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Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
You were probably taught to fear masturbation. I see this every day in my work with men and women. The problem is not self pleasure. The problem is guilt, misinformation, and nervous system disconnection. In this episode, I break down the biggest masturbation myths and explain what actually supports sexual health, erections, confidence, and pleasure after 50. I talk about porn use, erectile dysfunction, testosterone fears, technique, frequency, and shame. I also explain why orgasms act like pelvic floor training and why mindful self pleasure strengthens partner sex instead of replacing it. This is a no shame conversation about choice, awareness, and reclaiming pleasure as part of wellness.In this episode: 0:00 You were lied to about masturbation0:28 What masturbation is really linked to1:10 Why people feel guilt and anxiety around self pleasure1:55 Orgasms and pelvic floor health2:35 Why masturbation supports sexual function3:05 Myth one porn is the problem3:55 Myth two masturbation causes erectile dysfunction4:40 Myth three guilt is harmless5:15 Myth four technique does not matter5:55 Myth five masturbating too much6:25 Testosterone fears and final reframing of pleasureWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Mindful Masturbation For Men: Last Longer, Feel More, Perform Better with Kevin Anthony | Ep. 129 https://youtu.be/abRZQbLYaJ0Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite:
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this episode, I sit down with Jim Benson to break down what multi orgasmic pleasure really means for men and why most men never learn it. Jim explains the difference between ejaculation and orgasm, why pleasure does not need to end with climax, and how presence, relaxation, breath, and body awareness change everything. They explore how men learn these skills over time, why partners play a powerful role in success, and how aging does not signal the end of sexual growth. This episode reframes male pleasure as something expansive, learnable, and deeply connected to emotional safety and presence.In This Episode:00:00 Why men believe orgasm equals ejaculation02:10 What multi orgasmic pleasure really means04:05 Why relaxation creates more sensation06:20 Breath and body awareness explained08:30 Orgasms without erection or ejaculation10:40 How partners support the learning process13:00 Practicing alone versus with a partner15:10 How long it takes to feel real change17:25 Aging, presence, and deeper pleasure19:40 Why sexual growth does not end with age21:10 Final thoughts and resourcesWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Jim Benson has dedicated his life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully.For the past 20 years, he has been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” His Awakened Masculine program blends best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.Connect with Jim Benson:Website: https://awakenedmasculine.com/Use code KBIG50 to save $50 off The Multi-Orgasmic Lover course https://awakenedmasculine.com/program/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life,
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
If you want a clear breakdown of your choices, download the ED Options Cheat Sheet with links and exclusive discounts here: https://www.taboototruth.com/ed-options-cheat-sheetIn this episode of Taboo To Truth, I talk honestly about erectile changes in midlife and beyond. I explain why ED happens, why it often starts with blood flow and heart health, and why silence and shame delay real solutions.I cover what most men are never told.Why Viagra and Cialis stop working for some menWhy guessing and self adjusting doses backfiresHow lifestyle shifts protect erections instead of punishing youWhat actually works when pills failThe truth about pumps, rings, shockwave therapy, hormones, injections, Botox, fillers, and implantsErectile dysfunction is not a moral failing. It's a health signal. And there is no stage where options disappear.In This Episode:0:00 Erectile changes are normal and treatable0:58 Why erections change with age2:05 Blood flow, heart health, and ED3:10 Why pills stop working4:05 Pumps and rings explained5:00 Shockwave therapy and hormones6:05 Injections, Botox, fillers, implants7:30 The real takeaway and next stepsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram:
Everyone's buying weighted vests, walking pads, and viral protein-rich products — but do they actually work… or is it just hype?Social media makes these products look like the secret to fat loss, more movement, and better results. In this video, we're breaking down some of the most talked-about fitness and nutrition products online and giving you our honest, no-BS take.Here's what we cover:• Are weighted vests actually worth it?• Do walking pads really support weight loss and health?• Which protein-rich products are helpful — and which are just clever marketing?• Who these products actually make sense for• What matters more than the product itselfWe're not here to shame trends or sell hype.We're here to help you make smarter choices that actually support your health and goals.If you've ever thought, “Should I buy this… or skip it?” — this video will save you time, money, and frustration.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Pre-order 'The Bedroom Gap' here: https://mariasophoclesmd.com/bookIf you think menopause is tough. Wait until it collides with andropause. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Maria Sophocles to talk about what she calls “The Bedroom Gap”. I wanted this conversation because I see how often couples drift apart in midlife, not from lack of love, but from lack of understanding and communication. We talk about what really changes in women's bodies during menopause and in men's bodies during andropause. We dig into pain, erectile changes, loss of desire, and why avoiding sex often creates more damage than addressing it directly. We focus on how couples can stay connected by redefining sex, learning together, and talking honestly.In This Episode:00:00 Menopause Meets Andropause02:10 Introducing the Bedroom Gap05:40 How Midlife Body Changes Affect Sex09:15 Why Couples Stop Talking About Intimacy13:00 Pain, Erectile Changes, and Sexual Avoidance17:10 Redefining Sex Beyond Intercourse20:45 Pleasure, Health, and Longevity24:20 How to Start Hard Conversations About Sex28:10 What Supportive Partners Do Differently31:40 Overlooked Menopause and Andropause Symptoms34:30 Final Takeaways and Book MentionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Maria Sophocles has been a leader in women's healthcare for nearly 30 years, specializing in menopause management and female sexual health. She founded Women's Healthcare of Princeton, a progressive gynecology practice, and has been a visiting professor and NIH researcher in Switzerland. A board-certified ob/gyn and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she has pioneered innovative treatments, including CO2 laser therapy for vaginal atrophy. She serves as CMO of EMBR Labs, Director of Women's Health Services for Curia Health, and is an advocate for women's health policy. Dr. Sophocles is also an author, TEDWomen2023 speaker, and frequent media contributor on women's health topics.Connect with Dr. Maria Sophocles:Website:
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Today I'm talking about a topic people whisper about or judge from the outside. Cuckolding. And no, it's not what you've been told. In this episode, I break down what cuckolding actually is, how it differs from hotwife and stag vixen dynamics, and why the women drawn to it are not insecure or desperate. I explain the psychology behind it, the role of power and consent, and why this dynamic only works inside emotionally healthy relationships. This is a conversation about sexual autonomy, confidence, and telling the truth about desire.In This Episode: 00:00 Why this topic makes people uncomfortable00:40 What cuckolding actually means01:25 Cuckolding vs hotwife and stag vixen02:10 The stereotype versus the research03:05 The traits women in this dynamic share04:05 Sexual autonomy and power05:00 The question we should be askingWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack:
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
You think you know how to please a woman. Most men miss the basics.I sit down with Certified Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner & Somatic Intimacy Guide and & Virgin Island TV Expert Andre Lazarus to talk about what men misunderstand about sex, connection, and their own bodies. We cover emotional vulnerability, masculine and feminine energy, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and why performance pressure kills pleasure. Andre shares what actually helps men reconnect with sensation, desire, and confidence in bed. This conversation goes deeper than technique. It starts with presence.In this episode: 00:00 Why most men miss the basics of intimacy01:10 Welcome to Taboo To Truth02:05 Introducing Andre Lazarus03:40 From U.S. Marine to intimacy work05:15 The biggest misconception men have about intimacy07:40 Why vulnerability feels dangerous for men10:10 Midlife dating and emotionally unavailable men12:45 Masculinity, culture, and emotional shutdown15:20 The little boy behind the tough exterior17:40 Masculine and feminine energy in relationships20:30 Who seeks this work and why22:45 What surrogate partner therapy really involves25:10 Attachment, endings, and rejection27:30 Sexual challenges men bring into sessions29:40 Practical tools to reconnect with the body31:45 Rapid fire questions and closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastConnect with Andre Lazarus:Linktree: https://linktr.ee/comingcloserwithandreInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandreAndre Lazarus is a somatic intimacy guide and trusted voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. A former U.S. Marine, he brings a grounded perspective to vulnerability and desire. He is known for his work as a professional surrogate partner on the UK series Virgin Island, where he helped participants navigate intimacy with safety...
When we first became coaches, we truly believed weight loss was about one thing: the perfect plan.Give people the right foods, the right workouts, the right routine—and the results would follow. Right?But as we started coaching more women, we noticed something that completely stopped us in our tracks:Women were doing everything right—and still not getting the results they wanted.Worse? They were blaming themselves. Feeling like they were failing. Losing confidence. Burning out.That's when we realized: it was never just about food and fitness.Weight loss is deeply connected to how we think, how we feel, how we manage stress, how we cope with emotions, and how we care for ourselves.It's holistic. And as coaches, when we ignore that—we miss the most important piece.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Flirting after 50 is not subtle. It is intentional. It is confident. It is clear.In this episode, I break down how women over 50 signal interest without spelling it out. Flirting after 50 looks different. It is clearer. It is more confident. I walk through real world cues men miss every day. Eye contact. Touch. Humor. Questions that are not random. I also share subtle lines women use to open the door without chasing. If you are dating in midlife, this helps you read the room and respond with confidence.Timestamps:0:00 How Women Over 50 Signal Interest0:35 Why Flirting After 50 Is Clearer1:05 Eye Contact That Is Intentional1:40 Playful Teasing and Real Listening2:15 Touch and Body Language Cues3:00 The Hint Dropping Men Miss3:40 Fishing Questions About Your Status4:10 Flirty Lines That Open the Door5:15 Texting Signals and Compliments5:55 The Truth About Midlife Flirting Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack:
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
2025 was our biggest year yet — in business, growth, and momentum.And it was also one of the most challenging.In this honest, behind-the-scenes conversation, we're talking about what most people don't see when growth is happening: • What actually made 2025 our best year ever • The wins we're incredibly proud of • The pressure, stretch, and hard decisions that came with success • What growth forced us to confront — personally and professionally • What we're leaving behind (even after “winning”) • What we're intentionally taking into 2026This isn't a highlight reel. And it's not a burnout story either.It's a real conversation about evolution — because growth doesn't just expand your results, it challenges your identity, your boundaries, and how you lead.If you're ending the year grateful and reflective — celebrating wins while questioning what comes next — this episode is for you..
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Suzanne Noble joins me for a raw, funny, direct conversation about dating, sex, kink and honesty after 50. You hear what dating looks like in the UK versus the US, why so many men think they are going to be the one to “fix” your orgasm, how porn shapes expectations, how women think about body image as we age, and why younger partners are on the rise. Suzanne breaks down the UK's kink culture, why dominatrixes are fully booked, and how to explore safely. We also talk about jealousy, non-traditional relationships, safety on dating apps, catfishing, and why so many of us refuse to shave our pubic hair for a man. This episode is candid, smart, and packed with insights about midlife dating and sexual confidence.Timestamps:In this episode: 00:00 Holiday masterclass offer00:35 Welcome intro and episode setup01:18 Are Brits more open about sex02:22 The UK's kink history and boarding school culture03:58 How early life stages shape sexual dynamics05:20 BDSM clubs and the UK Femdom scene06:35 Why kink is built around control, not intercourse07:40 Are Brits really more open than Americans08:32 Dating men who listen to the podcast09:48 Younger men and orgasm expectations10:42 Why people hide their curiosity about sex11:30 Porn influence, squirting, and sexual performance myths12:45 The rise of sexual repression in America13:40 Dating younger partners and why it appeals to women14:55 Midlife relationships, jealousy, and complexity16:05 Opening relationships and personal boundaries16:58 How to stay safe while dating after 5018:10 Spotting catfish and bot profiles19:22 When a profile is too good to be true20:15 Shifting into body image and aging21:00 Feeling confident naked as you age21:48 When men do not match their claimed fitness22:25 Grooming norms. Pubic hair expectations in the UK23:05 Saying no to grooming requests you do not want23:42 Early experiences with kink24:30 Why experience matters for safety in kink25:10 Learning impact play in community spaces25:35 Closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Suzanne Noble is the Co-founder of Startup School for Seniors, co-host of Sex Advice for Seniors, and jazz & blues pro singer.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Many people fantasize about exploring intimacy with three people, but very few know how to talk about it or where to begin. In this episode, I walk through communication steps, boundary-setting, and five setups that help people feel grounded instead of overwhelmed.In this episode, I break down what people over 50 are most curious about when it comes to trying a threesome. You get clear guidance on communication, consent, emotional grounding, and five practical positions that make a threesome feel exciting instead of overwhelming. This episode gives you structure, safety, and real world tips you can use to talk with your partner before anything happens.Timestamps:In this episode: 00:00 Intro. Why group intimacy is a top fantasy00:20 What makes a three person experience different00:45 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:05 The reality of trying a threesome in midlife01:32 The question no one asks. What do you do with three bodies01:55 Five setups to make things feel comfortable02:05 The disclaimer on dynamics02:18 Why talking before touching matters02:52 Boundaries, desires, and clear agreements03:18 Position 1. Lounge chair03:45 Position 2. Tandem touch04:15 Position 3. Side by side connection04:42 Position 4. Double rider05:15 Position 5. The bridge05:55 Essentials. Consent, protection, and sharing the spotlight06:25 Laughing off the awkward parts06:48 Final thoughts on curiosity and exploration07:00 Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite:
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with surrogate partner and intimacy coach Brian Gibney to talk about what happens when touch, sex, and therapy meet. We walk through the origins of surrogate partner therapy, how it supports traditional talk therapy, and why it sits inside the world of sex work while still holding clear ethical boundaries. Brianan explains who seeks out this work, what sessions look like in real life, how attachment and feelings show up, and why sex itself often turns out to be a symptom rather than the real issue. We also talk about non-monogamy, money, how to vet an ethical surrogate partner, and Brian's very expansive definition of sex.Timestamps:In This Episode:00:00 - What if sex was part of your therapy01:08 - What surrogate partner therapy is and why talk therapy hits a limit03:42 - Masters and Johnson and the birth of surrogate partners06:05 - Sex work, the “whorarchy”, and where surrogates sit in it09:18 - How surrogate partner therapy differs from full service intimacy work11:52 - The therapeutic triad: client, therapist, surrogate13:40 - Who seeks this work: trauma, pain, cancer, disability, shame17:05 - First sessions, nerves, and why the work starts with “hello”19:40 - When clients expect something more and run the “checklist” for access22:15 - Entitlement, hard conversations, and repeating old patterns24:05 - Attachment, feelings, and why the “box” stays small26:10 - Brian's non monogamy and protecting his own relationships28:30 - Boundaries to this work30:35 - How to vet a legitimate surrogate partner and red flags32:10 - Brian's expansive definition of sex and why PIV is not the gold standard34:00 - Final thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Over the course of his life, Brian has worn many hats: research scientist (BA, Molecular biology; Masters, Microbiology), teacher, professional artist, performer, and parent. The common thread that has run through all of those vocations has been his joy in learning, discovery, and improvement. In parallel with his professional life, He has also been keenly interested in interpersonal interactions, intimacy, and authenticity. These two facets have merged in his practice as a Surrogate Partner. He...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this episode, I react to a provocative cultural shift highlighted in Vogue's viral piece “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?”. Straight women are hiding their partners online. Faces are blurred. Fiancés are cropped out. Entire relationships are reduced to a hand on a steering wheel. The fear is that posting a boyfriend makes a woman look less independent and less culturally relevant. I compare this to myr own experience as a boomer who grew up with the belief that partnership was an achievement. I explore how this shift affects men, why younger women feel pressure to appear single, and what it says about the evolving politics of heterosexual relationships. The episode asks listeners to rethink why sharing a romantic partner feels risky now and whether avoiding visibility is about independence, superstition, image, or something deeper.Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:22 The purpose of breaking taboos00:45 Why women hesitate to like or share sex content01:15 Introducing the episode and today's question01:33 The Vogue article and the rise of “boyfriend embarrassment”02:05 How age and upbringing shape views on partnership02:40 The clash between independence and being partnered03:15 How shifting gender roles impact men03:45 Why posting a partner feels risky for some women04:20 The 70 year old who feels odd saying “my boyfriend”04:48 Why Karen sees partnership as joyful, not submissive05:15 The fear of judgment and the pressure to appear independent05:48 Why some women reject men after negative experiences06:20 Karen's final questions about posting your partner06:45 Closing message and sex positive reminderWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout The HostKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh...
Most women hit November and immediately say, “I'll get back on track in January.”But what if that mindset is the very thing that keeps you stuck — every single year?In this episode, we're breaking down why waiting for January actually makes your health journey harder… and how a simple end-of-year reset can change everything before the new year even starts.This isn't about restriction, perfection, or pretending the holidays aren't busy. It's about shifting your approach so you can feel grounded, energized, and in control — without starting over from scratch every January.We're sharing a powerful mindset and nutrition framework we use with women inside FIT CHICKS Academy to help them end the year strong instead of checking out. If you've ever felt like you “lose yourself” between November and January, this conversation will change the way you think about this season forever.Listen now and learn how to reset your body, your habits, and your momentum in a way that actually feels doable — even during the busiest time of the year.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Menopause does not wait until you feel “old,” and it does not only live in your hot flashes. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Lauren Streicher, one of the leading experts in menopause and sexual medicine, to talk about sexless relationships, painful penetration, and why so many women suffer in silence when solutions exist.We break down what really happens to your hormones, blood flow, muscles, nerves, and brain during perimenopause and postmenopause and how all of that shows up in your sex life. Dr. Streicher explains why painful sex is never something you should push through, why lubricants on their own rarely fix the problem, and why local vaginal estrogen is one of the safest and most misunderstood treatments in midlife.We also talk about access to care. Who helps you when your doctor shrugs, you live outside a big city, you are on Medicare, or you survived cancer and nobody ever mentioned sex in your follow up. Dr. Streicher shares what a real sexual medicine consult looks like, why pelvic floor physical therapy often changes both back pain and bedroom pain, and why there is no expiration date on your vagina, even after years of a dry spell.If you are in a sexless relationship, scared of hormones, or confused about where to start, this episode will give you language, options, and hope, plus a roadmap to Dr. Streicher's new deep dive audio course, “Come Again,” for women and professionals who want real data, not fear.In This Episode:00:00 – Welcome and show intro.00:32 – Why sexless relationships link to menopause.02:10 – Menopause is not an “old woman's” issue.04:20 – Sexual problems that start before menopause.06:30 – What a normal sexual response needs.09:25 – How estrogen loss affects sex and desire.12:40 – What happens in a sexual medicine consult.15:20 – Why doctors rarely refer to sexual medicine clinics.18:05 – Telehealth for menopause and its limits.21:30 – Why menopause never fully “ends.”25:05 – Painful sex and the need for accurate diagnosis.29:10 – Vaginal estrogen use, placement, and safety.33:15 – Partners, pain, and the “use it or lose it” myth.36:40 – Pelvic floor pain, SSRIs, and low libido.38:40 – Wrap up and closing message.Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Lauren...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In part 1 of this episode, Dr. Tara joins me for a conversation about sexual repression, sexual expression, mindful masturbation and why communication shapes every satisfying relationship. You learn how cultural conditioning shapes your sex life. You learn why exposure therapy helps you rebuild confidence with sexual pleasure. You learn how to restart sexual conversations in long relationships without shame or pressure. You also learn why non penetration activities often bring couples in midlife back to desire. This episode delivers practical tools you can use tonight. And be sure to come back for part 2 on Friday! In this episode:00:00 Intro00:26 Why orgasms trigger emotional release02:15 Dr. Tara's background and early sexual repression04:55 Culture shock and body confidence in Finland06:45 Moving to the US and studying relationships08:24 The moment she shifted into sexuality research09:32 Divorce, shame and rebuilding sexual identity11:05 Ethical non monogamy and communication skills12:14 How exposure therapy builds sexual comfort13:28 Mindful masturbation and sexual meditation14:42 How to restart sexual conversations with your partner15:51 Erotic solutions for sexless or low desire marriages17:10 Part two coming soon! Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About the guest: Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women's Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara' and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She's also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women's Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.Connect with Dr Tara:Website: https://www.luvbites.coInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.coBook: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) - https://a.co/d/1XloTnjAbout The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Masturbation is not a throwaway habit. It is training and you are probably doing it wrong. In this episode, I sit with sexologist and Love Lab host Kevin Anthony to show men how mindful self-pleasure upgrades stamina, sensitivity, and confidence in and out of the bedroom.We cover the biggest mistakes men make, including rushing to the finish and outsourcing arousal to porn. Kevin walks through the arousal scale, edging, and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. We dig into delayed ejaculation, the “death grip,” desensitization, and how to resensitize your body. We also break down strokers, pumps, condoms, and when meds help or hinder. You get a practical framework to slow down, feel more, and choose when to ejaculate.Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:05 Why a masturbation practice matters for men05:12 How habits train performance in bed06:48 The speed problem and the orgasm gap08:58 Porn use. Hyper-stimulation and desensitization12:52 Delayed ejaculation and loss of sensation15:16 The “death grip.” Injury and numbness risks17:48 Edging, tantra, and Taoist ejaculation frequency21:22 Orgasm vs ejaculation. Physiology and separation24:58 Mindful masturbation. Arousal scale and pacing28:12 Step-by-step: build, back off, repeat, choose the finish29:56 Tools and strokers. When they help. When they hurt32:04 Pumps vs meds. Health-first strategy and retention rings34:56 Mindset shift. Slow down, train, feel more36:22 Lightning round: definition of sex, best multi-orgasmic run, beach fantasy38:10 Wrap-up. Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology, a Certified Tantra Counselor, Certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years I have worked with men, women, and couples to help them have stronger, happier, more loving relationships, and the best sex of their lives!He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, co-founder of the popular YouTube channel
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Most people are texting wrong. In this episode I break down why the “Hi. How are you?” cycle kills attraction and how to turn texting into a tool for real connection. Learn how to craft messages that show curiosity, spark chemistry, and move things off the screen and into real life. If your conversations keep dying in the chat, this episode will change the way you text forever.Timestamps:00:00 – You're Texting Wrong: Why Conversations Die Fast00:45 – The “Hi. How Are You?” Trap01:32 – Lazy Texting and the Emoji Problem02:40 – Crafting Better Questions that Build Connection03:28 – The Secret to Flirty, Fun Banter04:20 – How to Use Curiosity to Spark Chemistry05:00 – Move From Text to Real ConnectionKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at
You don't need another diet — you need a new way of thinking about food.In this episode, we uncover the 3 biggest nutrition roadblocks that keep you stuck — not because of what you're eating, but because of how you're thinking about eating.You'll discover the mindset shifts that transform confusion into clarity, chaos into rhythm, and control into confidence — so food finally feels simple again.If you've ever thought, “Why can't I just stay consistent?” or “Why does nutrition feel so complicated?” — this episode will help you reconnect the dots between your mindset, metabolism, and motivation.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Men perform. Women please. Connection suffers. In this episode, I sit down with midlife sex expert Susan Bratton to decode desire, libido mismatch, and orgasmic skills for long-term couples. You get a clear map: responsive vs spontaneous desire, why “grab a boob and stick it in” fails, how to warm up arousal, and practical fixes for delayed ejaculation and low drive. Susan lays out small offers, nurturing touch, arousal timelines, orgasmic intercourse techniques, and regenerative sexual health tools. The goal is simple. Create consistent, mutually satisfying intimacy where both partners pursue pleasure without shame.Timestamps:00:00 Why performance culture kills connection02:05 Responsive vs spontaneous desire in plain terms04:36 Libido mismatch is often bad information and bad sex07:10 Small offers that rebuild safety and interest10:02 Nurturing touch vs sensual vs sexual touch12:45 Female arousal timeline and the 20–30 minute lift15:18 Orgasmic intercourse techniques the vagina likes18:04 Yoni massage, oral basics, and expanded orgasm21:12 Toys that enhance sensation and shared control23:55 Shame, appetite, and creating permission for desire26:08 Scheduling intimacy without killing the vibe28:30 Delayed ejaculation Drivers and a practical stack31:05 Blood flow support Nitric oxide, vacuum training33:10 Acoustic wave therapy overview and outcomes35:05 Rapid-fire Q&A Definition of sex, best orgasms, fantasyWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She's the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company. She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing.Susan has been a...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Good sex doesn't happen by accident—it takes curiosity, communication, and intention. In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I'm breaking down five simple but powerful ways to go from “meh” to mind-blowing in the bedroom. From making foreplay last all day to using your words with confidence, these are the practical, pleasure-focused habits that transform intimacy at any age.Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction: What Great Sex Really Takes00:25 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth with Karen Bigman01:00 – Why “Good Sex” Isn't Enough01:35 – Tip #1: Get Curious02:10 – Tip #2: Slow It Down02:45 – Tip #3: Talk Dirty (or Honestly)03:20 – Tip #4: Play With Power03:55 – Tip #5: Prioritize Pleasure, Not Performance04:40 – Final Thoughts: Take the Pressure Off and Enjoy05:00 – Outro: Redefining Life and Sex After 50Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Men, sex, and aging without the macho script. I sit down with Dr. Chris Donaghue—clinical sexologist, therapist, and host of Loveline—to unpack masculinity, libido, and connection in midlife. We dig into why “being a man” often blocks intimacy, how to get out of performance mode, and what it takes to be a better partner after 50.We talk practical dating resets, equity vs. equality on first dates, why vibrators shouldn't threaten anyone, and how to build a personal “relational mission statement.” If you're newly single or just ready to evolve, this episode gives you a clear path back into your body, your values, and real intimacy.Timestamps:00:00 Intro: Men, sex, and aging without the script01:12 Meet Dr. Chris Donaghue & why masculinity needs a reset03:08 “Disidentifying” from gender roles to become a better partner05:02 Getting back into your body vs. performing intimacy06:45 Values, ethics, and your relational mission statement08:36 America's performance culture and its impact on love10:10 Dating mindset: “The person you date is in your care”12:04 Childhood socialization: boys vs. girls and empathy gaps14:06 Rewriting the “strong man” expectation with softness15:32 Who pays? Equality vs. equity on first dates17:34 The confusion men feel: strong vs. vulnerable on demand19:02 Emotional literacy: what men are “allowed” to feel20:05 Sex talk: scripts, vibrators, and de-centering orgasm22:11 How to date Karen: knowledge gaps, boundaries, and media23:40 Public work ≠ no boundaries: consent and respect25:02 “What are you working on?”—owning your growth26:36 Therapy vs. “I coached myself”: why guidance matters28:05 Practical first steps for newly single men29:40 Libido as life energy: bringing passion back31:02 Best sex isn't performance—it's connection31:55 Wrap up + where to find Dr. DonaghueWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Chris Donaghue is a psychotherapist specializing in couples and sex therapy, with a private practice in addition to his work as a lecturer and educator. He serves as the Director of Clinical Education for The Sexual Health Alliance and is the Dean of Education and lead faculty for The Institute at The Sexual Health...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Ever wondered why someone pays to be dominated? In this electrifying episode, I sit down with Miss May, a professional dominatrix, dungeon owner, and kink educator based in London and Berlin. We unpack what it really means to be a dominatrix — from understanding BDSM and power exchange to why humiliation and taboo fantasies can actually be healing. Ms. May shares what her clients request most, how kink can create emotional release, and what it's like to separate her professional “Mistress” persona from her personal life.This is not your typical sex conversation — it's raw, fascinating, and deeply human.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Is it real love or manipulation in disguise? In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I unpack the difference between genuine affection and love bombing, how to spot the red flags early, what behaviors cross the line from caring to controlling, and why those of us with anxious attachment styles can be especially vulnerable. Learn how to trust your instincts, slow down the pace, and protect yourself from emotional manipulation disguised as romance.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: When Love Feels Too Intense00:45 – What Love Bombing Really Is01:45 – Signs You're Being Love Bombed02:50 – The Psychology Behind the Behavior03:40 – Overly Affectionate vs. Manipulative04:30 – How to Protect Yourself: Boundaries & Red Flags05:30 – Final Thoughts: Trusting Your InstinctsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance...
If you've ever felt like you're doing all the things — in your health, your business, your life — but still not seeing results, it's time to simplify.These are the five simple daily habits that completely changed everything for me. They helped me lose 50 pounds, build a multi–7-figure coaching business, and create a life that feels strong, calm, and completely aligned.And here's the best part — these habits don't just work for me. They're the same foundation I've used to help thousands of women transform their bodies, their mindset, and their careers through holistic health coaching.They're not complicated. They're not about perfection. They're about becoming the version of you who leads by example — in your energy, your health, and your purpose.Inside this episode, I'm sharing how I use each of these habits to stay consistent, grow through challenges, and keep expanding in every area of life — from health, to business, to relationships.So whether you're a coach helping clients change their lives, or you're ready to start coaching yourself on a deeper level — this episode will show you exactly how small daily actions create unstoppable momentum.If you're ready to get unstuck, find your spark again, and show up as the woman your future self (and your clients) will thank you for — this episode is your roadmap.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this follow-up to Part 1, I continue my candid conversation with licensed professional counselor and AASECT-certified sex therapist Kelvin Pace, diving even deeper into what consensual non-monogamy really looks like in practice. From swinging to polyamory to kink, we unpack the myths, labels, and lived realities behind open relationships. Kelvin explains why communication and consent—not structure—define success, and why non-monogamous relationships can often be just as loving and committed as traditional ones. We also explore the overlap between kink and CNM, how the military became part of swinging lore, and the importance of sex-positive therapy that challenges bias instead of pathologizing pleasure.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome back & why you should listen to Part 1 first00:58 – Do open marriages usually end?02:03 – Swinging vs. polyamory: orientation or play?04:25 – The many forms of consensual non-monogamy06:10 – How kink overlaps (and doesn't) with CNM08:02 – The biggest myths about non-monogamy10:10 – Therapy, bias, and the importance of consent12:05 – Parenting and openness about sexuality14:00 – Did swinging really start in the military?15:22 – Kelvin's quick-fire questions: definition, orgasm, fantasy17:00 – Where to find Kelvin Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Kelvin Pace graduated with a master's in clinical psychology from the University of Alaska Anchorage in 2009. He is a licensed professional counselor and supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.He is the owner of KpaceCounseling, LLC in Anchorage, Alaska. Kelvin works with couples and individuals dealing with sexual or relationship issues that include low desire, anxiety surrounding sex, and infidelity. His current focus is on mindfulness-based interventions to manage sexual concerns, working with individuals and couples either in or looking to explore non-traditional relationship orientations such as consensual/ethical non-monogamy.Connect with Kelvin Pace:Website: kpacecounseling.netInstagram:
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Open relationships sound exciting to some — and absolutely terrifying to others. But what really happens when you open up your marriage? Can it save your relationship… or destroy it?In this episode, I sit down with Kelvin Pace, a licensed professional counselor, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and former Army medic turned intimacy expert. Kelvin brings courage, compassion, and clinical insight to one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships — consensual non-monogamy.We talk about what it means to open a marriage consciously and ethically, how to navigate jealousy without shame, and why community and communication matter more than ever. Kelvin also shares how mindfulness and sensate focus can help couples reconnect with pleasure — without the pressure of performance.If you've ever wondered whether open relationships can actually work — or what it takes to make them work — this conversation will challenge your assumptions and maybe even your boundaries.Timestamps:00:00 – What really happens when you open your marriage?00:43 – Meet Kelvin Pace02:06 – Sex surrogates and sensate focus explained04:11 – How mindfulness changes sex06:56 – Defining open relationships and polyamory08:46 – The myth of compersion and toxic non-monogamy10:31 – Managing jealousy and emotional regulation12:46 – Stay tuned for part 2!Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Kelvin Pace graduated with a master's in clinical psychology from the University of Alaska Anchorage in 2009. He is a licensed professional counselor and supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.He is the owner of KpaceCounseling, LLC in Anchorage, Alaska. Kelvin works with couples and individuals dealing with sexual or relationship issues that include low desire, anxiety surrounding sex, and infidelity. His current focus is on mindfulness-based interventions to manage sexual concerns, working with individuals and couples either in or looking to explore non-traditional relationship orientations such as consensual/ethical non-monogamy.Connect with Kelvin Pace:Website:...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this solo episode, I'm diving into my own experience with dating, setting boundaries, and figuring out what really matters when it comes to love and relationships at this stage of life. From financial security to sexual health, and even politics, I share what I've learned about myself — and why holding firm to your non-negotiables isn't being picky, it's being honest.Timestamps:00:00 – 00:48 Why I Actually Love Dating Apps00:49 – 02:05 Finding the Balance Between Boundaries and Flexibility02:06 – 03:04 Why Financial Security Matters to Me03:05 – 04:00 Dating Younger Partners and Managing Family Differences04:01 – 05:07 Politics, Rigidity, and Emotional Maturity05:08 – 06:39 STIs, Safe Sex, and Setting Clear Health Boundaries06:40 – 07:35 Being Open-Minded Without Losing Myself07:36 – 08:24 Final Thoughts: Boundaries as Acts of Self-LoveWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Menopause isn't the end — it's the beginning of rediscovering who you are.In this episode, Michelle sits down with Adele Johnston, also known as The Menopause Coach, to debunk the myths, fear, and shame surrounding menopause. Together, they explore the emotional and physical changes that come with this transition — and how this next chapter can actually be one of the most liberating times of a woman's life.They discuss:Why most women fear menopause — and what society has gotten wrong about itThe real signs you're entering perimenopause (and why lab tests often miss it)Adele's personal story of early menopause and what every woman should learn from itHow hormone therapy (HRT) works, who it helps, and what to know before considering itThe emotional awakening that often happens during this phase — and why women feel more confident, grounded, and unapologetic than everThe connection between unprocessed emotions, burnout, and physical symptoms during menopauseThis episode is for every woman — whether you're approaching menopause, already in it, or simply want to understand your body better. You'll walk away feeling informed, empowered, and hopeful about what's next.Connect with Adele:IG: @The.MenopausecoachPodcast: The Menopause CoachWebsite: www.adelejohnstoncoaching.comThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage? Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this episode I'm pulling back the covers—literally—on the top three sexual fantasies most women have but rarely confess. From the thrill of novelty and adventure, to the ego-boosting allure of multi-partner desire, and the power dynamics of dominance and submission, let's explore what these fantasies really mean and how they connect to women's need for freedom, safety, and pleasure. Timestamps:00:00 – Intro & welcome00:20 – Why fantasies matter00:46 – #3: Novelty & adventure01:51 – #2: Multi-partner fantasies02:51 – #1: Power play03:51 – Final thoughts & free guideWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you...
In this episode, I sit down with Lisa Lounsbury, Certified Lifestyle, Wellness, & Menopause Coach, to talk about a topic most people haven't even heard of: andropause. We've all heard of menopause, but men experience a similar transition as testosterone levels decline with age. For farmers, this can show up in subtle but significant ways: lower energy, mood changes, or shifts in stamina that affect not just work in the field, but also relationships at home. Lisa helps us understand how to recognize the difference between "just getting older" and the signs of andropause, why grumpiness often has a deeper root, and how ignoring these symptoms can quietly erode both health and harmony on the farm. Together, we explore practical ways to manage these changes, from diet and resistance training to stress management and better sleep. Lisa also shares why making wellness a priority is not only about personal vitality, but about protecting relationships, improving communication, and thriving in the demanding seasons of farm life. If you've ever wondered why someone you love seems more irritable, or you're noticing changes in your own energy and outlook, this conversation offers hope, tools, and a fresh perspective. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Lisa Lounsbury Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:01:35 - Lisa introduces herself and her background in wellness 0:03:46 - Discussion of andropause symptoms begins 0:07:11 - How to validate and test for andropause 0:12:38 - Ways to address andropause beyond testosterone replacement therapy 0:14:48 - Nutrition and diet recommendations 0:20:08 - Connection between andropause and mental health 0:24:42 - Lisa discusses her book "Making Wellness a Priority" 0:29:20 - How to find Lisa's online resources 0:31:43 - Closing remarks about hope and wellness
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In Part 2 of my conversation with Ally Iseman, (ICF certified relationship coach and erotic event producer) we dive deeper into the real work behind healthy, ethical nonmonogamy. Alley shares personal stories that reveal the emotional intelligence, honesty, and respect it takes to navigate multiple relationships — from processing breakups to setting boundaries and supporting each other through vulnerability.We also bust common myths about open relationships, explaining how communication and consent are key whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, or somewhere in between. Then, we take you inside the world of kink and play parties, exploring what really happens, how to approach these spaces safely, and why curiosity (not pressure) is the foundation of all exploration.This episode is as much about self-awareness and personal growth as it is about relationships — proving that being “open” starts with how we communicate, not who we sleep with.If you haven't listened to Part 1, go back and start there, because you will want the full story!Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Beyond the Myths of Open Relationships02:10 – Communication, Boundaries & Mutual Respect05:20 – Processing Emotions and Breakups in Open Relationships08:00 – Monogamy vs. Ownership: Redefining Partnership10:40 – Kink, Curiosity & What Really Happens at Play Parties13:50 – Finding Community and Safer Spaces16:30 – How to Start Exploring (Responsibly)18:50 – Final Thoughts: Openness Starts With Conversation19:51 – Final wordsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com. Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. A sought after...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this episode, I sit down with ICF certified relationship coach, erotic event producer and founder of Passport to Pleasure Ally Iseman to explore what consensual non-monogamy can look like in real life—beyond headlines and hot takes. Ally shares her evolution from serial monogamist to multi-partner relationships, she defines compersion and erotic jealousy (zelophilia), and explains how clarity, agreements, and tolerating discomfort are the real “muscles” of any sustainable relationship—monogamous or not. You'll hear practical frameworks for opening up, the difference between romantic and sexual needs, and how multiple relationships can highlight different authentic versions of yourself.Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: sex & midlife reset0:35 – Meet Ally Iseman: the Non-Monogamy Nerd1:18 – From serial monogamy to self-study: changing the variables3:05 – The first “green light” story—and an unexpected reaction5:12 – Compersion vs jealousy vs erotic jealousy (zelophilia)7:08 – When “we thought we were okay” meets reality8:23 – Agreements, definitions, and why discomfort is data10:15 – Cheating vs ENM: clarity beats assumptions11:36 – Romantic needs vs sexual needs: orientation or lifestyle?13:10 – Multiple partners, multiple selves: time, priority, authenticity15:05 – Karen's reflections: bi-coastal love & new relationship energy16:32 – Making it work: communication, calendars, and compassion17:26 – What's next + Part 2 coming nextWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com. Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer,...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I break down one of the biggest misconceptions in sexual health: that size matters most. From understanding real female anatomy to addressing midlife changes, we explore why pleasure, comfort, and communication matter far more than length or depth. With candid examples and practical advice, I challenge outdated ideas, tackle the myths created by porn, and encourage curiosity, consent, and conversation as the true keys to sexual connection — especially for women over 50.Timestamps:0:00 – Intro: Why this conversation matters0:22 – The truth about vaginal depth0:55 – Why bigger isn't always better1:32 – Pain vs. pleasure in midlife2:05 – What really drives female pleasure (clitoris & more)2:44 – Porn myths vs. reality3:05 – Communication, curiosity & consent3:20 – Outro + Pleasure Playbook inviteWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with journalist, performer, and intimacy coordinator Laura Desiree to break down misconceptions around sex work, intimacy on stage and screen, and the importance of authentic storytelling. Laura shares her journey from burlesque to content creation, discusses the realities and stigmas sex workers face, and explains how intimacy coordination is reshaping the entertainment industry. From personal safety to sexual healing, this conversation explores the courage, creativity, and empowerment found under the “red umbrella” of sex work—and why listening to sex workers is essential for modern sex education.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: Karen introduces the show and today's guest, Laura Desiree.02:30 – Defining Sex Work Today: What sex work means in modern society and the many professions under the “red umbrella.”06:45 – Laura's Journey into Sex Work: From burlesque beginnings to content creation and erotic performance.11:25 – Breaking Misconceptions: Does sex work come from trauma? Debunking stereotypes and addressing stigma.16:10 – Love, Safety & Relationships: How sex workers navigate intimacy, clients, and personal relationships.20:40 – Intimacy Coordination Explained: Laura's work creating safe environments for actors and performers on stage and screen.26:15 – Eros Unbound: Erotic Storytelling: Laura's live show blending confession, creativity, and sexual empowerment.30:00 – Final 3 Questions: Laura shares her definition of sex, her best orgasm story, and her unfulfilled fantasy.31:30 – Where to Find Laura Desiree: Resources, upcoming shows, and closing thoughts.Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Laura Desiree is a dominant figure in erotic entertainment, celebrated for her work as a live-sex Intimacy Coordinator, journalist, adult industry consultant, and sought-after podcast commentator. She spent seven years as the host and producer of the groundbreaking web series Naked News, and now helms Eros Unbound, a confessional erotic reading event spotlighting sensual storytelling and creative expression. With over a decade of experience across broadcasting, adult media, and live performance, Laura is a trusted voice shaping the future of sex, art, and culture.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Why do so many women struggle to orgasm — and what can couples do about it? In this episode, I break down seven real, practical, and sex-positive truths about female pleasure. From communication to clitoral focus, safety to novelty, and why toys are tools. I share how orgasm is less about performance and more about connection and collaboration. If you want to upgrade intimacy and remove shame from the bedroom, this one's for you.
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Dating after divorce can feel intimidating, overwhelming, and even hopeless — but it doesn't have to be. In this episode, I sit down with Andrea McGinty, America's top midlife dating expert and author of Second Acts: Winning Strategies for Dating Over 50. From founding It's Just Lunch Matchmaking to facilitating over 33,000 dates and 10,000 marriages, Andrea has seen it all. She shares no-nonsense strategies for navigating the modern dating world, choosing the right apps, spotting red flags, and building a game plan for your love life. Whether you're newly single or simply curious about what's possible, this episode proves it's never too late for a second act in love.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome & Show Intro00:35 – Today's Topic & Guest Setup “Is online dating after divorce a nightmare…?"02:35 – Why Dating After Divorce Feels Harder04:45 – The Ocean, Not a Pool: Why Apps Matter08:05 – Right App for Your City & Stage of Life09:30 – Biggest Mistake: Quitting After Two Weeks11:40 – Build a Dating “Business Plan”13:45 – Values, Communication & Chemistry (The 3 C's)16:00 – First Relationship Post-Divorce: Are You Ready?18:20 – Red Flags on Profiles20:40 – Stop Texting Forever: Set the Date23:00 – The Sex-on-First-Date Question24:50 – Matchmakers vs Apps (Costs & Reality)28:50 – Paid vs Free App Features31:30 – Hope, Resilience & Process35:10 – Phone Call or Not? Expectations & Boundaries38:00 – First-Date Formats39:30 – Who Pays? Regional Norms & Chivalry40:20 – Where to Find Andrea + OutroWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest: As seen on Oprah, WSJ, People, and CNN, Andrea McGinty is a professional dating coach, author, and entrepreneur with more than 25 years of experience. Having set up over 33,000 successful dates, she is the founder of two dating companies--It's Just Lunch and 33k Dates--as well as several other ventures, including BabyDagny and Pilatesworks.Connect with Andrea McGinty:Website:
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this episode, I unpacks the truths about oral sex that most men have never been taught. From understanding the female body to slowing down, asking the right questions, and focusing on connection instead of performance, this episode reveals how to move from being a good partner to a great one. Men who listen and apply this will transform not just their partner's experience, but their entire relationship dynamic.Timestamps:00:00 – Stop Guessing, Start Connecting00:42 – Why Penetration Alone Isn't Enough01:15 – Understanding Her Anatomy (Clitoris & Vulva)02:00 – The #1 Mistake Men Make03:05 – How to Communicate About Intimacy04:00 – Worship vs. Performance in Connection05:00 – Final Tips: Why Presence Beats PerfectionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.Follow Karen Bigman:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruthFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551130276567LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigmanWebsite: http://taboototruth.comSubscribe to Taboo To Truth: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast?sub_confirmation=1—Listen to The Taboo To Truth Podcast
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
In this episode, I dive into the world of male enhancement with William Moore, founder of PhalloFILL. We discuss the cultural silence around penis size, why girth is often more important for pleasure than length, and how fillers are changing the game. William explains the science behind hyaluronic acid injections, how long results last, and why more men are secretly seeking these treatments. We also address risks, myths, and the emotional weight tied to masculinity and size. By bringing this hidden conversation to light, the episode encourages openness, education, and self-confidence for men everywhere.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction & Breaking the Taboo1:12 – Meet William Moore & PhalloFILL2:45 – Does Size Really Matter? (Girth vs Length)5:10 – Why Men Stay Silent About Enhancement7:05 – How the PhalloFILL Procedure Works9:00 – Risks, Safety, and Real Results11:20 – Erectile Function, Confidence & Performance13:15 – Stigma, Masculinity & The Future of Enhancement14:30 – Closing Thoughts & Extended Cut InfoWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:William Moore is the founder of PhalloFILL, a leading protocol for non-surgical penile girth enhancement using hyaluronic acid. He helped expand the procedure across North America and developed the PhalloSleeve®, a patented post-care device.Connect with William Moore:Website: https://phallofill.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/phallofill/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PhalloFILL/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause,...
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Midlife women aren't avoiding sex—they're avoiding pain, boredom, and frustration. In this episode, I unpack the real reasons intimacy fades during midlife and what couples can do to reconnect. From hormone shifts and low libido to communication struggles and painful sex, Karen provides practical solutions and compassionate insights to help couples reignite intimacy.If you've ever wondered why your partner seems to avoid the bedroom, this episode gives you the tools to start the right conversation and explore solutions—from medical options like hormone therapy to introducing new ways of creating pleasure.Timestamps:00:00 – Why midlife women avoid sex00:35 – Hormones, menopause & low libido01:25 – Emotional struggles & stress02:05 – Boring or painful sex: the silent killers03:15 – The power of communication04:10 – Possible solutions: hormones, therapy & vibrators05:05 – Final advice: reconnecting with loveWatch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Follow Karen Bigman:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruthFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551130276567LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigmanWebsite: http://taboototruth.comSubscribe to Taboo To Truth on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast?sub_confirmation=1—Listen to The Taboo To Truth Podcast
Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Menopause is no longer a silent struggle. From “millennipause” to cutting-edge treatments like GLP-1s, today's conversation with Jackie Giannelli, a board-certified family nurse practitioner specializing in women's health with extensive expertise in hormonal health, menopause, women's sexual health, and urogynecology, dives into the evolving landscape of perimenopause and menopause care.We explore the shifting attitudes around hormone replacement therapy, the rise of millennials entering perimenopause, and why lifestyle, supplements, and community matter just as much as medical interventions. Jackie also breaks down how GLP-1 medications may become a new arm of menopause treatment — while highlighting their potential impact on sexual health.Whether you're curious about natural options, considering hormone therapy, or just beginning your perimenopause journey, this episode offers clarity, science-backed insights, and compassion for women navigating this complex phase of life.Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome & Introduction to Jackie Giannelli1:15 – What is “Millennipause”?4:12 – How millennials are approaching perimenopause differently6:45 – Hormone hesitancy is fading: why women want bioidenticals now9:50 – Non-hormonal treatments: supplements that actually work13:30 – Lifestyle shifts that make a difference in perimenopause16:45 – GLP-1 medications and their surprising potential in menopause care21:05 – The hidden side effects of GLP-1s on sexual health23:18 – The power of community and women supporting women25:10 – Jackie's definition of sex & closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: