence/ nudity, etc. I LOVED Nimona, Lumberjanes, Lucky Penny, Henchgirl, all of Bryan Lee O’Malley’s work, and Paper Girls, so if there’s anything that you can recommend similar to those, I’d love to hear about it! Thanks so much! --Ashley   4. Hello! I recently just discovered your podcast and I can't get enough of it! I have a 7 year old son who is in second grade and loves to read. He reads above his grade level and I am looking for book recommendations for him but also that are appropriate for his age. He is very much interested in Legos and Minecraft. I'm wondering if there are any good, but appropriate children's mysteries out there for him. He has recently discovered the Goosebumps series in his Grandpa's basement from when my husband was a kid and has started on those. Thank you for your help! --Christina   5. Hi, I'm constantly trying to expand my genre tastes, and I think it's time to try some romance. There's just one problem: I'm polyamourous and I don't know where to look for poly romance really. I have very low tolerance for competition between potential partners as a plot forwarding device and have trouble empathizing with characters in monogamous relationships angsting about cheating and wandering potential. I've read Ascension and liked the concept but found the writing quality wanting. I'm open to any sub genre of romance, as long as at least some of the primary characters are polyamourous. --Amanda   6. Hello, I am an avid reader but tend to stick to mostly fantasy, sci-fi, and classics. I love classic mystery/detective books like Sherlock Holmes, Agatha Christie, Rex Stout, G.K Chesterton's Father Brown and Dorothy Sayers but I am struggling to find contemporary mystery/detective fiction that aren't cookie cutter stories. I'm don't like a lot of gore or sex and I really enjoy the process of discovering who committed the crime. Any books/series recommendations along these lines would be great! --Heather   7. I've been doing a lot of very heavy, very dry reading for my degree, and I need some fun books to read in the meantime. Since everything I've been reading lately has been nonfiction, I thought I would get as far away from that as possible and read some fantasy. But because I'm so busy with school I don't have as much time to read as I wish I did, so I'm hesitant to start a series. I thought some YA could do the trick since the reading is always a bit easier, and I feel like everyday I hear about a new YA fantasy novel that is coming out. I recently read Carry On by Rainbow Rowell and thought it was spectacular, and I also read The Magicians and thought it was great. My favorite author is Neal Stephenson, but I don't have the ability to read such complicated and heavy subject matter at the moment. --Max   Books Discussed Squire by Tamora Pierce (Protector of the Small series) Shadowsong by S. 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Business and Wealth Creation Coach Melissa Pharr joins us in this episode to share her 7-Figure Sales Secrets. She also shares how to establish a healthy dynamic with your clients up front, how to avoid fear tactics in your sales calls, and 5 ways to identify your best money-making tasks.   Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:33 – Introduction. 6:24 – Ninety percent of the women that Melissa talks to on the phone are terrified of being salesy. A lot of us have been taught in sales and one of the reasons we feel that way is because Melissa  has gone through sales trainings before where she almost felt like she was supposed to get on the phone and try to be someone’s friend to build that trust and make them feel comfortable at the beginning and establish rapport and not make it seem like a sales call and a lot of us feel that’s the best way to go about it but it’s really interesting because almost a hundred percent of those ninety percent of women who are worried about being bait and switchy approach calls that way and what they are really doing when they do that is setting themselves for a bait and switch because we are not being clear about the fact that this is a sales call and so when we make an offer at the end it comes as a surprise to the people we called. 7:39 – Melissa wants to set up a really powerful dynamic with her clients and when you are coaching your client they are not paying you to be their friend, they are paying you for coaching or consulting so Melissa starts her calls in a way that changes the whole game and let’s everybody relax. 7:59 – She says something like ‘Hey Amanda, I am really excited to talk to you today, I am understanding that you are interested in my one on one coaching package is that true?’ and usually the person on the other end will say ‘yeah that’s true’ and then Melissa will say ‘That’s good because our call today is about figuring out whether or not it’s a good fit for us to work together, Sound good?’ 9:48 – On her coaching calls, Melissa asks what do you want to get out of the call. By the time this call is over what’s our outcome because you want to position yourself as an expert. And some people might be asking what if they say no or if they say ‘I didn’t know this was a sales call’ and Melissa’s response to that would be ‘No problem but I do want  to let you know this call is really reserved for people who are very serious about starting to work with a coach now and so if you have any other questions about this program, what I am going to do is I am going to go ahead and direct you to the website and then you can contact our team when you are ready to have a conversation because you’d like to go ahead and begin coaching.’ 11:00 – if Melissa would have offered a free coaching call, then she would have marketed it and if that is happening to you a lot it’s probably that you are marketing for what you are actually offering is most likely not clear or your application beforehand if you have one may not be asking clear enough questions. 12:09 – She is always trying to get the most qualified leads because she’d rather be on the phone with the right person and have a genuine conversation even if it takes a little while than just calling unqualified leads and hoping for them to convert.     12:23 – When Melissa first started, she didn’t have the confidence, the systems or the know how to be able to find her ideal clients and she learned her skills over time and so for  beginners who are struggling to find  the  right people she says that there is nothing wrong booking a lot of calls especially if you are trying to perfect your sales technique but no matter what you are offering it is not cool to dress it up as anything that it’s not. You need to be clear as to what the call is about from the beginning. 14:07 – Right from the beginning give them an overview and tell them this is what the session is about and don’t forget to say ‘I’m understanding this is that true’ because some people have a hard time saying how they feel unless you give them that opportunity. 14:35 – Melissa says that you might be used to being on a sales call asking somebody what’s going on in their business and figuring out what their challenges are but as soon as you realize that this person is an ideal client based on your conversation you must not directly tell them about your package because even though you’ve realized this has the potential to be a great fit, you can’t make that decision for someone and when you try to do that in sales you get pushy and convincing. You should be asking questions that make it conscious to the potential client that this is a great fit as well so that they can be the person to make that decision and want to stick with it once they make it. 15:29 – After she gets through those questions and she is pretty clear and she takes sufficient time to learn about the person, then she asks two other questions one of them is asking how committed they are to the process and the other is asking how urgent the outcome they desire is while working with her. 18:09 – When you start asking questions like this the feeling and the dynamic gives them this feeling if I work with this woman, things have to change because I can feel myself changing right now. 20:22 – When Melissa was first figuring out sales, she accidentally used fear tactics as well. It can be scary to be an entrepreneur when you don’t have a lot of cash flowing and you are really hoping that person will say yes and it’s easy to default to some of these tactics because we’ve been taught so many things and there are many well-meaning people who may have the skills to be great at sales who go to those kinds of tactics because they haven’t realized the power of complete transparency and genuine caring for your potential client.  21:53 – Even though so many of us want help with sales, sales is one piece of getting that client and in today’s world especially as an online entrepreneur a lot of people feel overwhelmed about knowing what to do to get to that point when they are on the phone with somebody. 23:02 – There’s five things to focus on and if you know these five things it becomes very easy for you to identify whether or not what you are doing is a money-making task.  Number one is 85% of the game is about keeping your mind in the game.  Number two is building your online community and number three is nurturing that community because if you don’t have a community of people who want to partake in your services or your products and you don’t have a relationship with them then you are highly unlikely of building an incredible long lasting business that has longevity. Number four is you’ve got to start making an offer somewhere. Number five is to work on perfecting your sales.   Resources Mentioned: Melissa has a free gift for the listeners of this podcast. It's a five part training called ‘Book your first paying client’ and you can find this free five part training at MelissaPharr.com/BookYourFirstPayingClients-AGP

What’s up FLY Zone, Today’s guest is the beautiful and smart and adventurous, Amanda Zimmerman. She is also my #wcw for the week. (Hey Amanda :)). Amanda is another guest that I reached out to online, after I saw her mentioned in a post on Facebook. I follow her mom, Sue B. Zimmerman, because she’s an Instagram expert, and as I was checking out her page, I came across a post that was congratulating Amanda, who was just recently on a podcast, sharing her experience from living in four cities in four months. When I saw that, I thought to myself, that is so badass. And what really got me interested in connecting with her is the fact that she is a Millennial as well. As a matter of fact, she is a FLY Millennial.

Fulfilling Life’s Yearnings Is Taking Yourself Seriously. - Amanda Zimmerman What’s up FLY Zone, Today’s guest is the beautiful and smart and adventurous, Amanda Zimmerman. She is also my #wcw for the week. (Hey Amanda :)). Amanda is another guest that I reached out to online, after I saw her mentioned in a post on Facebook. I follow her mom, Sue B. Zimmerman, because she’s an Instagram expert, and as I was checking out her page, I came across a post that was congratulating Amanda, who was just recently on a podcast, sharing her experience from living in four cities in four months.

Welcome to the very first MusicForaWedding podcast from Will Taylor and Strings Attached.  I am Will Taylor and I am here with my wonderful assistant Amanda Cevallos.  Hey Amanda!Amanda: Hello.Will Taylor: And this is the first podcast to help you figure out the music for your wedding and all the ins and outs you want to make this fun and if you have any questions for us, send an email to Will@WillTaylor.com and put in the subject field ‘Wedding music podcast’ to anything you want to know.  We’d love to help you out, love to hear from you.  Just send us an email toWill@WillTaylor.com, any question you have about wedding music.Today’s main topic, this is our first podcast and we are just going to talk about the role of music in a wedding.  Why should we have music anyway in a wedding?  What makes it important in a wedding?  But before we get to that I want to tell you a little bit about myself and about Amanda.Since 1989 I have helped couples realize their wedding music dreams and I have played the violin, viola and guitar professionally in the Austin area for over 24 years, including 20 years with the Austin Lyric Opera orchestra.  With my group Strings Attached I have worked with artists like Bob Schneider, Shawn Colvin, P Diddy, _______[1:55], Tish Hinojosa, Carolyn Wonderland, Gary Clark Jr. - we bring a lot of experience to the table in helping the couples figure out what they want for their wedding.Amanda Cevallos went to college at the University of Montana where she studied dance choreography and performance as well as entertainment management at the U of M School of Business.  In 2009 she came back to Texas where she was raised and in March 2010 she joined the team at Will Taylor and Strings Attached.Your musical event planning needs are her first priority.  She knows the ins and out of the Strings Attached repertoire built over our 20-year history in the business.  But she also has her finger on the pulse of what’s current and popular culture, which makes her an ideal booking agent and a facilitator.  So welcome Amanda.  I am so glad to have her here.  She has been with us for over an year now.  I think we have a really great thing going on and she has a lot to turn in on and I am just going to invite her to interrupt me when appropriate.  Let me talk about music and let me share a few quotes:“Music is the shorthand of emotion” – Leo Tolstoy.“Music is what feelings sound like.  Music is the universal language of mankind” – Longfellow.So what is the role of music at a wedding?  When you think of a wedding ________[3:22] that is kind of like planning a major life event, in a way it’s like a movie production or producing a play.  It’s not unlike that.  This is an event that’s going to happen one time in your life and what would it be like if you went to see a play or a movie and there is no music accompanying it?  It’s just people talking to each other.From my standpoint it might not have as much emotional impact and for me the role of music at a wedding is to help the emotional impact.  A wedding is very emotional experience.  So music can help the emotion be experienced more deeply by not just the couple but all the people that are attending, and that’s one thing to remember is that as you are planning your wedding, this is for your family and your friends as much for them as it is for you and you want them to have this memorable emotional experience.Now for most people it’s also a religious experience and music is a big part of the emotional impact of spirituality.  So it’s like setting the scene.  It’s a soundtrack for a grand production that you are planning.  So I’d like to ask you to think in your mind and visualize the scene, like a scene in a movie.  What is your soundtrack going to sound like?At this point it might be nice just to talk about one of the parts of the other wedding where there can be music, the different scenes, like in a movie you have a scene.  So you start from the top of the movie, of your wedding.  Usually the first point of contact is when the guests are walking into the ceremony location.  In some cases it will be a church; in other cases it might be an outdoor wedding.  So you set that scene with maybe a string quartet.  If that’s not your particular style, maybe you have somebody singing middle-eastern music or folk music or you have a solo singer – something to give the guests maybe a little entertainment while they are sitting down and getting adjusted to the ceremony.Amanda: Something to set the tone so when they walk into something, they walk into something special.  As soon as the door is open there’s this beautiful sound coming from wherever the setting is and it really sets the tone.Will Taylor: Yeah, so think about what is the first impression musically you want to get your guests.  Again, I’d like to focus on getting away from traditional should be’s if you have that luxury.  Now you may be doing a wedding where the church gives you a specific list of pieces then you want to follow that and share that with your music organizer, whoever is playing to your music.  At Strings Attached we can handle the music from the beginning to the end and we are very experienced in handling these kinds of things.  We have done music for up to 20 years.  So you want to lean on your provider, lean on your wedding coordinator.  We have done anywhere from 100s to over a thousand of these and so we are going to know things about putting together the music and we are going to be able to save you time and effort, so lean on your professionals.And if you are the asked scenario [7:02] check out stringsattached.org.  We love to help organize and make your wedding dreams come true.  Amanda will answer the call.  You can call her directly at (512) 944…Amanda: 8407 or you can email me at bookstringsattached@gmail.com and just very quickly before we go I just want to be sure to mention our wedding reception band because I think that’s we get calls for above.  We get calls to play strings but we also have a wedding reception band that is fantastic.And we have another thing called ‘TheClassicRockSeries.com’ and it’s a series of tribute shows and we use a lot of the songs from these tribute shows for the wedding band but we also have other tunes on that website.Will Taylor: We’d also like to mention, like I said in the beginning of the podcast, Strings Attached can handle the music from the beginning to the end of the reception, the very last note.  We are sort of a one-stop shopping source for your live music or live wedding music needs here in the Austin central Texas area.So we talked a lot about the ceremony music and the cocktail music and we also have a really versatile, exciting, dynamic wedding music variety band and it’s about a six piece ensemble.  We can do anything from 60s Motown to 80s pop tunes to Led Zeppelin, the Beatles, a bit of country music, a bit of folk music…Amanda: Swing, Jazz…Will Taylor: Pretty much everything that you can imagine we can do at really exhaustive song list online and you can check and see that variety right now.  We provide really beautiful lighting systems.  We also have a sound system that is high quality and bring our own sound man.  We come early and setup and make sure everything is ready to go way ahead of time.  We will also MC your event if you have special announcements that you like us to make.  We are able to do all that.  Amanda: We’ll create the scripts based on your schedule.Will Taylor: We’ll create a script based on your schedule and everything will be taken care of – the high quality, it will be dynamic, and if you have any creative ideas we can customize it to your event.I had a wedding in 2008 where I had a 9-piece band and the client picked every single piece of music.  Now we did have to charge for that but we made it happen for them and they had four sets of music and they picked every single piece of music and we worked with them and made it work.  So we can go from the extreme, working out every little detail or we can also help you and design with suggestions.Amanda: We have a client right now that loves us and hired us because they came to our tribute shows and they know what we are capable of.  They also have their own ideas too so they are allowing us to be creative and then they are adding a list of songs that they just can’t live without and so we have added eight tunes through our set list for them for a fee of course, but that’s an option.  So don’t rule anything out with your wedding band.Will Taylor: Exactly, and if you want to hear us live we have a monthly residency at the Nutty Brown Café here in Austin, Texas.  If you just look up ClassicRockSeries.com you will see a schedule of shows.  Our next show is coming up on July 30.  Again, that’s ClassicRockSeries.com and also I want to mention that a lot of this information we have talked about, our Frequently Asked Questions, our worksheet – all that is available at celebratewithstringsattached.com or you can email us and we will send you any of this.  If you have any questions, again, just email Will@WillTaylor.com and we will mention these on the podcast in the next episode.  If you’d like to record yourself saying the question we will have you on the podcast.Amanda: If you have a booking inquiry just email Amanda@bookstringsattached.com or you can call me or text me at            (512) 944-8407      .  I am available after 5:00.  I have a lot of clients who work all day and can’t really plan their wedding until after they get off work and I make myself available for those clients.  So just keep in mind from about 5:00 to 8:00 I am open to texting, calling or emailing.Will Taylor: Well that’s it.  We are going to sign off for now from MusicForaWeddingPodcast with Will Taylor and Strings Attached.  Subscribe to this podcast by clicking one of the buttons over there on iTunes.  There will be more episodes coming up when we talk more about choosing the music for your wedding and what we do.  So we will talk to you and we will see you in the future on the podcast.Free music for this podcast is available on iTunes.  Search for ‘A Bridezilla’s Guide to Classical Wedding Music’.  That’s on iTunes at ‘A Bridezilla’s Guide to Classical Wedding Music’.Need live music for a wedding or event?Celebrate with Strings Attached Austin Cover Bands Tx Wedding Soloist