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What's the role of power in your relationships, and how does it shape intimacy?In this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of power dynamics, kink, and midlife sexuality. Inspired by the provocative themes in the film Babygirl featuring Nicole Kidman, I bring my perspective as a sex educator to explore topics that are often left unspoken, but deeply impactful.From the transformative possibilities of power exchange to the surprising ways infidelity might reignite connection, I tackle the complexities of modern relationships with insight and empathy. I also discuss the importance of honest communication about sexual dissatisfaction, the identity of kink as more than just an activity, and society's evolving perspectives on age and gender in relationships.Whether you're curious about exploring kink, reflecting on your own sexual identity, or seeking to deepen connection in your relationships, this episode offers thoughtful reflections and practical advice to help you navigate intimacy with greater clarity and confidence.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(01:15) Power dynamics and blackmail as a kink?(06:00) Dynamics of kink exploration and self-expression(07:30) Why you should openly talk about sexual satisfaction with your partner(08:15) Age-related dynamic shifts in relationships with younger partnersMentioned:Film - Babygirl (2024): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30057084/Book - The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:

Father Cooper sits down with Esther Perel. Esther is a psychotherapist who is recognized as one of the leading voices in modern relationships. Her most recent book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, explores why people cheat and provides guidance on what to do in the wake of discovering this ultimate form of betrayal. Alex presents Esther with a situation…you open your boyfriends iPad to find messages that reveal he is cheating on you. Esther walks us through step by step on how to respond in the moment and how to move forward. Do you admit to reading his messages? At what point do you stop reading? Is make-up sex the ultimate mistake? Who do you tell? How do you know if you should break-up? Tune in this week Daddy Gang to hear from the expert herself – Esther Perel. To hear more from Esther, listen to her podcast Where Should We Begin? Also, check out Where Should We Begin – a game of stories, created by Esther Perel and designed to unlock the storyteller within. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and a leading voice on modern relationships. Growing up in Antwerp and practicing in the United States, she began her career studying the impact of cultural transitions on human relationships. In addition to her therapy practice in New York City, she serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies globally. Closely examining the mysteries of the human condition and sexuality, Perel gained international acclaim for her first book, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, which was followed by New York Times bestseller, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Perel helps her audience navigate difficult relational conversations in her weekly podcast, Where Should We Begin?.  ------ Thank you to the sponsors that fuel our podcast and our team: Lucy https://lucy.co/tetra ------ LMNT Electrolytes https://drinklmnt.com/tetra ------ Squarespace https://squarespace.com/tetra ------ House of Macadamias https://www.houseofmacadamias.com/tetra

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2247: Evan Marc Katz explores the increasing rates of infidelity among women, challenging conventional beliefs about marriage and relationships. Through insights from Esther Perel and Kim Brooks, the article highlights the evolving dynamics and unrealistic expectations that often burden modern marriages. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/cheating/why-women-cheat-on-their-husbands Quotes to ponder: "The fact is, I'm nicer to my husband when I have something special going on that's just for me." "Maybe these women were on to something - valuing their marriages for the things it could offer and outsourcing the rest." "At the end of the day, we accept these flaws." Episode references: State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, Esther Perel is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies worldwide. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and helped people worldwide navigate their relationships. Her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence has become a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Esther Perel is also a New York Times best-selling author of, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, a book that took a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. Dr. Perel is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? — a podcast for anyone who has ever loved — where she gives her perspective on the invisible forces that shape the connections, dynamics, and conflicts in relationships.In this episode you will learnThe major challenges people encounter in relationships and how to navigate through them.Common misconceptions in dating and how to approach relationships with a healthier mindset.Why infidelity can occur even in seemingly happy relationships and the underlying factors behind it.Insights into rebuilding trust in a relationship, even after it has been broken.The essential expectations to set in your relationships for a stronger, more fulfilling connection.For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1546For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes on relationships and communication we think you'll love:Vanessa Van Edwards: https://link.chtbl.com/1231-podDr. Ramani Durvasula: https://link.chtbl.com/1195-pod & https://link.chtbl.com/1196-podLori Gottlieb: https://link.chtbl.com/1191-pod

“You cannot differentiate when you never fight. Fighting is also a tool for differentiation, for having two people be able to breed and grow inside a relationship. If all you try to do is avoid any friction, any conflict, and merge into one, then there is a relationship of two halves, not of two holes, basically, to put it in simple terms. So some people find it very scary. Some people find it scary because there was uncontrolled fighting where they came from. And nobody could disagree without the whole thing going on fire. So there is good reasons for why people have learned not to fight or not to stand up for themselves or not to argue or not to say no, for some people simply saying no is experienced as a declaration of war. It's a continuum for those who are avoiding fighting and who are scared of it and reluctant to engage with it are basically said to themselves, I will never be like that person, my mother, my father, my grandparents, whoever it was, and then hold it in and hold it in.” Esther Perel's voice doesn't need an introduction—nor does her work. Esther is inarguably one of the most important therapists working today, pioneering a much deeper understanding of how couples function—and ultimately how couples can thrive. While Esther has written multiple bestselling books, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence and The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, and made an excellent intimacy-creating conversation card deck that will liven up any dinner party, I am most smitten with her podcast, “Where Should We Begin?” which brings listeners into real therapy sessions with real people—people, I'll caveat, who are not her ongoing clients. Not only do you get to hear Esther's brain work, but you get to listen as couples engage in arguments and issues that will likely feel…familiar, meaning that the show is an antidote to feeling slightly less alone in the world. Esther's newest project is something that we all need, in every sphere of our lives: She is teaching a one-hour masterclass in conflict, including what's beneath the content that we fight about everyday. Hint: Our fights are not actually about the dishes, they're about power, control, respect, and foundational questions like: Do I matter? Do you value me? Conflict is the substance of today's conversation, which we'll turn to now. You can find the course on turning conflict into connection on Esther Perel's website, or in the show notes. Here's Esther. MORE FROM ESTHER PEREL: Turning Conflict into Connection Course Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity Where Should We Begin Podcast Where Should We Begin Conversation Cards Esther Perel's Website Follow Esther on Instagram To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This series is sponsored by our friends Mira and Daniel Stokar.In this episode of the 18Forty Podcast, we talk to an anonymous guest about infidelity and its consequences and aftermath. Additionally, we receive the expertise of clinical psychologist Dr. Malika Bhowmik, on re-establishing intimacy after violations of trust. We love to tell teshuva stories that have perfect and happy endings, but sometimes the most meaningful teshuva does not fix all of one's problems immediately. In this episode we discuss: What does it mean to save a relationship that can no longer continue?How does one rebuild their religious identity after having their “good guy” image destroyed?Should an unfaithful spouse “come clean,” or should they “bear the brunt of the guilt” in secret?Tune in to hear a conversation about how we can strengthen our essential relationships and revitalize the excitement, joy, and sweetness of our religious lives. Interview with our anonymous guest begins at 16:10.Interview with Dr. Bhowmik begins at 1:49:00.Dr. Malika Bhowmik is a clinical psychologist in private practice, where she works with individuals and couples. Dr. Bhowmik received her doctorate in clinical psychology at the Graduate Center at City University of New York, where she wrote her dissertation on “A Grounded Theory Investigation of the Subjective Responses From Partners in Couples Where Infidelity Has Occurred.” Dr. Bhowmick was mentored by Esther Perel, LMFT, one of the most acclaimed thinkers and therapists on relationships, especially after crisis. References:Sin•a•gogue: Sin and Failure in Jewish Thought by David Bashevkinברגז רחם תזכור by David BashevkinSexaholics Anonymous: White BookAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine and Rachel HellerSingle On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First by John Kim Lamentations 5Genesis 3Mating in Captivity by Esther PerelAfter the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis A. SpringThe State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

On today's episode we're covering: - An intro to ENM Australia, James' new venture - Our experience in dating people "much" (such a relative term!) younger or older than us - What really defines an "open" relationship Links to what we mention in the podcast: Sav & Mark on TikTok: @savandmark https://www.tiktok.com/@savandmark?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc BS with Em on TikTok: @bswithem https://www.tiktok.com/@bswithem ENM Australia on Instagram: @enm.australia https://www.instagram.com/enm.australia/ Books for those interested in learning about non-traditional relationship structures (in the order James mentions): The Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, by Christopher Ryan The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel Polysecure, by Jessica Fern More than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, by Franklin Veaux

Jake Breslauer, comedian and chef, joins Keila to share some very candid, tragic, and hysterical details about his divorce and subsequent new chapter in life. Topics discussed include:how to cope after divorcecommunication in relationshipswhy Instagram couples are not real lifefavorite sadness meals#DivorceTokBe sure to follow Crying Behind Sunglasses on your podcast app and leave a review!Follow host Keila Dolle: @keiladolle // @cryingbehindpodFollow guest Jake Breslauer: @jake.n.bake.88BOOKS: The State of Affairs - Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel - https://a.co/d/0AbtWesAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller - https://a.co/d/i4P4nxmBecome a Sunny officially on Patreon and join our new community: https://www.patreon.com/cryingbehindpodEpisode guides and more info: www.cryingbehindpod.comTheme song: Peter Stoia & Keila Dolle

This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Take your mental and emotional well-being to the next level with BetterHelp. Our listeners can now get 10% off their first month by using the link provided, HERE #adIn this episode we sit down with Olympian, Presenter and Love Island Winner Greg O'Shea. We talk about dealing with rejection, getting cancelled, heartbreaks and traumas, growth mindsets and dating.  And as a listener, you're in for a special treat. Use the code SINEADSAYS10 at checkout for a 10% discount on Finding Yourself, my online meditation course.This exclusive offer is only available to our listeners, so don't miss out!Claim your spot and start your journey to self-discovery,  HEREHave burning questions about this weeks episode? Send them our way!Submit your questions for future episodes of The Sinead Says Podcast on Instagram @thesineadsayspodcast or via email to scenarios@sineadhegarty.com and we'll make sure to cover them in our upcoming shows.Connect with Greg O Shea:Instagram: @gregosheaBook Mentioned:The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther PerelWe hope you found this episode of The Sinead Says Podcast to be informative and engaging. If you enjoyed it, please show your support by liking, subscribing, and leaving a review. Your feedback is important to us and it helps us to continue to create valuable content for you.

“I like to joke that in a lot of Christian circles marriage is this consecration between a man, a  woman, and God which is technically a threesome so….”In this episode of Called to be Bad Podcast I talk with ordained minister, author, and podcaster, Ogun Holder about ethical non-monogamy. We start with definitions: what is ethical non-monogamy/polyamory? then Ogun tells us how he found and began practicing ethical non-monogamy. This is part one of a two-part episode, part two dives into jealousy, what to do about feelings of attraction, and more! Resources:  Articles: “What is Ethical Non-Monogamy?” https://www.attachmentproject.com/enm/#:~:text=Ethical%20non%2Dmonogamy%20“Beyond Just the Two of Us” (An article on non-monogamy by Ogun) https://www.revogunholder.com/blog/beyond-just-the-two-of-us Books on Relationships (we will have more book recommendations specifically on polyamory/non-monogamy in the next episode):  “Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic” by Esther Perel https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27485.Mating_in_Captivity “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” by Esther Perelhttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34017010-the-state-of-affairs “Radical Acceptance” by Andrea Millerhttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/30753715-radical-acceptanceOgun's Website:  https://www.revogunholder.com/ Ogun's Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@PubTheologyPage Project Sanctus: https://projectsanctus.com/  Support the showFollow us for more ✨bad✨ content: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtobebad_podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtobebad Website: https://calledtobebad.buzzsprout.com/ Sponsor of this episode: https://www.arthumorsoul.com/ Want to become part of the ✨baddie✨ community? Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/calledtobebad Have a ✨bad✨ topic you want to talk about on the show? Get in touch with host, Mariah Martin at: calledtobebad@gmail.com #ctbb #podcast #podcastersoffacebook ...

*Matthew Horn is a FBoi... who is reforming. An insatiable sexual appetite, emotionally unavailable, DTF; He's been there, he's been that and he's changing. Matthew tells hosts @KerstinPorter and @GreenberryLucas about his days F*Cking around, what moments made him realize he was being hurtful and why he decided to work toward change. Matthew also helps caller, Bianca who is possibly dating an FBoi's and helps guide her through the age old question, " Can I change him?" *Matthew Horn is an actor, producer, sneaker enthusiast & recovering F-Boi in Los Angeles. Follow him on Instagram @therealmatthorn for funny videos, schmoopy couple photos & too many sneaker pics. Check him out in episode 4 of Elvira Ibragimova's heartfelt comedic web series "We're Doing Good" & be on the lookout for his upcoming contained psychological sci-fi drama, "Fractal" to be released in 2023. ***************************** Are you an F Boi? Do You want to be? Are you dating an FBoy? Do you Want to? Are you and F Boi who wants to change? ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ THIS SHOW just may have the answers you seek Matthew mentioned this book: *The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel Listen to our Podcast on your favorite platform Hit up AdultBuddyFinders.com for more insight into things that go hump in the night. Subscribe to our Youtube for more videos : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0KvFpau2zvOql9wgMEATWA Be our buddy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AdultBuddyFinders/ Theme Song: Hanging Around With You, Zachary Graham #podcast #sexpositive #sexual #sexed #sexpositivepodcast #FBoi #BadBoys #changeisgood #Goodboys #FBoy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/adultbuddyfinders/support

AnnLee Allen is a Mental Health Therapist who specializes in Relationship and Couples Counseling. AnnLee joins Spilling the Thera-Tea to discuss what couples counseling looks like and some warning signs of when it might be time to seek a therapist's help. AnnLee and KathyDan talk about the their clinical experiences and how to increase the likelihood of success for a couple and Jess shares some interesting statistics about couples counseling. The team wraps it up by answering some listener questions in the Asked and Answered segment.******************************************************Books discussed in today's episode:The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work- https://amzn.to/3AXdc1ZThe State of Affairs:Rethinking Infidelity- https://amzn.to/3ObxffNEight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love-  https://amzn.to/3o4UmxZ******************************************************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This podcast and website represents the opinions of KathyDan Moore, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Co-Host Jess Lowe, and their guests to the show and website. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions.Views and opinions expressed in the podcast and website are our own. While we make every effort to ensure that the information we are sharing is accurate, we welcome any comments, suggestions, or correction of errors.Privacy is of utmost importance to us. All people, places, and scenarios mentioned in the podcast have been changed to protect patient confidentiality.This website or podcast should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever, including but not limited to establishing “standard of care” in a legal sense or as a basis for expert witness testimony.  No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on the podcast or website.In no way does listening, reading, emailing or interacting on social media with our content establish a doctor-patient relationship.If you find any errors in any of the content of  these podcasts or blogs, please send a message to kdandjess@spillingthetheratea.com.Podcast Music by:  Lemon Music Studio

This week Skye and Amanda dive deeper into the taboo topic of infidelity, by reading The State of Affairs by their favorite couples therapist, Esther Perel. The two discuss Perel's controversial  breakdown of the complexities of cheating - how it happens, why it happens, and what the results can be for a couple or individual (both good and bad). Listen in for the ladies' personal takes on cheating as a deal-breaker, what brings reconciliation and healing, what we can learn from infidelity, and the many layers of what happens before, during, and after an affair. Books mentioned in this week's episode are linked to our Bookshop.org shopThe State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel Check out what Skye & Amanda have been loving this week:Married at First Sight on Lifetime TVWhere Should We Begin? Podcast (with Esther Perel)Couples Therapy on Showtime TVSupport Long Story Short and Local Bookstores: Libro.FM - get two audiobooks for the price of one when you use the code LSSPODCAST when signing up for your first month of membership. Long Story Short Hotline: (646) 543-6232Follow us online:Instagram: @LongStoryShortPodTwitter: @LSSpodcastFacebook: @LongStoryShortPodEmail: info.longstoryshortpod@gmail.com*Purchasing books through Bookshop.org earns Long Story Short a small commission.

Today on Professional Troublemaker, we're sharing a conversation  from Luvvie's book tour in March of 2021. All the people Luvvie chose for this tour are those she considers professional troublemakers in their field. They exude excellence in everything they do, and this episode is a perfect example of that.Luvvie is talking to psychotherapist Esther Perel. Esther is one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. She's a bestselling author, TED speaker and host of the hit podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How's Work? She also has an amazing game that is also called Where Should We Begin? Esther is fluent in nine languages, and she coaches pairs around the world  of all types on relationship dynamics.In this conversation, Esther and Luvvie talk about how fear shows up and how it speaks to us, how troublemakers answer fear, success and how it can inspire and potentially intimidate us, and how community makes us stronger. CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTEsther Perel - WebsiteFollow Esther on Instagram - @EstherPerelOfficialListen to Esther's podcastsMating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther PerelThe State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther PerelWhere Should We Begin?: A Game of StoriesCONNECT WITH LUVVIEFollow Luvvie on Instagram - @LuvvieGo to TEXTLUVVIE.com on your phone, and text PODCAST to join our Text Squad. Let Luvvie know who you'd like her to be in conversation with, or what topics you want her to do a deep dive on in a solo episode.ORDER LUVVIE'S BOOKS Pre-order RISING TROUBLEMAKER: A Fear-Fighter Manual for TeensOrder PROFESSIONAL TROUBLEMAKER: The Fear-Fighter Manual (NYTimes bestseller) at ProfessionalTroublemakerBook.com

There are MANY opinions about what constitutes cheating, WHY people do it, how to respond to it, and how to recover from it. But one thing is universally accepted: cheating HURTS. Cheating is extremely difficult to move on from for most people. But just like any other type of breakup you can not only move past it, but you can learn from it. We start this week's episode with a light-hearted discussion about what cheating is, and demonstrate perfectly how much diversity of opinion there is on the topic. For instance: is sitting on someone else's lap cheating? And of course, we have your back if you are struggling with this in your breakup. We go deep into how to regain your confidence if you have been cheated on and how to take back your power when you decide to date and trust someone again. Want tickets to our Valentine's Day hang-out? Grab them here. Resources from the episode: “Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free” by Wednesday Martin “Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships” by Christopher Ryan "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity" by Esther Perel #cheating #relationships #breakups Do you think that sitting on someone's lap is a no-no in relationships? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you'd like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ex-philes/support

This week, Father Cooper sits down with Esther Perel. Esther is a psychotherapist who is recognized as one of the leading voices in modern relationships. Her most recent book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, explores why people cheat and provides guidance on what to do in the wake of discovering this ultimate form of betrayal. Alex presents Esther with a situation…you open your boyfriends iPad to find messages that reveal he is cheating on you. Esther walks us through step by step on how to respond in the moment and how to move forward. Do you admit to reading his messages? At what point do you stop reading? Is make-up sex the ultimate mistake? Who do you tell? How do you know if you should break-up? Tune in this week Daddy Gang to hear from the expert herself – Esther Perel. To hear more from Esther, listen to her podcast Where Should We Begin? Also, check out Where Should We Begin – a game of stories, created by Esther Perel and designed to unlock the storyteller within. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hi Tits,Join us this week to uncover the delusion that goes behind the over romanticization of a relationship. We discuss the norms set in place through fairy tales, romantic comedies, and good ole' patriarchy. Also, we give our own take on what our experiences and risks in investing everything and anything in "the one." Thanks so much for listening! Learn more about the topic: Esther Perel, "State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity"

Have you found the freedom to explore the rich landscape of your erotic self? Or did your childhood leave you feeling restricted and repressed by a sex negative mindset?  In this week's episode Andrew talks to Silva Neves, a psychosexual psychotherapist, about: Why people DON'T fully explore their sexual selves Why labelling people “sex addicts” is unhelpful, and The liberating mindset of sex positivity.  Silva Neves works with couples experiencing a wide range of sex and relationship issues, including sexual trauma, infidelity, and compulsive sexual behaviours. He regularly appears in the British media and was featured on the BBC Three's television series, Sex On The Couch.  Silva is a COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist, and a trauma psychotherapist. His private practice is based in Central London and online.  Follow Up Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  Visit Silva Neves' website Visit Silva Neves' site on sex positivity Get advice from Silva Neves via his Psychology Today blog  Read Silva Neves' book Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians Learn about the course Silva Neves teaches at CICS - an Online Diploma in in Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Follow Silva Neves on social media: Twitter @SilvaNeves3; and Instagram and Facebook @silvanevespsychotherapy Read The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel Read The Men On My Couch: True Stories of Sex, Love and Psychotherapy by David Rensin and Brandy Engler Read Andrew's book Have the Sex You Want: A Couple's Guide to Getting Back the Spark Read Andrew's blog How To Have the Sex You Want Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall 

#260 NEW: Download Free Resources Referenced in Our Podcast Episodes: https://www.dominickq.com/resources Join the Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin Inquire About The Great Man Mastermind: Hello@DominickQ.com ------------------------------------------- If you've ever been betrayed, or been the betrayer in a romantic relationship, you know that the obstacles to restoring trust after infidelity can feel almost insurmountable. But it can be done. Today we have a special guest – Ryan Eller – who is one of the beloved men in The Great Man Mastermind community… …who is here to share his story about how he built back his relationship with the love of his life after years of infidelity culminated in a very painful and public exposure. Today, Ryan and his wife Kristin have one of the most inspiring, intentional and transparent relationships I've ever encountered. They've gotten stronger and the roots of their relationship have grown deeper through traversing the storm together, and now they're about to share their process with others who are facing infidelity in their relationships. Actually, this is Ryan's first time telling his story publicly, which was humbling for both Bryan and I…and hopefully you can feel how special this moment is to be a part of as well. In This Episode: Why restoring trust is like filling a bathtub one teaspoon at a time 3 crucial early-stage steps to begin the trust-restoration process Why you can't lone wolf the reconciliation process Why you need trained professionals to help you navigate the disclosure process How to navigate the guilt and shame that come from taking responsibility you're your transgressions Why you have to first disassemble the old relationship before building back your new one And I want to give a special shout out to Kristin Eller – Ryan's wife. Kristin, you have graciously not only okayed this conversation, but you've given your full blown support to Ryan in having this conversation with us today. The night before this interview you even helped Ryan prep for potential questions he might get asked. Kristin, you're incredible, thank you, and your support of this conversation is surely going to benefit the lives of many partners for many years to come. Recommended Resources Book: The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel Sex Addicts Anonymous Meetings Directory: https://saa-recovery.org

The psychotherapist Esther Perel has changed our discourse about sexuality and coupledom with her TED talks, her books, and her podcast, Where Should We Begin? Episode after episode lays bare the theater of relationship, which is also the drama of being human. Her insights speak to the flip side of social isolation — the intense experience many have now had of togetherness. And her deep understanding of “erotic intelligence” feels so interesting as we grapple with emergent dynamics of the human condition writ large — coupled or not, and both intimate and societal.Esther Perel has a private couples and family therapy practice in New York. She hosts two podcasts, Where Should We Begin? and How's Work? and is the creator of a new game called, Where Should We Begin? - A Game of Stories. She is also the author of two TED talks and two books, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence and The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.This interview is edited and produced with music and other features in the On Being episode "Esther Perel — The Erotic Is an Antidote to Death" Find the transcript for that show at onbeing.org. 

The psychotherapist Esther Perel has changed our discourse about sexuality and coupledom with her TED talks, her books, and her podcast, Where Should We Begin? Episode after episode lays bare the theater of relationship, which is also the drama of being human. Her insights speak to the flip side of social isolation — the intense experience many have now had of togetherness. And her deep understanding of “erotic intelligence” feels so interesting as we grapple with emergent dynamics of the human condition writ large — coupled or not, and both intimate and societal.Esther Perel has a private couples and family therapy practice in New York. She hosts two podcasts, Where Should We Begin? and How's Work? and is the creator of a new game called, Where Should We Begin? - A Game of Stories. She is also the author of two TED talks and two books, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence and The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.This show originally aired on July 11, 2019.

“...we so often look to other people for closure, and we look to the person who hurt us to give us closure. And even if that other person gives us every single answer we want, even if it's every single answer we want to hear, that will not provide closure, if you are not prepared to receive what's being given to you. And if you are not prepared to give yourself the gift of that closure, if you aren't open to it from within, you will never get it, you can continue to seek outside of yourself looking for it, it will not appear, you have to create the closure for yourself.”   This episode has been a long time coming! In 279 episodes I've never actually touched on recovering from infidelity.  So this is a big one, and a very important one coming at you today.   We're going to talk all about; What infidelity actually means  We're going to go through some of the various steps that I both recommend and that I have done myself, and that I work with clients around in order to navigate and move through dealing with infidelity Some of the really crucial components that will determine how you look at the world on the other side of infidelity And much more   Are you ready? Get listening right away by clicking play, or if you're more in the mood to read today, head over to {LINK}  for the full transcription of today's episode! Let's do this!   Look for references from today's episodes?  Find them all here: EPISODE 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity   Esther Perel | The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity    EPISODE 273 | Victim Mindset, Radical Responsibility, & Unpacking Our Own Biases In Relationships    EPISODE 197 | Working Through Collective Grief   EPISODE 248 | Grief, Love & Why One Cannot Exist Without The Other   EPISODE 260 | How To Recover and Let Go From Loss Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and hear any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren't your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

Today I am honored to share the story of Drew Manning - author, TV star, and founder of the viral brand, "Fit2Fat2Fit." In part 1 of Drew's story, we will discuss, among other things: His upbringing in Mormonism LDS mission in Brazil Marriage & pornography use in a Mormon marriage, followed by the LDS church addiction recovery program Their eventual divorce Learning about problematic church history & the 2015 LGBT+ exclusion policy The Fit2Fat2Fit story & Drew’s mission to bring empathy to fitness Show notes: Fit2Fat2Fit: The Unexpected Lessons from Gaining and Losing 75lbs on Purpose by Drew Manning Complete Keto: A Guide to Transforming Your Body and Your Mind for Life by Drew Manning Loving What Is by Byron Katie Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

Esther Perel has probed the intricacies of love and desire in modern couples for almost 30 years as a therapist, writer, trainer, and lecturer. In her latest book, "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity", Perel starts a new conversation about marriage and infidelity, an extremely common act but still taboo. We will try to understand why people have affairs, why sexual betrayal hurts so much and also we will try to answer this question: can sexting or virtual sex be considered cheating? All the answers on this episode of the podcast that it is also available in Spanish. Remember that all the notes from this episode are available, as always, in the post that you can find, with the audio, in my blog the www.thebeautymail.esInstagram @thebeautymailTwitter @cristinamitreYouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/CristinaMitreFacebook https://www.facebook.com/Crismitre/

Check out our Sponsors Caveday: Try a FREE 3 hour cave at caveday.org with promo code IMPACT Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/impacttheory for a free trial of Premium Membership. Indeed: Get a FREE $75 CREDIT to upgrade your job post at indeed.com/IMPACT Can you say with absolutely certainty that you are bringing your best self to all the important relationships in your life? Are you afraid you and your partner are slowly becoming more and more disconnected and aren’t sure how to identify the key problems that could be killing the relationship? Whether it’s at home or at work, we need to be mindful of what makes our relationships thrive and what poses a threat to them. On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by Psychotherapist, New York Times Bestselling Author, and host of the emotionally raw and tell-all podcasts ’How’s Work?’ and ‘Where Should We Begin?’ Esther Perelto discuss such matters and more as they explore the pitfalls you need to be on the lookout for that might be killing your relationships, connections, or marriage. They discuss the downfalls you need to be on the lookout for that pose a threat to your relationships, what complacency looks like, why so many couples get it wrong when trying to solve their differences, the power of words and the meaning behind them, how culture comes into play in your relationship, how to understand other’s perspectives, and the tools you need to have a healthy and thriving relationship with anyone in your life.   Order Esther’s book, ‘Mating in Captivity’: amazon.com/dp/0060753641/?tag=wwwestherpere-20   Order Esther’s book, ‘The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity’: amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1501045724&sr=8-1&keywords=state+of+affairs   Listen to Esther’s Podcast, ‘Where Should We Begin?’: whereshouldwebegin.estherperel.com   Listen to Esther’s Podcast, ‘How’s Work?’: howswork.estherperel.com   SHOW NOTES:   Downfalls | Esther reveals the things that kill relationships. [0:17] Complacency | Esther reveals the step-by-step process of how complacency creeps in. [2:36] Blind | Esther reveals why so many people in a relationship fail to see their mistakes. [6:14] Combativeness | Esther reveals the many dynamics of how couples blame each other. [7:33] Words | Esther reveals the power of your words and how you frame your problems. [10:03] Culture | Esther reveals how culture comes into play with relationships. [12:56] Contextualize Yourself | Esther reveals how we can value things differently. [13:58] Meaning | Esther discusses the importance of the meaning behind what you say. [17:47] Business | Esther reveals why so many business relationships fail. [19:54] Perspectives | Esther discusses how you can begin to see other’s perspectives. [21:47] Tea | Tom shares a story where he and his wife, Lisa, argued over a cup of tea. [26:06] Fighting | Esther reveals how we fight over lack of respect and recognition. [28:18] Roles | Esther discusses roles, expectations, and flexibility in a relationship. [30:27] Tools | Esther reveals the key tools you can use to get the most out of your relationship. [31:28] Connect | Esther shares how you can engage with her and continue to learn from her. [33:28]   QUOTES:   “So, you really want to make sure that you don’t assume. “I know what you’re saying.” Ask, remain curious at all times. “What does that mean for you and who told you that?”” [13:55]   “The very thing people often come in fighting over is what was once originally very attractive to each other.” [24:13]   “…people fight over three things primarily: power and control, trust and closeness, respect and integrity.” [25:35]   FOLLOW ESTHER: Website: estherperel.com Podcast: whereshouldwebegin.estherperel.com How’s Work: howswork.estherperel.com Twitter: twitter.com/estherperel Facebook: facebook.com/esther.perel Instagram: instagram.com/estherperelofficial YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC4eN7PS9mi8__4EYxy6VpFw

Happy Vs Flourishing episode 19 with Wesley Tan, who essentially helps people to be much kinder to their bodies so that their bodies works for them and not against. He owns a gym named Forma which is based around Gymnastics Fitness, running fitness classes, online training, teacher training courses and physical therapies. Some of the topics discussed in this episode: Gymnastic training Osteopathy Injuries and recovery Strength, flexibility and mobility Martial arts training Yoga Sedentary behaviour Training programmes: https://Vimeo.com/ondemand/formaonline   Website: https://formagym.co.uk    Recommended books - As a Man Thinketh by James Allen freely available in the public domain.    The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel   Favourite quote: “Mind is the Master power that moulds and makes, And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes The tool of Thought, and, shaping what he wills, Brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills:— He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass: Environment is but his looking-glass.” James Allen   Happy Vs Flourishing links: www.ExceedingExpectations.me Facebook Group Twitter LinkedIn YouTube How to leave a podcast review: https://tonywinyard.com/how-to-leave-a-podcast-review/ Full shownotes including transcription available at: https://tonywinyard.com/hvf019-wesley-tan/ [fusebox_transcript]

Published on 20 Jun 2018. My guest today is Esther Perel, a psychotherapist of 35 years, and New York Times bestselling author.Esther Perel is recognised as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she has a therapy practice in New York City and is an consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity which became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (HarperCollins) is also a New York Times bestseller . Esther is also an exec producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? It is an incredible podcast where you can listen into live therapy sessions. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram. Favourite quotes from the episode:​"Today you don't choose between 2 people in the village, or 6 people at school, you choose between ​1,000 at your fingertips. That swiping culture gives you a dizzying level of options.""How do I know I've found ~the one~? You're going to delete your dating apps.""The burdens of the self have never been heavier. Today all the big decisions are on us.""Friendship is one of the most beautiful relationships. You cannot be friends with someone that isn't friends with you. You can love someone who doesn't love you back, but friendship is a reciprocal relationship.""We can't only use longevity in relationships as a marker of success."On her podcast Where Do We Begin: "It's so raw and intimidate, it's almost scary."On giving advice to friends: "What works for me, might not be what works for you."See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Cami and Braxton tackle The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel this month on Sexy Book Club. Get ready to listen to a hard, but fruitful conversation! Cami and Braxton offer their perspective on this book as professionals in the field of sex therapy. Tune in next month for Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J. Siegel.Cami's AffiliatesLelo:Code: CAMI20 to get 20% off full priced itemsAffiliate link: http://lip.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=2&aff_id=3973Coconu:Code: SEXTHERAPY101 to get 15% off Affiliate link: https://coconu.com/?rfsn=4618104.d855be&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=4618104.d855be

Relationship expert, psychotherapist, and New York Times bestselling author, Esther Perel, debuts on the show to uncover the TRUTH about infidelity.   You can watch her talk here (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q)   Connect with Esther Perel:    Website https://estherperel.com   Instagram estherperelofficial (https://www.instagram.com/estherperelofficial/)   Book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1501045724&sr=8-1&keywords=state+of+affairs)   Podcast Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel   Hosted by Malikee Josephs (Pronounced Muh leek Jo seffs)

This month's book is Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity by Peggy Orenstein. You won't want to miss this important counterpart to Girls and Sex, our previous Sexy Book Club review. Cami and Braxton offer their professional analysis on and experience with the information in Boys and Sex. Next month Cami and Braxton will be reviewing The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther PerelCami's AffiliatesLelo:Code: CAMI20 to get 20% off full priced itemsAffiliate link: http://lip.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=2&aff_id=3973Coconu:Code: SEXTHERAPY101 to get 15% off Affiliate link: https://coconu.com/?rfsn=4618104.d855be&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=4618104.d855be

Dr. Marta Meana, former president of the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, is an accomplished scholar who has made numerous contributions to the fields of psychology, romantic relationships, and human sexuality. Her ground-breaking research even earned her a spot on The Oprah Winfrey Show. On this episode, we discuss the following topics: whether or not sex ed should be taught in school, debunking the misconception that women get attached easier than men, some fundamental differences and similarities between male and female sexuality, and what really turns women on in the bedroom.Additional resources for more information:"Sexual Dysfunction in Women" book by Marta Meana"Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free" book by Wednesday Martin"The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity" book by Esther Perel

Don't let anyone stop you from becoming your best self. For this episode of The School of Greatness, I wanted to revisit the wisdom of some amazing women from our Summit of Greatness conference in 2017. These women are so empowering, and their words have stayed with me for these past few years.Mel Robbins is the most booked female speaker on the planet with a 7 figure speaking business. She is the author of the international best seller The 5 Second Rule, and she now she has a daytime talk show called The Mel Robbins Show. In 2018, she gave a fantastic TEDx talk titled "How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over" that has over 22 million views. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Esther unpacks what infidelity really is, why even happy people can be unfaithful, and how couples can recover from such a traumatic experience. Najwa Zebian is a Lebanese-Canadian activist, author, speaker and educator. She focuses on empowering people that have been abused and displaced. Najwa has become a trailblazing voice for women everywhere and has been highlighted by The New York Times and CBS News, among others. She has also creatively collaborated with Google, RBC, Kohl’s and Cirque du Soleil. She is host of the podcast Stories of the Soul which is all about inspiring people to heal from pain, suffering and abuse. Maria Sharapova is a Tennis Champion, author, and entrepreneur. She won her first Grand Slam tournament at just 17 years old. She’s held major commercial endorsements with companies including Nike and Tiffany & Co. She founded Sugarpova, a premium candy line, which is packed with antioxidants and non-GMO ingredients that are worth indulging in. She also founded the Maria Sharapova Foundation which helps children around the world pursue their dreams through education and scholarships. All of these women have unique wisdom that refine greatness in a truly inspiring way.Join us in Episode 913 to learn how you too can share your story with confidence, overcome negativity and become the best version of yourself you can be.Maria, what is one piece of advice you would give to all budding entrepreneurs? (7:15)Maria, how do you handle criticism? (11:26)Najwa, how do you balance sharing your vulnerable, painful story with being hopeful? (20:50)Esther, how do I handle the outside pressure of being with a wonderful man who doesn’t look great on paper? (33:50)Mel, does inspiration build action and courage? (46:05)How to get a new perspective on something you have done for a long time (3:30)How Maria mentally switched from being just an athlete to being an entrepreneur (5:20)Inspiration to fire you up if you are at the bottom (14:35)How to overcome negative self-talk and negative voices from your family (24:22)How to honor your parents while having healthy boundaries with them (8:40)Why it’s so important for everyone to have an open conversation about sex (32:10)How to date and commit to a partner when there are so many options (37:40)How to re-establish a connection with your previous partner after a divorce (43:40)Why imposter syndrome can be a good thing (44:30)How to find your voice if you’ve experienced an abusive relationship (47:10)If you enjoyed this episode, check out the video, show notes and more at http://www.lewishowes.com/913 and follow at instagram.com/lewishowes

In the fifth and final installment of the Infidelity series, Ashley and Jason discuss whether or not monogamy is natural, open relationships, and what happens when people remain together after an affair. This series was inspired by the book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

Is lying or withholding the truth ever justified? What causes people to cheat? Is infidelity the worst thing that can happen in a marriage? This is the fourth installment of Ashley and Jason talking all things infidelity! Inspired by the book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, this series on infidelity will be a conversation you won't forget.

Once a cheater always a cheater? What causes people to cheat? This is the second installment of Ashley and Jason talking all things infidelity! Inspired by the book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, this series on infidelity will be a conversation you won't forget. 

Once a cheater always a cheater? What causes people to cheat? This is the second installment of Ashley and Jason talking all things infidelity! Inspired by the book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, this series on infidelity will be a conversation you won't forget. 

Once a cheater always a cheater? What causes people to cheat? Ashley and Jason are talking all things infidelity! Inspired by the book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, this series on infidelity will be a conversation you won't forget. In the first episode we discuss how to define infidelity. 

If you are interested in becoming a part of the Allegory & Elm Tribe, you can join us over at https://allegoryandelm.com/ and click Subscribe.Want to check out the YouTube Vidcast Version or see our weekly challenges to help us all grow together, you can do so below.Allegory & Elm Call To Action Episode 1 - Tell SomeoneAllegory & Elm Episode 1 Vidcast - I Had An Affiar (video version of the podcast)Allegory & Elm YouTube ChannelCheck us out on Social MediaAndrew May Photography/Allegory & Elm - InstagramKatie May - InstagramIf you are dealing with an affair specifically, we have found the book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel to be immensely helpful. We have learned through this process that affairs are way more common than we had thought. Perel doesn't have a specific agenda, but rather takes an exploration into why affairs are so common. If this sounds like something you are into, check it out...I get a small commission if you choose to purchase through these links. It really helps to support the podcast. Thank you!!The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity Paperback BookI get a small monetary kickback if you use this link to purchase the product. If you want to support the show, this really helps. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity AudioBook on AudibleIf you don't have audible, what are you doing with your life?Thanks for tuning in. We would love to join you on this journey and hopefully grow together!! Your Story Matters.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/allegoryandelm)

Books I've Loved — Seth Godin and Esther Perel | Brought to you by HuWelcome to another episode of The Tim Ferriss Show, where it is my job to sit down with world-class performers of all different types—from startup founders and investors to chess champions to Olympic athletes. This episode, however, is an experiment and part of a shorter series I’m doing called “Books I’ve Loved.” I’ve invited some amazing past guests, close friends, and new faces to share their favorite books — the books that have influenced them, changed them, and transformed them for the better. I hope you pick up one or two new mentors — in the form of books — from this new series and apply the lessons in your own life.Seth Godin (@thisissethsblog) is the author of 19 bestselling books that have been translated into more than 35 languages. He writes about the way ideas spread, marketing, strategic quitting, leadership, and — most of all — challenging the status quo in all areas. His books include Linchpin, Tribes, The Dip, Purple Cow, This Is Marketing: You Can’t Be Seen Until You Learn to See, and What to Do When it’s Your Turn (and it’s Always Your Turn). Seth is also the founder of the altMBA, an intense four-week online leadership and management workshop.Esther Perel (@estherperel) is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Mating in Captivity, which has been translated into 26 languages, and The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. On her podcast Where Should We Begin? Esther brings you into her office to listen to real life couples therapy sessions, and her newest Spotify project, How’s Work?, brings lessons from couples therapy to the corner office.Enjoy!You can find all links from this episode in the show notes.This podcast is brought to you by Hu. Founded by family trio Jason Karp, his wife Jessica, and his brother-in-law Jordan Brown, Hu started as a paleo-inspired restaurant in NYC in 2012, and now they make amazing, plant-based healthy snacks, including their award-winning paleo/vegan dark chocolate. Their Simple Bar, of which I’ve devoured several in one sitting without crashing, has only three ingredients: organic cacao, organic cocoa butter, and organic coconut sugar, without any soy or other junk.The Hu tagline is “Get Back to Human” because they believe people can feel and perform better when they eat foods with cleaner, simpler, less-processed, and less-industrial ingredients. Hu avoids emulsifiers, palm oil, dairy, soy or sunflower lecithin, and sugar alcohols. And all of Hu’s products are Certified Gluten Free, kosher, and Non-GMO. Get 15 percent off your Hu order by visiting hukitchen.com/tim and using discount code TIM at checkout. Make haste, as their holiday shipping cutoff is December 18!***If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests.For show notes and past guests, please visit tim.blog/podcast.Sign up for Tim’s email newsletter (“5-Bullet Friday”) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Interested in sponsoring the podcast? Please fill out the form at tim.blog/sponsor.Discover Tim’s books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss YouTube: youtube.com/timferriss

This week the hosts review the book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, which discusses the norms surrounding relationships and cheating. The hosts explain their personal experiences with and feelings about cheating!Thanks to our sponsors Care/of and BetterHelp! For 50% off your first Care/of order, visit https://www.takecareof.com and enter promo code helpless50. Self-Helpless listeners get 10% off their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/selfhelpless.

Therapist Esther Perel has changed our discourse about sexuality and coupledom with her TED talks, books, and singular podcast, “Where Should We Begin?”, in which listeners are invited into emotionally raw therapy sessions she conducts with couples she’s never met before. For Perel, eroticism is a key ingredient to life — and it’s more than just a description of sexuality. “It is about how people connect to this quality of aliveness, of vibrancy, of vitality, of renewal,” she says. “It is actually a spiritual, mystical experience of life.” Esther Perel has a private couples and family therapy practice in New York. She is executive producer and host of the podcast “Where Should We Begin?” She has also given two TED talks and is the author of the books “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” and “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.” This interview is edited and produced with music and other features in the “On Being” episode “Esther Perel — The Erotic Is an Antidote to Death.” Find more at onbeing.org.

Therapist Esther Perel has changed our discourse about sexuality and coupledom with her TED talks, books, and singular podcast, “Where Should We Begin?”, in which listeners are invited into emotionally raw therapy sessions she conducts with couples she’s never met before. For Perel, eroticism is a key ingredient to life — and it’s more than just a description of sexuality. “It is about how people connect to this quality of aliveness, of vibrancy, of vitality, of renewal,” she says. “It is actually a spiritual, mystical experience of life.” Esther Perel has a private couples and family therapy practice in New York. She is executive producer and host of the podcast “Where Should We Begin?” She has also given two TED talks and is the author of the books “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” and “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.” Find the transcript for this show at onbeing.org.

  The Sex Episode  Hannah and Alexa talk about sex and how it’s broken in many ways. Disclaimer: much of the content in this episode focuses on heterosexual, traditional, cis-gendered married couples. This is because Hannah and Alexa primarily with these couple configurations and both identify as heterosexual, cis-gender women. This episode covers a lot of material and is an overview of several issues. Other configurations, identities, sexual orientations, and preferences were not intentionally excluded. Future episodes will expand the conversation and will be more inclusive of others.  Hannah begins the episode by sharing her reasons for why she thinks this is an important topic and why it was so important to her that Broken cover sex. As someone who has been a therapist for 15 years, a woman for 41 years, and someone who was married for 10 years and is now divorced, Hannah shares that over the years she has noticed many people (clients, friends, herself) struggle with sex in many ways. She admits that for many people, while sex is a good thing, it’s also messy and confusing, and not something many people feel comfortable discussing. Because sexuality is an important part of our selves, our relationships, and our health, even though it’s uncomfortable and difficult to talk about, it’s important, and so we dedicate this episode to looking at sex and how it’s broken. Observations  Hannah and Alexa share trends they’ve seen in couples they’ve worked with. Hannah says that often, what’s going on in a couple’s sex life is a good indicator of what’s happening in the relationship in general. A couple’s sex life is often a barometer for the relationship, and is often a predictor of the relationship’s level of communication, connectedness, intimacy, trust, openness, comfortability, honesty, adventure, sharing and ability to ask for and meet each other’s needs.   Alexa shares that she’s been surprised to learn that many married couples do not have frequent sex. She says that she sees sex as a tool to stay connected, and an important feature of marriage. Hannah points out that couples differ on how important sex is within their specific relationship and can negotiate their own rules and boundaries about frequency of sex, and that it’s different for every couple. Hannah also shares that sometimes sex stops in relationships without the couple talking about it, because it’s vulnerable, uncomfortable, and difficult to talk about sex. She says that when sex stops, it’s often hard to get it back. She says sex is often “use it or lose it”, if a couple is not having sex, it sometimes falls off and then is very hard to start again.   Couples don’t often have the tools, words, language, or skills to talk about sex.   This episode is about helping to give people some of those tools, words, and skills.   Statistics:   The average American adult has sex 103 times a year.   Couples living together, but not married, have sex 146 times a year.   Married couples have sex 98 times a year.   Single adults have sex 49 times a year.   Married couples are having less sex. On average, married couples are having sex 9 fewer times per year than they were in the 1990s.   Hannah shares statistics about sex in America, but cautions listeners from giving too much weight to statistics because each couple, person, and situation is different. It can be dangerous to compare yourself to others, and there is an amount of bias in studies that measure sexuality since people tend to filter or edit their responses.   Hannah and Alexa discuss these statistics and share that they are consistent in their work with couples and from reports they’ve heard anecdotally from others. Married people seem to be having sex less often, not enjoying sex, viewing sex as a chore, and normalizing these experiences. Both Hannah and Alexa assert that sex in marriage seems to be broken.   So, what is happening in marriage? Why is sex broken?   Hannah educates listeners about the mixed messages we all receive about sex, from very young ages.   Sex Ed   Sexual education in schools is discussed. Sexual education in school is more common today, and Hannah shares that this is important and good, as it’s the only way some kids learn about sex and their bodies, especially if they have parents who don’t talk about sex. Schools are also teaching about consent and boundaries and respect. And these are good things, and important messages for everyone.    Americans are uncomfortable talking about sex, and sex education in this country lags far behind other countries. Other countries begin sex education at age 4, while most schools in America start with a very limited sexual health program at age 10, when students are in fourth grade.   Sexual education in America is often focused around the dangers of sex. Kids learn that they can get diseases and babies from sex. Kids learn that sex can kill you. Sex is often presented in a scary way that does discuss any of the positive things about sex.   Hannah says that teen pregnancy rates have decreased in America thanks to better sex education and information.   Rates of teens having sex in general have decreased as well. Hannah discusses reasons for this including increased time using devices and communicating with other online instead of in person. Because of this increased use of devices, children are learning fewer social skills and not learning to interact in person.   Children who grow up in religious environments often receive additional messages about sex—that it is sinful, dirty, wrong, bad, and can lead to hell and damnation.   Messages   Hannah and Alexa also discuss the mixed messages girls and boys receive about sex, from society, culture, their peers, the media, and their families.   Girls and Women   Girls receive messages that you should wait until you are married, having sex outside of a relationship or marriage means you are a slut, you should “save yourself”, cover up, don’t dress in a way that could lead a boy to take advantage of you, if you get pregnant your life is over, don’t be a bad girl, sex is dirty, sex is shameful, sex is secret, a gift you give your husband.   They discuss the word “slut”, and the messages girls receive that if they have sex outside of a relationship, they are labeled as a “slut”, “bad girl, or “damaged goods”.   Women also struggle with internal conflicts about reconciling multiple roles, such as desirable sexual creature and mother.   Alexa and Hannah share realizations and conversations from their peer groups about birth control, the fear of pregnancy and the shift in expectations and messages that occurs after marriage, or once someone is in a loving relationship or partnership.   Boys and Men   Hannah identifies that boys and men receive very different messages about sex. Boys often are given permission (implicit or explicit) to look at pornography and sexually provocative images in sources such as Playboy, from early on. Many boys are raised to learn that they aren’t really a “man” until they are sexually active. There is pressure for boys and young men to have many different sexual partners, to “get their numbers up”, “male slut” is not really even a thing. Many men receive messages from a community called the “Pick-up Artists”, and a book called “The Game”. “Hookup culture” and spring break, Greek life in academic settings, and the current culture encourages boys and men to express their sexuality and to sleep with many women. Boys feel this pressure to perform. Many boys also grow up concerned about issues like size and find themselves in a constant battle of comparing themselves with others.   On the other hand, recently, following the #metoo backlash, men and boys are receiving messages about consent and respect and boundaries. These messages are good and important, for both men and women, and they also are contributing to some men feeling conflicted and confused.   Hannah discusses the “Madonna-Whore Complex”, a term coined by Freud about a century ago, to describe an internal conflict many men experience when separating sexual desire from friendship and respect.   For some men, they can feel desire and arousal with sexual objects (“whore”) such as a stripper, porn star or casual hookup partner, but then find it difficult to feel desire or passion or arousal for (“Madonna”) their spouse, the mother of their children, and their best friend and life partner.   This complex can translate into lack of desire, confusion and shame.   Mindset Shift   Hannah says, you spend half your life learning that sex is bad and dangerous and hope to avoid pregnancy, and the other half of your life having sex to become pregnant, have babies and to connect with your spouse.   Alexa points out that the flip that is expected is drastic and is supposed to happen overnight.   Women sometimes “save themselves”, and are virgins at marriage, and then on their wedding night, are expected to give themselves to their husbands, be sexual, be comfortable, know what to do, please their husband, and consecrate the marriage.   This is a mindset shift that is expected to happen overnight, or suddenly, once someone is in a partnership or long-term relationship or marriage. It’s a difficult transition for many people.   Hannah observes that many people have a hard time making this shift. Alexa observes that, as with many mindset shifts, it’s difficult because our mindset is driven by deeply held and firmly entrenched beliefs that are often unconscious.   The difficulty in shifting mindset is often compounded by couples not often having the words, skills, tools, or language to talk about sex or beliefs, or to help each other process conflicting feelings without fear of judgment or shame.   Therapy and coaching is suggested as a tool to help address mindset issues around sex.   The Pressure to find “The One”   Hannah discusses the tremendous pressure and expectations many people put into marriage today.   Marriages are more egalitarian today. Women and men share roles and responsibilities. Most marriages include partners who share financial responsibilities and incomes. Most are dual-earning partnerships.   There is pressure to find “THE ONE”. Marriage is seen as a partnership where you merge lives with another person who becomes your best friend, intimate partner, trusted companion, keeper of secrets, protector, provider, nurturer, and sexual partner.   While the average age of marriage is increasing, so is life expectancy, so marriages, and the potential for marriage longevity is longer than ever in history.   Additionally, couples are less connected to extended families and are more mobile, often living miles from extended families and support. This distance often puts additional pressure on the marital relationship to provide support that may have once been provided by family members.   So today, marriage is expected to provide nearly all of the love, friendship, support, trust, financial responsibility, childcare responsibility, intimacy, desire, passion, and fidelity that a person needs in his or her life.   That is a lot of pressure on one relationship. A relationship that may last 80 years. For life. Monogamy.   Hannah and Alexa discuss lack of sexual desire and low sex drive, and things that can contribute to this.   They also discuss issues that can lead to infidelity. Hannah shares trends and statistics about infidelity.   Hannah also shares information about ways sex benefits health and well-being.   Suggestions and Resources:   Hannah and Alexa share resources for help with all of this. Hannah says that some therapists and other thought leaders are helping couples rethink some of these expectations and rules, and helping couples and individuals to adjust expectations.   Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and sex expert who hosts a podcast, “Where Do We Begin”, and has authored two helpful books, “Mating in Captivity”, and “The State of Affairs”.   Hannah talks about some of the suggestions shared by Esther Perel, including creating some distance, relying on other supports, the use of the “other” through fantasy, and tools for reigniting desire and passion.   Hannah and Alexa discuss some of the other pressures common in current-day marriages including infertility, financial stress, the pressure to reproduce, parenting, over-programming, competing with neighbors and friends and social media.   When couples are faced with these stresses and pressures, they don’t often feel “in the mood”, sexual desire wanes, and frequency of sex and intimacy decreases.   Take responsibility for your sexual well-being   Alexa shares her thoughts and beliefs about the responsibility and opportunity we each have as individuals to figure out our wants and needs, and to maintain sexual health and wellbeing.   Hannah shares her frustration with the lack of available resources for women to learn about sex. She says, men have porn, which is typically made by men for men. But women aren’t encouraged to learn about sex and aren’t provided with many tools or resources to educate themselves about the possibilities of sex and desire.   Hannah shares that each of us have different parts of our selves. Our sexual self is a part of us. Some people stop having sex and let that part of themselves die. Many people don’t prioritize sex and think it’s not important or necessary. But in doing that, they lose a part of themselves that can be very helpful to people.   Staying in tune with our sexuality is a way for people to feel alive, stay connected, find power, decrease anxiety and depression, sleep better, be healthier, and feel good. It’s also a way for people to connect with certain aspects of femininity and masculinity. We can look at sex as an untapped resource that might help us feel better and be better.   Understand your body   Learn about your anatomy and your body. Explore and find the parts of you that “feel good”. Learn more about types of orgasms and about the possibility of sex.   Get more comfortable talking about all of this   Find people and ways to start talking about this. Find people to start practicing even talking about sex.   Talk to your children about sex in positive, age appropriate ways.   Think about the opportunity to find passion in your life.     Resources:   Coaching with Hannah Mirmiran or Alexa Thiesen: (402) 715-9710 or hmirmiran@omahapsychotherapy.com   Esther Perel: “Mating in Captivity”: https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Unlocking-Erotic-Intelligence-ebook/   Esther Perel: “State of Affairs-Rethinking Infidelity”: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity-ebook    

This week we discuss Playing with Fire by Scott Lazenby and introduce you to Ben Cromarty, city manager of Trillium, Oregon and original bad-boy MPA.  When he is not picking fights with unions, circumventing city council rules, or backpacking in the midst of winter, you can find him in his office seducing middle-aged women via his government-official email. This book is among the best public management case-studies we have read and weaves in valuable lessons about budgeting, political strategy, negotiation tactics, and a few other do’s and absolute don’ts.  We also discuss micro vs regular cheating, the dark-ages of the internet, and potential re-branding of Red Taped as a natural sleep aid. We are lonely, contact us: Twitter @RedTapedPodcast or via email at redtaped@outlook.com.     Book: Playing with Fire by Scott Lazenby Drink:  A random Oregon wine that Andy happened to have on hand Upcoming Episodes: 12/3- The No A**hole Rule by Robert Sutton 12/17- Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves 12/31- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson 1/7- State of the Pod: A Review of 2018 and Plans for 2019 1/14- We need some recommendations, please help! Attributes and References: Interview with Scott Lazenby: https://elgl.org/podcast-between-2-interns-with-lake-oswego-city-manager-scott-lazenby/ The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel (book) and related TED talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q  Opening Music: Three Stories by Blue Dot Sessions from the album Skittle (CC BY NC) Closing Music: Pedalrider by Blue Dot Sessions from the album Skittle (CC BY NC)

I am so honored to bring to you this conversation with a personal heroine of mine: Esther Perel. Esther is truly a thought leader in the space, with a perspective on modern relationships that is refreshingly original, insightful, and pretty un-American. Recently, she’s been stretching the bounds of her work beyond the bedroom, which is the focus of this episode. More about this episode: majomolfino.com/blog/2018/10/4/esther-perel Can we apply something like couple's therapy to co-workers and how easily does it translate? In this episode, Esther shares how to bring the relational intelligence from our romantic lives (things like trust, empathy, vulnerability, etc) into our most difficult, stressful work relationships and creative collaborations, especially in the context of patriarchy and the #MeToo movement.Esther’s work practically saved my relationship with my husband before we got married– and her work really helped us see what sustains desire between two people over the long-term. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestselling book Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast called Where Should We Begin?I know you will find this conversation fascinating and applicable to your life. Show NotesEsther shares about her childhood as a bold and extroverted girl, her experience as an immigrant and the daughter of Holocaust survivors, and getting by on the goodwill of people willing to help her. [2:48]Esther turns the table on Majo and asks why she felt pressured to focus on her career over relationships for so long. Plus, how Esther became a “disciple of people” and learned to navigate uncertainty while writing her first book. [7:43]Why Esther enjoys taking on difficult and taboo subjects, and her non-prescriptive approach to finding solutions. [11:35]The major problem with our current culture of experts. [15:43]Bringing her expertise to the context of work: Esther shares her insights as a cross-cultural therapist, and the big shift she’s seeing toward reliance on relational intelligence as the core of company success. [19:59]Why do 65% of startups fail? Co-founder breakups. Esther discusses the deep, intimate, and often turbulent relationship between company founders. [26:10]Majo shares two true scenarios with Esther for advice on how to navigate relationships. Scenario 1: A woman being constantly triggered by her male manager who refuses to listen to her advice. [30:51]Scenario 2: A woman feeling disempowered by a male CEO who favors his own ideas over hers. [38:24]On difficult conversations, what’s missing from the #MeToo movement, and how we reshape and redefine relational thinking through communication (not policies or rules). [43:23]“Patriarchy doesn’t just hurt women.” On polarized systems, masculine vs feminine, and the honesty required on both sides. [46:30]From the bedroom to the boardroom – more resources on translating the personal to the professional. [49:39]Resources: Majo’s website – majo.coEsther’s website – estherperel.comEsther’s event – “The Masculinity Paradox” on November 10 in NYC – estherperel.com/therapists-and-coaches Music by Carolyn Pennypacker Riggs – carolynpennypackerriggs.comWant to support women's voices? Go to patreon.com/heroinefm & become a bigger part of the Heroine community. Check out our rewards for supporters.

I am so honored to bring to you this conversation with a personal heroine of mine: Esther Perel. Esther is truly a thought leader in the space, with a perspective on modern relationships that is refreshingly original, insightful, and pretty un-American. Recently, she’s been stretching the bounds of her work beyond the bedroom, which is the focus of this episode. More about this episode: majomolfino.com/blog/2018/10/4/esther-perel Can we apply something like couple's therapy to co-workers and how easily does it translate? In this episode, Esther shares how to bring the relational intelligence from our romantic lives (things like trust, empathy, vulnerability, etc) into our most difficult, stressful work relationships and creative collaborations, especially in the context of patriarchy and the #MeToo movement.Esther’s work practically saved my relationship with my husband before we got married– and her work really helped us see what sustains desire between two people over the long-term. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestselling book Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast called Where Should We Begin?I know you will find this conversation fascinating and applicable to your life. Show NotesEsther shares about her childhood as a bold and extroverted girl, her experience as an immigrant and the daughter of Holocaust survivors, and getting by on the goodwill of people willing to help her. [2:48]Esther turns the table on Majo and asks why she felt pressured to focus on her career over relationships for so long. Plus, how Esther became a “disciple of people” and learned to navigate uncertainty while writing her first book. [7:43]Why Esther enjoys taking on difficult and taboo subjects, and her non-prescriptive approach to finding solutions. [11:35]The major problem with our current culture of experts. [15:43]Bringing her expertise to the context of work: Esther shares her insights as a cross-cultural therapist, and the big shift she’s seeing toward reliance on relational intelligence as the core of company success. [19:59]Why do 65% of startups fail? Co-founder breakups. Esther discusses the deep, intimate, and often turbulent relationship between company founders. [26:10]Majo shares two true scenarios with Esther for advice on how to navigate relationships. Scenario 1: A woman being constantly triggered by her male manager who refuses to listen to her advice. [30:51]Scenario 2: A woman feeling disempowered by a male CEO who favors his own ideas over hers. [38:24]On difficult conversations, what’s missing from the #MeToo movement, and how we reshape and redefine relational thinking through communication (not policies or rules). [43:23]“Patriarchy doesn’t just hurt women.” On polarized systems, masculine vs feminine, and the honesty required on both sides. [46:30]From the bedroom to the boardroom – more resources on translating the personal to the professional. [49:39]Resources: Majo’s website – majo.coEsther’s website – estherperel.comEsther’s event – “The Masculinity Paradox” on November 10 in NYC – estherperel.com/therapists-and-coaches Music by Carolyn Pennypacker Riggs – carolynpennypackerriggs.comWant to support women's voices? Go to patreon.com/heroinefm & become a bigger part of the Heroine community. Check out our rewards for supporters.

I spoke with a woman that has been seeing both men for over a year without either of them knowing anything about the other. She wanted help figuring out who she should choose. No pressure.  Then I spoke with a man trying to forgive his ex for cheating on him, and then another conversation with a young woman who is stuck in an abusive relationship.  All of this on my birthday. Thank you, everyone! Show Notes: Find detailed show notes about this episode here. Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity is a must-read if you're dealing with infidelity in your life. ​ This show has been produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios.   

Psychotherapist Esther Perel joins Angie to talk about her latest book "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity," the provocative follow up to her New York Timesbest-seller "Mating in Captivity." This conversation, like Esther's book, will no doubt push some buttons and leave you questioning--and perhaps rethinking--the boundaries of your romantic relationships!

Psychotherapist Esther Perel joins Angie to talk about her latest book "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity," the provocative follow up to her New York Timesbest-seller "Mating in Captivity." This conversation, like Esther's book, will no doubt push some buttons and leave you questioning--and perhaps rethinking--the boundaries of your romantic relationships! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do people cheat? Types of betrayals in a relationship How to make the decision whether to stay or go How to know whether it's a relationship worth the work “Rules of The Game” if you decide to stay in a relationship after a betrayal.   Resources: How to be H.O.T. Book pg. 141-142 https://amzn.to/2KCLhKN “Renew Your Vows: Seven Powerful Tools to Ignite the Spark and Transform Your Relationship”: https://amzn.to/2z4DReV Esther Perel: The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity https://amzn.to/2lQEBLe Mating in Captivity: https://amzn.to/2tPO0H5 Where Should We Begin (Podcast): https://www.estherperel.com/podcast Articles & Videos: Is Cheating Excusable?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CY_zJcjFpxc The 5 Step Technique That Will Help You Forgive a Relationship Even When You Don't Want To: http://theladiescoach.com/relationships-and-dating/5-step-technique-that-will-help-you-forgive-relationship-even-when-dont-want-to/ Am I in a Bad Relationship?: http://theladiescoach.com/relationships-and-dating/am-i-in-a-bad-relationship/ When is the Right Time to Walk Away From a Relationship?: http://theladiescoach.com/relationships-and-dating/time-give-walk-away-relationship/ 5 Things to Think About BEFORE Leaving a Relationship: http://theladiescoach.com/relationships-and-dating/5-things-to-think-about-before-leaving-a-relationship/ How to Trust Again After a Cheating Ex: http://theladiescoach.com/relationships-and-dating/how-to-trust-again-after-a-cheating-ex/

HIMSS 2018 - Recap by Todd S. Eury  Over 43,000+ people desended onto the Vegas Strip to attend the HIMSS 2018. HIMSS is a global voice, advisor and thought leader of health transformation through health information and technology with a unique breadth and depth of expertise and capabilities to improve the quality, safety, and efficiency of health, healthcare and care outcomes.  HOT TOPICS:  Artificial Intelligence BlockChain Technology  Precision Medicine  New Healthcare Players, Amazon, Apple  Quantitative Data Analysis - where there's a systematic approach to investigations during which numerical data is collected and/or the researcher transforms what is collected or observed into numerical data. It often describes a situation or event, answering the 'what' and 'how many' questions you may have about something. CONSUMER & PATIENT ENGAGEMENT Explore consumer- and provider-oriented tools, strategies, and technologies that engage patients and caregivers to manage a patient's healthcare and become active partners with providers and other professionals in managing their care. HIMSS designs and leverages key data assets, predictive models and tools to advise global leaders, stakeholders and influencers of best practices in health information and technology, so they have the right information at the point of decision. SXSW 2018 – Recap by Erin L. Albert, MBA, JD, PharmD New this year for virtual attendees: SXSW live streamed several, if not all their keynotes this year on Facebook. I watched Esther Perel (pronounced A-Stare Pa-rel), who's talk was entitled, The Future of Love, Lust and Listening. Her new best-selling book is new called The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. http://amzn.to/2Gkfee3 She also runs a podcast with couples therapy, and the 2nd season started during her time at SX. Join the SXSW Facebook page and you can watch keynotes for free.   Also, new for me this year – the trade show. It was broken into several different categories. It had 2 stages (discovery and next stage), and then several exhibitor pavilions – health, international, social impact, and startup village. Really cool companies there – like wethos.co – a company that's like Fiverr or 99 Designs that works for nonprofits: https://wethos.co/ Super smart cities were there for economic development. For example, Raleigh NC had a booth there, which featured small business owners who are awesome in Raleigh. Shout out to Videri Chocolate Factory, who was in the Raleigh booth. https://viderichocolatefactory.com/about-videri/starr-ratto   Also new this year: the SXSW Wellness Expo at the Palmer Events Center Exhibit hall as part of the trade show. You can check out some videos of it (including marijuana) over at Instagram. Ran the 10-th and 11th. The health and wellness information overall is included in SXSW Interactive – there's also a SXSW Music, Film and EDU portion of the March festival.   I was a mentor again this year under health and wellness. Had a lot of fascinating mentees, and we discussed a variety of topics – big data and analytics in healthcare, time management, career management/career portfolio management, and major career changes.   First off – SX attracts multipationals and generalists of the creative types in healthcare. It's really important to state that those who are attracted to SX tend to be renaissance people, and if you want to do multiple things with your career, YOU CAN, even if medicine and health care professionals want to bucket you into one category. The MSL gig came up a lot – I have a teachable course on this now. And a 57 jobs in pharmacy course. Generally, the mentors are all over the place on their careers and interests – so if you do attend SX in the future, sign up in advance for a mentoring session. Read their bios carefully and take advantage of this one on one time with them.   Thank you to Dell for hosting a women funding women session. Although I couldn't get to it with my compressed schedule, I appreciate that they had a session to help women entrepreneurs get funded with their businesses – as women entrepreneurs are grossly underfunded. Also, shout out to my friend Shwen Gwee – who ran a Health Spark 2018 Session march 11-12th for SXSW. He had topics from blockchain in health, to using chat bots, AI, machine learning, and digital wellness. I saw while I was there an interesting statistic during his “Barracuda Bowl” – where startups in health tech competed to win a cash prize – that by 2020, 85% of customer interactions will be managed through conversation WITHOUT a human!   Also on the HIT front, talked to the Founder of CareSet - https://careset.com/ – which works with Medicare claims data to help companies guide drug launches. We'll need to get Ashish on the show!   Also had a bookstore and author sessions this year. Would LOVE to see more of this in the future! You can go and meet the authors too for autographs and pictures.   Overall hot topics this year: AI, AR, blockchain, and SEO relative to video and most of all – digital voice technologies – for everything, including health.   I attended a meetup on SEO – and all the talk was about video (and how to get video to show up high on SEO rankings) and digital voice technology SEO. SX live streamed a session in one of their pavilions with interactive AI pet dogs that learn the voice and behavior of those interacting with it. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you when your partner finds your vulnerability unattractive? On this episode, we answer a letter from a listener who signs her name as “Heart Left Hanging.” Our guest for this episode is none other than renowned couples therapist and TED speaker, Esther Perel. She is the bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and the host of top Audible original series Where Should We Begin? Her newest book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, published in October 2017. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOffical on Instagram. .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS Listen to Esther’s podcast: https://www.estherperel.com/podcast Read The State of Affairs book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062322583/ Dinah Shore sings Mom’s favorite song about love being sad: https://youtu.be/GBqQsAwaaMU A book by Brené Brown about being vulnerable: http://a.co/gqeKB3A Esther’s song-inspiring TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship An Esther-inspired song: https://youtu.be/u2kBmgeeejA .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. Support Advice from Mom by supporting our sponsor: For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter discount code Pickleball30 Thanks to the Jewish Community Center of San Francisco, Stephanie Singer and Jourdan Abel, as well as Tanya Schevitz of Reboot for helping us find a space to record Esther. Additional audio engineering by Catherine Girardeau. Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. The song throughout this episode is Rebel in Motion by Scissors for Lefty. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. To see Rebecca play live, check out Love Jerks’ upcoming Bay Area show dates: www.lovejerks.com This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Why do people cheat? It’s an age-old question about a seriously taboo topic. It’s also the subject of today’s episode of Shared Secrets, in which the renowned relationship therapist Esther Perel joins me to discuss infidelity, jealousy, desire and reconciliation. In the episode, Esther, author of The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, explains the varied reasons why people stray, even from happy relationships. She tells me about the buffers that couples can develop to shield their relationship from the effects of trauma during difficult times. And we discuss how couples can recover from an infidelity in a way that leads to a more honest, deep and compassionate union than they had before.

Esther Perel has ideas for how to humor yourself on your first dates using a bit of role play. She's the host of the Audible original podcast "Where Should We Begin." You can hear Season 1 of the show on Apple Podcasts, and Season 2 is now available on Audible. She's also the author of "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity." Plus, our strangest Blind Skype Date yet, Our sponsors for this episode are Quip, Zola and BarkBox. Go to getquip.com/WHY, zola.com/why, and barkbox.com/WHY for special offers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can porn negatively impact a marriage? This week on The Science of Sex, Joe and Dr. Zhana went deeper into a rather controversial topic involving the impact that watching pornography can have on marital quality and longevity. They interviewed Dr. Samuel L. Perry, an assistant professor of sociology and religious studies at the University of Oklahoma, about two of his recent studies, both of which included nationally representative samples of married US adults that were followed over several years. One study, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, found married persons who watched porn more often in 2006 reported significantly lower levels of marital quality 6 years later in 2012, after controlling for initial levels of marital quality and other relevant factors. The second study, published in the Journal of Sex Research, found that the probability of divorce roughly doubled for married Americans who started watching porn in the 2-year period between the two survey waves, while discontinuing pornography use between survey waves was associated with a lower probability of divorce, though only for women. So not only was porn use linked to lower marital satisfaction, but also actual divorce. Read study discussed https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2017.1317709 (here). About Our Guest For more of Dr. Perry’s work, you can read his book, Growing God’s Family: The Global Orphan Care Movement and the Limits of Evangelical Activism, in which explores American evangelical activism surrounding adoption and foster care. He is currently finishing a second book on how pornography shapes the lives of American evangelicals. Don’t Miss This Week’s Foreplay… We warmed up with a little Foreplay about the latest accusations of sexual assault in the media. TV host and sports broadcaster Leeann Tweeden accused Senator Al Franken of groping her in her sleep on a 2006 USO tour, and Terry Crews publicly named Adam Venit, the high-powered talent agent, he claims groped him at an industry party. On a more positive note, Germany’s highest court ruled that the nation’s government must introduce a third gender for the categorization of people who do not identify as either male or female, or are born with ambiguous sexual anatomy. The decision by the Federal Constitutional Court means that the legislature must add the new status to all civil documents, or dispense with gender identification altogether. Read full article http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/news-life/germany-must-offer-third-gender-option-on-birth-certificates/news-story/9e5f931403003caba1d8ae0ff631d292 (here). Afterglow We closed this weeks episode with some Afterglow about infidelity. In her new book State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, Esther Perel says that since the 90s, the rate of married women who have cheated has increased by 40 per cent. The rates among men, however, have not changed. Speaking of cheating, a new study has pinpointed exactly when such behavior is most-likely to occur in a marriage. Published in the Journal of Sex Research, the data reveals women are most likely to cheat between six and ten years of being in a relationship, and men are most likely to do so after 11 years. https://globalnews.ca/news/3841833/why-women-cheat/ (Rethinking Infidelity) http://bit.ly/2zqIIGe (When is cheating likely to happen) Facebook Twitter Google+ Pinterest LinkedIn 0Shares

Psychotherapist Esther Perel wrote her first book Mating in Captivity ten years ago. Her second book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity has just been published. She joins Jenni to hear from Woman's Hour listeners about the challenges they face keeping the sexual spark alive in a long-term relationship and to give advice based on 20 years experience of talking to couples . Mismatched libidos, pain during intercourse, getting into a routine and what happens to desire when kids come along are some of the issues raised. Is it unrealistic to expect passion in a marriage? Why does the sex seem to go off even in the most loving relationships and does it really matter? Presenter: Jenni Murray Producer: Erin Riley Reporter: Abigail Hollick.

Today, women are cheating nearly as much as men. But why do we judge women more harshly than men, whether they're the cheater, the victim of the cheating who decides to stay, or the mistress? Our guest today is Esther Perel, preeminent couples and family therapist whose new book, "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity" looks at infidelity from multiple perspectives and attempts to contest some of the cultural stereotypes we hold about cheating. Also: we hear from women who say post-election politics has hurt their intimate relationships, and get Perel's advice on how to navigate this discord.

"Infidelity," Esther Perel writes in the October issue of The Atlantic, "happens in bad marriages and in good marriages. It happens even in open relationships where extramarital sex is carefully negotiated beforehand. The freedom to leave or divorce has not made cheating obsolete." Adultery is as ancient as marriage, and as contemporary relationships have evolved, Perel writes, the causes and consequences of infidelity have much to teach us about the nature of commitment.  In this conversation, Perel talks with our hosts about some of those lessons, culled from numerous sessions counseling couples as a psychotherapist. Perel is the author of Mating in Captivityand the host of "Where Should We Begin?"—an Audible original series entering its second season on October 24th. Her new book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, is now available in bookstores. Links: - "Why Happy People Cheat" (Esther Perel) - "You Need Help to Help Her" (Esther Perel, "Where Should We Begin?") - "Muto" (Matt Thompson, Snarkmarket) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's been a great week for sexism. Swedish model and artist Arvida Bystrom was threatened with rape, after she appeared in an Adidas advert with hairy legs; a senior writer at Vice's women's channel, Broadly, was fired after leaked e-mails revealed that he had been lobbying alt-right ‘media personality' Milo Yiannapoulos to bully ‘fat feminists'; and then, well, there's Harvey Weinstein. The 65-year-old American producer, considered to be one of, if not the most powerful man in Hollywood, has been fired from his own company, dumped by his wife and dispatched to ‘sex addiction rehab' (obviously) after it was sensationally revealed by The New York Times and a dizzying further array of publications, that he had sexually harassed dozens of women in Hollywood, from A-Listers such as Gwyneth Paltrow and Angelina Jolie, to journalists, assistants and models. You'll never look at a pot plant in the same way again…. How was Weinstein's behaviour tolerated, as an open secret, for so long? Why are women expected to come forward, more than men? Was he fired because he sexually harassed women - or because the public found out? And, as we discuss at length, will the demise of Harvey Weinstein finally lead to the dismantling of the systemic sexism upon which Hollywood's very foundations are built? Time can only tell. On a trivial note, did you know pesto pasta has more salt than a McDonald's burger? Pandora's happy, veggies not so much. Please do e-mail us thehighlowshow@gmail.com or tweet us @thehighlowshow if you have any thoughts on the episode. BIG NEWS! The High Low has signed a shiny new partnership with Google, in collaboration with their Google Pixel 2 Phone. To kick off the partnership, which stars in November, we are doing a live episode of The High Low at Selfridges (as part of a shiny roster of speakers including Adwoa Aboah and Riz Ahmed) in their Curiosity Rooms installation, on Friday 20th October. You can sign up for a free ticket here: https://events.withgoogle.com/curiosityrooms/ READING & LISTENING Nothing To Envy: Real Lives in North Korea, by Barbara Demick https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nothing-Envy-Lives-North-Korea/dp/184708141X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1507757675&sr=8-1&keywords=barbara+demick Gaga: Five Foot Two, on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/80196586 Uncommon Type: Some Stories, by Tom Hanks https://www.amazon.co.uk/Uncommon-Type-Stories-Tom-Hanks/dp/1785151517 Lullaby by Leila Slimani (out in January) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lullaby-Leila-Slimani/dp/0571337538/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1507757742&sr=1-1&keywords=lullaby+leila+slimani The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel https://www.amazon.co.uk/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity-anyone/dp/1473673542/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1507757760&sr=1-1&keywords=esther+perel WTF Podcast Episode 242 with Russell Brand (from 2012) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4w0U84v6ik Here's Why So Many Women Knew The Rumours About Harvey Weintein, by Anne Helen Petersen for Buzzfeed https://www.buzzfeed.com/annehelenpetersen/women-believe-other-women?utm_term=.qhOjRo5Kwb#.djKA49B3g6 Harvey Weinstein Paid Off Sexual Harassment Accusers for Decades, by Jodi Kantor and Megan Twohey for The New York Times https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/05/us/harvey-weinstein-harassment-allegations.html From Aggressive Overtures to Sexual Assault: Harvey Weinstein's Accusers Tell Their Stories, by Ronan Farrow for The New Yorker https://www.newyorker.com/news/news-desk/from-aggressive-overtures-to-sexual-assault-harvey-weinsteins-accusers-tell-their-stories Why The Weinstein Sexual-Harassment Allegations Didn't Come Out Until Now, by Rebecca Traitor for The Cut https://www.thecut.com/2017/10/why-the-weinstein-sexual-harassment-allegations-came-out-now.html See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Why do happily married couples cheat? Why does the modern egalitarian approach to marriage quash desire? Are the heightened expectations we bring to modern love combined with our pursuit of happiness directly related to infidelity? In this special rebroadcast, author and couples therapist Esther Perel tackles the topic of infidelity. Her book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity was released October 10, 2017. Perel is interviewed by Hanna Rosin, co-host of NPR’s Invisibilia. This week's recommended companion episode is "Unfinished Business with Anne-Marie Slaughter." Find it here. Follow the show on Twitter @aspenideas and Facebook at facebook.com/aspenideas. Email your comments to aspenideastogo@gmail.com.

So you’ve finally matched with someone you like on Tinder. Your chats are funny, smooth, comfortable. When you meet in person, you sit at a bar for five hours without noticing the time. “That was so fun! Let’s do this again!” “Yeah, sure!” “How about next Tuesday?” Then… radio silence. Ghosted. Or maybe the fadeaway is more subtle. You try to make plans, and they’re into it, but they’re so busy. A project needs to be finished at work, then friends are in town. Yeah, you’re being simmered. Online dating has given us a lot of new ways to get dumped. Or, you know, not. Esther Perel is our guide to this treacherous terrain. She is a renowned psychotherapist and author. Her new book is called The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, and her podcast is Where Should We Begin. She's giving us a two-part therapy session on how tech is changing romance, relationships, and our expectations of each other. So listen in, even if you’re like Manoush and met your partner over 10 years ago, when things weren’t so complicated.    

So you’ve finally matched with someone you like on Tinder. Your chats are funny, smooth, comfortable. When you meet in person, you sit at a bar for five hours without noticing the time. “That was so fun! Let’s do this again!” “Yeah, sure!” “How about next Tuesday?” Then… radio silence. Ghosted. Or maybe the fadeaway is more subtle. You try to make plans, and they’re into it, but they’re so busy. A project needs to be finished at work, then friends are in town. Yeah, you’re being simmered. Online dating has given us a lot of new ways to get dumped. Or, you know, not. Esther Perel is our guide to this treacherous terrain. She is a renowned psychotherapist and author. Her new book is called The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, and her podcast is Where Should We Begin. She's giving us a two-part therapy session on how tech is changing romance, relationships, and our expectations of each other. So listen in, even if you’re like Manoush and met your partner over 10 years ago, when things weren’t so complicated.    

So you’ve finally matched with someone you like on Tinder. Your chats are funny, smooth, comfortable. When you meet in person, you sit at a bar for five hours without noticing the time. “That was so fun! Let’s do this again!” “Yeah, sure!” “How about next Tuesday?” Then… radio silence. Ghosted. Or maybe the fadeaway is more subtle. You try to make plans, and they’re into it, but they’re so busy. A project needs to be finished at work, then friends are in town. Yeah, you’re being simmered. Online dating has given us a lot of new ways to get dumped. Or, you know, not. Esther Perel is our guide to this treacherous terrain. She is a renowned psychotherapist and author. Her new book is called The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, and her podcast is Where Should We Begin. She's giving us a two-part therapy session on how tech is changing romance, relationships, and our expectations of each other. So listen in, even if you’re like Manoush and met your partner over 10 years ago, when things weren’t so complicated.    

So you’ve finally matched with someone you like on Tinder. Your chats are funny, smooth, comfortable. When you meet in person, you sit at a bar for five hours without noticing the time. “That was so fun! Let’s do this again!” “Yeah, sure!” “How about next Tuesday?” Then… radio silence. Ghosted. Or maybe the fadeaway is more subtle. You try to make plans, and they’re into it, but they’re so busy. A project needs to be finished at work, then friends are in town. Yeah, you’re being simmered. Online dating has given us a lot of new ways to get dumped. Or, you know, not. Esther Perel is our guide to this treacherous terrain. She is a renowned psychotherapist and author. Her new book is called The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, and her podcast is Where Should We Begin. She's giving us a two-part therapy session on how tech is changing romance, relationships, and our expectations of each other. So listen in, even if you’re like Manoush and met your partner over 10 years ago, when things weren’t so complicated.    

So you’ve finally matched with someone you like on Tinder. Your chats are funny, smooth, comfortable. When you meet in person, you sit at a bar for five hours without noticing the time. “That was so fun! Let’s do this again!” “Yeah, sure!” “How about next Tuesday?” Then… radio silence. Ghosted. Or maybe the fadeaway is more subtle. You try to make plans, and they’re into it, but they’re so busy. A project needs to be finished at work, then friends are in town. Yeah, you’re being simmered. Online dating has given us a lot of new ways to get dumped. Or, you know, not. Esther Perel is our guide to this treacherous terrain. She is a renowned psychotherapist and author. Her new book is called The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, and her podcast is Where Should We Begin. She's giving us a two-part therapy session on how tech is changing romance, relationships, and our expectations of each other. So listen in, even if you’re like Manoush and met your partner over 10 years ago, when things weren’t so complicated.    

This week. we're re-releasing of our best and most popular conversations: Angie's 2018 conversation with Esther Perel.Psychotherapist Esther Perel joins Angie to talk about her latest book "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity," the provocative follow up to her New York Times best-seller "Mating in Captivity." This conversation, like Esther's book, will no doubt push some buttons and leave you questioning--and perhaps rethinking--the boundaries of your romantic relationships!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week. we're re-releasing of our best and most popular conversations: Angie's 2018 conversation with Esther Perel.Psychotherapist Esther Perel joins Angie to talk about her latest book "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity," the provocative follow up to her New York Times best-seller "Mating in Captivity." This conversation, like Esther's book, will no doubt push some buttons and leave you questioning--and perhaps rethinking--the boundaries of your romantic relationships!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy