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Send a question for 'Ask Megan'Hey Podcasters! Podcasting takes a lot of work, so let me introduce you to a tool that can help: Cohost AI.Cohost AI is a tool that seamlessly integrates AI into your existing podcasting workflow. It saves you time by generating episode titles, descriptions, transcripts, chapter markers, blog posts, and social media posts for your podcast episodes!Industry Insights​For when you need a second opinion on your editing setup​For when you need motivation to keep podcastingAsk Megan"Hi Megan, I went to a great session at Podfest about the importance of your podcast name. Now, I feel like I need to change mine. What is the best way to do that?"Changing your podcast name is easy! Just head to the Podcast Info page in your Buzzsprout account and change the Podcast Title. You can also check out our video about ​rebranding your podcast​ and our blog post on ​how to name your podcast​! Have a question for Megan? Send a text!That's all for this week! Thanks for listening & keep podcasting!

Do you ever have days where the weights that seemed do-able yesterday are suddenly challenging today? What is happening? Listener Julie had this same issue: “Hi Megan. I've been weight training for about the last five years and progressing slowly. But just lately the weights seem to be much harder to lift. Even though I've been doing the same weights for a while. I was just wondering, is it my age? I'm 63 now. Or is it to do with my nutrition? I do eat over 100 grams of protein a day and thought that was fine. Any suggestions would be grateful. Thank you.” In this shortie episode, I talk about WHY weights may be harder to lift on certain days - there's a lot more at play than you realize! - how age impacts our strength training and how to adjust our protein intake as we get older. And I'll leave you with a quick action plan to help you keep lifting and feel your best!

This week, I'm going to show you how to design your “perfect” day. You can subscribe to this podcast on: Podbean | Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify | TUNEIN Links: Email Me | Twitter | Facebook | Website | Linkedin Get Your Copy Of Your Time, Your Way: Time Well Managed, Life Well Lived Subscribe to my Substack  Take The NEW COD Course The Working With… Weekly Newsletter Carl Pullein Learning Centre Carl's YouTube Channel Carl Pullein Coaching Programmes The Working With… Podcast Previous episodes page Script | 348 Hello, and welcome to episode 348 of the Your Time, Your Way Podcast. A podcast to answer all your questions about productivity, time management, self-development and goal planning. My name is Carl Pullein, and I am your host of this show. What would a perfect day look like for you? I'm not talking about drinking sangria in a park, feeding animals in the zoo, and later, a movie.  I'm talking about how a typical day would go.  What time would you like to wake up? What would you enjoy doing for the first hour of your day? What would you like to do in the evenings? And what time would you like to go to bed? These questions are all part of what I call designing your perfect week. It's an exercise that helps you to bring some structure into your day. Once implemented, this reduces the number of decisions you need to make each day and makes planning less demanding and a lot faster.  Not taking control of your calendar means others will take control of it. If not your boss or customers, it'll be your family and friends. This leaves you being pushed and pulled all over the place.  When you wake up in the morning, you have no idea what will happen or where you will end up. More dangerously, you will have no idea whether you can get your work done, and inevitably, you'll find yourself with huge backlogs and a lot of accumulated stress.  Not a great place to be if you want to be better organised and more productive.  So, let me show you how you can regain control of your calendar and start putting what you want first.  This means it's time to hand you over to the Mystery Podcast Voice for this week's question.  This week's question comes from Megan. Megan asks, hi Carl, I've tried designing a “perfect” week but found I don't have enough time to do everything I need to do. Do you have any tips to fit everything in?  Hi Megan, thank you for your question.  That you have discovered you don't have enough time for everything you want to do is part of why I recommend people do the Perfect Week calendar exercise. The purpose is to help you see what you do and don't have time for.  But first, how do you set up the Perfect Week calendar? First, open up your calendar—it doesn't matter whether it's a Google, Outlook or Apple Calendar. What you are going to do is create a new calendar and call it “Perfect Week”. I recommend you do this on a larger screen. It is possible to do it on a phone, but you won't see the bigger picture of the week. A laptop or tablet works better when you do this. Now, begin with your personal life. How much sleep do you want? What time will you go to bed? Block those times in first. For instance, if, in your perfect world, you go to bed at 11:00 pm and want seven hours of sleep, then you would block 11:00 pm to 6:30 am. (Allow yourself thirty minutes to fall asleep). Now, how long do you want for your morning routine? Perhaps you want the first hour of your day dedicated to you. To exercise, read, plan, meditate and/or write a journal. All you need to do in your perfect week calendar is block the time you want for these activities on your calendar. Call it your Morning routine time. (The details of what you do in that time can be added as a checklist in your notes later.) Next look at the evening. What would you like to do?  Be careful here; you may wish to block time out for family and friends. When you do this, you are involving other people, and they will have a different agenda to you.  You could, for instance, protect 7:00 pm to 9:00 pm for family time, but be flexible. Your teenage daughter will unlikely want to spend much time with you. Your partner, on the other hand, may wish you to sit with them and talk or watch their favourite TV show.  Consider “family time” as being flexible. If no one wants to spend time with you, be available. Perhaps you could read in the same room as your family or do some chores around the house.  Next, what would you like to do later in the evening before you go to bed? Put that on your calendar. Many of my clients enjoy playing a musical instrument, others use that time for self-study and some go out for an evening walk. Whatever you want to do, put it on your calendar.  Now, your work.  A couple of questions you can ask here are: how much time do you need to do focused work? Work that if you are consistent with will prevent backlogs and ensure you meet your deadlines.  And how much time will you allow per week for meetings?  Limiting your available meeting time is a great way to control time.  Imagine you work a forty-hour week and you want three hours a day for focused work; that would leave you with twenty-five hours each week for everything else.  If you were to limit the time you were available for meetings to fifteen hours a week, that would leave you with ten hours for all the unexpected demands that inevitably pop up. Would that be sufficient time? Play around with these numbers and see if you can find a happy balance.  With the meeting limit once you have filled the limit for that week, you only offer meeting times for the following week.  As this is your perfect week, you can fix times when you are available and when you are not.  Once you have completed your perfect week, does that look like a week you would be happy living? One adjustment I made to mine was on a Monday. My calls begin early—well, early for me—meaning I need to wake up at 6:15. That's much earlier than usual. I discovered I was not able to work effectively after around 11:00 am. So, I added a ninety-minute nap window from 11:00 am. That worked perfectly for me.  Now, once you have created your perfect week, turn on your other calendars. Where do things align? You will probably find some activities already aligned, but some will be wildly out Your mission now—should you choose to accept it—is to align your real calendar with your perfect week one.  This mission will not happen instantly; aligning things may take several months, but it gives you a purpose and goal.  What happens if, after doing this exercise, you discover there are not enough hours in the week to do everything you want to do?  Most people find this after completing this exercise.  It is worth remembering you do not have to do everything all at once. You could take a course on Tuesday and Thursday evenings and go to your Pilates class on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday evenings. Perhaps you could do your weekly planning on a Saturday morning instead of a Sunday evening. This is about completing a puzzle. How do you fit everything into your 168 hours a week?  You can also consider making things seasonal. In the winter months, you do one activity, and in the summer, you do another type of activity. After all, the weather is generally nicer in the summer, and the days are longer.  You may even wish to use the Spring as the cleaning-up season. I do.  Designing the perfect week calendar is not about locking you into a strict structure every week. Its purpose is to help you become realistic about what you can and cannot do each day. It's from here that you can design the kind of life you want to live. Over the five or six years since I first did the Perfect Week exercise, I have modified it many times. For example, when I did it the first time, I had this rather ambitious idea: I would go to bed at 11:00 pm and wake up at 6:00.  That didn't last very long. Many of my coaching calls happen late at night, and I often don't finish until after midnight. Now, I go to bed at 1:30 am and wake up at 8:30 am (except for Mondays). That has worked for me for over a year now.  I've also learned that while I've always believed that I am a night owl, I am more focused and creative in the mornings. This led to me protecting 9:30 to 11:30 am five days a week for my focused work.  One thing you don't want to do, Megan, is to try and squeeze everything in. That will leave you feeling exhausted. Always remember you are a living, breathing human being, not a machine.  You need breaks, you do need to stop and enjoy nature and the environment you live in. It gives your mind a rest, and it elevates your creativity and fulfilment by giving you something different to look at other than a screen.  While I am very structured, I like it that way—I still keep my afternoons free for activities I want to do in the moment. Taking my dog, Louis for his walk, doing the grocery shopping and reading, for example. Whatever needs my attention, the afternoons are when I can do it. Learning those things was a result of doing the Perfect Week exercise.  David Allen, author of Getting Things Done, often says, “You can do anything, but you cannot do everything”, and I've found that's true. That means the question becomes, what will you do? I would also say that the end of the year is a perfect time to do this exercise. The start of a new year gives you a motivation to try things and develop the kind of week you want to live.  Thank you, Megan, for your question and thank you to you, too, for listening. It just remains for me now to wish you all a very, very productive week. 

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After listening to all my episodes touting the benefits of strength training, you've added weights to your exercise routine. Maybe you've been lifting the same weights for weeks now, and are starting to realize that those lunges and chest presses don't feel quite as challenging as they did when you started. But how do you really know when to grab some heavier weights? Listener Kristi had this very question: “Hi Megan, I've been working out for a little while now using weights and I'm wondering how to know when it's time to increase the weight - and how much I should increase the weight by when I do move up? Also, do you have any recommendations for the best kind of weights to buy if I'm planning to do this long term?” In this shortie episode, I break down the best way to know both WHEN and HOW to level up your weights. And I've got some recommendations for the best weights to look for and which ones to avoid.

“Hi Megan, my name's Terry. I'm 60 years old and I'm trying to get fit. Mostly strength. Where do I even begin?” The process sounds so daunting - wanting to get started with a new health and fitness focus, but having no clue how to do it. The reality is, many women in their 50's, 60's or 70's feel like it's too late to get fit and build strength. But I'm here to tell you it's NOT too late. To Terry and every woman wanting to dive into something new, I applaud your courage! And I'm here to help. In this shortie episode, I outline the first three SIMPLE steps of starting a new fitness routine - one of them doesn't even require getting off the couch! I promise, it's never too late to start - as long as you start slow and trust the process.

Here it is! This episode is dedicated to Sam's experience in her amazingly manifested, totally last minute, seemingly impossible, random, spontaneous and totally fabulous getaway to Colorado!Sam had this impulse to reach out to a member of her @thehostingsociete community, and suddenly she was planning a photoshoot in Colorado for THE FOLLOWING WEEKEND! Like, how?! She doesn't have the money for flights. She's not sure how she will get there or how she can actually make this happen. But she did have one thing...her newly developed ALIGNMENT METHOD. This method caused Sam to be able to regulate her nervous system and relax when she thought about moving forward with this quick manifestation. Turns out, this method is magic!With a relaxed nervous system, Sam put herself into the vibration to make the impossible suddenly possible. The flight was paid for, the photographer showed up without travel fees, and the owner of the cabin graciously waved her fee for Sam to stay with her friend Raechelle for two nights.AND! Sam met an OMJ binge-listener (Hi Megan!)This one is jam packed with adventure and fun! And if you want to know how Sam did it? How she became a vibrational match to this seemingly impossible, next-level desire? Take our NEW course ALIGNED now! (You can literally learn her method right this second- and it's on Sale!)As always, we wish you a life filled with joy and abundance, Sam & Micki--Episode Resources:Sam stayed here: @alpenglowcabinOur friend Raechelle @abundancequeenlifeKatie J's Spotify --ALL COURSES ON SALE until May 19th!ALIGNEDBecoming a Conscious Manifester Speaking Your Truth - How To Start An Aligned Podcast with Micki --Interested in developing your meditation practice? Join The Sway Club with Sam!__Did this conversation resonate with you? Be sure to share it on Instagram or with someone you know, or leave a review on Apple Podcasts.Let's continue the conversation! Join the OMJ Facebook Community Check out our FREE Getting Aligned Playbook!!Love what you hear? Here's our tip jar! --Want more OMJ?www.ourmanifestationjourney.com

The Megan and Brandon duo. We talk about heart stuff pretty much the entire time. Sorry for the bad recording. We were on a drive with my new car.

We're back (well we came back before but delays well.........delayed our return.) But none the less we are back in action and in rare form. This episode touch upon how wap makes us feel (Hi Megan!!!), Logic's last album, Big Sean, The Lox and Was' albums respectively. We also touch on the Ruff Ryders and No Limit chronicles respectively as well, when do we think is the perfect time of year to start a relationship and more. Some of these topics might seem and and that's because...........................................well they are. We had a couple life setbacks and had to take some time off so some of these topics stockpiled on us but we tried our best to keep them feeling relevant and fresh. We hope you guys enjoy. Also Rest In Power to Chadwick Boseman. We love and miss you king. Intro Instrumental (The Firm - Phone Tap) Social Medias Follow the podcast on Twitter: @Yerrrrr_podcast Follow the podcast on IG: @yerrrrrpodcast Follow Diamond on Twitter and IG: @DaGawdDMoney Follow Lucky on Twitter and IG: @Luckbucks23 Follow Chino on IG: @Lowkey_Chino15 Follow Young Roddy on IG: @X.X.X.WOLF

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Update: Telling sex stories Dating based on astrology Telling someone your real age Liking a man when you’re gay Working at a kind-of strip club Don’t Blame Them: Telling sex stories   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Call 1: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I thought of you both to ask this question because I know that sometimes you reference astrology. There is this a dating app it's called like Nuit something like that, but I've been utilizing it cuz I'm into astrology and I met this guy we'll name him Jerry and we got in a 92 in romance. It's basically like gives numerical amount to your synastry connections like if your entire birth chart, so we got a 92. To me, that means that we are meant to be, right? But he's really really dragging his feet on things. I'm an Aries, I'm Venus in Aries so I'm very impatient and we like spent a lot of time in messages, but he doesn't want to meet up like he keeps blaming it on, you know, social distancing which I totally understand but it's like where we live our city we're out of the zone where we're able to like meet up so I don't really get it, I'm having a hard time like moving on cuz normally I'm an Aries that's like if you know if it's not like going anywhere I'm totally done with it but like our charts are so so compatible. So I like lowkey feel like he's the one so I just I'm looking for some advice like you think that he would just make that an excuse like he still messages me all the time or should I just move on even though our stars are aligned and we're literally meant to be. I don't know why he's not recognizing it - a 92 for god's sake. But anyways, appreciate any insight you can give, love the pod, have a beautiful day.   Call 2: Hey guys. I'm calling in for some kind of relationship advice. It's kind of just a sticky situation I got myself in. So me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now. And when I met him, I told him I was a year older than I actually was. Not because for any specific reason like we just were friends at first, but always told people that I'm a year older than I actually am cuz my birthday is like late, just according to like the school months and I met him when we were in school. So yeah, I told him I was a year older than I actually was and we're we've been dating for two years. So I've only had one birthday like just like with him of that make sense and we're long distance right now. So I didn't have to worry about it like cuz I had forgotten like he thought I was a year older but this birthday coming up I remembered again and I realized like, oh shoot. I need to tell him because when I turn of age or twenty-one, I think that's of age like I'm sure he's going to want to do something like something like that I actually have to be 21 for and I feel really secure in our relationship, but I'm still like like I'm just really like I don't know how to bring it up. Okay, I don't know. I feel like that's kind of like a big confession type of thing. But yeah, I'm a Leo. He's a Taurus. Yeah, we are long-distance again, but I know it was kind of fucked for me to do in the first place and like I acknowledge that and I made a huge mistake. Well, not a huge one, but it's just kind of like a stupid one. Anyways, if you guys have any advice for me, I would love to hear it. Thank you guys.   Call 3: Hi friends. I just wanted to call and say one: I love your podcast. I listen to it on all my road-trips. But I was calling cuz I have a little bit of a predicament. So I'm I've always I'm gay. I've always identified as gay since I was like probably fifteen years old. I came out as gay to my super religious family that had kind of a hard time with it. And so like it took them awhile to accept me, but eventually they came around and it was like a thing that made us stronger or whatever. But recently, I've been kind of requestioning my sexuality. I have been kind of curious about boys because there is this guy that I met on OK Cupid and he has like all the qualities of someone that I would like he's, you know a Hufflepuff which is really important me, he's a Libra he's an ENFJ, I think I don't know I know he's ENF something. I'm an Aries. And I love Libras. Like I love Libras. They always crush my heart but I love them and we get along really well and he wants to have sex but I'm really really worried because I've never had sex with a man, and I'm just really confused and just concerned cuz I do have some - I do have some trauma with like men, not really a big fan. So I'm worried it like we're going to try and during I'm going to like freak out on him and it's going to be a whole big thing but I just I don't know what to do. I'm so confused. I'm worried that if I do like him I'm going to have to re-come out to my parents and be like "Hi parents, remember, when, remember I told you that I was gay surprise, there's a man I like is it was all for nothing and they're going to feel emotional and I'm just really concerned. So if you could help me that would be great. Cuz I really don't know what to do. Anyway, like I said love your show. Love you all. I'm like I said, I'm an Aries. He's a Libra. Yeah, I hope you can help me bye.   Call 4: Hey you guys so I'm in a bit of a pickle. I'm trying to cut this down short cuz I sent a phone call but it was too long. Anyways, I've been with my boyfriend for over a little over three years. I'm a Leo. He's a Sagittarius. I've known him practically my whole life ever since elementary school and me and his mom were super super close, literally talked almost every day. I visit her at work, we would go to on dinner dates together. She I like saw her as one of my friends not my boyfriend's mom. Well, I used to work at this type of establishment. It was kind of like a strip club but not really but we did dress like strippers but we didn't dance but it was also partial nudity and we kept it a secret and she somehow found out that I worked at that type of establishment and she also found out what I was wearing and when she brought it up to my boyfriend, he was super embarrassed and he got really mad at me and I was really confused. Cause I was like you gave me permission to you know work at this job. I asked you if you were okay with it. He said yes, I was like, okay cool. If he wasn't okay with it, I totally would have left cuz I don't have any problem with that. Anyways, she found out and it's been it was really really awkward. It also was on that the first week of shelter in place here in California, and I haven't talked to her for months and then just one day I decided to reach out and like hey, like I know you know where I used to work at, if you want to talk like I'm really sorry. I just feel super awkward about this situation and then she ended up texting back like hey, we don't have to talk about it if you don't want to but I responded, but I feel like I need to because I'm dating your son and it was really awkward and she was like, okay, like we'll talk about it soon like see you soon, and it's been months since I have last seen her and she never texted me back. So what do I do? I want to reach out and like rekindle our relationship because I'm literally planning on like having kids with this man and marrying this man and we live together and have lived together for like two years. So please if you have any advice on how to reach out if I should reach out if I should not reach out. What do I do? Thanks guys, love the podcast bye.   Call 5: Hi Megan, I'm calling in I am in my twenties and I just wanted to get some advice on a current situation that I'm in. So I was friends with this girl who I know through. I don't want to give too much detail, but I I basically know this girl and I've been friends with her for a while and we got really close like the kind of close where like you share really personal information that sort of thing. Well, I started getting more information from like like who she is and like what types of stuff she follows through one of her social media accounts. and turns out she's basically a closeted Trump supporter did not know that about her. I am the literal polar opposite. I hate him with like every fiber of my being and he completely offends me. So I just I guess I'm asking for advice on A: how to handle the fact that due to how I know this person, I can't avoid them, but also like this is like the second person that I've gotten close to who I you know liked as like, you know, like a person in my life and gotten really like gotten along well with them and they've ended up being a Trump supporter and I just I I guess I'm asking for like, how do I find these red flags? Like why am I not seeing them? I'm I am so anti-Trump. Like I am so actively anti-Trump and like I am all the thing against him because he's so terrible and like as a woman like I just I I can't fathom anyone supporting him like wholeheartedly and I just how do I find these red flags cuz like I'm really struggling. Any advice you have would be great. Thank you.   Don’t Blame Them: Hi ladies, so I am calling about the last episode where the girl had her boyfriend asking to tell him about like previous sex partners and stuff. So I my boyfriend actually likes the same thing and I used to be really uncomfortable with it too but how I figured out that like it was more comfortable for me is like I was kind of like do it like while we were having sex and like let's say like he's hitting it from the back. I'd be like, oh my gosh, like I loved when Josh did it like that and he fucked me like so hard, you know what I mean? I'm kind of bring it up like that and kind of like make him excited or just kind of be like, oh like so-and-so did it like this and it felt so good good like not exactly like, oh one day like on a Wednesday, so and so they like the so that just kind of like made it easier for me and then you know, you kind of get more comfortable with it after doing it so many times. So that's just my advice to her. Thank you guys. Have a great day. Bye. Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Code Grey(s) continues IN QUARANTINE MODE with a very special return (Hi Megan!!!) and a very relevant episode 10 of Season 3. Join us as we review "What's Making Us Respond Irrationally in Quarantine This Week; our new segment "Meredith's Monologue" (10:00); our episode Rounds (12:20); the adult conjoined twins and a heated debate over whether supporting this throuple means supporting incest (21:30); the father-son emoting of George and Harold O'Malley (36:50); Molly Not-Grey and Meredith's Susan/Ellis tension (50:00); the Chief YELLING (1:02:25); and this episode's M&M (1:08:11).  See you next week!

In this episode, I am excited to have Megan Boyd on to talk about what transitioning into a new career from law looks like. Megan Boyd is a lecturer at Georgia State University College of Law. Before entering academia, Megan served as a law clerk and practiced law at a mid-sized firm, where she did insurance coverage and bad faith work as co-chairperson of the firm's appellate practice group. She has written numerous articles about legal writing and is a frequent speaker on that topic at continuing legal education events and conferences throughout the country. She is also the co-author of the book "Show, Don't Tell: Legal Writing for the Real World."   Topics Covered How she made the decision to leave the traditional law practice and focus on legal writing, and her advice to law students to better prepare them for working in a law practice. Advice for students and lawyers thinking about leaving law; understanding that although the job can be stressful, constant anxiety towards the amount of work is unhealthy, and balancing your happiness with a career is possible. How to discern when is the right time to re-evaluate your happiness/career, and tools to help manage work anxiety. Challenges with and benefits of leaving the law practice. You can contact Megan on Twitter or via email at boyd_megan@yahoo.com.     Questions? Comments? Email Jeena! hello@jeenacho.com. You can also connect with Jeena on Twitter: @Jeena_Cho For more information, visit: jeenacho.com Order The Anxious Lawyer book — Available in hardcover, Kindle and Audible Find Your Ease: Retreat for Lawyers I'm creating a retreat that will provide a perfect gift of relaxation and rejuvenation with an intimate group of lawyers. Interested? Please complete this form: https://jeena3.typeform.com/to/VXfIXq MINDFUL PAUSE: Bite-Sized Practices for Cultivating More Joy and Focus 31-day program. Spend just 6 minutes every day to practice mindfulness and meditation. Decrease stress/anxiety, increase focus and concentration. Interested? http://jeenacho.com/mindful-pause/ Transcript Megan Boyd: [00:00:09] When you find something that you love, one of two things will happen. Either the money will come, or it won't but you won't care. Intro: [00:00:18] Welcome to The Resilient Lawyer podcast. In this podcast, we have meaningful, in-depth conversations with lawyers, entrepreneurs, and change agents. We offer tools and strategies for creating a more joyful and satisfying life. And now your host, Jeena Cho. Jeena Cho: [00:00:40] Hello my friends, thanks for joining me for another episode of The Resilient Lawyer podcast. In this episode, I have Megan Boyd. She is a lecturer at Georgia State University College of Law. Before entering academia, Megan served as a law clerk and practiced law at a mid-sized firm, where she did insurance coverage and bad-faith work as co-chairperson of the firm's appellate practice group. She's written numerous articles about legal writing, and is a frequent speaker on the topic at CLE events at conferences around the country. She is also the co-author of the book "Show, Don't Tell: Legal Writing for the Real World." I wanted to have Megan on the show to chat about career options for lawyers that don't want to practice law anymore. [00:01:25] Also, if you haven't listened to the last bonus episodes, go back and check it out. It was on May 16th and May 30th. I shared 2 six-minute meditation and mindfulness practices to help you let go of stress and anxiety. It's a preview for my course, Mindful Pause. I know for so many lawyers, finding any time for themselves and giving the thinking mind a rest can be a huge challenge. So I wanted to create a course that can fit easily into even the busiest lawyer's schedule. It's called Mindful Pause, and you can learn more about it on JeenaCho.com. Again, that's "J-E-E-N-A-C-H-O" dot com, or head on over to the show notes to check it out. And with that, here's Megan. Hi Megan, welcome to the show. Megan Boyd: [00:02:13] Hi Jeena, thank you for having me. Jeena Cho: [00:02:15] Let's start by having you give us a 30-second introduction of who you are and what you do. Megan Boyd: [00:02:19] Sure, my name is Megan Boyd. I'm a lecturer at Georgia State University College of Law. I teach a number of different classes, including legal writing classes, animal law, civil procedure (which is going to be new for me this coming year), and I have written a number of articles about legal writing. I do CLE's and speak at conferences about it, and I am the co-author of a book on legal writing, so it's a topic that I'm very, very interested in. Jeena Cho: [00:02:48] And so I want to start your story back when you were in law school. When did you decide, law practice isn't right for me? Megan Boyd: [00:03:03] So, I loved law school itself. I mean literally loved every minute of it. I'm that rare person who really, really enjoy law school, because I love to learn, I loved the environment. But after my second year of law school, I did a summer clerkship, was a summer associate, and it was a really, really terrible experience. And I found myself crying on my drive home most days, and I just knew that this was not normal. [00:03:31] Something was wrong, and so I thought do I really want to be a lawyer, if this is what lawyers do every day? And obviously a summer associate experience is not necessarily indicative of what lawyers do every day, but the fact that I was unhappy doing that told me that there might be some problems in the future. But I graduated from law school in 2008, a lot of my classmates didn't have jobs and I felt really lucky to have a job. I had gone straight through from college to law school, and I needed to get out and earn some money and try this at least, I thought. Even though I was pretty sure after that second-year summer that I did not want to practice law for the rest of my life, which was really sad and hard and difficult, a really, really, difficult situation to find yourself in. Because I still had one more year of school to go, and I'm thinking did I make a huge mistake in coming to law school? And now thinking, I'm going to have spent these three years going to school to be a part of a profession that I don't think I really want to be a part of. Jeena Cho: [00:04:47] Wow, yeah. Megan Boyd: [00:04:49] So that was tough. Jeena Cho: [00:04:50] Yeah. And going to law school is such a huge commitment, and to be halfway through it and go oh, did I make a mistake? That must have been really hard and scary. Megan Boyd: [00:05:02] It was, it was really tough and really scary. And the prospect of being as unhappy as I was that summer for the next 30 years or more was really, really daunting for me. And again, I went back for my third year. And I loved law school so much, and I couldn't figure out why it was that I didn't like doing the things that lawyers do. And subsequently, I figured out what it was about law practice that I didn't really enjoy. But at the time, I really couldn't put my finger on it. Jeena Cho: [00:05:41] What were the specifics for why you didn't enjoy law practice? Megan Boyd: [00:05:46] Well I think one of the things is that I am a Type A person, which many lawyers are, but I did not like not having control over my own schedule. I always felt like I could not anticipate what each day would bring. And I know for some people that's a really exciting thing, they love new challenges and things like that. But I'm the type of person where I need to get up each day and be able to know what my day was going to look like, and further ahead what the next few days or the rest of the week was going to look like. And I never felt like I could do that in law practice, because there were always "emergencies" that weren't really emergencies that would come up. Or I would have prepared extensively to go take a deposition and it would get canceled the night before, and I had in my mind mentally prepared for that and that's what I'm going to be doing tomorrow. And I just found that that was really bothersome for me. And I remember the first year I practiced law, a big document review project came up right before Thanksgiving. [00:06:57] And this was when we had a bunch of documents still on paper. And I remember lugging home binders and binders full of paper, and sitting on my grandmother's floor over my Thanksgiving holiday when I wanted to be spending time with my family, sitting and reviewing these documents. And it was a miserable experience. Jeena Cho: [00:07:22] So when you're working with law students now, how do you have that conversation about the realities of being a lawyer? Because so much of what you say, and I'm sure every lawyer that's listening to this podcast is like yeah, that's just what law practice looks like. So what do you tell the law students? Megan Boyd: [00:07:44] So I walk a really fine line, because I never want to discourage anyone from being a lawyer, from completing law school and becoming a lawyer. Because I do think that in many ways it's a really great, honorable profession. And there are many people I know who are happy practicing law. So I never want my dissatisfaction with law practice to rub off on them. But I do talk to them quite a lot about figuring out what it is in law that you want to do, what is it that motivates you? I'm thinking about writing a little article for the ABA law student blog about this, but I think one of the things that I did not do as a law student and that would have served me well was to figure out what it is that motivates me, what it is about law practice that I enjoy. And then look for a job or look for a job in the future that met all of my criteria and the things that I wanted. Some people are motivated by money, and that's absolutely fine. Other people are motivated by doing good, having that hands-on client contact and making a real difference in some folk's lives. Other people are motivated by a job where they get a lot of praise and they feel like they're being told on a regular basis that they're doing a good job, and that they're earning their keep and that type of thing. So I really encourage students to figure out what it is that motivates them early on, and to work for that and toward that. I always tell students, so many of the students that I see and so many people who go to law school are motivated by the prospect of money. And I tell them from my own experience, when you find something that you love one of two things will happen: either the money will come, or it won't but you won't care. And I think that that's a really important thing for law students and young lawyers, and even more developed lawyers to remember. When taking a risk in particular, maybe changing a practice area or firm, or whatever the case may be. That when you're doing something that you really love, even if you are motivated by money, it stops mattering. Jeena Cho: [00:10:08] Yeah, that's really great advice. And also, I really appreciate the fact that you're willing to have these conversations with law students. Because when I was in law school, I don't know that I had a whole lot of conversations with my professors about the actual practice of law. And it's kind of a charming experience to go from law school to my first job and go, I don't really know anything and no one told me about having to work around the clock. And just the constant level of anxiety that I would feel. Megan Boyd: [00:10:44] Yeah, and talking about things that made me ill-suited for the practice of law, that was one of the things as well. I lived in pretty much 24/7, constant anxiety. When I started practicing law, initially I would look forward every week to Friday because I would have the whole weekend. And then the dread would start setting in on Sunday afternoon, which was bad in of itself. But the longer I practiced, it got to the point where I didn't even have my weekends anymore; the dread started setting in earlier and earlier, and there was no point at which I was happy or comfortable, or anxiety-free. Jeena Cho: [00:11:34] Wow. So, did that anxiety dissipate once you left law practice and went into academia? Megan Boyd: [00:11:42] So I will tell you that it did, but it took a number of years for it to come down, which sounds strange. So I initially practiced at one law firm, and about two years in I left to go to another law firm. And changing firms did make some difference, because at the second firm I had a little bit more control over my own schedule. Still not any real control, right, because of clients and courts and scheduling, things like that. But I had more control, and so it did get a little better there. And I thought for about a year, maybe I can do this; maybe I was wrong, maybe it was just the two prior environments that I was in. But after about a year of being at that job, I still was not happy. So I knew that I really had to consider making the change. Once I left law practice, it really took about two years for me to come down from the constant level of stress and anxiety that I existed under when I practiced law. Jeena Cho: [00:12:52] Wow. Megan Boyd: [00:12:53] And that was, it was amazing to me that it didn't immediately dissipate. I think in my mind I thought it would, I thought as soon as I leave law practice all of a sudden my life will change immediately. And it didn't, it really took a while to get rid of all of that anxiety that had built up inside of me. Jeena Cho: [00:13:16] Because you know, I think that's always something that I struggle with internally. How much of the anxiety is just the way that I am wired? And so going and seeing a therapist and getting more tools under my belt, having a mindfulness practice and having all of these tools to manage anxiety is really what I need? Or is it just that the job itself is wrong for me? So I feel like it's always that dance of being able to discern the two. Do you have thoughts on that? Because you can experience anxiety in any job, but how much of it is sort of you having to do internal work on yourself and have tools to manage anxiety, versus an, "I just need to leave this job" kind of situation? Megan Boyd: [00:14:14] Yeah, it's definitely both. I am a high-anxiety person; I always have been. So it's not that my job now is no anxiety by any stretch of the imagination. So I think that one of the things that leaving law practice made me see was that I needed to learn to control the anxiety that is always present within me. Now my anxiety decreased substantially by the end of those two years after I left, but it certainly didn't go away. And again, that was something that was surprising to me because I thought it would. So that's when I really started looking into how can I learn to control the anxiety that is always going to exist within me. I'm one of those weird people who if I don't have something to make me anxious, I start creating possible things to make me anxious; it's that bad. So it was once I left law that I was able to start thinking more deeply about tools and strategies and the work I needed to do so that I could live a life that I didn't need to take a vacation from all the time. Jeena Cho: [00:16:11] What were some of those tools or help or strategies that you found to be helpful for managing that persistent, low-grade anxiety? Megan Boyd: [00:16:17] One of the things that I learned from a therapist (she taught me a lot of really great things, but) was every day I would write down (I would just do it on my phone, make myself a little note) ten things that I was grateful for. And in going back and looking at some of those now from years ago, it's many of the same things. And at first I had trouble coming up with ten things that I was grateful for; I was in such a bad state that I couldn't really think of ten things that I was grateful for. And every now and then, even now when I'm feeling a lot of anxiety, I will sit down and do that. And sometimes it's something really simple, like I was able to take a nap today. And sometimes its big things, like my family and my friends and stuff like that. So that was one of the things that really helped me. It sounds really simple, but it really helped me focus on the things in my life that bring me joy and that make me happy. Instead of focusing on the things in my life that stress me out, give me anxiety. So that was one of the things. [00:17:23] Meditation practice is another, I use an app called Insight Timer. I recommend it to students who I talk to who have anxiety issues, I think Insight Timer is really great. Sometimes I use the guided meditations, sometimes it's just the music. But it really puts me in a good state, if I'm willing to focus and work on the meditation. You know that's another thing, meditation is really a practice; it does require effort. That's the misnomer people think, that meditation you can just sit and do it and not have to work at it, just passively. But doing that, learning to take better care of myself in terms of doing things that I enjoy. For so much of my life, literally everything I did was work. My therapist used to tell me that I collect jobs like people collect knick-knacks. Because at any given time I would have two or three jobs that I was doing; I am a workaholic and I've always been a workaholic. And it's stepping back from that, and I honestly had gotten to a point where I could not remember the things that I enjoyed doing that weren't work. Which is a really sad and sick place to find yourself in. I remember one thing I started doing is I really liked to read magazines, so I would give myself permission every week when I would go to the grocery store on Sunday, to buy a magazine. I didn't want one that came in in the mail, but to actually purchase a magazine and to sit down and read it. Which Was something that I really enjoyed, but I had gotten to a point in my life where everything that I used to enjoy no longer brought me any joy, because when I was doing it I was just worried about what I needed to be doing instead. Exercise is great for me; I need to exercise on a regular basis. When I do not it is not good for my mental health. So it's just knowing that and knowing that even if I really, really don't want to go to the gym or don't want to go for a walk or run, that I really need to do so for my own health, that it's a self-care thing. Jeena Cho: [00:19:35] I love all of those, and that word self-care is just so key. It's funny, I also had a therapist that suggested I write down just three things I'm grateful for every day. And I actually started having so much anxiety around the fact that my grateful list wasn't good enough. I'd write down things like, I'm so grateful for the lunch that I ate today, and then I'd be like oh my gosh really, you're grateful for your lunch?! Megan Boyd: [00:20:00] Right, yeah. You know my therapist was really good at telling me, these can be silly things. They can absolutely be silly, they don't have to be big, monumental things. I laugh, I always tell people I am the best direction follower you can possibly imagine. So I was dutiful about doing this, and I would bring it and I would show it to her and she would give me approval, and I was like yes I've done this right! [00:20:30] Which is in itself not the greatest thing, but I was dutiful about doing it. And the more I did it, the easier it sort of got to do. And again, it sounds like a really silly thing, but it really, really did have a big impact on me. And like I said, even now I'll go back and I'll read the things that I wrote as long as four or five years ago, and see what it was that day that I was feeling really grateful for. And it's many of the same things that I feel grateful for now, so it's a reminder that these really good things are still in my life. Jeena Cho: [00:21:08] I use an app called Happy Feed, kind of the same thing. It's three things you are grateful for, it prompts you. And I also like being able to scroll back and see what I wrote previously. I'm also a huge fan of Insight Timer. I have some of my guided meditations on there too, so definitely check it out. And what I love about Insight Timer is that you get stars, and I feel like as adults we need more opportunities where someone give you a gold star for a job well done. Megan Boyd: [00:21:36] Yeah, absolutely. I love it that it's like you've meditated five days in a row. And I'm like yes, yes I have! Again, it's the gold star thing. It's really good at cheering you on. And I think Insight Timer is really cool because it has so many different options for you. So whether you want a really short practice or longer practice, whether you want to sleep, whether you need help with anxiety, or various things that you can put into Insight Timer and it'll pop up with suggestions for meditations and talks and all kinds of things that will really help you. Jeena Cho: [00:22:14] And for the younger attorneys out there, or even law students that are like, I just don't think law practice is right for me. What advice or tools or strategies would you offer to them? Megan Boyd: [00:22:32] I would say that you need to at least try it out. Even though I really didn't want to, I needed to go and try it out and see if maybe it was just a bad time in my life that led me to believe this. And so I stuck it out for five years, but it was about at the end of year three where I started getting ready to make my move. And it took two years for me to do it. So I think that that's a good lesson, because even if you get in and you're like gosh, I really, really am ill-suited for this, I need to find something else to do. It's oftentimes really difficult to do that. It's figuring out how to, number one. And it's getting up the courage to do so. That was one of the things that was hard for me, because as unhappy as I was, it was still fear of the unknown was worse than the unhappiness that I felt. And actually, one of the things that I did was I got some bonus money (one of the years when I got a bonus) and I took that money and I hired a career coach. I remember some of my friends saying, that's a waste of money, you don't even know that that's going to work. And I said yeah, but what I'm doing right now isn't working so it's worth a shot. And the thing is that the stuff that the career coach did for me was nothing that was rocket science right? Now in retrospect, it makes perfect sense. But what she did was sit me down and say, "What is it you like to do? Are there parts of law practice that you really enjoy? Could we figure out a way for you to practice law so you did mostly those things and little of other things?" And she really got me thinking about what is it that I do really enjoy about law. I loved law school, as I've said several times here, and I really thought that I might want to go teach. I had no idea how to get on the path to do that, and she really helped me to figure out what I needed to do to get to a point where I could go into academia and teach. And again, because I'm a good direction follower I did everything that she asked me to do. She would give me homework assignments and it was the fear of disappointing her or letting her down that really motivated me to do them, because they were things that made a lot of sense but it required me to reach out to people and go outside of my comfort zone. And without that additional motivation, I'm not sure I would have done it on my own or I would have done it as quickly as I did. Jeena Cho: [00:26:30] Yeah and I think that's really the key, is to do those things that scare you and make you uncomfortable. Because that's really the only way you're going to grow and find your path. Megan Boyd: [00:26:38] Yeah, absolutely. I talk to so many lawyers who my friends, my age, many older, who are really, really unhappy, but they're not willing to put in the work it would take to figure out how to change what they do or to leave law. There's not a lot of advice that either you or I or really anybody else can offer somebody who's just not willing to do that. It is scary, it takes a lot of courage to leave something that you've spent so many years of your life both preparing for and doing. And so you really have to motivate yourself to get up that courage to do it, or you're never going to leave. Because let's face it, there are lawyers who make a ton of money and lawyers who don't make a lot, but nobody is living at the poverty line. People who practice law for the most part make an okay living to survive. [00:27:36] So for those people like me, who made a pretty good living, it's also hard mentally to think to yourself, I'm going to be leaving all of this for the unknown. I know when I was getting ready to leave, people (including my family members) thought that I was just absolutely out of my mind. They said why would you leave what you have? You have a great job, you're doing well at your firm (which I was), you have a job that many people would die to have. Why are you voluntarily giving this up? And it was again having the strength and courage to be like, this isn't for me. And it took years to get up that courage, it wasn't something that happened immediately. Jeena Cho: [00:28:21] And also I think that's where working with a coach is really helpful, because they're not going to have an agenda. "You have such a good thing going, why don't you just stay?" They're going to be unbiased and figure out what is it that you want, not what your friends think you should do or what your family thinks you should do. So I think that's the other benefit of working with a coach. Megan Boyd: [00:28:34] Yeah, absolutely. And that's where it's different than talking with friends or things like that, people who know you. Having somebody like a coach or a therapist, who is unbiased and who is not willing to put up with your crap, is really, really important. Not everybody can afford to hire a career coach or things like that, but I think finding somebody you can talk to, who will give you good advice is key. And honestly it's frightening; it was frightening for me because I didn't want my firm to know that I was thinking about leaving law practice. So I was initially very hesitant to even tell anybody, and it was actually the telling people once I got more comfortable with that idea that really got me thinking about other things that I could do. Because of course my experience was somewhat limited, but talking to other folks they said, have you thought about doing this, or have you thought about going here? And it was really sharing that with other people and hearing their feedback that convinced me that I could do it; that it was something that I could do, and that the world wouldn't end if I left. Jeena Cho: [00:29:45] And so much of that is thoughts that are not based in fact or reality. Megan Boyd: [00:29:48] Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. You know I really loved the boss that I worked for at my firm, so much so that my friends would say, yeah if you can't be happy practicing law for him you can't really be happy practicing law. And I absolutely thought that that was true. And one of the things that was very stressful for me was leaving him, because he was great and he was so good to me. So that stressed me out, and I left and the world didn't end, and everything is fine. He's still practicing law and doing great, and has other associates and partners who work for him, and everything is fine. But again, when you're caught sort of in yourself and in your own head, that was something that also stressed me out. Money is a huge stressor for many people who want to leave the law but don't feel like they can because of finances. I wasn't a person who was in that position because I didn't really have a lot of loans from law school, I was lucky enough to get a scholarship to go to law school so I didn't have a lot of student loans. I hadn't bought a big house or a fancy car, I didn't have children in private school; I wasn't caught by the golden handcuffs. And so I felt that I had a lot more ability to do this than maybe some other lawyers did. But it still took preparation for me to leave. My job after I left traditional law practice was as a law clerk for a judge, and I made less than half of the money there that I made the year before. So that required looking at my finances and figuring out what am I spending extraneous money on that I don't really need to. And I found that there were a lot of things that I was doing and buying that I was doing and buying to make myself feel better. [00:32:49] I was justifying my retail therapy; I had worked so hard, I had been up late at the office many nights in a row preparing for this trial, and then it settled. So I'm going to go out and buy myself something to celebrate all the hard work I've put it in. And once you get to a place where you're happy with your job and happy in your life, you don't need that anymore. But for anybody who's thinking about leaving, obviously money is something that you have to think about. You have to start preparing for that ahead of time, reducing your debt or minimizing your expenses, or figuring out can my spouse maybe go back to work or go back to work full-time, and can we make this work in that way if I do this? I don't think for most lawyers it's something that you can just one day say I'm going to do this and immediately make that happen. Jeena Cho: [00:33:49] Megan, it was so nice having you on the show. For the listeners out there that want to connect with you, what are some of the ways they can connect with you? Megan Boyd: [00:33:51] I am pretty active on Twitter, my handle is @LadyLegalWriter. And I tweet about language and writing and travel, and other things that just really interests me. And anybody who is interested in chatting about leaving law practice or figuring out ways to find an area of law practice they really love and enjoy, can absolutely e-mail me. I'm happy to chat about it, because again I've done it and I think it always helps to talk to somebody who's done it before. And so my email address is boyd_megan@yahoo.com. Jeena Cho: [00:34:23] And Megan, my last question to you is this. The name of this podcast is called The Resilient Lawyer. What does it mean to be a resilient lawyer to you? Megan Boyd: [00:34:31] To me, being a resilient lawyer means always learning from everything that you do. Whether it's law-based, learning from past mistakes that you've made, figuring out what you would do different in handling cases in the future. Or learning more about yourself as you go along in law practice, and figuring out what it is again that motivates you. What are the areas that you love, what are the areas that you don't love as much, and how can you figure out a way to develop a law practice in the traditional sense, or to move outside of a traditional law practice to find something that really makes you happy and brings you joy? Because now that I have that in my life, I realize how unhappy I was beforehand and how I would be so unhappy now if I were still in the area of practice and in the traditional law practice that I was in. So it's absolutely about figuring those things out, and being willing to take a chance and figure out what it is that really motivates you, and to move outside of what people think that you should be doing or should do into something that you love and that you want to do. Jeena Cho: [00:35:41] Great advice. Megan, thank you so much for joining me today. Megan Boyd: [00:35:44] Thank you Jeena. Closing: [00:35:44] Thanks for joining us on The Resilient Lawyer podcast. If you've enjoyed the show, please tell a friend. It's really the best way to grow the show. To leave us a review on iTunes, search for The Resilient Lawyer and give us your honest feedback. It goes a long way to help with our visibility when you do that, so we really appreciate it. As always, we'd love to hear from you. E-mail us at smile@theanxiouslawyer.com. Thanks, and look forward to seeing you next week.    

Katrina Ruth: Scary? Why is it scary? I thought I looked mystical and fabulous, like a fairy in the garden, in the night. Katrina Ruth: Hi Melanie. Hi Megan. Melanie, who says I look scary. Hey Sarah. Hey Kelly. There's many things that we could discuss. It's quite likely that we'll discuss none of them. Katrina Ruth: Hey Mandy. You're such a breath of fresh air on my newsfeed, all the time. I just want to let you know that. You're always so positive and uplifting. Quite commonly, I unfollow people left, right, and centre on my newsfeed just for being fricking boring, or annoying, or I don't know. I unfollow people. Do you guys do this? I unfollow people. Hey Claire. Hey, hey to everybody whose names I didn't see. Hi Brittany. You know, sometimes it doesn't tell me that you jumped on, so if you feel like I said hello to everybody else and then not to you, I'm not trying to blank you out. It just randomly tells me some people and not other people. Katrina Ruth: What was I saying? Do you unfollow people for being annoying? Why would you not? Or do you just let them be annoying on your newsfeed and then kind of be like, “Ugh. You're annoying,” but then you keep them there? I unfollow people Hang on, let me share this over to my group. Hello from the mystical gardens of Bali. That's where I'm at if you didn't know. I will unfollow a bitch. What's the male version of a bitch or is it a bitch as well? I don't know. Shanshera, I'm sending you love and a shout out cause I didn't know what was going on with you and I saw that on my feed not too long ago, a day or two ago. Katrina Ruth: You've been MIA on my feed. Sometimes people just go missing in action on my feed. It doesn't mean I unfollowed them, they just went missing in action. But I will unfollow a bitch or, I was going to say bitchette, but that's kind of the female version, as well. What's the male version of a bitch, Christine? Still a bitch? Christine says still a bitch. She's the expert. Appointed just then, by me. Katrina Ruth: I will unfollow somebody for putting some bullshit post up. I would try and give you an example except I unfollowed all the examples that I already saw this evening. Let me see if I can find my ... No I can't go reading their post. What if the person was on here? I don't know. You know, people put up like kind of “Woe is me" ... not woe is me. What's the word? I'm going to call it a hoity-toity post. Kind of vague. A hoity-toity post is something like, "Did you know that blah, blah, blah, blah blah?" I don't know. I've got no good examples but I saw one earlier today. I was like, "You know what? I'm done with your boringness on Facebook, person" and I unfollowed them. Cause what I want to see on my Facebook, what I want to see, what I want to see is value. Value. Value, which could be entertainment. It could be randomness and shenanigans. It could be something raw and real. Here's what I don't care for. Katrina Ruth: People try to be raw and real. You can tell when somebody's written a post ... I definitely want to see bleeding mother fucking purpose, Christine ... You can tell when somebody's written a post where they're like, "Now I'm going to be raw and vulnerable, and I'm going to share my struggle, and then people will know that I have a bleeding heart, and here is this special bleeding heart that I packaged up for you, to present to the world as a bleeding heart. So that you know that I'm raw, and vulnerable, and real." And I'm like, "No, bitch. You just wrote some shit up that you hoped would get engagement, and we can all tell, and it's embarrassing for you." Katrina Ruth: So then I unfollow them. Why were we talking about that? Why did we start talking about that, what was it? I don't know, but I nearly didn't go live cause I sat here, I stared at myself for some minutes ... Which is a confession that I do pretty frequently ... I put the livestream on. I was like, "Will we do this thing? Yes or no? No or yes?" I felt that I have nothing of interest to say to anybody. But then I reminded myself that, that's often when the best live streams happen. I did want to talk about what I said the topic was ... Let me refer back to it ... because one of my clients had asked me on a Voxer, which I answered, not so long ago. Something around she notices she's becoming an influential leader and building a following. Of course, cause that's what my clients do. Katrina Ruth: I was asked if I unfollow people, or did I initiate that conversation? I felt like I jumped in there. Did I ask myself? Was it higher self Katrina asking current less conscious Katrina? I like it when people make jokes about conscious versus unconscious, because is anybody actually unconscious, then they're dead? But at the same time, I love to be surrounded by conscious, hot as fuck, sexy people. I started talking about it because he said, ... Oh right it was all about Mandy, that is right. Thank you Mandy. Katrina Ruth: Because, you go through Facebook, and when I'm putting my kids to bed is a time when they're drifting off to sleep and I'm still in the bed with them, that's kind of the key time of day I would say when I do a bit of Facebook scrolling. I tend to avoid doing it otherwise cause it's a ghastly, ghastly fricking quick sand of a rabbit hole to fall down, if you're not careful. If you're not careful, your whole life will fall down the rabbit hole of Facebook. And I was on there earlier tonight, when I was putting ... I was like, "This is so much bullshit." Which was very judgemental of me and judge not lest you be judged, so judge me all you like, judge away. Katrina Ruth: You could judge my greasy hair, it's quite interesting what's going on up in there. You could judge that I do have no bra on, that's true. You could judge whatever you like. You could judge the fact that you could stay on here for an entire hour, and it's pretty unlikely that I'll ever get to the point, but it will probably be amazing. You can judge whatever you want, cause it's true, I do judge from time to time. But then I saw Mandy saying something about something. I don't remember what it was. I'm going to go look it up now. Katrina Ruth: I was like, "Well at least Mandy's always very positive and uplifting on my newsfeed." Is it too dark and pixelated for everybody or just for Rachel? Let me turn up my screen on my computer. No, it's already all the way up. Too bad, you're going to have to deal with it, but it looks good on my screen. Mandy has a brightly coloured question here on her page, which I found to be delightful. That was basically the entire story. Odd to see that my hair is greasy. Well that's probably better for everyone. That's fine. That is totally fine. Katrina Ruth: It doesn't matter anyway, it's Bali. There's no need to wash, or get dressed in Bali. You can just walk around looking as you will, like a vegan hippie who eats a lot of meat. That's me, I'm a vegan hippie who eats a lot of meat. I love a good vegetarian diet with steak added. All right, I'm going to try and get on point, cause it's actually a really good point. So, I was talking to my client, I was replying on Voxer, and she's noticed that she's becoming an influential leader, of course because that's what happens with all my clients. Katrina Ruth: She said, "Now the only next thing to figure out is how to monetize that". And I was like, ... well, well, I gave her an answer relevant to her particular situation and examples from her life. So, that won't necessarily apply for everybody, but essentially I was like, "Well, because you just fucking decide to." As soon ... Everybody loves a good vegetarian diet with steak added, it's the healthiest thing for you. Now I'm going to lose a hundred vegan followers. Do I have a hundred vegan followers? Don't worry, I have vegan friends. It's not unheard of. Katrina Ruth: Say what you will. I just said, "Judge not lest you not be judged." I just called it in. That was probably a foolish mistake. So, have you ever noticed that those people who have like two hundred thousand followers on their fan page, or I don't know if you know people, but I know a few people who have a couple a hundred thousand people on their email lists, or even more. I'm gonna let you in on something which may not have occurred to you, and then I'm going to tell you the fastest way to make all the monies that you want to make. Katrina Ruth: There's people have a massive fucking following who make no money at all. So, if you have some kind of idea in your head, ... or they make a small amount of money, that seems like a lot smaller than what it really fucking should be for the size of their following, in my opinion. And I've seen many people at that. Good examples often, comedians and entertainers who have really funny Facebook pages, but they clearly know nothing about monetization or marketing, and it's a very sad thing. But I've seen it with entrepreneurs as well, have massive followings and they just, I don't know, they must be going for a numbers game, quantity over quality or something. I can't be bothered talking about that cause it's just not interesting. Katrina Ruth: But, because why would you do that, it'd just be weird? My point is, or my ... I'm already bored with myself. I get so bored with myself when I try to stay on topic. I'm like "What is this? Am I trying to teach a fucking university lecture here? Do I need a slide show? Should I've made some fricking notes?" Somebody once told me that they make notes before they do a livestream. I felt like I needed to pray for them. Does anybody here make notes before they do a livestream? Katrina Ruth: Do you make notes before you go to lunch with a friend? Do you make notes before you go on a date? Do you make notes before you go for coffee? Do you make notes before you sit down and have a conversation with your children? Because if you make notes in those situations, there's many things that I could say about that, which I choose not to, but I probably would walk away backwards from you slowly if I saw you in person. But if you make ... in case I caught it, nothing against you, just in case it was contagious, but if you make notes when you're going into lunch or coffee or a date, then you probably should make notes before you go on to a livestream, since that's your way of being. Katrina Ruth: How do I stop going off on a tangent? I am definitely not the person to ask that of. Rosie asked me "How do I stop going off on a tangent?" Do you guys realise that so many of my clients say to me, or so many random people as well, not just clients, will say to me "Imagine you made notes on a date. Imagine then you got caught with the notes. Maybe you called in the right person and they wanted you to make notes, maybe they wanted a slide show, maybe they wanted a PowerPoint presentation." That's it, next time if I ever go on a date I'm gonna make a PowerPoint presentation, I'm gonna pull it out, I'm gonna say "Here's all the ways that I'm fabulous and entertaining" cause that's basically what you're fucking doing if you're making notes for livestream. Just saying, all right? Katrina Ruth: On the odd occasion of my notes, I completely ignored them. Well, one should definitely only make notes for the purposes of ignoring them, whether they're mental notes or bullet points on a Post-It. Technically, I did make a note, I made one note, which was the topic title of the livestream, in fact, I'm sorry. I should pay some kind of penance because obviously I'm making fun of people for making notes, but I always make a note, I make one note. I make the title of the livestream and then I typically forget it by about ten minutes in and have to ask what it was. Katrina Ruth: So people will often say to me "Kat, I'm just so rambly all the time, I don't ever get my point across to people, and I don't feel like I'm making any sense or being clear." And then they say to me "You're so clear and concise" or something like that. I'm like "Aaaaah, have you heard me? Are you talking to the wrong person?" I go off onto seven thousand tangents. "Yeah, I still go off on a tangent even when I've made notes" says Rachel. Katrina Ruth: Well, I'm gonna admit that back in the day, I'm not sure which day it was cause I don't keep notes on the day, but back in the day, one day, once upon a time, many, many moons ago, I would make notes when I did presentations of any kind, and then I would typically ignore them or forget them. Or, alternatively, probably give the most boring fucking seminar/workshop or whatever it was in the history of the world cause I was looking at my notes instead of looking at my soul. You have a choice in life which is that you can look at your notes or you can look at your soul. Katrina Ruth: Okay, let me just clarify the topic of the livestream, it was something about just cause you have a following you're not gonna make money. Well, the whole answer to that is just fucking decide to make money, okay? That's actually the answer to all of it. There's nothing more that can be said about it. But if you wanted more detail on it, I suppose you could join me in Rich Hot Empire, and then I teach you all the things, but I don't want to talk about it right now. You can message me about that, and I'll give you the overview of how it works. Katrina Ruth: Rich Hot Empire, six weeks one-on-one with me, it starts next Monday. It's actually very fucking structured, despite all the fun that I poke at structure. It's structured purely, purely so that you can take the structure and throw it off the penthouse balcony; which is where I'm at right now, in my Bali Airbnb penthouse. They call it a penthouse, so I think they're just trying to market it because actually you went up one flight of stairs, so it's technically one level above ground, but it says penthouse on the front door. I'm like "Hmm. I feel like this is an interesting appropriation of the word penthouse, but I'll go with it". Katrina Ruth: So when I was a kid my dad had a book called Nonsense Omnibus, it was a very hilarious book. Nonsense Omnibus, and in it had the recipe to make a nonsense omnibus cake. Let's see if we can find it, it was hilarious. Nonsense omnibus cake. This is going to be important. This is what you should do with notes, let me read this recipe to you. I can't believe I just found it. Did I find it? No, that's bullshit. They're just making shit up, hang on, let me try one more time. Edward Lear's Nonsense Omnibus. Okay, so basically you made the cake and then once you've made ... it would be more funny if I could find the actual recipe. Katrina Ruth: Does anyone know it? Is anyone's family as odd as mine? Then once you've finished making the cake, and it had all these really specific instructions about how to make the cake and then at the end it said "And promptly throw it out the window". And I don't remember why, but it was definitely hilarious as a child. That's pretty much what notes are for, you should make all the notes, you should make a PowerPoint presentation about the notes and of the notes, you should definitely put some pie charts in there. People love pie charts, for sure. If I could procure one right away, I would, but I have a bottle of Bordeaux, similar, same type. Katrina Ruth: And then you should make all of the notes, with the pie charts, and with some graphs in there, and then right as you're going in ready to present, you should throw it somewhere, quickly. Then maybe burn it, as well, just in case you get some sort of scarcity mindset and think that you need it back. That's what notes are for. To say it again, if you are the kind of person who likes to make notes before you like to go to coffee with a friend or on a date with a person, certainly you could make notes for livestream. Otherwise, I feel like you could just turn on the camera and have a conversation. I mean, I'm sure nobody ever built a fucking business based on conversation and communication, imagine that sort of horrific idea. It would be bizarre, it would be next level bizarre. Katrina Ruth: Imagine if anybody ever thought that they could build a business by communicating with people and listening to them, and engaging in like a real, sort of normal, human person, everyday fashion. Imagine if some moron thought they could build a business without 26 pre-written sales emails, and a Facebook ad. I don't know what people are thinking out there in the world. It's similar to if you want to make new friends, which is another topic that I was discussing with a client earlier this evening. She said maybe we could start like a, in the email client group, that they could start some group threads or conversations, I don't know, an accountability thread. Katrina Ruth: What's up, savage? John's just in there, he's like, straight in, commenting calling me a savage. I'll go with it, thank you. Okay, so I see this happen a lot right? I'm gonna call you guys out on this. If you join my client groups on my programme, my high ticket programme, whatever you do, and then you go "Let's all make an accountability thread so that we all have to check in with each other once a week and that way we can all become friends or something" I just want to remind you that in a normal friendship, a real friendship that's a genuine friendship, ... I like the savage part of me too ... you don't typically say "We're going to have an accountability thread in a friendship and we must check in with each other once a week". Katrina Ruth: You're definitely not the first person. I've seen it happen repeatedly. It always happens, and then people tell me about it. "We made an accountability thread" and I'm like "Cool." I don't care, do whatever you want, but that's not actually how friendship works, right? And it never lasts, they never last, and then typically people start messaging me and they're going like "Oh, I feel like I want to quit the accountability thread but I feel bad" basically. I get those messages a lot, cause it's kinda becomes like a chore. Imagine you had a friend who said to you that you've got to check in and give them an accountability update every Tuesday or any sort of timeframe, and that you would have an accountability friendship thread. I'm just saying. Katrina Ruth: The best way to do it is to act like it's already real, and actually that brings us right back to the topic at hand, right back to the topic at hand. Yes! Sometimes we go back there. So the best way to do it, the best way to make money from being a leader, let's say you already have some sort of influence, you might have an influence over four people, or four hundred people, or four hundred thousand people, well done. Maybe, you're fricking hilarious, and you've got millions of people following you already, and you don't know how to make money from it. Maybe you have done some sort of something and you've somehow managed to get people into your list by giving them free PDFs, that definitely does it, always give free PDFs, people love to get a free PDF. Give it to them, they will join your list for sure. Katrina Ruth: If you got into the fricking DeLorean and went back to 1989, I would say that definitely join your list for sure. Now, you're welcome to test it out. But maybe, maybe, maybe you did build the list in 1989 and you still haven't figured out how to monetize the fuck out of it. The point is, you just act like it's already done. Same as with making friends. If you want to make new friends on the internet, and who doesn't, it's a gross place to meet weird and interesting people, then you should act like you're already friends with them because people do like friendly people, it's a true fact. Katrina Ruth: People like to have new friends approaching them, they genuinely do, I'm not even trying, it sounds like I'm being a smart-ass for some reason, but I'm not. Everybody's out there ... I think it's just because it's my nature ... but everybody's out there wanting new friends, for sure, entrepreneur friends. How many people don't want new friends? If they're total badasses, like none of us want flaky friends who talk about PDFs and think that you've got to make notes before you can go to coffee together. Katrina Ruth: I don't have that many friends myself, but I'm always open for amazing new friends, and I'm growing my friendship base all the time. Maybe I've hundreds of friends at this stage, I don't know. A few years ago, I had no friends at all, or I only had several that I'd kept leftover from my previous life, and how I made new friends was I fucking decided to turn [inaudible 00:21:37] in my journal. Now, if you want new friends, if you want badass, entrepreneurial friends, which I would say that 99.99% of people here would desire that for sure because it's pretty normal to feel quite alone, kind of lost in the wilderness, not this particular wilderness necessarily. If you were lost here you'd have me and a bottle of bordeaux, you'd be totally fine. Katrina Ruth: There's a spire over there too, so we'd have the best time ever. Anyway, I think I might have made my point. There's nothing else I need to say about it, but it's the same with making money online. If you ... exactly, Kellie wants more friends ... everybody wants more friends, but don't all of you go friending each other off on the comments thread by offering an accountability for it thread. That's not how friendships work, you guys, you can offer a shenanigans thread, I've seen that done very successfully, and somewhat disturbingly. Don't offer an accountability thread for your friendships. Nobody wants that, I don't know why that became a thing on the internet. Katrina Ruth: I don't think people even want that from their coach. Do you want me to give you an accountability thread? Cause I give you a kind of shenanigans thread, which is my private client message channel and then you can say, you can ask for things for accountability there, as an official, but I don't think anyone wants me fricking knocking on their soul door every Tuesday morning asking for a check in. Your vibe attracts your tribe. Hey Amanda. Great advice about the PDF. I'm full of great advice about PDFs. I've many things I could say about PDFs, I've many PDFs, also. I've made many PDFs. Katrina Ruth: What is that? Accountability thread is when I run a programme, like even Rich Hot Empire which is my six week, one-on-one which starts, again for, open until next Monday. And it's fucking amazing, and people form connections, but they're not necessarily create like a real friendship in six weeks, but they obviously see that they're aligned and the same sort of person and then people want to keep in communication with the other people in the group and they want to make friends. And so then some bright spark says "Let's all do an ongoing group thread together so that we can all stay in touch with each other and be accountable" and the words be accountable are where you just moved out of the friend zone and into some kind of ... I don't know what zone that is because it's not being a mentor because, to be perfectly frank with you, people don't want a mentor with the people that they see as being on the same level with them as friends. Katrina Ruth: Even though, of course, we all coach our friends in some way, cause we're mainly fricking coaches of some form, so that's fine, that's normal, but you know what I mean? Like, delete the word accountability, if the intention is friendship. If the intention is accountability, well, good fucking luck with that, cause I'm gonna let you know most people just don't want accountability. What do I think about accountability? Well, pretty much what I just said. I think that people think that they should want it, but in the end, who wants to answer to anybody. Well, if you did, I'm gonna tell you there's a name for you, and it's called non-entrepreneur. Katrina Ruth: That is largely the problem with accountability threads. So now that we've cleared that up, the money making thing. How do you make money as an influential leader. If you have a following of four people or four hundred or four hundred thousand or four million. Well, it's actually going to happen because you decide that you're going to make money from it. It's not gonna happen because you build a fucking funnel, it is not gonna happen because you make a fabulous offer, it is not gonna happen because you made the best PDF in the history of PDFs and you gave it to your people for free ... they're gonna love you for that. They do love the free PDFs, the people, they don't really care what's on it, it's just the word free with the word PDF, people get very excited about it. You're gonna build your email list like that, hopefully nobody thinks I'm fucking serious right now. Katrina Ruth: People are looking at me like "Okay, must make a PDF, doesn't matter what's on it, Kat said so". Nontrepreneur. Exactly, a nontrepreneur. A person who legitimately wants accountability as opposed to a person who just thinks that they want accountability cause they think they should, person who actually wants accountability is called a nontrepreneur, and you should hire them to work for you in your business as your assistant. You should not try and be accountable because if it works then you have a problem which is you're a nontrepreneur. Katrina Ruth: How've we never thought of the word nontrepreneur before? People love free. People freaking hate free. The wrong people love free. Who wants a free PDF? I would unsubscribe forthwith if somebody sent me a free PDF. As if, I have no tonal inclination to be clicking on downloads in my Gmails. In my Gmails, sounds like my underwear. If you want to send me something in my Gmails, paste it into the email so that I don't have to open any fucking stuff up. I will not open stuff, not even from my own staff, I make them send it to me in a pretty format in WhatsApp, so that it looks visually attractive. I make them put it into something that's visually sexy, like literally, my weekly report that I get that I largely don't look at, but it's called Katrina Ruth's Sexy Stats and it has pie charts, for sure, and it has definitely some pretty graphics on it, which I look at and I go "Ah, looks pretty. I guess we made a lot of money" and then I ignore it. Katrina Ruth: No, I do look at it, kinda briefly. So, the making money thing, did we cover it already, do you feel like we've covered it? Do you have questions about the making money thing? Because honestly it's a very serious topic that's very serious and important which makes it hard to talk about cause I'm not so good with the serious at the moment, I've noticed. But it is a serious topic, people do tend to assume that if they have this following, they're gonna automatically make money, but then there's many people out there in the land of the internet who have a big following, or a reasonable following, and they're not making any money at all because nobody ever fucking told them that if you want to make money you gotta ask people to pay you money. That might just blow your mind, right then and there. Katrina Ruth: Actually, it took me like two or three years of marketing online back in 2006 before I came to terms with the fact that I wasn't making any money online and that it was largely a result of the fact that I hadn't been asking people to pay me, and it was kinda like "Hmm. Probably should've thought of that". I think for a lot of people here if you're not making the money you want to be making, at some point you might want to check in on how much fucking sales activity you're doing, how much promotion you're doing, how much you're putting yourself out there and actually telling people to buy from you, and it might be a little bit of a case of "Well, if you make more money, you may, in fact, have to be selling more often". And maybe you should just chose that that is a daily part of your business. Katrina Ruth: And honestly it's about getting over it, right? Guess we're going to go into preacher mode, I'm warning you, I'm just letting you know. I can feel it coming through me like a flood, like a Bali sweat flood. I think that people think that the people who are making a fat load of money online, such as myself, and a load of my friends and clients, I think that maybe people think, and maybe you think, that we just kind of always got the confidence game going or always know what to say. Even one of my clients did say to me tonight "Do you ever not know what to say? I'm sure that never happens to you Kat" or that we always are like just waking up like ready to sell. Katrina Ruth: What you might not realise, is it's not actually true. I did not feel particularly inclined to press "go live" on this livestream tonight. I didn't want to go to bed though, and it's, what time is it? It's midnight right now, midnight oh five. I was sleeping for like two hours in the car today, I was on a road trip back from the jungle and, you know when you're in that zombie state, where you're not quite asleep, but you're not awake, and your head keeps lolling down and you're definitely probably snoring in the car? I was doing that for an hour and a half. I was like "Am I awake? Am I asleep? There's a temple, there's a cow, there's a goat. I was asleep. I'm awake", it was kinda like those ones for a couple of hours so, long story short, I'm not tired right now at midnight. Katrina Ruth: But, so I didn't want to go to bed, I did all my stuff, I emptied my inbox down to no new email, two motherfuckers have already emailed me again since I emptied my Gmail. One of them was me cause I send myself a load of email notifications for my coder. The other one was Tim Ferriss, I don't mind Tim emailing me but I'm gonna delete him. Now my email's empty again, as of right now, this moment. I've already answered all my clients, I've done everything that I wanted to do today, which was roughly a full 75 minutes of work, so it was somewhat arduous day. And, basically that's the whole story of running a multi-seven figure business at this point in time, which is exactly what I'm going to teach you in Rich Hot Empire so you definitely should fucking message me about Rich Hot Empire. Katrina Ruth: By the way, I'll give you a comment about it because I haven't told you much about it. [inaudible 00:30:51] video break down is the title of my file that I need here. Right, so I was like "well, if I don't go to bed right now, what am I gonna do? I'm gonna sit around and probably read Facebook and then unfollow a bunch of people cause, I kind of, I don't know, you know when you feel like "I'm really good, I've really done everything that I desire to do for today, I feel like in a flow and at peace with the world and myself and life". And I'm not going to go to sleep though, so long story short, here I am. I decided, well, I will livestream because I'm not a selfish person even though I can appear to be that way at times ... there's a comment for you, it's a pinch now, you can read it later, it's all about Rich Hot Empire. I might refer to it later. Katrina Ruth: Work with me six weeks personally, to grow your perfect cult tribe, perfect cult tribe, like this one right here that's happening on this livestream, create and launch your Low through to High End Empire and set up multiple recurring incomes streams to take you to seven figures and beyond doing what you love. And there's a little break down there in the comments. So read that, that is my six week one-on-one, it is super fucking badass. I would love to talk with you about whether that's for you. You can private message me over on my personal page, Katrina Ruth, and I will get you all the details. Katrina Ruth: Anyway, so I decided to livestream. However, I really didn't feel any message or power coming from me. You gotta understand this, you've got to understand this cause I know that people look at how I do business online and that people want to learn from me or find a way to emulate, you know, in their own way, what I'm doing and how I make my money, and people know I make a lot of money and people also know that I live a really cool lifestyle and I just really honestly do what I want. And that I've reached that entrepreneur holy grail where I have put the work in over the years, and I've been marketing online for years, and so now, it's kinda like "Well, I make money doing what I love and I do what I want, and ease fricking flow and ease" and I teach other people how to do that, aka Rich Hot Empire, right? Katrina Ruth: But, a lot of times people are missing out, or just not aware of, or maybe even kinda don't believe me, I think on the fact that, that doesn't mean that it just comes like automatically all of the time. I guess it comes automatically in the sense that I'm committed to being this person and it's a conscious thing that I choose into on a daily basis. But at the same time, I don't really think about it, like it's just very natural that my mind or my heart or my soul or the voices in my head would say to me "Well, if you're not tired, then what does a normal person do at midnight?" Obviously what a normal person does at midnight is [inaudible 00:33:30], it's perfectly natural, like legitimately in my world, I'm not even trying to be funny, right? Katrina Ruth: So, that's normal that it comes up inside me, like "Well, okay, if you've kinda done everything and there's nothing you really feel called to do, well, obviously we'll do a livestream, right?" But that doesn't mean that I feel inspired to do it necessarily or that I have content that feels like it's coming out and also for whatever reason I felt like a little bit clunky in my head. You know, when you feel a bit clunky in your head? Katrina Ruth: Because I didn't do much of anything all day, I had a real like chilled out rest day, I was staying out in the jungle last night with one of my amazing self-made millionaire clients, Amanda Frances, and another amazing self-made, all the badass things clients, I'm just gonna list off like twenty things at once, Katy Henry, and we stayed there overnight last night. Me and my kids and my nanny, and just had a super fun night and a sleepover, and then built a floating yoga studio in the swimming pool this morning. Got so many Instagram stories, you can go watch it. It was very funny. Katrina Ruth: And then, you see, it's like a three hour drive back from there to where I'm at here in Bali. And so really, I didn't do much all day, and so I felt kind of disconnected, I didn't feel that the power, or the spirit, or the flow, or the angel inside ... I was gonna say devil inside but that doesn't seem necessary ... was coming through me. I definitely didn't really feel the vibe of selling or of showing up or of being on this livestream at all, but at the same time I was like "But I kinda want to do a livestream". And so what do I do? Well, I did sit here, I did type in my little title, I did put the camera where it is now on the tripod, and then I looked at myself for a longer than probably reasonable or professional amount of moments to decide whether I felt like actually going live and to reposition my hair forty-nine and a half times. Katrina Ruth: And then I did what I always fucking do, which is that I just press "go live", and it's like "Well, too late. 3, 2, 1, you're live". That's how Facebook live works, right? You hit the fricking button, too late, it's gonna be live, gotta think of something to say. And honestly, 80-90% of the time, that's how I do my livestreams. I'm like "Eh, I'm not really sure if I'm feeling it" and like there's times for sure when I'm like "I'm fucking feeling it, everybody needs to listen to me right now", but like, somewhat contrarily, if I think that I've got amazing fucking content coming out and that it's gonna be gold is when it will tend to be a bit more random or like, not connected and awkward, and if I think that I've got nothing to fucking say and then I just press exactly [inaudible 00:36:02] I did and press play, then that tends to be when it's better. Katrina Ruth: I have no idea whether this one is like rambly as fuck or of any value at all. And do you know what? I'm not saying that's [inaudible 00:36:16] people like "Oh, it's full of value" or whatever. Cool if it is, but actually it doesn't fucking matter, right? This is the point that you've got to understand if you want to make money online, especially you wanna make serious money online, not just a few dollars here and there. You've gotta understand it doesn't fucking matter. It doesn't matter what content comes out today. It doesn't matter if it was rambly and random, it doesn't matter if a hundred people got value or nobody got value. It doesn't matter if you feel like you brought the gold or not. It doesn't matter if anybody bought your thing or not, it matters: did you show up? Katrina Ruth: So, if you want to be an influential leader online, and/or you just want to get your message and your art out into the world, number one, show the fuck up for your message and your art. Share it with people on a day to day basis, let what's inside of you out, and like people are doing that. There's people doing that, but then if you also want to make money from it, you're gonna need to sell stuff, right? Unless you're relying on pure, you know, manifestation which is not the worst thing at all to rely on. But manifestation also includes practical motherfucking action, all right? So if your thing is "I will just show up and people will send me donations via PayPal or just offer to pay me" well actually that happens to me all the time. Not the donations bit, I've never energetically decided that people would send me donations. I suppose I could experiment with it but I don't really care to. It doesn't feel interesting to me. Katrina Ruth: But people do just ask me how they can send me money, so that really does happen, so I'm not really proving my point particularly well. But actually the reason why people just ask me how they can send me money, and like what do you, I don't even care how much it is Kat, like tens of thousands of dollars, right, to work with me at the high level, how can I pay you I know I need to work with you, that's how 100% of my inner circle clients sign up by the way, no joke. I don't do anything to sell my highest level stuff. The reason is, though, that they've seen how I've shown up, through all the areas of my business, which includes that I freaking sell a lot. Katrina Ruth: The point I was trying to make, and then I kind of undid my own point, cause of course you can manifest anything, however the point I was trying to make is well, what would showing up fully look like for you is actually what matters, because maybe legitimately for some people here showing up fully would simply be getting the art out there and pure solid gold intentions setting that people find, do just come to you and offer to pay you. That legitimately fucking works, that is how all my inner circle clients sign up. And there's people out there for sure who do business that way, they just trust fully in their art and people show up. Katrina Ruth: For me, it has to at least be in aligned to know that I'm going to sell, and I actually enjoy selling when I get the fuck out of my own way and stop making [inaudible 00:38:59] drama in my head, and that it's part of my day to day flow. That I like to make shit up and I like to sell it. And I've been doing it since I was a little kid, we've all been selling since we were kids, in some way, shape, or form. Katrina Ruth: For the entrepreneur who is not currently making the money that they feel they should be making, a very simple action to take could be "Well, I'm just fricking going to make an offer each day in some way, shape, or form". And of course most people won't do it because they feel like "But I'm not really quite sure yet what I'm going to sell or how to put it out there" or "I tried that and then nobody bought my thing and so now I'm kinda feeling bad or walking away with my tail between my legs" ... what's my favourite book about sales? The Bible, for sure. That's gonna teach you everything you need to know about sales. Katrina Ruth: Seriously, I'm not joking. I don't know, I don't read like sales books off the business sales shelf, I learned everything I need to know about sales from Church, from watching all the preachers and my grandfather being a preacher. And I think I read maybe like maybe two sales book in my life to be honest, but I just practised it the whole time, since I was a little kid. Katrina Ruth: I don't really read business books, I will read them and I have read them, I don't tend to make it through them. I get a bit hoity-toity about it, actually. Actually, no more than this, this is how I feel about it to be perfectly frank with you, and it's not like me the human form, it's my higher self and my soul is like "I'm very good here, like I fricking know that if I tap into source energy and higher self I don't need this shit because I just don't want to hear a fucking system or a plan or a script or a I don't care". I don't want to do it even if it works for a hundred million other people. I know that I access everything that I need to access that's gonna make me money, get me results from when I'm connected to soul and higher power and God and source, and whatever, right? All the stuff that most people don't really want to think about or believe in it, even though they actually fucking know that it's real and true. Katrina Ruth: So, for me, I almost find it detrimental or kind of just plain, it feels very two-day old boring to read something that would teach like how to sell or how to do marketing or business strategy or something like that. It would either be detrimental to me cause it will sway me from my purpose if I'm, you know, kind of not grounded state, which happens from time to time, or it's just fucking boring cause my higher self is just sitting there twiddling her thumbs going "Yeah, okay, cool, sure, you can apply a sales strategy. Or, you could just reach into your soul and decide that you're going to make money, and then you do". And you put an offer out there from flow. Katrina Ruth: Maybe I should start a Kat church. Well, I do say Kat church all the time, well, I say Purpose Church with Kat or Money Church with Kat, I've had that hashtag for years. And I've got a couple background banners and stuff and even, you know how I've got the Katrina Ruth frame at the top of this? So, I've got frames that say Purpose Church with Kat and Money Church with Kat, I just always use the Katrina Ruth one, but I can switch them out actually. Cause I do go into full preacher mode, the problem is that I don't really go into preacher mode on command. Like if I say to myself "I'm gonna go into full preacher mode", then I'll probably end up being really irreverent and just funny, which is great cause I like being funny and irreverent but then it's like, then I'm not preaching. Katrina Ruth: But if I say that I'm gonna try and be funny, then I'll probably end up in serious preacher mode, like basically you've gotta let the message be the message. I'm using my AirPods case for emphasis for some reason today cause I don't have a sceptre handy. I do have a bottle of wine, I could, I don't really want to use that for emphasis I'll probably accidentally tip it on to the laptop. So let's move right along, we did that, it's about my favourite sales book. Katrina Ruth: But what I prefer to read is stuff that's gonna help me to ... ooh ... Hello. It's a small person that's arrived. Can you not go to sleep? It's like the middle of the night. What I prefer to read is ... you can sit on my lap ... is higher purpose stuff, like soul, I don't know, I prefer to read stuff that helps me access my beliefs and kind of reaffirm for me my beliefs and what I already feel and what I already know is true inside of me. That's the sort of stuff I like to read, so kind of woo-woo manifesty, mystical, spiritual stuff. But I'll definitely pick up books, especially if people recommend them I guess, on the other things, and then largely I'll throw them out the window much like the cake in Nonsense Omnibus, except you can't really throw a book on Kindle out the window. You just have to leave it on the Kindle. Katrina Ruth: You can't even seem to actually delete a book, fully, off Kindle. I don't know what that's about. Like I've tried to do it and it's like "Too bad. For all of eternity and all devices that you ever buy from here on out, the world is gonna know that you downloaded this fricking book". And there's definitely some books on there I would prefer to remove from now. I'm sure there's a way. What do you think, are you awake? No, not awake. People are saying hello to you. Katrina Ruth: So, I think I'm gonna go. You want me to come to bed? I'm gonna go, but we said many things about many things. I've no idea if I made my point at all, but roughly the whole point of the entire livestream was if you want to monetize your audience, then you probably should start asking for money. It's just an idea, right? But you can do that asking energetically or you can do it in a practical and physical sense, or you can do both. I like to do all the things, try everything out, everything, everything, everything. Katrina Ruth: And then the other point of the matter was, Rich Hot Empire is my six week, one-on-one, private client intensive, it is amazing. I've been running it since 2016, it is incredible stuff that we do. You have completely unlimited one-on-one access to me through that six weeks, so as a one-on-one mentor, I give unlimited access to my clients. So we talk pretty much every day in some way, shape, or form. We do a lot of audio messages, obviously we have one-on-one call time as well, but then you also go into private client master mind with my other Rich Hot Empire clients and typically some of my inner circle clients come and play in there as well. Katrina Ruth: And what we're doing over those six weeks is looking at how you can build your soulmate cult tribe, build a low right through to high end online empire just like I've done. I've taken my business to multi-seven figures, per year, and continuing to climb each year. With products ranging from like $47 through to tens of thousands of dollars and based all on following what I love doing, I'm following my flow and that's what I teach you to do in Rich Hot Empire. So take you behind the scenes of my business, show you exactly what to do and exactly how to do it. There's some info here in the pinned comment, and really just give you all the insights into what we do do in my business. You get to access that content for life, so you get to keep it all for life. Katrina Ruth: So that's the structured side of it, and then in our one-on-one work we're doing a lot of actually soul trips, inner work, and do transformational stuff that you specifically need. We also do ... Where are you going, are you going to sit down? Alyssa: I'm sweaty. Katrina Ruth: I'm sweaty. We also do ... yeah, I'm sweaty. It's Bali. We also do Hotseat Masterminds and a whole bunch of other stuff. But it's all here in the pinned comment, you can have a read about that. I know I was extra rambly tonight, but I do go all in with my clients when we really just get into the core of who you are, what you want to put out there into the world. And the intention with Rich Hot Empire is, in a six week period we're doing more, and bringing to life more than what most people do in two years, and that's exactly what happens so have a read if it's speaking to you. Message me over on my Katrina Ruth personal page and I'll get you all the details and we'll go from there. I hope that you got something of value from the livestream today, tonight, where ever you are in the world, whatever time it is for you, have an amazing rest of the day, and do not forget: life is now - Alyssa: There's no part of the rest of the day. Katrina Ruth: There's no ... Alyssa says there's no part of ... I thought you were gonna say press play when I said life is now, and she said "there's no part of the rest of the day". Well, sorry everyone in America, the day is over, Alyssa just said so. All right, bye. Love you guys.

Today, Julia writes in to say, "Hi Megan, there seem to be a lot of relationships within the New York City Ballet. What is the dynamic like when breakups occur and how difficult is it to dance with a former romantic partner? Will the casting directors avoid pairing two former romantic partners together?

On each episode Megan answers YOUR questions each and every Tuesday.  Hi Megan, I just LOVE your show and listen every single week.  I am a fairly decent dancer and think based upon my experience could potentially look for a professional job but REALLY want to go to college first.  My goal is to go to a school that has a strong dance program and continue my training there.  I understand that making this choice will limit me from some of the top companies but wonder ifyou know whether I am completely ruining my chances by pursuing college before professional dance?  Thanks so much for your time.  Ellory   Find Megan Fairchild ~  website/Twitter/Instagram Do you have a question about Ballet? YOU can be a part of the show by sending us your questions by clicking HERE:  BalancingPointe.com   Twitter/Instagram Please leave Rate and Review this show

On each episode Megan answers YOUR questions each and every Tuesday. Today’s question come from Mary who wrote in to ask ~ Hi Megan,  I don’t know if you are familiar with the tv show, So You think You Can Dance and the fact that in their new season they will be featuring young dancers ages 8-18 rather than the older more mature dancers.  As a professional, what do you think about this? Mary   Megan provides her thoughts from a professional Ballerina’s perspective. Find Megan Fairchild ~  website/Twitter/Instagram Do you have a question about Ballet? YOU can be a part of the show by sending us your questions by clicking HERE:  BalancingPointe.com   Twitter/Instagram Please leave Rate and Review this show

On each episode Megan answers YOUR questions each and every Tuesday. Today’s question come from Penny who wrote in to ask ~ Hi Megan – as the mother of a 15 year old dancer who is hoping to pursue a career in professional ballet, I am wondering if there are any “stats” on the percentage of dancers who are pursuing this goal actually “make it”?  We have heard over and over again that “there is a company for every dancer”, but to me it seems somewhat impossible for every child to achieve their dream.  Can there actually be room in the dance world for everyone?   I would love to hear your thoughts on this.  Sincerely, Penny from London   Megan really dives in deep on this common concern for parents. Find Megan Fairchild ~  website/Twitter/Instagram Do you have a question about Ballet? YOU can be a part of the show by sending us your questions by clicking HERE:  BalancingPointe.com   Twitter/Instagram Please leave Rate and Review this show

On each episode Megan answers YOUR questions each and every Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. Today’s question come from: Hi Megan, LOVE the show. As the mother of an aspiring dancer, how do I know when it is the right time to “send your kid” away to a year round training program.  It seems as if dancers are moving away at VERY young ages. Does this really help them in their future career? Thank you so much for your answer, Carol Megan truly helped Carol understand a great way to approach this common dilemma many parents are facing. Find Megan Fairchild ~  website/Twitter/Instagram Do you have a question about Ballet? YOU can be a part of the show by sending us your questions by clicking HERE:  BalancingPointe.com   Twitter/Instagram Please leave Rate and Review this show

On each episode Megan answers YOUR questions each and every Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. Today’s question come from: Hi Megan! I need a new dance bag.  What bags are the most popular among the professionals?  Thanks SO much for providing such great answers each week, I LOVE this show! Love, Maggie    This was a fun question for Megan to tackle! Find Megan Fairchild ~  website/Twitter/Instagram Do you have a question about Ballet? YOU can be a part of the show by sending us your questions by clicking HERE:  BalancingPointe.com   Twitter/Instagram Please leave Rate and Review this show

On each episode Megan answers YOUR questions each and every Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. Today’s question come from: Hi Megan! I’m a big fan of yours and of NYCB. I saw a video of Wendy Whelan helping you sew up your pointe shoes. I’m not a dancer, so I didn’t know pointe shoes were so custom made. At this point in your career, do you think you could manage to dance in shoes made for another dancer? How many pairs do you go through a day and if you don’t mind me asking, what size shoe do you wear? I love this podcast; thanks so much for taking the time to answer questions!   Find Megan Fairchild ~  website/Twitter/Instagram Do you have a question about Ballet? YOU can be a part of the show by sending us your questions by clicking HERE:  BalancingPointe.com   Twitter/Instagram Please leave Rate and Review this show

On each episode Megan answers YOUR questions each and every Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. Today’s question come from: CRUSHED who wrote in saying “Hi Megan, I am 17 years old and in the middle of Summer Intensive Auditions. Each year since I was 13 years old I have gotten into some very reputable programs (including SAB) and have always received at least one full scholarship.  This year not only have I not received ANY scholarship but I have not really received many acceptances.  I am SO upset because I work so hard and now I feel this Th is the ballet world telling me I am not good enough after all.  Do you have an opinion on what might be happening and how I can feel more confident.”  Signed, Crushed.   Megan provides some solid and straightforward advice – you almost feel as if you took one of her classes! Find Megan Fairchild ~  website/Twitter/Instagram Do you have a question about Ballet? YOU can be a part of the show by sending us your questions by clicking HERE:  BalancingPointe.com   Twitter/Instagram Please leave Rate and Review this show

On each episode Megan answers YOUR questions each and every Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday.  Today’s question come from: CRUSHED who wrote in saying "Hi Megan, I am 17 years old and in the middle of Summer Intensive Auditions. Each year since I was 13 years old I have gotten into some very reputable programs (including SAB) and have always received at least one full scholarship.  This year not only have I not received ANY scholarship but I have not really received many acceptances.  I am SO upset because I work so hard and now I feel this Th is the ballet world telling me I am not good enough after all.  Do you have an opinion on what might be happening and how I can feel more confident."  Signed, Crushed.   Megan provides some solid and straightforward advice - you almost feel as if you took one of her classes! Find Megan Fairchild ~  website/Twitter/Instagram Do you have a question about Ballet? YOU can be a part of the show by sending us your questions by clicking HERE:  BalancingPointe.com   Twitter/Instagram Please leave Rate and Review this show