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Some kinds of jealousy can just feel totally overwhelming. They may even make you feel rage. Justice jealousy is definitely one of them. Justice jealousy—a term that was coined by Jessica Fern (one of our favorite authors and recurring PWF guest)—can happen when your partner wasn't able to provide something for you in the past, and then you witness them providing that same thing to one of their other partners. Ouch! The feelings that come up in these situations can be strong. So we're here to give you strong frameworks, ideas, and tools that can help you understand, unpack, and work towards finding a resolution. (Spoiler alert, resolution might not look like what you had in mind when justice jealousy is in the picture!) In this episode, we talk about: — Why it's important to know the difference between jealousy and envy — What underlying issues can fuel strong feelings of justice jealousy — Why it may be more helpful to focus on empathy and understanding instead of strict ideas of fairness — The complexities of relationship repair in situations of justice jealousy — Communication, forgiveness, healing, and the tools that can help you work through justice jealousy and its related issues Resources mentioned in this episode: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern Imago Dialogue: Episode 129 of Playing With Fire Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here Read the transcript of this episode here Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
In a world where traditional relationship structures are being challenged and redefined, the concept of polyamory has emerged as a topic of both curiosity and controversy. In this episode, Dr Scott delves into the intricacies of this multifaceted approach to love and intimacy with Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, coach, and author of "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non-Monogamy."Jessica's expertise lies in guiding individuals, couples, and those in multiple-partner relationships to transcend the limitations of reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas. Through her work, she invites us to explore new possibilities in life and love, challenging the conventional norms that have long governed our understanding of relationships.Dr Scott and Jessica unpack the definition of polyamory and its place within the broader umbrella of consensual non-monogamy. They'll confront the misconceptions and taboos surrounding this lifestyle, such as the belief that it is rooted in promiscuity or an inability to commit. Together they delve into the concept of erotic blueprints, a framework for understanding our unique desires and needs within the realm of intimacy. Jessica will guide us through the different styles of erotic blueprints, from energetic to kinky, and how understanding our own blueprint can enhance our connections and sexual satisfaction.Listen in as they embark on this thought-provoking journey, challenging societal norms and embracing the diversity of human connection. Whether you're curious about polyamory, seeking to deepen your understanding of intimacy, or simply open to exploring new perspectives, this episode promises to be an enlightening and transformative experience.Topics We Break Down: Understanding Polyamory and Ethical Nonmonogamy: Definitions and different styles of consensual nonmonogamy.Evolution of polyamory terminology and common misconceptions surrounding ethical nonmonogamy.Guidelines for setting up rules and agreements in polyamorous relationships, and recommendations for couples considering polyamory.Differentiating between romantic, emotional, and intimacy needs, and understanding how emotional needs drive relational needs.Signs of healthy monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, including the significance of self-care.Recognizing the difference between avoidance and attachment in relationships, and the concept of an erotic blueprint.Navigating parenting within polyamorous relationships and why relationship success should not be defined by longevity.
In this special bonus episode, Whit Missildine interviews Jessica Fern. Jessica Fern is a renowned psychotherapist, trauma and relationship expert, and the author of two books: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. To find out more about Jessica and her work, you visit her website jessicafern.com or find her on Instagram @jessicafern411.Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew WaitsContent/Trigger Warnings: sexual themes, explicit language Social Media:Instagram: @actuallyhappeningTwitter: @TIAHPodcastWebsite: thisisactuallyhappening.comSupport the Show: Support The Show on Patreon: patreon.com/happeningWondery Plus: All episodes of the show prior to episode #130 are now part of the Wondery Plus premium service. To access the full catalog of episodes, and get all episodes ad free, sign up for Wondery Plus at wondery.com/plus Shop at the Store: The This Is Actually Happening online store is now officially open. Follow this link: thisisactuallyhappening.com/shop to access branded t-shirts, posters, stickers and more from the shop. Transcripts: Full transcripts of each episode are now available on the website, thisisactuallyhappening.comIntro Music: "Illabye" – Tipper ServicesIf you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of trauma or mental illness, please refer to the following resources:National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Text or Call 988 National Alliance on Mental Illness: 1-800-950-6264National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Some kinds of jealousy can just feel totally overwhelming. They may even make you feel rage. Justice jealousy is definitely one of them. Justice jealousy—a term that was coined by Jessica Fern (one of our favorite authors and recurring PWF guest)—can happen when your partner wasn't able to provide something for you in the past, and then you witness them providing that same thing to one of their other partners. Ouch! The feelings that come up in these situations can be strong. So we're here to give you strong frameworks, ideas, and tools that can help you understand, unpack, and work towards finding a resolution. (Spoiler alert, resolution might not look like what you had in mind when justice jealousy is in the picture!) In this episode, we talk about: — Why it's important to know the difference between jealousy and envy — What underlying issues can fuel strong feelings of justice jealousy — Why it may be more helpful to focus on empathy and understanding instead of strict ideas of fairness — The complexities of relationship repair in situations of justice jealousy — Communication, forgiveness, healing, and the tools that can help you work through justice jealousy and its related issues Resources mentioned in this episode: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern Imago Dialogue: Episode 129 of Playing With Fire Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
We're back with Jessica Fern and David Cooley, co-authors of the incredible book Polywise, and this time they're answering your questions. We cover so much in this episode, but it's all through the lens of a restorative relational framework, which is an incredibly powerful way to transform how you move through conflict in your relationships. Their responses include both practical exercises that you can implement in your life today, and important, big-picture discussions about polyamory, attachment, jealousy, reassurance, parenting, and so much more. Here are the questions that Jessica and David answer in this episode: What would you recommend for a hinge partner working to unpack codependence in non-monogamy? How do I manage this feeling? - When my partner is getting closer to someone else, in my head, that means that they're moving further away from me. How can I rebuild or repair metamour relationships when resentment and misunderstandings have started to pile up? What do you do when you're parenting with someone that you're disentangling from? How do I meet attachment needs within long distance partnerships? Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at www.JessicaFern.com David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. In his private practice, David specializes in working with non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. To learn more about doing restorative partner work with David, visit his website here: www.restorativerelationship.com JOIN The Year of Opening community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at www.theyearofopening.com Playing With Fire has been featured as one of the top 5 best non-monogamy podcasts! Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
Guess what, we've got temple secrets, yes we do. We've got temple secrets...how about you? We are joined by the dynamic duo of Julia Sanders and American Marvel of Analyzing Mormonism, so you know it's gonna be a party. Click that link and hear about the changes that have occurred with the anointing and the preparation, and wonder how we even got here. Fun fact, the fella who played satan in the old temple entrance video was in the classic 80's movie "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun." Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-monogamy by Jessica Fern. https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/52569124 We have to ask, how is the head and how is the heart? DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com and let us know.
Individuation, enmeshment, symbiosis, co-dependence, individualism, interdependence… how on Earth can we navigate through all these paradigms and bring balance to our relationships?? Luckily, in this episode, we're joined by Jessica Fern and David Cooley, two all-star authors and practitioners in the non-monogamy space. We get into the nuances of individuation, and how to work towards differentiation in a way that is intentional instead of reactive. We talk about the monomind (that sneaky thing is always causing trouble!!) and how it can be a barrier to individuation and healthy conflict resolution in non-monogamous relationships. Jessica and David's new book Polywise is a must-read. Learn more about it here! Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at www.JessicaFern.com David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. In his private practice, David specializes in working with non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. To learn more about doing restorative partner work with David, visit his website here: www.restorativerelationship.com JOIN The Year of Opening community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at www.theyearofopening.com Playing With Fire has been featured as one of the top 5 best non-monogamy podcasts! Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
This week on Let's Talk Love, Robin sits down with Jessica Fern. Jessica is the acclaimed author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy and Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships. With a wealth of experience in the field of couples therapy and a deep understanding of attachment theory, Jessica brings a fresh perspective to the complexities of human connections. Jessica shares her experience working with clients in non-traditional relationships and helps normalize the discussion around Consensual Nonmonogamy (CNM). Robin and Jessica explore common misconceptions, fears, and principles of CNM relationships. Jessica also discusses her personal journey with CNM and living with multiple partners.This insightful conversation challenges listeners' perspectives and provides a deeper understanding of diverse relationship structures. Whether you're single, in a committed relationship, or exploring alternative relationship structures, this episode provides valuable wisdom and actionable advice for fostering deeper connections in your life.We want to hear from you! Send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionLevel up your relational skills at In Bloom April 12-14, 2024https://www.realloveready.com/in-bloom-a-love-and-relationships-summit-2024Learn more with Jessica Fern:Website: https://www.jessicafern.com/FOLLOW JESSICA FERN: INSTAGRAMFOLLOW RLR: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | XWatch the podcast on YouTube: youtube.com/realloveready Credits: the Let's Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.
Jennifer Fern is coming BACK to Playing With Fire next week! So this week, please enjoy a replay of another wonderful episode we did together. ~ It's normal to want your relationship to feel secure. It's normal to want to individuate. It's normal to want to explore what life can look like beyond the constraints of default monogamy. But how do you actually deal with your specific attachment wounds and still create a love that makes space for multiple loving connections? Joli & Jessica dove into how attachment theory can help us make a relationship that actually works for us, but we went beyond the surface of attachment theory. Y'all are smart- and she's done a lot of interviews already (google is your friend), so I wanted to go deeper and find out how Jessica weaves other theories into her work and how she helps people move out of relational trauma loops and into the life they desire. Jealousy, internal family systems/parts work, and narrative therapy... oh, and some sneak peeks of Jessica's upcoming book Polywise! Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at www.JessicaFern.com JOIN The Year of Opening community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at www.theyearofopening.com Playing With Fire has been featured as one of the top 5 best non-monogamy podcasts! Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
Jessica Fern's first book, PolySecure, rocked my world and started me down my path of Self-Love. Her 2nd book, Polywise, authored with David Cooley is just as revolutionary - right in the sweet spot of polyamory and personal growth. I appreciate both Jessica and David's candid honesty regarding their own personal life paths and how they have gained the knowledge they included in the book. What a conversation! FYI - part of the episode we had to cut because we lost connection with Jessica. In my edits, I accidentally cut out the part where David says how you can find him. Please find him directly at www.resortativerelationship.com Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy, The Polyseucre Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com. (IG @Jessicafern411) David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. In his private practice, David specializes in working with non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. www.resortativerelationship.com Looking for more love in your life? Start with yourself? The next Self-Love Journey starts in January 2024! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amorypodcast/support
Today we're excited to share a conversation with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, Polywise. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonogamy, The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas.David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. He specializes in working with non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.VisitShamelesscare.com today and use coupon code MULTI for a sizzling $30 discount at checkout. Don't settle for anything less than Shameless Care. Let them be your partner in embracing a sex-positive lifestyle. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode I talk about the 12 lessons I have learned in my Polycurious journey. Be Patient. Go as fast as the slowest person Find the right time to talk Check with your partner before making plans with other people Feeling guilt at first is normal Don't sugarcoat. Be honest with your partner Determine how much you want to share with your partner Meeting your partner's partners (metamours) helps with jealousy Jealousy and insecurities are likely to decrease with time You can't control your feelings for other people Infatuation and New Relationship Energy can be fleeting Be careful where you invest your energy Non-sexual intimacy can be powerful If you are interested in my relationship coaching services reach out to polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Resources discussed in this episode: Fer & Seth's episode Jessica' Esfandiary's episode Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Rachel Krantz episode Dr.Zhana's episode Mariah & Fer's episode Tory and Jackson's Monocurious episode Follow Polycurious on Instagram Tik Tok Facebook Twitter YouTube --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polycurious/message
Today, my Dropping Keys conversation partner is Jessica FernJessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polyseucre Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love.In this volume:crazy wisdom,attachment,narrative therapy,grounded theoryand unconditional acceptance.Enjoy.You can find Jessica atJessicaFern.com
In this episode, psychotherapist and author of Polysecure Jessica Fern and I discuss the various dimensions of Consensual non-monogamy. Jessica shares whether polyamory is a privilege or whether everyone can do it, the connection between polyamory and trauma, and how to enter open relationships without hurting our partners. Finally, Jessica shares a six-step process of creating secure attachment styles with multiple patterns. About Me I'm George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening. Yet, my gay dating life since hasn't always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can't Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/ About Jessica Fern Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polyseucre Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Jessica's website: http://jessicafern.com/ Polysecure: https://www.amazon.com/Polysecure-Attachment-Trauma-Consensual-Nonmonogamy/dp/1944934987/ Polywise: https://www.amazon.com/Polywise-Deeper-Dive-Navigating-Relationships/dp/1990869149/ Connect With Me Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/ Website: https://georgelizos.com/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/ My Books Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd
Psychotherapist, coach and author of "Polysecure" Jessica Fern joins us for an exploration of all the possible ways we can explore consensual non-monogamy in a ways that allow us the experience of both emotional security and personal freedom. She walks us through the difference between structural and emotional security, how polyamorous families can be incredibly supportive for the development of children, the challenges of navigating relational insecurity, and the liberating gift of compersion – the ability to find joy in watching someone you love receive pleasure from someone other than you. This episode is full of enlightening and expansive views on relationships. Let us know what resonates with you in the comments! === TIMESTAMPS 0:00 Intro 1:35 What Consensual Non-monogamy is 5:00 "Don't Ask Don't Tell" 7:37 Structure vs Quality of Relationship 9:49 Exposing Relational Insecurity 13:21 From Comparison to Compersion 17:06 Toxicity in Polyamory 21:58 Polyamorous Families 23:55 Hierarchy in Polyamory 27:02 Challenges of Non-monogamy 34:20 Attachment Figures 38:36 Safe Havens and Secure Bases 43:30 Managing Tension in Relationship === Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non-Monomgamy and The Polyseucre Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com === Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelikaalana/ https://www.instagram.com/awakenedlove/ My Website: https://www.angelikaalana.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Jess is a trauma centered relationship coach and plant medicine guide. Zach is a breath work facilitator and men's intimacy coach. Together they have the Sacred Ships podcast, where I had the pleasure to be a guest last year. Jess and Zach are both the kind of people who are willing to put the hard work to improve themselves and their relationship. Today we chat about their evolution from monogamous to open, including an engagement and a break up in between. We talk about their sexual trauma and about how they learned to heal, partly through their relationship. Zach opens up about how this trauma led him to use porn in a way affected his sexual performance, and about all the self work that he had to do to get to a comfortable place with his sexuality. And having casual sex with other women and opening up their relationship was actually an important part of this process. Subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss out on new episodes! Connect to Sacred Ships through their website Follow Sacred Ships on Instagram Listen to Fer's episode on the Sacred Ships Podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts Resources mentioned in the episode: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (book) The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know (book) Follow Polycurious on Instagram Tik Tok Facebook Twitter YouTube --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polycurious/message
In this episode I speak with Michelle, whose interest and practice focus on attachment, groupwork, narrative therapy, Response Based Practice, systems, and intergenerational trauma. Her areas of specialty include LGBTQIA+, CALD, trauma and relationship counselling. She currently works in both private practice and in NGOs to provide therapy, consultations and training, and clinical supervision for social work/counselling students. Links to resources mentioned in this week's episode: Sydney Inclusive Counselling (Michelle's practice) - https://sydneyinclusivecounselling.com.au/ Centre for Response-Based Practice - https://www.responsebasedpractice.com/ Dulwich Centre - https://dulwichcentre.com.au/ Esther Perel's podcast Where Should We Begin? - https://www.estherperel.com/podcast Dear Therapists by Lori Gottlieb's and Guy Winch's podcast Dear Therapists - https://lorigottlieb.com/podcast/#:~:text=Welcome%20to%20the%20Dear%20Therapists,and%20extraordinary%20challenges%20of%20life. Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern - https://www.jessicafern.com/books Maps of Narrative Practice by Michael White - https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393705164 Retelling the Stories of Our Lives by David Denborough - https://wwnorton.com/books/Retelling-the-Stories-of-Our-Lives/ The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz - https://www.bdperry.com/books Karpman's Drama Triangle - https://karpmandramatriangle.com/ This episode's transcript can be viewed here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S7joGp_pVhKx4iAEM_vTNCPfRfqNzyQMYqp03mVrgzs/edit?usp=sharing --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/socialworkspotlight/message
EPISODE 209: Interview with Jessica Fern. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more about Jessica online: https://www.jessicafern.com/ https://www.facebook.com/unstuckyourstory/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8M9Tk1-qrhs_ihcc_ooREg/videos If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy, sex positive relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries
It's normal to want your relationship to feel secure. It's normal to want to individuate. It's normal to want to explore what life can look like beyond the constraints of default monogamy. But how do you actually deal with your specific attachment wounds and still create a love that makes space for multiple loving connections? Joli & Jessica dove into how attachment theory can help us make a relationship that actually works for us, but we went beyond the surface of attachment theory. Y'all are smart- and she's done a lot of interviews already (google is your friend), so I wanted to go deeper and find out how Jessica weaves other theories into her work and how she helps people move out of relational trauma loops and into the life they desire. Jealousy, internal family systems/parts work, and narrative therapy... oh, and some sneak peeks of Jessica's upcoming book Polywise! Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at www.JessicaFern.com Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Interested in working with Joli directly? Click here to apply for individual coaching.
Attachment theory was originally based on the assumption that everyone is or wants to be monogamous; however, many people are polyamorous or otherwise engaged in consensual nonmonogamy. So how does attachment work when you have more than one partner? Can you have secure attachments with several partners at the same time? Let's talk about it! I am joined once again by Jessica Fern, a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy. She is also the author of the all-new Polysecure Workbook. Some of the topics we discuss include: Is monogamy really a prerequisite for developing secure attachment? Do you have to be securely attached in order to be happy? How can opening up a relationship change our attachment patterns, for better or for worse? Why it's important to be securely attached to yourself. How to build more secure attachments. What to do when you and your partner(s) have different attachment styles. How you can tell when you've reached the saturation point for attachment-based relationships in your own life. To learn more about Jessica, visit jessicafern.com and be sure to check out Polysecure and the new Polysecure Workbook. Thank you to our sponsors! Level-up your intimate life with Beducated, the Netflix of better sex! They have a whole library of online courses to teach you what you need to know. Enjoy a free trial today and get 40% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: http://beducate.me/pd2241-lehmiller The Kinsey Institute's (kinseyinstitute.org) 75th anniversary is underway and you are invited to join in the celebration! Follow @kinseyinstitute on social media to learn more about upcoming events. Also, please consider a gift or donation to the Institute to support sex research and education. Click here to donate. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.
The process of opening up a relationship can bring with it a number of benefits, but also a number of challenges. So what does it actually look like when a couple goes down the path of opening up? Let's talk about it! My guest today is a leading expert on consensual non-monogamy and we're going to explore what her own personal relationship journey looked like, as well as lessons she's learned from several years of working as a therapist in this area. I am joined by Jessica Fern, a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy. She is also the author of the all-new Polysecure Workbook. Some of the topics we discuss include: How can opening up a relationship change things for the better? What are the most common challenges or obstacles that occur when opening up? How do you know if monogamy or consensual non-monogamy is right for you? What are some examples of "vessels" or relationship containers you can use to explore non-monogamy? What kinds of things should you take into consideration if you're thinking about opening up a relationship? To learn more about Jessica, visit jessicafern.com and be sure to check out Polysecure and the new Polysecure Workbook. Thank you to our sponsors! Level-up your intimate life with Beducated, the Netflix of better sex! They have a whole library of online courses to teach you what you need to know. Enjoy a free trial today and get 70% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: http://beducate.me/pd2240-lehmiller The Kinsey Institute's (kinseyinstitute.org) 75th anniversary is underway and you are invited to join in the celebration! Follow @kinseyinstitute on social media to learn more about upcoming events. Also, please consider a gift or donation to the Institute to support sex research and education. Click here to donate. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.
#49 - More and more people are talking about attachment theory these days, but many of those conversations focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if you're looking to create secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Today's guest is Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas. In this episode, Jessica offers listeners some insight into her book, a practical guide that can help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. We also take a look at the different attachment styles, how they manifest in relationships, and what you can do to begin to deconstruct your monogamous conditioning, as well as some of the pros and cons of abundance, plus so much more. To learn more about embodying new possibilities in life and love, tune in today! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com
Trigger warning: sexual trauma Psychotherapist Sam Kendakur talks with Tammy about the intersections of sexual health and mental health. Listen in for nuanced conversations about the gray areas and messiness of consent; how to piece apart our own understandings of sexual pleasure, desire, and attraction; the impacts of stigma on sexual and gender identity and those who choose non-monogamous relationship styles. We learn about the unexpected impacts healthcare providers can have on the wellbeing of folks with marginalized sexual, gender, and racial identities, especially when there are stark differences between the provider and client's lived experiences. Find the transcript for this episode at comingtogetherpod.com. Have any questions, concerns, or love letters? Send us a message on Instagram @comingtogetherpod or email us at comingtogetherpod@ucsf.edu. Don't forget to leave us a review on Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Resources: Sam Kendakur's website Reading Guide from Shrimp Teeth: The Best Polyamory, Sex, and Queer Books The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern Higher Education Scholarship Opportunities for LGBTQ+ students listed at edumed, petersons, gograd Guest Bio: Sam Kendakur has worked in the mental health field for the past 12 years in a variety of settings across college campuses, inpatient psychiatric hospitals, alternative peer support networks, clinics, institutes, and currently private clinical practice. He's invested in creating spaces that make healing accessible and relevant to people from different realms of experience, especially those that inhabit marginalizedspaces. The social structure and health care system have failed so many, and he tries to address and combat these shortcomings through a commitment to client-centered anti-oppression practices that honor that suffering is most often nested within inequitable and unjust systems and their consequences rather than individual lack. He specializes in working with the LGBTQIA community, BDSM and kink, race and ethnicity, trauma, and alternative relationship styles.
In the fourth episode of “No Shade, All Tea's” Season 2, host Dr. Nancy DiTunnariello talks with Psychotherapist, Dr. James P. Fedor about ethical non-monogamous relationships. Show Info: Host: Dr. Nancy DiTunnariello, ditunnan@stjohns.edu Production: The Bolt Productions Intro/Outro Arrangement & Audio Editor: Courtney Lemkin Chief Audio Editor: Elizabeth Petrillo Chief Content Creator: Nicole Sutherland Show Linktree: https://linktr.ee/_NoShadeAllTea_ Photo Media: Cactus Girl Media Logo: Toni Sanchez Pop Art Guest Info: Name: Dr. James P. Fedor Title: Psychotherapist Instagram: DrJPF2 Therapist Profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/james-fedor-shrewsbury-nj/155309 Research Sources: De Graeve, K. ‘No expectations': Straight men's sexual and moral identity-making in non-monogamous dating. Sexualities, 22(5-6), 844-859. Doi: 10.1177/1363460718779946 Fern, J. (2020). Polysecure: Attachment, trauma, and consensual nonmonogamy. Thorntree Press. Wood, J., De Santis, C., Desmarais, S., & Milhausen, R. (2021). Motivations for engaging in consensually non‑monogamous relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 50, 1253-1272. doi: 10.1007/s10508-020-01873-x
Today I am joined by therapist and coach Taune Lyons. We discuss ALL things attachment style and how she uses it in her practice. We cover reparenting, immersing ourselves in secure environments, and the five pillars of secure attachment. She shares recommended somatic practices to feel safe enough in the body in order to be more vulnerable in relationships. Basically it all comes back to SAFETY! We finish the convo talking about how she helps her clients define their own gender identity and sexuality. She shares so many resources that are linked below. Taune's bio: Taune Lyons is a California-based integrative (somatic and depth) therapist and coach who views safe, compassionate, and co-creative interconnection as the foundation to a well-lived life, and is devoted to understanding and helping folks create healthier and intentional relationships - including the relationship they have with themselves. Follow Taune Lyons on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taunelyons/ (@taunelyons) Visit Taune Lyons' website: https://www.taunelyons.com/ (https://www.taunelyons.com/) Visit Taune Lyons' teachings on Tat Lab: https://tatlab.app/ (https://tatlab.app/) Follow Lit AF on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsmesarahcohan/ (@itsmesarahcohan.com) Visit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ (https://www.sarahcohan.com/) Thank you so much for listening. Please leave a rating and a review for the Lit AF podcast. This really helps to grow the Lit AF community. And please share this episode with your friend, it will make them feel good. Are you loving the Lit AF podcast? Make a one-time or recurring donation to thehttps://www.sarahcohan.com/tipjar ( tip jar) to support the show. THANK YOU. Resources Discussed: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cft0tO0MQhS/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link (Donate to support abortion rights and your donation will be matched up to $500! (link to IG post)) https://www.sarahcohan.com/shop-1 (Goal Setting for Your Dream Year Worksheet with Video Guide) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2au4jtL0O4 (Daniel P. Brown Imagine Ideal Parents Exercise) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truth-about-quiet-bpd-sunshine-on-the-outside/id1576242501?i=1000548433426 (Back from the Borderline Podcast Episode) - The truth about "quiet BPD": sunshine on the outside, razor blades on the inside (ft. Dr. Anita Federici) https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecure (Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy) by Jessica Fern
I've been on a journey of dismantling and reassembling my own understanding of what's most true for me when it comes to my sexuality. I have fallen wonderfully in love and I'm in a queer relationship right now. It has radically shifted my lived experience of how I get to be loved and how someone can be capable of loving me. The labels that feel supportive to me right now are androsexual and demisexual, and I explain how I'm using those terms for myself. I've felt a divide between who I truly am and how I was professionally presenting to the world for a while now. I was confusing the need to niche down with not showing up for LGBTQIA people. I became aware of the volume of what I didn't know, as well as the blind spots of my own privilege. Through the Queer Competency Course I did with Terra Anderson and conversation with other queer people in my community, I've realized that I've been intensely connecting gender to sexuality. It's been such a liberating experience to detach masculine energy from the body that may or may not hold it. Listen in to hear more about how I've been exploring my queerness and rewriting limiting narritives I've held about sexuality. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered: Reflecting on the ways that the patriarchy punishes men for feeling their emotions What learning about non-monogamy is teaching me about my own window of tolerance and how I value investing energy and relationships Confronting the resistances and discomforts I had in my body that I never realized, like internalized homophobia and transphobia Making sure I'm showing up in sustainable and actionable ways to further liberate LGBTQIA people How I came to the conclusion that I identify as androsexual and demisexual Resources Mentioned: Listen to my interview with Terra Anderson about the Magic of Queerness here! Check out their Queer Competency Course here! They are running a huge Pride Sale this month and you can get the goods for 66% off! Learn more about it here! Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern Learn More and Connect: Instagram: @theoramoench Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/relationshipdojo Relationship Dojo: truly-chosen.mykajabi.com/relationship-dojo Website: trulychosen.com Email Us: hello@trulychosen.com
Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Non Monomgamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com
Lou and Elizabeth discussed Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern. They talked about their own poly lives and the ways Polysecure helped them in their relationships.Hosted by Lou Barrett. Produced by Purple Palm Press (www.purplepalmpress.com)Find more about Elizabeth Harris and her music on Instragram (@fignewtunes) Listen to her new album, Soft Animal, on Spotify.Podcast merch available at www.purplepalmpress.com/shopPolysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern was published by Thorntree Press. You can purchase it at https://bookshop.org/shop/purplepalmpressSound Editor: Coly PuzzuoliTheme Song: Samantha GraceCover Art Illustration: Noelle RichardCover Art Design: Lauren McAndrews
For May - Alison is sharing a series of books she loves to recommend to fellow queerious women. Today is: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy To Buy: https://bookshop.org/books/polysecure-attachment-trauma-and-consensual-nonmonogamy/9781944934989 To book your consultation with Alison: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
Goat and Fox talk about the way TV has been therapy for us in our relationship and in our non-monogamous/polyamorous experience. We'd love to hear about your TV therapy too! You can contact us via email at ginandjuicewithgoatandfox@gmail.com Follow us on IG and FB Goat and Fox (@ginandjuicewithgoatandfox) • Instagram photos and videos Gin and Juice with Goat and Fox | Facebook Fox writes about her experience with non-monogamy on A Sexual Libra – Medium Referenced in the episode: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy American Horror Story (TV Series 2011– ) - IMDb Grey's Anatomy (TV Series 2005– ) - IMDb Dharma & Greg (TV Series 1997–2002) - IMDb The Bachelor (TV Series 2002– ) - IMDb The Bachelorette (TV Series 2003– ) - IMDb Love Is Blind (TV Series 2020– ) - IMDb Sex/Life (TV Series 2021– ) - IMDb Thanks to R Stevenson Art (@rstevensonart) • Instagram for our fabulous show art. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
"Imagine what it would be like to experience more clarity, connection, possibility, and skill in your everyday life and relationships. Imagine feeling at home with yourself and your relationships, living and acting from your most preferred values and intentions. Imagine getting triggered, but knowing how to respond instead of react. Imagine feeling at ease, and even empowered, by your painful past--no longer being overwhelmed or overpowered by painful stories, outdated beliefs, or critical voices that limit your life.” These are the words of this episode's guest, Jessica Fern. She is a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. In her bestselling book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, Jessica breaks new ground by putting together attachment theory, trauma and polyamory into one cohesive body of work. Her insights on attachment styles and how to heal our relationship with ourselves and others are profoundly inspiring, not only for those amongst us who chose consensual non-monogamy as their way to love, but also for those among us who are most comfortable in monogamous relationships. After all, everything is about love, its presence, or its absence. In this episode with Jessica, you'll discover: -"Being Love"...03:10 -Jessica's path to psychotherapy and healing...04:30 -Personal experiences with trauma in childhood and inter-generationally...05:30 -A primer on Attachment Theory...07:15 -Living life as a consensual nonmonogamist...10:50 -Cultural and psychological models of love prescribed in the Western world...15:00 -Different attachment styles with different partners in polyamorous relationships...18:50 -The effects and disruptions attachment styles with parental figures can cause later in life...20:10 -Intentionally forging multiple attachments with multiple partners...23:10 -The source of security comes from your own internal place; there can be external influences, but they are not the source...27:40 -H.E.A.R.T.S. attachment...29:45 Here (be present) Express Delight Attunement Rituals and Routines Turning Towards after Conflict Secure Attachment with Self -Some people rely more on the structure of a relationship than the expression of love in the relationship...33:20 -A look back at the evolution of marriage gives clues as to why certain parts of the culture rely so heavily on relationship structures over relationship essence...37:15 -Before you can be polysecure, you have to decide if you want to be an attachment figure for multiple partners...40:20 -Six specific strategies to move toward secure attachments in multiple relationships...43:05 -Jealousy is attachment primal panic; here is what you and your partner can do to support yourself...45:15 -Self-soothing and self-regulation tips from the polyvagal theory and inner parts work...48:45 -Practices that have informed Jessica's life...55:05 Resources mentioned: https://www.jessicafern.com/ (Jessica's website) Jessica's book: https://thorntreepress.com/polysecure/ (Polysecure)
What relationship structure do you adhere to? Monogamy? Open relationships? Polyamory? This week Yancy is joined by Carole to discuss Ethical Non-Monogamy. They explore what is Carole's ideal relationship structure, how jealousy plays out and the importance of taking ownership of one's emotions and healing. Don't forget to tag #thatsexcitingpod or @ us to let us know what you think of this week's episode. Let's keep in touch on social media! Follow your host @yancychery Instagram: @thatsexciting Twitter: @thatsexciting_ Email: contact@thatsexciting.co Support & Donate: https://paypal.me/thatsexciting (https://paypal.me/thatsexciting) Follow today's guest Carole Instagram: @blackartbyme Books mentioned: The Ethical Slut https://www.amazon.ca/Ethical-Slut-Second-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379 (https://www.amazon.ca/Ethical-Slut-Second-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379) Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy https://www.amazon.ca/Polysecure-Attachment-Trauma-Consensual-Nonmonogamy/dp/1944934987 (https://www.amazon.ca/Polysecure-Attachment-Trauma-Consensual-Nonmonogamy/dp/1944934987) Ethical Non-Monogamous structures definitions. https://shrimpteeth.com/structures (https://shrimpteeth.com/structures)
Today on the show, we are talking all things polyamory. But hey, monogamous folks don't feel like this isn't also for you! Regardless of relationship orientation, we all have a lot to learn about communication, boundaries, and living authentically from the polyamory community and I have the perfect guest to guide us in this conversation. I share my interview with polyamory expert, relationship anarchist, and one of the main faces of PolyPages, Claire Travers. Claire and I talk about whether or not polyamory is right for you–or rather, why are you questioning monogamy? We also dive into a very important question: is polyamory queer? Resources from the Show! http://www.polypages.org/ (www.polypages.org) https://www.instagram.com/polypages/ (Poly Pages (@polypages) • Instagram photos and videos) http://www.clairelouisetravers.co.uk/ (www.clairelouisetravers.co.uk) Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecure (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecure) Amatonormativity: https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity/ Sexual Configurations Theory Zine: Mapping Your Sexuality https://www.academia.edu/37691857/_SCT_Zine_Mapping_Your_Sexuality_From_Sexual_Orientation_to_Sexual_Configurations_Theory (https://www.academia.edu/37691857/_SCT_Zine_Mapping_Your_Sexuality_From_Sexual_Orientation_to_Sexual_Configurations_Theory)
“So often I see women come into nonmonogamy better equipped to have difficult conversations,” says Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy. Fern is a psychotherapist who specializes in providing support for individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships. She joins Erica Chidi to discuss what makes nonmonogamy work. They talk about attachment theory, how it relates to nonmonogamous relationships, and how to develop a secure relationship—with yourself, for starters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Ensimmäisen kauden viimeisessä jaksossa Kaisa ja Veera vastaavat kuulijoiden kysymyksiin kuten miten mustasukkaisuus pysyy kontrollissa ja mitä jos ei lähes voi sietää metamuruaan. Lisäksi he jakavat kuulijoiden kokemuksia sekä vinkkejä ja summaavat muutamia tärkeitä asioita, joita ensimmäisen kauden aikana on yhdessä opittu. Jaksossa mainitut suositukset: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy - Jessica Fern Avoimet Suhteet - Mirja Hämäläinen Multiamory-podcast Rakkaussuhteen työkirja - Perhesuhdekeskus Seuraavaa kautta odotellessa voit jakaa ajatuksia sekä ideoita ja osallistua keskusteluun The Good Sex Companyn instagram tilillä @thegoodsexcompany
Sarah speaks with Jessica Fern, psychotherapist and author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consenual Nonmonogamy, about...yup, you guessed it - attachment, trauma, and nonmonogamy. Jessica shares about the different dimensions of attachment and how our styles can show up in all areas of life - not just romantic relationships. Sarah and Jessica also talk trauma - particularly the nested model of trauma that Jessica developed. Finally, Jessica shares specifics about what we can do to cultivate secure attachment in our relationships. It has to be said, Polysecure was one of my favorite reads of the year. I refer to it often. Resources: www.JessicaFern.com Polysecure
Do you think that there is a correlation between attachment style and one's propensity towards non-monogamy? How are our sex lives affected by our attachment styles? How those in a non-monogamous relationship can work towards secure attachment?Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy to discuss attachment styles and trauma and how they impact our relationship structures and sexuality. You can find Jessica Fern via her website: jessicafern.com. On there, you can access her webinars and join her newsletter so that you get updates about her work and a notification of when her practice opens up to new clients. You can find Polysecure on our website at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglistIf you have a question that you would like to explore on the show, reach out to us and we may answer your question on one of our upcoming episodes. Leave us a voicemail at 201-870-0063 or email us at listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comFollow us:fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxesinstagram.com/wearecuriousfoxesJoin the conversation:fb.com/groups/CuriousFoxSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/wearecuriousfoxes)
Patrick is a dear friend and a sexological body worker. What is a sexological body worker you ask? Tune in to find out!We cover such juicy topics as the four corner stones of eroticism, anal massage, slowing down, orgies, making love to yourself, my shamanic horse riding journey, sequencing, trance sex and peek pleasure ceilings. Such a fun conversation!Mentions in the episode;The Institute of Somatic Sexology - https://instituteofsomaticsexology.com/Books - The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin,Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and consensual nonmonogamy by Jessica FernErotic Blueprint Test can be found @ https://missjaiya.com/Orgasmic Yoga - join the Orgasmic Yoga Tribe group on face book or email 4eroticexplorers@gmail.comAdult Swingers Club - CCK's http://www.cck.co.nz/index.htmlTahlia Brand Http://www.tahliabrand.comBetty Martins waking the hands video can be found here https://youtu.be/sU75gf6hsDYContact Patrick: patrickbellett@gmail.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/nude/donations
This text is the foreword to the Thorntree Press book, “Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy,” by Jessica Fern. Immediatism.com My other podcast, PointingTexts.org Feedback and requests to Cory@Immediatism.com, and your comment may be shared in a future episode.
This text is the introduction to the Thorntree Press book, “Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy,” by Jessica Fern (2020). Immediatism.com My other podcast, PointingTexts.org Feedback and requests to Cory@Immediatism.com, and your comment may be shared in a future episode.
#jessicafern #polysecure #authorlove #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory Greg and Leanne are completely jazzed to have had the opportunity to meet with the author of "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy", Jessica Fern! She unpacks some really important points for us, offers a lot of insight, and was just a joy to talk with! Jessica is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert. Reach out to her at www.jessicafern.com, and you can get a copy "Polysecure" on Audible, Kobo, at Thorntree Press, Indigo or on Amazon. Note: Please excuse the sound quality at times, as Leanne had to rely on her laptop mic and there was some distortion over Zoom.
#jessicafern #polysecure #authorlove #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory Greg and Leanne are completely jazzed to have had the opportunity to meet with the author of "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy", Jessica Fern! She unpacks some really important points for us, offers a lot of insight, and was just a joy to talk with! Jessica is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert. Reach out to her at www.jessicafern.com, and you can get a copy "Polysecure" on Audible, Kobo, at Thorntree Press, Indigo or on Amazon. Note: Please excuse the sound quality at times, as Leanne had to rely on her laptop mic and there was some distortion over Zoom.
Not only a wild spirit but a force for change in the world, Virginia Dick joins Arlia today to share her journey and the places it has taken her. Virginia is a successful business owner, tango dancer, and the founder of Roots and Wings Women, an outdoor group for women featuring monthly hikes, connection, and meditation. During the pandemic, Virginia has shifted to sharing her own outdoor adventures and reflections for others to enjoy. She hopes in-person hikes will resume in May 2021. Roots and Wings Women Virginia's blog Reflection Questions from Virginia: How do I want to walk thru this world? How do I want to form relationships/connections? How do I want to treat the people I am close to? Virginia's bio: I am a mother, entrepreneur, adventure seeker, community builder, and wild spirit. The opportunity to take care of others, make the world a richer better place for everyone, spread love and warmth, and continually explore and grow are what excite and fuel me. I want to share this spirit with others to support and encourage them to find their own trails, strengths, and experiences. As the daughter of a single widowed mother who did not have a college education, I have always been driven by a sense of independence and desire to always be able to provide for my family. For this reason, I pursued a PhD to allow me to provide and at the same time make a significant difference in the lives of others around me. The older I get and the more I explore my own path, the more I want to encourage and support other women to get outside of their comfort zone and realize just how strong, resilient, and amazing we each can be. I have reconnected with my innate connection to the natural world, responding to the draw of outdoors, rawness, and celebrating the interconnectedness of all of the natural world. Nature brings us the opportunity to suspend our assumptions, test ourselves in that safe space, and truly think creatively and expansively. As I sit under the old live oaks by the coast, my fig trees in my yard, or on the solid rocks of the Appalachian Mountains – I am reminded that it is older than us, carries with it the joys and sadness of generations before us, it is a part of us and therefore is a safe, accepting space to explore and grow. My greatest feeling and growth occurs in these natural environments where I am rooted in myself and the past but also given the wings to soar and explore. Books Virginia recommends on tango and polyamory: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy In Strangers' Arms: The Magic of the Tango The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love Tango Tips by the Maestros: When more than 40 maestros decide to help you develop your tango Topics covered: Divorce Roots and Wings Women Polyamory The internal work Healing backward and forward Tango Travel Her advice for others going through transformation The Women's Sanctuary Podcast is hosted by Arlia Hoffman. The Women's Sanctuary provides counseling, sacred practice and community for women. Visit thewomenssanctuary.com for more information and all podcast episodes.
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