Get Your SELF Back Podcast

Welcome to another episode of The Post-Narc Life Podcast. Today we are opening up The Vault to reveal another great episode from times past. Today's episode is all about the Top 3 Mindset Changes that my clients experience as they do the work to heal from dealing with narcissists. This is a great episode for building your foundation of healing while you go to create the incredible results you were meant to put on this earth. Today you will learn: Letting others be wrong about you Letting others have their big feelings Practicing Self-Compassion As you make these changes you will feel free from the narcissist dynamic holding you back, you will feel relief from the stress of having to prove yourself right to someone who isn't interested in the truth, and you will stop beating yourself up. You can do this. You are meant for this. I offer my support to you. DM me on Instagram to hire me as your coach to get you to the next level and beyond.

Welcome to the LDS/Christian themed episode in our rotation! Today we are tackling the most important gospel concept: The Atonement of Jesus Christ. Narcissists, even if they are believers, do not understand Atonement and use everyone else around them as their own personal Jesus to expiate their pain, suffering, and unmet emotional needs. If you have been the scapegoat of someone else's emotional problems, while at the same time being taught at church that The Savior is the one who took upon Himself our pains and afflictions, you might be dealing with some confusion. If the gospel for you was a set way of living that upheld a specific facade to keep others from judging you, this episode is for you. The sacred gospel principle of Atonement has been distorted by the narcissists in your life and today we are correcting it. May you find true peace and feel the love in the Gospel of Jesus Christ as you begin to see beyond the distortions. --Laura

Welcome to another Narcissism Recovery Basics episode in our rotation! Last week was expansive we talked about Owning your Genius. And this week we are covering Part TWO of the Big 3 Emotions that people who have survived narcissists are dealing with. The first emotion was abandonment. The one we cover today is SHAME. This one is huge and is the root of so many other difficult emotions we experience and we avoid when having had to survive a toxic situation. Shame must be faced if we are going to go out and create big things. Shame is part of what keeps you, the genius, hiding, it's part of what makes it so your success that you DO create is a miserable experience. So listen to learn more and to practice some powerful questions you can ask yourself to help you look at the shame so that you can heal the wound and move forward towards your most expansive self. I'm offering ONE free day in Voxer with me to try on my Private Mentorship. DM me on Instagram to book your spot @laurabytheway And when you're ready to get the support you want, I offer Private Mentorship for $8888 per month. We work together month to month, you stay until you feel complete or we keep going and keep upleveling. Want to try before you buy? Book your FREE day in Voxer with me to try it on. DM me on Instagram to say hi and book your spot.

Welcome to another expansive episode! Today your job is to discover and OWN your genius. Yes your genius. This means your talents, your experience, your untapped potential that no one else has quite like you. It doesn't mean you're better than anyone, it doesn't mean anyone else has to think you're a genius. It means you get to believe this about you so that your true genius grows. Listen in for how to do this and how I've done this and what you can expect when you start owning your genius. Access The Manifesting Guide of Narcissism Survivors here. I offer Private Voxer Mentorship for those who want to be done playing small. Hire me to help you stop hiding your genius and create what you want, and to help your success be stable and smooth without the guilt or shame. DM me on Instagram to book your spot.

**TW: Miscarriage, Suicide** Welcome to another BONUS episode. I have been going through some things and I needed to talk about them, not just to tell you the story but because of all the lessons I have learned going through this experience. Last week, I miscarried for the 6th time (not in a row, I do have 3 living children). With every miscarriage I have learned tremendous lessons and evolved as a person. This one is no different. What I have learned this time about trust, loss, feeling grief and understanding success has been true medicine for me and I couldn't wait to share it with you, especially how it relates to having to recover from narcissistic type relationships and using that experience to fuel the big things you are manifesting. Part of me creating my family means, at least for me, experiencing a lot of loss. Part of creating the big results I am creating in my business means integrating the losses of my life. What do your losses mean for you? Hopefully this episode will inspire you to be less afraid of the inevitable losses of life and to keep making big moves toward what you are creating. This is the work we do together. Let's build your trust on a whole new level, let's integrate your losses, and release you from the fears and wounds that are holding you back. Book your spot for Private Voxer Mentorship by sending me a DM on Instagram @laurabytheway.

Something weird happened to me this week when I went to publish the next episode. I wanted to talk about manifesting as part of the expansive episode rotation, but My Intuition redirected me. What I had written required more depth and more detail that a podcast cannot contain. So I made a CEO decision. Instead of releasing the next episode as a podcast episode, I converted it into a paid masterclass.   This masterclass is about giving you the tools to manifest in a way that is more accessible to people who have had to survive narcissists. I blew my own mind last month with what I was able to create in a short amount of time using these tools and I want you to experience this as well. I am breaking up with Zoom, which means no more live calls, all coaching and masterclasses are in Voxer and Telegram, these are free apps that allow me and my clients to drop messages and respond on our own time, because we all have busy lives, businesses, families, travel, and lots to do. Therefore Manifesting Guide for Narcissism Survivors will be in Telegram. Once you pay, you will see a confirmation page which will have the link to access the class. If you are a private client, these classes are free to you and you are automatically added. The masterclass starts on October 7th and goes to October 11th, however access to this masterclass is lifetime. So you can sign up anytime even if you're seeing this after October 7th, 2024. And for 5 days in Telegram I will drop the content of the masterclass and we will do a Q and A at the end in order to help you start implementing right away.  From now until October 7th, if you have been wanting to work with me, now is the time to sign up for Private Voxer Coaching. This offer is $997 per month, but only until October 7th. Once the masterclass starts on 10/7 the price will be $1997 per month. So if I am your dream coach, now is the time to get in on this offer, you get the masterclass for free and you get access to me right away so that you can start the process of healing and rewiring your brain to create the success in your life you are after.

Welcome to the first of the faith-based episodes! This corner of the podcast is designed for the believers. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints so the flavor and language of the content here will be with that context but I invite you to please translate my context into whatever your faith tradition is, and leave aside what doesn't resonate with you. In these episodes I am both healing myself by being more open about my faith and I'm also identifying all the ways narcissists have distorted sacred gospel principles. If you want to undistort these principles while opening yourself up to more healing and access to the love and light of Jesus Christ, these episodes are for you. Today's episode addresses the basic commandment to “honour thy father and mother.” We will cover: My religious upbringing What narcissism and religion looks like  What the commandment means according to the narc What the commandment could mean that might be healing for you How to “honor” a parent while also protecting ourselves from abuse, if that is what you want Everything you will hear is the gospel according to Laura Bytheway. These concepts, ideas and beliefs I have developed over several years of prayer, experience, my own healing and working with others, so please find the answers for yourself that works for you. This is my offering and I hope it offers healing and peace to you. Thank you for listening. As always, if you want private coaching follow me on instagram @laurabytheway DM me for your spot.

Welcome the part of the podcast where we draw from my large body of work over the last 5 years of me being life coach and working with my clients who are dealing with narcissists. This episode was one of the first episodes I ever did back in 2019. I am so proud this version of me who was so brave, so locked in, so goal oriented, and so fueled by pure belief. She really hooked me up. This is also THE most downloaded episode in the history of the podcast. My people listen to it over and over again, it's that good. So I hope you are able to connect with the concepts provided here to help you learn how to love yourself or deepen your practice. It's so good. Thank you for listening. If you want my support, find me on instagram @laurabytheway I currently offer private Voxer coaching. DM me and we will go from there. See you soon!

If you want to heal from narcissist abuse you have to be willing to face some uncomfortable emotions you may have been avoiding for a long time. In this episode I have identified 3 of the biggest emotions that typically come with surviving a narc that you need to be willing to face in order to break free and set yourself up for success. The first big emotion is Abandonment. Today you will learn all about what it is, how I moved through it, and what to replace it with so that you can heal. If you want my help 1 on 1 guiding you through this process, find me on instagram @laurabytheway and send me a DM to get started. You are a powerful manifestor. Facing these key emotions will unleash your brain to start creating what you actually want. See you soon!

Welcome to the work of treating the narc in your life as your asset. This concept is game-changing. It takes you out of the victim seat of pain and suffering and into the driver's seat of curiosity and forward momentum. The narcissist in your life is your mirror to show you exactly what is in your way that YOU can change for yourself to get you to the next level in your goals. Listen to this episode to connect with your desires, master the concept and apply it to a real-world situation. And as always, if you want my eyes your your goals, I offer private coaching via Voxer. Go to my Instagram page @laurabytheway to DM to book your slot.

We are bringing you the latest iteration of The Post-Narc Life Podcast - a place where you learn how to use the experience you have with your narcissist person in your life to propel the life of your dreams. In this episode I give you a brief introduction to the Podcast, to myself as your host, Laura Bytheway, a little bit of my story, plus everything to expect with future episodes and how to work with me. Follow me in Instagram for updates, pop-up trainings, and more - @laurabytheway If you'd like to explore working together 1 on 1, I currently offer private Voxer coaching. DM me on Instagram to get started. Your narcissist experience is one of your greatest assets. LFG.

Welcome to Part 5! This one is a little bit longer than the other ones, I have lots to say, including profound lessons I've learned that I want to share that have changed my life, and hopefully change yours for the better. Last time we talked about surrendering to reality, and today is about surrendering to the timeline. I decided to give timeline it's own episode because narcissism survivors can tend to be impatient about the timeline of their goals. This is a trauma response. But it's not a problem, because when you see it, it'll change everything. I'm also learning to apply this very lesson in real time. Listen to learn how. Ready to start working with me? Let's co-create our coaching package together. Email me at laura@bythewaycoaching.com or DM me on Instagram. Let's get going on creating your impossible goals no matter what impossible people are in your life.

Welcome back to Part 4 of Surrender to Success! Is your mind blown yet? If not, it's about to be in this one. This is where the meat of "surrender" comes in. The narcissist dynamic taught you that control equals power. The opposite is true. In this episode I will teach you the difference between control and power and how to INCREASE power while letting go of control. So you're going to surrender to your reality and this will be your superpower. I don't mean let everyone walk all over you, I mean let people make their choices and be who they are while letting go of your need for anyone or anything to be different in order to create the life you want. I'll teach you what narcissists, death and boundaries all have in common and how you can use that to your advantage. And then, get my brain on your goals. The 1:1 support day in and day out working together will keep you focused, grounded, and taking efficient action towards what you're building. We've got money to make and lives to change my friend, let's go

Welcome to Part 3! How have you been enjoying the class so far? If you want more insights as the classes roll out, join me on Instagram! I am doing lives, stories and posts that will go even deeper. This class is all about understanding that your capacity to receive what you want is in direct proportion to your capacity to FEEL both positive and negative emotions. The Narcissist Dynamic has trained you to avoid ALL negative emotions no matter what. We will undo this habit so that you can receive what you're working so hard to create. Remember, receiving things like money and healthy love, or growth and fulfillment, can only come if you have the capacity for it. You increase your capacity not by receiving more of that but by being willing to FEEL more of what you've been unwilling to feel. Your true currency is emotion and belief. Spots to work with me at end of year pricing are filling up fast so don't wait. If working with me is what you want, call in that reality by applying here.

Welcome to Part 2 of Surrender to Success! Now that we have your vision solidly in place, it's time to address what most of my narcissism survivors must face in order to clear the path to their success: The reality that both failure and success can be terrifying to your brain. This will show up as self-sabotage, shutting down, making weird decisions, and more. Surviving a narcissist means your brain changed. In this episode we take a look at how this happened and most importantly - how to clean it up. This is a process, and it's also not a problem. Some basic tools will help you manage this beautiful part of your brain. Apply for Private Mentorship so that your goals in 2024 become inevitable. You got this.

Are you ready to jump in to Surrender to Success? Great, me too. Part 1 of this class is all about VISION. Get out your pen and paper for this one. You are creating an amazing Post-Narc Life with specific results. Your vision of these results that make up your amazing life is your anchor when things get difficult. Join me in this class for a guided meditation-like connection exercise that will invite you to spiritually create in detail what you have been wanting to bring into reality. We will use gratitude, unconditional love, new beliefs and the power of your mind's eye to build your vision with full intention. Don't worry, I know that your brain has some built in narcissist-survival habits that might be getting in your way - we deal with it in this episode and the ones to come. Ready for my 1:1 mentorship on your impossible goals? Apply for Private Mentorship here.

This is The Post-Narc Life Podcast and for the rest of 2023 we will be doing a special called Surrender to Success This is a class designed for the ambitious, the entrepreneurs, the go-getters pushing to the next level... ...who happen to be dealing with narcissists. This class is for you. Designed with your specific brain in mind, one that has had to survive a highly emotionally toxic relationship. Surviving a narcissist changes your brain. Which changes how you approach your big goals. You want to do the impossible... All while dealing with an impossible person. I got you. This class will free your mind and open up your possibilities and confidence. So that you can get to the next level. It's the end of 2023 and it's time to go on a journey through self-discovery, healing, and ultimately the success you desire. Create more revenue, build your dream business, find your healthy person, create a life you love with peace, confidence, and solid self-assurance…no matter who is in your life. This will be a class over several episodes, released over the next few weeks. We are gearing up in 2023 to create an incredible 2024. Coming exclusively to the podcast, for a limited time. Make sure you're subscribed. And for my people who want my brain on your ambitious goals, I offer private coaching. Take advantage of end of year pricing. The spots will fill up fast and are very limited. Don't wait. Apply below to learn more and schedule our complementary call. Apply for Private Mentorship

Welcome to POST-NARC LIFE. You survived a narcissist. This means your brain changed. The survival habits that got you through the abuse aren't going to get you to success. We will undo those habits and replace them with ones that propel you towards the life you actually want. Welcome to the inaugural episode of the Post-Narc Life podcast.  I'm your host, Laura Bytheway. I've been there, I get it. I help you make powerful new decisions, design the vision of the life you want, and then we go after it, removing all the narcissist conditioning out of the way. My clients are men or women who have narcissist parents, in-laws, spouses, or exes, as well as those dealing with estranged adult children or addicts, and those who have been abused by narcissists in a religious or professional context. If you've survived a narcissist and you still haven't reached your goals, coaching may be the missing piece.     Get on my email list here Check out my website here --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

If you have survived a narcissist, there's a good chance that it affects how you related to money. Whether you feel like money is scarce, not enough, shameful, or out of your control, this episode is for you. Let's change your relationship to money today and watch how your money changes. To learn more, check out the training on Money Mastery for Narcissism Survivors. For 1:1 Mentorship, fill out your application here and I will contact you to book a consultation. To join my group Membership, click here. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

Remember a couple of episodes back we talked about how what you're creating is your vehicle for healing? Today we are deep diving into an example of that - specifically building a business. Listen here to hear what it actually looks like to heal AS your business is being built, plus a real life client and how she did it. If you want to build a business or you're working on yours, and you want my brain and my support while you do the work of healing while building, I would be so excited and privileged to be by your side. One year of concentrated work Voxer messaging support Weekly one hour calls Your transformation from narcissist victim to peaceful creator of wealth, gifts to the world and a legacy of healing. Spots are limited so apply for private mentorship here (complementary consultation and included) Want weekly support with peers going through the same thing? Join the Post Narc Life Membership. All calls recorded and stored on the Private Podcast Get coaching for yourself and from others in your shoes. $97 per month --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

In today's episode I share a story with you that is near and dear to my heart. It's the story of how I was on the narcissist dynamic path of survival, pain, toxicity, struggle - and how what I can only describe has Heaven - intervened to get me off that path. This showed up for me as my significant relationship - my marriage - but it's the pattern that I have used to continue to help myself and to help others. It's why I do what I do. If you see yourself on that path and you want my help in getting you to choose another one in all areas of your life, I invite you to work with me. There are two ways: If you want a 1:1 private coaching experience, where we commit to one year of consistent work, please fill out this application. Once you send it in I will contact you and we can do a 1:1 consultation to set your goals and design your experience. If you want the group experience I offer a weekly group coaching membership, you can join here: **The private coaching option includes lifetime access to the membership. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

Your big ambitious dreams and goals aren't just for fun. They aren't just for AFTER you've done the work to heal. They are the means by which you accomplish the work to heal my friend. Your goals are the vehicle. Going after your goals shows you the work in an accelerated way, making it easier, faster, and more rewarding. Don't wait to work on your goals. Use your goal to drum up everything you've been survival trained to avoid. The Certification program is in the works. Get on the email list to be notified of upcoming dates. Apply for 1:1 coaching Join the Membership --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

Survivors of narcissist abuse tend to fall into similar patterns, like the one where you never let yourself be happy. You beat yourself up for failing or for succeeding. Success is almost just as terrifying to the brain as failure. This is not a problem. Listen to learn more about how to help your brain get out of this trap. Get on the list for updates Apply for 1:1 coaching Join The Membership --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

For a long time I beat myself up for being as ambitious as I am. Not anymore. Now, I'm embracing it. What you want shows you who you are, and shows you your future, your destiny, and so much more. Don't hold yourself back, there's literally no reason why. We need you and your big dreams. Get on the email list Apply to work with me 1:1 Join the Membership --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

Welcome to Elevated: A Post Narc Life Podcast. I am a life coach working specifically with those dealing with narcissists and recovering from toxic situations, who are ambitious and ready to start creating an extraordinary life. I'm elevating myself, my life, my business, my content, and my vision for my people. And I'm taking you with me. You have permission to go after the big things. It starts with forgiveness. I used to hold this back as the crowning step of full recovery. But instead we will flip that on its head and start with the hardest part. It will skyrocket your progress and make room for SO much that you're creating. Forgive yourself. Forgive the other person. It will free you. Learn more at laurabytheway.com Apply for private coaching Join the Membership --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

Welcome to the next evolution of the Podcast. This is Elevated, a new podcast experience designed to take your coaching to the next level. New concepts, new directions, new offers. Enjoy! Check out the website here: laurabytheway.com Get on the email list here: https://mailchi.mp/bythewaycoaching.com/email-list-subscribe --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/post-narc-life/support

If you've spent decades of TRYING to be good enough and you know that you want to stop but the urge keeps coming up, this episode is for you. You'll walk away with 7 optional takeaways that will help you shift out of the urge to use your energy, time, and effort trying to prove to someone else that you measure up, or to make someone else believe something about you so that you have permission to feel like you are enough. Let's be done with that, so listen here for a few tools that may help. Email me at laura@bythewaycoaching.com Snag the PDF "5 Things Your Adult Daughter Needs You to Know" https://mailchi.mp/bythewaycoaching.com/5thingsformothers Book your consult here: bit.ly/btwconsultrequest --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

For those of us recovering from narcissists, a complicated relationship with our Moms is pretty common. In this episode I share the experience of losing my mother, some lessons I've learned and how it can apply to your complicated relationship with your mother. Trigger warning: suicide and abuse. You're invited to join me on a call where we will implement some concepts discussed in this episode in your situation. On Friday, May 13, 2022 at 12:30pm on Zoom we'll do some basic training on how to uncomplicate your relationship with your mother and then we will dive into live coaching. So do the exercise suggested in the episode and then come to call and bring your questions and get coached! Register for the class here: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZ0tcuytpj8tHtOZoabAX5cnqBJRWnV3u_Oy For the replay, sign up here: https://mailchi.mp/bythewaycoaching.com/email-list-subscribe Request a consultation for 1:1 coaching: https://bit.ly/btwconsultrequest --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Welcome back to another episode! Today I announce The Invincible Mastermind - a six month group coaching program designed to transform you into an emotionally invincible person. We kick off with a retreat in Waco, and spend the next six months working together to deal with everything in the way of becoming who you want to be. To find out more go to https://www.bythewaycoaching.com/invincible-2021. Hurry, applications close Monday night, September 13th, 2021 at 11:59pm! The deadline is to make sure we have the numbers ready for catering and other services at the retreat. If you missed the deadline but still want to be part of The Mastermind, email me at laura@bythewaycoaching.com Today Debra and I talk about her transformation from a person who was terrified all the time of other people's negative emotion. She felt responsible for all of it, and couldn't stand it if someone wasn't perfectly happy. And now, she is totally free and so much more at peace, and we walk you through exactly how she did it and what it looked like. Bonus: we do a live coaching about an unexpected unveiling of a secret narcissist in her life. You'll get to witness in real time an unrehearsed coaching about Debra's thoughts about this person and how we help her manage "the cringe" among other emotions. You can join my email list here: https://bit.ly/3thoughtboundaries You can watch The Invincible Mastermind Trainings (Parts 1 and 2) here: https://bit.ly/Invincible2replay Apply for The Invincible Mastermind here: https://tr6mfjapwa5.typeform.com/to/q9Vijvib --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

I've been gone the last few months as I've been grieving and putting myself back together after my Mom recently passed away. I talk about this before we dive into a conversation I recorded a few months ago. Inna, a current client, is dominating in her life. We talk about all the things she has overcome through our work together. More client conversations and interviews coming up as I slowly get back into the swing of things. Thanks for your patience and I hope you get some questions answered today. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Meet another one of my amazing clients, Bryan Brooks. He's an IT expert, entrepreneur, and single dad. He spent several years married to a narcissist, and even years after divorce, his life, his work, and his will to live suffered. We talk about what it was like getting coached and how his life did a complete 180 as we worked together. Interested in hiring Bryan for your IT needs: www.brooksitservices.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

This episode is a little different. Today we will be talking with a real-life client of mine, Dr. Bethany Pellow. We worked together to heal her anxiety, her need to caretake others' emotions and how all of that affected her success in her business. It's a fun, casual conversation where we touch on what it's like to be coached by me, how the coaching process helped her heal, and what she recommends to those listening. Enjoy! You can contact Dr. Bethany at drbethanypellow@gmail.com Join my email list here: https://mailchi.mp/bythewaycoaching.com/get-access-to-trainings Book a consult with me by emailing me directly at laura@bythewaycoaching.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Your space is sacred. There are several types of space that you experience. And they are all worthy of protection and respect. This episode is a new way of looking at boundaries and why it’s so important to build this important skill set. If you’ve already joined Boundary Mastery, this episode is required listening. If you haven’t joined Boundary Mastery yet, what are you waiting for? Let’s get to work so you never have to worry about how to protect your space. Join here: https://www.bythewaycoaching.com/boundary-mastery Email list: https://mailchi.mp/bythewaycoaching.com/get-access-to-trainings --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Want to know what is at the bottom of all the people-pleasing you do? Want to understand the deep pain you feel that you're constantly running away from? Enoughness is the answer. Recovering from Narcissists means that we need to re-learn how enough we really are, simply because we exist. Listen in for why we don't believe we are enough and how to learn that we are. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

It's that time of year! And dealing with narcs on holidays is no less stressful, in fact if you have narcissists in your family the holidays can be pretty tricky. Today we talk about what makes holidays so challenging, how to make decisions about how you will spend the holidays, and most importantly, how to manage yourself in the process. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season 2020! Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

It's the time of year that we traditionally pay more attention to being grateful. But when you're recovering from narcissists gratitude doesn't feel so simple or healing. This is because gratitude has been weaponized against you in various ways. In this episode we dive into all the reasons why you can't access gratitude and what to do about it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

This one tackles a specific action those of us recovering from narcissists tend to do: beating ourselves up. If you have a LOT of negative self-talk, this episode is for you. There’s a legitimate reason why you do this and there’s a way to stop. Forever. Listen to get the simple 4 step method I use and my clients use to break this habit for good. Apply these steps and watch your life change, it’s going to be amazing! Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Have you ever asked yourself this question? Maybe you've listened to a few episodes or read some of my posts and recognized yourself in the actions of the narcissist and thought "wait a second, I do that! Am I the narc?" This question as come up a lot for my clients and this episode answers it (spoiler alert: the answer is NO). We talk about why you are definitely not a narcissist AND we discuss what ELSE is the cause of some of your narcissist tendencies that you might be recognizing. Introducing: The Narc-Brain. Learn more about The Narc-Brain in the 3-Day Training we did in October 2020. Get on the email list to get access to these videos as mentioned in the episode. https://mailchi.mp/bythewaycoaching.com/get-access-to-trainings Check out my instagram page for more insights: https://www.instagram.com/laurabythewaycoaching/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

In this episode we dive into what Trauma Bonding means, if you're experiencing it, and the first steps of how to get out and heal. Trauma bonding is a powerful pull that many in narcissist relationships feel that prevents them from setting boundaries or even leaving when they want to. Learn the signs, the emotions, and how to start changing your brain so you can heal and starting building the life you actually want. Join the 3-Day Training: Break Free from Narcissism on October 20, 21, and 22 all at 9:00am CST. Register for the webinar here: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_B2CVEOFhQ0SW3utioHHRug Join my email list to get previous trainings here: https://mailchi.mp/bythewaycoaching.com/money-mindset-training --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

If you're dealing with narcissists in your life, it's likely you're investing more in them than you realize. This episode describes the three main ways you invest your most precious resources into those who never give you a return on that investment, and the first step to take to redirect those resources back to you. Investing in yourself is the best thing you can do for your life. The episode mentions my upcoming Money Mastery for Narcissist Survivors training. Get on the list to get the dates and the link! https://mailchi.mp/bythewaycoaching.com/money-mindset-training --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Learning to self-trust is tricky when recovering from narcissists. Especially after we learn that we've been self-sabotaging (see previous podcast episode). BUT what if you didn't have to wait until you do the work to heal in order to trust yourself? I tell you exactly how to do this in three simple steps that feel amazing. Also, there are two simple exercises included that you can complete that will deepen your awareness and give you some momentum in getting you on that path to self-trust starting today. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Do you ever feel like you're always in second place? That things just never work out for you? Or that toxic people are in your life all the time and there's nothing you can do about it? If so, self-sabotage is likely at play. This episode goes into what exactly self-sabotage is, why it's there, and what you can do about it. Remember, self-sabotage doesn't mean your failures are your fault. It means there are mechanisms at play that need to be dealt with and the good news is you have the power to deal with them so that you can automatically create success in your life. Hope you enjoy this episode! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Today we are examining how narcissism and your faith are connected. You might not realize it, but if you are recovering from narcissist abuse it might be affecting your relationship with God. The good news is that God is NOT a narcissist and he doesn't need you to feel guilt or live your faith so that HE can feel better. This episode is designed to heal this particular point of pain in your life so that you can have a healthy relationship with God which will empower you in all your other relationships and in every other aspect of your life. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

This episode is near and dear to my heart. Grief is one of those essential emotions for healing but it's also one of the emotions we avoid feeling the most. Narcissism in your life necessarily involves loss that if we confront and process through it will open up the way to all the healing we need to do. I break down what grief is, why we avoid it, give you lots of examples of grief, a couple from my own life as well as from clients (anonymous of course). I show you how to process grief and give you ways to manage resistance to grief. If you need to grieve, this episode is for you. I am here for you anytime. Please reach out to laura@bythewaycoaching.com and I will respond. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

You made it to the final step! Emotional resilience is the crowing achievement, the end goal (though there's never really an end, it's a practice that you gradually develop over time), the thing that will protect you from drama and emotional pain in your life. It doesn't mean you're perfect, but it does increase how much peace, joy, and confidence you feel on a daily basis. This episode closely examines exactly what emotional resilience looks like and how we develop it over time. Congratulations, you've finished the foundational work that we will be building on for the duration of the podcast. Much more is coming down the pipeline, stay tuned! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Welcome to the 4th step in the 5 step series to heal from narcissist abuse. This is the nitty gritty. The specific coaching tool I use to help my clients heal one thought at a time. In this episode we break down The Model, the simplified sophisticated tool created by Brooke Castillo, my coach. Slowing down and plugging one thought at a time in this model will create SO much healing and change in your life as you develop this practice. This episode might require you sitting down and taking notes, I promise you it’ll be worth it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Welcome to the 3rd step in healing from narcissist abuse. This is the MOST important step of them all because it is the source of all your healing. In this episode you will learn exactly what unconditional self-love looks like, what it doesn't look like, how to develop it, and you get a bonus exercise you can do TODAY to do what I do with all my clients as they develop this skill. At the end you'll here self-love affirmations that you can replay over and over so that your mind can learn how it feels to truly love yourself. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

In this step we take what we learned in Step 1: Self-Responsibility and we put it into action by setting boundaries. In this episode you'll learn all about what boundaries really are, why they are so important, and HOW to practice setting boundaries if this is something you struggle with. This is a deep dive into an essential part of your healing so don't miss it! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

This is the first step in my 5 step series to heal from narcissist abuse. Taking responsibility for yourself, your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions is a critical foundation to gaining back the control you actually have, not the control you think you have. It goes against everything you've been taught to believe, but once you master this concept, you will feel empowered like never before, and experience true freedom. Try it on and let me know how it goes. You can email me at laura@bythewaycoaching.com or tag/DM me on Instagram @laurabythewaycoaching Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

You might notice some changes in this episode! I am refining my message to reach a specific audience, those who have suffered from narcissist abuse and are ready to get themselves back. We will focus on what narcissism is, how it affects you, and my own method of recovery. Not only are we going to dive deep on these issues with new insights, concepts and tools, we will learn the skills to up-level your life! Welcome to the journey! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-yourself-back-podcast/support

Join me today as we explore why relationships can be so difficult and what to do about them. In this episode we briefly cover my 5 Steps to Peace with Anyone training. If you want to dive deeper you can sign up! The training includes 5 in depth videos to explain each concept, a companion workbook for guided application of what you'll be learning, and opportunities to be coached LIVE by me for free. Sign up at https://mailchi.mp/900b269d556c/workbook to get access to the videos, workbook and links to the call starting Monday, December 16th. Find me on Instagram @laurabythewaycoaching or on Facebook at facebook.com/laurabythewaycoaching Drop a line or leave a comment, I'd love to hear from you! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/get-your-self-back-podcast/support