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In this week's episode of the 3 Pillars Podcast we will be introducing the Seventh Stage of the Hero's Journey: Approaching the Cave. What is it, what are it's characteristics and how can we apply our Christian faith and fitness to navigate our story?SUBSCRIBE TO THE NEW PODCAST CHANNEL HERE: https://www.youtube.com/@3PillarsPodcast God bless you all. Jesus is King. “But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭5‬:‭8‬ ‭KJV‬‬ I appreciate all the comments, topic suggestions, and shares! Find the "3 Pillars Podcast" on all major platforms. For more information, visit the 3 Pillars Podcast website: https://3pillarspodcast.com/Don't forget to check out the 3 Pillars Podcast on Goodpods and share your thoughts by leaving a rating and review: https://goodpods.app.link/3X02e8nmIub Please Support Veteran's For Child Rescue: https://vets4childrescue.org/ Stay connected with Joe Russiello and the "Sword of the Spirit" Podcast: https://www.swordofthespiritpodcast.com/ Join the conversation: #3pillarspodcast ReferencesCampbell, Joseph. The Hero with a Thousand Faces. Princeton University Press, 1949.Lewis, C.S. Mere Christianity. HarperOne, 1952.Tolkien, J.R.R. The Lord of the Rings. Allen & Unwin, 1954.Brown, Brené. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Gotham Books, 2012.Holy Bible, New International Version.

In this week's episode of the 3 Pillars Podcast we will be introducing the First Stage of the Hero's Journey, the Ordinary World. What is it, what are it's characteristics and how can we apply our Christian faith and fitness to navigate our story? SUBSCRIBE TO THE NEW PODCAST CHANNEL HERE: https://www.youtube.com/@3PillarsPodcast God bless you all. Jesus is King. “But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭5‬:‭8‬ ‭KJV‬‬ I appreciate all the comments, topic suggestions, and shares! Find the "3 Pillars Podcast" on all major platforms. For more information, visit the 3 Pillars Podcast website: https://3pillarspodcast.wordpress.com/ Don't forget to check out the 3 Pillars Podcast on Goodpods and share your thoughts by leaving a rating and review: https://goodpods.app.link/3X02e8nmIub Please Support Veteran's For Child Rescue: https://vets4childrescue.org/ Stay connected with Joe Russiello and the "Sword of the Spirit" Podcast: https://www.swordofthespiritpodcast.com/ Join the conversation: #3pillarspodcast References 1) Campbell, J. (1949). The Hero with a Thousand Faces. Princeton University Press. 2) The Holy Bible, New International Version (NIV). 3) Vogler, C. (2007). The Writer's Journey: Mythic Structure for Writers. Michael Wiese Productions. 4) Csikszentmihalyi, M. (1990). Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience. Harper & Row. 5) Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Gotham Books. #podcast #herosjourney

When was the last time you felt truly moved by something you saw or heard?It could be a piece of art or music, a line from a book or poem, being with someone you love, or even a perfect bite of food, but those moments that stop us in our tracks are more than fleeting pleasures.These “glimmers” create space for our bodies to exhale so that we can experience wonder, awe, and joy.Learning to recognize and lean into these moments isn't just about respite from the hard things; they help us navigate challenging times by reminding us that humans need connection, creativity, and hope. Today's guest is a multi-disciplinary artist whose work invites us into a world of creativity and intention. It is a testament to the necessity of nurturing creativity and wonder, and what's possible when we follow their pull as allies in our journey to love and lead with boldness and integrity.Amanda Jones is an artist, poet, and filmmaker living and working in the northern beaches of Sydney Australia. Amanda studied ‘Contemporary dance and choreography' at the School of Creative Arts and ‘Styling and creative direction' at Whitehouse Fashion Institute. She founded her film production company One Minute Film in 2015 working with clients such as The Iconic, Nimble Activewear, and Barre Body. In 2021 Amanda published her first book Diary of a Freelancer, its success shifted her work into her full-time art practice. Listen to the full episode to hear:How early experiences at the intersection of creativity and commerce shaped Amanda's career trajectoryHow Amanda realized that some pieces of her journals were meant to be sharedWhy her journaling practice is vital to both her personal life and her work lifeHow Amanda approached self-publishing her book to make it a piece of art and embrace its mistakesHow balancing play and discipline as she takes on a new medium helps Amanda combat imposter syndromeHow Amanda protects her creativity and imagination despite our challenging worldLearn more about Amanda Jones:WebsiteInstagram: @amanda______jonesDiary of a FreelancerLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, Brené BrownThe Artist's Way, Julia CameronThe Name of the Wind, Patrick RothfussBleachers - Tiny MovesDrops of GodSeinfeld

This week we are re-releasing a classic episode from the Go Help Yourself archives! In this episode, originally released in 2019, Misty and Lisa review the #1 New York Times Bestseller Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead by Brené Brown.Brené Brown is an American research professor in The Graduate College of Social Work at the University of Houston. She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, and is the author of five #1 New York Times best sellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, and her latest book, Dare to Lead, which is the culmination of a seven-year study on courage and leadership.Brown's 2010 TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world, with over 35 million views. You can watch it here.Lisa and Misty cover every chapter in this Daring Greatly Book Review, but spend most of their time on the first four:Scarcity: Looking Inside Our Culture of “Never Enough”Debunking The Vulnerability MythsUnderstanding and Combating ShameThe Vulnerability ArmoryMind The Gap: Cultivating Change and Closing the Disengagement DivideDisruptive Engagement: Daring to Rehumanize Education and WorkWholehearted Parenting: Daring to Be the Adults We Want Our Children to BeIf you like what you're hearing, you can purchase the book here.You can visit Brené Brown's website here!Watch her TED talk here.And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Go Help Yourself! E-mail us at gohelpyourselfpodcast@gmail.com if you'd like to get in touch. Thanks for listening!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Humans tend to crave certainty. In the face of the unknown, we rely on prescriptions and narratives to help us feel better and make sense of what we can't yet see coming.For many, sitting with uncertainty like what we are facing now, post-election in the United States, is deeply unsettling and even destabilizing. They brace for what might come next, anxious and ruminating, and looking for answers. It's a natural human response, but it can also leave us stuck in a loop that offers no comfort, only more fear and anxiety.People will look to the leaders around them for comfort and for answers. And while you may not be able to provide the definitive answers anyone seeks, you can help those you lead and love feel supported and grounded as we all navigate these difficult times.Today, I'm sharing strategies, practices, and thoughts that can help us move through uncertainty, for ourselves and the ones we love and lead.Listen to the full episode to hear:How and why to establish “certainty anchors” for those you leadWhy an honest, compassionate presence is more beneficial than pretending you have all the answersWhy we need to balance courage and comfort, and the fine line between caring and caretakingWhy finding grounding routines is essential, no matter how small or scrappy or imperfectHow claiming your personal power and agency will help you feel less stuckHow we build trust and resilience in our relationships amidst uncertaintyLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaFollow the Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, Brené BrownEP 114: Why Bother? Navigating Burnout and Rediscovering Purpose with Jennifer LoudenEP 88: Right-Use-of-Power: Navigating Leadership Dynamics with Dr. Cedar BarstowDiary of a Freelancer, Amanda JonesHope, Despair, and Wellbeing Intelligence - by Jen FisherEP 117: Rethinking Resilience: Moving from Bouncing Back to Relational Resilience with Soraya ChemalyEP 113:  Curiosity as a Bridge: Uncovering Fears and Building Connections with Scott Shigeoka

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 03:00:00 +0000 https://campusgefluester.podigee.io/38-neue-episode f5fa8c724a81adbc257ce1b187752887 Von der Manie in die Depression: Wenn die Gefühle Achterbahn fahren In dieser Episode gibt uns Adrian einen offenen Einblick in sein Leben mit bipolarer Störung. Er erzählt, wie er mit 18 anfing, sein Leben infrage zu stellen und dabei die Kontrolle über sich selbst und seine Gefühle verlor. Euphorie, Schlaflosigkeit und ein pausenloses Unterwegssein: Irgendwann konnte sein Körper nicht mehr mit seinen Gedanken mithalten und er musste zum ersten Mal in die Klinik. Und dann? Adrian spricht in der neuen Campusgeflüster-Folge über die intensiven Phasen von Manie und Depression, wie er gelernt hat, die Anzeichen früh zu erkennen, und wie er es schafft, sich vor neuen Episoden zu schützen. Mit viel Offenheit erklärt er, warum es für ihn Jahre dauerte, seine Störung zu akzeptieren, und welche Rolle Psychotherapie und radikale Akzeptanz dabei spielen. Wenn du mehr über mentale Gesundheit erfahren möchtest und wissen willst, wie es sich anfühlt, mit einer bipolaren Störung zu leben, solltest du diese Folge nicht verpassen.

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"How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead"

Meme(s): Meme - "So it is a picture of Morpheus from The Matrix. So, hopefully, everybody has seen The Matrix. It's a fantastic movie. And it says, 'What if I told you eating quote unquote healthy isn't always conducive to a healthy relationship with food or one's mind and body?'"Join our Facebook group to be part of the conversation and view the meme for this episode or you can follow us on Instagram @memesmetaphorsandmagic. Learn more about your personal year number with this free resource!This episode's ad: Check out the Shamanic Practitioner Program... enrollment ends June 15th! https://healthwellnessandintuitiveguidance.com/pages/shamanic-practitioner-programMetaphors:EITHER/OR THINKING IS BLACK OR WHITE.COMPLEXITY IS GRAY.LIFE ISN'T ABOUT THE DESTINATION; LIFE IS ABOUT THE JOURNEY. / LIFE IS A JOURNEY.Kintsugi pottery - BROKEN AND MENDED POTTERY PIECES ARE BEAUTIFUL IN THEIR BROKENESS AS ARE HUMANS BEAUTIFUL IN THEIR BROKENNESS.Underlying, or primary, metaphors:MORALITY IS CLEANLINESS.IMPORTANCE IS SIZE/VOLUME.IMPORTANCE IS MASS/WEIGHT.DIFFICULTIES/BURDENS ARE HEAVINESS. MORE/POSITIVE/BETTER IS UP.DESIRE/NEED IS HUNGER.AFFECTION IS WARMTH. EMOTIONAL INTIMACY IS PROXIMITY. PURPOSES ARE DESTINATIONS.Magic:11 Soul Urge Number (Numerology)4 Lifepath Number (Numerology)9 Expression Number (Numerology)Support and Connect with Alana!Follow Alana on Instagram @freedomwithfoodandfitnessVisit Alana's website!Buy Alana's book! Pop Culture:The MatrixResources:Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love. Parent, and Lead by Brené BrownSelf-Compassion by Kristin NeffWomen Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything by Geneen RothAuthoring Your Life: Developing Your Internal Voice to Navigate Life's Challenges  by Marcia Baxter MagoldaEmpathy Cards by Emily McDowellFoundations of Meaning: Primary Metaphors and Primary Scenes by Joseph Grady

En este episodio reflexiono un poco sobre esa línea fina entre querer mejorar y crecimiento personal vs tener baja autoestima.   Te cuento un poco de donde me vino esa cuestionante y algunas cosas que estoy empezando a hacer para trabajar mi autoestima.Te dejo los libros y podcasts mencionados en el episodio:Libros:"The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden"Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself" by Kristin Neff"Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" by Brené Brown"The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt" by Russ Harris"Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" by Carol S. DweckPodcasts:The Self Esteem PodcastThe Confidence Chronicles PodcastThe Mindset MentorThe School of Greatness with Lewis HowesThe Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie SantosSi quieres emprender conmigo y ser parte de mi equipo, entra a www.soulfullinc.com/emprende-conmigo. Ahí tienes toda la información y si quieres podemos tener una llamada para aclarar las dudas que puedas tener.IG y Tiktok: @soulfull.inc

Are you feeling opposition within your world? The person you personify might be feeling internal obstacles because of external views and current real-life challenges. You might even be feeling and noticing resistance more than ever before? Let's get honest and talk about it! Here… in this strong 15- minute space… we invite you to pause, to breathe, to listen, and to grow! What if you put aside pain and shame? What if you came from the mindset of societal pressures enhancing your well-being, instead of inhibiting your welfare and happiness? In this discussion we cultivate new tools to overcome self and social acceptance within a world that can be detrimental to our personal growth. Prepare for opposition with a new lens of support, look toward building resilience without fear and doubt! Explore strategies toward a healthy mindset with intention toward noticing and removing judgement within and from others. In this episode Jess & Mary uncover secrets that you can apply in your own life. So, tune in and join us as we embark on this journey of accepting opposition from LOVE! Please be with us in future monthly upcoming episodes. We would love to hear from you. Please rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast for more empowering content. Share with those who might benefit! Connect with us through social media! Podcast Resources: 1. Brene Brown “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Parent, and Lead” – Brene Brown

Are you feeling opposition within your world? The person you personify might be feeling internal obstacles because of external views and current real-life challenges. You might even be feeling and noticing resistance more than ever before? Let's get honest and talk about it! Here… in this strong 15- minute space… we invite you to pause, to breathe, to listen, and to grow! What if you put aside pain and shame? What if you came from the mindset of societal pressures enhancing your well-being, instead of inhibiting your welfare and happiness? In this discussion we cultivate new tools to overcome self and social acceptance within a world that can be detrimental to our personal growth. Prepare for opposition with a new lens of support, look toward building resilience without fear and doubt! Explore strategies toward a healthy mindset with intention toward noticing and removing judgement within and from others. In this episode Jess & Mary uncover secrets that you can apply in your own life. So, tune in and join us as we embark on this journey of accepting opposition from LOVE! Please be with us in future monthly upcoming episodes. We would love to hear from you. Please rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast for more empowering content. Share with those who might benefit! Connect with us through social media! Podcast Resources: 1. Brene Brown “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Parent, and Lead” – Brene Brown

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown (2012)

Do you feel frustrated by recurring struggles with self-doubt, hypervigilance, and overwhelm?Behind many of your inner doubts, self-judgements, fears, and insecurities lie echoes from old betrayals or relational hurts.These breaches of trust in important relationships don't necessarily lose their impact on how you lead and work just because they happened a long time ago.So when you're doing something new or high stakes, or there's an experience in a relationship at work or in your personal life, or you respond to a collective trauma that taps the echoes of your old wound, it can bring up old ways of responding or old patterns that impact how you honor your boundaries and values. And the expectation that you should ‘be over this by now' when you are human and working with others adds to your stress and frustration.But the reality is that healing from relational wounds and betrayal traumas often comes in stages and seasons, and you may need support along the way.Deran Young is a licensed therapist, New York Times Best-Selling Author, former military mental health officer, and the founder of Black Therapists Rock. This nonprofit organization mobilizes over 30,000 mental health professionals committed to reducing the psychological impact of systemic oppression and intergenerational trauma.She obtained her social work degree from the University of Texas, where she studied abroad in Ghana, West Africa for two semesters, creating a high school counseling center for under-resourced students. She is a highly sought-after diversity and inclusion consultant working with companies like Facebook, Linked In, Field Trip Health, and YWCA. Deran has become a leading influencer and public figure committed to spreading mental health awareness and improving health equity.Listen to the full episode to hear:The importance of learning to recognize the cultural and familial legacy burdens that impact usHow shame and an inability to be vulnerable shut down speaking the truth about cultural and personal historiesHow early relational trauma can lead people to feeling out of place, not just at home, but in the world at largeWhy our earliest experiences with our caregivers have such a deep impact on our relationships later in lifeThe lasting impact of the roles we take on as children in dysfunctional families in how we lead ourselves and othersHow cultural expectations and perfectionism can dehumanize mothers and leadersThe potential for psychedelic-assisted therapy to change our relationships with our burdensLearn more about Deran Young:Black Therapists RockInstagram: @blacktherapistsrockTikTok: @blacktherapistsrockBlack Therapists Rock Facebook GroupFollow Deran on FacebookLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional FamiliesThe Happiest Baby on the Block: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer, Harvey KarpThe Gifts of Imperfection, Brené BrownDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, Brené BrownRage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, Soraya ChemalyEP 73: The Potential of Psychedelics to Help and Heal with Victor CabralWhole Brain Living: The Anatomy of Choice and the Four Characters That Drive Our Life, Jill Bolte TaylorBeyoncé - COZYElemental

What if your spiritual awakening is just about to happen? In today's episode, the amazing Kelly Bowker joins us to share her awakening story, a testament to the collective enlightenment the world started manifesting a couple of years ago. Married to her beloved husband since she was 18, living within five miles of the same place, and finding joy as a registered nurse and teacher, Kelly's life was as simple and "ordinary" as any other. Yet one day, near her sixtieth birthday, Kelly channeled her guides for the first time. A couple of months later, she performed her first mediumship reading, and three months after that, she was blessed with Light Language. Throughout this episode, you'll hear about Kelly's unique awakening story, the effects her rapid spiritual growth had on her personal and professional life, and why she is convinced we all are channels. Kelly also talks about when her guides gave her a script that helped her contact a friend's daughter, energy healing, and Light Language. Additionally, Kelly channels her guides and answers Ashley's questions, shares one of her biggest epiphanies, talks about the 6-point meditation she loves using, and much more.Tune in to Episode 204 of Uncover Your Magic and learn more about Kelly's fascinating awakening story.In This Episode, You Will Learn:How it all started for Kelly (13:40)The feeling of unhappiness that ended up awakening Kelly's gifts (19:20)How Kelly's guides helped her contact her friend's daughter (24:50)There is no greater purpose than loving our own beingness (36:10)Kelly talks about how Light Language started for her (42:20)Kelly channels her guides! (52:20)Resources Mentioned:Book: Brené Brown - Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and LeadBook: Kelly Bowker - Establishing Your Frequency: The Guides And Angels Give Practical Advice On Creating Your Best LifeBook: Kelly Bowker - ReDefining Faith: A woman's journey from wounded to awakenedConnect with Kelly:WebsiteYouTubeInstagramFacebookLet's Connect!WebsiteFacebookInstagramKeywords: Channeling - Light Language - Spiritual Awakening Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dan Bolen - at age 70 he came out as gay, was kicked out of his church and ended his second marriage Summary Dan Bolen shares his journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a gay man after living a life of denial and fear. He discusses the challenges he faced in a restrictive religious community and the fear of losing his family and friends. Dan's story highlights the importance of being honest with oneself and embracing authenticity. He emphasizes the power of finding a supportive community and having a voice. Dan's memoir and podcast serve as a source of inspiration and empowerment for others on a similar journey. Takeaways Be honest with yourself and define who you are.Don't look for someone outside of you to define who you are.Finding a supportive community is crucial for self-acceptance.Having a voice and embracing authenticity are empowering.Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background01:02 Realizing Difference and Fear of Rejection03:17 Burying and Denying One's True Self04:13 Marriage and Denial of Sexuality05:38 Disfellowshiped and Shunned by the Church07:30 Accepting Bisexuality as a Coping Mechanism08:55 Accepting and Embracing Authentic Self 10:07 Coming Out and the Lowest Point11:02 First Experience with a Man and Validation12:29 Divorce and Finding a New Community15:17 Defining Self and Having a Voice24:21 Being Honest with Yourself27:32 Advice for Those Questioning Their Sexuality29:06 Reflection and Impact Dan Bolen's Memoir: The Courage to be Courageous: https://a.co/d/6x7yl0r Dan Bolen's Website: https://danbolen.com/Book Recommendation: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown. https://a.co/d/ah7pXuT Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/Axp2j_lgVMM Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com

We are starting a new series called “Word of the Month.” In this series Jan will pick one word for each month to focus on as a way to grow and challenge herself and her listeners. This month Jan is focusing on fearlessness. In this episode she openly discusses her own fear that stemmed from the brainwashing and sexual abuse she experienced as a tween/teen.  She emphasizes that fearlessness does not mean eliminating all fear from our lives, but rather shifting our relationship with fear and learning to navigate it more effectively. Jan shares personal experiences and challenges listeners to practice fearlessness in various aspects of their lives, such as sharing their stories, standing up for themselves, and speaking out against injustice. She encourages listeners to cultivate courage, hope, and authenticity, and to choose hope over fear. In closing, Jan highlights the importance of living in the present moment and letting go of guilt and shame.If you're on a journey to embrace fearlessness and want to share your experience with us, please send an email to janbrobergshow@gmail.com. Your story could be featured anonymously on an upcoming episode of our "Word of the Month" podcast.Books/Albums/Articles Jan referred too: Taylor Swift from her album FearlessMaya Angelou: Quote is from “Letter to My Daughter"Brene Brown: Quote is from “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way we Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.” Psychology today: From Fear to Fearlessness Eckhardt Tolle: The Power of NowSusan Jeffers PhD: Feel the Fear and Do it AnywayIf you are someone you know is experiencing emotional distress or suicidal ideation, please access the resources below:National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988National Sexual Assault Hotline  (RAINN) : 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)National Alliance for Mental Illness: 1-800-950-6264Subscribe / Support / Contact:

In this special episode, we're joined by Michelle Breitenbach, founder of Read to Rewire, for a conversation about tutoring online. Michelle Breitenbach is an enthusiastic and dynamic tutor and coach. Hailing from Boston, Massachusetts, she is a certified dyslexia practitioner. After 7 years as a special educator, she founded Read to Rewire in Miami, Florida. Michelle provides online support as a private educator and offers coaching to teachers worldwide. Her passion lies in teaching others how to replicate the in-person experience online to “reach and teach” kids with/ dyslexia globally —especially those without access. Her interactive webinars and coaching focus on enhancing student engagement, embracing multisensory methods, minimizing tech reliance for successful online lessons, teaching online with ease, and setting up private tutoring businesses. She also knows how to establish effective behavior systems. Connect with our guest, Michelle Breitenbach! Visit Read to Rewire and find her on Instagram and Facebook. Resources mentioned in this episode: Goodnotes Fathom Note Taking Zoom Word List Builder 2.12 Bringing Handwriting Into Our Literacy Instruction Wilson Reading System instructor manual Free to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less by Michael Hyatt Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown Tutor and Close the Computer: Become a Stand-Out Dyslexia Tutor - FREE masterclass From Teacher to Online - FREE guide We officially have merch! Show your love for the Together in Literacy podcast! If you like this episode, please take a few minutes to rate, review, and subscribe. Your support and encouragement are so appreciated! Have a question you'd like us to cover in a future episode of Together in Literacy? Email us at support@togetherinliteracy.com! If you'd like more from Together in Literacy, you can check out our website, Together in Literacy, or follow us on Facebook and Instagram. For more from Emily, check out The Literacy Nest. For more from Casey, check out The Dyslexia Classroom. We're currently looking for guests and sponsors for season 3 of the Together in Literacy Podcast! Thank you for listening and joining us in this exciting and educational journey into dyslexia as we come together in literacy!

In this episode, we welcomed back the incredible Stéphanie Bergot for an encore presentation. Stéphanie, a coach with a fascinating background in applied neuroscience coaching and cultural business management, joined me to delve into the complexities of fear, anxiety, and the crucial role courage plays in achieving our goals. We dove deep into the persistent grip of fear and anxiety, examining their evolutionary roots and the courageous mindset needed to overcome these barriers. Stéphanie shared invaluable insights on managing anxiety, taking the initial steps towards our aspirations, and the significance of sharing experiences on the journey to fulfillment. Tune in to gain a greater understanding of the power of courage and the detrimental effects of fear and anxiety on our lives. Join us on this enlightening journey as we uncover strategies for facing our fears and chasing fulfillment. For more episodes of The Remarkable Coach and to connect with Stéphanie, visit our website and follow her on social media. Let's keep the conversation going! A bit about Stéphanie:Holding a degree in applied neuroscience coaching, and a master's degree in cultural business management, Stéphanie Bergot has been a potential catalyst for more than a decade. She has supported many individuals and businesses in achieving their goals. Stephanie's goal is that every person can bring the best of herself to the role that suits her. Where to find Stéphanie: Website: https://catalyseurdepotentiel.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-bergot/ Other Links:https://www.facebook.com/stephbergot https://www.instagram.com/catalyseurdepotentiel_sb/ Books Mentioned:“Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead” by Brené Brown “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. “Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance” by Angela Duckworth

How are you doing?  Honestly. What is the pace of your day? What do you long for and feel you are missing out on? What activities have you crammed in your life out of a “should” mentality? When do you focus on your spiritual life? Today we are getting honest about our lives. And discussing ways to deepen relationships, simplify schedules, and connect spiritually. This week's podcast guest is the talented, Shauna Niequist. Author of several books (“Cold Tangerines”, “Bread and Wine”, etc), she has a new devotional available called, “Savor: Living Abundantly Where You Are, As You Are”. If you are longing for friends you can share vulnerably with, Shauna offers a simple plan. If you struggle with the concept of slowing down and “savoring”, we discuss our own struggle and practical ways to start. If you want to expand your spiritual life beyond time alone with your Bible, then Shauna paints a beautiful picture of what that can look like. Shauna dishes out oodles of wise words. Enjoy! Connect with Shauna Niequist:  Website:  https://www.shaunaniequist.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sniequist/  Instagram:  @sniequist Links Mentioned:    Savor: Living Abundantly, Where You Are, As You Are by Shauna Niequist Cheddar Sage Shepherd's Pie–switch out the sage for thyme and extra cheddar Nigella Lawson's Guiness Chocolate Cake Brene Brown's Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Wayne Muller's “A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough”  Concentric Circles of Care Related Episodes: Soulful Over Frantic :: Shauna Niequist [Ep 127] Walking Through Seasons of Unbelonging :: Shauna Niequist [Ep 362] Recovering from Mom Burnout :: Nicole Zasowski [Ep 257] Featured Sponsors:  Find links to this week's sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors. 

Today we continue with the  series of quotes on "Perfectionism" that I started a few weeks ago.  Today's quotes form the final episode of three episode that make up a "Mini-Series" within the series. They are by Dr. Brene Brown from her book, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.As you heard me say in each of the last three episodes, I HIGHLY recommend you get this book! It has vaulted onto my list of Top 5 or Top 10 books that everyone should read, especially anyone who is a leader or a parent.The quotes you hear today wrap up the mini-series by talking about some of the other problematic areas of perfectionism, but also offering a couple of ideas on how to deal with perfectionism in ways that can help us be better.I hope you enjoyed this little series within the series. I know I enjoyed the concepts that Dr. Brown taught us about perfectionism.For more information to help you on your road to becoming your best, check us out at SlamDunkSuccess.com or email me at scott@slamdunksuccess.com.As always, our background music is "Dance in the Sun" by Krisztian Vass.

Today we continue with the  series of quotes on "Perfectionism" that I started a couple of weeks ago.  Today's quotes form the second of three episode that make up a "Mini-Series" within the series. They are by Dr. Brene Brown from her book, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. As you heard me say in the episode numerous times, I HIGHLY recommend you get this book! I finished it this morning, and it has vaulted onto my list of Top 5 or Top 10 books that everyone should read, especially anyone who is a leader or a parent.The quotes you hear today follow in the footsteps of last week's episode in which I read four bullet points that she made explaining what perfectionism IS NOT. Today you will hear four more bullet points, this time explaining what perfectionism IS.Next week I will wrap up this mini-series with a few more quotes from Dr. Brown that offer impactful ideas on perfectionism and how to deal with it.For more information to help you on your road to becoming your best, check us out at SlamDunkSuccess.com or email me at scott@slamdunksuccess.com.As always, our background music is "Dance in the Sun" by Krisztian Vass.

Today we continue with the new series of quotes on "Perfectionism" that I started a couple of weeks ago. This is a great topic for coaches because we all deal with "perfectionist athletes" at points in our careers, and for most of us we deal with them every season. The quotes that I will be discussing will get at the heart of perfectionism, why it can be crippling to performance, and what we can/should do about it to keep it from destroying our ability to grow and develop the best that we can.Today's quotes form the beginning of a mini-series within the series. That's because for the next few weeks I will discuss quotes by Dr. Brene Brown from her book, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. I HIGHLY recommend you get this book! It is so good and has so many powerful impactful ideas and lessons for all of us, especially those of us in any type of leadership position.The quotes you hear today kick off a short section in the book on perfectionism and why perfectionism is so crippling to us in our efforts to become the best versions of ourselves that we can be.Champion Your Culture with Ryan McCarty and George RogersA weekly live show exploring the power of culture and leadership in business.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifyFor more information to help you on your road to becoming your best, check us out at SlamDunkSuccess.com or email me at scott@slamdunksuccess.com.As always, our background music is "Dance in the Sun" by Krisztian Vass.

1. Holy Bible - God2. The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself - Michael A. Singer3. The Power of One More: The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success - Ed Mylett4. Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win - Jocko Willink & Leif Babin5. Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age. Ben Stuart6. Mastery - Robert Greene7. Art of Seduction - Robert Greene8. The 48 Laws of Power - Robert Greene9. 75 HARD: A Tactical Guide to Winning the War with Yourself - Andy Frisella10. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way we Live, Love, Parent, and Lead - Brené Brown11. Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts - Brené Brown12. 12 Rules For Life: An Antidote to Chaos - Jordan B. Peterson13. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones - James Clear14. Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One - Dr. Joe Dispenza15. You Are The Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter - Dr. Joe Dispenza16. Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing The Uncommon - Dr. Joe Dispenza17. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love - Amir Levine & Rachel S. F. Heller18. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment - Eckhart Tolle19. A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose - Eckhart Tolle20. Crush It: Why NOW Is the Time to Cash In on Your Passion - Gary Vaynerchuk21. Crushing It: How Great Entrepreneurs Build Their Business and Influence-and How You Can, Too - Gary Vaynerchuk22. If It's Not Right, Go Left: Practical and Inspirational Lessons to Move You in a Positive Direction - Kristen Glosserman23. Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds - David Goggins24. Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable - Tim Grover25. Winning: The Unforgiving Race to Greatness - Tim Grover

Not surprisingly, when you talk to most leaders, there is a profound reluctance to show vulnerability. Leaders are afraid vulnerability will be perceived as weakness or undermine their confidence. So, what is the role of vulnerability in strong leadership? In this episode, Craig answers this question and more. What You'll Learn: 1. Vulnerability is courage, not weakness 2. The Beautiful Mess Effect 3. What is construal level theory and how does it apply to leadership? 4. Tips for demonstrating vulnerability including getting comfortable saying I don't know, admitting mistakes openly and seeking feedback and advice from others 5. Vulnerability encourages openness, fostering an environment of accountability Mentions: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead: https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419 More of Do Good to Lead Well: Website: https://craigdowden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigdowden/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/craig-dowden/message

Today we talk about well-known research-based self-help guru Brené Brown. What is her work about? What book should you read first? What kinds of concepts are in her books? If you are experiencing any issues in your life involving shame, vulnerability, resilience, belonging, emotions, or relationships, this episode is for you! Brene Brown's Books In This Episode: I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone  Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience

Anita Nowak shows how you can nurture powerful, genuine connections through purposeful empathy. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) What NOT to do when you're trying to connect 2) The trick to improving your active listening 3) How to get into the empathic mood Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep863 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT ANITA — Anita Nowak, PhD, is an empathy expert, speaker, podcaster, award-winning educator, certified coach, and founder of Purposeful Empathy by Design, a boutique global advisory firm that helps purpose-driven organizations create cultures of empathy and social impact. Passionate about mentoring the next generation of changemakers, she teaches leadership, ethics in management, and social entrepreneurship and innovation at McGill University. Anita lives in Montreal with her husband and daughter. • Book: Purposeful Empathy: Tapping Our Hidden Superpower for Personal, Organizational, and Social Change • LinkedIn: Anita Nowak • YouTube: @anitanowak2977 • Website: AnitaNowak.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: A Politics of Love: A Handbook for a New American Revolution by Marianne Williamson • Book: Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts by Brene Brown • Book: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown • Past episode: 311: Communication Secrets from FBI Kidnapping Negotiator Chris Voss • Tool: The Personal Values Assessment — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • AutomateYourBusywork.com. Check out the book that helps you Automate Your BusyworkSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I bring to you the second part of my conversation with Natasha + Jeremy, sex coaches and educators behind All The Feels. They give amazing tips around communication in and outside of the bedroom. Jeremy talks about ways that are sexy and respectful to approach women and they both share how to have a  threesome that is fun and sexy and where everyone feels safe. We also talk about what one can do if you have a sexual desire or preference your partner doesn't like. Our IG live is happening on Sunday May 7th at 2 pm ET 11 am PT. Follow polycuriouspodcast and allthefeels.us on Instagram to stay tuned! Resources discussed in the episode: Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott Untamed - Glennon Doyle Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Pussy: A Reclamation - Regena Thomashuer Dr. Eva Cadell Certified Sex Coach Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polycurious/message

Inspired by an audience member writing in, Episode 4 explores ways we are reframing rejection and failure to best aid us on our writing journey.  The following are questions regarding rejection and failure from our hosts:   1. How do you process rejection other than the generic , get yourself back on the horse or allow yourself time to sulk ? What's another way of looking at not getting what you want for your writing ? 2. Have you ever failed at something you were trying to write? How did that failure function for you after? Is there a difference between how you saw failure earlier in your writing and now?   Show Notes 1. Celeste Mohammed's book Pleasantview: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/56186509-pleasantview?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=nzlAGQjgAn&rank=1 2. Rejection Wiki: https://www.rejectionwiki.com/index.php?title=Literary_Journals_and_Rejections 3. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail : And How You Can Make Yours Last by John Gottman, in which the Four Horseman are mentioned: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/129025695-john-gottman?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=67vLw9eAxv&rank=1 4. Chillsubs: https://www.chillsubs.com/ 5. Duotrope: https://duotrope.com/ 6. Poets & Writers: https://www.pw.org/ 7. Indiana Review “Sunbathing is Forbidden in the Graveyard” by Jeannetta Craigwell-Graham: https://indianareview.org/item/winter-2023-volume-44-number-2/ 8. VQR: https://www.vqronline.org/ 9. Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-maslows-hierarchy-of-needs-4136760 10. Email us at writeattention@gmail.com to join The Write Space accountability meeting held on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays from 11am-1pm Pacific Time 11. Brené Brown's book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, https://brenebrown.com/book/daring-greatly/   12. Brené Brown's book Atlas of the Heart, https://brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heart/      

Getting ready for the summer! Summer dresses & summer flings! Take a trip to your favorite movie theater and check out this week's humble brag recipient AV Rockwell's new film “A Thousand and One“. This week we're loaded with shields and antidotes. Shame, blame and perfectionism are all parts of the viscous cycle we call life that we navigate day to day. But we are resilient. We adapt and pivot. Be kinder to yourself , let the light in through the crack. We're here for a good time not a long time. Enjoy!Excerpts from Brené Brown's Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.

Today I had a wonderful discussion with Natasha and Jeremy, the couple behind All The Feels. They are certified sex coaches, working on empowering people to have better sex lives. Besides coaching, they also educate through their instagram and their porn videos. Today we chat about their journeys taking charge of their sexuality and navigating nonmongamy. Natasha also tells us how she went from feeling jealousy to getting turned on when seeing Jeremy having sex with other women. Our IG live is happening on Sunday May 7th at 2 pm ET 11 am PT. Follow polycuriouspodcast and allthefeels.us on Instagram to stay tuned! Resources discussed in the episode: Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott Untamed - Glennon Doyle Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Pussy: A Reclamation - Regena Thomashuer Dr. Eva Cadell Certified Sex Coach Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polycurious/message

In this episode of Faith Fringes, Dawn interviews Betsey Mejas. Betsy is an EMDR consultant and the owner of the Abundant Life Christian Counseling group practice in Georgia. In this episode, she talked about integrating spirituality, overcoming failures, and God's plan and purpose.  About Betsy Mejas and Her Practice Betsy is the founding owner of Abundant Life Christian Counseling. She is passionate about training up the next generation of faith-based therapists. Her group practice currently has 11 team members and growing. Abundant Life serves people in Winder and Athens, Georgia. Betsy started her career journey as a social worker as a case manager for child welfare. She felt led to open Abundant Life Christian Counseling in 2018 after hearing her Pastore, Jason Britt, quote John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” Betsy and her team believe everyone deserves to live a more abundant life. Overcoming Failure and Being Vulnerable Betsy opens up about how she overcame a big failure in her life - being an ESL (English as a Second Language) kid who barely spoke English and running for student council in fourth grade, only to fail miserably. However, she learned from that experience and overcame her fear of public speaking to become a successful therapist who guest speaks at churches and trauma conferences. Overcoming failure is a common theme in personal development and self-help literature. Many authors argue that failure is an essential part of success and that it's important to embrace vulnerability in order to grow and learn from our mistakes. One book that touches on these themes is "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" by Brené Brown. In the book, Brown explores the idea that vulnerability is not a weakness, but rather a strength that can lead to greater connection, creativity, and resilience. She writes: "Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection" (Brown, 2012, p. 34). This quote speaks to the idea that being vulnerable and embracing failure is an essential part of personal growth and development. It takes courage to face our fears and put ourselves out there, but it's only by doing so that we can truly learn from our mistakes and overcome our challenges. By sharing her story of failure and vulnerability, Betsy is demonstrating this principle in action and inspiring others to do the same. God's Plan and Purpose Betsy shares how not getting into law school was devastating at first, but it eventually led her to become a therapist. She believes that God has a plan and purpose for everyone, and her journey has been a windy road, but she is grateful for where she is now. Betsy speaks about how she came to realize that not getting into law school was actually a blessing in disguise as it led her to her current career path as a therapist. She believes that everything happens for a reason and that God has a plan and purpose for everyone. This idea is supported by Dallas Willard, who once said, "God's plan for your life far exceeds the circumstances of your day." Betsy's own words echo this sentiment, as she reflects on her own journey and how it has led her to where she is today. She says, "I gained clarity later. When my first semester at the MSW program, I met an attorney that was changing careers because she found out that every time couples would come to divorce, she would try to mediate and get them back together... Where does God interweave with all that for you? It's a windy road." This quote highlights Betsy's belief that even though the path to her current career was not a straight one, it was all part of God's plan for her life. She sees the twists and turns along the way as opportunities to learn and grow, and she is grateful for where she has ended up Setbacks and Challenges Can Lead to Growth and Purpose Betsy Mejas provides valuable insights into how to integrate spirituality and soul care into therapy. Her practice, Abundant Life Christian Counseling, incorporates scripture, prayer, and spiritual direction into therapy, which can provide clients with a more holistic and meaningful approach to healing. Additionally, Betsy's personal story of overcoming failure and following God's plan and purpose for her life is inspiring and relatable, reminding us that setbacks and challenges can lead to growth and purpose. Links And Resources Faith Fringes Connect With Betsy: Website| Abundant Life Christian Counseling

Today, we are talking about courage, confidence, and living boldly. After 2022 almost completely destroyed my confidence and self-worth, and after a very disappointing holiday season, I knew I had 2 choices: 1. Keep living and feeling the way I was (insecure, stuck, small, unworthy), OR 2. I could step outside of my comfort zone, change my mindset, and make 2023 my happiest year yet. I'm going to walk through my 2023 Word of the Year Notion page and chat about what courage means to me (and what it could mean for you). Let's get into it.. ✨ Join the According to Ally Community

“I had one job, which was to get the data right. Why was that so freaking hard?” asked Barr Moses, co-founder and CEO of Monte Carlo, the world's first data observability platform, discussing what motivated her to create the product. Having worked with data for 15 years, she realized so many people across the industry couldn't seem to get it right, nor did they have a systematic, scalable way to make sure data was accurate. In the world we're living in, where so many people have access to data, just a few minutes of inaccurate data can lead to poor customer experience and millions of dollars in lost revenue. It's a problem Barr says will only get worse over time, as data becomes more important to infrastructure.  Barr explains what it was like to create a whole new category, something from nothing, even when some people were telling her it would never work and that she was throwing her career away. She knew there was a company to be built there, and she wanted to be the one to do it and be proud of the journey along the way—which she admits is a lot of hard work. Category creation is really solving customer problems, and in so doing, the customer becomes co-creator of the category because they have the answers. Customer happiness is at the heart of the whole operation. Barr expands upon this and other codified values that make up the foundation of Monte Carlo. Barr reveals what the two main rules any business should have, from the beginning and forever. Find out why it's important that people around you pass “The Mom Test,” what the odds are that data will ever be 100% accurate, and what it's like to be married to your co-founder.  Quotes: “The idea of data being wrong would get a really strong reaction. It resonated. I think that was the first ‘aha' moment. People that I didn't even know would say, ‘Hell, yes, I have that problem, please help me solve it now. So that was the very first lightbulb moment.” (9:52-10:17 | Barr) “We're not looking for someone to say, ‘Hey we have 100 percent confidence.' We're looking for someone to say, ‘Hey, this data is important enough for us to invest something in making sure that it's accurate.' It's about treating the issue with the diligence it deserves." (15:53-16:07 | Barr) “Think about application reliability: A couple of decades ago, nobody cared if your app was up or down. But then Netflix is down for 45 minutes in 2016 because of duplicate data. Netflix being down is a hell of a problem.” (16:07-16:26 | Barr) “Customers don't give a shit about you creating a new category or not. They literally don't care. They care about, ‘Are you solving a real problem for me?' Helping people and solving their problem is way more important.” (32:58-33:20 | Barr) “Our measure of success isn't years or weeks, it's literally minutes. Every minute that you're spending on something should be high-value.” (39:50-40:00 | Barr)  Connect with Brendan Dell:  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendandell/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/BrendanDell Instagram: @thebrendandell TikTok: @brendandell39 Buy a copy of Brendan's Book, The 12 Immutable Laws of High-Impact Messaging: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780578210926    Connect with Barr Moses: LinkedIn: @barrmoses barr@montecarlodata.com Check out Barr Moses recommended books: The Mom Test by Rob Fitzpatrick https://www.indiebound.org/search/book?keys=The+Mom+Test   Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown  https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781592408412   The Score Takes Care of Itself by Bill Walsh, Steve Jamison and Craig Walsh https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781591843474 Please don't forget to rate, comment, and subscribe to Billion Dollar Tech on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Use code Brendan30 for 30% off your annual membership with RiverSide.fm  Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

Do you want to unlock your creative potential and foster innovation? We know that collaboration and communication are vital to producing outstanding work, but what you might not know is that the foundation of that is healthy conflict. Without it, we can't achieve our creative best.On this episode, we welcome Billie Mandel, a seasoned expert in design, coaching, and education with a focus on critique, conflict, and creativity. We'll delve into the importance of expressing divergent ideas, how to ask difficult questions, and creating a safe space for diverse thoughts, mistakes, and asking "what am I missing." Additionally, we'll highlight the critical role of feedback in this journey and offer tips on how to solicit, offer, and receive feedback with care and effectiveness. So tune in as we uncover the impact of productive conflict in the quest for creativity and innovation.Books mentioned in this episodeDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live by Brené BrownRadical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean by Kim ScottConnect with Billie MandelCEO and Chief Instigator, Mandel CreativeSpeaking engagementsLinkedInTwitterInstagramConnect with UX Cakeuxcake.co | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTubeConnect with LeighStrategic UX Leader Coaching and WorkshopsFollow on LinkedInSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/uxcake. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

QUOTES FOR REFLECTION“Connection is why we're here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.”~Brené Brown in Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead “I don't wanna die or fade awayI just wanna be someoneI just wanna be someoneDive and disappear without a traceI just wanna be someoneWell, doesn't everyone? I just wanna be somebody to someoneI wanna be somebody to someoneI never had nobody and no road homeI wanna be somebody to someone”~“Someone to You” by Banners, aka Michael Joseph Nelson (2017) “…as the light from the lamp is of the nature of that which sheds the brightness, and is united with it (for as soon as the lamp appears the light that comes from it shines out simultaneously), so…the Son is of the Father, and that the Father is never without the Son; for it is impossible that glory should be without radiance, as it is impossible that the lamp should be without brightness.”~Gregory of Nyssa (c. 335-c. 395), church leader in ancient Turkey “The only difference between a hero and the villain is that the villain chooses to use that power in a way that is selfish and hurts other people.”~Chadwick Boseman (1976-2020), award-winning actor “The manifestation of the glory of God reaches its apex not in a blinding flash of resplendent light but in the agony and triumph of the cross and empty tomb.”~D.A. Carson, New Testament scholar on The Gospel of John “It is the glory of the Redeemer to dwell in the redeemed; it is his rest for ever, and he has desired it. Let us therefore make sure our union with Christ, and then take the comfort of his intercession.”~Matthew Henry (1662-1714), Non-conformist minister in EnglandSERMON PASSAGEJohn 17:20-26 (ESV) 1 When Jesus had spoken these words, he lifted up his eyes to heaven, and said, “Father, the hour has come; glorify your Son that the Son may glorify you, 2 since you have given him authority over all flesh, to give eternal life to all whom you have given him. 3 And this is eternal life, that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent. 4 I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do. 5 And now, Father, glorify me in your own presence with the glory that I had with you before the world existed.6 “I have manifested your name to the people whom you gave me out of the world. Yours they were, and you gave them to me, and they have kept your word. 7 Now they know that everything that you have given me is from you. 8 For I have given them the words that you gave me, and they have received them and have come to know in truth that I came from you; and they have believed that you sent me. 9 I am praying for them. I am not praying for the world but for those whom you have given me, for they are yours. 10 All mine are yours, and yours are mine, and I am glorified in them. 11 And I am no longer in the world, but they are in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, keep them in your name, which you have given me, that they may be one, even as we are one. 12 While I was with them, I kept them in your name, which you have given me. I have guarded them, and not one of them has been lost except the son of destruction, that the Scripture might be fulfilled. 13 But now I am coming to you, and these things I speak in the world, that they may have my joy fulfilled in themselves. 14 I have given them your word, and the world has hated them because they are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. 15 I do not ask that you take them out of the world, but that you keep them from the evil one. 16 They are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. 17 Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth. 18 As you sent me into the world, so I have sent them into the world. 19 And for their sake I consecrate myself, that they also may be sanctified in truth. 20 “I do not ask for these only, but also for those who will believe in me through their word, 21 that they may all be one, just as you, Father, are in me, and I in you, that they also may be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me. 22 The glory that you have given me I have given to them, that they may be one even as we are one, 23 I in them and you in me, that they may become perfectly one, so that the world may know that you sent me and loved them even as you loved me. 24 Father, I desire that they also, whom you have given me, may be with me where I am, to see my glory that you have given me because you loved me before the foundation of the world. 25 O righteous Father, even though the world does not know you, I know you, and these know that you have sent me. 26 I made known to them your name, and I will continue to make it known, that the love with which you have loved me may be in them, and I in them.”

The topic of today's episode is low libido or sex drive. It's one of the most common issues that sex therapists see in their practice. Usually, it's either the partner who doesn't have much of a libido and you miss feeling connected to it, or you're totally fine not being connected to your sex drive, but your partner is not. If you find yourself under the dry spell or in a sexless marriage and you wonder what the heck is going on, today I'm going to unpack the most common reasons behind the low libido and what you can do about it.What You'll Learn:Libido issue may be a quick fix, but it can also be complex and very holisticHow to get to the deeper aspects of libido issues using Internal Family SystemsMy own experience with low libido following a breakupThe brakes and accelerators of sex drives and how to discover your brakesResponsive and spontaneous desire and how to intentionally increase your responsive desire with “sexual reminders” Accept your circumstances - it's normal for things to slow down when you have kids, for exampleThe difference between high libido and “sex addiction” or “out of control sexual behavior”You'll hear me often saying that I view sex drive and sexual energy as a life force energy. So, I invite you to get curious about it and check out my Mojo Magic guidebook for low libido at https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies Resources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageCome As You Are Worksheets — Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.Come As You Are WorkbookDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead - Brené BrownLET'S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedInThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacyPodtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Cheryl Strayed gets real about being a broke bestselling author, comparing herself to other moms, practicing self-compassion - and then struggling all over again when the pandemic threw her off her game. Claire offers a weekly practice for how to have more authentic interactions with the people in your life.    Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod   Resources from the show Listen to Nadia Bolz-Weber's Podcast, “The Confessional”: https://nadiabolzweber.com/podcast/  Check out Brené Brown's Book: “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead” - https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419   Try The Self Love Workbook for Women: https://www.amazon.com/Self-Love-Workbook-Women-Self-Doubt-Self-Compassion/dp/1647397294  Read Hope Edelman's incredible book Motherless Daughters: https://hopeedelman.com   Learn more about today's guest:   Read more about Cheryl's life and career here Listen to Cheryl's Podcast "Dear Sugars"  on Apple Read Cheryl's first memoir: "Wild" that was chosen by Oprah Winfrey as her first selection for Oprah's Book Club 2.0.  Read Cheryl's self-help book: "Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar"     Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.   Did you try one of these weekly practices? We want to hear about it! Call 833-4-LEMONADA (833-453-6662) or email us newday@lemonnadamedia.com    To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.   Follow Claire on IG and FB @clairebidwellsmith or Twitter @clairebidwell and visit her website: www.clairebidwellsmith.com   Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia.    Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremiumSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode Highlights With Esther BlumThe average age of menopause and early signs to look forWhy menopause can start really early for some women in todays worldHormones to look at to get a baseline for mitigating menopause symptomsWhen supplements like chaste tree, DIM, and calcium d-glucarate can be helpfulHow cruciferous vegetables help hormonesWhat to know about hormone replacement therapy and the forms she does and does not recommendHow cyclical progesterone in second half of cycle can be helpful pre-menopause, especially after birth control useWhy lifting weights has such a big impact on hormone levels for womenThe supplements she recommends that are helpful for most womenHow brightly colored foods help hormones and feed beneficial bacteria in the gutThe one beneficial bacteria in the gut that helps avoid weight gain and how to support itMore support for morning sunlight, strength training and eating proteinA reason to go for a ten minute walk after eating- it lowers glucose by 17%!Her three “meno-laws” for avoiding fat gain during menopause (or anytime)Why many women develop non-alcoholic fatty liver disease in menopause and how to avoid itThings that are helpful for alleviating hot flashesHysterectomies are the new c-sections… are they necessary? Are they avoidable? What to try insteadResources We MentionEsther Bum - WebsiteEsther Blum - InstagramSee ya later, Ovulator!: Mastering Menopause with Nutrition, Hormones, and Self-Advocacy by Esther BlumBrocEliteBerbEliteJust ThriveDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene? BrownOutrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead by Tosha SilverGame of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel ShinnEstrogen Matters: Why Taking Hormones in Menopause Can Improve Women's Well-Being and Lengthen Their Lives -- Without Raising the Risk of Breast Cancer by Avrum BlumingRyan Holiday booksThanks to Our Sponsors:Timeline Nutrition - Mitopure from Timeline Nutrition offers an easy way to get your daily 500mg dose of Urolithin A, which helps with energy and endurance.Wellnesse - My line of personal care products such as toothpaste, shampoo and deodorant

What the heck is human-centered and data driven design, and how can it help you in your interior design business? Chrissy Fehan and Sarah Davis of Pophouse are here to fill us in on the importance of designing space with a human-centered perspective, and how the physical environment can have a positive impact on individuals. They'll also share how this approach informed the Rock Ventures Headquarters, recently featured and on the cover of Interior Design magazine's 90th anniversary edition. Sarah has over 17 years of experience working in business intelligence. She has performed extensive research in workplace strategy and has been instrumental in developing the strategy that informs the design for many Pophouse projects. Chrissy leads an interiors and industrial design team and oversees all brand strategy. Prior to her current role, Chrissy was an industrial designer and created numerous pieces of furniture, lighting, reception desks and outdoor spaces. *** ⭐️Chrissy and Sarah pride themselves on doing unconventional strategic and human-centered design. They use different types of evidence obtained from clients via interviews, surveys, and observations to understand how clients need to function in space. This combined with external research is used to drive their design. They believe spaces can positively impact people - how they interact, how they engage with each other. The space needs to be beautiful and aesthetically thoughtful, but if people can't function in this space, it misses the mark. Chrissy and Sarah work to bring beauty and function together. ⭐️Pophouse thrives on a particular set of systems and processes that can be catered to different clients. The process usually begins with data collection, including client surveys and observation. Pophouse has also created mock settings for clients to utilize, and led focus groups. Talking to their clients in this manner helps gather feedback, which the clients are very willing to give because they care about the space they're sitting in. To learn more about the teams they design for, Chrissy and Sarah gather information such as org charts, cultural documents, mission statements, core values, and more. They pair these internal findings with external discovery like benchmarking, research, and academic work. All of this information serves as the foundation for the design project and ultimately acts as a North Star to follow for the duration of the project. ⭐️Chrissy says that niching down their business has helped Pophouse in many ways. It has allowed them to bring on the proper team members that they need, and to grow their business. They are better able to see their future goals and pivot them around their clients' needs. It's helped them laser focus more - they aren't stretched between many different types of design. Niching down has also helped Pophouse more thoughtfully select their clients and make sure their cultures align. Sarah explains that, even when niching down their business, there is still lots of diversity within the commercial office design space. Whether they're designing a commercial office for a tech team, a marketing team, or a sales team, they all look totally different as the needs for each team vary. Chrissy explains that the scale of projects differs as well. Sometimes they take projects where they help a smaller client's brand be visualized through their space. ***

ONCE UPON A GENE - EPISODE 151 Rare Friends Forever - Hanging Out and Showing Some Love to Brene Brown with Katie Lloyd and Adam Johnson Adam "Dadvocate" Johnson and Katie Lloyd are on the podcast, joining me for a lighthearted chat about Brené Brown, a research professor who has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy.  EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS Adam, what are some of your favorite quotes and why? One that stands out in terms of transitioning into the rare disease space is from Daring Greatly and says, "What we know matters, but who we are matters more." This was impactful to me because when rare disease happened and I was losing my career, transitioning into survival mode, I had to find myself again and remember that who I was mattered more.  Katie, can you share a quote that has impacted you? It's very scary to be vulnerable and it reminds me of the quote, "Tell the story of who you are with your whole heart." Last time I was on the podcast, I shared vulnerable thoughts and feelings and later worried about who would hear them. This quote reminds me that it's important to open up and share and that it helps others feel they're not alone. Brene talks a lot about shame and says, "Shame is the fear of disconnection." When we are vulnerable, especially talking about rare disease, we connect and we feel more open and less ashamed. LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED Episode 125 - A Very Rare and Very Real Adventure with DeSanto-Shinawi Syndrome Mom and Author of a Very Rare Adventure Katie Lloyd https://effieparks.com/podcast/episode-125-katie-lloyd Episode 052 - Adam Johnson - Rare Disease Dad on Mitochondrial Myopathy and Owning Your Story https://effieparks.com/podcast/episode-052-adam-johnson-mitochondrial-myopathy Brené Brown, TEDxHouston: The power of vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability Dare to Lead https://brenebrown.com/book/dare-to-lead/ Atlas of the Heart https://brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heart/ Brené Brown: Atlas Of The Heart on HBO Max https://www.hbomax.com/series/urn:hbo:series:GYivWaAXEZMLDwwEAAACz Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419 Parents As Rare Podcast https://rarediseasedad.com/parents-as-rare-my-pod A Very Rare Adventure Blog https://averyrareadventure.com/ The Imaginary Dad Podcast on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxSX6fMdpfcruG_Tt3JJ0TQ/featured TUNE INTO THE ONCE UPON A GENE PODCAST Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5Htr9lt5vXGG3ac6enxLQ7 Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/once-upon-a-gene/id1485249347 Stitcher https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/once-upon-a-gene Overcast https://overcast.fm/itunes1485249347/once-upon-a-gene CONNECT WITH EFFIE PARKS Website https://effieparks.com/ Twitter https://twitter.com/OnceUponAGene Instagram https://www.instagram.com/onceuponagene.podcast/?hl=en Built Ford Tough Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1877643259173346/ Once Upon a Gene TV https://www.thedisordercollection.com/

If you have traveled in 2022, I am sure you have had an adventure. If you traveled out of country in 2022, I am sure that adventure may have had you questioning your sanity! But you know what makes it better: lounge access. While traveling, I got to thinking about what has brought me financial success and one of the very top things on my list is: BOOKS! That's right: BOOKS! In this episode, I am going to share with you some books that have brought me wealth. In more ways than one! Join me as I discuss: Travel Hacking Lost luggage Traveling oversees Books Brene Brown Shame Belonging Tina Marie & Company Luvvie Ajayi Jones Limiting factors Neuroscience Honorable Mentions The Power Of Reading In Wealth Creation: Ideas From Naval Ravikant, Charlie Munger, and Warren Buffett Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown Entrepreneurial You: Monetize Your Expertise, Create Multiple Income Streams, and Thrive by Dorie Clark Professional Troublemaker: The Fear Fighter Manual by Luvvie Ajayi Jones The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks The Abundance Code: How to Bust the 7 Money Myths for a Rich Life Now by Julie Anne Cairns ☕

Summary:  In this episode, we focus on how unresolved trauma undermines and sabotages both our capacity and our inclination to love well.  We explore how unresolved trauma impacts each of the five characteristics of love -- compromising our ability to love in an affective (emotional), affirming, responsive, unitive and steadfast way.  We also dive into how so trauma pulls us to focus inward, and to protect ourselves, undercutting the vulnerability and willingness to engage that are required for deep love and we discuss hope for change.   Lead-in  They say love is blind, but it's trauma that's blind. Love sees what is.“ — Neil Strauss, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships And Neil Strauss is right on that.  Love connects with reality.  With God who is the ultimate realness, the ultimate being, the I AM.   Trauma is blind and it blinds us.  That's what we are talking about today.  Trauma and its impact on live.   Intro: Dear listener, You and I are together in the adventure of this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am thankful to be with you.   I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, Why are we here?  We are here together to bring you the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith. So we can have the best of both.  That's why.   Today, we're going to take a broad perspective, a bird's-eye view of trauma's destructive consequences to our capacity to love.  What is the effect of trauma on our capacity and inclination to love?  That is the question for us to explore together today.   So welcome to episode 95,  of Interior Integration for Catholics, titled Trauma's Devastating Impact on our Capacity to Love, released on July 4, 2022, Independency Day in the USA, This podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com.   Review Trauma.  We are in the midst of  whole series of episodes on trauma.  So just a brief thumbnail review.   Started with Episode 88 Trauma: Defining and Understanding the Experience  Really important to understand the inner experience of trauma -- so you can recognize it in your own life and recognize it an empathetic and attuned way in others' loves.  Part of loving them.   Episode 89 Your Trauma, Your Body: Protection vs. Connection --  a current understanding of how large a role our bodies have in our experience of trauma.  Our bodies.   Episode 90:  Your Well-Being: The Secular Experts Speak  we review how philosophers and modern secular psychologists understand mental health and well-being.  In this episode, we look at the attempts to define what make us happy, from the 4th century BC to the present day.  Aristippus, Aristotle, Descartes, Freud, Seligman, Porges, Schwartz, and two diagnostic systems.  We take a special look at how positive psychology and Internal Family Systems see well-being.   Episode 92:  Understanding and Healing your Mind through IPNB  neuropsychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel's Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) and what IPNB can show us about psychological health.  We review the triangle of well-being, the nature of secure attachments, and the basis for mental health from an IPNB perspective.  We examine the characteristics of a healthy mind and how it functions, and the two signs that reliable indicate all psychological symptoms and mental dysfunction.  We discuss the nine domains of integration Three inner experiential exercises in Episode 93 Episode 94:  The Primacy of Love  In this episode, I discuss the central importance of love as the marker of well-being from a Catholic perspective -- our capacity to live out  the two great commandments.  We explore how love is the distinguishing characteristics of Christians, and we discussed Catholic theologian Bernard Brady's five attributes or characteristics of love -- how love is affective, affirming, responsive, unitive and steadfast.  We discuss what is commonly missing from philosophical and theological approaches to love, and we briefly touch in the death of love and distortions of love.  So check those out if you haven't already.  This    Going to address love in general -- focusing on loving  In future episodes, will review  Tolerating being loved Brady quxote   Ordered self-love   The experience of trauma screws up our loves -- where we go to find good.  It screws up where we are seeking, how we seek to be loved and how we seek to love.   St. Augustine:   He lives in justice and sanctity who is an unprejudiced assessor of the intrinsic value of things.  He is a man who has an ordinate love: he neither loves what should not be loved nor fails to love what should be loved. On Christina Doctrine, I, 27 We need ordered love.  Why -- Bernard Brady put it -- Because we become like what we love.  Whatever we embrace in our love, we become like that person or that thing.   As Augustine considered the dissipation of this youth, he wrote "I loved beautiful things of a lower order, and I was going down to the depths."   Confessions.   So much of the problem with disordered love  comes from misdirected seeking to get your attachment needs meet.  That's the problem. We have legitimate attachment needs  Trauma strips away our sense of  A felt sense of Safety and security Feeling seen, heard, known and understood Feeling comforted, soothed, reassured Feeling cherished, treasured, delighted in Feel the other person wills my highest good.   All from Brown and Elliott 2016, Attachment disturbances in Adults Where do we find our safety and security?  In both the natural and spiritual realms, we find it in attachment security needs being met.  Five primary attachment security needs (Brown and Elliott)  A felt sense of safety and protection, a deep sense of security, felt in my bones It makes it so much easier to love when we feel safe and secure.    "People want to be safe, and comfortable. If safety and comfort is to be found in guns, then they will take up guns—of their own accord, in their own need. And when safety and comfort are found in libraries, then the guns rust.“ — Algis Budrys American writer  Source: Some Will Not Die (1961), Chapter 6 (p. 122)   Feeling seen, heard, known, and understood   I want, by understanding myself, to understand others.“ — Katherine Mansfield New Zealand author 1888 - 1923 Being comforted, soothed, and reassured Feeling valued, cherished, treasured, delighted in You are my sunshine published by Jimmie Davis and Charles Mitchell on January 30, 1940   You are my sunshineMy only sunshineYou make me happyWhen skies are grayYou'll never know, dearHow much I love youPlease don't take my sunshine away Feeling that the other person wills my highest good, the best for me We have to turn inward to find the road to God.   Etienne Gilson explained Augustine's approach to God as "a path leading from the exterior to the interior and from the interior to the superior."  Gilson, The Christian Philosophy of St. Augustine p. 20 Charles Taylor:  Sources of the Self: By going inward, I am drawn upward.  The Making of Modern Identity 134 Turning inward is the route to God, not God.  Brady, 120 Often resisted by Catholics as being selfish.   Edward Vacek:  Love, Human and Divine: The Heart of Christian Ethics.  The steps in loving and being loved.    (1) God affirms us; (2) God receives a; (3) we accept God's love; (4) we affirm God; (5) God forms community with us; (6) we cooperate with God in loving God in the world; and finally (7) we grow in a limited code responsibility with God. p.. 177 1 John 4:19 We love, because he first loved us.     Last episode -- Bernard Brady's description of the five characteristics of Love  Christian Love: How Christians through the Ages have Understood Love.-- drawing heavily from the work of phenomenologists  Jules Toner and Margaret Farley Love is affective, affirming, responsive, unitive and steadfast.  (repeat)  Five characteristics.  Five aspects.  Repeat.   We described and discussed these at length in the last episode, episode 94 of the IIC podcast, The Primacy of Love  We will briefly review each of them And then discuss how trauma impacts each of them, bringing in the effects or the sequelae of trauma from Episode 88 --  Trauma: Defining and Understanding the Experience.   Love is affective  Love is an emotion Love is a movement from your heart, your soul -- a movement from the innermost depths of your being.  From your core self.  St. Thomas Aquinas in the Summa:  Consequently the freezing or hardening of the heart is a disposition incompatible with love: while melting denotes a softening of the heart, whereby the heart shows itself to be ready for the entrance of the beloved.“ Love rejoices in the beloved  Love rejoices in the beloved -- Protestant Theologian R.H. Neibuhr writes in his 1977 book the Purpose of the Church and Its Ministry:  By love, we mean at least these attitudes and actions: rejoicing in the presence of the beloved, gratitude, reverence, and loyalty toward him.  p.35 „After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.“  Judith Herman Brené Brown US writer and professor 1965 Source: The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are  Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.  Misattributed to Sigmund Freud Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength. Brady:  Love is the directive and dominant center of emotions.  p. 267  Many emotions are associated with love Delight, Bliss, Happiness  A sense of fulfillment  Warmth  Grief  Sadness  Anxiety  Distress   If there is no emotion, there is no agape, no love.  The heart must be moved for love to be anything like complete.  We cannot love like a Vulcan, like Mr. Spock without emotion.  „Even the most elevated psychological understanding is not a loving understanding.“ — Karl Jaspers German psychiatrist and philosopher 1883 - 1969 Effects of trauma -- from episode 88, Trauma: Defining and Understanding the experience  Emotional and Psychological effects Emotional overwhelm  Shock  Shame as an emotion  Guilt  Irritability, anger, rage   Anxiety, fear, panic attacks, phobia, panic attacks, Fears of trauma repeating Jenny Han, book Always and Forever, Lara Jean  Being vulnerable, letting people in, getting hurt… it's all part of being in love.   Sadness, depression  Mood swings   Hopelessness, despair Emotional constriction, shutting down Difficulty experiencing positive emotions Anhedonia Apathy Brady 273.  Love does not die because of hate but because of apathy.   Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking Alexithymia -- inability to recognize or describe one's own emotions -- can't put my feelings into words.   Can't conceptualize your feelings either Feelings in others could be overwhelming -- can't recognize what others are feeling Can't express my feelings well Can't connect affectively, emotionally. That takes vulnerability   Confusion, distraction  Spacing out with dissociation   Physical Effects of trauma -- preoccupation with the body   Behavioral Symptoms Relational apathy  Social withdrawal   Existential Symptoms Despair about humanity -- overgeneralized to the other person  Cynicism  Disillusionment   Identity issues -- shame.   I'm not worth you connecting emotionally with me What could I ever offer you emotionally? I'm such a downer. Strong self-criticism  Fragmentation Love is affirming Love affirms the other  Love says yes to the other person at the same time as love says yes to oneself.   "Agape is the simple yet profound recognition of the worthiness of and goodness in persons."  p. 268  Edward Vacek:  Love is an affective, affirming participation in the goodness of a being (or Being).… Love is an emotional, affirming participation the dynamic tendency of an object to realize its fullness.”  Brene Brown -- Rising Strong  Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.“   Affirmation happens at two levels One level is the basic level of human dignity shared by all persons.   Second level of affirmation is the uniqueness of the person.   When you love your neighbor you truly see the other as a person.   Jules Toner, SJ -- "I love you because you are you." We need to affirm at both levels.  The basic dignity of the person and the uniqueness of the person.   Affirmation implies acceptance of the other and knowledge of the other.    This is not an endorsement of the other's vices or bad habits, but a recognition of them and an acceptance of who the person is as an entire being.  Not picking and choosing the attractive bits.  Self-acceptance of the same things. Affirmation requires freedom -- freedom to get outside the self.   Effects of trauma  Emotional and Psychological effects  Turning inward -- self-protection. Connections vs. protection -- Episode 89 Where is the safety?   How can I escape the danger?  Not letting anyone in to love me.   Feeling disconnected or numb or detached -- dorsal vagal response.  Freeze response.  Deer in the headlights Bodily response Emotional Constriction, Shutdown   Shame -- what is my affirmation of you worth?  I'm not worth much, my affirmation isn't worth much.  Feeling very fragile, vulnerable -- not resilient enough --  I can't engage  Irritability, hostility,  Depression -- lethargy  Mood swings -- unpredictability, others can't trust me.   Emotional detachment, disconnection -- in relationships  Helplessness  Difficulty experiencing positive emotions  How can I reach out?  White knuckling. Feels very forced.  Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking Racing thoughts -- so distracting, I can attend to you, I can't attune to you, I can't affirm you.  My house is on fire.   Extreme alertness - suspicion of you -- are you a threat?  Will you trigger me?   Physical Effects   Behavioral Symptoms Argumentative behavior  Social withdrawal and relational apathy.  Avoidance   Existential Symptoms Ruminating about evil in the world   Identity issues -- shame If I affirm you I will see myself in a bad light because of my shame  Affirmation involved a positive evaluation -- so tempting to see myself negatively.   Fragmentation  Lack of affirmation from the whole self Toner [Radical love] "is giving self; for it is myself who am in the loved one by my love, not merely by my possessions, or even my thoughts, my wit, my joy, my wisdom, my strength.  It is I myself."   Toner:  Loving someone in depth… Means loving from the lovers most personal self, with sincerity, intensity, endurance… To affectively affirm this unique person in a response informed by full, detailed knowledge, which catches the delicate shadings of his profoundest attitudes, moods, likes, and dislikes, ideals, fears, hopes, capabilities, weaknesses, etc.  The experience of love 160   Love is Responsive  Love is an active response for the well-being of the other.  This is where Brady includes benevolence.  It's about participating in the promotion of the highest good for the other, potential for the other's full humanity. How can I help you to flourish?  How can I help you toward your highest good?   This is where self-sacrifice comes in.   love will call for self-sacrifice.   Responsiveness implies an attunement to the other -- a resonance, and understanding.  The capacity to respond well.  It's not just any responsiveness.  The ability to be aware of and to respond effectively to the needs of my neighbor.  So there is a capacity about this.  It's not just an act of the will.  Attunement can be described as a kind of resonance.  Toner:  Radical love is experience as being in accord with the loved one, vibrating as it were, in harmony with the beloved's act of being and so with the whole melody of the beloved's life.  It is a welcoming of the loved one into the lover's self and his life-world, as fitting there, making a harmony with the lover's being and life.   But there must also be action:  "Let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action."  ` John 3:18. Parents "Doing the best they can"  Love bottled up inside.  -- Not expressed.  Then it's not love.  Love that is not shared, that is not relational is not love.   Brene Brown:  Of all the things trauma takes away from us, the worst is our willingness, or even our ability, to be vulnerable. There's a reclaiming that has to happen.  Rising Strong 2015 Madeleine L'Engle Walking on water (1980) When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability… To be alive is to be vulnerable.  To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken.“ — Clive Staples Lewis, book The Four Loves   The Letter of James 2:45-17.   What does it profit, my brethren, if a man says he has faith but has not works? Can his faith save him? If a brother or sister is ill-clad and in lack of daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what does it profit?  So faith by itself, if it has no works, is dead. Responsive to needs  Not just physical needs, but the emotional needs, psychological needs, relational needs   St. Bernard of Clairvaux:  We must remember that love reveals itself, not by words or phrases, but by actions and experience.  It is Love with speaks here, and if anyone wished to understand it, let him first love.   Effects of trauma  Emotional and Psychological effects Overwhelm  Shock  Shame  Irritability, anger, rage  Anxiety, fear, apprehension  Guilt  Sadness, depression, grief  Helplessness, despair  Mood swings -- swept away by our own experience  Anhedonia -- difficulty experiencing positive emotions.  Apathy   Protection vs. connection.  I'm on fire inside, I am frozen inside.  It's chaotic inside Intense self-preoccupation.  Not selfishness.  It's really hard to judge the moral quality of these things accurately.   When we are preoccupied with the intensity of our own experience, it's hard to be responsive to the other person.     Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking “When something reminds traumatized people of the past, their right brain reacts as if the traumatic event were happening in the present. But because their left brain is not working very well, they may not be aware that they are re-experiencing and reenacting the past - they are just furious, terrified, enraged, ashamed, or frozen.”  ― Bessel Van Der Kolk Difficulty concentrating, even focusing on the other person.  Confusion.  Others sense the disconnect.  Not attuned.    Guardedness -- protecting against vulnerability Questioning "Why me?" makes it hard to respond to you.     Physical Effects Behavioral Symptoms Startle responses   Argumentative behavior Social withdrawal and relational apathy.  Avoidance Reducing activity levels Existential Symptoms I am permanently damaged.  How could I ever be responsive in love.  Who would want me?  Can be unconscious.   Identity issues -- shame I am permanently damaged.   Fragmentation -- not a consistent, complete, unified response to the other -- partial responses that seem very incomplete, maybe insincere to the other person.  Love requires our whole being Fr. Jules Toner:  in the full concrete experience of love, our whole being, spirit and flesh, is involved: cognitive acts, feelings and affections, freedom, bodily reactions – all these are influencing each other and all are continually fluctuating in such a way as to change the structure and intensity of the experience. The experience of love. P. 65 Love is Unitive Brady:  The fruit of love is unity.  Love unites.  It is in the very nature of love to bring together.  p. 279  Brady:  When you love, you step out of yourself and experience the other.   There is still a separateness.  Not a blending or a fusion or a loss of identity.  But you are no longer just within yourself.  You've entered into the space of another.   And you've allow the other to enter into your space Loving an enemy -- you are like me.  We are similar on a fundamental human level -- No dehumanization.  Agape pulls for unity, even with strangers.   The mystics describe the unity we are called to in God -- Union with God.   Jules Toner: Radical love is not a tendency affection but a being affection by which I am in union with, am present with the loved one.   Effects of trauma -- Protection vs. Connection  Emotional and Psychological effects Emotional instability, inconsistency -- unpredictability.  Makes it hard for the other to trust you.   Preoccupation pulls you inside -- guilt, shame -- self protection. St. Augustine:  "..if [a man] loves himself on his own account, he does not turn himself toward God, but being turned toward himself, he does not care for anything immutable…."  On Christian Doctrine, Book 1, Chapter 22  And the why doesn't matter nearly so much as people think it does.   Evil comes from loving some good thing inordinately -- blog post on this -- check it out.  Dangerous love, from June 22, 2022 That good thing might be the means that parts of us are seeking to try to provide us with a sense of safety and security.   Fear of vulnerability When trust is lost, traumatized people feel that they belong more to the dead than to the living.“ — Judith Herman Trauma and Recovery  Love is a battlefield  -Pat Benatar 1983 -- music video about all the conflict with her father, and with others seeking to use her as a sexual object.   Fear of overwhelming suffering  Shutdown  Alexithymia   Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking Distraction, rumination, racing thoughts interfere with capacity to attune, to unite  So much internal stimulation -- so much internal noise -- makes it difficult to resonate with the other person, to really understand the other -- to enter into the other's phenomenological world.   So much of that distraction is around finding safety and protection -- cognitive restlessness  Dissociation and disconnections are experienced as off-putting.  Have you ever been with someone who is spacing out when you are talking with them?   Physical Effects   Behavioral Symptoms Blaming  Discharging anger and aggression -- parts so want to be heard and healed.   Desperation can lead to boundary crossings and boundary violations.   Attempts to use the other person to meet intense needs -- not a conscious effort to exploit the other, but exploitation can happen anyway.   Existential Symptoms Shame -- feeling unworthy of connection  Not knowing who I am -- makes it really complicated to be in relationship.   Identity issues Fragmentation - which part of me is uniting with you right now? What are other parts doing.   The need for disconnects within in order to not be overwhelmed - inevitably leads to disconnects with other people You can't give what you don't have.   I'm not lovable, why would you want to be united with me?   Dissociation Identity alteration: The sense of being markedly different from another part of yourself  Identity confusion: A sense of confusion about who you really are   we will have a lot more to say about dissociation in future episodes, but for now -- disconnection. I need to know who I am and I need to know who you are to know who we are together, in relationship.  Love is steadfast God's love endures.  Psalm 891-2  I will sing of thy steadfast love, O Lord,[a] for ever;     with my mouth I will proclaim thy faithfulness to all generations.For thy steadfast love was established for ever,  It may not always be mutual or reciprocal People want predictability Steadfastness requires resilience, to roll with the punches in the relationship.  Any close relationship will have conflicts and difficulties. The fragility in the system that trauma imposes is a real obstacle to resilience necessary to be steadfast in relationship, to not quit and walk away from loving the other person.   Jules Toner:  "The lover is present to the loved one and has the loved one present to himself."   The experience of love, 117 Effects of trauma  Emotional and Psychological effects Mood swings -- effect of different parts, each with its own intense emotions  Helplessness -- despair -- can be intermittent  Emotional shutdown -- dorsal vagal response.   Being reactivated or triggered emotionally.   Disappointment in the other -- you are not helping me Can lead to frustration and rejection.   Cognitive Effects -- impact on sensation, perceptive, higher-order thinking Intrusive thoughts, intrusive memories.   Dissociation is a mental process of disconnecting from one's thoughts, feelings, body, from memories or sense of identity. This disconnection is automatic and completely out of the person's control. Amnesia: Often described as "gaps" in memory that can range from minutes to years  Depersonalization: Feeling disconnected from your body or thoughts  Derealization: Feeling disconnected from the world around you   Physical Effects Impact of hyperarousal  Impact of hypoarousal   Behavioral Symptoms Withdrawal  Avoidance -- refusal of consistent vulnerability  Alcohol and drug use   „For me, vulnerability led to anxiety, which led to shame, which led to disconnection, which led to Bud Light.“ — Brené Brown US writer and professor 1965 Source: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead  Switching among parts Existential Symptoms Deep sense of not being loved, not being lovable  There is no love in the world.  At least not for me.  So why unite with anyone.  Loss of meaning and purpose.  Identity issues Fragmentation  Unstable identity makes it hard to be consistent in the loving   The death of love Brady 273.  Love does not die because of hate but because of apathy.  The death of love is often preceded by the denial of the basic dignity of the other.  The death of love happens when we reject instead of affirm the other's special personal and unique goodness.  The death of love is encouraged when we ignore the other's needs and wants while prioritizing our own wants.  The deal of love occurs when we pursue discord, division, disassociation, and distance in the place of unity.   That is sin.   Malice is not necessary for love to die.  Apathy doesn't have malice in it. In apathy, the other does not register in your consciousness.  He or she doesn't matter. He or she doesn't exist for you.   We don't have to active deny the basic dignity of the other.  We just have to not notice it.  Not attend to it We don't have to actively reject the other's special and unique goodness, we just have to not notice it, not attend to it.   We don't have to actively ignore the other's needs and wants -- we just have to be preoccupied with our own trauma and its effects.     Hope Romans 8:28 We know that in everything God works for good[a] with those who love him,[b] who are called according to his purpose.  Julian of Norwich:  And because of the tender love which our good Lord has for all who will be saved, he comforts readily and sweetly, meaning this: it is true that sin is the cause of all this pain, but all will be well, and every kind of thing will be well.   Widow's mite Luke 21:1-4  He looked up and saw rich people putting their gifts into the treasury; 2 he also saw a poor widow put in two small copper coins. 3 He said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put in more than all of them; 4 for all of them have contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty has put in all she had to live on.”  Ratios   Martin Luther King:  Love even for enemies is the key to the solution of the problems of the world.  Strength to Love 47-48  Psychologist Peter Levine:  Trauma is hell on earth. Trauma resolved is a gift from the gods.  Romans 5:20 ..where sin increased, grace abounded all the more,  1 John 3:1  See what love the Father has given us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.  Romans 8 35-39  Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?  As it is written, “For your sake we are being killed all day long; we are accounted as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.   Call to Action Kent Keith The Paradoxical Commandments -- Resilience.  Mother Theresa had pinned this up in one of her convents.    People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.   Love them anyway.If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.   Do good anyway.Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.   Be honest and frank anyway.What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.   Build anyway.People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.   Help people anyway.Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.   Give the world the best you have anyway.   Where we are going If you want to love, you have to first be loved and know you are loved.   Tolerating being loved -- many people assume that we just want to be loved -- that's not anything like entirely accurate.  1 John 4:19 We love, because he first loved us. Ordered self love.    Check out our blogs -- weekly email reflections  June 15 -- Seven ways to understand sin     Sin as breaking the law    Sin as a burden    Sin as a debt    Sin as “missing the mark”    Sin as a violating your conscience    Sin as breaking or harming relationships    Sin as the failure to love, or the “anti-love” June 22  Dangerous Love -- we really get into St. Augustine's description of sin as a disordered or misdirected love, and I share how when we that misdirected love is oriented toward getting our attachment needs met, it's not only misdirected love, it's a dangerous love.   June 29 Conflicting loves inside you -- we get into how to understand the conflicting loves inside of us -- from a parts perspective -- multiplicity and unity of the self.   Email me crisis@soulsandhearts.com  -- call my cell 317.567.9594 any Tuesday or Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM Eastern time for conversation hours.   Let others know about this podcast.  Put the word out.  There's somebody you know dealing with trauma -- get them on board with the rest of us with the IIC podcast.  All the major podcast player -- Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Audible, Podbean, Podchaser, CastBox, Overcast, Podcast Addict, all of them, we're on all of them.  Soulsandhearts.com/iic You have until July 10.  The RCC -- Come with me on an adventure.  Come with me on an adventure of being loved and of loving.  That is what the Resilient Catholic Community is all about.  Check out the Resilient Catholics Community at soulsandhearts.com/RCC  The RCC is all about working through your human formation issues -- the ones that inhibit you from receiving the love you need and from loving God completely, with every fiber of your being, with your body,  with all your parts, with all your emotions, thoughts, all your inner experience with all of you, with no part of you left behind, no part of you left out.   It's all about learning to be gentle but firm with yourself -- it's all about integration.  It's all about resilience.   All about restoration -- recovering from being dominated by shame, fear, anger, sadness, pessimism, whatever your struggle is in the depths of your human formation And we do this work experientially -- so many experiential exercises -- this is not just intellectual knowledge, we're working with all of you. Informed by Internal Family Systems and the best of the rest of psychological and human formation resources  All grounded in a Catholic understanding of the human person  All focused on helping you to better accept love and to love more fully, to carry out the two great commandments of our Lord.   Are you up for the challenge?  Would you like to join me and the rest of the pioneers in this adventure?  Do you want to be a part of the community?   Are you ready to prevail over whatever hinders your human formation -- would you like to no longer be dominated by fear, anger, shame, sadness, pessimism?  And would you like to be with other like-minded Catholics on the journey -- If so join me.  Join all of us in the Resilient Catholics Community.  The RCC We are taking applications throughout until July 10 -- extended the deadline.   for our third cohort, those in that cohort will start their adventure in June and July by taking our Initial Measures Kits and be getting feedback on their parts in a personal Zoom session with me.  It's a great chance for us to get to know each other, really know each other at the level of parts.  You'll get a 5 or 6 page report on your internal system and then be eligible for our weekly company meetings and programming to begin in late August or early September.   Talk with me about it in conversation hours call my cell 317.567.9594 any Tuesday or Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM Eastern time for conversation hours.   Patroness and Patron   

For those long-time listeners, you know that I love learning and talking about Leadership, and I love bringing guests on the podcast who can share their leadership knowledge and expertise with you, which is why I couldn't wait to share this interview with you! My guest today is Drew Dudley, a Wall Street Journal best-selling author, educator, and speaker. A mentor of mine introduced me Drew's TEDx Talk “Leading with Lollipops” a few years ago, and since then I have shared Drew's Talk with dozens of people. If you haven't watched it yet, I encourage you to do it now. We have a link to Drew's TEDx Talk below. Drew Dudley is someone who has a refreshing perspective on leadership and he is an excellent storyteller. The first time I met him, I couldn't stop smiling, and hopefully by the end of this episode you'll feel empowered to be an extraordinarily intentional leader. Bottom line: Drew Dudley is going to inspire you to become a new kind of leader.  Your roadside friend, as you travel from client to client.  -Trace    Timestamps: Thanking the best audience in Water Treatment, the Scaling UP! Nation and upcoming events [01:54] Introducing Wall Street Journal best-selling author and TEDx Speaker, Drew Dudley [13:45] Tedx Talk experience and shaping your story [17:42] The origin of the “Lollipop Moment” [21:36] Creating change with Lollipop Moments  [28:08] Leadership as conscious acts [33:24] Becoming intentional with the language you choose to use [37:20] Getting Leadership right in business [40:40] What is Drew's book “This is Day One: A Practical Guide To Leadership The Matters” about? [47:04] Catch Drew Dudley in-person at the AWT Conference in Vancouver! [50:06] Lightning round questions [52:47] Thinking On Water With James [1:05:25]   Thinking On Water With James: In this week's episode, we're thinking about the shelf life of industrial-strength sodium hypochlorite or bleach. How long will a drum of sodium hypochlorite last? What factors can impact its shelf life? Do heat and light have an impact?  Will contact with certain metals have an impact? What is chemically happening to the sodium hypochlorite to reduce its shelf life? What are the possible consequences of feeding it after it is beyond its shelf life? How does understanding the shelf life of sodium hypochlorite impact the volume ordered when usage rate is considered? Take this week to think about the shelf life of industrial-strength sodium hypochlorite and what it may mean to you.    Quotes: “When leadership is all about power, influence, and prestige it doesn't connect with young people.” - Drew Dudley “One of the challenges isn't whether we have enough schools teaching Leadership, it's how they're teaching Leadership, especifically, what examples they are using.” - Drew Dudley “The key to any talk, TED or otherwise, is ‘what's the story'?” - Drew Dudley “The Lollipop Moment is about a moment in life where somebody let you know that you had a bigger impact than you are aware.” - Drew Dudley “Useful compelling ideas are inherently motivating.” - Drew Dudley “Every great story begins with an act of stupidity” - Drew Dudley “It's not the goals you've set, it's not the goals you reached; and it's how you behaved in pursuit of these goals.” - Drew Dudley “Moments of personal impact are the only source of power that are accessible to everyone on earth.”  - Drew Dudley “Leadership is not about random acts, it's about conscious acts.” - Drew Dudley “Never allow someone who you know is a person of worth to diminish themselves in front of you.” - Drew Dudley “If you present how you feel about something, it can't be argued with.” - Drew Dudley “Research shows that the more people in an organization that understand their own personal values and can live them everyday, the better the organization is going to be.” - Drew Dudley “In Leadership, you never steal anything, you benchmark a good practice.” - Drew Dudley “Please tell your story, share it with people. Vulnerability leads to extraordinary connections.” - Drew Dudley “As a speaker, what you've been given is the gift of other people's attention and the opportunity to change minds.” - Drew Dudley “When we put ideas out in the world, we have no idea where they're gonna land.” - Drew Dudley   Connect with Drew Dudley: TEDx Toronto - Drew Dudley "Leading with Lollipops" Phone: 1-855-685-3253 Email: support@drewdudley.com Website: www.drewdudley.com LinkedIn: in/dayonedrew Twitter: @DayOneDrew Instagram: @dayonedrew Facebook: @DayOneDrew Book: This is Day One by Drew Dudley   Links Mentioned: TEDx Toronto - Drew Dudley "Leading with Lollipops" Watch more TED Talks on TED and TEDx Talks Audible Cystic Fibrosis Canada The Rising Tide Mastermind AWT (Association of Water Technologies) How to Apply or Renew Your Passport? Dirty Jobs (TV Series) March of the Penguins (Documentary) Submit a Show Idea   Events: The Hang Networking Event - July 14, 2022 @ 6:00 p.m. EST 2022 Utility Leadership Conference – July 24 to 27, 2022 in Seattle, Washington  Smart Water Summit – August 29 to 31, 2022 in San Antonio, Texas  Association of Water Technologies' 2022 Annual Convention and Exposition – September 21 to 24, 2022 in Vancouver, Canada How to Apply or Renew Your Passport?   Books Mentioned: This is Day One: A Practical Guide To Leadership The Matters by Drew Dudley  Start With Why by Simon Sinek Dare to Lead by Brené Brown  Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brené Brown  Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown  The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown  Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown  Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown  I Thought It Was Just Me (But it isn't): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power by Brené Brown  Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap and Others Don't by Jim Collins Built to Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies by Jim Collins The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy by Jon Gordon The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable by Patrick Lencioni Silos, Politics and Turf Wars by Patrick Lencioni Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel H. Pink A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future by Daniel H. Pink Linchpin: Are You Indispensable? By Seth Godin Be So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport Leadership, Reinvented by Hamza Khan Let's Pretend This Never Happened: A Mostly True Memoir by Jenny Lawson Everything is Horrible and Wonderful by Stephanie Wittels Wachs The Leadership Test: Will You Pass? by Timothy R. Clark Encouraging The Heart Workbook by Barry Posner and James M. Kouzes Gettysburg Address - Abraham Lincoln  

“If you're suffering from drinking, there is help,” a direct quote from a powerful goddess, Nancy McKay. She is a Certified Wayfinder Life Coach through Martha Beck, Inc., a Certified Equus Coach® through Koelle Institute for Equus Coaching®, as well as a Certified Mind-Body-Eating Coach through The Institute for the Psychology of Eating. She partners with her clients to bring transformational change to their lives. Her life experience with alcohol and cancer, together with the valuable training she's received, gives her the expertise, compassion and skill to guide her clients on their journey of seeking their truth, transformation and thriving. She shares her story loudly and as frequently as she can. Nancy's most influential book: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené BrownSocial Media:Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/amazingoutlookcoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recoverywithnancy LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancymckay/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtngVhVK8dcneQyJjDDWMag/Bowtie Kids – Courage & Confidence For Kids With Chronic Pain is an impact-driven, for-purpose organization committed to enhancing the lives of youth suffering from chronic pain and their families. Its mission is to inspire courage and confidence in youth living with chronic pain and their families by transforming lives through personal development, community building, and gardening to build a sustainable quality of life.Get social with them on IG, FB, and Linked In: @bowtiekidswww.bowtiekids.org#PodMatch #healthandwellness #physicaltherapy #holisticnutritionSubscribe To and Watch The Voices of The Goddess with Julietta Wenzel and Allyson Mancini on Youtube HERE:YouTube: /VoicesofTheGoddessFacebook: /Voices-of-the-Goddess-356165865475415 Instagram: /voicesofthegoddess Voices of The Goddess with Julietta the Magical PT and Allyson the Holistic Nutritionist is a show that  supports modern day goddesses in developing their super powers and acquiring the tools they need to achieve all their desires. Join us each week as we interview amazing women in the community who share their insights and how they use their tools to make their dreams a reality. Allyson, a Michigander, moved to South Florida in 1993 with her fiancé, Nick. Married for 28 years with two children, Nicholas 25 and Lexi 22. A SAHM for 24 years and now an empty nester, she has found her true passion as the Human Resources Director for The Goal Digger Girl and a Functional Nutritionist.Facebook: /AllysonKMancini Instagram: /allysonkmancini/?hl=en LinkedIn : /allysonkmancini/Julietta grew up in Wisconsin and graduated with a Physical Therapy degree from University of Wisconsin-Madison.  When not busy treating patients or teaching Voila Method in the US and internationally, she is making healing crystal art and jewelry, creating spiritual/healing paintings, or planning underground dining experiences. A contributing author in the best-selling book UNSTOPPABLE: Leverage Life Setbacks To Rebuild Resilience For SuYour Future in Sales & MarketingA podcast that can help you make great decisions to get the most out of your Sales &...Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

What is true vulnerability? Why is it so important? When is it safe? And how can I get better at it? In this episode, I answer all these questions and more...If you want to become more vulnerable with men committed to curiosity and compassion, apply to join an upcoming Husband Material group at husbandmaterial.com/groupResources on vulnerability (including paid links):The Power Of Vulnerability (TED Talk) by Brené BrownDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Bréne BrownThe Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brené BrownRefuge: How Hospital Church Ministry Can Change Your Church Forever, by James Reeves

Chris Chandler is a Master Instructor with SoulCycle, Founding Instructor with Equinox Plus, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, & Regional Vice President with Arbonne International. What's unique about Chris is that a life-changing event, filled with grief, propelled him on a journey of self-exploration, and ultimately helped him find his truth, his dream job, and a lot more. In this episode, we dive deep into his intrapreneurial & entrepreneurial journey, the importance of building community & connection, how to succeed as a SoulCycle instructor, why he loves Arbonne so much, and so much more.  And make sure to listen to the end where Chris shares how we all have the ability to connect back to our own, unique greatness. That is our human potential! So whether you're interested in indoor cycling, joy & nutrition coaching, or how to live in a way that is authentically you, this episode is for you.   Episode links & resources: Chris Chandler || Website | Instagram Chris @ SoulCycle Institute For Integrative Nutrition Arbonne International Earnings.Arbonne B Corporation Azusa Pacific University (APU) lululemon Domain (North Austin, TX) Intrapreneur vs. Entrepreneur I Will Teach You To Be Rich (book by Ramit Sethi) I Will Teach You To Be Rich (Podcast by Ramit Sethi) Peloton Barry's Atlas Of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (book by Brené Brown) The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (book by Brené  Brown) Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (book by Brené  Brown) Brené Brown (website) George Kinder's Three Questions For Life Planning 11 Personal Finance Tips For Self-Employed Movement, Health, & Healing Professionals Human Potential Personal Finance

Today's conversation is all about leadership, which we believe is such an important topic because everyone is a leader in their own way. With several decades of combined leadership experience, we want to begin a broader dialogue about why leadership matters and some of the lessons we've learned, along with resources that will be helpful in your own personal leadership journey. We want to stress that this conversation isn't just for individuals that have a formal leadership title. We believe that there are always new things to be learned as we explore leadership in our daily lives, and opportunities for us to step up and lead in a number of different ways. As always, we love to hear your feedback. If you have a question or topic that you'd like us to discuss in a future episode, please go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message. You can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com, on social media at https://www.facebook.com/respectcircles and https://www.instagram.com/respectcircles/, or by visiting our website at www.respectcircles.com too. We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks so much for listening. We'd love to have you subscribe to the podcast, leave us a rating and review, and share with your friends! In this episode you'll hear: Why we feel so strongly that everyone is a leader, regardless of his or her formal title [1:46] The very first thing that comes to Stephanie's mind when she thinks of leadership [3:32] Some of AJ's personal experience with the leadership positions that he's held over the years [4:30] Where many leaders today are going wrong by not focusing on the right things [7:52] A big taboo of leadership, and the dangers of practicing leadership the “traditional” way [9:26] The role that vulnerability plays in leadership [16:39] A difficult decision that AJ had to make in 2020, from a family leadership standpoint [18:17] The power and importance of communication in leadership [33:24] Action steps you can take right now to assess where you are as leader, where you want to be, and what you can do to bridge the gap [34:05] Links & Resources: Recommended Readings and TED Talk by Dr. Brené Brown: Dare to Lead: Brave Work.Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. https://amzn.to/33wSaIS Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead https://amzn.to/3tx5k3n Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience https://amzn.to/33kBULf TED Talk (with over 56M views): https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability 

This is a conversation with Jefim Vogel of the Sustainability Research Institute at the University of Leeds, and Julia Steinberger of the Institute of Geography and Sustainability at the University of Lausanne, about a paper they worked on entitled "socio-economic conditions for satisfying human needs at low energy use: An international analysis of social provisioning." Julia is also an author of the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC) 6th Assessment Report, contributing to the report's discussion of climate change mitigation pathways. Support: Patreon.com/firethesetimes Website: TheFireThisTi.Me Twitter + Instagram @ firethesetimes Topics Discussed How the major environmental and social crises of our time are interlinked, especially energy use Meeting basic needs at low energy use Leapfrogging fairly Disparities between global North and global South (Some of) the limits of economic growth Citizens' assemblies and other examples of ways forward Living well within limits Recommended Books: Jefim's: Less is More: How Degrowth Will Save the World by Jason Hickel Requiem for the American Dream: The 10 Principles of Concentration of Wealth & Power by Noam Chomsky Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown Julia's: Overheated: How Capitalism Broke the Planet--And How We Fight Back by Kate Aronoff The Future Earth: A Radical Vision for What's Possible in the Age of Warming by Eric Holthaus We Make Our Own History: Marxism and Social Movements in the Twilight of Neoliberalism by Laurence Cox & Alf Gunvald Nilsen

As summer comes to a close, so many of us have either moved to a new location or have had dear friends move away (myself included). And with that physical separation, often comes a sense of loneliness. And, if we aren't intentional about making new friends, it can lead us to a place of isolation. And isolation will negatively affect our health, our well-being, and our ability to thrive and pursue lives of purpose as military spouses. Part of MilSpouse life  is saying “see you later” to good friends and saying “Will you be my emergency contact?” to people you have just met. When I think back to being a young military spouse, there was so much that I didn't know. And I think one thing I underestimated was how hard it can be to make new friends in a new location. And how vital it is to our mental and emotional health!  So today I want to chat specifically about why finding your tribe matters, how to combat feelings of isolation, and four things you can do today to meet new people and find your tribe (even if you're an introvert). Friend, we are better together. We become the best version of ourselves in community. We grow in community. We do more and achieve more and become more in community. And when we go together, we make a difference and we change the world! So let's talk about how to pursue friendship as military spouses! P.S. If you are looking for a virtual tribe of military spouses seeking to live with more meaning and purpose in life, head over to our free MilSpouse Mastermind Facebook group and join the conversation! MENTIONS Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown LINKS START HERE! (Learn how to stop feeling pulled in all direction & prioritize what matters most) -> https://milspousemastermind.com/values Join the Free MilSpouse Mastermind FB Community -> https://milspousemastermind.com/community Free Download: Growth Wheel Assessment (Assess which areas of your life are out of balance) https://milspousemastermind.com/growthwheel Request a Get Unstuck Coaching Session -> christine@milspousemastermind.com Full episodes, blog posts and more -> https://milspousemastermind.com Connect -> hello@milspousemastermind.com Instagram -> @christineh Listen on Apple Podcast -> https://milspousemastermind.com/show Listen on Google -> https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL01pbFNwb3VzZU1hc3Rlcm1pbmQvZmVlZC54bWw%3D