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The reason your marriage is sexless has nothing to do with sex. If you think a lack of intimacy in your relationship is a sex problem, I need you to hear this — it's almost never about the bedroom.In this episode, I break down emotional availability: what it really means, why so many good, hardworking, faithful men struggle with it, and how childhood shapes the way we handle conflict as adults. I explain the biology behind emotional shutdown, walk through attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant — and show why emotional safety is the real path to physical intimacy for most women. Then I give you five practical shifts to become more emotionally reachable, plus real scripts you can use tonight.This isn't about blame. It's about understanding the blueprint you were handed — so you can build something better.Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men: https://taboototruth.wixforms.com/f/7424226439106397420In This Episode:0:00 - Cold Open: "It's Almost Never About the Bedroom"0:20 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth1:05 - The Emotionally Unavailable Man: What Today's Episode Covers2:15 - "He's a Great Guy, But I Can't Get Close to Him"3:45 - What Emotional Availability Actually Means5:30 - Real Examples: What He Says vs. What She Hears7:15 - How Boys Are Taught to Suppress Emotion9:15 - The Biology of Shutdown: Flooding, Adrenaline & the Amygdala11:00 - What Are You Really Protecting?12:00 - Attachment Styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant & Fearful-Avoidant15:30 - Your Brain Can Change: Neuroplasticity Explained16:45 - Why Sexless Marriages Are Rarely About Sex19:00 - The 5 Shifts to Become Emotionally Available21:15 - Real Scripts: What to Say Instead22:10 - The Client Story: "I Thought I Had a Sex Problem"22:35 - Final Thoughts & Coaching WaitlistWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion.LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

Most men would rather suffer in silence than admit they have a problem in the bedroom —Let's change that. On this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sat down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, to talk about one of the most common yet least discussed issues in men's sexual health: premature ejaculation. We get into the real clinical definition of PE, why the "arousal gap" between men and women makes this a near-universal issue, and why anxiety — not selfishness — is usually driving the problem. Jeff breaks down the physiological and psychological causes of PE, why shame keeps so many men from seeking help, and why over 4,000 doctors recommend Promescent's Delay Spray. We also cover how the product actually works, how to use it correctly, dosing and titration, safety data from 3 million bottles sold, and how it compares to Viagra. Jeff gets personal too, sharing his own story of turning 69, how porn distorts expectations for young men, and the reality of the refractory period as we age. We close out talking about female pleasure, non-ejaculatory orgasms, and why using every tool available in the bedroom is nothing to be ashamed of. This is a candid, funny, and genuinely useful conversation for any man — or any partner of a man — who wants better sex and less anxiety about it.Use this link for 15% off Delay Spray: https://promescent.sjv.io/QY44bYIn This Episode:00:00 — The Silent Struggle Millions of Men Face 00:33 — Podcast Intro & Meet Your Host 01:05 — Welcome Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent 02:10 — What Really Counts as Premature Ejaculation 04:15 — The Arousal Gap & Why Anxiety Kills Intimacy 06:45 — Physical vs. Psychological Causes of PE 09:00 — Breaking the Stigma Around Men's Sexual Health 11:00 — Kegels, Combo Therapy & Why Urologists Trust Promescent 14:00 — The Old (Bad) Solutions: SSRIs and Numbing Creams 16:30 — Treating PE Step by Step & Weaning Off 19:30 — How Jeff Discovered Promescent (Origin Story) 22:30 — The Eutectic Formula That Changes Everything 25:00 — How to Use the Delay Spray: Application & Timing 27:30 — Dosing, Titration & Finding Your Sweet Spot 29:30 — Is It Safe? 3 Million Bottles, Zero Red Flags 31:00 — Promescent vs. Viagra & Doctors' Favorite Combo 33:30 — Does Age or Ethnicity Affect PE Rates? 35:15 — The PE-ED Connection & the Fragile Male Ego 37:00 — Jeff's Personal Story: Aging, Porn & Regret 38:30 — Where to Find Promescent, Discount CodeTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About the Guest:Jeff Abraham is the CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness brand focused on making intimacy solutions more accessible and effective. After discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert, Jeff invested in the product and became the majority owner, launching the company's flagship Delay Spray.Connect with Jeff Abraham:Website: https://www.promescent.comInstagram: https://www.facebook.com/Promescent/Delay Spray: https://promescent.sjv.io/QY44bYAbout the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comWant more Taboo To Truth? Join the community HERELINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES

In part two of my conversation with Stacey Roberts, PT, RN, MSN, we go even deeper into the world of shockwave therapy for pelvic pain and sexual health. Stacey and I talk about whether shockwave can help with genitourinary syndrome of menopause, how it compares to the MonaLisa Touch, and why some patients need ongoing treatments while others don't. We get into the most controversial pelvic floor topic there is — Kegels — and why prescribing more of them can actually make things worse for people who are too tight, not too weak. Stacey shares real patient stories, including a vaginismus case tied to a traumatic IUD removal, and we spend real time on the mind-body connection: how breathing, the nervous system, and central sensitization shape chronic pain, and how I worked through my own identity as someone "in pain" after years of back issues. We close with where to find Stacey's podcast, book, and how to track down a qualified softwave provider near you.In This Episode:00:00 Welcome Back + Part One Recap00:35 Podcast Intro: Meet Your Host Karen Bigman01:05 Shockwave for Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause02:45 Shockwave vs. the MonaLisa Touch: What's the Difference04:45 Do You Need Repeat Treatments? It Depends on the Trigger07:30 ED, Lifestyle Factors & Dr. Irwin Goldstein08:45 Let's Talk About Kegels (Why They're Not Always the Answer)11:30 Upregulation, Incontinence & the M-Cella Controversy13:00 Where We Hold Tension: Shoulders, Pelvis & Protective Bracing14:15 Trauma Doesn't Always Mean What You Think: The Vaginismus Case15:45 The Mind-Body Connection: Breathing, the Nervous System & Central Sensitization18:15 Karen's Own Chronic Pain Story: Identity, Fear & Recovery19:45 Pain Doesn't Have to Be a Life Sentence: Final Advice20:45 Finding the Right Surgeon (and Provider)21:15 Where to Find Stacey: Podcast, Book & Softwave ProvidersWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

Testing before getting physical is non-negotiable for me — ProDx Health makes it easy. First PASS-certified at-home STI kit, herpes testing included. 15% off: http://prodxhealth.com/discount/tabooIn this episode of Taboo To Truth, I tackle the question I hear from men over 50 more than any other: what do women actually want? Instead of another list of app hacks and texting rules, I go underneath the practical questions to the emotional ones that actually determine whether you build a real relationship or just rack up more first dates. I break down why men are re-entering dating with an outdated playbook, what women over 50 consistently tell me they're looking for, and I give eight concrete tips — from healing before you date to knowing the difference between chemistry and compatibility. I close with the reframe that matters most: dating after 50 isn't about finding the right person, it's about becoming the kind of partner who can build the relationship you actually want.In This Episode:0:00 ProDX Health (STI Testing)1:45 What Women Over 50 Actually Want2:19 The Real Questions Men Are Asking3:15 You're Not Picking Up Where You Left Off4:02 Why Neither Side Is Being Honest4:45 What Women Over 50 Really Say They Want4:58 Tip #1: Heal Before You Date5:32 Tip #2: Build a Life You Genuinely Enjoy6:18 Tip #3: Fix Your Finances First6:52 Tip #4: Get Curious, Ask Better Questions7:27 Tip #5: Be Authentic From Day One8:13 Tip #6: Put Real Effort Into Your Profile8:44 Tip #7: Stop Looking for "The One"9:12 Tip #8: Chemistry vs. Compatibility9:46 The Real Question You Should Be Asking10:30 Final Thoughts & Share This EpisodeWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with Stacey Roberts, PT, RN, MSN — a physical therapist and holistic nurse with over 30 years of experience in pelvic health, and one of the country's leading experts in shockwave therapy for pelvic pain and sexual dysfunction. Stacey breaks down why up to 30% of women may experience vulvodynia (and why that number is likely underreported), how chronic low back pain can actually be rooted in a tight, "upregulated" pelvic floor, and why men are even less likely than women to get evaluated for pelvic floor issues. We dig into the emotional and physical toll of being told "it's all in your head," the fascia's role in referred pain, and how shockwave — a completely external, non-invasive technology originally developed to break up kidney stones — is now accelerating healing for incontinence, painful intercourse, erectile dysfunction, and vaginismus. Stacey also shares an eyebrow-raising pilot finding on shockwave and testosterone. This is part one of a two-part conversation — part two is coming soon.In this episode: 00:00 Shockwave Therapy?!00:45 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:15 Meet Stacey Roberts: 30+ Years in Pelvic & Sexual Health01:45 How Common Is Pelvic Pain & Sexual Dysfunction, Really?03:00 Low Back Pain: Foam Roller Fix or Something Deeper?06:00 Men vs. Women: Why Pelvic Pain Shows Up Differently09:00 Surgery, "It's All in Your Head," and the Repressed Emotion Connection12:30 Pelvic Floor & Sexual Dysfunction: Shoutout to Dr. Lance Frank14:15 The Pudendal Nerve: How Internal Treatment Improves External Sensation16:30 Non-Surgical Treatment Options: Pelvic Floor Therapy, Fascia & Botox19:00 From Kidney Stones to Muscles: The History of Shockwave Therapy20:30 What Shockwave Actually Feels Like (and the Vaginismus Case Study)22:15 Shockwave, Testosterone & Treating Testicular Health23:45 Wrap-Up: Part Two Is Coming — Subscribe & FollowWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

Brain fog. Broken sleep. A body that suddenly feels like it belongs to someone else.And nobody warned you.In this episode of Girls in Property I'm joined by Adele Johnson, the Menopause Coach, for a conversation we have never had on this podcast before and one that is long overdue.Adele went through menopause at 33. She talks openly about being dismissed by doctors and the point where she realised she was going to have to advocate for herself because nobody else was going to do it for her.We break down the stages properly. Perimenopause, menopause, post menopause. What each one means and what you might be feeling in your 30s, 40s and beyond. Adele shares the symptoms most women never connect to hormones. Brain fog. Hair loss. Night sweats. Painful sex. The things you quietly Google at midnight and never mention again.We talk about blood tests, the myths that stop women getting answers, and what all of this means when you're running a business and pouring into everyone but yourself.Adele reframes the whole chapter. Not as something that happens to you. But as permission to listen to your body and finally put yourself somewhere near the top of your own list.Because you deserve to understand what is happening in your own body.Whether you're 32 and wondering, 45 and struggling, or supporting a woman who is, this one is for you. Press play, then send it to a friend who needs it.How to Get Involved With The Girls in Property 

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In Part 2 of my conversation with Sabrina Johnson, founder, president, and CEO of Daré Bioscience (NASDAQ: DARE), we get into everything we didn't have time for in Part 1 — starting with the practical questions every woman actually wants answered about Dare to Play.We talk about how to use the sildenafil cream (where to apply it, what it feels like, and yes — what it tastes like if oral sex is on the table).Then we go wide. Sabrina walks me through the full Daré pipeline: Dare to Reclaim, a once-a-month vaginal ring delivering both progesterone and estradiol together (coming next year as a compounded prescription); a non-hormonal tamoxifen vaginal insert in development for breast cancer survivors who can't take estrogen; and Dare to Restore FloraSync LF5, a clinically studied vaginal probiotic launching this quarter.We also get into one of the most important consumer conversations I've had on this show: the truth about compounding. Compounded doesn't mean better — and Sabrina breaks down exactly what to ask when your doctor prescribes something, including whether the actual formula (not just the ingredient) has been clinically studied and published.And she closes with something I wasn't expecting — an invitation for anyone to invest in Daré Bioscience for as little as $250. Because if only 1% of healthcare dollars go to women's health, maybe it's time women funded it themselves.In This Episode:0:00 – Welcome Back & Part 1 Recap1:00 – How to Use Dare to Play: Where, How & What It Tastes Like4:00 – How Long Do the Effects Last?6:00 – Why Sabrina Founded Daré Bioscience9:30 – Dare to Reclaim: Once-a-Month Vaginal Ring for Menopause13:30 – A Non-Hormonal Solution for Breast Cancer Survivors16:00 – The Truth About Compounded Medications20:30 – How to Spot Junk Science & Ask Better Questions22:30 – Dare to Restore: Clinically Studied Vaginal Probiotic25:00 – Invest in Women's Health: Daré's Public Offering26:40 – Wrap UpAbout The Guest:Sabrina Martucci Johnson is a seasoned life sciences executive and passionate advocate for women's health innovation. As Founder, President,and Chief Executive Officer of Daré Bioscience, Inc. (NASDAQ: DARE), she leads a purpose-driven biopharmaceutical company dedicated to developing and commercializing novel, differentiated products for women. Under her leadership, Daré advances a diverse pipeline spanning contraception, fertility,menopause, sexual health, and vaginal health, with the goal of accelerating access to important therapies. Her leadership has been honored by Ernst &Young Entrepreneur of the Year (Pacific Southwest Region), Fierce Pharma'sMost Influential People in Biopharma, and inclusion on the Medicine MakerPower List and Endpoints Women in Biopharma. Driven by the belief that women deserve better options, Ms. Johnson champions innovation to transform how women worldwide experience their health and well-being.Connect with Sabrina Johnson:Website: https://darebioscience.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/darebioscienceDARE to PLAY™ Sildenafil Cream: https://daretoplaybio.comInvest: https://darebioscience.com/fundingAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

Guys, check out b-Vibe's 360 Plug — the male equivalent of the rabbit. It's a remote-controlled vibrator with 360° rotation, a smooth silicone body, and simultaneous prostate and perianal pleasure. Grab yours at bvibe.com and use code TABOO25 for 25% off!Erectile dysfunction affects tens of millions of men in the U.S., yet stays wrapped in silence and shame. In this episode, I bust the biggest ED myth — that it's a permanent, unfixable part of aging — and walk through the full range of treatment options available today. I cover penile implants, vacuum erection devices, testosterone replacement therapy, and FDA-approved medications like Viagra and Cialis, then move into natural approaches: therapy, lifestyle changes, key nutrients, and sex toys that keep intimacy alive during treatment. I close with a look at emerging treatments on the horizon — shockwave therapy, stem cells, PRP, and gene therapy — and a clear call to action: talk to your doctor, because ED is treatable and no one has to navigate it alone.In This Episode:00:00 — bvibe 360 Plug (code TABOO25)00:50 — Podcast Intro / Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:10 — Welcome Back + ED Stats01:55 — What This Episode Will Cover02:15 — Myth-Busting: ED Is NOT a Permanent Part of Aging03:00 — Treatment #1: Penile Implants04:05 — Treatment #2: Vacuum Erection Devices (Pumps)05:00 — Treatment #3: Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT)05:50 — Treatment #4: FDA-Approved Medications (Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, Stendra)06:35 — Natural Approaches: Counseling & Sex Therapy07:35 — Lifestyle Changes & Key Nutrients (Citrulline, Vitamin D/E, Zinc)08:20 — Sex Toys: Staying Intimate During Treatment09:10 — The Future of ED Treatment (Shockwave, Stem Cells, PRP, Gene Therapy)10:05 — Fastest Way to Fix ED + Key Takeaway11:00 — Outro: Subscribe + Hotter, Wiser, Wilder CourseWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with Sabrina Johnson — founder, president, and CEO of Daré Bioscience — to tackle a question that's been 27 years overdue: where is the female equivalent of Viagra?Sabrina breaks down the critical distinction between libido (desire, the mental appetite for sex) and physical arousal (the body's blood flow response), explaining why the two require completely different solutions — and why the pharmaceutical industry has largely ignored the latter in women. She shares the science and story behind Dare to Play, a topical sildenafil cream engineered with proprietary Dermaflex technology to deliver the active ingredient directly to genital tissue, enhancing physical arousal sensations within 10–15 minutes.We cover how Dare to Play compares to existing options like Addyi, Vyleesi, and testosterone — and why none of those address physical arousal the way this does. We also clear up a common misconception: this is not a lubricant. It works from the inside out, enhancing the body's natural lubrication response through increased blood flow.Sabrina walks us through exactly how to get a prescription today — via your own provider or a free telehealth consult— and explains the pricing: $99/tube, 10 doses, roughly $10 per use. Currently out of pocket (no insurance), but intentionally priced for access.This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation you won't want to miss.In This Episode:0:00 – Ad: Aria.FYI0:55 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth1:30 – Meet Sabrina Johnson, CEO of Daré Bioscience2:15 – Libido vs. Physical Arousal: What's Actually the Difference?5:15 – The Real Reason There's No Female Viagra (Until Now)8:15 – Introducing Dare to Play: Sildenafil Cream Engineered for Women10:15 – How to Get a Prescription Today (Free Telehealth Consult)13:15 – What Does It Cost? The $99 Tube, $10 Per Use Breakdown15:15 – Dare to Play vs. Addyi, Vyleesi & Testosterone17:15 – Is This a Lubricant? No — Here's the Key Difference18:50 – Part 2 Is Coming — Subscribe NowWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About The Guest:Sabrina Martucci Johnson is a seasoned life sciences executive and passionate advocate for women's health innovation. As Founder, President,and Chief Executive Officer of Daré Bioscience, Inc. (NASDAQ: DARE), she leads a purpose-driven biopharmaceutical company dedicated to developing and commercializing novel, differentiated products for women. Under her leadership, Daré advances a diverse pipeline spanning contraception, fertility,menopause, sexual health, and vaginal health, with the goal of accelerating access to important therapies. Her leadership has been honored by Ernst &Young Entrepreneur of the Year (Pacific Southwest Region), Fierce Pharma'sMost Influential People in Biopharma, and inclusion on the Medicine MakerPower List and Endpoints Women in Biopharma. Driven by the belief that women deserve better options, Ms. Johnson champions innovation to transform how women worldwide experience their health and well-being.Connect with Sabrina Johnson:Website: https://darebioscience.comDARE to PLAY™ Sildenafil Cream: https://daretoplaybio.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/darebioscienceAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861Everyone talks about narcissists, but do you actually know what to look for? I'm breaking down six concrete behavioral signs of a true narcissist — and more importantly, why we keep missing them. I walk through what separates a genuine narcissist from someone who's just self-centered, explain the psychological traps — love bombing, trauma bonding, gaslighting — that keep us stuck, and give you a real checklist to spot what you've been talking yourself out of seeing. From frustration intolerance and subtle put-downs to aggressive driving and the apology cycle that never ends, these signs show up in the first year. The question is whether you're willing to see them.In This Episode:0:00 - Sponsor: Aria.FYI0:35 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:50 - What Makes Someone a True Narcissist1:55 - Love Bombing & Why the Signs Are Easy to Miss2:40 - Sign #1: Frustration Tolerance (Tantrums & Grudges)3:20 - Sign #2: Talking Over You & Subtle Put-Downs3:55 - Sign #3: Isolation & Loyalty Tests4:30 - Sign #4: Aggressive Driving (Backed by 30+ Studies)5:05 - Sign #5: The Apology Fandango5:40 - Sign #6: The Explosion & Acting Like Nothing Happened6:25 - Why We Miss the Red Flags: The Trauma Bond7:05 - How to Actually Protect Yourself7:35 - Final ThoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — that's what ARYA delivers, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT certified sexologists and shipped right to your door.Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In this episode, I sit down with Adreena Winters — writer, educator, and one of the most recognized voices in the world of cuckolding — to finally clear up what this dynamic actually is, and what it isn't. Adreena is the author of So You Want to Be a Cuckold and the creator of Cuckold Confessions, and she brings both lived experience and years of coaching couples through this exact terrain.We get into why most people's first reaction to the word "cuckolding" is shame or confusion, and why that reaction is almost always wrong. Adreena breaks down the real difference between a hot wife dynamic and a cuckoldress dynamic, why humiliation is usually a small piece of the puzzle rather than the main event, and why compersion — genuinely enjoying your partner's pleasure — is so often the real engine driving this for men.We talk about how couples actually start exploring this safely: communication first, boundaries second, and why over-controlling the experience can backfire. Adreena walks through the biggest mistakes couples make (hint: it usually starts with who you let into the dynamic), the red flags that signal someone isn't a good third-party candidate, and the warning signs that a couple isn't actually ready for this yet. We also get into the Red Pill and Manosphere comparison — because consent is the dividing line, and it changes everything.If you've ever been curious, confused, or quietly judging something you don't fully understand, this conversation will give you the real picture instead of the porn version.In This Episode:00:00 Intro & Aria.FYI01:15 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:45 Meet Adreena Winters02:30 Why Cuckolding Is So Misunderstood04:00 Cuckoldress vs. Hot Wife: What's the Real Difference06:30 Is the Bull Part of the Couple's Dynamic?08:15 Who Usually Initiates: Men or Women?10:00 Cutting Queens & Reversed Dynamics12:00 Where to Start: Communication and Boundaries14:30 No, It's Not Always a Threesome16:00 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make18:30 Red Flags When Vetting a Bull20:30 Signs a Couple Isn't Ready Yet23:00 The Porn Fantasy vs. The Reality26:00 Adreena's Own Relationship & Retiring From Porn28:30 Cuckold Confessions: Filming Real Couples30:00 Finding a Bull: Apps, Sites & Communities31:30 Cuckolding vs. The Manosphere & Red Pill32:30 Is Cuckolding Cheating?33:00 Where to Find Adrena & Closing ThoughtsAbout The Guest:Adreena Winters is a content creator, writer, and educator known for her work exploring cuckolding. With over a decade of experience both personally and professionally in the adult industry, she has become one of the most recognisable voices discussing cuckolding openly and without shame. Adreena is the author of So, You Want to Be a Cuckold?, and the creator of Cuckold Confessions, a series exploring the motivations and desires of men who embrace the cuckold identity. Through her writing, videos, and podcast appearances, she aims to demystify taboo fantasies and encourage more honest conversations about sexuality, desire, and power within relationships.Connect with Adreena Winters:Website: https://thecuckacademy.com/Links: https://links.adrena-winters.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachadreenaAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — that's what ARYA delivers, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT certified sexologists and shipped right to your door. Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In this episode, I'm tackling the topic nobody wants to bring up at dinner: cheating. Whether you've been cheated on, you've done the cheating, or you've just thought about it (and most of us have), this conversation is for you. I'm breaking down what infidelity actually is, why it shows up so often in midlife, and whether it's ever justified. I get into the messy truth that affairs are rarely about sex — they're about disconnection, unmet needs, and the stories we tell ourselves instead of having hard conversations. I'm not excusing cheating. I am asking you to understand it, because understanding is the first step toward preventing it, surviving it, or having the honest conversation you've been avoiding.In This Episode:00:00 - Sponsor: Aria Intimacy Membership00:48 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:10 - Introduction: Talking About Cheating Like Adults01:30 - What Actually Counts as Cheating?02:15 - Why Cheating Happens More in Midlife02:50 - Is Cheating Ever Justified?03:55 - Are We Even Wired for Monogamy?04:40 - Open Relationships vs. Cheating: Where's the Line?05:10 - What to Do If You've Been Cheated On06:05 - How to Prevent Infidelity Before It Happens06:45 - Final Thoughts: Choosing HonestyWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comDISCLAIMER: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. This content is created for educational and informational purposes only. It is designed to provide viewers with knowledge and insights about intimacy, relationships, communication, and sexual wellness. This video does not depict or promote sexual acts for the purpose of sexual gratification. All discussions are conducted in a respectful, professional, and sex-positive context to encourage healthy, safe, and informed conversations. I have hand-selected some great products to help support your s//xual wellness. Purchasing products from me and/or my affiliates helps support the work that I do and ensures I can continue to help as many people and couples as possible!LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode of Sobertown Podcast host Michal Charles interviews Sarah Rusbatch, an accredited Grey Area Drinking Coach and award-winning Health and Well-being Coach. Sarah shares her personal journey with grey area drinking, explaining that it describes individuals who use alcohol as a coping mechanism rather than those with physical dependence. She details how her drinking progressed from childhood through career success in London's recruitment industry, fertility struggles, motherhood in Australia, and her pathway to permanent sobriety in 2019. The conversation explores how alcohol affects women differently than men due to biological factors and reduced alcohol metabolism, with Sarah explaining that women are more susceptible to alcohol-related health issues including breast cancer and liver disease. Michal shares her own experience with kindling syndrome from binge drinking, and Sarah outlines five pillars for maintaining an alcohol-free life. You don't want to miss this information-packed episode! Sarah Rusbatch is a multi award winning accredited Grey Area Drinking Coach, Menopause Coach, Author, Motivational Speaker and host of a community of over 25,000 women. She has been featured in publications such as ABC News, Mama Mia, Body & Soul, Women's Health, The Sunday Times and is a regular media commentator. Sarah has appeared on over 200 podcasts. Sarah is author of the best selling book “Beyond Booze, How to create a life you love Alcohol Free' and is inspiring audiences across the globe to create and live their best lives as they age. Book: Beyond Booze: How to Create a Life You Love Alcohol-Free Websit: https://sarahrusbatch.com/     About Michal: Michal is an American podcaster and sober warrior who believes every recovery journey is as unique as the individual traveling it. With over a decade of sobriety garnered through various recovery systems, programs, and support networks, she's passionate about breaking down stereotypes and smashing through the shame that can keep those suffering with addiction in the dark. Michal is an animal lover, rescue advocate, and tattooed motorcycle chick who has dedicated her life to helping others, whether in her personal or professional life.  Nothing makes her happier than hearing from her podcast listeners, so if you're so inspired, drop an email with a suggestion for an Early Days podcast episode, feedback, or just to say hello! Contact Michal at: EarlydaysPC@gmail.com    Other Sober Resources: I Am Sober App Sobertown Podcast Zoom Discussion Groups Sobertown Podcast Resource Center Recovery Online Meetings No Sippy No Slippy. Not Another Drop No matter What.   Remember to Pour The Poison Down The Sink!!      Sobertownpodcast.com

In this episode, I'm diving into something most men have never been taught but desperately need to hear — how your nervous system is directly controlling your desire, your erections, and your ability to connect intimately. If you're in midlife and noticing that your body isn't cooperating the way it used to, this is the episode that explains why — and what to actually do about it.I walk through the two modes of the nervous system, survival and safety, and why sex can only happen in one of them. I break down how decades of performance-based sexual conditioning quietly puts men into survival mode — and how shame keeps them there. Then I get practical, sharing the tools I give men every day to regulate their nervous system, rebuild a sense of safety, and reconnect with their bodies and their partners.Timestamps: 00:00 - What's really behind unpredictable erections in midlife00:48 - Welcome & what we're covering today01:35 - The sexual performance model most men were raised with02:22 - Survival mode vs. safety mode — and why sex requires safety03:08 - What survival mode actually looks like during sex03:50 - Why shame shuts down intimacy faster than low testosterone04:55 - Safety vs. confidence — and which one you actually need05:42 - Substack community callout06:10 - Practical tools: regulate before you initiate06:58 - Naming it, shifting the goal, and building safety outside the bedroom07:45 - You're not broken — you're waking up08:10 - Resources, Men Meet Menopause course & closingWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

In this episode, I sit down with two powerhouse sex therapists — Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz — to dig into one of the most common and least talked-about issues in long-term relationships: mismatched libidos. We're breaking down what desire discrepancy really means, why it doesn't have to spell the end of your sex life, and why the person wanting less sex is never simply "the problem." We get honest about the shame spiral that shuts men down sexually, the hidden reasons behind low male desire (from testosterone to performance anxiety to cultural conditioning), and the exact language that can open a conversation your partner has been too scared to start. This is Part 1 of 2 — and it's essential listening for anyone who has ever felt rejected in the bedroom or guilty for saying no.In this episode:00:00 - Welcome & Guest Introductions01:50 - What Is Desire Discrepancy — And Who Has It?04:25 - Why Nobody's the Problem (But It Feels That Way)06:40 - When She Wants It More Than He Does09:20 - The Hidden Reasons Behind Low Male Desire12:55 - How to Start the Conversation With a Shut-Down Partner16:10 - The Two Words That Change Everything: You Matter19:05 - Getting Into Therapy: Where Do You Even Start?21:30 - The Bilingual Couple: Unlocking Desire Through Language24:20 - Men's Shame, Sensuality & the Missing Safe Spaces26:40 - Sexual Rejection and the Fear of Not Belonging27:50 - Part 2 Teaser & Where to Find the Guests Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

In this episode, I'm talking about one of the most common and least discussed experiences in midlife: painful sex. Whether it's dryness, tightness, uncomfortable positioning, or intimacy that has quietly faded, I want you to know this is not normal aging and it is not something you have to accept. Bodies change as we get older — hormones shift, tissue thins, muscles tighten, and positions that once worked no longer do — but that doesn't mean pleasure is off the table. I walk through what's actually happening physiologically, why pain during sex is never something to push through, and the practical tools that can help: quality lubricants, pelvic floor physical therapy, honest communication with partners, and strategic positioning support. I also introduce the Prim Pillow by Taboo, a wedge-shaped cushion I personally use and love, and share exactly how I use it to reduce strain, change angles, and make intimacy feel comfortable and connected again. Great sex in midlife is possible — it just looks different than it did at 30, and that's not a problem. It's an opportunity.This is a highly visual episode and is best watched on video: https://youtu.be/_oXa6NOR_FQIn this episode: 00:00 - Welcome & What This Episode Is About00:47 - Introduction: Pain With Sex Is Not Normal01:30 - Sex After 50 — A Different but Better Conversation02:00 - What Actually Changes in Your Body as You Age02:51 - Why Pain During Sex Is Never Something to Tolerate03:02 - Tools That Help: Lube, Pelvic Floor PT & Communication03:28 - Introducing the Prim Pillow by Taboo04:42 - How to Use the Prim Pillow: Hip Elevation & Positioning05:54 - Why Lube Matters & the PJUR Med Sensitive Recommendation06:45 - Positioning Tips: Angles, Comfort & Communication07:14 - Sex Doesn't Expire — It Evolves07:55 - You Deserve Intimacy That Feels Good at Every Age08:13 - Resources & Where to Find Karen08:32 - Outro: Subscribe, Share & Make the World More Sex-PositiveWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

In this episode, I'm back with Dr. Sameena Rahman for Part 2 — and we go places most medical appointments never do. We open with PCOS, GLP-1s, peptides, and ketamine, then shift into what may be the most important hormone conversation I've had on this show: is hormone therapy actually safe for women over 60?Dr. Rahman breaks down why the original Women's Health Initiative study was mismarketed, not flawed — and how that bad marketing set back women's health by two decades. She explains how to think about the risk-benefit calculation for starting hormones later in life, and what screenings actually matter before making that call.We then get into the reality of concierge medicine — why so many doctors are leaving insurance-based practices, and what women who can't afford private care can actually do. And we close on a myth that genuinely alarmed me: the idea that women over 65 no longer need pelvic exams. Dr. Rahman sets the record straight — and explains why genitourinary syndrome menopauIn This Episode: 00:00 - Welcome Back & Recap of Part 101:20 - PCOS Explained: What It Is and Who It Affects02:50 - GLP-1s, Peptides & Ketamine: What the Evidence Actually Says05:10 - Hormone Therapy After 60: Is It Safe?07:30 - The WHI Study: Bad Marketing, Not Bad Science09:20 - Heart Health, Bone Health & Who Should Consider Starting Late11:45 - Why Doctors Are Moving to Concierge Medicine14:00 - The Insurance System Is Rigged Against Women16:05 - What to Do If You Can't Afford a Specialist17:45 - The Pelvic Exam Myth Putting Women at Risk19:15 - Genitourinary Syndrome, Vaginal Estrogen & UTI Prevention20:50 - Final Thoughts & Where to Find Dr. RahmanWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Sameena Rahman is a board-certified OB/GYN and certified Menopause Practitioner with over a decade of expertise in midlife care, sexual medicine, and concierge gynecology. After training and practicing at leading institutions including USC, the University of Chicago, and Northwestern, she founded The GSM Collective in downtown Chicago to deliver a more personalized, patient-first model of women's healthcare.Nationally recognized for her leadership in sexual and menopausal health, Dr. Rahman serves on the Board of Directors and as Scientific Committee Chair for the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH), where she is also a Fellow (IF). She is a Menopause Certified Practitioner and active member of The Menopause Society's Education Committee, frequently speaking at national and international conferences on culturally informed care and sexual health.Connect with Dr. Sameena Rahman:Website: https://www.thegsmcollective.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gynogirl/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that is already inside your world whether you're ready for it or not — artificial intelligence and sex. I'm breaking down four categories of AI-powered intimacy technology: smart sex toys and biofeedback devices, AI companion apps and chatbots, virtual reality experiences, and AI in sexual health and therapy. I talk about what these tools actually do, why they matter specifically for people navigating desire and relationships after 50, and the questions we're not asking loudly enough — about data privacy, about who this technology was built for, and about what happens to our capacity for real human connection when frictionless digital intimacy becomes the easier option. This is not a scare episode. This is a get-informed episode. Because you deserve to be an empowered participant in the world you're already living in.In this episode:00:00 — Introduction: AI Is Already in Your Bedroom01:15 — The Four Categories of AI Intimacy Tech02:30 — Smart Sex Toys and Biofeedback Devices04:10 — Lioness, FirmTech, WeVibe and What They Actually Do05:30 — Haptics and Teledildonics: Physical Intimacy Across Distance06:45 — AI Companion Apps: Loneliness, Grief, and the Limits of Digital Connection08:30 — Virtual Reality and Intimacy: VR Therapy, Body Shame, and Immersive Content10:15 — The Three Questions We're Not Asking About AI and Sex12:00 — Is Technology a Bridge or a Destination?13:15 — Closing: How to Be an Empowered Participant Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.AI Sex Toys & Devices mentioned in this episode:Lioness — biofeedback vibrator that tracks arousal, muscle contractions, and movement patterns via appFirmTech — tech ring for men that measures nighttime erections to assess penile health

What happens when a healthcare professional goes through surgical menopause at 42 and is handed nothing but a message in her patient portal that says "you are post-menopausal"? No education. No discussion. No next steps. Just a diagnosis and silence.That is exactly what happened to Julie Parana. And even as an occupational therapist who spent her days supporting patients through major health challenges, she found herself doing what so many women do — minimizing her symptoms, pushing through the pain, and waiting far too long to ask for help.Julie Parana, MS, OTR/L, CWHS, is an Occupational Therapist, Certified Women's Health Specialist, Menopause Coach, and founder of The Menopause OT - Menopause Coaching, a virtual practice empowering women to feel informed, supported, and in control through perimenopause and menopause. She works with women at every stage of this transition, including early, surgical, or treatment-induced changesTogether, we talk about: ✨ What adenomyosis is and why it goes undiagnosed for so long✨ How surgical menopause differs from natural menopause✨ The five lifestyle pillars that help women feel like themselves again✨ Why affirmations feel awkward at first and why they work anyway ✨ How to start small, build slowly, and actually stick to midlife wellness habitsJulie spent years dismissing her own symptoms because she was too busy caring for everyone else. What she learned on the other side of that is something every woman in this community needs to hear: menopause does not have to mean years of needless suffering. There is so much available to you. But you have to prioritize yourself first. No one is coming to do that for you. If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.CONNECT WITH JULIE PARANA:WebsiteInstagramCONNECT WITH GABRIELLA ESPINOSA:InstagramLinkedInWork with Gabriella!  Full episodes on YouTube.The information shared on Pleasure in the Pause is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider before making any decisions about your health or treatment. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the host or Pleasure in the Pause.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sameena Rahman — board-certified OBGYN, sex medicine Gynecologist, and menopause specialist — to have the conversation most women never get to have with their doctor. We cover whether hormone level testing actually matters, how to tell the difference between hormone imbalance and hormone optimization, and why a woman's libido is almost never just about one thing.Dr. Rahman breaks down the biopsychosocial framework she uses in her practice, explains why so many women in long-term relationships experience responsive — not spontaneous — desire, and gets specific about the treatments available right now for women with low libido who are bothered by it. That includes testosterone, flibanserin (Addyi), bremelanotide (Vyleesi), and a promising new topical sildenafil being prescribed at leading practices. I share my own experience with testosterone and Wellbutrin, we talk about the gender double standard in sexual medicine, and Dr. Rahman makes the case that women deserve the same range of options men have had for decades.Timestamps:00:00 - Welcome & Introduction01:35 - Who Is Dr. Sameena Rahman?02:50 - Should You Measure Your Hormone Levels?05:20 - Hormone Imbalance vs. Hormone Optimization07:10 - Why Women's Libido Is Never Just One Thing09:30 - Responsive Desire & the Incentive-Based Model11:20 - What Is Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder?13:10 - Testosterone for Women: Does It Work?15:25 - Flibanserin (Addyi) — The Pink Pill Explained17:55 - Bremelanotide (Vyleesi) — The On-Demand Option19:45 - Topical Sildenafil: The Newest Treatment for Women21:20 - Key Takeaways & Closing Thoughts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Sameena Rahman is a board-certified OB/GYN and certified Menopause Practitioner with over a decade of expertise in midlife care, sexual medicine, and concierge gynecology. After training and practicing at leading institutions including USC, the University of Chicago, and Northwestern, she founded The GSM Collective in downtown Chicago to deliver a more personalized, patient-first model of women's healthcare.Nationally recognized for her leadership in sexual and menopausal health, Dr. Rahman serves on the Board of Directors and as Scientific Committee Chair for the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH), where she is also a Fellow (IF). She is a Menopause Certified Practitioner and active member of The Menopause Society's Education Committee, frequently speaking at national and international conferences on culturally informed care and sexual health.Connect with Dr. Sameena Rahman:Website: https://www.thegsmcollective.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gynogirl/Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm going straight at the myth that has quietly wrecked the confidence of more men than I can count: how long you're supposed to last in bed. Spoiler — the benchmark most men are measuring themselves against isn't based in reality. It comes from porn, locker room exaggeration, and years of silence between partners who never actually had the conversation. I break down what the science actually says (the average is about five to six minutes, not 20 or 30), share a real client story, and explain why the real problem isn't your body — it's your benchmark. I also cover what women genuinely want from sex, why performance anxiety starts in your head long before you get anywhere near the bedroom, and practical steps to feel more present, more confident, and more connected with your partner.In this episode:00:00 Hook & Podcast Introduction00:55 The 20-Minute Myth — Where It Comes From01:55 What the Research Says About Sex Duration02:50 Why You're Struggling With Pressure, Not Performance03:35 Real Client Story: Shame, Avoidance, and Breakthrough04:20 What Women Actually Want in Bed05:10 Ad: Firm Tech Max PR05:35 Redefining Good Sex From Scratch06:20 Practical Tools for Control, Presence, and Connection07:10 When to See a Doctor or Sex Therapist07:35 Final CTA and Outro Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Want to enhance intimacy and confidence? Check out my curated products page at https://www.taboototruth.com/shopGet 15% off the Max PR from Firm Tech with code TABOO15 at myfirmtech.com

In this episode, I'm talking with Natalie Davis — former DOJ trial lawyer, polyamory advocate, and author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory — about what it actually looks like to build a life that doesn't follow the relationship script most of us were handed.Natalie has been with her husband since they were teenagers. They have an adult son. And over the past two decades, they've navigated swinging, open relationships, and fully polyamorous partnerships — together and separately. Today, she lives in a home with her husband and his long-term girlfriend, her metamour, while also dating outside the house. It works. And she's here to explain exactly how.We talk about the moment her husband first suggested opening their marriage, why her initial reaction was a hard no, and how she moved through fear and structure-loving resistance into something that genuinely expanded her world. She breaks down the differences between swinging, open relationships, and polyamory, shares what jealousy actually looks like when it shows up (and when it doesn't), and explains the safer sex elevator speech that everyone — monogamous or not — should be using.We also get into the real stuff: how her marriage stays strong when both partners are emotionally and physically connected to other people, what she told her son, how coming out as polyamorous affects friendships and family, why she's now fighting for legal protections for non-monogamous people, and what it's like to date much younger men after decades of marriage.This is not a conversation about blowing up your life. It's a conversation about questioning what you were taught, being honest about what you want, and realizing that love doesn't always have to look one way.In This Episode:00:00 What If You Were Never Taught Monogamy Was Optional?01:50 Meet Natalie Davis: DOJ Lawyer Turned Polyamory Advocate04:20 How Her Husband First Brought Up Opening Their Marriage07:40 Natalie's Arc: From Hard No to Saying Yes11:30 Swinging vs. Polyamory — What's the Actual Difference?16:00 Dating Separately for the First Time After Decades of Marriage19:15 Her First Real Poly Relationship — and What She Didn't Expect22:45 Inside a Swingers Club: What It's Actually Like26:25 The Safer Sex Elevator Speech Everyone Should Know30:00 Living with Her Husband's Girlfriend: The Resident V Setup33:35 Does She Ever Get Jealous? Honestly?36:15 What Her Son Knows — and How He Feels About It39:00 Coming Out as Polyamorous: Friends, Family, and Strangers Online41:45 Dating Much Younger Men After 4044:05 Is Polyamory an Orientation or a Choice?46:50 Fighting for Legal Protections for Non-Monogamous People48:20 Where to Find Natalie and Her Book Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Natalie Davis is the author Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory and the editor of the online publication Polyamory Today. Her work has appeared inHeart Affairs, Discovering Polyamory, Monogamish, and The Memoirist, and her opinions about polyamory have been published in The Washington Post.She has been interviewed on relationship podcasts and has presented workshops on communication and non-monogamy across the United States.A recovering DOJ trial lawyer, she lives in the Washington, DC, area, with her partner and her marvelous metamour. You can find her on Instagram, Medium,and her website as nataliedavisadventures.Connect with Natalie Davis:Website: https://www.nataliedavisadventures.comBook: Saying Yes: My Adventures in PolyamoryInstagram: @nataliedavisadventuresAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm handing you the dating dictionary I wish I'd had years ago. If you've ever felt confused, blindsided, or just plain crazy after a date or relationship fell apart — you weren't imagining it. The behavior has a name. And once you can name it, you stop second-guessing yourself and start making better decisions.I walk through 10 modern dating terms — ghosting, zombieing, future faking, ghost lighting, micro-cheating, benching, banksying, breadcrumbing, love bombing, and situationships — what they look like, why they happen, and how to respond. I also share my 3-6-9 rule for checking in on compatibility at the right moments without over-investing too soon. The goal isn't to memorize a list. It's to trust yourself faster.In This Episode: 00:00 - Introduction & Why Naming Behaviors Matters00:48 - Ghosting: They Disappear With No Explanation01:35 - Zombieing: Coming Back Like Nothing Happened02:10 - Future Faking: Big Promises, Zero Follow-Through02:52 - Ghost Lighting: Ghosting + Gaslighting in One Toxic Move03:42 - Meet Lem From Nancy04:12 - Micro-Cheating: Is It Really Cheating?04:48 - Benching: You're On the Roster But Never In the Game05:14 - Banksying: The Slow Fade That Goes Nowhere05:40 - Breadcrumbing: Just Enough to Keep You Hooked06:15 - Love Bombing: Intensity Followed by Disappearance06:50 - Situationships: Emotionally Involved With No Clarity07:25 - The 3-6-9 Rule for Checking Compatibility08:05 - Final Thoughts & How to Trust Yourself FasterWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm back with emotional intimacy expert Allana Pratt for Part 2 of a conversation that went places I never expected. We pick up where we left off — moving through self-forgiveness, the grip of self-loathing, and why judgment from others is actually an invitation to look inward. Allana shares a raw piece of her own story — six years estranged from her son, and the horrendous self-hatred she had to sit with and fully feel to finally reach wisdom. We get into soul embodiment, what it really means to be an anxious attacher, and why trauma is finite — not a life sentence. And because this is Taboo to Truth, we close it out with my three questions: her definition of sex, her best orgasm ever, and a fantasy she's never checked off the list. Buckle up — this one goes deep in every direction.In this episode: 00:00 - Welcome Back & Intro00:30 - Part 1 Recap: The Three Relationship Mistakes02:10 - Why Forgiveness Is Harder Than Acceptance04:30 - Self-Hatred Is the Last Thing to Go in Healing07:45 - Real Client Story: Stop Blaming Yourself for How Others React11:00 - The Teflon Method: Receiving Judgment Without Taking It On14:15 - How to Actually Sit With Self-Loathing Until It Transforms17:30 - Allana Opens Up: Six Years Without Her Son20:00 - Soul Embodiment & Body Wisdom21:45 - Can You Have a Real Relationship While Still Doing the Work?23:00 - Anxious Attachment, Rejection & Why Trauma Is Finite24:20 - The Three Questions: Sex, Orgasms & Unfulfilled Fantasies25:10 - Where to Find Allana & Scholarship CodeWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those ready to transcend heartbreak, live unapologetically and cultivate a soul-shaking relationship. This Ivy League grad is the Author of 6 books, has interviewed Actress Whoopi Goldberg, Musician Alanis Morissette and Physicist Nassim Haramein. She Hosts the edgy Podcast Intimate Conversations: Season 14- Dark Night to Divine Light, where listeners learn that intimacy is an inside job.A Certified Master Coach with over 7M viewers on YouTube, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. Interviewed over 850 times, she's been chosen as an Icon of Influence and featured on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, ABC, FOX, TLC, iHeartRadio and more.Connect with Allana Pratt:Website: https://allanapratt.com/connect (Allana is offering a scholarship for listeners to connect with her one-on-one at a reduced rate — ask her about it!)Podcast: Intimate ConversationsYouTube: /AllanaPrattPatreon: Allana PrattInstagram: @allanaprattAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm introducing one of my favorite concepts for couples who feel like the spark has quietly gone out: sex snacks. Not whipped cream, not grand gestures — tiny, pressure-free moments of flirtation, touch, and attention that keep intimacy alive throughout the day. I break down why desire in midlife doesn't work like a light switch, why spontaneous desire often fades during perimenopause and menopause, and how responsive desire — the kind that builds once it starts — can still be very much alive. Sex snacks are designed to lower pressure and raise connection, and I walk through exactly what they look like in real life, why they work for both men and women, and how one small daily habit can shift the entire emotional tone of your relationship.In This Episode:00:00 If Your Partner Pulls Away From Touch, Listen to This First00:30 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:05 Why Couples Treat Sex Like a Three-Course Meal02:00 Desire Isn't a Light Switch — It's Momentum02:45 What Responsive Desire Means During Menopause03:15 What Exactly Is a Sex Snack?04:05 Real Examples: The 6-Second Kiss, the Back Rub, the Midday Text04:55 Flirtation Is the Most Underrated Aphrodisiac05:30 Touch That Communicates Warmth, Not Negotiation06:10 A Note for the Men Listening06:55 Sex Snacks Go Both Ways — Women Too07:30 Your Challenge: One Sex Snack Today08:00 Hotter Wiser Wilder & Men Meet Menopause Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I sit down with emotional intimacy expert and certified master coach Allana Pratt to expose the relationship mistakes most of us are making — quietly, repeatedly, and often without realizing it. Allana breaks down three major patterns that keep love from going deep: withholding the full truth out of fear of rejection, abandoning ourselves and our communities the moment things get hard, and mistaking cognitive awareness of anger for actually processing it. Through raw client stories, her signature "Little You" practice, and the powerful Theater of Redemption process, Allana reveals what it really takes to show up vulnerably, keep your heart open even when you're furious, and finally break the cycles that have been running your love life. This is Part 1 — and you won't want to miss what's coming next week.In this episode:00:00 - Introduction & Welcome00:45 - Meet Allana Pratt: Emotional Intimacy Expert02:45 - Relationship Mistake #1: Only Telling 85% of the Truth07:00 - The Couple Who Almost Lost It All (And the Real Problem Behind It)11:15 - Core Wounds & Why We Attract the Same Pain14:30 - Relationship Mistake #2: Quitting When It Gets Hard17:50 - The "Little You" Practice: Building an Inner Foundation21:00 - Relationship Mistake #3: Unprocessed Anger Coming Out Sideways23:15 - The Theater of Redemption Process24:40 - Subscribe & See You Next Week Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those ready to transcend heartbreak, live unapologetically and cultivate a soul-shaking relationship. This Ivy League grad is the Author of 6 books, has interviewed Actress Whoopi Goldberg, Musician Alanis Morissette and Physicist Nassim Haramein. She Hosts the edgy Podcast Intimate Conversations: Season 14- Dark Night to Divine Light, where listeners learn that intimacy is an inside job.A Certified Master Coach with over 7M viewers on YouTube, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. Interviewed over 850 times, she's been chosen as an Icon of Influence and featured on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, ABC, FOX, TLC, iHeartRadio and more.Connect with Allana Pratt:Website: https://allanapratt.com/connect Use code READYNOW for a scholarship to connect with Allana one-on-onePodcast: Intimate Conversations YouTube: /AllanaPratt Patreon: Allana Pratt Instagram: @allanaprattAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm joined by certified sexologist and Love Lab Podcast host Kevin Anthony for the most thorough — and most honest — sex toy review I've ever done. We pulled out everything: vibrators, pumps, prostate massagers, masturbators, depth limiters, positioning pillows, and more. We break down what each toy does, who it's really for, and whether it's worth buying. We also go deep on the health angle — because a lot of these tools aren't just about pleasure. They're about erectile health, pelvic floor function, blood flow, and the real changes that happen to our bodies in midlife. No brand deals swayed us. Just two sex educators giving you the full, unfiltered truth.In This Episode:00:00 - Intro00:22 - Welcome Kevin Athony01:51 - Mystery Vibe Tenuto 2 & Crescendo 204:04 - Dr. Joe Kaplan Penis Pump — Manual vs. Automated07:02 - Does Penis Size Actually Matter?09:15 - The O-Nut Depth Limiter11:28 - The Taboo Prim Positioning Pillow13:19 - Hello Nancy Clitoral Toys: Berry, LEM & Avo15:32 - FirmTech Smart Cock Ring17:45 - Kiru Lux Couples Toy19:36 - Kiru Kiron & The Handy Masturbators22:34 - Pjur Lube — Why Water-Based Matters24:03 - Aneros Helix Prostate Massager26:16 - Anal Plugs & The Safety Story28:07 - Bathmate Water Penis Pump29:36 - Luand Vibrators & Rabbit Vibrator31:49 - Glass & Stainless Steel Dildos33:18 - Dr. Joe Kaplan Vulva & Clit Suction Pump35:31 - B-Vibe Strap-On & Pegging37:22 - Final Thoughts & Where to Find Products Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

In this episode, I continue my conversation with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Rachel Gelman. We cover what actually brings people — of all genders — to see a pelvic floor PT, from pain and constipation to erectile dysfunction and urinary urgency. Rachel breaks down what a prostatectomy really does to sexual function, whether men can get sensation back after prostate removal, and why erectile dysfunction is almost always multifactorial. We also get into how the pelvic floor behaves during orgasm, why some people experience cramping or pain afterward, the fascinating jaw-pelvis connection, and the nerve link between your feet and your pelvic floor (yes, really). And Rachel shares her top tips for maintaining a healthy pelvic floor — including why she prescribes masturbation and vibrators far more often than Kegels.In this episode:00:00 - Podcast Intro & Show Hook00:30 - Welcome Back & Part 1 Recap01:10 - Why Vulva & Penis Owners Visit a Pelvic Floor PT02:40 - Pain, Constipation & Gender-Neutral Symptoms03:50 - Erectile Dysfunction, Urinary Urgency & More05:00 - Diastasis Recti — Not Just a Women's Issue05:40 - What Is a Prostatectomy & How It Affects Sexual Function07:30 - Can You Get Sexual Function Back After Prostate Removal?09:00 - Erectile Dysfunction: Is It Ever Just a Pelvic Floor Issue?10:30 - How the Pelvic Floor Functions During Orgasm12:00 - Why You Might Feel Cramping After Orgasm12:50 - The Jaw-Pelvis Connection You Never Knew About14:30 - Feet, Nerve Roots & Toe-Curling Orgasms — Explained15:40 - Tips for a Healthy Pelvic Floor — Starting with Bowel Health17:00 - Why Rachel Prescribes Masturbation & Vibrators Over Kegels18:15 - Vibrator Recommendations for People with a Penis19:20 - When & How to Find a Pelvic Floor Specialist20:00 - Where to Find Dr. Rachel Gelman, Outro & Wrap-UpWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Dr. Rachel Gelman PT, DPT, CSC (she/her/hers) is a clinician, writer and educator. She received her Doctorate in Physical Therapy from Samuel Merritt University where she completed her clinical internship in pelvic floor rehabilitation. She has a special interest in sexual health and has received a certificate in sexuality counseling from the University of Michigan and is an AASECT certified sexuality counselor. She is a member of several sexual medicine associations including the International Society of Sexual Medicine and the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health. She is the owner and founder of Pelvic Wellness & Physical Therapy in San Francisco. She is also an adjunct instructor at Samuel Merritt University where she teaches the pelvic health curriculum in the Doctor of Physical Therapy program.Connect with Dr. Rachel Gelman:Website: https://www.pelvicwellpt.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pelvichealthsfAbout the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm tackling one of the most persistent — and medically inaccurate — myths about women's bodies: the idea that a woman becomes loose based on how much sex she has had and her body count. I break down the actual science of vaginal elasticity, explain why body count has zero impact on vaginal tone, and get real about what actually does change things over time — spoiler: it's pelvic floor health, not how many partners she's had. This myth has been used for decades to shame and control women, and it's time we replace it with facts..IN THIS EPISODE:00:00 - The Question That Went Viral00:50 - Welcome + What We're Debunking Today01:20 - Where the Loose Woman Myth Comes From02:10 - How Vaginal Elasticity Actually Works02:55 - What Arousal Has to Do With It03:35 - Ad Break (Firm Tech)04:05 - Pelvic Floor Muscles and Vaginal Tone05:00 - The Real Emotional Cost of This Myth05:45 - What We Should Be Talking About Instead06:10 - Final Thoughts + Resources Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I sit down with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Rachel Gelman to uncover the one part of the male body that almost no one talks about — the pelvic floor. From erection strength to ejaculation control and orgasm intensity, Rachel breaks down exactly how these muscles work in men and women alike, why most people are walking around with a pelvic floor that's too tense (not too weak), and why Kegels may be the most over-prescribed exercise in sexual health. We also get into male incontinence, what a pelvic floor internal exam actually looks like, how consent is handled in the clinical setting, and why trauma plays a bigger role in pelvic floor treatment than most people realize. This is Part 1 — and trust me, you don't want to miss Part 2.In this episode:00:00 - Podcast Intro & Show Hook00:30 - Welcome & Karen's Introduction01:15 - Meet Dr. Rachel Gelman – Pelvic Floor PT02:40 - Women Are Learning About Pelvic Floor PT — But What About Men?03:45 - Half of Rachel's Patients Are Men04:30 - The Pelvic Floor Is Gender Neutral05:15 - Pregnancy & the Pelvic Floor — The Common Misconception06:10 - How the Pelvic Floor Works: The Muscular Hammock Explained07:50 - Sexual Function & the Pelvic Floor (For All Genders)09:30 - Karen's Tight Pelvic Floor — And Why Kegels Were Wrong for Her10:40 - Why Most People Have a Tense, Not Weak, Pelvic Floor12:00 - The Kegel Myth & Over-Prescription12:45 - Pelvic Floor Machines: Do They Help or Hurt?13:30 - Male Incontinence — How It Works & What Causes It15:10 - Prostate Surgery & Its Impact on the Pelvic Floor15:50 - The Internal Exam — Consent, Comfort & What to Expect16:55 - Trauma, Body Language & Knowing When NOT to Proceed17:25 - Wrap-Up, Part 2 Teaser & Outro Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Dr. Rachel Gelman PT, DPT, CSC (she/her/hers) is a clinician, writer and educator. She received her Doctorate in Physical Therapy from Samuel Merritt University where she completed her clinical internship in pelvic floor rehabilitation. She has a special interest in sexual health and has received a certificate in sexuality counseling from the University of Michigan and is an AASECT certified sexuality counselor. She is a member of several sexual medicine associations including the International Society of Sexual Medicine and the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health. She is the owner and founder of Pelvic Wellness & Physical Therapy in San Francisco. She is also an adjunct instructor at Samuel Merritt University where she teaches the pelvic health curriculum in the Doctor of Physical Therapy program.Connect with Dr. Rachel Gelman:Website: https://www.pelvicwellpt.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pelvichealthsfAbout the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm addressing one of the most common — and least talked-about — causes of erectile dysfunction in midlife men: porn-related ED. If you or someone you love has noticed that things work just fine alone but shut down with a real partner, this isn't about age, hormones, or anything being wrong with you. It's about your brain — and how repeated exposure to high-stimulation content has recalibrated your arousal system. I break down exactly what's happening neurologically, why midlife men are particularly vulnerable, and walk through three clear steps to stop the cycle, rewire your brain, and rebuild real-world intimacy. This is not about shame. It's about understanding a pattern — and changing it.IN THIS EPISODE:00:00 Introduction — The Problem No One Talks About00:25 Podcast Intro00:58 What Porn-Related ED Actually Is01:38 What's Happening in Your Brain02:35 Why Midlife Men Are Especially Vulnerable03:10 Step 1: Stop Desensitizing Your Brain04:00 Step 2: Rewire Your Brain04:48 Step 3: Resensitize Your Brain to Real Pleasure05:42 You're Not Broken — Patterns Can Change Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss outKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

Today we are talking about something that affects every women, yet most of us feel wildly unprepared for it: menopause. Claire Hattrick is known as the Executive Menopause Coach, and she helps women feel informed, confident and in control... Claire is the author of 'Menopause help book' as a qualified CPD accredited Executive Menopause Coach, she supports women on a 1:1 coaching sessions educating men and women through public speaking and corporate events/training. for more information visit www.theexecutivemenopausecoach.com If you would like to reach out to me, it's @francenejdavidson 

In this episode, I'm joined by comedian, writer, and viral content creator Matt Hyams, whose hilariously honest videos about life with a perimenopausal wife have racked up millions of views. What started as a way to process his own reality quickly became a platform that has resonated with husbands and wives everywhere.Matt opens up about the moment he realized his marriage wasn't falling apart — it was hormones. He shares how IVF gave him a surprising frame of reference for perimenopause rage, why he walks a delicate line between validating his wife and not setting a precedent he'll regret, and what it's actually like to work from home with the woman who is also your boss.We talk about role reversals, the mental load, hormone therapy, keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship, and the surprising ways humor can — and can't — save you in the bedroom. Matt also shares the practical advice he now gives other men who message him completely lost. Spoiler: it starts with boiling eggs before you're asked.This is the conversation every couple navigating perimenopause together needs to hear.In this episode:00:00 The Smell Test: A Perimenopause Comedy Intro01:30 Meet Matt Hyams: The Husband Who Went Viral02:50 How's the Marriage Actually Holding Up?05:00 IVF, Rage, and That Familiar Feeling06:45 Do Men Even Talk to Each Other About This?08:15 How the Word Perimenopause Entered His House10:15 The Holiday Blowup That Changed Everything13:15 She Said She Was Done — Then Forgot She Said It15:45 Hormone Therapy: She's on the Patch17:30 How Men vs. Women React to His Content18:45 Role Reversal: She's the Breadwinner21:45 Working with Your Wife and Disappointing Her Twice23:30 Did Going Viral Actually Make Things Better?25:00 Humor in the Bedroom: Where It Helps and Where It Doesn't27:15 Keeping It Spicy After 13 Years28:45 The Advice Every Man Needs When Perimenopause Hits Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout The Guest: Matt is a comedian, comedy writer, and husband to a perimenopausal wife.He's the winner of Stage32's 4th Annual TV Comedy ScreenwritingCompetition; he's performed in stand up festivals around the country; and his satire writing has appeared in McSweeney's (and some sites you've never heard of).Connect with Matt Hyam:Website: https://www.matthyams.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthyamsKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In this episode, I'm breaking down five practical secrets that can completely transform your sex life in a long-term relationship. If your sex life has gone quiet, predictable, or nonexistent, you're not alone — and you're definitely not broken. I walk through how to start having real conversations about sex, why desire doesn't start in the bedroom, the power of novelty and curiosity, how to expand your pleasure toolkit in simple ways, and a mindset shift around what sex even means that takes the pressure off and brings desire back. This one is equal parts practical, playful, and honest — and Secret #5 might change how you think about sex entirely.In this episode:00:00 Introduction — the one goal nobody puts on their list01:14 Secret #1: Upgrade how you talk about sex02:46 The sex menu tool — appetizers, mains & desserts03:35 Secret #2: Desire doesn't start in the bedroom04:52 Touch without an agenda — why it changes everything05:40 Secret #3: Interrupt the routine06:28 Secret #4: Expand your pleasure toolkit07:56 Praise kink & the types of orgasms nobody taught you08:43 Secret #5: Redefine what counts as sex09:41 The 5 shifts summarized + Hotter, Wiser, Wilder courseWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

In part two, we go deeper into what actually drives mismatched desire and why so many couples get stuck in toxic patterns.I sit down again with Coral Osborne to unpack the psychology behind attraction, fantasy, and connection. We break down why you can feel intense chemistry with the wrong partner and disconnect with the right one. It comes down to understanding your erotic blueprint and the meaning behind your desires.We talk about fantasy analysis, why shame distorts sexuality, and how to start rebuilding intimacy in a real, practical way. If you have ever felt confused by your own desires or your partner's, this episode gives you the language and tools to understand what is really going on.Timestamps:00:00 Intro: Going Deeper Into Desire00:45 Why We Misunderstand Attraction02:10 Toxic Chemistry vs Real Connection04:05 Why Men Outsource Desire05:40 The Language Gap Around Sex07:05 Fantasy Analysis Explained09:10 What Your Fantasies Actually Mean11:00 Why Sex Without Meaning Feels Empty12:30 Simple Tools to Rebuild Intimacy14:10 Why Fantasy Disclosure Builds Connection15:30 The Truth About “Vanilla” Sex16:50 Common Sexual Issues Men Face18:05 Why We Suppress Parts of Ourselves19:30 Sex as Expression and Identity20:50 Why Sex Matters More Than You Think21:40 What Men Really Need in Relationships22:40 Why Attraction Patterns Keep Repeating23:30 Outro and Where to Find Coral Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!About the Guest:Coral Osborne is a certified Intimacy & Identity Coach for men. She works with high-performing men who've built success everywhere except in their relationships, helping them reconnect with their authentic desires, emotional depth, and confidence in connection. Before becoming a coach, She spent years immersed in environments where men felt free to drop their guard and speak truthfully about what they were struggling with, performance anxiety, disconnection, loneliness, and the unspoken pressure to always have it together.Connect with Coral Osborne:Website: https://www.coralosborne.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborneKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

If you want a better sex life, you need to learn how to talk about sex. In this episode, I break down why most couples avoid these conversations and how that silence creates distance, resentment, and confusion. I walk you through exactly when to bring it up, what to say, and how to say it in a way that builds connection instead of triggering defensiveness. You will learn how to lead with curiosity, ask better questions, and express your needs without blame. I also explain the real reasons desire shifts in midlife, from stress to hormones to body image, so you stop taking it personally. This is about turning sex from a source of pressure into a shared experience that brings you closer.Download my free communication tips for midlife couples below to get the exact language to open this conversation without making it awkward. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/communication-tips-for-midlife-couplesIn This Episode:00:00 Why Communication Matters More Than Technique00:32 Why Talking About Sex Feels So Hard01:10 The Biggest Mistake Men Make01:45 When To Bring Up Sex The Right Way02:20 What To Say To Start The Conversation03:00 Questions That Open Her Up03:45 How To Express Your Needs Without Blame04:30 What Affects Her Desire In Midlife05:20 Shift To A Team Mindset05:50 Why Ongoing Check Ins Matter06:05 One Sentence That Changes Everything Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

If you've ever felt like your body changed overnight, your brain got foggy, your emotions got louder, and nobody handed you a manual for what the hell was happening… this episode is going to hit.In this conversation, Marina sits down with Joyce — nurse, women's health advocate, and founder of Rejoiceful Living — for a real, unfiltered talk about perimenopause, hormone shifts, invisible symptoms, and what happens when a woman stops dismissing what she feels and starts building a mission around it.What makes this episode so powerful is that Joyce isn't speaking from theory. She's lived it. After 20 years in nursing and her own brutal experience with perimenopause, she realized how many women were being dismissed, underprepared, and flat-out confused by what was happening in their bodies. So instead of staying stuck, she built a brand, a program, and a resource hub to help women feel informed, supported, and empowered again.This is also a deeper conversation about what happens when a woman stops trying to fit into a business model that doesn't light her up… and starts building a brand around what she's actually called to do.What You'll LearnWhy so many women think they're “losing it” when they may actually be dealing with perimenopauseThe symptoms nobody warned us about — from brain fog and inflammation to sleep issues and mood shiftsHow estrogen impacts way more than periods and fertilityWhy women are often underprepared for this phase of life compared to pregnancy and postpartumHow Joyce used her own struggle and 20 years of nursing experience to create an offer that actually servesWhat symptom tracking can reveal before you ever step into a doctor's officeHow to advocate for yourself so you don't get dismissed or gaslit by providersThe difference between trying to sell a product… and building a mission-led personal brandWhat Joyce built in just nine months inside Brand Me On DemandHow clarity creates confidence when you finally know who you help and how you help themKey Moments / Timestamp Outline0:00 — Marina's honest intro: no script, no prep, just a real conversation2:00 — Joyce shares her personal experience with perimenopause and why this mission matters6:00 — Marina opens up about early menopause symptoms and feeling completely unprepared9:00 — The overlooked symptoms women don't realize are connected to hormone shifts14:00 — Brain fog, inflammation, stress, and the compounding effect of hormone changes18:00 — Why women are overprepared for birth… and wildly underprepared for perimenopause23:00 — Hormone replacement, provider resistance, and advocating for your health28:00 — How Joyce turned her experience into a real offer and support portal for women33:00 — What it looks like to work with Joyce and where women should start first38:00 — Insulin resistance, inflammation, weight gain, and why “eat less, move more” isn't the whole story45:00 — The authority piece: why Joyce's nursing background changes everything50:00 — Everything Joyce built in nine months while working full time57:00 — The confidence shift that happens when your brand finally matches your mission1:02:00 — Why Joyce is now known as “the menopause lady” and why that branding is genius1:05:00 — Final encouragement for the woman who knows she's called to moreFavorite Soundbites / Pull Quotes“I thought I was having a mental breakdown… and it was perimenopause.”“Midlife women deserve more.”“Small changes have a compounding effect.”“You are not gonna know in a 24-hour period what's bothering you the most.”“I help them know what to say so they don't get gaslit or dismissed.”“It's not about trying to look skinny. It's about trying to stay healthy for longevity.”“You're not just out there selling a perimenopause course. You've lived this.”“I know what I'm talking about. I know who I'm talking to. I'm not for everyone, and that's okay.”“I have purpose each day. I have a mission I can get behind.”“The money comes right after that.”Resources MentionedConnect with Joyce at: RejoicefulLiving.comStart with her Energy Rescue Pack for a simple, low-cost first step into feeling better https://store.rejoycefulliving.com/energy-rescueFollow Joyce for education and support around perimenopause, energy, hormones, and midlife wellnessReady to stop blending in and start building a brand that actually banks?Inside Brand Me On Demand, I help women turn their story into strategy, their content into clients, and their visibility into real cash flow — without burning out or sounding like everyone else online.And if you're done being a slave to the algorithm and ready to build on borrowed land a whole lot less, go check out AICE — the platform helping entrepreneurs create owned community, simplify follow-up, and actually see what their audience is engaging with.✨ Try AICE here: https://aice.cc/?track=messytomillions

Low libido and mismatched desire are not just about hormones. In this episode, I sit down with Coral Osborne, former escort turned intimacy coach for high-performing men, to break down what is really driving disconnection in relationships.We get into what men are not saying, why performance anxiety is rising, and how shame shapes desire. Coral shares what she learned from working with men in both sex work and coaching. The patterns are the same. Men feel pressure to perform, hide their needs, and avoid vulnerability.We talk about why sex is rarely just about sex. It reflects how you communicate, how you handle rejection, and how safe you feel expressing your truth. If you or your partner are dealing with mismatched desire, this episode gives you a deeper lens and practical starting points.In This Episode:00:00 Intro00:42 Why Low Libido Is Misunderstood02:10 Coral's Story From Sex Work to Coaching05:20 What Men Really Wanted Behind Closed Doors08:10 Why Sex Is Rarely About Sex10:05 The Shame Driving Male Desire12:00 Performance Anxiety Explained14:10 Porn, Pressure, and Unreal Expectations16:05 Why Men Struggle With Vulnerability18:00 Erectile Issues and the Nervous System20:10 The “Nice Guy” Trap in Relationships22:10 How to Start Fixing Mismatched Desire23:50 What to Expect in Part TwoWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Coral Osborne is a certified Intimacy & Identity Coach for men. She works with high-performing men who've built success everywhere except in their relationships, helping them reconnect with their authentic desires, emotional depth, and confidence in connection. Before becoming a coach, She spent years immersed in environments where men felt free to drop their guard and speak truthfully about what they were struggling with, performance anxiety, disconnection, loneliness, and the unspoken pressure to always have it together.Connect with Coral Osborne:Website: https://www.coralosborne.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborneKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

What do you do when the relationship is good, but the sex is boring?In part two of my conversation with clinical sexologist Dr. Stacey Friedman, we talk about what really happens to sexual relationships over time. We move beyond the idea of “dead bedrooms” and dive into boredom, communication, novelty, and the evolving nature of intimacy in midlife.We explore how to talk to a partner about disappointing sex without damaging their ego. Dr. Stacey Friedman explains why many couples lose desire simply because their sex life becomes predictable. And she shares practical ways to bring novelty back into the bedroom without pressure or shame.The conversation also explores topics many couples are curious about but rarely discuss openly. Alternative relationship structures, sexual exploration later in life, and how to redefine sex as connection rather than performance.If part one opened the door to rebuilding intimacy, part two shows how curiosity, communication, and creativity keep desire alive long term.In this episode:00:00 Welcome Back And Part Two Overview00:35 Karen's Story About The “Lazy Lover”02:05 How To Talk About Bad Sex Without Hurting Ego03:30 Curiosity Instead Of Criticism04:40 Why So Many Couples Are Bored In Bed05:45 The Importance Of Novelty In Long Term Sex06:55 The Roller Coaster Analogy For Predictable Sex08:00 Simple Ways To Add Variety And Playfulness09:05 When Couples Consider Opening Their Relationship10:30 Why Alternative Relationships Sometimes Work11:55 Ad Break. Lem By Hello Nancy12:55 A Real Example Of A Couple Who Opened Their Relationship13:45 Navigating Midlife Changes In Sex And Desire14:40 The Daily Question That Strengthens Relationships15:25 Dr. Stacey's Definition Of Sex15:55 Best Orgasm And Sexual Exploration16:15 Final Advice. Curiosity Keeps Desire Alive Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

In this episode, I share a personal story I have never told in detail before. It begins in my early 50s after separating from my husband of 25 years and rediscovering sex in a new relationship. My libido was strong, my excitement was back, but something unexpected started happening. I suddenly could not orgasm.That experience sent me down a path that completely changed how I understand hormones, sexual health, and midlife sexuality. I talk about the appointment at a sexual medicine clinic that opened my eyes to the role of clitoral stimulation, vibrators, and something most women never hear about. Testosterone.I explain how low testosterone affected my ability to orgasm, how doctors evaluate hormone therapy for women, and why testosterone treatment must be carefully monitored. I also share the surprising moment in a doctor's office that changed my relationship with pleasure forever.If your desire is still there but your body does not respond the way it used to, this episode explains why that can happen and what options exist.In this episode: 00:00 Why I decided to share my testosterone story01:02 Separating from my husband and rediscovering sex02:12 When orgasms suddenly became difficult03:15 The doctor visit that changed everything04:28 What I learned about clitoral stimulation05:20 Why women also have testosterone06:23 How doctors test hormone levels07:30 The vibrator moment that shocked me08:36 How testosterone therapy works for women09:33 Why some doctors avoid testosterone pellets10:31 How I take testosterone today11:25 The risks of taking too much testosterone12:27 Why testosterone has been a game changer for me13:00 My advice if you are struggling with sexual changesWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES

Are you ever going to have sex again?It is the question so many couples in midlife are quietly asking. Sex has become obligatory. Or it has disappeared. Hormones have shifted. Resentment has built. Communication has broken down.In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with clinical sexologist Dr. Stacy Friedman to talk about how couples move from duty sex or no sex back to real desire. We break down spontaneous versus responsive desire. We explain why sex starts to feel like a chore. We talk about what happens after the lust phase fades and oxytocin replaces testosterone.We also cover:Why many women need arousal before desireHow long term relationships shift biologically and emotionallyWhat to do if you have not had sex in months or yearsHow removing the expectation of intercourse can rebuild intimacyHow to handle mismatched libidos without resentmentWhy collaboration works better than compromiseIf you feel stuck in the friend zone with your own partner, this conversation will give you a practical roadmap back to connection.And if you are a man trying to understand what menopause is doing to your relationship, my NEW course Men Meet Menopause is built for you! To celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopauseTimestamps: 00:00 Men Meet Menopause Course For Men01:05 Welcome And The Question No One Wants To Ask02:10 When Sex Becomes An Obligation03:30 Responsive Vs Spontaneous Desire05:15 Why “Once We Start It's Good” Happens06:45 The Lips Nips Below The Hips Problem08:05 From Lust To Dead Bedroom09:30 The Biology Of Testosterone And Oxytocin10:40 Sex Snacks And Daily Micro Connection11:45 Rebuilding After Years Without Sex13:05 Baby Steps Back To Intimacy14:20 Removing The Expectation Of Intercourse15:40 Redefining Sex Beyond Penetration16:30 Mismatched Libido And Collaboration17:30 Why Anger And Pressure Kill Desire18:00 Part Two Preview And Call To ActionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified intimacy coach, and the unapologetically fierce voice behind The Purple Passion Project podcast. With decades in medicine and sexuality work, she helps people awaken desire, reclaim pleasure, and ignite passion through coaching, curated pleasure essentials, and provocative e-books. Known for making sex talk feel like your most daring friend, she turns taboo into tantalizing—zero shame, all heat. Dr.Stacy's motto: My passion is to help you create yours.Connect with Dr. Stacy Friedman:Website: https://drstacyfriedman.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstacyfriedmanPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-purple-passion-project/id1825458840Tease me, touch me, Talk To Me:https://e.drstacyfriedman.com/product-details/product/6960f9e9612364ee5873c8c9Reigniting passion in Long-Term Relationships:https://e.drstacyfriedman.com/product-details/product/69419a1f19a5c70271d8df18Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES⭕️ Save 15% off on the MaxPR using code TABOO15

Half of men over 40 will experience erectile dysfunction.In this episode, I explain why ED is rarely only about sex. I walk you through what erections actually reveal about cardiovascular health, metabolic function, hormones, pelvic floor tension, and fertility.I break down why urologists call the penis a barometer of heart health. The blood vessels that support erections are smaller than the ones that support your heart and brain. That means they often show damage earlier. In many cases, ED appears years before a heart attack or stroke.I also talk about diabetes, high cholesterol, nitric oxide, testosterone shifts, excess body fat, and sperm quality after 40. We cover pelvic floor tension in men and why many men struggle with tight muscles, not weak ones.I share evidence informed tools some men use while they work on underlying health. These are not cures. They are supports.Most importantly, I reframe ED as information. Not shame. Not failure. A signal.In This Episode: 00:00 MaxPR From FirmTech And 15 Percent Off00:45 Why Erections Are About More Than Sex01:30 ED As An Early Health Signal02:20 Erections, Blood Flow, And Heart Risk03:15 Diabetes, Cholesterol, And Nitric Oxide04:00 Tracking Erections And Using Objective Data04:45 Wearable Devices And Pelvic Floor Support05:40 Pelvic Floor Tension In Men06:20 Medical Grade Pumps And Penile Health07:00 Fertility, Testosterone, And Lifestyle Factors07:40 The Real Risk Is Avoidance And SilenceWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES⭕️ Save 15% off on the MaxPR using code TABOO15