Love & Self-Esteem.

There is popular quote by Myles Munroe that says - "When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable". There is an over importance that has been placed on physical appearance that we somewhat neglect the possibility that the body was made to be just a vehicle - driving our lives. Not because there's anything wrong with physical appearance, or the need to look good, but in clamoring for physical beauty, we have placed an unhealthy amount of emphasis on body (types) than is necessary. One that has led us to the point in our society where people no longer feel worthy, or deserving of anything good, because they don't match up to beauty standards. Was the body made to be just a part of us that contributes to our functionality, or was it made for so much more? Find out in this episode. Here are the things I talked about: • A review from the previous episode •Our limitation as humans in our knowledge of what we think could be best us, per time. •The first step to transforming something from a disorderly state to an orderly one is identifying its purpose. •How exposure, background and culture plays a part in programming what we now call our preferences. •The entirety of your existence is not hinged on your body type/whether or you meet up with beauty standards. You are more than your body. -> Join the interesting conversation on Spotify: Love & Self-Esteem https://open.spotify.com/episode/0HRyzrZm5FjgIcEYnnyxik"Are we objective enough or well-informed, as humans, to determine our worth?" Please, state your answer with your reasons. Let's keep the conversation going! -> For further questions and enquiries, reach out to me here: Instagram: www.instagram.com/ayanpella/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/_ayanpella Email: ayantemeetope@gmail.com Sign up to get letters from me: bit.ly/AyanpellasNewsletter Like this show? Please, leave your ratings and review, they go a long way. Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/message

A person's body image [issues] and self-wirth are interconnected in the sense that, your understanding of your worth determines how you handle these issues. In this episode, I talked about self-worth and how your understanding of it can shape your reality. If you've ever asked yourself if your worth is at the end of a desired accomplishment, and in this context, having your dream body or the ideal body, then this episode is for you. It's an introductory episode to the brief series on self-worth that I'll be publishing across time. Here are the things I talked about in this episode: • For something as defining as your worth, it only makes sense that it is hinged on something that is fixed, and does not bend to every societal expectation(s). •Why understanding your worth is important • How to unwrap your worth from your body: °giving yourself the power, °practicing self-acceptance, -> Participate in the question poll on Spotify and win a gift, "Where/What do you think our worth is or should be hinged on?": https://open.spotify.com/show/1XCKFOdShcF2gvRywZtS0g -> For further questions and enquiries, reach out to me here: Instagram: www.instagram.com/ayanpella/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/_ayanpella Email: ayantemeetope@gmail.com Like this show? Please, leave a review, it goes a long way. Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/message

Day in day out, people continually have to deal with rude and unsolicited comments on their bodies. It's everywhere; on the streets and on the net. In this episode, I did a sort of an interview asking people to share their body shaming experiences and how it made them feel, and the responses I got were mind-blowing. From being disqualified at an interview without given the chance to prove your ability, simply because "you're too thin, you don't look like you can handle this job" to being the subject of public humor in your school. These are the sad realities that people have to face and I published this episode to open people up to these realities. And not just stop there, make them see the effects of their "jokes", and also to discuss what possible solutions there are for the way forward. Here are the things you'd find in this episode: *00:00 Intro *03:27 Body shaming experiences from listeners *17:02 The problems and effects of body shaming *19:00 Body shaming on social media *21:45 Beauty expectations and standard *22:30 Dealing with Body Shaming: *22:40 #Step 1- Not being a part of the culture *26:65 #Step 2- Zero tolerance for body shaming *28:22 #Step 3- Dealing with insecurities *30:33 #Step 4- Understanding your worth -> Other resources mentioned in this episode: •What body shaming is not. From the "Body Shaming and Body image Issues" episode: https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/episodes/Body-Shaming--Body-Image-Issues-e1icdph -> If you'd also like to share your body shaming experiences with me, feel free to send me a message. You'll be strictly anonymous. -> For further questions and enquiries, reach out to me here: Instagram: www.instagram.com/ayanpella/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/_ayanpella Email: ayantemeetope@gmail.com -Like this show? Please, leave a review, it goes a long way. Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/message

One of the issues that contribute to body image is body shaming; both the subtle and the pronounced ones. Body image is not independent. A lot of factors contribute to how a person chooses to see themselves through the lens of their bodies, and body shaming is one of them. People have their expectations of what the ideal body should look like and they're quick to project those expectations on people who don't seem to match them. In this episode, I shared some of the body shaming experiences I've had as a skinny girl, and how some of them contributed in my already poor self-esteem. I talk about how body shaming causes you to doubt and question yourself. If you've ever been on the receiving end of body shaming remarks, you can relate to how limiting it can be, and I'm sure you'll be able to relate to some of the things in talked about in this episode. And if you're ready to learn how to deal with it, then you're in the right place! Here are the things I talked about in this episode: • How body shaming makes you doubt and question yourself. You analyze comments so much that you begin to wonder if it's correct. • How to navigate these comments and deal with the toxicity. Understanding that these comments do not define you. • Why building a positive body image is important in navigating bad comments. Even if you don't completely love your body, building a positive body image helps you live a confident and happy life • Beauty standards are constantly changing and I talked about how this points to the fact that they're not important enough for you to hinge your self-esteem on • How to set boundaries and not accept demeaning comments and jokes about your body • Ensuring that you are not contributing to body shaming culture; to yourself and to other people • Lastly, I talked about what body shaming is not. Other resources mentioned in this episode: *Building Confidence 101: Assertiveness https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/episodes/Building-Confidence-101-Assertiveness-eo7q8s *Handling Confrontations 1 & 2 https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/episodes/Handling-Confrontations-PT1-e1464bu https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/episodes/Handling-Confrontations-PT-2-e14v710 *PIDGIN ENGLISH: A local Nigerian language. For further questions and enquiries, reach out to me here: Instagram: www.instagram.com/ayanpella/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/_ayanpella Email: ayantemeetope@gmail.com Like this show? Please, leave a review, it goes a long way. Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/message

It is usually said that one of the first steps to dealing with an issue is realizing (and admitting) that there is an issue. In this episode, I discussed some of the signs that you have a negative body image. I talked about how- •your body comparisons, •obsession with your look, •your relationships, work and general activities- are indicators to your negative body image. If you can relate to any of the signs discussed, not to worry, you're in the right place! A negative body image, like every other issue, can be dealt with, so make sure to stick around for the other episodes in this season. Don't forget to subscribe to this podcast, and leave your reviews. For questions and enquiries, You can reach me via Instagram: @ayanpella. Or send an email to ayantemeetope@gmail.com P. S. Pardon the minor background noises, I recorded and edited this while I was ill.

Do you struggle with building a positive body image because it feels like nothing you're doing seems to be working? Listen to this episode to find out what you might have been doing wrong, and what the right approach is. In this episode, I separated facts from fictions, and debunked the myths that might be making it impossible for you to successfully build a positive body image that makes you feel at peace. Make sure to subscribe, and leave your reviews. Ratings and reviews ensure that other people get to find the podcast.

Do you, sometimes, doubt your worth because of your body type? Do you, because, you don't fit into the society's definition of beauty think that you are not deserving of any form of love? These are the questions that the new season of this podcast seeks to address. This episode is a introduction on what to expect from the other episodes in this season. Be sure to catch up on a new episode bi-weekly. You can also reach me on social media: Twitter: @_ayanpella. Instagram: @ayanpella Don't forget to subscribe, and leave your reviews. I'd love to hear from you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/buildyourselfesteem/message

Still in this series, we discuss confrontations from another perspective, and how to better communicate your feelings. Enjoy!

How we handle confrontations, in our everyday relationships is important. Stick around this series to find out how best to go about conflict resolutions.

After a long break, I'm back to dropping valuables episodes to help in your self esteem/confidence journey. I talked a little bit about implementation in this one. Enjoy!

I took a break from the building confidence series, to be vulnerable and share an experience that I think you'd find useful. Please, let me know if you do. Love!❤️

Receiving validations and approval is quite normal, but the obsessive craving for them is unhealthy to self. Find out how to break off it, in this episode.

Self development is a very vital skill in our everyday lives; personal or professional. And, it also helps boost your self confidence. Find out how, and ways to go about your personal development. Hearty cheers!

It's the new year, let's talk more about what you'd like to hear me discuss. Send me a DM @ayanpella on my social media platforms. You can also send a mail- ayantemeetope@gmail com. Cheers to the new year!

Assertiveness is a very important skill, and it can be learnt. Find out how, in this podcast.

We all that voice in our head telling us we're not good enough, or that we can't do certain things. How do we deal with that voice? Listen to this episode.

We can't help but compare ourselves to people, sometimes, so what do we do when we find ourselves comparing? Find out in this episode.

We are starting a series on practical ways to build confidence. It promises to be an amazing one, so stick around!

A lot of things have been happening, and this is me saying that you matter, and so you should actually take out time to take care of yourself.

One of the ways to build your self esteem shows in how you relate with people. This episode talks briefly on relating with people the right way.

This is a second part to Self Esteem & Healthy Relationships, talking about self esteem as it relates to our everyday relationships. Enjoy! P.S. Thanks to Mental health counselor—Yeyetomisin, for the excerpt.

This episode talks about how self esteem affects relationships and how to deal with it.

Does God really care about my self esteem and mind? Find out in this episode, and also, how to rest in God's abilities and promises.

I talked more about the effects of social media on a person's self esteem and how you can have a positive online experience. I really poured out my heart in this one. Enjoy!

Social media has its effects on social media and here, I talked about them and how to deal with it. Enjoy.

‘How do I know if I have low self esteem?' In this episode, I discussed some of the signs that you have low self esteem, because recognizing this is one of the first heroic steps that you have to take in defeating low self esteem. Enjoy!

What are the factors responsible for low self esteem? In this episode, I mentioned a few of the causes of low self esteem, and the things you might be doing to trigger another person's low self esteem.

In this episode, I basically defined Self-Esteem in my own little way. Enjoy!