Podcasts about state affairs rethinking infidelity

What's the role of power in your relationships, and how does it shape intimacy?In this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of power dynamics, kink, and midlife sexuality. Inspired by the provocative themes in the film Babygirl featuring Nicole Kidman, I bring my perspective as a sex educator to explore topics that are often left unspoken, but deeply impactful.From the transformative possibilities of power exchange to the surprising ways infidelity might reignite connection, I tackle the complexities of modern relationships with insight and empathy. I also discuss the importance of honest communication about sexual dissatisfaction, the identity of kink as more than just an activity, and society's evolving perspectives on age and gender in relationships.Whether you're curious about exploring kink, reflecting on your own sexual identity, or seeking to deepen connection in your relationships, this episode offers thoughtful reflections and practical advice to help you navigate intimacy with greater clarity and confidence.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(01:15) Power dynamics and blackmail as a kink?(06:00) Dynamics of kink exploration and self-expression(07:30) Why you should openly talk about sexual satisfaction with your partner(08:15) Age-related dynamic shifts in relationships with younger partnersMentioned:Film - Babygirl (2024): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30057084/Book - The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2247: Evan Marc Katz explores the increasing rates of infidelity among women, challenging conventional beliefs about marriage and relationships. Through insights from Esther Perel and Kim Brooks, the article highlights the evolving dynamics and unrealistic expectations that often burden modern marriages. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/cheating/why-women-cheat-on-their-husbands Quotes to ponder: "The fact is, I'm nicer to my husband when I have something special going on that's just for me." "Maybe these women were on to something - valuing their marriages for the things it could offer and outsourcing the rest." "At the end of the day, we accept these flaws." Episode references: State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The threesome you've always wanted continues with Part 2 of our interview with Certified Sex Coach (and our future sex cult leader) Kristen Thomas! If you aren't ready to take notes for this one, why are you here?! Kristen teaches us proper HJ technique, how to correctly use a penis pump and answers the age old question of, “Can every vulva owner squirt?” We also discussed expanding Lindsey's sex toy collection and got tips for re-entering the dating scene for our listeners in the post divorce hoe-phase. Just another tasty treat from your favorite MILFs and the hottest Sex Coach around!Contact Kristen Thomas:@sofreshandsokthttps://openthedoorscoaching.com/ TikTok: @coachkristenInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sofreshandsokt/?hl=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/OpenTheDoorsKC Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/openthedoorscoaching State of Affairs - Esther Perelhttps://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583Bathmate Hydromax Penis Pumphttps://officialhydromaxpump.com/?oid=2&affid=692&chan=ppc&gclid=CjwKCAiArOqOBhBmEiwAsgeLmRIYrzYNRKf-wcgY3AmC-6nwReXK1xgo8AchLwGbgg2hXdzY7VQCzhoCPvwQAvD_BwE

Check out our Sponsors Caveday: Try a FREE 3 hour cave at caveday.org with promo code IMPACT Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/impacttheory for a free trial of Premium Membership. Indeed: Get a FREE $75 CREDIT to upgrade your job post at indeed.com/IMPACT Can you say with absolutely certainty that you are bringing your best self to all the important relationships in your life? Are you afraid you and your partner are slowly becoming more and more disconnected and aren’t sure how to identify the key problems that could be killing the relationship? Whether it’s at home or at work, we need to be mindful of what makes our relationships thrive and what poses a threat to them. On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by Psychotherapist, New York Times Bestselling Author, and host of the emotionally raw and tell-all podcasts ’How’s Work?’ and ‘Where Should We Begin?’ Esther Perelto discuss such matters and more as they explore the pitfalls you need to be on the lookout for that might be killing your relationships, connections, or marriage. They discuss the downfalls you need to be on the lookout for that pose a threat to your relationships, what complacency looks like, why so many couples get it wrong when trying to solve their differences, the power of words and the meaning behind them, how culture comes into play in your relationship, how to understand other’s perspectives, and the tools you need to have a healthy and thriving relationship with anyone in your life.   Order Esther’s book, ‘Mating in Captivity’: amazon.com/dp/0060753641/?tag=wwwestherpere-20   Order Esther’s book, ‘The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity’: amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1501045724&sr=8-1&keywords=state+of+affairs   Listen to Esther’s Podcast, ‘Where Should We Begin?’: whereshouldwebegin.estherperel.com   Listen to Esther’s Podcast, ‘How’s Work?’: howswork.estherperel.com   SHOW NOTES:   Downfalls | Esther reveals the things that kill relationships. [0:17] Complacency | Esther reveals the step-by-step process of how complacency creeps in. [2:36] Blind | Esther reveals why so many people in a relationship fail to see their mistakes. [6:14] Combativeness | Esther reveals the many dynamics of how couples blame each other. [7:33] Words | Esther reveals the power of your words and how you frame your problems. [10:03] Culture | Esther reveals how culture comes into play with relationships. [12:56] Contextualize Yourself | Esther reveals how we can value things differently. [13:58] Meaning | Esther discusses the importance of the meaning behind what you say. [17:47] Business | Esther reveals why so many business relationships fail. [19:54] Perspectives | Esther discusses how you can begin to see other’s perspectives. [21:47] Tea | Tom shares a story where he and his wife, Lisa, argued over a cup of tea. [26:06] Fighting | Esther reveals how we fight over lack of respect and recognition. [28:18] Roles | Esther discusses roles, expectations, and flexibility in a relationship. [30:27] Tools | Esther reveals the key tools you can use to get the most out of your relationship. [31:28] Connect | Esther shares how you can engage with her and continue to learn from her. [33:28]   QUOTES:   “So, you really want to make sure that you don’t assume. “I know what you’re saying.” Ask, remain curious at all times. “What does that mean for you and who told you that?”” [13:55]   “The very thing people often come in fighting over is what was once originally very attractive to each other.” [24:13]   “…people fight over three things primarily: power and control, trust and closeness, respect and integrity.” [25:35]   FOLLOW ESTHER: Website: estherperel.com Podcast: whereshouldwebegin.estherperel.com How’s Work: howswork.estherperel.com Twitter: twitter.com/estherperel Facebook: facebook.com/esther.perel Instagram: instagram.com/estherperelofficial YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC4eN7PS9mi8__4EYxy6VpFw

Relationship expert, psychotherapist, and New York Times bestselling author, Esther Perel, debuts on the show to uncover the TRUTH about infidelity.   You can watch her talk here (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q)   Connect with Esther Perel:    Website https://estherperel.com   Instagram estherperelofficial (https://www.instagram.com/estherperelofficial/)   Book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1501045724&sr=8-1&keywords=state+of+affairs)   Podcast Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel   Hosted by Malikee Josephs (Pronounced Muh leek Jo seffs)

Your host Lisa Cherney is opening up the kimono today! Little did she know when she opened her marriage that it would have a significant impact on her business. If you could live in complete alignment and never suppress any of your magnificence, would you? As you’ll hear, it comes down to questioning your beliefs and stories which open the gateway to freedom. Today’s episode is bound to lead to a #GFRMoment around your business, your mission or feeling fulfilled in life. Get comfy and tune in! ResourcesBooks The Ethical Slut (https://amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379) The State of Affairs (https://amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322591) Sex at Dawn (https://amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/0061707813) Opening Up (https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X) More Than Two (https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory/dp/0991399706) GFR GuestsKamala Devi from episode 2 has a course “ Beyond Monogamy (http://www.kamaladevi.com/beyond-monogamy) “ Reid Mahalko in a future episode on his website  PodcastsLisa’s Interview with Andrea J. Lee – Loving without Limits: Opening Up about being Married and Dating (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doing-impossible-one-thing-at-time-together-podcast/id1319548241?i=1000402281754) The Savage Lovecast (https://www.savagelovecast.com) Multiamory (https://www.multiamory.com/podcast) Life on The Swingset (https://www.lifeontheswingset.com/category/podcast) On the Wetcoast (http://podcasts.onthewetcoast.com) Sex Out Loud (http://tristantaormino.com/category/sex-out-loud) MORE GFR!The 12 GFR Commandments – download your own copy now (https://gfr.life/12c) (https://gfr.life/squad) – get started for just 20 Bucks! Did you enjoy the podcast?If you liked this episode let me know! Reviews for the podcast on iTunes are much appreciated! This helps us reach entrepreneurs just like you to be unapologetically themselves. If you received value from this episode, it would mean the world if you could take a moment and leave your 5-star rating and positive review. You can do that by visiting right here. (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/get-f-ing-real/id1464530109) PHOTO CREDIT: Lindsay Miller, WildlyVisible (https://www.wildlyvisible.com)

On this weeks episode, Nic and Ali catch up on the morning of Fourth of July, hence the name of the episode. Nicole recaps TravelCon 2019, http://www.nomadicmatt.com (Matthew Kepne's) travel conference that was in Boston this June and the fun that was had! Everyone there was doing amazing, inspirational things, from travel bloggers, travel vloggers, journalists, podcasters and tour operators. Some of the keynote speakers included http://www.cherylstrayed.com/ (Cheryl Strayed), http://www.cherylstrayed.com/ (Mark Manson), and http://clayhebert.com/ (Clay Hebert).  Nic caught up with a few familiar faces including Melissa Bitz from https://www.travelingbitz.com/ (Traveling Bitz), Aaron Schlein with https://aaronschlein.com/ (Dramatic Dad) and https://aaronschlein.com/podcasts/family-travel-radio/ (the Family Travel Radio Podcast), Kevin Hill with https://twoadultsnokids.com/ (Two Adults No Kids) and Erick Prince, http://minoritynomad.com/ (the Minority Nomad) a photojournalist. She also chatted with https://bossmeggan.com/ (Meggan Kaiser), the author of https://bossmeggan.com/the-book/ (Everything for Free – Free Travel for the Modern Nomad). Nicole shares Clay Hebert's incredible advice on how the elevator pitch isn't doing you any favors and how to properly introduce yourself. Ali catches us up to speed on what she is reading which is Esther Perel's the ‘https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583 (State of Affairs)‘ and Peggy Orenstein's ‘https://www.amazon.com/Girls-Sex-Navigating-Complicated-Landscape/dp/0062209744 (Girls and Sex)‘ in preparation for raising a young daughter. She is contemplating how girls are taught to view their bodies and changing that landscape. Ali also had a guilt free mommy night out with one of her best friends and details how that felt. What is new with you? What are you working towards? Thanks for listening!      

Esther Perel es una de nuestras pensadoras favoritas, y en este episodio comentamos las ideas que presenta en la entrevista que hace para Lovelink, Episodio nº12 “Developing erotic intelligence”. Lovelink es un podcast sobre relaciones formado por dos psicólogas, que viven y tienen su consulta en Nueva York. Esther Perel es psicoterapeuta y escritora belga, es hija de supervivientes del holocausto, está especializada en terapia de pareja , y saltó a la fama con su libro “Mating in captivity: unlocking erotic intelligence”, traducido como “Inteligencia Erótica”, en el que habla de los dilemas del deseo dentro de la pareja y como reconciliamos dos fuerzas opuestas, que son la seguridad y la aventura. Esther Perel: El secreto del deseo en una relación a largo plazo | TED Talk https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship The State of Affairs: Rethinking infidelity https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583 El dilema de la pareja https://www.planetadelibros.com/libro-el-dilema-de-la-pareja/270799 Podcast: Where Should we begin? https://www.estherperel.com/podcast #Relaciones, #EstherPerel, #Lovelink, #Mejorqueelsexo

Esther Perel es una de nuestras pensadoras favoritas, y en este episodio comentamos las ideas que presenta en la entrevista que hace para Lovelink, Episodio nº12 “Developing erotic intelligence”. Lovelink es un podcast sobre relaciones formado por dos psicólogas, que viven y tienen su consulta en Nueva York. Esther Perel es psicoterapeuta y escritora belga, es hija de supervivientes del holocausto, está especializada en terapia de pareja , y saltó a la fama con su libro “Mating in captivity: unlocking erotic intelligence”, traducido como “Inteligencia Erótica”, en el que habla de los dilemas del deseo dentro de la pareja y como reconciliamos dos fuerzas opuestas, que son la seguridad y la aventura. Esther Perel: El secreto del deseo en una relación a largo plazo | TED Talk https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship The State of Affairs: Rethinking infidelity https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583 El dilema de la pareja https://www.planetadelibros.com/libro-el-dilema-de-la-pareja/270799 Podcast: Where Should we begin? https://www.estherperel.com/podcast #Relaciones, #EstherPerel, #Lovelink, #Mejorqueelsexo

  The Sex Episode  Hannah and Alexa talk about sex and how it’s broken in many ways. Disclaimer: much of the content in this episode focuses on heterosexual, traditional, cis-gendered married couples. This is because Hannah and Alexa primarily with these couple configurations and both identify as heterosexual, cis-gender women. This episode covers a lot of material and is an overview of several issues. Other configurations, identities, sexual orientations, and preferences were not intentionally excluded. Future episodes will expand the conversation and will be more inclusive of others.  Hannah begins the episode by sharing her reasons for why she thinks this is an important topic and why it was so important to her that Broken cover sex. As someone who has been a therapist for 15 years, a woman for 41 years, and someone who was married for 10 years and is now divorced, Hannah shares that over the years she has noticed many people (clients, friends, herself) struggle with sex in many ways. She admits that for many people, while sex is a good thing, it’s also messy and confusing, and not something many people feel comfortable discussing. Because sexuality is an important part of our selves, our relationships, and our health, even though it’s uncomfortable and difficult to talk about, it’s important, and so we dedicate this episode to looking at sex and how it’s broken. Observations  Hannah and Alexa share trends they’ve seen in couples they’ve worked with. Hannah says that often, what’s going on in a couple’s sex life is a good indicator of what’s happening in the relationship in general. A couple’s sex life is often a barometer for the relationship, and is often a predictor of the relationship’s level of communication, connectedness, intimacy, trust, openness, comfortability, honesty, adventure, sharing and ability to ask for and meet each other’s needs.   Alexa shares that she’s been surprised to learn that many married couples do not have frequent sex. She says that she sees sex as a tool to stay connected, and an important feature of marriage. Hannah points out that couples differ on how important sex is within their specific relationship and can negotiate their own rules and boundaries about frequency of sex, and that it’s different for every couple. Hannah also shares that sometimes sex stops in relationships without the couple talking about it, because it’s vulnerable, uncomfortable, and difficult to talk about sex. She says that when sex stops, it’s often hard to get it back. She says sex is often “use it or lose it”, if a couple is not having sex, it sometimes falls off and then is very hard to start again.   Couples don’t often have the tools, words, language, or skills to talk about sex.   This episode is about helping to give people some of those tools, words, and skills.   Statistics:   The average American adult has sex 103 times a year.   Couples living together, but not married, have sex 146 times a year.   Married couples have sex 98 times a year.   Single adults have sex 49 times a year.   Married couples are having less sex. On average, married couples are having sex 9 fewer times per year than they were in the 1990s.   Hannah shares statistics about sex in America, but cautions listeners from giving too much weight to statistics because each couple, person, and situation is different. It can be dangerous to compare yourself to others, and there is an amount of bias in studies that measure sexuality since people tend to filter or edit their responses.   Hannah and Alexa discuss these statistics and share that they are consistent in their work with couples and from reports they’ve heard anecdotally from others. Married people seem to be having sex less often, not enjoying sex, viewing sex as a chore, and normalizing these experiences. Both Hannah and Alexa assert that sex in marriage seems to be broken.   So, what is happening in marriage? Why is sex broken?   Hannah educates listeners about the mixed messages we all receive about sex, from very young ages.   Sex Ed   Sexual education in schools is discussed. Sexual education in school is more common today, and Hannah shares that this is important and good, as it’s the only way some kids learn about sex and their bodies, especially if they have parents who don’t talk about sex. Schools are also teaching about consent and boundaries and respect. And these are good things, and important messages for everyone.    Americans are uncomfortable talking about sex, and sex education in this country lags far behind other countries. Other countries begin sex education at age 4, while most schools in America start with a very limited sexual health program at age 10, when students are in fourth grade.   Sexual education in America is often focused around the dangers of sex. Kids learn that they can get diseases and babies from sex. Kids learn that sex can kill you. Sex is often presented in a scary way that does discuss any of the positive things about sex.   Hannah says that teen pregnancy rates have decreased in America thanks to better sex education and information.   Rates of teens having sex in general have decreased as well. Hannah discusses reasons for this including increased time using devices and communicating with other online instead of in person. Because of this increased use of devices, children are learning fewer social skills and not learning to interact in person.   Children who grow up in religious environments often receive additional messages about sex—that it is sinful, dirty, wrong, bad, and can lead to hell and damnation.   Messages   Hannah and Alexa also discuss the mixed messages girls and boys receive about sex, from society, culture, their peers, the media, and their families.   Girls and Women   Girls receive messages that you should wait until you are married, having sex outside of a relationship or marriage means you are a slut, you should “save yourself”, cover up, don’t dress in a way that could lead a boy to take advantage of you, if you get pregnant your life is over, don’t be a bad girl, sex is dirty, sex is shameful, sex is secret, a gift you give your husband.   They discuss the word “slut”, and the messages girls receive that if they have sex outside of a relationship, they are labeled as a “slut”, “bad girl, or “damaged goods”.   Women also struggle with internal conflicts about reconciling multiple roles, such as desirable sexual creature and mother.   Alexa and Hannah share realizations and conversations from their peer groups about birth control, the fear of pregnancy and the shift in expectations and messages that occurs after marriage, or once someone is in a loving relationship or partnership.   Boys and Men   Hannah identifies that boys and men receive very different messages about sex. Boys often are given permission (implicit or explicit) to look at pornography and sexually provocative images in sources such as Playboy, from early on. Many boys are raised to learn that they aren’t really a “man” until they are sexually active. There is pressure for boys and young men to have many different sexual partners, to “get their numbers up”, “male slut” is not really even a thing. Many men receive messages from a community called the “Pick-up Artists”, and a book called “The Game”. “Hookup culture” and spring break, Greek life in academic settings, and the current culture encourages boys and men to express their sexuality and to sleep with many women. Boys feel this pressure to perform. Many boys also grow up concerned about issues like size and find themselves in a constant battle of comparing themselves with others.   On the other hand, recently, following the #metoo backlash, men and boys are receiving messages about consent and respect and boundaries. These messages are good and important, for both men and women, and they also are contributing to some men feeling conflicted and confused.   Hannah discusses the “Madonna-Whore Complex”, a term coined by Freud about a century ago, to describe an internal conflict many men experience when separating sexual desire from friendship and respect.   For some men, they can feel desire and arousal with sexual objects (“whore”) such as a stripper, porn star or casual hookup partner, but then find it difficult to feel desire or passion or arousal for (“Madonna”) their spouse, the mother of their children, and their best friend and life partner.   This complex can translate into lack of desire, confusion and shame.   Mindset Shift   Hannah says, you spend half your life learning that sex is bad and dangerous and hope to avoid pregnancy, and the other half of your life having sex to become pregnant, have babies and to connect with your spouse.   Alexa points out that the flip that is expected is drastic and is supposed to happen overnight.   Women sometimes “save themselves”, and are virgins at marriage, and then on their wedding night, are expected to give themselves to their husbands, be sexual, be comfortable, know what to do, please their husband, and consecrate the marriage.   This is a mindset shift that is expected to happen overnight, or suddenly, once someone is in a partnership or long-term relationship or marriage. It’s a difficult transition for many people.   Hannah observes that many people have a hard time making this shift. Alexa observes that, as with many mindset shifts, it’s difficult because our mindset is driven by deeply held and firmly entrenched beliefs that are often unconscious.   The difficulty in shifting mindset is often compounded by couples not often having the words, skills, tools, or language to talk about sex or beliefs, or to help each other process conflicting feelings without fear of judgment or shame.   Therapy and coaching is suggested as a tool to help address mindset issues around sex.   The Pressure to find “The One”   Hannah discusses the tremendous pressure and expectations many people put into marriage today.   Marriages are more egalitarian today. Women and men share roles and responsibilities. Most marriages include partners who share financial responsibilities and incomes. Most are dual-earning partnerships.   There is pressure to find “THE ONE”. Marriage is seen as a partnership where you merge lives with another person who becomes your best friend, intimate partner, trusted companion, keeper of secrets, protector, provider, nurturer, and sexual partner.   While the average age of marriage is increasing, so is life expectancy, so marriages, and the potential for marriage longevity is longer than ever in history.   Additionally, couples are less connected to extended families and are more mobile, often living miles from extended families and support. This distance often puts additional pressure on the marital relationship to provide support that may have once been provided by family members.   So today, marriage is expected to provide nearly all of the love, friendship, support, trust, financial responsibility, childcare responsibility, intimacy, desire, passion, and fidelity that a person needs in his or her life.   That is a lot of pressure on one relationship. A relationship that may last 80 years. For life. Monogamy.   Hannah and Alexa discuss lack of sexual desire and low sex drive, and things that can contribute to this.   They also discuss issues that can lead to infidelity. Hannah shares trends and statistics about infidelity.   Hannah also shares information about ways sex benefits health and well-being.   Suggestions and Resources:   Hannah and Alexa share resources for help with all of this. Hannah says that some therapists and other thought leaders are helping couples rethink some of these expectations and rules, and helping couples and individuals to adjust expectations.   Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and sex expert who hosts a podcast, “Where Do We Begin”, and has authored two helpful books, “Mating in Captivity”, and “The State of Affairs”.   Hannah talks about some of the suggestions shared by Esther Perel, including creating some distance, relying on other supports, the use of the “other” through fantasy, and tools for reigniting desire and passion.   Hannah and Alexa discuss some of the other pressures common in current-day marriages including infertility, financial stress, the pressure to reproduce, parenting, over-programming, competing with neighbors and friends and social media.   When couples are faced with these stresses and pressures, they don’t often feel “in the mood”, sexual desire wanes, and frequency of sex and intimacy decreases.   Take responsibility for your sexual well-being   Alexa shares her thoughts and beliefs about the responsibility and opportunity we each have as individuals to figure out our wants and needs, and to maintain sexual health and wellbeing.   Hannah shares her frustration with the lack of available resources for women to learn about sex. She says, men have porn, which is typically made by men for men. But women aren’t encouraged to learn about sex and aren’t provided with many tools or resources to educate themselves about the possibilities of sex and desire.   Hannah shares that each of us have different parts of our selves. Our sexual self is a part of us. Some people stop having sex and let that part of themselves die. Many people don’t prioritize sex and think it’s not important or necessary. But in doing that, they lose a part of themselves that can be very helpful to people.   Staying in tune with our sexuality is a way for people to feel alive, stay connected, find power, decrease anxiety and depression, sleep better, be healthier, and feel good. It’s also a way for people to connect with certain aspects of femininity and masculinity. We can look at sex as an untapped resource that might help us feel better and be better.   Understand your body   Learn about your anatomy and your body. Explore and find the parts of you that “feel good”. Learn more about types of orgasms and about the possibility of sex.   Get more comfortable talking about all of this   Find people and ways to start talking about this. Find people to start practicing even talking about sex.   Talk to your children about sex in positive, age appropriate ways.   Think about the opportunity to find passion in your life.     Resources:   Coaching with Hannah Mirmiran or Alexa Thiesen: (402) 715-9710 or hmirmiran@omahapsychotherapy.com   Esther Perel: “Mating in Captivity”: https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Unlocking-Erotic-Intelligence-ebook/   Esther Perel: “State of Affairs-Rethinking Infidelity”: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity-ebook    

It's been a great week for sexism. Swedish model and artist Arvida Bystrom was threatened with rape, after she appeared in an Adidas advert with hairy legs; a senior writer at Vice's women's channel, Broadly, was fired after leaked e-mails revealed that he had been lobbying alt-right ‘media personality' Milo Yiannapoulos to bully ‘fat feminists'; and then, well, there's Harvey Weinstein. The 65-year-old American producer, considered to be one of, if not the most powerful man in Hollywood, has been fired from his own company, dumped by his wife and dispatched to ‘sex addiction rehab' (obviously) after it was sensationally revealed by The New York Times and a dizzying further array of publications, that he had sexually harassed dozens of women in Hollywood, from A-Listers such as Gwyneth Paltrow and Angelina Jolie, to journalists, assistants and models. You'll never look at a pot plant in the same way again…. How was Weinstein's behaviour tolerated, as an open secret, for so long? Why are women expected to come forward, more than men? Was he fired because he sexually harassed women - or because the public found out? And, as we discuss at length, will the demise of Harvey Weinstein finally lead to the dismantling of the systemic sexism upon which Hollywood's very foundations are built? Time can only tell. On a trivial note, did you know pesto pasta has more salt than a McDonald's burger? Pandora's happy, veggies not so much. Please do e-mail us thehighlowshow@gmail.com or tweet us @thehighlowshow if you have any thoughts on the episode. BIG NEWS! The High Low has signed a shiny new partnership with Google, in collaboration with their Google Pixel 2 Phone. To kick off the partnership, which stars in November, we are doing a live episode of The High Low at Selfridges (as part of a shiny roster of speakers including Adwoa Aboah and Riz Ahmed) in their Curiosity Rooms installation, on Friday 20th October. You can sign up for a free ticket here: https://events.withgoogle.com/curiosityrooms/ READING & LISTENING Nothing To Envy: Real Lives in North Korea, by Barbara Demick https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nothing-Envy-Lives-North-Korea/dp/184708141X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1507757675&sr=8-1&keywords=barbara+demick Gaga: Five Foot Two, on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/80196586 Uncommon Type: Some Stories, by Tom Hanks https://www.amazon.co.uk/Uncommon-Type-Stories-Tom-Hanks/dp/1785151517 Lullaby by Leila Slimani (out in January) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lullaby-Leila-Slimani/dp/0571337538/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1507757742&sr=1-1&keywords=lullaby+leila+slimani The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel https://www.amazon.co.uk/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity-anyone/dp/1473673542/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1507757760&sr=1-1&keywords=esther+perel WTF Podcast Episode 242 with Russell Brand (from 2012) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4w0U84v6ik Here's Why So Many Women Knew The Rumours About Harvey Weintein, by Anne Helen Petersen for Buzzfeed https://www.buzzfeed.com/annehelenpetersen/women-believe-other-women?utm_term=.qhOjRo5Kwb#.djKA49B3g6 Harvey Weinstein Paid Off Sexual Harassment Accusers for Decades, by Jodi Kantor and Megan Twohey for The New York Times https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/05/us/harvey-weinstein-harassment-allegations.html From Aggressive Overtures to Sexual Assault: Harvey Weinstein's Accusers Tell Their Stories, by Ronan Farrow for The New Yorker https://www.newyorker.com/news/news-desk/from-aggressive-overtures-to-sexual-assault-harvey-weinsteins-accusers-tell-their-stories Why The Weinstein Sexual-Harassment Allegations Didn't Come Out Until Now, by Rebecca Traitor for The Cut https://www.thecut.com/2017/10/why-the-weinstein-sexual-harassment-allegations-came-out-now.html See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We used to RSVP to events. Now, invitations live in our Facebook notifications and group texts. And we just ignore them. It’s so easy to forget there’s a human on the other end. Asking you to show up. Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel says we’re suffering of aloneness. Our phones create distance and intimacy at the same time. Esther has a way out of this strange paradox - some ideas for how we can treat each other better. We do, too. Well, Esther’s idea, our tool. Take five minutes and ask yourself - who do I owe a phone call to? Who do I need to check in with? Who did I leave hanging and never got back to? We know that sounds daunting, so we’re here to help. You can text GHOST to 70101. We’ll reply (well, our textbot will), then we’ll check in a week later to see if you faced facts and made that list.   Correction: In the episode Manoush refers to Esther Perel as Dr. Esther Perel. Perel isn't a doctor, she is a psychotherapist.   

We used to RSVP to events. Now, invitations live in our Facebook notifications and group texts. And we just ignore them. It’s so easy to forget there’s a human on the other end. Asking you to show up. Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel says we’re suffering of aloneness. Our phones create distance and intimacy at the same time. Esther has a way out of this strange paradox - some ideas for how we can treat each other better. We do, too. Well, Esther’s idea, our tool. Take five minutes and ask yourself - who do I owe a phone call to? Who do I need to check in with? Who did I leave hanging and never got back to? We know that sounds daunting, so we’re here to help. You can text GHOST to 70101. We’ll reply (well, our textbot will), then we’ll check in a week later to see if you faced facts and made that list.   Correction: In the episode Manoush refers to Esther Perel as Dr. Esther Perel. Perel isn't a doctor, she is a psychotherapist.   

We used to RSVP to events. Now, invitations live in our Facebook notifications and group texts. And we just ignore them. It’s so easy to forget there’s a human on the other end. Asking you to show up. Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel says we’re suffering of aloneness. Our phones create distance and intimacy at the same time. Esther has a way out of this strange paradox - some ideas for how we can treat each other better. We do, too. Well, Esther’s idea, our tool. Take five minutes and ask yourself - who do I owe a phone call to? Who do I need to check in with? Who did I leave hanging and never got back to? We know that sounds daunting, so we’re here to help. You can text GHOST to 70101. We’ll reply (well, our textbot will), then we’ll check in a week later to see if you faced facts and made that list.   Correction: In the episode Manoush refers to Esther Perel as Dr. Esther Perel. Perel isn't a doctor, she is a psychotherapist.   

We used to RSVP to events. Now, invitations live in our Facebook notifications and group texts. And we just ignore them. It’s so easy to forget there’s a human on the other end. Asking you to show up. Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel says we’re suffering of aloneness. Our phones create distance and intimacy at the same time. Esther has a way out of this strange paradox - some ideas for how we can treat each other better. We do, too. Well, Esther’s idea, our tool. Take five minutes and ask yourself - who do I owe a phone call to? Who do I need to check in with? Who did I leave hanging and never got back to? We know that sounds daunting, so we’re here to help. You can text GHOST to 70101. We’ll reply (well, our textbot will), then we’ll check in a week later to see if you faced facts and made that list.   Correction: In the episode Manoush refers to Esther Perel as Dr. Esther Perel. Perel isn't a doctor, she is a psychotherapist.   

We used to RSVP to events. Now, invitations live in our Facebook notifications and group texts. And we just ignore them. It’s so easy to forget there’s a human on the other end. Asking you to show up. Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel says we’re suffering of aloneness. Our phones create distance and intimacy at the same time. Esther has a way out of this strange paradox - some ideas for how we can treat each other better. We do, too. Well, Esther’s idea, our tool. Take five minutes and ask yourself - who do I owe a phone call to? Who do I need to check in with? Who did I leave hanging and never got back to? We know that sounds daunting, so we’re here to help. You can text GHOST to 70101. We’ll reply (well, our textbot will), then we’ll check in a week later to see if you faced facts and made that list.   Correction: In the episode Manoush refers to Esther Perel as Dr. Esther Perel. Perel isn't a doctor, she is a psychotherapist.