Graying Rainbows Coming Out LGBT+ Later in Life

Graying Rainbows launched in November 2018. It's been an eventful three years, so this episode is a little different. It contains some advice for new listeners, reflections on lessons learned, and a brief look toward the future. Now that there are over 50 episodes I have done some re-organizing to make it easier to find certain content. The About page at grayingrainbows.com contains a partial list of episodes based on the following categories: (B) Book reviews (F) Faith related stories (POC) People of Color (T) Transgender (V) Veterans   I have also placed a complete list of all the episodes on my personal website.   Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our private group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows is a review of Billie Jean King's new autobiography "All In." I highly recommend the audio version because it is read by King and her emotions come through. King's story includes "coming out later in life." She describes the toll that the delay took on her health and happiness, as well as the new sense of freedom she discovered when she was finally out to herself and the world. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows features Gender Transition Coach Rae McDaniel. She shares her own story and her passion for helping clients of all ages. Rae's Websites: Practical Audacity Genderfck: The Club Other References: Transgender History by Susan Stryker (GR 12) Unbound: Transgender Men and the Remaking of Identity by Arlene Stiene (GR 27) Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Buy Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscioius Origins of Certainty Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows Army veteran Andre Barnhardt shares his struggle to embrace his identity as a gay man. He reminds us that despite the new more "open" policies it remains difficult to come out in a military culture.  Learn more about Andre: esinnej.com/blog/Transition Americanwoodpics.com Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode is an interview with Julie Sondra Decker, author of "The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality." Most people acknowledge that sexual orientations includes homosexuals, bisexuals, and heterosexuals, but there is actually a fourth possibility. A person who identifies as asexual does not feel sexual attraction to anyone. Unfortunately, many assume that this represents a disease when actually it is part of normal human diversity. We discuss what asexuality IS as well as what it is NOT. Asexuality is about attraction NOT behavior. Our goal is to embrace human diversity and acknowledge that each person's identity should be respected as equally valid. If the idea of asexuality is new to you, I hope you will listen to this informative interview. Links and Resources: The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker Understanding Asexuality by by Anthony F. Bogaert The Asexuality Education and Visibility Network (AVEN) at https://www.asexuality.org Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

Dr. Larry Millhoffer is a retired physician who is grateful to have been with his husband for 45 years. Over that time the meaning of "coming out" has evolved, but a pivotal time in his life was caring for the first patients with AIDS as a young physician in the early 80's. During our conversation he reflects on the challenges of caring for patients in a time of fear and uncertainty, and on how the AIDS crisis changed the LGBT community. Because our community lost so many people during this period I think it is extremely valuable to hear from those who lived through that time. As a gay physician Dr. Millhoffer brings a perspective that we don't usually get to hear. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

Retired Air Force Brig. General David Cotton shares his story of coming out LGBT+ after leaving his military career. He struggled with depression and with ending his marriage, but he shares how he learned how to embrace vulnerability and discovered new ways to connect with others. Links and Resources: Don't miss Dr. Ginger Campbell's Zoom presentation to the First Friday Breakfast Club:  https://www.ffbciowa.org/speakers/ Books: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN by Tara Brach State of Pride on YouTube Psychology Today First Friday Breakfast Club The Mankind Project Previous Guests Lauren Olson: GR 2 and GR 7 Rick Clemons: GR 4 Eric Marcus: GR 17 Deb Fowler: GR 22 Mark David Gibson: GR 23 Modern Military Association of America-- helping those who were unjustly discharged from service More links from David Cotton Announcements: Contact me at grayingrainbows@gmail.com if you would like to help others by sharing your story. Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows feature Nick Quinn who shares their experience of being non-binary in a world of rapidly changing ideas. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows we talk with writer Carren Strock about the 3rd edition of "Married Women Who Love Women, and More." Despite changing attitudes women continue to discover their attraction to other women after marriage and there are many ways to cope with the unique challenges of this dilemma. Links and References: Carren Strock's website: carrenstrock.com Twitter: @CarrenStrock Facebook Married Women Who Love Women by Carren Strock The Fifth Sacred Thing by Starhawk Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com  You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

In this episode of Graying Rainbows former minister Nathan Hall shares what happened when he was outed without warning. It is an inspiring story of strength and resilience. Recommended Reading: God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case in Support of Same-Sex Relationships by Matthew Vines UnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality by Colby Martin What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality by Daniel A. Helminiak, PhD Announcements: Mark your calendar for June 16, 2020: That's when the 2nd edition of Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty goes on sale everywhere. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Jane Fleishman, author of "The Stonewall Generation: LGBTQ Elders on Sex, Activism, and Aging." Links and References: The Stonewall Generation: LGBTQ Elders on Sex, Activism, and Aging by Jane Fleishman Jane Fleishman's website: janefleishman.com Jane's TED talk on YouTube Miss Major Griffin-Gracey movie: Miss Major David Bermudez Stonewall Veterans Association National LGBTQ Task Force: Creating Change Susan Stryker (featured in episode 12) Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com  You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Nick McKenney from the Gay Coaches Alliance. Nick came out 10 years ago when he was 63 years old and his first words for those of you who are struggling is that "it will get better." Email Dr. Campbell at grayingrainbows@gmail.com if you want to learn more about Nick's coaching. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Buy Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty from your favorite online bookseller Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features retired UK physician Tony Kaye. He shares his journey including some of the new challenges created by the COVID 19 pandemic. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty is now available both as paperback and ebook. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows features Angela Williams who shares her story of breaking free from toxic religious teachings. Her story also reminds us that coming out LGBT+ later in life is about much more than sex. Links and References: Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free by Linda Kay Klein Announcements: Mark your calendar for November 17, 2020: I will be hosting a webinar entitled Embracing Uncertainty: How to Thrive in Uncertain Times. Email me to learn more. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows listener Lou Poulain shares his story of coming out in his sixties. Books and Episodes Mentioned: GR 31 with Kristin Kalbli of the Straight Spouses Network The Gay Revolution: The Story of the Struggle  by Lillian Faderman (2016). Faderman was interviewed in GR 1. Right Side of History: 100 Years of LGBTQI Activism by Adrian Brooks  (2015). The Stonewall Reader by the New York Public Library (2019). When We Rise: My Life in the Movement  by Cleve Jones (2016). Harvey Milk: His Lives and Death by Lillian Faderman (2019). Discussed with Faderman in GR 14. Additional Links: Dan Savage's Podcast OK 2 Be LGBT-- check your podcasting app Milk  starring Sean Penn (2009). The Life and Times of Harvey Milk (documentary) 1984. Announcements: On October 17, 2020 Dr. Campbell will be speaking at the online event Centering the Margins 2020: A Summit for LGBTQ Nontheists sponsored by the LGBTQ Humanist Alliance. Click here to register. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows features my friend and fellow physician Lorena de Idiáquez Bakula. Lorena shares her story of growing up as a boy in Puru, where she attended university and medical school before moving to the United States to complete her training. It was not until she had been a successful physician for several years that she was able to transition and embrace her identity as a woman. She explains that despite the challenges she feels her life has changed for the better. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Please check out my book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty. It is intended for readers of all backgrounds and it available for many online sellers. Click here to buy an autographed copy. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Reverend Michael Crumpler who is the Director for LGBTQ and Multicultural Programs for the Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA). He shares the story of how he was able to realize his dream of being a Christian minister AFTER coming out as LGBT+. We also discuss some of the unique challenges he faced as a black man, who happens to be Gay. Links and References: Michael Crumpler Michael's UUA Blog  Moonlight: a movie about a young African American male coming of age Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty by Virginia "Ginger" Campbell, MD Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This extra episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with author and entrepreneur Jenn T Grace. Jenn is the founder of Publish Your Purpose Press and her latest book is called "House on Fire: Finding Resilience, Hope, and Purpose in the Ashes." If you have ever wanted to write a book, you won't want to miss this episode. Links and References: Jenn T Grace: https://jenntgrace.com Publish Your Purpose Press: many free resources House on Fire: Finding Resilience, Hope, and Purpose in the Ashes by Jenn T. Grace Cracked Open - Never Broken: A Memoir by Iman Gatti Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty by Virginia "Ginger" Campbell Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. Please support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

GR 38 features educator Tress Ahles who courageously shares her ongoing coming out journey, including the tension between the joys of embracing her true identity and guilt about the impact on those she loves. Links and References: To get the free Graying Rainbows Newsletter click here or text grayingrainbows to 33777. Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty by Virginia "Ginger" Campbell, MD Dr. Campbell's interview on The Out Entrepreneur with Rhodes Perry (GR 9) Look for upcoming interview on Life Un-closeted with Rick Clemons (GR 4) Announcements: Please buy the 2nd edition of Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty goes on sale everywhere. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's guest William Smith founded the long-running website gaylifeafter40.com and several related groups on Facebook. We go beyond his personal coming out story as he shares the lessons he has learned from helping other gay men come out "later in life." Although his work focuses on gay men,  these lessons can remind us all of the power of helping others.  Links and References: Gay Life After 40: http://www.gaylifeafter40.com/  The Gay Life After 40 Mastermind Summit Loren Olson: GR2 and GR 7 Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight by Loren A. Olson, MD AARP: a surprising resource for LGBT elders SAGE: supporting LGBT Elders Announcements: Mark your calendar for June 16, 2020: That's when the 2nd edition of Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty goes on sale everywhere. Get show notes automatically when you sign up for the Graying Rainbows Newsletter. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

What do you do when you love your spouse, but you discover that you are gay? In this episode of Graying Rainbows Rosemary Cianfarani shares how after struggling with anxiety and depression for decades she was able to find a place of self acceptance. Announcements: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife We are moving our private group from Facebook to Me. Listen to the episode to learn more.

In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows transformation coach Brian Gorman share the story of how he helped a younger man come out under very difficult circumstances. More about Brian Gorman: His website:  https://TransformingLives.Coach The Ten Most ImportantThings I have learned about change in 50 Years by Brian Gorman (video) Facebook Live videos Forbes Coaches Council Other Links: ACT UP: a grass-roots organization that fought for victims of AIDS-HIV Harvey Milk: a gay pioneer who advocating coming out so that people would learn that LGBT+ are everywhere. Lillian Faderman shared her new biography of Harvey Milk in GR 14.   Announcements: Please complete a brief audience survey. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

I really appreciate that Graying Rainbows listener Elana Knoppvolunteered to share her story with us this month. It is a fascinating tale self-discovery from within an orthodox Jewish Community. You will be both amazed and inspired. Announcements: Please complete a brief audience survey. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows I just started a new private invite only group on MeWe. Please email me if you want to join.

I discovered Ronni Sanlo through her long running blog series about LGBT history and I am excited to have her as a guest on Graying Rainbows. Ronni was one of many LGBT parents who lost custody of her children due to Anita Bryant's homophobic campaign in the late 1970's. She shares how her experience led her into activism and continues to influence her writing. Links and References: RonniSanlo.com GR 14: Dr. Lillian Faderman discussed her biography of Harvey Milk. This includes a discussion of Milk's pivotal role in helping bring Anita Bryant's homophobic campaign to an end. Alternate Paths: a site for mixed orientation marriages Announcements: Please complete a brief audience survey. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

In this episode we talk with retired Navy captain Eric Kearsley about his personal journey and the unique way he and his wife dealt with the fact that he is gay. Even though Kearsley "came out" publicly 15 years ago, he remains in a committed relationship with his wife. His story is an important reminder that there is no "one size fits all" way to come out LGBT+ Later in Life. Helpful Links: GAMMA: a website for gay/bi married men Husbands Out to Wives Making Mixed Orientation Marriages Work Lancaster LGBTQ+ Coalition Announcements: Please complete a brief audience survey. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. Please contact me if you are interested in sharing your story or you have suggestions for the show. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This month we have an unusual guest, Kristin Kalbli from the Straight Spouse Network Podcast. Kristin shares her own personal story and introduces us to the Straight Spouse Network, which has actually existed for 30 years. Our conversation gave me an entirely new perspective. No matter where you are in your journey I know you will find this conversation enlightening. Links and References: Straight Spouse Network Voices Podcast The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out Hardcover by William Dameron Announcements: Please complete a brief audience survey. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode is an interview with Jax Wheatley from Portland, OR. Jax shares their double coming out story, which included coming out as Lesbian in their forties before transitioning to male in their 50's. I know you will appreciate this story of courage and resilience. Announcements: Please complete a brief audience survey. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with Shelly Johnson of the podcast Latter Day Lesbians. In her podcast she shares her story and helps many other listeners who are struggling with being LGBT+ in the context of a very conservative religious community. Links and References: Latter Day Lesbians podcast Announcements: Please complete a brief audience survey. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode is a discussion of Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming Out in Later Life by Karol L. Jensen. We explore the question of why so many women do not discover their attraction to other women until after marriage. Jensen's book was published 20 years ago, but many of the cultural factors she identified remain powerful in women's lives. References: Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming Out in Later Life by Karol L. Jensen Serving in Silence by Margarethe Cammermeyer Movie starring Glenn Close Announcements: Next Episode will be on October 7, 2019 Please complete a brief audience survey. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with sociologist Arlene Stein about her fascinating book Unbound: Transgender Men and the Remaking of Identity. In Unbound Stein follows the story of four people who had so-called TOP surgery and discovers surprising diverse stories. More importantly, their stories reveal fascinating trends in how young people view their gender identities. It is thought provoking stuff for those of us coming out LGBT+ later in life. Links: Unbound: Transgender Men and the Remaking of Identity by Arlene Stein wikipedia Rutgers University Announcements: Audience Survey Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode of Graying Rainbows is a little different because Dr. Loren Olson's daughter Dr. Whitney Carlson tells us about what it was like when he came out when she was younger. I know many of you struggle with talking with children of all ages and I hope her perspective will be helpful. Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows  To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows  Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows 

In GR 25 I talk with Andrea Hewitt of the popular blog A Late in Life Lesbian Story. She share her personal story and how her blog led to a vibrant community on Facebook. (You have to listen if you want to learn how to join!) She also tells us about her newest project, which is called Coming Out Better. Links and References: A Late in Life Lesbian Story (blog) Coming Out Better (small group support) Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. If you want to learn more about coaching send me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

GR 24 is an in interview with Dr. Ikeranda Smith who teaches psychology at Atlanta Technical college and has a thriving practice as a professional coach, focusing on helping LGBT+ clients meet the challenges of coming out and beyond. Links and References: Dr. Ikeranda's website Dr. Ikeranda's amazon page The Experience of Being Unsheltered in Atlanta by Ikeranda Smith (2016 dissertation) Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Email Dr. Campbell if you are interested in learning more about coaching. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with Mark David Gibson, author of Served in Silence: The Struggle to Live Authentically. We discuss the challenges of serving in the Air Force during "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," and his consequent challenges with alcoholism. Gibson also shares how writing his memoir was an important part of his healing process. Links: and References: Served in Silence: The Struggle to Live Authentically by Mark David Gibson audiobook hardcover Visit Mark's website The Author's Journey podcast Publish Your Purpose Press Follow Mark on Amazon Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Learn more about coaching Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows  

In GR 22 Deb Fowler shares her story and tells us about her path to co-founding History Unerased, an education non-profit providing K-12 schools with the training and resources to teach a more complete story of America that contextualizes LGBT+ history within the social studies. She explains why knowledge of this history is not just important to people who identify as LGBT+, but how it helps young people from all backgrounds. Links and References: History UnErsased website Making Gay History Podcast (listen to GR 17) Bayard Rustin Lost Prophet: The Life and Times of Bayard Rustin by John D'Emilio Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

In this episode of Graying Rainbows, listener Midge Noble graciously shares her story of coming out later in life with an emphasis on the challenges of reconciling her Christian faith with being a Lesbian. Links and References: Is the Homosexual My Neighbor? A Positive Christian Response  by Letha Dawson Scanzoni and Virginia Ramey Mollenkott Midge's website: http://empoweringawakenedhearts.com/ Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows  

In this episode of Graying Rainbows I talk with Cassandra Contave and Aisha Bonner-Cozad, two researchers who are spearheading research into LGBT+ aging at the AARP. This includes their landmark Maintaining Dignity Study, which highlighted some of the unique challenges facing LGBT+ elders. Besides social isolation many fear discrimination in housing and healthcare. Since the AARP is the largest advocacy group for American Elders their role in advocating for LGBT+ elders is essential. Links and References: Cassandra Contave: National Lead Researcher at AARP: CCantave@aarp.org Dr. Nii-Quartelai Quartey:Senior Advisor and National LGBT Liaison at AARP (@drniiquartelai) Visit http://aarp.org/pride Maintaining Dignity Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight by Loren A. Olson, MD (Featured in GR 2 and GR 7) Rhodes Perry: The Out Entrepreneur (featured in GR 9) Sherrill Wayland from SAGE (GR 18) Dr. Ikeranda Smith: Psychology Professor and Coach Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Support the show via Patreon Sign up for our free newsletter Coming soon: Learn more about Dr. Campbell's new coaching practice Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode is an interview with Anne-Marie Zanzal. Anne-Marie is an ordained minister, experienced hospital and hospice chaplain, and a mother of four. She shares her later in life coming out journey and we explore how faith can be an obstacle on this path. Anne-Marie now works with other women who are coming out LGBT+ Later in Life and she is available for both individual and group counseling. This episode focuses on her personal journey, but I hope to have her on a future episode to answer listener questions about how faith impacts coming out. Please send your questions or comments to grayingrainbows@gmail.com. Links and References: https://www.annemariezanzal.com Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode of Graying Rainbows features Sherrill Wayland, Director of National Programs for SAGE USA, a key advocacy group that works to improve conditions for LGBT+ elders. Problems of concern include social isolation and access to housing and healthcare. In some parts of the country LGBT+ elders are being forced back into the closet due to religious discrimination masquerading as religious freedom. We also talk about  the National Resource Center on LGBT Aging, which provides resources for both elders and their care givers. Links and References: SAGE USA Celebrating 40 years of SAGE National Resource Center on LGBT Aging Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode features writer and podcaster Eric Marcus from Making Gay History, which is a unique podcast because it features audio from original Marcus recordings did back in 1989. These recording formed the basis of his highly respected oral history Making Gay History: The Half Century Fight for Lesbian and Gay Equal Rights. However, even if you have read the book you won't want to miss hearing the voices of these LGBT+ pioneers. Links and References: Making Gay History: The Half Century Fight for Lesbian and Gay Equal Rights by Eric Marcus (1992) Episodes of Making Gay History podcast that we discuss: Ellen Degeneres Evelyn Hooker Hal Call Dick Leitsch Edith Eyde (aka Lisa Ben) Edith's Gay Gals Mix Tape Jeanne and Morty Manford of PFLAG Damien Martin and Emery Hetrick (Founders of SAGE) Magnus Hirschfeld Slyvia Rivera (Part 1 and Part 2) Frank Kameny If your podcast app doesn't support live links, just go to http://makinggayhistory.com and search for the person that interests you. These show notes include lots of extra information and photos that you won't want to miss. Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This episode is an interview with my friend Jody Cole, founder of Wild Rainbow African Safaris. We first met back in 2013 when a fan of my Brain Science podcast invited me to go on safari in South Africa. Jody was the only American guide, but she also happened to be from my current home town of Birmingham, AL. In this episodes she shares both her coming out story and how she became a certified safari guide. We learn how she made peace with her father after many years and what makes Wild Rainbow African Safaris a special company. Links: Wild Rainbow African Safaris website: https://wildrainbowsafaris.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WildRainbowAfricanSafaris Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

In this episode Dr. Ginger Campbell explores the pros and cons of coming out LGBT+ at this particular moment in history. We consider the unique challenges facing those who are coming out "Later in Life" along with the unique opportunities this choice represents. The decision to come out is both personal and political, but Dr. Campbell argues that coming out at this particular time includes taking a stand against hatred and bigotry. Links and References: Visit the Graying Rainbows website: http://grayingrainbows.com Recommended podcast: Queerology: a podcast about Belief and Being with Matthias Roberts. Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

In GR 14 historian Lillian Faderman shares some highlights from her latest book Harvey Milk: His Lives and Death. Milk was the first openly gay man elected to public office, but unfortunately he was assassinated in 1978, after less than a year in office. We discuss some of the highlights of his short career and explore why many consider him the Martin Luther King of the fight for LGBT Civil Rights. Links and References: Harvey Milk: His Lives and Death by Lillian Faderman The Mayor of Castro Street: The Life and Times of Harvey Milk Paperback (2008) by Randy Shilts Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

This is an interview with Warren Blumenfeld, veteran of the early fight for LGBT rights and author of The What, the So What, and the Now What of Social Justice Education and other books about social justice.   Links and References: The What, the So What, and the Now What of Social Justice Education by Warren J Blumenfeld Mattachine Society Daughters of Bilitis Gay Liberation Front Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows Send email feedback to grayingrainbows@gmail.com.

Graying Rainbows Episode 12 is an interview with respected LGBT+ historian Dr. Susan Stryker. Her book "Transgender History" is very highly regarded and brings a valuable perspective to an aspect of LGBT+ history that has been largely invisible. Although she focuses on what happened in the United States after WW2, Stryker also reflects on how Transgender people have been treated by both Feminists and the larger LGBT+ community. The story is eye-opening and full of lessons for us all. Links and References: Susan Stryker, PhD (University of Arizona) Transgender History: The Roots of Today's Revolution by Susan Stryker Screaming Queens: The Riot at Compton's Cafeteria, directed by Victor Silverman and Susan Stryker (Amazon Prime, DVD) Announcements: Send me feedback at grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. IMPORTANT: Graying Rainbows is going to every other Monday so the next episode will come out on February 18, To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Social Media Links: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

Episode 11 of Graying Rainbows is an interview with Wes Enos, founder and Executive Director of The Generations Project, a non-profit that nurtures community via LIVE intergenerational storytelling events. Click here to learn more about The Generations Project. Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

Episode 10 of Graying Rainbows is an interview with Carren Strock author of Married Women Who Love Women. Since I actually read this book back in the 90's I am looking forward to her publication of the 3rd edition. Strock shares her own journey and how it led her to write this very unusual book. Links and References: Carren Strock's author page on Amazon Married Women Who Love Women (2nd Ed) by Carren Strock Tangled Ribbons by Carren Strock Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows   Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows      

This episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with Rhodes Perry, author of Belonging At Work: Everyday Actions You Can Take to Cultivate an Inclusive Organization. Human beings are wired to be social, which means feeling like we belong is actually essential to our physical and emotional health. In this interview we discuss some of the obstacles to "Belonging at Work" and practical steps toward improvement. Rhodes also shares the Platinum Rule: Treating others like THEY want to be treated, which I think should be applied in all aspects of our life. Please join me for this thought provoking conversation and check out Rhodes' excellent podcast, The Out Entrepreneur. Links and References: Belonging At Work: Everyday Actions You Can Take to Cultivate an Inclusive Organization by Rhodes Perry The Out Entrepreneur (one of my favorite podcasts) Project Implicit (free tests to uncover unconscious bias) Targeted Universalism Send me feedback at grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. Social Media Links: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

In episode 8 of Graying Rainbows I talk with Nicole Rennix, who is a therapist in Napa Valley, California. Her personal story reminds us that coming out is always an ongoing process that begins with self-acceptance. I also talk briefly about my long-running podcast Brain Science and reflect on the different challenge of trying to build a Graying Rainbows community. I would love to hear what you think about this episode. Write to me at grayingrainbows@gmail.com or record voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. Links and References: Nicole Rennix Gaylesta: the Psychotherapist Association for Gender and Sexual Diversity Pacific Center for Human Growth Married Women Who Love Women by Carren Strock (will be on Graying Rainbows soon.   Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR http://twitter.com/GrayingR Like Our Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Join Our Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

Episode 7 of Graying Rainbows is a discussion with the author of Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight. Loren A. Olson, MD shares more of his own story and we explore the significant challenges facing LGBT+. Some elders are going back into the closet in an effort to avoid discrimination in housing and healthcare. It is a sobering look an issue that could affect everyone. What do you think? Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or leave voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis.    Links and References: SageUSA.org The Boys of Boise: Furor, Vice and Folly in an American City by John G. Gerassi Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight by Loren A. Olson, MD Gay and Lesbian Medical Association Association of LGBTQ Psychiatrists   Social Media links: Twitter: @GrayingR http://twitter.com/GrayingR Like Our Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Join Our Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows    

In Episode 6 of Graying Rainbows, host Dr. Ginger Campbell shares her personal story of coming out at age 60. This occurred after the unexpected death of her husband of 38 years. She also shares her hopes and dreams for Graying Rainbows. We need your feedback and suggestions. You can write to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or leave voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis.  Please visit our Facebook page and consider leaving a review in iTunes. Graying Rainbows will resume weekly production on December 31, 2018.