Podcast appearances and mentions of kitty stryker

Conversations on consent and sex are a vital piece for teens to growing up having healthy boundaries but sometimes those conversations can be awkward, especially for the parents. That is where friend of the podcast, Kitty Stryker's new book Say More comes into play.For more on Kitty, find them on Facebook at @KittyStryker, on Instagram @Kitty_Stryker, on Tik Tok at @KittyStryker, and on her website at kittystryker.com.Pre-order "Say More" HERE!Stay up to date with our episodes and happenings by following us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and please email any questions or feedback to TouchySubjectsPodcast@gmail.com or head to our website TouchySubjectsPodcast.com.If you or someone you know wants assistance please call the National Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or visit https://www.thehotline.org or the National Sexual Assault Helpline at 1-800-656-4673 or RAINN.org.Music credits: Uplifting Summer by Alex_MakeMusic (2021) Licensed under a Pixabay License. http://pixabay.com/music/dance-uplifting-summer-10356/The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are the host's own and might not represent the official views and opinions of the agencies in which they represent. 

Interview with Kitty Stryker, published author whose work has appeared in Teen Vogue, Vice, Cosmopolitan and others- identifies as an anarchist activist, queer femme, Juggalo ethnographer and leftist doomsday prepper located in the San Francisco Bay Area.

We're continuing our Q&A episode today with guest Kitty Stryker. Kitty has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over 13 years through her writing, workshops, and website consentculture.com. She's the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture," author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook," and is especially interested in bringing conversations about consent out of the bedroom into everyday life. In her copious free time, Kitty works as a street medic for direct actions, plays Dungeons and Dragons, volunteers at the local animal shelter, and cares for her two cats. She identifies as queer, asexual, sober, anarchist, and femme. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we have a special guest who has been on our show before! Kitty Stryker has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over 13 years through her writing, workshops, and website consentculture.com. She's the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture," author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook," and is especially interested in bringing conversations about consent out of the bedroom into everyday life. In her copious free time, Kitty works as a street medic for direct actions, plays Dungeons and Dragons, volunteers at the local animal shelter, and cares for her two cats. She identifies as queer, asexual, sober, anarchist, and femme. Kitty joins us today to help answer some of our listener questions in another Q&A episode. Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYTreat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Guest: Kitty Stryker (writer, activist) Kitty Stryker, author of Ask: Building Consent Culture and Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook joins Auntie Vice to chat about the nuances of consent, anger, activism, and change. Her deep thinking on consent and how interpersonal and structural power changes one's ability to fully consent has implications for politics, governing boards, medicine, policy, and the culture in general. Sites and Socials KittyStyker.com (site) ConsentCulture.com Facebook Instagram Patreon ----more----

Kitty is back again this week, this time with a deep dive into our consent culture conversation! If you missed our last episode with Kitty, check that one out first and then come back to this one! For more on Kitty, find them on Facebook at @KittyStryker, on Instagram @Kitty_Stryker, on Tik Tok at @KittyStryker, and on her website at kittystryker.com.Find Kitty's Consent Workbook HERE.Stay up to date with our episodes and happenings by following us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and please email any questions or feedback to TouchySubjectsPodcast@gmail.com or head to our website TouchySubjectsPodcast.com.If you or someone you know wants assistance please call the National Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or visit https://www.thehotline.org or the National Sexual Assault Helpline at 1-800-656-4673 or RAINN.org.Music credits: Uplifting Summer by Alex_MakeMusic (2021) Licensed under a Pixabay License. http://pixabay.com/music/dance-uplifting-summer-10356/The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are the host's own and might not represent the official views and opinions of the agencies in which they represent. 

Kitty Stryker is one of the people who pushed the term "consent culture" into mainstream conversations, as well as being an anarchist activist, queer femme, and leftist doomsday prepper located in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is the author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook," a board member of Friends of Berkeley Animal Care Services, and enjoys playing TTRPGs in her free time! kittystryker.comCheck out upcoming classes and recorded classes from Consent Wizardry. Get your luxurious goodies at Foria Wellness. Use the code MIAS20 for 20% off. Advertise on the pod. Please consider supporting the show financially at Patreon.com/sharetheload.Share the Load explores all things consent including and beyond sex. I'm your host, Mia Schachter. I'm an intimacy coordinator for film, television, and theater, a consent educator, writer, and artist in Los Angeles. You can find me on IG @consent.wizardry and you can reach me at podcast@sharetheloadinc.com with listener questions for future episodes. www.consentwizardry.comWays to work with me:1:1 private sessionsGroup classes and long-form programsTrain with me to be a Consent Educator Hire me to Intimacy Coordinate on your projectConsulting for you or your company/organization or scriptI offer customized workshops and speeches You can book me through sean@collectivespeakers.com.Music by Amelie Rousseaux @sofiabolt

As a culture, we've come a long way in our understanding of consent. It's discussed in schools, on TV shows, and in popular media. But through this mainstreaming of consent, we've also lost some important nuance along the way.  This conversation with Kitty Stryker is all about that nuance.  From the complexities of consent within various power dynamics to the ways it shows up in every relationship, consent situations seem to be everywhere. Kitty lays down frameworks to help us reevaluate our personal relationships with consent and use what we learn to strengthen our bonds with friends, family, co-workers, romantic partners, and more.    Kitty Stryker Bio Kitty Stryker is the author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook" and the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture", both from Thornapple Press. She was among the first to coin the term "consent culture", writing in 2010 about the radical act of defining what you want to move towards instead of just what to avoid. A queer nerd, an asexual sex worker, an anarchist journalist; Kitty is often found blurring the edges of communities to forge coalitions and welcome more people in. She aspires to be Baba Yaga when she grows up. Episode 207 Helpful Links & Resources Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook https://bookshop.org/p/books/ask-yourself-the-consent-culture-workbook-kitty-stryker/18725129 Kitty Stryker Website https://consentculture.com/  Kitty Stryker Twitter https://twitter.com/kittystryker Kitty Stryker Facebook https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker  Kitty Stryker Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@kittystryker  Kitty Stryker Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kitty_stryker/  Kitty Stryker Patreon https://patreon.com/kittystryker  Touchy Subjects Podcast https://www.touchysubjectspodcast.com/  Sunny's Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex   Episode 207 Sponsors & Discount Codes *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com Pleasure Podcasts Network https://www.pleasurepodcasts.com/ Sunny's On-Demand BDSM Classes & Coaching:  https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/ 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY –To support American Sex Podcast/Sunny Megatron & help offset the cost of providing no-charge education: http://patreon.com/americansex  --More at AmericanSexPodcast.com

Often consent is just discussed in a sexual setting, but we are constantly using consent everyday in other situations. Whether we agree to a task at work or refuse to go out with friends, we are always using consent we just might be realizing it. This week we sat down with Kitty Stryker to discuss how we can build a culture of consent.  For more on Kitty, find them on Facebook at @KittyStryker, on Instagram @Kitty_Stryker, on Tik Tok at @KittyStryker, and on her website at kittystryker.com. Find Kitty's Consent Workbook HERE. Stay up to date with our episodes and happenings by following us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and please email any questions or feedback to TouchySubjectsPodcast@gmail.com or head to our website TouchySubjectsPodcast.com.If you or someone you know wants assistance please call the National Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or visit https://www.thehotline.org or the National Sexual Assault Helpline at 1-800-656-4673 or RAINN.org.Music credits: Uplifting Summer by Alex_MakeMusic (2021) Licensed under a Pixabay License. http://pixabay.com/music/dance-uplifting-summer-10356/The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are the host's own and might not represent the official views and opinions of the agencies in which they represent. 

Welcome to Episode 86 of Polyamory Uncensored, where we chat with Keeley Shoup, the Chicago Cuddle Therapist, about how being involved in cuddle therapy can make folks better at relationships. We chat about consent, boundaries, touch, and the self-love act of being selfish. If you'd like to find out more about Keeley, you can find them on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube at "Chicago Cuddle Therapy." Books mentioned in this episode: "Burnout" by Emily and Amelia Nagoski, "Untamed" by Glennon Doyle, "Ask: Building Consent Culture" (which I incorrectly referred to as "Yes" in the podcast) by Kitty Stryker, and "Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators" by Marcia Baczynski. Programs mentioned: "Good Girl Recovery Program" by Marcia Baczynski, The Cuddle Sanctuary, Cuddlists, Cuddle Sage, and Cuddle Parties. Awesome people mentioned: Betty Martin and Marcia Baczynski. Stay tuned as we delve into the good, the bad, the ugly, and the just plain complicated truths about our poly lives. If you would like to support the podcast with a one-time contribution, we have set up a PayPal link to make it super easy! Please show your support in any amount you can here: PayPal.me/polyamoryuncensored. Thank you so much for any amount you can manage. If contributing in a monetary fashion isn't your thing or you just aren't able to, that's fine, you can help us out for free by giving us a review, liking and following us on Facebook and Instagram, sending us a voice message to play on the podcast (https://anchor.fm/polyamoryuncensored/message), or just telling your friends about us! Many thanks to Meaghan Heinrich for our wonderful theme song! Stay safe, we love you, bye! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/polyamoryuncensored/support

Last month, news of OnlyFans explicit content ban rocked the world. What was behind it? Were they sanitizing the platform to court new investors? Was their grand plan to exploit adult creators to grow the site only kick them to the curb once it gained mainstream appeal? Were payment processors pressuring them? And how were they able to reverse their decision so quickly? In episode 166 of American Sex Podcast, Kitty Stryker explains the complex and deep-rooted reasons for this unexpected series of events. It has ties to the censorship in media movement that goes back decades, religious groups with hidden agendas, shady anti-trafficking organizations, and more. She warns that even though OnlyFans ban was suspended, there may be more to come that will affect every corner of the internet.    ____________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 166 Links  Kitty Stryker Twitter https://twitter.com/kittystryker Kitty Stryker Facebook https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker Kitty Stryker Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@kittystryker Kitty Stryker Patreon patreon.com/kittystryker International Day of Consent, November 30th – https://idoconsent.org/ Sex Workers Deserve Better than OnlyFans article by Kitty Stryker https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/onlyfans-debacle-morality-battle?fbclid=IwAR0UvY7HNGoFUCDoZNJ6rsR_jj-gisamnX9hBNks2g3VXb6uEubAlIeiSpc KPACT The Psychological Appeal of BDSM 10/15/2021 https://www.kpact.xyz/product/the-psychological-appeal-of-bdsm/ Consent Dojo w/Midori & Sunny Megatron (free!) 9/14/21 11am PT https://shibaristudy.com/authors/midori Sex Down South Virtual Conference Fri 9/10-Sun 9/12 https://hopin.com/events/sex-down-south-conference-2021 Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Ken's charity DnD game Monday's 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 166 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info 20% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com Get 20% off everything from http://gvibe.com including the limited edition Gbulb with code SUNNY Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 (This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear) 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout At least 25% off BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom's daily deal (there's a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01 15% off most items from Stockroom http://bit.ly/sunnystockroom with code SUNNY

Recorded at Metatopia 2020 Online Presented by Kitty Stryker, Spider Perry, Avonelle Wing. We will talk about practical actions you can take to be better prepared the next time you have the chance to speak up. It might be addressing a micro-aggression at the game table or shutting down a bully who wants to make somebody feel small in an online setting, for example. These aren't easy things and the skills don't always come naturally. Our panelists will talk about practicing phrases and learning to overcome the social conditioning that perpetuates "isms

Another fab live panel episode, this time on consent! Joining me for this live discussion were Kitty Stryker, Richard M.Wright,  Siobhan O'Higgins, Lade Ganikale, and Sarah Casper. We chat about alcohol and consent, grey areas, and how we can make the conversation about consent culture more inclusive, radical and diverse. Support us at patreon.com/tortoiseshack

Bedtime stories, ‘social stalking' and sugar-rationing are on the menu as Olly reunites with comedy podcasters Tom Price and Stuart Goldsmith to compare notes on fatherhood.Their sons are now five years old, and in this episode our Dads ruminate on ‘world-building', how to make friends at pick-up time, and the dangers of doing a 'Hot Wheels Hunt'.To catch up on the story so far, visit modernmann.co.uk/Dads.And check out Tom and Stu's podcasts, ‘My Mate Bought A Toaster' and ‘The Comedian's Comedian', wherever you get your podcasts.---Meanwhile, in The Zeitgeist, Ollie Peart tries his hand at flying a plane - or, at least, a flight simulator, courtesy of Simulator Adventures in Media City, Salford.Will he be able to keep a ‘fly by wire' Airbus A320 airborne and steady, without getting distracted by the on-board horn and windscreen wipers? How much does a box-fresh aeroplane seat cost? And is his dream flight from Southampton to Bournemouth all it's cracked up to be?If YOU have a suggestion of a trend you'd like to challenge Ollie to investigate in a future edition of the show, visit modernmann.co.uk and click Feedback.The Zeitgeist is sponsored by Manscaped, the only men's brand dedicated to below the waist grooming. Their Performance Package is the perfect gift for Father's Day! Get 20% Off + Free Shipping, with the code ‘Mann' at Manscaped.com---Elsewhere, down The Foxhole, Alix Fox helps out George - a former sex-worker now experiencing difficulties disassociating from the performative parts of his sex life.In a world in which webcam platforms and OnlyFans have introduced a ‘WFH' generation to sex work, is this a problem that's set to grow?With help from former sex workers Kitty Stryker and Jason Domino, Alix suggests support groups like SWAI and Umbrella Lane; experiments with sensory changes and blindfolding in the bedroom; and considers the ‘social capital' of George's relationship.The Foxhole is sponsored by The Handy - a WiFi-enabled sex toy for men, designed and developed in Norway. For free express shipping, use our code ‘Foxhole' at TheHandy.com.---Finally, our Record of the Month comes from iconic indie popsters James - and the single ‘Beautiful Beaches' from their new album ‘All The Colours Of You', out now.---This show only exists thanks to the generous support of listeners like you. If you can afford to, please buy us a beer per month - or as often as you like - using the secure, customisable form on our website, modernmann.co.uk.Thanks!See you on July 10th.------Host: Olly Mann. Producer: Matt Hill. Contributors: Ollie Peart, Alix Fox, Tom Price, Stuart Goldsmith, James. Theme Music: Django Django. Graphic Design: Terry Saunders. Copyright: Rethink Audio / Olly Mann 2021Now, please check out OUR BRAND NEW DAILY SHOW, The Retrospectors: podfollow.com/Retrospectors. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We have a very exciting announcement about a new show joining the C4SS podcast network! This Monday, we'll be releasing the first episode of Hadal Quadrants with Leslee Peterson. If this teaser isn't enough for you, check out our most recent episode of the Outgroup, our Patron-only roundtable show.  And tune in for the first episode of Hadal Quadrants this Monday, June 7th. The first episode will feature Kitty Stryker and Cathy Reisenwitz on sex work and SESTA/FOSTA and you can find it all the same places as our other shows, including Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, and more. 

The word “manipulation” has a very negative connotation. But is all manipulation abusive? Does it always have the potential to undermine consent? On ep 158 of American Sex Podcast Kitty Stryker joins us to analyze how manipulation shows up in sex, relationships, and kink. It turns out we manipulate a lot more than we realize and sometimes it can be for noble intentions. But what differentiates positive manipulation from abuse? We discuss what manipulation red flags to look for when vetting potential partners, how to manipulate ethically in BDSM scenes, how to negotiate manipulation in play, how to recognize when it’s being used as an abusive tactic, how it relates to brat play, and more.      ____________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com --To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________  Episode 158 Links  Twitter: https://twitter.com/kittystryker Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kittystryker Patreon: patreon.com/kittystryker International Day of Consent, November 30th - https://idoconsent.org/ Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Tending the Garden Virtual Summit April 24-25th https://www.tendingthegarden.love/virtual-summit American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 158 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Download the Feeld app for free plus get 50% off the first three months of Feeld’s Majestic membership using this link https://feeld.app.link/sunny50 $25 off of Intensity when you go to https://www.pourmoi.com/ref/Sunny/ and enter code SUNNY at checkout. You can use this code along with any code on their website. Double Date podcast with Marlo Thomas & Phil Donahue https://open.spotify.com/show/559R9Q2akN7aAl5BEcYrEJ Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 (This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear) 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactoryand the code SUNNY at checkout At least 25% off BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom’s daily deal (there’s a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01 15% off most items from Stockroom http://bit.ly/sunnystockroom with code SUNNY

Interview with Kitty Stryker, published author whose work has appeared in Teen Vogue, Vice, Cosmopolitan and others- identifies as an anarchist activist, queer femme, Juggalo ethnographer and leftist doomsday prepper located in the San Francisco Bay Area See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Happy New Year, Intertrekkies, and welcome to Risa! All that is ours is yours. Today's topic: SEX WORK. Strap in for a deep dive into this important topic.  Also, 2nd wave feminism, Picard's package, costume obsessions, and more! Episodes:  The Next Generation "Captain's Holiday" (S3E19) DS9 "Let He Who Is Without Sin..." (S5E7) Enterprise "Two Days and Two Nights" (S1E25)   Recommendations!   Future Man (TV show): comedy sci-fi/time travel show starring Seth Rogan.   Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist (TV show): mystical musical dramedy set in SF's tech world.   Sex Work is Work   “Hustlers” Explodes the Damaging Stereotype of Sex Workers as Thieves by Aya de Leon via Bitch Media   6 Sex Workers Explain How Sharing Client Lists Saves Lives by Kitty Stryker via Vice   “When They're Dead, They're Hookers” — The Media Trope that is Literally Killing People by Riley Smith via Medium   Between 17 and 34% of workers have reported being harassed, threatened, or assaulted by police in the United States.   We need to talk about Anna Kendrick's dead 'hooker' joke by Molly Fitzpatrick via Splinter   Studies have shown that female sex workers, frequent victims of sexual assault and physical violence, are 18 times more likely to be murdered than other women of their age and race.   Stigma and stereotypes about sex work hinder regulatory reform by Paul J. Maginn and Emily Cooper via The Conversation   Unpacking Harmful Myths Around Sex Work via the Equality Institute   Common Myths About Sex Work, Debunked By Sex Workers by Frankie Miren via Vice  #119 No More Safe Harbor episode of Reply All (April 20, 2018)   Malcolm Reed, Closet Case?  Lt. Malcom Reed: Intergalactic Man of Confusion by Michelle Zamanian via Women at Warp Malcolm Reed via Memory Alpha What to wear on Space Hawaii  Costumes of Risa   This picture of Picard        

Episode Notes Kitty can be found on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/kittystryker and twitter at https://twitter.com/kittystryker Her five-day preparation article: https://thebolditalic.com/be-prepared-a-5-day-ish-guide-to-basic-emergency-prepping-86960f03279 Margaret can be found on twitter at https://twitter.com/magpiekilljoy and on patreon at https://www.patreon.com/margaretkilljoy

Richard M. Wright, MA (he, him, his) is a Jamaican New Yorker who lives in Florida. He received his Masters at the California Institute of Integral Studies, where he studied Expressive Arts Therapy. Richard also completed the Healthy Masculinity/ Bystander Intervention training with Men Can Stop Rape. Combining these skill sets, Richard created art-based workshops that foster consent culture and healthy masculinities with movement, drama and play. The interventions develop empathy, integrity, accountability, and a value for our own and each other's boundaries and humanity. Richard writes for Colorlines Magazine, where he explores themes of masculinity, love, liberation, healing, and accountability. He was also published in the very timely, groundbreaking anthology Ask: Building Consent Culture, edited by Kitty Stryker. As a cisgendered straight man, he strongly believes that it is important for him to be accountable and represent by doing this important culture shifting work towards a paradigm that respects the boundaries and humanity of ourselves, women, girls, non-binary folks, and everyone else too. Recently, Mr. Wright was on our show talking about Masculinity, Love And Liberation. During our conversation, Mr. Wright talked about: – Some of his background including being born in New York, living in Jamaica for a number of years then moving back to America and some of his memories of Jamaica – His parents being the foundation of his social justice journey – Some of his educational journey – His thoughts about Black masculinity, Black love and Black liberation at this time – Some background on his article Healthy Masculinity & Toxic Masculinity In Wakanda: An Intersectional Afrofuturist Perspective – The impact that 2020 has on Black masculinity, Black love and Black liberation – Black men and mental health – The reason why he writes You can find out more about Mr. Wright via: Website Instagram Colorlines Visit The Dr. Vibe Show™ at https://www.thedrvibeshow.com/ Please feel free to email us at dr.vibe@thedrvibeshow.com Please feel free to “Like” the “The Dr. Vibe Show” Facebook Fan Page here God bless, peace, be well and keep the faith, Dr. Vibe dr.vibe@thedrvibeshow.com 2018 Innovation Award Winner – Canadian Ethnic Media Association The Dr. Vibe Show™ At “The Good Men Project” One of the first Brand Ambassador's – Cuisine Noir Magazine Dr. Vibe – Producer And Co-host of Black Men Talking On WJMS Radio Dr. Vibe on HuffPost Live – August 2, 2013 2013 Black Weblog Awards Finalist (Best Podcast) 2012 Black Weblog Awards Winner (Best International Blog) 2012 Black Weblog Awards Finalist (Best Podcast) 2011 Black Weblog Awards Finalist (Best International Blog and Best Podcast Series) Black Blog Of The Day – Black Bloggers Network – June 23, 2011 Twitter Twitter hashtag: #DrVibe The Dr. Vibe Show™ – iTunes The Dr. Vibe Show™ – Spotify Dr. Vibe Media – You Tube The Dr. Vibe Show™ – Stitcher Radio The Dr. Vibe Show™ – TuneIn Radio The Dr. Vibe Show™ – Google Play Music The Dr. Vibe Show™ – iHeartRadio The Dr. Vibe Show™ at Anchor Linkedin – The Dr. Vibe Show™ Instagram The Dr. Vibe Show Facebook Fan Page

Episode Notes Kitty Stryker can be found on twitter at @kittystryker and at http://kittystryker.com/ Margaret Killjoy can be found on twitter at @magpiekilljoy and at http://www.birdsbeforethestorm.net/ The following transcript was provided by a comrade who wants to help us make this show more accessible: S01E01 Kitty Stryker on Anarchist Prepping Live Like The World Is Dying 0:00:00.0# (Introductory music) 0:00:15.1# Margaret Killjoy: Hello and welcome to Live Like The World Is Dying; a podcast that explores life when it feels like the end times. I say "when it feels like the end times", and I’m gonna get into this more throughout various episodes of the podcast, because of course, the world is always ending. It’s always changing the status quo. Always shakes and changes, collapses, rebuilds, all of these things. So sometimes people roll their eyes when you talk about the world ending. And sometimes that makes sense, the world has ended in a lot of different ways. But... It sure feels like the world is ending right now to me and to... Maybe to you and maybe it will, maybe it won't. Obviously what it means for the world to end is a subjective thing. But it's a... It's a stress factor to say the least, on a lot of people's lives right now. Thinking about climate change and thinking about the... The rise of global fascism. So this is a podcast that's gonna explore... Well, how we can live while we feel like the world is dying. For myself and for this podcast I've found that I focus on four different priorities. I focus on living like the world is going to end and that I might not survive, living like the world is going to end and I can try to survive, living like we can prevent the end of the world, and of course, living like maybe the world isn't ending after all. So basically hedonism, prepping, revolution, and not burning all your bridges because... Who knows, the status quo might linger on after all. With this podcast I'm probably going to focus on the middle two of these priorities. I'm gonna focus on prepping and revolution. And I'm going to do that because... Well, I've always sort of wanted there to be more information and more... More going on about anarchist and leftist prepping. Because most of the prepping world is of course steeped in... Not just like right-wing politics, but also right-wing values and individualistic values and of course as an anarchist I believe in the balance between the individual and the community and because of that I don't believe in individualistic survival. I don't believe that the bunker mentality, which we're going to talk a lot of shit on in this podcast over the next couple episodes, is appropriate to most... To most threat models. So I'll be your host, but for the most part I'm going to interview people who know a lot more about a lot of this stuff than me. As for me, I am a prepper I suppose on some level. I keep a small stockpile food. Dried food in 5 gallon buckets in case there's an interruption in... Well, food supplies. I make sure I know where water filtration is. I also keep a to-go bag and... At my house. And I keep another one in my car that's much smaller. Neither of these are a particularly elaborate. They're... They're fairly simple things I put together. And that's... That's more for my own mental welfare than it is like any immediate expectation of crisis. And I also... I live off grid. Which is not something that I'm gonna specifically advocate that anyone else do. I actually live off grid because it just sort of meets my needs here and now in terms of how I like to live. I live about half an hour away from a small city in a cabin I built myself in the woods because I like doing that. I like living that way. I'm an anarchist and that's going to certainly bleed over into the content of this show. I believe in a world without course of hierarchies like the state or capitalism or white supremacy or heteronormativity or... Or any of the intersecting oppressions and hierarchies that rule the world that shouldn't. And so of course, a lot of my... I tell you this because I want you to know my biases because I want you to come to your own conclusions. I have a bias against state and federal aid. I tend to find it to be wildly inefficient. I'm far more interested in creating a society based on mutual aid. And so... And I find agency to be wildly important. I find it very important for us to encourage each other to have agency and so I'm interested in disaster relief or crisis preparation or whatever, that maximizes individual agency, that maximize community agency and... Yeah, that's what's interesting to me so that's what I'm going to be focusing on more. This first episode, our guest is Kitty Stryker who I can let introduce herself. Thanks so much for listening. 0:05:01.9# (Musical transition) 0:05:06.5# Margaret: So today our guest is Kitty Stryker. Well actually, do you want to introduce yourself with your name and pronouns and kind of any political or organizational affiliation you feel like shouting out. 0:05:21.4# Kitty Stryker: Sure. I'm Kitty Stryker, I use she/her pronouns. I'm a... I identify myself as a leftist doomsday prepper. But I'm more of a like... Emergency prepper, street medic. I work with Struggle Of Circus, which is a of bunches of leftists and other sort of radical political groups and a bunch of juggalos coming together to help out at protests and usually do medic related stuff but also be kind of a meat wall around marginalized communities. I identify as an anarchist and... Yeah, I guess I just found it really interesting that when I was looking for communities of leftist to talk to about prepping, there wasn't anything there. 0:06:15.5# Margaret: Yeah that was... I think we ended up kind of finding each other through a similar... I don't actually remember how we first ended up talking about it. Maybe you do. But we've been, for anyone who's listening, Kitty and I have been talking vaguely about how we needed to do something about this... This lack of... 0:06:34.2# Kitty: Lack of information, yeah. 0:06:35.9# Margaret: Yeah. Because so much of the information that's out there about prepping is not really applicable, well, to anyone realistically. But certainly not necessarily applicable to people whose ideology isn't "fuck you, I've got mine", you know? So... 0:06:53.5# Kitty: Right and I think... And it could be actively hostile in forums and stuff. Like places that you wanna go to ask for information and ask for advice become really hostile when people are talking about how much they want to kill antifa or of like... "I can't wait til the race war". It's not really a very comfortable place to ask questions about fortifications. 0:07:19.5# Margaret: Yeah. That makes sense. So why don't we start by kind of talking about the general conception of preparedness and kind of what is leftist or anarchist prepping or preparedness. As... At least as you can conceive it. 0:07:37.7# Kitty: Sure, well, so for me I grew up with parents who are sort of like... Suburban homesteader types, with a mixture of prepping. But are also hoarders so while they have everything you would need in an apocalypse you also wouldn't necessarily be able to find it. So I kinda grew up with the hoarding tendency that they think comes with a lot of prepping. You wanna have lots of things that seemed very important. But also this desire to try to make it organized and make it easily accessible. I realized fairly quickly that while I'm more of a stay-in-place kind of prepper and sort of emergency preparedness person, I also will potentially need to be able to put what I need a backpack and carry it with me. At least for a mile or two depending on the emergency and if I have so much stuff that I can't practically do that without a car, it's not really going to be that useful. I live in earthquake country so I just have to anticipate the roads are going to be kind of a mess. So that was sort of where I came from, was this not very political, camping and also very pagan, getting in touch with earth kind of thing. Like my parents beehives that drives all of their neighbors off the wall. They hate it. 0:09:12.7# Margaret: That's interesting. I've only a couple times been around this, yeah, suburban homesteading idea where you have access to a little bit of land. Not necessarily so much privacy, not so much... Place where you can keep your bees. 0:09:24.5# Kitty: Nope, no privacy. Everyone in my neighborhood is like, "That's the witch house. You can tell because there's thirteen sacred trees in the front lawn. And her dad goes outside and scythes the lawn." 0:09:38.1# Margaret: Wow. 0:09:39.7# Kitty: I don't think he's actually even done that in years so I think it's just an overgrown tangle at this point. 0:09:45.9# Margaret: Well that's even more fun. 0:09:46.7# Kitty: But we have like... We have a pond in there. There's a little herb garden, a veggie garden. We have a crow feeder. It's... It's elaborate. 0:09:56.8# Margaret: I'm imagining this on like a quarter acre, half acre. Is that..? 0:10:00.5# Kitty: Yeah. Yeah, pretty much. With manicured lawns right next to us on either side. 0:10:08.5# Margaret: Well, that's a... 0:10:09.1# Kitty: Really... That's where I was raised. I think that explains a lot. 0:10:13.7# Margaret: Okay. It's an interesting metaphor for being the one person who's... You know, either prepping or being a hoarder. 0:10:22.4# Kitty: I've been the one person for a while. Yeah. But I think that that's in such staunch contrast to doomsday preppers which is what most people think of when they think of prepping. They think of like, "Oh, that's those rednecks in the middle of the really rural areas with their bunker and their nine million guns and their giant water containers." And they're, you know, being completely convinced that there's going to a nuclear war or there's going to be... I don't know. What are some of the other disasters that they're always prepared for? Well, I mean like, definitely race wars. Definitely one of the things. 0:11:09.1# Margaret: Yeah, I mean and that's kind of the... I feel like that's the tell between whether you're talking to a racist prepper or a... Well, obviously if someone's talking about a race war they're clearly racist. But... You know, there's a tell of whether or not they're obsessed with like the... The boogaloo or if they're obsessed with... You know, the possibility of invasion or... System collapse in general. 0:11:32.3# Kitty: Right, right. And like what system collapse looks like. Like what are they actually afraid of, I think is very telling. A lot of times you'll see people say, "Oh, I'm afraid that people are going to come and murder my family for my resources because my resources are so awesome that everyone for miles around is going want to come and murder me." Which, first of all, if that was true I would not be saying it on the internet. That just seems like a bad idea. That's... My boyfriend and I watch doomsday preppers and talk about how we would raid their bunkers because they show us everything. And that just seems very shortsighted, if that is indeed what you are worried about. 0:12:22.2# Margaret: Right, as compared to just kind of showing off and being excited about... Like kind of nerding out about gear... 0:12:27.6# Kitty: I think it's like... Yeah, it's like nerding out and they think it's more of a threat than it is. I don't know. I think... I think it speaks to a desire for conflict that I don't personally have. I don't want to have to use my apartment complex to snipe people. I just don't want to do that. I just wanna be able to grow a garden using a discarded... Shoe organizer from the broken down Ross down the street. That's my type of prepping, rather than preparing for endless violence. 0:13:10.4# Margaret: Yeah, there's kind of a... I feel like one of the main myths or concepts that I'm trying to get across with this podcast... Not a myth I'm trying to get across this, prove that something is a myth, is the bunker mentality is the "I've got mine, fuck you" mentality, that is so common in prepping circles and it's... It's really off-putting because... I mean, even... Even from a pure self-interest point of view it just seems so dumb. So you hole up with your five closest friends in the middle of the woods during the apocalypse, and that's like all fine and good until your appendix bursts and you forget that you're not a surgeon and that your brother isn't a surgeon, you know? And... 0:13:56.0# Kitty: Well you just need more useful friends. 0:13:57.9# Margaret: Well, sure but... 0:13:58.7# Kitty: That's what I did. 0:13:59.2# Margaret: But what if you are the surgeon, right? And then your appendix bursts. 0:14:02.4# Kitty: Well, yeah. Then... Yeah. Then... Then... Well, then you just die. I mean, that's the thing. I think that they... They're so afraid of violence coming from other people that they don't... A, think of the violence that could happen amongst themselves which is kind of inevitable if you're locked in a bunker together. And there's... Especially if there's power dynamics in place and stress, then I feel like there's gonna be some abusive dynamics that come out of that. So if you're not prepared for that, it doesn't really matter how good your resources are. And there's... So that's just even within your unit, and then never mind if you're then expanding out to like... Do you know how to do literally everything in the world? Because you're probably going to help. It's the same as the idea about currency. Everyone's so keen on like... Oh yeah, make sure that you have currency. Make sure you silver buried in your yard. Like... What are you going to do with that, really? Like... I mean... It's cool, I guess. But unless you're going to use that as a brick... I don't understand. 0:15:12.3# Margaret: Well I guess it gets into... In some ways, I think the apocalypse... People who think too much about the apocalypse, whether on they're on the left or on the right, or just bored centrists or moderates or whatever, I think that people are thinking about and imagining clean slates and imagining about how they would like to act and what kind of societies they would like to create, what kind of dynamics they'd like to create. So it's really easy for someone who, say of a libertarian mindset, to be like "Well, of course gold is what matters because we're all going to trade resources. There's definitely going to be market economics after the apocalypse because we're going to institute market... Economics. And then maybe like... Those of us that are like, "Wow, the market's a dumb thing and isn't really particularly interesting to me at all." Like, yeah I have a really hard time imagining that I'm going to be doing much... Even bartering after the apocalypse. Like, I'm... I'm either like rolling with people and sharing shit or I'm keeping shit to myself but like... I'm not gonna be like, "Well, these three bullets are worth that tourniquet," or whatever, you know? At least that's my conception of it. That's when... When I like to imagine the end of the world, which is not actually something I like imagining anymore, but I'm imagining something that is closer to the ideological interest that I have. Which is maybe a fault of mine, maybe that's a blind spot of mine. 0:16:39.5# Kitty: Well, I don't think that's... I don't think it's necessarily a fault. I mean, like one thing that I think when... You know, I have a group friends that we talk about this stuff a lot amongst ourselves. Especially because we're within bicycling distance from each other, so we're sort of like, "Okay, if there is an emergency, we're pretty sure that we could get to each other." But we all have... Slightly different ideas of what we would like to see happen which means we also have a different... Like different ideals and different areas of expertise. And I think that that is actually super helpful. I don't know that I would want to be in a group that everybody thinks the same way, as long as you think cooperatively versus competitively. And for me that's what's important. I don't really care how we get to cooperative instead of competitive, but that's what I want. 0:17:33.5# Margaret: Yeah, that makes sense. So, look, I want to talk more about... Okay, one of the things I really like about prepping in general is that it can be very practical. It's not, it's... Obviously a lot of it is not practical at all. But like... But to take this conversation practically for a minute... Like, what you do... Not necessarily... Both in terms of things that you keep around, but also what are your plans? You talked about bicycling to meet up with your friends. What is... What kind of preparedness do you personally practice? 0:18:05.4# Kitty: So my boyfriend and I talk a lot about what our plans are. Pretty much every three months or so. And we're mostly... And ust to give some context, we're mostly prepping for an earthquake, for a big earthquake, because that's the most likely thing to happen here. I guess there's some possibilities that will end up having a bunch of neo-nazis coming and terrorizing us but I think they've gotten tired of Berkeley and have moved to Portland instead so... We're probably fine for now. So we talk a little bit about what are the risks that are current, what are the resources that are currently around? Maybe... We've been talking about creating a map, like actually getting a map and write, marking down important things that we might want to know where they are when you don't have Google Maps for example. So stuff like that is really important. Like the sort of... Preparing... For immediate needs and also for where you are going to be able to get resources. What area is around that could conceivably be turned into a garden if need be. Which we're actually lucky, we have a park really close by. And we also make a point to know our neighbors. Both our housed and houseless neighbors. So having good relationships with them is really helpful and like giving them ideas of how to be prepared so that we're not overwhelming ourselves trying to take care of them as well as ourselves. So you're trying to match up add the younger folks with older folks or able-bodied folks with people with disabilities so that way there's... It's easier for people to mobilize and so that we know who in our area is going to need help. So that's some of the community planning stuff that's not even focused on my group of hyper-focused friends but just making my environment less chaotic. And so that's sort of like... And again, like a garden, it takes some pruning and some cultivating and a little bit of upkeep but I feel reasonably confident that my neighbors are going to be able to handle themselves. Which is my first big concern because then I can start worrying about things like, what do I personally actually need? One thing that is kind of difficult, I live in an apartment and we don't have a huge amount of space. So I can't have buckets and buckets of freeze-dried food. We do tend to have a lot of canned food, we do tend to have a lot of nuts and dried fruit and stuff like that around so that helps a little bit. It makes it easier for us to find stuff in rubble that we can eat. We also have a... A dresser that we put our prepper stuff in and it's sorted with medic supplies in the first two drawers because that's sort of my specialty... That's my area focus. And then we have sort of more general supplies, so that's where we have LifeStraws and we have bandanas and we have masks for filtering out smoke or disease. We have lots and lots of gloves, we have... Water filtering tablets, we have a bunch different kinds of fire starters. So we sort of put together a compendium of things that we felt would be useful. And then what's probably the least practical thing is my... In the main living room I have a hatchet, I have a walking stick, I have my camping stuff. So it's not all condensed in one place but I have... I do have a spare tent at my partner's house and I have a medic bag. A fully packed medic go-bag that I take to protests in the trunk of my car. So that way I can... I have one medic bag in the house, I have one in the car, and I usually have one at my partner's house. Sometimes I have one at my local bar too but that's the one that usually get used if I go to a protest 'cause that's near downtown. But just having pockets stuff... And then I have a storage unit downtown as well. So I figured it might be more difficult to get into my storage unit but at least it's underground and that would be not a bad place to have some stuff that I don't need immediately but might want down the line, yeah. So... But it's sort of a pack rat... Pack ratty, squirrel type prepping. Of burying little caches... 0:23:27.8# Margaret: I'm impressed because you're... Yeah, you're managing to successfully do in an urban environment what... Well... Something I associate more with the rural environments of... You know, one of the things that I was realizing... 0:23:41.1# Kitty: It's harder. It's harder, but it's only harder if you care about being the only person who can get to it. And I don't really care so much about that. I just wanna have access to it. I'm... Because, for me, I'm someone who... I saw a guy on a scooter get hit by car. I was so glad I had that medic kit on me so that I could actually help him out. And immediately help him out. I'm so glad I had that expertise. So... And actually that's one thing that I also have is a first aid book because, again, I don't know how to do everything. But if I have a book, I can probably figure out how to do most things safely. So... 0:24:26.7# Margaret: What's the book? 0:24:29.4# Kitty: It's an old field manual medic guide, I forget what era. But I prefer to try to go for stuff that's military because... Or serious environmental wilderness strategy guides because then they're not focused on you having access to a full hospital. It's not ideal conditions. Sometimes first aid advice is like, "Oh well just call an ambulance" and it's like well that's not really practical in the sort of situations I'm preparing for so I prefer to look at older stuff. And then take newer knowledge and pack that on top. But knowing how to do some of these things when you don't have electricity, a lot of modern medicine depends on electricity, depends on you having access to different kinds of medications and solutions that might not have. So I think it's kind of... I don't... Until I have to do it in practice I don't know how useful it actually will be. But I'm interested in learning how have people prevented disease... In wartime, in... A forest in the middle of nowhere versus what you you would get trained necessarily if you're getting CPR training for your work. 0:26:08.8# Margaret: Have you taken the wilderness first responder course or anything like that? 0:26:12.4# Kitty: I want to so badly. I'm hoping that I can save up for it or have somebody gift it to me. But that is on my list of, oh my god I would... That be so dreamy. But... I really... I just also am just also am obsessed with medical stuff. I guess that's... That's one thing I would really recommend for people curious about prepping. I would say while it is nice to be able to have information about a bunch of different areas, find the thing that you're really interested and nerd out on that. One of my friends is really, really into finding plants and urban foraging. So that's her area of expertise. It's like, oh, she can tell you every plant you can eat within two miles of your house. And that would be really useful, it's not necessarily something that my brain can hold onto... As easily as medicine stuff. My partner is really good with weapons and... Building shelters. It's not really my area so it's nice to have somebody who can teach me just enough but also has a lot more expertise. 0:27:29.4# Margaret: Yeah, that's something that I... I think about a lot in terms of even just the world I wanna live in. I'm really excited about the idea where we... Instead of having a generalism versus specialization kind of argument, it's another bullshit false dichotomy, probably we should all as much as we can generalize as broadly as we can and then pick the things that stand out to us to specialize in. Like, I don't need to know how to do surgery but I should probably know first... Literal first aid. Like first response... Like there have been a number times in my life where I've... I'm incredibly squeamish, I hate medical things, I hate thinking about it the way that like... Like someone showed me how to use a tourniquet and... You know, I disassociated in order to learn. Because the concept of thinking about like... Arterial bleeding doesn't work for me. But I know that I need to know how to do that so I learn pretty much by disassociating and then kind of when things happen I like disassociate again and then deal with it. 0:28:34.6# Kitty: Yeah, I mean there's some practicality to that. When I was doing medical work at protests I really underestimated how traumatized I was until months later... When I was like, "Wow, I just didn't have feelings for a while." It's a lot and I'm... I love... See, I'm not squeamish at all about that stuff but I'm impatient so like building structures is not my thing. It's like, I could learn how to do it but I don't even put up the tent when I go camping if I can avoid it. So... Knowing that I have a good solid group of people around me who are really excited to do that stuff allows us to do the thing we're excited about but also in case something happens to that person, we know how to do it we just don't like it. 0:29:26.1# Margaret: Yeah. Or at least have a... Can do a rougher version of it, you know? Can do a... I had a... I was just talking to a friend about all of this. I actually don't remember if it's... I'm recordings these interviews out of order from how they're going to play. So I was talking to a friend of mine who's a... A medical professional and he was talking about how in a crisis situation if you have two people, maybe what you want is a nurse and a world class generalist, you know? As like the two people that you need. 0:29:58.8# Kitty: Pretty much. I think having a medic... Like I think everyone should have basic medical training, just basic shit, because that way anybody can do an emergency... Like, okay, "I can put gauze on this and stop the bleeding." That's what I need from people. And every time I go to a protest, people are asking what they could do to help and I'm like, "Just do that. Just do that, only." And help people with sprained ankles and keep them hydrated. 'Cause if you can do all of that then I can focus on stitching someone's head together. That's what I need to be able to be focused on because I'm not the squeamish one. So... Yeah, I think that helps a lot. Also coming up with things for you to do, that gets ignored a lot on prepper forums. At least the ones I've been on. They talk a lot about like, you know, "Okay, you've gotta have all of this foraging skills and you gotta have shelter building and you gotta have all these supplies in order to make all of this stuff," but there are no downtime options. And you're gonna have downtime sometimes. Like you're gonna get sick eventually, if nothing else. So make sure you have stuff to keep your mind busy during those times. 'Cause watching "Alone" for example, I don't know if you've ever seen that one but they put these people by themselves in the middle of the... Was it Canadian wilderness I think for at least the first couple of seasons? And they have to do everything from scratch. They have some supplies on them and a good supply list. But they have to pick like... 1 of 10 items, or 10 different items out of a list of like... pre-approved 50 different things they can have. So have to do a lot of stuff by themselves. And almost every single time the thing that gets to them is just a lack of food and boredom. And if they can keep themselves busy, somehow, like making music or making art or building... Like adding decorations to their shelter, then the fact that they're hungry doesn't bother them so much. But if they don't have anything like that, they're not creative in any way, then the fact that they're hungry literally gnaws away at their brain. So I just think that's a really interesting aspect... Like thinking a lot about mental health in an emergency scenario because I think that gets ignored with a lot of right-wing prepping forums and stuff like that. 0:32:53.6# Margaret: Yeah. Yeah I wonder what... I feel like there's just the deck of card, is what's written about in all the things. 0:33:03.3# Kitty: Yeah, it's always recommended. Always have a deck of cards. 0:33:05.8# Margaret: Which is like... You can tell that they wrote that in the 50's or whatever, you know? 0:33:10.1# Kitty: Right, in that... Part of it's gonna be like, "Oh, like for gambling in order to entertain yourself if... Gambling with the no money that you have. I don't know. It's just... I would much prefer to have... I don't know, Codenames or something. Endless replayability. 0:33:31.2# Margaret: Yeah, I feel like there's a... 0:33:32.1# Kitty: I mean, but... 0:33:32.8# Margaret: Go ahead. 0:33:32.8# Kitty: Let's be honest, I'd be playing Dungeons & Dragons. In my tracker tent as an actual ranger. Playing Dungeons & Dragons. 0:33:45.2# Margaret: You wouldn't play... What's the opposite of it? The dragons play, they play... Humans and Houses? 0:33:51.3# Kitty: Oh, yeah, maybe that too. I don't know, mix them up. Mix them together. 0:33:56.3# Margaret: You'd have roleplaying about what would you do if apartments still existed or whatever? 0:34:00.4# Kitty: Yeah. 0:34:02.7# Margaret: I think that... 0:34:03.3# Kitty: I mean, I guess I don't... I'm not that scared of that. It would be uncomfortable and I'd probably hate it a lot. I'm a house cat. But, you know, I'm not that worried about it either. And I think part of it is because I just made being prepared, knowing where my go-bag is at all times just part of my day-to-day existence. So it's just muscle memory at this point. 0:34:32.8# Margaret: Yeah. Earlier in our pre-conversation, when we talked about what we might talk about, one of the things you brought up is the ableism that exists in a lot of prepping conversations and I was wondering if you wanted to talk more about that. 0:34:46.0# Kitty: Yeah, so I noticed that a lot of discussions on what your go-plan is involves being able to walk long distances. Presumably because they figure walking a long enough distance would get you to area of wilderness, that they feel would be more suitable. I... That is really impractical for a large number of people. People with small children are going to struggle with that. Elderly people are going to struggle with that. People with disabilities are going to struggle with that. Some people with disabilities aren't going to be able to do that. It won't even be just a struggle, it's just impossible. So I think the... We need more diverse resources and we need to talk seriously about how to make this accessible for people who aren't in their... Super hyper fit, in their 30's, ready to charge over a mountain. And in the bay area you could you could walk for eight hours and I don't know that you would find a bit of wilderness... So I don't think that's necessarily the most practical option for all people. 0:36:08.7# Margaret: it's funny to me that all this stuff about going to the wilderness because I live in... Not the wilderness but I very rurally. I live in a house that I built at the end of a... Beyond the end of a gravel road like every stupid stick of my fucking cabin I had to carry up a hill on my back. I actually started building it with a chronic injury and then managed to... Physical therapy my way... This isn't a... Statement about ableism, just the weird stupid shit of building this fucking cabin I live in. 0:36:40.6# Kitty: But looks really cool. 0:36:43.0# Margaret: But there's... Thanks, yeah, no I'm really proud of it and it's funny because actually it's a brilliant place to live during civilization. But if there were some kind of crisis, I would probably get my to-go bag or my car presumably but let's pretend like that's not an option for whatever reason, and I would walk to the city. Because the city is where people are and that is where we can keep each other safe. I think people have this conception of... That people are a danger and that's true, people are dangerous, right? But the wilderness is really fucking dangerous too. And... 0:37:23.7# Kitty: People really underestimate how dangerous the wilderness is. They underestimate how cold it is. The cold will kill you, the wet will kill you. 0:37:34.4# Margaret: Yeah and so getting to... I don't know for certain, it would really depend on the threat, but I would presumably go to a place of higher population so that we collectively can figure out what the fuck to do. And maybe the fact that I have access to certain resources by living on land can become useful to people. And that would be my hope. I could easily imagine a situation where you have, as part of your prepping, you would have... The rural... With rural living access to space. You don't necessarily have access to anything else but you often have access to space and... So you can store tractors and you can store strange devices... Like devices that have very odd and specialized purposes for building or something like that. But then again, the thing I'm slowly learning is that cities have all of those things too. It's just that not necessarily each individual is going to own them. Because not everyone lives on a farm. 0:38:36.4# Kitty: Right. The city owns it or the government owns it. But yeah, there's plenty of parking lots. 0:38:42.5# Margaret: Yeah, that's true. 0:38:45.8# Kitty: So... Yeah. I mean, like... Oh, god. I'm trying to remember what the name of the show was. So I... I watch a lot of prepping and wilderness survival based shows. Somewhat to remind myself that nature is dangerous and also because I find them very amusing. And there was one that was... It wasn't entirely clear if it was a reality show or if it was scripted or both. Pretty sure it was both, but they were in LA. And I forget what they had decided ... The LA one I don't think it was a disease. They had a different calamity happen each season. And in the first season they had a good variety of people. They had several mechanics, they had a couple of nurses and doctors. They had martial arts teachers. So they had a good cross-section of people. And they did decently well surviving in a big warehouse in LA and came up with some incredibly inventive weapons and things. I remember they created a flame thrower out of bits of an old car which was stunning to watch. But then the second season they were in New Orleans, in some of the areas that have been devastated by Katrina. And they had underestimated how swampy it was and how hard it was going to be to get food and how there were tons of snakes and alligators that we're going to kill you. And also that one had a disease element so every once in a while someone would get claimed by a contagious disease and they would just start disappearing. But the thing that really got to them I think is that they didn't have a very diverse group of people. They had a lot of schoolteachers and artists and that's great, that's important stuff, but if they don't have any trade skills as well, they're gonna drop like flies. So it's really important to take your creative energies and learn how to do something that can embrace that but also has a living purpose. 0:41:12.1# Margaret: Yeah. Yeah, as a generalist I think about that where most of my skills are graphic design and audio which is great when you want to start a podcast, if you have been doing electronic music for twenty years or whatever, you know? But I think I've really consciously been working on developing my skills that are not only on a computer, you know? For kind of this purpose. 0:41:39.1# Kitty: Well, hey. Electronic music and audio says to me, making ham radios. Practical and useful. There's always something there, it's just like finding what those things are. Though I will say this, the first season in the warehouse in LA they had a big issue with masculinity. 0:42:04.7# Margaret: I only watched the second season. 0:42:05.4# Kitty: Everybody was... 0:42:06.9# Margaret: I watched the one where they all... 0:42:07.5# Kitty: The first one is great. It's like all these male mechanics shouting at each other about how to fix something better and then this female mechanic just goes and does it. 0:42:16.8# Margaret: Yeah, that sounds like a perfect metaphor. 0:42:19.1# Kitty: And then they when they all brag about how proud that they came up with this idea and she just rolls her eyes and you're just like, "Yup, that's how it would be pretty much." And that said to me a lot about mediation. Knowing how to mediate, knowing your own triggers. Like knowing your own mental health stuff so that you can then navigate other people's mental health stuff. That's also super important. And easy for anybody to do. 0:42:44.9# Margaret: Yeah, yeah I think knowing different organization models. Like I think knowledge and facilitation is a really important skill. I think people basically pick whichever organizational model seems to be practical when the existing larger structure goes away. And I've been in spaces where we haven't been sure how we're going to organize ourselves and I'm surrounded by a bunch of non-anarchists and then I'm like, "Well here's this model where we're all equals but we still actually figure things out." And it just works as compared to I'm pretty sure if someone had been like, "Here's the model, I'm pretty much in charge." And maybe it'll be like some veneer of democracy where he'll be like, and I'm just going to use 'he' for this imaginary patriarch... 0:43:28.5# Kitty: I wonder why. 0:43:29.7# Margaret: He'll be like, "I'm in charge and the we can have a little vote about that if we wanna prove that I'm in charge," you know? And everyone will be like, "Well, he's the one who is offering to get shit done." And what... Of course what people fail to realize is that's like... We get shit done, collectively. Whether it's collectively we do it and someone is taking the credit by being up top, you know? Or whether we do it... So that's one of the things that I think about with prepping. How to... And I think that's maybe one of the things that right-wing preppers are afraid of is they're like... They don't have... The only people skills that they know is this hierarchical system. Well, I guess there's plenty of leftists who also only seem to know hierarchical systems. But... 0:44:13.2# Kitty: I mean it's a pretty... It's a pretty common system. That's why... That's why I kind of enjoy the, everybody gets to be an expert in their own thing so that nobody is super... Nobody can be too pleased with themselves. Keeps everybody humble, I think. 0:44:34.3# Margaret: Yeah. So the one other main question that I... Or thing that I kinda wanna hash out with you for this which is probably gonna be the first episode, everyone who's listening will know whether or not it's the first episode. It will be very embarrassing if this is the seventeenth episode, but... Maybe talk about different threat models. That's... How we we determine what we need, of course, is dependent on what we think is likely to happen and as there's no one-size-fits all. And so you say the primary threat model that you're working with is a natural disaster. Do you want to talk about that or do you want to talk about other threat models or... 0:45:12.8# Kitty: Sure. Well, I think... Okay, a great example is the things that I want for a earthquake is not necessarily what I would want in a tsunami, right? Those are very different natural disasters. As somebody who grew up in hurricane country-ish, you know, it was just really really wet. And having a dust mask would not have helped me in any way. But I would be at much more risk of getting trench foot so that would be like, waterpreoof boots would be way more important. So some of it's knowing your environment and being aware of what your environmental concerns ar. Like living in a city, asbestos is a big fundamental concern. So having dust masks is really important. I feel like I read once that most deaths aren't... In an earthquake, come from inhaling the debris. And that... That causes some of the worst injuries because there's just all of this dust everywhere and... I know that was definitely true with the fires. A lot of people have... Still have some... Some still have breathing problems now from the various fires that were going on in Northern California. So knowing what you need to be concerned about. Like with earthquakes, knowing that the roads might not be super useful to drive on. So having alternative plans for that knowing where your bike paths are. Knowing... If you have a wheelchair for example, maybe thinking of a way to add some tread on your wheelchair might be a practical option. I have a beach cruiser. It's not a racing bike by any means but it's heavy and it's easy to find the parts. And it's really easy to fix myself, that's why I chose that. So thinking about what you can actually do, I think is helpful in figuring out your... Your strategy. I know that I don't know enough about my car to be able to completely dismantle it. However, I do know somebody who does know enough about my car to do that. So I can bike to him and then have him do that. So coming up with those kind of like, "Okay, if this then this, if this then this" strategies helps me at least, I have a very ADHD brain. It helps me have a... A process to go through. Now in California, earthquakes are a big concern especially in this area but fire is also a big concern. And the way I would prepare for a fire versus an earthquake, I would be more concerned about my paperwork disappearing in a fire than an earthquake. Though to be completely honest I'm not that fussed about my paperwork in general. I don't think getting rid of paperwork is the worst plan. But that's not what the government wants to hear from me. So I have... I have some paperwork in a folder that's easy to access if I need to grab something go because my apartment is burning but I wouldn't be as... I wouldn't care much about that if it was an earthquake because in my consideration there would will be enough of a drastic interruption in services for an earthquake that I don't think that that would be an immediate need. 0:49:16.3# Margaret: Yeah and you wouldn't certainly be the only one who has lost their paperwork. #0:49:20.4# Kitty: Right, exactly. Exactly. And again, I think that we use paperwork as a penalty for so many people that... Maybe mucking up that system a little bit is a convenient little thing I can do on the side. So I... Yeah, I guess... And all of that is completely separate from thinking of having invaders come and try to take my apartment away from me or something. That... I usually strategise for that by thinking about what my plan are if the cops get even more out of control. 0:50:02.9# Margaret: Right. Like fascist takeovers is on my... On my threat model list, you know? 0:50:08.9# Kitty: Yeah, yeah, totally. And you know... The cops have been pretty shitty around here for quite a while, so... You know, it's been a slowly increasing... Plan. But I mean... For me, I'm not interested in trying to shoot my way through the cops. I have no problem with people who that is their plan, I think it's great that there are people who are inclined that way, but I'm gonna go full rogue. I'm sneaky. I'm going to go to the sewers. I'm not as... I'm not as interested in that kind of direct conflict. So my model for that... Or like my managements for that would be really, really different from natural disasters. And I kind of feel like that are all the things that might actually happen. I mean, I guess a meteor could hit but... Eh. The prepping I do for every other disaster would be fine for that probably. Or I'd be dead. And wouldn't care. So... How about you? What are your... What's your threat model? 0:51:23.0# Margaret: So I live on a floodplain. It's not supposed to be a floodplain but global warming has made it a floodplain. And the mountains... When I first moved to the mountains, I grew up in the foothills, and when I moved into the mountains it... It kind of blew my mind that flooding is a problem because in my mind I'm like, "Well, everything is high up" and actually flooding is at least as much of a problem in... Well, the flooding is a problem in a lot different places, you know hurricanes cause floods, but flash floods in the mountains are very real especially in an era of mountaintop removal mining. which is not immediate thing immediately around me but it certainly affects places within a couple hours of where I live in Appalachia. But, you know, storms... Like the weather patterns are just changing dramatically and by living in rurally I'm not as defended against that in some ways because there's not a large crew of people working to try and figure out how to make sure that the little place that I live is... Is safe. And so we have to do it to whatever... Because you're not supposed to mess with of waterways, we have to do it through the state and all that, but in the meantime our land floods. And so... It flooded a couple days ago and I had to go out and try and prevent it from getting worse through whatever means. And... And I actually had this moment, you're talking about paperwork, I started walking into this flood with my wallet in my pocket. And then eventually realized that that was a bad idea. My wallet does not need to be in my pocket. I'm not going to get asked for my papers or need to purchase anything while I'm walking into this flood and... And so it's a... So natural disaster is like the top... Climate change affecting everything is my top threat model where I live. But fascist takeover is on there and fascist takeover... Is a really different set of problems. 0:53:42.9# Kitty: Yeah. And it's different kind of... 0:53:43.8# Margaret: And a lot of it still comes down to knowing your neighbors. 0:53:46.1# Kitty: It's a different set of prepping as well. It's a totally different set skills. 0:53:50.8# Margaret: Yeah. And I mean there's... And one of the things I was thinking about is... The thing I was really... That I realized, a lot of my... I've spent a lot of my life living outdoors. I was a traveling anarchist living out of a backpack, and I was a forest defender and was a squatter and I lived in a van, and now I live in a cabin. Almost half my life I've lived out... Off grid, essentially. And I was thinking how when in February I'm waist and sometimes chest deep in water, I was thinking how glad I am that just kind of by default prefer certain types of practical clothes. It's funny 'cause I... Most of the time... I built my house wearing a dress. But when I'm like, "Okay it's rainy," and I put my puffy vest and my waders, my muck boots, and wool socks. And I wasn't nearly as concerned about hypothermia, which is a major problem in floods especially in February, just because I wasn't wearing much cotton. And it's funny like because I never think about my outdoors skills. Like how to start a fire with tinder and flint and steel and all that. That's not... I don't really see a version of the world where I'm living in the woods alone and hunting squirrels and whatever the fuck, you know? But there are gonna be moments where I might be like... Needing to not get hypothermia while I'm trying to clear up a dam that's forming or whatever. 0:55:26.9# Kitty: Yeah, yeah. Two pairs of wool socks should be on everyone's list in their go bag for sure. 0:55:34.3# Margaret: Yeah, I keep a second vest... 0:55:35.7# Kitty: And the more wool clothing you have the better. 0:55:39.4# Margaret: But what's funny is than I was thinking that through when you're talking about fires, I was thinking about California, I was like... Well, actually the same clothes that are really good in flood and maybe a tsunami are not good in fire. You don't want to wear synthetic in a fire situation. So... But over all... 0:56:00.1# Kitty: But you actually do wanna wear cotton. 0:56:02.6# Margaret: Yeah. Yeah... 0:56:05.0# Kitty: I remember I used to... I used to blacksmith with my dad and he would be like, "What are you wearing? That's really impractical for this." I'm like, "It's fine. It's cotton, it'll just roll right off. You can't catch fire in cotton." He was like, "That's not really true... But it's more true, I guess." 0:56:22.2# Margaret: It's better than polyester. 0:56:24.0# Kitty: Yes, certainly, yes. 0:56:25.3# Margaret: It's not going to melt into your skin. 0:56:27.9# Kitty: I have melted through so many skirts with some prep butts for sure. And I'm sort of learning at this point that that's... That's a concern. But yeah, I mean that's definitely an area of my prepping that I need to be better about. Is just having practical clothes. I don't have that much in the way of practical clothes that can fold up really small and actually keep me warm or keep me cool. 0:56:59.3# Margaret: Yeah. But sometimes people over... Overestimate the importance of this. I've definitely gone hiking in maxi skirts all time. And every time I go hiking with someone new in a maxi skirt they're like, "Margaret, do you wanna wear that?" And I'm like, "Are you fucking kidding me, I've been hiking in these skirts for the past fifteen years I know what the fuck I'm doing." Yeah, they might get caught and rip on things but whatever, you know? So there's a... There's a... I'm suddenly defensive about like, "Oh no, you don't need practical clothes." I don't know, maybe... Maybe we all need practical clothes. But maybe sometimes... 0:57:31.7# Kitty: You definitely need socks and I would recommend more than one pair of underwear. Probably cotton just for... 0:57:38.9# Margaret: But that's, yeah... 0:57:39.2# Kitty: Keeping your genitals fresh. But other then that... You can figure it out. I mean... But also clothes are not exactly in short supply either. There's a lot of trash fashion that we can pad up to make something acceptable. 0:58:01.8# Margaret: Well, in a lot of disaster areas people gather clothes to bring there and all the people there are like, "Why did you bring us fucking clothes. Bring us fucking clean water. What you doing?" 0:58:12.6# Kitty: Well they're bringing clothes because you can't burn them in India or China anymore, right? So it's like, "Oh, we'll give it to poor people." 0:58:22.1# Margaret: That way we get to feel better and clean out our closet, yeah 0:58:25.7# Kitty: Yup. I mean it's just... I guess that's another... That another threat, is just being buried under stuff. Just trash. Just being slowly buried alive under trash. 0:58:39.4# Margaret: Well that's the... That's the status quo problem, right? There's... If the world doesn't end and it keeps going the way it goes that's also kind of horrible. 0:58:49.7# Kitty: Yeah, yeah. Well, I guess actually another threat model that I think a lot about is disease. Disease is definitely a big concern. We... I live in a city where everyone is on top each other. So... A disease can spread incredibly quickly. I remembered there was a person who went to Berkeley Bowl who had the measles or something and they just quarantined Berkeley bowl. And I was like, "I'm not leaving the house for two weeks, just in case, who knows?" And that's even with having a vaccine. It's just... Knowing that when the electricity fails a lot of things like vaccines are going to become a lot more difficult, if not impossible... 0:59:43.0# Margaret: To acquire or whatever? 0:59:45.1# Kitty: And then... And then it's... Yeah, to acquire, keep them cold. To refrigerate medications, that's not going to be possible. So figuring out that is also something I try to be somewhat aware of. Having alternatives to medication, having alternatives to street drugs also. So knowing about... Knowing how to use Narcan. Knowing a little about... I don't even know how to pronounce that, I've only seen it read... Kratom? 1:00:23.5# Margaret: Kratom I think. 1:00:25.6# Kitty: Yeah, so that has been used by a bunch of my friends when they've been withdrawing from opiates. So having stuff that could work as an alternate... I've always packed some pot in my medic bag even though I don't smoke pot. Because it's so useful for so many different things... That it's worth just having it in there. And that's something that could be a real problem. A bunch of people withdrawing at once... Is a huge problem. A bunch of people getting sick at once is a huge problem. So having alternatives for that stuff is something that I'm looking a lot more into. 1:01:13.4# Margaret: Yeah, that's interesting that... I haven't thought about that. 1:01:16.3# Kitty: And that's what... 1:01:16.3# Margaret: The... Specifically withdrawing. 1:01:18.6# Kitty: That's just really something right-wing people don't think about that. I've noticed this. They're afraid of... Sorry, I forget the actual terminology, again ADHD brain, and I tend to call things... Like I called bars alcohol restaurants, that's just... How my brain works. But there's some doomsday thing that a lot of people are hype on... 1:01:39.4# Margaret: Coronavirus? 1:01:41.8# Kitty: About... No, no, no. I wish it was that, that would make much sense but no. They're just being racist and frantic about that while not thinking about the flu which kills a lot more people. But anyway... No. It's the... It's like a solar flare is going to knock out all of our electricity? 1:02:02.9# Margaret: Oh, 'cause then it'll EMP us or whatever? 1:02:05.4# Kitty: That's the one, yes. There's so many of them who are so focused on that but then they don't think about disease at all. And that just blows my mind because disease is way more likely. 1:02:19.9# Margaret: Yeah, people are bad at threat modeling. 1:02:21.0# Kitty: Within our lifetime we've seen multiple plagues. 1:02:25.0# Margaret: Yeah. I mean it's... 1:02:27.7# Kitty: It's just really surprising. 1:02:29.7# Margaret: I think some of it is about... I mean most of it's that people are bad at threat modeling. But I think some of it is like people... Enjoy certain types of threats. Like preparing for certain types of threats more than others. And also probably enjoy preparing like... For something that makes them feel like they have more agency instead of less agency, you know? If you're someone who... All of your skills are about non-electric things you can be really excited about the power grid going down. But I don't know. 1:03:02.8# Kitty: But I mean... That is... That is another area to think about when it comes to ableism, for example. A lot of diabetics aren't going to be able to get access to their medication. So figuring out how do you deal with that. And I don't think there... I don't know that I have answer to that, I don't know that anybody does. While that's for certain something that I would want to... Know more about. 1:03:28.0# Margaret: I think that's why we have to not... It's why the end of the world is bad. Like disaster is actually a really bad thing. Like people clearly get kind of hooked on it, right, because they suddenly have agency in their lives and they... You know, and... Everything I've ever read or talk to people about, like suicide goes down, like psychotic breaks go down, things like that during crisis. And it's... But it's still, at the end of the day, something that if we can avert it we should. And that's actually why... As much as climate change is going to affect things, there are going to be disasters, there's going to be interruptions in our society, if there's ways we can find to make sure that that doesn't kill so many people or ruin so many lives... Even if it ruins economic systems, maybe, you know... And of course as an anarchist I say this, maybe the solution is to ruin the existing economic system. Although ideally by transferring it over to a system that... You know... So that we still have access to the... The things we need in the meantime. Which is actually, it gets... I'm almost done with this rant. The whole... There's a threat that the whole like... There's a Durruti quote where during the Spanish Civil War... Someone asks him, "Well, what about all the destruction of this revolution?" And he's like, "Well, we're workers, we're not afraid of ruins. Why would we be afraid of ruins, we're the ones who built this city, we can build again." And I think about... Often people are like, well, and this is a tangent 'cause now I'm talking about anarchist society, people are like, "In an anarchist society, how would you have antibiotics?" I'd be like "Well, I don't know, how do we fucking have them now? We'll do that. Or maybe a different way, I don't know." And there's still people in the apocalypse, right? There's still a ton of people in disaster and we all know how to do stuff. And so even if like the electrical grid dies, that doesn't mean there's no power. It doesn't mean there's no hospital, even, you know? There's... Like even... We can... Fix these things and do these things and some of those are already prepared for that. 1:05:43.8# Kitty: Yeah. And I mean... And I think... I guess I would say that while it's good to be prepared, I also think it's important not to psyche yourself out. I think it's important to... Not get too excited about it. Because the fact is a lot of people, a lot of black and brown people especially, disabled people especially, will die. In any kind of disaster that you would want to prep for. That's just... That's how we structured our society and that is going to happen. So I think that that is something to be aware of before getting too thrilled about... The end of the world, right? So that you're kinda saying some really fucked up stuff at the same time. And frankly I don't know that I would survive a disaster like that. But I do know that I don't think I could do it by myself. I do think I could do it with community. And I think that that's why I'm so focus on community and mutual aid. I read A Paradise Built In Hell and it's this really interesting book that looks at different disasters and kind of has that... Isn't it interesting how a disaster happens and people come together and help each other even when everything has gone shit. And how... I think this was kinda the intention of the author of this book but she does seem to point out a lot... Isn't it also interesting how often the government steps in and tells them to stop doing that? So no, that is not okay. And will actually murder people to prevent them from helping each other. And I think that... That's something I'd consider as sort of a secondary threat model is... The government trying to prevent people from actually doing okay without them. It's like an ultimate abusive relationship. And figuring out how to deal with that... When you're being funneled into resources that are not ready to handle them. Yeah, so I mean, you know, it's a lot. 1:08:25.9# Margaret: Well this is a... This is a really good... This is going to be the first episode and... So I think we've covered a lot of... Thanks for helping me kind of... Almost like set up what this show will hopefully drill down more about and yeah, thanks so much for... Talking to me about all this stuff today. 1:08:46.8# Kitty: Yeah, thanks for having me. I'm glad we could kind of work out... Sort of, here's all of the issues for... Here's a selection of all of the issues. But wait, there's more. 1:08:58.8# Margaret: Yeah, no, exactly. 1:08:59.1# Kitty: I'm looking forward to seeing the series. It should be pretty cool. 1:09:03.7# Margaret: Cool. Alright, well... Thank you so much. 1:09:06.5# Kitty: Thank you. 1:09:08.0# (Musical transition) 1:09:11.7# Margaret: Thanks for listening to the first ever episode of Live Like The World Is Dying. If you enjoyed the podcast, please tell your friends. Tell iTunes, tell Apple podcasts, tell whatever platform you get your podcasts on that you liked the podcast by subscribing, by reviewing it, by rating it and all of those things. It actually makes a huge difference and I think it'll especially a huge difference for the first couple episodes of a podcast. 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Chris chats with asexuals and aromantics about sex, fantasies, masturbation, non-sexualized kink, attraction, romantic relationships, fan fiction, stigma, representation, misconceptions about being ace and aro, and what it means to be queer, among many other topics. Guests include Dr. Pragati Singh, founder of Indian Aces and one of the BBC's 100 Inspiring and Influential Women of 2019, Courtney Lang, host of the A OK podcast, asexual lingerie model Yasmin Benoit, writer, activist and former sex worker Kitty Stryker, author and activist Sandra Bellamy, and model, photographer, and social media influencer Nik Hampshire, among others. Watch Nik's video Being Aromantic (while not asexual). Check out Sandra Bellamy's Youtube Channel and book. Read Kitty Stryker's article I'm An Asexual Sex Worker – And It's Not As Complex As It Seems. Listen to episode 79 of the Allusionist “Queer” and all of A OK. Finally, support Dr. Singh’s work here. Always feel free to email Chris about anything at chris@sexwithstrangersshow.com. You can also tweet at him: twitter.com/sexwithchris. Find him on Snapchat: ChrisSowa. Instagram: chrisinamerica. And Fetlife: Chris Sowa. Go to sexwithstrangersshow.com if the links in these show notes are not compatible with your podcast platform.

Chris chats with asexuals and aromantics about sex, fantasies, masturbation, non-sexualized kink, attraction, romantic relationships, fan fiction, stigma, representation, misconceptions about being ace and aro, and what it means to be queer, among many other topics. Guests include Dr. Pragati Singh, founder of Indian Aces and one of the BBC's 100 Inspiring and Influential Women of 2019, Courtney Lang, host of the A OK podcast, asexual lingerie model Yasmin Benoit, writer, activist and former sex worker Kitty Stryker, author and activist Sandra Bellamy, and model, photographer, and social media influencer Nik Hampshire, among others. Watch Nik's video Being Aromantic (while not asexual). Check out Sandra Bellamy's Youtube Channel and book. Read Kitty Stryker's article I'm An Asexual Sex Worker – And It's Not As Complex As It Seems. Listen to episode 79 of the Allusionist “Queer” and all of A OK. Finally, support Dr. Singh’s work here. Always feel free to email Chris about anything at chris@sexwithstrangersshow.com. You can also tweet at him: twitter.com/sexwithchris. Find him on Snapchat: ChrisSowa. Instagram: chrisinamerica. And Fetlife: Chris Sowa. Go to sexwithstrangersshow.com if the links in these show notes are not compatible with your podcast platform.

Hey there and welcome to Polyamory Uncensored, a podcast where your hosts Lyndzi Miller and Katie Williams interview a poly person each episode and try to answer the 5 basic tenets of journalism: who, what, when, where, and why as it pertains to our poly lives. This is special Episode 34 where Lyndzi and Katie interview each other and chat about their first year of podcasting! Happy anniversary to our guests who made this podcast happen, our audience who have listened to us ramble, and our hosts who have loved every minute of it! Mentioned in this episode is the book "Ask: Building Consent Culture," an anthology edited by Kitty Stryker. If you would like to support the podcast with a one-time contribution, we have set up a PayPal link to make it super easy! Please show your support in any amount you can here: PayPal.me/polyamoryuncensored. Thank you so much for any amount you can manage. If contributing in a monetary fashion isn't your thing or you just aren't able to, that's fine, you can help us out for free by giving us an iTunes review, liking and following us on Facebook and Instagram, sending us a voice message to play on the podcast (https://anchor.fm/polyamoryuncensored/message), or just telling your friends about us! Stay tuned as we delve into the good, the bad, the ugly, and the just plain complicated truths about our poly lives. We love you, bye! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/polyamoryuncensored/support

On Episode 71 Miss Quin opens up about all things clown fetish! What’s the appeal? How do you find partners that don’t think it’s weird? What's behind the sudden popularity in clown porn? We also talk about her latest venture, Cam Girl Camp. The turnover in the cam world is high-- most performers quit within the first 2 weeks. Miss Quinn tells us the reasons why & what she’s doing to change that. Lastly, online censorship is at a critical point. SESTA/FOSTA were intended to curb sex trafficking but have spectacularly backfired endangering sex workers across the country. The effects are now trickling down resulting in the censorship of anything having to do with sexuality on sites like Tumblr and Facebook. Sunny talks about how this unintended consequence affects all of us and what might be coming next.      ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 71 Links Miss Quin Twitter https://twitter.com/ThatMissQuin Miss Quin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thatmissquin/ Miss Quin YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/thatmissquin NSFW links: http://missquincam.cammodels.com clips4sale.com/studio/56029 http://thatmissquin.manyvids.com https://iwantclips.com/store/114817/ThatMissQuin New facebook TOS Sexual Solicitation section https://www.facebook.com/communitystandards/sexual_solicitation/?hc_location=ufi The Internet War on Sex is Here, Engadget https://www.engadget.com/2018/12/07/the-internet-war-on-sex-is-here/?fbclid=IwAR1N4OgfbD0mz6GFlr1pEsQdRBzQ8vX_p_NwDQdrqoN_r2poLvSA1_-CJvE New Facebook Policy Sparks fears of Sex Talk Crackdown, PC Magazine https://www.pcmag.com/news/365330/new-facebook-policy-sparks-fears-of-sex-talk-crackdown?fbclid=IwAR2iwHKlKjKgbegSl-_5qFt43-9AqXdEcQ1hRPhjqLlzR1ceX1GjsZI8aXY Episode 37 SESTA FOSTA w/ Kitty Stryker http://sunnymegatron.com/kitty-stryker-sesta-fosta-consent-juggalos/ Survivors Against SESTA website https://survivorsagainstsesta.org/ Sunny Megatron newsletter http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter (or text MEGATRON to 444999) Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Heaving Bosoms Podcast https://heavingbosomspodcast.com/ Episode 71 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Enter to win a We-Vibe Discover Gift Box & other goodies valued at $350 from babeland.com by filling out our Pleasure Podcasts listener survey. Winner will be randomly drawn the last week of December. Good luck! http://bit.ly/americansexsurvey Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more)http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed

Welcome to the second podcast for our month of consent. Today we are excited to be speaking with Kitty Stryker. We have spoken with Kitty previously during our month on Kink and today Monkey and the Madame sat down to chat with her about Consent, her book Ask: Building Consent Culture, and a lot more. For more information, please visit our website and check out the show notes: www.bcbcpodcast.com And remember - you can like us on all the social media, subscribe to our channel, download our episodes, become a Patreon supporter and so much more! We are a 501(c)3 non-profit organization so you can also make a tax deductible donation! Website: www.bcbpodcast.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BCBCPodcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Instagram: https://twitter.com/BCBCPodcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/BCBCPodcast

Reverend Cindi Knox, porn star Chanel Preston, comedians Liza Treyger and Megan Gailey, writer/activist/Juggalo anthropologist Kitty Stryker, and others share their thoughts on a diverse range of issues including #MeToo and Time's Up. This show also features a brief clip from episode 36 of American Sex Podcast, which also includes a lengthy conversation about SESTA/FOSTA. For more on that issue check out episode 598 of the Savage Lovecast, this techdirt post, this Vox story, this Guardian piece, and the Lawfare post mentioned on the show. Also check out the Allure article Cindi recommended: Navigating Beauty Standards as a Trans Woman is an Impossible Balancing Act. Other media mentioned include SNL's Welcome to Hell, that appalling Tony Robbins video, and episode two of Chanel's podcast Sex Think. Finally, don't forget to check out consentculture.com and Kitty's book Ask: Building Consent Culture. Correction: It was suggested that Jen is the only parent featured in the show. That is not true. Cindi is both a parent and a grandparent.

Reverend Cindi Knox, porn star Chanel Preston, comedians Liza Treyger and Megan Gailey, writer/activist/Juggalo anthropologist Kitty Stryker, and others share their thoughts on a diverse range of issues including #MeToo and Time's Up. This show also features a brief clip from episode 36 of American Sex Podcast, which also includes a lengthy conversation about SESTA/FOSTA. For more on that issue check out episode 598 of the Savage Lovecast, this techdirt post, this Vox story, this Guardian piece, and the Lawfare post mentioned on the show. Also check out the Allure article Cindi recommended: Navigating Beauty Standards as a Trans Woman is an Impossible Balancing Act. Other media mentioned include SNL's Welcome to Hell, that appalling Tony Robbins video, and episode two of Chanel's podcast Sex Think. Finally, don't forget to check out consentculture.com and Kitty's book Ask: Building Consent Culture. Correction: It was suggested that Jen is the only parent featured in the show. That is not true. Cindi is both a parent and a grandparent.

Kitty Stryker, writer, activist, and authority on developing a “consent culture” joins Laurie to discuss the topic of consent and if it really can exist in our culture. Powerful! The post What Is Consent? appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.

Kitty Stryker put the phrase “Consent Culture” on the map. Much of this week’s episode is devoted to SESTA/FOSTA and Kitty tells us why these bills are damaging to not only consensual sex workers but all of our personal and sexual freedoms. We dive into consent both inside and outside of the bedroom and discuss her new anthology “Ask: Building Consent Culture.” Kitty also gives us an interesting peek into Juggalo culture and how it might lead us down the path to a brighter future. Ken & Sunny spontaneously decide to send surprises in the mail to their growing Patreon family & give the secret word for the Peepshow Toys giveaway.  Call in your BDSM & sex advice questions to our voicemail line 773-MUFF-TOY (we may play your message on air) or by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, blooper reels & more!) Enter our monthly sex toys giveaway at http://sunnymegatron.com/halo and http://sunnymegatron.com/peepshowgiveaway Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Kitty Stryker's "super awkward poop story" over on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/kitty-strykers-18067385  Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 36 Links Kitty Stryker Twitter https://twitter.com/kittystryker Kitty Stryker Website http://kittystryker.com/ Kitty Stryker’s book, “Ask: Building Consent Culture” https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Building-Consent-Kitty-Stryker/dp/1944934251 Club Ascension Detroit Memorial Day Chicken BBQ http://club-ascension.com/event/chicken-bbq-memorial-weekend/ COPE Conference Ohio July 2018 http://www.adventuresinsexuality.org/COPE/tickets.html Sunny’s Womanizer/Satisfyer/Sona live stream sponsored by Peepshow Toys on Sunny’s facebook page (this is where you get secret word #2!): https://www.facebook.com/SunnyMegatron/videos/1777396082306225/ SESTA/FOSTA affected web properties: https://survivorsagainstsesta.org/documentation/ Petition to repeal SESTA/FOSTA (please sign & share!) https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/repealstop-fosta-now Explore More Summit (free online sexuality summit April 23-May 3) bit.ly/sunnyexploremore Episode 36 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Jimmyjane Halo Love Pod ($150 value) provided by Castle Megastore. Entrants must be over 18, US resident, no purchase necessary. Visit the giveaway page for details and to enter: http://sunnymegatron.com/halo Giveaway entry ends 4/30/2018 20% off your order at http://castlemegastore.com when you use code SUNNY at checkout (limited restrictions apply) Womanizer/Sona/Satisfyer giveaway sponsored by peepshowtoys.com. Entrants must be over 18, US or Canadian resident, no purchase necessary. Visit the giveaway page for details and to enter: http://sunnymegatron.com/peepshowgiveaway Giveaway entry ends 5/2/2018 10% off peepshowtoys.com with code SUNNY. Peepshow Toys is small, independently owned online pleasure products retailer committed to selling only quality products made of body-safe, non-toxic materials, at fair prices. Peepshow Toys carries a number of “indie” sex toy brands like The Butters, Split Peaches and Funkit Toys - companies that are similarly committed to offering body-safe, quality sex toys.  

This week we're doing something different. With the continuing progress of #metoo, #timesup and the questions about consent, there's no better time to talk about building towards a culture of enthusiastic consent. That's why I sit down with activist and writer Kitty Stryker, the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture" and talk about Aziz Ansari, what consent culture would look like, how society trains everyone to ignore their own boundaries and how to start examining the other ways we push boundaries - both our own and other people's. Show Highlights: How we get consent wrong Why we find enthusiastic consent to be so scary Why everyone makes mistakes regarding consent and how to handle them How examining non-sexual consent makes it easier to talk about sexual agency What it takes to build a society that prioritizes consent  and so much more. Related Links: Ask: Building Consent Culture The Trouble With Aziz Ansari How Do You Ask For Consent? F*ck Like A Gentleman pt. 1 Coerced Consent Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Consider becoming a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.doctornerdlove.com/books  

As British “Lucky” Paul states, “Aftercare can make a good scene great, and great scene go wrong” and so he’s here to share some helpful thoughts on pre-planning to ensure that aftercare is not an ‘after-thought’. Since everyone’s aftercare needs are different and both tops and bottoms need aftercare, it follows that they may not always be able to provide aftercare for each other. Lucky Albatross presents a solution in part two: using a different person who is better equipped and can be trusted to give the aftercare that is needed for either party. She talks about how best to communicate and provide for the different needs and also some strategies in case you have to do without. Kitty Stryker discusses various aspects of aftercare in part three: the logistics, different desires, necessities, communication/negotiation, and more. She offers many practical tips to help improve your post-sexual experiences with your partner(s). Experiencing the intense physical and psychological sensations and energy exchange of kinky scenes can leave the individuals feeling a wide range of emotions when it’s all over. That’s the time for aftercare, and as Princess Kali explains, both the bottom (or submissive) and the Top (or Dominant) should have their needs considered and cared for. Hear more about a wide variety of kink and sexuality topics at www.KinkAcademy.com .

We are so pleased to be speaking with Kitty Stryker -- feminist writer, queer activist, and author of Ask: Building Consent Culture. In this episode we talk about how consent affects our lives outside the bedroom as well as the difficult task of holding space for people who have been called out on boundary violations. You can find more about Kitty and her writing at ConsentCulture.com.If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more!Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com, or you can leave us a voicemail at 678-MULTI-05. We love to hear from our listeners and we read every message.

In time for New Year's Eve parties, just a reminder about consent. Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today I am starting my series on risk assessment in relationships with the topic of consent.  Consent is the foundation for all sexual agreements and relationships.   Some feel the current emphasis on consent is too intense and make fun of the idea of having to ask for permission each step of the way in a sexual encounter.  Others feel that we don’t take consent seriously and we make too many assumptions. Joining me today to discuss this is Kitty Stryker.  Kitty Stryker is a Degenderette, writer, queer activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships, which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as being head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Having finished "Ask: Building Consent Culture", an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in October, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her wife, boyfriend, and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche. We started by talking about issues around consent and the reasons for Kitty starting ConsentCulture.com.    Kitty spoke about how hard it is for people to take responsibility and then look at changing behaviour.  She spoke about the problems in the alternative sexuality communities when consent violations occur.  Often calling the police makes things worse as the police are not necessarily friendly to kinky, LGBT or people of colour.  She spoke about the need for communities to come up with a clear plan to resolve these situations that don’t simply involve calling someone out and then isolating that person from the community. We spoke about how hard it can be to give proper consent when alcohol or drugs are involved.  Kitty advises people to consider if they are willing to go to jail for the person and the activity they are about to undertake.  She highlights the fact that we all make mistakes in this area and violate consent.  It may be as simple as hugging an acquaintance who didn’t want to be hugged or as serious as rape.  We spoke about how it can be hard to draw your own boundaries and how this can be especially difficult if you are involved in power exchange.  Kitty spoke about the reasons that people don’t use a safe word even when they should and said that she had done some research that found that often women refuse to do so because they want to please a partner and men are more likely to just want to be seen as tough.  She spoke about sitting down and actually looking at how her boundaries had been violated over the years and how she had just brushed this off rather than dealing with the issues.  We spoke about things like playing in a public situation and how difficult it is for people to find a way to protect themselves without feeling like they are causing drama in public. We spoke about the trauma that perpetrators experience and the fact that they too need help to resolve any shame and guilt.  Kitty highlighted that when we talk about consent in sexual relationships it is only an opening conversation to discussing all the places in which we need to think about boundaries and consent in society.  She highlighted things like consent in medical situations, and where information is shared, and education. Kitty’s book will come out in October.  If you want to pre-order, here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Building-Consent-Kitty-Stryker/dp/1944934251/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1497383382&sr=8-1&keywords=ask+building+consent+culture The website for the book is https://consentculture.com/  Website where stories have been gathered about consent to help deepen understanding https://medium.com/consent-culture-a-conversation Website Link http://kittystryker.com/   Facebook link https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker/   twitter link https://twitter.com/kittystryker Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com.  If there was something you didn’t like, tell me that too! Follow me on twitter @drbisbey, Instagram @drbisbey and Facebook.  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now! If you enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe and leave a review on iTunes.    Sign up to find out more here   

Kitty Stryker, writer, activist, and authority on developing a “consent culture” joins Laurie to discuss the topic of consent and if it really can exist in our culture. Powerful! The post Sex and Happiness – What is Consent? appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.

This is one of our bonus shows but the content is so good and people kept asking us to release it. So I am posting it in solidarity with the Lo's and Lette's marching today.

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones. Today I am starting my series on risk assessment in relationships with the topic of consent.  Consent is the foundation for all sexual agreements and relationships.   Some feel the current emphasis on consent is too intense and make fun of the idea of having to ask for permission each step of the way in a sexual encounter.  Others feel that we don’t take consent seriously and we make too many assumptions. Joining me today to discuss this is Kitty Stryker.  Kitty Stryker is a Degenderette, writer, queer activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships, which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as being head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Having finished "Ask: Building Consent Culture", an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in October, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her wife, boyfriend, and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche.   We started by talking about issues around consent and the reasons for Kitty starting ConsentCulture.com.    Kitty spoke about how hard it is for people to take responsibility and then look at changing behaviour.  She spoke about the problems in the alternative sexuality communities when consent violations occur.  Often calling the police makes things worse as the police are not necessarily friendly to kinky, LGBT or people of colour.  She spoke about the need for communities to come up with a clear plan to resolve these situations that don’t simply involve calling someone out and then isolating that person from the community.   We spoke about how hard it can be to give proper consent when alcohol or drugs are involved.  Kitty advises people to consider if they are willing to go to jail for the person and the activity they are about to undertake.  She highlights the fact that we all make mistakes in this area and violate consent.  It may be as simple as hugging an acquaintance who didn’t want to be hugged or as serious as rape.  We spoke about how it can be hard to draw your own boundaries and how this can be especially difficult if you are involved in power exchange.    Kitty spoke about the reasons that people don’t use a safe word even when they should and said that she had done some research that found that often women refuse to do so because they want to please a partner and men are more likely to just want to be seen as tough.  She spoke about sitting down and actually looking at how her boundaries had been violated over the years and how she had just brushed this off rather than dealing with the issues.  We spoke about things like playing in a public situation and how difficult it is for people to find a way to protect themselves without feeling like they are causing drama in public.   We spoke about the trauma that perpetrators experience and the fact that they too need help to resolve any shame and guilt.  Kitty highlighted that when we talk about consent in sexual relationships it is only an opening conversation to discussing all the places in which we need to think about boundaries and consent in society.  She highlighted things like consent in medical situations, and where information is shared, and education.   Kitty’s book will come out in October.  If you want to pre-order, here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Building-Consent-Kitty-Stryker/dp/1944934251/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1497383382&sr=8-1&keywords=ask+building+consent+culture     The website for the book is https://consentculture.com/   Website where stories have been gathered about consent to help deepen understanding https://medium.com/consent-culture-a-conversation     Website Link http://kittystryker.com/   Facebook link https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker/   twitter link https://twitter.com/kittystryker   Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com.  If there was something you didn’t like, tell me that too! Follow me on twitter @drbisbey, Instagram @drbisbey and Facebook.  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to www.the-intimacy-coach.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!    If you enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe and leave a review on iTunes.  If you want more information, sign up for my newsletter here. I look forward to seeing you next week for part two of risk assessment in relationships.    

Kitty Stryker is a feminist killjoy—and her tattoo will be the first to let you know it! “If I watched stand-up comedy, I would break my laptop in half,” the queer activist and writer says. Kitty joins me for a lively discussion about call-out culture and modern feminism. We agree that it’s important to do more than just shout and be angry. That’s why she’s writing a ‘zine titled “So You Got Called Out” to show what to do after you’ve been force-fed pages upon pages of feminist theory. Because action is important. And Kitty Stryker is all about action. Enjoy some lively debate—with some light-hearted talk about cannibalism—on an all-new Manwhore Podcast! PLUS: privilege, Patton Oswalt, #PayForYourPorn, pagans, Muki’s Kitchen, and election night orgies! RSVP for next week’s Fanwhore Facebook Live Hangout! You can pre-order Kitty’s book Ask: Building Consent Culture today! Be sure to check out Kitty Stryker on the interwebs: Website Twitter: @KittyStryker Instagram: @MissStryker Patreon Join our fanwhore community for as little as $1! Click here to become a member! The Manwhore Podcast is sponsored by the PURE Hookup app. Download PURE today and have awesome casual sex tonight! Get $30 off convenient, licensed therapy with Talkspace with the promo code MANWHORE at sign up. Email your comments, complaints, and boobie pictures to manwhorepod@gmail.com. www.ManwhorePod.com

Kitty Stryker, writer, activist, and authority on developing a “consent culture” joins Laurie to discuss the topic of consent and if it really can exist in our culture. Powerful!   The post Sex and Happiness – What is Consent? appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast This week it's just you and me, working our way through some rad listener questions. It starts with some listener love from an episode I did around the election last year. Sometimes I feel a little nervous to share political stuff - like the oppression episode and the abortion episode, but I trust you to hold space even if we disagree. I will be having a vendor booth at the Vancouver Dyke March. YAY! Of course, I got love for Amarna Miller's interview in Episode 168 and Ruby Bouie Johnson's polyamory chat on Episode 166. Gavin appreciated Amarna's views on ethical porn and her deliberate choice to share herself on film. Me, too! It's so frustrating to me that we still need to constantly prove to the world that sex workers are people with agency and complex stories. But, I'm grateful it means I get to connect with amazing folks like Amarna and Andre Shakti and Kitty Stryker and Conner Habib... Michelle wanted to know about the fat-friendly wedge pillow I mentioned a few years back. That was the Liberator wedge and I highly recommend it. Jes wrote in with feelings she had about my Orgasmic Meditation episode. Let's make sure we all move into spaces that combine sex with other things like money or spirituality with an open mind and also a healthy dose of skepticism. Abuse is SO easy in these spaces because we're all moving through so much shame. T.S. is struggling with a lot of anger and big feelings. Her friend's dad just cheated on her friend's mom and she doesn't understand why. How can she support her friend and her friend's mom and how can she process her feelings about it? Why do people cheat? I have lots of thoughts, and explore so many of the reasons people might cheat and why it doesn't mean a lack of love, even if it does mean lots of pain and hurt. Ethan gets aroused by screenprinting on t-shirts and clothing. He wonders is this a fetish that others have? Where can he learn more? It's not a fetish, per se, but he gets very turned on by the look and smell and even taste of screenprinted letters. I weigh in. Zak needs help. His wife hates his cum and he wants her to love it. How can he get her to open up to the idea? Also, why doesn't she have any fantasies? I have big thoughts about "making" someone like anything. Instead, how can we create relationships full of openness, vulnerability, and curiosity, so that we can share our desires without feeling judged or like we have to force other people to change? Shout out to Wendy Strgar for developing fantasies. Miss B is worried about the age difference between her and her new partner. They're having AMAZING sex and they're in love, but will there come a time when the age becomes a problem?  Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Aired Thursday, 15 June 2017, 4:00 PM ET Navigating Consent with Kitty Stryker, author of “Ask: Building Consent Culture” Martha invites Kitty Stryker onto the show to discuss what consent culture is, why it’s important, and how it can challenge rape culture. Kitty has been a consent activist for over 6 years, working with alternative communities to combat abuse and create sustainable accountability practices. Martha and Kitty will explore the ways in which alternative sexualities embrace constructs of consent, and the ways in which they are still learning. About the Guest: Kitty Stryker Kitty Stryker is a Degenderette, writer, queer activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships and which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as creating the award winning Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society, the SF based kink party Whippersnappers, and acts as head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Having finished “Ask: Building Consent Culture”, an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in October, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her wife, boyfriend, and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche. Websites: kittystryker.com and https://medium.com/@kittystryker Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kittystryker Blog: http://kittystryker.com/blog/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/kittystryker Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missstryker/

 Without consent, desire cannot flourish ~ Carol Queen Consent is far more than the absence of “no” – and is a vital social skill in and out of the bedroom. Consent culture is a critical piece of remaking our sex culture to be healthy, happy and pleasurable for us all. Consent culture is about empowering ALL […] The post Building Consent Culture with Kitty Stryker appeared first on Pleasure Mechanics.

Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Plus, some news about my personal life. I'm moving to Canada, FINALLY. Also, my Bartholin gland flared up - and I had to take my own advice around new ways to experience sex and touch when intercourse and masturbation were off the table for several weeks. Ugh. Bodies. This week's show features a listener confession from S about a mess she had in her life. We also get an update from Scarlett Grace about telling her friend that she doesn't want to have threesomes with her anymore. Hailey wrote in asking how she can support a friend who was raped but who doesn't want to call it rape and who hasn't asked for support. How can you be a good friend and let someone know you're there for them after sexual assault, trauma, or rape? Let's talk about centering survivors and what that might look like, even if it feels really terrible for the people around them. Also, I am planning a trauma summit in August. Get on the Explore More list to get the notification. It will be free. Kelsey wonders - what's the difference between having a type or having a fetish, especially when it's racist and oppressive? Kelsey has a co-worker who constantly talks about Asian women and why he loves them. It's tokenism and exoticism, and she wants to know what she should do. My thoughts include why we ALL have a responsibility to critically reflect and examine our fantasies. Kitty Stryker has a thought-provoking piece on this very thing that's linked below. Sometimes we need to feel ashamed and move through that to get to deeper, more meaningful understandings of ourselves. Micah loves Conner Habib's deep questions, especially about impossibility and opening up conversations to new thought. He wants to know - why do we so often jump to "never" when even bringing up new ideas around sex and love? I have loads of thoughts. A lot of it comes back to safety. Stephanie's boyfriend has premature ejaculation and it's impacting their sex life. Medicine hasn't worked. She hates her body. She's faking her orgasms. What can she do? Big big thoughts there on body neutrality, on removing goals and expectations from sex, and from trying something new when the things you're trying keep not working. You do NOT need to love your body to have enjoyable sex. If you're interested in one-on-one coaching, check out my options here. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources mentioned in the show Kitty Stryker's article about examining our fantasies and challenging ourselves when they're racist, sexist, and problematic. Meg-John Barker & Justin Hancock's new book, "Enjoy Sex: (How, when and if you want to): A Practical and Inclusive Guide" Elle Chases's new book, "Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life" About Dawn Serra Sex is a social skill. I speak it. I write it. I teach it. I help you learn how to develop it. I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I'm not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it's not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. You are the first in the world to know that enrollment for the 2017 Explore More Summit is OFFICIALLY open. The summit is free, runs for ten days, and features interviews with SOO many incredible thought-leaders. You can sign-up at exploremoresummit.com. It's been incredible creating these talks, so I hope you'll check it out. It all starts March 8th, 2017. And... Because I've been conducting so so so many intense, deep interviews, I wanted to take a break and make this week nice and easy - you and me, powering through a ton of listener emails and keeping it casual and intimate. So, what are we talking about this week? Mike ALWAYS gives his wife an orgasm and the last three times they've had sex, she hasn't cum. Will it happen again? What can he do? Deb is a bottom but her husband wants her to top him sometimes. Can she find a way to enjoy being dominant? Ali wants more information on how people become strippers. I'm not a sex worker, so I can't speak to this, but I do reflect on some previous conversations with folks like Andre Shakti, Madison Young, Kitty Stryker. Big Vulva wrote in about how she feels about the way her labia look and it's wonderful. Plus, I get called out for an ageist comment, someone wants to know how common CFNM fantasties are, Mary wonders about whether anal sex will ever feel good for her, and can a porn addict husband be trusted to watch porn with his wife? Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources from this episode Erika Lust's EroticFilms.com is a great place to find loads of feminist, ethical erotic films. (I'm an affiliate, too!) Siouxsie Q's podcast, The Whorecast, which is all sex workers talking about their stories, experiences, and issues. Check out my Anal 101 online workshop. Tristan Taormino's "The Ultimate Guide to Kink" which includes an awesome essay by Midori on FemDomme, female domination and how to get started. ForteFemme.com - Midori's website for her weekend intensive on female domination Midori's Facebook Live video on female domination. Check it out on Vimeo. About Dawn Serra In a world hellbent on making us feel like we aren't enough, Dawn Serra is on a mission to rewrite the stories we're told about sex, relationships, and our bodies. Dawn is the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. She also teaches adult sex ed workshops online and in person, and works one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. When she's not podcasting, lecturing, or writing about all of the ways we relate to each other, Dawn can often be found watching an episode of Hoarders, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with her husband. Dawn's epic Explore More Summit is unfolding again now. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Content note: talk of suicide. I always love when I get to have nuanced conversations about topics like sex work, porn, consent, and polyamory. So, when Kitty Stryker said she'd come on the show, I knew the discussion would be a gritty one. Kitty is currently working on an anthology book all about creating consent culture that comes out in 2017. We dig into what that looks like and how she's centering marginalized voices. Then we talk about what consent means within the context of capitalism and work. If you can't leave sex work because traditional employers won't hire former porn performers and you have to remain in sex work even if you're ready to leave, can you truly be consenting to the work? If we started focusing more on labor issues and capitalism, could we bridge the gap between anti-sex work feminists and pro-sex work feminists to find a common ground where nuance was encouraged? Kitty also shares a personal story about suicide and how it ties into kink and poly communities. What does a community actually mean, anyway? At the end of the hour, we field a question from a listener about polyamory and whether it's right for her. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources from this episode Kitty's article "Porn Didn't Ruin Your Sex Life. Sorry." "So Someone You Love is Suicidal" by Kitty can be read here, too. The Five Love Languages About Kitty Stryker Kitty Stryker is a writer, activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of >ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships and which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as creating the award winning Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society, the SF based kink party Whippersnappers, and acting as head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Now working on "Ask: A Discussion of Consent Culture", an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in 2017, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her fiancee and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche. You can find Kitty at kittystryker.com, on Twitter @kittystryker, and on Facebook. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Maybe you thought the 2006 live-action Charlotte's Web would be the most terrifying adaptation of this beloved childhood classic you would ever have to endure. Well, as always, we're here to disappoint. Thanks to Kamala Puligandla, Jared Schwartz, Sarah Stanton, Kitty Stryker, Irene Tu, and Joe Wadlington for getting down into the filth with us.

¡Bienvenidos a Pernocte! Todo lo que siempre quisieron hacer con el sexo y nunca se animaron. En este episodio, Paula Giménez se pregunta y nos pregunta: ¿qué aprendimos de la pornografía y qué diferencias hay entre el porno y el sexo real? Con las voces de Victor Maytland, Hernán Panessi, Lorena Mexy, César Jones y Kitty Stryker.

This time at Shipwreck, we examine the controversy surrounding GMOs, via the Mary Shelley classic about that monster whose name we're always forgetting. Panelists include Evan Burton, Lily Miller, Giselle Cheung, Joe Wadlington, Kitty Stryker, and Molly Sanchez. Brought to you by Monsanto.

This episode is a trifle, really, a pastoral meditation on the loveways of Civil War-era monied poor. Gather round the hearth, dear listeners, for the masterful prose of Pickwick Club members Lauren Parker, John William, Ferocity Prose, Louis Evans, and Kitty Stryker. Read by Baruch Porras-Hernandez.

Episode 65 – Clown Play Big Little Podcast Episode 65 They are both loved and reviled. They subvert social norms while bringing either terror, joy, or sometimes joy. Love or hate them, our guests Buttons and Cream Pie, a.k.a. Mr. Del and Kitty Stryker, share with us their amazing experiences that include  engaging age play, […]

You can't get a ticket to this Saturday's performance of Cum and Glitter, a secret live sex-show for and by sex workers (because it's sold out), but you can join us now at their (un)dress rehearsal! We'll talk with Dorian Faust, queen of indie burlesque, about her & Eve's "fall from grace" - a burlesque-ter-bation! Also race politics in taking off your clothes professionally. Then we'll talk to Kitty Stryker, sex-worker and "Purrversitility" blogger, about her military spanky-the-klown (or spanking the clown scene) scene, creating consent culture, and working as a "fat" sex worker. Kitty and her sex-positive colleagues Kelly Shibari, and Jolene Parton did a presentation on the challenges of being - or being perceived as "fat" for the kind of sex work you are doing... there are positive, healing things about "fat sex work" Kitty adds, as well. How can you contribute to consent culture? Very literally, in fact. You can also watch Saturday's sold-out Cum & Glitter shows live streaming from the comfort of your own laptop on Skin Video, or watch previous shows now on Indie Porn Revolution. Thanks to Tristan Crane for taking this photo!