Podcasts about polysecure

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2024 72:23

Today, we're discussing the relationship escalator, which is often criticized in non-monogamous spaces. However, some non-monogamous folks may want the same milestones and journey that the relationship escalator provides, so today we're talking about what can happen if you're someone who wants to move up the escalator with a partner or partners. We'll be going over some pros and cons of the relationship escalator, some research about how quickly people tend to escalate in relationships, and how to navigate your journey if the relationship escalator is something you want in your life. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORYTreat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiGet access to “What's Your Jealousy Trying To Tell You?” a workshop by the author of Polysecure, Jessica Fern. Head to heyplura.com/multiamory and enter the invite code “Multiamory” during onboarding Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Poly Want A Throuple? Myths, Love, and All the Feels

Big Sexy Chat Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2024 58:41 Transcription Available

Send us a Text Message.What if the love you sought could be found in multiples? Join Merf and Asherlee, our phenomenal producer and editor, as she unravels the complexities of polyamory. Asherlee, who steps in for Chrystal in this episode, shares her personal journey into polyamory, distinguishing it from swinging and revealing the dynamics of her own relationships, including her unique satellite connections. From the importance of responsible relationship management to the necessity of open, honest communication, this discussion offers a wealth of practical insights for anyone curious about or involved in polyamorous relationships.Have you ever wondered how different relationships can meet various emotional needs without creating hierarchies? In this episode, we explore the concept of emotional currency and how polyamorous relationships can complement rather than compete. We dive into the experiences of "thirds," tackling societal pressures and the feelings of exclusion they often face. With references to valuable resources like the book "Polysecure," we provide guidance on navigating personal insecurities and societal norms that challenge the desire for love and significance in non-monogamous relationships.Navigating the world as a BBW in the poly community comes with its own set of challenges. Our conversation touches on the impact of fatphobia and fetishization on romantic interactions, and why it's crucial to seek balanced and equitable relationships. We also unpack the myths surrounding "unicorns" and the problematic nature of "unicorn hunting." This episode encourages listeners to share their experiences, ask questions, and engage with our community on social media. Whether you're polyamorous, poly-curious, or just interested in understanding more about non-monogamous lifestyles, this episode celebrates resilience and the pursuit of meaningful connections.If you're interested in checking out Polysecure: Click hereTo check out the glossary of Polyamory terminology: Click hereVisit: AdamandEve.com. Use code BIGSEXY for 50% Off 1 Item + Free Shipping in the US & Canada + Free Rush Processing*some items may not be eligible for full discountSupport the Show.BigSexyChat.com appreciates you and our community. We do this for you, so if you ever have any ideas about a subject we can discuss for you, email us at bigsexychatpod@gmail.com.You can find us on Facebook and Instagram as BigSexyChat.Twitter (who knows how long we will stay there) is BigSexyChatPodCheck out our merch at www.BigSexyTees.com (credit to Toni Tails for setting this up for us!)Chrystal also sells sex toys via her website BlissConnection.com and you can use the code BSC20 for 20% off. Big thanks to our Sponsor Liberator Bedroom Adventures. We ADORE the products from Liberator. And, to be clear, we all loved their products even before they became a sponsor!

492 - Workaholics Aren't Actually More Productive

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2024 63:25

Today, we're diving into workaholism and its effect on relationships. A lot of us in western (American) culture pride ourselves on working hard and never taking a break, but how effective is this mentality, really? Often, things like our relationships may suffer without a healthy work/life balance, and so today we'll be discussing why some of us work so hard and so much, some habits to look out for that may be causing more harm than good, and how to shift workaholic tendencies so your relationships can thrive. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get access to “What's Your Jealousy Trying To Tell You?” a workshop by the author of Polysecure, Jessica Fern. Head to heyplura.com/multiamory and enter the invite code “Multiamory” during onboarding Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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“Polysecure” Book Review With Yanderee Cintron-Davila | Uncle Strib Ep 62

IV Talks Podcast Network

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2024 70:13

Host Finis Stribling IV and special guest Yanderee Cintron-Davila do a deep review of the book “Polysecure” by Jessica Fern Sponsored by: Final Form Supplements High quality supplements for everyone, whether you are a hardcore gym rat needing gains, a couch potato that just wants some multivitamins, or somewhere in between we got what you need. FinalFormSupps.com “Polysecure” Book Review With Yanderee Cintron-Davila | Uncle Strib Ep 62

489 - Multiamory Presents: Unmet Needs in Polyamory

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Play Episode Listen Later Jul 23, 2024 60:55

Today we're very excited to be showcasing an episode from our good friend Libby Sinback's podcast, Making Polyamory Work. In this episode, she's discussing unmet needs in polyamorous relationships from multiple angles. Libby Sinback is a queer, polyamorous mom, the host of the podcast Making Polyamory Work and a coach for people who want extraordinary relationships while choosing to live and love outside the status quo. She is certified in Relational Life Therapy, and has coached hundreds of people in breaking their unhelpful relationship patterns so that they can have happier, more nourishing love in their life. Libby believes love is why we're here, and how we heal. Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORYThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get access to “What's Your Jealousy Trying To Tell You?” a workshop by the author of Polysecure, Jessica Fern. Head to heyplura.com/multiamory and enter the invite code “Multiamory” during onboardingMidwest Love Fest is a brand new all day conference about relationships, identity, community, and non-monogamy coming August 17th to Indianapolis, Indiana.Get 10% off tickets with promo code MULTIAMORY at swlovefest.com/midwest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

488 - Out and Empowered: Protections and Visibility for non-monogamy with OPEN

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2024 56:45

Today we're excited to be joined by Brett Chamberlin from OPEN! Brett (he/him) is a social impact organizer with over a decade of leadership experience building a more just and joyous future. He is the founder and Executive Director of OPEN, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. Prior to launching OPEN, Brett worked in the environmental movement as the Director of Community Engagement at The Story of Stuff Project and the co-founder of the Post Landfill Action Network. He lives in the California Bay Area.We'll be chatting with Brett about progress for non-monogamous folks over the past few years, from securing rights to overall awareness of non-monogamy as a relationship style. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Midwest Love Fest is a brand new all day conference about relationships, identity, community, and non-monogamy coming August 17th to Indianapolis, Indiana.Get 10% off tickets with promo code MULTIAMORY at swlovefest.com/midwestGet access to “What's Your Jealousy Trying To Tell You?” a workshop by the author of Polysecure, Jessica Fern. Head to heyplura.com/multiamory and enter the invite code “Multiamory” during onboarding Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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486 - Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center with Rhaina Cohen

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2024 66:50

Today we're talking about friendship, love, and romance with Rhaina Cohen. Rhaina is the author of the bestselling book The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. She's an award-winning producer and editor for NPR's documentary podcast Embedded. And she's written about social connection and policy for The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post and other outlets.Find her on Instagram @rhainacohen, or her newsletter here. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Connect with your partner every day using Paired. Download the app at paired.com/MULTI.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get hair care that is completely customized to your hair and your life AND get 15% off at Prose.com/multiamoryGet access to “What's Your Jealousy Trying To Tell You?” a workshop by the author of Polysecure, Jessica Fern. Head to heyplura.com/multiamory and enter the invite code “Multiamory” during onboarding Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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95 Chronische Schmerzen - Oder wie Krankheit die Beziehung fordert

Beziehungskosmos

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2024 64:31

Für diese Folge haben wir Erfahrungen aus unserer Community eingeholt und unfassbar viele Rückmeldungen bekommen. Chronische Schmerzen sind ein riesiges Thema, doch stehen sie oft im Hintergrund. Das Votum war klar: Dieses Thema braucht mehr Sichtbarkeit! Und dazu wollen wir mit dieser Folge einen kleinen Beitrag leisten. Chronische Schmerzen und Krankheiten beeinflussen unsere Beziehungen, ob wir es wollen oder nicht. Sie verändern die Dynamik, fordern das System heraus und brauchen Geduld und Frusttoleranz. Auf allen Seiten. Es geht um Zuwendung und Abgrenzung, um Mitgefühl und Selbstdurchsetzung. Um Kompromisse und Akzeptanz. Was tun, wenn die Leichtigkeit und Spontaneität nicht mehr gebeben ist? Wenn man nicht zur Last fallen, aber sich doch mitteilen will? Was sind die häufigsten Herausforderungen der vom Schmerz betroffenen Person und welche die der Partner*innen? In dieser Folge des Beziehungspodcasts «Beziehungskosmos» besprechen Journalistin Sabine Meyer und Psychotherapeutin Felizitas Ambauen, was chronische Schmerzen auf der Paar- und Beziehungsebene bedeutet, welche Strategien hilfreich sein können, um besser mit den Herausforderungen umzugehen und auch, wie man eine Empathie-Erschöpfung vermeidet. Buch zur FolgeEloff Karra: Chronische Schmerzen – lebendige Partnerschaft, Kösel, 2024Buch zum PodcastAmbauen, Felizitas & Meyer, Sabine: Beziehungskosmos – eine Anleitung zur Selbsterkenntnis, Aris Verlag, 2023Verwandte Podcast-Folgen: Ressourcen (5)Kommunikation (9)Selbstfürsorge (12)Nein-Sagen (23)Wetterbericht (90)People Pleasing (92)Energiemanagement (93)Wir sind ein unabhängiger Podcast und finanzieren uns allein durch den Support unserer Community. Wenn Ihr unsere Arbeit unterstützen möchtet, geht auf www.beziehungskosmos.comUnter «Support us» könnt Ihr mit ein paar Klicks ein Abo einrichten.Einmaligen Support ist auch via Twint 0795553950 möglich.Beziehungskosmos LIVE? Alle Events findet Ihr hier!Beziehungskosmos – DAS BUCH: Hier bestellen!

248 Friendship Paradigms: Monogamy and Polyamory and Platonic Partnerships

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2024 26:15

Friendships Paradigms: Monogamy and Polyamory and Platonic Partnerships Patricia discusses the concept of monogamy and polyamory in friendships and platonic partnerships. She explores how the traditional view of monogamy has a hierarchy when one person enters a romantic relationship. Neurodivergent folks often have closer friendships that are more like platonic partnerships. Patricia shares her insights on the importance of defining communication patterns and expectations in friendships. She also reflects on the challenges of permanence and attachment wounds in relationships. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways The traditional view of monogamy can impact friendships when one person enters a romantic relationship. Defining communication patterns and expectations in friendships is important for maintaining connection and avoiding attachment wounds. The challenges of permanence can affect neurodivergent individuals, leading to feelings of disconnection and uncertainty. Embracing blended parts and honoring individual needs in relationships is essential for creating healthy and fulfilling connections. Additional Takeaways Understanding the dynamics of relationships through the lens of attachment theory, particularly in the context of neurodivergent individuals. Exploring the nuances of polyamory and monogamy in modern society and how they intersect with platonic partnerships. Unpacking the concept of primary and secondary relationships within the framework of monogamous norms. Delving into attachment injuries and how they can impact friendships and romantic connections. Gaining insights into navigating blended parts within relationships and the challenges they may present. Examining the shifts in relationships when one party enters a new romantic relationship, especially in the context of monogamous views. Learning about communication patterns and compatibility in friendships and partnerships, particularly in the realm of polyamory. Discovering strategies for healing attachment wounds and fostering healthier relationships, as discussed in Jessica Fern's book "Polysecure." Reflecting on the differences in communication styles between individuals and how they can affect relationship dynamics. Exploring the complexities of non-monogamous relationships and platonic partnerships in the modern world. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness and open communication in maintaining strong friendships and romantic connections. Considering the impact of societal norms on relationships and how they influence our perceptions of friendship and partnership. Embracing the diversity of relationship structures and finding resonance in the experiences shared by individuals navigating polyamory, monogamy, and platonic partnerships. Sound Bites "Attachment wounds and the challenges of permanence in relationships" "Polyamory and platonic partnerships" "Feeling left behind in a friendship" Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction 01:50 Monogamy and Platonic Partnerships 11:48 Defining Communication Patterns 15:24 Feeling Left Behind in Friendships 23:21 Permanence and Limited Communication 26:06 Embracing Blended Parts in Relationships PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern Episode 109: The Power of Attachment Styles with Jessica Fern https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-109-the-power-of-attachment-styles-and-the-highly-sensitive-person-hsp-jessica-fern-ms/ Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Episode 075: Sexologist Bridget Scholes on Connected Pleasure, Mismatched Libidos, Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire, and Piss Play

Girls Gone Deep

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2024 71:20

Elle and Vee chat with Bridget Scholes (@bridgetscholessexology) who is a sexologist in Australia. She also owns her on dildo sex company, Madame Dahlia (@madame.dahlia).Being sexually attracted to others while married. (2:03)Healthy sex life in marriage and now divorced. (8:14)Using the lifestyle app Feeld to meet partners and always saying yes. (11:43)Sex club tips and lessons learned. (14:31)Going to sex clubs alone vs with a partner. (18:28)ENM nuggets: fostering communication, honesty and self reflection. (23:35)If a previously discussed boundary feels right in the moment, should you push it? (26:40)Common issues brought up in couples relationship therapy: reigniting desire in a longterm relationship, and the misconception of mismatched libidos. (28:13)How do partners with mismatched libidos navigate a conversation to get on the same page? (31:29)Pleasure languages, spontaneous vs responsive desire... or in other words, an Ellle vs a Vee. (34:07)Books that have helped on a personal sexual level and journey into non monogamy: Polysecure, Come As You Are, Mating in Captivity and other self help books. (36:46)Seducing yourself: Madame Dahlia dildo company, connected pleasure vs vibrator play. (40:45)Ebbs and flows of sex and how to get out of your head. (45:04)How to foster desire: sensual and simple pleasures. (48:58)Using social media to look at erotic art. (53:50)How male orgasms differ physiologically from female orgasms. (57:12)Kink: turned on by pee play / piss play. (59:49)Letting go of the messiness of sex, and dissociation from masturbation. (1:02:18)Website: bridgetscholessexology.com.auWhere to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shopContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.comWHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameWoo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

Episode 64: Queer Haven Books, Columbia, South Carolina

Bookstore Explorer

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2024 32:00

Queer Haven Books is a new shop whose mission is to provide a place of safety and refuge for the queer community in the South. Owner Baker Rogers joins me to discuss what inspired the shop and what's ahead for its future.Books We Talk About: The Thirty Names of Night by Zeyn Joukhadar, Confessions of the Fox by Jordy Rosenberg, Delilah Green Doesn't Care by Ashley Herring Blake, Less by Andrew Sean Greer, The Guncle by Steven Rowley, Rubyfruit Jungle by Rita Mae Brown, Polysecure and Polywise by Jessica FernCoaching Conversations in 2024In 2024 we're going to be going to monthly themes and I would also encourage you to...Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

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Is Polyamory Right For You?

Trying To Figure It Out

Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2024 36:09

This week on Trying To Figure It Out we are diving into all things polyamory. Poly therapist and expert Dr. Manijeh Badiee is here to answer all your questions and share her own experiences in polyamorous relationships. Dr. Badiee lays out all the basics of what polyamory is, and then explains what configurations polyamory can take and what you need to consider before entering a poly relationship. How do you deal with feelings of jealousy? What's the difference between non-monogamy, polyamory, and an open relationship? What boundaries or rules should you set in a poly relationship? Dr. Badiee shares what has worked for her and her two life partners over the years and also brings her wisdom as a therapist working with poly individuals and couples. There is so much to learn. Have you always been curious about polyamory? This episode is for you. Enjoy! Additional resources: Dr. Badiee's website: https://www.polytherapist.com/ RADAR worksheet: https://www.multiamory.com/radar Polyamory Devotional: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/122758252-a-polyamory-devotional Polysecure and Polywise: https://www.jessicafern.com/books Also available as a video podcast on YouTube. Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@allypetitti?lang=en Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allypetitti/ Al P's Three: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/27My1AtDVYwrb7kM0Ilqm2?si=2a70434127aa4519&nd=1 Host: Ally Petitti Producer/Editor: Eliza Laycock Camera/Audio: Jeremy Bassett and Tristan Pelletier Research: Jillian Himmelwright

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195: Dr. Judy Ho KNOWS Attachment, Relationships, Healing & How to Secure Your Life Vision

Jones.Show: Thought-Full Conversation

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2024 33:44

Dr. Judy Ho is a triple board certified and licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, a tenured associate professor at Pepperdine University, television and podcast host, and published author. Dr. Judy conducts neuropsychological and psychodiagnostic evaluations, serves as an expert witness in legal cases, conducts clinical research, provides expert commentary to media, and is a sought-after public speaker. Dr. Judy has appeared on hundreds of television programs and documentaries as a psychology expert, co-hosting the Emmy award-winning show “The Doctors” and the daytime syndicated program “Face the Truth.” She also regularly contributes her psychology expertise to podcasts, radio shows, and online and print periodicals. She writes for Psychology Today, serves as a health advisor for Forbes, and is a featured doctor on Medcircle. Her new book, “The New Rules of Attachment,” provides a revolutionary approach to attachment theory that teaches readers how to heal their inner child to change their anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment style in relationships, friendships, at work, and home—perfect for readers of How to Do the Work, Polysecure, and Amir Levine's Attached. Did you know that attachment style impacts more than romantic relationships? As it turns out, most of us are thinking about Attachment Theory all wrong, and triple board-certified clinical and forensic neuropsychologist. Dr. Judy Ho is here to set the record straight. ON THE KNOWS with Randall Kenneth Jones is a podcast featuring host Randall Kenneth Jones (bestselling author, speaker & creative communications consultant) and Susan C. Bennett (the original voice of Siri). ON THE KNOWS is produced and edited by Kevin Randall Jones. DR. JUDY HO Online: Twitter: https://twitter.com/drjudyho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorjudyho LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjudyho/ Web: www.drjudyho.com ON THE KNOWS Online: Join us in the Podcast Lounge on Facebook. X (Randy): https://twitter.com/randallkjones Instagram (Randy): https://www.instagram.com/randallkennethjones/ Facebook (Randy): https://www.facebook.com/mindzoo/ Web: RandallKennethJones.com X (Susan): https://twitter.com/SiriouslySusan Instagram (Susan): https://www.instagram.com/siriouslysusan/ Facebook (Susan): https://www.facebook.com/siriouslysusan/ Web: SusanCBennett.com LinkedIn (Kevin): https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevin-randall-jones/ Web: KevinRandallJones.com www.OnTheKnows.com

Do Open Relationships Create an Illusion of Freedom?

Slut

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2024 48:30

It's Valentine's Day and I couldn't think of anything more romantic to talk about than polyamory. Recently, it's been having a cultural moment and in this episode, I question if open relationships create an illusion of freedom. To help answer that question I read the latest in poly “feminist” discourse, Molly Roden Winter's novel, More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. I compare her relationship to Simone De Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Satre's and read an excerpt from The Woman Destroyed. After that, we investigate what primal panic is and how it's activated in non-monogamous relationships by reading Polysecure by Jessica Fern. References & Mentions in the Show: Polysecure, Jessica Fern Polyamory, The Ruling Class's Latest Fad by Austin Tyler Harper The Woman Destroyed, Simone De Beauvoir More: A Memoir of Open Marriage, Molly Roden Winter

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140 [Replay] Balancing individuation & secure attachment with Polysecure author Jessica Fern

Project Relationship

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2024 54:12

Jennifer Fern is coming BACK to Playing With Fire next week! So this week, please enjoy a replay of another wonderful episode we did together. ~ It's normal to want your relationship to feel secure. It's normal to want to individuate. It's normal to want to explore what life can look like beyond the constraints of default monogamy. But how do you actually deal with your specific attachment wounds and still create a love that makes space for multiple loving connections? Joli & Jessica dove into how attachment theory can help us make a relationship that actually works for us, but we went beyond the surface of attachment theory. Y'all are smart- and she's done a lot of interviews already (google is your friend), so I wanted to go deeper and find out how Jessica weaves other theories into her work and how she helps people move out of relational trauma loops and into the life they desire. Jealousy, internal family systems/parts work, and narrative therapy... oh, and some sneak peeks of Jessica's upcoming book Polywise! Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at www.JessicaFern.com JOIN The Year of Opening community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at ⁠www.theyearofopening.com⁠ Playing With Fire has been featured as one of the top 5 ⁠best non-monogamy podcasts⁠! Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at⁠⁠ www.JoliQuiz.com⁠

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Amory 84 | Polywise Reflections with Jessica Fern & David Cooley

Amory

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 7, 2023 53:14

Jessica Fern's first book, PolySecure, rocked my world and started me down my path of Self-Love. Her 2nd book, Polywise, authored with David Cooley is just as revolutionary - right in the sweet spot of polyamory and personal growth. I appreciate both Jessica and David's candid honesty regarding their own personal life paths and how they have gained the knowledge they included in the book. What a conversation! FYI - part of the episode we had to cut because we lost connection with Jessica. In my edits, I accidentally cut out the part where David says how you can find him. Please find him directly at www.resortativerelationship.com Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy, The Polyseucre Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com. (IG @Jessicafern411) David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. In his private practice, David specializes in working with non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. ⁠www.resortativerelationship.com Looking for more love in your life? Start with yourself? The next Self-Love Journey starts in January 2024! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amorypodcast/support

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5D Mystic Enlightenment Solo-Polyamory Polysecure Functional Adult Community Relationships

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2023 49:14

Don't tune in if you don't love life and humanity because this won't be for you. Don't tune in if you still believe in evil or the devil. Topic not ideal for ego-sensitive or emotionally sensitive (on any/all life - including socio-pol-eco - topics) people. Please do not tune in. Thank you! All IHP content resonates with people who want to achieve enlightenment the human way. IHP podcast host Maria Florio shares voices, stories and perspectives from her 5D mystic enlightenment functional adult life to give examples of what it's like to know emotional self-regulation skills, experience secure attachment, have functional adult conversations and experience 5D relationships (5D and beyond vibing people). You hear about how easy it is to be yourself, to pursue inner growth, to unconditionally love, to have compassion, and live your best life with outer and inner-well being in the forefront. Also explored, how to communicate and handle emotionally insecure adaptive children grown ups, the 3D or 4D vibing individuals, those who stay within insecure emotional human suffering vibration experience and mindset, or who hold drama as the go-to in relationships, or use projection due to unresolved and unaddressed trauma, attachment wounds, and inner child wounds that come up in their behavior. Since trauma is relational and intimacy necessary to heal it, through Maria's stories and perspectives people get an idea of securely attached options on how to handle projection to the best of your ability and create a safe environment for another person to heal or for you to set a healthy boundary if the person bringing the projection (3D/4D drama vibe) is not seeking to move beyond their safety behavior/unresolved trauma emotional response. All of what we do in our day-to-day relationships, conversations, and interactions can bring the potential for healing and expansion of consciousness. This and more is what the IHP content and community is all about. Welcome and thanks for tuning in! Love, Maria ♾️

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Purity Culture 101

Sunday School Dropouts

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2023 82:14

It's time to talk about purity culture! Join Andrew and Laura as they begin a mini-series on all things purity culture. In today's episode we discuss the history of purity culture, our own experiences in it, the long term impacts it's had on their clients and some of the ways they work with clients when it comes to recovering from purity culture. This is the first episode in a 6-episode series where we will be discussing the impact of purity culture, some of the specific implications for individuals socialized male and female (since in purity culture there is a very rigid, binary gender concept) as well as talk to people about their lived experiences of healing from purity culture. And, you won't want to miss today's vocabulary lesson where we ask…what is an Inner Child? Do we actually have a tiny child living within us? Resources mentioned in the podcast episode: Homecoming by John Bradshaw No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz www.scarleteen.com Our Whole Lives (comprehensive sex education) Polysecure by Jessica Fern The Care and Keeping of You 1 & 2 by American Girl Library This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions. The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @deconstruct_everything Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com Hosts: Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs Music by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

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5D Mystic Enlightenment Solo-Polyamory Polysecure Functional Adult Community Relationships

trauma attachment book summaries polysecure

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2023 56:35

Don't tune in if you don't love life and humanity because this won't be for you. Don't tune in if you still believe in evil or the devil. Topic not ideal for ego-sensitive or emotionally sensitive (on any/all life - including socio-pol-eco - topics) people. Please do not tune in. Thank you! All IHP content resonates with people who want to achieve enlightenment the human way. IHP podcast host Maria Florio shares voices, stories and perspectives from her 5D mystic enlightenment functional adult life to give examples of what it's like to know emotional self-regulation skills, experience secure attachment, have functional adult conversations and experience 5D relationships (5D and beyond vibing people). You hear about how easy it is to be yourself, to pursue inner growth, to unconditionally love, to have compassion, and live your best life with outer and inner-well being in the forefront. Also explored, how to communicate and handle emotionally insecure adaptive children grown ups, the 3D or 4D vibing individuals, those who stay within insecure emotional human suffering vibration experience and mindset, or who hold drama as the go-to in relationships, or use projection due to unresolved and unaddressed trauma, attachment wounds, and inner child wounds that come up in their behavior. Since trauma is relational and intimacy necessary to heal it, through Maria's stories and perspectives people get an idea of securely attached options on how to handle projection to the best of your ability and create a safe environment for another person to heal or for you to set a healthy boundary if the person bringing the projection (3D/4D drama vibe) is not seeking to move beyond their safety behavior/unresolved trauma emotional response. All of what we do in our day-to-day relationships, conversations, and interactions can bring the potential for healing and expansion of consciousness. This and more is what the IHP content and community is all about. Welcome and thanks for tuning in! Love, Maria ♾️

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Polysecure - Book Summary

20 Minute Books

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2023 16:49

"Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy"

5D Mystic Enlightenment Solo-Polyamory Polysecure Functional Adult Community Relationships

Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Interviews in Polyamory and Swinging

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2023 55:40

Don't tune in if you don't love life and humanity because this won't be for you. Don't tune in if you still believe in evil or the devil. Topic not ideal for ego-sensitive or emotionally sensitive (on any/all life - including socio-pol-eco - topics) people. Please do not tune in. Thank you! All IHP content resonates with people who want to achieve enlightenment the human way. Sharing IHP-IG 5D SEE (Krishna Leela, Shiva and Kali, and beyond infinite higher human consciousness) channeled guidance, stories, perspectives and food for thought on 5D relationships and what it's like to go beyond spirituality as an inspiring human potential inner growth 5D self-empowered enlightened person in the enlightenment soul age group. 5D relationships are not set in stone. They are not people who have necessarily met. They are not having to include or be body based in any way shape or form. Some 5D relationship interactions have never happened in person, but only in the consciousness realm (sleep/dream or meditative state). The 5D relationship is unconditionally loving, quantum based, no attachments or entanglements. For the 5D relationship trust is about expanding consciousness not about actions or interactions, or about what you tell or don't tell each other. 5D relationships always involve functional adults, which are people who are: forgiving, nuanced, know all people have trauma, respect all mental health clusters - including cluster B. 5D relationships involve the enlightenment soul age group people who are always able to say "f**" you", to agree to disagree even on the most important and sensitive topics, intimate or world-wide, and to continue treating each other with unconditional love, respect, and kindness. 5D relationships are all inclusive and DO NOT do cancel culture. 5D relationships are "apples and oranges" people with differences, even humongous differences, who accept each other for who they are as humans, normal people with flaws and imperfections who can communicate about things, have compassion and use mental health and brain science to open up healthy adult conversations about attachment and biological rudeness, and so forth. 5D relationships are based on everyday functional adult human beings who evolve consciously together, who tap into their infinite higher human consciousness potential and expansion, who are constant spicers of life, and have the bigger picture in mind when it comes to the world. All IHP podcast episodes are for: the 5D Self-Empowered Enlightened (SEE) person and collective who has a mind that embraces and applies in a day-to-day way mahasamadhi; the person who is in oneness consciousness (aka christ consciousness and/or avatar consciousness); the person who is pursuing enlightenment and spirituality the human and spiritual way and beyond (infinite consciousness mindset, lifestyle, and journey); the person who is in a state of bliss with life and humanity's evolutionary and expanding consciousness journey and process; the person who in the enlightenment soul age group, the person who thinks and goes beyond all written text or accumulated data points; the person who knows evil doesn't exist, who knows the myth of "battling the forces of evil" has been busted and that we are "battling the forces of trauma" and NOT by actually "battling", but instead, by actually being and sharing love, compassion, understanding; the person who has somatic empathy and supports healing of trauma through the infinite capacity to love all, who chooses to bring forth unconditional love, compassion and space for all humanity, life, and the world; the person who is a life-sensitive person, NOT an ego-sensitive person; a person who does NOT battle or fight humanity, but who loves supporting however they can and uses equanimity, curiosity and creativity to handle situations. The IHP messages and content only resonate with people who navigate the infinite higher human consciousness potential realm 24/7. Love, Maria

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Ep 312 - Jessica + David

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2023 79:33

Jessica and David have been in many different iterations of relationship together for over twenty years... They were friends, they dated, they were friends again, they dated again, they got married, they had a child, they divorced, they became friends again, and now they're nesting co-parents who refer to themselves as "poly intimates" and life partners. This interview is a beautiful and vulnerable look inside what that journey was like for them together and as individuals, and how they arrived here. And, where "here" even is. Jessica Fern is the author of the wildly popular book Polysecure. From her website: Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides nonmonogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory. She and David Cooley recently released their new book, Polywise. From her website: Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that nonmonogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy. Polywise provides both the conceptual framework to better understand the shift from monogamy to nonmonogamy and the tools to navigate the next steps. To learn more about Jessica's work, please visit her website. Similarly, to learn more about David's work as a restorative justice facilitator, please visit his website. Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet! Check out our weekly peer support groups! Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed! Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

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Dating as an Intimacy Pro with Brian Gibney

The Intimacy Lab

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2023 52:10

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and Brian Gibney discuss various aspects of dating and relationships. They explore the concept of nature's order versus culture's order, highlighting the importance of safety and communication in building intimate connections. They share their personal experiences with dating and navigating hookup culture. The conversation also delves into the significance of managing expectations, renegotiating relationships, and embracing adaptability. They emphasize the need for open and honest communication, as well as the importance of defining relationships based on individual needs and desires. In this conversation, Michelle and Brian discuss the principles and practices of dating and relationships. They emphasize the importance of being authentic and transparent in relationships, allowing for self-selection and compatibility. They also explore the idea of embracing all aspects of ourselves and finding partners who accept us fully. Creating intimacy and connection, choosing close relationships, maintaining boundaries and autonomy, and living the work outside of work are also discussed. Takeaways Safety and communication are crucial in building intimate connections. Managing expectations and renegotiating relationships are essential for personal growth and satisfaction. Labels and definitions in relationships can vary and should be based on individual needs and desires. Adaptability and open communication are key characteristics to look for in a partner. Be authentic and transparent in relationships, allowing for self-selection and compatibility. Embrace all aspects of yourself and find partners who accept you fully. Create intimacy and connection by showing up fully and allowing others to hold space for you. Maintain boundaries and autonomy, only getting involved when it personally affects you. Brian Gibney (he/him) is a reformed scientist, forever geek, and ex-circus performer. Now he's helping others as a surrogate partner, intimacy coach, educator, and advocate. He can be found on Instagram at https://instagram.com/brian_gibney_intimacy and at https://BrianGibney.org. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Links from today's episode: The video that inspired Michelle's poster in her office: https://vimeo.com/468113082/c8711f0dd6?fbclid=IwAR0K51Z1UeleQx8Bc1FdoWscqTcXMvBcDfUx1lL0m4G6ymuPETBRcV7heDA https://Fetlife.com https://cuddlist.com/michelle Wheel of Consent: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/ Polysecure by Jessica Fern: https://amzn.to/45btqQs Thanks for joining us! If you loved what you heard and want to leave us 5 stars, I invite you to leave a review on your favorite podcast app. If you'd like to ask a question, please use the form at IntimacyLabPodcast.com.

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Ep. 15 - Jessica Fern & David Cooley on "Polywise"

Evolving Love Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2023 52:28

Jessica Fern is the author of "Polysecure". She is a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert. With David Cooley, Jessica co-authored her new book "Polywise".David Cooley is a professional restorative justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. In this episode Jessica and David share about their own experiences with opening up, their thoughts on attachment and codependency, psychedelics and polyamory and their new book, Polywise. To get in contact, reach out to us at evolvingloveproject@gmail.com @evolvingloveproject evolvingloveproject.comGuest Links:Jessica Fernhttps://www.jessicafern.com/David Cooley:https://www.restorativerelationship.com/

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Episode 216: How Opening Up A Relationship Can Change You

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2023 30:16

There is an "awakening of self" that happens when people practice non-monogamy. This awakening has the potential to be exciting and exhilarating, but also frightening and destabilizing because you and your partner(s) may change in ways that you never anticipated. In today's show, we're going to explore a helpful model for understanding where each partner is during a relationship transition. This framework can serve as a useful practical guide when it comes to navigating the challenges that occur in the process of opening up or when exploring a new form of non-monogamy. I am joined once again by Jessica Fern and David Cooley, the co-authors of the new book, Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. Jessica is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. She is also author of the book Polysecure, which we spoke about previously on the show. David is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, who created the Restorative Relationship Conversations Model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. Some of the specific questions we discuss in this episode include: What does an "awakening of self" look like? How can opening up a relationship change you? What are the 5 different stages in the process of self-awakening? Why do partners sometimes move in different directions during a self-awakening? In what ways is self-awakening a positive experience? In what ways is it painful? To learn more, you can visit Jessica and David's websites, and preorder Polywise here. Thank you to our sponsors! Thinking about opening your relationship? Get help from Beducated! Featuring more than 100 online courses taught by the experts, Beducated brings pleasure-based sex and relationship education directly into your bedroom. Enjoy a free trial today and get 50% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: https://beducate.me/pd2333-lehmiller *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

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Episode 215: Dealing With Differences In Relationships

Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2023 32:46

We tend to be attracted to partners who are similar to us—and that makes sense. But no matter how similar you and your partner are, there are always going to be some areas where you differ. And while those differences have the potential to help a relationship thrive, they can also drive you apart. So let's talk about navigating differences in relationships. In this episode, we're going to focus on dealing with differences when you're in a consensually non-monogamous relationship, but a lot of the information is applicable no matter what kind of relationship you're in. My guests today are Jessica Fern and David Cooley, the co-authors of the new book, Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. Jessica is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. She is also author of the book Polysecure, which we spoke about previously on the show. David is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, who created the Restorative Relationship Conversations Model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. Some of the specific questions we discuss in this episode include: How important is similarity in relationships? How can opening up a relationship amplify differences between partners? How do you navigate communication differences in relationships? Why is it important for partners to do an inventory of their similarities and differences? How can non-monogamy help relationships thrive when big differences exist between partners? To learn more, you can visit Jessica and David's websites, and preorder Polywise here. Thank you to our sponsors! Explore the intersection of sex and technology at this year's Security Sexuality Conference, which will be held October 19th and 20th in Detroit, MI. Securing Sexuality is the premier conference for people passionate about promoting sex positive, science-based, and secure interpersonal relationships. Continuing education credits are available for qualified professionals. Purchase your pass at securingsexuality.com Support sex science by becoming a friend of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Visit kinseyinstitute.org to make a donation to support ongoing research projects on critical topics. You can also show your support by following the Kinsey Institute on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

What is Love? Types of Polyamory & Attachment & Loving Yourself First

The Sex Positive Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2023 40:10

Today I talk about polyamory as an umbrella term— reframing poly on a huge continuum to many constructs with partner(s). I also explore how poly can help us learn about our relationship attachment, break down cis-heteronormativity & explore what we genuinely need in our loving relationships. Recommended books - Polysecure by Jessica Fern, The Ethical Slut by Easton & Hardy, Opening up by Tristan Taramino

#50 Transitioning to Non-Monogamy: Personal Journeys, Communication, and Trust

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2023 28:15 Transcription Available

Ever wondered about non-monogamy and how to open up a relationship? Join us as Jess shares her personal journey and we deconstruct societal pressures with our insightful guest, Jess Lynn. We get real about the challenges and rewards of transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of taking your time and approaching the conversation with curiosity, openness, and honesty.Together, we explore the critical role of communication and trust in maintaining a healthy non-monogamous partnership, and discuss common mistakes to avoid along the way. Jess Lynn shares her expertise and helpful resources like the book Polysecure and the podcast Multi-Amory, while we offer our own candid experiences and her signature coaching program, Non-Monogamous Newbies. Don't miss this enlightening discussion perfect for anyone considering opening up their relationship or simply wanting to learn more about non-monogamous lifestyles.Support the showThanks for listening!NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/supportEmail questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcast

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Problem Plastikmüll – Fünf Lösungsansätze für unser Kunststoffproblem

Einstein

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2023 36:47

Wir stecken in der Plastikkrise, sagt die Organisation Oceancare. Was tun mit dem Plastik, bevor er in den Seen und dem Meer endet? Die Forschung zeigt Lösungen – mit fluoreszierendem Kunststoff für besseres Recycling, plastikfressenden Würmern und einem Superenzym dank künstlicher Evolution. Das Plastik-Experiment Sie fressen sich durch Styropor und können davon leben. Schwarzkäferlarven, sogenannte Superwürmer. Chris Rinke von der University of Queensland in Australien hat zusammen mit seinem Team Schwarzkäferlarven und ihr Potenzial im Kampf gegen die Plastik-Berge untersucht. Doch funktioniert das wirklich? Grösseres Plastik-Problem als gedacht Weitaus mehr Plastik landet in der Umwelt als bisher angenommen, das bestätigt die Forschung von Roman Lehner, Wissenschaftlicher Projektleiter der Sail & Explore Association. Er untersucht den Plastikgehalt in Ozeanen und in Schweizer Seen. Schätzungsweise schwimmen sogar aus den Flüssen 20 Tonnen Mikroplastik pro Jahr in die Meere. Das unzerstörbare Material Plastik besteht aus langen Polymerketten. Meistens wird der Kunststoff aus Erdöl hergestellt. Dazu wird Erdöl in seine Einzelteile zerlegt und neu angeordnet. Synthetische Polymere lassen sich kaum aufbrechen und werden darum nur sehr langsam abgebaut. Teilweise braucht es 500 bis 1000 Jahre, bis sie sich zersetzen. Markierter Kunststoff Will man Plastik wiederverwenden, muss der Plastik gut sortiert und sortenrein sein. Denn Plastik ist nicht gleich Plastik. PVC, PET, PE, PTA – die unterschiedlichen Plastiksorten finden wir alle in unserem Alltag. Jochen Moesslein hat mit Polysecure eine fluoreszierende Markierung erfunden, die es ihnen ermöglicht, eine 99-prozentige Sortierquote zu erreichen. Dabei wird die Fluoreszenz in den Kunststoff oder das Etikett eingearbeitet und von einem Laser erkannt. Plastikfressender Pilz Pilz 943. Das ist der verheissungsvolle Kandidat aus den Schweizer Bergen, der Bio-Plastik frisst. Forschende der eidgenössischen Forschungsanstalt Wald, Schnee und Land (WSL) haben aus Bodenproben im Engadin über 800 Pilze und Bakterien isoliert mit dem Ziel: Mikroorganismen finden, die Bio-Plastik wie Kompostsäcke oder landwirtschaftliche Mulch-Folie abbauen. Der Pilz 943 hat sich hervorgetan. Er baut während zwei Monaten 50 Prozent eines Stücks Plastik ab. Superenzym gegen Plastik dank künstlicher Evolution Auf dem Friedhof in Leipizg haben Forschende ein Enzym gefunden, das bei 60-70° Celsius PET-Verpackungen innert einer Stunde in seine Einzelteile zerlegt. Das Team von Christian Sonnendecker und Wolfgang Zimmermann will nun die DNS des Enzyms modifizieren. Dank künstlicher Evolution zum Superenzym, das noch schneller Plastik zersetzen kann. Sie entwickeln eine Methode, wie sie Tausende Proben schnellstmöglich analysieren und dank künstlicher Intelligenz auswerten können. Chemisches Recycling Ein geheimer Cocktail aus Chemikalien erlaubt es Samantha Anderson und ihrem Team von Depoly, Plastikabfall zu recyclen. Dank des chemischen Recyclings können sie alle PET-Teile bei Zimmertemperatur aus dem Plastik-Abfall separieren. Dabei wird der Plastik-Grundstoff TPA rausgefiltert, ein weisses Pulver. Normalerweise wird dieses Pulver aus Erdöl hergestellt.

S5 Ep 9. Trust is better

B4U Swipe

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2023 35:20

In this episode of B4U Swipe, Dr Lauren and Dr. Kris continue discussing the nine principles of relationship anarchy. Principle 8: “Trust is Better”Episode highlights include: Kris's love of the word “penultimate” and Lauren's dislike of the phrase “quickly forgiven,” PolySecure and attachment theory, interdependence vs codependency, remembering “it's not always about you,” adopting trust “safe words,” wheel of consent, and Rubik's cubes.Overall, we recognize that trust can be hard, has to be earned, AND agree that, when it's there, it makes loving relationships better.

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114. Attachment styles in poly and nonmonogamous relationships with Jessica Fern

Lit AF

Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2023 52:38

In this episode, I interview Jessica Fern author of Polysecure. I really wanted to have her on the show because this book is an amazing resource about attachment for both monogamous and nonmonogamous relationships. We discuss all things attachment including external environmental factors that affect our attachment style, our attachment with mother earth, and how to heal your attachment in a relationship or multiple relationships. She shares about how different attachment types including anxious preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidants/disorganized show up in nonmonogamous relationships. We finish the conversation by talking about the tools she is using in her current relationships to show up securely with and for each other and the topic of her next book. I so appreciate this conversation and recommend this episode to anyone interested in learning more about attachment whether they are monogamous or not.Visit Jessica Fern's website: JessicaFern.comFollow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in working with me through 1:1 coaching to show up securely in relationships book a discovery call to see if it's a good fit for you. Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

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The actual 5D consciousness person loves humanity to death, is a secure attachment functional adult, and is polysecure with clairs - Inspiring Human Potential podcast host Maria Florio

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Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2023 9:56

In this IHP podcast video short on Spotify, audio episode on other IHP podcast platforms, Maria talks about the 5D person's array of interests, which range from physics to psychology, to crystals and tarot, and more. We look at the unconditionally loving lifestyle and 5D SEE Relationships with polysecure secure attachment functional adults. Lastly, a bit on the new 5D SEE Relationship subscription based model podcast topics to premier on 4-4-2023 - The first episode will be open to all so you can evaluate if it's for you. The title of the new upcoming podcast series is: The Inspiring Human Potential Inner Growth 5D SEE Enlightenment Functional Adult Love Language. Please, don't tune in if you don't love life and humanity because this won't be for you; if you still believe in evil or the devil; or if you are ego-sensitive or emotionally sensitive (on any/all life - including socio-pol-eco - topics). Thank you! The Subscription based IHP podcast episodes are for people who want to adopt the IHP-IG 5D SEE enlightenment functional adult love language and infinite higher human consciousness potential life experience. Topics, stories and how-to's for people who are, or aim to be, enlightened functional adults, secure attachment people, restorative embodied self-aware human beings, and for those who are always compassionate and unconditionally loving with loved ones, humanity and life. The episodes share stories and examples of having corrective experiences with your loved ones that lead to the repair of splinters and/or ruptures brought about due to reactive unresolved trauma and attachment wounds from the adaptive child self of those who have yet to completely achieve secure attachment and self-agency. We talk about how the 5D SEE enlightenment functional adult love language holds unconditional love and compassion for all our relationships, no matter what flaws and imperfections may arise. We also explore how this supports integration of the mind, activation of our human social engagement system, and how this is what creates the safe space for two or more people to continue communicating and having the corrective experiences that lead to secure attachment functional adult relationships. The unbreakable bonds that all people can create when they bring about the IHP-IG 5D SEE enlightenment functional adult love language and infinite higher human consciousness potential experiences arise from your choosing to pursue and be your secure attachment and compassionate self, your restorative embodied self-aware human being, who is consistently expanding consciousness and more. Inspiring Human Potential Inner Growth 5D Self-Empowered Enlightened Expanding Consciousness Voice, Stories and Perspectives For The Growing IHP-IG 5D SEE Enlightenment Soul Age Group Lightworkers/Peeps Community! Sharing IHP-IG 5D SEE (Krishna Leela, Shiva and Kali, and beyond infinite higher human consciousness) channeled guidance, stories, perspectives and food for thought on 5D relationships and what it's like to go beyond spirituality as an inspiring human potential inner growth 5D self-empowered enlightened person in the enlightenment soul age group. The 5D relationship is unconditionally loving, quantum based, no attachments or entanglements. For the 5D relationship trust is about expanding consciousness not about actions or interactions, or about what you tell or don't tell each other. 5D relationships always involve functional adults, which are people who are: forgiving, nuanced, know all people have trauma, respect all mental health clusters - including cluster B. 5D relationships involve the enlightenment soul age group people who are always able to say "f**" you", to agree to disagree even on the most important and sensitive topics, intimate or world-wide, and to continue treating each other with unconditional love, respect, and kindness. 5D relationships are all inclusive and DO NOT do cancel culture. Love, Maria

Exploring Attachment Styles and Vulnerability in Relationships with Jessica Fern

The Openlove101 Show

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2023 44:40

#67 - John & Jackie interview Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, and expert on trauma and relationships. Jessica talks about her book, Polysecure, which is designed to help individuals, couples, and people in multi-partner relationships move beyond their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, while embracing new possibilities in life and love. They talk about different relationship styles for different people and relationships and provide practical tips for being more open and vulnerable in relationships. Overall, this episode is a valuable resource for anyone interested in better understanding themselves and their attachment styles, regardless of their relationship model. To learn more about open relationships and the lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

Polysecure with Jessica Fern (Season 3 | Episode 108)

The Open Nesters

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2023 49:56

What is a "polysecure" relationship like? Jessica Fern, Tessa and Amir discuss all ends of the poly spectrum in this highly useful episode.

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Episode 209: Jessica Fern Interview

Loving Without Boundaries

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2023 33:10

EPISODE 209: Interview with Jessica Fern. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more about Jessica online: https://www.jessicafern.com/ https://www.facebook.com/unstuckyourstory/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8M9Tk1-qrhs_ihcc_ooREg/videos If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy, sex positive relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries

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99 Balancing individuation & secure attachment with Polysecure author Jessica Fern

Project Relationship

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2023 54:12

It's normal to want your relationship to feel secure. It's normal to want to individuate. It's normal to want to explore what life can look like beyond the constraints of default monogamy. But how do you actually deal with your specific attachment wounds and still create a love that makes space for multiple loving connections? Joli & Jessica dove into how attachment theory can help us make a relationship that actually works for us, but we went beyond the surface of attachment theory. Y'all are smart- and she's done a lot of interviews already (google is your friend), so I wanted to go deeper and find out how Jessica weaves other theories into her work and how she helps people move out of relational trauma loops and into the life they desire. Jealousy, internal family systems/parts work, and narrative therapy... oh, and some sneak peeks of Jessica's upcoming book Polywise! Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at www.JessicaFern.com Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Interested in working with Joli directly? Click here to apply for individual coaching.

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Queering Relationships

The Bi Pod: A Queer Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2023 84:06

On this week's episode, we talk to author Ellie Hamilton about queering relationships and non-monogamy! You can buy Ellie's book here: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/where-this-could-take-us-ellie-hamilton/1141297651 You can follow Ellie on Instagram and TikTok @Wild.elswitch You can listen to Multiamory here: https://www.multiamory.com/podcast You can get Polysecure by Jessica Fern here: https://bookshop.org/a/83912/9781944934989 If you want to make us very happy, you can fill out our listener survey here: https://forms.gle/MSseNiWVEDp7R5je8 *** Support us on Patreon and get exclusive access to cool stuff here: https://www.patreon.com/thebipod For more content sent right to your inbox every month, subscribe to The Bi Pod Bulletin. Prefer to get social first? Follow us on Instagram @TheBiPod. Want to be included in future mail bag episodes, or just give us your thoughts? You can leave us a voicemail at (480) Hi Bi Pod (480-442-1763) or email us at hey@thebipod.com. The Bi Pod is hosted by Chelsee Bergen and Christina Brown. This episode was edited and produced by Chelsee Bergen. Our theme song is Coming Home by Snowflake (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/61307 Ft: Analog By Nature.

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Polyamorie - Leo hat drei Beziehungen - und ist verheiratet

Einhundert - Deutschlandfunk Nova

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2023 29:37

Leo hat einen Freund in Lübeck, die beiden haben eine Fernbeziehung. Da verknallt sie sich parallel in wen anders. Leos erster Gedanke ist: "Man verliebt sich nur in andere, wenn man unglücklich ist." Dann stößt sie auf einen Artikel, in dem es um Polyamorie geht. Also darum, dass eine Person mehrere Menschen liebt und mehrere Beziehungen gleichzeitig führt. Leo weiß sofort: Das bin ich. Das will ich auch. Ihr Freund kommt da nicht mit, die beiden trennen sich. Dann kommt Leo mit Thomas* zusammen und die beiden sind sich einig: Sie wollen ihre Beziehung offen halten. Doch als Thomas zum ersten Mal ein Date mit einer anderen Person hat, ist Leo eifersüchtig und ziemlich überrascht von diesem Gefühl. Trotzdem lebt Leo bis heute poly – und ist mittlerweile mit Thomas verheiratet. Zwischenzeitlich hatte Leo mal sechs verschiedene Partner*innen, aktuell sind es vier. Sie studiert Jura und beschäftigt sich in ihrer Promotion mit den Rechtsfolgen von Trennungen in Poly-Beziehungen. **********Den Artikel zum Stück findet ihr hier.**********Mitwirkende: Autor*in: Judith Geffert Moderatorin: Shalin Rogall **********Die Quellen zur Folge:Wikipediaeintrag über Polyamorie, den Leo ihrer Mutter zum gelesen hatPolyamorie - Zu viele Schmetterlinge im Bauch - Leserartikel von Zeit Online, den auch Leo gelesen hat (14.04.2015)**********Weiterführende Informationen:"Schlampen mit Moral. Eine praktische Anleitung für Polyamorie, offene Beziehungen und andere Abenteuer" Buch von Dossie Easton und Janet W. Hardy"Polysecure. Attachement, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy" Buch von Jessica Fern **********Mehr zum Thema bei Deutschlandfunk Nova:Beziehungsmodelle: Seyda Kurt – Liebe ist politischMonogamie, Polygamie: Welches Beziehungsmodell passt zum Menschen?**********Wir erzählen Eure Geschichten Habt ihr auch eine Geschichte erlebt, die in die Einhundert passt? Dann erzählt uns davon. Storys für die Einhundert sollten eine spannende Protagonistin oder einen spannenden Protagonisten, Wendepunkte und ein unvorhergesehenes Ende haben. Wir freuen uns über eure Mails an einhundert@deutschlandfunknova.de**********Ihr könnt uns auch auf diesen Kanälen folgen: Tiktok und Instagram.

Stay Sparked #8 - "Modern Relationships"

Stay Sparked

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2023 46:18

In Episode 8 we look at the many different ways that humans can date and be in romantic relationships. We look at monogamy and non-monogamy. We talk about trust and communication. We talk about the books and tools that have helped us in our evolving relationship styles. We talked about how relationships are powerful tools for growth and explored new relationship models in the modern world. Books Mentioned:"Opening Up" Tristan Taormino "Nonviolent Communication" Marshall Rosenberg PhD"PolySecure" Jessica Fern "Radical Honesty"HOSTSJANUS REDMOON is a 10-time Burner, and has spent the last several years as an advocate for psychedelic medicine research and treatment. He is the founder and CEO of NuWorld Nutritionals, a nutritional supplement company providing mushroom-based, all-natural products to improve and maintain health for both body and mind.http://www.nuworldnutritionals.comBETSY FINKLEHOO is a healer of massage therapy, CranioSacral and Dharma Coaching. She is an 8 year burner and has spent the last several years seeped in the personal development world, cultivating her passion for transformation and growth. Her recent project, The Power Affirmation Journal and virtual group empowers women to cultivate self awareness and healthy habits so they can live in greater freedom, mind body and spirit.http://poweraffirmation.com/HALCYON is full-time Love Ambassador. He is the founder of Hug Nation YouTube channel and daily zoom gratitude circles. He is co-founder of the Pink Heart Burning Man camp and the 1st Saturdays project for people experiencing homelessness. In his free time he coaches groups and individuals on how to live joyfully and authentically. His other podcast is "Gratuitous Boobs."http://links.hugnation.comMASSIVE Thank you to Dub Sutra for their beautiful opening music. Check out their incredible music catalogue online.https://dubsutra.com

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Episode 138: Navigating Attachment With Multiple Partners

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2022 31:56

Attachment theory was originally based on the assumption that everyone is or wants to be monogamous; however, many people are polyamorous or otherwise engaged in consensual nonmonogamy. So how does attachment work when you have more than one partner? Can you have secure attachments with several partners at the same time? Let's talk about it! I am joined once again by Jessica Fern, a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy. She is also the author of the all-new Polysecure Workbook. Some of the topics we discuss include: Is monogamy really a prerequisite for developing secure attachment? Do you have to be securely attached in order to be happy? How can opening up a relationship change our attachment patterns, for better or for worse? Why it's important to be securely attached to yourself. How to build more secure attachments. What to do when you and your partner(s) have different attachment styles. How you can tell when you've reached the saturation point for attachment-based relationships in your own life. To learn more about Jessica, visit jessicafern.com and be sure to check out Polysecure and the new Polysecure Workbook. Thank you to our sponsors! Level-up your intimate life with Beducated, the Netflix of better sex! They have a whole library of online courses to teach you what you need to know. Enjoy a free trial today and get 40% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: http://beducate.me/pd2241-lehmiller The Kinsey Institute's (kinseyinstitute.org) 75th anniversary is underway and you are invited to join in the celebration! Follow @kinseyinstitute on social media to learn more about upcoming events. Also, please consider a gift or donation to the Institute to support sex research and education. Click here to donate. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Episode 136: What Happens When A Couple Opens Their Relationship