We Still Like Each Other

9 years in the marriage game. Seems like just yesterday we were bombarded with marriage pessimism. The "oh you just wait til the honeymoon phase is over". Marriage is hard at times, but hard in the way that anything worth having is hard. Everyone says the first few years are the hardest, yet Travis and I are facing the hardest years yet. The hard times don't come with arbitrary dates. They come with experience, life changes, and unpredictably. Why is taking out the trash such a common martial problem? Why does Travis hate cooking? lol . We hope you enjoy this catch up.

A little bit of this, a little bit of that, and some sex stuff cause y'all love it. This week Stephanie and Travis discuss getting the “ick” and how couples should approach feelings of “unattractiveness”. Stephanie finds some more evolutionary gems relating to the average age between your children and our ancestral and now non-existent “community”. How are you actively breaking unwanted cycles? Have you taken the type to notice them at all? Travis and Stephanie realize gentle parenting isn't for the weak. In an “Oh So Y'all Can Relate” submission, a listener expresses her resentment for her partner's employee. Are there some jobs that make outside of work superior-subordinate friendships okay? If you would like to add “sexting” as a way to spice things up in your relationship, listen to some of the things our listeners sext. Some are funny, some are straight to the point, and some are SPICY!

Wow, has it really been a month since the last episode? Well Stephanie and Travis are back this week and you might wanna buckle up. Stephanie vents about a lazy performance by Busta Rhymes, compares Missy Elliot to Beyonce and discusses Eli's first concert performance experience with Young Miko. Travis is very proud of an intimate moment they shared, let's just say it was kinda queer. This was a moment Travis' humor was appreciated, but that's not always the case. Oh So Y'all Can Relate is BACK with a TRIPLE HITTER. Yes 3 back to back submissions. First, a woman questions if her long-term relationship is holding her back, despite her boyfriend ‘trying' to improve. Another listener is worn out from constantly seeking emotional support from a partner who doesn't seem to notice her needs. Lastly, an engaged woman feels the pressure of societal expectations and wonders how to balance giving and receiving in her relationship. Of course Travis and Stephanie do their best to advise and encourage them, they might not always agree, but in the end give unified consult.

Hey everyone! Stephanie and Travis are back, still podcasting and sharing their journey. It's been a busy summer, and the We Still Like Each Other family is proud to embrace their new identity as a "neurospicy" family. In this episode, they dive into a recent diagnosis that has brought much-needed clarity. They also explore how femininity and masculinity shape their hustle and daily lives. Stephanie sheds light on some common misconceptions about postpartum depression, while Travis takes a moment to apologize for the ways he fell short in supporting her through it.

Welcome back to a random drop! In this episode Stephanie and Travis discuss the passing of a loved one, failing a fitness challenge, selfishness, and vasectomies. Sometimes success is found within your failures and sometimes motivation comes from grief. Most of us will denounce being “selfish”, but sometimes selfishness doesn't look obviously selfish. Stephanie and Travis tip toe around a “conversation” that is still too fresh.

Hey! Surprise episode. We talk about Steph's birth story and reflect on 8 years of marriage. Enjoy!

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss how hectic things have been in recent weeks. Are we as a culture addicted to the grind? It always feels like after we complete a task we will finally rest only to start a new unexpected task. Is being busy our norm even if we complain about it all the time? Cause if i ain't one thing it's another right? Stephanie discusses walking the line  between celebrating this pregnancy and doing too much influenced by others. Creating life is always worth celebrating, but how do we stop ourselves from celebrating in ways that aren't authentic to who we are? Stephanie and Travis share an amazing gift from a special friend that has allowed them to celebrate this pregnancy in a special way. Although everyone is sick of talking about Will and Jada, the latest revelation that they have been separated since 2016 was worth discussing. So much life happens in 8 years, keeping up false narratives during that amount of time must have been exhausting. Lastly, they talk a little more in depth about perfect attendance awards in childhood and how they impact our worklife in adulthood. What things do you consider before taking a sick day at work? Has our society's increased awareness of mental health made it easier for working people to take time to take care of themselves or is it just a facade?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss how her views on gifts as a long language may have changed. How should we address our partner when a personal need is not being met in a relationship without discrediting all the other ways your partner shows up for the relationship. Travis actually has a fact based “Did You Know”. When did the color pink become exclusive to girls? F*ck them kids, we revisit this saying from Episode 006. How has our perspective changed on putting your relationship before your kids?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Travis and Stephanie dive into a little love in the media and discuss Brittany Renner's body count and the new season of Love is Blind. Is 35 “bodies” at the age of 31 a lot when you do the math? Lydia is easy to hate, but is Uchee the true villain? This week Travis brings back “Did You Know”, well sorta. Stephanie and him are sort of conflicted on this segment. However, it led to a great discussion on how we start to mimic our partners personality traits. What do you think Stephanie has picked up from Travis' personality and vice versa? Stephanie discusses how she was disappointed in herself for how she spoke about certain things last episode. She recently read “The Mastery of Self” by Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. and realized she totally forgot about a major lesson she learned from that book. Stephanie also discusses the chapter “The Role of Family and Friends in Shaping your Habits” from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. Can our evolutionary habit of doing what our friends and family do hold us back from doing what we truly want? Lastly, their discussion about the negative comments they received about having a girl last week blew up on tiktok. It opened their eyes to other deeply rooted issues we have towards baby girls and baby boys. From commenting on weight, neglect, and reinforcing gender norms. If you are in the tri-state area we encourage you to book a mini-fall photo shoot session with Tab Fields who has openings on October 8th and 14th in the New York CIty area. Please inquire with her at Tabfieldsphotography.com/contact This is a great opportunity to get great family photos, couples photos, maternity photos, etc.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

We're back! Did you suspect something was majorly wrong that we took such a long break? Well we break down exactly why we took a break and catch you up with what we've been up to. We reveal our baby girl's name. Stephanie gets a little heated talking about how we as a culture need to stop projecting our fears onto others. Why we decided to homeschool and how it's going. What are your thoughts on scheduling sex? We talk about our thoughts on this seemingly cringe tactic. Perhaps there's something to it. Check out our website as we have added a video and audio option for submitting questions, stories, etc via the contact page.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis are once again joined by Author, Lorraine Avila. Lorraine was previously on WSLEO via zoom and it was absolutely crucial to have her on in person for a more intimate conversation. Lorraine was able to open up about her own romantic life while chit chatting about Love is Blind 4. Clearly we are all obsessed with the Netflix reality show. Tune in for their hot takes on Jackie & Chelsea. Is our love for Marshall causing us to hate Jackie too harshly? Is our hate for Kwame allowing us to ignore Chelsea's red flags?Stephanie and Lorraine discuss how the rules of the patriarchy and masculinity show up within them when in queer relationships. It is critical to be aware of how we innately repeat negative cycles when gender roles are blurred.Some men think a woman who works hard is undateable. These men have an urge to be needed by women. Has that impacted Lorraine's lifestyle? Do women have to make themselves small to be approachable? Or perhaps soften up?The Making of Yolanda La Bruja by Lorraine Avila, is a debut contemporary coming-of-age young adult (YA) novel. When 16-year-old Yolanda Alvarez is initiated into her family's traditional religion, she has a vision that the new kid in school is planning a shooting, but convincing people is harder than she thought: he's not just the only white kid there, he's the son of a powerful business man and upcoming politician. So it's up to Yolanda to get the new kid to see the beauty in her community before he harms it.Order your copy of The Making of Yolanda La Bruja wherever books are sold.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis and Stephanie had a little April fools fun, although they love Les Chat pod very much, they will all be staying in their lane. This week they discuss Jonathan Majors allegations and how our biggest mistakes do not define us. Stephanie is reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and discusses how imposter syndrome is developed throughout our entire life, not just in some corporate office. We have limiting beliefs in so much of our day to day lives. Can a shift in mindset and intentional use of language allow us to be better versions of ourselves?On ‘Oh So Ya'll Can Relate” a young mother and wife is torn as her husband wishes to live a polyamorous lifestyle while she wishes to be in a monogamous relationship. Can a man love two women and maintain two separate households successfully? People should avoid guilt as a tactic to convince someone of being poly. This whole conversation led Stephanie and Travis to discuss being open to dating. So slide in their DM's.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis welcome back Jojo & Dayra of Les Chat Podcast. They all compare relationship norms and their ideal Sunday. These vary in queer vs. hetero relationships as well as for couples with and without kids. Yet there are also similarities.Have you heard of endocannabinoids ? Well they are actually proof that female orgasms actually do exist. Apparently some people feel they are a myth. Science has also proven women are more fluid in their sexual attraction than men.Would you be in a long distance relationship with some in prison? What if they were convicted of murder? Do we believe in the rehabilitation process of the criminal justice system?- Les Chat Podcast: https://linktr.ee/leschatBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Episode 080 was a complete derailment of the outline. Wow. They had every intention to focus on the topics, but their recent “discussions” took over. They spent a great chunk of time debating their roles in the relationship, if they should shift, and comparing their roles to “how everyone has always done it.” Travis is very flexible. But Stephanie wants him to be intentional with his child rearing, not just follow her beliefs. Is it because she needs help or is it because she doesn't  want to be the only one to blame if their children have something to say about their childhood? On “Oh So Y'all Can Relate” someone changes their EX's contact name to make it seem it's just another friend. Would you allow your partner to communicate with their ex if they had a life threatening accident?  Oh and yeah those Drake ticket prices were very humbling to the Whiteman household. Stephanie and Travis are not okay.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

After celebrating 7 years of marriage last week and giving our minds and bodies rest, we are back. We jump right in discussing how we had a tense “discussion” yesterday. After 7 years of marriage we still like each other very much, but we still let each other down. We are human. Even when we have applied effective communication and have been explicit with our needs, our partners fall short. So what do we do? How do we get back to feeling connected? Someone once asked us, “How do we encourage our partners without sounding like their parents?”. We discuss how it's possible in our marriage and the recipe for making it work in any relationship. Lastly, we discuss how “therapy talk” and mental health plays a role in dating and “competitive advantages”. I LOVE bringing things back to evolutionary psych. Emotional maturity is starting to be just as, if not more important than one's financial status or physical attractiveness. Check out our brand new home studio on YouTube.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week we answer various listener submitted questions such as our opinion on dating apps, long distance relationships, and alone time while in a relationship. We also talk about the appropriate amount of making out. Some think making out is childish. Some consider making out foreplay. How do you feel about making out and has your stance changed while in a relationship? Talking about intimacy is becoming less and less taboo, but where do we draw the line? How do we choose which details we keep to ourselves?“Did You Know” women in Spain will now be granted 3-5 days of menstrual leave? Hopefully the rest of the world follows, but not everyone may agree with this accommodation. I feel there is a bigger conversation to be had surrounding flexibility at work and using personal days without an explanation.On “Oh So Yall Can Relate” a listener tells us about her 8-9 year situationship that is now coming to an end because she's pregnant by someone else. Guess who finally is ready to commit? -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

We're back! Despite being sick I refused to skip another week. I get on Travis for not buying “just because” flowers, but he disagrees. I also almost slept on the couch because of his snoring recently. A new study about married couples sleeping arrangements was conducted by the New York Times last month. Travis is still 100% against it, while my opinion has shifted.“Did You Know?” men escape in the bathroom? Well did you know water is wet? Lol. While this isn't a pressing issue in our marriage, I 100% know it happens more often than we think. Our phone addictions make taking a number 2 twice as long. We let our legs go numb scrolling on the toilet.On “Oh so Y'all Can Relate” a man wants to know if he's in denial since he is trying to make it work with his wife who has cheated twice. I hope you can tune in. -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

What are the boundaries of healthy co-parenting? Is it appropriate to go on dates without the child? When is forcing a relationship actually bad for the child? We got inspired by a tiktok of a woman asking her baby daddy to go out to celebrate their break up anniversary. Has gaslighting become a buzzword? Is it overly misused? Well on this episode we discuss five different types of gaslighting. Travis gets triggered by that word. Have we gaslighted each other? SPOILER ALERT: We discuss HBO's “The Last of Us” and Netflix's “Pamela: A Love Story”. We dive into the amazing same sex couple portrayed in episode 3 of The Last of Us that had me hysterically crying. Pamela Andersons story shows us how we desperately seek to recreate the comforts of our childhood, even when it's toxic and chaotic. -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

It's been a rough week in our parenting that is following the tough week I had with my gut health. So yeah, ya girl is tired. However, I am also so grateful. Gratitude and grace have kept me going the past couple of weeks. Travis and I have experienced extended moments of feeling disconnected this past week. Travis tried to use humor to reconnect, I was just not feeling it. Sometimes, the things we love about our partners are annoying during stressful times. How could we set boundaries in our romantic relationships? Specifically boundaries around when we can unload our mental stress on our partners? Is it strange to ask your partner if they have the capacity to hear us vent? We complete this very intimate conversation with 4 questions from “The And” Long Term Relationship Box set. Find out what Travis and I have learned about love, what keeps us going strong, what we envision our next chapter as, and what mistakes we constantly make. Best, Stephanie. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

How do you know when it is time to end a relationship? In hindsight, what signals were you ignoring that prolonged a doomed relationship? I reflect on how low self esteem may have contributed to my cheating ways in high school. Travis reflects on how relationships can turn into a security blanket. So you keep it even when it's obviously time to get rid of it. The reasons to end a romantic relationship apply to ending platonic friendships and cutting family off as well. Boundaries should be honored by everyone in your life. TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic Violence. On ‘Oh So Y'all Can Relate' we read an unfortunate story about a woman who feels helpless. Her brother is an abuser and she even witnessed him slap his partner. What do we do as friends or family members of people in abusive relationships? How do we support them or hold them accountable? We may be unintentionally enabling abusers by turning a blind eye to it. What boundaries should you set for yourself? -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week we discuss an alternative definition of self love. Love isn't just grand gestures and admiration. It is the day to day work and acts of service that make living life easier and more enjoyable. What ways are we showing ourselves love? It is beyond “self care” and hobbies. Self love isn't always pretty. To snip “it” or not? Why do humans want biological children? Why do parents decide to stop having more children? Are these reasons self-centered? We discuss our indecisiveness with going through with a vasectomy and the possibility of adoption. Tune in to hear how I have lessened the impact of my cycles of sadness. I have revealed my healing journey with you all, little by little, in an unstructured way. It has just felt natural to do so. Let me know if you want to keep hearing about it.-StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week we discuss Gabrielle Union's “controversial” statement that she felt “entitled” to cheating because she paid all the bills in her previous marriage. Are the blogs feeding the “battle of the sexes” we discussed in recent episodes? Or was she completely wrong for that statement? Has a song, movie, podcast ever made you break up with someone? This week's “Did You Know?” shows us it happens more often than you think. What does authenticity mean to you and how does it show up in your relationships? Does change impact authenticity? What is more authentic, your unfiltered reactive response or a thoughtful one? -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Happy New Year from the WSLEO family to the world. This week we reflect on our year, the year ahead, and how our very different brains can use the same tools for personal growth. While setting the bar too high at the beginning of the year can be a recipe for disaster, there is nothing wrong with taking advantage of “new year new me” energy to set goals. There is something super attractive about vulnerability. If you haven't already, prioritize talking with your partner about how you envision 2023. What does filling your cup look like? Why does it matter that your cup is filled? I read from my personal reflection on this topic of cup filling. It is my reminder to prioritize me so that my family gets me at my best. We also talk about Johan Hill's new movie about his therapist, Stutz. His tool “Life Force” really resonated with me mostly because it was reinforcing something I sort of already knew about my mental health. Spoiler alert, there is no surprise to why I feel better mentally and emotionally when I am taking care of my physical body. Lastly we reveal our most listened to episodes of 2022, which was your favorite episode of the year? What topic have you been dying for us to cover? - StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

They are back! COVID hit their home for the third time in the past 2 years, but they are fully recovered and ready to do all things WSLEO. They had a lot to cover and shared their thoughts and perspectives on the passing of Stephen tWitch Boss, the Tory Lanez and Meg Thee Stallion trial, the unfortunate yet predictable impact of men becoming an extra child in a marriage, and TWO “Oh So Y'all Can Relate” submissions. Yes this is a long one! 9-8-8 is the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline which is available 24/7 to anyone in the United States in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Things that were unintentionally discussed: Stephanie opens up about her recent venture into therapy. Stephanie and Travis had a miscommunication in the bedroom, it includes a toy. Sponsor: Midnight Electrichttps://mec-ny.comBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie shares some gems she has encountered in Yung Pueblos new book Lighter. We have discussed extensively how our childhoods impact our perception and our behavior, but what about tough moments now? How can self awareness and great communication skills prevent us from falling into and staying in toxic patterns? As creatures of habit, we have to be intentional in our attempts to be better and do better. On ‘Oh So Ya'll Can Relate' Travis tells us about a young woman who put up with way more than she should, yet was still doubting if she was in fact abused and manipulated. Financial and emotional abuse are often harder to define. Getting out of a toxic situation does not feel good or euphoric. Just because it's hard doesn't mean it was the wrong call. This submission is heartbreaking with many valuable lessons. Hopefully it will help others realize they also need to leave similar situations.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis are back after a heavy couple of weeks. Stephanie has a PSA about how our emotions are all over the place right before that time of the month. “Did You Know” Men make up their minds about marriage pretty fast? Umm in what universe? Stephanie is reading another Terrence Real book: The New Rules of Marriage. She talks about what Real calls a losing strategy, withdrawal. Withdrawal can be easily confused with acceptance but one comes with resentment, the other is achieved through gratitude. What is the difference between stonewalling vs responsible distance or space taking? It's that time of the year where the pressures of the world start to feel even heavier. The holidays can add multiple layers of stress even onto healthy relationships. From finances, family traditions, and social media influencers, they all can suck the joy out of the holiday season. Stephanie and Travis discuss how they are working on creating new traditions and reflect on their upbringing. They also get into the fact that maybe you don't always have to be the bigger person. It is okay to stay away from places and people that do not bring you joy.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis are back after taking a week off to recharge and recalibrate. What is the logic behind why we can be super productive while we are clocked in at work, but then lack productivity while working on personal projects? Is it just decades of conditioning? Are we burnt out? Whatever it may be, Stephanie and Travis are working on developing a new relationship with productivity. While on an interactive live recap last week, the topic of masculine vs. feminine energy was brought up. It is very complex but Stephanie was intrigued with the separation of masculine and feminine energy from male and female. Meaning gender expression is separate from how masculine and feminine energy impact our behavior.Lastly, they were inspired by an article in which Kiara Luna, LMHC was featured in discussing mistakes to avoid in the bedroom. They discuss suppressing your desires, fantasies and kinks. What are the top 10 kinks Americans fantasize about the most? They try their best not to kink shame, but there were a couple of kinks that just required an eyebrow raise.Sources:https://medium.com/sex-with-a-side-of-quirk/5-scary-sex-mistakes-to-avoid-34f1db3d737bhttps://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a33338854/kinks-fetish-list/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis reflect on which love language they use to love their friends. Stephanie's “friendship love language” may be outdated considering how her life has evolved. Travis unfortunately wasn't able to identify his “friendship love language”. Maybe from a lack of friendships or a lack of expressing love. On “Did You Know?” Travis tells us about yet another unfortunate side effect of hormonal birth control. A reminder that men should pay up cause women pay way more in non-monetary ways. From menstruation to child birth to menopause. Stephanie is candid about how she disappointed herself this week by speaking to both Eli and Travis in a way that does not reflect her healing. Why is it that we try to justify our negative behavior? It is easy to blame others for triggering us, but what if we took responsibility for our own actions? Lastly, for almost everyone, infidelity is a deal breaker. The big relationship NO NO. But, that is easier said than done. What does a relational therapist say about the reasons people cheat? How do we decide when a second chance is warranted? Why are we more understanding of the person who is shamed into silence but not the person who was falsely entitled into narcissism? Sponsor: Cloud 9 Buttershttps://cloud9butters.com/https://twitter.com/cloud9buttershttps://www.instagram.com/cloud9butters/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Did you know, “married women are more than twice as likely to use a vibrator than non-married women?” Great more rhetoric that implies your sex life dies when you get married. It's honestly not surprising anymore. But what if we flipped that idea on its head? Team work makes the dream work, sometimes a vibrator is on the team.   This week Stephanie and Travis discuss wet dreams. Wait… aren't wet dreams limited to teenage boys? Actually they are a lot more common than we think and happen to both men and women even in adulthood. Sex dreams can be tricky when in a committed relationship. What happens when your partner isn't the co-star in your dreamland fantasies? Are our dreams trying to tell us something or are they just a random combination of our memories?  “Oh So Y'all Can Relate” is back with an obvious case of trauma bonding. Unfortunately this one involves a love triangle of sorts, with one side leading to a healthy marriage, one side leading to the reunion of a trauma bond, and the other leading to giving up on love. Having recurring thoughts about our exes is normal, until it's not. Where do we draw the line? This story also serves as a reminder as to why we need to cut off all ties from our toxic exes. Including ending relationships with their friends and family.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

What in the world convinced two 21 year olds to get married while the rest of us were trying to figure out the right water to shots ratio to avoid a hangover? Tabitha and Pete Fields try to help Stephanie and Travis make sense of it. Six years, one baby, buying and selling a home, and moving to a different state later, they still like each other. We all know marriage comes with challenges, mostly because two people who have lived as individuals now have to learn how to live relationally. Doing this before their brains had fully developed into adult brains came with its unique but relatable challenges for the Field's. From pathological lying to navigating and reducing erratic and intense emotions. They refused to model the broken homes they lived through, so they leaned into mentorship to save their marriage. They also speak very candidly about how intentional they were to deliberately change behaviors that they learned in childhood. They identify childhood trauma not to live in the victimhood, but to acknowledge and heal. Oh and we have a question for y'all, who is worse? The passive aggressive person or the person that is outwardly angry and direct? The answer may lie in perception.Sponsor: Cloud 9 Buttershttps://cloud9butters.com/https://twitter.com/cloud9buttershttps://www.instagram.com/cloud9butters/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

It has been a hectic couple of weeks for the We Still Like Each Other family. Is mercury in the microwave to blame? Or is life just life-ing? This week Stephanie and Travis discuss our inner child vs. our adaptive child. One is curious, creative, and forgiving, the other is living out a trauma response. One can be nurtured and celebrated in our adulthood and intimate relationships, the other is a relationship killer. Is our intimate partner responsible for healing our childhood trauma? Or is it our job to reparent ourselves? Lastly, a listener posed a very important and scary question for us “breaking generational wounds” parents. “Are we prepared for our kids to talk about where we fucked up at? The same way we talk about where our parents fucked up at?” Honestly, we're shook, but it would be grandiose of us to think that our children will think we are perfect. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

It'S jUsT a PiEcE oF pApeR. Dig into the WHY you are opposed to marriage. Are you truly just holding onto a false sense of control? Are you believing the false narrative that sex suddenly stops? Whatever your reasoning, talking negatively about marriage in front of married people is wack. Stephanie and Travis discuss other people's problems when they give their two cents on the Nia Long and Ime Udoka scandal. After having a 20 minute argument mid episode, that had to be cut, yeah it was that bad, Stephanie and Travis share that they created a free resource available for couples on their website. Remember that marriage meeting that went mini-viral? They created a template for those wanting to give it a try. Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

In reflecting on their week, things got a bit heated between Travis and Stephanie. It was about food, again. They aren't immune to the recurring disagreements. Just like many of you, they struggle with eating the food at home. This issue is not made any easier by the fact that Travis finds no joy at all in preparing a meal. Stephanie sees it as a more serious issue, no one wants to eat food prepared by someone who didn't put love into it, and possibly made it while harboring negative feelings. Parenting isn't for the weak! This week Stephanie and Travis reflect on how becoming parents of two have impacted them personally now that baby River is 9 months old. Travis tears up when reflecting on a recent milestone he reached with Eli which he feels was a bit overdue. Like in romantic relationships, our dynamics are ever evolving in our parenting relationships. We aren't going to be the best versions of ourselves and exactly who our children need on day one. Just like in our romantic relationships, we have to do the best we can with the knowledge and support we have each and every day. Stephanie also speaks extensively about the pressures she feels to take care of herself while simultaneously taking care of the home and the children and her spouse. Something or someone has to get the short end of the stick so what is she to do? Stephanie gives a review of the book, Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields. This book focuses on helping us reduce our reactivity to raise kind and confident children. It forces us to compare our voice and tone when we speak to our children to when we speak to our romantic partners and when we speak to our friends. We often have this ill informed mentality that we have to have complete control of our kids' actions for their own safety. When in reality we have to build mutual respect, not blind obedience.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Would you look at that… they're talking about sex AGAIN. But who's complaining? Y'all love it here! How long should good sex last? The answer might depend on what you define as sex. Depending on who you ask, it can be a whole experience. Stephanie and Travis discuss how they unlocked a new level in their sex life. Finding new ways to be sexual nearly 8 years later is pretty satisfying… see what we did there? We all have experienced wanting sex to last longer or even end faster, Stephanie and Travis give their tips on how to make both happen. Somehow a Viagra and Adderall story makes it into the convo. This week on “Oh So Y'all Can Relate” a listener needs some advice on how to improve her sex life without making her man feel objectified. Is once a week enough sex in a relationship? Honestly, there probably isn't a number to define the right amount, it comes down to compatibility. Basically, y'all both gonna want it equally or at least be willing to compromise. Stephanie and Travis discuss scheduling sex and identifying barriers to having sex.Become a Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis did one of their favorite things this past week, enjoy a king sized bed with hotel linens and the air conditioner on blast. The past almost 3 years have been pretty hectic for most of us. Let's be intentional with getting back to doing the things we love with the people we love. Smartphones and relationships. We all like to think we can play it cool, but technology adds a new layer of complexity to how we maneuver in love. If you go through your partner's phone, and you find something… is it justified? What boundaries should we have when it comes to social media? Can Stephanie thirst in Drake's comments? What about regular dudes? How many IG models is too many to follow? Lastly, on this week's "Oh So Y'all Can Relate", they clarify the difference between intimacy and sensuality. They read a beautiful story about how intimacy thrives in an inter-abled relationship between a paraplegic and an able bodied nurse.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Let's focus on non-sexual intimacy, cause if we really think about it, if we get good at it, we might actually have more sex. Are we masking a desire for intimacy by blaming it on a “high sex drive”? Stephanie and Travis discuss how learning how to connect without sex can improve your sex life and can also come in handy when sex isn't an option. Despite having a healthy sex life, Stephanie craves some improvement in the non-sexual touch department. Travis picked a VERY specific and personal did you know this week, he was trying to make a point. Stephanie reenacted Travis' dramatic plea for her to “let things go” and not be angry with him, not even for a second. So you tell us, who is toxic here? Finally, on this week's “Oh So Yall Can Relate” a young couple is on the verge of ending things. This submission includes infidelity, drugs, alcohol, and an STD from a couple that has been together since middle school. Did FOMO play a role in this mistake? How do Travis and Stephanie feel about only ever having one sexual partner your whole life? Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis and Stephanie speak very candidly about being each other's best friends, but is it toxic that they enjoy doing everything together? When does wanting to spend time together become a red flag? They reflect on Stephanie partaking in Travis' love for film and television, but struggle to identify Stephanie's passions. Anyone else ever feel passionless or even envious of people who are obviously talented? What is the fourth trimester? Travis was obviously confused, but it is probably the toughest trimester of them all. How can we support parents during this transitional period? How can the non-birthing/chest-feeding parent support? Acts of service should extend past your romantic relationships. Oh So Y'all Can Relate: Love & Grief. Stephanie and Travis tapped into some help for this one. Kiara Luna of Knew You Psychotherapy shared her insight on the stages of grief, how they manifest in relationships, and how grieving a loss and grieving a breakup can have similar manifestations. Is breaking up to heal separately advised by a psychotherapist? Also, what is up with our need to keep our ex's close, but not committed? This is an uncomfortable gray area we have to stop expecting people to live in.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/// Stay In TouchKiara Luna, LMHC: https://www.instagram.com/mrskiaraluna/https://knewyoupsychotherapy.com

This week Stephanie and Travis have three additional producers! They are now accepting topic submissions from their top tier Patrons! Tune in to discover what Travis and Stephanie miss about the city life, how they recover from setbacks and disappointments in their relationship, and their opinion on large age gaps in relationships. Contrary to popular belief, your partner may disappoint you from time to time, that doesn't mean the relationship is doomed, it means you are human. So how and why do we get past them? Travis shares his biggest mistake in his marriage, believe it or not, it tops the drama in episode 1. Stephanie shares how she envisioned throwing a can of WD40 at Travis computer. Shoutout to growth.Age gaps in relationships make evolutionary sense, but only to a certain extent. How big of a gap is too much of a gap? Does it make a difference if a 20 year gap is between a 20 and 40 year old versus a 30 and 50 year old? Travis and Stephanie give their opinion while leaving you all with a few tips on how to decide if a large age gap is good for you.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherTo support Irene from Episode 014, please click the following link: http://panelpicker.sxsw.com/vote/127294Create an account and click the “up” arrow. Your support is greatly appreciated. Patreon Producers:Pete FieldsPink Hair Danielle

This week Travis and Stephanie talk about the comfort that comes from having friends you can find common ground with. For them that includes parents, married couples, and now podcasters. They may not all follow the same scripts, but they can respect and understand each other's journeys. They also discuss the qualities we seek in our partners that were displayed by our parents. Travis definitely has some similarities to Stephanie's dad. Just as Stephanie displays some nurturing tendencies similar to his mother. We all understand that our partners won't be perfect, but blasting their imperfections can be insensitive and manipulative. Tune in as they discuss a dedication post gone wrong. Lastly, we know the work is hard. What are the hardest things Stephanie and Travis have had to communicate about? Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother

Has our romanticisation of “Ride or Die” culture enabled toxic patterns, specifically for Black and Brown women? This week Stephanie and Travis explore this with Author Lorraine Avila. In her recent article for Refinery29,  "It's Time to Retire Toxic Ride-or-Die Culture '' Lorraine shares her personal experience with toxic ride or die culture, how it appears in romantic relationships, friendships, and families. But can ride or die culture be reclaimed, decolonized, and perhaps actually romantic not just the illusion of romance?Now picture this, an adult graphic novel based in New York City. Not the Sex in the City type, but one with BIG BRONX ENERGY and Harlem grit. A graphic novel with odes to Black music, spiritually and protective saints. A provocative story that weaves the Black and Brown community together and forces you to engage in self reflection. A love story filled with psychedelic trips that lead you down a mental rabbit hole of sorts, leaving you to evaluate your ability to let love in, or perhaps, keep it out. This should give you a sense of what Lorraine's newest project, “Celestial Summer” is giving. Stephanie and Travis were able to read it ahead of this conversation with Lorraine, tune in to hear about her process and how COVID-19 birthed this fictional love story inspired by true events. #WeStillLikeEachOther #Podast #LorraineAvilaBecome a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/// Stay In TouchOur GuestLorraine Avila: https://www.instagram.com/lorraineavila_/Pre-Order Celestial Summer: https://www.lorraineavila.com/graphic-novel

Stephanie starts this episode off HOT. Rest assured, Travis didn't do anything. She had to set the record straight out of respect. She may have done lots of healing, and is less reactive than she has been in the past. But she's still from the Bronx and she had to light up a “fan” today. Is We Still Like Each Other the antidote to “Bro-Podcast” culture?Travis and Stephanie get into masculinity, the role of a man in a relationship, dominance and control. Inspired by Angie Martinez's conversation with Lauren London they discuss What is pure love? What is ego driven love? Wait… what is ego? How many times have Stephanie and Travis been in love? They tap into these questions and get a little side tracked talking about the meaning of life and reincarnation.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

In celebrating 1 year of We Still Like Each Other Stephanie and Travis are joined by newlyweds Ashley and Shomari. After dating for 8 years, they tied the knot. They are literally in the “honeymoon phase”. They discuss why they got married after over 7 years of cohabitation. Shomari and Ashley are the “friend zone” success story that you all have to hear. From mixed signals, holding onto the single life, and ultimatums they found their forever. Ashley's vulnerability about her inability to accept love, her relationship to sex, and her “hardcore negativity” is relatable and includes lessons for all of us. Shomari's perspective of marriage and family has translated to the most tender and patient love we have ever seen. Travis reminds us of how valuable time together can be in a  marriage, but how that time is spent is also important. Just like many of us in this social media era, they discuss their struggles with screen time and quality time./// Stay In TouchWe Still Like Each OtherPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@westilllikeeachotherInstagram: https://instagram.com/westilllikeeachotherTwitter: https://twitter.com/WSLEOpodcastOur GuestsAshley: https://www.instagram.com/jadoreash/Shomari: https://www.instagram.com/shomarilinton/

This week Stephanie and Travis clarified the “body count” conversation. Is talking about the amount of people you've slept with necessary? Why as a culture do be deem certain professionals as asexual? Teachers and politicians are also sexual beings like the rest of us. Since sex sells and Stephanie and Travis receive numerous inquires about how to communicate about sex, this episode focuses on just that. Similar to the five love languages, Stephanie discovered there are five sex initiation styles. What is spontaneous desire and what is responsive desire? How can understanding these in your relationship make initiating sex more successful. Lastly, does orgasm have to be the goal of every time you have sex? Podcast mentioned: ¿Quién Tú Eres? Podcast @plurawlSex Therapist mentioned: Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy @drlaurenfogelmersy

Episode 50 needed to be special. Travis and Stephanie are joined by Roxie and the infamous and mysterious “Tee”. Listen to episode 003: if you have not done so already or need a refresher. Travis “Did You Know” completely shocked us *cough cough*. The gays and the theys discuss their earliest queer feelings. Travis asks about their feelings regarding trans children and parents' support of medical gender affirming treatment. They discuss pushing the binary, representation, and having the space to come into one's self identity. Episode 50 once seemed like an unreachable accomplishment. Thank you all for joining us on this ride. We are still learning, growing, evolving, we've been able to persevere because of y'all support. Seriously, thank you. 

Join Stephanie and Travis as they discuss their train of thought following the decision to overturn Roe v. Wade, the drop of Honestly, Nevermind by Drake, and learning that testosterone increases desire. Have you ever discussed your body count with your partner? Is it ever okay to kick your partner out of your home? How do you prevent over stepping with your partner's parenting style? How do you prevent crossing boundaries while raising step children? This episode is a perfect combination of keeping it real, yet keeping it fun. Let's hold on to joy.Become a Patron of We Still Like Each Other for additional bonus episode and visual content: https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss some highs and an unfortunately low of the week. Stephanie got cursed out and intimidated by a stranger. Didn't they leave the Bronx to feel safe? Road rage can be very scary so never let your guard down. On Media Love Stephanie and Travis discuss “Who is more valued in a love triangle? The one that knows about it, or the one that is lied to?” They also discuss what a “hall pass” is and the boundaries that should be in place with it. Lastly, adding a new baby to your family comes with many challenges, Stephanie and Travis are not immune to them. They share a recent struggle that ultimately, is still unresolved, let's call it a work in progress. https://westilllikeeachother.com/https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherhttps://www.pleasesavemankind.com/

We Still Like Each Other (WSLEO) isn't ALWAYS being in the “honeymoon phase” it's about always finding your way back to it, no matter how many years you've been together. The phrase WSLEO started as a way to say fuck off to those pessimistic about marriage, but it's meaning has evolved. Stephanie and Travis discuss fatphobia, Lizzo, and rap drug culture. Travis called out Stephanie for never being satisfied, not being present, and frankly being ungrateful. What does prioritizing sex look like? Why is it that we “can't find the time” yet we spend hours on our phones? Check your screen time usage for a wake up call. Bottom line is, if you like sex, you can have more of it.https://westilllikeeachother.com/https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/https://www.pleasesavemankind.com/

Did you know you can literally die from a broken heart? Stephanie and Travis have been avoiding trauma porn. However, the story of Irma and Joe Garcia of Uvalde, TX really struck a cord for them. We all mourn in different ways, you all come to We Still Like Each Other for laughs, but they also keep it real and raw. How do we celebrate accomplishments while such a horrific tragedy is being covered on all platforms? On on brighter note, (possibly bright red), Travis and Stephanie talk period sex. Travis thinks we need to grow up and just do it, Stephanie acknowledges how society has stigmatized menstruation which can make period sex, kinda awkward. They touch on other things that women are shamed for like pubic hair, hyperpigmentation, and stretch marks. Travis encourages Stephanie to share an embarrassing story about how she injured her vagina when they first started hooking up.https://westilllikeeachother.com/https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother

Have you had that “ah ha” moment where you realize life is short? People wiser than you have been telling you for years, but there's a moment when you actually believe it. What are you doing to prioritize spending time with the people you love? NOT EVERYTHING IS A RED FLAG. Don't let ‘yellow flags' keep you away from your person. Red flags have been polarized in the media. This can lead to unrealistic expectations and some may be left feeling unlovable. We all participate in at least one behavior that social media will label as a red flag. Is it acceptable for a man to ask a woman he is courting… ”When are you taking me on a trip?” Well the answer to this changes depending on the context. Travis calls Stephanie out for not buying him a chain. Stephanie self-diagnosed herself with being allergic to spending money on men. Is it a double standard or is it a fair way to undo the impacts of a patriarchal history?

This week Stephanie opens up about a recent phenomena she has been experiencing, Angel numbers, through Travis' eye rolls and judgment. Do you believe in coincidences or does everything happen for a reason? (This is episode 44, I'm just saying.) Travis' “Did You Know?” this week tried to undermine our whole message, the honeymoon stage NEVER EVER has to end. Then they discuss how to decipher between healthy expectations in a relationship, versus asking for too much. At times Stephanie has felt she expected Travis to be her father. He's “Daddy” but not THAT daddy. Travis' go with the flow personality has been helpful in never really setting many expectations. Is this a good or bad thing? Lastly, on “Oh So Yall Can Relate”, Travis pleads with the writer to RUN. Stephanie is hopeful that therapy can work. Is your partner's support during a vulnerable moment negated when they use it against you? Stephanie discusses how in the past she thought some physical abuse was acceptable. She's vulnerable about how her childhood impacted how she dealt with disagreements in her early relationships.

This week on the Mother's Day Special, Travis and Stephanie are joined by the women that brought them into this world, Simone and Elizabeth. They discuss their thoughts on the supreme court leak, the potential implication on banning legal abortions and their personal opinions on a woman's choice. Travis and Stephanie get to hear their mother's talk about their experience with motherhood as daughters, mothers, and now grandmothers. The evolution of motherhood for them, the tough choices they had to make, things they wish they had done differently and things they are proud of.  Bring your tissues and enjoy.