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Vacation can be relaxing, invigorating, and connective.OR it can be irritating and stressful.How can you make sure your vacation brings you and your partner closer together?Hit play to hear my 3 VERY EFFECTIVE tips to having the best vacation with your partner! Free Resources:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

When things feel difficult in your marriage, it's all too easy to become discouraged and even spiral out a bit. But there is another way. You can use those hard times to become closer to God and and become the most spiritual version of yourself. Which in turn will lead you back to a better marriage.In this episode, I share a recording from a lecture I gave to a wonderful community of God-loving women in Denmark hosted by a fellow marriage coach, Claire Jorgensen. In this talk, I lay out all the fundamental mindset shifts you need to start feeling empowered immediately. Then I teach you how to use the pain for spiritual growth. Free Resources:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Do you ever feel like you're speaking… but not really being heard by your partner?In this episode, I'm sharing five powerful phrases that instantly shift the tone of your conversations and help your partner actually hear you.These are the phrases that reduce defensiveness, increase connection, and create emotional safety—even in tough moments.Whether you're navigating a disagreement or trying to express a need, these tools will help you communicate with more clarity, calm, and confidence.Want more help with communication in your relationship? Register for my Communications Workshop titled "SPEAK & BE HEARD: THE FORMULA FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION" Free Resources:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

It's almost Valentine's day and everyone is talking about romance. But what is romance, really?Forget the societal norms and get curious about what would really fill your partner up. And tell them what would fill you up.Hit play to hear all about romance in real marriages as opposed to the Valentines images we see. Mentioned on this episode:Ep 6 - Are Your Expectations Causing You Pain? Free Resources:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

"Whatever it is you and your partner are not talking about - THAT is your relationship."- Susan ScottI love this quote and I believe that almost anything can be talked out. But it requires having the skills to have an emotionally charged conversation effectively.This episode gives you four guidelines to having a difficult conversation in a successful way. Hit play to hear what they are and why it's so important to have the conversation!Mentioned on this episode:How to End the Conflict in Your Marriage  Free Resources:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

❌ Skip the bullshit resolutions and focus on what's reallly important in 2025 - your marriage. It's the nucleus of the family and affects your quality of life.

There is so much pressure around the holiday season to have a certain experience represented by a certain image.This episode is all about stripping that away and focusing on your expectations & communication with your partnerHit play to have a mindset shift about what's REALLY important this holiday season! Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Today I am celebrating 7 years of continuous sobriety!!

Meet Laurie. She came to me with one of the deepest marital resentments I've ever coached anyone through. It was debilitating and consumed her day and night. And it was ruining her marriage.  Finally, after a decade of suffering, she decided to do something about it. It wasn't easy - it took 3 months and a lot of coaching - but Laurie DID free herself from this resentment!If you think your marriage can't get better, I call bullshit. If you're willing to use the tools I teach, your relationship can heal from anything. Hit play to hear it from the mouth of a client who went from feeling overwhelmingly resentful to peaceful and content. -------Are you a mompreneur? If so, I want to invite you to come be a guest on my new podcast, The Real Mompreneur Show! The Real Mompreneur brings to light the joys and hardships of being an entrepreneur while running a household. If you're looking for a platform to reach more clients and get your message out there - plus you're willing to get real and vulnerable about the ups and downs of mompreneurship, I want you on my show. Apply to be a guest here.  Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

This is a re-air from episode 25. On this episode, I tell my marriage story and how it led me to figuring out the secret to inner peace in any marital situation.Hit play for a more vulnerable episode where you can get to know me and how I came to be a marriage coach - post my own failed marriage! Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

The way you think about things single-handedly dictates your experience. Over the years, I have helped hundreds of people change their mindset and change their results.  In this episode, I give you the five most powerful mindset shifts I've helped people make. Pick the one you need most and start working through it!Need some help taking the mindset shift and making it applicable in your life? I've got your back. Right now, I am running a Summer Lovin' Special where you get $600 off if you sign up by May 20th! Get more info here. Mentioned on this episode:Ep 54 - The Mindset Shift That Will Save Your MarriageEp 93 - Getting Out of the Victim Role  Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

I want you to look back on this summer and say "that was the summer where everything changed for us. We got the help, worked on our marriage, and fell back in love."This is completely available to you. All you need to do is go back to basics and build that 3-part foundation - intention, vulnerability, communication. Imagine what it would be like to feel relaxed on your summer vacation because you're not fighting or feeling distant. In this episode, I make you a VERY special offer that will lead you to some hot summer lovin with your partner. 

Do you feel lonely in your partnership? Loneliness has nothing to do with actually being alone - it's about genuine connection.On this episode, I tell you exactly how to work your way out of loneliness and into connection with your partner. Hit play to hear my method, journal prompts I use with clients, and a conversation prompt to help you begin talking to your partner in a way that will bring you together.  Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Join me in my new FREE Masterclass titled:"How to Create the Sex Life You Crave"Register Here!We will cover: Getting in touch with what you want & like in bedHow to stop avoiding sexYour relationship with sex & how its holding you backHow to communicate to your partner your sexual needsHow to say no to sex without shutting your partner downManaging your sex life while raising kidsCreating a sex life you feel excited about!We go live this Friday April 19th at 11am EST/8am PSTIf you can't attend live, or if you're reading this after April 19th, register anyway to get the recording!! Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

How long has it been since you and your partner really sat down to check in with each other about how you're feeling in the marriage?Lack of communication is the reason for resentment, misunderstanding, disconnect, and even hostility. Do you feel like you need some help with re-engaging in meaningful communication with your partner?  Or do you have sit-downs but they end up in blow ups?If so, this episode is for you. Hit play to hear what I do with my clients to help them implement communication within the marriage in a way that actually works. Mentioned on this episode:Ep 29 -  My Top Five Communication Tips Ep. 70 - The Formula for Effective Communication Ep. 89 - Are You and Your Partner in Different Relationships? Ep. 32 - How To Be Vulnerable With Your Partner. Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Do you feel like a pressure cooker always about to boil over with difficult emotions?This is common and is a direct result of you NOT processing your emotions. The answer to gaining control over your emotions is to feel them.But how the heck do you do that? In this episode, I give you a step-by-step technique for releasing some of that pressure and gaining control over your emotions. You'll hear me process some disappointment that I'm experiencing in my relationship in real time. Even the episode art is a picture of me in this moment. Join me in my raw moment to show you how to have your own. As a result, the rest of your day will be much lighter.  Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Are you stuck in the victim mindset? If so, your relationship is suffering.Victim mentality keeps you in the problem and out of solution. It keeps you stuck. But you can get out. Hit play to find out what the victim mentality is, where it comes from, and what to do about it!Get more info on my brand new group program! Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Are you constantly overthinking and feeling slighted by your partner? I know a TRUTH that allows me to feel good about myself, regardless of what other people are saying or doing. Hit play to hear all about it!Get more info about my new group coaching program:MASTER YOUR MARRIAGE & YOUR MINDMentioned on this episode:Ep 73 - How to End the ConflictEp 49 - The Right Way to Set a Boundary Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

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Are you and your partner in the roommate zone? If so, this episode is for you. I usually dive into the deeper side of relationships but there is a time and place for focusing on little behaviors too.Hit play to hear five QUICK & EASY ways to connect with your partner today!Mentioned on this episode:Ep 34 - Five Steps to Releasing ResentmentEp 88 - Create the Sex Life You Crave Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Ever walk away from a convo with your partner only to realize later that you both had COMPLETELY different takeaways from it?How could they possibly have walked away from that experience without seeing what you were seeing?In this episode I talk about the psychology of being in completely different relationships with EACH OTHER! Hit play to learn how this happens, what to do about it, and how to feel better all on your own! Plus a VERY exciting announcement

Does sex feel like a chore for you? A box to check off... kinda like laundry?Been there, done that. Won't do it again.In this episode, I empower you to tune into what turns you on, communicate it with your partner, and work through your limiting beliefs around sex. An exciting sex life with your partner is COMPLETELY available to you. You just need to shift your mindset and your energy around it.Hit play to hear how! Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Does your partner know you? I mean REALLY know you?Are you honest and real with them about how you feel?  Do you open up but only to a point? Do you shut down often?What would happen if you let your partner into your inner world? If you stopped expecting them to read your mind and instead you took the opportunity to share?This episode explains why it feels so much easier NOT to be totally honest about your feelings. Then it tells you exactly what you've been missing by stifling yourself.Beautiful things happen when we get vulnerable. I'm taking what took me years to learn and I'm giving it to you in under 10 minutes Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

How do you describe your partner and your marriage? When you think and talk about your relationship, do you use empowering verbiage or do you speak like a victim?On this episode, I teach you a tool called The Debate Team Technique and I show you how to use it by using my marriage story. This is a powerful tool that takes a situation that feels powerless and difficult and makes it work FOR you!Mentioned on this episode:Ep 25 - How My Failed Marriage Turned Me into a Badass Coach Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

I'm here to bust the myth that both partners need to be working on the relationship in order for it to improve

New Year, New Focus!

Unpopular Opinion: It only takes one person to fix a relationship!If you are in a relationship or in a marriage where your partner is not in a position to work on themselves, either because they don't have the capacity or they are not willing to, that does not mean that things are hopeless at all!! And the quicker that you can put down your need for them to change and take all of that energy and put it into how are you going to change, the quicker you're going to see a better relationship with yourself and with your partner.  This work is contagious.I've seen it time and time again with my clients. But don't take my word for it! Hit play to hear my former client, Bri, tell all about how she improved her relationship without her fiancée ever doing the work. Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Studies show that couples fight more during the holiday season. This is interesting since the holidays are supposed to naturally breed happiness and cheer, right?Wrong. Because our expectations are unrealistic. In fact, they are fantasy. But there is a better way! Hit play to find out how to ditch the fantasy and REALLY have a great holiday with your partner and your family. Mentioned on this episode:Ep 6 - Are Your Expectations Causing You Pain?Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Do you feel like the power dynamic is lopsided in your marriage? The most common form of power dynamics that I coach on is when one partner makes the money and the other holds down the fort at home.This can get tricky in terms of power dynamics - but it doesn't need to! No matter what area you feel inferior or insecure in, you can even it out. Hit play and learn how!Mentioned on this episode:Ep 42 - Solutions For the Default ParentFree Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

The silent treatment was always my go-to. Before I had actual tools to handle conflict and disappointment, I just shut down. For me, this was a learned behavior... and I had NO IDEA how damaging it was to my partner. I thought that by ignoring and "punishing" my partner, he would somehow see things my way and come running to me as if we were in some RomCom. Real relationships take real work. If you find yourself giving your partner the silent treatment often, this episode is the real talk you've been waiting for. Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Do you say yes when you really want to say no? Do you feel the need to "save" your loved ones? Do you hide your real self in order to please your partner?If so, you're most likely a people-pleaser. Hit play to hear from Marina Pearson, an expert on people-pleasing. She tells us how it plays a detrimental role in romantic relationships, and how to unshackle yourself from the people-pleasing dynamic once and for all!Who is Marina Pearson?Marina is The Custodian of Hearts for women with a Manifestor Human Design profile who are ready to unshackle themselves from their people-pleasing chains to manifest the loving relationships and life they  here for. Over the past 15 years, she has worked with mums and women (by running retreats and guiding circles, hosting podcasts) and authored 2 books, the bestseller Goodbye Mr. Ex and The Joy of Being) to unshackle them of stress and anxiety.  Her work has also been supported by Marie Claire, New Magazine, BEST, Sky TV, The Guardian, and This Morning,  to name a few.  Aside from the professional accolades, she loves nature, beauty and connection.To find out whether you are a people pleaser and where you are on that journey, please take Marina's quiz!Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Melanie used to regret marrying her husband and now she hates being away from him. The work she did in between is the answer to overcoming hard times.Many women have expectations for marriage that simply aren't realistic. You will go through hard times. You will feel disconnected. And if you have kids, you will be sleep deprived!But don't give up! There is a way to move through hard times that will bring you and your partner together and get you back on the same team.Hit play to hear Melanie's wisdom and advice - it will blow you away!Who is Melanie Shenberger?Melanie is a wife and mother of two little girls. She is also a coach specializing in home decluttering and shifting the mindset around the things in your home. Melanie grew up in constant chaos and clutter in her childhood home and it was an exact representation of her mind. When she got married young all that chaos followed her and started taking its toll on her marriage. After a very rocky start, Melanie was able to save her crumbling marriage but it wasn't until years later that she started getting to the root of why so many issues were present, to begin with. After experiencing the miscarriage of her second child, she realized that she needed a change. She was tired of the chaos that was her home and mind. She started down a journey of minimalism and began crafting a program to systematically remove not just the things from your home, but resolve the stories and emotions attached to them. After removing approximately 80% of her belongings from their home, she started realizing just how much all the "stuff" had contributed to her early marital issues.Melanie now coaches women on crafting the home and life that they want so they can enjoy every moment of motherhood, marriage, and themselves.If you'd like to connect with Melanie you can follow her on Instagram here or join her free Facebook groupFree Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Feelings aren't facts. So how you're feeling about your marriage today doesn't actually dictate the state of your marriage.But in psychology, we actually do have three measuring sticks for improvement in relationships. Hit play to learn what they are and to factually gage how your marriage is doing!Mentioned on this episode: Ep 4 - The Silent Treatment or The Silent Love Killer?Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

When you feel sad and hurt, do you allow yourself to feel those feelings? Or do you have all kinds of judgmental opinions about how you SHOULD or SHOULDN'T feel?The way you talk to yourself about your own thoughts and feelings is the difference between self-abandonment and self-compassion. You are the one who talks to you the most... so learning how to be nice to you is life changing.If you're feeling disconnected from your partner, there is a good chance you are also feeling disconnected from yourself on some level. Accepting your thoughts and feelings as true and OK allows you to get to know yourself and gives your partner the opportunity to love you for you.Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

We all have fears. But certain fears REALLY keep you stuck. Some common ones are fear of rejection, fear of being let down, and fear of conflict. Having these fears is not the problem. It's when you make decisions based on those fears that you become disconnected from your partner. Many times, I find that the unhealthy dynamic in a relationship can be traced back to a specific, root fear. By gaining awareness over fear, naming it, and getting coached on it - you finally fix the wound as opposed to slapping on a bandaid. Mentioned in this episode:Ep 68 - Stop Hiding From Your RelationshipFree Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Boundaries has become a buzz word. Social media has portrayed boundaries as an aggressive protection tactic. But those of us who are educated and trained on boundaries know that nothing could be further from the truth. When you start to reframe boundaries as an act of love - both for your partner and for yourself - the relationship becomes healthier. Join me as I interview Heather Claus, author and coach, who wrote a book about boundaries! She shares the five steps to creating and maintaining healthy boundaries with your partner. Who is Heather Claus?Heather has lived an atypical life. She's hitchhiked across the country, traveled and worked in a carnival for a season, roamed New York City with street people, explored (and taught) alternative lifestyles, and more. All of her experiences thus far have led her to the belief that boundaries are the key to not only saving ourselves, but our relationships. She's a big fan of amazing people enjoying love, sex, and romance in happy and functional lives (whatever that might look like from human to human), which is why she's thrilled to share her experience and knowledge of boundaries with you! ❤️Check out Heather's website Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

This is a replay of one of my most popular episodes from back in the day. The secret to ending the conflict with your partner is not a specific communication strategy. Those can be helpful but only with the right emotion behind it; the secret emotion that ends ALL kinds of conflict. If you can tap into it, you are well on your way to resolution and connection with your partner. Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

How do you know if your marriage is save-able vs. reached the point of no return? According to today's guest, as long as there is ANY kind of communication - even bad communication - there is still hope!And she would know! She divorced her husband... only to remarry him!This interview with Claire Jorgensen, marriage coach, has SO MANY nuggets of wisdom and tips for pivoting a struggling marriage. Who is Claire?Claire Afua Jørgensen, is based in Denmark, married and with two kids. She is an NLP Practitioner and a Christian Marriage Coach. She is currently immersed in the pursuit of a Ph.D. in Neuroscience, Psychology, and Faith. Over the past few years, she has worked with countless couples and individuals, with a special focus on women whose marriages have veered toward the brink of divorce. In her capacity as a coach, she has devoted her energy and expertise to guiding and helping them Save their Marriage.She offers a variety of services, including one-on-one coaching sessions, group coaching, and transformative retreats, tailored to meet the unique needs of individuals and couples facing difficult challenges in marriage.Visit Claire's WebsiteFree Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Does your emotional state depend on your partner's emotional state? If you need them to be ok in order for you to be ok, you are codependent. The most painful part of codependency is the self-abandonment that happens. If you feel a little nudge in your gut that you often stifle and ignore, I want to invite you to hit play and keep an open mind.You can heal from codependency and even have a healthy relationship! But the first step is awareness and honesty with yourself. Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Do you ever feel like you and your partner just have the same argument over and over? Do you feel completely misunderstood? Confused? Do you sometimes walk away from a conversation wishing you had just kept your mouth shut? If so, then this episode is for you! Today, I'm giving you the three pre-requisites for effective communication - the formula necessary to grow together and improve your marriage. Mentioned on this episode:Ep 68 - Stop Avoiding Your RelationshipEp 10 - The Price of People Pleasing Your PartnerEp 34 - Five Steps to Releasing ResentmentFree Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

If you've experienced infidelity in your marriage - regardless of whether you're the one who cheated or got cheated on - this episode will speak to you.Infidelity comes with specific layers of pain that create disconnect, paranoia, resentment, and rage. So what do you do if you want to stay in the relationship but cannot move past the pain of the infidelity and it's after effect?Join me as I interview Dr. Juan Santos, licensed therapist specializing in healing from affairs, as he gives us his stages of healing and many insights about this painful, yet powerful process. Who is Dr. Juan Santos?With over ten years of experience in the field of helping others make mindset and lifestyle, Dr. Juan Santos is listed in the ranks of the top 3 marriage counselors in his local area. He brings new perspectives for mental health and wellness, for helping individuals and couples build empowerment and take charge of their life and relationships. He is a first-generation immigrant, originally born in the Dominican Republic and raised in North Carolina. Dr. Santos utilizes a unique mind and body-approach to teach individuals how to go from surviving to thriving in life. His work on improving your mental health and quality of life has been featured on radio, tv, magazine, and podcast. Dr. Santos has presented on topics ranging from managing anxiety to addressing workplace mental health issues at organizations, higher education spaces, and community agencies. Dr. Santos is giving Partnership Aligned audience members discounted access to his new course to help couples heal after an affair!Course Link: https://relationship-workshop.teachable.com/p/healingafterinfidelityCoupon Code: PartnershipAlignedVisit Dr. Santos' websiteConnect on Tik tok, LinkedIn, or InstagramFree Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Is your partner in a relationship with you or with the version of you that you allow them to see?If you find yourself not being your true self because you are afraid of conflict or of being vulnerable, or both, this episode is for you!Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Your day-to-day habits say a lot about you. So, if your partner isn't included in one of them - that says a lot about the relationship!But have no fear, there are TONS of ways to implement some intimacy and connection into your day. Hit play to hear five of them and start one today!Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Power struggles are common in romantic relationship. Each partner is sure that they're right and is perplexed that the other can't see it. This causes resentment, disconnect, and even hostility.It's very difficult getting out of a gridlock with your partner but it can be done! It takes a couple of mindset shifts and some willingness. Hit play to hear about the power struggle, why it's such a big problem, and how to begin resolving it. Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Do you wish your partner would know what you need and just do it?! Your needs are reasonable and logical, so why don't they just know?This expectation that your partner should know what you need or want is poison to your relationship. If you can release this fantasy, you would make space for realistic expectations and direct communication - which is the formula for getting your needs met!Join me and my guest, Colette Hamon, as we discuss how detrimental the expectation that your partner "just know" what you need and tools for overcoming it!Who is Colette Hamon?Amour de Soi Entrepreneur, CEO & brand builder. Colette is the provocateuse in the room with the boisterous laugh.  A force of nature wherever she goes - passionate about the topics of self-love, relationships and intimacy.Connect with Colette on Linkedin or IGMentioned on this episode: Ep 64 - What to do After Fighting in Front of the KidsFree Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

We've all been there - the kids witness an ugly exchange. Now you feel guilty and you don't know how to clean up the mess.Good news - there is a way to turn this into an OPPORTUNITY to serve your kids well in the long run!! Hit play to learn exactly what to do after arguing in front of the kids in a way that you feel proud of!Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

What do your house and relationship have to do with each other? EVERYTHING!Melanie Schenberger is a decluttering coach who claims that your home is a reflection of your mind and your relationships. And I agree.So we put our heads together to give you the five steps (and yes it's the same steps for both) to start loving your home and relationship again. In fact, we agree so much on the correlation between your house and marriage - that we are hosting a FREE Masterclass called: Sex & Housework; How to Stop Avoiding Both.This Masterclass is being hosted this Thursday August 10th, 2023 at 8pm EST. But no worries, if you can't make it or if you're reading this after August 10th, there is a recording available for you! Sign up for this FREE class here!Get in touch with Melanie Here. Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

I've helped hundreds of women over the years release resentment towards their partner and start feeling happy and peaceful again.But enough out of me, hear it from a client!Meet Kourtnie. When I met her 5 months ago, she was angry, resentful, and heading towards divorce. Today she feels inner peace and love towards her husband. Hit play to hear her tell her story and how my coaching program saved her marriage!Free Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

What is it that you really want and need in your relationship? It's your responsibility to identify what you need and then communicate it. This can be confusing and scary!So how do you get clear? According to my guest, Magda Kay, it's all about your head, heart, gut and pussy. Hit play to hear about all four of these power centers and how to align them. Who is Magda?Magda Kay is an intimacy expert, certified Tantra teacher, speaker, and author on a mission to help individuals around the world experience more love, pleasure, and intimacy. For almost a decade, her advice on relationship dynamics has helped countless singles and couples alike live more fulfilling and authentic lives in and outside of the bedroom.Magda has shared her unique perspective on intimacy and relationships at many international events, including the Women Economic Forum in India, Women EmpowHer by Entrepreneurs' Organization, the University of Nottingham in Malaysia, and multiple Tantra & wellness festivals.After losing her first love because she was unable to orgasm, Magda embarked on a journey of sexual healing. She traveled to Bali, Nepal, India, and Thailand to study Tantra, conscious sexuality, yoga, bodywork, and energy healing, and today she helps to spread these vital Tantric teachings around the world. With a degree and background in business, Magda has a natural gift for translating esoteric concepts into practical, easy-to-understand ideas so that everyone can enjoy the fulfilling intimate life they deserve.Buy her new book, No More Faking ItSubscribe to her YouTube page or follow her on Instagram @MagdaKayofficialFree Resources:Sex & Housework: How to Stop Avoiding BothFREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

I made more progress in my marriage in five coaching sessions than I did in over a year of therapy. That's because coaching was the right choice for me.Which one is the right choice for you?In this episode, I teach you the three important differences between therapy and coaching. I also go into detail about why I work one-on-one with clients as opposed to with the whole couple at once. If you're serious about getting some professional help to improve your relationship, it's important you have this information. Hit play to find out where to start!Free Guides:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

I have ten relationship concepts that I believe need to be implemented in order to have a healthy, enjoyable marriage. In my private coaching program, I do just that - I help you implement them. On this episode, I run through these concepts and then tell you which episodes to listen to in order to go deeper into the one you need the most help with. Some of these are less than traditional and may even be hard to hear. But if your goal is to improve your relationship, this is a must listen!Mentioned on this episode:Ep 44 – How to Stop Getting Upset with Your Partner Ep 52 - Finding Inner Peace in a Difficult Relationship Ep 34 - Five Steps to Releasing Resentment Ep 10 – The Price of People Pleasing Your PartnerEp 6 - Are Your Expectations Causing You Pain?Ep 43 - Is Your Relationship Emotionally Mature?Ep 32 - How to Be Vulnerable With Your Partner. Free Guides:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!