Podcast appearances and mentions of fawn response

You're not just a people pleaser. You're running a survival response your nervous system learned to keep you safe. Most of us were taught that being agreeable, flexible, and endlessly giving was a virtue. Meg Josephson, a licensed psychotherapist and author of the New York Times bestselling book Are You Mad At Me?, says that pattern is actually a trauma response, and it's running your relationships, your sense of self, and your inner world without you even realizing it. The fawn response is the fourth threat response, alongside fight, flight, and freeze. It's the one we never get punished for. We get applauded. And that applause is exactly what makes it so hard to break. Meg breaks down the six archetypes it can take: the peacekeeper, the performer, the perfectionist, the chameleon, the caretaker, and the lone wolf. What it costs you isn't just your time or your boundaries. It's your identity. When you spend years morphing yourself to be liked in every room, you stop knowing what you actually want, feel, or believe. Meg went to a store after college and realized she didn't know her own favorite color. That's the depth of self-erasure people pleasing creates. The path out starts with one counterintuitive skill: learning to tolerate discomfort. Not fixing, not performing, not self-optimizing. Just pausing long enough to notice what's happening beneath the fawn response, and choosing something different. Are You Mad At Me? Amazon Ebook Audiobook Meg's Instagram Meg's TikTok Meg's Substack Meg's Website In this episode you will: Understand how complex trauma and generational patterns keep the approval-seeking cycle alive across lifetimes Build the tolerance for discomfort that breaks the people pleasing pattern and lets you show up as your full self Discover the fawn response and why it is the one threat response society actively rewards instead of corrects Identify which of the six people pleaser archetypes is quietly running your behavior in relationships and at work Learn the critical difference between reassurance seeking and genuine validation, and why only one of them actually heals the root For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1942 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you'll love: Lewis Howes Solo [Stop Helping Everyone But Yourself] Emily McDonald Dr. K TOPICS Meg Josephson, people pleasing, fawn response, internal family systems, complex trauma, reassurance vs. validation, people pleaser archetypes, shame and self-blame, nervous system healing, generational trauma, Are You Mad At Me Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Kennst Du das? Ein Coachee, der alles nickt, alles übernimmt, superfreundlich ist – und trotzdem irgendwie nicht vorankommt?  Dann könnte ein tiefsitzendes Muster dahinterstehen: People Pleasing oder die sogenannte Fawn-Response.    In unserer neuen Podcastfolge schauen wir uns dieses Verhalten im Coachingalltag genauer an: 

FREE RESOURCE:  Try our Burnout Archetype Quiz: https://twc-jqgxs.involve.me/archetype-quiz In this episode of Wild Medicine, Dr. Michelle Peris explores the themes of self-trust, the Wild Woman archetype, and the impact of good girl conditioning on women's emotional awareness and relationships.  She discusses the importance of understanding sensory data, setting boundaries, and recognizing incongruence in relationships.  The conversation emphasizes the need for effective communication skills and the cost of overanalyzing interactions.  Dr. Peris also introduces the concept of the fawn response, highlighting how hypervigilance can lead to disconnection from one's own needs and desires.  In this conversation, Dr. Michelle Peris delves into the complexities of overthinking, the impact of good girl conditioning, and the importance of setting boundaries. She emphasizes how the nervous system plays a crucial role in our responses to perceived threats and how societal conditioning can lead to self-doubt and compliance.  Through personal anecdotes and insights, she encourages women to trust their instincts and recognize the data their bodies provide, ultimately advocating for a more empowered and authentic way of living.   Takeaways The Wild Woman archetype encourages women to embrace their true selves. Good girl conditioning can lead to a lack of self-trust. Understanding sensory data is crucial for setting boundaries. Congruence in relationships is essential for emotional health. Overanalyzing others' behaviour can lead to confusion and resentment. Effective communication skills are vital for expressing needs. The fawn response can cause disconnection from one's own emotions. Rewilding involves reclaiming one's emotional awareness. Self-trust is foundational for healthy relationships. The cost of not addressing incongruence in relationships is high. Your nervous system is trained to protect you from perceived danger. Good girl conditioning leads to a deep association between compliance and self-worth. Setting boundaries can feel threatening due to past conditioning. Overanalyzing relationships often stems from a desire for safety. The discomfort you feel is a signal of an imbalance, not a betrayal. Honesty in relationships fosters intimacy and connection. Women often struggle to set boundaries due to fear of conflict. Recognizing the mismatch between words and actions is crucial for self-trust. Small adjustments in behaviour can lead to healthier boundaries. Trusting your own data is essential for personal empowerment.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections 04:10 Exploring the Wild Woman Archetype 06:41 The Good Girl Tax and Self-Trust 09:10 Understanding Sensory Data and Boundaries 11:34 The Importance of Congruence in Relationships 13:57 Navigating Incongruence and Self-Trust 16:54 The Role of Hypervigilance in Good Girl Conditioning 19:25 Rewilding and Emotional Awareness 21:57 The Cost of Overanalyzing Relationships 24:49 Communication Skills and Emotional Processing 26:48 The Fawn Response and Emotional Regulation 36:45 Understanding the Nervous System's Role in Overthinking 38:05 The Impact of Good Girl Conditioning 40:04 Recognizing the Mismatch Between Words and Action 43:01 The Exhaustion of Overanalyzing Relationships 45:57 The Cost of Inaction and Overanalysis 50:23 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 55:20 Navigating the Fear of Being Seen as Difficult 59:07 Practical Steps to Adjust Boundaries 01:03:14 Understanding the Nervous System's Response to Boundaries 01:06:38 Building Trust in Oneself Through Data Awareness   Stay Wild. Connect with Dr. Tara on INSTAGRAM Connect with Dr. Michelle on INSTAGRAM This episode is brought to you by: www.MichellePeris.com Ready to reclaim your Wild? JOIN THE WAITLIST Learn more about The Poppy Clinic: www.poppyclinic.com Is Naturopathic Medicine for you: LEARN MORE HERE Take our HORMONE QUIZ Are you a clinician looking for more impact? START HERE

The deepest wound in complex trauma is not emotional intensity. It is the learned loss of connection to yourself. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof open the next chapter of the CPT series by starting where the roots go deepest: self-abandonment. This is the pattern they chose to name first—and intentionally so—because when the nervous system learns that staying connected to the self is unsafe, nearly every other complex trauma response grows from that adaptation. Self-abandonment is not a personality flaw or a lack of self-awareness. It is a body-based survival strategy. From a neurosomatic perspective, it is a state-dependent loss of interoceptive access—a patterned inhibition of internal signals that the nervous system learned in order to stay attached, stay safe, and maintain stability in the relational environment. And like every other output explored in this series, it made complete sense at the time it formed. The conversation moves through the neuroscience of dissociation and how it is inseparable from self-abandonment, the brain regions involved, and what their altered activity actually looks like in everyday life. It explores the fawn response—including its lesser-discussed dimension of sexual fawning—and the specific pathways through which emotional neglect and parentification set the stage for chronic self-erasure. Jennifer and Elisabeth also trace how masking—whether in the context of neurodivergence, complex trauma, or systemic oppression—is another expression of the same root pattern: authenticity does not feel safe, so the self gets hidden. But this episode does not stop at the wound. Both hosts share what the growth edge of this pattern has actually looked like for them—what building interoceptive capacity from the ground up felt like in practice—and how self-attunement, the skill of staying present with internal experience without becoming overwhelmed by it, gradually became accessible rather than threatening. This is not a quick-fix episode. It is an honest, grounded map of one of the most pervasive and least visible patterns in complex trauma—and a clear-eyed account of what actually changes it.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why self abandonment is a survival adaptation rooted in the nervous system, not a character flaw How interoceptive access becomes inhibited under chronic relational threat, and what that feels like day to day The neuroscience of dissociation: which brain regions are involved and how their altered activity drives functional disconnection Why emotional neglect, even without overt harm, sets the stage for chronic self erasure How parentification creates a nervous system template of self abandonment that persists long into adulthood What fawn response is, how it operates neurologically, and why sexual fawning is a real and undernamed expression of it How masking across contexts including neurodivergence, complex trauma, and racial and systemic oppression overlaps with and compounds self abandonment What self attunement actually is as a nervous system skill and how it is different from insight or emotional processing alone Why healing is capacity-based rather than cathartic, and what that means for pacing How both hosts have rebuilt interoceptive access over time and what that process has opened up for them Chapters 0:00 - The Deepest Wound in Complex Trauma Is Not Emotional Intensity 0:38 - Welcome: Who This Episode Is For 1:27 - Introducing the CPT Series and Why We Start With Self Abandonment 2:53 - Defining Self Abandonment as a Nervous System Output 4:21 - Pete Walker, Fawn Responses, and How the Child Learns to Attune Outward 4:47 - The Neuro Somatic View: Interoceptive Access Under Chronic Threat 6:08 - Embodiment as the Opposite of Self Abandonment 6:35 - Collective and Intergenerational Dimensions of Self Abandonment 7:55 - What Self Abandonment Looks Like in Real Life: A Case Study 9:21 - Dissociation: What It Actually Is and Why It Is Inseparable From Self Abandonment 10:42 - Brain Science: The Insula, Hippocampus, Amygdala, and Thalamus 14:35 - The Fawn Response and Sexual Fawning 18:17 - Self Attunement: The Opposite of Self Abandonment 21:06 - Rebuilding Interoception: Starting Small 27:19 - Emotional Neglect as the Root of Self Abandonment 29:13 - Parentification and the Template of Self Erasure 31:21 - Masking: Neurodivergence, Systemic Oppression, and Complex Trauma 36:19 - What Growth Has Actually Looked Like for Jennifer and Elisabeth 40:20 - Stress Bucket Dysmorphia and Learning Your Real Capacity Resources and Links NSI Foundations Bundle for coaches and practitioners: neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations Two week Rewire Trial of guided neuro somatic training: rewiretrial.com Learn more about Jennifer's work at her YouTube channel: Sacred Synapse https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23   Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. 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If you've ever agreed to something and immediately regretted it, apologised for something that wasn't your fault, or changed your opinion halfway through a conversation just to keep the peace, this episode is for you. The fawn response is one of the least understood nervous system patterns and one of the most invisible. It looks like being easygoing, warm and accommodating. From the outside it can be indistinguishable from kindness. The cost of it is paid quietly, and over time.What this episode coversWhat the fawn response is and how it sits alongside fight, flight and freeze as a distinct nervous system patternThe research behind it including Pete Walker's clinical work and what polyvagal theory adds to our understandingHow fawning shows up day to day: constant apologising, abandoning your opinions mid-conversation, shape shifting between social groups, and checking behaviours in relationshipsWhy fawning gets mistaken for being a good person and how it gets culturally rewarded, particularly for womenWhere the fawn response comes from and why it almost always starts in childhoodWhat fawning is actually costing you: chronic low-level resentment, disconnection, and a gradual loss of your own sense of self and preferencesThe difference between fawning and genuine kindness, and the body test that tells you which one you're doingWhether fawning is always a trauma responseWhat to actually do about it, starting with low-stakes moments and one phrase that changes everythingWhether the fawn response goes away once you recognise itTimestamps0:00 Introduction 1:00 What the fawn response is and where the research comes from 3:00 Fight, flight, freeze and fawn explained 4:30 How fawning shows up in everyday life 10:00 Why fawning gets mistaken for being a good person 12:00 Where the fawn response comes from 16:00 Why fawning rather than fight or flight 19:00 What it's actually costing you 22:00 How fawning creates distance not closeness 23:00 What to actually do about it 26:00 Low-stakes practice 30:00 When to seek support 31:00 Q&A: Is fawning the same as people pleasing? 32:00 Q&A: Is fawning always a trauma response? 33:00 Q&A: How do I know if I'm fawning or just being nice? 35:00 Q&A: Can fawning develop in adulthood? 36:30 Q&A: Does fawning go away once you recognise it?Keep the Conversation GoingGot a question or something this episode stirred up? Send it through and it might become an Ask Marie episode: forms.gle/ExJAeBTXAfn8xGkQ9Instagram: @marievakakis Website: marievakakis.com.au

Today's Scripture is: Matthew 5:33-37 Why is it so hard to say what we really mean? This episode explores the emotional and psychological roots of people-pleasing, over-explaining, and softening our truth. With insight from Scripture and psychology, you'll learn how to move toward clarity, integrity, and more honest connection. In this episode: *The hidden cost of people-pleasing and overfunctioning *How empathy and attunement can make boundaries harder *The role of the nervous system in saying yes or no *Why clarity actually creates deeper connection *Simple ways to practice honest communication without guilt Go Deeper: Episode 14: The Fawn Response & the Hidden Root of People Pleasing Episode 171: Why People Pleasing Actually Makes You Feel More Alone, and 3 Steps to Create Real Connection Learn healthy boundaries in The Best of You - get the first 3 chapters free here. Connect with Dr. Alison on Instagram: @dralisoncook Join 80,000+ Soul Menders in Dr. Alison's free email community for ongoing reflection and support. While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.‍ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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*This episode was originally published in July, 2023.  In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Chuck DeGroat to talk about the natural reactivity we have to anxiety. We've talked a lot about fight and flight, conflict and distancing, but we don't always add two other instinctive reactions: freeze and fawn.  We may aspire to peace-making but we often settle for peace keeping and people-pleasing. When we can see our fawn response, we can stop hiding and courageously choose genuine connection instead. Conversation Overview:  Chuck's tweet that inspired this conversation How does the fawn response mimic healthy connection while also undermining it? How does the fawn response show up in leadership? How do we connect the fawn response to anxiety? What might we do instead of fawning? References:  Link to Chuck's Tweet Chuck Degroat Website https://twitter.com/chuckdegroat @chuckdegroat on Threads Janina Fisher  The Fifth Discipline: The art and practice of the learning organization Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable

You recognized the fawn response. You understood where it came from. Now it's time to heal. In Part 3 of our fawn response mini-series, we're diving into the real work of recovery: setting boundaries without guilt, trusting your own voice again, and breaking the people-pleasing patterns that have kept you stuck. If you're ready to stop shrinking and start living as your full self, this one's for you.

This week on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen wrap up their trauma response mini-series with a deep dive into the fawn response, the often-overlooked survival strategy rooted in people-pleasing and conflict avoidance. While many people are familiar with fight or flight, fawning happens when your nervous system moves quickly to smooth things over, keep the peace, and protect the connection.They explore how the fawn response can look like saying yes too fast, minimizing your needs, avoiding conflict, or feeling resentful after people-pleasing. Em and Jen break down how fawning develops, why culture rewards it, and how it can slowly lead to self-abandonment and shaky intimacy if left unchecked.Listener questions cover the difference between genuine flexibility and fawning, how to practice assertiveness without triggering your nervous system, what to do when someone is fawning to you, and how resentment signals crossed boundaries.Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today's content.⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠ at The Therapy Group!⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠Our ⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠!!Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:AG1: Go to DRINKAG1.com/SHRINKCHICKS to get an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3+K2 for FREE in your AG1 Welcome Kit with your first AG1subscription orderAir Doctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS to get UP TO $300 off todayQuince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next orderGreenChef: Head to Greenchef.com/50shrinkchicks and use code 50shrinkchicks to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shippingPique Life: Unlock 20% off and establish your powerful foundation for sustained well-being at Piquelife.com/shrinkchicksSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do we smile when we are actually angry? Why do we say "Yes" when our body is screaming "No"? We often shame ourselves for being "people-pleasers," calling it a weakness. But in Week 5, we flip the script. We learn that "Fawning" is actually a brilliant biological safety strategy—one that kept us safe when we were powerless. In this episode, we explore: The Biology of Fawning: Understanding the "Please Don't Hurt Me" response and why it is a survival instinct, not a personality flaw. Nice vs. Kind: Distinguishing between fear-based transactional behavior ("Nice") and love-based generous behavior ("Kind"). Strategic Compliance: How to use "politeness" as a conscious tool for safety in medical or high-stakes settings (Espionage vs. Submission). The Teflon Bubble: A somatic visualization to "Uncouple" your nervous system from other people's stress. The Un-Smile: A challenge to drop the mask and find safety in a neutral face. Connect with Coach Kaila: Visit our website for more resources: Creative Guidance LLC If this episode resonated with you, consider Supporting the show: Buy Me a Coffee

In this episode of The Addicted Mind, Duane speaks with Dr. Nima Rahmani, a former chiropractor turned emotional health educator. Dr. Nima shares his profound journey from "success on paper" to a total relational breakdown that forced him to confront his own deep-seated patterns of anxious attachment and fawning.They dive deep into the concept of becoming "trigger-proof," the hidden cost of people-pleasing, and why "shame alchemization" is the secret to a truly authentic life. Whether you are struggling with addiction, burnout, or toxic relationship cycles, this episode offers a roadmap for moving from unconscious reactivity to conscious leadership.Key Topics & Chapters[01:32] The Wake-Up Call: Dr. Nima discusses how a crisis in his personal life and a brush with the legal system forced him to look past his professional success and address his defensive reactivity.[03:54] The Cost of Fawning: A breakdown of the "Fawn" response—how suppressing your truth to appease others creates a "bottomless pit" of resentment and physical inflammation.[10:14] Defining the Fawn Response: Dr. Nima provides a powerful analogy of how children learn to appease "predators" (caregivers) to survive, and how that evolves into a destructive adult relationship strategy.[14:41] Somatic Impact: Exploring the link between unresolved emotional wounds, fawning, and chronic physical issues like autoimmune diseases and inflammation.[21:00] Loving the Shadow: Why true self-love isn't about liking your "best" parts, but about "unshaming" the parts of yourself you've tried to kill off or hide.[27:12] Success vs. Intimacy: Why high-achieving entrepreneurs often crush it in business but fail in relationships, and how the "push energy" of success can actually block emotional safety.[47:26] The Worthiness Inquiry: Dr. Nima shares a foundational question for listeners: "I am only worthy of love when..."[52:00] The Heartbeat Realization: A moving story about hearing his son's heartbeat and rediscovering the concept of inherent worthiness.Key Quotes"Shame alchemization is the secret to being a human... finding these embarrassing, unacceptable parts of us and really looking to understand them." — Dr. Nima Rahmani"Fawning is when you freeze a part of you in an interaction... you freeze your truth and then you perform niceness." — Dr. Nima Rahmani"One size fits all is not real. It's not real for baseball caps, and it's not real for recovery plans." — Dr. Nima Rahmani (Note: This is a callback to the theme of individualized healing)"The path to self-love is really about loving your shadow." — Dr. Nima RahmaniUnderstanding the Survival ResponsesTo better understand where "Fawning" fits into our biological safety system, it helps to see it alongside the more commonly known stress responses:Fight: Aggression and boundary-setting.Flight: Avoiding or escaping the threat.Freeze: Numbing out or becoming paralyzed.Fawn: Appeasing the threat to ensure safety.Resources MentionedThe Attachment Style Quiz: Discover if you are anxious, avoidant, or disorganized. [Link provided in bio/show notes]Recovery Demystified: Exploring "Quit Lit" and science-based recovery tools."Unshaming": The work of David Bedrick.About Dr. Nima RahmaniDr. Nima Rahmani is the founder of the Trigger-Proof methodology. He helps entrepreneurs and individuals heal attachment wounds to uplevel their capacity for love and leadership.Connect with Dr. Nima:Website:https://becometriggerproof.com/Instagram: @drnimaPrevious Interview With Dr. Nima RahmaniIf you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're stuck people pleasing, over explaining, apologizing too much, scanning everyone's mood, and saying yes fast then resenting it later, this episode breaks down what's really happening and why it feels so hard to stop. You'll learn how people pleasing often forms as a nervous system survival strategy, the fawn response, where being agreeable once meant safety, approval, or belonging. We talk through the root causes, conditional love, performance conditioning, fear of conflict, and why setting a boundary can trigger guilt, anxiety, and an intense urge to fix, rescue, or smooth things over. You'll also get practical tools to recover from people pleasing without turning cold or selfish, including regulation skills, grounding, breathing, and simple boundary language that's short, calm, and clear. The focus is rebuilding self trust, making your yes mean something again, and ending the cycle of obligation, burnout, and resentment in relationships. If you struggle with saying no to family, a partner, friends, or coworkers, and you want a clear framework for boundaries, emotional safety, and confident communication, this episode will give you what to listen for in yourself, and what to do next.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

What if people-pleasing is your nervous system doing exactly what it has learned to do to keep you safe?In this episode, host Elizabeth Mintun explores people pleasing through the lens of the nervous system, specifically the fawn response, a survival strategy organized around connection and safety. Rather than trying to “overcome” or shame this pattern, we look at why it made sense in the first place - and how understanding it with compassion can create real, sustainable change.Key TakeawaysPeople-pleasing is a nervous system strategy. It often develops as a way to stay safe, connected, and regulated in environments where harmony, approval, or emotional attunement mattered for belonging.The fawn response is organized around connection. Alongside fight, flight, and freeze, the fawn response seeks safety by accommodating, smoothing, helping, or staying agreeable (especially in relationally sensitive people).Shame and force don't create lasting change. Trying to “override” people pleasing by pushing yourself to say no often backfires because the nervous system still perceives danger.Understanding comes before changing a pattern. When we understand why people-pleasing once made sense, we can honor it rather than fight it - and patterns often begin to shift naturally.Resources Sign up for the free workshop From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust: Reclaim Yourself Without Burning Bridges here:https://go.thecalmingground.com/people-pleasing-to-self-trustLearn more about 1:1 Coaching with Elizabeth Mintun here. Contact Elizabeth: elizabethmintun@thecalmingground.comFind Elizabeth on Facebook & IG @thecalminggroundRelated episodes that do focus on boundaries: Episode #27 The Gift of Boundaries for Compassionate Presence: An Interview with Dawn GlascoEpisode #29 Growing Our Boundary Muscles: An Exploration of Inner & Outer Boundaries with Kelli Younglove Episode #30 Honoring Ourselves: Freeing Ourselves from People-PleasingSubscribe to The Calming Ground Podcast so you never miss an episode. If you loved this conversation, please share it with a friend!

Host Erin Kerry is joined by Dr. Nima Rahmany, a trauma and nervous-system expert who helps high-performers heal attachment wounds and become “trigger-proof” in love, leadership, and everyday life. They break down the least talked about trauma response: fawning—the automatic people-pleasing pattern rooted in attachment injury, self-abandonment, and chronic dysregulation. You'll learn how the fawn response affects physiology, how it shapes boundaries, and why your body often becomes the boundary when your voice can't. They also explore attachment styles, polyvagal theory, somatic healing, and the neuroscience of safety. Dr. Nima shares practical tools to rewire your stress response, break away from shame, restore connection, and create secure relationships from the inside out. Links from this episode:
Website: becometriggerproof.com
Attachment Style Quiz: https://becometriggerproof.com/attachment-style-assessment/
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Kamini Wood explores the concept of "fawning," a trauma response where individuals use people pleasing, perfectionism, and over-functioning to navigate stressful or unpredictable environments. Wood explains that for many high-functioning adults and leaders, these behaviors are often misidentified as personality strengths like reliability or high emotional intelligence when they are actually deeply ingrained survival adaptations designed to maintain safety by keeping others calm. The discussion distinguishes between "values-based care," which is rooted in choice, and "fawning," which is rooted in fear and leads to internal erosion, chronic exhaustion, and a lost sense of identity. Listeners are provided with practical tools to begin shifting away from these automatic reflexes, including nervous system regulation, setting "micro-boundaries," and practicing internal reassurance to reclaim their agency and build authentic connections.

Viele Frauen beschreiben sich selbst als empathisch, feinfühlig und verständnisvoll.Sie spüren sofort, wie es anderen geht, nehmen Stimmungen schnell wahr – und stellen ihre eigenen Bedürfnisse oft hinten an.Doch was, wenn das nicht nur Empathie ist?In dieser Folge spreche ich über den sogenannten Fawn-Response – ein Überlebensmuster des Nervensystems, bei dem wir Sicherheit herstellen, indem wir uns anpassen, funktionieren und uns selbst zurücknehmen.

Send us a textAttachment and relational trauma can be hard to name because it often doesn't come from one dramatic event—it forms through patterns over time: inconsistency, emotional absence, unpredictable caregiving, chronic criticism, or rupture without repair. In this episode, we explore attachment as nervous-system education through relationship, and why closeness can become a trigger for protection (anxiety, control, people-pleasing, withdrawal, shutdown). You'll learn a simple polyvagal-informed lens for understanding relational responses, plus practical starting points for repair and regulation. We close with a short grounding practice designed to support boundaries while staying connected.In this episode, you'll learnWhat attachment is (beyond “neediness”) and why it's biological as well as psychologicalHow rupture and repair shape nervous-system safetyWhat relational trauma is and how it forms over timeWhy closeness can trigger fight/flight or shutdown (polyvagal-informed, plain language)Common relational patterns (non-diagnostic): fawning, withdrawal, over-apologising, control, fear of abandonmentWhat helps: naming states, repair language, predictability, and safe connectionA gentle grounding practice that supports boundaries and connectionCheck the website for the free resources offered for both those affected by trauma and those supporting them.What's next: Developmental Trauma: A Brief Map (Building on Earlier Episodes) Support the show

Was ist eigentlich, wenn man plötzlich doch einen Therapieplatz bekommt? In geschmeidigen 18 Monaten Wartezeit kann der Glaube an den Silberstreif am Horizont schon mal abhanden kommen. Und da das Leben sich selten auf 18 Monate barmherzige Schonzeit einlassen mag - hilft man sich eben so gut man kann. Mit Ach, Krach und dem guten alten Durchhaltevermögen wird es schon gehen. Anna erzählt uns, wie viel Vorfreude nach anderthalb Jahren noch übrig ist und man trotzdem noch Mut hat.

We'd love to know how you're saying yes to yourself! Drop us a note here. Say YES to a Space to Dream Solo Retreat at the Phineas Wright House. Learn more and save your date here. What if your perfectionism, people-pleasing, or fear of taking up space weren't flaws, but signs of a nervous system doing its best to protect you?Welcome to the Say YES to Yourself! Podcast—the show for midlife women, empty nesters, and anyone navigating life after divorce, burnout, or big transitions. If you're ready to shed cultural expectations, reconnect with your true self, and put your joy first—you're in the right place.In this honest and insightful conversation, Wendy is joined by Rachel Gitlevich, author of What in the Actual Fuck? Life's a Hot Mess, How to Find Gratitude Anyway, to explore the difference between intuition and fear, the cost of staying in your comfort zone, and why we need to stop gaslighting ourselves.They explore:Why fawn belongs on the trauma response list with fight, flight, and freeze, and how it often hides as “being good”How to recognize your intuition (it whispers) versus your ego (it screams)Why sitting in silence hoping for the best, without taking inspired action, is often the most uncomfortable choice of allThis is a conversation about practicing presence, trusting your inner knowing, and remembering that if these dreams are in you, these dreams are for you. Press play if you're ready to stop living an unlived life.Connect with Rachel:Get her book, What in the Actual FckOn Instagram @rachel.gitlevichLinkedInHer Website: rayofconsciousness.com________________________________________________________________________________________ Connect with Wendy: LinkedinInstagram: @phineaswrighthouseFacebook: Phineas Wright House Website: Phineas Wright House PWH Farm StaysPWH Curated Experience and Travel Interested in being a guest on the show? Send your pitch to podcast@phineaswrighthouse.com Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat! If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a 5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.

Do you apologize when someone else bumps into you? Do you scan the room to ensure everyone else is happy, leaving yourself exhausted and invisible?This isn't just "being nice"—it is a biological survival strategy known as the Fawn Response.In the final episode of our Nervous System Reset mini-series, we tackle the hidden trauma response of People Pleasing. We move beyond the mindset of "just say no" and use Somatic Healing to teach your body that it is safe to take up space.In this guided session, you will learn:The Science of Fawning: Why your nervous system chooses to "merge" with others to avoid conflict.Somatic Grounding: Using the "Dinosaur Tail" and "Golden Thread" techniques to find your physical center.The "Bubble of Authority": A powerful physical exercise to define your personal boundaries and stop energy leaks.Boundary Affirmations: Rewiring the brain to understand that "My 'No' is a complete sentence".Key Affirmation from this episode: "I do not need to earn love by being useful. It is safe for me to disappoint others to protect myself." Complete the Series:Ep 2: Escaping Functional Freeze (The "Shutdown" Response)Ep 3: Calming the Racing Mind (The "Fight or Flight" Response)Share the Healing: If this series helped you understand your own nervous system, please Share this episode with a friend who needs a reset. You can text them the link right now—it might be the permission they need to set a boundary today.

In Part 2 of this mini-series, we explore the connection between the fawn response and complex PTSD. This episode examines how fawning develops as a survival strategy in environments where safety depends on appeasing others, remaining small, or avoiding conflict. Together, we'll unpack why the nervous system learns this response—and why it can be so hard to let go.

Grab a copy of Dr. Ingrid Clayton's book here — https://amzn.to/48Semw4Want to listen on Audible? Get a free Premium Plus trial here: https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp(As an Amazon associate, I receive a small commission on purchases made through the links on this channel. Thanks for making this show possible!)Ingrid Clayton, PhD, is a writer and clinical psychologist in private practice in Los Angeles, California. She's the author of Fawning: a powerful to the often-overlooked piece of the fight-flight-freeze reaction to trauma, Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, where she uncovers her personal experience of childhood trauma from a psychologist's perspective, and Recovering Spirituality: Achieving Emotional Sobriety in Your Spiritual Practice. Ingrid is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, where her article “What is Self-Gaslighting?” is considered an essential read!With a Masters in transpersonal psychology and a PhD in clinical psychology, Ingrid has a holistic approach to psychotherapy, incorporating trauma-informed modalities like Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, and other experiential ways of working with the nervous system. Ingrid has been using a relational approach to therapy since 2004, bringing her whole self to the work—including her personal experience, intuition, and education. This enables her to be in real connection and collaboration with her clients.✖️✖️✖️Support the Show: Patreon.com/PreacherBoys✖️✖️✖️If you or someone you know has experienced abuse, visit courage365.org/need-help✖️✖️✖️CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:preacherboyspodcast.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@PreacherBoyshttps://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdoc/https://twitter.com/preacherboysdochttps://www.instagram.com/preacherboyspodhttps://www.tiktok.com/@preacherboyspodTo connect with a community that shares the Preacher Boys Podcast's mission to expose abuse in the IFB, join the OFFICIAL Preacher Boys Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/✖️✖️✖️The content presented in this video is for informational and educational purposes only. All individuals and entities discussed are presumed innocent until proven guilty through due legal process. The views and opinions expressed are those of the speakers.✖️✖️✖️Music by Lou Ridley — “Bible Belt” | Used with permission under license.This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/PreacherBoys and get on your way to being your best self.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/preacher-boys-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This first episode of our three-part mini-series explores the fawn response: what it is, how it develops, and why it exists. We discuss its roots in trauma and nervous system survival, along with real-life examples of how fawning can show up in relationships, work, and daily interactions.

Your nervous system has a built-in Freeze and Appease response to manage the threat of sexual assault, aka the Fawn response. Learn to forgive yourself and train to respond differently. Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership When someone experiences sexual harassment or sexual assault, their body often doesn't react the way they expect. Instead of fighting or running, they might freeze, fawn, or appease—smiling, complying, or going still, even when they feel terrified inside. In this video, we'll explore the Freeze and Fawn Response—sometimes called the Freeze-Appease Response—and how these instinctive reactions are the body's way of trying to stay safe during sexual violence or threat. You'll learn what happens in the nervous system during a freeze response, why people can't “just say no,” and how understanding this can help survivors release shame and start to heal. This is essential education for survivors, loved ones, and anyone who wants to understand trauma responses with compassion and science. If you've ever blamed yourself for how you reacted during sexual harassment or sexual assault, please know: it wasn't your fault. Your body was trying to keep you alive. Freeze Response, Fawn Response, Freeze Appease, Sexual Violence, Sexual Assault, Tonic Immobility, Trauma Response, Nervous System, PTSD Recovery, Survivor Support Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

Have you ever felt lost after putting all your effort into pleasing others? Maybe you've spent years being the responsible one, the strong one, the helper, the one who “just handles it”… until one day you wake up and feel hollow. Exhausted.  Disconnected from the person you used to be.Maybe you've spent years trying to “doing it all”,  only to wake up one day and wonder where you lost yourself along the way? In this episode, I sit down with Kati Morton, licensed therapist, author, and one of the most trusted mental health voices online. Her new book, Why Do I Keep Doing This?, dives into the emotional and nervous system patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of people-pleasing, low self-esteem, overgiving, perfectionism, and self-abandonment.Together, we explore how unresolved trauma responses shape our beliefs about love, worth, confidence, and why so many of us feel like we need to be “good” or “please others” to feel safe. Together Kati and I discuss what a fawn response is,  the deeper reasons why we fawn or people-please and the emotional cost it takes on us.You'll learn:Why people pleasing begins as a survival strategyWhy rebuilding self worth is about changing patternsWhat your inner critic is trying to protect you fromHow to spot patterns that lead to burnout and resentmentWhy confidence grows through small acts of self trustThe difference between guilt and false guilt in boundary settingHow somatic practices support healing and resiliencePractical tools to regulate stress and shift old patternsIf you're in a season of personal growth, or if you're tired of feeling exhausted, overlooked, or in cycles of self-doubt, this episode will offer compassion, clarity, and a path home to yourself.Tune in. This conversation is a breath of fresh air for anyone ready to reclaim the parts of themselves they had to hide to survive.Much love,LaurieClick here to sign up for my "FREE Online Somatic Workshop - Find Your Calm During the Holidays" on Thursday, Dec 4th at 4 PST Click here for a video on how to leave a review to receive a free somatic stabilization/grounding exercise. The podcast graphic is different from the current one. Once you complete it and send me a picture I will send you the video. My email is laurie@laurieejames.comThank you in advance. Click here to learn about my NEW “Nervous System Regulation Starter Kit” Free ResourcesClick here to schedule a FREE inquiry call with me.Click here for my FREE “Beginner's Guide to Somatic Healing”Click here for my FREE Core Values ExerciseClick here to purchase my book: Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting GoWebsitePlease leave me feedback. I cannot respond so if you'd like me to respond, please leave your email***********************DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL, MEDICAL OR PROFESSIONAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED THERAPIST IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL WITH RESPECT TO ANY MEDICAL ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

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In dieser Folge spreche ich über das übermäßige Geben und beleuchte, was für frühe traumatische Erfahrungen dafür vielleicht die Ursache sein können.  In dieser Folge erfährst du: worin sich Overgiving von echter Großzügigkeit unterscheidet wie übermäßiges Geben mit sozialer Unterwerfung verbunden sein kann welche Dynamiken sich durch Overgiving in Beziehungen und im eigenen Inneren zeigen können wie Overgiving das eigene Selbstbild prägt und beeinflusst wann Veränderung möglich wird, wenn wir Grenzen erkunden und Kontrolle lösen. Shownotes: Fawn Response | Warum wir in toxischen Beziehungen landen & bleiben // Podcast #129 Fawn Response & der Wunsch zu helfen // Podcast #140 Trauma und dein Platz im Leben - Spürst du deine Daseinsberechtigung? // Podcast #341 Parentifizierung - vom Schmerz, stark sein zu müssen // Podcast #120 Wenn Eltern zu viel geben // Podcast #233 Wie kann ich weniger geben, ohne zu enttäuschen? // Podcast #231 Deine Grenzen – kennen, hüten, friedvoll leben (Online-Kurs) Kennst du schon meinen Achtsamkeits-Adventskalender? Melde dich hier kostenfrei an und erhalte bis Weihnachten täglich feine Videoimpulse per Mail: https://www.verenakoenig.de/advent/  Suchst du nach einem liebevollen Weihnachtsgeschenk? Dann ist vielleicht mein Postkartenkalender mit handsignierter Karte interessant für dich! Ein traumasensibler Begleiter durch das Jahr - Mit sanften Übungen, Reflexionsfragen, Platz für Gedanken und Postkarten zum Versenden: https://shop.autorenwelt.de/products/verbunden-mit-dir-von-verena-konig-mit-signierter-karte  Interessierst du dich für mein Buch „Trauma und Beziehungen"? Hier findest du mehr Informationen dazu: www.verenakoenig.de/buecher/trauma-und-beziehungen/  3 traumasensible Meditationen – Komme im Hier und Jetzt an und finde Sicherheit in deiner Präsenz. Trage dich hier ein und wir schicken dir den Link zu den Meditationen zu: https://www.verenakoenig.de/geschenke/3-traumasensible-meditationen/  Kennst du schon mein wunderschönes Kartendeck? Ob in akuten Stresssituationen, als tägliches Ritual oder spontane Inspiration – 56 Impulse helfen dir zu mehr Selbstregulation und Sicherheit im Hier und Jetzt: https://www.verenakoenig.de/buecher/kartendeck-verbinde-dich-mit-dir-selbst/  Wünschst du dir mehr Nervensystem-Regulation und Selbstbestimmung? Dann trage dich in unsere unverbindliche Interessentenliste für den Kurs „Nervensystemkompass" ein: https://www.verenakoenig.de/online-kurse/nervensystemkompass/   Interessierst du dich auch für meine Ausbildung NI Neurosystemische Integration®? Trage dich jetzt in die Warteliste ein, um keine Neuigkeiten zu verpassen! https://www.verenakoenig.de/akademie/ni-ausbildung/  Wenn du teilen möchtest, was dich in dieser Folge bewegt hat oder wenn du gerne etwas anmerken möchtest, dann folge mir auf Instagram oder Facebook. Dort findest du jede Menge weiterführende Inspiration.  Verena auf Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/verenakoenig.official/   Verena auf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/verenakoenig.de   Verpasse keine Neuigkeiten mehr! Erhalte jeden Freitag eine Mail mit dem aktuellen Podcast und interessanter Inspiration: https://verenakoenig.de/tinlanmeldung 

Diese Folge handelt von der sogenannten Fawn Response und wieso sie nicht immer ihren Zweck erfüllt und sogar einsam machen kann.  In dieser Folge erfährst du: warum die Fawn Response Ausdruck einer intelligenten Überlebensstrategie ist wie sich soziale Unterwerfung in verschiedenen Verhaltensweisen zeigt weshalb frühe Erfahrungen das Bindungssystem belasten können wann ein beschwichtigender Lebensstil in Einsamkeit mündet welchen Weg es in Richtung Bindungssicherheit geben kann Shownotes: Fawnresponse| Warum wir in toxischen Beziehungen landen & bleiben // Podcast #129 FawnResponse & der Wunsch zu helfen // Podcast #140 Einsamkeit & Trauma // Podcast #56 Verena König – Trauma und Beziehungen Trauma und die Suche nach Sicherheit // Podcast #112 Deine innere Haltung verändert Dein Leben // Podcast #35 Ich freue mich sehr, dir meinen neuen Postkartenkalender vorzustellen! Ein traumasensibler Begleiter durch das Jahr - Mit sanften Übungen, Reflexionsfragen, Platz für Gedanken und Postkarten zum Versenden: https://www.verenakoenig.de/buecher/postkartenkalender-verbunden-mit-dir/  Interessierst du dich für mein Buch „Trauma und Beziehungen"? Hier findest du mehr Informationen dazu: www.verenakoenig.de/buecher/trauma-und-beziehungen/  3 traumasensible Meditationen – Komme im Hier und Jetzt an und finde Sicherheit in deiner Präsenz. Trage dich hier ein und wir schicken dir den Link zu den Meditationen zu: https://www.verenakoenig.de/geschenke/3-traumasensible-meditationen/  Kennst du schon mein wunderschönes Kartendeck? Ob in akuten Stresssituationen, als tägliches Ritual oder spontane Inspiration – 56 Impulse helfen dir zu mehr Selbstregulation und Sicherheit im Hier und Jetzt: https://www.verenakoenig.de/buecher/kartendeck-verbinde-dich-mit-dir-selbst/  Wenn du teilen möchtest, was dich in dieser Folge bewegt hat oder wenn du gerne etwas anmerken möchtest, dann folge mir auf Instagram oder Facebook. Dort findest du jede Menge weiterführende Inspiration.  Verena auf Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/verenakoenig.official/   Verena auf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/verenakoenig.de   Verpasse keine Neuigkeiten mehr! Erhalte jeden Freitag eine Mail mit dem aktuellen Podcast und interessanter Inspiration: https://verenakoenig.de/tinlanmeldung   

Leigh Ann welcomes Dr. Nima Rahmany, a leading expert in shadow work, emotional regulation, and healing attachment wounds. Dr. Nima shares his journey from a successful chiropractic career to becoming a leading expert in emotional regulation and healing attachment wounds. Driven by his own experiences with toxic patterns, Dr. Nima now helps individuals break free from cycles of codependency and self-abandonment. The conversation explores how repressed emotions can contribute to disease and look deeper at the fawn response, a stress reaction characterized by people-pleasing behaviors. Dr. Nima discusses childhood patterns that lead to fawning and offers insights on transforming these responses in our adult relationships.Product Discount Codes + Links:Healing Alchemy Membership: Learn MoreRise Centered: Website (Discount Code: ACCRESCENT15)Rogershood Apothecary: Website (Discount Code: LEIGHANN10)Where To Find My Guest:Dr. Nima - WebsiteDr. Nima- InstagramRelated Episodes:Podcast Ep. 193: Britt Piper - Body-First HealingPodcast Ep. 167: Dr. Gay Hendricks - Are You Sabotaging Joy, Peace, and Alignment?Podcast Ep. 9: Dr. Ellen Vora - True and False AnxietyWork w/Leigh AnnLearn: What is EVOX Therapy?Book: Schedule a Session or FREE Discovery CallMembership: What is The Healing Alchemy MembershipConnect w/Me & Learn MoreWebsiteInstagramTiktokYoutube

ความเกรงใจเป็นสิ่งที่ดี แต่ถ้าเมื่อไรที่เรารู้สึกเกรงใจคนอื่นมากเกินไป จนถึงขั้นต้องคอย ‘เอาอกเอาใจ' ใครต่อใครอยู่อย่างนั้น สมองของเราก็จะสร้างกลไกการตอบสนองที่เรียกว่า Fawn Response ซึ่งเป็นการเอาตัวรอดที่กดทับความรู้สึกและความต้องการที่แท้จริงของตัวเองเอาไว้ . 4 วิธีหยุดพฤติกรรม ‘เอาอกเอาใจคนอื่นมากเกินไป' เพื่อรักษาหัวใจของเราไม่ให้พังไปซะเองมีอะไรบ้าง? ติดตามได้ในพอดแคสต์ EP. นี้ . #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

ความเกรงใจเป็นสิ่งที่ดี แต่ถ้าเมื่อไรที่เรารู้สึกเกรงใจคนอื่นมากเกินไป จนถึงขั้นต้องคอย ‘เอาอกเอาใจ' ใครต่อใครอยู่อย่างนั้น สมองของเราก็จะสร้างกลไกการตอบสนองที่เรียกว่า Fawn Response ซึ่งเป็นการเอาตัวรอดที่กดทับความรู้สึกและความต้องการที่แท้จริงของตัวเองเอาไว้ . 4 วิธีหยุดพฤติกรรม ‘เอาอกเอาใจคนอื่นมากเกินไป' เพื่อรักษาหัวใจของเราไม่ให้พังไปซะเองมีอะไรบ้าง? ติดตามได้ในพอดแคสต์ EP. นี้ . #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

In this episode, Molly Painschab and Clarissa Kennedy reconnect after three transformative weeks together—first in London for the International Food Addiction and Comorbidities Conference, then exploring the magic of Scotland. From castles and waterfalls to ancient standing stones, they share the joy of work, play, and community in recovery. But the heart of today's conversation is the fawn response—a trauma survival strategy often misunderstood as “people pleasing.” Drawing on their own stories and professional experiences, Molly and Clarissa explore how fawning develops, why it feels so challenging to change, and how it manifests in recovery and relationships. What We Talk About Fawning explained: Why it's more than people pleasing and how it functions as a survival strategy. Personal stories: Growing up in emotionally immature households, learning to appease, and the impact on identity and relationships. Adaptive vs. maladaptive fawning: When appeasement helps us survive—and when it harms us. Symptoms and signs: From difficulty saying no, over-apologizing, and hypervigilance to identity loss and emotional exhaustion. Why fawning is reinforced: Cultural, gender, and relational factors that reward compliance at the cost of selfhood. Professional insights: What clinicians and helpers need to know about clients who fawn—including vulnerability to relapse, self-neglect, and difficulty with boundaries. Pathways to healing: Building awareness, practicing small boundaries, parts work, somatic tools, and self-compassion as antidotes to shame. Grief and growth: Naming the loss that comes with shifting out of fawning while also reclaiming voice, choice, and authenticity. Invitation for Listeners This week, reflect on a time you said “yes” when you truly wanted to say “no.” What small, safe boundary might you practice instead? Notice how your body responds, and give yourself permission to honor your needs—one step at a time. ✨ Resources Mentioned Are You Mad at Me? by Meg Josephson Sweet Sobriety Membership & Groups: www.sweetsobriety.ca

Whitney Goodman interviews Dr. Ingrid Clayton about her new book "Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back." They explore fawning as the fourth trauma response, how it differs from people-pleasing and codependency, why children and marginalized people develop this survival strategy, and how it can masquerade as success while leading to complete self-abandonment. Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves-and How to Find Our Way Backhttps://www.ingridclayton.com/ Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles. Join the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠ Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhit Follow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft ⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity⁠⁠ This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute  for professional mental health advice. 00:00 Dr. Clayton's Discovery of Fawning Through Her Own Trauma 04:26 Why Fawning Isn't About Shame - It's About Survival 09:00 How to Recognize Fawning in Your Own Life 12:16 The Connection Between Fawning and Family Estrangement 19:49 Fawning vs. People-Pleasing vs. Codependency 22:13 When Fawning Looks Like Success 27:46 Growing Out of the Fawning Response Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Forrest and therapist Meg Josephson explore the fawn response, a survival strategy where safety is sought by pleasing other people. They discuss how fawning can start as self-protection in childhood, but later morph into overthinking, hypervigilance, and self-abandonment. Meg shares her own experience, including how fawning creates resentment and makes it difficult to find a healthy relationship or figure out your authentic needs. Topics include becoming aware of unconscious habits, building distress tolerance, grief, self-compassion, healthy boundaries, and speaking up for ourselves. About our Guest: Meg Josephson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and author of the new book Are You Mad at Me? Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:18: Self-sabotage as self-protection 4:01: Bringing the unconscious fawn response into awareness 9:51: Silencing wants and needs, conflict avoidance, and resentment 14:33: Rediscovering wants and needs after people pleasing 18:05: The healing arc: grief, anger, and relationship 25:30: Viewing people pleasing as a “part” rather than an identity 30:11: Nice vs. compassionate 51:36: Hypervigilance and the NICER practice 57:22: Authenticity as “uncovering” rather than “fixing” 1:03:02: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors If you have ADHD, or you love someone who does, I'd recommend checking out the podcast ADHD aha! Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Join hundreds of thousands of people who are taking charge of their health. Learn more and join Function at functionhealth.com/BEINGWELL. Listen now to the Life Kit podcast from NPR. Go to Zocdoc.com/BEING to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode Summary: Most people know the three classic stress responses—fight, flight, and freeze—but there's a fourth that's often missed because it hides in plain sight: the fawn response. This is when your nervous system decides the safest way to handle a threat is to please or appease it. It's not weakness—it's a deeply ingrained survival strategy that can run for years without you realizing it.In this episode, Molly explains what the fawn response is, where it comes from, why you may never have heard of it, and how it might be shaping your relationships, boundaries, and even your drinking choices. You'll learn how to spot the signs of fawning and take the first steps toward responding from authenticity rather than fear.What You'll Learn in This Episode:A quick refresher on fight, flight, and freeze—and how they compare to fawn.Pete Walker's definition of the fawn response and how it forms.Everyday examples of fawning and why it's often praised instead of questioned.Common childhood environments that lead to fawning.Why the fawn response is both common and invisible.How the fawn pattern can influence your drinking decisions.A simple, four-step process to pause and respond intentionally instead of automatically.Key Quote:“The child relinquishes the fight response, deletes ‘no' from her vocabulary… flight exacerbates the danger… freeze doesn't protect… so the child learns to fawn her way into the relative safety of becoming helpful.” – Pete WalkerLinks and Resources:Pete Walker's work on the Four F's of Trauma: pete-walker.comJoin the free Alcohol Minimalist Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/alcoholminimalistsLearn more about “Making Peace with Alcohol” coaching: www.mollywatts.com/workwithmeListener Challenge: Notice one moment this week where you have the urge to please or accommodate someone else at your own expense. Name it: That's the fawn response. Pause before responding, and ask yourself if this is what you truly want—or if it's an old survival pattern. ★ Support this podcast ★

Have you ever stared at your phone, rereading a text that ended with a period and spiraled into, “Oh no… are they mad at me?” Or maybe someone didn't heart your Instagram story, and suddenly your nervous system is in full red alert mode. If so, you're not alone. And you're definitely not broken. I'm joined by psychotherapist and author Meg Josephson to talk about the fawn response, a lesser-known trauma response that shows up as people-pleasing, overthinking, and needing to manage how others feel about you. We're digging into where this comes from, why it's so common (especially if you grew up walking on eggshells), and how to start untangling yourself from it. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is Relational Hypervigilance? 02:22 Meg Josephson's Journey With People-Pleasing 10:37 Understanding Complex Trauma and Emotional Safety 17:05 What Is the Fawn Response? 23:23 How Hypervigilance Disconnects You From Yourself 31:15 How People-Pleasing Impacts Boundaries 36:27 Why “Negative” Emotions Like Resentment Matter 41:11 Reassurance vs. Emotional Validation 46:07 Letting Go of Control and Reclaiming Your Energy 49:37 Healing Through Self-Awareness and Discomfort 51:13 Where to Find Meg Josephson's Work If you've ever wondered, “Why do I always feel like I'm in trouble?” or “Why is it so hard to set boundaries without guilt?” – this episode will help you understand what's really going on beneath those feelings and what healing can actually look like. Ready to stop twisting yourself into knots trying to keep everyone else happy? My Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program can help you reconnect with you – your voice, your boundaries, your sense of calm. If you're done second-guessing and ready to start showing up authentically, this is your next step.

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You want to help. It feels noble - maybe even necessary. You're the one who jumps in, figures it out, and holds it all together. And when someone you love is struggling? You can feel the pull in your chest, like you're supposed to do something. But here's the hard truth: sometimes our fixing isn't actually compassion, it's control dressed up like care. We're not just trying to help… we're trying to keep the peace, avoid the fallout, and prove we're worthy of being needed. But that's a weight your soul was never meant to carry. Rooting for you, Jessica Click here to get 50% off my Untangle Your Thoughts self-paced coaching program! Resources: What Is the Fawn Response? People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response How to Set Boundaries as a Christian Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

People pleasers, this one's for you!!If you've ever said “yes” when your body screamed “no,” overspent to keep people happy, or struggled to ask for a raise — this episode is a must-listen.In today's episode, I break down how chronic people-pleasing is not just an emotional pattern, but a financial one — rooted in nervous system survival. We unpack the Fawn Response, reveal how it shows up in your business and bank account, and I offer trauma-informed steps to begin untangling yourself from the People-Pleaser Tax.Whether you undercharge, overgive, or feel guilty every time you think about setting boundaries — you are not alone. And more importantly, you're not broken. You're protecting yourself the only way your body knew how.Tune in to learn:•Why people-pleasing is a nervous system response, not a personality trait•How the Fawn Response impacts your pricing, boundaries, and spending•The real cost of saying yes when you mean no•Trauma-informed, somatic steps to begin healing this money-draining pattern•Why addressing this at the nervous system level is essential for true financial freedomLinks Mentioned:•Join Money Magic Mentorship.•Follow Nadine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nadinezumot/⭐️Check out my 1:1 Money Magic Mentorship Program here. ________________________________________________ Thank you for being here ❤️ If this podcast is a helpful resource for you, please share it with your friends, on social media. It will be extremely helpful if you could also leave a 5-star rating and review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify!Connect with me on Instagram for free tips, inspo: https://www.instagram.com/nadinezumot/ ~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

If you have any topic suggestions for future episodes, don't hesitate to reach out! Send us an email at info@brainblownpodcast.com.We'd love to hear from you.REFERENCES"Appeasement: replacing Stockholm syndrome as a definition of a survival strategy" Rebecca Bailey, Jaycee Dugard, Stefanie F. Smith & Stephen W. Porges"Traumatic entrapment, appeasement and complex post-traumatic stress disorder: evolutionary perspectives of hostage reactions, domestic abuse and the Stockholm syndrome" Chris Cantor, John Price"Bonding after trauma: on the role of social support and the oxytocin system in traumatic stress,"  Miranda Olff"How Trauma Impacts Learning and How to Find Support" Nadia Albritton, MA"The Fawn Response in Complex PTSD" | Dr. Arielle Schwartz"Stockholm Syndrome Explained by the Stanford Prison Experiment"

If you've ever felt emotionally exhausted—even while doing all the “right” things—this episode is for you. I'm sharing a personal story and unpacking something I see in so many women I work with: the quiet, often unnoticed pattern of denying your own needs in the name of being kind, helpful, or faithful. We'll talk about how these patterns take root, how faith communities can unknowingly reinforce them, and why that emotional exhaustion you're feeling might be trying to tell you something important. In this episode, I explore: * How codependency hides behind helping & overfunctioning * How the fawn response might be showing up in your life * The impact of church messages that tell us to "die to ourselves" without teaching us how to live * What healthy dependence looks like * Why your locus of control—internal vs. external—matters more than you think Have a question for Dr. Alison? Leave it here. Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here. If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love: Episode 5: What is Codependency and Why Does it Matter? Episode 14: The Fawn Response & The Hidden Root of People Pleasing Thanks to our sponsors: For 20% off your order, head to Reliefband.com and use code BESTOFYOU. Go to Quince.com/bestofyou for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order! Visit GoGeviti.com to learn more about how you can start optimizing your health without leaving home today and use code BESTOFYOU. Contact Restoring the Soul today and learn how their Intensive Counseling Process can jump start your journey to the place you want to be. As a special gift for The Best of You podcast listeners, download their pdf called "5 Ways Unresolved Trauma May Be Derailing Your Relationship." I want all my listeners to enjoy a deep, restful night's sleep with a new mattress from Birch. Go to birchliving.com/bestofyou for 20% off sitewide! Editing by Giulia Hjort Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel like you're losing yourself while trying to keep everyone else happy? You're not alone. People-pleasing is exhausting—it tricks us into thinking that if we can keep everyone else content, we'll finally feel safe, accepted, or worthy. But the truth is, people-pleasing often comes at the cost of our own well-being. Whether it's the fear of rejection, a need for approval, or the belief that loving others means ignoring yourself, this pattern slowly steals your peace. But here's the good news: You don't have to keep living that way. Let's talk about what it really means to love others without losing yourself in the process. Rooting for you, Jessica Resources: What Is the Fawn Response? People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

On today's episode of On the Corner of Homeless & Criminal Justice (Part 2), hosts Joe Ader and Emma Hughes talk with Judge Andrew Biviano to get a better look into the judicial system in regards to homelessness. Homelessness is a complex issue. We don't claim to explore every part of this intersection, but hope that each conversation brings new clarity to the reality as a whole. Please keep an open, curious mindset as you listen, and seek to learn, just as we are.Guest: Judge Andrew BivianoHosts Emma Hughes and Joe Ader of ⁠⁠Family Promise of Spokane⁠⁠.Produced by Cheree LaPierre and Gwyn GriffithRecorded at The Spokane Public LibraryResources:Spokane District CourtFight, Flight, Fawn Response

This is a special episode from the "Parenting the Intensity Retreat - Conflict Edition" coming up February 25th-27th! (start tomorrow)It's the live kick-off call from the Facebook group that shares how the event works and explain how the nervous system works and it's impact on the emotional reaction and conflicts in our family and how working with instead of against it can make a difference. You can go to minute 26 if you only want the info on the Nervous systemYou can get register over here at www.parentingtheintensity.ca/register to get access to it all!What to expect from this recording-What to expect this week and how it will all work-How to win prizes-Goal of the retreat-How to choose which presentations to attend-How to get the most of the presentations you attend-Deep Connection Pass-Dive into the Nervous System (it's key to so many presentations, it's important to understand)

In this episode of The Owaken Podcast, Hellè Weston and Lukis Mac explore the journey of breaking free from codependent patterns and self-abandonment. This podcast will help you get clear on what it looks like to reclaim your power and set healthy boundaries while maintaining empathy, sensitivity and authentic connection. If you're ready to break free from codependency, understand its origins, and learn practical tools to lead a more authentic, empowered life, this is the podcast episode for you! Ready to learn our signature 5-minute Owaken Breathwork practice? It's 100% free to watch and learn at www.owaken.com Start the Owaken Breathwork Mystical Morning Ritual Challenge on the app: app.owaken.com Follow for more insights and inspiration: Follow Owaken: www.instagram.com/owakenbreathwork Follow Hellé Weston: www.instagram.com/helle_weston Follow Lukis Mac: www.instagram.com/lukismac Learn more about Owaken Breathwork at owaken.com Episode Timestamps:• (00:00) – Introduction to Self-Abandonment• (01:16) – Setting Intentions and Understanding Codependency• (02:48) – Recognizing Codependent Patterns• (03:29) – The Fawn Response and Personal Experiences• (08:12) – Childhood Roots of Self-Abandonment• (09:09) – Navigating Adult Relationships and Codependency• (17:50) – Shadow Work and Asserting Boundaries• (22:01) – Enabling Behaviors and Personal Responsibility• (27:54) – Taking Responsibility for Your Own Needs• (28:25) – The Pendulum Swing: From People Pleaser to Aggressive• (29:59) – The Root of Self-Abandonment• (31:01) – Reclaiming Power and Setting Boundaries• (32:31) – Codependency vs. Loyalty• (35:19) – Shifting Away from Self-Abandonment• (39:43) – The Importance of Authenticity• (40:15) – Navigating Discomfort and Change• (44:32) – The Power of Alignment and Self-Connection• (48:43) – The Benefits of Asserting Yourself• (55:54) – Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Dr. Rick and Forrest finish their series on the stress responses with the fawn response: an appeasement strategy where we manage stressful situations by giving others what they want. Rick and Forrest start by discussing common symptoms, including people pleasing, self-abandonment, difficulty saying no, weak boundaries, and chronic self-sacrifice. They talk about the roots of the fawn response and its connection to complex PTSD before exploring people pleasing in detail. In the second half of the episode they focus on practical tools for developing healthy boundaries, self-acceptance, and a stronger sense of self. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 2:15: What the fawn response looks like 9:05: Power imbalances, shame, and contempt 11:35: What personal history tends to lead to fawning? 20:00: How to work on the tendency to fawn 36:30: Shame, self-acceptance, and opening up to self-expression 41:25: The fawn response in relationship 46:40: Becoming your own source of safety 52:20: Making equitable arrangements, and acknowledging your best efforts 1:01:50: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

Take a deep breath. Today we're sharing the most empowering tips, advice, and insights on all things Nervous System. What even is the nervous system? And what does it have to do with the TBM manifestation process? Join us as we cover some of the most impactful gems of wisdom all about  nervous system regulation–from our go-to experts like Janelle, Dr. Nicole LePera, Nicole Vignola (aka Nicole's Neuroscience), Dr. Mariel Buqué, and more. In this ep, we also remind ourselves of how the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses may appear in our day-to-day lives and what we can do to bring our prefrontal cortex back online and get back to our most magnetic and authentic selves. With practical strategies, personal stories, and professional wisdom, this episode is designed to help you find balance, foster emotional well-being, and embrace your journey of personal growth. Tune in for a dose of inspiration and learn how to *truly* nurture your nervous system. Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast In This Episode We Talk About:Introduction to nervous system regulation and dysregulationUnderstanding the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responsesChronic dysregulation and its effects on mental and physical healthSymptoms and behaviors associated with each response statePersonal experiences with different nervous system statesThe importance of self-awareness and recognizing your default responseStrategies for calming a dysregulated nervous systemThe role of breathwork and grounding exercisesMoving from a frozen state to an activated stateCompassionate self-inquiry and the inner child's role in nervous system responsesBalancing sympathetic and parasympathetic statesPractical tools for daily nervous system regulationBuilding mastery through consistent practiceDifferentiating between numbing out and healthy restEmphasizing the need for a holistic approach to emotional and physical health THEMES / TIME STAMPS:Introduction to the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses. (00:15:10)Practical regulation techniques and the importance of daily practice and building mastery over time. (00:24:00)How to resource to support your nervous system (00:58:00)Resources: TBM SUMMER SALE ☀️LIVE NOW Get the lowest prices of the season and up to $96 off 2024 TBM Summer Challenge - Get Out of Your Own WayPre-week kicks off May 20thAccess our FREE Find Your Biggest Block Exercise Share your challenge manifestations storiesfor a chance to be featured on The Expanded Podcast Kajabi Try Kajabi all-in-one business platform free for 30 days with TBM link! Seed - code 25MAGNETIC for 25% off first month of Seed's DS-01® and PDS-08™%Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic (for adults ages 18+)Seed's PDS-08™Pediatric Daily Synbiotic - (for kids ages 3-17) Expanded x Ep. 245 - How To Be Honest with Yourself: Why Self-Awareness is Everything in ManifestationEp. 287 - You Can't Rush Your Manifestations: The Energetics of DesperationExpanded x Ep. 266: How To Break Low Self-Worth Habits with Nicole NeuroscienceEp. 234 - Learn What Your Nervous System is Telling You with Dr. Nicole LePeraExpanded x Ep. 57: How to Heal Your Inner Child with Dr. Nicole LePeraEp. 285 Ancestral Wisdom & Healing Generational Trauma featuring Dr. Mariel BuquéExpanded x Ep. 272 Becoming An ‘Emotional Athlete' with Flynn SkidmoreExpanded x Ep. 260 - Rock Bottoms: How To Navigate When The Rug Is Pulled From Beneath YouExpanded x Ep.  301 How To Find Your Biggest BlockEp. 189 - How To Spot When Your Inner Child Is Running The ShowExpanded x Ep. 227 - How To Manifest Anything You DesireFind the Safe DI and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Inner Child and Unblocked DIs) Connect with Our Experts!Janelle Nelson, EMDR & MFT TherapistBook an Unblocking session or Intensive w Janelle Dr. Mariel BuquéNicole VignolaNicole LePeraWhere To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@Lacyannephillips@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast Other ResourcesSubmit to Be a Process GuestText Us: +1-213-423-5226 - (texting is only for US, Canada, & Puerto Rico)Alexis Smart x TBM EXPANDED Flower RemedyTBM Manifestation JournalDid you Finish the Manifestation Challenge? Share your experience with us! Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryNeed Help Identifying Your Block? Access our FREE Find Your Biggest Block Exercise

In today's episode, Karrie and Kathy discuss the concept of fawning as a coping mechanism is introduced, highlighting the tendency to please others in order to feel safe. The fear of confrontation and the importance of maintaining autonomy in relationships are also discussed. This conversation explores the concept of fawning and its impact on vulnerability. It delves into childhood traumas and emotional triggers, highlighting the importance of understanding and tolerating these emotions. The role of the amygdala and prefrontal cortex in regulating responses is discussed, along with the significance of story work in resetting the amygdala. The conversation also addresses the influence of religious context on fawning and the need to be aware of losing oneself. It emphasizes the power of healing and integration in the brain and the invitation to embrace and heal emotions, following Jesus' example. Takeaways Fawning is a coping mechanism where individuals become overly accommodating and pleasing in order to feel safe and maintain connection. It is important to maintain autonomy in relationships and address conflicts directly rather than resorting to fawning or people-pleasing. Understanding the vulnerability behind fawning and the avoidance of personal hurt Learning to tolerate and understand emotions to make healthier choices Recognizing the impact of childhood traumas and emotional triggers The importance of story work in resetting the amygdala and offering care to oneself The role of the amygdala and prefrontal cortex in regulating responses Being aware of losing oneself in religious contexts and setting healthy boundaries The power of healing and integration in the brain to find shalom Embracing and healing emotions, following Jesus' example Karrie Garcia /⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Freedom Movement Monthly Cohort / ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠More Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Freedom Academy In-Person April / More Here Karrie's Book / ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free & Fully Alive Cathy Lorezel / ⁠Instagram⁠ Cathy's Website / ⁠More Info