Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife

Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it's only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that?In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus, a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens without a single touch below the belt—but the emotional intimacy? That can run deeper than any bedroom encounter.We explore why so many people—especially in midlife—start to unlock new layers of desire after years of silence or shame. And how things like spanking, submission, and even humiliation can become powerful tools for rediscovering connection, pleasure, and self-trust.If you've ever felt like something's missing, or like your desires don't fit the standard mold… this conversation might make more sense than you expect. Let's get into it.Timestamps:(00:00) - Introduction(00:47) - Sir Leezus: His roles as sex educator, kink advisor, and "sensual sadist dominant."(01:18) - What is a sensual sadist dominant?(02:23) - BDSM vocab 101: Bondage, Dominance, Submission & Sadomasochism(03:53) - Can kink be healing from past trauma?(07:18) - Does kink always involve sex?(08:37) - Pain and pleasure: Understanding masochism(10:42) - How midlife women discover kink (and what opens them up)Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Sir Leezus is a performance artist, sensual sadist, and BDSM educator with years of experience in erotic power exchange and kink dynamics. He offers private sessions, coaching, and education to individuals and couples who want to explore new layers of intimacy, pleasure, and consent. Known for his approachable yet deeply knowledgeable style, he's on a mission to break down shame and open up new paths to pleasure.Connect with Sir Leezus:Website: https://sirleezus.com/Instagram: https://instagram.com/sirr.leezusAvailable for sessions, performances, and kink consultations.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative...

Think you know what turns you on? Think again. We tend to treat pleasure like it lives in a few familiar places—the usual G-spots, the go-to zones we all default to. But the truth? Your entire skin is wired for sensation. Your body is a playground of possibility… and chances are, you're only exploring a fraction of it.In this episode, I'm taking you beyond the basics—past the genitals, breasts, and all the usual G-spots—to uncover the overlooked 13 erogenous zones that can completely transform your experience of desire. No penetration required. Just curiosity, presence, and a willingness to explore what's been hiding in plain sight.From the power of the brain (yes, it's your sexiest organ) to the often-ignored backs of your knees (seriously!), I'm showing you how to awaken your body in unexpected ways—ways that build anticipation, deepen connection, and redefine pleasure entirely.If your sex life feels a little too routine—or you're just ready to feel more alive in your own skin—this episode is a must listen! Let's unlock the pleasure you didn't know you were missing.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction (01:32) Brain as the biggest sex organ (Did you know you can orgasm without any touch?)(01:58) The skin: Your body's largest erogenous zone(02:30) Lips & tongue: Beyond kissing—creative ways to tease and tantalize(03:22) The neck, clavicle, and ears: Slow, sensual exploration(04:20) Fingers: How to use them everywhere (plus combining touch with lips)(05:05) Armpits and inner arms: Surprising zones for some, turn-offs for others—how to navigate(05:34) The sides of the torso and thighs: The art of the tease(06:04) Behind the knees: My personal favorite(06:16) Feet: Beyond fetishes—how gentle touch can ignite full-body arousal(06:45) Outercourse: Why pleasure doesn't need to lead to intercourse(07:18) Mindfulness: How being present amplifies sensation (per Peggy Kleinplatz's Magnificent Sex)(07:57) Cannabis and sex: Can it heighten pleasure? (08:41) Final takeaway: Pleasure is limitlessKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any...

What if the biggest obstacle to pleasure in the bedroom… isn't your partner, but the stories you tell yourself about your own body?What if confidence, connection, and mind-blowing pleasure weren't things you had to chase—but things you could unlock from within?In this episode, I sit down with Orisha Re' Lampkin—movement alchemist, pleasure revolutionary, and founder of Fearless Revolution—to dismantle the myths keeping women from fully owning their sensuality. We dive deep into how cultural conditioning, body shame, and self-doubt smother our sexual spark… and how movement, mindset, and yes—even moaning—can reignite it.From Lip Service Mastery (70+ ways to delight with hands and mouth) to Dirty Talk for the Shy Girl, and how to turn washing dishes into foreplay—this conversation is your permission slip to feel powerful, present, and unapologetically turned on—exactly as you are.Some of what Orisha shares will surprise you. Some might make you squirm. But all of it will bring you closer to your most radiant, turned-on, fully alive self.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(00:29) Meet Orisha – movement expert, sensuality coach & fearless feminine leader(02:05) “Seduce Your Sexy” – Orisha's transformational movement class(04:39) The power of movement in boosting self-love and intimacy(05:43) “Floating arms” – a deceptively simple exercise that changes everything(07:42) How the MINDBODY connection amplifies pleasure(09:02) The sexiest move? The flowing figure eight—perfected while doing dishes(11:16) Dirty Talk 101 – why your tone matters more than the words(12:35) Vocalizations as the first step into sexy self-expression(14:22) How to sext like a pro (15:08) Lip Service Mastery – 70+ hand and mouth moves that actually work(19:06) The “Hitchhiker” – a game-changing warmup technique(20:07) The 4-second rule: slow it down and build anticipation(22:24) “Lover's Moves” – blindfolds, earbuds, and an unforgettable partner experience(24:48) In-person & virtual classes in Midtown East (and how to join)(25:22) Orisha's empowering definition of sexKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the GuestOrisha Re' Lampkin is a health and wellness coach, movement expert, and the founder of Fearless Revolution, a transformational journey designed to help women reclaim their sensuality and power. With 30+ years of experience in fitness, corrective exercise, and NLP, she blends playfulness with profound healing to...

Ever feel like your sex life is on autopilot? We've all been there – the same routine, the same positions, the same predictable outcome. What if I told you your sex life could be playful, adventurous, and deeply satisfying again? Routine can be the death of passion—but it doesn't have to be.In this episode, I delve into 10 ways to have better sex and break free from "wallpaper sex" (you know, the same old routine). Whether you're in a long-term relationship or exploring solo pleasure, these tips will help you reconnect with pleasure, curiosity, and fun. Some of these tips will surprise you. Some might even make you blush. But one thing's for sure—you'll never look at pleasure the same way again!Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(00:15) The problem with "wallpaper sex"(00:34) Naked dates(00:58) Clothed sex with no genitals involved(01:11) Mutual masturbation – why watching is half the fun(01:30) Shower sex (safety first)(01:50) Sexy card games to unlock fantasies you've been too shy to share(02:16) Watching ethical porn sites like MakeLoveNotPorn(03:05) Sexting like a pro (steamy examples included)(03:28) "Sex snacking" – tiny touches that keep the spark alive(03:52) Surprise your partner – the fur coat reveal (my signature move)(04:12) Change location – break free from the bedroomKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAnd, if you're in the Los Angeles area, join me and urologist/sexual medicine specialist Dr. Ashley Winter for a night of menopause trivia, laughs & myth-busting on April 9th, Wednesday! Menopause Madness: Hot Flashes & Hot Nights https://www.eventbrite.com/e/menopause-madness-hot-flashes-hot-nights-los-angeles-registration-1274530979469Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in...

Who says turning 65 means giving up amazing sex and settling for solitude? Just because you don't have a husband or kids doesn't mean life has to be dull—if anything, it means you're free to live exactly how you want.In this episode, I sit down with Cindy Gallop, a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, to challenge outdated beliefs about aging, sex, and relationships. Cindy's fearless approach to life proves that getting older isn't about slowing down—it's about embracing what you truly want.We dive into why she chooses to date younger men, why marriage and kids were never part of her plan, and how we can all redefine intimacy, confidence, and pleasure as we age. Plus, Cindy shares how MakeLoveNotPorn is changing the conversation around real-world sex and helping people feel seen, accepted, and empowered. She also dives deep into how MakeLoveNotPorn differs from OnlyFans, the unique challenges they face—especially the uphill battle of advertising bans on social media.It's time to step into a world where sex is shame-free, open, and truly fulfilling. Let's dive in!Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to Cindy Gallop(01:09) No husband, no kids: Ultimate self-care routine (02:27) Dating younger men—casually, unapologetically, and on her own terms(02:32) The problem with society's lack of role models for aging women(03:07) Body image, menopause, and post-menopausal pride(03:52) Why she proudly shouts her age (65!) and the power of #SayYourAge(04:19) MakeLoveNotPorn: The platform changing how we talk about real-world sex(05:27) The lube: Why there's no such thing as “too much”(06:36) Cindy on finding the confidence to date younger men(07:14) The glaring double standard: Older men vs. older women in dating(08:47) Cindy's revelation: Being every young guy's fantasy(09:25) The rise of niche dating sites—and how to find the right one for you(13:29) What MakeLoveNotPorn celebrates(14:39) How MakeLoveNotPorn stands apart from ethical porn(16:56) The Social Sex Revolution: Why we need to talk about real sex(19:40) OnlyFans vs. MakeLoveNotPorn: The key differences(21:15) Challenges in Promoting MakeLoveNotPorn: Censorship, stigma, and funding struggles(23:30) What makes someone sexy? (24:40) Join and subscribe to MakeLoveNotPorn and Wefunder campaign (25:52) Cindy's definition of sexKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Cindy Gallop is a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising

In this episode, I dive into the benefits of testosterone for women. I share my own experience with testosterone therapy and how it helps me with everything from libido and orgasms to brain fog and muscle mass.It's not just about sex drive—testosterone also helps with bone strength, hot flashes, and even Alzheimer's prevention. I break down how it's prescribed, why proper dosing is so important, and why you should never borrow your husband's testosterone (trust me, I've got a wild story about that).Whether you're curious about testosterone, considering hormone therapy, or just want to feel your best during menopause, this episode is for you. Let's get into it!Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(01:03) Testosterone's role in women's health.(02:24) Benefits: libido, orgasms, brain fog, muscle mass, bone strength, Alzheimer's prevention.(03:27) How testosterone is prescribed and why baseline testing matters.(04:31) Risks of misuse and why women need lower doses than men.(05:33) Off-label use and delivery methods (gels, creams, pellets).(06:26) Exercise and protein's role in maximizing testosterone's benefits.(07:18) Recap: Testosterone with estrogen & progesterone.(08:20) Closing remarksKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube:

Estrogen plays a role in your brain, bones, skin, and even your heart. When menopause hits and estrogen levels drop, the ripple effects can be dramatic—affecting everything from your mood and energy to your libido and long-term health.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sadaf Lodhi, a board-certified OB-GYN, menopause expert, sex coach, and host of The Muslim Sex Podcast to talk about everything from the forgotten sex-positive history of Islam to painful sex during perimenopause that is so common but rarely discussed, and the ongoing debate over estrogen hormone therapy. If you're in perimenopause (or just wondering what's ahead), this episode will change the way you see your body—and give you the tools to take charge of your health. Let's dive in!Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to Dr. Sadaf Lodhi(02:08) Islam and erotology: The surprising sex-positive history(03:58) How colonization erased a sex-positive culture and changed everything(06:30) Religion, sex, and clients: How Dr. Sadaf approaches coaching(07:21) Vaginismus and painful penetration(10:23) Why pain with sex accelerates during perimenopause and menopause(11:19) The role of vaginal estrogen in reducing painful sex(12:03) Why the urethra gets bigger during menopause—and the risk of bladder infections(12:36) Contraindications for vaginal estrogen use(13:05) Why you should use vaginal estrogen even in perimenopause(14:07) Why doctors should start the menopause conversation at 35 (including ovarian insufficiency)(16:03) The hormone therapy debate: What you need to know(17:15) Should women take testosterone?(23:47) The ideal time for estrogen therapy: When to start and why(26:11) Dr. Sadaf's upcoming retreat: Love, Nourish, and ThriveKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Sadaf Lodhi is a board-certified OB GYN with over 20 years of experience, specializing in sexual and menopausal health. She is the founder of Femme Vie Health, a concierge gynecology practice in New York, and provides telehealth services in Michigan. A certified sexual health specialist and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she is dedicated to empowering women through education and advocacy.Dr. Lodhi hosts The Muslim Sex Podcast, making sexual and menopausal health accessible globally. She delivered a TEDx talk on sexual education for physicians and was honored as the 2024 Alumni of the...

Low libido, or hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), can be a tough challenge for many women, particularly during midlife.In this episode, I take a closer look at the various medical treatments available for low libido, covering everything from prescription medications to hormone therapy and beyond. Whether you're dealing with hormonal shifts, relationship challenges, or simply feeling drained, this episode offers practical advice and solutions to help you regain your sexual vitality and feel more like yourself again.If this episode resonates with you, don't forget to subscribe, share with someone who might benefit, and leave a review! Let's continue the conversation and break the stigma around libido and midlife—together.Timestamps:(00:00:00) - Introduction (00:01:12) - What causes low libido?(00:02:08) - Factors contributing to low libido(00:03:19) - Overview of prescription drugs(00:04:22) - How Addyi works(00:05:33) - Vyleesi overview(00:06:34) - Viagra and Cialis for women(00:07:35) - Testosterone and hormone therapy(00:08:35) - Wellbutrin and libido(00:08:35) - Cannabis and libidoKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at

Menopause isn't a disease. So why does the world treat it like one? The whispers start early. Get ready—your body is about to betray you. The fear. The shame. The idea that once you hit a certain age, you're less vibrant, less desirable, less… you. But what if that's all a lie?In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, a renowned OB-GYN, women's health expert, and author of Menopause Bootcamp, to break down the myths, misconceptions, and truths about menopause. From the science behind hormonal changes to the emotional and societal impacts, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating—or preparing for—this life stage.We explore why menopause isn't a disease, how hormone therapy can be a game-changer, and why the fear of breast cancer shouldn't overshadow the benefits of treatment. Plus, we tackle the buzzwords like “natural” and “bioidentical,” and discuss the role of lifestyle, diet, and community in thriving through menopause.This isn't just a conversation about hormones—it's about reclaiming power, understanding our bodies, and embracing the wisdom that comes with age. Are you ready to redefine menopause? Let's dive in!About the Guest:Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is a board-certified OB-GYN, women's health expert, and advocate for integrative medicine. She is the author of Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Yourself, and Flourish as You Age and a frequent media contributor, including as the Chief Medical Correspondent for The Drew Barrymore Show. Dr. Suzanne is passionate about empowering women to take control of their health and embrace menopause as a transformative life stage.You can find Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz here:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramBookTimestamps:(00:47) Introduction to Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz(01:46) What is perimenopause and menopause?(05:13) The wide-ranging symptoms of perimenopause(08:02) The rise of antidepressants during menopause(09:41) The truth about hormone therapy(20:23) When to start hormone therapy(25:33) Busting the biggest myths about breast cancer risk(27:59) Hormone therapy and osteoporosis(29:07) The overlooked cancer risks you should know about(32:52) Natural vs. Bioidentical Hormones: What's the real difference?(39:42) Can lifestyle choices make menopause easier?(43:03) Menopause Boot Camp & what's next on the journeyKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical...

Is squirting the ultimate out-of-body orgasmic experience, or just another overhyped sex myth? Some women swear it's euphoric, others feel indifferent, and some want nothing to do with it. But what is squirting, really? Is it just pee? Is it something every woman can do? And how can you (or your partner) experience it?In this episode, I break down the science and psychology behind squirting, from the anatomy of the female body to techniques that can lead to female ejaculation. Plus, we talk about the mental blocks that might be holding you back—and why preparation (hello, waterproof sheets!) is key.Are we too caught up in the mechanics of it all? Or is squirting just another way to explore pleasure without shame? Let's dive in!Timestamps:(00:00) What people really think about squirting(00:58) What is squirting? Breaking down the myths(02:47) Female anatomy: Understanding the Skene's glands(03:47) The technique: How squirting happens (and how to try it)(04:41) The psychological side: Overcoming mental blocks and shame(05:37) Final thoughts: Is squirting worth the hype?Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at

What if your most intimate moments were weaponized against you—and no one cared?At 19, Norma Buster thought she was just ending a relationship. Instead, she became the target of relentless stalking, threats, and the ultimate violation: her private photos exposed online. She turned to the law for justice. It failed her, but she didn't back down. Now, as Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg and host of Oral Arguments, Norma is fighting tech-facilitated abuse, exposing legal loopholes, and demanding change.In this episode, we dive into her harrowing journey from victim to advocate. Why do abusers get more protection than victims? How do tech platforms keep enabling harm? And what can we do about it?We'll also explore the blurred lines between online sex work and exploitation, the problem with calling it “revenge porn,” and how Norma found power in the unlikeliest of places—including OnlyFans.This isn't just a story. It's a wake up call. Are you ready? Let's get into it!Timestamps:(00:39) Introduction to Norma Buster(01:50) Norma's story: Surviving stalking and image-based abuse from ex-boyfriend(04:48) The legal fight: How laws fail victims of revenge porn(09:04) Tech-facilitated abuse: When the internet becomes a weapon(11:03) Why sex workers need legal protection/Sex Work and Decriminalization(14:44) Is OnlyFans legal?(15:00) The difference between legalization and decriminalization(16:36) Norma's journey to OnlyFans(20:12)The therapeutic aspect of sex work(24:07) How her advocacy impacts dating and relationships(27:01) Norma's definition of sexAbout the Guest:Norma Buster is a sex-positive victim's rights advocate and the Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg, a law firm specializing in tech-facilitated abuse. Once a victim of image-based sexual abuse, she now fights for others in similar situations, advocating for stronger legal protections and digital safety. She's also the creator and host of Oral Arguments, a podcast that explores the intersections of sex, tech, and the law.You can find Norma here:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramCA Goldberg Law FirmKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram:

You spot a red flag, and what do you do? Run. Someone's still obsessed with their ex? Gone. Talks only about themselves? No thanks. Financially unstable in their 50s? Hard pass.We've trained ourselves to scan for every possible warning sign before we even give someone a real chance. But here's a thought—when was the last time you actively looked for green flags? The little signs that someone might actually be worth your time?In this episode, I flip the script on dating and relationships. Sure, avoiding red flags is important, but what about spotting the signs that someone is actually worth your time? From emotional stability to simple acts of kindness (like holding the door or sending a thoughtful text), we're diving into what makes a partner a keeper.Are we so focused on running that we forget to notice when we should stay? Let's talk about it.Timestamps:(01:07) The biggest red flags in dating after 50(02:16) Why dating someone who's “almost divorced” is a risky move(02:16) The self-absorbed dater: how to spot them fast(04:01) Why financial security matters more than ever(05:01) The top green flags to look for in a potential partner(06:03) How small gestures (like opening a door) say a lot(07:05) Why a good relationship with an ex isn't a bad thingKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with...

Let's cut to the chase: relationships are hard. And let's be honest, keeping the spark alive? Even harder. Between work, life, and the endless to-do list, intimacy often takes a backseat. But what if there was a way to flip the script? A way to not just save your relationship but make it hotter, deeper, and more exciting than ever?In this episode, I sit down with Nicholas Velotta, head of research at Couples Wellness for the app Arya.fyi and a PhD student at the University of Washington. We dive into the world of Arya.fyi, this incredible couples' wellness platform that's all about helping partners explore and deepen their connection. Nicholas shares how Arya.fyi combines entertainment with education, offering everything from playful quizzes and customizable erotica to expert-led videos on topics like sensory play and even the history of kink. We also talk about how the app uses a mix of AI and human experts to guide users through personalized experiences. Ever felt nervous about bringing up a new idea with your partner? Or maybe you've struggled to find the right words to talk about what you want? Arya.fyi's got your back, making those conversations easier and way less awkward.So, why is this app the talk of the town? And could it be the missing piece your relationship has been waiting for? Let's just say, your bedroom might thank you later. Let's dive in!Timestamps:(00:00:00) Introduction to Nicholas Velotta(00:01:22) What is the Arya.fyi app?(00:02:55) How couples find Arya.fyi(00:06:18) The AI and human concierge(00:07:34) Fun and educational activities on Arya.fyi(00:10:57) 80% of users seek relationship advice(00:12:47) Can technology enhance intimacy?(00:14:36) The future of intimacy and technology(00:17:42) Sensory play is the #1 request(00:20:43) Sexual confidence and exploration(00:21:49) The importance of safety in relationships(00:23:31) AI in relationships: friend or foe?(00:25:22) What is sex, really?(00:26:34) The future of AI and human interactionAbout the Guest:Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist whose work examines the intersection of technology and IRL intimate relationships. As the Head of Relationship Research at one of the world's first "relationship wellness" apps, Arya, Nicholas develops psychological profiles of our intimate and erotic selves using a vast archive of user data. In addition to investigating the nuances of intimate relationships using never-before-available data, he crafts AI-enhanced algorithms to curate digital content and physical goodies that increase relationship satisfaction. Nicholas is also a Ph.D. student at the University of Washington who, somehow, finds time to post explainer videos on social media...as well as the occasional meme. :)You can find Nicholas here:WebsiteLinkedInArya: Intimacy Concierge for Couples' ConnectionUse code: TRUTH15 for 15% offhttps://www.arya.fyi/join/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause,...

We all know orgasms feel incredible, but how often do we actually stop and explore what they really mean?In this episode, I walk you through the science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm—the heart-racing, muscle-contracting, hormone-releasing magic that feels so good. We also take an honest look at how men and women experience orgasms differently: why women often need more time to get in the mood, and how men can experience orgasms without ejaculation.But this isn't just about anatomy or science; it's about YOU. I share personal stories, including one about a friend who experiences orgasms from exercise (yes, you read that right!), and how communication, curiosity, and a little playfulness can transform your intimate experiences. Plus, we explore why orgasms aren't just about pleasure—they're great for your health, too. Better sleep, lower stress, and even a stronger immune system? Yes, please.Whether you're looking to deepen your connection with a partner, understand your own body more intimately, or simply enjoy life's pleasures to the fullest, this episode is for you.In This Episode:(00:00) Introduction(00:50) What is an orgasm, really?(01:24) The science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm(03:35) The different types of orgasms(06:57) How male orgasms differ from female orgasms(08:22) Why men tend to get aroused more quickly than women(09:03) The health benefits of orgasms(09:45) Some unexpected areas of the body that can enhance orgasm(10:04) The brain is your biggest sex organ Register for Hot Flashes & Hot Nights at Newport Beach, CA on January 29th:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1147547789329?aff=oddtdtcreatorKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!

How do emotional and sexual wellness intertwine to redefine intimacy in midlife?In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I sit down with somatic sex educator Kiana Reeves for a deep dive into the evolving dynamics of relationships and sexual intimacy, particularly during midlife. We talk about the vital connection between emotional and sexual well-being, exploring how authentic communication and intentional practices can transform both personal and partnered experiences.Kiana shares her expertise on somatic approaches to intimacy, offering insights into how cultivating love, safety, and embodiment can lead to a richer, more fulfilling sexual life. We also discuss the power of redefining conventional expectations, embracing vulnerability, and fostering deeper connection as key components of a vibrant midlife journey.Whether you're navigating changes in your relationships, seeking tools to enhance intimacy, or simply curious about the intersection of emotional and physical wellness, this episode provides thoughtful reflections and actionable tips to help you feel more connected, confident, and alive.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(01:34) The empowering world of somatics(04:29) Exploring different somatic practices(06:09) Why it's important to clearly communicate your desires and needs(10:14) The emotional complexity of casual encounters(17:08) How to reignite connection as a long-term couple(24:53) Breaking the tug-of-war of needs in partnerships(27:00) Kiana's inspiring journey of motherhood and self-discoveryKiana ReevesWebsite: https://www.kianareeves.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kiana.reeves/Premium Female Sexual Wellness Products by FORIA®https://imp.i168918.net/DyV7GjDISCOUNT: 20% with code TABOOKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative

What's the role of power in your relationships, and how does it shape intimacy?In this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of power dynamics, kink, and midlife sexuality. Inspired by the provocative themes in the film Babygirl featuring Nicole Kidman, I bring my perspective as a sex educator to explore topics that are often left unspoken, but deeply impactful.From the transformative possibilities of power exchange to the surprising ways infidelity might reignite connection, I tackle the complexities of modern relationships with insight and empathy. I also discuss the importance of honest communication about sexual dissatisfaction, the identity of kink as more than just an activity, and society's evolving perspectives on age and gender in relationships.Whether you're curious about exploring kink, reflecting on your own sexual identity, or seeking to deepen connection in your relationships, this episode offers thoughtful reflections and practical advice to help you navigate intimacy with greater clarity and confidence.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(01:15) Power dynamics and blackmail as a kink?(06:00) Dynamics of kink exploration and self-expression(07:30) Why you should openly talk about sexual satisfaction with your partner(08:15) Age-related dynamic shifts in relationships with younger partnersMentioned:Film - Babygirl (2024): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30057084/Book - The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:

Monogamy might seem simple on the surface, but is it really? In this episode, I dive into the often-overlooked complexities of what it means to be monogamous, especially in midlife relationships. From historical roots to modern interpretations, I explore how personal experiences and upbringing shape our definitions of fidelity.I also share personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and tips to help you clarify expectations and strengthen communication with your partner. Whether you're starting a new relationship or redefining an existing one, this episode is all about creating clarity and connection.Timestamps:(01:10) Different perspectives on monogamy(02:23) A little history about monogamy(03:34) Why it's important to clearly define monogamy(04:38) Why personal boundaries matter—and how to define them(06:40) What “cheating” means to different people (and why it's not always clear).(07:32) Is a "work spouse" considered cheating?(07:38) Nesting after divorce for the kids' sake(07:45) Is attending a sex party without participating a form of cheating?(09:28) Why monogamy is based on religious models(09:47) How our upbringing shapes our views on monogamyKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at...

In this episode, I sit down with Heather McPherson, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of the Sexual Health Alliance, to explore the complexities of sex addiction and its societal perceptions. Why are we so quick to label and judge? Heather dives into the origins of the sex addiction diagnosis and critiques its impact, advocating for a harm-reduction and education-focused approach instead. We also take a deep dive into sexual health, consent in non-traditional relationships like kink, polyamory, and open relationships—are therapists equipped to understand these dynamics? Heather explains why proper training is essential. Plus, she expands on how we define sex itself, pushing for a broader, pleasure-centered perspective. Curious about the future of sexual health education and community? This conversation is sure to make you rethink everything! Let's dive in!About the Guest:Heather McPherson is a licensed marriage and family therapist, entrepreneur, and the CEO and founder of Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a leading provider of education and certification for sexuality professionals. She is also the founder of the ReSpark Group, a national brand offering group therapy and a non-profit organization. Licensed in Colorado, Washington, and Texas, Heather specializes in sexual health and relationships. An AASECT-certified sex therapist, she's been featured in Playboy, CNN, and Rolling Stone. Heather's passion lies in providing high-quality, evidence-based training for professionals in the field.PLISSIT ModelTimestamps:(00:00:01) Introduction to Heather(00:02:09) What exactly is “sex addiction”?(00:06:11) Sex addiction vs porn addiction(00:14:07) The six guiding principles of sexual health(00:18:19) Integrating religion and sexuality(00:22:35) Gender differences in sex addiction(00:25:53) Evolution of sex therapy(00:28:54) Curriculum development for sexual health(00:31:19) How to become a certified sex therapist(00:35:49) Community importance in sexual healthKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the...

Hey there, and welcome to Season 4 of the Taboo to Truth podcast! I'm your host, Karen Bigman, and I'm thrilled to have you with me for another season of unapologetic conversations about sexuality in midlife. Whether you're navigating a dwindling libido, struggling with sexual health changes, or just trying to understand what's happening to your body during menopause, I'm here to talk about it all. This podcast is all about breaking the silence around these topics and creating a safe, supportive space where no question is too awkward or taboo.This season, I'm on a mission to help you rewire your desire and spice things up after 50. I'm bringing in a wide range of experts—from sex addiction specialists to sex technology gurus—and I'll be teaching you techniques to make your sex life even better. I want you to feel empowered to explore what works best for you, so get ready to dive in and learn something new!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

As we countdown to the new year, it's time to leave behind the dull sex life of 2024 and step into something hotter and more exciting. Want to know how to turn up the heat in the bedroom or even at your next sex party? In this episode,I'm sharing five tips for better sex in 2025.What's the secret? Well, let's just say communication is key (but I'm not talking about just words), making time for sex is a must (yes, even if it means scheduling it), and being creative will totally change the game. Oh, and did I mention why not all sex is about the orgasm? Trust me, you'll want to hear why.Hit play, and let's make 2025 the year of hotter, more thrilling sex. You won't want to miss what's coming next.Timestamps:(00:00:01) Introduction(00:01:09) Tip 1: Communicate(00:02:08) Tip 2: Make time for sex / Schedule your sex time(00:02:28) Tip 3: Lubricate and make everything slippery(00:03:12) Tip 4: Be creative / Try new things(00:03:43) Tip 5: Don't focus on the outcome / Orgasm(00:04:31) Closing remarksKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure

The holidays are here, and with 2025 knocking on the door, how are you preparing to step into the new year? Sure, a cozy holiday read is great, but what if you could unwrap something truly transformative this season?In this episode, I'm sharing my top five midlife must-reads—books that dive into health, relationships, self-discovery, and navigating the complexities of midlife. These picks are designed to help you embrace your journey, understand your body, and redefine your purpose.Midlife isn't just a season of life; it's a chance to thrive in new ways. So, why not lean into the conversations we sometimes avoid? Let's grow, feel empowered, and take on 2025 with clarity and confidence. Ready to dive in? Let's go!Links to Books:Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz The New Menopause by Mary Claire HaverLove Life by Matthew HusseySexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty KleinRebel Love by Dr. Chris DonaghueTimestamps:(00:00:01) Introduction to the Episode(00:00:23) Book Recommendations for the Holidays(00:01:23) Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz(00:02:37) The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver(00:02:37) Love Life by Matthew Hussey(00:03:33) Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein(00:03:33) Rebel Love by Dr. Chris Donaghue(00:04:47) Closing RemarksKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:

In this episode, I'm getting real about something that can completely transform your relationship: vulnerability. We often think of vulnerability as something women do, but here's the truth—men can be just as willing to open up, and when they do, it's absolutely amazing. Here's the thing: men and women aren't as different as we think. The fears women have about aging, like changes to our bodies or confidence, are so similar to what men go through. For men, things like erectile dysfunction can feel like their whole identity is being questioned. But just like we're learning to embrace the changes in ourselves, they can too—and we can help each other through it.If this sounds like something you and your partner need, hit that play button and let's dive in!Timestamps:(00:00:00) Introduction(00:01:06) Event recap: Embracing Midlife Sexuality(00:02:13) Importance of men being given space for vulnerability(00:03:16) Normalizing conversations about aging and sexuality(00:04:20) Encouraging playful and creative approaches to intimacy(00:05:24) Upcoming event: Hot Flashes and Hot Nights(00:06:20) Redefining sex and aging(00:07:24) Adding humor and playfulness to sex(00:08:14) Importance of discussing sex openly with partners(00:09:20) Communication and vulnerability in relationships(00:10:10) Conclusion and call to actionKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake...

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Irwin and Sue Goldstein to tackle the taboo around menopause and women's sexual health. Why is it that we still don't talk about what's really happening in our bodies during menopause? It's not just about hot flashes—there's so much more going on beneath the surface that impacts everything from our physical health to our sexuality. Sue cuts through the noise about bioidentical hormones, while Dr. Irwin introduces us to a groundbreaking technique—a game-changer for understanding your own body. We're breaking down the myths around hormone therapy, talking about why patient education and personalized care matter, and challenging the shame that keeps these conversations in the dark.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(02:05) Meet Dr. Irwin and Dr. Sue(04:36) Secrets to a long marriage(07:25) Menopause vs. male counterparts(10:06) Recognizing menopause symptoms(12:54) Hormonal support options(18:08) Navigating perimenopause symptoms(22:12) Vulvacoscopy(30:45) Hormonal environment and tissue health(35:00) Importance of hormonal monitoring(40:15) Taboo surrounding female anatomy(42:46) Consequences of untreated menopause(44:48) Research and misconceptions about hormone therapyDr. Irwin Goldstein and Sue Goldstein are trailblazers in the field of sexual medicine. Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a renowned physician and researcher, has authored over 360 publications, making groundbreaking contributions that have shaped the modern understanding of sexual health. Sue Goldstein is a pioneering researcher and educator who has been instrumental in advancing knowledge of female sexual dysfunction. Together, they co-founded the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH) in 2000, setting a global standard for research, education, and advocacy in women's sexual health.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA:

On today's show, I caught up with Kamna Bhojwani at the Sexual Health Alliance conference, where her raw honesty about sexual shame instantly grabbed my attention. With three psychology degrees and a master's from Columbia specifically focused on sexual shame, Kamna cuts through the bullshit to address what's really holding us back in midlife. We get real about everything - from awkward doctor visits to dating app disasters, from hormone changes to orgasm responsibilities. Whether you're divorced, dating, or just trying to figure out your changing body, this conversation tackles the shame that keeps us quiet and offers a fresh perspective on sexuality at any age.Timestamps(00:00) Introduction(01:02) Meet Kamna(02:28) "Sexuality isn't just about sex"(05:10) Divorced & Dating: The New Rules(08:04) "Why won't doctors talk about lube?"(10:31) Men need help too(12:21) Dating apps: Tool or Terror?(14:34) "I got this, watch me"(17:43) Finding your sexual power at 60+(21:02) What even is sex, anyway?Kaamna Bhojwani is a Certified Sexologist, sexuality researcher, educator and thought leader. Kaamna specializes in sexual shame which she studied most recently at Columbia University and is currently building the world's first cross-cultural data set to understand its origins, nature and consequences. Find Kaamna here.Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Ever wondered why the clitoris is often misunderstood, despite being the ultimate pleasure powerhouse? Did you know it has over 10,000 nerve endings—more than any other part of the body? In this episode, I dive into the fascinating world of the clitoris, an organ uniquely designed for pleasure. I break down its anatomy, both external and internal, and explain why it's so vital for sexual satisfaction. I also tackle misconceptions, explore how menopause impacts sensitivity, and share actionable tips for self-exploration and partner education. My goal is to empower you to understand your body better, embrace your pleasure, and enhance intimacy. Let's celebrate the glorious clitoris and what it means for your sexual wellness.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(01:17) The unique purpose of the clitoris(02:24) Anatomy of the clitoris(04:20) Misconceptions about the clitoris(05:28) The G-spot explained(06:37) Model demonstration of vulva anatomy(07:40) Nerve endings and sensitivity(08:43) Menopause and sensitivity changes(09:46) Encouragement for women to explore their bodiesKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.Hot Flashes & Hot Nights, Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA: https://www.taboototruth.com/upcoming-eventsThis podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In today's episode, I'm joined by Shauna Stewart, founder of Linger Boutique and host of the Life Turned On podcast. We tackle something that affects so many women: the challenge of receiving, whether it's help, pleasure, or simply a compliment. Shauna brings her expertise as both a boutique owner and sex educator to share insights about breaking down barriers to intimacy and pleasure. What I love about our conversation is how we move from the practical challenges of daily stress to exploring tools like the erotic blueprint that can transform relationships. We discuss the importance of clear communication, managing expectations, and creating space for genuine connection in long-term relationships.Timestamps:(00:00) - Introduction(01:41) - The Importance of Receiving Pleasure(02:13) - Cultural Pressures on Women and Self-Care(04:54) - Learning to Accept Help(05:44) - Exploring Intimacy and Communication(07:00) - Understanding Personal Preferences in Pleasure(12:38) - The Role of Stress in Intimacy(16:03) - Using the Erotic Blueprints for Exploration(21:01) - Final Thoughts and ResourcesListen to the Life Turned On PodcastVisit the Linger BoutiqueKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In today's episode, I dive deep into a topic that affects countless marriages - the complex relationship between marriage and sexual intimacy. Drawing from my own 26-year marriage experience and professional insights, I explore why many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy sex life after marriage. I discuss how marriage evolved from a financial contract to today's emotional partnership, and why modern couples face unique challenges in maintaining sexual chemistry. Most importantly, I offer practical, actionable solutions for couples looking to reignite their intimate connection, from "sexual snacking" to creating new dynamics in long-term relationships.Timestamps:(00:00) - Introduction(00:39) - Origins as a Financial Contract(01:04) - Today's Marriage Success Rates(01:37) - Chemistry: From Sparks to Comfort(02:00) - Marriage's Unspoken Expectations(02:29) - Trading Intimacy for Chores(03:43) - Signs of Lasting Love(04:17) - Breaking the Silence(05:19) - Small Steps to Reconnection(06:28) - Creating Playful SurprisesKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this special bonus episode, I'm excited to announce our move to Tuesday releases while treating listeners to essential tips for creating meaningful solo sex experiences. As your host and Certified Sex Educator& Menopause Coach, I dive into the art of self-pleasure, sharing practical advice for creating the perfect environment and mindset. Whether you're single or partnered, these intimate moments of self-discovery can enhance your overall sexual experience and deepen your connection with your own body. This quick-hit episode delivers valuable insights for making your solo adventures more fulfilling and pleasurable.Timestamps:Timestamps(00:00) - Introduction (00:46) - Schedule change announcement (01:15) - Creating the perfect environment (02:30) - Exploring toys and pleasure tools (03:15) - Mindful body awareness techniques (04:00) - Using audio and visual resources (05:16) - Closing thoughts and next episodeKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In today's episode, I sat down with Dr. Emily Jamea, sex and relationship therapist and host of the Love and Libido podcast. We dove deep into her groundbreaking research on the connection between flow states and sexual satisfaction, which forms the foundation of her new book "Anatomy of Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion." Dr. Jamea shared her innovative approach to helping couples enhance their intimate relationships, revealing how the five secrets - sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement - can transform ordinary sexual experiences into extraordinary ones. Her fresh perspective on sexual wellness challenges traditional narratives about midlife sexuality, offering hope and practical guidance for couples at any life stage.Timestamps(00:00) - Introduction(01:05) - Meet Dr. Emily Jamea(03:06) - Moving Beyond "Dysfunction" Language(07:04) - Gender and Desire in Midlife(15:54) - The Five Secrets Framework Revealed(20:32) - Understanding the Phases of Sexual Connection(24:21) - Single Life and Relationship Readiness(27:35) - Lifelong SexualityKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Find Dr. Emily Jamea here:https://emilyjamea.com/https://emilyjamea.com/love-libido-podcast/Instagram: @dremilyjameaLI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dremilyjamea/FB https://www.facebook.com/dremilyjameaPre-order book: https://emilyjamea.com/anatomy-of-desire/

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I dive into some of the most important topics surrounding midlife: menopause, Sexual Health, and personal growth. As I share my experiences of becoming a certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach, I talk about the physical and emotional changes that come with menopause and how they impact our overall well-being. From night sweats to frozen shoulder, I explore the lesser-known symptoms and remind you that you're not alone in this journey.We'll also discuss how maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sex life—whether with a partner or solo—can improve your immune system, cardiovascular health, and emotional well-being.Timestamps:(00:00) – Menopause: How Hormones Affect Every System in the Body(00:57) – Introduction to the Taboo to Truth Podcast(02:10) – Becoming a Certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach(04:30) – Physical Symptoms of Menopause: What to Expect(06:45) – You're Not Alone: Encouragement for Navigating Menopause(08:00) – The Importance of Sexual Health for Overall Well-Being(09:30) – Exploring New Sexual Experiences and Breaking the Vanilla Routine(11:15) – Personal Reflections: Dating Apps, Relationships, and Lessons Learned(13:20) – What's Next: Upcoming Guests and Topics to Look Forward ToKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Links referenced in this episode:karenabootruthTaboo to TruthSex and Menopause

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Zar, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, to talk about why specialized training in sexual therapy is so important. Too many therapists aren't equipped to handle conversations around sexual health, and that can leave people feeling misunderstood and ashamed. Dr. Zar and I dive into the challenges that come up when addressing sexual issues, especially painful sex among those assigned female at birth. We also discuss how vital it is to educate ourselves and our partners on things like foreplay, core play, and being truly connected with our bodies. This episode is all about breaking the silence, reclaiming our sexual well-being, and moving toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.Timestamps:(00:00) - Introduction to Sexual Desire Discrepancy(00:17) - Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast(01:04) - Meet Dr. Rachel Zar(02:05) - What Does a Sex Therapist Do?(03:17) - Understanding Sexual Therapy Training(05:14) - Common Issues in Sex Therapy(10:30) - Navigating Painful Sex and Low Libido(15:01) - The Importance of Education and Awareness(22:37) - Understanding Foreplay vs Core Play(30:52) - The Role of Exercise in Enhancing Sex(31:36) - Kink Affirmative Therapy Explained(40:43) - The Definition of Sex and Its Spectrum(41:18) - Conclusion and Resources for ListenersKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastConnect with Dr. Rachel Zar:Website: https://www.rachelzartherapy.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-zar-phd-lmft-cst-107a9610/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelzartherapy/Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I tackle the often stigmatized topic of herpes and STIs in midlife. Dating can be complicated enough without the added stress of navigating STIs, particularly herpes. I share my personal experiences and insights, aiming to break the silence and dispel common myths surrounding this condition. Herpes is not life-threatening, and many people live with it without significant issues. By focusing on open communication and honesty, I emphasize the importance of talking about sexual health with partners. My goal is to create a supportive environment for candid discussions about herpes and other STIs. Together, we'll explore how to manage these realities while still enjoying a healthy and fulfilling sex life.Timestamps:(00:00) – Introduction to STIs and Herpes(01:12) – Stigma Surrounding Herpes(02:11) – Personal Experience with a Partner(04:00) – Understanding Herpes Transmission(10:41) – The Importance of Disclosure(15:19) – Navigating Relationships with Herpes(17:32) – Conclusion and Final ThoughtsKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I sit down with Lilith Foxx, a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky, and polyamorous marketing professional turned board-certified sexologist. Lilith, an AASECT-certified sexuality educator, professional speaker, coach, and diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging consultant, shares her journey from tech marketing to becoming a prominent figure in the world of BDSM and sexual education. I delve into her personal experiences with BDSM, how it has empowered her, and her professional insights on navigating kink safely and consensually. Whether you're curious about BDSM, looking to explore your own desires, or seeking to understand the intersectionality of marginalized identities within alternative sexualities, this episode offers valuable perspectives and practical advice.Timestamps:(00:00) – Introduction(00:32) – Meet Lilith Foxx: BIPOC, Queer, Neurodivergent, Kinky, and Polyamorous Sexologist(01:54) – Lilith's Journey: From Tech Marketing to Sexuality Education(03:42) – Empowering Through Sexuality: Overcoming Assault and Embracing Kink(04:41) – Kink is Not Therapy: The Importance of Mental Health Treatment(06:09) – Reenacting Trauma: Psychological Risks and Rewards(09:16) – Navigating Consent and Communication in BDSM(12:45) – Understanding Kink and BDSM: Definitions and Misconceptions(15:12) – Negotiating Boundaries and Consent in Kink(16:03) – Starting Your BDSM Journey: Tips for Beginners(19:05) – The Appeal of Pain and Masochism in BDSM(22:40) – BDSM and Empowerment: Building Confidence and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome(23:32) – Inclusivity in Kink: Navigating Disabilities and Marginalized Identities(25:30) – Final Thoughts and TakeawaysKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastWhere to Find Lilith Foxx:Website: https://lilithfoxx.com/Instagram, @TheLilithFoxx https://www.instagram.com/thelilithfoxx/Twitter (X): https://twitter.com/thelilithfoxxFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelilithfoxxRegister for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at

In this episode, I revisit the topic of painful sex, specifically for women. I delve into the medical term for painful sex, dyspareunia, and explores various causes and solutions. I provide valuable insights into how women can redefine sex to include many other pleasurable activities that do not involve pain. I also discusses the importance of addressing painful sex and offers practical advice on treatments and therapies available to overcome this issue.Timestamps:(00:00) – Introduction(00:25) – Revisiting the Topic of Painful Sex(01:18) – Hormonal Changes and Painful Sex(02:13) – Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause(03:43) – Understanding Pelvic Floor Dysfunction(05:03) – The Role of Lubricants in Reducing Pain(06:08) – Tools and Products to Help with Painful Sex(07:43) – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy(09:03) – Addressing Infections and Other Medical Issues(10:28) – The Importance of Sex Therapy(11:50) – Redefining Sex Beyond Penetration(12:18) – Final Thoughts and TakeawaysMentioned in the Episode:https://thepelvicpeople.com/collections/all-products/products/ohnut-depth-limiting-ringshttps://hellobonafide.com/products/revareeKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastRegister for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at taboototruth.com. Don't miss this chance, head over to the event page to register & get 50% off.Mentioned in this episode:GET 50% OFF IF YOU REGISTER BEFORE SEPTEMBER 30TH.Register for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at taboototruth.com. Don't miss this chance, head over to the...

In this episode, we sit down with Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D. a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues, to discuss how men can improve their sex lives through emotional regulation, removing sexual entitlement, and enhancing consent and negotiation skills. Eric, an award-winning author, shares his personal journey and professional insights on creating healthier, more enjoyable sexual relationships. I also delve into his approach to addressing issues related to patriarchal norms, empathetic communication, and the importance of consent. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or exploring non-monogamy, this conversation offers valuable guidance on fostering deeper and more respectful connections.Timestamps:(00:00) – Introduction(00:25) – Meet Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D.: Expert in Relationship and Sexual Issues(01:37) – Eric's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Insights(03:01) – Navigating Consent and Desire(04:55) – Challenges Men Face in Modern Dating(06:10) – The Importance of Open Communication in Relationships(09:18) – Understanding Men's Emotional and Sexual Health(19:54) – Addressing Common Misconceptions About Gender and Attachment(23:14) – Practical Tips for Better Sexual Communication(38:26) – Eric's Personal Experience with Polyamory(44:05) – Final Thoughts and TakeawaysKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastWhere to find Eric:Website: https://www.drericfitz.com/Book: The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter SexSocial Media: https://www.instagram.com/drericfitz/https://www.linkedin.com/in/drericfitzRegister for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at taboototruth.com!

In this episode, I dive into the role of testosterone as part of hormone replacement therapy. Inspired by a recent conversation with a male endocrinologist, I tackle the frustrating double standards surrounding testosterone treatment for women. Why is it casually prescribed for men, but women need a specific diagnosis?Check out this episode where we discuss:The importance of testosterone for women's health beyond libido.How low testosterone affects your sex life and overall well-being.Different methods of testosterone supplementation and their pros and cons.Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction to Taboo to Truth Podcast(00:58) - A Rant on Testosterone Inequality(02:01) - Understanding Testosterone in Women(02:50) - Symptoms of Low Testosterone(05:16) - Personal Experience with Testosterone(08:29) - Forms of Testosterone Therapy(10:48) - Benefits and Side Effects of Testosterone(12:31) - Final Thoughts and Recommendations(13:31) - Closing Remarks and Call to Action*This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.*****************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/ podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality= in-midlife--6179447/support.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

Breaking Barriers In this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast, host Karen Bigman, a certified life and menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the world of sex tech and sex work advocacy with Ola Miedzynska. Ola, a trailblazer in the sex technology industry, discusses her extensive experience with over 60 global sex tech and adult tech brands, including the founding of Sex Tech EU and co-founding EroBella, a safer platform for sex workers. Karen and Ola discuss the evolution of sex tech, the impact of AI on the industry, the importance of sex work platforms like EroBella in promoting safety and transparency, and the broader implications of technology on human intimacy. Join Karen and Ola as they navigate these complex topics, aiming to destigmatize and educate while creating a supportive community for midlife sexuality. Timestamps:(00:00) - Introduction to Virtual Reality and Sex Tech(00:26) - Meet Ola Miedzynska: A Trailblazer in Sex Technology(01:47) - Understanding Sex Tech(02:59) - Ola's Journey into the Sex Tech Industry(05:02) - Global Regulations and Challenges in Sex Tech(08:24) - AI Innovations in Sex Tech(18:54) - Virtual Reality and Fantasy in Sex Tech(20:00) - Empowering Sex Workers: The Aerobella Platform(31:27) - Future of Sex Tech: Space and Beyond(34:02) - Enhancing Relationships with Sex Education(36:11) - Defining Sex: A Personal Perspective(37:40) - Conclusion and Final ThoughtsRegister for the SxTech 2025 hereCheck out Ola's socials: InstagramxLinkedInYouTubeLinktreeErobella Safer AppErobella.comErobella Podcast - Sex Workers Tells*This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.*****************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/ podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality= in-midlife--6179447/support.

Revolutionizing Sexual Health: Dr. Sum Rakshit of Mystery Vibe Explains Innovative SolutionsIn this episode, Dr. Sum Rakshit, founder of Mystery Vibe, delves into the world of sexual health and wellness. Dr. Rakshit discusses how Mystery Vibe's devices, originally based on biomedical engineering principles, are designed to address various sexual dysfunction issues such as vaginal dryness, lack of libido, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, and more. He shares insights on the development journey, highlighting the importance of addressing sexual health issues that arise from life events like childbirth, menopause, and other major medical conditions. Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction: Women's Health Issues(00:31) - Meet Dr. Sum Rakshit: Founder of Mystery Vibe (01:24) - From Ophthalmology to Sexual Health Devices(03:31) - The Birth of Mystery Vibe(05:53) - Crescendo: Addressing Pelvic Pain(08:37) - Vibrators for Pleasure and Medical Use(09:59) - Men's Health: Devices for Erectile Dysfunction and Prostate Health(12:47) - The Importance of Regular Orgasms(20:27) - Addressing Painful Sex for Women 36:14 Future Innovations: Period and Breast Pain Devices(41:01) - The Role of Content in Sexual Health Awareness(43:28) - Conclusion and Final ThoughtsDr. Soum Rakshit, FIET, FRSA is the Co-Founder & CEO of MysteryVibe. He did his PhD in Biomedical Engineering and created a startup in eye recognition which was acquired by a US defence company. He then spent 7 years in management consulting on large technology projects. In 2014 Soum started MysteryVibe to bring defense electronics and medical expertise together and create devices that solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way.Check out Mystery Vibe*****************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex inmidlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/ podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality= in-midlife--6179447/support.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

In this podcast episode, I dive into my own experiences with dating apps and the journey to change my patterns—moving from an anxious attachment style to a healthier, self-assured approach. Women often worry about whether he'll call or text again, and sometimes settle for less than they deserve. It's easy to latch onto someone just because they're available, but true connection goes deeper. Here's what we explore in this episode:The importance of self-worth in attracting the right partnerNavigating the dance of early dating and managing initial attractionsHow clear communication—both emotional and sexual—can build a stronger relationshipThe key takeaway is to focus on what you truly value and deserve. Open up those lines of communication, both in your daily interactions and in bed. Let's break the cycle of settling and find connections that truly matter.****************************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.com⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

Karen Bigman, certified life and menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the complexities of hormone therapy for menopause in this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast. This episode addresses common misconceptions and emphasizes the importance of consulting menopause-trained medical providers.Karen explains the differences between bioidentical, synthetic, and natural hormones, as well as various hormone delivery methods. She highlights the benefits of hormone therapy for managing menopausal symptoms and long-term health. The episode aims to provide women with the knowledge needed to navigate hormone therapy and improve their quality of life during menopause.01:49 Understanding Hormone Therapy05:03 Bioidentical vs. Synthetic Hormones06:41 Compounded Hormones: Risks and Considerations10:32 The Importance of Proper Hormone Therapy12:19 Topical Estrogen*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.****************************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.com⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

Have you ever wondered what sex really means? This spring, I attended the Association of Sex Educators, Coaches, Counselors, and Therapists conference in St. Louis. I met remarkable professionals dedicated to fostering a more sex-positive world. Curious, I asked 24 of these experts—from sex therapists to professional cuddlers—what their definition of sex is.Interestingly, "sex" means something different to everyone. From a sacred energy exchange vital to lifeto wonder, creativity, and lust all bundled in one. One interviewee emphasizes that sex transcends the physical—it's about identity, intimacy, and respectful connection, always with consent.Join me as we dive deep into what "sex" means through a rich tapestry of perspectives.Check out this episode where we discuss:- The expanded definitions of sex beyond the physical act- The importance of consent and respect in sexual encounters- How pleasure, creativity, and curiosity define sex for different individualsWhat's your definition of sex? 

Jump into a riveting conversation that breaks down misconceptions and tackles the universal challenges of dating and sex in midlife. In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Dineen, a renowned dating coach, stylist, and author, as she shares her journey of rediscovery post-divorce. From navigating the intimidating world of online dating to revealing personal stories of "losing her second virginity," Alyssa's candid dialogue is both inspiring and downright hilarious.  Check out this episode where we discuss:Navigating the hurdles of online dating post-divorce Dealing with sexual insecurities and STDs Embracing intimacy and redefining personal boundaries in midlifeJoin us as we dig deep into these crucial talks. Alyssa's experiences highlight how courage, honesty, and a bit of humor can make rediscovering oneself a transformative journey. We'll strip away the taboos and bring open-hearted discussions to the forefront.  Ready to dive in? Tune in, listen, and become part of the conversation by sharing your thoughts below.#DatingAfterDivorce #OnlineDating #MidlifeSexuality #SexualHealth #MenopauseJourney #RelationshipAdvice #DatingCoach #BodyPositivity #SexualWellness #PodcastLife #Inspiration #Empowerment #AlyssaDineen #StyleMyProfile #TabooToTruth #SelfRediscoveryBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

This episode is a replay of one of our most popular episodes since launching last September. In this episode, I delve into non-monogamy, a topic stirring a lot of curiosity, especially among those in long-term relationships. I discuss what non-monogamy is, various forms it can take, like swinging and polyamory, and how it might either revitalize or challenge your relationship. This isn't an endorsement of any lifestyle but rather an exploration of different relationship paradigms. If you're curious and have questions, head over to my website and use the form to ask me anonymously. Our discussion also ventures into the historical context of monogamy, the evolving roles within relationships, and the importance of trust and communication when considering non-monogamy. It's crucial to ensure both partners are secure and comfortable with this choice. Whether you're in a long-term commitment looking to spice things up or simply exploring options, join me with your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let's break the silence together. Remember, it's okay to ask and discuss these topics openly.LinksAsk me a Question: https://www.taboototruth.com/ask-me-a-questionEmail: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support

Embarking on my journey back into dating and relationships after my marriage ended taught me hard but valuable lessons about intimacy and self-worth. From the initial thrill of sexual liberation to the heart-wrenching lows of rejection, I learned the importance of knowing myself and my emotional needs. Whether you're navigating menopause, exploring new relationships, or just trying to understand your body better, it's crucial to communicate openly and find what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. Join me in breaking the silence and embracing the beauty of midlife sexuality—grab your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let's dive in.00:00 Introduction to The Taboo to Truth Podcast00:47 Karen's Personal Journey02:43 Navigating New Relationships03:58 Understanding Sexual Needs and Communication08:04 Emotional Impact of Intimacy11:06 Learning from Heartbreak12:55 Self-Discovery and Growth19:01 Final Thoughts and Encouragement20:56 Closing RemarksLinksAsk me a Question: https://www.taboototruth.com/ask-me-a-questionEmail: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support

Reflecting on my journey, I've covered an array of topics—from orgasms, UTIs, and hormone therapy to interviewing incredible experts like Dr. Alyssa Dweck and Dr. Mohit Khera about sexual dysfunction and menopause. I've tackled tough subjects like consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, BDSM, and sexual health at different life stages. Your interest and trust drive me, whether I'm in a bar hearing someone's personal story or answering your questions anonymously on the show. As I take a short break to prepare for season three, please keep sending your questions and reviews. This milestone and every episode is dedicated to opening up crucial conversations, helping us all feel less alone and more empowered in our sexual health and identities.  00:00 Welcome to the 50th Episode Celebration!00:11 Reflecting on the Journey01:18 Season Highlights and Personal Growth02:32 The Importance of S3x Positivity03:14 Addressing Menopause and S3xual Health04:11 Support for Men's S3xual Health04:40 Breaking the Taboo: Talking About S3x05:35 Exciting Plans for Season Three06:13 Engage with the CommunityLinksAsk me a Question - https://www.taboototruth.com/ask-me-a-question Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

In this episode, I'm joined by Jennifer Rahner, a certified sexologist and sexuality educator who is transforming the conversation around sexuality with her authentic and vulnerable approach.  We delved into her journey from a 25-year career in IT to becoming a sex educator inspired by listening to Dr. Ruth as a teenager.Jennifer shared how she rediscovered her passion for sexuality at 45 and her transformative experiences with workshops led by Betty Dodson, a renowned sexuality educator focused on masturbation and pleasure. Jennifer candidly talked about how she teaches classes such as "Anatomy of Pleasure" to offer the sex education many didn't receive, especially emphasizing the importance of understanding vulva anatomy.We also discussed how she manages to balance her polyamorous lifestyle with her family life, the importance of open communication in relationships, and the societal pressures around monogamy. Through her work, Jennifer helps people feel less alone in their sexual experiences, encouraging open dialogue and self-exploration to foster a fulfilling sexual life at any age.Jenn's upcoming workshop July 16, 2024:Designer Relationships: An Introduction to Consensual Non-MonogamyFind Jenn here00:00 Introduction to the Podcast01:15 Meet Jennifer Rainer: A Journey into Sexuality02:11 Discovering a New Path04:27 The Influence of Betty Dodson05:38 Understanding Body Sex Workshops08:13 The Anatomy of Pleasure09:20 Exploring Squirting and Female Ejaculation20:29 The Importance of Sexual Communication23:48 Navigating Communication in Relationships25:03 Exploring Polyamory and Open Relationships28:53 Introducing Non-Monogamy to Family34:36 Challenges and Misconceptions of Polyamory39:33 Embracing Sexuality in Midlife42:29 Defining Sex and Finding Pleasure*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.****************************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.com⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

Dirty talk in the bedroom might not be everyone's cup of tea, yet it's a powerful tool for staying present during sex. Women tend to get lost in their thoughts, worrying about whether their partner is getting bored or if they're taking too long to reach orgasm, which can detract from the pleasure of the experience. The same goes for men, particularly those dealing with erectile dysfunction, who might find their performance anxiety worsened by overthinking. In a previous episode, I discussed the importance of pleasure and touch, in this episode, I'm suggesting we engage our minds differently through dirty talk. It doesn't have to be offensive or crass; it can be sweet and subtle, starting with something as simple as sexting to build anticipation for your next intimate moment together.*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.****************************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.com⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

I had the great pleasure of welcoming Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, certified sex therapist, and the author of "Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted," to the show. Bat Sheva has dedicated her career to empowering women to find pleasure in their bodies and spirit by combining medical and psychological approaches to women's sexual health. Having met Bat Sheva years ago when she was my doctor, I credit her with starting me on my journey to openly discuss sexuality, a topic often shrouded in silence.Our conversation delved into the complexities of maintaining a healthy sex life, especially as we age and navigate the inevitable changes that come with long-term relationships. Batsheva emphasized the importance of debunking myths around sex, advocating for a proactive approach to addressing sexual issues, rather than succumbing to the hopelessness that can arise when sex and intimacy issues remain unaddressed.We discussed how societal expectations and personal experiences shape our understanding of sex, highlighting the need for communication and effort in rekindling intimacy. Addressing sexual challenges requires acknowledging that sex and relationship dynamics can evolve, emphasizing that solutions are often within reach with the right guidance and willingness to explore. Through our discussion, it became clear that addressing sexual health is not just about enhancing personal relationships but also about fostering a deeper sense of self-awareness and satisfaction.Learn more about Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus hereFollow Bat Sheva on InstagramFollow Bat Sheva on Tik Tok*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.****************************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.com⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

In this episode, Kate Pozenik, Founder of Quirk Personal Branding and Career Consulting, interview me -  Spilling the Tea for Career Success. I'm thrilled to dive into an enlightening conversation with you all about midlife transitions, sexuality, and breaking down the taboos surrounding menopause.My journey has been anything but linear, starting my career as a computer programmer and navigating through various roles before landing where I am today. It's this winding path, filled with its share of transitions and transformations, that has ignited my passion for empowering women and fostering open conversations about the real changes we face as we age.We explore not just the challenges but also the opportunities that come with life's transitions. Whether it's career shifts, changes in our personal lives, or the physical and emotional evolution during menopause, I believe there's power in sharing our stories and learning from each other. I've personally experienced the roller coaster of reinventing myself professionally while also embracing the changes my body and mind have undergone through menopause. It's my hope that by spilling the tea on these often whispered-about topics, we can all feel a little less alone and a bit more empowered to tackle whatever comes our way.Find Kate here.*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.****************************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.com⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

I had the pleasure of speaking with Alycia Williams, a sex and relationship therapist with a wealth of experience and a unique perspective rooted in her own background and professional journey. Alycia's insights into the complexity of human sexuality, the importance of self-acceptance, and the transformative power of therapy were both enlightening and inspiring. Her approach, emphasizing personal growth, open communication, and the celebration of individuality within relationships, resonated deeply with me.This interview is a reminder of the beauty in embracing our own stories and the potential for growth and connection when we approach our relationships and ourselves with curiosity and compassion.Alycia's work, particularly in the realms of sex therapy and navigating non-traditional relationship dynamics, challenges societal norms and encourages a more inclusive and understanding perspective on love and desire. Her ability to foster a safe space for exploration and her commitment to educating and empowering others is truly admirable. I am reminded of the importance of continuing to learn and grow, both personally and professionally, and the value of conversations like these.You can find Alycia here.*this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.****************************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.com⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.

In today's conversation, I delve into the importance of addressing our sexual health, a critical aspect often relegated to the background due to various reasons such as hormonal changes, lack of a partner, or societal embarrassment. It's crucial to understand that sexual wellness is integral to our overall health, yet it's frequently overlooked or left until the last minute to discuss with healthcare providers. I've observed a common thread in conversations, regardless of gender, revealing a widespread hesitancy to talk about sexual health, often due to misinformation or discomfort.It's essential to break this silence, as untreated sexual health issues can significantly impact our quality of life. I urge you to reach out to me with your questions, no matter how embarrassing they may seem. By sharing our experiences and seeking advice, we can destigmatize these discussions, ensuring a fulfilling sexual life that contributes to our overall well-being.****************************************************************************************Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.com⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support.