Podcast appearances and mentions of matthias roberts

Matthias Roberts is a queer  psychotherapist (in Washington State) and the author of both "Holy Runaways:Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion" and "Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms". He is one of my favorite friends I met in graduate school, a human deeply committed to connection and curiosity,  and someone who I deeply admire. With Matthias, I feel a sense of belonging and openness to understanding the world and holding space for that curiosity which is so threatening elsewhere. Rebecca W. Walston is an African American lawyer, who also holds a MA Counseling, an all around boss babe. Rebecca runs a Law Practice and serves as General Legal Counsel for The Impact Movement, Inc.  She is someone who fiercely advocates for others freedom and healing. She is a dear friend and colleague, who anyone would be lucky to spend a dinner with talking about almost anything.Trigger Warning: Proceed only if you are comfortable with potentially sensitive topics.This is not psychological advice, service, or prescriptive treatment for anxiety or depression. The content related to descriptions of depression, anxiety, or despair may be upsetting or triggering, but are clearly not exhaustive. If you should feel symptoms of depression and/or anxiety, please seek professional mental health services, or contact (in Kitsap County) Kitsap Mobile Crisis Team at  1-888-910-0416. The line is staffed by professionals who are trained to determine the level of crisis services needed. Depending on the need, this may include dispatching the KMHS Mobile Crisis Outreach Team for emergency assessment. Speaker 1 (00:18):Welcome to the Rise podcast, conversations on faith, race, justice, gender, and spirituality. Today we're continuing our conversation on election humanity and politics. I have two guests today. I'm very excited about it. Matthias Roberts, who's a queer psychotherapist in Washington State, and the author of both Holy Runaways and Beyond Shame. Actually, he's one of my favorite friends I met in graduate school. I don't know if he knows that he's a human, deeply committed to connection and curiosity and someone I deeply admire with Matthias. I've always felt this sense of belonging and openness to understanding the world and holding space for that actual curiosity, which has seems so threatening elsewhere. So I want to thank Matthias for joining me and taking time out of his morning. And Rebecca Wheeler Walstead holds an MA in counseling an all around boss babe. Rebecca runs a law practice and serves as general legal counsel for the Impact movement, and she is someone who fiercely advocates for others freedom and healing. She's a dear friend, obviously she's a colleague and she's someone that anybody would be lucky to spend a dinner with talking about almost anything. So thank you, Rebecca, for joining me today.(01:40):I can say that for myself in my own experience, my anxiety is heightened overall and feelings that I can keep at bay with regular normal coping mechanisms such as exercise. It takes to me a little bit more and I have to offer myself a lot more grace in the process. I encourage you no matter where you are, to engage these topics with grace towards your own self, towards your neighbor, towards your family, and towards whoever's in your proximity. We won't get things done overnight no matter who we are, and we will get them done if we become more aligned and care more for those in our proximity, that means our neighbor. So if you're feeling or experiencing anxiety around the election or family or other triggers, I want you to encourage you to seek out and find someone to speak with. Maybe you need a mental health professional, maybe you need a spiritual advisor. Maybe it's your coach and it's something related to business. Maybe you need to go see your doctor for aches and pains you've been having. I don't know what it might be for you, but don't hesitate to reach out and get the help you need. We're going to jump into the conversation and voices from across the country. We are all different and we're not meant to be the same. I hope you find pieces of you in each of their stories. Hey, Rebecca. Hey, Matthias. Thanks for being with me today.Speaker 2 (03:06):Daniel, thanks for havingSpeaker 1 (03:07):Us. I just thought we would talk about this really amazing subject of politics and humanness because we're so good at it in the United States. Yeah, right. Y'all thoughts on that? Even as I say that, just politics and being human, what comes to mind?Speaker 2 (03:34):For me, there's almost a dual process happening. I think about my first thought was, well, politics are, but then I also thought about how when we separate institutions out from people, especially in the way that corporations tend to separate out how they become anti-human so quickly, and not that politics is necessarily a corporation, but I think there's a form of it. There's something corporate about it. And so I think about that juxtaposition and maybe the dichotomy there between, yeah, it's human, but I think it's also anti-human in the ways that it has to, I think almost by definition, separate from maybe these places of deep feeling or nuance in order to collapse all of that experience into something that people can rally on.Speaker 3 (04:51):I think there's something dehumanizing about our current politics, but I think that that is about power. I think when politics becomes about the consolidation of power or the perpetuation of power or the hanging on to it sort of desperately, then it no longer is about the people that the institutions and the country was built to serve and protect. And so I think there are all these ideals in our politics that on paper and in theory sound amazing, but when people in their humanness or maybe in the worst of our humanness step away from other people and not just people as sort of this collective generalized, but the actual person in front of you, the actual person in front of you and the story that they have and the life that they live, and how decisions and theories and ideals will impact the actual person in front of you. And when politics becomes about collecting power and maintaining that power at all costs, then it's no longer about people. It's no longer about lives. It's no longer about stories, and all those things become expendable in the name of the consolidation and the maintenance of power. And I think that at its heart is a human question. It's a question of selfishness and self-serving and maybe even self idolatry.Speaker 1 (06:49):I think that I agree, Matthias, I've been thinking a lot about, because in my family it's been a lot of comments like, well, we shouldn't talk about politics because we're family. I'm like, wait a minute, wait just a minute. Because the very politic that is being said from one angle is hurting the humanity of this other particular family member. How do we make sense of that? How do we say politics isn't a very human, the impact is meant to impact humans. The power is meant to impact humans, so the political sphere has become so toxic to us.Speaker 3 (07:40):Yeah, I think that sentence, we shouldn't talk about politics because we're family. It says more about maybe our fragility as a culture in this moment and our inability to have hard conversations without feeling like the difficulty of them fractures, relationships and familial bonds in ways that cannot be repaired or restored in any way. And I think it is also a statement about the toxicity of our politics that we have allowed it to get to a place where it actually threatens those kinds of familial bonds in some sense, you want go back to, you remember that book that was big in the nineties? All I ever learned about life I learned in kindergarten, right? All I ever needed to know, it reminds me of that because raising kids, I would raise my kids to say, there isn't anything on this earth that should fracture your bond as siblings. I raised them to believe that. I insisted that they engage the world from this vantage point that come hell or high water do or die is you and your sister. That's it. And it doesn't matter what happens in this world, there should never be a scenario in which that isn't true. And we have arrived at this place where people honestly believe that your political affiliation somehow threatens that.(09:19):That's sad and sad feels like a word that's not heavy enough to articulate. There's something wrong, really wrong if that's where we are,Speaker 2 (09:35):I think it speaks perhaps to our inability to do conflict well, and I'm the first, I don't do this all with my family at all. I'm terrible at conflict with my family, at least in the arena of politics. But I think about, I wonder if some of the fracturing that we say, I don't think it's all of it by any means, but is that reality of, because we can't have these conversations in our immediate family, it's getting projected into the wider, I mean, it has to play out somewhat. It is going to, that's the nature of it. So because we can't do it locally, it is having to play out on this grand scale. Rebecca, as you said, sad. I think it's horrifying too.Speaker 1 (10:44):It's what?Speaker 2 (10:45):Horrifying.Speaker 1 (10:46):Yes. It's very dangerous to be honest.Speaker 2 (10:54):It's very, yeah, those bonds, we have the familial bonds. Those are protective in some ways when we remove that, we remove those protections.Speaker 1 (11:11):I think we've been practicing at a society, and I'm talking particularly about the United States at ways of removing those bonds in multiple spheres of the way we've thought about life, the way we think about another person, the way we judge each other, the way we vote in past elections. I mean, the civil rights movement is pushing against that notion that family means dehumanizing someone else. And so even this idea of, I'm not even sure if I can say it right, but just how we've constructed the idea of family and what do our shared values mean. In some sense, it's been constructed on this false notion that someone is worth more than another person. Now, when that person shows up as fully human, then I think we don't know what to do with it.Speaker 3 (12:11):Yeah. I think something you said, Mathias about we don't do conflict well, right? I think rarely is any issue, black and white. Rarely is any issue. So clear cut and so definitive that you can boldly stand on one side or the other and stay there in perpetuity without ever having to wrestle or grapple with some complexity, some nuance. And I think maybe part of what we don't do well is that right? Somehow we've gotten to this space where we have maybe an oversimplified if that, I'm not even sure that's a good word, perspective on a number of issues as if there isn't any complexity and there isn't any nuance and there isn't any reason to pause and wonder if context or timing would change the way we think about something, right? And nor do we think that somehow changing your mind is no longer acceptable.(13:20):I think about, I saw a number of interviews with Kamala Harris. People talk to her about, well, why'd you change your mind about this or that? Why'd you change your perspective about this or that? And then part of the conversation was about when did we get to this place where growing and learning and changing your mind is bad for someone who is in the profession of holding public office since when can you not get in public office, learn some things differently, meet some new people, understand the issue better, and go, you know what? I need to change the way I think about this, but we are there. All of a sudden it means you're not fit for office, at least as it has been applied to Kamala Harris in this particular and even before her. The notion of a flip flopper is again to say you can't somehow change your mind.Speaker 2 (14:21):So that makes me start to then think about some of the myths, and I mean that deeper theological myth in the sense of not that it is untrue, but more in the sense of how it permeates culture. That's when I say myth and we have this idea or many people have this idea of a God that doesn't change, a God who doesn't change his mind as the ideal of there is right there is wrong, and the ideal is no change. And we have examples and scriptures, at least I believe, of a God who does change his mind, who sees what happens and change is what he does. And I think those can be compatible with maybe some ideas that maybe God doesn't change, but we also have examples of God changing his mind. But I think that has permeated our world of something unchanging is better than someone who or something who does change. And I wonder what that impact has beenSpeaker 3 (15:38):That made me pause. I certainly come out of a faith background of hold to God's unchanging hand. I mean, I can come up off the top of my head with a dozen different examples of the notion of he does not shift, he does not change. And the kind of comfort or solidity that can be found in this notion that we're not subject to the whim of his mood in any given time, but what you said causes me to think about it and to think about what does it mean to say that we live in a world where there is a God who can be persuaded by something in the human context that will cause him to respond or react differently than perhaps his original mindset is. I'm going to walk away from this conversation pondering that for a while. I think,Speaker 2 (16:30):Yeah, there are stories of that in scripture.Speaker 3 (16:36):The one that comes to my mind is the story of, and I'm not going to get all the names correct, so whoever's listening, forgive me for that. But the story that comes to my mind is the prophet of old who is pleaded with God for more time on earth, for more space to be alive and walk the earth as a human being. And God granted his request. And again, now there's a bit of a paradigm shift for me. What does it mean to say that I live in a world where there's a God who can be persuaded? I think the other thing when you said about a God who changes his mind, what comes up for me is also a God who holds extremely well the nuance and the complexity of our humanness and all that that means. And so often I find it's sort of the pharmaceutical attitude that we can have that things are rigid and there's only one way to see it and one way to do it. And if you ever watch Jesus's engagement with the Pharisees, it's always actually the problem is more complex than that. Actually the question you're asking is more than that. And so what matters less is the rule. What matters more is the impact of that rule. And if we need to change the rule in order for the appropriate impact, then let's do that.Speaker 1 (18:08):It's kind of gets back to something I've been learning in consultation, talking about this idea. I think we're talking about very young spaces collectively for our society. If I was to put it in that frame, the idea of as a child, a very young kid, even into your teenagers, you need to know something solid. You need to know that's not changing. That's the rule. That's what I got to do. And it's the parent's responsibility to make meaning and metabolize nuance for you and help you process through that. But one of our first developmental things is to split. This is good, this is bad, this person is safe, this person. That's a developmental process. But in somewhere we got stuck,Speaker 3 (18:54):It brings to my mind, you've heard me reference raising kids. And so I raised my kids to say this idea that you have to be respectful and thoughtful in your choices. And I always told my kid that so long as you are respectful and thoughtful in your choices, your voices will always be heard and welcomed kind of in our home. And so my daughter approached me, she's making an argument about something that I absolutely did not agree with her final conclusion. I was like, there's no version of anybody's universe where you're doing that, right? And she says to me, but you said if I was thoughtful and I was respectful that I could assert my position and I have been respectful in my tone and I've been thoughtful in my position. And she was absolutely right. Both had been true, and I found myself having to say, okay, now I sort of backed myself into a corner.(19:58):She followed me into it and the conversation ended up being about, Hey, that's true. Those are the parameters, but you're older now and the things that you're making decisions about have more impact and they're more nuanced and complex than that. So we need to add a couple more things to your rubric, and it's a hard conversation to have, but it makes me think about that developmental piece that you're saying, Danielle, that when we're younger, there's certain sort of bright line rules and the older you get and the more complex life gets, the more you need to be able to actually blur those lines a little bit and fudge them a little bit and sometimes color outside of the lines because it is the right thing to do.Speaker 2 (20:48):I think that movement from that really kind of rigid split into Rebecca what you're talking about, it requires that grappling with grief and loss, it requires that sense of even if I followed the rules, I didn't get what I wanted. And that is we have options there. We can rage against it and go back into the split, you are bad. I'm good, or actually grapple with that. I did everything I was supposed to and it still didn't work out in that words, it doesn't feel good and grieve and feel the pain of that and actually work with those parts of ourselves. And there is so much that our nation has not grieved, not repented from, and we are in the consequences of that.Speaker 1 (21:53):I was just thinking that Mathias, it's like we're asking one another to make meaning, but we're at a very base level of meaning making. We're trying to first discern, discern what is reality, and a lot of times we don't share reality, but when you're a baby, the reality is your caregiver hopefully, or even the absence of you become accustomed to that. And so I think we've become accustomed to this sense of almost this indoctrination of a certain type of religion, which I would call white evangelical Christianity, where they're telling you, I can make sense of all of this from the perspective of race. I can do that for you. Whether they talk about it explicitly or not, they're like, I can tell you what's good and bad from this perspective, but then if you add in how do you make sense of all the Christians vote for Trump and 84% of African-Americans are going to vote for Kamala Harris. I grew up thinking, are those people not Christians? I didn't know as a kid, I was raised with my father. I didn't understand, didn't make sense to me, but I thought, how could so many people as a child, I actually had this thought, how could so many people not know Jesus, but go to church and how could all these people know Jesus and say they're going to heaven? It never made sense to me.Speaker 3 (23:19):I mean, what you're saying, Danielle, is probably why there is a very clear historical and present day distinction between white evangelism and the black church. That's why those two things exist in different spaces because even from the very beginning, white evangelicalism or what became white evangelicalism advocated for slavery, and Frederick Douglass learned how to read by reading the scripture at risk to his own life and to the white slave owner who taught him how to read. And once he learned to read and absorbed the scriptures for himself, his comment is there is no greater dichotomy than the Christianity of this world and the Christianity of scripture. And so your sense that it doesn't make any sense is as old as the first enslaved African who knew how to understand the God of the Bible for him or herself and started to say out loud, we got problems, Houston.Speaker 1 (24:39):Yeah, I remember that as a young child asking that question because it just never made sense to me. And obviously I understand now, but as a kid you grow up with a certain particular family, a Mexican mom, a white father. I didn't know how to make sense of that.Speaker 3 (25:04):I mean, you say, oh, even now I understand and I want to go. You do. I don't explain that to me. I mean, there's a certain sense in which I think we're all in many ways, and I say all the country as a whole church, the American church as a whole trying to make sense of what is that, what was that and what do we do now that the modern sort of white evangelical movement is essentially the Christianity of our entire generation. And so now that that's being called into question in a way that suggests that perhaps it is white and it's religious, but it might not in fact be the Christianity of the Bible. Now what do we do? And I've spent some time in recent years with you, Danielle, in some Native American spaces in the presence of theologians who reckoned with things of God from a Native American perspective.(26:09):And if nothing else, I have learned there's a whole bunch. I don't know about what it means to walk with the God of the Bible and that my native brothers and sisters know some things I don't know, and I am kind of mad about it. I'm kind of angry actually about what it is they know that was kept from me that I was taught to dismiss because the author of those ideas didn't look like the white Jesus whose picture was in my Bible or on the vacation Bible school curriculum or whatever. I'm sort of angry at the wisdom they hold for what it means to be a follower of what I think in many native spaces they would refer to as creator, and that was withheld from me. That would've changed the way, enhanced the way I understand this place of faith. And something that white evangel and evangelicalism expressly said was heresy was of the devil was to be ignored or dismissed or dismantled or buried.Speaker 1 (27:31):I mean, you have Tucker Carlson referring to Trump as daddy in a recent speech. So you then have this figure that can say, Hey, little kids, don't worry. Your worldview is okay. It's still right and let me make sense of it. I can make sense of it for you with X, Y, Z policies with racist rhetoric and banter. I can do anything I want. I can show up in Madison Square Garden and replicate this horrific political rally and I can do it and everybody will be okay with it, even if they're not okay, they're not going to stop me. So we still have a meaning maker out there. I mean, he is not making my meaning, but he's making meaning. For a lot of folks.Speaker 3 (28:29):It is even worse than that. There's a couple of documentaries that are out now. One's called Bad Faith, the other one's called God and Country, and in one of them, I think it was Bad Faith, and they're talking about the rise of Christian nationalism. For me, as a person of faith, one of my biggest questions has always been, there's nothing about this man's rhetoric that remotely reflects anything I ever learned in every Sunday school class and every vacation Bible school, in every Bible study and every church service I've ever been to. He is boldly antithetical to all of it.(29:06):And he says that out loud, right back to his comments about, no, I've never asked God for forgiveness because I've never done anything that warranted forgiveness that is antithetical to the heart of evangelical Christianity that asserts that the only way to God and to heaven in the afterlife is through the person of Jesus Christ. And so every person has to admit their own sin and then accept Christ as the atonement for that sin. And he bluntly says, I don't do that. Right. So my question has always been, I don't get it right. Two plus two is now four in your world. So how are 80% of evangelicals or higher voting for this man? And in that movie, bad faith, they talk about, they make reference to the tradition of Old Testament scripture of a king who is not a follower of God, who God sort of uses anyway towards the bent of his own will.(30:18):And there's probably a number of references in Old Testament scripture if I was an Old Testament theologian, some of the people who have invested in me, I could give you names and places and dates. I can't do that. But there is a tradition of that sort of space being held and the notion what's being taught in some of these churches on Sundays and on Wednesday night Bible study is that's who he is. That's who Trump is in a religious framework. And so he gets a pass and permission to be as outlandish and as provocative and as mean spirited and as dare I say, evil or bad as he wants to be. And there is no accountability for him in this life, or the next one, which I don't even know what to say to that, except it's the genius move to gaslight an entire generation of Christians that will probably take hold and be with us for far longer than Trump is on the political landscape.Speaker 2 (31:29):I am not fully convinced it's gaslighting. On one hand it is. They're saying one thing, doing another. It absolutely is by definition. And I think growing up in white evangelicalism, there is, at least for the men, I think an implicit belief, I don't even think it's explicit. It's becoming explicit that they get that past too. It functions on those passes, those senses of we don't have to hold up to accountability. And I think we see that in all the sexual abuse scandals. We see that in the narcissism of so many white evangelical pastors. There is this sense of, as long as we're in this system, there isn't accountability. And so you can say one thing and do another, and it doesn't matter. You have God's authority over you and therefore it's okay. And so I think there's something, I'm right there with you, it doesn't make any sense, but I think it's also quite consistent with the way that authority has been structured within thoseSpeaker 1 (33:14):Spaces that you said that I felt like, I don't know if you ever get your heartbeat right in your neck, but I had it right there. Oh, yeah. I think that feels true. Yeah, it's gaslighting, but also it's meant to be that way.Speaker 3 (33:39):Do you think that that's new math or is that at the inception? What do you attribute the origin of that? And I don't disagree with you, I'm just sitting here like, damn, okay, so where does that come from and how long has it been there?Speaker 2 (34:04):I don't know. I have guesses. I think, how do you enslave an entire people without something like that and then found literal denominations that are structured on these power and authority? It goes back to what you were saying at the beginning, Rebecca, it's about power and accountability supports power.Speaker 3 (34:50):Yeah. Have you read The Color of Compromise?Speaker 2 (34:59):There's a documentary by that same name, right? The filmSpeaker 3 (35:02):There might beSpeaker 2 (35:05):See the film. Yeah.Speaker 3 (35:07):So he makes a comment in the book. He is writing this chapter about sort of the origins of the country and the country is as the colonies are being formed before it is a country, the colonists are in this sort of public debate about slavery and Christianity. And at least in tissie's research, there's sort of this group of colonists who come to the United States or what will become the US for the sake of proselytizing, evangelizing who they term savage, native and then enslaved Africans. And they're having this public conversation about does the conversion of a native or an African to Christianity remove them from slavery, essentially? Can you theologically own someone who's a profess child of God?(36:32):And Tse says that the origin of that debate has to do with an old English law that said that you can't enslave someone who is of the faith. And I remember reading that and thinking to myself, there's something wrong with the logic that you think you have the right to own any human being regardless of their faith belief system or not. There's something wrong with the premise in general that you believe as another human being, you have the right to own or exercise dominion over another human soul. So those are the things that go across my mind as I listen to you talk and propose the notion that this issue has been there, this flaw in the thinking has been there from the beginning.Speaker 1 (37:40):I was just thinking, I am reading this book by Paola Ramos about defectors and how Latinos in the US have moved to the far right, and she makes a case that the faith of the Spaniards told them that in order to achieve superiority, they should basically make babies with the indigenous peoples of the Americas. And they went about and did that. And then I know we always think popular literature, the United States, oh, India has this caste system. That's what people say, but really Latin America has a really complex caste system too. And to which after they brought over, and Rebecca and I know Matthias, you guys know this, but after they brought over stole African human bodies, a majority of them came Latin America, what we know as Latin America, they didn't come here to the United States to the continental us. And so then you have this alliance then between, and I'll bring it back to politics between these mixed Spaniards with indigenous folks also in enslaving Africans.(38:56):So then you get to our political commentary and you're recruiting Latinos then to join the Evangelical white church movement. And they've often been demonized and excluded in spaces because of citizenship, which adds its own complexity where African-Americans, now they have citizenship right now on the current day, but then you have these Latinos that it can be born or they're brought over on daca. So then you have this complexity where not only is there this historical century hating of African-Americans and black folks in Latino culture, but you also have this sense of that to get ahead, you have to align with white folks to come against African-Americans. You have all of that in the mix, and also then you also have to deny yourself and the fact that you have African heritage and indigenous heritage, so it's this huge mind fuck, right? How do you make sense of that colonial jargon in the political landscape? And then how does a Latino think, how do they actually encounter the nuance of their humanity and all of that, but complexly set up by the Spanish who said, we're going to enslave this X people group. In the meantime, we'll just mix our mix with this certain race, but the white people will be more dominant. And so you see that all comes into the United States politic and who gets to be human and who gets not to be human.Speaker 3 (40:44):I mean, in some ways, Daniel, you're pointing out that, and I think this goes back to math's point of several minutes ago, none of this is new under the sun. All of this is just current day manifestations or reenactments of a racialized dynamic that's been in play since forever, since even before maybe even the American colonies, right? Because what happened in terms of the transatlantic slave trade in Latin America predates some of that.Speaker 2 (41:18):Yeah. I mean, I think about England colonizing a huge portion of the world under the name of their faith that requires quite a distancing from accountability in humanity. Then you get an extreme fringe of those folks starting their own colonies.Speaker 3 (41:47):I mean, it does make me think, and my Pentecostalism is about the show, but it does make me think that there's something about this whole dynamic that's starting to feel really ancient and very old patterns that have been in place, and to me suggests from a spiritual standpoint, an enemy that is organized and intentional, and I have begun to wonder less than a week out from the election, what's the game plan if the election doesn't go the way I hope it does? What happens if America decides to give into its lesser urges as it has done in the past, and choose a path that is contrary and antithetical to its ideals what we're going to do? I ask that not even from a practical standpoint as much as spiritually speaking, how am I going to breathe and how am I going to make meaning of what you do with a world where that's the reality? We were talking before we got on air about the rally in Times Square and we can rail against it all we want, but there was hundreds of thousands of people there saying, yeah, let's do that.Speaker 4 (43:40):That scares me. AndSpeaker 2 (43:52):It doesn't go away. Even if Harris wins, I think your question of what do we do if Trump wins? It's a sobering question. It's a terrifying question, but I think it's also a very similar question of even if she wins, what do we do? What do we do? These people don't magically disappear.Speaker 1 (44:30):We're going to have to do no matter what. I just feel like there has to be some sort of, like you said, Mathias, just processing of the grief of our past because it's chasing us. You can hear it in each of our stories. It is just chasing us what we've been a part of, what we've been asked to give up. And I think America, well, the United States, not America, but the United States is terrified of what it would mean if it had to face that kind of grief.Speaker 3 (45:23):I don't know about that, Danielle, because for there to be terror would mean that you have had some conscious admission that something is gravely wrong. And I'm not even sure if we're there yet. I think America as a whole has a whole lot of defense mechanisms and coping mechanisms in place, so they never even have to get that far. And I don't know what you call that, what comes before the terror, right? Because terror would mean some part of you has admitted something, and I just don't know if we're there. And that's just me meandering through a thought process. ButSpeaker 1 (46:19):Oh, that's scary too, right? I think you're probably right. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I think we're going to bump up against our time. I know, Mathias, you have something coming up too, but any final thoughts? I don't expect us to solve anything or wrap it up, butSpeaker 2 (46:47):I'm just noting how I'm feeling and there's something both sobering and grounding about this conversation. I don't think we've covered really any kind of necessarily new territory, but to continue to speak these things, it's so brain, but it's also like, okay, we can ground ourselves in these things though. These things are true and it's terrible, but when we ground ourselves, we have ground just, and that feels different from some of the up in the air anxiety I was feeling before coming to this coverage, just the general anxiety of the election that is so pervasive. So that's a shift.Speaker 3 (47:53):I think I found myself looking back a lot in recent days back to the history of the story of African hyphen Americans in the United States, back to some fundamental things that I learned about my faith early on. And I have a sense of needing to return to those things as part of grounding that regardless of what happens in the next week or the next several months or even the next six months, we have been here before as a country, as a people, and we have survived it, and we will do so again. If I think about the black national anthem, God of our weary years, God of our silent tears, and I have found myself needing to return to those traditions and those truths, and I think I'll stay there for as long as my mind and my body and my emotions will allow me to as a way of breathing through the next several days. I mean, talk to me on November 6th. That might be in a very different place, or January 6th or January 20th, but for today, I find myself looking back, I have some curiosity for each of you. What are those traditions for you, in your own spaces, in your family, in your culture, in your people? What are the things that have grounded you in the past, and can they ground you again going forward?Speaker 2 (49:43):I'm sitting here finding myself wanting to come up with some beautiful answer. And the reality is I don't know that I have a beautiful answer. It's a difficult task.Speaker 1 (50:00):Yeah. I mean, no, we're wrapping up. I can't give you anything clever except I think what comes to mind is I often just tell myself just the next hour, the next day, sometimes I don't even think about tomorrow. I tell myself, don't rush too much. You don't know what's in tomorrow. Today's going to be okay. So I kind of coach myself up like stay in the moment.Speaker 3 (50:38):And in all fairness, Danielle, your people, if you will, are facing a very different kind of threat under a Trump presidency than mine are, and that is, I'm firmly of the belief if he's going to come for one of us, eventually he will come for all of us. But I'm also very aware that the most pressing existential threat is coming against people of Latinx descent people who very well may be American citizens, are facing the potential reality that won't matter. And so your sense of blackness gay through the next hour, I'm good. I have a lot of respect for what these days are requiring of you. Thank you.Speaker 1 (51:43):Thanks for hopping on here with me, guys.Speaker 2 (51:47):Thank you.   Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.

Season 4: Episode 40 In this series, Mike celebrates authors. People who have a message and a story to share and who have done the hard work to get their message out there. In this episode, Mike interviews Matthias Roberts, Author of ⁠⁠Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms and Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith after Being Burned by Religion. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Everything Numa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Queer and Affirming Writer's Collective⁠⁠ ⁠Matthias Roberts Website⁠ | 
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This month, we're bringing back three of our most popular conversations from last year, featuring some incredible guests. Whether you've heard them before or not, we invite you to listen, reflect, and perhaps share them with a friend. This first episode in our summer replay series is a conversation with a dear friend, author, and alumnus of The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, Matthias Roberts.  Last fall, Matthias joined Dan and Rachael to discuss his latest book, "Holy Runaways." (If you haven't read it yet, we recommend that you add it to your summer reading list!) Dan and Rachael chatted with Matthias about religious trauma and the hope of moving forward with a commitment to truth, deep listening, and compassion. Listener Resources: Pick up your copy of Holy Runaways by Matthias Roberts here. Listen to more episodes on the topic of spiritual abuse and healing on this curated Spotify playlist: Podcasts on Spiritual Abuse & Healing

This week we sit down and chat with the incredible Matthias Roberts to talk about community, connection and his new book Holy Runaways. It is a delightful and cozy conversation you will walk away from feeling lighter and more at ease. Grab a cup of tea and welcome to the REVcovery Room. We now have a Discord now for our Patrons! You can join here: Patreon.com/revcovery This podcast is edited by Leon Karagoezian. You can find out more here: @leonkstudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Special Guest:Matthias Roberts, Queer Psychotherapist & Author of Holy Run Aways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned By Religion Guest Question:Many people leave a church or faith community because they have been burned by that community. This could be due to trauma or frustration with the leadership, culture or theology of that group. Is it possible for other faith communities to help them heal and get back in touch with religion? Or do other communities need to allow the individual to do some of that healing work on their own first before approaching them or inviting them? Holy Run Aways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned By ReligionFor Listening Guides, click here!Got a question for us? Send them to faithpodcast@pcusa.org! A Matter of Faith website

My guest Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, and author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms says, “Wherever there is sex, there seems to be shame.” Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. He feels one of the first steps in fighting shame is to practice recognizing it. Together we discuss how to identify our shame, acknowledge our worthiness, and allow ourselves pleasure.Find Matthias RobertsJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

It's the most wonderful time of the year…or is it? Celebrating the holidays can be difficult when you're deconstructing from your faith or healing from religious trauma. That's why we're using today's episode to take your questions about various aspects of religious trauma and the holidays! Today Laura is joined by guest-host, Matthias Roberts, to answer the questions you've submitted!  Matthias Roberts www.matthiasroberts.com Social Media (all platforms): @matthiasroberts    Book: Holy Runaways (released October 2023) Photo Credit: John Keatley  This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery  The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions. The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.  Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @deconstruct_everything  Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com  Hosts:  Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs Music by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji  Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at  www.kevincrowe.co

Friend and fellow therapist Matthias Roberts joins me today to share a very vulnerable story involving triangulation with his mother. How does an adolescent boy answer his Mom's questions about his homosexuality when Mom is disgusted by it? This is a story about Matthias' deep love for God… and the torment he felt as a result. We talk about Matthias' immense hope that God would “heal” his sexuality and how he came to feel God's blessing rather than shame. Support the podcast

Matthias Roberts, therapist and author of the new book, Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion, sits down with Tim to discuss his book. Matthias explains his background in Evangelism and why he walked away. Tim and Matthias discuss the reason Matthias wrote his book. They also discuss how the nervous system works in relationship to religious trauma. Lastly, they discuss the possibility for healthy communities centered around Jesus and what they may look like. Read Holy Runaways by Matthias Roberts Follow Us On Instagram @thenewevangelicals   Support Our Work   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are so excited to be sharing our conversation with Matthias Roberts on the pod today! Matthias (he/him) is a psychotherapist specializing in religious and spiritual trauma and the author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms. He hosts Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being and holds two master's degrees from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology, one in theology and culture, and one in counseling psychology. His work has been featured by O: The Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Woman's Day, Sojourners, The Seattle Times, and many others. He lives in Seattle. His new book "Holy Runaways" was just released on October 3rd and is now available wherever books are sold! You can find links to follow Matthias around the web through his website https://matthiasroberts.com If you enjoy listening to the show, please consider heading over to apple podcasts to rate and review us. If you really enjoy the show, we would love to see you in our ⁠⁠Patreon.com/ThereafterPod⁠⁠! Also, look for us on social media and shoot us a message to say hello, or chat with us in Twitter spaces on Tuesday mornings in deconstruction coffee hour! Twitter: ⁠⁠@ThereafterPod⁠⁠, ⁠⁠@CortlandCoffey⁠⁠, ⁠⁠@ThePursuingLife⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@ThereafterPodcast⁠⁠, ⁠⁠@CortlandCoffey⁠⁠, ⁠⁠@ThePursuingLife

This episode of A People's Theology is sponsored by United Theological Seminary of the Twin Cities. Receive a $1,000 scholarship when you apply and are admitted: unitedseminary.edu/apeoplestheology Use this link to register for Theology Beer Camp 2023 and use the promo code "MASONGODPOD" to receive $25 off your ticket. Watch full episodes of A People's Theology: https://www.youtube.com/@APeoplesTheology Mason chats with Matthias Roberts about his new book Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion. They chat about how to rediscover faith after being hurt by religion and much more. Guest Bio/Info: Matthias Roberts is a psychotherapist specializing in religious and spiritual trauma and the author of the recently released book, Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion. Find Matthias here: matthiasroberts.com Twitter: @matthiasroberts Instagram: matthiasroberts Facebook: facebook.com/matthiasroberts Get connected to Mason: masonmennenga.com Buy merch of your favorite tweet of mine: masonmennenga.com/store Patreon: patreon.com/masonmennenga Twitter: @masonmennenga Facebook: facebook.com/mason.mennenga Instagram: masonmennenga Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matthias Roberts joins me today to talk about his book Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned By Religion. Topics covered include: why belonging is so crucial for each of us, how to trust when you've been betrayed by others so many times before, and why it's hard to open ourselves to actually receive care when it is available. 

On this episode of #WeNeedtoTalk, Malynda chats with Psychotherapist and Author Matthias Roberts. The two discuss his personal faith journey, the future of the church, reclaming your faith and his new book Holy Runaways. Matthias Roberts (he/him) is a psychotherapist specializing in religious and spiritual trauma and the author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms. He hosts Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being and holds two master's degrees from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology, one in theology and culture, and one in counseling psychology. His work has been featured by O: The Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Woman's Day, Sojourners, The Seattle Times, and many others. He lives in Seattle.   Website: matthiasroberts.com/  | Instagram: matthiasroberts/ | Twitter:  matthiasroberts | Facebook: matthiasroberts  #WeNeedToTalk is hosted by singer, songwriter, actress and activist Malynda Hale.  She won “Best Female Vocalist” at the Hollywood Music in Media Awards, “Best Pop Music Video” at the Indie Music Channel Awards, and “Pop Song of the Year” at The Josie Music Awards. She has been a headliner for the NAMM show, has opened for artists such as Tyrone Wells, Ernie Halter, Levi Kreis, OTOWN and Smokey Robinson and sung background for Melissa Manchester, Terron Brooks and Foreigner. She has toured the world as a guest entertainer on cruise lines such as Royal Caribbean, Regent, and Celebrity. She has also  sung the national anthem numerous times for the Los Angeles Dodgers, Los Angeles Lakers, LA Galaxy, and the California Democratic National Convention. She recently had music featured on the CBS hit soap opera, The Bold and the Beautiful as well as the Disney channel TV show Saturdays.  She was also a featured soloist in WhyHunger's: Drum Together version of The Beatles classic “Come Together”. The project featured over 100 drummers and musicians including Ringo Starr and a featured soloist for the San Bernardino Symphony Orchestra. She has appeared in numerous stage productions, national commercials, independent films and TV movies.She hosts the #WeNeedToTalk Podcast that is centered around meaningful conversations, is the owner of JMV Entertainment  and a proud member of AEA, SAG-AFTRA and NARAS. Website: www.malyndahale.com | Instagram: @malyndahale | Twitter & Threads: @malyndahale | TikTok: @malyndahale      

It's been a minute--well, more than a minute. Almost 4 months. Glad to be back to share this interview with Matthias Roberts, author of the new book Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion. We talk about Matthias' story, the language we use to describe our experiences, 'progressive fundamentalism,' and the reality of ~ the slippery slope ~. Let me know what you think - email me at contact@exvangelicalpodcast.com Learn more about Matthias's work at matthiasroberts.com. You can support my work by subscribing to my newsletter, The Post-Evangelical Post; subscribe for free, or upgrade to a paid subscribscription at $5/month at postevangelicalpost.com/subscribe. Paid subscriptions get ad-free podcast feeds and subscriber-only content. --- I did continue to write during my hiatus. Here are some updates: The Extreme Self The Impossibility of Fallow Periods Online An update on Exvangelical & Beyond The Comfort of Fictional Religions: The Spark Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://www.postevangelicalpost.com/about

Matthias Roberts joins Jared and Angela Parker in this episode of Faith for Normal People to talk about his work as a psychotherapist, the path to healing from religious trauma, and what faith after religious trauma might look like. Show Notes → Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for an all-new episode of the Allender Center Podcast as we sit down with our dear friend Matthias Roberts, author of the upcoming book "Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion." Matthias, a queer psychotherapist specializing in religious and spiritual trauma, brings a unique perspective to the conversation. His book is a beacon of hope for those who have felt ignored, oppressed, or rejected by their religious communities and churches. It offers a clear path forward, centered on speaking truth, deep listening, and acting with compassion. Join co-hosts Dan Allender and Rachael Clinton Chen as they engage in a conversation with Matthias about the origins of his latest book, the struggle between staying put and envisioning fresh paths forward, and the unexpected connections between concrete and our faith. Yes, concrete. If you're eager to explore a fresh perspective on faith, healing, and the power of community, this episode is a must-listen. Plus, don't miss Matthias's book, "Holy Runaways," now available for pre-order at https://matthiasroberts.com/holyrunaways/ and coming to bookstores everywhere on October 3rd.

This week I am joined by Matthias Roberts to discuss his new book "Holy Run Aways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion". This is a book for anybody who is feeling ignored, oppressed, or rejected by their religious community or the church.  Matthias is a psychotherapist who has brought together his own story, research on religious trauma, and new interpretations of popular Christian parables to offer a book that is deeply empathetic and compassionate.  I had a great time hanging out with Matthias and really enjoyed our conversation. I hope you find it as helpful as I did! Enjoy. Resources: Holy Run Aways (Book)  MatthiasRoberts.com Join the Patreon Community

In this episode, we have a conversation with therapist, podcaster, author, and theologian Matthias Roberts! He shares his faith journey of being raised in a non-affirming church, then going to Side B (queer-folks-are-called-to-celibacy) theology as he came to terms with being gay, to realizing that LGBTQ+ Christians existed and that he could have a romantic partner and still be Christian. He also talks about his new book (available anywhere books are sold starting on October 3rd, link below for pre-order/purchase), Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion. We're so excited about this book and the ways it breaks down what has happened to so many of us–religious trauma, and deconstruction–and how we can rebuild our faith in creative ways. You can find Matthias on Instagram and Twitter (no, we're not calling it the other thing) @matthiasroberts. You can listen to his podcast, Queerology, wherever you listen to podcasts, and can follow @queerologypod on Instagram and Twitter. Preorder/purchase his book here: https://matthiasroberts.com/holyrunaways/  We have merch! Get your Bible Dyke Energy Tee and more here: https://www.redbubble.com/people/rtgardenpodcast/shop  Our social media: @reclaimingthegarden on Insta, @RtGardenPodcast on Twitter, and Reclaiming the Garden on Facebook. Our personal accounts: @thatpunchabletheaternerd, @April_TheWriter (April is on Twitter and Insta). Also, our podcast account follows a bunch of awesome folks + podcasts in the exvangelical/deconstruction world and progressive Christian world, so if you're looking for more resources, that's a great place to start!

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In this episode, Matthias and I talk about: why generosity feels terrifying—but is actually the thing that will free us why survivors of purity culture must rebuild trust with selfthe unique shame those of us with little to no sexual experience might have and how to move through itand the importance of letting ourselves make mistakesMatthias Roberts (he/him) is a queer psychotherapist, podcaster, and author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms. He hosts Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being and co-hosts Selfie alongside fellow therapist Kristen Howerton. Matthias holds two master's degrees, one in Theology & Culture and one in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.Matthias' work has been featured by O: The Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Woman's Day, Sojourners, The Seattle Times, and many others. He is a Fellow at the Allender Center, a nonprofit helping survivors of trauma and abuse heal by stepping courageously into their stories of pain and harm. In his psychotherapy practice, Matthias specializes in helping LGBTQ+ people recover from religious and spiritual trauma so they might live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. You can follow Matthias on Twitter and Instagram @matthiasroberts. Listen to Queerology and Selfie wherever you get your podcasts. You can pre-order his upcoming book, Holy Runaways, wherever you buy books. Singles find themselves in a lot of awkward situations at church. When you take The Single Christian Derptitude test, choose your knee-jerk reaction to each prompt and learn your social superpower. Think of it like an aptitude test... for all the weird things people say to singles at church. Take this fun, free quiz at marybsafrit.com.This episode is jammed packed and unfortunately, a lot of wisdom didn't make the final cut. Don't worry though, you can join our Patreon community to get the full episode and to be a part of a community where your voice matters! We hope to see you there!If you're a fan of the podcast, please like, rate, and review! Buzzsprout - Let's launch your podcast! Get started for FREE!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

In this episode, Kelly is joined by author, psychotherapist, and fellow podcast host, Matthias Roberts for part two of this two-part series on Defining Sexual Values for Ourselves. In it, they discuss:how sexual shame can develop within faith-based upbringings (specifically Christianity in this episode)three specific types of shame-based coping mechanisms: shamefulness, shamelessness, and autopilotre-framing the Bible and Christian faith so that they can still inform our sexual values and ethics, but in a more robust, honest, wholistic wayvarious passages of scripture usually taught within evangelicalism and/or purity culture but that leave us with an incomplete "biblical sexual ethic"how people on the journey of defining their own sexual values will often get it right, and will often get it wrong -- and both are normal, okay, and part of the process.GUEST BIO: Matthias Roberts (he/him) is a queer psychotherapist, podcaster, and author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms. He is also the host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being and co-host of Selfie alongside fellow therapist Kristen Howerton. Matthias holds two master's degrees, one in Theology & Culture and one in Counseling Psychology. He is a Fellow at the Allender Center, a nonprofit helping survivors of trauma and abuse heal by stepping courageously into their stories of pain and harm. Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. His newest book, Holy Runaways will release in Fall 2023 (pre-order available now!). You can find Matthias on Twitter and Instagram @matthiasroberts, or on his website. His podcasts Queerology and Selfie are both available wherever you get your podcasts.

Welcome to our first episode in our For the Love of Sex series! We're excited to break open this topic and find ways to cultivate what sexual health means for each of us and lay down toxic perspectives surrounding sex in our lives. Today we're talking about sexual shame and how that can show inside and outside the bedroom. Matthias Roberts is a psychotherapist, author and podcaster. He wrote a book on sexual shame called “Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms” and is committed to helping people find freedom feeling shame around sex. Jen and Matthias discuss: A working definition of what sexual shame is How Matthias's perspective on sex shifted after coming out in a Christian fundamentalist home Questions to ask ourselves to develop our own sexual ethic How sexual shame can affect every area of our life Ways to stay curious and let go of shame about sex Matthias's queer theological perspective on sex The ways shame can seep into our lives is surprising. Join Jen and Matthias as they unpack, with a compassionate lens, how to stay curious and work toward kicking the shame-filled parts of our sex life to the curb. * * * Thank you to our sponsors! Chime | Sign up for your Chime Credit Builder Visa Credit Card today Chime.com/ForTheLove Thistle Farms | Visit ThistleFarms.org and use promo code FortheLove to get 15% off your order Jen Hatmaker & Friends Cruise | Book your spot now at JenHatmaker.com/cruise Thought-Provoking Quotes “Sexuality is also a really core part of who we are. How we experience or do not experience sexuality is identity construing, and it should be. It is part of who we are.” - Matthias Roberts “We have our shame, we have our sexuality, and then we have our divine, or our beliefs around the divine, and what the divine commands of us or doesn't command of us around our sexuality. And when those things play together, we can get a pretty nasty mix really quickly.” - Matthias Roberts “So many of us try to push shame aside. That's our default, "Push it aside. We're not going to pay attention to this. This hurts." Or we get shut down by it, but we never quite take the time, or a lot of people don't take the time to really listen and figure out what the shame is actually telling us. And I think that's a really, really important place to start, because if we don't know what we're working with, the particularities of the shame, then how do we actually work with it?” - Matthias Roberts “I think there's something around queerness and the ways that queer sexual ethic or queer ways of thinking around sexuality can actually free everyone up.” - Matthias Roberts “What would it mean for our bodies to be good as they are right now? Can we get curious about that? If we feel I have a bad body or that sense of inferiority, what does it mean that my body as it is, right now, in this moment, might actually be good and can bring me pleasure?” - Matthias Roberts “Shame disconnects us. It disconnects us from our bodies, from our communities, from our partners. Sex connects us. It is ultimately a connecting force. So we can actually use our sexuality as a way to reconnect to our bodies, reconnect to our partners.” - Matthias Roberts   Guest's LinksMatthias Roberts Website Matthias's Facebook Matthias's Instagram Matthias's Twitter   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms For The Love Podcast Episode with Jay Stringer on Purity Culture For The Love Podcast Episode with Brene Brown on Vulnerability Sex, God, & the Conservative Church Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I  Normal Gossip Podcast Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned by Religion Connect with Jen!Jen's website Jen's Instagram Jen's Twitter Jen's Facebook Jen's YouTube  

Reset explores different approaches to self-care and ways we can prevent the cycle of burnout with therapist, podcast host and author Matthias Roberts, speaker and author Laura Vanderkam and author Jonathan Malesic.

Matthias Roberts is a queer psychotherapist, podcaster and author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms and co-hosts Selfie alongside fellow therapist Kristen Howerton. He holds two master's degrees, one in Theology and Culture and the one in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. His newest book, Holy Runaways will release Fall 2023 In the show today, we talked about navigating life through the shame that comes with accepting our sexuality.    Topic Discussed    2:47 About the book, "Beyond Shame." 12:35 The effect of splitting sexual identities to gain acceptance. 25:59 Compromise doesn't always solve issues. 34:24 Dealing with not being accepted. 49:38 Mathias's new book, "Holy Runaways." If this has added value to you please consider partnering with us by joining Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/joluehmann

This week, Dr. Dan Allender, Dr. Chelle Stearns, and Matthias Roberts, MA, reconvene to continue their conversation about being “lost at sea.” Their conversation centers around the watery ritual of baptism: the terrifying acts of faith as we enter the murky waters and the renewal and redemption that God has for us. With deeply personal stories and compelling theological perspectives, we hope this conversation invites you to consider this ritual of renewal in new ways.

When we are rocked by trauma, loss, chaos, and uncertainty, it can feel like we are “lost at sea” without an anchor or clear direction. How do we begin to make sense of our lives and what we hold as true when we have left a familiar land? Join Dr. Dan Allender for part one of this two-part conversation with Dr. Chelle Stearns and Matthias Roberts as they reflect on their recent class at The Seattle School for Theology and Psychology called, “Lost at Sea.”  Next week, we'll continue the discussion around rituals that can anchor us in hope and help us make sense of our lives in the midst of ambiguous waters.

Co-host of the Thereafter podcast, Meghan Crozier visits the VCW hall to talk about her evangelical story, purity culture, purity culture 2.0, exvangelical CCM karaoke, and more. Mentioned on the pod: "The Djembe Thread" - https://twitter.com/thepursuinglife/status/1486759817565794307 Resources Meghan Crozier recommends on the topic of Purity Culture: Talk Purity to Me - https://www.instagram.com/talkpuritytome/?hl=en Erica Smith - https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.sex.ed/?hl=en Meg Cowan - https://www.instagram.com/megccowan/?hl=en Dr. Tina Sellers - https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/?hl=en Jo Luehmann - https://www.instagram.com/joluehmann/?hl=en Brenda Marie Davies (God is Grey) - https://www.instagram.com/godisgrey/?hl=en Ms. Charlotte - https://twitter.com/charlotteirene8 QueerTheology.com (Brian and Shay) - https://www.queertheology.com/ The Snarky Gent - https://twitter.com/thesnarkygent Tyler Krumland - https://twitter.com/TylerKrumland Kevin Garcia - https://www.instagram.com/thekevingarcia/?hl=en Alicia T. Crosby - https://www.aliciatcrosby.com/about Books: Pure by Linda Kay Klein Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts #churchtoo by Emily Joy Allison Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Dr. Tina Sellers Shameless by Nadia Bolz Weber You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch Love Him Well by Tyler Krumland On Her Knees: Memoir of a Prayerful Jezebel by Brenda Marie Davies Big Big Love Revised: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size - Hanne Blank Sex For One: The Joy of Self Loving - Dr. Betty Dodson Come As You Are - The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life - Dr. Emily Nagoski Good Christian Sex: Why Chastity Isn't The Only Option And Other Things The Bible Says About Sex - Bromleigh McCleneghan Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity - Dianna Anderson The Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love - Sonya Renee Taylor Exhibitionism For The Shy - Carol Queen Our Bodies, Ourselves - Boston Women's Health Collective All About Love - bell hooks -Check out Zach's music by going to: https://muzach.bandcamp.com Twitter: @vcwpod Zach- @muzach Dave- @Davejlester Podcast music by Zach Malm Logo by Zach Malm

We all carry sexual shame. Whether we grew up in the repressive purity culture of American Evangelical Christianity or not, we've all been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that sex (outside of very specific contexts) is immoral and taboo. Psychotherapist Matthias Roberts helps readers overcome their shame around sex by overcoming three unhealthy coping mechanisms we use to manage that shame. Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress Press, 2020) encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic boundaries on the other. Define your sexual values on your own terms, overcome your shame, and start having great, healthy sex. Meg Gambino is an artist and activist currently working as the Director of Outreach for an addiction recovery center. Her life mission is to creatively empower others by modeling reconciliation between communities of people and people on the margins. Find her work at reconfigureart.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

We all carry sexual shame. Whether we grew up in the repressive purity culture of American Evangelical Christianity or not, we've all been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that sex (outside of very specific contexts) is immoral and taboo. Psychotherapist Matthias Roberts helps readers overcome their shame around sex by overcoming three unhealthy coping mechanisms we use to manage that shame. Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress Press, 2020) encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic boundaries on the other. Define your sexual values on your own terms, overcome your shame, and start having great, healthy sex. Meg Gambino is an artist and activist currently working as the Director of Outreach for an addiction recovery center. Her life mission is to creatively empower others by modeling reconciliation between communities of people and people on the margins. Find her work at reconfigureart.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/lgbtq-studies

We all carry sexual shame. Whether we grew up in the repressive purity culture of American Evangelical Christianity or not, we've all been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that sex (outside of very specific contexts) is immoral and taboo. Psychotherapist Matthias Roberts helps readers overcome their shame around sex by overcoming three unhealthy coping mechanisms we use to manage that shame. Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress Press, 2020) encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic boundaries on the other. Define your sexual values on your own terms, overcome your shame, and start having great, healthy sex. Meg Gambino is an artist and activist currently working as the Director of Outreach for an addiction recovery center. Her life mission is to creatively empower others by modeling reconciliation between communities of people and people on the margins. Find her work at reconfigureart.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all carry sexual shame. Whether we grew up in the repressive purity culture of American Evangelical Christianity or not, we've all been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that sex (outside of very specific contexts) is immoral and taboo. Psychotherapist Matthias Roberts helps readers overcome their shame around sex by overcoming three unhealthy coping mechanisms we use to manage that shame. Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress Press, 2020) encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic boundaries on the other. Define your sexual values on your own terms, overcome your shame, and start having great, healthy sex. Meg Gambino is an artist and activist currently working as the Director of Outreach for an addiction recovery center. Her life mission is to creatively empower others by modeling reconciliation between communities of people and people on the margins. Find her work at reconfigureart.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/christian-studies

We all carry sexual shame. Whether we grew up in the repressive purity culture of American Evangelical Christianity or not, we've all been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that sex (outside of very specific contexts) is immoral and taboo. Psychotherapist Matthias Roberts helps readers overcome their shame around sex by overcoming three unhealthy coping mechanisms we use to manage that shame. Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress Press, 2020) encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic boundaries on the other. Define your sexual values on your own terms, overcome your shame, and start having great, healthy sex. Meg Gambino is an artist and activist currently working as the Director of Outreach for an addiction recovery center. Her life mission is to creatively empower others by modeling reconciliation between communities of people and people on the margins. Find her work at reconfigureart.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

On this BONUS episode, Cortland and Meghan talk through recent conversations about the new version of purity culture, sexual ethics, queer affirmation, and sex positivity. This unique episode doesn't have a guest interview, but gives our listeners a window into the way we navigate dialogue about ethics and values on the other side of faith change. We know that we are always learning, and we want to point to the voices that we have learned so much from in this space. Please check out these creators and support their work. Also know that this is not an exhaustive list, it's always growing, and we will continue to add to it! Instagram/Twitter/Web: Talk Purity to Me, Erica Smith, Meg Cowan, Dr. Tina Sellers, Jo Luehmann, Brenda Marie Davies (God is Grey), Ms. Charlotte, QueerTheology.com (Brian and Shay), The Snarky Gent, Tyler Krumland, Kevin Garcia, Alicia T. Crosby Please check out this list of book recommendations shared in this tweet by Ms. Charlotte. Books: Pure by Linda Kay Klein Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts #churchtoo by Emily Joy Allison Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Dr. Tina Sellers Shameless by Nadia Bolz Weber You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch Love Him Well by Tyler Krumland On Her Knees: Memoir of a Prayerful Jezebel by Brenda Marie Davies We would love to hear feedback about the show, and specifically about this episode. Feedback from listeners helps us determine the future direction of the show! Send us a note on Twitter or Instagram or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Thanks for being fellow travelers on this messy journey we call life.

Sort of. Matthias also is here to laugh a shit ton with us. Enjoy the foolery. Follow us! @MatthiasRoberts, @RevSarahHeath and @thekevingarcia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristen introduces Selfie's new co-host, Matthias Roberts. After playing 10-questions, Matthias and Kristen discuss resources for parents wanting to raise kids in a sex-positive environment. They end with a conversation about the new Netflix show Maid and the issues of emotional domestic abuse it addresses. Links + Resources: Shameless Parenting by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, Gender, and Sexual Health Maid on Netflix Subscribe via Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify | Google | IHeartRadio Fazl is a company that works in collaboration with artisans in India to make gorgeous wool goods while providing fair wages for the women who make their products.The women Fazl employs create cozy handmade items such as warm socks, hats, and mittens in really beautiful traditional patterns. They have a passion for both caring for orphans and preventing children from being orphaned in the first place. They donate a significant portion of profits to children's homes, and provide sustainable jobs for hundreds of Indian women in need. Fazl believes every person has the right to dignified work and ethical wages, and as such they are certified with the Fair Trade Federation for accountability. Their vegan blend of acrylic and nylon means the warmth of wool without the itch, and long-lasting durability and warmth. And guys - they are cute. If you are looking for some great winterwear, or some gifts that give back as the holiday season approaches, keep Fazl in mind. You can check out their products at shopFazl.com and use the promo code SELFIE15 for 15% off. .

We are going THERE. This is the start of a two-part series about premarital sex. Today Matthias Roberts joins us to help those of you open to considering what breaking some of your former rules might look like.  (Note: In October you'll hear part two, a discussion about celibacy.) Full show notes here Join The Jess & Devi Show community as a partner, and hear this week's episode: Jess and Devi discussing the four paradoxes of sex outlined in Beyond Shame. You'll also get movie recaps, Devi Reads Jess The News (And Jess Tells Devi What To Watch), and uncut episodes with guests. Join today for $3 USD a month. Matthias Roberts is a psychotherapist, author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress/Broadleaf, 2020), and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. He holds two master's degrees, one in Theology & Culture and one in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. Connect with Matthias on Instagram and Twitter.  

What's the connection between how we understand God, ourselves, the world, and then how we live that out? Our guest Matthias Roberts has some thoughts and experience with this, including therapy, the LGBTQ+ community, and understanding how God sees us! CONNECT: @matthiasroberts

Welcome to Feedback with EarBuds, the podcast recommendation podcast. Our newsletter brings you five podcast recommendations each week according to a theme, and curated by a different person. Our podcast is an audio version of the newsletter.Subscribe to the newsletter: eepurl.com/cIcBuHThis week's theme is Music, Murder, and History. The curator is Melissa Locker of Nevermind Media.This week's newsletter and podcast are sponsored by...Houses on The Moon PodcastHouses on The Moon Theater Company presents the Houses on the Moon Podcast, an eight-episode series using storytelling to amplify the unheard voice. On the show you'll listen to some remarkable true accounts from parents of gender-expansive children, people impacted by gun violence, undocumented immigrants, and more. Listen: https://broadwaypodcastnetwork.com/podcast/houses-on-the-moonOn this podcast, you'll hear about our curator, the episodes they chose, our podcast spotlight of the week, an interview with someone in the podcast space, and more.Find this week's podcast recommendation list here: https://www.earbudspodcastcollective.org/music-murder-and-history-podcast-recommendationsThis week's podcast picks:Dolly Parton's AmericaSong ExploderSongs in the Key of DeathYou're Wrong AboutLost Notes: 1980This week's spotlight: QueerologyNamed one of the 12 Best LGBTQ Podcasts of 2020 by “O: The Oprah Magazine.” How might we live better as queer people of faith? Matthias Roberts brings together theologians, psychologists, poets, thinkers, and change makers for conversations around belief and being.Listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/queerology-a-podcast-on-belief-and-being/id1241721675Apply to have your podcast spotlit: https://www.earbudspodcastcollective.org/podcast-spotlightsAmira Valliani: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amira-valliani-3622131/Glow: https://www.glow.fm/Ear Plug: ImmigrantlyImmigrantly, a weekly podcast that deconstructs the archaic stereotypes of what it means to be an immigrant, a child of immigrants, a person of color, and everything in between.Listen: https://immigrantlypod.com/EarBuds Blog: https://www.earbudspodcastcollective.org/blogCurate a list here: https://www.earbudspodcastcollective.org/earbuds-podcast-curators-formFollow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/EarbudsPodColFollow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/earbudspodcastcollectiveFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/earbudspodcastcollective/Learn more at our website: http://www.earbudspodcastcollective.orgTee Public: https://www.teepublic.com/user/earbuds-podcast-collective

Matthias is a psychotherapist who talks about sexual ethics and the paradoxes we believe while moving through the world in color and not just black and white. His book, "Beyond Shame," is available now as well as his podcast, "Queerology," and masterclass with Linda Kay Klein on his website: https://matthiasroberts.com/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/morgan-mcgill/support

Matthias Roberts is a psychotherapist, author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress/Broadleaf, 2020), and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. He holds two master’s degrees, one in Theology & Culture and one in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. He also serves on the board of Beloved Arise, a nonprofit dedicated to fighting for the lives of queer youth of faith. Matthias’ work has been featured by O: The Oprah Magazine, Woman’s Day, Sojourners, The Seattle Times, and many others. In his psychotherapy practice, Matthias specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. https://matthiasroberts.com/

Matthias is a psychotherapist, author of the book Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms, and the host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. He grew up in the midwest in a conservative Christian community during the purity movement of the ’80s and ’90s. Realizing that he was gay as an adolescent he set out to change his same-sex attraction. This journey actually led him to accept his own sexuality. Today he is helping LGBTQI plus people connect and live fulfilling lives by writing and speaking nationwide.  He also serves on the board of Beloved Arise, a non-profit dedicated to fighting for the lives of queer youth of faith. 

Christmas is a time for romance, or so the Hallmark movies go. What do we do when we're alone during the holidays? And what about 2020 the year when there may be no gatherings because of Covid-19? We gathered three single women together who are all in different stages of their lives, homeowners, living with parents, living on their own, to talk about what single life is like during the holidays.  For those of you who are single, we hope this helps you know that you're not alone. For those of you who are partnered, let this grow empathy in you for what you're single friends are experiencing. Full show notes here Join the Ladies Night Book Club for $9/month. We start reading Beyond Shame by Matthias Roberts on January 1!

Join our January Book Club for $9/month In January we start reading Beyond Shame by Matthias Roberts, so we remixed our last conversation with him for you today. With the wisdom and compassion of a therapist, Matthias talks to us about the building blocks of healthy sexuality. Jess & Devi round out the conversation by talking about how we can find common ground with people with whom we might disagree. Why does this common ground matter? Why do we need to address our own intellectual insecurities? Listen in to find out.  Join our conversations on Instagram & Twitter Full episode show notes here Matthias Roberts is author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress, 2020) and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being which was named as one of the “12 Best LGBTQ+ Podcasts of 2020” by O: The Oprah Magazine and the #1 Podcast to Listen to on National Coming Out Day by Radio.com. He holds two master’s degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, Matthias specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks often about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. Connect with Matthias on Instagram & Twitter Join our January Book Club for $9/month  

She's gone from "It's a love story/ Baby just say yes," to "I think I've seen this film before/ and I didn't like the ending." What does Taylor Swift's music mean for Christians and people leaving Purity Culture? Dr. Kutter Callaway joins us to talk pop culture, how we interpret music, skills we need to be better discerners of popular culture, and even what it means to be an image bearer of God. The answer may surprise you. Full show notes here Sign up for Ladies Night Book Club and read Beyond Shame by Matthias Roberts with us in January Talk to us on Instagram and Twitter Kutter Callaway is associate professor of theology and culture at Fuller Seminary and co-director of the Reel Spirituality Institute. His most recent books are The Aesthetics of Atheism: Theology and Imagination in Contemporary Culture (Fortress Press, 2019) and Deep Focus: Film and Theology in Dialogue (Baker Academic, 2019). In 2017, he wrote Breaking the Marriage Idol: ReConstructing our Cultural and Spiritual Norms. He is the father of three young girls and has been married for almost 20 years to Jessica. Follow Kutter on Twitter.

Show Notes * St. Nicholas Center - https://www.stnicholascenter.org/ * National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ * Episode 4: Parenting After Significant Loss with Dr. Renee Turner - https://wdtatpodcast.com/4 * Episode 15: Beyond Shame with Matthias Roberts - https://wdtatpodcast.com/15 * Episode 16: Addiction and Recovery with Christina Gibson - https://wdtatpodcast.com/16 * Episode 22: The Energy of Empathy with Michael Evans - https://wdtatpodcast.com/22 * Episode 23: LGBTQ Identities with Rev Erica Lea Simka - https://wdtatpodcast.com/23 * Episode 43: Mental Health with Hannah Stainer - https://wdtatpodcast.com/43 Support the Podcast - https://www.patreon.com/wdtatpodcast Leave us a voicemail! https://www.speakpipe.com/wdtatpodcast Email your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.com Follow us: Facebook -https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcast Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcast

Show Notes:Intro - On the Needles - ~Katy's 2020 Birthday Socks on US1.5 (2.5mm), Abstract Fiber Super Sock+ in the Thistle colourwayProject bag from Nerd Bird Makery & Progress Keeper from Ann TudorFinished Projects - ~2020 Preemie Hat #42 on US6 (4mm), XrayAnn Hand Dyed Fingering Sock Weight in the Semi Solid Battleship colourway, Pandia's Jewels Hand Dyed Yarn Snug in the Pumpkin Spice colourway, & Pandia's Jewels Hand Dyed Yarn Super Sparkle in the Electric Pink colourwayFlosstube - Begins at timestamp 11:26~Baa Baa Black Sheep by The Prairie SchoolerProject bag from Tilting Planet~Cats and Mandalas - February by Kitty and Me DesignsProject bag from Stitch ToolboxSnipattie from cattycrosstitchesNeedle Minder from Gecko Rouge~Edinburgh Castle by Terra Luna StitcheryNeedle Minder from TopKnotStitcherProject Bag from KnitRunDigGrime Guard from Crab Shack StitcherySnipattie from cattycrosstitchesUsing Pattern Keeper software on Kindle Fire 7Silicone ties29,600 / 265,824 sts complete11.135% complete5 / 60 pages completeYummies (our current favourite things) - ~Dami's Birthday~Just CrossStitch December 2020~The Black Needle Society VIP - Use the code JAVAPURL5 for a discount on box to box subscriptions (the 6 & 12 month boxes already have a discount built in; not valid on special edition boxes.~Auctions in partnership with Michelle Bendy Stitchy on her Instagram to benefit Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep. October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness month. NILMDTS is an organization that volunteers to take family photos for families who have lost babies. This way the family can hold on to memories despite not being able to hold on to their babies anymore.~Yarn from CraftSlayer Yarns~Crafty Photo A Day Challenge - #GGKCraftyPAD - details for October hereWhat We're Watching, Reading, + Listening To - Please be aware that we do discuss recent tv show episodes that have aired in the last week or so. This is your spoiler warning!Episode 418 Bookshop ListOctober / November / December 2020 RAL - 15 minutes of reading daily challenge* 88-92 of 92 days - 1 or more giveaways for eBook, everyone gets $1.20 off any single pattern coupon code & 88+ days RAL virtual badge * 61-87 of 92 days - 1 or more giveaways for single pattern, everyone gets 61+ days RAL virtual badge* #GGKRAL202020 RAL Yearlong Challenge~October / November / December* 92 days - 10 entries* 88-91 days - 8 entries* 61-87 days - 5 entries~Read All 366 days - 10 bonus entries~Complete the Modern Mrs. Darcy 2020 Reading Challenge - 12 bonus entries [all or none] (we'll open a thread for you to post this in December 2020)~3 grand prize winners drawn from all the entries~Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts - C.C. finished reading~The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole by Arielle Schwartz - C.C. finished reading~Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker - C.C. is reading~Harry Potter & the Order of the Phoenix (Harry Potter #5) - C.C. is rereading with Harry Potter & the Sacred Text podcast & Swish and Flick: An All Potter Podcast~Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots - C.C. finished reading~The Guild Codex: Spellbound Series by Annette Marie - C.C. finished reading Book 6~Lucy Kincaid Series by Allison Brennan - C.C. finished reading Book 12~Dr. Greta Helsing Series by Vivian Shaw - C.C. is reading Book 2~Monk - rewatching Season 2~The Mandalorian - rewatching Season 1~NEXT - watching Season 1~Helstrom - watching Season 1~The Masked Singer - Season 4~Supernatural - watching Season 15~Star Trek: Discovery - watching Season 3~My Favourite Murder podcast~David Tennant Does a Podcast With… podcast~Unlocking Us With Brené Brown~Evolving Faith podcast~Random Spotify PlaylistsSeptember / October / November Artistic Autumnal AL -*Runs from 1-September through 30-November*Details - any project you knit/crochet/weave/spin/stitch/sew that you can convince us relates to autumn*No WIPS - Your project must be begun no earlier than 1-September and finished no later than 30-November*Each project that you knit/crochet/weave/spin must be at least 20yds/18.3m that you finish and post in the Facebook Group FO Thread counts as 1 entry into the giveaways. If your project is not at least 20yds/18.3m, you need to group it in a single post with other projects that together total at least 20yds/18.3m. For stitching/sewing projects, we’ll leave it to your best judgment. 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Show Notes:Intro - On the Needles - ~Katy's 2020 Birthday Socks on US1.5 (2.5mm), Abstract Fiber Super Sock+ in the Thistle colourwayProject bag from Nerd Bird Makery & Progress Keeper from Ann TudorFinished Projects - ~Hello Pumpkin Socks on US1.5 (2.5mm), Pandia's Jewels Snug in the Pumpkin Spice colourway & XrayAnn Fingering in the Semi Solid Battleship colourway~2020 Preemie Hat #41 on US6 (4mm), Bernat Softee Baby in the Princess Pebbles colourway & Caron Simply Soft in the Grey Heather colourwayFlosstube - Begins at timestamp 8:08Dami - ~Baa Baa Black Sheep by The Prairie SchoolerProject bag from Tilting Planet~Cats and Mandalas - February by Kitty and Me DesignsProject bag from Stitch ToolboxSnipattie from cattycrosstitchesNeedle Minder from Gecko Rouge~Edinburgh Castle by Terra Luna StitcheryNeedle Minder from TopKnotStitcherProject Bag from KnitRunDigGrime Guard from Crab Shack StitcherySnipattie from cattycrosstitchesUsing Pattern Keeper software on Kindle Fire 7Silicone ties28,800 / 265,824 sts complete10.834% complete5 / 60 pages completeYummies (our current favourite things) - ~Shirt from Rivi~Color Street from Creativity by Gidge (Amy)~Auctions in partnership with Michelle Bendy Stitchy on her Instagram to benefit Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep. October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness month. NILMDTS is an organization that volunteers to take family photos for families who have lost babies. This way the family can hold on to memories despite not being able to hold on to their babies anymore.~Crafty Photo A Day Challenge - #GGKCraftyPAD - details for October hereWhat We're Watching, Reading, + Listening To - Please be aware that we do discuss recent tv show episodes that have aired in the last week or so. This is your spoiler warning!Episode 417 Bookshop ListOctober / November / December 2020 RAL - 15 minutes of reading daily challenge* 88-92 of 92 days - 1 or more giveaways for eBook, everyone gets $1.20 off any single pattern coupon code & 88+ days RAL virtual badge * 61-87 of 92 days - 1 or more giveaways for single pattern, everyone gets 61+ days RAL virtual badge* #GGKRAL202020 RAL Yearlong Challenge~October / November / December* 92 days - 10 entries* 88-91 days - 8 entries* 61-87 days - 5 entries~Read All 366 days - 10 bonus entries~Complete the Modern Mrs. Darcy 2020 Reading Challenge - 12 bonus entries [all or none] (we'll open a thread for you to post this in December 2020)~3 grand prize winners drawn from all the entries~Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts - C.C. is reading~The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole by Arielle Schwartz - C.C. is reading~Harry Potter & the Order of the Phoenix (Harry Potter #5) - C.C. is rereading with Harry Potter & the Sacred Text podcast & Swish and Flick: An All Potter Podcast~Forward Me Back To You by Mitali Perkins - C.C. finished reading~Lucy Kincaid Series by Allison Brennan - C.C. finished reading Book 11~The Hunting Party by Lucy Foley - C.C. finished reading~The Night Swim by Megan Goldin - C.C. finished reading~Girl, Serpent, Thorn by Melissa Bashardoust - C.C. finished reading~Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots - C.C. is reading~Monk - finished rewatching Season 1 & rewatching Season 2~Switched At Birth - watching Season 1~DeafU - watching~The Masked Singer - Season 4~Supernatural - watching Season 15~My Favourite Murder podcast~David Tennant Does a Podcast With… podcast~Unlocking Us With Brené Brown~Evolving Faith podcast~Random Spotify PlaylistsSeptember / October / November Artistic Autumnal AL -*Runs from 1-September through 30-November*Details - any project you knit/crochet/weave/spin/stitch/sew that you can convince us relates to autumn*No WIPS - Your project must be begun no earlier than 1-September and finished no later than 30-November*Each project that you knit/crochet/weave/spin must be at least 20yds/18.3m that you finish and post in the Facebook Group FO Thread counts as 1 entry into the giveaways. If your project is not at least 20yds/18.3m, you need to group it in a single post with other projects that together total at least 20yds/18.3m. For stitching/sewing projects, we’ll leave it to your best judgment. If you wanted our official ruling, PM email us at ggkcspodcast@gmail.com*Feel free to poly-dip in other ALs as long as it fits in with other rules*Please complete our Google form in order to help us make sure you are receiving a prize that you'll actually enjoy using.*Prizes: If you’d like to donate one, email us at ggkcspodcast@gmail.comStitch Marker Sets made & donated by Julia of Pandia's Jewels - 1 Labyrinth & 1 Frankenstein - 2 winners will each win a random setOrange Camper bag by ArtByAna from RhondaJust CrossStitch Volume 37, No. 5 - October 2019Hilde’s Brew pattern by Michelle of Bendy Stitchy DesignsZipper Pouch & mini-skeins from Hillary*Must be a member of the our Facebook group ~ GGKCS Podcast / FlossTube to participate*Social Media Hashtag: #GGKCSAutumn20*Thread will be locked the morning of 1-December and winner(s) drawn on the next podcast following that*For any and all giveaways, prizes, competitions, ALs, etc. that we host, the winner(s) have 30 days from the date of announcement (the date the podcast episode in which the winner was announced goes live) to contact us to claim their prize or it will be forfeited. If this occurs, the prize will be used for another giveaway at our discretion. Thanks for understanding!*There is a Chatter Thread in our Facebook group so we can encourage each other along the way.Misc. - ~Support the Podcast, Become A PatronEach week, we create a list on Bookshop of all the books we talk about in that week's episode. Bookshop is an online bookstore with a mission to financially support local, independent bookstores. If you purchase a book from our list, we earn a commission & local, independent bookstores also earn money from your purchase.~Want another way to help support our podcast? Throughout our website, links to books, tv shows, movies, etc. are Amazon Affiliate Links. We receive a portion of what you spend when you click through our website to shop on Amazon. What we receive helps us with the costs associated with producing this podcast as well as with prizes & shipping for giveaways. Thanks in advance for your support!If you are in the UK, please click this link, Amazon.co.uk, or the banner below to shop:If you are in Canada, please click this link, Amazon.ca or the banner below to shop:~For any and all giveaways, prizes, competitions, ALs, etc. that we host, the winner(s) have 30 days from the date of announcement (the date the podcast episode in which the winner was announced goes live) to contact us to claim their prize or it will be forfeited. If this occurs, the prize will be used for another giveaway at our discretion. Thanks for understanding!Find Us Online -C.C. -~ on Instagram as CC_JavaPurlDami - ~ on Instagram as damisdoodlesPink Purl - ~on Instagram as pinkiepurlJavaPurl Designs~ JavaPurl Designs websiteGGKCS -~ our Facebook group ~ GGKCS Podcast / FlossTube~ our Facebook page~ email us: ggkcspodcast@gmail.com~ on Apple Podcasts~ on YouTube~ Support the Podcast, Become a PatronUntil next time,

Show Notes:Intro - On the Needles - Dami - ~hat on the needles soon C.C. -~Hello Pumpkin Socks on US1.5 (2.5mm), Pandia's Jewels Snug in the Pumpkin Spice colourway & XrayAnn Fingering in the Semi Solid Battleship colourwayProject bag from Nerd Bird Makery & Progress Keeper from Ann TudorFinished Projects - Dami - ~NoneC.C. -~2020 Preemie Hat #40 on US6 (4mm), Knit Picks Wool of the Andes Worsted in the Orange colourway & Bernat Cottontots in the Strawberry colourwayFlosstube - Begins at timestamp 8:35Dami - ~NoneC.C. - ~Baa Baa Black Sheep by The Prairie SchoolerProject bag from Tilting Planet~Hello Pumpkin by Stitching With the Housewives~Cats and Mandalas - February by Kitty and Me DesignsProject bag from Stitch ToolboxSnipattie from cattycrosstitchesNeedle Minder from Gecko Rouge~FO! RBG Freebie by Bendy Stitchy Designs~Edinburgh Castle by Terra Luna StitcheryNeedle Minder from TopKnotStitcherProject Bag from KnitRunDigGrime Guard from Crab Shack StitcherySnipattie from cattycrosstitchesUsing Pattern Keeper software on Kindle Fire 728,000 / 265,824 sts complete10.533% complete5 / 60 pages completeYummies (our current favourite things) - ~cards from Yuko & Dami~candle & plant from Katy & family from Live Well Ink~cross stitch kit from Michelle~Honeyberry Studio 2021 calendar~Auctions in partnership with Michelle Bendy Stitchy on her Instagram to benefit Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep. October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness month. NILMDTS is an organization that volunteers to take family photos for families who have lost babies. This way the family can hold on to memories despite not being able to hold on to their babies anymore.~Bellzi.com plushes~Crafty Photo A Day Challenge - #GGKCraftyPAD - details for October hereWhat We're Watching, Reading, + Listening To - Please be aware that we do discuss recent tv show episodes that have aired in the last week or so. This is your spoiler warning!Episode 416 Bookshop List~So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo - Dami is reading~M. Butterfly by David Henry Hwang - Dami finished reading~The Language Archive by Julia Cho - Dami finished reading~The Glass Scientists (webcomic) by Sabrina Cotungo - Dami is readingJuly / August / September 2020 RALWinners announcedOctober / November / December 2020 RAL - 15 minutes of reading daily challenge* 88-92 of 92 days - 1 or more giveaways for eBook, everyone gets $1.20 off any single pattern coupon code & 88+ days RAL virtual badge * 61-87 of 92 days - 1 or more giveaways for single pattern, everyone gets 61+ days RAL virtual badge* #GGKRAL202020 RAL Yearlong Challenge~July / August / September* 92 days - 10 entries* 88-91 days - 8 entries* 61-87 days - 5 entries~October / November / December* 92 days - 10 entries* 88-91 days - 8 entries* 61-87 days - 5 entries~Read All 366 days - 10 bonus entries~Complete the Modern Mrs. Darcy 2020 Reading Challenge - 12 bonus entries [all or none] (we'll open a thread for you to post this in December 2020)~3 grand prize winners drawn from all the entries~The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor - C.C. finished reading~Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts - C.C. is reading~Hiding Out: A Memoir of Drugs, Deception, and Double Lives by Tina Alexis Allen - C.C. finished reading~The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole by Arielle Schwartz - C.C. is reading~Harry Potter & the Order of the Phoenix (Harry Potter #5) - C.C. is rereading with Harry Potter & the Sacred Text podcast & Swish and Flick: An All Potter Podcast~The Sacred Dark Series by May Peterson - C.C. finished reading Books 1 & 2~Forward Me Back To You by Mitali Perkins - C.C. is reading~Movies - Psych 2: Lassie Come Home~This Close - finished watching Seasons 1 & 2~Monk - rewatching Season 1~Switched At Birth - watching Season 1~The 100 - finished watching Series~The Masked Singer - Season 4~My Favourite Murder podcast~David Tennant Does a Podcast With… podcast~Unlocking Us With Brené Brown~Evolving Faith podcast~Cabin Pressure~Random Spotify PlaylistsSeptember / October / November Artistic Autumnal AL -*Runs from 1-September through 30-November*Details - any project you knit/crochet/weave/spin/stitch/sew that you can convince us relates to autumn*No WIPS - Your project must be begun no earlier than 1-September and finished no later than 30-November*Each project that you knit/crochet/weave/spin must be at least 20yds/18.3m that you finish and post in the Facebook Group FO Thread counts as 1 entry into the giveaways. If your project is not at least 20yds/18.3m, you need to group it in a single post with other projects that together total at least 20yds/18.3m. For stitching/sewing projects, we’ll leave it to your best judgment. If you wanted our official ruling, PM email us at ggkcspodcast@gmail.com*Feel free to poly-dip in other ALs as long as it fits in with other rules*Please complete our Google form in order to help us make sure you are receiving a prize that you'll actually enjoy using.*Prizes: If you’d like to donate one, email us at ggkcspodcast@gmail.comStitch Marker Sets made & donated by Julia of Pandia's Jewels - 1 Labyrinth & 1 Frankenstein - 2 winners will each win a random setOrange Camper bag by ArtByAna from RhondaJust CrossStitch Volume 37, No. 5 - October 2019Hilde’s Brew pattern by Michelle of Bendy Stitchy DesignsZipper Pouch & mini-skeins from Hillary*Must be a member of the our Facebook group ~ GGKCS Podcast / FlossTube to participate*Social Media Hashtag: #GGKCSAutumn20*Thread will be locked the morning of 1-December and winner(s) drawn on the next podcast following that*For any and all giveaways, prizes, competitions, ALs, etc. that we host, the winner(s) have 30 days from the date of announcement (the date the podcast episode in which the winner was announced goes live) to contact us to claim their prize or it will be forfeited. If this occurs, the prize will be used for another giveaway at our discretion. Thanks for understanding!*There is a Chatter Thread in our Facebook group so we can encourage each other along the way.Ask the Geeks - Originally asked/answered in 2015:Lucy asks:I have a question for both of you - how do you knit? Are you ‘pickers’ or ‘throwers’? Have either of you ever done anything to deliberately develop your knitting technique or do you just take it as it comes? (I am considering trying to modify my own - I am a ‘thrower’ and keep wondering if I’d knit faster and with less strain on my hands if I ‘picked’.)Misc. - ~Support the Podcast, Become A PatronEach week, we create a list on Bookshop of all the books we talk about in that week's episode. Bookshop is an online bookstore with a mission to financially support local, independent bookstores. If you purchase a book from our list, we earn a commission & local, independent bookstores also earn money from your purchase.~Want another way to help support our podcast? Throughout our website, links to books, tv shows, movies, etc. are Amazon Affiliate Links. We receive a portion of what you spend when you click through our website to shop on Amazon. What we receive helps us with the costs associated with producing this podcast as well as with prizes & shipping for giveaways. Thanks in advance for your support!If you are in the UK, please click this link, Amazon.co.uk, or the banner below to shop:If you are in Canada, please click this link, Amazon.ca or the banner below to shop:~For any and all giveaways, prizes, competitions, ALs, etc. that we host, the winner(s) have 30 days from the date of announcement (the date the podcast episode in which the winner was announced goes live) to contact us to claim their prize or it will be forfeited. If this occurs, the prize will be used for another giveaway at our discretion. Thanks for understanding!Find Us Online -C.C. -~ on Instagram as CC_JavaPurlDami - ~ on Instagram as damisdoodlesPink Purl - ~on Instagram as pinkiepurlJavaPurl Designs~ JavaPurl Designs websiteGGKCS -~ our Facebook group ~ GGKCS Podcast / FlossTube~ our Facebook page~ email us: ggkcspodcast@gmail.com~ on Apple Podcasts~ on YouTube~ Support the Podcast, Become a PatronUntil next time,

This week I got to interview Matthias Roberts about his story and thoughts on sexual shame, coming out, faith, sexuality, being gay, being a therapist and so much more. He has such an incredible story and heart and so much wisdom to share. Enjoy! Support this podcast: patreon.com/jackiegvtv Buy my book: jackiegronlund.com Follow me on Instagram: @jackieg.tv Follow Matthias on Instagram: @matthiasroberts / @queerologypod Listen to Queerology: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/queerology-a-podcast-on-belief-and-being/id1241721675 RESOURCES FOR FAITH AND SEXUALITY DECONSTRUCTION: https://docs.google.com/document/d/10UlzOJzlfMugEuu-h_KxFTiftFWgVk0pDqEob-FyzpM/edit?usp=sharing

Show Notes:Intro - On the Needles - ~Hello Pumpkin Socks on US1.5 (2.5mm), Pandia's Jewels Snug in the Pumpkin Spice colourway & XrayAnn Fingering in the Semi Solid Battleship colourwayProject bag from Nerd Bird Makery & Progress Keeper from Ann TudorFinished Projects - ~2020 Preemie Hat #39 on US6 (4mm), Bernat Softee Baby in the Mint colourway & Knit Picks Wool of the Andes Worsted in the Caution colourwayFlosstube - Begins at timestamp 10:33Dami - ~Baa Baa Black Sheep by The Prairie SchoolerProject bag from Tilting Planet ~RBG Freebie by Bendy Stitchy Designs~Edinburgh Castle by Terra Luna StitcheryNeedle Minder from TopKnotStitcherProject Bag from KnitRunDigGrime Guard from Crab Shack StitcherySnipattie from cattycrosstitchesUsing Pattern Keeper software on Kindle Fire 727,200 / 265,824 sts complete10.232% complete5 / 60 pages completeYummies (our current favourite things) - ~Ink Circles Helianthus pattern & Just CrossStitch Halloween 2020 issue from TopKnotStitcher~Color Street from Creativity by Gidge (Amy)~Crafty Photo A Day Challenge - #GGKCraftyPAD - details for October hereWhat We're Watching, Reading, + Listening To - Please be aware that we do discuss recent tv show episodes that have aired in the last week or so. This is your spoiler warning!Episode 415 Bookshop ListOctober / November / December 2020 RAL - 15 minutes of reading daily challenge* 88-92 of 92 days - 1 or more giveaways for eBook, everyone gets $1.20 off any single pattern coupon code & 88+ days RAL virtual badge * 61-87 of 92 days - 1 or more giveaways for single pattern, everyone gets 61+ days RAL virtual badge* #GGKRAL202020 RAL Yearlong Challenge~October / November / December* 92 days - 10 entries* 88-91 days - 8 entries* 61-87 days - 5 entries~Read All 366 days - 10 bonus entries~Complete the Modern Mrs. Darcy 2020 Reading Challenge - 12 bonus entries [all or none] (we'll open a thread for you to post this in December 2020)~3 grand prize winners drawn from all the entries~The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor - C.C. is reading~Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts - C.C. will start this for October book club~Harry Potter & the Order of the Phoenix (Harry Potter #5) - C.C. is rereading with Harry Potter & the Sacred Text podcast & Swish and Flick: An All Potter Podcast~Red Rising Saga by Pierce Brown - C.C. finished reading Book 3~Slay by Brittney Morris - C.C. finished reading~The Belles Series by Dhonielle Clayton - C.C. finished reading Book 2~Lucy Kincaid Series by Allison Brennan - C.C. finished reading Book 10~Lord of the Last Heartbeat (The Sacred Dark Series) by May Peterson - C.C. is reading~Switched At Birth - watching Season 1~Psych - finished rewatching series & Psych: The Movie~The 100 - watching Season 7~The Masked Singer - Season 4~My Favourite Murder podcast~David Tennant Does a Podcast With… podcast~Unlocking Us With Brené Brown~Evolving Faith podcast~Random Spotify PlaylistsSeptember / October / November Artistic Autumnal AL -*Runs from 1-September through 30-November*Details - any project you knit/crochet/weave/spin/stitch/sew that you can convince us relates to autumn*No WIPS - Your project must be begun no earlier than 1-September and finished no later than 30-November*Each project that you knit/crochet/weave/spin must be at least 20yds/18.3m that you finish and post in the Facebook Group FO Thread counts as 1 entry into the giveaways. If your project is not at least 20yds/18.3m, you need to group it in a single post with other projects that together total at least 20yds/18.3m. For stitching/sewing projects, we’ll leave it to your best judgment. If you wanted our official ruling, PM email us at ggkcspodcast@gmail.com*Feel free to poly-dip in other ALs as long as it fits in with other rules*Please complete our Google form in order to help us make sure you are receiving a prize that you'll actually enjoy using.*Prizes: If you’d like to donate one, email us at ggkcspodcast@gmail.comStitch Marker Sets made & donated by Julia of Pandia's Jewels - 1 Labyrinth & 1 Frankenstein - 2 winners will each win a random setOrange Camper bag by ArtByAna from RhondaJust CrossStitch Volume 37, No. 5 - October 2019Hilde’s Brew pattern by Michelle of Bendy Stitchy DesignsZipper Pouch & mini-skeins from Hillary*Must be a member of the our Facebook group ~ GGKCS Podcast / FlossTube to participate*Social Media Hashtag: #GGKCSAutumn20*Thread will be locked the morning of 1-December and winner(s) drawn on the next podcast following that*For any and all giveaways, prizes, competitions, ALs, etc. that we host, the winner(s) have 30 days from the date of announcement (the date the podcast episode in which the winner was announced goes live) to contact us to claim their prize or it will be forfeited. If this occurs, the prize will be used for another giveaway at our discretion. Thanks for understanding!*There is a Chatter Thread in our Facebook group so we can encourage each other along the way.Misc. - ~Support the Podcast, Become A PatronEach week, we create a list on Bookshop of all the books we talk about in that week's episode. Bookshop is an online bookstore with a mission to financially support local, independent bookstores. If you purchase a book from our list, we earn a commission & local, independent bookstores also earn money from your purchase.~Want another way to help support our podcast? Throughout our website, links to books, tv shows, movies, etc. are Amazon Affiliate Links. We receive a portion of what you spend when you click through our website to shop on Amazon. What we receive helps us with the costs associated with producing this podcast as well as with prizes & shipping for giveaways. Thanks in advance for your support!If you are in the UK, please click this link, Amazon.co.uk, or the banner below to shop:If you are in Canada, please click this link, Amazon.ca or the banner below to shop:~For any and all giveaways, prizes, competitions, ALs, etc. that we host, the winner(s) have 30 days from the date of announcement (the date the podcast episode in which the winner was announced goes live) to contact us to claim their prize or it will be forfeited. If this occurs, the prize will be used for another giveaway at our discretion. Thanks for understanding!Find Us Online -C.C. -~ on Instagram as CC_JavaPurlDami - ~ on Instagram as damisdoodlesPink Purl - ~on Instagram as pinkiepurlJavaPurl Designs~ JavaPurl Designs websiteGGKCS -~ our Facebook group ~ GGKCS Podcast / FlossTube~ our Facebook page~ email us: ggkcspodcast@gmail.com~ on Apple Podcasts~ on YouTube~ Support the Podcast, Become a PatronUntil next time,

In this episode, we finally begin to delve into a topic we've been teasing for a while: purity culture. The podcast we started the discussion with was a conversation between Bailey Brawner and Matthias Roberts on Bailey's podcast Ask a Pastor Anything, which centered on why there's so much shame around sexuality in the Christian church.  Listening to this podcast episode made Vanessa realize how much it bothers her to hear conversations about sexuality centered around Christianity, and Doug spends a little time explaining why Christianity is still important to him--despite growing up with purity culture. In this section, Doug mentions religious trauma syndrome, as well as the book Models of God by the late Sally McFague. For the rest of the podcast, we focus on what purity culture has meant to Vanessa--reclaiming and redefining the concept of virginity that has weighed so heavily on her throughout her life as it probably has for all other people socialized as women. We didn't mention it in the podcast, but Emily Joy's "Thank God I'm a virgin" speaks to this idea phenomenally. You should totally check it out! [TRIGGER WARNINGS: Evangelical Christianity and Religious Trauma, Eating Disorders, Graphic Sexual Content, Virginity, Rape, and Insecurities in Relationships] This episode was recorded on September 26, 2020. 

In this episode I talk with Reverend Kyndall Rothaus about becoming a female pastor in Texas, trusting women, dealing with misogyny, micro-aggressions, and rape culture. This is part two of my conversation with Kyndall. If you missed the previous episode please go back and listen! Guest Plugs * Kyndall’s Website - http://kyndallraerothaus.com/ * Nevertheless She Preached - https://www.neverthelessshepreached.com/ * Preacher Breath - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24482529-preacher-breath * Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kyndallraerothaus/ Show Notes * Me Too Movement - https://metoomvmt.org/ * Church Too Movement - https://www.faithtrustinstitute.org/churchtoo * Church Hurt - https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/05/well/mind/religion-trauma-lgbt-gay-depression-anxiety.html * The Valley of the Shadow of Death - https://www.texasmonthly.com/articles/the-valley-of-the-shadow-of-death/ * RAINN - https://www.rainn.org/statistics * National Sexual Violence Resource Center - https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics * Baylor University Sexual Assault Scandal - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BaylorUniversitysexualassaultscandal * Episode 15 Beyond Shame with Matthias Roberts - https://wdtatpodcast.com/podcast/15-beyond-shame-with-matthias-roberts/ * Episode 21 All About Sex with Julie Jeske - https://wdtatpodcast.com/podcast/021-all-about-sex-with-julie-jeske/ Support the Podcast - https://www.patreon.com/wdtatpodcast Leave us a voicemail! https://www.speakpipe.com/wdtatpodcast Email your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.com Follow us: Facebook -https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcast Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcast Special Guest: Kyndall Rothaus.

Matthias Roberts is a therapist, author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress, 2020) and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being which was recently named as one of the "12 Best LGBTQ+ Podcasts of 2020" by O: The Oprah Magazine and the #1 Podcast to Listen to on National Coming Out Day by Radio.com. He holds two master's degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, Matthias specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. @matthiasroberts @laurendeleary @adam.budnick https://www.eventbrite.com/e/beyond-shame-healing-day-tickets-112897112302 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode I talk with Reverend Kyndall Rothaus about becoming a female pastor in Texas, trusting women, dealing with misogyny, micro-aggressions, and rape culture. This is a two part episode. So stay tuned for the second part soon! Guest Plugs * Kyndall’s Website - http://kyndallraerothaus.com/ * Nevertheless She Preached - https://www.neverthelessshepreached.com/ * Preacher Breath - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24482529-preacher-breath * Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kyndallraerothaus/ Show Notes * Me Too Movement - https://metoomvmt.org/ * Church Too Movement - https://www.faithtrustinstitute.org/churchtoo * Church Hurt - https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/05/well/mind/religion-trauma-lgbt-gay-depression-anxiety.html * The Valley of the Shadow of Death - https://www.texasmonthly.com/articles/the-valley-of-the-shadow-of-death/ * RAINN - https://www.rainn.org/statistics * National Sexual Violence Resource Center - https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics * Baylor University Sexual Assault Scandal - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BaylorUniversitysexualassaultscandal * Episode 15 Beyond Shame with Matthias Roberts - https://wdtatpodcast.com/podcast/15-beyond-shame-with-matthias-roberts/ * Episode 21 All About Sex with Julie Jeske - https://wdtatpodcast.com/podcast/021-all-about-sex-with-julie-jeske/ Support the Podcast - https://www.patreon.com/wdtatpodcast Leave us a voicemail! https://www.speakpipe.com/wdtatpodcast Email your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.com Follow us: Facebook -https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcast Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcast Special Guest: Kyndall Rothaus.

In this episode we speak to Matthias Roberts, author of 'Beyond Shame' and podcast host of 'Queerology'. We talk about how purity culture drives sexual shame, ways we deal with those messages and talk about better ways forward and building sexual ethics. We also talk about the paradox of sexuality, how truth must be witnessed and talk about Jerry Falwell Jr. because of course we do. Brought to by Matthias' purple velvet Jesus Banner and our BRAND NEW Dirty Rotten Merch Kids store!! Matthias Robertshttps://matthiasroberts.com/ Dirty Rotten Merch Kidshttps://teespring.com/stores/dirtyrottenchurchkids Chadwick Boseman on Jimmy Fallonhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=expKmfdoo28  

This week's guest is Matthias Roberts, host of the Queerology podcast and author of Beyond Shame. Matthias experiences the joy that is Avatar: The Last Airbender. (NOT THE MOVIE!) Sam discusses Hard Boiled, the classic Hong Kong action movie directed by John Woo. Andy and Tessa talk about some great indie video games: Secret Little Haven and Never Alone. (As an extra special bonus feature this week, Sam experiences his first epic audio failure as a podcaster. Apologies for any audio quality issues.) Full Transcript

Looking to create a healthy sex life on your own terms?  Matthias Roberts, host of Queerology, therapist and author joins us to share some of his personal experiences with shame AND insights from his new book ‘Beyond Shame'. I really appreciate when a therapist, author and expert on ‘shame' is able to walk the talk when it comes to vulnerability. The definition of vulnerability that Mattias' shared that talks about our capacity to be wounded… that shot an arrow that pierced my soul and gives me a really clear goal to work towards when I think of my own healing path. I've been a big fan of Brene Brown for years and have used her definitions around vulnerability in my own life, with teams at work, in coaching and consulting engagements. She talks about vulnerability as: “Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”  “We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. As I take a step back and look at vulnerability as my capacity of being wounded, I can see how “cleansed”, “socially acceptable” and “corporatized” these definitions are. The capacity to be wounded is next level.  It's raw, messy and puts everything on the line.  It is also the exact antithesis to how I taught myself to live my life. My entire life objective was DON'T LET THEM SEE HOW HURT YOU ARE. So what about you?  Do you live your life from a place of vulnerability? Are you opening yourself to the potential of being wounded with your friends, family or partner? What about work?  Do you approach your job from a place of vulnerability, or do you go into every situation with your battle shields up? We live in a society that worships certainty and control so that we don't ever get wounded.   Don't ask a question that you don't know the answer to.  Have a contingency plan for your contingency plan.Don't ever let them see you cry What if we flipped that switch?  What would our world look like?  What would your job look like?  What would your relationships look like?   Who would you be if you lived beyond shame? Thank you so much for joining us today and I look forward to connecting with you in two-weeks' time for our next story episode called ‘God hates figs'… and no it's not an episode about fruits… well actually it is an episode about what I was taught that God thought about fruits… but sidenote… did you know that a fig is actually a flower and not a fruit? Thank you again for being with us today and before I go, I want to remind you. Your story is important.  You were designed with a powerful voice.  We need to hear what you have to say.  You matter, you are needed, you are wanted, and you are loved.

In this episode I chat with Matthias Roberts about his new book, Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms. We talk about creating a healthy sexuality and the theology it takes to create such a sexuality. Guest Bio/Info: Matthias Roberts is a licensed mental-health counselor associate and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. Find Matthias here: matthiasroberts.com Twitter: @matthiasroberts Instagram: matthiasroberts Facebook: facebook.com/matthiasroberts Special music by A Hope for Home: Spotify: A Hope for Home Instagram: ahopeforhomemusic Get connected to Mason: masonmennenga.com Patreon: patreon.com/masonmennenga Twitter: @masonmennenga Facebook: facebook.com/mason.mennenga Instagram: masonmennenga

If you wonder what progressive sexual ethics can look like,  Matthias Roberts is here to open up the conversation. He speaks to us as a therapist and an author, but he’s also a gay man who grew up in the trenches of evangelical purity culture. This episode is also a great starting point if you want to better understand your LGBTQ+ friends and relatives. In Ask Us Anything, Jess & Devi talk about The “Purity” Hoax, and address the question: Was Jim and Elisabeth Elliot’s love story real?   Full show notes here Matthias Roberts is author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress, 2020) and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being which was named as one of the “12 Best LGBTQ+ Podcasts of 2020” by O: The Oprah Magazine and the #1 Podcast to Listen to on National Coming Out Day by Radio.com. He holds two master’s degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, Matthias specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks often about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. Connect with Matthias on Instagram & Twitter Get episodes of The Jess & Devi Show for $3USD/month    Join our conversations on Instagram & Twitter

For those of us who grew up in some form of purity culture, the landscape of shame and its scars is deeply familiar terrain. Author, Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate, and host of the incomparable Queerology podcast Matthias Roberts’ commitment to the long work of learning to trust our bodies, embrace our sexuality, and live fully into our most passionate possibilities is exactly the sort of prophetic heresy we are ALL about. https://matthiasroberts.com/ Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms Matthias on Instagram and Twitter

Matthias Roberts was forever changed when he discovered there were others who had integrated their faith and sexuality. Years later, he found there weren't many resources for queer people of faith, which led him to starting a podcast to address just that. Even more, he saw the need for work around healing in our bodies, which led him to becoming a therapist. We talk about coming out, relationships, sex, and more. Matthias can be found across social media at @matthiasroberts. His website is matthiasroberts.com and his podcast, Queerology, can be found wherever you listen to podcasts. You can also find his new book, "Beyond Shame," at your local bookstore or bookshop.org. Other books mentioned in this episode were "God & The Gay Christian" by Matthew Vines and "On Being Liked" by James Alison. You can support the podcast financially at anchor.fm/beautifultension, by leaving a rating or review, and sharing it with anyone you think might enjoy it. Make sure to subscribe to stay up-to-date on new episodes. Thanks for your support! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Matthias Roberts is a therapist, host of the podcast Queerology and author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms.  He shares with us his experience of growing up in a conservative Christian environment while struggling with his sexuality, how the church can do better in this area and why some people should or should not accept celibacy as a gift. www.matthiasroberts.com @matthiasroberts  @queerologypod

Are you afraid to walk in your own neighborhood? Tired of being blocked by white people who think they own the sidewalk? Are you an ally or accomplice?  Kashif Andrew Graham steps in as guest host for Matthias Roberts to talk to Rev. Broderick Greer about moving from allyship to accompliceship. As a priest-on-staff at St. John’s Cathedral in Denver, Broderick directs liturgy and oversees ministry for people in their 20s and 30s.  Occasionally, Broderick offers lectures and facilitates conversations related to the interplay of culture, theology, and justice.  Broderick’s work has been in The Guardian, Teen Vogue, On Being, and The Washington Post. Topics Discussed:  Current Events: Things are breaking everywhere—in a necessary way  Allyship or Accompliceship: Walk with Shawn or white saviorism on Nextdoor?  Ally Framework: Difference between support and privilege; charity and justice Unfriended Friends: What is sustainable—ally or accomplice framework?  Toxic Positivity: Unveiling black/white relations and unrealistic perceptions Disrespect and Disconnect  White people don’t own the world Social Media: Watching black death retraumatizes; reinforces white imagination Sorry, Not Sorry: I’m not exhausted by being black PRIDE: What it means to be a queer, black man Links and Resources:  Broderick Greer A black man was afraid to walk in his gentrified community. So 75 neighbors walked with him. Dying of Whiteness Accomplices, Not Allies A Brief History of the Black Friend Thick: And Other Essays by Tressie McMillan Cottom  Nextdoor Andre Perry Christian Cooper Eric Garner The Clark Sisters: First Ladies of Gospel Alice Walker Angela Davis Stonewall Riots Kashif Andrew Graham on Instagram Beyond Shame by Matthias Roberts Matthias Roberts on Patreon

Host Isaac Archuleta and Matthias Roberts, counselor and podcast host himself, talk about Roberts' new book,  Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms. They consider the shame the results from purity culture and ask questions one can consider in evaluating the presence of shame in one's own life.

"It felt like my body was able to settle" | Emma chats with Matthias Roberts about homeschool, exploring sexuality at a christian college, and the importance of community. Matthias is a therapist in the Seattle area, the host of the renowned podcast Queerology, and is the author of Beyond Shame.  Make sure to follow us on social media for all your Queer Guide updates! Twitter: @queer_guide Insta: @queerguidepodcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thequeerguidepodcast Thanks for listening and make sure to subscribe! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Dan is joined by author and podcaster Matthias Roberts to talk about his new book Beyond Shame and the topic of sexual shame more broadly. His own story sheds interesting light on this topic because, as a gay person, Matthias found himself feeling sexual shame over heterosexual images and potential activities that he did not find sexually alluring at all. If sexual shame can be produced without actual sexual desire as an ingredient, what does that tell us about it? Also, Dan reveals more about his own sexuality and sex life than he planned to because that is just how warm and engaging Matthias is! Beyond Shame: https://smile.amazon.com/Beyond-Shame-Creating-Healthy-Terms/dp/1506455662/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=beyond+shame&qid=1590953881&sr=8-1 Queerology Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/queerology-a-podcast-on-belief-and-being/id1241721675 Follow Dan on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dancoke/ Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia@gmail.com -- he is accepting more work!) Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankoch Email about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.com YHP Patron-only FB group: https://tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98 Website: youhavepermissionpod.com Join Dan's email list: dankochwords.com Artwork by http://sprungle.co/

Follow us on Instagram: @askapastoranything Send in your question via voice message: anchor.fm/askapastoranything/message About Our Guest: Matthias Roberts is author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress, 2020) and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being which was named as one of the "12 Best LGBTQ+ Podcasts of 2020" by O: The Oprah Magazine and the #1 Podcast to Listen to on National Coming Out Day by Radio.com. He holds two master's degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, Matthias specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. Connect with Matthias: Website: matthiasroberts.com Social Media: @matthiasroberts Queerology Podcast on Instagram: @queerologypod Buy Matthias' Book: matthiasroberts.com/beyondshame/ Connect with Bailey: https://linktr.ee/baileynbrawner Episode Transcript: docs.google.com/document/d/1HiW3ZCGj_pGi7QbQkWl6o5hsfMtbv9XhMz2WbtsNZRg/edit?usp=sharing --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/askapastoranything/message

Matthias Roberts is author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being He holds two master's degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, Matthias specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. matthiasroberts.com | @matthiasroberts #exvangelical #progressiveChristianity #lgbt #lgbtaffirming #queer --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/Godisgrey/support

We all carry sexual shame to some extent. Whether you grew up in the midst of purity culture or not, all of us have been taught that sex, outside of a very specific context, is taboo. This week, Psychotherapist Matthais Roberts joins the conversation to help us rethink what it means to have healthy sex, helping us to overcome our shame in the process.  Roberts is a licensed mental health counselor associate and the host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. He holds two master's degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, he specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives.  Enjoy!   RESOURCES:  Beyond Shame: Creating A Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms MatthiasRoberts.com  Queerology Podcast

In this episode, Danielle and Maggie chat with Matthias Roberts, the author of Beyond Shame and the host of the Queerology: A Podcast about Belief and Being. He holds a M.A. in Theology and Culture and a M.A. in Counseling Psychology, both from the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology where he is also an associate instructor. He is Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate (LMHCA) in the state of Washington and specializes in LBGTQ+ trauma and faith.His new book, Beyond Shame, is written for anyone who grew up in under the purity movement—rigid rules about sexuality. US was founded on Puritanical ideals and we're just now beginning to see how harmful in the ways we've been policing bodies. How do we work with that our sexual shame and move beyond shame towards confident flouring lives and sexuality?Matthias says we first need to recognize what you're working with: acknowledge that the shame you feel. See the ways we are trying to cope with our shame.Three coping mechanisms that we use to deal/avoid with shame:Shame Full-ness: We let shame rule our lives and sexuality. We push it down and hide it, do not express it. Shame less-ness: Let our “freedom” rule over our shame, we do whatever we want. We're running away from shame, instead of dealing with it. Auto-pilot: Either we've done our shame work, or do not have as much sexual shame (grown up in sex positive environment), but when sexuality pops up we feel shame and because it's not pervasive enough we don't engage it. Once we know what coping mechanisms are at play we can ask ourselves, “If this is the shape of my shame, what can I then do to start working with it in a honest way.“Good intentions” can not be an escape from working with your shame. We can acknowledge good intentions, like when mom says “don't look” when a woman is on the tv screen. We don't want to over sexualize our kids, so there is goodness in that. But when you're body starts to have biological responses and you really want to look at this, cognitive dissonance happens. When the only messages that you've been told is “You are dirty, you are bad. God will hate you if you enjoy looking…” Thats where shame gets mixed in.There's a both and. You can say that “my parents really were doing the best that they could” and “I'm still left with debilitating shame.” Honesty is that both of these are true. “We can be messed up with good intentions."Matthias hopes that people will find themselves among the chapters. Coping mechanisms have helped us get through life. “When someone puts language to what you know to be very true in your body… it can be really uncomfortable but also feel really freeing." There's a different way to live! We no longer have to live out of our coping mechanisms, we can live out of groundedness and what our actual values are, which is much more satisfying.We need a faith that can move in these space (in our sexuality and our shame). We shouldn't have to reject our faith in order to navigate honestly.His book arose out of a personal question—he found the things he had been taught about sex and sexuality didn't seem to be working. For example, sex outside of marriage. He kept seeing people of deep faith operating in different ways. Personal longing: what are these other pope seeing that I don't and how do I apply that to what I have been taught. Who do I believe God is? Is God a God of freedom? A god who invites us to flouring within our relationships, bodies and sexuality? Is it this rigid one-size fits all model or is there space for people to have different values about their bodies and sexuality?“God is so much bigger than what I was taught. God is not in the business of making moralistic black and white rules…. I don't think that's who God is.”  God is complex and so are we!Sexuality is a hot button for people. Race too. It's a topic that's been glossed over. The complexity has not been address in either.We as a culture have an issue with embodiment. When we gloss over the complexities, it says a lot about who we are as particular bodies, particular people who live in particular environments. One size fits all is literally impossible, it does not work.There needs to be a curiosity about why we are so disembodied. How can we engage our faith and sexuality by bringing the fullness of our humanity.Are we fearfully and wonderfully made or are we not?Do I believe that about me and do I believe that about you?Matthias started his podcast Queerology three years ago with a desire to engage the intersection of being LBGTQ and a person of faith. He wanted to address the question: What does it mean to live faithfully, to live well, as LBGTQ people of faith? It was a movement beyond the question can I be gay and be a person of faith. It's conversations around queerness and “what we believe and what we're doing in the world.” He talks about how faith informs work as a queer person.March 24th launches season 4!Matthias describes what it means to be Queer: it uses “queer” to be an umbrella term. Anyone who falls outside of a hetero-world (one man one women), who identifies as “different” but doesn't want a strict label.  “I sit in a space of difference” which allows everyone their own particular story.To support Matthias work and Queerology you can go to paetron.com/matthiasrobertsWithin the state of Washington you can reach out to him for therapy work. He offers intensive weekends also. He has resources as well for being queer and a person of faith. Matthias is reading: 9 Perfect Strangers by Liane Moriarty Matthias is listening to:Matthias is inspired by the Story Grid by Shawn CoyneYou can connect with Matthias at www.matthiasroberts.com Tune in to his podcast Queerology: On  Belief and Being wherever you get your podcasts. 

Robyn and Anna welcome our dear friend, Matthias Roberts from the Queerology podcast. Join us as we continue our conversation from last week and dig into our collective work around shame.

Robyn and Anna welcome our dear friend, Matthias Roberts from the Queerology podcast. Join us as we continue our conversation from last week and dig into our collective work around shame.

On this first episode of How To Be Human Season 2 Matthias Roberts walks listeners through the possibilities of liberating the body from shame toward a healthier sex life.Matthias Roberts is author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress, 2020) and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being which was named as one of the best LGBTQ+ podcasts of 2019 by The Oprah Magazine. He holds two master's degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, he specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology.@matthiasrobertshttps://matthiasroberts.comHosted by Rachael Wardwww.queerinfaith.comEpisode Air Date: Jan. 14

Jeff & Casey sit down for a conversation with Matthias Roberts, author of the new book Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms.  Before discussion the book, Matthias talks a little bit about his podcast Queerology and his trademark opening question: How do you identify and how would you say your faith has informed that identity? Focus soon turns toward his new book.  Matthias shares how the book came together and what motivated him to write it.  He shares how Beyond Shame encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic boundaries on the other.  We are encouraged to define our sexual values on our own terms, overcome our shame, and start having great, healthy sex. The conversation finishes on a lighter note as Matthias shares with us some of the music that inspired him throughout his journey.  Including a couple amazingly titled playlists: Narcissism: A Love Story & Songs of Self Compassion. Make sure to get Matthias’ book if you haven’t already. Conversation with Matthias Roberts, Author of Beyond Shame (00:01:41) Irenicast 2020 Announcements (01:06:26) MORE ON MATTHIAS ROBERTS Matthias Roberts is author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms (Fortress, 2020) and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being which was named as one of the best LGBTQ+ podcasts of 2019 by O: The Oprah Magazine. He holds two master's degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, he specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. Make sure to order Matthais’ book Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms.  To comes out today, January 7th 2020.  Also follow Matthias’ work by visiting his website, listening to his podcast, Queerology and following him on Twitter, Instagram & Facebook RELEVANT LINKS From Our Conversation with Matthias Roberts, Author of Beyond Shame Matthais Roberts (Podcaster, Author, Speaker) Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthais Roberts (Book - Amazon Affiliate Link) Queerology Podcast Rev. Elizabeth M. Edman Rev. Elizabeth Edman on the Inherent Queerness of Christianity (Queerology Episode) Queer Virtue: What LGBTQ People Know About Life and Love and How It Can Revitalize Christianity by Rev Elizabeth M. 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 Today’s guest is Matthias Roberts. Matthias is a counselor, the host of the Queerology podcast and now he’s an author. Check out his forthcoming book Beyond Shame in the new year. Check out his book at MatthiasRoberts.com.

LETS TALK ABOUT SEX WITH MATTHIAS! And how to create a better sex life on our own terms. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/a-tiny-revolution/donations --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tinyrevolution/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matthias Roberts is a pioneer in sparking discussions around the intersection of queerness and Christianity. As the host of the weekly podcast, Queerology, Matthias shines a spotlight on the stories of queer Christians. His book, Beyond Shame, releases in January. It is a profound book about how to develop a sexual ethic on your own terms. This interview is a rare opportunity to hear Matthias's story and to learn about the heart behind Queerology!

Lucas talks to Matthias Roberts about his new book Beyond Shame. Lucas also confesses that Matthias is his style guru and he has been stealing his haircut for years! Guest Plugs * Matthias Roberts - https://matthiasroberts.com * Pre-Order and email receipt to beyondshamebook@gmail.com for bonus content and access to a course with Linda Cline and Matthias Roberts * Beyond Shame - http://www.beyondshamebook.com/ Show Notes * Q Christian Fellowship - https://www.qchristian.org/ * Brene Brown - https://brenebrown.com/ * Linda Kay Kline - https://lindakayklein.com/ * Swoon - https://www.therapyden.com/blog/swoon * Say More About That - https://www.therapyden.com/blog/say-more-about-that Support the Podcast –https://www.patreon.com/wdtatpodcast Leave us a voicemail! https://www.speakpipe.com/wdtatpodcast Email your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.com Follow us: Facebook –https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcast Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/ Twitter – https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcast

This episode explores the meaning of a passage of scripture that has been a source of shame for LGBTQ people for millenia--the story of Sodom and Gomorrah from Leviticus 19. Because of interpretations of this story, men who had sex with men were called sodomites regardless of their actual resemblance or divergence from the people in this biblical story. But what does the story really mean? And what happens when shame gets mixed into our theology? Who were these men in Sodom, and what does that have to do with the questions we are asking today about sexuality, gender, and marriage? Big thanks to everyone who contributed to this episode! Thank you to the band Tow’rs for generously allowing us to use your music for this episode. You can hear more at: https://www.towrsmusic.com/  Our guests this week were Matthias Roberts and Romell Parks-Weekly. For more information about Matthias’ work: The book, the podcast, and his other projects, see his website: https://matthiasroberts.com/ Romell has authored four books addressing topics of sexuality and faith in the bible and the church. You can find them here: https://www.amazon.com/Pastor-Romell-Parks-Weekly/e/B07KK2WK29/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1 After listening to this episode, consider the following questions  What was your favorite part of the podcast? Was there anything from the podcast you had questions about? What were they? Read through Genesis 18 and 19. What messages do you get from the text? What do you remember being taught about Genesis 19, the story of Sodom and Gomorrah? Do you remember anyone teaching that it was either about LGBTQ people or teaching that it was not about LGBTQ people? Do you have any memories of experiencing shame in your Christian or church experience? How have you seen churches or Christians reject or overcome shame? What did you think of the quote from Anita Bryant? Were you aware that many Christians used to believe homosexuality was voluntary and that gay and lesbian recruited children into being homosexual? How might a persons beliefs about LGBTQ people impact the way they understand the theology of human sexuality? Romell said that the irony of this whole situation is that gay people have been associated with Sodom and Gomorrah and yet it’s LGBTQ in churches that have been treated like the angels were treated in Sodom. They are shown inhospitality, treated like outsiders, and left out in the cold surrounded by dangers. What are your thoughts on this quote? What questions do you have about Christianity, sexuality, and gender after listening to this episode?

This is part two of #90secondsoftruth, the storytelling campaign started by Matthias Roberts and I. Share your stories on social media using the hashtag. Be sure to connect with Matthias at MatthiasRoberts.com, subscribe to Queerology wherever you listen to podcasts. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/a-tiny-revolution/donations --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tinyrevolution/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This reflection on the Transfiguration of the Lord was given by Matthias Roberts at our evening service on August 4, which was also Pride day in Vancouver.  This podcast was recorded live on the traditional, ancestral and unceded territories of the Musqueam, Squamish and Tsleil-Waututh Nations in the heart of Vancouver, BC.

It’s Pride Month, so this episode is dedicated to spreading the gay agenda! Whitney Gaston joins us again to spread some queer joy and insight. We also dive into the history of Pride, its significance in the liberation of LGBTQ+ people, tips for celebrating (or not celebrating), and lots of shameless plugs centered around our favorite queer creators, artists, activists, and leaders.   Our Favorite LGBTQ+ people/resources: Whitney Gaston- @whxtnxcole (Instagram), @whxtpxcs (Photography Instagram), @ohsowhitit (Twitter) Dr. Robyn Henderson-Espinoza- @irobyn (Instagram and Twitter) https://irobyn.com/ Kevin Garcia- @thekevingarcia (Instagram), @thekevingarcia_ (Twitter), www.thekevingarcia.com Queerly Beloved Tees- @queerlybelovedtees (Instagram and Twitter), https://queerlybeloved.shop/ Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being- @queerologypod (Instagram and Twitter), Matthias Roberts- @matthiasroberts (Instagram and Twitter) Q Christian Fellowship- @qchristianorg (Instagram and Twitter)  https://www.qchristian.org/ Brit Barron- co-pastor of New Abbey Church (Pasadena, CA) spiritual director of The Christian Closet (service connecting LGBTQIA persons to therapy, coaching, or spiritual direction)https://www.thechristiancloset.com/ http://www.britbarron.com/ Innovative Love Coalition- @innovativelovecoalition (Instagram) @WeAreILC (Twitter) Church Clarity- @churchclarity (Instagram and Twitter) www.churchclarity.org Morning Boo- https://medium.com/morning-boo/introducing-morning-boo-4ca20116c774 Lez Hangout Podcast- @lezhangoutpod (Instagram and Twitter) Dyking Out Podcast- @dykingout (Instagram and Twitter) The L Word Made Me Gay Podcast The Queer Spirit Podcast Our Bible App- @ourbibleapp https://www.ourbibleapp.com/ Shameless Plug: Pride Spirituality Night- June 11th @ 7pm Congregation Micah (2001 Old Hickory Blvd, Brentwood, TN) | a night of song, story, remembrance, and celebration Somatics and Social Healing- hosted by Dr. Robyn Henderson-Espinoza and Erin Law | June 12th at 615getfit @ 6:30pm | https://www.eventbrite.com/e/somatics-social-healing-tickets-62602330255?aff=ebdshpsearchautocomplete Radical Pride Picnic | Sat June 15th 12-3pm | Richland Park Shelter (Charlotte Pike) | Hosted by No Pride in Police Coalition & Middle TN Democratic Socialists of America | hot dogs and vegan options provided, but everyone is encouraged to bring food| crafts Pride fest, etc. Ecumenical Pride Worship Service- June 19th @ 6:30pm | St. Ann’s Episcopal Church (419 Woodland Street Nashville, TN) Nashville Pride Festival- June 22nd-23rd | Public Square | $5 per day   Found Movement Group Community Class: Mystic Flow (taught by Abra) June 23rd 10-11:30am | Nashville School of the Arts Artist Lab (1250 Foster Avenue Nashville, TN)

To become a patron and help this program continue producing Mood Altering Substance, go to www.patreon.com/hellohuman and pledge any amount. Matthias Roberts is a writer, therapist, and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. His work has been featured in HuffPost Religion, Believe Out Loud, OnFaith, and The Seattle Times. He holds an MA in Theology and Culture and an MA in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Matthias is currently finishing his first book, an exploration of sexual shame and sexual ethics which is set to release on Fortress Press in early 2020. He lives in Seattle and spends his time helping LGBTQ people of faith and allies live confidently. For more of Matthias: Website: https://matthiasroberts.com/ Queerology Podcast: https://matthiasroberts.com/queerology/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthiasroberts/ To become a patron and help this program continue producing Mood Altering Substance, go to www.patreon.com/hellohuman and pledge any amount. For more of us: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hellohumans.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hellohumans.co/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/HelloHumans_co And if you’d like to buy us a coffee (or burrito) once a month to help us keep going, you can become a patron by going to https://www.patreon.com/hellohuman and making a pledge of any amount.

In this episode Dr. Ginger Campbell explores the pros and cons of coming out LGBT+ at this particular moment in history. We consider the unique challenges facing those who are coming out "Later in Life" along with the unique opportunities this choice represents. The decision to come out is both personal and political, but Dr. Campbell argues that coming out at this particular time includes taking a stand against hatred and bigotry. Links and References: Visit the Graying Rainbows website: http://grayingrainbows.com Recommended podcast: Queerology: a podcast about Belief and Being with Matthias Roberts. Announcements: Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in iTunes and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/grayingrainbows

Enjoying God Help Us? Please rate and review on Apple Podcasts.  - As you may know, the intention behind God Help Us is to better understand the ways that our country’s Christian heritage informs our present-day politics. But I’ve also been carrying another intention with me as I’ve worked on this podcast, and that’s to not only inform the political conversation in this country, but to change the nature of the conversation itself. My hope is that no matter what our beliefs or politics, that we could become a country of people who value understanding over being right and working together for the greater good than having our preferred party in power. Hopefully each episode supports this ideal, but I really want to emphasize that intention in today’s episode as well as the next two that are coming up. Really, this whole podcast is very experimental, but this little miniseries is even more so - three guests and I will take a look at some themes that are less about specific theological issues and more about things to be aware of in ourselves and the world we live in if we want to change our political culture. To start off this series, Matthias Roberts is here to talk about shame - what it is, how it functions interpersonally, and how we might work with our own shame to seek resilience and healing in order to stop putting it on other people. Matthias is a writer, podcaster, theologian, and therapist based in Seattle, WA. The next two episodes in the series will be on systems theory and practicing presence in the midst of disappointment, so there’s lots to look forward to. Thanks for being along for the ride! RECOMMENDED RESOURCES: The Power of Vulnerability FIND MATTHIAS: Matthiasroberts.com Instagram Queerology podcast - I’m Annie Mesaros: a theologian, writer, spiritual guide, and host of this podcast. I offer coaching and facilitation for individuals and groups that are working to transform the world for good.  Learn more and contact me at anniemesaros.com. Follow the podcast on Instagram @godhelppod.

Y'all... Matthias Roberts, in addition to being an incredible writer, podcaster, speaker, therapist, and all around good human, is one of my dear friends. Creatively he's been a co-conspirator. Socially, he's been a solid rock and someone who is willing to tell me hard things. Adventure-wise, he's always down. I love him. And in this convo we cover everything. So buckle up. ... connect with Matthias across social media @MatthiasRoberts, and on his website www.MatthiasRoberts.com, and be sure to listen to his podcast, Queerology, wherever you listen to your podcasts. ... Loved the show? Consider supporting it financially through Patreon. Go to www.Patreon.com/thekevingarcia to learn more. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/a-tiny-revolution/donations --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tinyrevolution/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's PRIDE MONTH! This week, I'm rereleasing the episode where I sit down with Matthias Roberts to talk about the nuanced application of self-care.  Find Matthias here! Matthias Roberts is a writer, speaker, and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. His work has been featured in HuffPost Religion, Believe Out Loud, OnFaith, and The Oregonian. He holds an MA in Theology and Culture and is currently finishing his second master’s in Counseling Psychology at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Matthias's spare time is spent wandering the streets of Seattle ever in search of new coffee shops. Support Matthias on Patreon! www.patreon.com/matthiasroberts And look! You can support me on Patreon! www.patreon.com/consciousconstruction If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website here: www.abirobinsyoga.com And if you want to be the first to know what's up with me and when new episodes drop, sign up for my email list here: https://www.abirobinsyoga.com/email-signup

This week, in the midst of chaos in the Austin area, I sit down with Matthias Roberts to talk about the nuanced application of self-care.  Find Matthias here! Matthias Roberts is a writer, speaker, and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. His work has been featured in HuffPost Religion, Believe Out Loud, OnFaith, and The Oregonian. He holds an MA in Theology and Culture and is currently finishing his second master’s in Counseling Psychology at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Matthias's spare time is spent wandering the streets of Seattle ever in search of new coffee shops. If you're in the Austin area and need a little more support moving through the craziness of the past month, please send me an email or check out the resources provided by the YWCA. As always, you can find more about me, here!

Matthias Roberts is Christian and Gay. To many people these categories don’t mix. To Matthias, these aren’t categories. This is simply who he is, a gay Christian man who has not only found the courage to name that as his identity, but also to be a leader and example for everyone who identifies as LGBTQ and is pursuing faith. Matthias’s driving question is “What does it mean to be a queer person of faith? 
 Matthias is a podcaster. He hosts Queerology, a weekly podcast where he interviews queer people of faith. He blogs on this subject and is working on two different books. He recently graduated with a masters degree in Theology and Culture and is in his final year in getting his masters in Counseling at the Seattle School of Theology and psychology. Matthias is a brave soul working on healing those that have been harmed by narrow religious beliefs and helping encourage a sense of infinite belonging to themselves, their identities, and their faith.

Happy New Year, everyone! (BTW- Kevin sounds horrible on this track because after a night of well mannered frivolity, his voice was a mess. SO! just listen closely.) For many of us Queer Christian folk, we are heading into the new year and headed to the Gay Christian Network Conference in Pittsburgh! On today's podcast, we've got two conversations: one with Matthias Roberts and Kevin Garcia, who are talking about their joint workshop. And then on the second part of the podcast, Kevin interviews author and speaker, Amber Cantorna about her story, her book, and their shared hopes for the future. ... You can connect with Matthias Roberts on all the social medias @MatthiasRoberts and on his blog, Matthiasroberts.com. And you can connect with Amber on twitter @AmberCantorna, on Facebook.com/beyond.AmberCantorna, and on her blog AmberCantorna.com. ... See you at GCN this weekend! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/a-tiny-revolution/donations --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tinyrevolution/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matthias Roberts is a writer, speaker and student at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. He is working on two master's degrees: one in Theology and Culture and the other in Counseling Psychology. By trade, Matthias is a graphic designer and photographer. As a gay Christian with a passion to communicate and unite, Matthias advocates for change in how faith communities engage with LGBT people.My name is Matthias. I’m a writer and speaker advocating for change in how faith communities engage with LGBT people.Twitter: @matthiasroberts Instagram: matthiasroberts Youtube: /matthiasroberts